If You’re DIVORCED DON'T DATE Until You Hear THIS Relationship Advice!

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  • Опубликовано: 19 дек 2024

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  • @YourWingmam
    @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +24

    I hope you enjoyed my video, "If You’re DIVORCED DON'T DATE Until You Hear THIS Relationship Advice!"
    Watch this dating advice video next, "Top 7 CRITICAL DATING ADVICE For A SINGLE DAD Wanting To Date Again!" 👉 ruclips.net/video/KwLhkrms3ig/видео.html
    WakeUP2Luv program info: members.wingmam.com/get-women/
    We got 10" of snow last night and the power is out. Battery is low so will answer comments later. Gotta love these Canadian winters! lol x

    • @TazMartin
      @TazMartin 9 месяцев назад +1

      Prays the Father...Spring here down south 😊

    • @Sol-hl2rj
      @Sol-hl2rj 9 месяцев назад

      Very good advises, one of the best ones I’ve heard. It seemed you did too advise yourself equally well 🤗.
      Liked the straightforwardness-ness and the bareness-ness 🤓. I takes effort to do this as an introvert, and yes we can learn “social” skills but we’ll be introverts below the surface anyhow, more recharging..
      10” of snow ❄️.. being at roughly the same latitude..: On the bright side, it gets brighter when dark 😄

    • @JoeVespa-s3g
      @JoeVespa-s3g 9 месяцев назад

      Illinois lolol

    • @JoeVespa-s3g
      @JoeVespa-s3g 9 месяцев назад

      I was joking 😃

    • @JoeVespa-s3g
      @JoeVespa-s3g 9 месяцев назад

      Just the tip 😊

  • @Someonne_dot_com
    @Someonne_dot_com 9 месяцев назад +21

    Anna was hurt alot, but she showed so much strength to make this video openly talking about her breakup and divorce in past relationships. That took some guts!

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +2

      ❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate hearing from you 🙏

  • @bobbyearl60
    @bobbyearl60 9 месяцев назад +18

    Im 64 and have been married 34 years.
    I work out in a gym with a lot of younger people of dating age. One of these acquaintances shared one of your videos with me as well as one other youtuber,asking my opinion on the quality of your advice.
    Both of you give valuable advice, but your vulnerability and truthfulness in this video really touched me.
    The way you have taken accountability is so rare, as well as your desire to learn. Anna, you are a keeper. I know what one looks like because I am married to one.
    We are all broken. We all possess a red flag or two. If we are to have good relationships, it is not only important to find the right person, but also to BE the right person. And when we falter, to forgive and be forgiven.
    Im still in the learning process 34 years on. Shes worth it.
    God bless you Anna, and thank you for what you do.

    • @crimestoppers1877
      @crimestoppers1877 9 месяцев назад

      Excellent. This is the goal of most good men as well. But how can you be the "right" person with a cheater?

    • @bobbyearl60
      @bobbyearl60 9 месяцев назад

      @crimestoppers1877 my definition of faltering does not include cheating.

    • @crimestoppers1877
      @crimestoppers1877 9 месяцев назад +1

      @@bobbyearl60 Faltering? explain?

    • @jmyers6175
      @jmyers6175 9 месяцев назад

      😂😂

    • @jmyers6175
      @jmyers6175 9 месяцев назад +1

      😂😂

  • @BassProBaitShop
    @BassProBaitShop Месяц назад +3

    Dad once said “if you want to see what your marriage with a woman will look like, look at her parents” best advice I ever got and it’s served me well. Happily married for years and she is exactly like her mother, whom I like.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  Месяц назад

      Thank you for sharing, I appreciate that ❤️

  • @AlphaMaleMidwesterner
    @AlphaMaleMidwesterner 9 месяцев назад +15

    I noticed Anna’s body language in this video; it shows that she is very Emotional, apprehensive, speaks fast, anxious, nervous and shows us her vulnerabilities, anxieties. I understand though because she’s telling her personal story and telling and showing us her feelings etc. Anna, I hope that you’re doing all right and doing well. You’ll be fine.

    • @daleb5967
      @daleb5967 9 месяцев назад +2

      That is what makes her more authentic than most women. She's being honest and that's hard to find in society let alone in a woman or partner.

    • @GUITARTIME2024
      @GUITARTIME2024 7 месяцев назад

      She's cold. It's chilly there.

    • @josephlozada3651
      @josephlozada3651 4 месяца назад

      Or she's cold 🥶

  • @meddyven
    @meddyven 9 месяцев назад +7

    Anna, I really applaud you for your vulnerability and strength to show where you were, and how you solved it.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      ❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

  • @trickygoose2
    @trickygoose2 9 месяцев назад +3

    I'm part through a relatively painless divorce after a nearly 9 year marriage that I was never really happy with. Although I feel I have less emotional baggage than most in my situation there was still helpful advice here.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @Phaedrus-th7bi
    @Phaedrus-th7bi 9 месяцев назад +14

    Thank you for your bravery, Anna. 39-23? He had issues as well. (Major red flag) A relationship of a girl with her father is EXTREMELY important and can literally screw up the daughter for her entire life, if not resolved. Even if their relationship is "normal", it will often play a definitive role in how she relates to her husband (years later). Likewise, how a son relates to his mother is very telling as well. Anna, you made yourself very vulnerable today in this video. Blessings from the East Coast. (A daughter's relationship with her father = Her first relationship with a man. Likewise, a son's relationship with his mother is his first relationship with a woman. That is why it 'sets the stage' for all her further interactions with men. Very critical to her development of a healthy relationship with men.)

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +3

      Agreed, wise words indeed! 🙏

    • @carldaelman
      @carldaelman 9 месяцев назад +3

      39-23 is not a red flag but natural. The man knew she was fertile. A 39 year old woman is not. Hence not a red flag. This tale origins from feminism.

    • @trickygoose2
      @trickygoose2 9 месяцев назад

      A 39 year old woman is not necessarily infertile, although she will be less fertile than she was when she was 23.
      Anna's ex already had children and didn't want any more.

    • @Someonne_dot_com
      @Someonne_dot_com 9 месяцев назад +1

      A 39 year old women is still very fertile

  • @danduntz2539
    @danduntz2539 9 месяцев назад +5

    Another thing I would add, is therapy is needed to get out of our heads when dealing with divorce, especially if/when there are emotional wounds and/or bitterness.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Agreed! wingmam.com/online-therapy/

  • @Zalewaika
    @Zalewaika 9 месяцев назад +20

    I was in 3 years lasting relationship. We married in August 2023 and she cheated on me 2 months after wedding. It turned out that she had NPD. Now im during divorce. Thank you Anna for this video. Its really helpful to hear advice from somebody who experienced the same.

    • @qubaliclife4666
      @qubaliclife4666 9 месяцев назад +3

      NPD? What is that?

    • @Zalewaika
      @Zalewaika 9 месяцев назад

      @@qubaliclife4666 Narcissistic personality disorder

    • @chrisconsorte7893
      @chrisconsorte7893 9 месяцев назад

      Did you have any children?

    • @siz4sean
      @siz4sean 9 месяцев назад +4

      That is near identical to my experience; married a diagnosed NPD woman. Within 39 days she had cheated, stated she was done with me, and I promptly filed for divorce. I think that she still lives in Vermont where I left her.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +10

      They are often experts at hiding their true character until it’s too late. Here’s something you’ll want to take from that experience…you are a good man. Good men often fall for narcs, they don’t recognize the red flags because they would never do such things. Look for my playlist on red flags. It may help save you in future. 🫂

  • @jakeschubert7763
    @jakeschubert7763 9 месяцев назад +2

    My respect for hearing you say, divorce for choices you made. Very few are willing to own up.

  • @rocdocs
    @rocdocs 3 месяца назад +1

    This is one of the best "dating advice" videos Ive seen. THanks for being real and not offering manipulative tricks! Rock on,!

  • @Mrvictorfernandes
    @Mrvictorfernandes 9 месяцев назад +5

    Anna's comments of sorting through your emotional laundry and rediscovering yourself are just as applicable when it comes to breaking free from a toxic work environment, as well as breaking free from a damaged relationship. You have to find ways of replenishing your energies and healing yourself first in order to thrive and move on.
    Tactile introverts of the world unite! ✊🤟

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +3

      Truth!
      Unite! (In spirit from the comfy couches of our own homes) 😁

  • @reasonitout9087
    @reasonitout9087 9 месяцев назад +2

    It was pure luck that I saw your RUclips channel. You have helped me get ready for the challenges I will soon face at this point in my life. I wish I had seen you sooner, moreso, I wish there was someone like you explaining these things to me when I was younger. If I had been fortunate enough to have met someone like you when I was 22 my life would have been so much better in so many ways .

  • @marvinbanjo
    @marvinbanjo 9 месяцев назад

    You keep getting better and better --I couldn't find the cat though. I used to have an old black tomcat I called buddy he was really smart and would would mind really well. I remember him trying to follow me to work one day so I picked him up and put him on my utility trailer tongue box and told him to stay and he was right where I left him 3 hours later when I came home for lunch .I really loved that old cat .Every time I talked with my girlfriend on the phone he could hear it and would run and jump up on my lap or walk around meowing because he could hear her voice . She would laugh and ask to talk to him and he really ate it up. We're still friends but not together although Buddy has past . it's the little things in life that make it so special. I really enjoyed what you had to say and reiterated it ad- infinitum. To add my two cents our parents didn't think about what the other had so much as they cared about loving one another . Guys all seem to want the super hot sex machine girlfriend and women want a man to give them a six or seven figure lifestyle and care nothing about the important things . Getting involved in that scene is like playing on the freeway .This is another reason for my MGTOW stance . I just don't seem to find any quality women in my neighborhood , but who knows even a blind hog can find an acorn as the old saying goes .

  • @RainMan52
    @RainMan52 9 месяцев назад +1

    recently divorced here... and was "pressured" into a relationship a year later
    You hit the nail on the head

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Thank you for sharing your experience! Hopefully, it will help others learn from it. I appreciate that 🙏

  • @antoerickson4152
    @antoerickson4152 9 месяцев назад +3

    Happy Sunday Anna and how are you.
    So, I never been in a relationship or marriage and I never got divorced or end in breakup, but I was rejected twice by two different women. I watched this video till the end. I'm approaching 30 soon and I done lot of mistakes in the past which I still do regret. I'm watching your videos for more than a year now and I know what's important for a right love and a marriage. So, about your situation it's very sad for you. I believe you often read the Bible and divorce was not even an option according to the commandments of God 🙏. When a man and woman married once then they are always married in the eyes of God although the couples got seperated on earth. This is what I learned few months ago and today there is much darkness everywhere. Thanks, for the video Anna and I appreciate it.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +3

      I’m glad you watched the whole video, there is much that can be learned to prevent the wrong relationship. Because as you note, some things are undoable. Be wise in your choice so you’ll have no regrets. You have time! As for the Bible, yes, I was “reborn” after the divorce but that doesn’t absolve it. It’s certainly something I struggle with and pray for guidance on. 🙏

  • @JJ-dx7xx
    @JJ-dx7xx 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you, Anna, for this video! 🤩 After splitting up with my cheating spouse after 27 yrs, I attempted to get back in the dating scene just so I could feel desired again. But I stopped after 3 dates, recognizing that I needed to work on myself. And after two shrinks, therapies and massive internal work 3 years later, I was able to truly forgive and forget my past... and most importantly learn to love myself! It's a game changer and this video is right on point! ❤ Keep up the great work!

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      So glad you enjoyed the video and even more that you did the work, that takes courage! 🙌

  • @davegayaldo
    @davegayaldo 2 месяца назад +1

    Thanks for sharing your journey big sigh. The recovery slow being 32 years married a year and a half divorce healing and recovery. I appreciate your sharing.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  2 месяца назад

      Healing is definitely key!

  • @gregtarris9057
    @gregtarris9057 8 месяцев назад

    Talk about being a good and considerate person, Anna you almost responded to every comment under this video. What a lady!

  • @jlcmsw
    @jlcmsw 26 дней назад

    My divorce is almost final and I just got out of a brief dating situation. Even though I feel nothing anymore with my ex, I couldn’t get close to this recent guy. I freaked out and broke up with him over text message. What I learned in my marriage is that I’m much better off and happier alone. Some friends say this is temporary but I don’t want to let go of my solitude even though I haven’t seen my estranged husband in 2 years.

  • @kinnymonster
    @kinnymonster 9 месяцев назад +4

    Good to hear you open up bout your past. Brings context to what you've been sayin.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for appreciating it! 🙏

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

  • @kenbiro8485
    @kenbiro8485 9 месяцев назад +7

    Been married twice and divorced twice. Been divorced for 30 years now so it's probably too late now to ever get married again I've gotten used to living by myself, and not only that I win all the arguments. LOL

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Ha! Well, there is that ;) But not too late if it is of interest, have heard from fellas in their 70s tying the knot!

  • @JoeMotionVideos82
    @JoeMotionVideos82 6 месяцев назад

    Ive waited 23 years before I truly decided to dedicate to a very wonderful woman. We are on our 7th month together. Every day is an adventure. She is in her career of service and I am in mine. We both feel that giving of ourselves is the ultimate gift.

  • @paulfaulkner6299
    @paulfaulkner6299 9 месяцев назад +2

    You are a lovely, lovely, insightful and very kind lady Anna. Watching your material has helped me un-mess my messed up head, it really has. Thank you. Even though I think it is too late for me now (6½ years alone and I still just can't be arsed) - at least I understand what I did wrong, why putting up with her faults so long was the wrong thing to do and why I need to love myself first.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      I'm happy this has been helpful to you. Don't forget to share so that others can receive love, healing, and clarity ❤ 🙏

  • @markcampolo577
    @markcampolo577 9 месяцев назад +1

    Hi Anna ! Good to see you again and thank you so much for this video. Your really on the ball and I really admire your knowledge and honesty . I have been divorced for close to five years. My two sons wanted to stay with me which is great. One is graduating high school now and the other not far behind. I have had enough time to examine inside and out about my relationship as I see you have. You are truly a super special individual ! Too bad there isn`t more women like you . God Bless !!

  • @RogerKing-xg4ie
    @RogerKing-xg4ie 3 месяца назад

    Thanks for sharing your life! Mark Twain said, "Simplicity is difficult because it requires absolutely everything." Through your experiences, vast knowledge, and guidance, hearts and lives celebrate your wise simplicity and the good you portray. I'm a pilot and needed a wingmam to help navigate through the turbulence of life to find the clear, calm skies of recovery. Because of you smooth air is ahead. Thanks!!

  • @MickeyC-o6v
    @MickeyC-o6v 9 месяцев назад +1

    Dear Wingmam, you are very brave to share your story with us. I appreciate you for all the sage advice that’s been given today. On a cold note, where is your scarf and gloves?

  • @kenni37
    @kenni37 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you for this.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you so much! 🙏🥰

  • @Citizen-by9vw
    @Citizen-by9vw 9 месяцев назад +1

    Great video, Anna. Thank you. I'm divorced, so this really applied to me.

  • @RobCoghanable
    @RobCoghanable 9 месяцев назад +1

    Watched this a second time realized you are a really good human, brava. My dad called it a degree from the University of Hard Nocks, you have a doctoral degree, strength and grace to you.

  • @charliehyland6292
    @charliehyland6292 9 месяцев назад

    Lost my dad at 13. I was afraid to get married. Met whom I thought was the right person at 40 just six months before the pandemic hit. We have 2 babies and are now divorced. The pain is real.
    This was a great video and I love your content!

  • @KristopherStidd
    @KristopherStidd 9 месяцев назад +8

    Thank you for the video ❤

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Thanks for watching!💞

  • @KenSmith-l3y
    @KenSmith-l3y 9 месяцев назад +3

    Anna, I like your new locations you choose for your videos. It is a nice change to see different background scenery and it shows the extra effort you put into your discussion. Also, thanks for sharing some of your personal life experiences as well. Thanks!! My name is Ken

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      ❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching. I appreciate your feedback!

  • @Mr.Rgdias
    @Mr.Rgdias 9 месяцев назад

    You were pretty jumpy with all that cold and still got through the ordeal. I admire you, Anna.

  • @RobCoghanable
    @RobCoghanable 9 месяцев назад

    Watched you for awhile from the first I assumed you were a mom, with this personal info it explains a lot. First time around you were rushed by nature and nurture ,assumption was your only misstep, 23 is young and invincible, the truth in you is a powerful elixir. Brava, GB, waiting

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Glad you appreciate my candor! Youth and the illusion of invincibility is a misstep indeed. 🙏

  • @hectorricardodelacruzmonte2566
    @hectorricardodelacruzmonte2566 9 месяцев назад +2

    You kept the smile on during the whole video
    Thank you for sharing a lil slice of your Time, AJ
    take care

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Glad you enjoyed it ❤ 🙂

  • @RobertDiederichMDPhD
    @RobertDiederichMDPhD 9 месяцев назад +1

    How refreshing to see a woman with excellent self awareness, despite her lamenting its long time coming.

  • @Sejo088
    @Sejo088 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you Anna, what a great timing. I have a date tomorrow and I am... divorced! 🙂
    Just watched this video and now I am going to sleep on it.
    Then I will watch it again in the morning and probably couple more times during the day.
    She have no chance, poor thing... 😉

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Glad I could help 🙏

  • @ashyzad6237
    @ashyzad6237 9 месяцев назад +1

    Anna, simply, you are the best in business, i have been learning a lot from you, thank you.

  • @daleb5967
    @daleb5967 9 месяцев назад

    Yes anna, we are taught to use successful people snd relationships.......but that is a flaw.........people hide their true relationship flaws and hide failures. The same goes for other aspects of their lives. We need to try to copy success with details and facts behind the success. Not success via luck or generational wealth. Identifying mistakes going forward for self and others as a roadmap is even better imho....because its a detail rich breakdown of facts and outcomes. You are providing a better insight this way.

  • @HorrorAndCoffee
    @HorrorAndCoffee 6 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you. I’ve been separated for 3 years and only now we are getting ready to file. I also feel ready to see what’s out there. Good tips.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  6 месяцев назад

      ❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

  • @johncoffman2703
    @johncoffman2703 9 месяцев назад

    Agree you must do the work. Know what you want, what you need, and where you want to go.

  • @Sol-hl2rj
    @Sol-hl2rj 9 месяцев назад +2

    I can relate, divorced - mostly because of different love language.. I’m like you, but yes with a woman who didn’t like physical touch, or didn’t understand, and later I’ve found there are many of those! Though, still single 😅

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Better single than sorry!

  • @actmyage2149
    @actmyage2149 9 месяцев назад

    Divorced situation: not exactly my issue. The "don't date until" list still has value for a widower, especially points 1,2,4,5. Even 3 has value if it is recast as "what could I have done better." I had been part of a couple with my girlfriend/wife since I was 20. I really never found out what it was like to be a single adult man until after she passed when I was in my 50's. It took time for me to be comfortable being on my own. Some widowers immediately look for the next wife simply because they cannot stand the sensation of not being part of a couple -- big mistake IMHO. Laying yourself open wide on this subject: absolutely special and incredibly heart-warming. I will blame no man who confesses his undying love for you as a result of this video. I get that you're okay being on your own, but if you ever change your mind, some man will count himself very blessed that you did. You are truly rare. Wars have been fought over lessor women than you. Seriously. Praying for you. -- Russ P PS/My granddaughter has a friend over with her 3-month-old puppy, so there is much furry mayhem afoot!

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      I thought about combining divorce and widower but felt each deserved its own spotlight. But yes, there is much overlap when it comes to getting back in the dating game and you’ve done great points about not rushing because of discomfort. I am humbled by your thoughtful compliment, Russ. Enjoy the youthful energy of your visitors and God bless!

  • @davidrodda7427
    @davidrodda7427 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for being so open Anna, about your own situation, this is such a great educational video, as I have gone through a divorce. I have to valuate my own situation and examine myself. Thankyou.

  • @Gb80z
    @Gb80z 8 месяцев назад

    An excellent video Your Wigman. I highly respect your openness and willingness to be vulnerable; not everyone is willing to advise based on what might be perceived as failure(s). Also, I like how you are not lambasting yourself either. Instead, you allude to the objective reality of blind-spots interpersonally and also, you have self-actualized and expressed what you did right as well - an impressive video.

  • @alanfox4914
    @alanfox4914 9 месяцев назад

    It's always nice to have good advice Anna, even when that advice is hard to take.🥰🥰🥰

  • @briandonovan5687
    @briandonovan5687 9 месяцев назад +1

    Your videos have just gotten better n better. Its funny because u said u were an introvert 😮, i dont see that lol. Anyway u gave really solid advise n broke it down Masterfully. I was married 20 yrs n now divorced 17 yrs. I have had a few relationships 2 longer term 3yrs n 5vyrs n a few dates in that time. After my last one ended i swore i wasnt gonna date again untill i cd get it right. Ive been single now several years and have done alot of work. Everything u went overvin this video, i think, was spot on 😊. Great advise if someone will take the time to do the work. I am living my best life now although i dont meet very many women and even less i wd be interested in dating. In the meantime im lovin my life so we will see. Unless you would be interested in having a cup of coffee next time your in Florida 😊. We would have great conversations i bet 😉

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your feedback. I appreciate hearing from you ❤️ 🙏🏼

  • @iddicted
    @iddicted 9 месяцев назад +1

    I respect your honest. Happy to see you are doing great

  • @jtrojan
    @jtrojan 9 месяцев назад +1

    Anna Jorgensen hands out a lot of lists to men to attract and keep a woman. The advice has grown so long that it's hard to keep much of it in mind. I will say that this video provides sensible advice for men in the dating market, divorced or otherwise.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @MrOgynist
    @MrOgynist 9 месяцев назад +3

    Yeah, in the throes of divorce i often felt worthless. My ex had a great capacity for doing that to me.
    Despite some other setbacks happening at the time, I was able to overcome some of that. However, being that a factor in divorce was sexless marriage, I ended up in an LTR with the first girl I got to enjoy. Initially, she pushed all the right buttons but somewhat soon revealed a lot of red flags. I tried to hang on - it lasted not quite 2 years - because I didnt want to fail again. However, my tenacity kept me into a worse relationship and dissolution than my previous 22 year marriage.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Many have been where you are. Live, learn, choose better next time. Search: wingmam red flags

  • @Wallabee63
    @Wallabee63 9 месяцев назад

    One of your best videos, and reassuring that one has done the post-divorce work the right way. Personally, as an introvert, I found that adjusting to being single and alone (not lonely), followed 4 stages. 1st, one deals with it. 2nd, one accepts it/gets used to it. 3rd, one enjoys it. 4th (and potentially the "dangerous" one), one depends on it. I guess that last one comes down to learning to trust again, especially trusting oneself. Why I appreciate the balance and honesty in your videos. Thank you.
    Incidentally, t'was interesting seeing your reaction to how cold Vancouver was last phew daze, and I found myself wondering what day you filmed on 😅

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Glad you appreciated this one. So true about being genuinely ok solo, it’s great but maybe too great. I filmed this one last Monday. Brrr! The wind kept knocking my tripod over!

  • @whbrown1862
    @whbrown1862 3 месяца назад

    You are truly awesome. You have went along with what my therapist has said and have expanded it with wonderful words of wisdom. I really appreciate you and your willingness to help. Thank you. ❤

  • @mypov4343
    @mypov4343 9 месяцев назад +1

    A profound video that everyone should listen to and then listen to again! Thanks for being open Wingmam and sharing some of your history! It takes courage to step out of your comfort zone. I would add that you shouldn't date until you know your own god-given purpose. And then after that only date those that understand their purpose

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Glad you enjoyed it! And great point!

  • @mikestroud9969
    @mikestroud9969 9 месяцев назад +3

    So true Red i got divorced back in 2000. She basically wanted to leave because of money purposes that she obtained from me 😢😢 I learned a big lesson Looking good AJ. Have a nice rest of your day and week. ❤️🥰💯🙏🇺🇲🇺🇲

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Sorry to hear that but glad you learned from it. Enjoy your week! 💞

    • @mikestroud9969
      @mikestroud9969 9 месяцев назад

      @@YourWingmam Thanks ❤️🙏💯

  • @StarWarsRumors
    @StarWarsRumors 9 месяцев назад +1

    The change of scenery really added to the flow of this video. Your outside ones always have a different vibe to them (outside is great), but going inside switched it up in a good way.

  • @richcrozier1108
    @richcrozier1108 7 месяцев назад +1

    I really appreciate your transparency and willingness to share your wisdom and experience! Enjoy the mussels!

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  7 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @tomgrosemusic
    @tomgrosemusic 9 месяцев назад +1

    Looking amazing My Wingmam! I hope to marry soon so I can get divorced and utilize this advice. Rock on Sistah!!

  • @andersmonemar3833
    @andersmonemar3833 9 месяцев назад

    I love the repetition in the video. This is good stuff. Thank you! ❤

  • @rongriffiths3801
    @rongriffiths3801 9 месяцев назад

    Thanks Lovely Wingmam x

  • @johnpaul2285
    @johnpaul2285 9 месяцев назад +2

    Little brisk , brutally honest and totally beautiful video

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +2

      Glad you enjoyed it!

  • @jimwetzel1635
    @jimwetzel1635 9 месяцев назад +1

    As I've commented once or twice before, I don't really belong here, in the sense of being in the logical target audience. I'll be 70 this year and I've been married for 49 years, so I'm not a consumer of relationship / dating advice. My longsuffering wife will be burying me sometime in the next year or twenty, and my relationship, imperfect though it may be, is rather firmly in place. But I really, really enjoy Anna's videos, and can also recommend her autobiographical "Me: a Rewrite." Anna's winsome personality comes through so clearly in these videos. Hope she keeps making them!

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      ❤️ 🙂 Thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts. I appreciate hearing from you 🙏

  • @petewangen-groovedrummer8083
    @petewangen-groovedrummer8083 9 месяцев назад +1

    It's Pete from Minnesota. Your advice is outstanding, I'm still dealing with things. Thanks for sharing your situation, I get it.

  • @magdalenoybarra2793
    @magdalenoybarra2793 9 месяцев назад

    Thanks Anna, soo true. I'm on my 2nd marriage (common law). But thats exactly what is stopping me the past in my wife and the way her mom taught her about discipline ..totally different from what I was taught coming from my old fashion parents. She was taught that she was the man of the house...not good fot our family, at this point i don't know what to do...

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      You need to find common ground and perhaps compromise but it may require a therapist to help do that. Consider therapy as maintenance to keep your relationship running smoothly. The warning light is on.

  • @KennWorth-ke3bm
    @KennWorth-ke3bm 9 месяцев назад +1

    Awesome!!
    My wife past ...
    But it fits ...
    I said I was good on the study ...but I'm still curious on stuff

  • @yorkshireboy3886
    @yorkshireboy3886 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you for your advice, and for being honest. My last relationship ended because I was honest with myself and saw no future with her so I ended it. Sure I fancied her and chemistry was there but like you say, the long term goals were different. I also like physical touch but she never did. It hurt for sure when we split, but I thought of it like ripping off a sticky plaster on your skin. Yeah it hurts for a few seconds but it's over and done with. Sending you some warm cuddles from the (also cold) UK! 🤗
    Take care, and keep warm! 🐈❤

  • @henryhenderson7051
    @henryhenderson7051 9 месяцев назад

    I know I made big mistakes after my first divorce ultimately leading to another. Been over ten years now and I’m still feeling like I have things needing to figure out. What all that is I’m still trying to figure out. It is a whole different world than the one I left behind for married life. I have no clue how to navigate these crazy times. Meeting people today is borderline impossible to creepy. Good luck out there folks. Wish you all the best. Hopefully the real deal.

  • @michaelestrada6957
    @michaelestrada6957 9 месяцев назад +1

    I've been working on "it" for 12 years. I might have to go to summer school. 😎

  • @audioelitist3677
    @audioelitist3677 9 месяцев назад

    Yeah, it's an issue, for sure. I got into dating too soon after divorce because I was trying to fill a void in my life. I ended up doing a lot more (emotional) harm to myself and the women I dated, than I did any good. Lessons at the expense of people. I was in reaction mode, having been devastated by what was easily the most difficult part of my life. You really have to deal with the emotional baggage before you ever open up. I'll contend, some people aren't capable of getting past all of the emotional damage. I may very well be such a person. In retrospect, what I did was to try to plug a hole in my life without considering the emotional ramifications it would have on other human beings. If people are being honest with themselves, I think they'll realize this is the norm, instead of being the exception to the rule.
    This is good. You're asking people to get good in their own heads, where they're thinking clearly, before they venture off. People can't make good decisions when they're reacting instead of being cool, calm and calculating.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Brilliantly stated! I don’t think you give yourself enough credit. Also, awareness is the first step to change.

    • @audioelitist3677
      @audioelitist3677 9 месяцев назад

      @@YourWingmam As always, the warmth of your words finds rest in my heart. I'm quite aware of things, but after nearly two decades, I'm beginning to accept my fate. While I get lonely at times, there's much in my life I have to be thankful for, and it's given me much time for self reflection and learning. I love to learn things. On top of that, I raised all three of my children solo, and while they're grown, they're still a big part of my life. In the big picture, I'm really a very fortunate man to have so much love in my life, even if without a female companion.

  • @x-man5056
    @x-man5056 9 месяцев назад +1

    My parents were married until Dad died, 35+ years. I wouldn't take much marital advise from either of them though. It's not just about staying together forever, it's about "happily" staying together forever. And I'm a 2 time divorce' so I do now know some of what NOT to do at least. I have recognized the similarities between my 2 exes, that's an eye opener, yikes.
    I think I could date right now easily from an emotional standpoint, but I am fine with being solo most of the time too. There are some things I'd like to do that would normally call for a date though. I'm feeling like this should be a dating break out year for me, maybe not an LTR, but some dating 'makeithappening' is overdue. I've not yet had a real date as a senior, but I feel like the rules of the road are mostly the same, maybe a bit slower moving (maybe not?).
    I'll be finding out. I started volunteering at the Senior Center on Fridays a few weeks ago (dinning hall) I now have eyes on many potentials and they see me also. It is true that many of them are too old for me, but I only need one.
    step #1. Be where they are.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Wise words and good for you for putting yourself out there!

  • @garvesh7372
    @garvesh7372 9 месяцев назад

    After Divorce 1. Unload your emotional baggage/ after divorce , you are on ground , just unload. 2. develop new habits but do everything consistently on daily bias. Revisiting new habit and practicing it, helps your brain to shake from typical thought process and restart your thinking first time in the morning. 3. It is wise to seek an expert or online personal therapy.

  • @sherwinwood5430
    @sherwinwood5430 9 месяцев назад +1

    Your content is always top notch. Thank you.

  • @TheMantapLife
    @TheMantapLife 9 месяцев назад +1

    This is insightful❤

  • @jmeyers5094
    @jmeyers5094 9 месяцев назад +1

    A lot of your advice is VERY VERY good! Sorry you are divorced, but a new chapter will begin soon enough!

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

    • @jmeyers5094
      @jmeyers5094 9 месяцев назад

      I watched your videos after my divorce and found them to be refreshing and honest which helped me to move on. While I am sorry that you had to experience divorce, I think that you confronting it helps not only you but many men like me who went through this and we learn that we can not only survive but thrive. I am working on my best version of me and hope you find the happiness that you deserve and want. Best wishes@@YourWingmam

  • @raidersteve7274
    @raidersteve7274 9 месяцев назад

    Cuddle Buddy-Yes please 😉😊❤️🙏

  • @SphiweMotsoene
    @SphiweMotsoene 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you For this, I really needed this.

  • @kevindailey4412
    @kevindailey4412 9 месяцев назад +1

    Hi Anna, Awesome video as usual. You have my luck, I want a corner seat to be left alone and they seat someone right next to me when the whole restaurant is wide open. Thank you for sharing!!!!

  • @tmeyer2022
    @tmeyer2022 9 месяцев назад

    You talk about being an introvert and trying to be an extrovert. I learned many years ago, during psychological testing related to a job, that I am a true introvert. I believe many introverts spend a signiicant portion of the day (if not most of the day) purposly extroverting. As that is and was, I would need to spend a significant amount of time during the off hours in reractory alone or meditative time "recovering". Long ago, I took up fishing because it offered a lot of needed reflective alone time to recharge.

  • @marvthedog1972
    @marvthedog1972 9 месяцев назад

    yeah my love language is physical touch, just like yours anna. I need that hug, hand holding and sitting close beside my lady. the rest of the physical stuff is great too. The other two of mine, Quality time and words of affirmation

  • @JeffreySch
    @JeffreySch 8 месяцев назад

    Hi Anna I’ve been devoted for a long time and I heard you talk about divorce and you sure do love 💕 your job I can tell ❤

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  8 месяцев назад

      Best compliment, thank you for noticing! 💞

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  8 месяцев назад

      And for sticking around!! 🙏

  • @deksper
    @deksper 2 месяца назад

    I love those slots where Anna has those faux-crazy serious explanations. You're great at 'lightening it up' Anna.

  • @regeneratelifeacres6348
    @regeneratelifeacres6348 9 месяцев назад +2

    It's hard to imagine you are an introvert. You are full of information and present it in a funny and interesting manner.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      ❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +2

      Thanks! *Generally,* Introverts need a lot more time alone to recharge their energy, whereas extroverts recharge by being around people. Both can be confident, funny, interesting. :)

  • @redrabbit5664
    @redrabbit5664 9 месяцев назад +10

    You're looking good Anna👌

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Thank you! I hope you enjoyed the video and learned something of value even if it doesn’t seem to apply directly to you. 🤞😊

    • @redrabbit5664
      @redrabbit5664 9 месяцев назад

      @@YourWingmam I did. Especially the part about not being able to "fix" anybody else. Men are notorious for trying to do that lol.

  • @patrickcruess7230
    @patrickcruess7230 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you for this!

  • @jasonmarton1448
    @jasonmarton1448 9 месяцев назад +1

    You’re a sweet, attractive and intelligent woman! I hope you find someone to share your life with and especially to have the physical relationship you desire! Warm regards

  • @kirtisoma3211
    @kirtisoma3211 8 месяцев назад +1

    😢😢 I some how have convinced myself that I am better off being single , lived together for ten years & married for two , two years of trauma and toxicity. I wonder will I ever be able to trust another man again . I have not yet signed papers as yet so I guess maybe things will get better once I have closure.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  8 месяцев назад

      I hope he reaches the point of truly doing what is best 🙏🏼

  • @deksper
    @deksper 2 месяца назад

    With all of the crap that Anna had gone through, her hard work has paid off with a bitterness-free outlook on her future potential.

  • @dennisfillhart88
    @dennisfillhart88 9 месяцев назад

    Hi, Anna. Sorry to hear of your unsettling life so far. I'm 77 and my marriage ended in divorce after 43 years. She was an only child and found the daddy figure she always wanted and left me for the man who was 10 years older than me. (She married him and he has since passed away.) I saw it coming so I was ready for the end but it still hurt after 43 years of being married. The divorce was 9 years ago. I waited to date for 3 years and it felt right to go out and explore. There is no one out there around my age, (They hide in their homes and watch nothing but bad news.) unless I go to the senior center or churches. Not my area of interest. So I have after several years resigned myself to not be able to just date. I have no interest in marriage as I have been too long alone and set in my "old" ways. 😁 I hope everything turns out well for you in your life. By the way, I have enjoyed watching your videos. Take care.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Perhaps take a different approach, look for friendship or companionship. Bumble is good for that. Set it to friendship, whatever age range suits you (no limits), and the women who are looking for that and interested will find you. This can provide connection without romantic pressure.

    • @dennisfillhart88
      @dennisfillhart88 9 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your reply but I have tried everything. Even (yuck) online dating sites. Even though I'm alone & lonely (not depressed), I have many activities at home and out and about that keep me active & occupied, so I'm OK. Keep up the great work.@@YourWingmam

  • @Nebulas001dh
    @Nebulas001dh 9 месяцев назад

    Thank you Anna. I was trying to work out what to get my wife for our 10yr anniversary and it seems her 2024 New Years resolution was to get a divorce. I've found your video's helpful while I do my own internalizing and coping. Have Sub'd and liked your vid's.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Just seeing this now for some reason... Glad my videos have helped during this challenging time! It will get better. You got this!

  • @daveogarf
    @daveogarf 9 месяцев назад

    Anna, you look exceptionally gorgeous today! As always, your advice and information are greatly appreciated. (I'm divorced, too. No stigma, no judgment, and I think I learned SOMEthing from all the hassle).
    (I missed kitty this time... 😢)

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Thank you and learning is good! Kitty is in there, check again! 😻

  • @2mcarp
    @2mcarp 9 месяцев назад

    I agree that we can learn from people who made mistakes. Probably learn more from them. I'm open to all advice, especially from divorced women.

  • @raidersteve7274
    @raidersteve7274 9 месяцев назад +1

    Your a Success Anna !!❤️🙏😉😊

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      ❤️ 🙂 Thank you!

  • @commerce-usa
    @commerce-usa 9 месяцев назад

    More often than not, successful people have had spectacular failures in their past. Learning from those experiences and the experiences of others made them successful. God bless you too Anna for working to make relationships better.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Great point! And thank you! 🙏

  • @chrismais
    @chrismais 9 месяцев назад

    I love this particular video. It's relatable and down to earth and gives a peek into the vulnerability and experiences of the host.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Glad you appreciated it! 🙏

  • @bretteidem6248
    @bretteidem6248 9 месяцев назад

    Thanks for this! I’m headed into my second divorce at age 40. I met my current wife shortly after my first divorce. When we married I was 35 and she was 21. Big mistake! I jumped into something knowing there were red flags. I was simply trying to fill a void of loneliness from my first divorce.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      So common, live and learn. Glad you found value in this video! Give yourself grace.

  • @dh2006dh
    @dh2006dh 9 месяцев назад +1

    I do like the use of the word actionable on your part.

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      Thank you for your feedback, I appreciate hearing from you ❤️

  • @matthewmurphy3273
    @matthewmurphy3273 9 месяцев назад +1

    Thank you Anna

  • @ec173
    @ec173 9 месяцев назад +1

    don't feel bad, lady :) you make good videos! thank you for trying to honestly explain women

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад +1

      Glad to hear that, thank you for your response!

  • @WangChung69
    @WangChung69 9 месяцев назад

    Once again, awesome intuitive advice.
    Your wisdom and logical approach to everyday “love & life” makes so much sense to all my failures. 👍

    • @YourWingmam
      @YourWingmam  9 месяцев назад

      All your…*practice attempts 😊 Glad you enjoyed it!