One of the issues I find with my family of origin is that they place the burden of responsibility on me. They also only listen to one side of the story, and believe it’s ok to cast judgement!🤷♀️ My experience from an abusive marriage as well as an abusive family, is the abuse is allowed to continue ‘unnoticed & invalidated’ due to the enablers.
Yees, just in time. I woke up reflecting early in the morning today about this. Having flashbacks and reflections of mean things my own’ relatives really have mentioned (using innocent things against someone). Adult attempts to be cruel. I myself am an adult but I say this because, childhood necessarily didn’t have bullish behaviors in comparison to adulthood, surprisingly. So I find that ironic. • And I say this openly because it’s always having strength & always being confidently secure but for goodness’s sake, sometimes we have the very, very rare occasion where we’re able to reflect and be real with ourselves in how we do not like disheartened treatment… from estranged family members, or from relatives or friends, from certain people in our lives. It genuinely is the equivalent to physical pain they say & it’s with zero exaggeration. It’s ostracizing (severe exclusion). Oftentimes, people hold envious intentions but it’s also just from their own personal meanness (people don’t care and are selfish • commonly). It is literal crudeness. Anyway, I digress. I believe there’s hope. I choose not to accept those behaviors and I keep away; I am aware of how they are & I choose at times, to let it be known.* Regardless, I choose God as my faith before anything. Though it hurts sometimes. All the strength & yet sometimes, we just feel. It’s appreciated advice for the actual good people who do exist. ❤🙏🏼 And experience familial estrangement as a healthy boundary (and even when trying to connect: they exclude and ignore us: that hurts). Ostracism.*
Yeh, i can only do half. My mother chose to set the terms of our relationship as being non reciprocal. So if its me that rejects the terms, asks for reciprocity and gets ignored, its not my fault. But my family do blame me.
Yes! I had to let my toxic family go. I had to put my mental and physical health above my family.
One of the issues I find with my family of origin is that they place the burden of responsibility on me. They also only listen to one side of the story, and believe it’s ok to cast judgement!🤷♀️
My experience from an abusive marriage as well as an abusive family, is the abuse is allowed to continue ‘unnoticed & invalidated’ due to the enablers.
Thank you Najwa .. clarity given
Yees, just in time. I woke up reflecting early in the morning today about this. Having flashbacks and reflections of mean things my own’ relatives really have mentioned (using innocent things against someone). Adult attempts to be cruel. I myself am an adult but I say this because, childhood necessarily didn’t have bullish behaviors in comparison to adulthood, surprisingly. So I find that ironic. • And I say this openly because it’s always having strength & always being confidently secure but for goodness’s sake, sometimes we have the very, very rare occasion where we’re able to reflect and be real with ourselves in how we do not like disheartened treatment… from estranged family members, or from relatives or friends, from certain people in our lives. It genuinely is the equivalent to physical pain they say & it’s with zero exaggeration. It’s ostracizing (severe exclusion). Oftentimes, people hold envious intentions but it’s also just from their own personal meanness (people don’t care and are selfish • commonly). It is literal crudeness. Anyway, I digress. I believe there’s hope. I choose not to accept those behaviors and I keep away; I am aware of how they are & I choose at times, to let it be known.*
Regardless, I choose God as my faith before anything. Though it hurts sometimes. All the strength & yet sometimes, we just feel. It’s appreciated advice for the actual good people who do exist. ❤🙏🏼 And experience familial estrangement as a healthy boundary (and even when trying to connect: they exclude and ignore us: that hurts). Ostracism.*
Yeh, i can only do half. My mother chose to set the terms of our relationship as being non reciprocal. So if its me that rejects the terms, asks for reciprocity and gets ignored, its not my fault. But my family do blame me.
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