My child want's to marry outside our race/culture - Mufti Menk
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- So you moved to an environment which is mixed with so many nationalities and races yet your child must only marry within your own race... hmm...
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Racism in the ummah is a serious issue! Everyone puts their culture over religion, it’s so bizarre to me as a white Australian revert 😂 I think born Muslims have a lot to learn from reverts, we come to Islam from a clear perspective, not influenced by cultural practices.
exactly that's the major issue ..here in the indian subcontinent people kill if their child asks for a marriage outside their caste...here we have castes in muslims like hindus have...they dont understand it's a cultural practice and continue to be ignorant
Agreed!
I agree with you. We take everything for granted.
You are right brother. This mindset needs to change
i never agreed so strong
I'm a Christian and it is really great to see the perspective of Islam on diversity.....
All you need to know is that Salman Al Farsi (Persian), Suhayb Ar Rumi (blonde haired, colored eyes. They called him Suhayb the Roman, most likely mixed race), Bilal Al Habshi (Ethiopian, black guy who used to be a slave) were all part of the inner circle of the Prophet SAWW. They all spoke with accents, at the same time, were considered great authority in Quranic teaching. They are also among the most highly regarded companions of the Prophet as well. As soon as you embrace Islam, you're part of the community. And everyone is a brother and sister. Diversity is encouraged in Islam.
If only all people could saw that way, this world will be confortable for live. I'm muslim.
@@unstoppable2308 Victim complex. Speak of Muslim violence yet purposely blind to the disproportionate and far more frequent lynching by radical Hindutva extremist mobs.
@HAIL SATAN May Allah guide you.
@HAIL SATAN nah cuz are u replying to each comment hating thats actually really saddd LMFAOOO
Love has no race, but be certain that it is love, and not lust.
Exactly 💯
@@Syedafathima12005 as Muslims, as Ahlus Sunnah Wal’Jamaa’ah, we don’t necessarily marry for love either. We marry to grow closer to Allah ﷻ and to better serve & worship The Almighty. That’s something this generation tends to forget.
@@jibril2473 u can get close to Allah while being in love
U shouldn't marry someone u don't love otherwise its just for convenience
@@Freepalestinefromisnotreal111 I never said you “shouldn’t” sister. Please read my statement again with wisdom. Baarak’Allahu Fik
@I love Jews grow up, get a life, be a man and stop trolling.
Am a Christian, but since I started watching u.... am drowning close to God more than before, u really a blessing to many. 🙏🙏🙏
May Allah guide us to the right path....ameen
May God bless you
May Allah (god) bless you dear sister.
I hope this is not an eye service ???
Very knowledgeable ma sha Allah
Religiously !!!
This is literally the first and only Muslim I've seen speaking in this way. If they were all like him there wouldn't be a problem.
Facts! I know a lot of them and they disown they’re children that marry black people. You can convert as a black person and they have no problem with that. But try marrying one of they’re own and watch how they react to it
I feel sorry for Christians who donno the true word of God, they will fall so hard for this man.
I hope you know you basically just said “He’s one of the good ones”. Don’t let single experience define your expectations for a whole group of people and expose your biases, that’s just plain ignorance
@@chukwudiogechukwu4385 It's probably not a single experience. He's preaching these ideas because he knows a lot of people in his community don't feel that way and he wants to get through to them about it.
But they are not. So there is. Lol
Im an American Muslim in Love with an Egyptian. When God speaks of that hes created us in pairs I feel that with her. But she has kept herself apart from falling because of judgement of her family here and back home. Ive prayed on this many times. The pain is so heavy. It's in Allahs hands.
⬅️Assalamualikum I invite everyone to listen the beautiful Recitation of The Holy Qur'an ❤️
May Allah make it easy for you. Indeed he's the one who accepts Duas. May Allah swt bless you
Pray tahujjud at night
@@dr.sofiataranum605 ameen
May Allah ease your affairs! Ameen
I wish he was my dad! 😭for the all dads and brother reading this comment please don’t be harsh it’s already so difficult to find a spouse so stop being too judgemental!
"I wish he was my dad"... That speaks volumes about the kind of dad you actually have...
@@sallieceelee5660 unfortunately not every son of Adam is as educated as this man so yeah….
Dude I wish mufti was my dad right now lol.
To be frank, It speaks more to what kind or child you are. No matter how our parents are, Muhammed ﷺ asks us to respect our elders, especially our parents, no matter how they are.
Ibrahim alayhi was-salaam prayed for his father to enter Jannah despite the atrocities his father committed against him and against Islam's rise. And so, we must emulate their footstepz and strive to be as they are.
After all, your father has been through things you don't know of and I'm sure cares about you, even if he does not express it in a way that is beneficial to both of you.
Peace be upon you.
@@Al-Baqarah-02-256Stop with the gaslighting. Some people have a self interest when it comes to their children future because of ego.
My husband is white (Irish and French) and I am black. We are both born and raised in America. Our parents are too. My parents are the ones who objected to us being together. His parents were more than okay with him wanting to be with me. My husband and his parents are from Massachusetts which is north in the US and my parents and I are from Georgia which is south in the US. My parents objected because of the experience they had and things they seen in the South when they were kids. My Dad didn’t have good things to say about white people because of his experience as a child and his mother’s experience. My dad eventually warmed up to the idea and gave him a chance. My husband and I are still together 15 years later. He is so amazing.
I learned that my parents based their initial decision off of their experiences with white people and that they weren’t just trying to enforce what they wanted on me nor were they trying to be mean.
May Allah bless those seeking marriage with good believing spouses. May he guide us all and help us in our decisions.
Ma sha Allah. Bad experience can mess up someones judgement. But alhamdulillah it all went well with the two of you!
ameen. ofc i understand your parents perspective. may allah bless your marriage and keep you both happy. ameen x
Ameen
Thank you for sharing your wisdom.
I have a serious question- i oftwn hear you nees consent from both parents to get in a relationship or to gett msrried , why do i often hear that the parent choose your partner for you in Islam? That is insane to me.
May Allah open up the hearts of those parents who got the proposal for their righteous daughter from an righteous and responsible man but they reject it without even listening to the man just for the sake of illusions of this duniya.
Great comment .
@@beachampion8472
ZajakAllahu khairan
In my first marriage, he was the same nationality as me. I was pushed to marry him and every red flag I saw, I was told I am being ridiculous. In the end he was a liar, cheater, used me to come to America, just a big disgrace to humankind. I divorced him less than 1 year of marriage. I knew in my heart something was wrong and all I could do was pray to Allah. If I survived those dark times it was through my faith in Allah. I didn’t know it at the time but Allah had better plans for me. 3 years after that I met my now husband. He is not the same nationality as me but the same religion. Elhamdilillah I have 2 beautiful babies with this wonderful man. I truly feel blessed. For anyone suffering out there please do you duas, keep faith in Allah. It will all make sense one day. May Allah bless you all.
Your story sounds very similar to my current situation. I hope someday i get to have the same outcome as you and have a good future husband who will love and cherish me, Insha Allah. 🤲🏼
May Allah bless u
INSHALLAH@@minadabunny
@@minadabunny you might someone if you step out of your religion.
Alhamdulilaah
I am Sri Lankan recently I met a Moroccan girl we both are like to get married and I told my parents about her alhamdulillah my parents are ok with it. I wish everyone to have understanding parents Inshallha.
Lucky if you get her because that didnt happen to me because of the distance we had..
So, did it work ?
I am commenting after 2 years. Since you’re so curious Yes we are married and happy too 😮 when people visiting to other countries they should visit with good intentions not going to a club and find women and complain she didn’t treat me well. I am not telling you individually I am saying in general.
@@Rashad__alhumdullilah! I’m so happy to hear that mashallah tabarakallah
Alhamdulilah
I'm not muslim, but have recently been wanting to read Quran and learn more about Islam...I've been enjoying listening to Mufti Menks videos and find his explanation of Islam very refreshing
Nouman Ali khan and Mufti Menk are my favourite scholars. They make everything very easy to understand.
Salam sister! May God make it easy for you, Ameen. Imam Omar suleiman is also someone to listen to aswell, he’s very good at explaining things mashaAllah. Also let me know if you have any questions about Islam or if you need help with anything 😊
may God bless you with the strength to read and listen to the generous Quran and may He bless you with understanding by it and may He bless you with guidance to the straight path thereby in sha'a Allah
Mashallah ❤️
@@beaw5616 watch Quran Centric as well. He is phenomenal
I am an American Muslim of Syrian descent, and my wife is a Pakistani Muslim of Punjabi descent. We have been happily married together, since July 2022.
How I convince the girl father I also live in Punjab and want to marry out of culture and country but he is Muslim
Alhamdulilah
Surprised your technically an arab
@@shansiddiqui4741 I am surprised too. I really do not see myself as having Arab in me.
You’re arab/ Asian so they don’t have a problem with that. When you’re black that’s when it’s a big big problem. Racist people
If only the people who don’t let their children marry out of race/culture put Islam first! It’s so heartbreaking when you really want to be with someone and spend the rest of your life together but the family won’t accept it..
I can relate. My husband family did it. Insha-Allah everything is gonna be alright.
@Mocrovich 🇲🇦 This comment is not helping!
please make dua for my brother Akram married a christian women who is learning islam Ya Allah guide them both through the right path of islam, ya Allah bless them happiness and contentment in their marriage forever ya Allah make it easy for his wife to understand and be guided into islam Ameen🤲🏻
In sha Allah. Ameen!
Ameen
@@mr.beardedtipguy4454 my brother don’t say inshallah when making a dua. Mufti menk even made a video on it, inshallah means god willing or if Allah wills it to be, and when you are making a dua, you don’t say, “oh Allah please let this happen if you want,” no, you call out with conviction, you say “ya Allah make this happen for me.”
Ameen
May Allah make it easy For them and grant the barakah in their marriage ❤️ameen
I tried to talk to my dad and mom about marrying an American/Hispanic. They refused it he talked to my dad my brother and 2 of my uncles to try to get them to see the good in him and no one gave him a chance.. I married him without their consent.. it’s years later now my mother loves him he’s a great Muslim better than some of my own born Muslim cousins. He made me wear my hijab and is making me a better Muslim overall.
However a lot of my family was talking really bad about me some of my family still don’t talk to me to this day
@Rainbow for what reason? I’m good
@Rainbow I don’t need your disrespect please be nice to people
@Rainbow okay thank you
@Tiseir A. yes we got married islamicly and by state the next day . I would say talk to the imam the imam will try to talk to ur parents your local imam is probably your best bet. Explain everything to him and don’t be shy the only thing ima say is get married in a halal way. And message me if u got any questions or need advice … I went through it
@Tiseir A. my profile pic is me and my husband
As our generational differences come to an end, through the visions of the new generations, mixing with other cultures will be viewed optimistically and encouraged in'shaa'allah
True
Yes, but wish it came alot sooner smh
I always had an issue with people saying you do it the wrong way first and then try to halalize it.
Ask yourself why your child couldn't come forward about it to you in the beginning? What made them fear your reaction? Why did you push them to take the haram route?
When you have a good relationship with your child where respect is given both ways, where you try to understand your child and the world it lives in, when your child knows that you will give them the best advice for their happiness and not your reputation in your community then they will come clean with things from the start, then they will do it the halal way. It's easy to blame children for their wrong doings but it's hard to ask why they went that route. Respectfully to Menk tho love him may Allah bless him.
Totally agree ! There is this common theme of a lack of transparency / & communication amongst children and their parents… which I assume results in the child keeping everything inside for so long until they’re urged to perhaps share their feelings and communication with someone who may listen and seek to understand them, more than their parents offered to do… just my 2 cents !
I partly agree and disagree. This is never a one-sided thing, the blame goes both ways. But yes, it is of utmost importance that parents create a comfortable and non-judgmental environment for both parties to discuss these life topics. Obviously parents must let their kids know that relationships outside of marriage are haraam but also explain to them and widen their perspective on why it so, and what they can do to stay on the right path.
At the same time, this is a test of sorts for the "children" assuming they have reached puberty which means they are considered adults and are accountable for their actions by Islamic standards. Just because they had a non-supportive environment at home doesn't mean their actions are excusable and justifiable. We have to be unbiased and objective in these dealings, and like I said, the responsibility goes both ways.
@@shyramunas I agree sister. It does work both ways. I should have been clearer, you summed up my point nicely , in regard to the benefits a comfortable and non-judgemental environment can do for the both parties to improve their communication !
@@shyramunas Well said.
@@shyramunas Nicely done.
This is wonderful! I know a Muslim woman who married a Christian man, and they live happily with their kids attending both Church and Mosque. The man is still Christian and the woman is still Muslim. It's great to see acceptance and diversity!
This is the type of open-minded islam we should all strive towards, thank you Mufti Menk
This happened to me recently. Same culture but just from different states but the father said no. Everything happens for a reason. May Allah choose what’s best for us.
That could be because you and i were probably destined to meet.....here in the youtube section at this very specific moment....
@@Prince_Unknown1 you need locking up mate
@@abz43 I agree.
I’m so sorry !! May Allah swt forgive our parents for these old ways of thinking !
The best way forward is to live a good life and show them that they have no impact whatsoever on your life...
It's been 7 years since I became a Muslim, and today I decided that if I have to marry a woman then I hope it will be a woman converted to Islam because there is a serious problem with the families who are lucky enough to be born Muslim.
That’s the way to go. Have a fresh slate with someone who has the courage to disobey their parents by converting to a religion that speaks to her heart. Make your own traditions as a family together, within the bounds of the Quran and word of Allah (SWT). You don’t need to answer to backwards people from any culture or race or religion or social status. Be with someone who speaks to your heart who won’t be more married to their parents or friends than she is to you.
MASHA ALLAH brilliant way of advice to convince the parents n caring n Amazing guidance. Beautiful message. MAY ALLAH SWT guide every parent and every children as well. Aameen.
Ameen
Some parents refuse for their daughters to marry like someone like who works in warehouse and his deen is in the right place.They say yes to someone who is like a doctor and his deen is not there. Some these Parents are making haram easy and halal hard
Some parents refuse their sons to marry an educated muslimah, firm in Deen but is from Africa even if she loves their son. May Allah grant us all sabr.
This bro like the Muslim may be working at a warehouse or as a trucker and practicing his Deen but they choose someone of higher standard with less of the DEEN itself.
So true!
And everybody's always trying to say that Muslims are bad I know many Muslim people who appreciate other cultures just like this guy appreciates other cultures
A nice girl proposed to me which was shocking since usually it's the opposite. She is Arab and I'm East African. Things quickly went down hill when her mother intervened after she said she will approve. Not saying Arabs are racist but that's what happened. I was considered a son to her mother growing up but after her daughter wanted to marry me, I became an outsider.
Sadly this is very common in Arab households.
Are you muslim muslim marry muslim and others marry others it is very easy to understand
There is a lot of racism in the old world. I commend mufti for talking about this. he obviously knows it’s a serious problem. It would be nice if people started respecting others based upon their integrity rather than their status or what kind of car they drive. People are so lost
@@shoaibsalman395 What do you mean? They were both Muslim, why did her mom refuse?
Misguided people in every community/ race. May Allah guide us all to the straight path.
I’m an Indian, I married a Palestinian-Lebanese Arab. Alhamdulillah. Race shouldn’t be an issue. Humans cognitive abilities are the same, and so is their BS. At the end of the day, if you both value deen more than the culture, there shouldn’t be issues.
How did you deal with family challenges/judgment? Or were they accepting?
Are you kafar?
No it's not, lol. So different races have different skin tones, organ shapes, bone density, etc, we evolved all these things differently based on our environments, but you actually believe that somehow, everyone is the same when it comes to their brains, their intelligence and personality? Do you ACTUALLY believe that?
I was declined by my parents because I was going to marry a Christian woman. She was ready to take Shahadah but my parents blocked it because of their cultural beliefs. They couldn't accept a woman from who was Black from Jamaica. Basically my parents stopped me from getting a taste of Jannah. But InshaAllah I strive everyday to get there no matter what.
You’re allowed to disobey your parents. Love and respect them yes, but you’re an adult, you don’t have to obey them if they’re contradicting the faith. Subhan Allah, your parents aren’t gods. “No” is not a haram word to say to your parents if they’re in the wrong. Even Ibrahim (PBUH) had to cut ties with his father who refused to stop worshipping idols. Idols aren’t just figures of wood and clay. An idol can also be a celebrity, a president or king, money, social status, or culture. If your parents worship culture more than they worship Allah (SWT), they are committing idolatry. Culture is a beautiful thing, but it can’t be used to cause people suffering. You don’t have to listen to parents who are stopping you from marrying the woman you love because they’re idolatrous and worship race and culture. Put Allah (SWT) and your heart and soul first. You’ll regret it for the rest of your life if you let idolatrous parents steal your happiness.
she showed that she was willed to give more than your parents wanted to give. I wish you all the best.
BINGO! I have witnessed this so many times. When it comes to black people Islam goes out the window for them. They are literally prepared to disown they’re children. This needs to be spoken about more it’s disgusting
Maybe you should listen to your parents, bud. They're wiser than you are, and that's the case with almost everyone's parents, too.
@@TimtheEnchanter25 There’s always that one person who’s gotta treat parents like they’re a replacement for God. Honoring, and blindly obeying to the point of sacrificing happiness, are two different things.
Truly you are a man of God, regardless of religious persuasion, may God bless you and yours.
Have a big enough heart to love unconditionally, and a broad enough mind to embrace the differences that make each of us unique.
I never dreamed that I would be watching an Islamic sermon. This guy is very wise. God bless.
Probably the best hadith you’ll ever hear 🤯
Aws bin Aws narrated:
Allah's Messenger said to me:
"Whoever performs Ghusl on Friday, and
bathes completely, and goes early,
arriving early, gets close and listens and
is silent, there will be for him in every
step he take the reward of a year of
fasting and standing (in prayer).
At-Tirmidhi (496)
*Sahih hadith*
I am german and a converted muslim. Fell in love with a muslima from another country and have only experienced love and acceptance from their family.
Cultures are there to share
Just curious, what convinced you to convert? What did you believe before you converted?
May Allah give me and all sick people Shifa 🌹🤲🏼 AMEEN
Ameen
Amin
Ameen
Ameen❤
My sister, my brother, and I have grown up in a Western country, far from my parents' Muslim country. We have met wonderful people, who respect us and accept us with our culture, customs, and religion. But we have decided to not get married, because our parents say that if we marry non-Muslims they will never talk to us again. It is a very sad life, and I am sure that it is not what Allah has dictated for us, but the people who speak in his name. It will happen to more and more people and it breaks my heart.
I’m portuguese my fiancée is arab. I became muslim for marry with him. 🤲🏻😌♥️
Masha Allah💜
@@harrambilal1991 🤲🏻♥️
may allah grant u two and ur children jannat ul firdous.... inshallah
@@botladola How so
@@botladola Why would it
May Allah Bless you with a special blessing Mufti Menk , you are glowing 🇬🇲
MashAllah. I thank you for this as I am having problems with obtaining my mother’s blessing to my choice in spouse. I am being called Jahil for wanting to marry someone who is a non Muslim but is willing to convert. I am not perfect but i want to be better Muslim everyday. May Allah SWT ease my troubles and May my mother slowly become open minded. Aamin
I have been told by Arab muslim men - I am not good enough for marriage because i have dark skin and my race is not Arab - hence I am not worthy of marriage to them because they are racially superior. I have also encountered other groups of muslims who feel superior based on their skin colour or nationality. I am not saying all muslims are like this . But as a practicing muslim lady - i find racism among muslims to be the worst. This is very sad. ☹
@Mocrovich 🇲🇦 Narcissism
You are worthy you know, but wirty of some better men you know. Be happy that they were so opened about it, you dodged the bullet 😊
I‘m Arab woman and I‘ve married an afghan boy before 6 month. I‘m very happy with him he is a good Muslim man.
Isn't Afghan Arab? U are still within Arabs
@@annetmbusa7180 I don’t understand. I‘m Arab and my husband ist Afghan
U said u married an "Afghan boy" did u mean something else? Correct me please, thx
@@annetmbusa7180 Afghanis are not Arab. The majority of them are Pashtun with minorities like Uzbek, Tajiks, Hazaras etc.
@@annetmbusa7180 a Afghan is not a Arab.
We are all humans regardless of where we come from, my husband is pakistani and I am english. I don't mind who my children marry as long as they do halal way and they are happy that is the main thing!
May god bless you sister
@@alixasan8667 jazakAllah may God bless you too, ameen!
@@rafaelw8115marry the halal way but if they don't what can I do exactly? I would just be upset, so this is why I'm teaching them right from wrong.I do not force them yet I am responsible for guiding them.
@@rafaelw8115 ok😂
"Don't come and try to HALALISE things at the end". Halalise. I love this word😂😂👏🏽
Added to dictionary 😂😂
@@Bad_Liar_D yep! 😂 don’t forget haramanize 😭
Halaize 😂.
Alhamdulillah im a born muslim from a true practising muslim family from Bangladesh 😇💖 love to All
Ramjan mubarak
In Malaysia, mix marriage is normal. Be it Muslims or non-Muslims. Big family of my friend will gather for Chinese New Year, Aidilfitri, Deepavali & Christmas because their family is so diverse, but they can live in harmony. That is one thing I love about Malaysia. Alhamdulillah, this is all from Allah.
Do malay Muslims marry convert Chinese malaysians?
@@FahadFSA Yes. Malays are accepting of other races. As long as that person is kind & willing to practice Islam, we can accept them in our family. Malay culture has a lot of similarity with Islamic practice. That's why it's only normal for Sultans to accept Islam & now all Malays are Muslims. Alhamdulillah, that's huge blessing from Allah.
@@KazumiHimechan 👏👏. I love Malaysia. I miss the 2 months I spent in Miri Sarawak. 🇲🇾❤️🇵🇰
Alhamdulillah... This is why I'm glad to be "Anak Malaysia"!
A friend of mine met a pakistani woman who asked him to come see her parents. The parents were preparing to meet with him until allegedly the woman told her parents that the man she’s met is BLACK. The meeting was called off. In hindsight, i told him not to waste his time so I wasn’t shocked.
Ps: this guy is one of the most devout muslim men I’ve ever met in my life.
Ya Allah bless our children.
Get them good decisions
Ameen 🤲🏻
May Allah Bless you and all people who's followed your advices. Love hasn't flag or colors.
@HAIL SATAN How ????
@HAIL SATAN yes !!
The Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) said:
"Whoever constantly seeks forgiveness (from Allāh) (saying "astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه"), Allāh will appoint for him a way out of every distress and a relief from every anxiety, and will provide sustenance for him from from sources he does not expect." [Abū Dawūd]
Make it a constant habit to say Astaghfirullāh | أستغفر اللّٰه (I seek forgiveness from Allāh) with a sincere heart and you'll see the blessings and positive effects of that habit in your daily life. We have witnessed people being relieved from the darkest and most difficult of situations through this habit, others who were blessed with unimaginable wealth and blessings through this habit, and others whose hearts found contentment and true happiness through this habit.
May Allāh 'Azza Wa Jall make us of those who continuously seek His forgiveness and accept from us - āmeen
God bless you 🇲🇺
I’ve seen mixed cultural marriages being most successful because it forced the man or the woman to become mentally diversely accepting ❤️ SubhanAllah!
Jubayr ibn Mut’im reported: The Messenger of Allah, peace and blessings be upon him, said, “He is not one of us who calls to tribalism. He is not one of us who fights for the sake of tribalism. He is not one of us who dies following the way of tribalism.”
Thank you so much. This melt my heart. Love has no race ❤️
There is only ONE race, the Human Race.
مجھے صبر دینا مولا 💕
اپنے علاوہ کسی کے سامنے جھکنے نہ دینا✋🏻🤚🏻
نہ ہی کسی کی نظروں میں👀
اور نہ ہی کسی کے قدموں میں.............
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Love is colorless , it's not just something we say , it's something we do ! Love objectively , not subjectively .
SubhanAllah, may Allah bless us with spouses that are pleasing, loyal, and are believers.
Salaam to my all Muslim brother to watch this video.
Masha Allah that's true. May Allah grant us understanding and blessed everyone of us Ameen 🤲😊 jazak Allah Khair 😊
Mufti mean we must be open mind now our days but in reasonable way❤
As a British Indian Punjabi , I appreciate your wisdom.
Sir I lost my parents passed away last year im finding difficult to lead my life I'm a Christian im a working women i found a person who truly loves me an cares for me he is a Muslim I'm gaining the trust on Allah i need ur prayers for me i don't know how to convince the parents of the boy i just don't need him i need his mom an dad as well i don't know how to approach his parents I'm scared if they will accept me or not please i need ur prayers sir 😭😭😭😭
May Allah fulfil your hope
ربنا يصلح حالك ان شاء الله
Race shouldn't even be a deciding factor. If you feel a person is not good enough based on their race then you are not fit to be a Muslim. Allah judges you based on your deeds not your appearance. Marry who you want and be happy. Inshallah
If an asian man steals something He is going to get the punisment as Same as an european. What Allah meant was that everybody is going to get the same outcome for sins.
we're both pakistani, interested in each other..but my dad still refuses to get to know his family and justifies it by saying "we don't know them" duas please :(
(we also met once)
This video isn’t about this topic
@@Pretti_sundara_ idc we got married in the end alhamdulilah lol
@@sam17simba ALHAMDULLILAH!!
@@sam17simbamashallah❤
I believe that you can marry anyone and I mean someone who is outside your culture, but she or he has to be Muslim. That’s the only requirement, The spouse you get married to doesn’t have to be from your own ethnicity, she can be from anywhere. And I believe that racism isn’t part of our religion Islam. Because it teaches us to love one another.
I needed this. To give me hope ❤
I am definitely a Christian, but I really love hearing this man preach and his message.
Most important is the religion and character. If the person is a revert to islam - has good character and practising Islam - this ok for me. If the person is "born muslim" - same thing. Culture is not so important - as long as the person does not go against the deen.
i was born a hindu and i am in love with a muslim girl and i respect and she will be the mother of my children and no force change my mind. i respect all religions and will ocntinue to do so till i die
Take salam from those who are reading my comments.i am going to get married in the next months.please pray to our lord,Allah sothat i get the barakah of the marriage. Your prayer to Allah for me is important for our happy married life.May Allah grant happiness to everyone,amin
Many parents ended up marrying someone who they didn’t want and now want to force kids to do the same as if this is halal
And now we must break the chain!!!
Marry who you want, as long as you are happy. I married my own nationality. One race..Human..
Religion and culture is not the same . Ur culture should align with who u marry. Ur values must be the same . Outside race have more to overcome, family, language , tradition are all eventually gonna overturn . Statistically different race marriages have larger divorce rate
Well I dont know what to do. I am 30 year old female and my parents won't allow me to get married, my mother says I have to stick with her forever she is too attached to me and my sister ( she is 32 and unmarried still living at home) I do love my mum but I think she is being incredibly selfish, because my dad doesn't care for her she think its her children responsibly to be the husband, she refuses to see the truth.
Don't worry pray tahajjud...may Allah guide us to the right path....ameen
Sounds like she has some serious fear of abandonment, therapy would help her work through whatever the root cause of it is and let you and your sister live your life without her making you feel guilty about "abandoning" her. Along with prayers of course
@@khadidjatoundiaye37 yep, she even calls me to sit downstairs with her if im in my bedroom and she wont stop calling unless i just sit there with her. its a waste of life just sitting lol
she does pray but tbh he refuses to change, shed never go therapy. she doesnt have hobbies or friends, no social skills, all she does is wake up watch tv alll day nap works for 2 hours comes home sleep.
@@mizzcrazygal it's certainly more challenging to help someone who doesn't see or acknowledge they have a problem, let alone accept the help. Keep trying to talk to her about therapy and that there is no shame in getting help. Best of luck to you and her
Have you tried to talking to an elder person? Maybe your grand parents or some one in some position of authority? Make them talk to her.
As a person of faith the wisdom spoken was truly good for my heart and ears.
Really Appreciate your thoughts .
Very Rare that some of the leaders and some so called great personalities speak like this But according to me this thought is in right direction Someone must come ahead to bring the change.
I really appreciate Menk for his words and thoughts May Allah bless him.
Forget marrying outside of culture and race, there are those who can't marry outside of their families and caste system! Pure ignorance
I am converting my beloved partner to Islam, and she is so astonished by the words of Allah that she accepted it. We always go for Friday prayer, and Alhamdullilah she has learned how to wear the Hijab, and learn how to follow the prayers. However, my parents despise that I cannot marry her since she is Latina, and I am Bengali. This is nonsense.. she has the biggest heart to the point where she buys things for my mother and father.. and STILL my father and mother isn’t INTERESTED in her at all. I am so conflicted in this moment where I am making someone who has a big heart into Muslim, and yet she she sees these things and ask me.. if they were REAL Muslims.. why are they acting with such HATE? I cannot sleep at night due to this. It’s been troubling me, as I believe someone who is going to the path towards ALLAH should never be hated, and the DUNYA is much bigger than Bangladesh! TELL ME WHAT CAN I DO? I am going crazy …
Maybe talk to your local imam or a religious figure and make him talk to your parents?
Make them realize the sacrifice and the changes she has made in her life because of you. Tell them how the generations of her side of the family will be Muslims and the diversity it will create in Islam. Best wishes!
@@FahadFSA diversity isn’t race mixing, diversity is different races living together peacefully. How come most of you guys on the comments don’t get this?
Let them know that your doing this for the sake of your own happiness whether they accept her or not I will accept her no matter what and I'll choose to stand by her at all times and protect her from such stuff etc.
It's easier to marry within your nationality. It prevents lots of problems down the road.
We are all sons of Adam 💯
That's what racist and traditional culture people forget and don't understand.
Go To The Masjid And Some Won’t Even Line Up Heel To Heel Shoulder To Shoulder Because Of Skin Color. ASTAGHFIRULLAH
Unfortunately you are ✅️
Marry the one who loves you🙌 may Allah guide us all. Ameen
For this reason, I would start doing archery because chances are I might fall in love with a girl who also likes archery!
Only idiots fall in love. If you search for a woman take a person from the Same race.
So much easier when you are an atheist and are spared all these anxieties about observing some ancient customs
I am only 18 years old, but I'd rather marry someone of my own race in the future and preferably would want my children to do so as well. Am I wrong for that?
Ofc not
It really depends if you mean culture or nationality because you want to celebrate it and preserve it. If you think here’s some issue with Muslims of other races or if your child brings someone of good character and you reject them on the basis of race- that’s an issue and I fear we would have to answer to Allah for that.
No its not wrong. As long as you don't think your race is superior to others.
It's your decision to marry someone from your own race but, you can't make your children marry the same as well you can advice your children and u need to have a valid reason to not marry a person in your own race which I don't think is possible. When it's time for your children to marry you have to let them decide because you can't make love instantly go away and you can't force love so you need to let your children marry whoever they are in love with unless there's a rule in Islam saying you can't marry a specific kind of person
@@arsh_1020 this^^^^
So glad my family is accepting. My aunt married a part West-Indian part Egyptian Muslim man. Completely different culture, language and race but my Grandparents were accepting of him as they talked to him, found him well mannered and nice. He is genuinely such an amazing man. People need to look beyond caste, culture and race when it comes to their children's happiness.
May Allah forgive us
It doesn’t matter what they believe as long as its true love
And what about marrying outside our religion?
We keep saying the world evolved and plenty of comments here speak of love having no race; love is love and you’re not in full control of who you fall in love with. You may try falling out of love with them knowing it’s a sin and the consequences of damaging your relationship with your parents and other muslim sisters & brothers , but the truth is you can never stop loving someone you’re truly in love with.
I’m a Muslim myself but one thing I can’t seem to digest is why’s it so hard for people to accept a healthy, loving and mature couple both with respectable family backgrounds. We’re so adamant about how haram interfaith marriages are unless we are able to make our loved one convert to Islam, isn’t that selfish? Why is marrying someone outside your religion so wrong when they respect you and your religion while you can equally respect theirs? We’re afterall all children of the same God (Allah), sadly history and different eras of every prophet gave rise to different stories; believers of one religion are now anti polar to the so called *non-believers* . Religion was created to bring peace amongst one another but it’s indirectly dividing us all
I love Islam with every inch and more through mufti menk, but this is one thing I can’t wrap my head around, respect always comes both ways.
As a Christian, he's not wrong. I married a believer and i think it was a great move. My son made different choices, but i love and pray for him.
Love this as a Christian woman💕
يأيها الناس أن خلقنكم من ذكرو أنثى و جعلنكم شعوبا و قبايل لتعارفو ان أكرمكم عن اللة اتقكم ان اللة عليم خبير. سورة حجزت ١٣؛٤٩
"O mankind, Allah has created all of you from a male and a female, and made you into national and tribes so that you may recognize one another. However, the best among you in the sight of Allah is the one who is the most pious. Allah is All-knowing and All-aware." Al Hujurat (49:13)
There was girl in my life who promised she would marry me irrespective of our financial resources but now she tells me that she can't marry me bcz her family told her to get rid of me bcz we don't have our own house .
Dam that's crazy
That's cringe 🧐
Culture and caste isn't part of Islam,
The blessed religion of Islam is one.
Assalamualaikum Sheikh Mufti Menk and to all subscribers
Born muslim,married a Croatian girl,she reverted on her own,zero pressure,we have a beautiful family and she knows more than me..
I’m a revert who’s half Catholic Irish and half Native American who was raised atheist-Jewish, so I will definitely be marrying outside of my unique culture and race. (Only ones who are in my unique genetics are my uncles daughters, so that’s why wkwkwk)
Good luck to you! May Allah bless you and ease all your tasks for you. Pls do pray for me too. Since Allah really loves reverts and forgives all their previous sins once they revert.
What a combination xD. Best wishes
I hope you are well Mufti your doing great very calm and inspiring ,helping people open their eyes more👍
I am black and his Dad doesn't want a black woman for him. He tried with Arab women before but it didn't work. His parents want him to get married but he doesn't want to marry whoever. He is not happy and I can't understand how muslims can think like that. Is a black person bad or lower than them? I am a muslim like them.
They should remember that narcissism ruins marriages!
His Dad is a good man
@@Enno9 you think he is a good man for not letting us get married?
@@aminaniang6391 yup
@@aminaniang6391 Don't worry, he's just a racist troll.
I am English and I married an Egyptian woman, her mother had passed away and her father had dementia . Her only close relatives where her sisters, I decided to revert to Islam and feel it was the best thing I did, her family accepted me and are very loving and I love her family including her cousins, and they love me. We have been married 15 years.
But in my short experience I found people who speak arabic (native) feel superior over us (Bangladeshi). I feel so bad being Muslim and Bangladeshi at the same time for them. Our beliefs are same but they just reject us for ethnicity, they neglect us for ethnicity. That all bring us our language movement and liberation war on 71. I wish Allah could show them we are not bad muslim. They are too proud that almost all of the messengers and great people in Islam born in arab, arabic region. There are no bad Muslims just for language, and culture.
I am Muslim too and I born in Bangladesh.
dONT WORRY
There are ignorant people in every community. In the end, Allah knows truly who's guided and that's all that matters.
I feel ashamed as a Pakistani for all the discrimination against Bengali's till 1971. It is so painful to read the history of our arrogance and vanity. The Ummah just need to keep the Prophet's (PBUH) last sermon in mind.
@@FahadFSA all started by same arrogance brother. They said Bengali couldn't be language of Muslims. Still in this world, i found just being arabic alphabet in their native, they (not Pakistani only so many) think we are poor Muslims. Language, blood couldn't define love for islam definitely.
I just feel down when I see no big name is from my side which seems Allah will definitely.
We love u our Bengali bro from a Pakistani Muslim
In this generation its harder to find a spouse, finally found someone that is outside my religion and already has problems but hopefully we make it work
Pakistani’s who are forced to marry their cousins. It’s really sad
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