I think she's been measured very harshly. She’s smart and even if I dont agree with everything, there's a place for her perspective. SUCCESSFUL relationships are varied in how the success is achieved. Her approach is rooted in positive enforcement so what's the issue? My honest opinion is there's a bias against "beauty" being "educated", meaning she would be more accepted if she wasn't "pretty". 🤷🏽♀️
Absolutely agree. Beauty can work against you in certain spaces especially "masculine" spaces. Think senior exec leadership ie CEO or CFO, STEM, academia, research, PhD Pyschologist etc. In areas like sales, marketing, customer service, hospitality and service sure beauty will take you far especially if you earn a commission or tip eg real estate. In the spaces aforementioned, your cognitive ability and leadership will be questioned if you are beautiful. I'm not talking about well groomed. I mean having beautiful features about you. I study this at a doctoral level so I'm versed in this. I've interviewed C suite women who have faced the wrath of reverse agesim for being younger looking. Something that will otherwise be seen as desirable (your youth and beauty) suddenly is turned against you.
@@DestinationDionna it’s not always an advantage. Because of pretty privilege some people will go the extra mile to pick her apart and find her flaws and faults, whereas they wouldn’t otherwise…
This is over classification just to own a new buzz word, she’s hybrid low and high functioning….. majority of us get it right sometimes and sometimes act from our trauma that’s just normal human behaviour
Remember, Pastor John Gray utilized the same narrative surrounding his relationship with his wife, Aventer. “She loved me in my brokenness.” Do we call men like John Gray hybrid men? If so, many pastors and spiritual teachers should be considered as such. This is a part of the accountability discussion that needs more talk-time.
Soon as I saw your vid for this, I hit on it right away, cause sis is giving two different sides. But, let me just say first, I enjoyed your analysis of Dr Bryant. I loved that you were able to find the cover ups or the fact that she kept creating a pretty picture of something, that was in fact messy! Finally, I have to agree with you, that there are areas that Dr. Bryant has yet to work on. It seems she is looking for something that may not exist...which may be the reason why she was engaged 4 times 🤷🏾♀️
I will quote my beloved mother "Something about this chile ain't right." I am completely & utterly confused about the word "hybrid & vibrations." Granted I am 56`😅. God Bless you abundantly Kojo!
15:27 My understanding of what she’s saying is, she wants a man that can hold space for her when she’s triggered. As we know, healing is not linear and you can only heal to a certain level as a single person. It’s not until you’re in a relationship and you’re triggered are you able to use the tools you’ve gained in your singleness. So a hybrid is a person who’s done the work, but they’re able to hold space for you when you’re triggered. She said on Cam show something along the lines of (paraphrasing) you’re not on such a high horse, that you can’t have space for partner.
Simply put, she's at WAR with herself!!! There's a spiritual war within her that she is battling. The old "man" vs. the "new man." She has done MAJOR work on healing and herself in general, but she keeps being pulled back to the old. I can DEFINITELY relate. She needs to pray and ask the Lord to change her TASTE!! Because she hasn't MET the guy or friends or whatever who is on her new level, or the one she's aspiring to be at, she is still surrounded by the old in some capacity. She needs to surround herself with LIKE people in her personal life and stay fasting and praying until the old woman is shed, and this "new" one totally becomes her! 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Also, she needs to be delivered of the spirit of CONTROL! I believe she wants to wear the pants in her relationship and maybe psychoanalyse the men she meets and use her profession AGAINST them in a toxic way. It makes her feel better or smarter than them in a sense. Hence the reason she doesn't want a man who is 100% high functioning because she wouldn't be able to keep him until she is done with her healing journey.
@@raerae8801 I know we can heal alone...we have to, with the Lord. That's what our wilderness season is. But when we come OUT of that season, we need to surround ourselves new people who reflects the work we have done and the new season we are in if not, it unravels and we'll get sucked back in into the old. It takes time to become solidified into who the Lord has ordained us to be.
She says she needs a hybrid because she knows she's not there yet. She doesn't understand she needs to operate on her 30. She doesn't know she's always operating on 75. When you are trying to improve upon yourself, you don't always understand the adjustment required to be able to be effective so you can move forward and grow in the new space. Operate in a better version of yourself. I used to talk that fast, too. It's anxiety. She hasn't conquered it yet. You have to get to the root of it. She owns her stuff, but she hasn't gotten to the root of it yet to stop it from affecting her behavior.
Its like people don't just know how to simply love their partners. With Christ as the foundation, real and passionate love should work out the inevitable trials and tribulations. All of this emotional and psychological gymnastics is mentally exhausting. But, sadly it's necessary in this broken world. It's sad.
Cam is rich and selfish and will do whatever he wants. He chooses women who will do what he wants in an attempt to be rewarded for his attention to be his favorite. She hopes he'll choose her above the other women. The reality is he continues to pursue other women and have other children. Bottom line he will continue to put himself first. Everyone will try to get and keep his attention. He will never be different, his way works for him. He does not like people who disagree with his way of life. He is annoyed and has to be right.
23:07 YES, that’s her point… Essentially she created the term “hybrid” to explain our imperfections and our partner holding space for our imperfections. *It’s kind of like her “signature” term to explain that.
Most of us (especially women because of hormonal fluctuations) will deal with their lower functioning self at times but awareness is key as well as learning to regulate in those moments. Over time, a high functioning person overall will have less and less of those low functioning moments but never completely eradicated since no one is perfect.
Your assessment of this breakdown was top notch❣️And there goes her lower self..why invite the dad if the daughter wanted time with just her😑 That lady full of crap
She’s very calculated, kind of like Shan is with Jared. Who wants to be with such an analytical person? Can we just vibe out? Why is everything such a textbook reference? Like who are you outside of your therapist arena? Can you let your hair down?
Let’s think about the story of Hosea, and not put God in a box of who he will and will not put together. Now this is no excuse to tolerate abuse; I’m just saying let’s keep an open mind, every case is not the same for everyone. Also her situation may not have been Gods perfect will, but he used it to introduce a love to her that, over a decade later, still has an impact on her, and has healed her in many areas. While man’s love is finite, God puts His supernatural, unbounded love, in man.
@@LittleBlackBook91 I am not the standard. Jesus is. I think we (including me) can get so caught up in our own bubbles, that we don’t realize that many people are living lives we have no reference for. We have to be careful in saying “that can never be God” because it doesn’t line up with how we think or what we’ve experienced. My point is that God can use and restore ANYTHING, especially if it gives Him glory. Don’t put him in a box. He used dirt to make us. He repurposes dirt to make a lot of beautiful things. We have to remember these relationships are not about us. Different people are graced for different relationship dynamics. And that’s ok. What your graced to handle, I may not be graced to handle. We’re going to have to pick up our cross, and get over ourselves to be in the relationships we’re asking for.
Can you analyze the Cardi and Offset drama from last night and maybe explain, from a man's POV, his comments that he won bc he made Cardi his baby mama?
There was a key moment in the Cam Newton video where she says some people are so 'high functioning' that they can't put up with someone else's low functioning, and that's not good because they aren't willing to tolerate any nonsense. Then came the 'hybrid,' which she highlights and makes sound so appealing. It threw me off a bit too. Yikes!
It’s to me it’s like saying some people can be very intellectual to the point where they can’t speak to someone who’s not on the collegiate level. So hybrid is somebody is kind of like being a street person but having book knowledge you’re able your flexible you’re able to relate. Sometimes some people are only, allow themselves to relate to people who are exactly where they are and that’s it. They don’t have the capacity or the interest to talk to anybody exactly where they are.
People can separate work from their personal life. Police, doctors, lawyers and clinicians. This title is so disparaging, disappointed in this position. Men do it all the time. In no time is there a place where CAM N behavior and his word salad filled with misogyny.. Calling her babe and female. This is crazy to be accepted for clicks and likes with this mess.....glory be to our FATHER!
I have to agree w/the nice guy/woman aspect just my mvmo(my view/opinion) I had some one who was nice guy which I truly believed loved me I was young in my 20’s as well wasn’t the best and we reconnected and I sincerely thought he was the one we would have conversations about being together everything under the sun… he would lure me in about us being together but w/no follow through then the 💡 came on for me it was he liked dangling the idea of us being together in my face but would never follow through was nice to me yesss would give me the shirt off his back but he knew he had the upper hand it took me a minute to catch on because I was caught up in his niceness not saying he wasn’t so I said that to say sometimes ppl know if they have the upper hand (some level of control) which in Dr. Bryant cases the guy she was dating in her 20’s knew he had the upper hand then once she started to “heal” the power struggle started to shift . I don’t know could be wrong 🤷🏾♀️🫤🙏🏾❤️
I think she's been measured very harshly. She’s smart and even if I dont agree with everything, there's a place for her perspective. SUCCESSFUL relationships are varied in how the success is achieved. Her approach is rooted in positive enforcement so what's the issue? My honest opinion is there's a bias against "beauty" being "educated", meaning she would be more accepted if she wasn't "pretty". 🤷🏽♀️
ABDOLUTLEY… exspecially right now …. Men are bothered by women’s beauty and they are hiding their jealousy behind a false sense of righteousness .
Interesting take, cuz the pretty privilege usually helps women get opportunities and looks (and she is getting that)
Absolutely agree. Beauty can work against you in certain spaces especially "masculine" spaces. Think senior exec leadership ie CEO or CFO, STEM, academia, research, PhD Pyschologist etc. In areas like sales, marketing, customer service, hospitality and service sure beauty will take you far especially if you earn a commission or tip eg real estate. In the spaces aforementioned, your cognitive ability and leadership will be questioned if you are beautiful. I'm not talking about well groomed. I mean having beautiful features about you. I study this at a doctoral level so I'm versed in this. I've interviewed C suite women who have faced the wrath of reverse agesim for being younger looking. Something that will otherwise be seen as desirable (your youth and beauty) suddenly is turned against you.
I agree. Well said!
@@DestinationDionna it’s not always an advantage. Because of pretty privilege some people will go the extra mile to pick her apart and find her flaws and faults, whereas they wouldn’t otherwise…
She may mean that she'll accept a hybrid if he meets other criteria rather than totally dismissing him like she would a low functioning person.
How about high functioning means you can maintain your composure and communicate to low functioning , no need for hybrid title at all
This is over classification just to own a new buzz word, she’s hybrid low and high functioning….. majority of us get it right sometimes and sometimes act from our trauma that’s just normal human behaviour
I agree with you Kojo, I’ve had a challenge with this woman for some time now
Remember, Pastor John Gray utilized the same narrative surrounding his relationship with his wife, Aventer. “She loved me in my brokenness.”
Do we call men like John Gray hybrid men? If so, many pastors and spiritual teachers should be considered as such. This is a part of the accountability discussion that needs more talk-time.
This is an interesting perspective. Great episode.
Soon as I saw your vid for this, I hit on it right away, cause sis is giving two different sides. But, let me just say first, I enjoyed your analysis of Dr Bryant. I loved that you were able to find the cover ups or the fact that she kept creating a pretty picture of something, that was in fact messy! Finally, I have to agree with you, that there are areas that Dr. Bryant has yet to work on. It seems she is looking for something that may not exist...which may be the reason why she was engaged 4 times 🤷🏾♀️
I will quote my beloved mother "Something about this chile ain't right." I am completely & utterly confused about the word "hybrid & vibrations." Granted I am 56`😅. God Bless you abundantly Kojo!
55 and feel confused as well. Maybe I need to watch the full interview
😂 this comment took me out!! I'm 47 and I agree with you completely. I'm confused, dizzy, and fatigued.
@gabbiemac Right, sis🤣🤣!!!! God bless you!!!
@schandrikawilliams2792 I tried, sis & I'm still confused🤣🤣! Enjoy your day!
@@starunscripted Bless you too! (I'm still laughing 😂.)
15:27 My understanding of what she’s saying is, she wants a man that can hold space for her when she’s triggered. As we know, healing is not linear and you can only heal to a certain level as a single person. It’s not until you’re in a relationship and you’re triggered are you able to use the tools you’ve gained in your singleness. So a hybrid is a person who’s done the work, but they’re able to hold space for you when you’re triggered. She said on Cam show something along the lines of (paraphrasing) you’re not on such a high horse, that you can’t have space for partner.
Powerful omg I’m speechless 😶
Simply put, she's at WAR with herself!!!
There's a spiritual war within her that she is battling. The old "man" vs. the "new man." She has done MAJOR work on healing and herself in general, but she keeps being pulled back to the old.
I can DEFINITELY relate. She needs to pray and ask the Lord to change her TASTE!! Because she hasn't MET the guy or friends or whatever who is on her new level, or the one she's aspiring to be at, she is still surrounded by the old in some capacity. She needs to surround herself with LIKE people in her personal life and stay fasting and praying until the old woman is shed, and this "new" one totally becomes her!
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Also, she needs to be delivered of the spirit of CONTROL! I believe she wants to wear the pants in her relationship and maybe psychoanalyse the men she meets and use her profession AGAINST them in a toxic way. It makes her feel better or smarter than them in a sense. Hence the reason she doesn't want a man who is 100% high functioning because she wouldn't be able to keep him until she is done with her healing journey.
No. One can heal alone! We’re interdependent. We’re at war everyday with our flesh
@@raerae8801 I know we can heal alone...we have to, with the Lord. That's what our wilderness season is. But when we come OUT of that season, we need to surround ourselves new people who reflects the work we have done and the new season we are in if not, it unravels and we'll get sucked back in into the old. It takes time to become solidified into who the Lord has ordained us to be.
You are right about the hybrid statement.
She says she needs a hybrid because she knows she's not there yet. She doesn't understand she needs to operate on her 30. She doesn't know she's always operating on 75. When you are trying to improve upon yourself, you don't always understand the adjustment required to be able to be effective so you can move forward and grow in the new space. Operate in a better version of yourself. I used to talk that fast, too. It's anxiety. She hasn't conquered it yet. You have to get to the root of it. She owns her stuff, but she hasn't gotten to the root of it yet to stop it from affecting her behavior.
Its like people don't just know how to simply love their partners. With Christ as the foundation, real and passionate love should work out the inevitable trials and tribulations. All of this emotional and psychological gymnastics is mentally exhausting. But, sadly it's necessary in this broken world. It's sad.
Kojo I just randomly thought. Please also focus on good godly marriages. Just so you dont feed yourself with too much toxicity.
Dw I got sutten special for yall
Cam is rich and selfish and will do whatever he wants. He chooses women who will do what he wants in an attempt to be rewarded for his attention to be his favorite. She hopes he'll choose her above the other women. The reality is he continues to pursue other women and have other children. Bottom line he will continue to put himself first. Everyone will try to get and keep his attention. He will never be different, his way works for him. He does not like people who disagree with his way of life. He is annoyed and has to be right.
23:07 YES, that’s her point… Essentially she created the term “hybrid” to explain our imperfections and our partner holding space for our imperfections. *It’s kind of like her “signature” term to explain that.
Most of us (especially women because of hormonal fluctuations) will deal with their lower functioning self at times but awareness is key as well as learning to regulate in those moments. Over time, a high functioning person overall will have less and less of those low functioning moments but never completely eradicated since no one is perfect.
It is so much spiritual revelation to what you are saying
i agree with you. This is because of how she acted on Basketball Wives with Brooke.
I thought this heffa looked familiar. Now that the dots are connected, I’m cool on her.
@@FancyFallon exactly I don't think people are connecting the dots. That's why I agree with Kojo and everything he is saying.
@@AyceeBrown1 Yes! She was very provocative on the show especially with Brooke. How do you have that much smoke for a grieving mother?
@@FancyFallon That's the same thing I said.
I dunno why she entertains people's feelings. Ma'am,shut the noise down please!!
Your assessment of this breakdown was top notch❣️And there goes her lower self..why invite the dad if the daughter wanted time with just her😑 That lady full of crap
I think she’s beautiful and full of it.
She’s very calculated, kind of like Shan is with Jared. Who wants to be with such an analytical person? Can we just vibe out? Why is everything such a textbook reference? Like who are you outside of your therapist arena? Can you let your hair down?
Let’s think about the story of Hosea, and not put God in a box of who he will and will not put together.
Now this is no excuse to tolerate abuse; I’m just saying let’s keep an open mind, every case is not the same for everyone. Also her situation may not have been Gods perfect will, but he used it to introduce a love to her that, over a decade later, still has an impact on her, and has healed her in many areas.
While man’s love is finite, God puts His supernatural, unbounded love, in man.
WOULD you say if the man was abusive he would send that man to you?
@@LittleBlackBook91 I am not the standard. Jesus is.
I think we (including me) can get so caught up in our own bubbles, that we don’t realize that many people are living lives we have no reference for. We have to be careful in saying “that can never be God” because it doesn’t line up with how we think or what we’ve experienced. My point is that God can use and restore ANYTHING, especially if it gives Him glory. Don’t put him in a box. He used dirt to make us. He repurposes dirt to make a lot of beautiful things. We have to remember these relationships are not about us.
Different people are graced for different relationship dynamics. And that’s ok. What your graced to handle, I may not be graced to handle.
We’re going to have to pick up our cross, and get over ourselves to be in the relationships we’re asking for.
Can you analyze the Cardi and Offset drama from last night and maybe explain, from a man's POV, his comments that he won bc he made Cardi his baby mama?
There's nothing to analyze Cardi simply has low self-esteem and poor discernment. She already has 3 kids with Offset
There was a key moment in the Cam Newton video where she says some people are so 'high functioning' that they can't put up with someone else's low functioning, and that's not good because they aren't willing to tolerate any nonsense.
Then came the 'hybrid,' which she highlights and makes sound so appealing. It threw me off a bit too. Yikes!
It’s to me it’s like saying some people can be very intellectual to the point where they can’t speak to someone who’s not on the collegiate level. So hybrid is somebody is kind of like being a street person but having book knowledge you’re able your flexible you’re able to relate. Sometimes some people are only, allow themselves to relate to people who are exactly where they are and that’s it. They don’t have the capacity or the interest to talk to anybody exactly where they are.
Idk she was on BBW cutting up
Bars as usual
He was not correct. Next.
Her entire high functioning and low functioning talk was giving me a headache
Three women need to admit, they want children!
He came home 6mins late not 60mins late. This is too much 🏃♂️ 🏃♀️
People can separate work from their personal life. Police, doctors, lawyers and clinicians. This title is so disparaging, disappointed in this position. Men do it all the time. In no time is there a place where CAM N behavior and his word salad filled with misogyny.. Calling her babe and female. This is crazy to be accepted for clicks and likes with this mess.....glory be to our FATHER!
@@evansevans7483 I’ve done a whole episode break down on cam newton. Let’s not try make it the gender wars. Call it out for what it is
Shine your eye 😂
How many kids and baby mamas does Cam Newton have?
@@jojoone1099 too many and he’s a problem
A side eye to people who talk real fast . . .
lol he was speeding up the video, that’s what they do so we can get through the video quicker
lol I’m in real tears.
I get what you're saying. Even tho it's sped up, she still gives fast-talker, scam artist energy.
I had to slow the video down she talks fast. She pandering to me with the Bible quote. ✌🏿
No, Kojo just has the video sped up.
I have to agree w/the nice guy/woman aspect just my mvmo(my view/opinion) I had some one who was nice guy which I truly believed loved me I was young in my 20’s as well wasn’t the best and we reconnected and I sincerely thought he was the one we would have conversations about being together everything under the sun… he would lure me in about us being together but w/no follow through then the 💡 came on for me it was he liked dangling the idea of us being together in my face but would never follow through was nice to me yesss would give me the shirt off his back but he knew he had the upper hand it took me a minute to catch on because I was caught up in his niceness not saying he wasn’t so I said that to say sometimes ppl know if they have the upper hand (some level of control) which in Dr. Bryant cases the guy she was dating in her 20’s knew he had the upper hand then once she started to “heal” the power struggle started to shift . I don’t know could be wrong 🤷🏾♀️🫤🙏🏾❤️