I know I won't be dating anyone else ever again in the distant future , but what about you? Have you had a funny dating experience like mine where I was compared to toast with jam? 😂 I suspect he couldn't really say I was sickly sweet could he...but I think that's what he meant don't you? Much love to you all, Imi xxx 💕
It's funny because I met my lady online 11 years ago. And we are fine. But I had a few strange cases before. One I met said she didn't like men who wore hats. Her profile picture was much younger than in real life. And also said non smoker. As I approached our meeting place I saw this lady and thought I was seeing things. Ime thinking this cant be her it must be her mother. But to my horror it was and she was puffing away on a cigarette 🚬.. I used to be very sociable. But society just seems to have collapsed these days. I wouldn't ever use a dating site again good luck in youre quest
I'm 62, and just lost my wife of 27 years, 2 months ago to brain cancer. Would never want to experience this level of loss again. And we have a 16 yo daughter. Need to focus there.
Oh sweetheart I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Grief is such a wretched process isn't it. Just when you think things are getting a little less raw, it ambushes you all over again. Without great love there would be no pain and you clearly loved your darling wife very much indeed. Eventually....after all the anniversaries have been and gone, healing will start and the pain will become more manageable. This Too Shall Pass I wish much love to you and your daughter, Imogen x
I'm 54 and online dating at my age is a waste of my precious time, cause the guys my age or a few years younger or older want the 20-30 year olds, and the younger guys in their 30-40's also want the 20-30 year olds, which really leaves us in Dating No mans land, also most guys are only looking for hook ups, ons, fwb or casual, which i've never done, and will never do. I know my worth and what I bring to the table. Or I get contacted by much younger guys in their 20's who are barely legal, kinda like " Older woman, maybe you can teach me a few things in bed". Just my experience. Sunny greetings from Germany Elke
Oh Elke darling, that was my experience too! At 53 I had had enough and pulled the plug on online dating but at the very last second got a message from my darling boy and I thought he was entirely unsuitable for me....and yet I replied and the rest is history. But the Guardian newspaper article sent to me by my friend last week started me thinking and the business model these dating sites have now is so completely changed since I was on there 14 years ago. It's divisive and not at all focused on enabling people to find love. It bothered me that people were being left feeling scammed and let down...hence the video. I'm sure your comment will resonate with a good few people out there darling. Much love, Imogen xxx
Oh my dear lady, that was so so so refreshing, there is a lot to be said for anyone expressing their love for their spouse. There is so much hate around these days that it was an utter joy to hear you praise him...Onto the online dating part. Im in my 50's. I have tried online dating, I have given up. Even if there is mutual attraction from a profile it rarely adds up in real life. The persons build, or voice etc is so important. So I have given up and will do it the old fashioned way! Join clubs etc...fill my days too (for different reasons for now as you describe for yourself). I have subscribed and look forward to joining this classy little corner of RUclips! thank you.
Oh sweetheart what a beautiful message to receive. Thank you so much ❤. I must admit, that when I was on the dating site, voice and the ability to have banter was right up there with breathing…oh… and nice teeth 🦷! Otherwise I wasn’t too bothered. I always tell my darling boy that I first fell in love with his brain 🧠 and then the rest of him later! 🥰 Much love to you and yours Imi ❤xx
I can't imagin I would ever trust an online relationship so much that I would date...sounds awful and scary. A friend in Florida met a Scottish man online (both in their late 60's). He lived on a narrow boat in the Midlands. They hooked up and travelled the world together and had a fabulous few years before he died. I will say though, the way they met online was through a group of like minded souls who were looking to self tranform and end their individual dysfunctions and live in peace and happiness. I guess that made a huge difference to the experience.
Yes, good things can happen because of online dating sites....although, I think things have fundamentally changed in those apps. I think they are more money focussed than they used to be and they're definitely not for me in whatever the future might hold for me. ❤
You look like a lovely person but I’m really curious about what drove you to make this video? You say you’ve been happily with the man you met for years. Why is online dating on your mind? Are you just counting your blessings publicly because you are indeed, in a minority. Watching this really brought me down considering the two disastrous online relationships I had in my early 50’s - I’m 72 now and have to accept that I will never be a chosen one. Ive nearly lost my vision on one eye, but I had my first love - books, until last year - and films. Now I don’t even have that without a struggle. But I get up each day in hope and it doesn’t make me selfish or unkind. Thank you for the wake up from delusion call. I don’t imagine you will ever be alone unless it’s your choice. You ARE the gentle, calm, feminine beauty type that many men desire. PS my picture is 2 years old. I’ve had to be both my Tristan and my Isolde 90% of my life. I can do it, but it wasn’t by choice.
You sound wonderful!, and I hope your husband lives to be over 100 ❤ I have done it the on line dating, a lot of liars !! About their age, nothing like their photos ❤️❤️you say it so beautifully ❤❤
You ask a good question, Katherine. I suppose it came from being sent an article about how dating apps are now so commercial. It was a concern since when I last used this service it was completely different. I dislike people being taken advantage of when they might be at their lowest. Hence the video. The two disastrous online relationships you mention confirm to me that I was right to do so. There are some controlling and manipulative people out there who will try to take advantage of us. I speak with bitter experience on this matter. What I admire about your post is that you get up every day. You continue with your life even when the challenges you face might be considered insurmountable by others not as strong as you. You do not allow this and as you say, ‘I can do it…’ For that you have my respect and admiration. And as for never being a 'chosen one', you darling are the chooser...as are we all. We are all always at a point of choice...like I made the choice to make contact with my darling boy despite thinking we'd have absolutely nothing in common...I replied to his message. You are a beautiful woman darling and I am so sorry that my video bought you down ...that would never be my intention for anyone. Lastly, I had given up on a long term relationship and then I met my darling boy. It came out of nowhere and here I am. As someone close to me once said, ‘who would have thought?’ I would urge that you hold to that. You are strong enough to do so. You also need to use that strength to be kind to yourself which I feel you are not doing sufficiently. You deserve better from you. I wish you well in your journey and I am sure I am not alone in that thought. Much love Imogen xxx❤
As a MAN, I have to thank you for this decision not to date another man. We, as men, value women who take themselves out of the game. Vetting is a tiresome process whereby the removal of falsities and seeing beyond the 'fake-up' is simply tedious. Thank You Again!!
You have absolutely nailed it. The dating apps have been taken over by the finance department, the accountants. Those who know the cost of everything and the value of nothing. It has little to do with dating and more to do with maximising the income. The reality is that a significant number of relationships come from work, introduction from friends and sometimes sheer serendipity. It will be. Or it won't. It just won't come from these dating apps.
Absolutely correct! It's sad that so many people might be drawn into spending money they might not have searching for a relationship that these apps have no intention of helping them to find. xxx
I just found your channel the other day and I'm enjoying it so much. You are such a lovely lady and speak so eloquently. I love listening to you, it's very calming. :) So glad that you found the wonderful man you deserve. I feel the same level of love and respect for my husband and he is definitely irreplaceable. When the time comes, if he goes before me, I would never look again either. It scares me to think of not having him here with me but we all have to face that reality at some point. It really is an awful feeling.
I did online dating years ago. It was not a good experience. I am single but would never go back to online dating. I just go out with friends and what will be, will be. Its lovely that you have met a wonderful loving man that is such a joy. You have experienced true deep love. I can feel my days quite happily, being creative, working in a healing centre voluntary as an energy healer. There is so much we can do. Count our blessings, life is precious.
I absolutely count my blessings every single day and very often comment to my darling boy, how lucky we are to have met. I certainly agree with you about online dating these days from what I read whilst researching this video. I love the idea of volunteering for things. Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx
💐 I totally agree with you! I’m 4 years older than you, and have worried excessively about this. I’ve been remarried now for 11 years and remember the loneliness of being single. But, I would never want to search, get adjusted to,deal with men who don’t want to marry again for whatever reasons, and on and on. Also, it would just not be the same as being with my husband! I just try to enjoy now, and not make myself stress over what might be the future, but it’s hard! At least you will save yourself the decision of whether to try and find a partner again!😊
It’s incredibly difficult to meet a partner on-line over 50+ (& certainly at 60+). A lot either want a part-time fling or a house-keeper/carer! But a friend found her new partner in her mid-60’s, so it is possible
I agree with you darling although I met my darling boy when I was 53. However, I know that I wouldn’t ever want to go online again should my husband go before me. I really didn’t like it when I was online or even having to go out meeting people, so I’d definitely just get a little dog and fill my time with doing nice things for people…and that would be fine xxx❤
Imogen, I am so over joyed when I had time to visit with you after a bit of absence. As you know the US has gone thru a Presidential election which is so decisive. Also we left our Summer home and returning to our Florida Winter home. Gets harder each year. I am so happy your number of subscribers now reflects the true quality you offer and encourage and your sub number grows. Your friend Beverly writing this evening from the Treasure Coast of Florida. Much happiness ❤❤
Oh sweetheart, I have been thinking about you so much since we last spoke on message. How are you darling? Relocating is always hard work 😓 even if it’s your own holiday home. So much to pack, organise and make sure that it safely packed up for another season. It is so exciting to finally see my channel begin to grow. It means that I’m that much closer to earning the funds to be able to pay for my grandchildren’s secondary education…thank goodness I have 2 years to get the money together! They are the reason for my channel and what spurs me on 👧🏼👦🏼 Much love to you and yours darling xx Imi ♥️
I loved your video, thank you for sharing your experiences. You speak lovely and it’s relaxing to listen to. I particularly enjoyed learning about your forward planning if you ever found yourself alone again. It was inspiring. I have been happily married for 31 yrs and my husband now has cancer. He intends to fight it but I have also do have to plan what I would do if I found myself alone. May I ask if you have children and grandchildren? I do not and it’s wonderful to listen to someone who has a plan to fill their days and not become stuck at home alone, depressed; your plan has aspired me and calmed my fears. And also - I love jam, especially the raspberry kind 😊
Oh my darling girl I'm so sorry your husband is unwell. I would urge you to listen to the video that I did, where I share the experience of my friend's stepmother who lives in Spain. She had had an aggressive throat cancer that kept returning at ever increasing speed. It had got to the point where she had a very dire prognosis. My friend Dianne was telling me about it and I told her to tell her stepmother about LDN [low dose naltrexone] as it may well help her. Eva, [my friends's stepmother] started taking LDN in 2017 and she has been cancer free ever since. When I started my channel I asked Dianne if she would ask Eva if she would allow me to tell her story and subsequently Eva sent me her story in a letter which I read on a video. Please take a look it may well help your husband too. I and many members of my family are on LDN for restless leg syndrome and it has been a life saver for me. The website for LDN is : ldnresearchtrust.org/ You will be able to see all of the conditions it is able to treat on the drop down menu, with clickable submenus. If you need any further help with it, please email me. Much love to you both, Imi xxx❤
I'm sorry that you find the title of this video confusing darling, that was never my intention. My intention on making this video was to highlight the dubious business practices of online dating companies and how they get people hooked and the massive expense they might incur when joining one. However, despite my not being single, the fact that my husband is much older than me does make me worry how I would cope should he die before me. What would I do? How would I cope? Fill my day? I am a worrier by nature and that's something I must curb as it's no good for anyone. I have said for a many years that I would never do online dating again, no matter what and after reading the Guardian newspaper article sent to me by my friend it only served to underline my choice. I also thought that people should be warned about their exploitative business model ...hence the video. Much love Imogen x
Sadly, there are dozens, if not hundreds, of videos posted by women who say I'll never do it again, like yours, who say I've found the man of my dreams. That, in itself, displays the vagueness of dating as a senior.
I recommend any woman, any age get a job in retail. Before meeting my now longtime partner, I met men through my retail job. I dated a few of them. And, that is how I met my partner of 20+ years. I shudder to think I would be back in the dating world again. I would get a dog or cat first.
Your teeth look so nice.....Very nice smile. Enjoy each day because we don't know when is our last one. We can die at any age. I have been single/divorced for many years. Thou I have wait to meet the right man and it hasn't happened yet, I still hope someday. Meanwhile I enjoy each day to the fullest by going to the gym and share time with great friend.......MINDY
It's clear to me that God sent you the Angel you wanted and needed. Therefore, please God that the relationship that you are now so happy in will endure for ever and a day. However, if ever your Angel should be called away unexpectedly to be at rest in heaven in advance of your goodself, keep uppermost in your mind how I believe that neither God nor your Angel would ever want you to be lonely, would they ? So remember that although your Angel can never be replaced, God will always make another Angel available to you, and although it's true that no two Angels may not ever be exactly the same, they will always be sent by the same God as before, who knows your heart and knows what you need, even if you may not know that you want it, just as it turned out to be the case as happened before. So the word of comfort that I would wish to leave you with, is that I'm sure that God wants you to be able to live a happy life forever, and simply by you trusting in God, I know that's precisely what's going to happen for you and, may God bless you for keeping faith in the future, Amen.
@ I chose to live alone on a yacht with my dog . Lucky I’m on a tropical island 🏝. Like you have given my heat to the wrong women . People pleaser and giving till it hurt . Looking for approval . Similar to you . When I listen to you this all happened to me . I’ve given up now . For 61 look 50 they say fit as hell with a full head of hair and educated. Just never found that special one it seems .
@@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc Thankyou would be nice 👍 however the last one being 48 and a alcoholic nearly killed me with her nonsense as in hooking up with younger guys . She went to rehab and was to come to the boat to carry on her recovery but instead met a 35 year old in there recovering from meth .
I don’t really get this video, you seem to be in a relationship but it’s just depressing for those of us who aren’t and there are limited options other than online dating, I had to stop watching it got so demoralising.
Your still healing and that takes time but first you have to let it start. Try male friendship over even thinking relationship as feeling your husband would agree. You obviously thought the world of him which should be enjoyed instead of carried over and if you want to just enjoy easy male company that will fully understand your feelings as you if needs be will have to understand his at times. Being sure your husband wouldn't wish for you to be alone as you wouldn't if you were him. Long distance partners are always good and the best thing you can do is not even try to replace you and your husbands time together, keep it always in mind but slowly start something new or slowly in time want to start something new. Meals, trips out, interesting places you enjoy but with a companion who understand your pain and is willing to help rather than being a comparison.
@@marywinter8216 You're right Mary, my darling boy is still very much alive and happy and he is much older than me. Thankfully his family do live to a ripe old age so I keep hoping that this will also be true for him too. xxx
Thank you for being so kind. However, my husband is still very much alive and well and it was only because I was sent the newspaper article about the state of dating apps these days, that I decided to make a video about why I would never consider going on one again. At the point when my husband sent me his message online, I was in the process of deleting my profile for good so I had already come to that decision then. However, when my friend sent me the Guardian newspaper article about how people were feeling disatisfied and scammed by the online dating apps, I felt that I should in essence warn people about their business model. Hence the video. I still live in hopes that my husband will live to be well over 100 and I will be able to care for him. Much love to you and yours, Imogen x
Online dating is not for everyone, especially for those with old-fashioned ideas about dating and relationships. This lady is better off not doing online dating.
You're so right and that is why I made that particular choice 14 years ago...and then met my darling boy in the last 2 seconds of deleting my profile. Much love to you and yours
Wow you are very beautiful. I can't see why a family member can't introduce you to someone. Any over single 50 guy would be getting a second lease on life meeting you.
Thank you so much for your very kind comment. It would not be a lack of the possibility of getting an introduction that would hold me back....more that I would not be able to go into any relationship with an open mind and that wouldn't be fair to the other person or even to myself. xx
Ah….he didn’t care…. I think he was just saying that he thought I was just too sweet…perhaps he even thought I was sickly sweet 🤢 and not everyone wants that. As he said, ‘Sometimes people want bread and dripping’ which would be considered savoury 🙄
Thank you darling, however my darling boy and are still happily together....the reason for the video is not because I was contemplating doing online dating, it was because my friend had sent me an article from the Guardian Newspaper about online dating and how things had fundamentally changed since we were both on it. I get very angry when people get taken advantage of....having been there myself in the past. It's the sense of injustice that gets me so upset. So I decided to make this video in essence to warn people of what they might be letting themselves in for...not that I was contemplating the online dating scene for myself. Much love to you and yours darling, Imi xxx❤
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I know I won't be dating anyone else ever again in the distant future , but what about you? Have you had a funny dating experience like mine where I was compared to toast with jam? 😂 I suspect he couldn't really say I was sickly sweet could he...but I think that's what he meant don't you? Much love to you all, Imi xxx 💕
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It's funny because I met my lady online 11 years ago. And we are fine. But I had a few strange cases before. One I met said she didn't like men who wore hats. Her profile picture was much younger than in real life. And also said non smoker. As I approached our meeting place I saw this lady and thought I was seeing things. Ime thinking this cant be her it must be her mother. But to my horror it was and she was puffing away on a cigarette 🚬.. I used to be very sociable. But society just seems to have collapsed these days. I wouldn't ever use a dating site again good luck in youre quest
I'm 62, and just lost my wife of 27 years, 2 months ago to brain cancer. Would never want to experience this level of loss again. And we have a 16 yo daughter. Need to focus there.
Oh sweetheart I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Grief is such a wretched process isn't it. Just when you think things are getting a little less raw, it ambushes you all over again.
Without great love there would be no pain and you clearly loved your darling wife very much indeed.
Eventually....after all the anniversaries have been and gone, healing will start and the pain will become more manageable.
This Too Shall Pass
I wish much love to you and your daughter, Imogen x
@@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc Thank you. I think I'm on RUclips searching for answers.
🥺🥺😭💔🙏🏽🙏🏽🙏🏽I’m so sorry
Senior online dating is like looking at a police line up.
This comment actually made me laugh out loud!!!🤣 You are so right! xxx❤
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I’m so grateful to find your channel, sharing such beautiful insights.
I am so pleased that you are enjoying my offerings darling xx
I enjoyed your monologue, Imogen. Thank you!!
Thank you darling and also for taking the time to watch and comment too xxx
I'm 54 and online dating at my age is a waste of my precious time, cause the guys my age or a few years younger or older want the 20-30 year olds, and the younger guys in their 30-40's also want the 20-30 year olds, which really leaves us in Dating No mans land, also most guys are only looking for hook ups, ons, fwb or casual, which i've never done, and will never do. I know my worth and what I bring to the table. Or I get contacted by much younger guys in their 20's who are barely legal, kinda like " Older woman, maybe you can teach me a few things in bed". Just my experience. Sunny greetings from Germany Elke
Oh Elke darling, that was my experience too! At 53 I had had enough and pulled the plug on online dating but at the very last second got a message from my darling boy and I thought he was entirely unsuitable for me....and yet I replied and the rest is history.
But the Guardian newspaper article sent to me by my friend last week started me thinking and the business model these dating sites have now is so completely changed since I was on there 14 years ago. It's divisive and not at all focused on enabling people to find love. It bothered me that people were being left feeling scammed and let down...hence the video.
I'm sure your comment will resonate with a good few people out there darling. Much love, Imogen xxx
Oh my dear lady, that was so so so refreshing, there is a lot to be said for anyone expressing their love for their spouse. There is so much hate around these days that it was an utter joy to hear you praise him...Onto the online dating part. Im in my 50's. I have tried online dating, I have given up. Even if there is mutual attraction from a profile it rarely adds up in real life. The persons build, or voice etc is so important. So I have given up and will do it the old fashioned way! Join clubs etc...fill my days too (for different reasons for now as you describe for yourself). I have subscribed and look forward to joining this classy little corner of RUclips! thank you.
Oh sweetheart what a beautiful message to receive. Thank you so much ❤. I must admit, that when I was on the dating site, voice and the ability to have banter was right up there with breathing…oh… and nice teeth 🦷! Otherwise I wasn’t too bothered. I always tell my darling boy that I first fell in love with his brain 🧠 and then the rest of him later! 🥰 Much love to you and yours Imi ❤xx
I can't imagin I would ever trust an online relationship so much that I would date...sounds awful and scary.
A friend in Florida met a Scottish man online (both in their late 60's). He lived on a narrow boat in the Midlands. They hooked up and travelled the world together and had a fabulous few years before he died.
I will say though, the way they met online was through a group of like minded souls who were looking to self tranform and end their individual dysfunctions and live in peace and happiness. I guess that made a huge difference to the experience.
Yes, good things can happen because of online dating sites....although, I think things have fundamentally changed in those apps. I think they are more money focussed than they used to be and they're definitely not for me in whatever the future might hold for me. ❤
You look like a lovely person but I’m really curious about what drove you to make this video? You say you’ve been happily with the man you met for years. Why is online dating on your mind? Are you just counting your blessings publicly because you are indeed, in a minority. Watching this really brought me down considering the two disastrous online relationships I had in my early 50’s - I’m 72 now and have to accept that I will never be a chosen one. Ive nearly lost my vision on one eye, but I had my first love - books, until last year - and films. Now I don’t even have that without a struggle. But I get up each day in hope and it doesn’t make me selfish or unkind. Thank you for the wake up from delusion call. I don’t imagine you will ever be alone unless it’s your choice. You ARE the gentle, calm, feminine beauty type that many men desire. PS my picture is 2 years old. I’ve had to be both my Tristan and my Isolde 90% of my life. I can do it, but it wasn’t by choice.
You sound wonderful!, and I hope your husband lives to be over 100 ❤ I have done it the on line dating, a lot of liars !! About their age, nothing like their photos ❤️❤️you say it so beautifully ❤❤
You ask a good question, Katherine. I suppose it came from being sent an article about how dating apps are now so commercial. It was a concern since when I last used this service it was completely different. I dislike people being taken advantage of when they might be at their lowest. Hence the video. The two disastrous online relationships you mention confirm to me that I was right to do so. There are some controlling and manipulative people out there who will try to take advantage of us. I speak with bitter experience on this matter.
What I admire about your post is that you get up every day. You continue with your life even when the challenges you face might be considered insurmountable by others not as strong as you. You do not allow this and as you say, ‘I can do it…’ For that you have my respect and admiration. And as for never being a 'chosen one', you darling are the chooser...as are we all. We are all always at a point of choice...like I made the choice to make contact with my darling boy despite thinking we'd have absolutely nothing in common...I replied to his message.
You are a beautiful woman darling and I am so sorry that my video bought you down
...that would never be my intention for anyone.
Lastly, I had given up on a long term relationship and then I met my darling boy. It came out of nowhere and here I am. As someone close to me once said, ‘who would have thought?’ I would urge that you hold to that. You are strong enough to do so. You also need to use that strength to be kind to yourself which I feel you are not doing sufficiently. You deserve better from you. I wish you well in your journey and I am sure I am not alone in that thought. Much love Imogen xxx❤
@@102create Well said. Completely agree.
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Nice film and your so well spoken.🎉
Thank you so much 🎉 you’re very kind darling xx
As a MAN, I have to thank you for this decision not to date another man.
We, as men, value women who take themselves out of the game. Vetting is a tiresome process whereby the removal of falsities and seeing beyond the 'fake-up' is simply tedious.
Thank You Again!!
Thank you. Noted
Wow, this lady looks soooo young for her age. Talks a lot of logical reasoning.
Filter.
I'm nothing if not logical....at times when I'm not distracted that is🙄. Thank you darling for your kind comment. Much love to you and yours, Imi xx
You have absolutely nailed it. The dating apps have been taken over by the finance department, the accountants. Those who know the cost of everything and the value of nothing. It has little to do with dating and more to do with maximising the income. The reality is that a significant number of relationships come from work, introduction from friends and sometimes sheer serendipity. It will be. Or it won't. It just won't come from these dating apps.
Absolutely correct! It's sad that so many people might be drawn into spending money they might not have searching for a relationship that these apps have no intention of helping them to find. xxx
I just found your channel the other day and I'm enjoying it so much. You are such a lovely lady and speak so eloquently. I love listening to you, it's very calming. :) So glad that you found the wonderful man you deserve. I feel the same level of love and respect for my husband and he is definitely irreplaceable. When the time comes, if he goes before me, I would never look again either. It scares me to think of not having him here with me but we all have to face that reality at some point. It really is an awful feeling.
I can't even begin to think of it because I have such a vivid imagination and I begin to weep. ❤xxx
I did online dating years ago. It was not a good experience. I am single but would never go back to online dating. I just go out with friends and what will be, will be. Its lovely that you have met a wonderful loving man that is such a joy. You have experienced true deep love. I can feel my days quite happily, being creative, working in a healing centre voluntary as an energy healer. There is so much we can do. Count our blessings, life is precious.
I absolutely count my blessings every single day and very often comment to my darling boy, how lucky we are to have met. I certainly agree with you about online dating these days from what I read whilst researching this video. I love the idea of volunteering for things.
Merry Christmas 🎄 to you and yours, Much love Imi xxx
You have had a rough go and have passed the test. You are in your resting place now, after all of your suffering. Happy for you. God bless you.
Thank you sweetheart. Have a wonderful Christmas 🎄. Much love ❤️ Imi xxxx
💐 I totally agree with you! I’m 4 years older than you, and have worried excessively about this. I’ve been remarried now for 11 years and remember the loneliness of being single. But, I would never want to search, get adjusted to,deal with men who don’t want to marry again for whatever reasons, and on and on. Also, it would just not be the same as being with my husband! I just try to enjoy now, and not make myself stress over what might be the future, but it’s hard! At least you will save yourself the decision of whether to try and find a partner again!😊
You have managed to hit the nail on the head darling. I have a plan now and that will stop me worrying about the future should the worst happen. xxx❤
It’s incredibly difficult to meet a partner on-line over 50+ (& certainly at 60+). A lot either want a part-time fling or a house-keeper/carer! But a friend found her new partner in her mid-60’s, so it is possible
I agree with you darling although I met my darling boy when I was 53. However, I know that I wouldn’t ever want to go online again should my husband go before me. I really didn’t like it when I was online or even having to go out meeting people, so I’d definitely just get a little dog and fill my time with doing nice things for people…and that would be fine xxx❤
Imogen, I am so over joyed when I had time to visit with you after a bit of absence. As you know the US has gone thru a Presidential election which is so decisive. Also we left our Summer home and returning to our Florida Winter home. Gets harder each year.
I am so happy your number of subscribers now reflects the true quality you offer and encourage and your sub number grows. Your friend Beverly writing this evening from the Treasure Coast of Florida. Much happiness ❤❤
Oh sweetheart, I have been thinking about you so much since we last spoke on message. How are you darling?
Relocating is always hard work 😓 even if it’s your own holiday home. So much to pack, organise and make sure that it safely packed up for another season.
It is so exciting to finally see my channel begin to grow. It means that I’m that much closer to earning the funds to be able to pay for my grandchildren’s secondary education…thank goodness I have 2 years to get the money together! They are the reason for my channel and what spurs me on 👧🏼👦🏼
Much love to you and yours darling xx Imi ♥️
So happy you found someone worthy of your loving kindness! Tfs ❤️
Thank you 🙏🏻 it took me an entire lifetime to be found by him ♥️
I loved your video, thank you for sharing your experiences. You speak lovely and it’s relaxing to listen to. I particularly enjoyed learning about your forward planning if you ever found yourself alone again. It was inspiring. I have been happily married for 31 yrs and my husband now has cancer. He intends to fight it but I have also do have to plan what I would do if I found myself alone. May I ask if you have children and grandchildren? I do not and it’s wonderful to listen to someone who has a plan to fill their days and not become stuck at home alone, depressed; your plan has aspired me and calmed my fears. And also - I love jam, especially the raspberry kind 😊
Oh my darling girl I'm so sorry your husband is unwell. I would urge you to listen to the video that I did, where I share the experience of my friend's stepmother who lives in Spain.
She had had an aggressive throat cancer that kept returning at ever increasing speed. It had got to the point where she had a very dire prognosis.
My friend Dianne was telling me about it and I told her to tell her stepmother about LDN [low dose naltrexone] as it may well help her.
Eva, [my friends's stepmother] started taking LDN in 2017 and she has been cancer free ever since.
When I started my channel I asked Dianne if she would ask Eva if she would allow me to tell her story and subsequently Eva sent me her story in a letter which I read on a video.
Please take a look it may well help your husband too.
I and many members of my family are on LDN for restless leg syndrome and it has been a life saver for me.
The website for LDN is : ldnresearchtrust.org/
You will be able to see all of the conditions it is able to treat on the drop down menu, with clickable submenus.
If you need any further help with it, please email me. Much love to you both, Imi xxx❤
You make sense. 💕
Thank you darling
I met my hubby 19 years ago online, still married, now retired. We were 50 when we met
Oh darling that's so fabulous to hear! Much love to you both, Imi xx
I agree with you ..but if you are married..why the name of this video…confusing
I'm sorry that you find the title of this video confusing darling, that was never my intention.
My intention on making this video was to highlight the dubious business practices of online dating companies and how they get people hooked and the massive expense they might incur when joining one.
However, despite my not being single, the fact that my husband is much older than me does make me worry how I would cope should he die before me. What would I do? How would I cope? Fill my day? I am a worrier by nature and that's something I must curb as it's no good for anyone.
I have said for a many years that I would never do online dating again, no matter what and after reading the Guardian newspaper article sent to me by my friend it only served to underline my choice. I also thought that people should be warned about their exploitative business model ...hence the video. Much love Imogen x
I,m 65 and never again full of scammers liars and a holes and don,t shut up about the exs and themselves yikes
Isn’t it disappointing darling.xx
@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc totally
Sadly, there are dozens, if not hundreds, of videos posted by women who say I'll never do it again, like yours, who say I've found the man of my dreams. That, in itself, displays the vagueness of dating as a senior.
Thank you. Noted. I wish you well, Imogen
A very sincere statement and also a true comitment towards the partner.
Rarely seen these days.
Thank you darling for such a kind comment. Much Leo to you and yours, Imi x
Yes the dating sites have rapidly gone down hill. Like everything else we sure ard living in weird times ❤
It seems so! And you’re absolutely right, we are definitely living in weird times! 😳
I recommend any woman, any age get a job in retail. Before meeting my now longtime partner, I met men through my retail job. I dated a few of them. And, that is how I met my partner of 20+ years. I shudder to think I would be back in the dating world again. I would get a dog or cat first.
My thoughts exactly darling. I would get a little dog and work in a charity shop xxx
Well said. I feel the same about my husband.
We're on the same page darling....Much love to you both, Imi xxxx
Your teeth look so nice.....Very nice smile. Enjoy each day because we don't know when is our last one. We can die at any age. I have been single/divorced for many years. Thou I have wait to meet the right man and it hasn't happened yet, I still hope someday. Meanwhile I enjoy each day to the fullest by going to the gym and share time with great friend.......MINDY
That’s all we can do darling isn’t it. Live our best life while we can. Much love ❤️ Imi xxx
It's clear to me that God sent you the Angel you wanted and needed. Therefore, please God that the relationship that you are now so happy in will endure for ever and a day. However, if ever your Angel should be called away unexpectedly to be at rest in heaven in advance of your goodself, keep uppermost in your mind how I believe that neither God nor your Angel would ever want you to be lonely, would they ? So remember that although your Angel can never be replaced, God will always make another Angel available to you, and although it's true that no two Angels may not ever be exactly the same, they will always be sent by the same God as before, who knows your heart and knows what you need, even if you may not know that you want it, just as it turned out to be the case as happened before. So the word of comfort that I would wish to leave you with, is that I'm sure that God wants you to be able to live a happy life forever, and simply by you trusting in God, I know that's precisely what's going to happen for you and, may God bless you for keeping faith in the future, Amen.
Thank you Ed for such a kind and thoughtful comment x
I’ve never done online dating . Rather meet someone in a organic way . Your a smart good looking woman and you will meet someone
I do hope it works for you Andre
@ I chose to live alone on a yacht with my dog . Lucky I’m on a tropical island 🏝. Like you have given my heat to the wrong women . People pleaser and giving till it hurt . Looking for approval . Similar to you . When I listen to you this all happened to me . I’ve given up now . For 61 look 50 they say fit as hell with a full head of hair and educated. Just never found that special one it seems .
@@AndreFlavell There will be someone out there who deserves you
@@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc Thankyou would be nice 👍 however the last one being 48 and a alcoholic nearly killed me with her nonsense as in hooking up with younger guys . She went to rehab and was to come to the boat to carry on her recovery but instead met a 35 year old in there recovering from meth .
I agree with you . . few spoil for the rest of the honest / lovely people xx
You’re so right darling. It’s a pity, but it’s not a trustworthy environment for most people 😔 xxx
You are such a beautiful person (Emma, is it?), inside and out xxx
My name is Imogen. Thank you darling, what a kind and generous thing to say ❤
@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc oh, a beautiful name too 🥰
@@lynnpurfield9430 Agree with everything you've written. It's also kind. Kudos.
I don’t really get this video, you seem to be in a relationship but it’s just depressing for those of us who aren’t and there are limited options other than online dating, I had to stop watching it got so demoralising.
Thank you for your comment Bert. I'm sorry this video had such a demoralising effect on you...it was never my intention to make anyone feel low.
Your still healing and that takes time but first you have to let it start. Try male friendship over even thinking relationship as feeling your husband would agree. You obviously thought the world of him which should be enjoyed instead of carried over and if you want to just enjoy easy male company that will fully understand your feelings as you if needs be will have to understand his at times. Being sure your husband wouldn't wish for you to be alone as you wouldn't if you were him. Long distance partners are always good and the best thing you can do is not even try to replace you and your husbands time together, keep it always in mind but slowly start something new or slowly in time want to start something new. Meals, trips out, interesting places you enjoy but with a companion who understand your pain and is willing to help rather than being a comparison.
I think her husband is alive. She is supposing about being alone because he’s so much older than she is.
@@marywinter8216 You're right Mary, my darling boy is still very much alive and happy and he is much older than me. Thankfully his family do live to a ripe old age so I keep hoping that this will also be true for him too. xxx
Thank you for being so kind. However, my husband is still very much alive and well and it was only because I was sent the newspaper article about the state of dating apps these days, that I decided to make a video about why I would never consider going on one again.
At the point when my husband sent me his message online, I was in the process of deleting my profile for good so I had already come to that decision then. However, when my friend sent me the Guardian newspaper article about how people were feeling disatisfied and scammed by the online dating apps, I felt that I should in essence warn people about their business model. Hence the video.
I still live in hopes that my husband will live to be well over 100 and I will be able to care for him.
Much love to you and yours, Imogen x
You are a lovely lady 😉
Thank you so much for such a kind comment
Online dating is not for everyone, especially for those with old-fashioned ideas about dating and relationships. This lady is better off not doing online dating.
You're so right and that is why I made that particular choice 14 years ago...and then met my darling boy in the last 2 seconds of deleting my profile. Much love to you and yours
Wow you are very beautiful. I can't see why a family member can't introduce you to someone. Any over single 50 guy would be getting a second lease on life meeting you.
Thank you so much for your very kind comment. It would not be a lack of the possibility of getting an introduction that would hold me back....more that I would not be able to go into any relationship with an open mind and that wouldn't be fair to the other person or even to myself. xx
@@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc Completely agree. Well said.,
Guardian reader. Fail.
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Thank you so much Steve.
HI LOT'S OF LOVE FOR TODAY 😊😅😮😢😮😅😊
Thank you so much John, that’s very kind of you! 🎉
@TheNumber1LadiesClub-lf9yc HI THOUGHT THAT WOULD MAKE YOU SMILE 😁😊😊
If he had been a gentleman hd would have had the decency to ask what was you're favourite jam 😂
Ah….he didn’t care…. I think he was just saying that he thought I was just too sweet…perhaps he even thought I was sickly sweet 🤢 and not everyone wants that. As he said, ‘Sometimes people want bread and dripping’ which would be considered savoury 🙄
Your man left you and you still thinks he's the best that's unfair to yourself . Im 60 and my man is 40
Thank you darling, however my darling boy and are still happily together....the reason for the video is not because I was contemplating doing online dating, it was because my friend had sent me an article from the Guardian Newspaper about online dating and how things had fundamentally changed since we were both on it.
I get very angry when people get taken advantage of....having been there myself in the past. It's the sense of injustice that gets me so upset. So I decided to make this video in essence to warn people of what they might be letting themselves in for...not that I was contemplating the online dating scene for myself. Much love to you and yours darling, Imi xxx❤