Please let me clarify 😅. 1. When I said, "I hope the government would do something," I am talking about the economy. I hope the government would find ways to strengthen the economy and create more jobs. So people, especially married couples, won't have to live separately. 2. I DON'T advocate for divorce! I mentioned, "they're pushing for divorce in the Philippines." I'm just stating a fact. I personally think it's not the solution. I will try to make a separate video talking about why there's a push for divorce in the Philippines. 3. With regards to the report from the National Commission on the Role of Filipino Women: 36% of married men and 2% of married women engaged in extramarital affairs in 2009. That data does NOT account for single men and women who engaged in these affairs. The survey was taken from married couples only. It looks like most of these married men had extramarital affairs with single women. I hope that clarifies the numbers. Hope that helps! Thanks for all the feedback! It's much appreciated!
The Government : Never ever expect the Govt of The Philipines voted into power by Filipinos will never solve , fix , legislate or do anything to help the plight , the living conditions or the poverty of the vast Filipino masses .Thats fairy land stuff. You may as well beleive in the Easter bunny , Santa and the tooth fairy . Purely and simply the Govt of the Philipines who are elected by Filipino voters who vote for The President , Senators and Congressmen are only there to aid themselves .I'm leaving out much more direct language .The point i make is that Filipinos can't and wont change the Government because serious economic and political changes are impossible because all the politicians wont make changes that decrease or stop their own families getting wealthy.There is no reform or serious changes going to happen under any circumstances in the country .Forget it .
Many Filipinas i mean millions are stuck in a loveless marraige or alone at home with children .Many Filipino males have left the legal wife and live and have children with their girlfreind . To give the legal wife a chance of a free life to choose a new man if possible and start a new life with better options in life there has to be divorce or greater legal access to annullment. The original legal wife just cant be punished for the rest of her life alone and single . The country needs to modernise like avdanced countries do .However everyone knows who prevents legal modern divorce and contraception like rich countries have .Women need equal rights like advanced countries do not kept in old world chains .
You are clearly the best communicator of all the Filipina vloggers I follow and I follow a lot. Intelligent, articulate, serious, and you master the English language. I'm a big fan!
there is nothing more enlightening than listening to an honest or straight-shooting person about a particular topic that seems to be convoluted in other areas. I appreciate your sincerity.
@@jamesh1446 You want statistical facts? 97% of marriages in the Philippines in 2022 were between locals and 3% to Foreigners. She didn't mention this because it contradicts her statements.
@@robocop581according to what? Citation? Even the best filipinas seek foreigners. I helped one of great integrity and a rack to pray for meet a decent american last year.
No kids, 38d bra size, professional real estate skills, Christian, family values.... That woman was gold but my number two. I let her go by saying I could not pursue a relationship with her anymore as my health changed. I was kinda honest at the time but my number one wanted me back.
God gave her to a nice man. I don't think as physically impressive as me but he had skills and adored her. He treated her right and she was happy. My happy loss and maybe I evaded a bit of divine judgement.
@@damncars2618 even in church, filipina doesn't honor God. They are rebellious and stubborn. To a certain extent, I understand it. Because pinoys are dead beat wantabe play boys, and the filipina have to step up. One of my friends, who retired from Lockheed, owns a big house, all that stuff, his wife, has cancer and diabetes still wants to work. It really pisses my friend off. She doesn't have to work and he wants to spend more time with her, but she comes home tired. Stubborn.
I've never cheated and never will even though I've been cheated on many times in the USA. All i want is one good, special, God fearing, loving, respectful, 100% committed woman that wants to be married, knows what marriage is, and will honor the vows taken. 💯
Having had a number of relationships here in the USA, I can say one of the most disheartening experiences for us men, is coming to the realization that no matter what you do for your American woman, what you provide for her, it will never be enough. On the other hand, many Western men are finding, to their good fortune, that good Filipinas in the Philippines are very appreciative, loyal, and yes...happy, if you love them, respect them and provide a reasonably comfortable life for them. It's a win/win!!
They are not all short... - there is also a lot of mix girls that can be considered tall. I live here and i meet plenty of girls over 5'6 (true there is many more under)@@andre1987eph
My opinion we all know the Filipina marries The Foreigner because the phone I can give her a better quality of life and what he can provide for her and her family and this is why the Filipino gets with the Foreigner I don't believe she really loves the Foreigner the way she should it's all about what he can provide for her because if it wasn't about the finances and what he can provide for her she would stick with her own kind and that's basically what it is it's not about No Love is what the Foreigner can provide
You make some really good points (probably a few videos worth! 🤣). What you say is really accurate from my own observations and experiences. I find there can often be issues around "expectations", in a Filipina and Foreigner relationship, where "all foreigners are rich". You spoke about Filipino men and how they basically go on a charm offensive, to woo the Filipina, before ultimately getting what they wanted and then it all comes crashing down. I think, in part, because of this, there is an expectation on the foreigner to do the same and Filipinas are then forever chasing the "kilig-kilig". It seems to come as a shock to them when you tell them that the vacation in Boracay was just a once a year thing and you won't be sending her flowers every week and buying gold jewellery etc.. There's nothing wrong at all with being romantic. In fact, western men could pick up a trick or 2, BUT, it is important to be authentic and not to portray ourselves as providing a fantasy lifestyle. There are also expectations on the Filipina to be a positive contributor to the relationship. You can be a good provider, without paying someone to be with you. For most Filipinas, a western income (pension or not) is already going to afford her better opportunities in life. It's important that she also realises you also have other options and won't settle for someone that's in it for just the money and gifts.
RUclips kept showing this video (possibly because recently I was there for a month), so I eventually watched it. 🙂 One interesting observation of mine is actually that what you described as the good quality of Filipino men is, as far as I can see, widely recognized as a quite toxic behavior in the West: Extreme courting which consists of playing/faking someone else than who they truly are, just to "get the girl", after which it will invariably turn out that actually they're a quite different person to live with. I think the majority of mature people in my culture realize that if they meet a man who is strongly flirty and grandiose, then that man is probably doing the same to other girls as well, and they generally have serious (narcissistic) personality issues that are incompatible with a stable long-term relationship. And the values women (who are mature and desire a serious relationship) are looking for is more along the lines of true honest communication, real talk about important things, building trust, respect and affection through repeated mutual gestures, being able to talk through problems and solve conflicts constructively, having similar core values and goals in life, etc. At least I hope that I'm not being too idealistic. Also, possibly not everything translates between the two cultures. But, generally speaking, there are a lot of dysfunctional people in the west these days, from all genders. That's also a large part why some Western men are looking for a Filipino partner - because typically they have more stable values and more predictable life goals.
First time viewing your vlog and very impressed. You have a very high level of insight and a thorough thought process. You also left me shaking my head at how well you speak English. Thanks for explaining the many dynamics of relationships in the Philippines. Very eye opening.
A SUPERB ( clear, articulate, well researched ) case study on the Filipino dating scene and culture... So necessary for us Passport Bros coming from the West.. Your piece was believable, and fast paced, which kept it interesting.
Aloha from Hawaii and Happy New Year! Thank you for this very informative video and I will subscribe to your channel for good information. I hope to find my future Filipina wife in the Philippines.
What an excellent topic and a real eye opener . As a western man looking for a Filipina I have already come across everything you have said and because of what has happened to the Filipina looking for a western they have a lot of trust issues and it doesn’t make easy for us .Thank you for your vlogs very informative.
A brilliant video. This would be the best video I have watched. Thank you very much. I have like and also subscribed. I am really looking fore ward to watching more of your videos. I wish you all the very best and please take care.
I'm watching you for the first time and certainly not the last. I loved this video and appreciated the content. The insights you are providing will facilitate my success in the Philippines as I pursue the Filipina of my dreams. You are very articulate and I'm sure your presentations will only get better over time. Good luck to you and your channel....
Rising Trend? Well, you're right, it's been happening for decades, specifically since the end of WWII. The strange trend is a lot of Filipinas leaving America for an easier life in the Philippines.
You're welcome! As a foreigner that's looking to marry a Filipina I value your insights. People like me benefit from your honest perspective. Keep up the great work!
Don’t be a gold digger. Not every foreigner has oodles of money. Their thousand dollars may seem a lot but not when you expect your entire family to live on it as well. The only thing worse than a gold digger is someone who’s out to swindle an old person of his life savings.
@@mochapoundcake haven't been around much, have you ? I've been associating with filipina since 1989. Watched a lot of these mixed marriages, been to the Filipino community centers. How much worse because of the cell phone and all the activity going on with it. It's a nightmare.
I'm a first time listener and enjoyed your video. I've decided to subscribe for to your channel. Have an amazing New Year, take care and God bless you 🙏 😊
Thank you for your insights, ma'am. Ako ay asawa ni pinay, we met when we were 34 and 31, and she never would have given me a chance if her previous bf (Filipino) hadn't cheated on her. We celebrated our 22nd anniversary last month.
Not a rising trend. Only becomes more common because of social media. It's not a novelty anymore either. The trend will change soon when foreign guys start to dump their filipina wife because they are a money pit and sick of her family and the crisis and drama. That's the next wave.
But there's a lot of video of Filipinas getting interviewed about why they like foreigners. Their answers are that they like to have a white baby with blue eyes and better opportunities because they have the chance to go abroad.
The answer is simple: opportunity. There are so many foreigners who want to marry Filipinas. Filipinas are in high demand globally. They are much more desirable than western women.
I would say it is more due to high level of delusion in dating western women have. They ant the top from the top of the top, while offering nothing in return.
Hi watching your video here in Florida USA. I think you nailed it! Keep telling the truth! Introduce our culture, so the foreigners that are interested ito marry a filipina will be informed. Keep up your good work
Excellent video ma'am. As an American who has been married to a Filipina for 28 years, I can confirm your talking points. You are very articulate and a pleasure to listen to. I need to watch some of your other videos. Take care and have a wonderful day.
I watch several filipina vloggers that interview on the street. A little less than 50% want to marry a western man. Out of that 50, less than 50% want to live in the west. They don't want to leave their family in the Philippines.
Im really enjoying your channel, I plan to retire to PH in a few years ideally near Cebu, I have a friend who will help me acclimate, I've seen quite a few young single moms so it seems like guys like to hit it and quit it Looking forward to more content
Single mothers is a problem across the world not just the Philippines. Sadly from observation and research that many filipino men do not appreciate and or respect filipino women in Philippines.
Filipina ladies are no different than any other women when it comes to aspiring to having a better lifestyle for themselves. without finance,there is no romance and when bills come in the door,love flies out the window.
There is a BIG difference between American and Filipinas when it comes to money. Especially when it comes to a man’s pensions. My ex-wife told my lawyer and the judge that MY pension was hers lol 😂 so help me GOD. I worked 35 years and she was married to me for 20 of those years and when the judge told her she could only get a percentage of the 20 years we were married and not a percentage of the 35 years. My pension is almost $4,000 a month and she told the judge she would give me $400.00 a month from MY Pension. lol 😂 the judge laughed and asked her if she was serious. Unfortunately she was. The judge gave her the amount that the chart said she was entitled to. Her lawyer actually quit her before the court date because she wanted ALL OF MY PENSION. She then tried to claim I had over seas hidden accounts and actually convinced her lawyer of this before she quit. Once the lawyer tried to explain to her that she investigated that claim and there was no merit to it; my ex had such a melt down in her office that the lawyer said “enough” and told her to find another lawyer because I was being more then fair in the divorce and she was being way beyond unreasonable. Now a Filipina will tell you it’s YOUR MONEY and YOU worked for it. Not American woman they act like what is your is theirs, and what is theirs is theirs. American woman are selfish, greedy and most are narcissistic. Filipinas are loyal and not materialistic or high maintenance unlike the American woman.
@Conservative Filipina - I have noticed philipina woman doing the same thing as their men. to foreign men this can be just as difficult to deal with as it is for you to deal with your own men.
It is all a matter of social security, hence the old Western guy is needy for sex and attention he can't find in his country, he feels he is expired, and the Filipina is in search of social security. These two parties close a transaction that they call "falling in love". Meaning they love the deal they make for themselves.
I am glad I found this video. Thank you very much for your insight. I am married to a Filipina and I pray for her a lot because there is so much temptation to sin and I can see the traditional values slipping away from Filipina culture the further the Catholic Church strays away from God. It will say that it is not a bad mindset to encourage a wife to stay strong in a relationship where her partner is cheating. It sounds like you read the Bible. You know Paul teaches this. A wife’s husband’s unbelief and iniquity does not give any wife the right to abandon her service to her husband. She glorifies God when she continue doing the right thing, even if she suffers. There is a greater plan than our own happiness and contentment in this life. Prayer and adherence to God’s commandments. Nothing gives us the right to forgo those, no matter how much someone we love hurts us. If we want a relationship with God, then we forgive them and pray for them, as Christ commands. God bless you sister, keep doing what you do.
Hello. Conservative Filipina also here. All the guys I dated (and am getting engaged to) are all foreigners (American men specifically). Here are my reasons: 1. I am attracted to Western features 2. Economic security. I want a breadwinner. 3. I just get along with them more than Filipino men. I have a lot of issues with Filipino men (e.g. jealousy, possessiveness, not enough money).
Most Filipinas that I've met don't care about height. I'm a very short dude and I've been well received by Filipinas everywhere. Keep yourself fit, clean (bathe, haircut and fresh breath) and dress nice (not in cargo shorts and old t-shirts).. It's a pretty easy recipe.
Fillipino men and women remind me alot of mexican people , lol But agreed most women regardless of what country you are in will prefer a man who can provide security
To have a better life and have good looking children so they can compete in the beauty pageant or become a movie star in the Philippines.This is what I heard to some pinays they want their kids to become Miss Universe.Most filipinas married for financial reason but don’t depend too much on your husband specially if he’s not well off and he’s old
Wonderful insight... however.. I'm very reluctant to call this a "Trend" ...men ..who move with a purpose are doing out of necessity...and understand who and what they want. I've always been attracted to women of a softer and gracious culture.. regardless of nationality... Now that I'm able to start again.. that's what I'm going to get.
We appreciate you sharing another insight into the Philippines' cultural biases, especially on the great degree of infidelity that has enveloped that nation. With many foreigners marrying Filipinas, I wonder if they don't fear that they may later lose their Philippine spouses based on the ingrained (although not favored) desire to stray since it is an observed acceptable practice within some family structures.
@@horacesubayar794 we don´t hide so much anymore - due to the empowerment of women who dont stay silent like in the past and social media. In the "good old times" men were ok to stray in our society, women? unthinkable - also they didn't have really a choice since they depended on the "breadwinner". This is not the case anymore.
I like your commentary. No matter where you go on the planet, the men who are in a position to have options tend explore them. It's unfortunate that due to the economics of the Philippines that so many wonderful women get abandoned. I think think it's important for families to help vet partners, given they are truly looking out for the good of the daughter.
Kasi usually pag foreigners may pera at willing magbigay ng sustento sa buong pamilya ng babae ( andyan yung magulang, kapatid, pinsan, tito, tita, lolo, lola at kung sino sino pang kamag anak). wag tayo magkapa impokrito dito. yun lang yun.
Very good explanation of Filipina women and men I really liked your view my son in law is Filipino and takes care of my Daughter well I want a Filipina women before I get to old. Great video
Thank you so much for your enlightening information. I am American going to meet my new Filipina girlfriend for the first time at the end of this month (Jan.'24) after video chatting at least six times a day with her for 4 months. I have been through a few bouts of tampo with her due to her trust issues. I did all the right things, canceling subscriptions to dating sites and not talking to anyone else other than her. I was scared that I would lose her but I did not give up because I know that she is the the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with and I believe that she feels the same way about me. Fortunately, I think I have finally gained her trust in the last month or so. Still, our conversations after the initial week or two of chatting have become very deep, very personal and very rewarding. She is truly my dream woman who has shown me that she wants to be dedicated to her man as I want to be to her. I cannot believe that I found someone so comptable at my stage of life who who has a great sense of humor while also being able to discuss anything and everything.......we have so much fun and laughter while chatting! BTW, for foreigners who may not be familiar with the term "tampo" it is a bad mood that Filipinas tend to get into and you just have to be calm, patient and understanding with them while trying to let the mood pass without arguing with them....too much! LOL
Tampo is not limited to women. Anyone can feel tampo and it’s not necessarily exclusive to romantic relationships. Get her what she likes, eg, chocolate, to melt the tampo away and get her to talk about her feelings. Hopefully, issue gets resolved soon.
think there are differnt reasons, one would live abroad to know other cultures, other want be in a counry without typhoones, other want find a good job abroad to support the family, some ot them felt in love with their penpal etc.......
kasi feeling nila secure sila sa afam tapos afam lng nkaka appreciate ng beauty ng mga Pinay kesa nmn sa pinoy maganda at sexy lng gusto malaki boobs at pwet maputi coca cola body. Gusto mala Ivana, gusto ng high maintenance na babae tapos wla nmn ka pera2 minimum wage earner lng, tapos lasinggero pa, abusive pa, nagsusugal pa at babaero pa. Aasa pa kayo ng ganyang babae matulog kayo oi Jusmeyyooo
Hi Conservative I think you are so beautiful thanks for the info about the Philippines 👍 I dreaming to visit the Philippines I was born in the Caribbean but live in US
I keep telling people the same thing about wealth. Women everywhere prefer a man with money. It is just that in rich countries you need more money to impress the girl.
As an American when I see a man with a Filipino woman I just figured that dudes had enough and he did it right. I mean Pilipino women are just as attractive as western women except they're not ruined yet, mean they're loyalty still intact. These dudes just want to enjoy they're lives have a good women who's the CEO of his house who can take care of it and he just wants to grow old and enjoy his grandkids. More and more broken family will never see that. Why? 50% of all marriages end in divorce. OF THAT 50% of them 80% of all divorces are filed by the woman, they think the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
Just discovered your channel and I like your English speaking ability, also the way that you present your arguments and deliver your topic. I am very surprised by your statement that "it is not easy for Filipinas to find love ", why is that? I am looking for an intelligent, educated Filipina without any children ( had bad experience with women with children,so want my own ) ,but is happy to have a child(ren) with me . You wanted to say " in a state of limbo " ( not knowing what is happening next ) I like your frank ,open honesty about your culture and your people. I have always liked Filipina, although I got scammed when I joined Filipino Cupid and was too kind and stupid . I was shocked and a bit too trustworthy, but I am not giving up on finding my dream Filipina 😊 Pursuing a woman is called courting. Singing to a woman is called serenading. Getting pregnant is called getting knocked up . Do you think that I will find a Filipina of my dreams ? Can you help ?😊
You have to choose educated and mature woman.. don't be trapped with the ladies in the internet! they are lazy and and most of them are not educated ! so many single woman works as teacher, bank teller ,nurses and etc. with the difficulty to find a man maybe they are afraid to gamble of the irresponsible husband which is very common here in Philippines. . The wife end up as provider to the children after abandoned by the husband thats why so many filipino women working overseas.
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Please let me clarify 😅.
1. When I said, "I hope the government would do something," I am talking about the economy. I hope the government would find ways to strengthen the economy and create more jobs. So people, especially married couples, won't have to live separately.
2. I DON'T advocate for divorce!
I mentioned, "they're pushing for divorce in the Philippines." I'm just stating a fact. I personally think it's not the solution. I will try to make a separate video talking about why there's a push for divorce in the Philippines.
3. With regards to the report from the National Commission on the Role of Filipino Women: 36% of married men and 2% of married women engaged in extramarital affairs in 2009. That data does NOT account for single men and women who engaged in these affairs. The survey was taken from married couples only. It looks like most of these married men had extramarital affairs with single women. I hope that clarifies the numbers.
Hope that helps! Thanks for all the feedback! It's much appreciated!
Governments only care about themselves. Politicians who make it only make it because they're greedy self centred sociopaths
The best thing any government can do for an economy is to stay out of it.
America people doesn’t realize how bless they are . Women don’t care it they are 4foot tall 300 lbs , no hair .missing teeth as long they draw a check
The Government : Never ever expect the Govt of The Philipines voted into power by Filipinos will never solve , fix , legislate or do anything to help the plight , the living conditions or the poverty of the vast Filipino masses .Thats fairy land stuff. You may as well beleive in the Easter bunny , Santa and the tooth fairy . Purely and simply the Govt of the Philipines who are elected by Filipino voters who vote for The President , Senators and Congressmen are only there to aid themselves .I'm leaving out much more direct language .The point i make is that Filipinos can't and wont change the Government because serious economic and political changes are impossible because all the politicians wont make changes that decrease or stop their own families getting wealthy.There is no reform or serious changes going to happen under any circumstances in the country .Forget it .
Many Filipinas i mean millions are stuck in a loveless marraige or alone at home with children .Many Filipino males have left the legal wife and live and have children with their girlfreind . To give the legal wife a chance of a free life to choose a new man if possible and start a new life with better options in life there has to be divorce or greater legal access to annullment. The original legal wife just cant be punished for the rest of her life alone and single . The country needs to modernise like avdanced countries do .However everyone knows who prevents legal modern divorce and contraception like rich countries have .Women need equal rights like advanced countries do not kept in old world chains .
You are clearly the best communicator of all the Filipina vloggers I follow and I follow a lot. Intelligent, articulate, serious, and you master the English language. I'm a big fan!
Wow, thank you! I appreciate the kind words!
Well said! I was thinking the same thing. She is very refreshing to watch.💖
More so than Filipina Pea? 😊
there is nothing more enlightening than listening to an honest or straight-shooting person about a particular topic that seems to be convoluted in other areas. I appreciate your sincerity.
I agree. I enjoy her as well. She's got historical facts, statistical data, as well as personal experience. Very easy to follow her knowledge.
@@jamesh1446 You want statistical facts? 97% of marriages in the Philippines in 2022 were between locals and 3% to Foreigners. She didn't mention this because it contradicts her statements.
@@robocop581according to what? Citation? Even the best filipinas seek foreigners. I helped one of great integrity and a rack to pray for meet a decent american last year.
No kids, 38d bra size, professional real estate skills, Christian, family values.... That woman was gold but my number two. I let her go by saying I could not pursue a relationship with her anymore as my health changed. I was kinda honest at the time but my number one wanted me back.
God gave her to a nice man. I don't think as physically impressive as me but he had skills and adored her. He treated her right and she was happy. My happy loss and maybe I evaded a bit of divine judgement.
I worked hard my entire life but there's no companion for me in the USA. Happy retired life in the Philippines. Thank God for my Filipina.
But filipina don't honor God. That's the problem.
@@damncars2618 even in church, filipina doesn't honor God.
They are rebellious and stubborn. To a certain extent, I understand it. Because pinoys are dead beat wantabe play boys, and the filipina have to step up.
One of my friends, who retired from Lockheed, owns a big house, all that stuff, his wife, has cancer and diabetes still wants to work. It really pisses my friend off. She doesn't have to work and he wants to spend more time with her, but she comes home tired.
Stubborn.
@@jesse75 lolwut?
I've never cheated and never will even though I've been cheated on many times in the USA. All i want is one good, special, God fearing, loving, respectful, 100% committed woman that wants to be married, knows what marriage is, and will honor the vows taken. 💯
Having had a number of relationships here in the USA, I can say one of the most disheartening experiences for us men, is coming to the realization that no matter what you do for your American woman, what you provide for her, it will never be enough. On the other hand, many Western men are finding, to their good fortune, that good Filipinas in the Philippines are very appreciative, loyal, and yes...happy, if you love them, respect them and provide a reasonably comfortable life for them. It's a win/win!!
Yeah but what if you don't like short women?
@@andre1987eph Sounds like a 'you' problem.
It’s your only hope
They are not all short... - there is also a lot of mix girls that can be considered tall. I live here and i meet plenty of girls over 5'6 (true there is many more under)@@andre1987eph
My opinion we all know the Filipina marries The Foreigner because the phone I can give her a better quality of life and what he can provide for her and her family and this is why the Filipino gets with the Foreigner I don't believe she really loves the Foreigner the way she should it's all about what he can provide for her because if it wasn't about the finances and what he can provide for her she would stick with her own kind and that's basically what it is it's not about No Love is what the Foreigner can provide
You make some really good points (probably a few videos worth! 🤣). What you say is really accurate from my own observations and experiences. I find there can often be issues around "expectations", in a Filipina and Foreigner relationship, where "all foreigners are rich". You spoke about Filipino men and how they basically go on a charm offensive, to woo the Filipina, before ultimately getting what they wanted and then it all comes crashing down. I think, in part, because of this, there is an expectation on the foreigner to do the same and Filipinas are then forever chasing the "kilig-kilig". It seems to come as a shock to them when you tell them that the vacation in Boracay was just a once a year thing and you won't be sending her flowers every week and buying gold jewellery etc..
There's nothing wrong at all with being romantic. In fact, western men could pick up a trick or 2, BUT, it is important to be authentic and not to portray ourselves as providing a fantasy lifestyle. There are also expectations on the Filipina to be a positive contributor to the relationship. You can be a good provider, without paying someone to be with you. For most Filipinas, a western income (pension or not) is already going to afford her better opportunities in life. It's important that she also realises you also have other options and won't settle for someone that's in it for just the money and gifts.
RUclips kept showing this video (possibly because recently I was there for a month), so I eventually watched it. 🙂 One interesting observation of mine is actually that what you described as the good quality of Filipino men is, as far as I can see, widely recognized as a quite toxic behavior in the West: Extreme courting which consists of playing/faking someone else than who they truly are, just to "get the girl", after which it will invariably turn out that actually they're a quite different person to live with. I think the majority of mature people in my culture realize that if they meet a man who is strongly flirty and grandiose, then that man is probably doing the same to other girls as well, and they generally have serious (narcissistic) personality issues that are incompatible with a stable long-term relationship. And the values women (who are mature and desire a serious relationship) are looking for is more along the lines of true honest communication, real talk about important things, building trust, respect and affection through repeated mutual gestures, being able to talk through problems and solve conflicts constructively, having similar core values and goals in life, etc. At least I hope that I'm not being too idealistic. Also, possibly not everything translates between the two cultures.
But, generally speaking, there are a lot of dysfunctional people in the west these days, from all genders. That's also a large part why some Western men are looking for a Filipino partner - because typically they have more stable values and more predictable life goals.
I just found your channel by accident and absolutely love it. Thank you so much.
Thank you!
Because foreigners can offer filipinas stability and filipinas can offer traditional wife role.
First time viewing your vlog and very impressed. You have a very high level of insight and a thorough thought process.
You also left me shaking my head at how well you speak English.
Thanks for explaining the many dynamics of relationships in the Philippines. Very eye opening.
A SUPERB ( clear, articulate, well researched ) case study on the Filipino dating scene and culture...
So necessary for us Passport Bros coming from the West..
Your piece was believable, and fast paced, which kept it interesting.
Glad it was helpful! Thanks for watching!
Just found your channel, very enjoyable and enlightening. A cut above the usual vloggers, bravo!
Much appreciated!
Aloha from Hawaii and Happy New Year! Thank you for this very informative video and I will subscribe to your channel for good information. I hope to find my future Filipina wife in the Philippines.
What an excellent topic and a real eye opener . As a western man looking for a Filipina I have already come across everything you have said and because of what has happened to the Filipina looking for a western they have a lot of trust issues and it doesn’t make easy for us .Thank you for your vlogs very informative.
Thanks for watching! I appreciate the comments!
You're right, the ones I've interacted with do have trust issues.
You're right, the ones I've interacted with do have trust issues.
What an awesome and informative video… thank you for your excellent work 😊
A brilliant video. This would be the best video I have watched. Thank you very much.
I have like and also subscribed.
I am really looking fore ward to watching more of your videos.
I wish you all the very best and please take care.
Thank you for your kind words and for your support! I appreciate it very much! Wishing you and your family the best!
I'm glad I found your channel. You really give valuable information. First video of yours that I've seen and I'm already a fan.
Awesome! Thank you!
You are an amazing person.. I will sit and listen to your comments, you are so articulate ..explaining things so clearly, it's well understood...
Wow, thank you!
You are a very sensible and honest person. Thanks for the very candid video.
I appreciate that!
Great video! You seem to know what you're talking about and overall, your sincerity shines!
I appreciate that!
I'm watching you for the first time and certainly not the last. I loved this video and appreciated the content. The insights you are providing will facilitate my success in the Philippines as I pursue the Filipina of my dreams. You are very articulate and I'm sure your presentations will only get better over time. Good luck to you and your channel....
I agree.
Thank you clearing up a lot of questions. Lord bless you
Rising Trend? Well, you're right, it's been happening for decades, specifically since the end of WWII. The strange trend is a lot of Filipinas leaving America for an easier life in the Philippines.
i enjoyed your chat very much thank you from Florida USA
Thanks for watching!
Thank you for explaining. And your very kind and special ❤
I truly enjoy your discussions and easy-going delivery.
I appreciate that!
You're welcome! As a foreigner that's looking to marry a Filipina I value your insights. People like me benefit from your honest perspective. Keep up the great work!
Don’t be a gold digger. Not every foreigner has oodles of money. Their thousand dollars may seem a lot but not when you expect your entire family to live on it as well. The only thing worse than a gold digger is someone who’s out to swindle an old person of his life savings.
You just said what most filipina do.
@@jesse75 Most? Nah.
@@mochapoundcake haven't been around much, have you ? I've been associating with filipina since 1989. Watched a lot of these mixed marriages, been to the Filipino community centers.
How much worse because of the cell phone and all the activity going on with it.
It's a nightmare.
@@jesse75 You must be like a stinky piece of crap that likes to attract society’s flies. Too bad for you. Sashay away! Go to Vietnam or Thailand.
I'm a first time listener and enjoyed your video. I've decided to subscribe for to your channel. Have an amazing New Year, take care and God bless you 🙏 😊
Thank you! I appreciate the support. Happy New Year to you and your family! God bless you too!
Very well articulated explanations. Good job.
Glad it was helpful!
First time viewer, very impressed with your views. All the best sister.✌️
Thank you for your insights, ma'am. Ako ay asawa ni pinay, we met when we were 34 and 31, and she never would have given me a chance if her previous bf (Filipino) hadn't cheated on her. We celebrated our 22nd anniversary last month.
This lady is giving you a right royal education. Great, honest vid.
Not a rising trend. Only becomes more common because of social media.
It's not a novelty anymore either.
The trend will change soon when foreign guys start to dump their filipina wife because they are a money pit and sick of her family and the crisis and drama.
That's the next wave.
I appreciate the straight talk, I would rather outspoken and blunt conversations. About relationships.
But there's a lot of video of Filipinas getting interviewed about why they like foreigners. Their answers are that they like to have a white baby with blue eyes and better opportunities because they have the chance to go abroad.
American: I hate blue eyes.
The answer is simple: opportunity. There are so many foreigners who want to marry Filipinas.
Filipinas are in high demand globally. They are much more desirable than western women.
I would say it is more due to high level of delusion in dating western women have. They ant the top from the top of the top, while offering nothing in return.
You are a very mature lady ... thank you. Bro. Leo, Saturday, Jan-06-24 @ 7:02 am EST USA.
Hi watching your video here in Florida USA. I think you nailed it! Keep telling the truth! Introduce our culture, so the foreigners that are interested ito marry a filipina will be informed. Keep up your good work
Thank you so much! I appreciate your kind words.
Excellent video ma'am. As an American who has been married to a Filipina for 28 years, I can confirm your talking points. You are very articulate and a pleasure to listen to. I need to watch some of your other videos. Take care and have a wonderful day.
Thanks for watching and for leaving a comment!
I watch several filipina vloggers that interview on the street. A little less than 50% want to marry a western man. Out of that 50, less than 50% want to live in the west. They don't want to leave their family in the Philippines.
I believe That’s the case in every culture. I believe women want men who provide and care for them, men being the true head of the family.
Good video! You will be sucessfull on YT due to your content, your delivery and your articulation of the English language.
Wow, thank you!
Its mainly for financial reasons. Don't kid yourself into thinking it's love.
Im really enjoying your channel, I plan to retire to PH in a few years ideally near Cebu, I have a friend who will help me acclimate, I've seen quite a few young single moms so it seems like guys like to hit it and quit it
Looking forward to more content
Single mothers is a problem across the world not just the Philippines. Sadly from observation and research that many filipino men do not appreciate and or respect filipino women in Philippines.
Filipina ladies are no different than any other women when it comes to aspiring to having a better lifestyle for themselves.
without finance,there is no romance and when bills come in the door,love flies out the window.
not really
Agree
@@marikitako6195 of course, you say that coz you're a Filipina
@@dodji582 I am but it's a fact as well.
There is a BIG difference between American and Filipinas when it comes to money. Especially when it comes to a man’s pensions. My ex-wife told my lawyer and the judge that MY pension was hers lol 😂 so help me GOD. I worked 35 years and she was married to me for 20 of those years and when the judge told her she could only get a percentage of the 20 years we were married and not a percentage of the 35 years. My pension is almost $4,000 a month and she told the judge she would give me $400.00 a month from MY Pension. lol 😂 the judge laughed and asked her if she was serious. Unfortunately she was. The judge gave her the amount that the chart said she was entitled to. Her lawyer actually quit her before the court date because she wanted ALL OF MY PENSION. She then tried to claim I had over seas hidden accounts and actually convinced her lawyer of this before she quit. Once the lawyer tried to explain to her that she investigated that claim and there was no merit to it; my ex had such a melt down in her office that the lawyer said “enough” and told her to find another lawyer because I was being more then fair in the divorce and she was being way beyond unreasonable. Now a Filipina will tell you it’s YOUR MONEY and YOU worked for it. Not American woman they act like what is your is theirs, and what is theirs is theirs. American woman are selfish, greedy and most are narcissistic. Filipinas are loyal and not materialistic or high maintenance unlike the American woman.
Very well spoken presentation, kudos….👏👍🏻
Thank you kindly!
@Conservative Filipina - I have noticed philipina woman doing the same thing as their men. to foreign men this can be just as difficult to deal with as it is for you to deal with your own men.
It is all a matter of social security, hence the old Western guy is needy for sex and attention he can't find in his country, he feels he is expired, and the Filipina is in search of social security. These two parties close a transaction that they call "falling in love". Meaning they love the deal they make for themselves.
yes, uggo derpadinas bang fat old disabled american men for some money.
men expire in the west the day they are born.
The most on point explanation...so i subscribe ❤
This is my very favorite explanation
Thank you so much!
I appreciate your lovely comment! 😃
@@conservativefilipina love to hear more 🤗
Great vlog. Appreciate your insight as my wife and I are newly married and we are in the process of getting her to the US.
Best of luck!
I am glad I found this video. Thank you very much for your insight. I am married to a Filipina and I pray for her a lot because there is so much temptation to sin and I can see the traditional values slipping away from Filipina culture the further the Catholic Church strays away from God.
It will say that it is not a bad mindset to encourage a wife to stay strong in a relationship where her partner is cheating. It sounds like you read the Bible. You know Paul teaches this. A wife’s husband’s unbelief and iniquity does not give any wife the right to abandon her service to her husband. She glorifies God when she continue doing the right thing, even if she suffers. There is a greater plan than our own happiness and contentment in this life.
Prayer and adherence to God’s commandments. Nothing gives us the right to forgo those, no matter how much someone we love hurts us. If we want a relationship with God, then we forgive them and pray for them, as Christ commands.
God bless you sister, keep doing what you do.
Then why do I see a lot of Filipino men who marry foreigners as always successful or rich?
I think your absolutely correct loyalty is a must Thanks again
Very welcome
Mga artista nga d2 sa pilipinas mostly mga half/mixed kahit ung mga nagjojoin ng mga beauty pageants ung mga nagrerepresent mga mixed pinay.
Great video ,and insight on the subject.
Thank you!
Hello. Conservative Filipina also here. All the guys I dated (and am getting engaged to) are all foreigners (American men specifically). Here are my reasons:
1. I am attracted to Western features
2. Economic security. I want a breadwinner.
3. I just get along with them more than Filipino men. I have a lot of issues with Filipino men (e.g. jealousy, possessiveness, not enough money).
Thanks for sharing your perspective! It's appreciated!
Money and beautiful child to have that can become an actor or beauty contestant in Miss Universe!
You combined two phrases.... "Swept away" and "Head over heels" : )
An awesome video.Many great true points .Been married to a filipina for last 10 years 2 children.They are a great wife friend and soul mate.
I am a huge baseball fan so i love the sports illustrated front covers!
Most Filipinas that I've met don't care about height. I'm a very short dude and I've been well received by Filipinas everywhere.
Keep yourself fit, clean (bathe, haircut and fresh breath) and dress nice (not in cargo shorts and old t-shirts).. It's a pretty easy recipe.
Yes...have good hygiene in any country.
Fillipino men and women remind me alot of mexican people , lol But agreed most women regardless of what country you are in will prefer a man who can provide security
To have a better life and have good looking children so they can compete in the beauty pageant or become a movie star in the Philippines.This is what I heard to some pinays they want their kids to become Miss Universe.Most filipinas married for financial reason but don’t depend too much on your husband specially if he’s not well off and he’s old
Wonderful insight... however.. I'm very reluctant to call this a "Trend" ...men ..who move with a purpose are doing out of necessity...and understand who and what they want.
I've always been attracted to women of a softer and gracious culture.. regardless of nationality...
Now that I'm able to start again.. that's what I'm going to get.
Agree w this observation. Truth is - western men and PH women are in the same exact situation. We either die alone or make arrangements not to.
@bu5761 well said..
@@tooknotice180 thanks 🙏
To happiness my friend 🍻
Pumped and dumped, that’s what happens to single moms. And when pregnant, ‘knocked up’ is the correct phrase lol
We appreciate you sharing another insight into the Philippines' cultural biases, especially on the great degree of infidelity that has enveloped that nation. With many foreigners marrying Filipinas, I wonder if they don't fear that they may later lose their Philippine spouses based on the ingrained (although not favored) desire to stray since it is an observed acceptable practice within some family structures.
infidelity was always a thing - similar to today - only we talk about it now, before we did not.
It would be nothing compared to the incredibly scandalous western women so I wouldn’t worry.
@@bu5761 Haha, point well taken.
@@bavariancarenthusiast2722 Explains why it is so prominent nowadays.
@@horacesubayar794 we don´t hide so much anymore - due to the empowerment of women who dont stay silent like in the past and social media. In the "good old times" men were ok to stray in our society, women? unthinkable - also they didn't have really a choice since they depended on the "breadwinner".
This is not the case anymore.
Access to a better life.
Mixed babies.
Money.
Is your husband from the US? Saint Louis MO? I ask because I am and I see a photo on the wall related to Saint Louis Cardinal baseball.
Yes, he is. Not from there. He just loves "everything" baseball haha. We're a Braves fan but likes Cardinals too.
Happy NEW YEAR and yay u made it to a thousand followers!
Thank you! Happy new year to you as well!
I like your commentary. No matter where you go on the planet, the men who are in a position to have options tend explore them. It's unfortunate that due to the economics of the Philippines that so many wonderful women get abandoned. I think think it's important for families to help vet partners, given they are truly looking out for the good of the daughter.
Is that why they set up a monthly allowance and then you find out she's getting a monthly allowance from five different guys.. open your eyes
I’m a 38 year old 6’5 fireman 👨🚒 with no kids looking for a wife and you definitely put in a good case for the Filipinas.
passport bros!
Kasi usually pag foreigners may pera at willing magbigay ng sustento sa buong pamilya ng babae ( andyan yung magulang, kapatid, pinsan, tito, tita, lolo, lola at kung sino sino pang kamag anak). wag tayo magkapa impokrito dito. yun lang yun.
Very good explanation of Filipina women and men I really liked your view my son in law is Filipino and takes care of my Daughter well I want a Filipina women before I get to old. Great video
Thank you so much for your enlightening information.
I am American going to meet my new Filipina girlfriend for the first time at the end of this month (Jan.'24) after video chatting at least six times a day with her for 4 months.
I have been through a few bouts of tampo with her due to her trust issues.
I did all the right things, canceling subscriptions to dating sites and not talking to anyone else other than her.
I was scared that I would lose her but I did not give up because I know that she is the the person that I want to spend the rest of my life with and I believe that she feels the same way about me.
Fortunately, I think I have finally gained her trust in the last month or so.
Still, our conversations after the initial week or two of chatting have become very deep, very personal and very rewarding.
She is truly my dream woman who has shown me that she wants to be dedicated to her man as I want to be to her.
I cannot believe that I found someone so comptable at my stage of life who who has a great sense of humor while also being able to discuss anything and everything.......we have so much fun and laughter while chatting!
BTW, for foreigners who may not be familiar with the term "tampo" it is a bad mood that Filipinas tend to get into and you just have to be calm, patient and understanding with them while trying to let the mood pass without arguing with them....too much! LOL
You're gonna be a bank account for her to chain immigrate her entire family into the US.
Don't be gullible.
Tampo is not limited to women. Anyone can feel tampo and it’s not necessarily exclusive to romantic relationships. Get her what she likes, eg, chocolate, to melt the tampo away and get her to talk about her feelings. Hopefully, issue gets resolved soon.
Life's too short to put up with that tampo BS.
very informative and good thanx
think there are differnt reasons, one would live abroad to know other cultures, other want be in a counry without typhoones, other want find a good job abroad to support the family, some ot them felt in love with their penpal etc.......
My love to the Philippines 🇵🇭 god bless you 😊
If divorce is legalized in the Philippines, then marriage rate will drop like it’s happening in the west.
You are a educated woman and explain everything well.
Yes I know I work in a hotel, one Filipino guy name Richard have a wife in United States and the Filipinas 🇵🇭 island Richard has a girlfriend.
You're are quite clear. Uragon is a word that's only used where Mayon Volcano is located. You're a very good narrator.
Thank you! I appreciate your comment!
Subscribed.... Very good video. You are more articulate than most Western men and women.
Wow, thank you!
2 reasons ....money to upgrade their lifestyle (and family's) and to escape the Philippines.
kasi feeling nila secure sila sa afam tapos afam lng nkaka appreciate ng beauty ng mga Pinay kesa nmn sa pinoy maganda at sexy lng gusto malaki boobs at pwet maputi coca cola body. Gusto mala Ivana, gusto ng high maintenance na babae tapos wla nmn ka pera2 minimum wage earner lng, tapos lasinggero pa, abusive pa, nagsusugal pa at babaero pa. Aasa pa kayo ng ganyang babae matulog kayo oi Jusmeyyooo
Not sure if divorce will solve the problem, if anything it will make things easier to separate.
Finally, useful information on RUclips about the Philippines.
Glad it was helpful!
Hi Conservative I think you are so beautiful thanks for the info about the Philippines 👍 I dreaming to visit the Philippines I was born in the Caribbean but live in US
Thank you! Best wishes to you!
Excellent video with clear explanations.
Glad it was helpful!
She gets a better life...
He gets a better wife...
For me, i see Filipinas married foreigners is the DNA.
I keep telling people the same thing about wealth. Women everywhere prefer a man with money. It is just that in rich countries you need more money to impress the girl.
As an American when I see a man with a Filipino woman I just figured that dudes had enough and he did it right. I mean Pilipino women are just as attractive as western women except they're not ruined yet, mean they're loyalty still intact. These dudes just want to enjoy they're lives have a good women who's the CEO of his house who can take care of it and he just wants to grow old and enjoy his grandkids. More and more broken family will never see that. Why? 50% of all marriages end in divorce. OF THAT 50% of them 80% of all divorces are filed by the woman, they think the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence.
Thank you for your videos. You have very informative information..
Just discovered your channel and I like your English speaking ability, also the way that you present your arguments and deliver your topic. I am very surprised by your statement that "it is not easy for Filipinas to find love ", why is that?
I am looking for an intelligent, educated Filipina without any children ( had bad experience with women with children,so want my own ) ,but is happy to have a child(ren) with me .
You wanted to say " in a state of limbo " ( not knowing what is happening next )
I like your frank ,open honesty about your culture and your people. I have always liked Filipina, although I got scammed when I joined Filipino Cupid and was too kind and stupid . I was shocked and a bit too trustworthy, but I am not giving up on finding my dream Filipina 😊
Pursuing a woman is called courting. Singing to a woman is called serenading. Getting pregnant is called getting knocked up .
Do you think that I will find a Filipina of my dreams ? Can you help ?😊
You have to choose educated and mature woman.. don't be trapped with the ladies in the internet! they are lazy and and most of them are not educated ! so many single woman works as teacher, bank teller ,nurses and etc. with the difficulty to find a man maybe they are afraid to gamble of the irresponsible husband which is very common here in Philippines. . The wife end up as provider to the children after abandoned by the husband thats why so many filipino women working overseas.
Filipina married foreigner for economic reasons. That's just the way it is.
What’s up with the Baseball pictures in the background?
I wonder if you will get attacked on your question here
I love baseball ⚾️ and those are my husband's collection. Thanks for watching!
Very good analysis. Healthy looking hair too.
Thank you!
Love the way you articulate your points. Not paligoy ligoy to steal your phrase. LOL... Ika nga maliwanag.
The only person you can really change is yourself 1
Its a social status for filipina woman to have a foreigner man. Realtalk.
It's because Good Filipina women they don't trust Filipino toxic men they only playing a women but not all .Other Filipino good men are Mr.Right.
@@leonorbuot8506 are you saying filipino men are toxic? 🤔 The truth is filipinas always mention blue eyes when they get asked.