1. How can I help you 2. I have soo much fun with you 3. (watch the vdo) 4. Future talks😌 5. How are you feeling? 6. why do you feel that way? 7. You make me feel (etcetc)
At 63 and on match for 18 months, I have finally found a man who can say all of these things with genuine honesty and gentleness. Hang in there ladies and be very genuine and he will too.
I was dating this guy who was playing it cool because he was trying not to scare me off. I watched your videos, and he was doing all the signs that he was in love, but he hadn't said it yet, and I was too scared to say it. I let things happen naturally because since your videos suggested we were on the right path, I was not too stressed. Now we are official, in love and very happy. He is still respecting my pace and doesn't try to rush any of the steps. He just lets me know when I am ready; he is ready. I have only ever known toxic men, and this is the first time I have been dating a gentleman. I honestly owe so much to you because I never thought this type of man actually existed until I saw you and your videos. So, thank you for allowing me to open up to love. I had to trust the process and trust that love can be real.
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I was blessed to have had two great loves in my life. They both passed, a few years ago but I still want that feeling again. Not found it yet😊 if not, I have still been blessed🙏🏻
Was dating a man for a bit less than 2 months. We had known each other for years prior to us both getting divorces. He had hit 5 out of the 7 here. Everything was going in the right direction. Chemistry, attraction, common backgrounds with family and our adult children. Then one evening after he had made me dinner, he was confiding in me some very specific details about his childhood with his mom, and then about his ex. He told me how much trust he had in me. We were so close it was surreal. Then he left to use the bathroom and when he came back he didn't even want to hug or sit next to me as we had been. It was like a switch went off and he became platonic. We ended it a week later, but remain passing friends. Another friend who knows him and felt we would be a great couple was sad to hear the outcome and felt he may be a commitment phobe (whatever that means). I had to let it go and try not to think about the "what ifs". When you find someone that is such a good fit later in life it is difficult to see them throw it away, most likely out of fear or past treatment.
@@Mat_Shaffer I appreciate the kind words, but as a fit, healthy 57 year old woman (that didn't let herself go) who is usually mistake for being 45, healing is not difficult. What is difficult is finding a man who isn't looking for a booty call or a nurse maid. I believe many single women in their 50s can attest to the fact that healthy men in their 50s want women in their 40s and even 30s. It is disheartening to say the least. Blessings to you
....he must have regretted exposing those personal details and felt the facade he'd created around them had fallen when with you... He wasn't truly comfortable exposing his underbelly then ran away. With you he would always have to face that truth.... he wrote it into your story together
@nearly somewhere I'm 68 & still looking. It doesn't get better. Most older men are looking for a nurse or a purse. All I learned from my 5 year marriage was that it's better to be alone than with the wrong person. Still hoping for a happy ending tho...just better happen soon.
@@carissacantwell9355 I'm 55, my husband 61. If I have the misfortune to outlive him someday, I am absolutely not going to try to find love again, not because I love him so much, but because I've watched too many Dateline shows, lol!!
Some men moves slowly. Be careful he is perfect and you're misreading him. Be a little bit more patient. My husband was a bit slow but I picked up on others areas that allows me to like him at early stages until we both grew together. I was slow too.now I am looking back at the young me. Five months is pretty short, be patient please.
Teach him how to talk...most man doesn’t talk or doesn’t know how to express their emotions. You might need to lighten up for him to feel comfortable talking.
@@goodietequila4228 thank you for the insight. I am still dating him, it’s been 9 months now and while he still doesn’t do or say the 7 things in Mat’s video, he shows me that he cares and has told me that he loves me. He’s just very guarded with his feelings. I’m glad I stuck around and allowed him to open up when he was ready.
Mat, I really appreciate how you always display your points on the screen and then recap them at end of your videos! It makes it a lot easier to follow along with you and retain the information, especially for visual learners like me. I know it’s such a “little” thing but well worth the time and effort you put into it!! I think it sets you apart from others in the field and I know for me personally when I’m deciding whose video I’m going to watch I will gravitate towards yours because I always know it’s gonna be a home run for reasons listed above. 🙂 Thanks!
Hi Mat. Just want to say I appreciate the way you tell us what you’re going to teach, teach it, then tell us what you taught. So easy to understand. You’re an awesome teacher. Thanks so much for what you are doing.
I've had two really bad relationships, I worked on myself. I have found a wonderful man, and I'm so happy to say it's a seven out of seven. I feel so lucky to have met him.
I had this in almost every relationship I had. Unfortunately after years things change and life happens so it does not always work out. But I hope and pray that my exs are okay and doing well even if they are not with me. 😁❤
@@Mat_ShafferYour most certainly very welcome. Your advice and guidance is highly recommended i will be sharing with all the women in my life. Keep up the fantastic work. 😁
Let me just say after listening to this.. I am excited about where I am with the amazing man that I have been seeing for two months.. He is definitely hitting all of these points… He is so refreshing to my spirit….I look forward to growing our future together…
This what an emotionally mature man in love says. The unevolved one won’t say much and then wonder why you left him. You were “supposed to guess”? I’m lucky my husband is the mature kind, but I’ve dealt with the “silent strong type” too.
I want to express my immense gratitude towards you Matt. You have helped me unlock mu gifts and start sharing magic to help other women to step inti their true power. I was in tge grouo coaching you did for light workers with Aaron Doughty and Victor Oddo and since July I have been sharing my voice loud and proud. I cant wait to help and inspire women like you do and to the extent that you do❤❤❤
What if the woman does not feel the same about him? It's hard to respond to avoid hurting his feelings. Sometimes men say these things way too early in the relationship.
I got me a good man!💗 My intention is to continue to be that beautiful safe container for him so our relationship can continue to depend and evolve🙏 thanks Mat! 💛💛
@@zen_mindset1 after a very toxic relationship I did a lot of self love and deep dive of knowing myself. Treating myself to massages, flowers, taking myself out to eat and talking kindly to myself. Don’t give up and know you are worthy of a good partnership 💗 it didn’t happen over night it took years and lots of self work
My friend who is already in a long term relationship involving children says/asks these types of phrases and questions a bit... All but the last one of course. The guy I was dating had used 7 a form of 6, he didn't say I'm excited to meet my mom, but he did seem excited when I met her. He would ask me how I was feeling, but not the follow up phrase. Also during a conversation him and I had he mentioned feeling safe, feeling connected with me.... I ended our relationship due to thinking he didn't have strong feelings for me...
I feel like the luckiest woman in the world . He has said all this and I am floored. He is so special and he inspires me to be the best I can be. I try to be his safety place in any way possible, always. 🥰
Thank you so much for this video! I have a hard time knowing my emotions well enough to see whether I'm falling for someone, having these guidelines helps me cross-reference my past interactions!
I’m a female and said most of these things to a guy I have known for the past few months. Is that really wrong? 🤔😬 I was just telling the truth… We have so much fun and always laugh our heads off together. He did say I would love his teammates if I had met them. His sport is a big part of his life. I will keep my ears open to see if he mentions any of these things, if not, then best move on.
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I've been a year subscriber already :D And the guy I've been seeing right now always tells me "How am I feeling?" And even though his really busy, he is trying to talk to me and even when I sleep at 12 am, his still awake for me.. I love him so much. I hope he will be my boyfriend soon.
The guy I have been involved with online has said all those things plus he told me he is addicted to me...If I tell him I didn't eat or sleep he tells me I have to do it to keep healthy... Due to my own traumas I have difficulty in believing him and have tried to get him to go away (he wont) but in reality I just want him to get closer which makes him think I don't care...We are planning meeting soon so I enrolled in your course so I can lessen my chances of blowing it with him..
A BIG idea Mat is GIVING AND RECEIVING. As a mother, a nurturer, a giver I can give and give and give YET if he just receives and receives without giving back , eventually that dynamic is going to wear thin and break. An example: With my ex, I'd work my business, come home clean, fix dinner, do laundry and resented the fact he sat on the sofa and never helped. Well I asked for help but he was so used to RECEIVING he didn't know how. Now in a new relationship, I find myself at times having to hold back so my partner can give to me. In this way I'm not overwhelming him and he feels good about where our relationship is going. And the bonus - I don't feel angry/resentful
My man and I are doing all 7. I love him and he loces me very much. We are a part of each other's futures. I have the #1 with him, his is safe, happy. Thank you for your videos 🎉
For some reason I keep seeing these pop up on my home page. I remember when I wanted a man to love me so bad. Now I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone at all. It's so freeing. I now wonder why I ever cared about that stuff. Seriously. I'm not hardened either.. I just love being on my own. It is such a nice feeling to be content and not long for someone and feel lonely.
What if he says the last point on the checklist, the one that you say shows that he cares _the most_ - " You bring a feeling of home and peace into my life"... But not very many of others, like he doesn't say things like: "I'm so excited for you to meet X.." " How are you feeling?"; " Why are you feeling that way?" What does it mean? 🤔
So far the guy I'm interested in has said 3 out of 7... However, 6 is different... He has said he enjoys listening to me. I guess he either likes the sound of my voice or my personality... I have no idea... I've noticed he's very auditory.
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I already know my man is deeply in love with me bc he shows me every day all day. I still enjoy watching your videos. They make me appreciate him that much more. :) I'm a lucky girl!
My ex wanted to introduce me to his friends by organizing a drinking event where I would have been the only woman and he also warned me that they usually drink until they don't even know what they are doing and I would have to drive him home and leave him alone for the following two days because this is how long his hangover usually lasts. So I don't think introducing the woman to his friends is always a sign of love.
Yayyy all the checks !! 👏🏼🥰 thanks for this video because I can feel his energy but he hasn’t blatantly stated I love you . But these points all help ! 😁
I signed up for the reason having 2 failed marriages, unfortunately... could have been on one for sure, however it's always great to know more about our opposite sex!
Specific Question: What do men mean when they say, "You make me feel like a man?" One man told me that a long time ago, who I believe genuinely loved me. Decades later, another man said it to me but I later realized he was a user / exploiter. I'm glad I have that impact on a man, but what does it mean?
I would look up characteristics of men and that should give you the answer. For the most part they like to feel like the protector and the provider. Someone who solves your problems and keeps you safe. So you must have allowed them to feel this way. Some men complain if a woman is too independent…that makes them feel like “less of a man” because they’re not sure what role to play if they feel like you don’t need them.
Mine did not just ask how he can help me but went ahead and booked a hair appointment for me... He has said he has so much fun with me. He wants to show me off to his people and friends Number 4 yes we have talked about it. We both have kids and we just want to have fun with our children. He asks everyone day how I am feeling. He wants to know why I feel like that especially stress in the office. He said I make him feel whole. Complete. So now that he has passed all the above, am supposed to take it seriously although I had promised myself not to fall in a relationship again. God have mercy.
My ex said ALL these to me, plus I was the best thing that EVER happened to him..then he tried hitting on my best friend right in front of me and HER boyfriend 🤯 after that, he got distant, critical and judgemental of me and turned all the vulnerability I gave to him against me😞 he said he used me and I was just an option at the time..he was always talking about how bad his exes were, but I was different..just don't get it..made me very angry and naive..I believe that actions speak louder than words..you can say whatever you want to get what you want for that moment, but I realize now, i fell for a narcissistic sociopath that only loves money, the mirror and thinks he's Hugh Hefner 🙄
Yes narcissists are tricky. I was married to one for over 5 years. They change from this fake amazing person to their real slimy selves so slowly that you don’t realize how much has changed and how horrible they are until you finally break away and have time to process and look back on it with a clear head. It’s literally insane how different the guy was when I first met him compared to when I really knew who he was.
Thank you so much Matt for sharing your views and insights with us!! I watched your video more than 5 months ago (probably 7 months)- and now,- I have met the love of my life. Last night, he told me all of this after our dinner date and a drive.
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other. Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone. Women tend to be more emotionally intelligent, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women regulate emotion better. Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Also, girls that are friends touch each other in ways that guys just don’t.
Mat, I laughed out loud...get OUT of my man's head!! You are so accurate it is outrageous. Love your videos you've given me a lot to think about and saved my bacon more than once. Things that would have made me run to a therapist for attachment disorder, you explained and soothed me. "X" is normal.
I have a relationship building (for a short time now) through social media, So needless to say we haven't met in person only texts and pictures... It's enthralling but slightly overwhelming that our connection seems to be so strong so quickly... The brief time we've known one another he is already said each of the 7 and more ❤️... At my age it's quite surprising that a man could fall for me and I could fall for him... I tend to be an overthinker and so I'm worried I'm dreaming... Can a man truly fall so deeply for a woman the way he seems to have fallen for me...
Tonya, I would be wary of any connection that seems to be unusually intense or very strong over a short period of time. Chances are that a very rapid intense attachment doesn't have healthy roots. I would recommend looking up "limerence" and learning a bit about that and considering if that might be relevant to your situation. I personally like how "Crappy childhood fairy" on youtube discusses this. I'd also say that if your gut is giving you the question of "is it too good to be true?" and the experience is slightly overwhelming, these are signals not to be ignored. It's valuable and useful information. Hoping for your well-being and safety. You've got this.
Within the first half hour of meeting and talking at a party, my man who would be my soul mate husband of twenty-five years, he knew I was the One, and I knew he was, too. For me, it's always been about "love at first sight." It has always worked for me, but I am lucky because I have a great s---t detector. When I like a man I let him in and basically - that's it!
Lucky you....I finally got lucky the same way and it lasted 41 fabulous years. He passed away several mos ago. I am getting out and meeting new people since all our friends were couples.
I'm from Germany, for a few months I've been in contact with an American, several times a week we skype, write to each other or have phone calls. American men talk differently than German men. I heard most of the sentences from your video from "my" American. I'm curious how it goes on😊
@@user-jk4jj4nm1q Most German men are not great love talkers. They tell you that they love you and that they think you're great, but they don't tell you too much. Of course there are exceptions. They show you in one way or another that you mean something to them. But they are miles away from the 7 things a man says according to Mat.
@@Angela-bo8qm agreed...they're more about the things they do rather than words....then when they do say things, they mean every word they say. No bs with them. I find majority of men in north America are all talk.
It's been a little more than 8 months. We are exclusive and have a lot kf fun together. His actions points towards love. He sends me food when I am sick. He loves staying up late with me just listening to music. But, he hasn't used the L word yet.
Great info but these 7 dot points will only be said by a man who has the emotional maturity necessary. Many men seem to be of the belief that expressing their feelings in an open honest way is a sign of weakness.
I know for a fact, pull my finger, is one. Letting her into the circle of trust, it's a huge step. This is my smell woman, my gift for you and the generations that will come from our coupling
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Thank you. My partnerof one year says all of the things you mention and one I also LOVE hearing is 'You're the first person I've ever felt able to be completely myself with' ❤️
My crush is asking all the right questions according to this video but he hasn’t said he likes me but I know he expressed to me he is scared of telling girls he likes them because he is afraid of rejection. I wanna tell him I like him or ask if there’s an interest… help !
I'd just like to know a woman's take on how to know if a woman is falling for a man, because what a man typically WANTS a woman to show/say that makes him think she's in love with him versus what a woman actually does typically never line up with each other. So, he's always wondering is she's sincere and if he really can trust her.
I think men get confused because women are taught not to ever be rude, to smile all the time (men will even order us to smile when passing on the street…it’s so bizarre), and to be careful not to hurt others’ feelings. We’re labeled a “bitch” often if we don’t follow these rules. Because of this I think it can make it a lot harder for you guys to know when we’re truly interested, because you wrongly assume women are subtle like you are (so you try to read between the lines and you see things that aren’t there). Women are much more open with their emotions (because they aren’t shamed out of them from an early age by being told toxic garbage like “stop acting like a little girl” or “be a man”). So we don’t beat around the bush like a man does. We will literally say “I love you.” And we will initiate hanging out. You can definitely tell when a woman is in love, so if you have to wonder then it means she’s not there yet or may never be.
I’m sorry, but just a general opinion. I don’t think this happens to every guy(?) met This person who did 5 out of 7 signs, so yk what I mean. But then this person also said “I don’t wanna be in a relationship for now” and not a fast responding person. So how can I know?
I must be doing something wrong in all my years I've never met a guy who has asked these questions or anything similar. Does that mean no man has fallen for me ever?
Thanks for this..it brings up sad but fantastic memories but if I didnt suffer the loss I wouldnt of meet my newer diamond and happy again and its yet again because if you
I thought I’d never get to this space with a man, but I have…and it’s wonderful. Great video and very true. My boyfriend says I ground him and make him feel at home ❤. I love it when he says it. He makes me feel safe and loved in return. Thanks for this video🙌🏽🫶🏽.
My friend, he says some of the things you mentioned but he said I'm his best friend forever..... 🙄🙄 He's always ready to help at any time He was urging me to come to his home to meet his mom Whenever I feel sad and shared to him.. even after two days he asks how are you feeling and how's it going...he makes me feel not to have feelings on it. He also says that he's happy to talk to me on phone and chat with me... He also shares every single things or problems of him... He even asked one day what kind of guy do you want to marry?
My man and I have only been dating for 4 months. He has ask how can he help by fixing breakfast to bring to me in bed. He has said that he has soo much fun with me, we laugh alot and I try to think of fun things to do. We have already talked about our future together. Yes he has ask me that when I,'ve been upset or something else is going on. He does ask me alot. He makes me vwry happy.
I had stalkers say these things to me and it is just as disgusting and repugnant. Ladies, as the old saying goes “Never trust a stranger man. No one knows how it will end. As you are pretty, so be wise.. wolves may lurk in any guise. Now as then, it’s simple truth - The sweetest tongue can have the sharpest tooth.”
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Well I guess I have only one man that I chat with often that actually says only one or maybe 2 or 3 of those 7 things. Unfortunately our lives and that chance for love has gone and passed us on up many years ago. He's happily married and a daddy of 2 little kiddos. But I do value his friendship and yeah whatever that other thing is
Well, thanks for the double-dose of validation and terror that comes with realizing that my guy is well on his way through this countdown. 😂 (Not all the way to #1 yet, but getting pretty close.)
If a man is not a good communicator, should you ask him any of these questions or just wait for him to find it in himself to ask them or say them on his own.
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Having watched this video, I have come to realize that no man in my life has ever fallen for me 😄
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
Haaaa. Too funny.
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1. How can I help you
2. I have soo much fun with you
3. (watch the vdo)
4. Future talks😌
5. How are you feeling?
6. why do you feel that way?
7. You make me feel (etcetc)
Ok so he was falling for me at some point…lol 😭😭
Ok so no man has ever fallen in love with me 🤣
Thanks for sharing!
At 63 and on match for 18 months, I have finally found a man who can say all of these things with genuine honesty and gentleness. Hang in there ladies and be very genuine and he will too.
Thanks much Beverly❤️
Love this. Ty Beverly
I was dating this guy who was playing it cool because he was trying not to scare me off. I watched your videos, and he was doing all the signs that he was in love, but he hadn't said it yet, and I was too scared to say it. I let things happen naturally because since your videos suggested we were on the right path, I was not too stressed. Now we are official, in love and very happy. He is still respecting my pace and doesn't try to rush any of the steps. He just lets me know when I am ready; he is ready. I have only ever known toxic men, and this is the first time I have been dating a gentleman. I honestly owe so much to you because I never thought this type of man actually existed until I saw you and your videos. So, thank you for allowing me to open up to love. I had to trust the process and trust that love can be real.
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He help me that why i am referring him to you, I advice you to seek his help now thanks for your time.
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Same boat! 🥰🥰♥️♥️♥️ so excited for the future
This is an inspiring story! I’m so happy for you my dear!
I was blessed to have had two great loves in my life. They both passed, a few years ago but I still want that feeling again. Not found it yet😊 if not, I have still been blessed🙏🏻
Was dating a man for a bit less than 2 months. We had known each other for years prior to us both getting divorces. He had hit 5 out of the 7 here. Everything was going in the right direction. Chemistry, attraction, common backgrounds with family and our adult children. Then one evening after he had made me dinner, he was confiding in me some very specific details about his childhood with his mom, and then about his ex. He told me how much trust he had in me. We were so close it was surreal. Then he left to use the bathroom and when he came back he didn't even want to hug or sit next to me as we had been. It was like a switch went off and he became platonic. We ended it a week later, but remain passing friends. Another friend who knows him and felt we would be a great couple was sad to hear the outcome and felt he may be a commitment phobe (whatever that means). I had to let it go and try not to think about the "what ifs". When you find someone that is such a good fit later in life it is difficult to see them throw it away, most likely out of fear or past treatment.
Sad to hear that such thing happened to you. But believe! It's 100% possible to heal and create something new. ❤
@@Mat_Shaffer I appreciate the kind words, but as a fit, healthy 57 year old woman (that didn't let herself go) who is usually mistake for being 45, healing is not difficult. What is difficult is finding a man who isn't looking for a booty call or a nurse maid. I believe many single women in their 50s can attest to the fact that healthy men in their 50s want women in their 40s and even 30s. It is disheartening to say the least. Blessings to you
....he must have regretted exposing those personal details and felt the facade he'd created around them had fallen when with you... He wasn't truly comfortable exposing his underbelly then ran away. With you he would always have to face that truth.... he wrote it into your story together
@nearly somewhere I'm 68 & still looking. It doesn't get better. Most older men are looking for a nurse or a purse. All I learned from my 5 year marriage was that it's better to be alone than with the wrong person. Still hoping for a happy ending tho...just better happen soon.
@@carissacantwell9355 I'm 55, my husband 61. If I have the misfortune to outlive him someday, I am absolutely not going to try to find love again, not because I love him so much, but because I've watched too many Dateline shows, lol!!
Omg, I hit the jackpot with my BF, I got all 7. We are so connected. ❤️
Happy to hear that! ❤
Lucky
What I here many times is "You make me feel amazing/ loved/ alive/ important/ good" and truly love to here it
Thanks so much my dear!
The man I’ve been dating for 5 months never tells me any of these things. Makes me really take a hard look at what I’m settling for.
Amen my dear! Don’t settle for a man who isn’t emotionally available and communicative !
Some men moves slowly. Be careful he is perfect and you're misreading him. Be a little bit more patient. My husband was a bit slow but I picked up on others areas that allows me to like him at early stages until we both grew together. I was slow too.now I am looking back at the young me. Five months is pretty short, be patient please.
Teach him how to talk...most man doesn’t talk or doesn’t know how to express their emotions. You might need to lighten up for him to feel comfortable talking.
@@goodietequila4228 thank you for the insight. I am still dating him, it’s been 9 months now and while he still doesn’t do or say the 7 things in Mat’s video, he shows me that he cares and has told me that he loves me. He’s just very guarded with his feelings. I’m glad I stuck around and allowed him to open up when he was ready.
This makes me happy because I tend to overthink and this made me realize that the feeling I have for a man is mutual 🥰
Thinking about everything you don't have control over. ❤️
He did all of those, and said that I am home. Wherever we are I am home. Yeah, we're engaged 😉👍
I’m so happy for you my dear!
Mat, I really appreciate how you always display your points on the screen and then recap them at end of your videos! It makes it a lot easier to follow along with you and retain the information, especially for visual learners like me. I know it’s such a “little” thing but well worth the time and effort you put into it!! I think it sets you apart from others in the field and I know for me personally when I’m deciding whose video I’m going to watch I will gravitate towards yours because I always know it’s gonna be a home run for reasons listed above. 🙂 Thanks!
Same here!!! 😊👌❤
so so appreciate your feedback my dear!! means a great deal to hear that my structure works for you :)
@@felicitygrace5113 love it!
I Absolutely AGREE !
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Hi Mat. Just want to say I appreciate the way you tell us what you’re going to teach, teach it, then tell us what you taught. So easy to understand. You’re an awesome teacher. Thanks so much for what you are doing.
Hello Evelyn! Thank you for the kind words! I’m so glad this helped you..
I've had two really bad relationships, I worked on myself. I have found a wonderful man, and I'm so happy to say it's a seven out of seven. I feel so lucky to have met him.
I’m so happy for you my dear! ❤❤❤
@@Mat_Shaffer Thank you Mat!!! :)
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I had this in almost every relationship I had. Unfortunately after years things change and life happens so it does not always work out. But I hope and pray that my exs are okay and doing well even if they are not with me. 😁❤
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
@@Mat_ShafferYour most certainly very welcome. Your advice and guidance is highly recommended i will be sharing with all the women in my life. Keep up the fantastic work. 😁
Let me just say after listening to this.. I am excited about where I am with the amazing man that I have been seeing for two months.. He is definitely hitting all of these points… He is so refreshing to my spirit….I look forward to growing our future together…
Yay! You deserve a great guy :)
Are you still together?
This what an emotionally mature man in love says. The unevolved one won’t say much and then wonder why you left him. You were “supposed to guess”?
I’m lucky my husband is the mature kind, but I’ve dealt with the “silent strong type” too.
Thank you for sharing!
You are so right. More unevolved men out there than we realise 😢
I want to express my immense gratitude towards you Matt. You have helped me unlock mu gifts and start sharing magic to help other women to step inti their true power. I was in tge grouo coaching you did for light workers with Aaron Doughty and Victor Oddo and since July I have been sharing my voice loud and proud. I cant wait to help and inspire women like you do and to the extent that you do❤❤❤
What if the woman does not feel the same about him? It's hard to respond to avoid hurting his feelings. Sometimes men say these things way too early in the relationship.
It's better to tell him straight to the point.🙌❤️
I got me a good man!💗 My intention is to continue to be that beautiful safe container for him so our relationship can continue to depend and evolve🙏 thanks Mat! 💛💛
Yay! You deserve a great guy :)
I wish I knew the feeling lol
@@zen_mindset1 after a very toxic relationship I did a lot of self love and deep dive of knowing myself. Treating myself to massages, flowers, taking myself out to eat and talking kindly to myself. Don’t give up and know you are worthy of a good partnership 💗 it didn’t happen over night it took years and lots of self work
My friend who is already in a long term relationship involving children says/asks these types of phrases and questions a bit...
All but the last one of course.
The guy I was dating had used 7 a form of 6, he didn't say I'm excited to meet my mom, but he did seem excited when I met her.
He would ask me how I was feeling, but not the follow up phrase.
Also during a conversation him and I had he mentioned feeling safe, feeling connected with me....
I ended our relationship due to thinking he didn't have strong feelings for me...
Everyone does mistakes
The man I was seeing, while holding my hand, said he LOVED spending time with me.
Happy to hear that!
Thank you for all this signs. He said he loves me but I don’t get to hear all this from him yet. So giving it time
My new partner has done all of these things. Please pray it works as I adore this man x
Thanks for sharing!
I feel like the luckiest woman in the world .
He has said all this and I am floored.
He is so special and he inspires me to be the best I can be. I try to be his safety place in any way possible, always.
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Sweet! Happy to hear that!
Thank you so much for this video! I have a hard time knowing my emotions well enough to see whether I'm falling for someone, having these guidelines helps me cross-reference my past interactions!
You got this!
I’m a female and said most of these things to a guy I have known for the past few months. Is that really wrong? 🤔😬 I was just telling the truth… We have so much fun and always laugh our heads off together. He did say I would love his teammates if I had met them. His sport is a big part of his life. I will keep my ears open to see if he mentions any of these things, if not, then best move on.
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You deserve a great guy!
I've been a year subscriber already :D
And the guy I've been seeing right now always tells me "How am I feeling?" And even though his really busy, he is trying to talk to me and even when I sleep at 12 am, his still awake for me.. I love him so much. I hope he will be my boyfriend soon.
Thanks for subscribing dear! I hope this video helps. :)
The guy I have been involved with online has said all those things plus he told me he is addicted to me...If I tell him I didn't eat or sleep he tells me I have to do it to keep healthy...
Due to my own traumas I have difficulty in believing him and have tried to get him to go away (he wont) but in reality I just want him to get closer which makes him think I don't care...We are planning meeting soon so I enrolled in your course so I can lessen my chances of blowing it with him..
Definitely enroll in Matt’s class!! He will uncover those layers and fears when you do the worksheets!! Wish you the best!!
@@johndre8673 sorry no...I don't need to call Nigeria for love spells
What about saying I feel comfortable sharing x,y, z with you. Or I feel at peace when I am with you, or I feel I can be myself with you...??
Amazing Love
A BIG idea Mat is GIVING AND RECEIVING. As a mother, a nurturer, a giver I can give and give and give YET if he just receives and receives without giving back , eventually that dynamic is going to wear thin and break. An example: With my ex, I'd work my business, come home clean, fix dinner, do laundry and resented the fact he sat on the sofa and never helped. Well I asked for help but he was so used to RECEIVING he didn't know how. Now in a new relationship, I find myself at times having to hold back so my partner can give to me. In this way I'm not overwhelming him and he feels good about where our relationship is going. And the bonus - I don't feel angry/resentful
Thanks for sharing Dorothy❤️, Love lots!
My man and I are doing all 7. I love him and he loces me very much. We are a part of each other's futures. I have the #1 with him, his is safe, happy. Thank you for your videos 🎉
You are so welcome!
For some reason I keep seeing these pop up on my home page. I remember when I wanted a man to love me so bad. Now I don't want to be in a relationship with anyone at all. It's so freeing. I now wonder why I ever cared about that stuff. Seriously. I'm not hardened either.. I just love being on my own. It is such a nice feeling to be content and not long for someone and feel lonely.
Amazing! Go Keto with Stacy 🙏❤️✨
@@Mat_Shaffer Thanks! Only took me until I was almost 50. haha! No but really it is a good feeling. I really like your videos. Great vibe!
What if he says the last point on the checklist, the one that you say shows that he cares _the most_ - " You bring a feeling of home and peace into my life"...
But not very many of others, like he doesn't say things like: "I'm so excited for you to meet X.." " How are you feeling?"; " Why are you feeling that way?"
What does it mean? 🤔
Each person is unique and exprim in other way ...is good that he say ...bring peaceful in my life
Sounds like a me statement instead of focusing on you? You bring my life peace… does he do that for you?
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new
Great video lovely clear instructions very smart man makes sense 💜
Glad you think so!
Thank you Matt. All of your coaching is easy to understand and look deeper into communication and intimacy. I’m signing up now!
Appreciate it hon!
Matt the guy I am seeing said he feels like a new lease on life with me
Was so helpful!
Glad it was helpful! 🤗
So far the guy I'm interested in has said 3 out of 7... However, 6 is different... He has said he enjoys listening to me. I guess he either likes the sound of my voice or my personality... I have no idea... I've noticed he's very auditory.
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Yay! You deserve a great guy :)
I already know my man is deeply in love with me bc he shows me every day all day. I still enjoy watching your videos. They make me appreciate him that much more. :) I'm a lucky girl!
Love that!
My ex wanted to introduce me to his friends by organizing a drinking event where I would have been the only woman and he also warned me that they usually drink until they don't even know what they are doing and I would have to drive him home and leave him alone for the following two days because this is how long his hangover usually lasts. So I don't think introducing the woman to his friends is always a sign of love.
That's hilarious! It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new Rita❤️
Yayyy all the checks !! 👏🏼🥰 thanks for this video because I can feel his energy but he hasn’t blatantly stated I love you . But these points all help ! 😁
I’m so glad this helped you!
I signed up for the reason having 2 failed marriages, unfortunately... could have been on one for sure, however it's always great to know more about our opposite sex!
Thank you!
I signed up for your course, Mat! Can't wait! Been registered since you did that video with Helena 🤩
yess its gonna be great!!
He always says I complete him!! I have asked what does that mean? He says I have filled all the voids in his life!!
Amazing!
Specific Question: What do men mean when they say, "You make me feel like a man?" One man told me that a long time ago, who I believe genuinely loved me. Decades later, another man said it to me but I later realized he was a user / exploiter. I'm glad I have that impact on a man, but what does it mean?
I would look up characteristics of men and that should give you the answer. For the most part they like to feel like the protector and the provider. Someone who solves your problems and keeps you safe. So you must have allowed them to feel this way. Some men complain if a woman is too independent…that makes them feel like “less of a man” because they’re not sure what role to play if they feel like you don’t need them.
Thanks for sharing!
Good grief I've been with the same man going on three years and he's never said any of these
Don’t give up on your love sister!
Mine did not just ask how he can help me but went ahead and booked a hair appointment for me...
He has said he has so much fun with me.
He wants to show me off to his people and friends
Number 4 yes we have talked about it. We both have kids and we just want to have fun with our children.
He asks everyone day how I am feeling.
He wants to know why I feel like that especially stress in the office.
He said I make him feel whole. Complete.
So now that he has passed all the above, am supposed to take it seriously although I had promised myself not to fall in a relationship again. God have mercy.
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new
Mat I want to thank you! Because since I have been listening to you, I See everything So much Clearer ❤️ So Thank You 😊
You're so welcome!
Each one has a unique way ... That uniqueness takes time to find out and come out .
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
My ex said ALL these to me, plus I was the best thing that EVER happened to him..then he tried hitting on my best friend right in front of me and HER boyfriend 🤯 after that, he got distant, critical and judgemental of me and turned all the vulnerability I gave to him against me😞 he said he used me and I was just an option at the time..he was always talking about how bad his exes were, but I was different..just don't get it..made me very angry and naive..I believe that actions speak louder than words..you can say whatever you want to get what you want for that moment, but I realize now, i fell for a narcissistic sociopath that only loves money, the mirror and thinks he's Hugh Hefner 🙄
You deserve better
Yes narcissists are tricky. I was married to one for over 5 years. They change from this fake amazing person to their real slimy selves so slowly that you don’t realize how much has changed and how horrible they are until you finally break away and have time to process and look back on it with a clear head. It’s literally insane how different the guy was when I first met him compared to when I really knew who he was.
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
Thank you so much Matt for sharing your views and insights with us!! I watched your video more than 5 months ago (probably 7 months)- and now,- I have met the love of my life.
Last night, he told me all of this after our dinner date and a drive.
My pleasure! So glad this supported you :)
I have a question. How do males and females bond with each other? I don't see how men and women can bond (especially romantically) with each other. Men and women think very differently from each other.
Women can build incredible friendships and become very close to each other in a way men can't bond, and science shows that women can bond very well with each other. Generally, women are even more social than men are. After something bad happens, a woman quickly rushes to talk to all of her female friends to get support, whereas a man can isolate himself and grief alone.
Women tend to be more emotionally intelligent, more caring, more empathic, more compassionate, more affectionate, more loyal, more nurturing, more understanding, more sympathetic, more sensitive, more kind-hearted, more peaceful, more calmer, more gentle, more expressive, more intuitive, and more outward than men are, and thus bond more with other women in a special way that they can’t with men. Men, on the other hand, are not that emotional, and thus can’t bond with other men in a special way. Women regulate emotion better.
Women are more comfortable being around with other women than they are with men. They have a type of bond that usually men with women won’t really have, or with men and men. Also, girls that are friends touch each other in ways that guys just don’t.
Thanks for sharing! 🤗
I love your content. I am super interested in the course you mentioned. Is that still something that you are offering?
Thank you so much, I really appreciate hearing that from you.
My husband (coming on 20 years) asked early on "What are you thinking ?" Anytime we were in the car together. He still does this.
I’m so happy for you my dear!
Mat, I laughed out loud...get OUT of my man's head!! You are so accurate it is outrageous. Love your videos you've given me a lot to think about and saved my bacon more than once. Things that would have made me run to a therapist for attachment disorder, you explained and soothed me. "X" is normal.
Glad you like it! thanks
I’m not really looking for any of this advice Mat. Stayed for the ride and it was fun and enlightening! Btw: you’re adorable
Wow, thanks Amy❤️
Im not a typical “man”, but I’d say this is 50% accurate IMO.
Happy to hear that!
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I have a relationship building (for a short time now) through social media, So needless to say we haven't met in person only texts and pictures... It's enthralling but slightly overwhelming that our connection seems to be so strong so quickly... The brief time we've known one another he is already said each of the 7 and more ❤️... At my age it's quite surprising that a man could fall for me and I could fall for him... I tend to be an overthinker and so I'm worried I'm dreaming... Can a man truly fall so deeply for a woman the way he seems to have fallen for me...
Thanks so much for your feedback!
Tonya, I would be wary of any connection that seems to be unusually intense or very strong over a short period of time. Chances are that a very rapid intense attachment doesn't have healthy roots. I would recommend looking up "limerence" and learning a bit about that and considering if that might be relevant to your situation. I personally like how "Crappy childhood fairy" on youtube discusses this.
I'd also say that if your gut is giving you the question of "is it too good to be true?" and the experience is slightly overwhelming, these are signals not to be ignored. It's valuable and useful information.
Hoping for your well-being and safety. You've got this.
Within the first half hour of meeting and talking at a party, my man who would be my soul mate husband of twenty-five years, he knew I was the One, and I knew he was, too. For me, it's always been about "love at first sight." It has always worked for me, but I am lucky because I have a great s---t detector. When I like a man I let him in and basically - that's it!
I appreciate your opinion on this!
Lucky you....I finally got lucky the same way and it lasted 41 fabulous years. He passed away several mos ago. I am getting out and meeting new people since all our friends were couples.
I'm from Germany, for a few months I've been in contact with an American, several times a week we skype, write to each other or have phone calls. American men talk differently than German men. I heard most of the sentences from your video from "my" American. I'm curious how it goes on😊
aw YAY so glad your guy is opening up to you... sounds like your american boy likes you ;) good luck!
@@Mat_Shaffer Thanks so much Mat!!!
How would you say German men show affection? Is it less through words?
@@user-jk4jj4nm1q Most German men are not great love talkers. They tell you that they love you and that they think you're great, but they don't tell you too much. Of course there are exceptions. They show you in one way or another that you mean something to them. But they are miles away from the 7 things a man says according to Mat.
@@Angela-bo8qm agreed...they're more about the things they do rather than words....then when they do say things, they mean every word they say. No bs with them. I find majority of men in north America are all talk.
I know that God has sent this man to me, for me...it’s all a matter of time that we can actually start our lives together...
Mazel tov!
Those are the questions that my husband of 27 years still asked me 🥰
Love that!
It's been a little more than 8 months. We are exclusive and have a lot kf fun together. His actions points towards love. He sends me food when I am sick. He loves staying up late with me just listening to music. But, he hasn't used the L word yet.
Don’t give up on love sister!
Great info but these 7 dot points will only be said by a man who has the emotional maturity necessary. Many men seem to be of the belief that expressing their feelings in an open honest way is a sign of weakness.
I appreciate your opinion on this! Thanks for sharing Yathome🙌❤️
Just thinking of these statements makes me feel loved
Interesting! I have few men express this feelings to me. I never knew they’ve falling for me. 🙃💙
Exactly!!
Women prefer actions than words show what you can offer don't just say 😂...we have been told we are tired its time to be shown
Interesting perspective, thanks so much!
Words are everything if they are sincere. Relationships with men who don’t talk or express themselves are dreadful.
I know for a fact, pull my finger, is one. Letting her into the circle of trust, it's a huge step. This is my smell woman, my gift for you and the generations that will come from our coupling
Thanks so much for your feedback!
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QUESTION OF THE DAY - What are the best things you've heard men say when they're falling for you? 😍
"I bet no one I knows is having as much fun as we are! " (We've been married almost 47 years too)
Thank you. My partnerof one year says all of the things you mention and one I also LOVE hearing is 'You're the first person I've ever felt able to be completely myself with' ❤️
all true 🤗
I will never leave you
Hi Matt...If a guy indicates that he can't smile without you..cares as a friend..what does that mean? 😃😍
My crush is asking all the right questions according to this video but he hasn’t said he likes me but I know he expressed to me he is scared of telling girls he likes them because he is afraid of rejection. I wanna tell him I like him or ask if there’s an interest… help !
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Guy sounds like me
I'd just like to know a woman's take on how to know if a woman is falling for a man, because what a man typically WANTS a woman to show/say that makes him think she's in love with him versus what a woman actually does typically never line up with each other. So, he's always wondering is she's sincere and if he really can trust her.
I think men get confused because women are taught not to ever be rude, to smile all the time (men will even order us to smile when passing on the street…it’s so bizarre), and to be careful not to hurt others’ feelings. We’re labeled a “bitch” often if we don’t follow these rules. Because of this I think it can make it a lot harder for you guys to know when we’re truly interested, because you wrongly assume women are subtle like you are (so you try to read between the lines and you see things that aren’t there).
Women are much more open with their emotions (because they aren’t shamed out of them from an early age by being told toxic garbage like “stop acting like a little girl” or “be a man”). So we don’t beat around the bush like a man does. We will literally say “I love you.” And we will initiate hanging out. You can definitely tell when a woman is in love, so if you have to wonder then it means she’s not there yet or may never be.
Don’t give up on love sister!
I’m sorry, but just a general opinion. I don’t think this happens to every guy(?) met This person who did 5 out of 7 signs, so yk what I mean. But then this person also said “I don’t wanna be in a relationship for now” and not a fast responding person. So how can I know?
Thanks for sharing!
Love your page
Thank you!
I must be doing something wrong in all my years I've never met a guy who has asked these questions or anything similar. Does that mean no man has fallen for me ever?
I promise there are good guys out there my dear! Don't lose hope. :)
Thanks for this..it brings up sad but fantastic memories but if I didnt suffer the loss I wouldnt of meet my newer diamond and happy again and its yet again because if you
@@Mat_Shaffer can a guy be to in his feminine side without being gay?
He dont mind gays as long as they dont touch him or look his way.
I thought I’d never get to this space with a man, but I have…and it’s wonderful. Great video and very true. My boyfriend says I ground him and make him feel at home ❤. I love it when he says it. He makes me feel safe and loved in return.
Thanks for this video🙌🏽🫶🏽.
Oh wow! So happy for you my dear! Thanks for sharing Laura❤️
Thank you so much! These words are just what i needed to know🥰. What about 7 things woman say when they are falling inlove with you?
Thank you! Great suggestion!
Hahah i love your humor! Good tips thank you
You are so welcome!
Buuuulllshiiiit. My ex said all that to me, and broke up with me last week saying he loves me, but he is not in love with me
:O
Don’t give up on love sister!
My friend, he says some of the things you mentioned but he said I'm his best friend forever..... 🙄🙄
He's always ready to help at any time
He was urging me to come to his home to meet his mom
Whenever I feel sad and shared to him.. even after two days he asks how are you feeling and how's it going...he makes me feel not to have feelings on it.
He also says that he's happy to talk to me on phone and chat with me...
He also shares every single things or problems of him...
He even asked one day what kind of guy do you want to marry?
so sweet thanks for sharing! its a great connection
Love your channel
Thanks so much my dear!
@@Mat_Shaffer Thank you for your help. I want to be the best girlfriend I can be. You give such helpful advice.
Hey Mat, nearly 14 years of relationship and I m yet to bn listen some of the lines. Could it be that I love more compared to what I receive?
Thanks for sharing!
My man and I have only been dating for 4 months. He has ask how can he help by fixing breakfast to bring to me in bed. He has said that he has soo much fun with me, we laugh alot and I try to think of fun things to do. We have already talked about our future together. Yes he has ask me that when I,'ve been upset or something else is going on. He does ask me alot. He makes me vwry happy.
AMAZING love that share!!:)
Good job
Thanks so much my dear!
Thanks for this video
🤗ciao
You are so welcome! 😊
What if he isn't that type of man? I mean he asks and says certain things that feel like he cares, but it feels like he doesn't want to say too much.
Don’t give up on love sister!
Thank you
You're very welcome.
Awww, my boo loves me 🥰 That warms my heart.
Happy for you my dear!
Omg do you reply to everyone?
random❤️
Awe. My fiancé has said some form of all of these, and I didn’t realize how special they were.
Thanks so much for your feedback!
I have already found this man who does all that❤
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
I had stalkers say these things to me and it is just as disgusting and repugnant. Ladies, as the old saying goes “Never trust a stranger man. No one knows how it will end. As you are pretty, so be wise.. wolves may lurk in any guise. Now as then, it’s simple truth - The sweetest tongue can have the sharpest tooth.”
Thanks for sharing!
My man asked me everything before meeting now he is not talking much may be ghosting or busy can you please let me what to do
Hi get help from Dr Asi in any kind of problem you might be encountering ,he can help you getting your (Ex) back ,money spell,love spell ,court cases spell,make him/she confess spell ,cleansing spell,fruit of the womb spell,also breaking evil curses in your life and lot more.
He help me that why i am referring him to you, I advice you to seek his help now thanks for your time.
just chat him below via watsap.
He sounds like a narc that love bombed you. I’m sorry.
Thanks for sharing!
What if I'm easy going?
Don’t give up on love sister!
Well I guess I have only one man that I chat with often that actually says only one or maybe 2 or 3 of those 7 things. Unfortunately our lives and that chance for love has gone and passed us on up many years ago. He's happily married and a daddy of 2 little kiddos. But I do value his friendship and yeah whatever that other thing is
That's amazing love my dear mazel tov
This is awesome
Thanks so much my dear!
Well, thanks for the double-dose of validation and terror that comes with realizing that my guy is well on his way through this countdown. 😂 (Not all the way to #1 yet, but getting pretty close.)
Thanks so much for your feedback!
If a man is not a good communicator, should you ask him any of these questions or just wait for him to find it in himself to ask them or say them on his own.
Just wait for him to say it to you Toya Lane-Bowden ❤️
None of that has ever happened to me 😢.
I’m so sorry for what you’re experiencing. Please know that you’re valued and cared for. 💜