Danish, we are made to carry imaginary burdens. The narc creates burdens for us to bear and constantly is on us to bear this burden.When no such burden really even exists. Our load is so heavy that no person on the outside can ever comprehend. We take abuse all around us because we do not understand that we don't have to allow it. And when we protest this abuse, even in today's society, with somewhat empathetic people, we are still labeled. We pick up on the subtleties that no one else can, and we can't point out these subtleties because no one else can comprehend what they truly mean.
Thank you for explaining what I’m going through and that it’s ok to take time to reset, everyone thinks I should be over it by now… but it takes time. 🙏
Yeah. That's why when you leave....you start healing and also realizing how stresseed out your body was when you were in their presence. You NEED to have a good support network during that time and STAY gone. Do not contact them. If you share kids talk thru emails or if things get bad,legal means. Most importantly TAKE CARE of yourself. I started working out and eating healthy after leaving but i saw the effects of those years of abuse for awhile. It'll happen. But you need to stay gone in order to heal. Just cut contact.
Oh my word, cleaning while listening to you. This month is the first time where I did not wake up at 3 in the morning with pulse of 92 and extreme feeling of fear (child custody battle) feeling mad of all the lies he told the lawyer and fighting him for my 10 year old after we emigrated to another country speaking different language... THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH TO UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING AND BEING ABLE TO TRY AND PROTECT MY DAUGHTER AS WELL
This definitely effects the body. May hormones and menstrual cycle were severely negatively impacted. The stress had my mind body and soul in a total breakdown
You described what I experienced. My digestive system shut down. But I had insomnia and no pain. I went to a naturopath which helped a lot. A year after I took a trip by myself. I was terrified I would not be able to physically do it but it went better than expected and boosted my sense of independence.
I am almost 6 months out. I fell into a deep depression. Instead of feeling the need to clean, I am not able to bring myself to clean or cook for myself. I am very tired, no desire to do anything. I engage in new ways of harming myself, nicotine. Slowly I am getting better and taking care of myself. It will take a long time.
I understand completely, although we mustn't be hard on ourselves, we mustn't say it's going to take a long time or it definitely will. We must just focus on being kind and loving ourselves. I've never had pain in the back of my legs before, until after breaking the trauma bond. I get outside to walk the dogs in nature as much as I can. Fresh air and exercise like walking helps. Bless you ❣️✨️🎶🐾🌿🙏🏼😇🌈🕊💫
That happened to me. When I left my narcissist relationship I got a nasty urinary tract infection & was so sick for about a month. I hardly got out of bed. No energy. It took me a long time to heal but now I’m really good. I’ve lifted my bar in men now & will never do that again
I had a massive confrontation with my narc husband and 3 days later my hair began falling out heavily and I had a rash allover my face and hands. It lasted months.
I just wish there were more laws, or SOMETHING, to hold these narcs accountable for the abuse and trauma they've inflicted. Or more outlets for survivors to escape to, to help them rebuild their lives without having to go through the abuser.
I had got breast cancer 3 years ago and I just knew it my gut that it was a result of my time w the narcissist. I fully believe that all physical and mental/ emotional sickness always starts energetically and eventually manifests into the physical and the breasts are the heart energy center. I work daily on healing myself on all levels in as many ways I am able.... I do energetic spiritual work on myself as well as do my best to give my body what it needs. I am a work in progress and still have work to do but yes living w a narcissist can literally kill you...
I didn't know that there are words & phrases to define my Functional Freeze Collapse. Danish😢😭😭😭😭😥😰Thank you. The fact that you mentioned that we didn't have childhoods....so spot on because both of my parents were narcs. I was the scapegoat child & abused by my narc ex husband, which made me a single married mom. I'm so exhausted. I'm an herbalist & I'm getting back into my routine of supplementation.
Danish, could you also, maybe do a video on reporting. I had no idea that I was constantly reporting back to the narc. But when it was all over and I was by myself, I was constantly reporting it was like each little thing I felt like I needed to report it to somebody. So that's currently what i'm working on.Just stop freaking the need to report. I've never really tried to look at the root of that, but i'm going to now. If you have anything to say on the subject, I'd be happy to hear it. I cannot be the only one who has had this experience.
After leaving my son's house, it took two weeks and two days for my body to relax. Then I just wanted to sleep. I can walk to the table to eat then back to bed. I can shower every other day. I needed help the first time in showering the first time but after that I was okay. Nothing helps my energy levels though. I guess that it's going to take awhile to recover. 😢
I find cleaning and creating order NOT to be a result of shame but a therapeutic task of clearing bad energy and making my home feel like a 5**** retreat even if I live in a tiny space and am poor. It's also a task I can let go of thinking and just be totally in the moment and at peace. In a safe place that's just mine.
Thank you Danish Bashir. I am on the path to healing by exercising, holistic self care and going back to hobbies I enjoy doing. You are right about healing being complicated and lengthy process. I want to get better and stronger. 🙏♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😎
When I left a cult after narcissistic spiritual abuse, the song by Amy Grant It Takes A Little Time (to turn the Titanic around) gave me perspective and such comfort. It has taken years to recover from the CPTSD. Unfortunately I married a covert narc afterward and discovered a whole different kind of mental, emotional and eventually physical abuse. I saw the truth and got away. Your resources are helping me find a way forward with the hope of complete healing and freedom from narcs.
I wish I could get the course but because my narcissistic ex husband made it so I had no money after we were divorced. In about 6 months I plan on standing on my own 2 feet. Maybe next year you will have something similar to this course. Take care and Merry Christmas to everyone who is dealing with a narcissist no matter in what phase they are in.
Yes I feel tired all the time,I sleep for 14 hours,I don't want to wake up!And My body feels uncomfortable emotions around stomach and heart.I so much want to punish him but it always back fired,I am grieving loss of my old self.
I'm still remember when I came back to my family's house after done with my college (which is final and waiting for Internship), I swear to God my skin began break out. I dunno if I can tell you that I have eczema/psiorasis/skin hives that at first, my skin feel itchy and redness appeared but I cannot stop scratching. Then I suffered from it for 2 months. I swear that's the worse period ever that I told God please take me away from this madness. It appeared on my face, my neck, my front body and my hips. Guess what? The narcissists in that house isolated me because I told my younger sister to handle laundry stuffs to make me continue sleep. My younger sister told about that to the birthgiver. After I woke up and wanted to greet them, they were despising me and mocking me. "Oh. In that case, I better excluded you just because you don't want to help me." Lemme tell you my siblings are GC meanwhile me is Scapegoat. So you know why. Plus in the college, there are a lot of toxic people. They never ask my well-being and respect my boundaries but all they can do is keep pushing me. Even they are not doing their own parts but accusing me lazy and threaten me to exclude me. For my former roommates and teammates, I never forget and forgive you. Thank you so much for being a part of people who ruin my life.
Omg - I did not know that the „cleaning“ is a trauma response. After Narcisstic abuse from my stepfather and my ex partner I became a minimalist of owning just around 50 pieces in total that fit in a small suitcase. And still daily I think about what I can get rid off 🤯 After I have separated from my ex partner I felt like everything he touched is contaminated. I felt like I still feel his energy around me and gave away most of things and replaced those that I needed.. I am 37 and experienced hairless after the separation for the first time in my life. I had to cut all my hair off. I have insomnia since 1,5 years or so and have isolated myself to heal because I don’t want to explain myself to people. And probably there is more aftermath than I am aware of.. It’s like: you have to learn to live again after a huge mental accident.
Going no contact with my ex wife has been so difficult especially Since we share equal custody with our children and they're so young. Being around her makes me ill and im really trying to have boundaries.
18 Yrs of narcissistic abused here... (diagnosed 3 yrs ago)sleep helps seperate the hellish truth you're living in, verses having nothing on your mind.
I struggled with chronic pain after I left my ex-husband. And after the doctors ran all kinds of tests and couldn't find out what was wrong with me when doctor found out I had tons of trauma and he says that's where the pain came from.
My narcissist parents are gone. Nothing I can do about it now, though it is a great relief. In the meantime, I can't seem to ever be attracted to someone who turns out not to be a narcissist. Is it the way they carry themselves? What? My biggest problem right now is my last "relationship." It's been over for nearly two years, and I still think about him every day. I see him often since we are neighbors. He doesn't speak to me. He was horrid to me. Why do I still find him attractive? I haven't dated anyone since. How can I get over this? I feel like I have brain damage--or certainly dullness. I'd like to move, but I can't right now. I just want to be indifferent!
You are simply burnt out and since abuse survivors are usually left alone, with no money, time, with no support to recover we still have to work and deal with daily problems and health issues healing is soo much harder
You don't realise anything and then they die and you suddenly are alone and the world starts to come back; my mum wasn't a narcissist she was mentally ill because of a very bad childhood but the criticism and eggshells was the same.
Oh I can't wait to get to the obsessive cleaning stage. I have been in such a funk that I feel unable to clean anything. I wish my house was clean because I can't stand living with stinky homeless people holding my house hostage. I hope someday they'll leave, and I hope that when they do, I'll be able to clean my house. But it's looking like I'll have to be the one to leave before they will, because they are benefiting from my paying to keep the utilities on. Entitled Narcs.
The question is how to leave this narc family cult that too a girl having no safe loving connections ever since childhood.... That too in a indian household i have no clue
The desire to avenge the narcissist because the narcissist is the main reason for the decline in life maybe a curse that might take us back to the narcissist
I'm sorry, but I understand. I'm gaining weight now, too, even though I'm an RD. Don't worry, but take good care of yourself and I believe it will level off as you stabilize. ❤
hey danish i've been following you for some years now and i know you said your father was a malignant narcissist and the day you went no contact with him was bc he was abusing your mother who you later found out to be a covert narcissist... i am in a similar situation and am curious if you went no contact with both of them
Great 📸 Danish im trying to heal after decades of extreme narcissistic abuse from a lot of very toxic people that I cut out of my life and they did a great job of keeping me in a constant state of cognitive dissonance😵💫🫨🤯 sometimes I wonder if my nervous system will ever be normal again.
Thank you Danish for all the videos you do. I’ve recently left a Narcissistic wife after 2.5 years and didn’t realize what a number she did on me. I’m learning and healing ❤️🩹 and most of all…I’m free!!!
Totally agree with the grieving a living dead person.
The brain fog is a real problem. The time lost 29 years out of life living a lie devastating.
Same. And counting, because he is prolonging the divorce a year and counting.
Danish has helped me immensely with his insights into narcissism. Thank you for the healing you have brought to me.
My hair fell out, developed sleep paralysis, insomnia, suicide attempts etc but i hope they pay for the evil they bring into peoples lives
100% true. Stress made my hair fall out.
@@palapalak.8907 yes, I shed more than my cats do ..
Danish, we are made to carry imaginary burdens. The narc creates burdens for us to bear and constantly is on us to bear this burden.When no such burden really even exists. Our load is so heavy that no person on the outside can ever comprehend. We take abuse all around us because we do not understand that we don't have to allow it. And when we protest this abuse, even in today's society, with somewhat empathetic people, we are still labeled. We pick up on the subtleties that no one else can, and we can't point out these subtleties because no one else can comprehend what they truly mean.
Correct 💯😢
True ... highly tired for no reason...
It takes years to heal a bit. My hart goos out to all narc victums
Thank you for explaining what I’m going through and that it’s ok to take time to reset, everyone thinks I should be over it by now… but it takes time. 🙏
It takes time to heal and we must be loving ourselves on the healing journey.
Yeah. That's why when you leave....you start healing and also realizing how stresseed out your body was when you were in their presence. You NEED to have a good support network during that time and STAY gone. Do not contact them. If you share kids talk thru emails or if things get bad,legal means. Most importantly TAKE CARE of yourself. I started working out and eating healthy after leaving but i saw the effects of those years of abuse for awhile. It'll happen. But you need to stay gone in order to heal. Just cut contact.
Excellent video Physically as well as psychologically I experienced insomnia and no energy.
DANISH!!! NO LIES TOLD! 🎉❤ great video!
Oh my word, cleaning while listening to you. This month is the first time where I did not wake up at 3 in the morning with pulse of 92 and extreme feeling of fear (child custody battle) feeling mad of all the lies he told the lawyer and fighting him for my 10 year old after we emigrated to another country speaking different language... THANK YOU SOOOO MUCH TO UNDERSTAND EVERYTHING AND BEING ABLE TO TRY AND PROTECT MY DAUGHTER AS WELL
Well done but be kind to yourself, give yourself time to heal. Children recover much faster, care for yourself too.❤
This definitely effects the body. May hormones and menstrual cycle were severely negatively impacted. The stress had my mind body and soul in a total breakdown
You described what I experienced. My digestive system shut down. But I had insomnia and no pain. I went to a naturopath which helped a lot. A year after I took a trip by myself. I was terrified I would not be able to physically do it but it went better than expected and boosted my sense of independence.
Running an endless marathon...exactly!
Absolutely 💯 it does. Adrenal/cortisol. It takes many tries, unfortunately.
Sometimes the nightmares come back. They don't last and are not as dramatic.
Thank you for making me understand myself better and to have more compassion for myself 🙏
I am almost 6 months out. I fell into a deep depression. Instead of feeling the need to clean, I am not able to bring myself to clean or cook for myself. I am very tired, no desire to do anything. I engage in new ways of harming myself, nicotine. Slowly I am getting better and taking care of myself. It will take a long time.
You will get better. You already see progress. Be good to yourself and allow yourself to rest as much as necessary.
Would you please talk more for not being able to do anything, cleaning taking care of myself. How to get free of this frozen prison...
I understand completely, although we mustn't be hard on ourselves, we mustn't say it's going to take a long time or it definitely will. We must just focus on being kind and loving ourselves. I've never had pain in the back of my legs before, until after breaking the trauma bond. I get outside to walk the dogs in nature as much as I can. Fresh air and exercise like walking helps. Bless you ❣️✨️🎶🐾🌿🙏🏼😇🌈🕊💫
You are not alone. Many of us understand what you are going through. Be patient with yourself, it takes time but you're getting there.❤
@@naturalist369 Do you have charlie horse cramps in your legs?
That happened to me. When I left my narcissist relationship I got a nasty urinary tract infection & was so sick for about a month. I hardly got out of bed. No energy. It took me a long time to heal but now I’m really good. I’ve lifted my bar in men now & will never do that again
Excellent description of healing process 👍 please also make a video on how to improve memory as a part of healing process
I had a massive confrontation with my narc husband and 3 days later my hair began falling out heavily and I had a rash allover my face and hands. It lasted months.
❤Thank u so much for the time u take to tell us the truth, l appreciate you 💕
Thank God for you.
I just wish there were more laws, or SOMETHING, to hold these narcs accountable for the abuse and trauma they've inflicted. Or more outlets for survivors to escape to, to help them rebuild their lives without having to go through the abuser.
@@lonelywriter88 I don't know who I am, I am just a shell of a person...
Very informative respected Sir!
I had got breast cancer 3 years ago and I just knew it my gut that it was a result of my time w the narcissist. I fully believe that all physical and mental/ emotional sickness always starts energetically and eventually manifests into the physical and the breasts are the heart energy center. I work daily on healing myself on all levels in as many ways I am able.... I do energetic spiritual work on myself as well as do my best to give my body what it needs. I am a work in progress and still have work to do but yes living w a narcissist can literally kill you...
Look into Joe Dispenza and Bruce Lipton. You probably already have. God bless. I pray for a full recovery for you.🙏
I’m too old to try one more time with my sister. It never changes anyway. I’m turning 62 in January. I always absolutely regret trying again.
I didn't know that there are words & phrases to define my Functional Freeze Collapse. Danish😢😭😭😭😭😥😰Thank you. The fact that you mentioned that we didn't have childhoods....so spot on because both of my parents were narcs. I was the scapegoat child & abused by my narc ex husband, which made me a single married mom. I'm so exhausted.
I'm an herbalist & I'm getting back into my routine of supplementation.
Danish, could you also, maybe do a video on reporting. I had no idea that I was constantly reporting back to the narc. But when it was all over and I was by myself, I was constantly reporting it was like each little thing I felt like I needed to report it to somebody. So that's currently what i'm working on.Just stop freaking the need to report. I've never really tried to look at the root of that, but i'm going to now. If you have anything to say on the subject, I'd be happy to hear it. I cannot be the only one who has had this experience.
You described me with my narcissistic mother.
They have to be in control. You have been conditioned to report. You ARE FREE now . Free to make your own choices. Answerable to no one.❤
Thank you!!!❤❤❤
Thank you so very much Danish for these lessons on Narcissism. You have greatly helped me. 🙏🏼
After leaving my son's house, it took two weeks and two days for my body to relax.
Then I just wanted to sleep. I can walk to the table to eat then back to bed. I can shower every other day. I needed help the first time in showering the first time but after that I was okay. Nothing helps my energy levels though. I guess that it's going to take awhile to recover. 😢
I find cleaning and creating order NOT to be a result of shame but a therapeutic task of clearing bad energy and making my home feel like a 5**** retreat even if I live in a tiny space and am poor. It's also a task I can let go of thinking and just be totally in the moment and at peace. In a safe place that's just mine.
Wow I've been unbelievably sleepy & lethargic for a couple of weeks. This explains why, and several other things too. Thanks Danish 🙏
I l❤️ve you, Mr. B!
Very informative. Thank you Danish❤
Informative / helpful.
Thank you Danish Bashir. I am on the path to healing by exercising, holistic self care and going back to hobbies I enjoy doing. You are right about healing being complicated and lengthy process. I want to get better and stronger. 🙏♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥♥🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹🌹😎
When I left a cult after narcissistic spiritual abuse, the song by Amy Grant It Takes A Little Time (to turn the Titanic around) gave me perspective and such comfort. It has taken years to recover from the CPTSD. Unfortunately I married a covert narc afterward and discovered a whole different kind of mental, emotional and eventually physical abuse. I saw the truth and got away. Your resources are helping me find a way forward with the hope of complete healing and freedom from narcs.
I wish I could get the course but because my narcissistic ex husband made it so I had no money after we were divorced. In about 6 months I plan on standing on my own 2 feet. Maybe next year you will have something similar to this course. Take care and Merry Christmas to everyone who is dealing with a narcissist no matter in what phase they are in.
Yes I feel tired all the time,I sleep for 14 hours,I don't want to wake up!And My body feels uncomfortable emotions around stomach and heart.I so much want to punish him but it always back fired,I am grieving loss of my old self.
Excellent thread 🧵. 👏🕊️👌
I'm still remember when I came back to my family's house after done with my college (which is final and waiting for Internship), I swear to God my skin began break out.
I dunno if I can tell you that I have eczema/psiorasis/skin hives that at first, my skin feel itchy and redness appeared but I cannot stop scratching.
Then I suffered from it for 2 months. I swear that's the worse period ever that I told God please take me away from this madness. It appeared on my face, my neck, my front body and my hips.
Guess what? The narcissists in that house isolated me because I told my younger sister to handle laundry stuffs to make me continue sleep.
My younger sister told about that to the birthgiver. After I woke up and wanted to greet them, they were despising me and mocking me.
"Oh. In that case, I better excluded you just because you don't want to help me."
Lemme tell you my siblings are GC meanwhile me is Scapegoat. So you know why.
Plus in the college, there are a lot of toxic people. They never ask my well-being and respect my boundaries but all they can do is keep pushing me. Even they are not doing their own parts but accusing me lazy and threaten me to exclude me.
For my former roommates and teammates, I never forget and forgive you. Thank you so much for being a part of people who ruin my life.
Omg - I did not know that the „cleaning“ is a trauma response. After Narcisstic abuse from my stepfather and my ex partner I became a minimalist of owning just around 50 pieces in total that fit in a small suitcase. And still daily I think about what I can get rid off 🤯
After I have separated from my ex partner I felt like everything he touched is contaminated. I felt like I still feel his energy around me and gave away most of things and replaced those that I needed..
I am 37 and experienced hairless after the separation for the first time in my life. I had to cut all my hair off. I have insomnia since 1,5 years or so and have isolated myself to heal because I don’t want to explain myself to people.
And probably there is more aftermath than I am aware of..
It’s like: you have to learn to live again after a huge mental accident.
Going no contact with my ex wife has been so difficult especially Since we share equal custody with our children and they're so young. Being around her makes me ill and im really trying to have boundaries.
18 Yrs of narcissistic abused here... (diagnosed 3 yrs ago)sleep helps seperate the hellish truth you're living in, verses having nothing on your mind.
This is a fact.
Thank you. you'll explained this very well. this helps a lot
I am not being able to fill a form from last one year.. every word is true.
I struggled with chronic pain after I left my ex-husband. And after the doctors ran all kinds of tests and couldn't find out what was wrong with me when doctor found out I had tons of trauma and he says that's where the pain came from.
Thanks bro.
My narcissist parents are gone. Nothing I can do about it now, though it is a great relief. In the meantime, I can't seem to ever be attracted to someone who turns out not to be a narcissist. Is it the way they carry themselves? What? My biggest problem right now is my last "relationship." It's been over for nearly two years, and I still think about him every day. I see him often since we are neighbors. He doesn't speak to me. He was horrid to me. Why do I still find him attractive? I haven't dated anyone since. How can I get over this? I feel like I have brain damage--or certainly dullness. I'd like to move, but I can't right now. I just want to be indifferent!
You are simply burnt out and since abuse survivors are usually left alone, with no money, time, with no support to recover we still have to work and deal with daily problems and health issues healing is soo much harder
You don't realise anything and then they die and you suddenly are alone and the world starts to come back; my mum wasn't a narcissist she was mentally ill because of a very bad childhood but the criticism and eggshells was the same.
I slept for 6 months after I left the narcissist
I looked like I had aged 10 years.
2 years later I’m looking younger than ever
Thank you ❤
Oh I can't wait to get to the obsessive cleaning stage. I have been in such a funk that I feel unable to clean anything. I wish my house was clean because I can't stand living with stinky homeless people holding my house hostage. I hope someday they'll leave, and I hope that when they do, I'll be able to clean my house. But it's looking like I'll have to be the one to leave before they will, because they are benefiting from my paying to keep the utilities on. Entitled Narcs.
Stayed in bed for two days
My digestive system shut down. I ate so little. I lost seventy pounds. Took years to gain that back.
yes it does
The question is how to leave this narc family cult that too a girl having no safe loving connections ever since childhood.... That too in a indian household i have no clue
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I'm on blood pressure medicine because of it.
So true
The desire to avenge the narcissist because the narcissist is the main reason for the decline in life maybe a curse that might take us back to the narcissist
I didn't go thru wanting to know what he's doing this time .
I gaint 30 kilo's in 15 years from stress
mtf 💀
I'm sorry, but I understand. I'm gaining weight now, too, even though I'm an RD. Don't worry, but take good care of yourself and I believe it will level off as you stabilize. ❤
@robinholz7858 thanksZ robin 🕊
Make a video on how they make you the stalker in the relationship.
hey danish i've been following you for some years now and i know you said your father was a malignant narcissist and the day you went no contact with him was bc he was abusing your mother who you later found out to be a covert narcissist... i am in a similar situation and am curious if you went no contact with both of them
Yes. I went no contact with both of them
🙌❤️
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Great 📸 Danish im trying to heal after decades of extreme narcissistic abuse from a lot of very toxic people that I cut out of my life and they did a great job of keeping me in a constant state of cognitive dissonance😵💫🫨🤯 sometimes I wonder if my nervous system will ever be normal again.
Thank you Danish for all the videos you do. I’ve recently left a Narcissistic wife after 2.5 years and didn’t realize what a number she did on me. I’m learning and healing ❤️🩹 and most of all…I’m free!!!
Thank you so very much Danish for these lessons on Narcissism. You have greatly helped me. 🙏🏼