It's the mind set of most non-white parents. I got beat minimum 3 times per day. Once before my mother goes to work and for some other reason after school and I was the top student so it wasn't the grades
I kinda did the same thing since I was raised in a low-income home. I would just watch and silently scream inside my head as they bought clothes during recess online and talked about their allowance from doing nothing. They didn´t even learn to use the money well.
@@kiera6326 you don't just give people money for free, that's not how the world works. Gifts are fine, but allowance? No. It's not good for kids to have money without either earning it or having it as a gift for a special occasion.
@@elisakrivas I disagree. Childhood is the only time in your life that you don’t have to earn money. I understand preparation, but it’s important that they’re allowed to grow and have certain experiences. I think as long as they behave and try their best, they should be rewarded, and I think money is the best kind as they can use it however they like, and get to experience what it is they’ll later earn money for. Some kids don’t care about it, because they’ve never known what they’re missing. But that’s just my opinion.
My family is Italian and I totally understand the thing about crying. My mom’s famous line was “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” 💀
The absolute disdain and disbelief he had when he heard “allowance” “don’t get beaten” “do nothing” has had me cackling when I know it’s the same to me- I swear every Asian has faced at least the beating INCLUDING the chores
Well, lemme check: 1. Beatings: check 2. Not speaking back or not allowed to stay silent when questioned: check 3. Chores: plenty and unskippable, check 4. Emotional damage: check
ok not true dude im chinese and 1st i dont have chores to do, 2nd i never got beaten, if my mom gets mad she just shouts and just use her flip floppers 🤣to hit me like if i threw something because i was angry she would get mad and wack that hand meh- doesnt even hurt that much😂flp floppers, i also have only 2 dollars in my allowance guess i have to do chores with out telling my momia, free money :) or maybe not- so not every asian person has been beaten i have only been hit on da hand. but probably not alllllllllllllll asians
Beating and insulting your children is wrong but also over spoiling them is wrong, I'll try my best to make the balance, I want to raise my child with love and at the same time teach them responsibility and manners. DON'T HAVE KIDS IF YOU'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH
My mom did "balance thing" with my sister, and she is still spoiled and achieved less in life. She also assumes that her life must be life Hollywood movie where she has everything she wants. So its not always helps
I never got allowance either.. I told my parents all my friends had allowance, and they said I wasn't old enough to have money AND they had no reason to give me money anyway 😂 I had good grades and everything but "that was my duty" therefore... No money for me until I started working lol
Same though! A while ago, I came to the realization how those words impact me today. I don't like to cry in front of anyone else so I hide to then cry while forcing myself to be quiet while doing so. It's u h.. a pretty fucked up thing to say to a kid 😭
@@umayanganee4645 Me neither. Whenever I tell my mom I won't do what she did to me (she would slap me and then turn around to threaten to do it again) to my kids, she tells me that they won't be raised well or something along the lines of "well what are you gonna do when they're being little shits?' and tries to tell me that I will and should resort to hitting them. In conclusion, my mother is sick in the head.
@@kyliesmith9199 oh god thats terrible...i mean i love my mother but if she hit me for saying i wouldnt hit my children i would have serious resentment towards her...i would actually feel like SHE herself would hit my kids if she said that.. i really hope my mom doeent do that. im glad youd never do it either
*“I beat you because I love you.”* *“It hurts me more than it hurts you.”* words I heard as an African child I'm sure Asians can relate. Drop a comment and a like if you relate. 🙋🏽♀️
as an asian, i get this- whenever i do anything to impress my parents, they just say good, or praise me for a bit then everything goes back to normal, and i have all my friends bragging about all the stuff their parents give them even when they dont do anything, and then im chilling here getting nothing for good grades, and chores
I'm not an Asian, but this is way too accurate. I don't talk back or anything since that is wrong, while others around me are shocked that I don't talk back and just look at the floor and bow instead. Like lmao who does that THEY ARE YOUR PARENTS NOT YOUR FRIENDS. 😔
@@xx-hw2hr even if they're wrong, you can't possibly talk back or even talk shit , deep down you know they are in the wrong , they'll eventually know what they did wrong and talk it out with you. ( i get hurt a lot so when they talk it out I still feel down but what can I do they are my parents lol )
@@kseniachevenard839 idk if it's different for you but I was taught to never do anything that will make my parents unsatisfied. if it's different for you then that's a different story. but as for me I never talk back since that is considered rude or something.
"if i cry they ask WHAT HAVE I DONE TO HAVE THE RIGHT TO CRY AND I DONT DESERVE TO CRY".. HOW CAN THIS BE SO ACCURATE. I'm both laughing and crying rn 🤡
As a child whenever i got beat up by my mom, my dad would say that "SHE HITS YOU BECAUSE SHE LOVES YOU". But honestly, it's just abuse under the pretense of love. Throughout the 17 years of my life i've heard this one sentence, " Because of you, we are suffering." constantly and it still somehow manages to pierce a hole in my heart. I feel like i became a burden by being born. In the past i had tons of sui**dal thoughts cuz of this. I wanted to d*e so bad just to escape from this feeling of being a burden. My last resort to live a mentally healthy life is to leave this house which i'm gonna do next year. I'm not abandoning anybody since i was taught that i have to payback every cent they spent on me and it'll take quite a few years. I just want mental peace and privacy.
Don' t pay back every cent they spent, that's just another part of abuse. they spent every cent on you because of their choice, you didn't choose to be born. Just leave.
I was 49 years old when I finally got therapy. Please do it sooner. Hopefully there is a nonprofit that will cover the costs. You can maybe get help now.
As a black women, I believed in discipline without it children turn wild, beating not so much. But paying back your parents!!! that's insane, they make a choice by having you, and they should cherish their child not every one can have children. I hope you feel better when you leave, good luck.
Just for reference beating your child is not abuse. Beating UP your child on the other hand is. Something that causes a little sting or a bruise is not considered abuse, but if you purposefully make the child bleed or break bones or just have an injury that takes more than a day or two to heal, it is abuse. I mean if you got a bleeding scratch from a physical punishment it's somewhere in between, but it can be judged by considering how often it happened or how big the scratch was and if the bleeding part was on purpose.
I’m thankful my parents were able to teach me manners and discipline me without needing to use violence or shouting (which is the bare minimum). I live with my mom now but if she does something wrong or if she hurts me somehow, I tell her and she understands and we talk it out in a civilised manner and vice versa. That’s why we have such a close and healthy relationship. We see each other as people and have respect for each other
Finally! I totally agree with you. Reading the comments it seems that everyone think that the only way to discipline is corporal punishment 🙄 I mean, i am asian (born and raised in europe thou) but my parents almost never raised hand against me. I have a great relationship with my parents, too.
Yeah, same here. My mom never even raised her hand. Communication is key. She made it clear where she had her expectations, and if I failed to reach that I communicated that I literally had reached my peak in for example math. Then we would work things out. She wasn´t too slack nor did she choke me with expectations. And If she has hurt my feelings, I let her know. If I hurt hers, she lets me know. If I needed to improve, she would let me know and somehow direct me to get better. I still don´t know how she did it. I have gotten shouted at for a shitty grade before though, and those few times really made me make sure I at least would try my best. If we can´t be civil in our home, how can we expect anything to be better later in life? Sure, for some it works out to hit the child that is reliant on them, but its a gamble to teach someone vournable that hitting is fine inside the home.
@@jossanmolla5264 Not True! If you don't punish the kid, the kid will never learn and if you just "talk" about it the kid will take it lightly and forgets about it.
you guys must have the most luckiest and lovable parents, having to live in fear if you did something wrong EVEN the slightest bit will result to your hands getting beat, belt to your butt, getting slapped, and getting beat to death by a pan while you have no free will to do anything cuz if you even talk to them the slightest, you become orphan.
I'm not Asian but it took me 21 years to realize that not everyone got hit by their parents in order to "become a good person"... That is kinda sad No allowance too cuz we were poor af
I feel the same. I'm white but it wasn't until I was a teenager that I found out that it's not normal to have your father throw your mom across the room like a rag doll
I'm mexican and the "You get an allowance?!" Reminded me of my childhood. Man, I remember asking my parents for allowance once and they were like: "Why? You get food from home. You don't need anything else. Why would you need that? No."
Luckily, my dad didn’t beat me. But he always yelled at me in multi-hour long verbal smackdowns, just SCREAMING. Discovered 3 years ago it gave me literal PTSD, no exaggeration…
Getting screamed at by someone you care about and rely on can feel so horrible. Okay in moderation, but... yeah too much can lead to PTSD. Hope you get better.
As a Brazilian this is too accurate. My family believes tough love & discipline is affection Finding out other kids get allowances for doing chores or stuff around the house blew my mind more than them not getting beat up because my folks always told me I shouldn't be praised or rewarded for doing the bare minimum of keeping the house clean that's not extra or praise worthy Grades & skills are what mattered & the better I got the less scolding or punishment I had Damn it's always people of color who be raising kids thru violence while the other side spoils their kids for failing upwards 😂
You Don't have to be physically and mentally abused just to be a decent person. I wasn't and I have a 96 in maths an 88 in science and nothing below 80s besides English. Furthermore, it is messed up and child abuse to hit a poor innocent youth because your too damn lazy to clean your own dishes, despite being an adult. Lastly, not everyone who isn't abused is spoilt, its called not complete cruelty.
@@harryshorrock2118 Thank you!!! WTF is wrong with explaining to your kids why something is wrong and teaching them better? Hitters act like the kids already know things as if the kids are grown up.
No matter how comedic this sketch is, this topic is just so cruel. I can't relate to the way his friends brush it off, nor all the spoiling they get. Here having an allowance is not a must for kids but at least we don't take beating as the norm.
There is always a balance.... a few people had similar comments about the beating and I respect that but no one has yet to shame the gross entitlement some children are raised in. That is not a good character builder either and that behavior has its own damaging effects.
@@CoCoFantastique I agree. Spoiling children is just as bad as hitting them. I just think no one mentioned that in the comments because spoiling your children is already seen as a bad thing in Asian countries (rightfully so) but child abuse in normalized.
I swear, as a immigrate to the U.S Whenever my friends want to come over they’re confused why I can’t invite them. 1st I’m not allowed to have friends over till I get my own house or if it’s close family, 2nd I don’t want my friends calling the police because they think my parents are full-on ABUSING me, 3rd The house is so clean they’re eyes would be blinded, And 4th Since everyone in the house gets their own part of responsibility My mom would get mad if I wasted my cooking skills on my friends that probably won’t remember me in a few years. YEARS!
*I remember one time I asked my dad why does he always hit me and then talk with me if he could just talk it out with me on what I did wrong, and then he said that 'It's because I love so much that's why I beat you.' I was like 'oh why can't I hit you then.' (That was the moment I realized I fucked up, never ask your parents 'why')*
When I was young my parents said I would get a phone when I was 15 but my older brother got one when he was 9... These videos are funny and I can relate to them and they brighten up my day, thank you for entertaining us, love you!
My mom used to hit me because of my grades and everything else like losing my watch or getting scratch wounds because I fell playing with my friends. I developed PTSD. By age 9, I was having chest pains and extremely fast heartbeat especially when I hear her enter the house when she got home from work. She finally stopped when I was 11 when she saw the effect it had on me. But even today, when I hear really loud voices, even happy ones, I recoil and get the same chest pains.
So accurate man.. When white people are going solo trip to another country at age of 22.. we asian can't even go out with friends for more than 2 hours
And then there are those who are raised with just the right amount of love and discipline, which I'm not one of btw 'cause I was also raised in a discipline and punishment-focused household, which made me so envious of other kids who were treated in a more gentle way.
I feel this except my mom would hit me and then would tell me that if I didn't stop, she'd give me something more to cry about which meant she was just threatening to hit me again. Nowadays, I have this suspicion that she likes it when she causes me pain in any way.. which is fueled by my belief that she is a narc since she never owns up to anything..
This is literally so true: “They beat you because they love you” and “why are you crying what have you done right, you don’t deserve to cry” those lines are so familiar.
I"m Asian and I grew up in the early nineties, in my experience beatings are rarely if ever used by parents as that is classed as abuse, other forms of physical punishments like padling with a stick or belt on the buttocks are viewed as perfectly acceptable even by authorities and are usually reserved as major punishments while minor infractions would get you things like kneeling on salt or beans or being made to stand while lifting buckets of water.
Also no allowance as well. The look of disgust when they discussed gifts just SENT ME IN TO THE NEXT DIMENSION. I tell my students how hard it was for a nerd when I was their age. I used to explain that I got 10 bucks a week FOR SCHOOL LUNCH as it was 2 bucks daily. If I wanted to purchase a manga, I had to spend my lunch money and STARVE AT SCHOOL FOR A WHOLE WEEK. This also means I could only purchase and read one manga a week. They think I'm exaggerating. They just dont know. 🥺
As a black kid I can confirm we also live with the mindset that our parents beat us because they love us and I'm cool with it without their method of discipline I'd be a horribly spoiled person cause I wouldn't have listened.
@@suziepeaches321 kids have different attitude and i believe in "are the pots beaten to break, I'm not glorifying abusiveness here but sometimes it's needed for certain types of kids
Agreed when I was a kid, I use to comeback home late, being ignorant to the dangers of the night. Then my mom start whooping me lol, I stopped coming back home late.
I ve never be beaten, and yes I m rather spoiled but it doesn't mean that I m a brat, a delinquent or that I don t listen to my parents. One s authority shouldn't reside in his/her violence. When you explain somth to a child with sensible argument they generally obey
My mom just told me this today morning..She said "We can't make a good child if we don't beat them" and also "We beat you because we love you" Whats up with this mindset lmao I can't even slam doors in peace
"We can't make a good child if we don't beat them" "Why don't you actually learn parenting then?" If that does not help actually give them a book about good parenting with the helpful bits underlined.
This is so accurate for me (the non-beating up part-) My asian parents don't believe in giving me money for chores they say it's nessasary and you shouldn't get paid for something you have to do.
@@CampingforCool41 what is child abuse, really. Like I think physical terms are necessary sometimes.. if the kid isn’t behaving or just being very violent themself, then.. idk. Is it ever acceptable for the parent to use violence before the child though?
@@kara.drawss126 No it’s not acceptable to use physical violence on a child. I’m sorry you were raised to think it’s ok. There are ways to teach kids good behavior that don’t involve any physical or mental abuse. If your child is being violent you figure out why and work through that, get a therapist whatever, you don’t fucking hit them for gods sake. The only thing that’s going to teach them is to hide shit from you better.
@@CampingforCool41 except any form of discipline, whether it's beating them or sitting them down for a talk, will get kids to hide things better. And not everyone can afford/has access to a therapist.
@@mx.n.3682 Not being able to afford a therapist is not an excuse for being violent towards a child. And calmly talking with your child through problems is leagues better outcome than hitting them wtf
I think it depends on how old you are and the area you live in. I just turned 30, am white, and grew up on a poverty ridden area. Everyone I knew got beat, but I remember feeling lucky because I didn't get the belt, get cigarettes put out on me, or broken limbs.
Broken limbs and getting cigarettes put on you???????? That must’ve been so scary I rlly hope those ppl r doing better now tho. Although if I have to be honest they’re probably not because of their childhood
As a Hispanic I can relate to the “they beat me because they love me” honestly because if they don’t discipline like that kids be grown not knowing to do shit 💀
No, my parents don't beat me and i respect them a lot, i have never done something rude to someone on purpose, while some people i know get beaten and still don't know shit
We didn't turn out alright, we need to start being honest about that. We only feel like we benefited from the violence committed against us because sometimes our parents would trauma-bond with us afterwards.
@@sketchiefello9002 i feel strange because in the comment section of this channel almost 99% of comments are from people that are beaten by the parents, my heart is breaking please.
@@whitelotus02107 Now that im a little older and can't get a beating because of some reasons I am glad my parents did beat me up. I see my friends and the way they talk to their parents and it just blows my mind so don't feel bad.
I can’t have an iPhone until I’m 15💀✋ and can not date until I’m 25. I also do not get allowance because my mom says that living in her household is more of a gift. (Which it is 😌 always appreciate what you have)
Oh and I can’t have many friends I can have less than 5 or 4 because my mom says its too much drama and I need to focus on my school work💀✋she’s even talking about me getting a scholarship even though its summer and I’m not even in 6th grade yet 💀✋ I’m going to 6th grade but she’s already talking about this.
I agree that kids don’t need allowance, and it’s okay to not have a phone but.. you have to be joking on the dating one right? 😶 I must be missing the joke.
@@victoria.thorne nope, not a joke. I can’t have a boyfriend until 25 (even thought I would basically be an adult) and I can’t wear make up until I’m 21.
As an asian , i do feel this way! The allowance thing and all are so true! And this was so funny! Oh i love this guy!❤ you make me smile even on the worst days
My dad says a local catchphrase “ *Give a morsel of gold but watch with lion’s(stern & scary) eyes(to the kids)* ” so yeah I can reaffirm that Asian parents (my parents at least) even tho they fulfil their kid’s basic physical needs, they don’t give a sh*t about their feelings or beliefs, you’ve to do it their way in order to be accepted.
I can totally relate to the friends 😂🤣 But seriously, it’s so sad that so many kids are beaten by the people who are supposed to love and protect them 💔😢 And so disturbing to see them leaving comments excusing their abusive parents!! Talk about Stockholm syndrome!! 😱
@@maxieworld7043 No, it exactly means they are abduzier, but you can be an abusive peace of shit and still love your kids. It's pretty hard to not love your kids. And loving your kids really is the secret ingredient that gets the job at least 75% done.
@@garylangford6755no parents that never hit their kids are actual good parents and actually want their kids to understand why what they did is wrong. If they do that same bad thing then it’s most likely they didn’t understand.
@@TessOpheij Some parents hit you (like mine) because they LOVE YOU, and they are just very very very VERY VERY strict. Parents hitting kids can also vary by cultures, so yeah
As an Asian I can say every thing he said is true. So far I thought parents from my country behaved like this. Glad to know that the situation is same all over Asia 😆
I'm Irish and when my sister was young she was told off and she said to my mother 'you don't love me'. With that my mother started smacking her with every syllable ... How. 👋 Dare. 👋 You. 👋 Tell. 👋 Me. 👋 I. 👋Don't. 👋Love. 👋 You. 👋 I. 👋 Love. 👋 You. 👋 Very. 👋 Much 👋 ....
Man this *hits* me.... I'm sorry. But my mom was the absolute worst. Especially when I had to get my gj feeding tube. I always did everything on my own but it wasn't enough. I had my tube ripped out multiple times when she was mad I couldn't "just be healthy and normal" like others. Or how I stopped her from doing what she wanted with her life. I'm now 28,still have the feeding tube and was told I might now see 30, but she hasn't changed a bit. I feel stupid for thinking she would. I'm sorry to anyone who's had to go through abuse in any form. My mom loves doing everything she can to break me down physically, mentally, and emotionally. My two older brothers,especially more so the middle child has never been hit,yelled at,etc. I know a sick child is difficult but it isn't our fault.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. In a Filipino household, you will be treated as the baby even if you happen to be the eldest. The household's care will be focused on you. But your siblings who are not sick might get beaten if they act up or disrespect the elders. Most people in the comments here actually do not feel they were abused. They recognize it as part of the parenting style of their parents. In the Philippines, it is actually more of the threat of being beaten that keeps us straight but in reality, we rarely get beaten. My nephew, an only child was coddled and showed signs of being spoilt. He refused to eat anything but chocolate muffins and french fries every meal up until he was about to turn 5 years old. His mom was at her wits end and the entire family decided she needed to give him a beating - one that he would not soon forget. So though it pained her, she beat him with a hanger when he refused proper food. He is now 11 and eats healthy and that was the only beating he received to this day. My son also an only child who is about to turn 8 used to spit on her nanny. Despite explaining to him the whys and the nos and the meaning of respect, he would still do it when he thought we were not watching so I gave him a small taste of hot sauce and told him that was all he would ever eat if he does not stop. I know this might sound like an abuse to some culture....but he never repeated it again. In your case, your mom is the one who is in the wrong and I hope for both your sakes that she gets enlightened and I hope you get better and stronger.
@@malaya8072 Dude it's still abuse no matter how you justify it. There is always a way to talk to kids about their behavior without threatening or violence, even if it's inconvenient for the parent. Kids are also ppl, and they are going to be carrying that trauma with them for the rest of their lives. I remember I personally only started eating vegetables around 7 or 8, but before that I only ate chicken nuggets. I didn't have to be beaten or abused, it just took some time for me, and now I eat them all the time! Also, by telling @Lucy Ainsworth how what is abuse and neglect can make kids "behave," u r invalidating their experience by excusing their parents behavior. I don't mean to sound harsh, but I personally feel like childhood abuse is too normalized and excused.
I'm so sorry. It is never your fault for how others treat you. No matter what anyone says, you are a worthy human being deserving of love. I hope you get better, and I hope your life gets better too :)
@@NightNekomata I'm sorry if what I said is perceived negatively. However, the "beatings" which I failed to clarify sounds exaggerated than it truly is. We would actually try to look more angry than we really are and the beating wont really be hard. It was often the act than the actual pain that children are scared of. Of course I can only speak for my family. Maybe in moments of anger, some families carry the punishments too far. You are right too that I somehow validated the value of beating without clarifying that in my family, the adults are mostly acting out. I was too focused in cultural differences when meeting out punishments. This is actually very common in most Asian countries and varies according to family customs of each household. I myself frown upon the use of slippers because I feel like it is sort degrading but most adults I know who got smacked or had a slipper thrown their way merely and most always laugh at their experiences. Like I said, it may be a cultural thing so what I am saying might be shocking to western sensibilities. Likewise, it is shocking for us to see western children talk back and shout at their elders. I will stand by my word though that people here wont normally allow a sick kid to get beaten up by any family member especially her own mother. A concerned relative will take that child away from her parents and care for her themselves and most often, the law is not even regarded. Customs and regard for extended family is weird here, like a double edged sword. Could work for you and/or against you.
*"They beat you because they love you"*
As an asian, I can confirm this is the asian parent mindset lmaoooo
It's the mind set of most non-white parents. I got beat minimum 3 times per day. Once before my mother goes to work and for some other reason after school and I was the top student so it wasn't the grades
I can confirm to
yes they think beating you is helping to shape you into a better person but its not really
agred confirmation id backed by me :>
I am a Brazilian and it is true here too
He start to shake when the other kids talking about that stuff they get for doing nothing, I get that.
When I heard about that crap in high school, I just thought, "Well someone's going to grow up as a brat depending on mommy and daddy's money."
I kinda did the same thing since I was raised in a low-income home. I would just watch and silently scream inside my head as they bought clothes during recess online and talked about their allowance from doing nothing. They didn´t even learn to use the money well.
@@elisakrivas Nah, not always. It’s good for them to have money 🤷♀️ but it’s insensitive to flaunt it around kids who don’t get that sort of thing
@@kiera6326 you don't just give people money for free, that's not how the world works. Gifts are fine, but allowance? No. It's not good for kids to have money without either earning it or having it as a gift for a special occasion.
@@elisakrivas I disagree. Childhood is the only time in your life that you don’t have to earn money. I understand preparation, but it’s important that they’re allowed to grow and have certain experiences. I think as long as they behave and try their best, they should be rewarded, and I think money is the best kind as they can use it however they like, and get to experience what it is they’ll later earn money for. Some kids don’t care about it, because they’ve never known what they’re missing. But that’s just my opinion.
My family is Italian and I totally understand the thing about crying. My mom’s famous line was “Stop crying or I’ll give you something to cry about.” 💀
Then they'd do it anyways because you sniffled
At this point whites are going to be like “BUT IM NOT WHITE IM FRENCH” 🤦🏻♀️
Yup, always meant as a warning.
... thats why they haven't seen me cry for years eheh
They said this to us in South Africa too.
Dam, I’m Mexican and this hit home. I laughed but teared a little, smh …
Oh it really HITS at home
i'll show my self out
Arabs do that too
Same but I’m African American.
Fr
There's a difference between abuelita's bedroom slipper across the fanny versus getting beaten black n blue with a wooden cane
Never forget the phrase “It Hurts Me More Then It Hurts You”
Omg that is so true
Yes
"what have I done to have the right to cry and that I don't deserve to cry" yeah I felt that one
U and me both
Me too
I'd reply with "getting a 78 in physics!!😭😭😫" or whatever caused the problem and they'd yell at me more, but at least I could keep crying
*takes a moment to have a brief flashback* yeeeep
sounds like: "Men can't cry, if they do they would be girls" 💀 - said by random female influencer
“Beat you? You mean, beat you in Fortnite?”
“Bro, who plays Fortnite? He’s obviously talking about Minecraft” 💀💀
@Yassified ye it's a bot it's been spamming this in replies
@Yassified aw i love ur pfp 🥰
I swear they thought asian parents have these and i never thought they have any multiplayer games on their phones before💀
@beyond your imagination dayum i got potatorolled
Smash bros*
The absolute disdain and disbelief he had when he heard “allowance” “don’t get beaten” “do nothing” has had me cackling when I know it’s the same to me- I swear every Asian has faced at least the beating INCLUDING the chores
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Found it!
Well, lemme check: 1. Beatings: check 2. Not speaking back or not allowed to stay silent when questioned: check 3. Chores: plenty and unskippable, check 4. Emotional damage: check
That one time my father beat me with a cane for staying at a friend's house a little bit too late after sunset.💀💀💀
@@nishikun867 ugh that sounds abusive
ok not true dude im chinese and 1st i dont have chores to do, 2nd i never got beaten, if my mom gets mad she just shouts and just use her flip floppers 🤣to hit me like if i threw something because i was angry she would get mad and wack that hand meh- doesnt even hurt that much😂flp floppers, i also have only 2 dollars in my allowance guess i have to do chores with out telling my momia, free money :) or maybe not- so not every asian person has been beaten i have only been hit on da hand. but probably not alllllllllllllll asians
Anytime I cry, my parents just yell at me to stop. They don’t even give me a reason 💀 Just “stop that.”
For me they say be quiet before I give you a reason to cry
same
My parents yell at me to stop crying so the neighbors don't hear it. I cry when I'm alone at home.
Wow, that sucks. Sorry about your lifetime of emotional baggage
Beating and insulting your children is wrong but also over spoiling them is wrong, I'll try my best to make the balance, I want to raise my child with love and at the same time teach them responsibility and manners.
DON'T HAVE KIDS IF YOU'RE NOT RESPONSIBLE ENOUGH
My mom did "balance thing" with my sister, and she is still spoiled and achieved less in life. She also assumes that her life must be life Hollywood movie where she has everything she wants. So its not always helps
Damn, u telling on ur sister @@tatjana7008
lol, well are you responsible enough? How can you tell for sure before it happens
🤣🤣😂 I reacted the same way when I discovered that my friends got an allowance when they were kids.
I don't get an allowance per say but I do get a lot like I have a whole music studio sooooo
@@TheSpacePlaceYT Good for you👍.
Waaaa I was paid when I did chores
Same🤣🤣🤣 Especially in school they would talk about it on the bus and I was confused
I never got allowance either.. I told my parents all my friends had allowance, and they said I wasn't old enough to have money AND they had no reason to give me money anyway 😂 I had good grades and everything but "that was my duty" therefore... No money for me until I started working lol
"stop crying or i'll give you something to cry about" famous words from my parents that is engraved in my brain💀❤
Same though! A while ago, I came to the realization how those words impact me today. I don't like to cry in front of anyone else so I hide to then cry while forcing myself to be quiet while doing so. It's u h.. a pretty fucked up thing to say to a kid 😭
@@kyliesmith9199 true dat. it affects me the swme way...im never gonna do or say that if i have a kid
@@umayanganee4645 Me neither. Whenever I tell my mom I won't do what she did to me (she would slap me and then turn around to threaten to do it again) to my kids, she tells me that they won't be raised well or something along the lines of "well what are you gonna do when they're being little shits?' and tries to tell me that I will and should resort to hitting them.
In conclusion, my mother is sick in the head.
@@kyliesmith9199 oh god thats terrible...i mean i love my mother but if she hit me for saying i wouldnt hit my children i would have serious resentment towards her...i would actually feel like SHE herself would hit my kids if she said that.. i really hope my mom doeent do that. im glad youd never do it either
@@umayanganee4645 Yeah. I also feel like my mom would probably hit my future kids hence why I might just cut her off.
*“I beat you because I love you.”* *“It hurts me more than it hurts you.”* words I heard as an African child I'm sure Asians can relate. Drop a comment and a like if you relate. 🙋🏽♀️
relate
Same as an african
Same as a Hispanic
Jamaican, same
Oh geez my parents said the exact same thing, WHILE HITTING ME XD
as an asian, i get this- whenever i do anything to impress my parents, they just say good, or praise me for a bit then everything goes back to normal, and i have all my friends bragging about all the stuff their parents give them even when they dont do anything, and then im chilling here getting nothing for good grades, and chores
And that’s how I learned kids don’t get beat.
"THEY BEAT YOU CAUSE THEY LOVE YOU"
I love that
You love that so… you beat that?.-.
Wthh
It's true they beat me and the love me, Trini parents are strick as asian parents
Tbh, if that is love. I’d rather not to be loved in my life. That is just an excuse to justify their violence and nonsense.
@@crabbypocket6458 nah, it’s discipline
@Sco-Cen OB2 i know it is! And I love my mother for it, but its funny to me :)
I'm not an Asian, but this is way too accurate. I don't talk back or anything since that is wrong, while others around me are shocked that I don't talk back and just look at the floor and bow instead. Like lmao who does that THEY ARE YOUR PARENTS NOT YOUR FRIENDS. 😔
Because sometimes your parents can be WRONG, theyre not some god or something like that
I'm the only one in my family who doesn't talk back to their parents.
@@xx-hw2hr even if they're wrong, you can't possibly talk back or even talk shit , deep down you know they are in the wrong , they'll eventually know what they did wrong and talk it out with you. ( i get hurt a lot so when they talk it out I still feel down but what can I do they are my parents lol )
@@-skzlunqtoc-2087 How is "they are my parents" a reason for anything?
@@kseniachevenard839 idk if it's different for you but I was taught to never do anything that will make my parents unsatisfied. if it's different for you then that's a different story. but as for me I never talk back since that is considered rude or something.
1:55 I love how he's so shocked his accent slips out. 😂
As an Asian, this is very relatable, especially the "MY PARENTS SAY THEY BEAT ME BECAUSE THEY LOVE ME" Part.
"if i cry they ask WHAT HAVE I DONE TO HAVE THE RIGHT TO CRY AND I DONT DESERVE TO CRY"..
HOW CAN THIS BE SO ACCURATE. I'm both laughing and crying rn 🤡
omg or if they threaten to beat u more if u cry
@@liasubs11Yh, it gives me flashbacks
@@sermajore1187 yeah exactly ufff glad im past that age but i still get yelled at..
Do many Asian parents get disowned?
Im allowed to cry which I do sometimes. Then I realized that if I cry they win
As an Asian I can confirm that pain is love
As a latina i can confirm too
@@asleepgirl9300 😂i think all of us gets beat except for the white kids
As a human in general, I can also confirm that pain is love regardless of the pain.
That means that love is bad
@@thememaster7 no it doesn't. The Bible defines love go look it up
As a child whenever i got beat up by my mom, my dad would say that "SHE HITS YOU BECAUSE SHE LOVES YOU". But honestly, it's just abuse under the pretense of love. Throughout the 17 years of my life i've heard this one sentence, " Because of you, we are suffering." constantly and it still somehow manages to pierce a hole in my heart. I feel like i became a burden by being born. In the past i had tons of sui**dal thoughts cuz of this. I wanted to d*e so bad just to escape from this feeling of being a burden. My last resort to live a mentally healthy life is to leave this house which i'm gonna do next year. I'm not abandoning anybody since i was taught that i have to payback every cent they spent on me and it'll take quite a few years. I just want mental peace and privacy.
Don' t pay back every cent they spent, that's just another part of abuse. they spent every cent on you because of their choice, you didn't choose to be born. Just leave.
I’m happy you realized what you want and what would make your mental health better while pushing through that abuse,Congratulations to you!
I was 49 years old when I finally got therapy. Please do it sooner. Hopefully there is a nonprofit that will cover the costs. You can maybe get help now.
As a black women, I believed in discipline without it children turn wild, beating not so much. But paying back your parents!!! that's insane, they make a choice by having you, and they should cherish their child not every one can have children. I hope you feel better when you leave, good luck.
You don't need to give anything back, it was their desition ando responsability to have and raise a kid. Children do not owe nothing to their parents.
2:27
Parents: Here's your new Kindle 14 for the eye protection function so you can read your textbooks faster
Just for reference beating your child is not abuse. Beating UP your child on the other hand is. Something that causes a little sting or a bruise is not considered abuse, but if you purposefully make the child bleed or break bones or just have an injury that takes more than a day or two to heal, it is abuse. I mean if you got a bleeding scratch from a physical punishment it's somewhere in between, but it can be judged by considering how often it happened or how big the scratch was and if the bleeding part was on purpose.
I’m thankful my parents were able to teach me manners and discipline me without needing to use violence or shouting (which is the bare minimum). I live with my mom now but if she does something wrong or if she hurts me somehow, I tell her and she understands and we talk it out in a civilised manner and vice versa. That’s why we have such a close and healthy relationship. We see each other as people and have respect for each other
Finally! I totally agree with you. Reading the comments it seems that everyone think that the only way to discipline is corporal punishment 🙄
I mean, i am asian (born and raised in europe thou) but my parents almost never raised hand against me. I have a great relationship with my parents, too.
Yeah, same here. My mom never even raised her hand. Communication is key. She made it clear where she had her expectations, and if I failed to reach that I communicated that I literally had reached my peak in for example math. Then we would work things out. She wasn´t too slack nor did she choke me with expectations. And If she has hurt my feelings, I let her know. If I hurt hers, she lets me know. If I needed to improve, she would let me know and somehow direct me to get better. I still don´t know how she did it.
I have gotten shouted at for a shitty grade before though, and those few times really made me make sure I at least would try my best.
If we can´t be civil in our home, how can we expect anything to be better later in life? Sure, for some it works out to hit the child that is reliant on them, but its a gamble to teach someone vournable that hitting is fine inside the home.
@@jossanmolla5264 Not True! If you don't punish the kid, the kid will never learn and if you just "talk" about it the kid will take it lightly and forgets about it.
you guys must have the most luckiest and lovable parents, having to live in fear if you did something wrong EVEN the slightest bit will result to your hands getting beat, belt to your butt, getting slapped, and getting beat to death by a pan while you have no free will to do anything cuz if you even talk to them the slightest, you become orphan.
@@metal9076 Nahh bro I refuse to think that its that cruel like the way u described it
I'm not Asian but it took me 21 years to realize that not everyone got hit by their parents in order to "become a good person"... That is kinda sad
No allowance too cuz we were poor af
I feel the same. I'm white but it wasn't until I was a teenager that I found out that it's not normal to have your father throw your mom across the room like a rag doll
Ofc middle class people,Asians,Black people are the ones who have experienced this lol
@@rikhmjustsomeguywithmousta4971 so the people with much money dont get beat?
5th grade I learned that not all dads beat up their kids. Eye opener.
@@Kaliel213 they are talking about allowance
I'm mexican and the "You get an allowance?!" Reminded me of my childhood. Man, I remember asking my parents for allowance once and they were like: "Why? You get food from home. You don't need anything else. Why would you need that? No."
Luckily, my dad didn’t beat me. But he always yelled at me in multi-hour long verbal smackdowns, just SCREAMING. Discovered 3 years ago it gave me literal PTSD, no exaggeration…
Getting screamed at by someone you care about and rely on can feel so horrible. Okay in moderation, but... yeah too much can lead to PTSD.
Hope you get better.
I went through that as well and honestly I would have rather been hit.
Physical damage can heal over time, but emotional damage sticks with you.
@@All-star_Giga_Gargantuar Physical damage and emotional damage can go hand in hand especially from someone you love
As a Brazilian this is too accurate. My family believes tough love & discipline is affection
Finding out other kids get allowances for doing chores or stuff around the house blew my mind more than them not getting beat up because my folks always told me I shouldn't be praised or rewarded for doing the bare minimum of keeping the house clean that's not extra or praise worthy
Grades & skills are what mattered & the better I got the less scolding or punishment I had
Damn it's always people of color who be raising kids thru violence while the other side spoils their kids for failing upwards 😂
oh nao estava esperando por isso, mas ao mesmo tempo nao me surpreendo e_e
The violence does not help the kids-it’s internalized racism-and they’ll grow up to beat their spouse instead of helping them.
You Don't have to be physically and mentally abused just to be a decent person. I wasn't and I have a 96 in maths an 88 in science and nothing below 80s besides English. Furthermore, it is messed up and child abuse to hit a poor innocent youth because your too damn lazy to clean your own dishes, despite being an adult. Lastly, not everyone who isn't abused is spoilt, its called not complete cruelty.
@@harryshorrock2118 Thank you!!! WTF is wrong with explaining to your kids why something is wrong and teaching them better?
Hitters act like the kids already know things as if the kids are grown up.
It’s the same for me
No matter how comedic this sketch is, this topic is just so cruel. I can't relate to the way his friends brush it off, nor all the spoiling they get. Here having an allowance is not a must for kids but at least we don't take beating as the norm.
I'm Asian. But thank you so much for writing this. I hate how people in Asia normalize that.
That said, I still enjoyed the video though.
@@dishamahesh1112 I wish as time passes they won't normalize it anymore...
Obviously there's a balance somewhere in the middle, and this is just showing the two bad extremes for comedic effect.
There is always a balance.... a few people had similar comments about the beating and I respect that but no one has yet to shame the gross entitlement some children are raised in. That is not a good character builder either and that behavior has its own damaging effects.
@@CoCoFantastique I agree. Spoiling children is just as bad as hitting them. I just think no one mentioned that in the comments because spoiling your children is already seen as a bad thing in Asian countries (rightfully so) but child abuse in normalized.
I swear, as a immigrate to the U.S Whenever my friends want to come over they’re confused why I can’t invite them. 1st I’m not allowed to have friends over till I get my own house or if it’s close family, 2nd I don’t want my friends calling the police because they think my parents are full-on ABUSING me, 3rd The house is so clean they’re eyes would be blinded, And 4th Since everyone in the house gets their own part of responsibility My mom would get mad if I wasted my cooking skills on my friends that probably won’t remember me in a few years. YEARS!
as an asian, I can confirm that tis is THE MOST RELATABLE THING ANY ASIAN COULD GO THROUGH
"MY PARENTS BEAT ME BECAUSE THEY LOVE ME"
every Asian...
Every latinoamericans
And African
Every African
as an asian, I can't relate. they yell at me instead
@@Nerdymua me too but I never got hit or anything except for my cousin's mother and my Aunt who hit me in the head with papers lol
How can this be so relatable 😃.
Are you okay? Do you wanna talk?
@@whitelotus02107 I'm kinda fine but I'm flabistered that in other cultures parents don't woop there ass
The jealousy i felt when people said this 📈
frr
This is honestly relatable for a lot of Asian kids.
"they say they beat me because they love me" KILLED ME . . . why was that so relatable 😭😭😭 and I also NEVER get allowence
"You get 2400 dollars a year doing absolutely nothing"....Ya i felt that 😂💀
Actually, it is slightly more than 2600 dollars ...
*I remember one time I asked my dad why does he always hit me and then talk with me if he could just talk it out with me on what I did wrong, and then he said that 'It's because I love so much that's why I beat you.' I was like 'oh why can't I hit you then.' (That was the moment I realized I fucked up, never ask your parents 'why')*
Omg.. you are genius and brave enough to ask that question..
@@emerald5735 *Still it took 10 year's of suffering for me to even gather the courage to say such daring words. XD*
@@Heart1nParadise yeah I can understand that.. have a good day /night whatever country you are from . I am from India btw bye .🙂
@@emerald5735 *My nationality is American and my origin is India :D*
@@Heart1nParadise it's nice to know that ..🙂
When I was young my parents said I would get a phone when I was 15 but my older brother got one when he was 9... These videos are funny and I can relate to them and they brighten up my day, thank you for entertaining us, love you!
But yeah spraying piss on the neighbors boxers while it was on a clothesline to get revenge was hilarious........ he said it was fresh 😂
My mom used to hit me because of my grades and everything else like losing my watch or getting scratch wounds because I fell playing with my friends. I developed PTSD. By age 9, I was having chest pains and extremely fast heartbeat especially when I hear her enter the house when she got home from work. She finally stopped when I was 11 when she saw the effect it had on me. But even today, when I hear really loud voices, even happy ones, I recoil and get the same chest pains.
Sorry, Are u ok now ❤
The face at 2:20 is the pain of every Asian kid 🙃🥲
So accurate man..
When white people are going solo trip to another country at age of 22.. we asian can't even go out with friends for more than 2 hours
Yeah my parents would never agree to a sleepover. (Both Chinese)
@@lamorthonyfairyfriend4082 exactly.
And then there are those who are raised with just the right amount of love and discipline, which I'm not one of btw 'cause I was also raised in a discipline and punishment-focused household, which made me so envious of other kids who were treated in a more gentle way.
THE WAY HE STARTED MOVING THE CAMREA IN THE END LOL!!!!!!!
My parents have actually never hit me before, but the crying part is so true. My mom gets MAD when I cry.
Salame! But being called weak and dumb for cry my emotions out is way more painful than an actual beating
I feel this except my mom would hit me and then would tell me that if I didn't stop, she'd give me something more to cry about which meant she was just threatening to hit me again.
Nowadays, I have this suspicion that she likes it when she causes me pain in any way.. which is fueled by my belief that she is a narc since she never owns up to anything..
This is literally so true:
“They beat you because they love you” and “why are you crying what have you done right, you don’t deserve to cry” those lines are so familiar.
I"m Asian and I grew up in the early nineties, in my experience beatings are rarely if ever used by parents as that is classed as abuse, other forms of physical punishments like padling with a stick or belt on the buttocks are viewed as perfectly acceptable even by authorities and are usually reserved as major punishments while minor infractions would get you things like kneeling on salt or beans or being made to stand while lifting buckets of water.
Also no allowance as well. The look of disgust when they discussed gifts just SENT ME IN TO THE NEXT DIMENSION. I tell my students how hard it was for a nerd when I was their age. I used to explain that I got 10 bucks a week FOR SCHOOL LUNCH as it was 2 bucks daily. If I wanted to purchase a manga, I had to spend my lunch money and STARVE AT SCHOOL FOR A WHOLE WEEK. This also means I could only purchase and read one manga a week. They think I'm exaggerating. They just dont know. 🥺
only some of these happen cuz my dad who isn't Asian usually protect me by convincing my mom not to beat me so lol
I love your stuff. You make me laugh so hard and that has been much needed this past year. I appreciate the hell out of it! Thanks
“the only way to make you learn is to beat you up”
~my mom
0:33 that's inversely proportionally accurate
That revelation was truly a kick in the stomach
As a black kid I can confirm we also live with the mindset that our parents beat us because they love us and I'm cool with it without their method of discipline I'd be a horribly spoiled person cause I wouldn't have listened.
I agree but some people think that that is horrible and portray such discipline and strict parents as abusive
@@suziepeaches321 kids have different attitude and i believe in "are the pots beaten to break, I'm not glorifying abusiveness here but sometimes it's needed for certain types of kids
I agree. If they never beat me I'd probably be in prison for a bunch of crimes. But fortunately I learned right from wrong early on.
Agreed when I was a kid, I use to comeback home late, being ignorant to the dangers of the night. Then my mom start whooping me lol, I stopped coming back home late.
I ve never be beaten, and yes I m rather spoiled but it doesn't mean that I m a brat, a delinquent or that I don t listen to my parents. One s authority shouldn't reside in his/her violence. When you explain somth to a child with sensible argument they generally obey
This is so true in so many ways.
My mom just told me this today morning..She said "We can't make a good child if we don't beat them" and also "We beat you because we love you" Whats up with this mindset lmao I can't even slam doors in peace
"We can't make a good child if we don't beat them"
"Why don't you actually learn parenting then?"
If that does not help actually give them a book about good parenting with the helpful bits underlined.
This is so accurate for me (the non-beating up part-) My asian parents don't believe in giving me money for chores they say it's nessasary and you shouldn't get paid for something you have to do.
I love how he switches to an Asian accent when he said "50 DOLLAR?!"
His face in the end is 😂😂😂😂😂
relateable had almost the same convo with my bestie she is like "wtf i never get beaten up thats abuse" ....💀
We got beaten up, But still it is abuse. You know..
I’m south Asian and I had this same conversation. This kid from Boston was like “isn’t that child abuse?”
It is.
@@CampingforCool41 what is child abuse, really. Like I think physical terms are necessary sometimes.. if the kid isn’t behaving or just being very violent themself, then.. idk. Is it ever acceptable for the parent to use violence before the child though?
@@kara.drawss126 No it’s not acceptable to use physical violence on a child. I’m sorry you were raised to think it’s ok. There are ways to teach kids good behavior that don’t involve any physical or mental abuse. If your child is being violent you figure out why and work through that, get a therapist whatever, you don’t fucking hit them for gods sake. The only thing that’s going to teach them is to hide shit from you better.
@@CampingforCool41 except any form of discipline, whether it's beating them or sitting them down for a talk, will get kids to hide things better. And not everyone can afford/has access to a therapist.
@@mx.n.3682 Not being able to afford a therapist is not an excuse for being violent towards a child. And calmly talking with your child through problems is leagues better outcome than hitting them wtf
"why don't you report them to the police?"
whose gonna feed me? you???
I get so embarrassed when my friends tell me they don’t get hit
His face! Total disgust and jealousy 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
50 dorrah will never get old
"I don't have deserved to cry"🤣
I feel this video on so many levels 😭😂😂😂
If I ever became an Asian parent, I won’t be strict like a lot of Asian parents are just because of my experience
so you wont whip your children with belts and throw them out of home just to scare them?! damn adopt me already.
@@guanxichen4400 lol
@@guanxichen4400 yes basically
I think it depends on how old you are and the area you live in. I just turned 30, am white, and grew up on a poverty ridden area. Everyone I knew got beat, but I remember feeling lucky because I didn't get the belt, get cigarettes put out on me, or broken limbs.
Broken limbs and getting cigarettes put on you???????? That must’ve been so scary I rlly hope those ppl r doing better now tho. Although if I have to be honest they’re probably not because of their childhood
These sketches are absolutely fantastic 🤣
tbh as a arab, arab kids and Asians Asians have a lot of things inCommon
As a Hispanic I can relate to the “they beat me because they love me” honestly because if they don’t discipline like that kids be grown not knowing to do shit 💀
I can't relate, my parents aren't violent monsters. Not all parents in Latin America are an ignorant bunch of brutes that assault their children.
No, my parents don't beat me and i respect them a lot, i have never done something rude to someone on purpose, while some people i know get beaten and still don't know shit
We didn't turn out alright, we need to start being honest about that. We only feel like we benefited from the violence committed against us because sometimes our parents would trauma-bond with us afterwards.
@@sketchiefello9002 i feel strange because in the comment section of this channel almost 99% of comments are from people that are beaten by the parents, my heart is breaking please.
@@whitelotus02107 Now that im a little older and can't get a beating because of some reasons I am glad my parents did beat me up. I see my friends and the way they talk to their parents and it just blows my mind so don't feel bad.
“I beat you because I love you”
Asian manipulation
“If I cry they tell me I don’t have the right to cry”
Flashbacks to my Asian mom saying “I can I’ve you a reason to cry”
Hispanic here… moms favorite saying was “I’ll give you a reason to cry” or “I brought you in and I’ll take you out”
Ethiopians, Indians, Arabs where yall at if we cant relate no one can😂
Middle Easterners **
This is so relatable on so many levels. But I am grateful by the way I am raised. I love my parents no matter what
“I hit you because I love you”~Every Asian Parent
When Africans find out that C+ is ok
His serious/mad face is so funny
When he calculated what his friend makes a year. 🤣🤣🤣
I want to laugh but I simply can’t, that’s exactly what happened to me when I was a kid, it hits really hard
This is soo accurate 🤣
I can’t have an iPhone until I’m 15💀✋ and can not date until I’m 25. I also do not get allowance because my mom says that living in her household is more of a gift. (Which it is 😌 always appreciate what you have)
Oh and I can’t have many friends I can have less than 5 or 4 because my mom says its too much drama and I need to focus on my school work💀✋she’s even talking about me getting a scholarship even though its summer and I’m not even in 6th grade yet 💀✋ I’m going to 6th grade but she’s already talking about this.
I agree that kids don’t need allowance, and it’s okay to not have a phone but.. you have to be joking on the dating one right? 😶 I must be missing the joke.
I wasn't allowed a phone until i started highschool (16). No dating only marriage 😃
@@victoria.thorne nope, not a joke. I can’t have a boyfriend until 25 (even thought I would basically be an adult) and I can’t wear make up until I’m 21.
@@yunyun5118 I-😧 I also can’t get married until I’m 30 or 35.. and my mom has to approve💀✋ my mom is 33 by the way which doesn’t make since
The way he's visibly shaken at the end 😂😂😂
As an asian , i do feel this way! The allowance thing and all are so true! And this was so funny! Oh i love this guy!❤ you make me smile even on the worst days
Not Asian. Can still relate. I'm still finding out that shit my parents said or did was not normal or healthy to other people.
"Stop crying or I'll give you something to cry about." Does not help at all.
My dad says a local catchphrase “ *Give a morsel of gold but watch with lion’s(stern & scary) eyes(to the kids)* ” so yeah I can reaffirm that Asian parents (my parents at least) even tho they fulfil their kid’s basic physical needs, they don’t give a sh*t about their feelings or beliefs, you’ve to do it their way in order to be accepted.
I can totally relate to the friends 😂🤣 But seriously, it’s so sad that so many kids are beaten by the people who are supposed to love and protect them 💔😢 And so disturbing to see them leaving comments excusing their abusive parents!! Talk about Stockholm syndrome!! 😱
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It's just different culture tho. It doesn't necessarily mean that the parents are abusive. It mostly comes from love
@@maxieworld7043 it mostly comes from poverty, but not from culture or love. You just don't realize how hardly we depend on money
@@maxieworld7043 i was told to go kill myself by my parents :D so yeah it most definitely comes from love
@@inversedfox9471 gosh. I hope you're ok after that
@@maxieworld7043 No, it exactly means they are abduzier, but you can be an abusive peace of shit and still love your kids. It's pretty hard to not love your kids. And loving your kids really is the secret ingredient that gets the job at least 75% done.
This is actually heartbreaking. Any parent who hits their kids, doesn't deserve to have kids.
im surprised i turned out alright. I have Asian parents that would hit me when i do wrong.
Parents that NEVER hit their NAUGHTY kids don't deserve to have kids.
@@garylangford6755You should have to talk, never to hit.. Or you don’t be smart enough to talk
@@garylangford6755no parents that never hit their kids are actual good parents and actually want their kids to understand why what they did is wrong. If they do that same bad thing then it’s most likely they didn’t understand.
@@TessOpheij Some parents hit you (like mine) because they LOVE YOU, and they are just very very very VERY VERY strict. Parents hitting kids can also vary by cultures, so yeah
"FIFTY DArAWR"🤣💀
“50 dorar!” the best accent
As an Asian I can say every thing he said is true. So far I thought parents from my country behaved like this. Glad to know that the situation is same all over Asia 😆
I'm Irish and when my sister was young she was told off and she said to my mother 'you don't love me'. With that my mother started smacking her with every syllable ... How. 👋 Dare. 👋 You. 👋 Tell. 👋 Me. 👋 I. 👋Don't. 👋Love. 👋 You. 👋 I. 👋 Love. 👋 You. 👋 Very. 👋 Much 👋 ....
As an asian, I relate to the spoiled kids more--
The zoom and shake at the end tho. LOL
......... imagine a kid that actually listens and does martial arts all day
Man this *hits* me.... I'm sorry. But my mom was the absolute worst. Especially when I had to get my gj feeding tube. I always did everything on my own but it wasn't enough. I had my tube ripped out multiple times when she was mad I couldn't "just be healthy and normal" like others. Or how I stopped her from doing what she wanted with her life. I'm now 28,still have the feeding tube and was told I might now see 30, but she hasn't changed a bit. I feel stupid for thinking she would. I'm sorry to anyone who's had to go through abuse in any form. My mom loves doing everything she can to break me down physically, mentally, and emotionally. My two older brothers,especially more so the middle child has never been hit,yelled at,etc. I know a sick child is difficult but it isn't our fault.
I'm so sorry for what you are going through. In a Filipino household, you will be treated as the baby even if you happen to be the eldest. The household's care will be focused on you. But your siblings who are not sick might get beaten if they act up or disrespect the elders. Most people in the comments here actually do not feel they were abused. They recognize it as part of the parenting style of their parents. In the Philippines, it is actually more of the threat of being beaten that keeps us straight but in reality, we rarely get beaten. My nephew, an only child was coddled and showed signs of being spoilt. He refused to eat anything but chocolate muffins and french fries every meal up until he was about to turn 5 years old. His mom was at her wits end and the entire family decided she needed to give him a beating - one that he would not soon forget. So though it pained her, she beat him with a hanger when he refused proper food. He is now 11 and eats healthy and that was the only beating he received to this day. My son also an only child who is about to turn 8 used to spit on her nanny. Despite explaining to him the whys and the nos and the meaning of respect, he would still do it when he thought we were not watching so I gave him a small taste of hot sauce and told him that was all he would ever eat if he does not stop. I know this might sound like an abuse to some culture....but he never repeated it again. In your case, your mom is the one who is in the wrong and I hope for both your sakes that she gets enlightened and I hope you get better and stronger.
@@malaya8072 Dude it's still abuse no matter how you justify it. There is always a way to talk to kids about their behavior without threatening or violence, even if it's inconvenient for the parent. Kids are also ppl, and they are going to be carrying that trauma with them for the rest of their lives. I remember I personally only started eating vegetables around 7 or 8, but before that I only ate chicken nuggets. I didn't have to be beaten or abused, it just took some time for me, and now I eat them all the time!
Also, by telling @Lucy Ainsworth how what is abuse and neglect can make kids "behave," u r invalidating their experience by excusing their parents behavior.
I don't mean to sound harsh, but I personally feel like childhood abuse is too normalized and excused.
I'm so sorry. It is never your fault for how others treat you. No matter what anyone says, you are a worthy human being deserving of love. I hope you get better, and I hope your life gets better too :)
@@NightNekomata I'm sorry if what I said is perceived negatively. However, the "beatings" which I failed to clarify sounds exaggerated than it truly is. We would actually try to look more angry than we really are and the beating wont really be hard. It was often the act than the actual pain that children are scared of. Of course I can only speak for my family. Maybe in moments of anger, some families carry the punishments too far. You are right too that I somehow validated the value of beating without clarifying that in my family, the adults are mostly acting out. I was too focused in cultural differences when meeting out punishments. This is actually very common in most Asian countries and varies according to family customs of each household. I myself frown upon the use of slippers because I feel like it is sort degrading but most adults I know who got smacked or had a slipper thrown their way merely and most always laugh at their experiences. Like I said, it may be a cultural thing so what I am saying might be shocking to western sensibilities. Likewise, it is shocking for us to see western children talk back and shout at their elders.
I will stand by my word though that people here wont normally allow a sick kid to get beaten up by any family member especially her own mother. A concerned relative will take that child away from her parents and care for her themselves and most often, the law is not even regarded. Customs and regard for extended family is weird here, like a double edged sword. Could work for you and/or against you.