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That was a lovely video, thank you. I think this is an enormously important topic, I would say quite a hot topic even. I can only speak from my own experience, as a man who is very much in touch with his own heart, feels emotions strongly including those of others. When I was younger I struggled a lot with this as I saw this as "not manly". As I got older I embraced it, now I see it as one of my most beautiful and strong sides. I think society at large still struggles a lot with this. My ex girlfriend used to ridicule me for crying easily at movies. When a female friend told me her husband had cancer and did not have long to live I shed a few tears. She then replied to me "Are you crying? Are you a man?" Some people are so not used to it and in my experience particularly some women react with repulsion. I never had this with any of my male friends. In fact quite the opposite, I have had friends thank me for it, because it gave them a feeling that it was safe for them to show their emotions with me when talking about difficult things in their lives. I do think that the negativity that people have towards seeing a man show his emotions is a programmed one, based on ideas on how a "real man should be". One idea in particular I am still working on to fully detached myself from, the idea that the man's worth is measured by how much he has achieved and how much he provides. That remains a tough one, because a have a deep desire to provide for my woman and (in my case literally) build a beautiful home. On my path I have learnt, it only comes from the authentic self if it is done out of love and with love and compassion for oneself.
I think it’s sad men feel this way. As a highly sensitive women I appreciate when men show emotions, it’s not weak to cry it actually takes strength to express emotions. If my partner cries it’s only when he is really suffering and I take it very seriously.
Talking to someone doesn't change how society treats me or my wanting a woman who treats me like a human. Therapy won't change that a woman will require I perform. Telling me im human wont change that society will not treat me as such. Its not a sense of inferiority, its understanding that this society is sick. Male vulnerability is not attractive. Men who are valuable in societies eyes are attractive and their vulnerability is attractive because they are attractive. Clear example. I just bore my heart and it will be met poorly. This isnt conditioning, society is just sick.
It's (mostly) not about conditioning: nature creates men and women to be different, and the majority of men are naturally more stoic than the majority of women. We evolved that way to better protect women and children, and hence the human race. Present-day pop psychology-based therapy trying to make males live and communicate like females doesn't help men, and doesn't make men that women find attractive, so will often just make their lives even more hard and lonely. If there's an answer to the issues listed here, it's probably to encourage women to accept, love, openly appreciate and support men as they are, rather than trying to alter them to their half-thought-out whims. Also to get women to see they themselves need to push back against anti-male legislation and representations in law, politics, work, and the education system. Having said that, and while I disagree with a good deal of the framing and conclusions of the person in this video, I'm sure her heart is in the right place and is genuinely trying to be of help, which is a good start and should be applauded.
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And while you're here, why not hop on over to our private Facebook community to connect with others and grab your free trainings on mastering intimacy with your anxious or avoidant spouse? I'd love to see you there! facebook.com/groups/masteringintimacy ❤
That was a lovely video, thank you.
I think this is an enormously important topic, I would say quite a hot topic even.
I can only speak from my own experience, as a man who is very much in touch with his own heart, feels emotions strongly including those of others.
When I was younger I struggled a lot with this as I saw this as "not manly".
As I got older I embraced it, now I see it as one of my most beautiful and strong sides.
I think society at large still struggles a lot with this. My ex girlfriend used to ridicule me for crying easily at movies.
When a female friend told me her husband had cancer and did not have long to live I shed a few tears. She then replied to me "Are you crying? Are you a man?"
Some people are so not used to it and in my experience particularly some women react with repulsion.
I never had this with any of my male friends. In fact quite the opposite, I have had friends thank me for it, because it gave them a feeling that it was safe for them to show their emotions with me when talking about difficult things in their lives.
I do think that the negativity that people have towards seeing a man show his emotions is a programmed one, based on ideas on how a "real man should be".
One idea in particular I am still working on to fully detached myself from, the idea that the man's worth is measured by how much he has achieved and how much he provides.
That remains a tough one, because a have a deep desire to provide for my woman and (in my case literally) build a beautiful home. On my path I have learnt, it only comes from the authentic self if it is done out of love and with love and compassion for oneself.
I think it’s sad men feel this way. As a highly sensitive women I appreciate when men show emotions, it’s not weak to cry it actually takes strength to express emotions. If my partner cries it’s only when he is really suffering and I take it very seriously.
Talking to someone doesn't change how society treats me or my wanting a woman who treats me like a human. Therapy won't change that a woman will require I perform. Telling me im human wont change that society will not treat me as such.
Its not a sense of inferiority, its understanding that this society is sick.
Male vulnerability is not attractive. Men who are valuable in societies eyes are attractive and their vulnerability is attractive because they are attractive.
Clear example. I just bore my heart and it will be met poorly. This isnt conditioning, society is just sick.
It's (mostly) not about conditioning: nature creates men and women to be different, and the majority of men are naturally more stoic than the majority of women. We evolved that way to better protect women and children, and hence the human race. Present-day pop psychology-based therapy trying to make males live and communicate like females doesn't help men, and doesn't make men that women find attractive, so will often just make their lives even more hard and lonely.
If there's an answer to the issues listed here, it's probably to encourage women to accept, love, openly appreciate and support men as they are, rather than trying to alter them to their half-thought-out whims. Also to get women to see they themselves need to push back against anti-male legislation and representations in law, politics, work, and the education system.
Having said that, and while I disagree with a good deal of the framing and conclusions of the person in this video, I'm sure her heart is in the right place and is genuinely trying to be of help, which is a good start and should be applauded.