Hope this video helps. Just wanted to continue sharing reminders that when we don't overwhelm ourselves, our natural ability to engage with our goals and purpose comes effortlessly 🙏 Thanks for watching.
Thanks a lot Doctor, I'm a 22 year old, in India, preparing for a Competitive Exam, and was struggling a lot, your videos on procrastination and consistency helped a lot.
Thank you for another great video, it certainly rings true. I struggle with meta-goals when implementing this strategy, though. Say I have 4 homework questions due in 4 days, and each typically takes at least an hour. Then, I will think I HAVE to do an hour each day. But that overwhelms me, so I think back to your strategy, and tell myself I'll plan to do 30 minutes. However, the meta-layer is thinking "I'm telling myself I only need to work on a question for 30 minutes [ so then I'll be able to get started and actually work on it for an hour ]" So it's like, I'm not truly intending only for the short period, because I'm aware that the reason I'm doing it is so I can really be able to work more, because I still feel like I need to work more than that amount of time.
Yes, the Nervous System can sense an agenda a mile away! I know exactly what you mean. To deal with this, keep reminding yourself that you are only committing to the small step. From your perspective, that's all you need to worry about. Then, beyond that, it's ok to have a preference for more. However, it is not a commitment to more. It's more of a "let's meet the basic standard, then see where things go" type of approach.
I have been watching all of the videos as they have come out but haven't been leaving comments. Dr. David. Thank you for putting out these videos. This was another very helpful one. I have the tendency or maybe even proclivity to overwhelm myself. I will work on this.
Love this thanks so much. My nervous system has been in constant overwhelm. This all or nothing thinking has led me to feeling hopeless at time. Shut down and felt inadequate. I am going to do this! Xxx❤❤❤
I'd like to say that the problem you describes is totally me! I would also tend to say that my disengagement leads to a desire to hyper-stimulate dopamine by scrolling through social media, which worsens the feeling of being overwhelmed. It doesn't recharge my batteries enough to re-engage. I fully understand the situation intellectually, but applying it in real life is a whole other story, and getting out of the disengagement loop that leads to escaping through social media is difficult. Do you have any suggestions other than being "mindful" of the situation? Doing the minimum to stay engage is a bit vague when the goals you're seaking are important and sometimes have a deadline Thanks :)
*_Goal_* I want to be consistent *_Mistake_* The tendency to overwhelm yourself *_Method_* • Being mindful and protecting against the tendency to overwhelm yourself, • Staying engaged with your goal by asking "What is the least I can do toward my goal on a daily basis that will be easy for me to maintain, and to feel like I'm making progress, any progress at all?"
Hope this video helps. Just wanted to continue sharing reminders that when we don't overwhelm ourselves, our natural ability to engage with our goals and purpose comes effortlessly 🙏 Thanks for watching.
Original, concise, insightful. Glad to watch this gem.❤
Wow, thank you!
Thanks a lot Doctor, I'm a 22 year old, in India, preparing for a Competitive Exam, and was struggling a lot, your videos on procrastination and consistency helped a lot.
Most welcome! Thanks for sharing 🙏
Thank you for another great video, it certainly rings true.
I struggle with meta-goals when implementing this strategy, though. Say I have 4 homework questions due in 4 days, and each typically takes at least an hour.
Then, I will think I HAVE to do an hour each day. But that overwhelms me, so I think back to your strategy, and tell myself I'll plan to do 30 minutes.
However, the meta-layer is thinking "I'm telling myself I only need to work on a question for 30 minutes [ so then I'll be able to get started and actually work on it for an hour ]"
So it's like, I'm not truly intending only for the short period, because I'm aware that the reason I'm doing it is so I can really be able to work more, because I still feel like I need to work more than that amount of time.
Yes, the Nervous System can sense an agenda a mile away! I know exactly what you mean. To deal with this, keep reminding yourself that you are only committing to the small step. From your perspective, that's all you need to worry about. Then, beyond that, it's ok to have a preference for more. However, it is not a commitment to more. It's more of a "let's meet the basic standard, then see where things go" type of approach.
Thank you David😊 I'm grateful for your videos😊
You are so welcome 🙏
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Thanks so much 🙏
Really helpful, thank you, David.
Really relate to the observations and insights .
And the nervous system backlash ....
Thank you, again.
My pleasure. Thanks for watching 🙏
Thank you so much
You're most welcome!
I have been watching all of the videos as they have come out but haven't been leaving comments. Dr. David. Thank you for putting out these videos. This was another very helpful one. I have the tendency or maybe even proclivity to overwhelm myself. I will work on this.
You are very welcome Omarey!
Thank you ❤
You're welcome 😊
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Thanks!
Thx
Love this thanks so much. My nervous system has been in constant overwhelm. This all or nothing thinking has led me to feeling hopeless at time. Shut down and felt inadequate. I am going to do this! Xxx❤❤❤
You are so welcome!
This is what needed to hear today. Thank you David, I am going to play this every morning
Wonderful. Thanks Lesley 🙏
Thank you so much for sharing this pearl- so helpful!!
Glad it was helpful!
Thanks, David!
Thank you mate 👍
A much more realistic approach to procrastination. I love it ❤️
Great to hear 🙏
Great insight again. Thank you so much. Can work with this now.
I'd like to say that the problem you describes is totally me! I would also tend to say that my disengagement leads to a desire to hyper-stimulate dopamine by scrolling through social media, which worsens the feeling of being overwhelmed. It doesn't recharge my batteries enough to re-engage.
I fully understand the situation intellectually, but applying it in real life is a whole other story, and getting out of the disengagement loop that leads to escaping through social media is difficult.
Do you have any suggestions other than being "mindful" of the situation? Doing the minimum to stay engage is a bit vague when the goals you're seaking are important and sometimes have a deadline
Thanks :)
Hi Dan. I can answer this for you in an upcoming video.
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Nice ! Thanks :)
*_Goal_* I want to be consistent
*_Mistake_* The tendency to overwhelm yourself
*_Method_*
• Being mindful and protecting against the tendency to overwhelm yourself,
• Staying engaged with your goal by asking "What is the least I can do toward my goal on a daily basis that will be easy for me to maintain, and to feel like I'm making progress, any progress at all?"
Summed up perfectly!
Thank you ❤
Welcome!
Thank you 😊
Welcome!