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Even on busy days he calls and or texts 2-3 times a day. And usually about the same time I think of him. He told me yesterday I was good for his soul !! First date 6 months ago.. going strong from day one. has been doing all these things from early on..
He schedules time to talk to you and when he is not able, he forewarns you about his inability to do as usual but reassures you he will be with you when able
Men invest thru Actions 1. They take the Lead right away...planning your next dates etc. 2. They put actual thought and effort in planning your next dates/experiences. 3. They are genuinely interested in details about your life. Asking little questions about you and your passions and they remember the details. 4. They are willing to do things for you that are way out of their comfort zone.and being vulnerable even if it isn't easy. 5. They are Consistent. Responding to your texts promptly. Takes your safety and stability as his priority. 6. They claim you in a direct way. 7. They future-build with you. 🌼Thanks Mat💕
brought me to tears, been dating someone 6 months and he has done about 2 of the 7 things. Makes me sad, but also shows where my standards are. Looking forward to your next program, I'm signed up already.
Maybe he wasn't too emotional but still cared. Don't misunderstand. You can study men by their actions but don't forget most men are more logical and less emotional than women. If they don't answer a message ASAP it's not immediately a sign of disinterest. He could be busy or sleeping. Everyone has standards but if you don't tell your partner what you want from a relationship and what you don't, things are not gonna be better. Communication is the key
Give yourself a pat on the back. This isn't a failure, it is progress towards being able to recognize what your standards & boundaries are. Muchhhhh safer scenario than one where a man love bombed & did all of these things instantly, rushing into things that usually leads to Codependency & toxicity... 6months is not too bad! I've let myself form attachment & struggled to let go, much longer than that. You're loyal, just gotta sort out what kind of person deserves your devotion, & careful in holding out for that standard. (OH & most importantly, tlc yourself. Learn to put high value your personal space & self, make sure the people you let into your bubble, are there with respect.) Some people are really lucky, in growing up in a community where these things are commonplace. They don't know any different than the healthy model. Unfortunately, a ton of us, of not most, grew up with vastly varying standards, making it really hard to distinguish a "healthy" model. It is wonderful that you are seeking ways to bring more peace in to your life, you got this. ✨️
I wasted so much of my time on someone that I emotionally had feelings for who would tell me things like “I miss you”, “I love you”.. He asked me to be his GF & talked about wanting to get married & having kids but I held back because he I never saw him emotionally invest in me. His words never matched his actions. He even took forever to text me. Even phone calls were less than 5 minutes. When I did text him I felt like I was bothering & annoying him cause he would always say he’s “Working & Busy” which I understood but felt like he didn’t have time for me & never put me as a priority. Let alone feeling like he always had others he was talking too on the side. My intuition was telling me something was off. Obviously with how he was treating me. Saving myself for someone who deserves my time & knows my worth & value.
@@Mat_Shaffer I absolutely agree that it is. I still believe that good guys still & do exist in today's dating world but what I have come across it's far in few let alone hard to find. Most want casual nothing serious let alone want to get physical right away. Not lowering my standards for that & no one should because most want that these days.
I’ve met someone, and he hits all the points on this list. I really like him and care for him. This just confirms the good feelings I was already having.
This was really an awesome to watch. I recently ended a 2year relationship and watching this made me realize I did the right thing. I was so uncertain about so many things. He said he wanted me in his future but never made plans with me. Crazy but I’m really glad I ended it when I did
I recently started dating this man 2 months now but we’ve been close friends for almost 2 years . Ever since I met him even when we weren’t dating he did all of these 7 things but now it is more intense and I can’t help but love him more, I just found this video by accident great video. Thank you for this.
My man isn’t one to express his feelings for me verbally, but he ticks every box you list here through his actions, Matt. Thanks for reassuring me that he’s “in it” - even without “poetry and flowers.” 💕
Thank you for sharing this! You’ve reassured me that I really have finally found a good man who is invested in me. He does all 7 of these! #4 was a three-day country music festival camping in a tent with 100° plus temps during the day … and he doesn’t like country music. 😊❤️ He still talks fondly about it! Don’t give up ladies! I’m 54 with a history of relationships with emotionally unavailable men. When I really wasn’t looking, I found a great guy!
This was very enlightening, ty. We met in person just over 6 months ago after meeting on a dating site. He does all 7 of these things which makes me very happy
Thanks, Mat! We're in our early sixties but I can attest that a man who is future thinking and emotionally invested in you will still do many of these steps. Glad you're happy and doing well in your own relationship!
Ditto with me and my mid 60's guy, he has been doing all of this since date two- 5 months ago. We get emotionally closer every day. .... Maybe it is easier for them to commit at this age. Future building is travel and adventure, not marriage and babies ;)
@@Mat_Shaffer It definitely does. We'd both been single for 8 years, and assumed we'd end up alone in retirement. But *I watched all of your videos, took your advice* and it definitely worked. It's why I'm still watching them a year later!! Thanks again!
Thanks for this. I just had to block a guy I've only dated a couple weeks cuz he professed his love for me and was doing most of this. YIKES! It also helped me sort out more of a past relationship full of discomfort. I appreciate this!
I feel I was taken for granted in relationships of 16 month because I was a open heart wanting committed loving relationships .Now I see he was avoiding attechment and not emotionality invested . I invest so much of my self and maybe that was my mistake.Live and learn now it is my moto .Still believe in love and don’t give up .Who knows watch future holds.To him I wish the best.🌺
Thank you mat to your video, My boyfriend did all the 7 signs and I'm still counting more I'm so blessed that I found him 😍He is my everything, my man, my love, my babe and soon to be my hubby 😍 Thanks and looking to your more upcoming videos
It’s everything that was said! He is emotionally invested in me and I’m invested in him! We are made for each other. Thanks for the clearing it up!!!! I’m visiting him next week and he wants me to move with him. I’m so happy
@@Mat_Shaffer would love to know what specific ones they are…as most of connections have made have been long distance? Wondering how much time you are going to focus on this topic in your new upcoming program? Thanks 🙏
I don't know about this. My last guy did all of this. We had an amazing connection. He had a major career change but we still felt strong and stable as a couple then suddenly one day in November, we had a date planned for that night and he asked me to call and suddenly it was done out of nowhere. Shocked me to my core.
Career changes can be devastating for men... it often functions as a loss of identity and purpose, which can really undermine their ability to function in relationship. I know in my 20s I sabotaged a really healthy relationship after being suddenly fired from a job I needed. Don't give up on love my dear, there are better men out there I promise!
@Mat Shaffer that's the crazy part, I met him before he interviewed for this his dream job. Cheered him on, I knew he'd get it. He asked for patience while he adjusted, no problem Im a busy full-time single working mom also going to school full-time. Supported him and just held space through his transition. He sd he didn't want to feel like he was making me "wait" but didn't want to lose me either. He felt overwhelmed. Didn't feel like himself or that he was giving enough. He was my best friend, never in my life felt a connection like ours, not even in my 10yr marriage. he stayed in contact after and then.....he was gone.
The man I’m currently dating has so far done 6 of the 7 and I have the feeling he’s about to do the 6th thing you mentioned, formally ask me to be his exclusive woman❤️. Thank you so much for the advice, this was spot on👍🏾
Great info, Mat. Thank you! I took your mastery of connection course last time you offered it and it gave me a ton of insight into my limited beliefs around love. I thought it was fantastic and highly, highly recommend it! hope to see you there again! Really appreciate your insight!
What u’ve mentioned s quite reassuring, mine s a bit different. But there’s similarities, though. We’re just drinking buddies, I’m in my 60’2, he’s in his late 20’s. He started with…”shall we hangout this weekend?” So, he brought me beer. I wasn’t into romantic relationship (although, we had a one night stand) all I wanted was a decent company, with a little bit of booze n a mere clean fun. I stopped for a few years, he’s back in my scenario again. I’m flattered, at the same time it’s kind of perplexing to me…he remembers some stuff I told him, which I’ve already forgotten, he mentioned that I’m still wearing d same perfume, there’s more among d other things. He even introduced me to his best friend.
Hello Mat! I hope you will also do a video about "Long distance relationships" too. I want to know about the signs if this kind of love is worth staying. Thank you so much. ♥️♥️
Had a guy recently do most of these things for 6 months. Including bringing me into his family and social circle. I left the relationship yesterday as he told me that I was basicly an experiment to see what kind of relationship he is capable of and that he has no feelings for me.
sounds like you ran into a sociopath Lorinda - so sorry you had to experience that! Don't let it close you off to love, there are beautiful possibilities out there for you
Wow , that's horrible. That's a long time to string you along.. can't help to think there is more to it than that. Either way, he is not your guy,,, heal and try again with a real man.
I was seeing a guy for 2 months and he was doing every single one of these things then out of the blue started being much more quiet than usual. 1 week later he got back with his ex...🤷🏻♀️
Aww how sweet. My husband is totally like this with another woman. I'm just the afterthought, apparently. He couldn't care less about how my day is going but is always concerned about her.
Very insightful but scammers kind of do the same thing..they build a emotional connection with you too..they lie and make you think you have a relationship and a future together..
How about a man who’s put every single day into you for two years without ever meeting. Spends 2/3 hours in the phone just helping you through anything you need help with. Doesn’t expect a thing from you. Some would say that’s strange but I can only tell you, it’s the most beautiful experience you could ever have.
Matt - I’m not sure if I understand this correctly but I assume that these 7 signs are mostly in order to happen in a time line, e.g. not all 7 gonna be present right away at the same time in the first 3 months? And correct me if I’m wrong, men who have been emotionally hurt/ wounded deeply before would be extremely careful when he dates next time & take his time until he feels safe and secured?
Yes not all at once, it will happen over time and usually longer than 3 months :) and YEA men with severe relationship trauma may take longer than others.
Inaccurate - These also are warning red flags aka bad signs from stalkers and unwanted guys you don’t want to be with. Had to learn that the hard way, and I’m glad I did.
My guy had all that but had baggage and triggers.He started playing head games about a year after that . Did I mention that he was a Scorpio and I was an Aries which wasn't the best towards the end when he would try to subtly on different levels try to play My Mind even though I knew he was but he would never admit he did things on purpose. I also think he felt me changing since I couldnt handle his 5 kid family compared to just my son and I. There definitely was a difference in weight since I had never been out with someone that was very husky but strong and found out he just wasn't what I was looking for anymore. He will be a good guy for somebody more like him with a big family so that they can understand the dynamic of their families together since he never understood mine
Im in LDR relationship he dont invest much for us thats all this things being mention here explain it to him and i told him the things that makes our relationship grow and makes us closer,
They claim you in direct way makes me laugh a lot😂 well its true but my crush didnt claim romantically like u said.. but my crush said "u are mine" instead of long romantic sentence😂😂😂.. thanks for this video i enjoyed it so much😁
I have met like 20 plus men in my two years of dating journey,I have only come accross one man that fully matches Mat's description and without even watching this video I knew that guy is a high value man, unfortunately he has moved back to US (Iam in CAN)...I wonder if all other good men are hiding somewhere..
Is that once they Start dating, or once the conversation starts ? I think i got like 1/2 of 1 on the list. But I WAS triggered while working!! LOL i think 7 is 50/50. Cause its associated to workl lol
Hi what you are saying is all truth, but as the relationship goes on after you invest in it. That is when things change, he is not jntrested in all you and he have bargain for,most times he get caught up in it at the time he met you. I call it Spur of the moment. without realizing that is not what he wanted .
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You're showing me how miserable my life is. No guy's ever even asked me what my fav foods are and what i don't like, paid attention to me enough that he plans the perfect restaurant for us to eat at. If anything its maybe always been me who put in that thought and effort. 🙃
Question: What if you are married already and it seems like your mate is regressing? For example, Your mate did all these things before while dating but not really asking about your day or life events anymore.
My Man does all of these, except plan dates b/c our situation is unique. This is the first time in my life I’ve ever felt loved. He wants to buy a house with me in Key West so we have a place to call home.
Great content, Mat! Question, Ive been dating this guy for about a month now. I would say he is doing about half of these things. Ive brought up an issue with his communication not being consistent meaning he went from texting me right back to sending messages after a few hours even half a day. He was aware and started communicating promptly after that, however he reverted again this past week. I feel like hes investing but also know he has chaos in his life right now...is that an excuse? How many of these signs does he need to have to assess if he is truly investing?
My man claims that he has just never been great with planning dates or keeping them in mind. I am in agreeance with you but we are 4 kids and 7 years in. Is it possible he was never emotionally invested in me?
Or… as in my case most of the time… they spend an hour+ talking about their ex or all the other crazy women they've dated… and then when you're just about fed up they invite you back to their place for a nightcap...WTF?
My last boyfriend asked questions about my life wanted to know more about my life for actually he wanted to know everything about my life and then judge me for them later on
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QUESTION OF THE DAY - Whats your biggest sign that a man is emotionally invested in you? 😍
Even on busy days he calls and or texts 2-3 times a day. And usually about the same time I think of him. He told me yesterday I was good for his soul !! First date 6 months ago.. going strong from day one. has been doing all these things from early on..
17 yrs With A Complete Animal!!!
He schedules time to talk to you and when he is not able, he forewarns you about his inability to do as usual but reassures you he will be with you when able
@@DiraMcClintock LOVE IT!!! hes a winner ;)
@@lorileclair1402 yessss get it!!!
Men invest thru Actions
1. They take the Lead right away...planning your next dates etc.
2. They put actual thought and effort in planning your next dates/experiences.
3. They are genuinely interested in details about your life. Asking little questions about you and your passions and they remember the details.
4. They are willing to do things for you that are way out of their comfort zone.and being vulnerable even if it isn't easy.
5. They are Consistent. Responding to your texts promptly. Takes your safety and stability as his priority.
6. They claim you in a direct way.
7. They future-build with you.
🌼Thanks Mat💕
Great job!!
Thanks for saving my time 😊
Thank you!
My guy does all of that. ty🥰
None from here :(
brought me to tears, been dating someone 6 months and he has done about 2 of the 7 things. Makes me sad, but also shows where my standards are. Looking forward to your next program, I'm signed up already.
yesss we will see you there! Time to raise those standards and see if he can step up
Yeah girl move on if you feel unloved , unheard and if in doubt..
But don't keep check box for the attitude... Trust your gut feeling
Maybe he wasn't too emotional but still cared.
Don't misunderstand. You can study men by their actions but don't forget most men are more logical and less emotional than women. If they don't answer a message ASAP it's not immediately a sign of disinterest. He could be busy or sleeping.
Everyone has standards but if you don't tell your partner what you want from a relationship and what you don't, things are not gonna be better. Communication is the key
....don't listen to
him .Bunch of false info .
Give yourself a pat on the back. This isn't a failure, it is progress towards being able to recognize what your standards & boundaries are. Muchhhhh safer scenario than one where a man love bombed & did all of these things instantly, rushing into things that usually leads to Codependency & toxicity...
6months is not too bad! I've let myself form attachment & struggled to let go, much longer than that. You're loyal, just gotta sort out what kind of person deserves your devotion, & careful in holding out for that standard. (OH & most importantly, tlc yourself. Learn to put high value your personal space & self, make sure the people you let into your bubble, are there with respect.)
Some people are really lucky, in growing up in a community where these things are commonplace. They don't know any different than the healthy model. Unfortunately, a ton of us, of not most, grew up with vastly varying standards, making it really hard to distinguish a "healthy" model.
It is wonderful that you are seeking ways to bring more peace in to your life, you got this. ✨️
I wasted so much of my time on someone that I emotionally had feelings for who would tell me things like “I miss you”, “I love you”.. He asked me to be his GF & talked about wanting to get married & having kids but I held back because he I never saw him emotionally invest in me. His words never matched his actions. He even took forever to text me. Even phone calls were less than 5 minutes. When I did text him I felt like I was bothering & annoying him cause he would always say he’s “Working & Busy” which I understood but felt like he didn’t have time for me & never put me as a priority. Let alone feeling like he always had others he was talking too on the side. My intuition was telling me something was off. Obviously with how he was treating me. Saving myself for someone who deserves my time & knows my worth & value.
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new, Lauran. I promise there are good guys out there my dear! 🤗
@@Mat_Shaffer I absolutely agree that it is. I still believe that good guys still & do exist in today's dating world but what I have come across it's far in few let alone hard to find. Most want casual nothing serious let alone want to get physical right away. Not lowering my standards for that & no one should because most want that these days.
My gorgeous man has done exactly 7 out of 7 of these. Mat - you’re an amazing coach and thank you for the insight! Good luck with your relationship.
BOOM so happy for you!! Thanks for the kind words, deeply appreciated
I’ve met someone, and he hits all the points on this list. I really like him and care for him. This just confirms the good feelings I was already having.
Yay! You deserve a great guy 😊 I’m so happy for you my dear!
This was really an awesome to watch. I recently ended a 2year relationship and watching this made me realize I did the right thing. I was so uncertain about so many things. He said he wanted me in his future but never made plans with me. Crazy but I’m really glad I ended it when I did
I promise there are good guys out there! Don’t give up on love sister!
I recently started dating this man 2 months now but we’ve been close friends for almost 2 years . Ever since I met him even when we weren’t dating he did all of these 7 things but now it is more intense and I can’t help but love him more, I just found this video by accident great video. Thank you for this.
Good for you 🙌
That is awesome! I’m so glad this helped you!
My man isn’t one to express his feelings for me verbally, but he ticks every box you list here through his actions, Matt. Thanks for reassuring me that he’s “in it” - even without “poetry and flowers.” 💕
Appreciate it hon!
Thank you for sharing this! You’ve reassured me that I really have finally found a good man who is invested in me. He does all 7 of these! #4 was a three-day country music festival camping in a tent with 100° plus temps during the day … and he doesn’t like country music. 😊❤️ He still talks fondly about it! Don’t give up ladies! I’m 54 with a history of relationships with emotionally unavailable men. When I really wasn’t looking, I found a great guy!
You are so welcome Mon Amie❤️❤️ Happy that you found one.🙏
This was very enlightening, ty. We met in person just over 6 months ago after meeting on a dating site. He does all 7 of these things which makes me very happy
YAY that makes me so happy! congrats!
Thanks, Mat! We're in our early sixties but I can attest that a man who is future thinking and emotionally invested in you will still do many of these steps. Glad you're happy and doing well in your own relationship!
AMAZING love blossoms at all ages! Congratulations! And thank you, I am so grateful for my amazing partner :)
Ditto with me and my mid 60's guy, he has been doing all of this since date two- 5 months ago. We get emotionally closer every day. .... Maybe it is easier for them to commit at this age. Future building is travel and adventure, not marriage and babies ;)
@@Mat_Shaffer It definitely does. We'd both been single for 8 years, and assumed we'd end up alone in retirement. But *I watched all of your videos, took your advice* and it definitely worked. It's why I'm still watching them a year later!! Thanks again!
Matt you are SO LOVABLE! Your advice is totally tangible
aww THANKS Karen! :)
These are all great things! I pray to find this one day
Thanks so much my dear! You'll find this lucky one someday!
Thanks for this. I just had to block a guy I've only dated a couple weeks cuz he professed his love for me and was doing most of this. YIKES! It also helped me sort out more of a past relationship full of discomfort. I appreciate this!
BOOM love it!! yeah if they cme on too strong too fast it's probably love bombing - beware those guys!!
I'm watching your videos to prepare myself when I get into a relationship.
Awesome video Mat - and I can definitely see you getting your ecstatic dance groove on!!! Just channel your inner Woodstock hippie vibes 😄✌❤🌈
You have the most beautiful eyes and fun and sweet demeanor! With all Respect. 😊
so appreciate that feedback my dear!! You make me blush! :)
It’s difficult being in the military and meeting someone who will match all 7. Somehow I lucked out with mine! 🙌🏽
Thank you
Glad to hear that!
I feel I was taken for granted in relationships of 16 month because I was a open heart wanting committed loving relationships .Now I see he was avoiding attechment and not emotionality invested . I invest so much of my self and maybe that was my mistake.Live and learn now it is my moto .Still believe in love and don’t give up .Who knows watch future holds.To him I wish the best.🌺
I promise there are good guys out there my dear! Don’t give up on love!!
This video just raised my standards!
BOOM love it!!
Thank you mat to your video,
My boyfriend did all the 7 signs and I'm still counting more I'm so blessed that I found him 😍He is my everything, my man, my love, my babe and soon to be my hubby 😍
Thanks and looking to your more upcoming videos
aww so happy for you!! beautiful!!
I just come here to hear the “you’re so worthy of”. But everyday.
Thank you. My boyfriend does all of these things. Good confirmation 😁
Wonderful! so happy for you
It’s everything that was said! He is emotionally invested in me and I’m invested in him! We are made for each other. Thanks for the clearing it up!!!! I’m visiting him next week and he wants me to move with him. I’m so happy
Wonderful! I’m so glad this helped you!
Thank you for this! I'm going to look in your videos for anything having to do with long distance relationships. I appreciate your content 🥰
Boom! Yes I have videos around how to text and build attraction in long distance relationships ❤️❤️
@@Mat_Shaffer would love to know what specific ones they are…as most of connections have made have been long distance? Wondering how much time you are going to focus on this topic in your new upcoming program? Thanks 🙏
I don't know about this. My last guy did all of this. We had an amazing connection. He had a major career change but we still felt strong and stable as a couple then suddenly one day in November, we had a date planned for that night and he asked me to call and suddenly it was done out of nowhere. Shocked me to my core.
Career changes can be devastating for men... it often functions as a loss of identity and purpose, which can really undermine their ability to function in relationship. I know in my 20s I sabotaged a really healthy relationship after being suddenly fired from a job I needed. Don't give up on love my dear, there are better men out there I promise!
@Mat Shaffer that's the crazy part, I met him before he interviewed for this his dream job. Cheered him on, I knew he'd get it. He asked for patience while he adjusted, no problem Im a busy full-time single working mom also going to school full-time. Supported him and just held space through his transition. He sd he didn't want to feel like he was making me "wait" but didn't want to lose me either. He felt overwhelmed. Didn't feel like himself or that he was giving enough. He was my best friend, never in my life felt a connection like ours, not even in my 10yr marriage. he stayed in contact after and then.....he was gone.
The man I’m currently dating has so far done 6 of the 7 and I have the feeling he’s about to do the 6th thing you mentioned, formally ask me to be his exclusive woman❤️. Thank you so much for the advice, this was spot on👍🏾
Amazing! I’m glad to hear everything worked out well.
My heart is happy I found him in my life ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
boom love it!!
"Ecstatic dance"? Lol bless your heart dude, drop that term, please. She likes to go dancing! There you go 😉
Happy to hear that!
5 out of 7! Just waiting on #6 and #7 now.
I bet they're coming! :)
Ty brutal honesty, chew it sickly when it hits your stomachs then it feel 😊
yep!
Great info, Mat. Thank you! I took your mastery of connection course last time you offered it and it gave me a ton of insight into my limited beliefs around love. I thought it was fantastic and highly, highly recommend it! hope to see you there again! Really appreciate your insight!
What u’ve mentioned s quite reassuring, mine s a bit different. But there’s similarities, though. We’re just drinking buddies, I’m in my 60’2, he’s in his late 20’s. He started with…”shall we hangout this weekend?” So, he brought me beer. I wasn’t into romantic relationship (although, we had a one night stand) all I wanted was a decent company, with a little bit of booze n a mere clean fun. I stopped for a few years, he’s back in my scenario again. I’m flattered, at the same time it’s kind of perplexing to me…he remembers some stuff I told him, which I’ve already forgotten, he mentioned that I’m still wearing d same perfume, there’s more among d other things. He even introduced me to his best friend.
So true. My fiancé does all 7. Nice to hear.
Thanks so much my dear!
Hello Mat! I hope you will also do a video about "Long distance relationships" too. I want to know about the signs if this kind of love is worth staying. Thank you so much. ♥️♥️
great idea!! Its on my list!
Looking forward to this😊
Can’t wait to watch it
Omg am in an LDR too...pls
Wow I’m with my man for 17 months now and he has done 7 signs out of 7 ♥️♥️♥️
I’m happy this resonated with you.
Thanks Matt cause it's many games being played that I'm not trying to play. Of yeah this is Elisa Wells
Hi Elisa! Yes we have no time for games!
WOW! WOW! Thank you! I fall in love with him more and more every day and today you gave me more reasons to fall in love with him. I love you Jack
I’m so glad this helped you!
Very mature upright clear points.
Thanks so much my dear!
Love how positive this message is!
Thanks so much my dear!
I'm Indian and I really love the decor in the background.
Ahhh I so appreciate that!! Glad you like it!!
Had a guy recently do most of these things for 6 months. Including bringing me into his family and social circle. I left the relationship yesterday as he told me that I was basicly an experiment to see what kind of relationship he is capable of and that he has no feelings for me.
To hell with him. Take care of yourself;
What an idiot. He got scared.
Clearly, he is not actually capable of any relationship. Thankfully you found out when you did, although it hurts x
sounds like you ran into a sociopath Lorinda - so sorry you had to experience that! Don't let it close you off to love, there are beautiful possibilities out there for you
Wow , that's horrible. That's a long time to string you along.. can't help to think there is more to it than that. Either way, he is not your guy,,, heal and try again with a real man.
I was seeing a guy for 2 months and he was doing every single one of these things then out of the blue started being much more quiet than usual. 1 week later he got back with his ex...🤷🏻♀️
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new
True! Concise and very deep! Very well said🥰
fantastic thanks so much!
Aww how sweet. My husband is totally like this with another woman. I'm just the afterthought, apparently. He couldn't care less about how my day is going but is always concerned about her.
Find someone else. Heal first, give your self nurturing and then find someone else.
@@antoniaadams2084 Thank you 😊
It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new 🙂
Great video Mat! Empowering!
thanks so much Jenna!
This is useful I’ll keep them in mind! Thanks Mat :)
yesss you got it!!
Very inspiring Matt, thank you im learning 😍🙏
yesss you are learning and growing! so happy for you!
I loved the video, so beautifully articulated, thank you .
Glad you enjoyed it!
OMG these is all true he does everything more than with these 7 signs 🥰 so lucky to have him 🙏
That is awesome! I’m so happy for you my dear!
Love it - thank you!!
You are so welcome!
Your amazing.
Im learning alot from your videos ❤️
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Spelled out and easily understood. Thank you.
Thanks so much my dear! Happy I could be of help.
Very insightful but scammers kind of do the same thing..they build a emotional connection with you too..they lie and make you think you have a relationship and a future together..
True that! Beware to that kind of scammers dear!
How about a man who’s put every single day into you for two years without ever meeting. Spends 2/3 hours in the phone just helping you through anything you need help with. Doesn’t expect a thing from you. Some would say that’s strange but I can only tell you, it’s the most beautiful experience you could ever have.
Thanks for sharing!
Great videô
Glad you enjoyed it
Thank u very much I learning more about myself
I’m happy this resonated with you
Glad to listen at a man. Who knows.
You got this!
Thanks Meowww. Sure do lol
Thanks Meowww.
What do you think of men that just want to text and work instead of making the time to meet
Next… don’t waste time and energy with an unavailable man.
A man who isnt willing to make time for you isnt a man who is worthy of your energy!
@@braveheart2657 Thank You for the advice I appreciate it and I agree 💯
Matt - I’m not sure if I understand this correctly but I assume that these 7 signs are mostly in order to happen in a time line, e.g. not all 7 gonna be present right away at the same time in the first 3 months? And correct me if I’m wrong, men who have been emotionally hurt/ wounded deeply before would be extremely careful when he dates next time & take his time until he feels safe and secured?
Yes not all at once, it will happen over time and usually longer than 3 months :) and YEA men with severe relationship trauma may take longer than others.
@@Mat_Shaffer Thank you so much, Mat!
Thanks Mat! 👌🏼
So welcome!
Inaccurate - These also are warning red flags aka bad signs from stalkers and unwanted guys you don’t want to be with. Had to learn that the hard way, and I’m glad I did.
Thanks for sharing!
Wow nice, thank you got this beautiful video
Thanks so much my dear!
My guy had all that but had baggage and triggers.He started playing head games about a year after that . Did I mention that he was a Scorpio and I was an Aries which wasn't the best towards the end when he would try to subtly on different levels try to play My Mind even though I knew he was but he would never admit he did things on purpose. I also think he felt me changing since I couldnt handle his 5 kid family compared to just my son and I. There definitely was a difference in weight since I had never been out with someone that was very husky but strong and found out he just wasn't what I was looking for anymore. He will be a good guy for somebody more like him with a big family so that they can understand the dynamic of their families together since he never understood mine
Thanks for sharing
Alot of these signs I see in a special guy I'm dating. Yay!! But I knew he was in to me.
amazing congrats!!
Really good!
Thanks so much my dear!
Excellent
Thank you! Cheers!
Im in LDR relationship he dont invest much for us thats all this things being mention here explain it to him and i told him the things that makes our relationship grow and makes us closer,
Thanks so much for your feedback! Just keep the postive vibes going dear! :)
Thank you😊
I appreciate your vids so much. Thank you
Your kind words touch my heart
I haven’t met a decent man in 10yrs….it’s pretty sad.
Don’t give up on love sister!
All 7 ❤️,I'm blessed ✨🙏✨
I’m so happy for you my dear!
They claim you in direct way makes me laugh a lot😂 well its true but my crush didnt claim romantically like u said.. but my crush said "u are mine" instead of long romantic sentence😂😂😂.. thanks for this video i enjoyed it so much😁
aw beautiful! Wow "you are mine" thats serious claiming energy hahaha
Yeah! I got nothin'! But i totally wont to see it happen. Show me you think im worthy. Im Finally Im ok with THAT!!
yess you are worthy of that!
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Thanks so much my dear!
@@Mat_Shaffer it’s my pleasure 🥰
I have met like 20 plus men in my two years of dating journey,I have only come accross one man that fully matches Mat's description and without even watching this video I knew that guy is a high value man, unfortunately he has moved back to US (Iam in CAN)...I wonder if all other good men are hiding somewhere..
YES it is 100% possible my dear, and inevitable as long as you keep moving forward with a vision for the love you want to create
@@Mat_Shaffer inspiring words!! thank you Matt!
Oh God, he does them all
Yay! You deserve a great guy :)
Is that once they Start dating, or once the conversation starts ? I think i got like 1/2 of 1 on the list. But I WAS triggered while working!! LOL i think 7 is 50/50. Cause its associated to workl lol
@Mat with sign 3 what if he doesn't ask much question and is consistent but very surface level in conversation
invite him to connect deeper through asking great questions! men can be emotionally invested and still resistant to going there on their own :)
@@Mat_Shaffer great point
7 out of 7 for my love😊
Yay! You deserve a great guy :)
Hi what you are saying is all truth, but as the relationship goes on after you invest in it.
That is when things change, he is not jntrested in all you and he have bargain for,most times he get caught up in it at the time he met you. I call it Spur of the moment. without realizing that is not what he wanted .
I appreciate your opinion on this, Sandra ❤️
What if when together I feel wonderful and safe. Yet when not together I feel anxious or not sure...???🤔😔
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@@Mat_Shaffer I most likely do. Thanks Mat! 👌❤
You're showing me how miserable my life is. No guy's ever even asked me what my fav foods are and what i don't like, paid attention to me enough that he plans the perfect restaurant for us to eat at. If anything its maybe always been me who put in that thought and effort. 🙃
Don’t give up on love sister! I'm pretty sure he's out there looking for you
We'll see 😬😬
Such a valuable video and how you deliver your teachings is much appreciated Mat! Thank you
So glad you enjoyed it! Many more to come 🤗🤗❤️
Question: What if you are married already and it seems like your mate is regressing? For example, Your mate did all these things before while dating but not really asking about your day or life events anymore.
Thanks for sharing!
My Man does all of these, except plan dates b/c our situation is unique. This is the first time in my life I’ve ever felt loved. He wants to buy a house with me in Key West so we have a place to call home.
Wow! I’m so happy for you my dear!
So what you're saying is that no man has ever actually been emotionally invested in me.
Thanks for sharing!
I have a best friend investing 😱 I am confused. I am already in a relationship, but my guy best friend does all these things🥴🤦♀️
sounds like you get to create some boundaries with him!
Lol stay away from your best friend thats so out of line!
Great content, Mat! Question, Ive been dating this guy for about a month now. I would say he is doing about half of these things. Ive brought up an issue with his communication not being consistent meaning he went from texting me right back to sending messages after a few hours even half a day. He was aware and started communicating promptly after that, however he reverted again this past week. I feel like hes investing but also know he has chaos in his life right now...is that an excuse? How many of these signs does he need to have to assess if he is truly investing?
Thanks for sharing!
My man claims that he has just never been great with planning dates or keeping them in mind. I am in agreeance with you but we are 4 kids and 7 years in. Is it possible he was never emotionally invested in me?
If he still isn’t doing it he may not. I was in one for 13 years he wanted to plan after I already checked out and as filing for divorce
Thanks for sharing!
How do these signs present themselves in a long distance relationship?
Consistent Communication regular and meaningful conversations demonstrate commitment and emotional connection. Thanks!
Is it possible for LDR? 🤔
Yes it is!
Still not taken me out 4 a meal yet but been best friends for a couple of months now.We go to the shops and beach x weyre getting closer
Thanks for sharing!
7/7 😃😃😃 I’m so lucky ♥️
Awww! So happy for you, beautiful!
Your hair looks better short.
Aww, you're the sweetest! Thank you
Or… as in my case most of the time… they spend an hour+ talking about their ex or all the other crazy women they've dated… and then when you're just about fed up they invite you back to their place for a nightcap...WTF?
Thanks for sharing!
I had all 7 and he broke up with me because he said he didn't have feelings for me??? WTH?
I promise there are good guys out there my dear!
My last boyfriend asked questions about my life wanted to know more about my life for actually he wanted to know everything about my life and then judge me for them later on
So sad but It’s 100% possible to heal and create something new, Don't give up on love Momyer🙏❤️