Thanks for clearing this up for me doc! 😊 The distinction of "having a plan" being the opposite of "decisiveness" comes from the perspective of the thinking vs. feeling dichotomy. Instead of living in analysis, we commit to regularly making the stern decision to "hand the wheel" to our felt experience of life. When we live in thought, endless variables are being considered without felt boundaries, which tends to increase overwhelm anxiety, but when we live in feeling we rest in the sensation and emotion of presence in every moment, informing our drive and direction tangibly and with a wider consideration of felt variables. From that felt perspective, along with just enough analytic thought to maintain a discerning critique of the way we've been taught to react to life's struggles, we can experience life as a beautiful journey of small steps while witnessing our great accomplishments as a byproduct! 💙
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Aww, thank you, doc! That really means a lot to me! 💙 I've been trying to break away from labour for the first time in my life, and I've been struggling with feeling confident enough in my higher skills. Maybe I should consider writing as an option.. I do love it. Thanks for the push!
A very good point. The opposite of having a plan, the true opposite, is having a wish. It's the difference between trying to navigate situations passively and proactively, in essence.
Really useful. I really appreciate your thoughts and guidance. It seems this is the only way I ever get things done.(That are not required by outside influences eg. Rain/ cold fromt is on the way, so I need to prepare property/ animals and reschedule and work that was expected to be done). It is more pleasant and satisfying too. It does seem the big glamorous stuff generally requires plans , though, and gets the excitement / fantasy part of the brain going for sure.
Yes, I would say that's having a vision, which is very important. But vision is not fixated as such on the how (micromanaging). The plan reveals itself when we move towards a vision.
Yet to listen, my first thought was 'spontaneity', then I thought 'aimlessly drifting', I might have to go with 'it depends' without a specific context. If a plan is a conscious plan, something active then the opposite might even be unconscious or passive. I enjoy your videos, very thought provoking - all the best.
"Genuine oposites". Interesting perception. I liked what you sayed: "In a higher level of contiousness, in a higher mindset, the whole concept of opposites changes". I wish you would make a video expanding or explaining this concept in the future... it ought to be interesting. Also: This idea of 'decisiveness' is interesting, but sometimes I feel that I can't reach the level of 'resolve' or 'composure' necessary to 'be decisive.' Whether it's due to childhood traumas, emotional blockages, or anything of the sort... it would be interesting for you to discuss what to do when we can't achieve the 'decisiveness' you refer to
I'm working on a book Denis. Hopefully it will shed more light on this topic. In terms of your second point, remembering that there is no 'right thing' to do is always very helpful.
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 🤣jokes aside this is a very helpful insight and tip you gave me to help with procrastination and dissociation and being overwhelmed 😅 Thank you!🙏❤️
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I honestly think this is a very useful video and the main point is critically important. Hope you find it helpful. Thanks for watching 🙏🙏
Thanks for clearing this up for me doc! 😊
The distinction of "having a plan" being the opposite of "decisiveness" comes from the perspective of the thinking vs. feeling dichotomy. Instead of living in analysis, we commit to regularly making the stern decision to "hand the wheel" to our felt experience of life.
When we live in thought, endless variables are being considered without felt boundaries, which tends to increase overwhelm anxiety, but when we live in feeling we rest in the sensation and emotion of presence in every moment, informing our drive and direction tangibly and with a wider consideration of felt variables.
From that felt perspective, along with just enough analytic thought to maintain a discerning critique of the way we've been taught to react to life's struggles, we can experience life as a beautiful journey of small steps while witnessing our great accomplishments as a byproduct! 💙
You are a great writer 🙏
@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy Aww, thank you, doc! That really means a lot to me! 💙
I've been trying to break away from labour for the first time in my life, and I've been struggling with feeling confident enough in my higher skills.
Maybe I should consider writing as an option.. I do love it.
Thanks for the push!
It is so good to see you again dr.David ! 🎉🎉❤ Hanan
You are so kind ❤️🙏
A very good point. The opposite of having a plan, the true opposite, is having a wish. It's the difference between trying to navigate situations passively and proactively, in essence.
Very useful concept. Better than all the planning and motivational videos which are not sustainable in day to day life. I am going to try this.
You won't regret it 🙏🙏
This was incredible!! Thank you for sharing your insight and wisdom 🤯
You're so welcome!
Using planning to avoid deciding.
How can we strengthen decisiveness?
( Avoid avoidance 😅 )
Really useful.
I really appreciate your thoughts and guidance.
It seems this is the only way I ever get things done.(That are not required by outside influences eg. Rain/ cold fromt is on the way, so I need to prepare property/ animals and reschedule and work that was expected to be done).
It is more pleasant and satisfying too.
It does seem the big glamorous stuff generally requires plans , though, and gets the excitement / fantasy part of the brain going for sure.
Yes, I would say that's having a vision, which is very important. But vision is not fixated as such on the how (micromanaging). The plan reveals itself when we move towards a vision.
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy ahhh! Thank you.
Yet to listen, my first thought was 'spontaneity', then I thought 'aimlessly drifting', I might have to go with 'it depends' without a specific context.
If a plan is a conscious plan, something active then the opposite might even be unconscious or passive.
I enjoy your videos, very thought provoking - all the best.
Insightful, thanks for sharing 🙏
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Decisive -
1. ONLY Next goal
2. Small
3. Easily finished
4. Doable
Do Next thing ( ONLY )
I make : 1 decision at a time
100% Andrew 🙏
"Genuine oposites". Interesting perception. I liked what you sayed: "In a higher level of contiousness, in a higher mindset, the whole concept of opposites changes". I wish you would make a video expanding or explaining this concept in the future... it ought to be interesting.
Also: This idea of 'decisiveness' is interesting, but sometimes I feel that I can't reach the level of 'resolve' or 'composure' necessary to 'be decisive.' Whether it's due to childhood traumas, emotional blockages, or anything of the sort... it would be interesting for you to discuss what to do when we can't achieve the 'decisiveness' you refer to
I'm working on a book Denis. Hopefully it will shed more light on this topic. In terms of your second point, remembering that there is no 'right thing' to do is always very helpful.
I thought of chaos as the opposite 😂
Because that is how it is for me not having a plan😅
You and about 8 billion other people my friend 🤣
@@drdavidmaloneypsychotherapy 🤣jokes aside this is a very helpful insight and tip you gave me to help with procrastination and dissociation and being overwhelmed 😅 Thank you!🙏❤️
If i want to learn more about this specific topic, were do i go ? Is it better to go with your book or the course or the coaching ?
For now, 1-2-1, but I'm working on the book 🙏