@@misslola007 I'm a soft guy. My women take care of me, as she should. Why would I settle for less? If she ain't doing her responsibilities as a woman at the house, she's a dusty. And who wants a dusty? Never me
@@briannadickson2884 if that's the case, id rather be a clown than be what you want me to be. What is your success with men because my success with women has been phenomenal? drizzle drizzle
My FATHER told me this. He insisted that I be educated and always employed. He even encouraged me to lie about how much I earn to make it easier for me to hide money. His primary rule was that I always have enough money to get myself home from wherever I am in the world.
Yep and everything they hold up as an example to model is a 1950s advertisement or TV show… real life was very different. They’re literally idolizing post WW2 propaganda.
To devalue their experience. My question is, why are they bitter? Maybe because they invested everything and got nothing? That would make anyone embittered.
@ecclairmayo4153 What's craziest to me is that this is the experience of women across the globe. Being controlled, abused, and manipulated by their husbands, then abandoned when they're older. Then, having men deny their experiences and trauma. I don't get why women would want to opt out of that.they
Each new generation thinks they know better but end up in the same spot. Same game, new players. Except some of them are more delusional and want to be stay at home girlfriends
Yea that girl was a complete bimbo. Those women were not bitter, they were speaking from experience. An experience that is so common that it’s the rule, not the exception.
For about 8 years I was a stay at home mum, then my husband hadan heart attack that changed my life. Fortunately he survived but he decided to live his life to the fullest and got himself a young mistress. After his heart attack I got so scared that I started to change my point of view: I finished college, I got a job and I could afford to leave when he started cheating. Never make a man your only plan!!! Be independent!
So let me get this straight he got heart attack and instead of seeing you're efforts that you standing with him and him being grateful to this life and loving you guys more he decides nah I will be pathetic human being wow
I find it interesting that the girl in the original video makes a point to say the Tradwife lifestyle is NOT a trend but she's dressed like it's the 1940s with hairdo to match and speaking in a very specific tone that fits everyone else in this TREND. Being a stay at home wife and mom isn't a trend. Cosplaying as a Pleasantville character for social media IS a trend. 🤦🏾♀️ This is an AESTETIC that is being showcased for content and coin, just like every other aestetic on these apps. I just wish these women would be honest about that, but then that would ruin the faux morality they're fabricating.
That it's a lie is apparent from the fact that she pretends she doesn't work, while these videos are actually just that: work. And she has more than enough time to work too, because she doesn't have any kids. She lives with her husband and doesn't have much else to do except clean the house, run errands and cook. Unless she cleans the house from top-to-bottom every single day with a toothbrush and makes every single ingredient she cooks with from scratch, she has a lot of free time every single day. Hence the over the top styling and all the videos she produces and interviews she does. She is working as an influencer while pretending she isn't.
The woman who insisted they were bitter is foolish and was not listening. They were not against marriage they were against the trad wife idea being glamorised.
@@juniperroberts6254 Exactly, it's actually quite loving and not bitter at all to give younger women the sage advice of protecting their financial futures. The hope is always that everything works out as planned, but if it for some reason doesn't then they'll be very thankful they have the finances to fall back on.
Just like that woman said: they are not real trad wives. They have a voice, they get paid, they have their own money, they show themselves. They are opinionated. They are on socmed. They think cooking and cleaning (Which most don’t even do) and dressing up makes them a trad wife. it’s an aesthetic to them and It’s embarrassing. They should be thanking feminism (the true part of it) for it.
Exactly!! They are so delulu to think we don’t know their videos are making money / and that lane isn’t traditional at allll!! They are only allowed to do it because women who were NOT traditional paved the way.
My dad roasted all of my mom’s friends in the medical field and convinced her not to work . Welp all those “ lonely bitches” are homeowners, traveling surviving and thriving. Of course my mom is NOT married to my dad ,NOR traveling or a homeowner 🤷🏽♀️. She tried to get back with her friends but she is just out of the loop completely and not tech savvy . I suggest women cherish your female friends,cousins and coworkers and stay in touch and active they are your only life line outside of your daughters.
@@sallyhemings2295 she left him after years of infidelity. His views on women are still the same he sounded like every male on the internet now back then . Irony he never wants me or my sister to miss a day of work or be dependent on a man . He remarried and divorced. He actually was mad because his last wife had a job and a house so he couldn’t control her or dog her out and ration out money 💰
@@Kim-vw4nx it's funny how men treat their wives like crap but wouldn't want same for their daughters as if their wives aren't other people's daughters 🙄
The girl arguing bitterness missed the point: No ones saying "dont get married." Theyre advocating for an exit strategy if things happen to go South. U need your own plan
The "trad wife" was never a common phenomenon, when looked at over millennia. It was an economic flex for households that were affluent enough to survive on the wages/salary of the husband.
That bubble tradwives existed in? It's called propoganda. Because they'd be so for real here, the type of tradswives you see on tiktok, the only people living that way in the 50s were rich white women. The rest of the women were STILL working, and doing ten times more shit than men but not necessarily getting paid for it. The poor farmers wives were still keeping the home and also working on the fields. Women were still working, it was just beyond the scenes and often unpaid. Just like we've always been working. And these people that think most women just stayed home in the 50s age either delusional, or so ignorant that they know NOTHING about history
Exactly, you never see these "tradwives" trying to join the amish community lol always trying to live like it's the 1950's, not the 1850's, what's with that?
It was probably either last week or within this week that they reported that a lot of people are catching chicken pox, thank God I had my chicken pox when I was a little girl I won't have to go through this again
Just like the future being a 100%tradition wife is not sustainable. 2024 If you’re trying to be a trad wife you need an update version of it it’s not the 1950’s where women couldn’t access info nor have the rights to move w/o a man. In this economy it’s a risky bet to be 100% trad wife. This economy if your a trad wife I feel like you have to utilize a prenup to its full potential make sure all legal doc is up to date like house deeds, wills spousal support paper or get a as need job on the side or side hustle
The woman calling those other women bitter is ignorant at best. The older women didn’t say “don’t get married”. They told young women to protect themselves and not go into marriage blindly.
So incredibly risky to be a tradwife unless you have a prenup, invest money from your spouse for your own account, and make sure your name is on major investments like property and vehicles
@@kellysnyclife663 same difference tho - need to make sure you are listed as a trustee in that case. Also, that one is a beneficiary as well. No matter what instrument or account one has - it’s still important to make sure one is listed in charge, has access, and can benefit from it.
I was breaking my neck to get to the comment section...... First of all that woman is not actually a traditional wife, shes an INFLUENCER and a very successful one at that meaning she's probably the breadwinner in her household June Cleaver she is NOT....she's cos playing and being very smart about it, fooling everyone Edit 20:50 exactly
That one woman who insisted upon creating a resume using your skills as a housewife is laughable! Those skills are legit but society doesn't see it that way. They only want paid experience. They want u to have held a paying job doing those things. You will get laughed out of an interview with that resume. Ladies, please arrange some finances and paid skills before u get married to be a trad wife if u choose to do so.
Keep warning young women!!! I wish I would have had this information 20 years ago. We are allowed to speak on our experience. If they don’t like it, they can skip the content. Edit to fix spelling
That other woman calling the other women bitter is not looking at the fact that 50% of marriages end in divorce and the average marriage lasts 7 years. These woman can get married but should absolutely have a back up plan and their own money saved. They should also keep their skills fresh.
@@Frugal637 I'm 55, have been happily married for 27 years and I would tell younger women the same exact things. Backup plans are not only for divorce, and having them does not indicate any disrespect to one's husband or lack of trust. It's just SMART. I'm a nurse, but have been primarily a housewife/sahm through our marriage with minimal nursing work thrown in occasionally. My husband is the traditional provider type with a six figure salary, but he has even said that knowing that I have viable career options and could work to support the household if needed is a source of security and relief for him. While I wouldn't call myself a trad wife, my husband and I both agreed that my role would be primarily in the home BUT that I would remain employable in the nursing profession as well. It's for my own security, plus that of our household. He finds the trad wife content bothersome, and says any man who would not want that extra security for his wife is dangerous and a low quality man (which he has told our 23 year old daughter as well). There are no downsides to having backup plans. I've always viewed it as added security for our family, and I do not choose to view my marriage with a defeatist attitude, but in the event of divorce, I would not be screwed. We're both 100% committed to our marriage, but we're also not trapped. When commitment and loyalty are present, good men will not feel threatened by backup plans.
The issue with trad wife content gaining popularity is trad husbands is not gaining equal ground. Men today want traditional value partners but fudge the lines on their own part in that dynamic. The dynamic has always asked/required more of women and we all peeped it watching women try to do it all or stay traditional to undeserving partners.
For sure, the types that like this type of content only want to cosplay traditionalism. They want the wife that caters to their every need and whim while being completely submissive, but she also has to go out and work a regular job too because he can't afford to pay all the bills on his own. They want 50/50% finances with 5/95% effort from the wife. And when they have kids she'll have to pick up every part of child rearing too, while he at most will "babysit" his own children once in a long while. But just for an hour or two, because child rearing is a woman's job! At the end the wife has three fulltime jobs (a regular job, taking care of the big baby aka her husband and taking care of the kids) and might come to the conclusion she's better off quitting the second job all together. In situations like these this would bring her relief instead of stress.
I'm living for these comments. It's so awesome to see more people waking up to this cosplay. I call them Trade Wives (like pogs, back in the day) because men trade these women around like shiny coins and really only care about how soft their life is while also impressing other men with their collection
Wait till she has children….if you never get screwed great. But you need to look out for yourself and your children. I’m sorry but your household duties as a housewife will do absolutely nothing for you in the workplace. If you put that crap on a CV, they will laugh you out of your interview. Don’t be naive. People don’t give a crap about that.
Exactly this. The woman saying you can put your housework skills on a CV is either kidding herself or downright lying. Everyone has to maintain their household, do chores, organize trips and activities, do their finances etc. Those are skills everyone needs to be able to live, so how is that in any way a marketable skill that will set you apart? That will get a chuckle out of the recruiter at most, but if that's all you have on your CV then that is definitely going into the bin. For jobs that pay anywhere near a decent wage anyway.
@@silververnallbells191 The problem is that everyone organizes trips, so it's not a skill that sets you apart enough to get a job out of it. Also, most job listings for travel agent, at least in my country, require a degree in some kind of tourism program. You're not getting the job just for organizing a few trips as a housewife with no degree and no work experience.
The woman talking about her mom also needing to rely on other, new men after her mom's divorce ... That also sets up a situation where women may open themselves to being abused b/c of the need to have that person contributing financially.
What's crazy is trad wives can understand the concept of HIS life insurance policy (which he can add someone else to) but they miss the concept of having your own insurance policy, i.e prenup w/ conditions.
there was another commenter on a similar topic/video who decided to be a SAHM, her husband required her to ask for money and when she did he always asked 'WHY?'. She decided to get a job within a couple of months of that arrangement.
@@politereminder6284 absolutely, but to hear some of these wives on tiktok “he would never do that”, 🤮. As if these men don’t change their minds or switch it up
The woman at 14:30 is absolutely delusional. Your resume is supposed to set you apart from other applicants and set you up as the perfect candidate for the job. How are you going to achieve this when your supposed "household manager"-skillset is something literally everybody has. Everyone has a household to run, whether you're a SAHM or not, so how is that a skillset that will set you apart? Everybody organizes and plans trips, that's not a special skill. That's like trying to market yourself based on experience with using the internet for everyday tasks. Everybody has to cook, clean, organize finances, activities etc., whether you work or not. So on the one hand she's advising you to try to market yourself with skills that everybody has to have to be able to live, while forgetting that you will still lack the actual experience in the work field that would make you the perfect fit for the job you are applying for. The only employers that will not laugh at this blatant attempt of sprucing up a resume while not having the necessary degrees and work experience, will be the ones that don't care about your skillset and will offer you the minimum wage that usually accompanies such jobs.
I was looking for this comment!!! I just made a comment about that lady and her advice! You are spot on! The applicant field is wide and large! We’re all competing for similar jobs! Your resume is supposed to make you stand out.
Those women advising younger women are not bitter but rather educating other women on making the right decision to secure themselves financially which is commendable
She really said it’s not coming from a great place? She can be naive if she wants to and find out the hard way like many other young women do, that refuses to listen to the stories of others and warnings. It’s weird. I guess when you center males and marriage, everyone is a hater lol 😂
It's bc she knows she looks like marilyn monroe so she thinks it will never happen to her. I wonder if she knows Marilyn Monroe was super abused by all the men in her life
Some of these women may be in denial that there life is over they have to come out of denial in order for them to heal it's okay to not have a man not all of us can look like centerfolds and if that's how they expect women to look then you probably shouldn't get married if your really attractive especially if notice people always talk about sex when your around them. You kind of just have to own the role they threw at you. Because the cool girls can do that they can get away with the things the rest of us cant but if you want them to like you stick up for yourself and don't let men push you around.
Also it's NEVER go late to go to college. There are TON of older people going back to college. There are a lot of community colleges out there you can go to.
I regret not listening to the older women giving me advice when I was 19-22...They were right. Old people are always right. Young people don't listen and are fixated on the NOW rather than the future. So right now, it feels good, things are going well and they feel like life will always be that way... young people are fixated and high off of the happy dopamine that they feel in the present moment.. but life has a funny way of changing circumstances that you didn't see coming. Now I'm 32 and I want to protect younger women and guide them, so they avoid having to go to therapy or struggle financially, but of course, they know it all, and I am just a bitter old woman with jealousy. /s It's hard to protect young women if they don't want to listen but I know they will look back on it like I did, and regret that they didn't listen to the advice from an old woman. The cycle repeats.
Throwing out the rest of that “blah blah blah bitter women” tiktok out, I do want to highlight when she said “both genders take a risk entering a marriage”. Like yes!!! Exactly!!! When you go into a situation where you KNOW there’s a risk involved, you prepare for it!!!
Sis at 13:24 needs to get a clue. Complaining about "bitterness" is a smokescreen for the real issue. Even if I play along and say yes, they're bitter ... SO WHAT? Shit is NOT sweet out here, that's the whole point.
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It’s blowing up just like every other heavily edited, unrealistic, non-sustainable, and unattainable esthetic out there. It will rise and fall like all the others. Too bad many young and naive women will look at it and get themselves into a mess trying to emulate it before they realize the truth.
All their points for relying on their partner quite literally do not make sense. Even if your husband is a man of integrity who would not leave you destitute in the event of a break up. Even a man who makes sure you have a personal account/allowance he cannot touch. Any man can be touched by layoffs, injury, illness and the ultimate inevitable life experience: DEATH. I'd rather my household not suffer from hunger, cold or foreclosure because we have multiple sources of income and leave well below what we actually bring in. A plan is not fear, it is insurance. A smart man and my future partner has to see it that way!
To me, it's part of our extremely ableist society. Men are terrified of disability and death and this is a way for them to keep their heads in the clouds about it all. Thing is, injuries and health problems happen to almost all of us eventually. The women are more burdened when it all comes as a surprise. Sad, sad
Then kids grow up feeling they never saw their mum or she was always stressed. Because she had to get two jobs pay for everything often with not enough while he gets a second family and she's not Time for anything
The resume lady had some points but what she left out was that you will be competing with people who went to college and have certifications in areas. Yes you can tailor your resume and highlight skills but if your employer is asking for proof of a certification or 2 years of verified professional experience what do you do then? What about all the people who have those experiences, education, certifications, references and connections? Being at home is nice and good but please don’t make light of having professional experience and what being away from the workforce can actually mean for people.
The fact that she's dressed up like a 1950s Pleasantville character let's me know she's full of shxt. Clearly an aesthetic she's using for content and attention.
@@mmason9836 Oh that’s interesting! Maybe that’s why she’s pushing that narrative that women are burnt out on trying to have careers because that was her experience. I think most women work because they have to because most men do not make enough to support a family. And some of us are lucky enough to have really good careers and yes it’s exhausting sometimes but I would not give it up to depend on someone else. But ppl like her just want to paint us all with a broad brush and mock our experience. It’s really b*tchy.
Also her entire family is wealthy, she attended college (unsure if she finished), and she currently has no children to take care of. Her name is Estée, and I do not want to shame her, but she is incredibly privileged and one of the very few who could get back on their feet easily if anything happened to her marriage or husband
It’s fine being a trad wife, as long as you’re able to take care of yourself/kids without your spouse, if they leave. That means retaining and maintaining employable skills and certifications, and insuring that you leave a relationship with assets and cash to support yourself until you stabilize your life after a divorce.
These testimonies are why I’m not mad at cougars. They’re in control of their finances and emotions when dealing with men. Aspiring to be a trad wife to a non-wealthy, non-generous man is FUTILE.
"All their doing is telling you the bad stuff!!" Yes because if it happens you're screwed! Weve got plently of people romanticizing the lifestyle and some people do have good experiences but most of them will have a time where something goes wrong and the family suffers.
I had chicken pox REALLY BAD at age 30. Had to sleep with tight socks on my hands at night like a baby or I would scratch in my sleep. Cool baths as heat makes the itching much worse, calamine lotion might work to relieve. There may be better creams on prescription. Do NOT scratch, those scars hyperpigment and last years/are permanent! You'll get at least 2 or 3 waves of poxes through your body, so it could take 7-10 days to stop getting new ones. If you get them in your throat or airways contact your GP immediately, you may need medical help! Do whatever you can for your mental health.... seriously it can get dark and I was not ready for how low I got! It's a symptom in adult chicken pox that many don't know about. Do/watch things that make you happy or self soothe. Trust your body, it will heal. Eat nourishing foods and stay well hydrated. This is a moment in time, step aside and let it pass. Sending love and healing hugs. You got this! ❤
I don’t recall the women ever saying NOT to get married I recall them saying protect yourself. It seems the lady who callled them bitter wasn’t listening. And how could the First Lady be bitter and her husband is a multi millionaire again she wasn’t listening
Putting your household skills on your resume is a joke. They’re not transferrable skills; anyone can do that. You must have marketable skills in this fiercely competitive job market.
That first lady essentially just wanted to say women gaining rights has made it harder for men to get bangmaids while doing the bare minimum in the house. Not once did she mention how tradwife lifestyle is only supportable by wealthy people. How men are quick to abandon their partners and kids, the abuse etc.
Men made laws back in the day protecting women from other men just abandoning their wives and leaving them destitute. They knew it was not doable if men weren't held accountable. Women don't have those protections now, so housewifery will always be a risk.
I am from three generations of house wife as a black woman. After what I saw I found it very important to have a plan for myself not solely reliant even though all of the men have been great providers. You can have financial security and be controlled by a variety of factors. I think trad wife is fine but with the education of having a protection for themselves for the long term. I have young family that complete degree and I tell them to keep it a secret and now become trad wife
Right, she's just teaching how to write a lingo, They can decide not to hire you because you don't have experience and someone to call for references ,to actually see how you did your job
Corn starch and water will help with the itching. Dont scratch, it'll make it worse and chickenpox scars really bad. Don't take hot showers, the heat will make it itchier too. If any sores are open, let them breathe but cover them up when you go to bed. Wash your bedding a lot more frequently even like a week after it goes away to make sure you get rid of any of the virus that got shed or fluid from sores. Calamine lotion is okay, I prefer the corn startch and water, but calamine does work. Drink water! Hope you feel better ❤
13:32 even if the perspective is bitter, it is more intelligent to hear the bitter perspective of someone who lived the life, than the positive tale of a grifter or an outsider. If you've lived the life and succeeded, why you're shitting on these women? tell us your experience! you a 50 something trad wife who is thriving, then say so!
Right? Like even if they are bitter, seems to me like they have a RIGHT to be. And maybe, just maybe it's a good idea to listen to these women about WHY they're so bitter, coz of you did, you could learn a thing or two. They're not bitter, they're trying to be helpful obviously, but I'm just saying
I'm 55, happily married for 27 years, and my husband and I decided early on that my role would be primarily that of a homemaker/sahm. I would say that we're thriving, but whether I would be considered a trad wife is questionable. I married at age 28 and several years into a nursing career. Our plan was also for me to remain employable in the nursing profession, so during the course of our marriage, I have worked off and on minimally enough to achieve that. Trad wife influencers say they do not believe in backup plans but backup plans are not only for divorce, but also for illness, death, injury or job loss of the provider husband. Good men (and yes, they are out there) will not feel threatened by backup plans, but will encourage them. Trustworthy men do not want trapped women, they want mutually loving relationships. So while I've had a different experience from the older women in the video, I would advise the same things they do.
My grandmother lost her mind because of my grandfather. Even in her old age she would be so paranoid about him cheating on her and working witch craft on her.
If a woman is over 40, does not have a college degree and has not worked in years no one will hire her. A lot of job postings Are online and that résumé is going to look like a joke compared to the recent grads or experienced professionals, especially because of ageism.
The fact that you're still able to put together a sentence while you have the dreaded pox, wow, kudos to you, girl! I was flattened for over a week. Get well soon. Get some aloe vera gel. 😊
I definitely ask the necessary questions when younger people are planning on getting married. I do try to ask the important questions and give them subjects to think about
The woman at 13:45 was so off. Divorce is a real threat and it isn't bitter for women to acknowledge that. They also didn't tell women not to get married.
Extremes are hurtful and damaging to any life. Roles are important. However, in the event something happens, being able to stand independently, is absolutely essential.
I'm 47 yo, married and childless. I work from Home as a software programmer. I grew up looking my mom being a tradicional wife and woman of her time. It had bad things, that i don't want to repeat: a cheating and beating husband, being trapped on a marriage, depression, etc. But also there are things that i want to emulate from my mom: cooking from scratch, baking, sewing my own clothes, crocheting, gardening. So i decided to be a semi-trad, semi-working wife. And I like my life as it is.
I think: the young trad wife women are most likely, not understanding that-- you can 100% believe in your love and your marriage. And your love, you SHOULD invest in it as a magical thing that will last a lifetime. And for it to last a lifetime-- you absolutely, HAVE to have power in the relationship. If you want to set your marriage up for best success, you must have your own power which includes the ability to leave. You will not have a happy, magical marriage, without you also having power in the relationship. The two cannot co-exist. It's not about picking a good man or not; it's about putting all the necessary ingredients in the pot. Loving your channel! Love your style and the way you engage with these conversations.
13:45 i mean yeah that’s the point of them talking about it? It CAN happen, doesn’t mean it will. No no she’s not bitter at all and even if she is, she has a rigtt hey to be bitter if she wastes her years on someone who left her with nothing. I appreciate these women being candid and upfront about their experiences because the aesthetic is sooooooooo fun and you can be swept up in the glitz and glam. She’s the type of person who won’t warn you about the danger or whatever because ✨misery loves company ✨ Feel better Des!! Still beautiful as always ❤️ 32:36 me too lol, im gonna be very direct and i won’t sugar coat anything with my friends. I expect the same in return cause i genuinely want the best for them and myself. Tip toeing around the problem accomplishes nothing 😞
At this point I've concluded that housewives in the west are suffering. You can be a housewife and have help. I've been a house wife and a working woman. Recently started working again out of choice, I intend to be a house wife again. It seems like people just don't think about certain things. If you're a housewife, a allowance is mandatory. You have to have your own account and a retirement annuity and life insurance. I don't understand how this isn't obvious. Also. What's stopping a housewife from being educated and maintaining a skill through a hobby or volunteering... I don't think discouraging housewifehood is the solution. Everyone is being so extreme. Lastly, if you depend on two incomes, you're also at risk
The one lady that says you can make your house making skills transferable sounds good on paper until you get to the interview and they dive deeper into your skills set and then it becomes non applicable
Ah....Yts gonna yt. Because I'm corny and likely jealous of their privilege (not for real for real), I had a hard time paying attention, but I truly appreciate the work. Money and class matter and they have no love for me, let along BIPOC Sisters (I'm Olive yt). I'm participating in the 4B West Movement for ALL womenkind, but my efforts and attention are elsewhere. (Destiny, we love your BEAUTIFUL, natural face and we hope you feel better!!)
14:31 is my favorite advice!! I was a SAHM with my ex husband, he owned his own trucking company and I helped run the books and business operations. So when I left him I put on my resume that i was a bookkeeper and office manager for a “family company” for 5+ years
Wow! I haven’t seen the chicken pox since the mid 90’s! I hope you feel better soon. Try not to scratch, I know it’s hard but you don’t want scars. Rest up! ❤
My mom was a stay at home mom for the first 11 years…She just wanted to go back to work as a secretary. She only did it because she already had the skills from HS and experience. And that was probably because that story was very common 30+years ago…
This is crazy so this whole time youd be a trad wife and not be stacking up your money on the side or behind his back like come on get some sense its absolutely stupid to depend on a man that can wakeup one day and leave you now your homeless with the kids because you didnt think ahead like seriously
I personally have wanted to be a housewife and stay at home mom since I was 3. Little House on the prairie really influenced that, and I truly love caring for my home and husband. I put some rules on myself though to make sure I wouldn't end up in a relationship where I was left with nothing. The rules were simple, find a man who will take into precaution the idea of him dying and leaving me and the kids. To come up with a plan so that he leaves us behind with money, shelter and food. Same for if he got hurt and couldn't work. And if we divorce, to ensure I am paid alimony fairly so that I can have shelter, food. I also made sure with all that in mind that I got an education and some work experience before even looking for my future husband, and when I did find him to have some sort of small side gig going on too ( homesteading) I happened to find a man that checked all the boxes and more, so I know that I will be safe, and prepared if anything does happen. And no, my husband is not rich. . . Moral of the story, everything they're saying can be prevented if they stopped and thinked for a moment.
I’m a sahm but I’m also a navy veteran so I have some disability I get every month. I also door dash sometimes and every now and then when things are rough I get a part time job to keep my resume active. It doesn’t matter if it’s fast food or what it SHOWS you’re still actively employable and not at home doing drugs or being lazy as some assume about sahms. Also got that gi bill so about to go back to school. I have a dpop shop and just started an llc too that I haven’t shared yet with the world. And I Trust GOD will provide if I ever have to leave bc HE always has. And I’m not going to lie I’ve almost had to a few times. But I let him no I’m not scared to start over I’ve take refuge in the shelter of the most high.
Oatmeal bath girl! That and calamine lotion. Both are usually at pharmacy’s or grocery stores, but you can look online to see where you can find it where you are
Be careful ladies. I live in an area with women who were/are married for well over 25+ years. One of the ladies, her husband passed from cancer. She lost everything. She used to live in a very well to do subdivision, she now rents a room. She lost everything. Only the women who are professionals not only have skills but they are adept to handle the "outside" world. The women who stayed at home, are mentally behind. It is very obvious.
Believe me, HR departments are not fooled by giving basic homemaker skills executive sounding titles. They are not going to call your ex, your kids or the PTA to get a recommendation. Of course, being a homemaker requires skills, but most HR's do not believe those skills are transferrable to a business setting because everybody has at least some of those skills to just get by in life and they could have a million candidates with those same skills. Get relevant marketable job skills and stay relevant in those skills somehow.
It’s definitely an aesthetic and escapism for many people that watch the content in my opinion. I remember watching the first women that was presented in this videos QA video. It was very telling . She even expressed the fact that her breast implants are making her sick but didn’t talk about removing them.
My dad was good to my mom until he was humbled by the world and didn’t become successful. He then started treating my mom like sh*t. But she survived it because she had a job, was able to divorce him, and move on with her life. She still struggles with depression but she’ll be ok. Would’ve been a horrible life if she wasn’t able to be independent.
Oh yes, submission. That's a favorite of the trads. But the verse that calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the Church is never mentioned. Men who love their wives as such won't be threatened by backup plans, but will encourage them. Good trustworthy men do not want trapped women, they want mutually loving relationships.
"You're entire life is dependent on wether or not he still likes you" Sums it all
He got the ick drizzle drizzle
@@js43168This drizzle word sound so guay.
@@misslola007 I'm a soft guy. My women take care of me, as she should. Why would I settle for less? If she ain't doing her responsibilities as a woman at the house, she's a dusty. And who wants a dusty? Never me
@@js43168 You guys are clown babies 🤡
@@briannadickson2884 if that's the case, id rather be a clown than be what you want me to be. What is your success with men because my success with women has been phenomenal? drizzle drizzle
Men cannot be trusted. Have your own money.
I agree!
Agreed 💯
My FATHER told me this. He insisted that I be educated and always employed. He even encouraged me to lie about how much I earn to make it easier for me to hide money. His primary rule was that I always have enough money to get myself home from wherever I am in the world.
No ur right. I trusted these men & they are not trustworthy. I am only in my 20’s right now and they are already screwing me over
@@rtirado5411 smart man! Listen up ladies
You know why those 1950’s TradWives looked so happy all the time? Quaaludes. They were all prescribed quaaludes.
Well damn you learn something new everyday 😅
Yup lol it’s so crazy how people skip that part. They had to be numb to deal with everything.
Yep and everything they hold up as an example to model is a 1950s advertisement or TV show… real life was very different. They’re literally idolizing post WW2 propaganda.
Tbf it was amphetamines during the day and qauludes at night.
@@amberinthemist7912 and weren’t amphetamines branded as “appetite suppressants?”
Why do we keep calling these women bitter as though their experiences are invalid? If it happened to them, it can happen to any other woman.
Because those types of women are just as manipulative as men.
To devalue their experience. My question is, why are they bitter? Maybe because they invested everything and got nothing? That would make anyone embittered.
What's crazy is it's not like these experiences are isolated. It happens all the time! So, why wouldn't it happen to the next person?
@ecclairmayo4153 What's craziest to me is that this is the experience of women across the globe. Being controlled, abused, and manipulated by their husbands, then abandoned when they're older. Then, having men deny their experiences and trauma. I don't get why women would want to opt out of that.they
Each new generation thinks they know better but end up in the same spot. Same game, new players. Except some of them are more delusional and want to be stay at home girlfriends
Telling someone to plan for the future is not bitter. Did she fall on her head
A lot of male identified women have. She’ll learn the hard way.
I know! She was so annoying, she didn't even listen to what those wiser older women said. She's doomed, sad she'll likely be a mother.
Yes…..she fell on her head and her husband is gonna use that to his advantage.
Yea that girl was a complete bimbo. Those women were not bitter, they were speaking from experience. An experience that is so common that it’s the rule, not the exception.
She's a pickme and male centered. She'll learn. 😂 Telling women to protect themselves isn't bitter. She's delulu.
For about 8 years I was a stay at home mum, then my husband hadan heart attack that changed my life. Fortunately he survived but he decided to live his life to the fullest and got himself a young mistress. After his heart attack I got so scared that I started to change my point of view: I finished college, I got a job and I could afford to leave when he started cheating. Never make a man your only plan!!! Be independent!
I'm glad you are in a much better place and you have more security with your own income❤❤
I am so glad it worked out for you
So let me get this straight he got heart attack and instead of seeing you're efforts that you standing with him and him being grateful to this life and loving you guys more he decides nah I will be pathetic human being wow
Words of wisdom
I find it interesting that the girl in the original video makes a point to say the Tradwife lifestyle is NOT a trend but she's dressed like it's the 1940s with hairdo to match and speaking in a very specific tone that fits everyone else in this TREND. Being a stay at home wife and mom isn't a trend. Cosplaying as a Pleasantville character for social media IS a trend. 🤦🏾♀️ This is an AESTETIC that is being showcased for content and coin, just like every other aestetic on these apps. I just wish these women would be honest about that, but then that would ruin the faux morality they're fabricating.
Very much a trend!
That it's a lie is apparent from the fact that she pretends she doesn't work, while these videos are actually just that: work. And she has more than enough time to work too, because she doesn't have any kids. She lives with her husband and doesn't have much else to do except clean the house, run errands and cook. Unless she cleans the house from top-to-bottom every single day with a toothbrush and makes every single ingredient she cooks with from scratch, she has a lot of free time every single day. Hence the over the top styling and all the videos she produces and interviews she does. She is working as an influencer while pretending she isn't.
Yep Step-ford wife
Well said.
yeah
The woman who insisted they were bitter is foolish and was not listening. They were not against marriage they were against the trad wife idea being glamorised.
Yeah she didn't make sense
She sounded unrealistic because it's obvious that these experiences aren't isolated.
They never said not to get married either, they just said protect yourself. Where is the bitter in that?
@@juniperroberts6254 Exactly, it's actually quite loving and not bitter at all to give younger women the sage advice of protecting their financial futures. The hope is always that everything works out as planned, but if it for some reason doesn't then they'll be very thankful they have the finances to fall back on.
Exactly.
Just like that woman said: they are not real trad wives. They have a voice, they get paid, they have their own money, they show themselves. They are opinionated. They are on socmed. They think cooking and cleaning (Which most don’t even do) and dressing up makes them a trad wife. it’s an aesthetic to them and It’s embarrassing. They should be thanking feminism (the true part of it) for it.
Exactly!! They are so delulu to think we don’t know their videos are making money / and that lane isn’t traditional at allll!! They are only allowed to do it because women who were NOT traditional paved the way.
My dad roasted all of my mom’s friends in the medical field and convinced her not to work . Welp all those “ lonely bitches” are homeowners, traveling surviving and thriving. Of course my mom is NOT married to my dad ,NOR traveling or a homeowner 🤷🏽♀️. She tried to get back with her friends but she is just out of the loop completely and not tech savvy . I suggest women cherish your female friends,cousins and coworkers and stay in touch and active they are your only life line outside of your daughters.
😮did he leave your mom ?
@@sallyhemings2295 she left him after years of infidelity. His views on women are still the same he sounded like every male on the internet now back then . Irony he never wants me or my sister to miss a day of work or be dependent on a man . He remarried and divorced. He actually was mad because his last wife had a job and a house so he couldn’t control her or dog her out and ration out money 💰
So, basically she gave up her hopes & dreams and abandoned her friends for a man who eventually she left for being a Douche. 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭
@@misssincere5762 pretty much 🤷🏽♀️
@@Kim-vw4nx it's funny how men treat their wives like crap but wouldn't want same for their daughters as if their wives aren't other people's daughters 🙄
The girl arguing bitterness missed the point:
No ones saying "dont get married." Theyre advocating for an exit strategy if things happen to go South. U need your own plan
Exactly ! She was so bitter. Like who hurt you girl ? Or should I say, what dusty didn’t hurt you yet ?
RIGHT!
The "trad wife" was never a common phenomenon, when looked at over millennia. It was an economic flex for households that were affluent enough to survive on the wages/salary of the husband.
It’s okay to want to be a trad wife… just don’t be naive…
Being a naive as a woman can be deadly.
@@videofan1010 exactly. No matter what u do.
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The tradwife existed in a bubble during the 50’s, before and after that women have always been working, whether it’s in the fields or the office
That bubble tradwives existed in? It's called propoganda.
Because they'd be so for real here, the type of tradswives you see on tiktok, the only people living that way in the 50s were rich white women.
The rest of the women were STILL working, and doing ten times more shit than men but not necessarily getting paid for it. The poor farmers wives were still keeping the home and also working on the fields. Women were still working, it was just beyond the scenes and often unpaid. Just like we've always been working.
And these people that think most women just stayed home in the 50s age either delusional, or so ignorant that they know NOTHING about history
Exactly, you never see these "tradwives" trying to join the amish community lol always trying to live like it's the 1950's, not the 1850's, what's with that?
@@kayleematthews1658this especially, they are glamorizing it
Chicken pox as an adult is crazy! Please get well soon!
And she’s still glowing and gorgeous 🥺
It was probably either last week or within this week that they reported that a lot of people are catching chicken pox, thank God I had my chicken pox when I was a little girl I won't have to go through this again
No literally 😭 i thought i was safe from it since i didn’t get it as a child
Just like the future being a 100%tradition wife is not sustainable. 2024 If you’re trying to be a trad wife you need an update version of it it’s not the 1950’s where women couldn’t access info nor have the rights to move w/o a man. In this economy it’s a risky bet to be 100% trad wife. This economy if your a trad wife I feel like you have to utilize a prenup to its full potential make sure all legal doc is up to date like house deeds, wills spousal support paper or get a as need job on the side or side hustle
It’s called shingles and it comes from stress! I had the pox as a kid and got it as an adult as well.
The woman calling those other women bitter is ignorant at best. The older women didn’t say “don’t get married”. They told young women to protect themselves and not go into marriage blindly.
Exactly ! Probably some young naive idiot that didn’t get hurt by a dusty yet
So incredibly risky to be a tradwife unless you have a prenup, invest money from your spouse for your own account, and make sure your name is on major investments like property and vehicles
Those things should be in trusts and irrevocable trusts
@@kellysnyclife663 same difference tho - need to make sure you are listed as a trustee in that case. Also, that one is a beneficiary as well.
No matter what instrument or account one has - it’s still important to make sure one is listed in charge, has access, and can benefit from it.
I was breaking my neck to get to the comment section...... First of all that woman is not actually a traditional wife, shes an INFLUENCER and a very successful one at that meaning she's probably the breadwinner in her household
June Cleaver she is NOT....she's cos playing and being very smart about it, fooling everyone
Edit 20:50 exactly
I browsed her channel one day. That little girl had been married SIX MONTHS and was giving advice for how to keep a husband. 🤣🤣🤣
Cosplay for real!
That one woman who insisted upon creating a resume using your skills as a housewife is laughable! Those skills are legit but society doesn't see it that way. They only want paid experience. They want u to have held a paying job doing those things. You will get laughed out of an interview with that resume. Ladies, please arrange some finances and paid skills before u get married to be a trad wife if u choose to do so.
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@@kc6810 Are those schools accredited?
@@kikilicious99bingo
@@kikilicious99 Those schools use verifiable work, military and volunteer experience and they tend to be only for general education level classes.
Keep warning young women!!! I wish I would have had this information 20 years ago. We are allowed to speak on our experience. If they don’t like it, they can skip the content.
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That other woman calling the other women bitter is not looking at the fact that 50% of marriages end in divorce and the average marriage lasts 7 years. These woman can get married but should absolutely have a back up plan and their own money saved. They should also keep their skills fresh.
@@Frugal637 I'm 55, have been happily married for 27 years and I would tell younger women the same exact things. Backup plans are not only for divorce, and having them does not indicate any disrespect to one's husband or lack of trust. It's just SMART. I'm a nurse, but have been primarily a housewife/sahm through our marriage with minimal nursing work thrown in occasionally. My husband is the traditional provider type with a six figure salary, but he has even said that knowing that I have viable career options and could work to support the household if needed is a source of security and relief for him. While I wouldn't call myself a trad wife, my husband and I both agreed that my role would be primarily in the home BUT that I would remain employable in the nursing profession as well. It's for my own security, plus that of our household. He finds the trad wife content bothersome, and says any man who would not want that extra security for his wife is dangerous and a low quality man (which he has told our 23 year old daughter as well). There are no downsides to having backup plans. I've always viewed it as added security for our family, and I do not choose to view my marriage with a defeatist attitude, but in the event of divorce, I would not be screwed. We're both 100% committed to our marriage, but we're also not trapped. When commitment and loyalty are present, good men will not feel threatened by backup plans.
The issue with trad wife content gaining popularity is trad husbands is not gaining equal ground. Men today want traditional value partners but fudge the lines on their own part in that dynamic. The dynamic has always asked/required more of women and we all peeped it watching women try to do it all or stay traditional to undeserving partners.
For sure, the types that like this type of content only want to cosplay traditionalism. They want the wife that caters to their every need and whim while being completely submissive, but she also has to go out and work a regular job too because he can't afford to pay all the bills on his own. They want 50/50% finances with 5/95% effort from the wife. And when they have kids she'll have to pick up every part of child rearing too, while he at most will "babysit" his own children once in a long while. But just for an hour or two, because child rearing is a woman's job! At the end the wife has three fulltime jobs (a regular job, taking care of the big baby aka her husband and taking care of the kids) and might come to the conclusion she's better off quitting the second job all together. In situations like these this would bring her relief instead of stress.
I'm living for these comments. It's so awesome to see more people waking up to this cosplay. I call them Trade Wives (like pogs, back in the day) because men trade these women around like shiny coins and really only care about how soft their life is while also impressing other men with their collection
There is a Drought on the internet for content for men on how to be good husbands.
Wait till she has children….if you never get screwed great. But you need to look out for yourself and your children. I’m sorry but your household duties as a housewife will do absolutely nothing for you in the workplace. If you put that crap on a CV, they will laugh you out of your interview. Don’t be naive. People don’t give a crap about that.
Exactly this. The woman saying you can put your housework skills on a CV is either kidding herself or downright lying. Everyone has to maintain their household, do chores, organize trips and activities, do their finances etc. Those are skills everyone needs to be able to live, so how is that in any way a marketable skill that will set you apart? That will get a chuckle out of the recruiter at most, but if that's all you have on your CV then that is definitely going into the bin. For jobs that pay anywhere near a decent wage anyway.
@@ZBM-jj1xr If you're organizing trips then you can be a travel agent.
@@silververnallbells191 The problem is that everyone organizes trips, so it's not a skill that sets you apart enough to get a job out of it. Also, most job listings for travel agent, at least in my country, require a degree in some kind of tourism program. You're not getting the job just for organizing a few trips as a housewife with no degree and no work experience.
I'd rather be independent, than in love!
The woman talking about her mom also needing to rely on other, new men after her mom's divorce ... That also sets up a situation where women may open themselves to being abused b/c of the need to have that person contributing financially.
What's crazy is trad wives can understand the concept of HIS life insurance policy (which he can add someone else to) but they miss the concept of having your own insurance policy, i.e prenup w/ conditions.
there was another commenter on a similar topic/video who decided to be a SAHM, her husband required her to ask for money and when she did he always asked 'WHY?'. She decided to get a job within a couple of months of that arrangement.
Riiiight, so he gets security & you don't?
No life insurance policy, please
He can take you off insurance any day🤦
@@politereminder6284 absolutely, but to hear some of these wives on tiktok “he would never do that”, 🤮. As if these men don’t change their minds or switch it up
The woman at 14:30 is absolutely delusional. Your resume is supposed to set you apart from other applicants and set you up as the perfect candidate for the job. How are you going to achieve this when your supposed "household manager"-skillset is something literally everybody has. Everyone has a household to run, whether you're a SAHM or not, so how is that a skillset that will set you apart? Everybody organizes and plans trips, that's not a special skill. That's like trying to market yourself based on experience with using the internet for everyday tasks. Everybody has to cook, clean, organize finances, activities etc., whether you work or not. So on the one hand she's advising you to try to market yourself with skills that everybody has to have to be able to live, while forgetting that you will still lack the actual experience in the work field that would make you the perfect fit for the job you are applying for. The only employers that will not laugh at this blatant attempt of sprucing up a resume while not having the necessary degrees and work experience, will be the ones that don't care about your skillset and will offer you the minimum wage that usually accompanies such jobs.
I was looking for this comment!!! I just made a comment about that lady and her advice! You are spot on! The applicant field is wide and large! We’re all competing for similar jobs! Your resume is supposed to make you stand out.
I died when she called herself a domestic engineer lol
Those women advising younger women are not bitter but rather educating other women on making the right decision to secure themselves financially which is commendable
She really said it’s not coming from a great place? She can be naive if she wants to and find out the hard way like many other young women do, that refuses to listen to the stories of others and warnings. It’s weird. I guess when you center males and marriage, everyone is a hater lol 😂
What’s she on about tbh…who said not to get married? She sounds like she is coming from a bad place. Lol
It's bc she knows she looks like marilyn monroe so she thinks it will never happen to her. I wonder if she knows Marilyn Monroe was super abused by all the men in her life
Some of these women may be in denial that there life is over they have to come out of denial in order for them to heal it's okay to not have a man not all of us can look like centerfolds and if that's how they expect women to look then you probably shouldn't get married if your really attractive especially if notice people always talk about sex when your around them. You kind of just have to own the role they threw at you. Because the cool girls can do that they can get away with the things the rest of us cant but if you want them to like you stick up for yourself and don't let men push you around.
Also it's NEVER go late to go to college. There are TON of older people going back to college. There are a lot of community colleges out there you can go to.
In my state people 55yo and up go to Community College for free🎉
As a 21 year old who’s in there last semester of college I would not recommend older people to attend college that late.
@@That_girlAaliyah02 How else are they to get accredited for new skills as AI takes over?
@@silververnallbells191 I was just saying I worked full time and attended school full time so to me it was hard
I regret not listening to the older women giving me advice when I was 19-22...They were right. Old people are always right. Young people don't listen and are fixated on the NOW rather than the future. So right now, it feels good, things are going well and they feel like life will always be that way... young people are fixated and high off of the happy dopamine that they feel in the present moment.. but life has a funny way of changing circumstances that you didn't see coming.
Now I'm 32 and I want to protect younger women and guide them, so they avoid having to go to therapy or struggle financially, but of course, they know it all, and I am just a bitter old woman with jealousy. /s
It's hard to protect young women if they don't want to listen but I know they will look back on it like I did, and regret that they didn't listen to the advice from an old woman. The cycle repeats.
Feel better Destiny!
If you’re on the clock app making content and getting paid, you’re not a trad wife ma’am. You’re a working woman.
Right and that’s the difference between them and other traditional wives.
Throwing out the rest of that “blah blah blah bitter women” tiktok out, I do want to highlight when she said “both genders take a risk entering a marriage”. Like yes!!! Exactly!!! When you go into a situation where you KNOW there’s a risk involved, you prepare for it!!!
Sis at 13:24 needs to get a clue. Complaining about "bitterness" is a smokescreen for the real issue. Even if I play along and say yes, they're bitter ... SO WHAT? Shit is NOT sweet out here, that's the whole point.
She acts like these negative experiences are isolated incidents
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It’s blowing up just like every other heavily edited, unrealistic, non-sustainable, and unattainable esthetic out there. It will rise and fall like all the others. Too bad many young and naive women will look at it and get themselves into a mess trying to emulate it before they realize the truth.
All their points for relying on their partner quite literally do not make sense. Even if your husband is a man of integrity who would not leave you destitute in the event of a break up. Even a man who makes sure you have a personal account/allowance he cannot touch. Any man can be touched by layoffs, injury, illness and the ultimate inevitable life experience: DEATH. I'd rather my household not suffer from hunger, cold or foreclosure because we have multiple sources of income and leave well below what we actually bring in. A plan is not fear, it is insurance. A smart man and my future partner has to see it that way!
To me, it's part of our extremely ableist society. Men are terrified of disability and death and this is a way for them to keep their heads in the clouds about it all. Thing is, injuries and health problems happen to almost all of us eventually. The women are more burdened when it all comes as a surprise. Sad, sad
Then kids grow up feeling they never saw their mum or she was always stressed. Because she had to get two jobs pay for everything often with not enough while he gets a second family and she's not Time for anything
The resume lady had some points but what she left out was that you will be competing with people who went to college and have certifications in areas. Yes you can tailor your resume and highlight skills but if your employer is asking for proof of a certification or 2 years of verified professional experience what do you do then? What about all the people who have those experiences, education, certifications, references and connections?
Being at home is nice and good but please don’t make light of having professional experience and what being away from the workforce can actually mean for people.
The first “tradwife” is full of absolute BS. It’s too much to even type out! F every single thing she said, that is all.
Look into her history. She only became a trad wife after she failed at 4 different careers.
The fact that she's dressed up like a 1950s Pleasantville character let's me know she's full of shxt. Clearly an aesthetic she's using for content and attention.
@@mmason9836 Oh that’s interesting! Maybe that’s why she’s pushing that narrative that women are burnt out on trying to have careers because that was her experience. I think most women work because they have to because most men do not make enough to support a family. And some of us are lucky enough to have really good careers and yes it’s exhausting sometimes but I would not give it up to depend on someone else. But ppl like her just want to paint us all with a broad brush and mock our experience. It’s really b*tchy.
Also her entire family is wealthy, she attended college (unsure if she finished), and she currently has no children to take care of. Her name is Estée, and I do not want to shame her, but she is incredibly privileged and one of the very few who could get back on their feet easily if anything happened to her marriage or husband
@@mmason9836😂😂😂😂😂😂
It’s fine being a trad wife, as long as you’re able to take care of yourself/kids without your spouse, if they leave. That means retaining and maintaining employable skills and certifications, and insuring that you leave a relationship with assets and cash to support yourself until you stabilize your life after a divorce.
These testimonies are why I’m not mad at cougars. They’re in control of their finances and emotions when dealing with men.
Aspiring to be a trad wife to a non-wealthy, non-generous man is FUTILE.
"All their doing is telling you the bad stuff!!" Yes because if it happens you're screwed! Weve got plently of people romanticizing the lifestyle and some people do have good experiences but most of them will have a time where something goes wrong and the family suffers.
I had chicken pox REALLY BAD at age 30. Had to sleep with tight socks on my hands at night like a baby or I would scratch in my sleep. Cool baths as heat makes the itching much worse, calamine lotion might work to relieve. There may be better creams on prescription. Do NOT scratch, those scars hyperpigment and last years/are permanent!
You'll get at least 2 or 3 waves of poxes through your body, so it could take 7-10 days to stop getting new ones. If you get them in your throat or airways contact your GP immediately, you may need medical help!
Do whatever you can for your mental health.... seriously it can get dark and I was not ready for how low I got! It's a symptom in adult chicken pox that many don't know about. Do/watch things that make you happy or self soothe.
Trust your body, it will heal. Eat nourishing foods and stay well hydrated. This is a moment in time, step aside and let it pass. Sending love and healing hugs. You got this! ❤
I don’t recall the women ever saying NOT to get married I recall them saying protect yourself. It seems the lady who callled them bitter wasn’t listening. And how could the First Lady be bitter and her husband is a multi millionaire again she wasn’t listening
Yeah, and the OP woman reacting to all the videos was like nodding and agreeing with her too lol that was disappointing
Putting your household skills on your resume is a joke. They’re not transferrable skills; anyone can do that. You must have marketable skills in this fiercely competitive job market.
I mean if you kept track of and payed the bills, you could put some type of accounting on there 🤷♀️ lol
That lady w the blonde hair looks SO good for her age can’t believe he cheated on her. Heartbreaking
That first lady essentially just wanted to say women gaining rights has made it harder for men to get bangmaids while doing the bare minimum in the house. Not once did she mention how tradwife lifestyle is only supportable by wealthy people. How men are quick to abandon their partners and kids, the abuse etc.
Men made laws back in the day protecting women from other men just abandoning their wives and leaving them destitute. They knew it was not doable if men weren't held accountable. Women don't have those protections now, so housewifery will always be a risk.
I love these conversations. They feel authentic and important to have.
Destiny.....callimine lotion....do not..I repeat do not itch!! Hope you have swift recovery.
Benadryl gel is better, it lasts longer.
Chicken pox is not an allergic though. It may relieve itch...but surely you only use benadryl for allergens?
I looked up thebenydril..no absolutely do Not put it on your chicken pox...
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You're not supposed to use benadryl tropicals on chickenpox...
I am from three generations of house wife as a black woman. After what I saw I found it very important to have a plan for myself not solely reliant even though all of the men have been great providers. You can have financial security and be controlled by a variety of factors. I think trad wife is fine but with the education of having a protection for themselves for the long term. I have young family that complete degree and I tell them to keep it a secret and now become trad wife
When I was young I took oatmeal baths for chicken pox
To the woman speaking in the video at 13:47, this is not bitterness, it's a warning. We all need our own money, no matter how good the marriage is.
Those women aren’t bitter. They said be PREPARED!
Chick at first looks straight out of a penthouse/hustler 90s video😂
All that resumes talk will lead you to be a housekeeper
I’m so tired of women lying about the burnout . If he would help you with the kids u wouldn’t be burnt out 🤷🏽♀️
the woman w the resume advice was so helpful
Right, she's just teaching how to write a lingo, They can decide not to hire you because you don't have experience and someone to call for references ,to actually see how you did your job
I like semi traditional.. 70/30 financially, I get a 3 day weekend every week. And He pays for leisure .
No one is hiring with that resume you’re better off lying lol
Corn starch and water will help with the itching. Dont scratch, it'll make it worse and chickenpox scars really bad. Don't take hot showers, the heat will make it itchier too. If any sores are open, let them breathe but cover them up when you go to bed. Wash your bedding a lot more frequently even like a week after it goes away to make sure you get rid of any of the virus that got shed or fluid from sores. Calamine lotion is okay, I prefer the corn startch and water, but calamine does work. Drink water! Hope you feel better ❤
13:32 even if the perspective is bitter, it is more intelligent to hear the bitter perspective of someone who lived the life, than the positive tale of a grifter or an outsider. If you've lived the life and succeeded, why you're shitting on these women? tell us your experience! you a 50 something trad wife who is thriving, then say so!
Right? Like even if they are bitter, seems to me like they have a RIGHT to be. And maybe, just maybe it's a good idea to listen to these women about WHY they're so bitter, coz of you did, you could learn a thing or two.
They're not bitter, they're trying to be helpful obviously, but I'm just saying
I'm 55, happily married for 27 years, and my husband and I decided early on that my role would be primarily that of a homemaker/sahm. I would say that we're thriving, but whether I would be considered a trad wife is questionable. I married at age 28 and several years into a nursing career. Our plan was also for me to remain employable in the nursing profession, so during the course of our marriage, I have worked off and on minimally enough to achieve that. Trad wife influencers say they do not believe in backup plans but backup plans are not only for divorce, but also for illness, death, injury or job loss of the provider husband. Good men (and yes, they are out there) will not feel threatened by backup plans, but will encourage them. Trustworthy men do not want trapped women, they want mutually loving relationships. So while I've had a different experience from the older women in the video, I would advise the same things they do.
It's most situations and the Richest are the most controling. Just make sure you have a form of income etcy etc
My grandmother lost her mind because of my grandfather. Even in her old age she would be so paranoid about him cheating on her and working witch craft on her.
If a woman is over 40, does not have a college degree and has not worked in years no one will hire her. A lot of job postings Are online and that résumé is going to look like a joke compared to the recent grads or experienced professionals, especially because of ageism.
The fact that you're still able to put together a sentence while you have the dreaded pox, wow, kudos to you, girl! I was flattened for over a week. Get well soon. Get some aloe vera gel. 😊
Geez chicken pox is no joke as an adult 😭 rest up plz💕
I definitely ask the necessary questions when younger people are planning on getting married. I do try to ask the important questions and give them subjects to think about
The woman at 13:45 was so off. Divorce is a real threat and it isn't bitter for women to acknowledge that. They also didn't tell women not to get married.
Extremes are hurtful and damaging to any life. Roles are important. However, in the event something happens, being able to stand independently, is absolutely essential.
I'm 47 yo, married and childless. I work from Home as a software programmer. I grew up looking my mom being a tradicional wife and woman of her time. It had bad things, that i don't want to repeat: a cheating and beating husband, being trapped on a marriage, depression, etc. But also there are things that i want to emulate from my mom: cooking from scratch, baking, sewing my own clothes, crocheting, gardening. So i decided to be a semi-trad, semi-working wife. And I like my life as it is.
Also for chicken pox or itching in general, oatmeal baths help!
The American is set up looking from the outside, cost of healthcare alone it’s a scary concept to leave yourself that venerable.
Don’t warn them let them experience it. Let them feel like they are better than other people too then we all can double back later lol
Calamine/drying lotion works wonders for relieving and soothing chicken pox and hives 👍
Your profile pic 😂😂💀
Colliodal oatmeal works as well. Bathe with that and use calamine lotion after. It works a treat.
I was a aspiring trad wife to my ex , I was getting cheated on left and right, not worthy it at all
The tradwives think they're so smart and clever playing checkers in a life of chess.
I think: the young trad wife women are most likely, not understanding that-- you can 100% believe in your love and your marriage. And your love, you SHOULD invest in it as a magical thing that will last a lifetime. And for it to last a lifetime-- you absolutely, HAVE to have power in the relationship. If you want to set your marriage up for best success, you must have your own power which includes the ability to leave. You will not have a happy, magical marriage, without you also having power in the relationship. The two cannot co-exist. It's not about picking a good man or not; it's about putting all the necessary ingredients in the pot.
Loving your channel! Love your style and the way you engage with these conversations.
13:45 i mean yeah that’s the point of them talking about it? It CAN happen, doesn’t mean it will. No no she’s not bitter at all and even if she is, she has a rigtt hey to be bitter if she wastes her years on someone who left her with nothing. I appreciate these women being candid and upfront about their experiences because the aesthetic is sooooooooo fun and you can be swept up in the glitz and glam. She’s the type of person who won’t warn you about the danger or whatever because ✨misery loves company ✨
Feel better Des!! Still beautiful as always ❤️
32:36 me too lol, im gonna be very direct and i won’t sugar coat anything with my friends. I expect the same in return cause i genuinely want the best for them and myself. Tip toeing around the problem accomplishes nothing 😞
Hope you feel better Destiny.
"tradwife culture isn't a trend"
Wasn't she the one that made it popular again by targeting it at men?
At this point I've concluded that housewives in the west are suffering. You can be a housewife and have help.
I've been a house wife and a working woman. Recently started working again out of choice, I intend to be a house wife again.
It seems like people just don't think about certain things.
If you're a housewife, a allowance is mandatory. You have to have your own account and a retirement annuity and life insurance. I don't understand how this isn't obvious.
Also. What's stopping a housewife from being educated and maintaining a skill through a hobby or volunteering...
I don't think discouraging housewifehood is the solution. Everyone is being so extreme.
Lastly, if you depend on two incomes, you're also at risk
The one lady that says you can make your house making skills transferable sounds good on paper until you get to the interview and they dive deeper into your skills set and then it becomes non applicable
The last woman ate😢
Ah....Yts gonna yt. Because I'm corny and likely jealous of their privilege (not for real for real), I had a hard time paying attention, but I truly appreciate the work. Money and class matter and they have no love for me, let along BIPOC Sisters (I'm Olive yt). I'm participating in the 4B West Movement for ALL womenkind, but my efforts and attention are elsewhere.
(Destiny, we love your BEAUTIFUL, natural face and we hope you feel better!!)
14:31 is my favorite advice!! I was a SAHM with my ex husband, he owned his own trucking company and I helped run the books and business operations. So when I left him I put on my resume that i was a bookkeeper and office manager for a “family company” for 5+ years
Wow! I haven’t seen the chicken pox since the mid 90’s! I hope you feel better soon. Try not to scratch, I know it’s hard but you don’t want scars. Rest up! ❤
My mom was a stay at home mom for the first 11 years…She just wanted to go back to work as a secretary. She only did it because she already had the skills from HS and experience. And that was probably because that story was very common 30+years ago…
This is crazy so this whole time youd be a trad wife and not be stacking up your money on the side or behind his back like come on get some sense its absolutely stupid to depend on a man that can wakeup one day and leave you now your homeless with the kids because you didnt think ahead like seriously
I personally have wanted to be a housewife and stay at home mom since I was 3. Little House on the prairie really influenced that, and I truly love caring for my home and husband. I put some rules on myself though to make sure I wouldn't end up in a relationship where I was left with nothing. The rules were simple, find a man who will take into precaution the idea of him dying and leaving me and the kids. To come up with a plan so that he leaves us behind with money, shelter and food. Same for if he got hurt and couldn't work. And if we divorce, to ensure I am paid alimony fairly so that I can have shelter, food. I also made sure with all that in mind that I got an education and some work experience before even looking for my future husband, and when I did find him to have some sort of small side gig going on too ( homesteading) I happened to find a man that checked all the boxes and more, so I know that I will be safe, and prepared if anything does happen. And no, my husband is not rich. . . Moral of the story, everything they're saying can be prevented if they stopped and thinked for a moment.
I’m a sahm but I’m also a navy veteran so I have some disability I get every month. I also door dash sometimes and every now and then when things are rough I get a part time job to keep my resume active. It doesn’t matter if it’s fast food or what it SHOWS you’re still actively employable and not at home doing drugs or being lazy as some assume about sahms. Also got that gi bill so about to go back to school. I have a dpop shop and just started an llc too that I haven’t shared yet with the world. And I Trust GOD will provide if I ever have to leave bc HE always has. And I’m not going to lie I’ve almost had to a few times. But I let him no I’m not scared to start over I’ve take refuge in the shelter of the most high.
There is no home remedy. Go to the doctor and ask for medicine. You'll be fine within a week. You recovered within a week ✨❤️
A man is NOT a financial plan.
Sorry, 2 incomes is more "popular?" Like, we're only doing it to look cool, rather than because cost of living literally requires it?
Oatmeal bath girl! That and calamine lotion. Both are usually at pharmacy’s or grocery stores, but you can look online to see where you can find it where you are
Be careful ladies. I live in an area with women who were/are married for well over 25+ years. One of the ladies, her husband passed from cancer. She lost everything. She used to live in a very well to do subdivision, she now rents a room. She lost everything. Only the women who are professionals not only have skills but they are adept to handle the "outside" world. The women who stayed at home, are mentally behind. It is very obvious.
Believe me, HR departments are not fooled by giving basic homemaker skills executive sounding titles. They are not going to call your ex, your kids or the PTA to get a recommendation. Of course, being a homemaker requires skills, but most HR's do not believe those skills are transferrable to a business setting because everybody has at least some of those skills to just get by in life and they could have a million candidates with those same skills. Get relevant marketable job skills and stay relevant in those skills somehow.
It’s definitely an aesthetic and escapism for many people that watch the content in my opinion.
I remember watching the first women that was presented in this videos QA video. It was very telling . She even expressed the fact that her breast implants are making her sick but didn’t talk about removing them.
My dad was good to my mom until he was humbled by the world and didn’t become successful. He then started treating my mom like sh*t. But she survived it because she had a job, was able to divorce him, and move on with her life. She still struggles with depression but she’ll be ok. Would’ve been a horrible life if she wasn’t able to be independent.
Trad wife and stay at home mom aren't the same thing. Trad wife includes the whole religious submission thing.
Oh yes, submission. That's a favorite of the trads. But the verse that calls husbands to love their wives as Christ loved the Church is never mentioned. Men who love their wives as such won't be threatened by backup plans, but will encourage them. Good trustworthy men do not want trapped women, they want mutually loving relationships.
Most SAHM's are into the whole religious/submissive thing.
2:24 Stepford wives iykyk