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Contributing is a surefire way to show appreciation. Lots of people appreciate things but do nothing tangible to keep them going. I take ownership for being resentful of people like that.
I can't believe someone is assisting me in knowing what to do! I have actually thought about doing this with my father for the first time. I did not have a leg to stand on before with taking charge for me, but now I DO! I am finally finding CONTROL in my own life with respect to relationships, and I will never be used by one again.
This is an excellent video! You are hitting the nail on the head with me as the co-dependent and the enabler for my father who is addicted to discipline and rules. I lied every time I said thank you and was feeling resentment instead of thanks when I gave birthday gifts out of obligation to stay in a relationship where I was doing all the work to gain approval. So yes, I am a liar about how I felt. RESENTFUL! I am no-contact so I hope my absence adequately expresses how I feel from a lifetime of being a doormat and a slave and not have anyone say thank you or pity me enough to tell me how I was being abused. I felt too much shame and absence of a self to take any stand, not even in how I felt to myself, especially because people used gaslighting to tell me that it was not happening and I felt my feelings were stupid and over-reactional.
It amazed me always when I would go into the hospital, I was never the one that would get a family concession the way the other patients did. It was supposed to be a requirement
I needed to hear that " I wont tolerate this but one or two more times" . My mom always makes excuses from my brother " oh hes doing better he cant just quit cold Turkey " .
@@DocSnipes This video is really helping me to distinguish healthy support from the enabling of a loved one. I believe I have a tendency to enable a loved one (more specifically, my partner rather than my actual child).
So now that I am recognizing my feelings (from the permission in your videos), I AM ANGRY! I am angry that I went to counseling to help fix the problem in my family and paid a lot of money that is STILL OWED to get a non-accredited counseling degree that did not even include the basics! I should contest my loan on that account. I was in no way equipped to solve any other persons problems with assistance of knowledge when I was given NO EDUCATION! I am going to retain a lawyer and get started on helping save the world (or just my community) from this "rot" of an education that I received.
Maybe the parent has it's reasons why it allows the things it allows due to the fact that person they are paying the rent on is serving them a purpose and others are just jealous because the person is available for the job
Sometimes as a counselor you have to remember that there are 3 sides to the story. That's why dr.phil manages to get to the root of the problem by confronting everyone evolved with the issues
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👍Online Courses for Continuing Education (CEU, OPD, CPD) and Substance Abuse Counselor Certification
Can I say, this video was extremely enjoyable and I feel completely better, because I know I am an enabler, this was seriously educational / Thank You
Very welcome. Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
Thank you so much for these free courses. Love and hug sending to you! 🤗 This is actually helping myself to become a better person.
Wow, Thanks so much!
Contributing is a surefire way to show appreciation. Lots of people appreciate things but do nothing tangible to keep them going. I take ownership for being resentful of people like that.
I can't believe someone is assisting me in knowing what to do! I have actually thought about doing this with my father for the first time. I did not have a leg to stand on before with taking charge for me, but now I DO! I am finally finding CONTROL in my own life with respect to relationships, and I will never be used by one again.
This is an excellent video! You are hitting the nail on the head with me as the co-dependent and the enabler for my father who is addicted to discipline and rules. I lied every time I said thank you and was feeling resentment instead of thanks when I gave birthday gifts out of obligation to stay in a relationship where I was doing all the work to gain approval. So yes, I am a liar about how I felt. RESENTFUL! I am no-contact so I hope my absence adequately expresses how I feel from a lifetime of being a doormat and a slave and not have anyone say thank you or pity me enough to tell me how I was being abused. I felt too much shame and absence of a self to take any stand, not even in how I felt to myself, especially because people used gaslighting to tell me that it was not happening and I felt my feelings were stupid and over-reactional.
It amazed me always when I would go into the hospital, I was never the one that would get a family concession the way the other patients did. It was supposed to be a requirement
When a brother tends to micro manage your life while he is being enabled. Then has issues when the sister starts getting help with her stuff
I needed to hear that " I wont tolerate this but one or two more times" . My mom always makes excuses from my brother " oh hes doing better he cant just quit cold Turkey " .
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
You
Wow....thank you immensely for sharing this detailed instruction, Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes. 🥰
You’re so welcome. Thank you for watching the video
People that have taken advantage of others and kept them broken and uneducated on purpose shouldn't be allowed to label that person
You are doing God’s work. Thank you ♥️
Bless you. Please check out my Bible channel, and consider subscribing. ruclips.net/channel/UCYYJCD94NU3_qdbkSEyHLrg
Wow, I’m so glad I saw this Bible channel!
Thanks so much! I tried to be a good parent but this makes do much sense.
I appreciate you watching
Some people have spent so much time alone,they get paranoid when certain people come around
Been both.
Doing better.
Thank you.
You’re so welcome! Thank you for watching the video. What did you find most useful from it?
Excellent thank you
You are very welcome
This video was very helpful, thank you so much.
I am so glad to read that. What have you found most helpful from it?
Learning about different types of Enablers and the different forms which their enabling might take is helpful.
@@DocSnipes This video is really helping me to distinguish healthy support from the enabling of a loved one. I believe I have a tendency to enable a loved one (more specifically, my partner rather than my actual child).
So now that I am recognizing my feelings (from the permission in your videos), I AM ANGRY! I am angry that I went to counseling to help fix the problem in my family and paid a lot of money that is STILL OWED to get a non-accredited counseling degree that did not even include the basics! I should contest my loan on that account. I was in no way equipped to solve any other persons problems with assistance of knowledge when I was given NO EDUCATION! I am going to retain a lawyer and get started on helping save the world (or just my community) from this "rot" of an education that I received.
Maybe the parent has it's reasons why it allows the things it allows due to the fact that person they are paying the rent on is serving them a purpose and others are just jealous because the person is available for the job
Went there and bought the t shirt!!
😀Thanks for watching.
Sometimes as a counselor you have to remember that there are 3 sides to the story. That's why dr.phil manages to get to the root of the problem by confronting everyone evolved with the issues
Thanks doc 😊💖🌸
Thanks for watching. Wishing you peace, health, and happiness.
As a mother,a child is a child from the cradle to the grave
Thanks for watching.
Or cradle to prison if not accountable.
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Ty
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