How to F*** Up Your Life
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In this video, we reflect on the absurdity of making some of life's biggest decisions-as well as how we can better make them and live well with their outcomes in spite of the absurdity.
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Two years ago when I was at the rock-bottom point of my life my late grandma told me, "we don't make right choices. We make choices and prove them right."
Imma remember this whenever I’m struggling. Ur grandma will live on through her wisdom. ❤❤
Stoopid
Might be better served to “make the choice, resolve to understand why the choice was made, then dispassionately evaluate the impact of that choice, without bias”
wow. can I quote your Grandma?
That sounds terrible and easily misguided,,, for having to be always right will lead you to a place where there is nothing left. Tho i'm sure that's not what is meant...right?
“Do it or don't do it, you'll regret both."
- Søren Kierkegaard
So true 😮💨
Comparison can never be equal
True
just so happens to be an alcoholics favorite quote
Oh, my weekly dose of “everything is f**ked and beyond your control but somehow you have to keep living” articulately distilled into a high quality 10 minute video😌
Yooo same cheers
Something I've been contemplating since 9yo.. 23 now and still don't understand.
M
Lol you might like exurb1a too
It’s almost like nihilism had a baby with stoicism
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms-to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.” -Victor Frankl
Why aren't you uploading nowadays?
Not if you believe in determinism.
well you don't even have the choice to choose because free will is an illusion.
There are neurological conditions which can take away even your ability to choose your actions and attitude. Free will itself is something which can be taken away.
@@ponternal there is no such thing as free will.
As someone who is currently questioning myself if I did the right decision last year when I take the leap of faith, thank you for this video. I needed to hear this.
@@bbabbich3467 Thanks for the advice, I'll take note of it.
I always said I wouldn’t live past 40, I’m 42 now and everyday I wake up it just feels awkward.
I can totally understand that kind of comment.
This one really touched me. I chose to do my passion as my job. It wasnt a professional career and most people look down on me but I feel happy and fulfilled when customers buy what I made so I chose to continue and pursue what my heart really wants. What makes me happy.
Can’t remember who/where I heard this: “Do what you enjoy rather than try to enjoy what you do.”
I'll really touch you
Life is only worth living if you're doing what you want to, more than you're not.
@@Poppa_Capinyoaz True
@@Brakdayton True
“The only thing we’re allowed to do is to believe that we won’t regret the choice we made.” - Levi (AoT)
Literally thinking the same thing
W levi
"What if you just decide right now based on what I choose, someone who basically doesn't know you at all? It'll be like flipping a coin but the coin has a brain and understands the situation a little."
-an old man with a continued smile
"So,What are you going to choose?" - The old man asked.
"I understood that reference". What a great video that is, I always rewatch it when I'm faced with important decisions in life.
Yes that video was amazing. I still remember it and always will✨👌❤ this video too reminded me of that video. That vid is definitely my fv❤
What is the title of this video?
@@user-nw3lf5ht8q the title of that video is “Every Person Is One Choice Away From Everything Changing”
Life: The ultimate ‘Choose Your Own Adventure’ book.
Only we don't _choose_ our own, because free will is an illusion. We are just living beings, just existing and experiencing because all of our decisions are predetermined to happen based on what's in front of us due to our genetics at a given time. Everything in the universe must obey the laws of physics and the same is true for any process in the brain.
I've quoted this from another video, not ad verbatim admittedly, but it is quoted from elsewhere nonetheless and I happen to agree with the assertion.
ruclips.net/video/13Hl6-iE0PE/видео.htmlsi=b8WkooC2oWLWB3eV
Another that leads me to the same conclusion is this one;
ruclips.net/video/OwaXqep-bpk/видео.htmlsi=TnchGF_63x5goSze
This book sucks
I’m jk
I was doubting my decision that I had taken almost one year back and badly wanted to hear this. Thank you for your video. It really supports me always..
Thank you man, ive watched you since middle school and I am greatful to have the knowledge you’ve shared with me. It’s placed and amazingly huge impact on my life and how I deal with situations, helped me understand my self and grow. Helped me understand men and women alike.
This finds me on the cusp of deciding whether to leave home, friends, family and dog to pursue my phd or finally give up on the idea and stay with an apartment that's okay but not forever and a job that's comfortable but more of an accident than passion. I have a feeling I know how I'll choose and in the end it will not come down to pros and cons but to feeling. I think you can retroactively learn to love most decisions you take and therefore it's rare to go completely wrong.
Take your dog with you.
@@stephanieparker1250 Love the answer but he's not mine, he's my mum's. Still love him as if he were mine.
@@delikatessbruhe9843 awww 💜 tough choice indeed!
Take the choice that you would regret not taking 5 years from now.
I'm not you, but I would take the chance on the PhD, personally. I spent my twenties working comfortable but overall accidental jobs and now I'm in a bit of a reverse, where I need to get the education to support my work expereience. Staying with friends and family sounds nice, and maybe it is, but own personal growth will empower those around you later
I could spend the rest of my life dragging about all the regrets I have which is basically 90% of the decisions I've made. The point is : it leads you nowhere. I've always had the tendency to look backwards and that is just another way of killing your soul. Dwelling on the past will just make you miserable and I even regret the good decisions sometimes. We have been told everything happens for a reason and because of that we feel like every decision needs to serve a purpose. But it really doesn't. I'm more and more convinced that life and the world is nothing but a glorified chaos, burning mess, a nonsense. Nevertheless we do need values and principles to guide us but shouldn't allow them to blind us.
One can hold the contradiction between everything being a nonsense, and the need for values, for only so long.
@@lilemont9302I think the contradiction is exactly what you need. It’s not either or, it’s kind of a yin yang of both. What they’re talking about is finding the balance between those two.
@@josephvids1Yes, I'm saying that this balance can only be held for so long.
Your videos really speak my language, your point of view is philosophically grounded and optimistic, this video lifted my spirits. Please keep doing what you are doing, your material is both therapeutic and educational.
I love this.. you guys are the best. Thanks again. My favorite line "In the end, perhaps it is not the specific decisions that we make that will give our lives meaning, but it is how we perceive the life our decisions have led us to that will give our lives their meaning." It hits hard. True af. Thanks ❤
That's what I do. I stand behind my wrong decisions as they were all born from passion, curiosity and risk. When the pay off doesn't lull me into a smug sense of achievement I absorb the adversity and lull myself to a sense of greatness
I've found the most important factor in decision-making is waiting to come to the point where I'm prepared to deal with all the consequences of a particular decision. I don't move until I've resolved that within myself.
Agreed
"Every time we choose to do one thing, we simultaneously choose to Not do so many other things."
-W. Van Der Hugh
Thank you so much for making this video. It's greatly alleviate my anguish over the decisions I've made that always haunted me and make me hoping that maybe if I take the other choices life will be different. Thank you for giving me the chance to make peace with myself over this and give me courage to face life ahead that will still be full of choises.
Every day I wake up, I watch your videos while eating my breakfast.
A kindly reminder that I am not the only one perplexed at the human experience.
I was just watching another video of yours with a similar message. I always tell people this same concept, every single decision in your life leads you to a completely different life. If I worked 1 minute later, I wouldn't have hit a deer on the way home. My tire was bad, it could have exploded miles after and I could have lost my life.
It's very surreal to be depressed filled with apathaty from antidepressants and watch this video and have a glimpse of hope, so that by the end of the video I'm offered a subscription of vitamins and minerals. Strange times we are living...
The Closer We Get was just what I needed right now in life. Thank you so much for writing it :) 💙
I've been dealing with insomnia for almost 2 weeks now. I'm debating whether to stay in the US where I own a house and a business but don't like life here, or move my family to a small European town, where we won't have the luxuries we have here but would live a more peaceful life and I can pursue the love of my life, making music. I need to make a decision soon and can't bring myself to.
I guess it ultimately comes down to what you value more.
Do you value what your family wants more than what you want? Do you value stability over doing something more risky but more rewarding? etc.
These are questions you might need to answer on your own. I don't think there's a right or wrong answer but yeah. I do believe it's better to talk it with your family, if this is going to also impact them.
What if I, a stranger in the comment section decided what you do. Decided your fate for the next however many years. It’ll be like flipping a coin except this coin has a brain and a little more understanding
@@KindOfWiseAtTimes that's an interesting proposition. At this point both options have pros and cons that weigh about the same. What your decision for the next move in my family's life?
And yet here we have that people... leaving in that remote peaceful country house... saying to themselves... wishing to be with a car and a house in the US living more "life"...
Maybe is not about the place outside rather the place we find inside to be peaceful with whatever outcome life brings us... wish you much strenght in your path.
Your videos are really well made, from the research, to the beautiful animations and pictures, I love what you put out into the world, thanks for existing and making good videos!
Beautiful, both in word and animation. Thank you.
I liked a girl and decided to ask her out, then she asked if she could bring her male friend to the restaurant, and like a fool, I said yes...... biggest mistake of my life.
Why would you say this is the biggest mistake of your life?
@@itseveary5756 cause it was brutal, and I did not know what a shit test was, in any case what ever feelings i had for her are gone.
if that was the biggest mistake of your life, you have a very good life
I have no idea how old you are, but I hope that that truly is, and always remains, the biggest mistake of your life. And if it is, I hope that you always practice mindful gratefulness, because that is awesome.
DEFINITELY buying ur book you’re one of my favorite authors I see your RUclips videos as almost like literature. One day I hope you will be hailed as the Classical RUclips Artist that you are ❤📜
I love your videos so much. I am very big into philosophy, so it is easy to understand your content. Your videos have helped me more than you'll ever know. Thank you.
You did what you thought best in the moment; considering what you had and what was happening to you at that point in time. For this reason, you cannot look back on these events and think, “I could have done this instead..” or “this would have never happened if I..”.
Life is difficult, we live, we regret, we learn, we grow. In order to live happily we must learn not only to forgive and forget others, but to forgive ourselves.
I find myself looking back on past relationships that ended in a less than ideal way. Before I look at the scenarios in a scolding manner, I remind myself that everything happens for a reason. I would not be where I am, and who I am, without this less desirable events. I am thankful for not only the good, but the ugly. Changing my view is enough to keep me going, to pull through.
Oh my gosh, this is why you guys are my favourite channel, thank you for this video, it’s a gooder lol👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼✌️😻
Thank you for the transparencies you give us.
Pursuit of Wonder guy, this one was a really good one! Thanks for the GREAT content
Thanks man, needed this one right now.
great wake-up smile!
I used to judge and be critical, on how I want the world to be. Now, I just go with the flow, and say, let it be, as God wills. I feel peace and tranquility in my heart and soul 🎉
Coward
I made so many bad decisions last year and really messed up my life so badly I lost my greatest opportunity for my career switch and also lost the love of my life of 10 years.
I'm still suffering from the consequences and recovering from what I considered the lowest point of my life..
This video gave me some hope strangely that good things may come from all the bad things I've experienced.
I wanted to type out a whole story but instead lemme just say I love you, man.
Brilliant stuff
Beautifully said
When you come to the fork in the road…take it! ~ Yogi Berra
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I-I took the one less traveled by”~ Frost (in other words, it doesn’t matter! Just pick one.
The best choice when you have to decide to do something is that one you consider less wrong in comparison to others. Always use your reason, that voice that tells you what could benefit you more to your present and future. Don't listen to your temporary mood or emotion, do nor succumb to what you're just feeling in that precise moment, cause you could then regret it. Kant made this example: if you consider to act by feeling, then you will make a lot of mistakes, because then you will act according to what is best for you in thst moment in order to feel better (you will act through your emotions, according to what cause you less pain or cause you more pleasure). On the contrary, if you act according to reason, for example, if you think you should study, because even if you're suffering or you're feeling tired and stressed right now, you accept that's okay in order to achieve your degree and have a better prospect, then you will be acting according to your reason, not according to what you're just feeling in the moment. So, always think what will benefit you more or what probably looks better to you in your future (to work instead being lazy, to choose the girl not just because she is nice but because she's good to you, to love because is better than to be alone, and so on).
Great video, please never stop making these type of videos
Hope everyone out there finds their true self and has a great day and week❤️❤️
you are such a help when im anxious and unable to fall sleep
You should make an artsy short story in this style where you follow a person's life, and they are always trying to reach the end of a long road, but are forced to waste time in multiple branched-off pathways. They die before they reach the end, but then the camera pans out and we see the person made a beautiful image of a flourishing tree, and where they strayed from their singular path created the reaching branches.
One of my favorite channels!
8:06 That last two sentences of this essay are worth re-listening to many times...
Excellent information. 💫
Bravo! 👏👏👏
This, my man, is art.
Thank you. This was very thought provoking.
I still can't get over losing my girlfriend who I was planning on asking to marry me during the pandemic because it just kinda of broke me. I still haven't recovered and the break up was just the beginning of far harder journey.
Sorry to hear that.
On the other end, being stuck in a relationship that should have ended years ago is also awful.
What do you do when you're mid thirties, you're out of work, and you didn't finish your degree? You're not working on the IT certifications that you know, with basic diligence and effort, you could pass and get back on track with your career? I've been asking myself questions like this lately, cause that's where I'm at. There's a certification I'm after but requires me to complete a lower level certification first. I've been struggling with setting aside my ego and just doing it. Time is passing by, though, so I'll get cert 1 done, I'll get cert 2 done, and hopefully get back on track. I think I'm mostly taking to myself.
Life passes by so quick and it's so easy to be paralyzed when you realize you aren't where you want to be, but don't let any internal embarrassment or ego lead you to feeling defeated or that everything is pointless - it isn't. It feels much better to hold your head high, and you do so much more naturally when you feel good about yourself.
I'm mid 20s (about to turn 26) and I do have a degree but I never use it. I regret taking it. I haven't had an actual job in more than 2 years. I think I also face the same ego problem, because my last job was so high paying, that I just can't apply to any jobs now, because we had no transferrable skills after being laid off. I honestly have no idea what to do. I kinda wanna do what you're doing and get certification, but dammit if it ain't a hassle. But the more I wait, the more time just passes by.
@@eenayeahTime doesn't understand. It just goesss....
You can FAIL at doing something you hate. Might as well take the risk on failing at doing the things you LOVE 😽
thank you
I made the choice of learning English, I couldn't be more glad , now I can understand what your point is
I found that the small choices we make have the biggest impact in our lifes
This video reminds me of Michael Corleone the path he did not intend to take but forced to take faced the life altering consequences like his loss of family, his love Appolonia,his brother's love eventually his dear daughter .. a sign of his happiness, liveliness died with Mary ... If Michael did not take revenge for his brother, if they did not took the life of Appolonia and his unborn child...true Man is a slave of circumstances
I used to use drugs on a daily basis and caused myself and those around me great pain. Now that i have some time away from them, i often find myself thinking that despite the regrets and sorrows at my past actions and decisions, i wouldnt be who i am, where i am today. I am greatful for the opprotunity to be better.
this video makes me feel at peace after had made decisions on life changing choices
I made the decision to never regret any decision in my life ever again, no matter what the outcome may look like. Maybe we don't have free will anyway, then our feeling of that we could have decided differently is just an illusion anyway.
I love your channel n ur videos❤
No matter what you choose, just make sure you're sneaky, resourceful, or clever enough to come out ahead.
Also, don't make enemies. That's how you turn the world against you, one piece at a time.
Way ahead of you man.
the cont'd of "every person is one choice away from everything changing"
Heres one of my fucked up life choices:
Got a job at a startup
It was cool at first
Started to feel used by superiors
Started to feel worthless
Became unhappy, oh theres a Stizzy near my job
Next thing i know im showing up high asf to cope with boring work everyday for a year.
I buried the plea from my soul to stop, deep down i knew how fucked up this had got but i just stopped feeling guilt after a while and just kept going with the self destruction, self avoidance shit. I new i needed to quit this habit and find a better job but i just got used to the cycle. Dulling my soul out until i couldn't do it anymore. The addiction, shitty job shitty people shitty location it all became unbearable. So i stopped showing up, got fired and now i have to sit at home unemployed and sort through what the fuck i just did to myself....i feel relieved that i got to go through that experience though. It taught me things about my shadow that i still have to implement but goddamn is it a bitch.
Nothing in the end matters hit deep
The perfect video before bed
All put together i feel the greatest hurdle in standing by the choices we make in life is not so much about the way they affect us but the conditions they put our dependents in. A loner is much safer and happier an individual that a family man…unfortunately!
Take an English class
800,000,000 decisions unless you play magic the gathering 😅
This is exactly emwhat i needed to hear
Top of the hour.
I think that final paragraph is one of the best things you've written yet
I don’t think I need a video for this but I’ll watch it anyway
Do it when tripping on shrooms, always goes exactly correctly :D
Beautiful
Everything happens for a reason 😌 ✨ Be kind to YOURSELF ❣❣❣
I would say for myself I haven’t made any decisions of absolute regret. Mostly the opposite, just a lot of wasted time in the wrong places and with the wrong people. I think I tend to stay in environments and in company that don’t want me so life has to give me a lot of rejection to keep me moving since I can’t read between the lines 😂 But like many have said I accept life as is and keep it moving. Less wasted time and more energy spent in intention.
Yo love this channel
At 6:15, when he's talking about Kierkegaard, can someone tell me what music is playing in the background?
"There's no goal in life
Life is the goal"
Tolle
I heard this from osho, what a liberating quote
This helps a lot there is no such thing as a good decision.
main lessons:
- every decision might have risks = there is no perfect decision
- its about your perspective on your decision and how you react to the consequences
- if you dont take life that serious you wont feel too devistated if something doesnt turn out as you thought
work can wait
Just constantly Learn
Worrying about the Future 🤷♂️ it’s like borrowing trouble from the future 🏃♂️ to ruin your present Take actions Now
“”Pursuit-of-wonder “”
Our doubts are traiters, and we lose the good we oft might win, by fearing to attempt......
William Shakespeare
Thank you brother! I cried with this
What is the song at played at the end?
always the best
I love utube cause here I can say things..and people will not judge me ..I need a hug ..I am doing well .I doing well in studies I am working out twice daily for my studies ..but I feel alone ..I am good looking ..I have a joyous life I make others laugh I have good physique...I feel alone ..I wanna be in someone's arm so bad ..I want a hug
I’ll give u a hug
Making decisions is the hardest thing for me I really struggle with that
I admire your viedo making skills and style can you make a video about it? The process and stuff like that. And thanks for the great topic. I always think about my decisions now am happy that all decisions are somehow wrong and right you put me into a peace of mind ❤
Every decision is right we just need to accept it in the end.
You were always supposed to be here, where you are right now. Maktub 🙏
7:23....That's what I'm talking about!!!
great video
8:00 what is the tune playing?
I find this very true. The youth have been and are always apolitical and apathetic to politics. There is a reason why parents are shielding children from the harsh realities of the world. I agree there. Freedom of speeches for the youth, can also do more bad than good. Limits are sometimes needed. It depends which party wins. Either the liberal side or the conservative side. I have no hate against the government, left and right parties alike. I am smart, but not a gifted prodigy. I am rather be choosing The First Amendment. Me, and many young people. I am considered a part of Basic Rights. I am politically apathetic and apolitical as a whole. I'm not selfish, arrogant, or obsessed with judging others viewpoints. I am only a volunteer, and cooperative person. I view things as rose tinted, childish escapism, and simple minded opinions. That's how I view the world through my eyes. But for me, I am legal of age. I'm afraid to grow up. Because I can't be independent. I struggle with pressure. I am no minority. I'm still like a kid. A child to my parents and family alike. I like being treated as a pampered baby boy child. I am no political idealist, not a judge, not a soldier, and not a professional. I am just a volunteering and cooperative youngster adult. People may mention me, that I'm just a kid. Viewing the world through childish escapism and imagination. I am only basic rights, and have simplistic ideal views. That's my philosophy and point of view.
Since being born with a loving family tree. I don't like violence, war, and judging people. I am scared to be a man. Scared to be a leader. I cannot be independent on my own. I need a babysitter, a caretaker, since I'm autistic. A young adult, a pampered baby boy child. I still feel like a kid. When people mention or describe me. They think or know that I am still just a kid. Still a child. Since I view things through my use of childish escapism, curiosity, shyness, childlike behavior and mindset, determination, cute, fun, and passionate tone. Sometimes I complain a bit. There are at times I behave like a crybaby. Folks think that I am not a man. They point at me, that I am still just a kid. A baby boy child. I'm scared and afraid at times. I can't handle too much pressure. I'm not ready for the big world. I love my parents, family, and the people who take care of me, shield me from the harsh realities of the big outside world. I am not here for hate or judging others. I am here for peace, playful, cute, childlike innocence, curiosity, fun, determined and passionate viewing of the world. I am not gonna argue. I find this true about myself. For a young adult baby kid like me. I am still a baby! I am a baby, a young pampered baby boy child. I enjoy acting like a pampered kid, a baby boy child. I am happy being treated like one. By my parents, family, and people who look after me. This is me, Javi Barrales.
Child care and protection, is always a first and good thing. For parents and guardians alike. A needed idea and in case of emergency. In a situation like this occurs. I may be legal of age. A young adult, young man. I feel like I'm still just a kid. In my heart and mind. I am still a kid, a baby child who needs pampering and attention by my family. I am happy to still be this way. I am an adult boy child.
Perhaps its not the specific decision that we make that will give our life meaning but it is how we perceive the life , our decision have led us to that will give our life meaning :)
Such a good sentance!
what is that violin piece that starts at 5:26?