“Being positive does not mean being happy all the time” is a very important lesson🙌🏼✨⭐️ you’ve helped me so much to become a more positive person myself! Thank you Jade✨🧡
The comment you've all been looking for. You're welcome. 1. shouldn't brush my dry hair 2. being positive doesn't mean being happy all the time 3. I'm incredibly privileged 4. trust your gut 5. love deep chats 6. have no idea what I want to do in the future 7. fame of any kind is scary 8. negative comparison is the worst thing you can do 9. figuring out toxic friendships 10. I'll always be learning 11. hate quick mental maths 12. care too much about being liked 13. making time for people is important 14. love traveling 15. being a youtuber/influencer requires a lot of hard work 16. individual influence is powerful 17. kindness is extremely important 18. I'm still just a child
I’m 23 and still loved listening to this. We all go through life and learn things differently. Still impactful for me to listen to. Thanks for sharing Jade 🤗💕
I've learnt that I need to be my own best friend. There's not gonna always been extra support from other people even family so I need to provide it myself. Another thing I've learnt is that I'm special. I don't deserve to be mistreated and that ignoring a problem and running away only makes the problem repeat and get bigger until it is dealt with.
Please be careful about how you portray friendships, re number 9. I lost a family member in truly horrific circumstances most people probably can't imagine a few years ago. My poor friends almost certainly came away from meeting me feeling 'drained' and 'unsupported' several times in the months that followed, and they definitely would not have felt inspired and excited right after spending time with me for a good year after it happened. Thankfully, most of my friends understood I was going through something incredibly traumatic and they stuck by me through that time, supported me unconditionally, listened to things that I'm sure were very difficult to hear because I needed to talk about them and helped me come out the other side. My friendships are now more balanced again like you describe, and of course that's what you should aim for in a healthy friendship. But life throws awful things at you sometimes, and I lost a lot of good friends with the death of my family member- at least two I suspect it was because I had just witnessed someone I loved die and I simply could not be happy and positive and inspiring in my interactions with them immediately after it happened. I hate to think where I would be today had all my friends decided to let their friendship with me go in that period because I wasn't inspiring, exciting and supporting them, and they wanted to surround themselves only with positivity. True friendship isn't just about the good moments. It's also about helping each other through the bad.
I think her point was more focused on deeply bitter people who seem to take more than give in friendships rather than good people who are going through a rough patch.
I get that. But it was badly explained, and I worry about how people going through similar might interpret this. Had I seen this video a few years ago, I probably would have thought I was the kind of friend Jade is talking about her and stopped talking about what happened to me, and tried to come across as happy and positive and “inspiring” as possible at the detriment of my own mental state out of fear of losing my friends. I did lose friends because of the reasons Jade describes here. I had PTSD, I had witnessed something horrific and I physically could not be supportive and inspiring, but to some people that didn’t matter. I would hate for anyone going through similar to see this video and worry they have to choose between bottling up their feelings and losing all their friends.
I’ve learned sitting in a room imagining all the success you want to gain isn’t going to get you anywhere, the hardest part is taking the first step and once you do it’s the best feeling
I think to not care what others think is more about what you do with you own life. Of course you should be kind to others, but things like how you dress, your way of living etc. is your own thing... You get what I mean?
"you can have a diagnosed mental health condition like depression and still be a positive person because i've learnt that a positive mindset is how you deal with those situations" i'm sorry but this is the one i disagree with wholeheartedly. yes, all mental health conditions and people's experiences of depression are different but the positivity thing is to do with being sad /not/ depressed. when i'm sad it's hard but it can be done to try and have a positive mindset. when i'm depressed (and yes, diagnosed) it is virtually imposisble. i'm not disputing that everyone is different and if someone has diagnosed depression they can't have a positive mindset, but it is incredibly difficult. it's like trying to say to a suicidal person that having a positive mindset will help them deal with wanting to kill themselves, its just not how it works and i'm sorry but it's so nieve to think that. mental health problems, and definitely depression, have an effect on your mindset - yes, some people may be able to have a positive mindset with depression or when they're further in their recovery but it isn't a one size fits all and it doesn't work like that. i've known the most positive person in the world develop depression and their positivity did a 180 to extreme negativity. it's just... dissapointing you would put across that mindset to impressionable people who might think there's something wrong with them when thinking positively doesn't "cure" their mental health conditions how you deal with situations involving mental health problems isn't just "thinking positively" it can take medication and therapy and relapses and it's hard, it's so so hard and thinking positively won't cure it
She did not say that positivity can cure depression. She said that being a positive person doesn’t mean you can’t be depressed. Because being positive doesn’t equal being happy, it is the way you deal with problems. And if you are depressed, then if course your positivity won’t cure you, but that doesn’t mean you stop being a positive person... because that is a character trait and depression is an illness
@@antionia3403 no, but she did say that a positive mindset is how you deal with those situations - and as you rightly pointed out, depression is an illness. it's like going up to someone whose dying and saying "just have a positive mindset and you can deal with the situation" when it is nowhere near as simple as that. I disagree with the point a positive mindset and depression are separate from each other - they're really not. depression enhances a negative mindset, which drags you down further. it is extremely difficult to think positively with depression, at least from my own experience and other people I know (I, of course, can't speak to all sufferers for mental illness). And even generalising it to everyone with mental illness, as Jade did, is so harmful. Try telling someone with an addiction or schizophrenia or PTSD or an eating disorder that having a positive mindset will help them deal with it, it's so hard to be positive and it's so naive to believe that you can still be positive with a mental illness especially if it's so debilitating that you can't function normally in day-to-day life And also, yes potivitity can impact the way you deal with problems, but depression isn't a problem that can just be dealt with and be done with - positive has no effect. I can't just think myself better with a positive mindset, I can't just decide to get out of bed by thinking positively. you can't "deal with" depression, it's a chemical imbalance which you will always have. on medication, yes it helps, but the imbalance is still there is there's still a chance of relapse etc yes, positivity can help. a positive mindset is a great thing to have but not everyone can be positive in their situations (for example carers of family members, abuse victims who can't deal with their problem by being positive) and especially not in mental illnesses when it is exactly that, an illness, a disorder, something that needs therapy or drugs or help or listeners not a "positive mindset" because that's not how you deal with it. a positive mindset can be developed but usually through techniques and help and when people are in a better place I, for example, still have so much trouble being positive at the best of times despite not being in the same place mentally as I was a few years ago. Even on my best days I can still fall pray to the negatives because that's /depression/ Edit: look, I appreciate what you're trying to say and what Jade's trying to say but it's worded horribly if that's now how she meant to come across and it's naive and ignorant to talk of mental illness like a positive mindset will deal with it because that's just not true, it takes so much more in the majority of cases (again, I can't speak for everyone and it would be foolish to assume that all people with mental illnesses think the same as me so disclaimer about that)
antionia3 I get that and depression doesn’t and shouldn’t eradicate all you are as a person but for me when I’m depressed or suicidal I find it impossible to remember any happy times in my life even though logically there should have been some. It feels like it’s always been this way and always will be this way. Thankfully I have found a way to deal with this which is through an app that allows me to record pictures and texts of things each day that make me happy so if I am depressed or suicidal I have a prompt of all the small moments that make life worth it. Hopefully I can’t get to the bottom of the page and still feeling like killing my self. I might not feel great and I probably will still feel rubbish but I won’t be so low that i feel like ending my life is the only way to end my pain.
I don't know what was Jade's intention when she said that being positive is how you deal with depression, but what I do know is that although in those most difficult moments you literally can't think positively, it really is a part of the healing process to learn more positive mindset. Of course, you need medication and automatically you have no hope, your brain makes you believe all negative things in the world... But in moments of reflection, like now, when you are able to see how your brain tricks you into thinking that nothing is possible and deep down you know it's a lie, that it's an illness, it's important to accept also positivity, different ways of thinking to these you use during most intense depressive episodes. And it's hard. Sometimes it's really impossible, sometimes even leaving your bed is impossible. But it's important to try whenever you can...
I just turned 23.... My BIGGEST advice would be to totally set goals, BUT be aware of 'destination addiction'. That is, the belief that 'you'll be happy' elsewhere. Whether that be the next stage of your life, when you finish school, in the holidays, in your next job, when you earn X amount of money, when you gain 5kg or lose 5kg, when you meet the love of your life... the list goes on. If you always think happiness is elsewhere, IT WILL NEVER be where you are!
Sarah Mae happy birthday! And I totally agree. I’ve heard people call it “grass is greener” syndrome. No matter how much you think it maybe be so much better with someone else, or at a lower weight, enjoy where you are in the present
Sixteen and I’ve learned that there’s no point in romanticising the past or the future, as there’s no way we can affect it. All we can do is appreciate the present and remember the fact that we’re literally alive!! And it’s so cool!! And appreciating that there’s so much I don’t know and haven’t experienced yet :)
A lot of what you said today was SO relatable! So many youtubers seem unrealistic or over the top but you, Jade, are so relatable to so many people and that's what I love about you (and so many other people).
Jade you are such a lovely person, so genuine and just generally kindhearted! Thank you for spreading your wisdom and reminding all of us to do that little bit extra to make ourselves, and others better people xxxx
Hi Jade, loved the video! Lots of inspiring lessons :) But, if I am honest, I don't fully agree on your 2nd lesson in which you say 'You could have a diagnosed mental health condition like depression and still be a positive person'. I have been diagnosed with depression myself and it is not as simple as that. The whole problem with depression is that you CAN'T get this positive mind set and perspective on life and it really terrible. Saying that you just should get a positive mind set makes me feel not taken seriously in my disease, although I am sure that's not what you were trying to say with that comment :)
I thought exactly the same thing. If you have a positive mindset it’s unlikely you have depression? I had depression for years and self harmed and I was so so negative but now learning to see the world more positively and getting help is what makes me happy
I think you can be a positive person at heart but have that obscured by depression (it's how I believe I am), but i agree with you, having a positive mindset and trying to deal with things in a positive way can be extremely hard and almost impossible when you're deep into depression
@@jenniferrobertson9636 here is the definition of disease: a disorder of structure or function in a human, animal, or plant, especially one that produces specific symptoms or that affects a specific location and is not simply a direct result of physical injury. If u think depression isn't a disease, ur basically saying that that's just the way a person is, but it's not...depression effects people in many ways
Im turning 18 next month and omg the lessons u've shared!!Especially the one about toxic friends,Ive only recently noticed that the reason my life had been hell recently is because of all the toxic ppl around me during the last period and gladly just yesterday I was able to delete all their numbers from my contact list|(And today Im watching this...WOW) All Ive ever been to them was nice and all I ever got was being "drained" Second big lesson is to fully be in the moment and to stop worrying tooooo much about the future, no matter how hard one tries to plan it, it will just be what it is.In addition to appreciating happy moments since as I grow up those tend to decrease so Ive learned that I should just enjoy any tiny teeny little moment of happiness for my sake! Thank u Jade for sharing this with us, I just can't express now how much this means to me.
I love deep chats too. I had one today with some people at school and I just felt like I was APPRECIATED and people valued my thoughts! I can’t remember what we were talking about but I got really conversed and involved with them 😌👍🏼
This is why I am subscribed to you because I am constantly learning what you are learning and growing as young lady myself. You are a great inspiration. Thank you❤❤❤ The greatest thing I have learnt from you and the other special people in my life is to work harderrr when things get harder.💕💗
Eventhough u r a normal person in the world, u r the most talented, honest and incredible person I've ever come across! I have an anxiety disorder and am not in school for almost a year from the start of yr 10 to now. But ur influence has made me to not give up and not thinking that if I don't get good in my gcses then it not the end of the world:)))))) You r the best x
This was amazing . Can’t believe that so many people are interested in just talking and sharing these meaningful things we learn through life. Thank you/ inspiring
Friendship is a matter of giving and taking. At times you have to give your time and energy to a friend who needs it and you might not feel supported and inspired after meeting them. But time passes and after a while the tables might turn so that they are the one giving you their time and energy while you are going through something.
im 20 in 3 weeks and i think the most important thing that im finally starting to understand is that sometimes its okay to be a little selfish. put yourself first and do whats right for you in that moment
I watched many videos of yours and I realised we have kinda the same mindset and to "being liked" I want to tell you, fake it till you make it. It sucks, believe me, even if you "don't care" you overthink everything but when you start saying no, saying your opinion even though other's don't agree, it helps little by little giving you this confidence and independence. If you always try to do that what others expect from you, you are lying to yourself and if you don't, I want to tell you, disagreeing with someone doesn't mean the person doesn't like you. The moment you are truly yourself you are like a magnet to those who will accept you and will unterstand you. It takes courage but I'm sure you are able to achieve this. It's always easier to say things like this than doing it, I've been trough it myself, there are negativ things about not fitting in the crowd with your opinions but that way you inspire those who share your opinion but are to scared to speak up. That's a reason why I love your youtube channel, it's different and a good kind of different. I feel understood and share your view, it's not about rambling and attention, more about being real but still entertaining. I miss that nowadays and I'm so happy that I found your channel. I really hope one day we will be able to talk in person. And I'm still totally confused about the fact that I found the Doppelgänger of a friend. I have to send you a photo of my friend. It's crazyy, you could be twins. I first thought she didn't tell me about her youtube channel. Anyways, I love watching your videos and I really hope u keep your attitude, it's rare to find someone like you!
Hey Jade! Love u xx and the honesty with which you portray yourself. We're all learning and growing as 19-year olds, so I want to also share something I learnt: to love myself first and foremost, because just like you said, no matter how many people "like" us - all that doesn't matter if we don't like ourselves.
This is a great video, thank you! I really enjoyed hearing your points that you’ve clearly thought so much about - it’s so important that we all take moments to reflect on who we are and what we have. Somethings I’ve learnt in 18 years: 1. Appreciate. There are so many incredible, beautiful things in this world that no matter our situation we can enjoy. So allow yourself to take time to LOVE them, no matter how small. 2. Confidence in decisions. You might have absolutely no clue of what you want to do but when there is something you are sure of, that your gut feeling supports, stick to it. People are always going to try and enforce their way onto you (which can be a good thing) but when you know you’re onto a good thing maintain your decisive stability. 3. Listen. While you may have learnt lots and be at a good level of maturity you don’t know it all. Practice humility. Thank you for continuing to work hard to make videos like these 💕
I just wanted to tell you how much I love you❤️❤️ I am 15 years old in 10th grade (11th in England), from Israel. I follow for more than a year, and you made a huge impact on my life, everytime that I feel unmotivated, I watch one of your videos and it improves my mood in seconds. Your videos helped me to become a better student and a person in general. Thank you so much for being an amazing person and an influencer!💖😍
I’ve said this before but I am going to say it again: YOU ARE SOOO INSPIRING AND MOTIVATING!!!! keep doing you because we love it and I cannot wait to see your channel grow and succeed 😊😊
Hey Jade, I normally don't comment on RUclips Videos at all but I just wanted to tell you that I relate to you and you feelings/experiences on so my levels. Like you I spend the last year as a gap year before going to university. I had many little "self improvement" projects going on in my life and also went interrailling haha (though I sadly broke my foot while travelling and had to go home earlier- but as you said: a positive mindset is everything). You said you were just an "unimportant normal" person but that's just what makes you very special to me because I see my inner struggles reflected in you and it helps me to know that I'm not alone with it. You are such a nice and inspiring person with many aspirations and you don't even know how much I would love to drink a cup of tea with you while having a deep chat and laugh together :D. I know that probably won't happen but I still feel somehow very connected to you and wish all the best for you and that you stay true to yourself :)!
i love point 16,17 and 18 . it just shows how down to earth you are and that you could be a random neighbour from next door. best example of an modest and inspiring youtuber :)
I'm 16 now and I've learnt that external beauty isn't everything (as cheesy as it sounds) beauty really does come from inside and everyone is beautiful in their own way. I've learnt that there is no point living for others or as someone else just to impress others because it's not worth it life is too short and I want to spend it in the best way possible for me. Also learnt to be grateful for everything that I have and change my mentality from thinking about what I don't have or what I want to feeling gratitude that I'm still alive and healthy and to be grateful to the people around me who love and support me. I've also learnt that when I die I want to have done everything I could have possible done with what I had(if that makes sense) and not regret living my life the way I did💕
I just found you some time ago through your interrail videos (I’m finally doing it this summer!) and I’m so thankful for that! Thank you for showing us yourself a little bit 😊
I think the biggest thing I've learned in the past year is that grown ups are only pretending to be adults! They don't have any more of a clue than the rest of us. And that's scary but also really reassuring.
wow, how do you never fail to inspire with these videos! It's a literal gift! (I've learnt that other people teach you much more than school ever will)
I can relate to so many of these things! Thank you so much for sharing, I feel less alone and also learned some really great tips from your wise words❤️
Watching this on my 22nd birthday and I relate to sooo many of these, especially 12. But all we can do is try to get better. Thanks for an excellent vid Jade ❤️
Jade just telling you that your videos are so positive and supportive I so relate to you I want to have a friend like you I hope everyone could be as good as you
Jade is such a beautiful human being! I love her so much and she inspires me to work harder and spread positivity. Props to you Jade you are the role model of many :)
Number 16 really got to me! I think that whatever we do sometimes might seem super tiny and small, but we never know how much of an impact we're causing in somebody else's life. And alongside that, kindness is so important. Things like treating others with respect, or smiling at another person can have a very positive impact on people
I know your channel isn't about it, but I would love to hear your hair routine. I have a curly hair and honestly I have no idea what to do with it lol ❤
Jade, when you are old, you will be a very wise lady. You're already much wiser than I ever will be, and I'm twice your age. Your parents must be so proud of you. I know I would be, if I had a daughter like you.
Recently I’ve started to learn that most of the people around me as friends don’t really care for me, leave me out and generally treat me like an extra who is disposable. Therefore, this year, going on to sixth form I’m choosing to make time for the few that still do and leave behind anybody who doesn’t actually care
😂 every video you make I think to myself what life lessons does she have to teach me,,, then i watch this! Oh my god I’ve never reflected so much on another persons words before but a lot of what you had to say resonated with me so thank you!
I love deep chats too!!! I really do and honestly I would love to talk people who love deep chats!! Honestly you are one of the people that I believe I would be best friends with. I can tell that I would really really enjoy your company
Yo Jade ly. Like after an hour im 18 and i wanted to have list like this from someone so desperately. Wow literally you got my back lol. Thank you. Have a nice day.
You are definitely on the right path to making a difference in the world as you have made a difference on many people like me already by just being the positive,heart warming person you are 🙌😊✨ You’re on the right path on fulfilling your life of dreams xx Peace out ✌️🌊
Number 8 is one of the biggest things I think people forget, your best is not the best of the person sitting next to you- your best is YOUR best. Don't bother comparing others to others or yourself to others because that's never really a true representation of achievement or success. As Jade says, everyone has 24 hours in a day- don't waste yours comparing yourself or others to what may be deemed as perfection. Thank you for coming to my TedTalk Xxx
To the 18. point: Astrid Lindgren said, when she was about 100 years old, she still felt like everyone else knew everything much better than she did. So that feeling of "waiting to have things figured out/ feeling like others know how to figure out their lives much better" never really goes away (if you don't make it). She is an inspiring person :) And I enjoyed this video, jade 🌱 I also love that you are vegan, do you know the documentary earthlings by any chance? I think it deserves to be known by so many more people!
Thank you for mentioning privilege! A lot of people deny that and there is even a scientific study ( the monopoly game) were one was given double the amount of money at the beginning of the game and the other one not only got half the money, he could only play with one dice. When the privileged one was asked why he thinks he won he said bc of his intelligence. Ive noticed a lot of people in real life do it too.
Don’t really agree with number 2 there, you can’t say that people with depression can have a ‘positive mindset’ to solve the situation. Depression isn’t a ‘situation’ you can just snap out of by being positive. It’s just the same as going up to someone with anxiety and saying ‘oh just stop worrying and you won’t be anxious anymore’. I’m sorry but it’s just naive to think that way
Mollie Leigh I don’t think she meant it in the way you’ve interpreted it though- I think she means that you can suffer with mental health issues whilst committing to optimism, and that they’re not mutually exclusive. For example: I’ve struggled with GAD and burnout with periods of depression for my whole time in education but I’ve still pushed myself to TRY to keep my chin up. I also think she meant it to mean that just because someone seems happy all the time doesn’t mean that they are. Sorry if this seems passive aggressive in any way- I jut have an alternative approach to the way you see it and I don’t believe she intended to seem as naïve or obnoxious as you thought. (I 100% agree that the belief that positivity is a cure to mental illness is SUPER irritating)
If she didn’t want it to come across that way, then personally I think she should have thought more about how she wanted to express it, especially when it’s concerning a big topic like mental health - but that’s my opinion
I completely agree, the two main symptoms of depression (speaking as someone studying psychology) are a very low mood/negative mindset and an inability to find happiness in things that normally interest you for a prolonged time. Something bad happening to you, and you being positive, is the opposite of depression
I'm sure you have good intentions behind the points you've made in this video, but some of the things you've said are very naive and out of touch. Firstly, if you are diagnosed with depression, having a positive mindset is near impossible most of the time, and 'thinking positively' is not enough when you've been diagnosed with an actual illness by a doctor. You couldn't fix a physical illness by thinking happy thoughts, and the same applies to mental illness. As someone diagnosed with depression, anxiety, PTSD and BDP, it's quite hurtful to hear mental illness being belittled like that, regardless of whether it was intentional or not. Secondly, not everyone can make time for anything, again there are factors involved other than just being motivated and having a positive mindset. Sure, if you're on a gap year and don't have a 9-5 job you can make time for nearly anything you want, but if you are a carer, or have to work long hours to put food on the table for you and your family, or any other big responsibilities, it's just not realistic.
100% agree. I like Jade a lot, but her message about depression is actually dangerous - there will be people with legitimate mental illnesses who will wonder what's wrong with them when they're unable to cure themselves through being positive. And the whole thing about time... Sigh. She says she knows she's privileged but doesn't act like she does. that may be true for her, but try saying that to someone who has to work round the clock just to make a living. There's nothing wrong with being privileged like Jade, but there is something wrong in spouting such ignorant patronising statements.
You are getting more beautiful day by day!!!! Seriously in these 18 years your personality is becoming charismatic ☺☺☺I m in love with you from Pakistan 💕 💕
“Being positive does not mean being happy all the time” is a very important lesson🙌🏼✨⭐️ you’ve helped me so much to become a more positive person myself! Thank you Jade✨🧡
The comment you've all been looking for. You're welcome.
1. shouldn't brush my dry hair
2. being positive doesn't mean being happy all the time
3. I'm incredibly privileged
4. trust your gut
5. love deep chats
6. have no idea what I want to do in the future
7. fame of any kind is scary
8. negative comparison is the worst thing you can do
9. figuring out toxic friendships
10. I'll always be learning
11. hate quick mental maths
12. care too much about being liked
13. making time for people is important
14. love traveling
15. being a youtuber/influencer requires a lot of hard work
16. individual influence is powerful
17. kindness is extremely important
18. I'm still just a child
Megha Oberoi 1 is shouldn’t brush my hair *while dry :)
Thank you
this was just a big fat spoiler
@@aliya282 yeah
I’m 23 and still loved listening to this. We all go through life and learn things differently. Still impactful for me to listen to. Thanks for sharing Jade 🤗💕
Girl, I need to know exactly what you do with your hair. Please teach me the ways to get such beautiful curls.
aandrearoo try searching on RUclips for the “curly girl method”!!✨✨
She’s just natural 😭😭
I get the ‘don’t brush your hair dry’ curly hair makes me feel like a literal lion and I love it ❤️
Such a beautiful human! Need these lessons in my life right now x
Some thing I've learned: Don't leave tasks until the last minute because this causes avoidable stress and panic
something I've learnt: that I don't need to surround myself with many or sometimes even any person/people to be happy.
I completely agree with you
I've learnt that I need to be my own best friend. There's not gonna always been extra support from other people even family so I need to provide it myself. Another thing I've learnt is that I'm special. I don't deserve to be mistreated and that ignoring a problem and running away only makes the problem repeat and get bigger until it is dealt with.
Please be careful about how you portray friendships, re number 9. I lost a family member in truly horrific circumstances most people probably can't imagine a few years ago. My poor friends almost certainly came away from meeting me feeling 'drained' and 'unsupported' several times in the months that followed, and they definitely would not have felt inspired and excited right after spending time with me for a good year after it happened. Thankfully, most of my friends understood I was going through something incredibly traumatic and they stuck by me through that time, supported me unconditionally, listened to things that I'm sure were very difficult to hear because I needed to talk about them and helped me come out the other side. My friendships are now more balanced again like you describe, and of course that's what you should aim for in a healthy friendship. But life throws awful things at you sometimes, and I lost a lot of good friends with the death of my family member- at least two I suspect it was because I had just witnessed someone I loved die and I simply could not be happy and positive and inspiring in my interactions with them immediately after it happened. I hate to think where I would be today had all my friends decided to let their friendship with me go in that period because I wasn't inspiring, exciting and supporting them, and they wanted to surround themselves only with positivity. True friendship isn't just about the good moments. It's also about helping each other through the bad.
wow thanks for sharing this! Very insightful
I think her point was more focused on deeply bitter people who seem to take more than give in friendships rather than good people who are going through a rough patch.
I get that. But it was badly explained, and I worry about how people going through similar might interpret this. Had I seen this video a few years ago, I probably would have thought I was the kind of friend Jade is talking about her and stopped talking about what happened to me, and tried to come across as happy and positive and “inspiring” as possible at the detriment of my own mental state out of fear of losing my friends. I did lose friends because of the reasons Jade describes here. I had PTSD, I had witnessed something horrific and I physically could not be supportive and inspiring, but to some people that didn’t matter. I would hate for anyone going through similar to see this video and worry they have to choose between bottling up their feelings and losing all their friends.
@@emaanja8717 I actually needed to hear this tonight so thank you very much for sharing it and good luck on your recovery journey
Ema Anja okay sis
I’ve learned sitting in a room imagining all the success you want to gain isn’t going to get you anywhere, the hardest part is taking the first step and once you do it’s the best feeling
I've learned that nothing lasts forever, whether it's happiness or misery.
4:50 though I get the point of “not caring what people think” if you don’t care what people think you don’t know the impact a comment can make.
I think to not care what others think is more about what you do with you own life. Of course you should be kind to others, but things like how you dress, your way of living etc. is your own thing... You get what I mean?
"you can have a diagnosed mental health condition like depression and still be a positive person because i've learnt that a positive mindset is how you deal with those situations"
i'm sorry but this is the one i disagree with wholeheartedly. yes, all mental health conditions and people's experiences of depression are different but the positivity thing is to do with being sad /not/ depressed. when i'm sad it's hard but it can be done to try and have a positive mindset. when i'm depressed (and yes, diagnosed) it is virtually imposisble. i'm not disputing that everyone is different and if someone has diagnosed depression they can't have a positive mindset, but it is incredibly difficult. it's like trying to say to a suicidal person that having a positive mindset will help them deal with wanting to kill themselves, its just not how it works and i'm sorry but it's so nieve to think that. mental health problems, and definitely depression, have an effect on your mindset - yes, some people may be able to have a positive mindset with depression or when they're further in their recovery but it isn't a one size fits all and it doesn't work like that. i've known the most positive person in the world develop depression and their positivity did a 180 to extreme negativity. it's just... dissapointing you would put across that mindset to impressionable people who might think there's something wrong with them when thinking positively doesn't "cure" their mental health conditions
how you deal with situations involving mental health problems isn't just "thinking positively" it can take medication and therapy and relapses and it's hard, it's so so hard and thinking positively won't cure it
She did not say that positivity can cure depression. She said that being a positive person doesn’t mean you can’t be depressed. Because being positive doesn’t equal being happy, it is the way you deal with problems. And if you are depressed, then if course your positivity won’t cure you, but that doesn’t mean you stop being a positive person... because that is a character trait and depression is an illness
@@antionia3403 no, but she did say that a positive mindset is how you deal with those situations - and as you rightly pointed out, depression is an illness. it's like going up to someone whose dying and saying "just have a positive mindset and you can deal with the situation" when it is nowhere near as simple as that.
I disagree with the point a positive mindset and depression are separate from each other - they're really not. depression enhances a negative mindset, which drags you down further. it is extremely difficult to think positively with depression, at least from my own experience and other people I know (I, of course, can't speak to all sufferers for mental illness). And even generalising it to everyone with mental illness, as Jade did, is so harmful. Try telling someone with an addiction or schizophrenia or PTSD or an eating disorder that having a positive mindset will help them deal with it, it's so hard to be positive and it's so naive to believe that you can still be positive with a mental illness especially if it's so debilitating that you can't function normally in day-to-day life
And also, yes potivitity can impact the way you deal with problems, but depression isn't a problem that can just be dealt with and be done with - positive has no effect. I can't just think myself better with a positive mindset, I can't just decide to get out of bed by thinking positively. you can't "deal with" depression, it's a chemical imbalance which you will always have. on medication, yes it helps, but the imbalance is still there is there's still a chance of relapse etc
yes, positivity can help. a positive mindset is a great thing to have but not everyone can be positive in their situations (for example carers of family members, abuse victims who can't deal with their problem by being positive) and especially not in mental illnesses when it is exactly that, an illness, a disorder, something that needs therapy or drugs or help or listeners not a "positive mindset" because that's not how you deal with it. a positive mindset can be developed but usually through techniques and help and when people are in a better place
I, for example, still have so much trouble being positive at the best of times despite not being in the same place mentally as I was a few years ago. Even on my best days I can still fall pray to the negatives because that's /depression/
Edit: look, I appreciate what you're trying to say and what Jade's trying to say but it's worded horribly if that's now how she meant to come across and it's naive and ignorant to talk of mental illness like a positive mindset will deal with it because that's just not true, it takes so much more in the majority of cases (again, I can't speak for everyone and it would be foolish to assume that all people with mental illnesses think the same as me so disclaimer about that)
antionia3 I get that and depression doesn’t and shouldn’t eradicate all you are as a person but for me when I’m depressed or suicidal I find it impossible to remember any happy times in my life even though logically there should have been some. It feels like it’s always been this way and always will be this way. Thankfully I have found a way to deal with this which is through an app that allows me to record pictures and texts of things each day that make me happy so if I am depressed or suicidal I have a prompt of all the small moments that make life worth it. Hopefully I can’t get to the bottom of the page and still feeling like killing my self. I might not feel great and I probably will still feel rubbish but I won’t be so low that i feel like ending my life is the only way to end my pain.
I don't know what was Jade's intention when she said that being positive is how you deal with depression, but what I do know is that although in those most difficult moments you literally can't think positively, it really is a part of the healing process to learn more positive mindset. Of course, you need medication and automatically you have no hope, your brain makes you believe all negative things in the world... But in moments of reflection, like now, when you are able to see how your brain tricks you into thinking that nothing is possible and deep down you know it's a lie, that it's an illness, it's important to accept also positivity, different ways of thinking to these you use during most intense depressive episodes. And it's hard. Sometimes it's really impossible, sometimes even leaving your bed is impossible. But it's important to try whenever you can...
I just turned 23.... My BIGGEST advice would be to totally set goals, BUT be aware of 'destination addiction'. That is, the belief that 'you'll be happy' elsewhere. Whether that be the next stage of your life, when you finish school, in the holidays, in your next job, when you earn X amount of money, when you gain 5kg or lose 5kg, when you meet the love of your life... the list goes on. If you always think happiness is elsewhere, IT WILL NEVER be where you are!
Sarah Mae happy birthday! And I totally agree. I’ve heard people call it “grass is greener” syndrome. No matter how much you think it maybe be so much better with someone else, or at a lower weight, enjoy where you are in the present
Poppy Lochland Thankyou! And I love that name for it!!!
Sixteen and I’ve learned that there’s no point in romanticising the past or the future, as there’s no way we can affect it. All we can do is appreciate the present and remember the fact that we’re literally alive!! And it’s so cool!! And appreciating that there’s so much I don’t know and haven’t experienced yet :)
A lot of what you said today was SO relatable! So many youtubers seem unrealistic or over the top but you, Jade, are so relatable to so many people and that's what I love about you (and so many other people).
I was feeling empty, watch you, felt better, thank you jade and happy 18th. can't wait to journey with you all over the world
Jade you are such a lovely person, so genuine and just generally kindhearted! Thank you for spreading your wisdom and reminding all of us to do that little bit extra to make ourselves, and others better people xxxx
Hi Jade, loved the video! Lots of inspiring lessons :) But, if I am honest, I don't fully agree on your 2nd lesson in which you say 'You could have a diagnosed mental health condition like depression and still be a positive person'. I have been diagnosed with depression myself and it is not as simple as that. The whole problem with depression is that you CAN'T get this positive mind set and perspective on life and it really terrible. Saying that you just should get a positive mind set makes me feel not taken seriously in my disease, although I am sure that's not what you were trying to say with that comment :)
Please don't refer to depression as a "disease"
@@jenniferrobertson9636 But it is ;)
I thought exactly the same thing. If you have a positive mindset it’s unlikely you have depression? I had depression for years and self harmed and I was so so negative but now learning to see the world more positively and getting help is what makes me happy
I think you can be a positive person at heart but have that obscured by depression (it's how I believe I am), but i agree with you, having a positive mindset and trying to deal with things in a positive way can be extremely hard and almost impossible when you're deep into depression
@@jenniferrobertson9636 here is the definition of disease:
a disorder of structure or function in a human, animal, or plant, especially one that produces specific symptoms or that affects a specific location and is not simply a direct result of physical injury.
If u think depression isn't a disease, ur basically saying that that's just the way a person is, but it's not...depression effects people in many ways
Im turning 18 next month and omg the lessons u've shared!!Especially the one about toxic friends,Ive only recently noticed that the reason my life had been hell recently is because of all the toxic ppl around me during the last period and gladly just yesterday I was able to delete all their numbers from my contact list|(And today Im watching this...WOW)
All Ive ever been to them was nice and all I ever got was being "drained"
Second big lesson is to fully be in the moment and to stop worrying tooooo much about the future, no matter how hard one tries to plan it, it will just be what it is.In addition to appreciating happy moments since as I grow up those tend to decrease so Ive learned that I should just enjoy any tiny teeny little moment of happiness for my sake!
Thank u Jade for sharing this with us, I just can't express now how much this means to me.
Oh how I wish you had been there as I grew up. You are amazing. I'm so grateful for you and for your positive influence for everyone watching.
I love deep chats too. I had one today with some people at school and I just felt like I was APPRECIATED and people valued my thoughts! I can’t remember what we were talking about but I got really conversed and involved with them 😌👍🏼
This is why I am subscribed to you because I am constantly learning what you are learning and growing as young lady myself. You are a great inspiration. Thank you❤❤❤ The greatest thing I have learnt from you and the other special people in my life is to work harderrr when things get harder.💕💗
Eventhough u r a normal person in the world, u r the most talented, honest and incredible person I've ever come across! I have an anxiety disorder and am not in school for almost a year from the start of yr 10 to now. But ur influence has made me to not give up and not thinking that if I don't get good in my gcses then it not the end of the world:)))))) You r the best x
This was amazing . Can’t believe that so many people are interested in just talking and sharing these meaningful things we learn through life. Thank you/ inspiring
Friendship is a matter of giving and taking. At times you have to give your time and energy to a friend who needs it and you might not feel supported and inspired after meeting them. But time passes and after a while the tables might turn so that they are the one giving you their time and energy while you are going through something.
im 20 in 3 weeks and i think the most important thing that im finally starting to understand is that sometimes its okay to be a little selfish. put yourself first and do whats right for you in that moment
I watched many videos of yours and I realised we have kinda the same mindset and to "being liked" I want to tell you, fake it till you make it. It sucks, believe me, even if you "don't care" you overthink everything but when you start saying no, saying your opinion even though other's don't agree, it helps little by little giving you this confidence and independence. If you always try to do that what others expect from you, you are lying to yourself and if you don't, I want to tell you, disagreeing with someone doesn't mean the person doesn't like you. The moment you are truly yourself you are like a magnet to those who will accept you and will unterstand you. It takes courage but I'm sure you are able to achieve this. It's always easier to say things like this than doing it, I've been trough it myself, there are negativ things about not fitting in the crowd with your opinions but that way you inspire those who share your opinion but are to scared to speak up. That's a reason why I love your youtube channel, it's different and a good kind of different. I feel understood and share your view, it's not about rambling and attention, more about being real but still entertaining. I miss that nowadays and I'm so happy that I found your channel. I really hope one day we will be able to talk in person. And I'm still totally confused about the fact that I found the Doppelgänger of a friend. I have to send you a photo of my friend. It's crazyy, you could be twins. I first thought she didn't tell me about her youtube channel. Anyways, I love watching your videos and I really hope u keep your attitude, it's rare to find someone like you!
Hey Jade! Love u xx and the honesty with which you portray yourself. We're all learning and growing as 19-year olds, so I want to also share something I learnt: to love myself first and foremost, because just like you said, no matter how many people "like" us - all that doesn't matter if we don't like ourselves.
I've learnt that worrying about something does not change the situation, if anything it makes it worse for you to deal with! 💕
This is a great video, thank you! I really enjoyed hearing your points that you’ve clearly thought so much about - it’s so important that we all take moments to reflect on who we are and what we have.
Somethings I’ve learnt in 18 years:
1. Appreciate.
There are so many incredible, beautiful things in this world that no matter our situation we can enjoy. So allow yourself to take time to LOVE them, no matter how small.
2. Confidence in decisions.
You might have absolutely no clue of what you want to do but when there is something you are sure of, that your gut feeling supports, stick to it. People are always going to try and enforce their way onto you (which can be a good thing) but when you know you’re onto a good thing maintain your decisive stability.
3. Listen.
While you may have learnt lots and be at a good level of maturity you don’t know it all. Practice humility.
Thank you for continuing to work hard to make videos like these 💕
I just wanted to tell you how much I love you❤️❤️
I am 15 years old in 10th grade (11th in England), from Israel.
I follow for more than a year, and you made a huge impact on my life, everytime that I feel unmotivated, I watch one of your videos and it improves my mood in seconds. Your videos helped me to become a better student and a person in general.
Thank you so much for being an amazing person and an influencer!💖😍
Are u a jew
I resonate with everything that you've said, it's incredibly uplifting and inspiring! Love you, Jade x
I’ve said this before but I am going to say it again:
YOU ARE SOOO INSPIRING AND MOTIVATING!!!!
keep doing you because we love it and I cannot wait to see your channel grow and succeed 😊😊
Hey Jade,
I normally don't comment on RUclips Videos at all but I just wanted to tell you that I relate to you and you feelings/experiences on so my levels. Like you I spend the last year as a gap year before going to university. I had many little "self improvement" projects going on in my life and also went interrailling haha (though I sadly broke my foot while travelling and had to go home earlier- but as you said: a positive mindset is everything).
You said you were just an "unimportant normal" person but that's just what makes you very special to me because I see my inner struggles reflected in you and it helps me to know that I'm not alone with it. You are such a nice and inspiring person with many aspirations and you don't even know how much I would love to drink a cup of tea with you while having a deep chat and laugh together :D. I know that probably won't happen but I still feel somehow very connected to you and wish all the best for you and that you stay true to yourself :)!
i love point 16,17 and 18 . it just shows how down to earth you are and that you could be a random neighbour from next door. best example of an modest and inspiring youtuber :)
Jade, you are such an inspiration. So humble and so beautiful, inside and out.
this is honestly one of my favourite videos by you!!!
you are such an inspiring person that so many people look up to. thank you for everything you do
I'm 16 now and I've learnt that external beauty isn't everything (as cheesy as it sounds) beauty really does come from inside and everyone is beautiful in their own way. I've learnt that there is no point living for others or as someone else just to impress others because it's not worth it life is too short and I want to spend it in the best way possible for me. Also learnt to be grateful for everything that I have and change my mentality from thinking about what I don't have or what I want to feeling gratitude that I'm still alive and healthy and to be grateful to the people around me who love and support me. I've also learnt that when I die I want to have done everything I could have possible done with what I had(if that makes sense) and not regret living my life the way I did💕
I just found you some time ago through your interrail videos (I’m finally doing it this summer!) and I’m so thankful for that! Thank you for showing us yourself a little bit 😊
this is all so wise & introspective, yet so beautifully simple. you are so lovely, jade
You’re so intelligent and strong, you’ve also helped me with exam nerves so thank you :) x
I think the biggest thing I've learned in the past year is that grown ups are only pretending to be adults! They don't have any more of a clue than the rest of us. And that's scary but also really reassuring.
MAN Jade her videos and ideas that she post are so amazing and like inspiring, sometimes clearing confusion love em KEEP UP THE GOOD WORK!
I'm so grateful for having found your channel! :) You are so introspective and well-spoken!
I love how positive and kind people are in this comment section !!!✨✨Jade is really inspiring people for good. Keep up the great work 💝✨
one of the realest people out there. so inspiring.
wow, how do you never fail to inspire with these videos! It's a literal gift! (I've learnt that other people teach you much more than school ever will)
I’m literally turning 18 next week and i love hearing about these. Thanks Jade x
I can relate to so many of these things! Thank you so much for sharing, I feel less alone and also learned some really great tips from your wise words❤️
Watching this on my 22nd birthday and I relate to sooo many of these, especially 12. But all we can do is try to get better. Thanks for an excellent vid Jade ❤️
Keziah D happy birthday!
@@nikola206 thank you!
You’re amazing, Jade. The last point is so true! I used to think the same when I was 12. 😅
I love this video Jade, you’re such an incredible person 💛🌿
Jade just telling you that your videos are so positive and supportive I so relate to you I want to have a friend like you I hope everyone could be as good as you
Jade is such a beautiful human being! I love her so much and she inspires me to work harder and spread positivity. Props to you Jade you are the role model of many :)
I could definitely see you as a motivational speaker! even tho you are already one for us, there are a lot of ways to make it as a carreer :)
I feel most alive when i don’t care about what people think of me and I’m doing it as much as I can :)
My baby girl has grown up!!!! I'm so proud of you 😄😄😄
Number 16 really got to me! I think that whatever we do sometimes might seem super tiny and small, but we never know how much of an impact we're causing in somebody else's life.
And alongside that, kindness is so important. Things like treating others with respect, or smiling at another person can have a very positive impact on people
I'm turning 18 next week on the 7th, and I just had to come back to this video,😊
Such great advice (as always), Jade❤.
I love your energy, your videos are amazing, thanks for brighten my day ❤️
I can't wait to watch Minerva Jade! Your outlook on the world is so refreshing and mature for someone so young
I know your channel isn't about it, but I would love to hear your hair routine. I have a curly hair and honestly I have no idea what to do with it lol ❤
I am older than you Jade but I learned and inspired a lot from you ! much love and respect for your mindeset from Saudi Arabia ❤❤❤
I really enjoyed that and can relate to so many of them. I turn 19 next month so I'll be doing this on my channel. Thank you Jade, keep be yourself!
Jade, when you are old, you will be a very wise lady. You're already much wiser than I ever will be, and I'm twice your age. Your parents must be so proud of you. I know I would be, if I had a daughter like you.
Literally none of your videos disappoint me!!!
I HOPE THAT ONE DAY, I CAN BE AS POSITIVE AND INSPIRING AS YOU ARE!!! LOVE YOU JADE! 💜
Recently I’ve started to learn that most of the people around me as friends don’t really care for me, leave me out and generally treat me like an extra who is disposable. Therefore, this year, going on to sixth form I’m choosing to make time for the few that still do and leave behind anybody who doesn’t actually care
You are awesome and I love how honest and positive your videos are - thank you xx
😂 every video you make I think to myself what life lessons does she have to teach me,,, then i watch this! Oh my god I’ve never reflected so much on another persons words before but a lot of what you had to say resonated with me so thank you!
love you ♥ always feeling so inspired and strong after watching your videos
I love deep chats too!!! I really do and honestly I would love to talk people who love deep chats!! Honestly you are one of the people that I believe I would be best friends with. I can tell that I would really really enjoy your company
I’ve learnt in this past month that staying calm is the key to everything.
Yo Jade ly. Like after an hour im 18 and i wanted to have list like this from someone so desperately. Wow literally you got my back lol. Thank you. Have a nice day.
Saw this on jake edwards' channel and i so desperately wished jade made one too and now here it is. I'm so happy.
Hey Jade, you are already adding positivity to the world by making your videos! Liefs uit Nederland :)
honestly, you are just an AMAZING person I just feel motivated whenever I watch any of your videos THANK YOU!
I've learned that people are just people, regardless of age or fame we're all just finding our way through this life the best way we can!
You are definitely on the right path to making a difference in the world as you have made a difference on many people like me already by just being the positive,heart warming person you are 🙌😊✨
You’re on the right path on fulfilling your life of dreams xx
Peace out ✌️🌊
I'm 18. I've learnt that in these 18 years, it's important to remain focused on the present without dwelling about the fear of the future!
Thank you for this Jade!!! You are the exact person I wanted a video like this from!! 😍
Number 8 is one of the biggest things I think people forget, your best is not the best of the person sitting next to you- your best is YOUR best. Don't bother comparing others to others or yourself to others because that's never really a true representation of achievement or success. As Jade says, everyone has 24 hours in a day- don't waste yours comparing yourself or others to what may be deemed as perfection.
Thank you for coming to my TedTalk Xxx
In two days I'm turning 18!!! Congratulations to me! 💐🎉❤️Love you SO MUCH Jade!!! (Btw. I'm from Portugal 🇵🇹)
Happy early birthday ❤️
Congratulations happy early birthday
Thank you very much to all! 🤗💕 I wish you all the best! Be happy and enjoy life ❤️❤️ I'll do the same
@@joanapereira4597 you very welcome
HAPPY EARLY BIRTHDAY!! :DDD
I cannot tell you how original I actually genuinely found this when I saw it first on my homepage 😂
To the 18. point: Astrid Lindgren said, when she was about 100 years old, she still felt like everyone else knew everything much better than she did. So that feeling of "waiting to have things figured out/ feeling like others know how to figure out their lives much better" never really goes away (if you don't make it).
She is an inspiring person :)
And I enjoyed this video, jade 🌱
I also love that you are vegan, do you know the documentary earthlings by any chance? I think it deserves to be known by so many more people!
Thanks for the inspirational video
thank youuuu for this 💞💞 all your advice is just amazing!!
Thank you for mentioning privilege! A lot of people deny that and there is even a scientific study ( the monopoly game) were one was given double the amount of money at the beginning of the game and the other one not only got half the money, he could only play with one dice.
When the privileged one was asked why he thinks he won he said bc of his intelligence.
Ive noticed a lot of people in real life do it too.
I got so happy when I saw the notification 😭💕💕💕
Sundus H same!! :D
Number 2 hit me in the feels.
I recommend always being positive though, I think he's message was unclear.
I love this Jade!!
17/18 things that you stated, I relate to/ have learnt too :)
PS.you're the best jade!
Spreading positivity is thr lierally the best thing you can do in this universe, We have such a small amount of time on this planet to be negative
Don’t really agree with number 2 there, you can’t say that people with depression can have a ‘positive mindset’ to solve the situation. Depression isn’t a ‘situation’ you can just snap out of by being positive.
It’s just the same as going up to someone with anxiety and saying ‘oh just stop worrying and you won’t be anxious anymore’.
I’m sorry but it’s just naive to think that way
Mollie Leigh I don’t think she meant it in the way you’ve interpreted it though- I think she means that you can suffer with mental health issues whilst committing to optimism, and that they’re not mutually exclusive. For example: I’ve struggled with GAD and burnout with periods of depression for my whole time in education but I’ve still pushed myself to TRY to keep my chin up. I also think she meant it to mean that just because someone seems happy all the time doesn’t mean that they are. Sorry if this seems passive aggressive in any way- I jut have an alternative approach to the way you see it and I don’t believe she intended to seem as naïve or obnoxious as you thought. (I 100% agree that the belief that positivity is a cure to mental illness is SUPER irritating)
If she didn’t want it to come across that way, then personally I think she should have thought more about how she wanted to express it, especially when it’s concerning a big topic like mental health - but that’s my opinion
She never said you can cure depression by being positive? Just that they’re not mutually exclusive
I completely agree, the two main symptoms of depression (speaking as someone studying psychology) are a very low mood/negative mindset and an inability to find happiness in things that normally interest you for a prolonged time. Something bad happening to you, and you being positive, is the opposite of depression
Happy 19th!
Love from a small youtuber!❤️
This is such an inspirational video. I'm going to look at myself and see what exactly I've learned with my life
I'm sure you have good intentions behind the points you've made in this video, but some of the things you've said are very naive and out of touch. Firstly, if you are diagnosed with depression, having a positive mindset is near impossible most of the time, and 'thinking positively' is not enough when you've been diagnosed with an actual illness by a doctor. You couldn't fix a physical illness by thinking happy thoughts, and the same applies to mental illness. As someone diagnosed with depression, anxiety, PTSD and BDP, it's quite hurtful to hear mental illness being belittled like that, regardless of whether it was intentional or not. Secondly, not everyone can make time for anything, again there are factors involved other than just being motivated and having a positive mindset. Sure, if you're on a gap year and don't have a 9-5 job you can make time for nearly anything you want, but if you are a carer, or have to work long hours to put food on the table for you and your family, or any other big responsibilities, it's just not realistic.
100% agree. I like Jade a lot, but her message about depression is actually dangerous - there will be people with legitimate mental illnesses who will wonder what's wrong with them when they're unable to cure themselves through being positive.
And the whole thing about time... Sigh. She says she knows she's privileged but doesn't act like she does. that may be true for her, but try saying that to someone who has to work round the clock just to make a living. There's nothing wrong with being privileged like Jade, but there is something wrong in spouting such ignorant patronising statements.
You are getting more beautiful day by day!!!! Seriously in these 18 years your personality is becoming charismatic ☺☺☺I m in love with you from Pakistan 💕 💕