The Dangers of Hazing and Bullying | Kathleen Wiant | TEDxDayton
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- Опубликовано: 2 окт 2024
- The practice of hazing, as a subset of bullying, is a subject few ever hear about unless it results in a death that makes it newsworthy. Kathleen knows this intimately, having lived the nightmare of being awoken to the news of her son’s death at college due to hazing. Through sharing her heartbreaking experience, Kathleen brings to light the hidden dynamics of hazing and its deceptively slow build. She shows how the twisting of consent and the use of shame work to keep hazing victims silent, and how it will take courage from authority figures, peers, and family members to help victims avoid the abusive consequences of hazing. Kathleen Wiant, mother of five children, had her world change forever in November 2018 when her 18-year-old son, Collin, died from fraternity hazing at Ohio University. This motivated her to learn about hazing and in the process, she discovered a critical remedy for it…courage. She now speaks at universities across the country to share her findings and lobbies for anti-hazing legislation on a national level. She is also progressing with Ohio’s anti-hazing & anti-bullying law, Collin’s Law. Kathleen has spent her career in professional training and leadership development. As a board member of The Collin Wiant Foundation, she is passionate about its mission to “bring more Kindness + Courage to the world.” This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx
Your strength amazes me... I lost my boy 15 mins after birth and it broke me. I've not even cared for him or got to know him and I went to the darkest place possible and yet you, you are standing in front of people speaking about it. Hat's off to you, strong woman!
Thank you for telling your story and sharing your son’s beautiful life! With deepest sympathy for your loss. My Dad bullied me everyday, it’s awful and life changing.
I see a strong mom with love for her son who passed away too soon at the hands of another person.
Amen. I see the same woman searching for answers and doing her best.
Is ragging or hazing the same ?
@@namiee5
What is it coded language ???
Adults also bully other adults.
One in five schoolchildren. One in three adults.
And thats why I hate too work
I think that losing a child is the worst thing that can happen to a human being.
In my opinion is that losing parents. You can have another children but you can't have parents again...
@@suleyclskn2145 It is impossible to compare the loss of loved ones. As you say; "You can have another child ..."
You cannot replace a child with another child. Never.
Losing children used to be normal for everyone's ancestors. They appear to have handled it well.
I think losing hope is the worst thing that can happen to a person.
(My heart goes out to those who've lost a child. That must be terrible.)
I feel so sorry for this mother and so many others.
As someone who was hazed and eventually stood up to the hazing only to be thrown out of that school for not following traditions, falling in line and ultimately trying to protect others all I can say is that educational facilities need to do a lot better because they fall short far to often when it come to protecting the abused and vulnerable instead of the perpetrators.
It's very disturbing there are humans that love the power of control of another human being and using manipulation as a form of control over the person's social status.
Basically the government 😂
Over the child's emotional status is in its way the iceberg itself obviously. My sentiments for your loss. Thank you for stepping up.
btw, Gabor Maté may give solace for other sufferers of hazing or other exhausting habits that authentic beings are enduring. Stay well. 🙏🌱
I lived thru in my married life
Till my sibling taught me the difference between abusive, haze,ragging..I was scared of my kids from violent retaliation,scared of societal ostracism, but all this fears seemed unreal now, so I partially blame myself for allowi ng thisto happen to me .
Suffered lifelong but never late to recognise and shake it off
I have done the right things and protected myself and have been stalked by a vicious gang of low lives who soil my name so badly every day sometimes I want to cry. They depict me as a person with traits I never had and will go to any length to hurt me.
Victims create more victims the kid that bulled him probably was abused in his life to and he wanted Control over whatever he could in his life and he only could control this kid who killed himself
the whole "they can't stand up for themselves, they're weak" sounds like victim-blaming, I reject that notion and substitute "anyone can be fooled by bullies and abusers"
This "victim-blaming" card is nothing but a leftist newspeak bulldung. If you can't stand up for yourself that means you are weak and you deserve it. The world isn't a magical place with fairies and ponies, you can try to "ban" bullies in your country and create a weak nation who isn't used to deal with bullies, but then a strong nation of bullies will come and conquer you.
It is so distressing that this sort of thing is still happening. Every few years we see such a tragedy, and it still happens. 120 years ago a West Point cadet died from complications from hazing rituals, and a young Douglas MacArthur testified before Congress. And it's still happening.
Regardless of how many times we saw "never again," there is tremendous pressure preventing anyone from saying "Stop! This is enough!" If anyone tries to stop the brutality, they are shut down, ridiculed, or it's all rationalized with "But we had to do it!" as if that excuses all brutality.
Student organizations are not going to patrol themselves. Look at what happened here, the first thing the Fraternity did was try to cover it up. Education is a big part, but outside surveillance and strict consequences are essential.
Ohio University alumnus.
So glad I never became part of a fraternity. People say its to make connections and I say, why would I want to work with someone who is willing to just bend over and let frat boys have their way with them?
No one likes to be a joke and we should mock those who run these houses as leaders. And administration's should just be willing to expell them. Course it would help if these places wereore government run..
And know not everybody has a huge need to belong, some people have no need to belong and really don't care
Good question. Why not indeed.
So the world is basically being hazed by the overlords. Tactics are very similar.
Here's an idea...go to community college instead of university. Went to classes, got taught by people who actually work the industries they teach. Didn't have to talk to anybody, didn't care to. Now I'm a tech.
lived in the same dorm as me my freshman year of college at OU, same floor too. 4th floor of gam, we weren’t close, but we saw each other almost every day. seemed like such a kind-hearted kid. RIP collin
I pray anyone that sees this is successful in life
I don't know who Ted is, but I love his Talks.
impressing speech never knew this!
I think a HUGE problem of the effects of this issue is that some of the bullied end up being law enforcement and the politico. What is the term ? Revenge is best served cold ?
This talk is so necessary. Thank you.
I did not know there was a special name for what to me is obviously abusive and criminal behaviour. Her poor son, I feel really bad for him, I am sure he was a great guy. His mother is such a strong person and she is brave for sharing this information and doing activism! I agree all of this is completely underreported, because the victims feel so ashamed and they blame themselves, but it is not their fault!
How much of school is a social experiment? So to speak. In a world of it’s not what u know but who u know . It will take a cultural change to accomplish any real and lasting solutions .
I am so sorry for your loss. Thank you for championing our vulnerable future that is our sons and daughters
Don't tie a person's survival on collage success (financial success) and people will be more confident in saying "no"
I'm in tears!!! So sorry for their loss. My hair is standing up... Unbelievable!!! So very, very sad.....
2020/2021 in a nutshell
Wow sooo heartbreaking Sooo sad and so senseless 😥😥😥Your Son will Forever Memorialized in Our History
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My child went through this in Lemoore Elementary School and she developed a behaviro of hurt and pain and she decided to take it upon herslef to protect herself from the bully and the school expelled her instead i didnt have the resources to fight back so i had no choice but to change schools now i hope its not to late to fight back for her 10 year old life
beating? waterboarding? that's pure torture
Valuable words 💯
Transformers everywhere. Pay attention
What?
Hazing is a problem of the rich and the elite, which other words is not my problem, lol. Believe it or not, some people have more pressing matters then fitting in with social groups
💯💪 exactly
I grew up in a poor, small-town vatio and there was hazing. We just called it "getting jumped in"
@@nateofthesouth interesting, could you tell me the name of your town? I'm a studying to be a criminologist, so I like studying this kind of stuff.
Hazing & bullying is EVERYONE'S problem. You say you study criminology - is that what your course taught you? In that case you had better take up psychology as a major as well.
@@nateofthesouth very true. Bullying doesn't see status. Poor can bully the rich and vice-versa. Kids from the era of industrialization and beyond just aren't brought up well. People should have kids only when they are absolutely sure they can give them all their best - a balanced upbringing. They should be exmplary themselves and lead with compassion and humility. Otherwise for the sake of the planet - DON'T HAVE KIDS.
Great 💚👄💟 Have an amazing and blessed day everyone ❤️
Literaly am goin threw this rite now...i got rought around a bunch of people that have no self worth including my parents..they were on drugs got brought to my aunts church to find out i was going to have a kid with some girl i would have never liked threw the whole process im telling my mom my little brother cousins whats wrong with them while these people are bullying and talking to us in the worst way..i was getting kicked the face in my sleep..my problem is they know and we dont but they dont leave us alone or talk normaly..its not that im not understanding its the fact that i only know these people..i can remember this happening when i was young with my baby brother then again when i was around nine or ten...u think u hear voice after a while but youre litteraly like she said getting chokes sum how u start to see stars or focus on something thats against your normal thought...each time this has happened has been a time where my family was struggling..
Pittsburg ca
purple circle tattoos for anti-hazing initiatives
i would advice watching the speech.
全ての日本の組織、学校はこの動画を見たほうがいいと思う。IOC森喜朗がやっている女性蔑視はまさにHazing.日本のオリンピック組織はHazing of "性差別"がcustomなのね。
*GREEK SUBTITLES PLEASE*
Translate to Arabic please
ترجموه للعربي بليز
you are from Syria right? Is that still bombing there?
@@madsubhash yes I am
And yes it still bombing but not all parts of it.
Some cities are and some cities are not
@@madsubhash can I ask you where are you from?
@@kkkooo9371 India 😏
it's not bombing anywhere here
@@madsubhash it was nice to talk to you
Wish peace for India 🤍
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ليش مافي ترجمة
her hair color is pretty!!! what is it?
Bullies Are Nothing But cowards they shall get theirs what goes around comes around Karma has no time limit they shall get there's no time limit to Karma what goes around comes around them and their family * 3 so mote it be
I've seen bad actors do very well in life.
Hi from India 🇮🇳
Did she forget to actually explain what hazing is? I am not an english speaker so I don't really have an idea what it means...
hazing is the action taken or situation created,on or off campus, to produce discomfort, embarrassment, harassment .
In America most people know what it means because, sadly, it is very common.
also, hazing often includes drugs/alcohol and other harmful thing switch causes lots of deaths, specifically in colleges
@@madelinegreen9282 Thank you! Very interesting and sad at the same time. The definitions I found on the internet weren't very good.
Cadê legenda!!!!!
There's more to it...
Yes there is and don't be fooled. She portrays her son as an angel and a victim, yet he was a willing participant in many of these activities. I know students that go to school there that knew him and he had a "big party boy" reputation on campus and was known to be involved with "things".
Nice
Sounds like what the governments are doing currently 😵💫
Je ne parle pas un mot de cette langue
Sooks
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Thank you
bullys make weak kids strong or dead
that social darwinism does not make the act right, the ends do not justify the means
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nice very much ♥
Hablen del ciberbullying en las redes sociales,
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روعة قناتك كلها روعة
Sorry this isn't a problem, your lack of embracing the 2nd amendment, and telling others to fk off. This is a parenting problem, stop blaming the product, blame the producer.
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Well done mate
@@vikazal4731 thank u mate
So who here is over the age of 12?...
Who here is under the age of 12 😉
@@PACKERMAN2077 😝
Can someone explain to me what is Hazing. I dont understand to much and it would be kind to hear from someone who knows it.
My english is rosty :/
Didnt‘t watch the Ted Talk fully, but it‘s bullying, just a ,,lighter‘‘, it‘s like making fun of someone, picking on someone and making them feel less worthy by not respecting them/excluding them etc, ,,small actions’‘, maybe not as physical violent or aggressive (what you would associate with bullying) but it still adds up
Someone explain hazing to me plz.
Omg 55%
You've been hazed
Generation beta
This one actually starts around 2028. The current one is Alpha Generation, from 2012 to 2027.
HA HA! True! Look at testosterone levels by decade for the last 70 years or so.
I think birth control is changing us as a species.
lol 41st comment
I am against blatant bullying but understand that by removing terms of bullying and making schools anti bully does not remove bullying. Look at American society and I see bullying all around and its not by the jock its by the SJW types.
we need bullies in the world so there aren’t any more blue haired dog collar wearing emo girls walking around anymore
Hazings not all that bad this is the extreme!! just as there is in any part of society.. let’s not all freak out sad story sure shocking ! Let’s not loose sight of the comradeship it can foster. OiA
Shouldn’t be happening at all and this is from someone in a frat...
This is the perfect example of a Karen.
True. But with the origin story it's understandable.
Gotta get ready for real life somehow. Bullying is good for u
It depends on the amount. Water is good. But too much will drown you.
nate of the south yeah but you need water to survive. People are easier to control if they are weak. Keep them from fighting young and they will be good citizens of the world
Jesus H Christ, another failure as a parent and so they decide to take away everybody’s fun and bonding.
Troll!
@@dawns4641 goddamn right somebody has to keep TedEx In their place
Dude! Her kid died and she's searching for answers. Cut her some slack.
It's a pity she found political power instead of answers, but still.. a little compassion is warranted.
Speaking of Jesus, oh boy little boy are you going to get it !
Care to explain? How did they 'take away everybody's fun and bonding'?