10 THINGS FRENCH WOMEN NEVER DO ON THE FIRST DATE
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- Опубликовано: 7 сен 2024
- This is such a fun video! 10 things French women never do on the first date is a video filled with laughter and great tips for women over 40 who are back on the online dating market. Enjoy my dating tips! Thank you for watching and sharing. Frederique ❤️
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Hi, I'm Frederique Bros, born in France I live in Australia. On this channel, I help women over 40 to be classy and chic on a budget. My videos combine fashion tips, styling inspiration, beauty tutorials, weight loss, and lifestyle tricks in one place! Let's create together with your unique style with a French twist!
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Bonjour my lovelies, dating can be the jungle but it can be also very fun! I hope you will enjoy my tips, thank you again for watching and sharing love xxx Frederique
thank you! Do you have a link for the top you are wearing in this video? I love it!
Another very important thing to note is how he treats the wait staff! And as far as "red flags" - go with your gut! The gut is your "second brain", as we all know.
Anyway, a fabulous video, cherie, merci! 🤩
Yes! Absolutely the wait staff issue. Good call.
@@mariahsmom9457 😍
such a great tip, yes.
@@shannono8397 ☺
Yessssss!
My mother always said - "Never interview house staff unless your house is immaculate, and never go to the hairdresser unless your hair is styled as well as it can be pre-cut - always show people your standard". So I would never dress down for a man - if he's intimidated by a polished woman, he's the wrong man for me.
I love it thank you and you have a wise mum x
This. And if he shows up in acid wash jeans and white runners and a tee shirt, let HIM feel uncomfortable, not you in your dress and heels!
Wow!! I learned the all of these things! My hair is totally styled the first time I go to a new haircut! Great comment!
My best tip, if you go for a drink, no matter what kind, take it with you to the restroom. Yes, putting a drug in your drink still exists ladies. My worst cases I had were regular women on a internet date. Be Safe 🙏🏻🥂
This is why I always get a cr*p hair cut. I arrive like a desperate gramma and I leave like a blow dried gramma. They think that's my style.
Whatever haircut I ask for, they don't even hear, they just go by what they see.
I think the man should always pay when dating. I agree with you 100% about saying this isn't working for me. Our time is a gift , valuable so don't waste it. Big kiss doll , love your videos!😘
woohoo love it thank you lovely x
I 100% agree with you, Frederique. Having high expectations and placing value on yourself is so important. Women, especially in our generation, have been conditioned to be too amenable, to downplay our worth and to play to the man's ego. NO, NO, NO. No apologies. Be in control and confident. It will attract more worthy partners. Remember, we are just as valuable, just as worthy and deserve to be treated well. I also love this type of content! Keep it coming!!! xo
what a smart and great comment thank you, we are back in power!
She said don’t have high expectations… nobody is perfect.
@@sabrinas.3564 It’s just my opinion. I was not trying to put words in Frederique’s mouth. Also, she seemed to like what I said.
Haha, "I don't think they overthink like that." Made me laugh out loud! The men I know don't overthink anything!!
Made me laugh too!!! 🤣
As she said "they're simple"😂 which is a problem as well! I love the phrase they throw around "I'm don't want any drama" 🙄 As if that's what we ladies are looking for?!!!? Isn't Life Drama all on its own?!! Especially in 2020!! We ALL had DRAMA & TRAUMA!
“IT COSTS MONEY TO LOOK LIKE THAT”
Yes, seriously! This is the first time in my 27 years of being a woman I’ve heard someone say that and just thank you.
you are welcome
I never share my phone number with a stranger. It seems innocent enough to chat on the phone but once they know your number they can Google it and your real name and address can come up. In the event you don't want further contact the other person has a lot of private info on you and can start stalking or harassing. It can become dangerous not just annoying! I always insist on meeting first for coffee because you can usually tell in the first few minutes whether you want to continue or not.
Yes, it is true!
Thank you for sharing and liking xx
@@selectiveoutrage6617 You would need to use a site that offers reverse phone number information. I may be wrong, but I think this mostly works for landlines.
I never talk on the phone either.......you can tell so much more about a man IN PERSON. Body language, mannerisms, etc are very important.
A true stalker doesn't need your phone number! They've already followed you everywhere you go. LOL
A first date should be fun and carefree with no more expectations then to very hopefully feel comfortable and safe in each other's company. Keep it short and sweet and never ever feel obligated to have a 2nd date unless your intuition
(pay attention)
lets you feel it would be okay for You. 😃
I cannot agree more with you! well said xxx
‘You can block him after’ 😂😂😂 gosh! You are so amazing! I’m so in love with your channel 🤩🤩 Frédérique, please keep filming! You and your videos are making my days 🙂
Thank you so much ❤️
thank you lovely I keep filming love xxxx
Great advice, especially about separation. I think all women should look at video of female birds of paradise, they make the male birds work for it. Don't sell yourself short, ladies, he needs to work for you over a LONG period of time.
100% thank you x
My husband and myself are both French..Mauritian..We have been married for almost 36years...First time that he watched it with me.We had such a laugh together..Merci absolutely wonderful tips xxx
fabulous thank you xxx
I would love to see a video on getting ready for a first date…I love your channel ❤️
coming soon!
Each point is important. Actually I do pay attention to what he says about himself, his ex and their relationship. This is key to understand his personality.
I think two people should discuss on a first date if they want a casual relationship or are they looking for a potential spouse. It's best to have that understanding in the beginning.
I agree with you.
I'm in my late 20s and I find these tips great!! Definitely not just for women over 40:)
I'm so glad you watched this video, thank you and enjoy dating with fun and always be safe xxxx
Indeed, life lessons and young women need it the most as they sometimes lack the experience and don't have enough boundaries yet, meaning knowing what they don't want yet. Above all: not showing respect for you should make your heels click towards the door instantly. When I was in my early twenties, I was with such a guy. Then met a man that respected me ... What a difference this makes to your quality of life or even your self worth! This is the best gift to yourself, Ladies. Give and get respect. I am lucky being 44 we are happily married and have 2 older teenagers now. I have often thought about how my life would have been like when I stayed with my previous partner and with my life experience now, I know it wouldn't be good. You deserve what you give. If he can't give that back, just leave. You have one life. Spend it with someone you like. Or if you haven't met him or her yet, spend it with yourself. It's so much better.
Enjoy life!
@@MegaTinni So true! I always liked the saying, "Better to have loved and lost than to live with a psycho forever." LMAO
8:00 😭😂 my standards are high AF. I'd scan the guy within a minute, if I don't like the way he walks or the sound of his voice, I'll get an expresso and the date is over after 2 sips 🤷🏻♀️😂
Women’s intuition is there for our benefit. Use it, hone it thru meditation 🧘♀️
Actions speak better than words. #trustme
Espresso 😆
@@judyallen5929 😉Expressive!
My husband of 31 years was completely not my type looks wise but ended up being the love of my life. Do yourself a favor and give the guy a chance :)
@@judyallen5929 🔥 burn! 😅
Thank you for this! I am just recently divorced and this advice is very timely since I am clueless to the dating scene. I would also add use how they treat the servers/bartenders/baristas as a litmus test. If they are rude to them it's a huge red flag.
100% enjoy the single life x
That was great, I totally agree with you, especially about the man paying. I used to live in Spain, and one day a group of us went out for a coffee. In England I'm used to everyone paying for their own (when it's just a group of friends, not a date), so I started getting my purse out. My Spanish friend threw up her hands in horror and said "no, no, no! If there are men present, women never pay!"
I never ever paid when when I dated my husband. He wouldn’t let me. We are both very traditional. Many women offer to pay or split on a first date and I agree with you, the men should pay.
YOU are a breath of fresh air, darling Frederique. I find myself coming for the advice, but staying for your charm, humour and just great common sense. Thank you, thank you. xo from Canada!
As a new fan (in my mid 60s) I watch for your humour, charm, stories & tips- Merci Frederique!
My grandmother taught me to never take out my wallet. I’m 60 years old and at the time I was dating there were pay phones. She also told me to keep change in my wallet to make a call.
PS I love your sweater!
All I can say is you look amazing.
Your hair so cute and you are glowing Frederique ♥️. Thank you for the video In today’s world we women have to be safe about dating
🙄🙄🙄
100% thank you for watching lovely xxx
I would like to have heard your advice 11 years ago, at the time I have committed my biggest dating mistake. Your comments are so on point.
thank you lovely xx
I hope you were safe. Take care.
@@MegaTinni Yes I am just my mental health suffered.
Pay attention to how many times he mentions his mother or his need to please her .
OH MY.. I wish I would have known this little nugget.. I could have saved the last 21 years of my life!
Loved this kind of content! Any more advice, stories and fun suggestions would be wonderful to see! Much love ❤️
will do many thanks xxx
Agree, Lissette! Well done, Frederique!
Hi Elaine here from the U. K. How are you today? thank you for your lovely videos and great good advice I am in my 60ts and have started dating a lovely man we have met half a dozen times and had lunch, this weekend he is taking me out for the evening so it will be fabulous to dress up more (but not to much) 😇, everything in moderation is the best way to go, i love watching your video's you are a real lady wish there was more like you in the world I wish you well stay safe and well.. Elaine x💐
thank you for sharing Elaine and have fun in your date you are fabulous xxxx
I'm 60 now and back in my dating day it was so hard to meet anyone other than in a bar or party because we lacked social media. If I was dating now I would definitely be in to speed dating. Seems like a great way to narrow down a room full of possibilities!
Joni J I agree, it certainly speeds things up! However, it's also possible to be mislead online, since so many women AND men use filters, and of course make themselves seem like someone else. There is nothing like meeting someone who is already acquainted with the man, men - you might be interested in knowing...I fear that we have much less of that personal contact now.
@@Ingrid0410 I admit, it does sound like fun! We never had options like this back in the day. :- )
I remember being told to attend functions you like to meet those who have similar interests. Art classes, fashion shows, sport events, etc.
you need to kiss a lot of frogs before finding the right one lol!
@@skiddledede8885 yeah, and the only people there were other women!
I laughed so hard at this 😆 I love how you know exactly what you’re looking for. You won’t sleep walk into the wrong relationship as many of us do….!
trust I did in the past went with the wrong guys but not anymore lol! well at least I'm trying :)
@@ms.frederique I too went with the wrong men at different times. Not today, learned many lessons..
I will always say go to a bar or cafe for a first date. You can leave much quicker (and how people treat any one in service or hospitality jobs is how they treat people they deem are below them) I will also say hard stops need to be mentioned and discussed first before meeting. Like my hard line is I don’t want kids, don’t have them, don’t want to date someone with kids.
Very honest. That would be a red flag for me because it seems to signal to me you are a self-centered person. And I might be wrong, but I would never date a man or woman that tells me this as first (and so most important for them) informations about them. Do you really feel that strong about that so that you taint a first impression of you and shut down an opportunity to meet someone great (even if turns out a friend in stead of a partner)? I never date as I'm married for years, but can imagine some people doing this for time's sake. I would struggle with it though.
@@MegaTinni oh no. I always talk for around 3 weeks to a month online first. And phone calls. All before meeting in person. Which is ample time to say what your hard lines are. I’ve heard of smoking and people having pets as hardliners for people before 🤷♀️ it’s one of those things. Everyone has a deal breaker. I would also love to know how it’s totally acceptable for guys to say they don’t want kids. But when a woman says it that, taints an impression and is self centred?
@@Tismeabbie It's not acceptable to me for a man to say this, hence my initial reply "I could never date a man or woman who said this to me". So I am not sure why you mention this in your reply. You are entitled to your 'dealbreakers' as am I. I am stating this would be one for me.
@Abs Bunny, *same here*
@@Dr.Wolfstar No need to 'stand your ground' really. Everyone is entitled of making their own choices. Why so defensive?
Off course I project my personal views onto the world. It's what you do too by not wanting to partner with anyone that is a mother or father and shares his love with them. And you are right: by doing this we *both* are in a sense 'judging'.
We're exchanging opinions. While I generally don't care what other people think of me, I still keep an open mind and keep recalibrating my views through dialogue with others. I can see how some can perceive this as criticism, especially if they are not capable of self-reflection or when they are not sure of their convictions themselves.
I agree with all of your points! When I was single after my divorce, I dated with people I met online, and I made the mistake of having lunch or dinner, which takes too long if the person is not for you! I could tell within a minute if there was any connection or not. I trust my instinct!!💕
Love your videos! Personally, I feel that a woman should pay half of any bill for food, drinks etc. on a first date. Starting off a date on an even footing takes off pressure. If the woman decides she wants a second date, then she can decide whether or not to allow that person to pay for her. There is control in a woman deciding who she allows to buy her things.
Finally a response I can agree with. I don’t understand all these women thinking the man should pay 100% of a date. One response saying don’t you want your new man to be a provider? Uhm no, I am my own provider if I am looking for a new partner it is to enrich what I already provide for myself. Not to take care of me.
@@violas.86 I completely agree and thanks for responding. I'm my own provider which is why I am free. I can decide, no strings attached, whether a first date is worth my time to see again with no awkwardness over money. What's a few dollars on a date compared to the confidence to walk away from a person you are not compatible with or don't enjoy their company.
Now that I have standards I am now trying to figure out how to meet decent men. Dating sites are a no go- in a smallish area I know for a fact that many on there are married/taken and the others are serial daters/narcissists. I plan on travelling during the winter (if we can) and maybe will come across someone then. I'm lucky enough to be able to live anywhere in the world. In the meantime I have become so happy just being on my own :)
good for you xxx
I love this list . I love classy and to be better. My pet peeve is to see people go to Walmart these women go to Walmart take their kids to the bus stop or go shopping in their pajamas yes yes that is a no no I won’t even go out my front door with even hair curlers which I don’t use but can you imagine if you go to Walmart you see women all over the place with pajamas it’s disgusting it’s terrible that’s my pet peeve. My mother we didn’t have a lot of money she made her own facemask in her own face cream. Plus my mothers nails were always manicured to the best she did them herself and my mother always had her lipstick on and her hair was always done. She said we are ladies and we act like it.💕💕
Thank you for sharing and liking xx
I agree with you, 💯,Marielee
I agree, pajamas are made for your home, wear them at home.
Personally speaking, if I am paying half the bill or for my meal, in my opinion, we are friends going out for a dinner it's no longer a romantic date. A Big Red Flag for me is if he tells me he still visits his ex-wife and their close even though the kids are adults. FYI their not done with that relationship. Do not put yourself in that situation where you're competing for a man's attention. Ladies, please acknowledge your power and beauty be sexy be flirty be healthy be happy in your own body and mind first.
That is exactly how I feel! If on a first date he can't even buy a cup of tea or coffee what type of a standard is this man setting. I assume then that this man is not a gentleman or is cheap. Neither one of these characteristics appeal to me.
Loved this video! You could do advice type videos. Answer viewers questions. You would do it with style, grace and lots of humor! It would be so fun!
In Paris women start to paid even for a simple coffee. The purpose is to take off the pressure to have to repaid by being "nice" to him. Or be able to turn him down faster ^^ ! Love your video, nice advices ❥
Interesting!
Your hair looks GREAT in this video! Treś chic!
About paying, I think a woman should offer to pay half but expect the man to refuse and pay it all. (That doesn’t apply when you’re in your teens or twenties and it’s reasonable to assume that neither of you has a lot of spare cash and paying half just seems fair.)
You are looking so amazing. I love your hair and you skin is glowing
Yes we woman have to stay safe when it comes to dating. Thank you
For the video
Thank you so much 🤗
I'm 27 (with absolutely no experience) and I loved this video!!! Thank you Frederique!
I loved this…yes an encore.
There is a good dating book out there. “ He showed up in a moose hat”. All I Can say is it’s soooo funny. My neighbors must have heard me laughing so loud. We all have had these kind of dates. Great read!
My dating days are long over (happily married for 30+ years) but I so adore you and your channel! Your self deprecation by not taking yourself too seriously type of vibe, not to mention your great sense of humor and spirited nature keeps me coming back! Thank you for being you. Please never change, Frédérique! 💛
Thank you so much!! xxxx
I enjoyed watching this video so much! You are absolutely right: let the guy show you what kind of person he is and just have fun during that first hour together drinking coffee or smth. else...🤗
Absolutely!!
I've been married for almost 42 years we both were single when we meet I loved dancing he doesn't we both loved music but we get on with other things that matters as a couple and it's called " COMPROMISE "..and that word is a rarity these days that's why partnership or marriages doesn't last long...
Not all marriages last because they're good, some last because women are scared of the unknown out there so it's better to grin and bare it, than to move on in your life. Think about it next time you see your friend some actually are roommates and no longer a couple.
I think it’s nice you have been married so long and probably a testament of your love for each other, but I think we need to let go of this idea that it’s the longevity of a marriage that makes it successful, as I certainly have been witness to some long-lasting but toxic unions.
We need to know what is imperative and what is trivial...different for each of us.
@@verabozinovski2827 absolutely. My parents' marriage has lasted over 50 years so far and has been filled with abuse, physical and otherwise. But Catholics of that age can't get divorced so you just have to put up with the beatings etc.
important to know what your core values are and never compromise on that. there is probably an issue that people don't know what their core values are, and instead worry about whether someone likes coffee, or surfing, or has a certain fashion sense, or earns x amount of money. These are not important values and can be compromised. But others things shouldn't be.
Good advice. Never tell him where you live or work! Neutral topics, however asking about his ex, children is paramount. How does he refer to his exes, his mother, women in general. So many wolves in sheep clothing. Def check him out to make sure he is not shady.
and try to get his last name so you can Google it!
Madame Frederique, you have me laughing out loud!!! I LOVE THIS PRESENTATION!!! Yes, I believe the man should pay on the first date. YES, talk about dogs/cats gardening, classic movies... Posture / behavior/ manners are so important. I am so grateful to my parents for teaching me these gems of wisdom. Love to you from Northern California!
woohoo love it thank you lovely x
@@ms.frederique YOU ARE INCREDIBLE !!! I just watched your "live" broadcast and had the most wonderful time with you!!! I applaud your spirit and strength. YOU GO GIRL!!! Lots of love of a big fan of Audrey Hepburn and Capucine from Northern California!!! WOOOOOO HOOOOOO !!!
I do think if you are looking for a serious relationship you should talk about religion if it's important to you. I need to know right away if a man is a practicing Catholic and if his values line up with Catholic teaching. Friends are a different story. One of my good friends in a Muslim. She's not too observant but there she is. We can talk about religion with no problem and the fact she doesn't do as I do is irrelevant. When I join myself to another person and become one with him. We have to agree and if that's not possible, the relationship isn't either.
Precious set of advice in an elegant way. well done, Frederique
thank you sweetie xx
Good advice.
Good sound dating advice. I think we (women) have a tendency to overdo the presentation on dates (too dressed up, too much makeup, etc.), not realizing men can either see through all of that or wish they could see what is really beneath. I also think we move too fast. I have a friend that met someone a few weeks ago and she’s already going away with him for the weekend! Over 40 or not, in my opinion that is too fast, too soon.
I would love to see another get ready video. After many years of being single, I’m ready to get back out there. I’m a bit overweight by traditional beauty standards (a bit busty as a result) and would love to get some ideas on how to dress feminine and look appealing without looking overtly sexy.
Thank you for sharing and liking xx
I do agree that the man should pay at least 50%. Blind dates can be scary! Better to be careful & safe!
Hi beautiful Frédérique! Love your channel 😊
Thank you for your kind message xxx
Energetic, lovely & always down to earth 😁💚💞
You are so kind xxxx
So fun and funny! I love to scuba dive too. That is a big plus!
massive lol
I just love when you exclaim, Subscribe!! It makes me laugh every time!!
that's fantastic! thank you love xx
Thank you for this important topic. It will be great if you can make a video on how to flirt, especially on the first date, without looking desperate. I fear that I can come across too platonic sometimes. Thank you 🙏
hahaha thanksI can't make a video about it it must come form your personality xxx
@@ms.frederique thx but no need to mock me. I feel worse now 😰
Hi Nervana I saw your message and had the exact same thing feeling myself being "too platonic" but I was also too nervous to flirt...after a few bad dates I found 2 tips online to help me do "light" flirting - smiling is number one and the number 2 is gently touching his arm or shoulder during conversation, not over touching but like once or twice during the hour date for example ...hope it can be of help to you too 😍
You read my thoughts with this video...i'm over 40 divorcee and i have no idea how to get back on market😂😂😂i'm not very social person so i struggle a lot...i had my last date over 20y ago, and i have a huge feeling like i don't know what to talk about, i don't understand this "new" kind of men at all😂😂😂🤷♀️
Get the dog, walking the dog will help you to meet a lot of people and you have the topic to talk about
@@radkajanotova4895 my son will love the idea...trying to break me for about 4y to get one👍😉😁
@@ludmilamudrikova it is a lot of fun to have a dog, And it keeps you active everyday
Much sympathy for your situation....I suggest emailing a few times. Then you can ask about interests and have convo starters. Remember not to put pressure on yourself. Be nice and approach it as making a new FRIEND. Maybe don’t call it a date... if he pays, offer to leave a tip. I would not commit to another date either...he may or may not call. He doesn’t know if you have other men friends, and you don’t have to tell him.
you can do it girl! in the worse case scenario you will have a big laugh and debrief with your best friend for a good laugh!
Great topic! I’ve been married for 28 years so I haven’t had a first date in well over 30 years but for many women my age, dating again after a divorce can be an exciting yet scarey prospect. For these women your video provides a great list of things to think about,
I have never been so early!!!!!! That lovely shade of lipstick color really enhances your clean-white theeth. So well looked after.;-))))
Edit: You talk about stuff I didn´t even discuss with my bff... again with a bluntness you are meanwhile already famous for.....I laughed so hard.... Thanks so much for this Vid!!!!!
Thank you so much lovely xxx take care
I just found you and absolutely love you! Thank you for this and your wonderful personality. As a woman over 50 ( ugh) and trying to date, this really made me laugh and associate. Sooooo difficu,t and no, mem don't think about much at all 😂💞
You are so welcome!
This was wonderful! I personally feel that the person asking on a date should be the one to pay (in general), however you make a great point. Women do tend to spend more time and money on clothes, makeup, etc. so it does make sense for the guy to pay. I've never thought of that 😃
I totally agree!
I agree
Great tips! Thanks for sharing. And I love your hair - it looks very nice. ☺️
Thank you for sharing and liking xx
Such wisdom Frederique! Agree: When a man asks you out - LET HIM PAY! Absolutely. A real gentleman will feel emasculated if you insist on paying - even half. No. No. Let him have the pleasure of giving to someone he obviously is interested in: You. If you continue to see him, even then - offer to treat him to a lovely home-cooked meal at your place. Also agree: NEVER NEVER NEVER have sex on the first date‼️ NEVER‼️ You will cheapen yourself. Men like and need a challenge. Be that woman - he will respect you for it. If he is really interested, he will pursue you.👍
Great video,
once I went out, man approached to me (back then I was 37) and I said: listen to me now:
if you are divorced, if you have children, if you have debts in bank, if you do not work , IF YOU ARE CHEAP, if you use drugs, if you smoke, if you have a big group of friends ( and you expect me to hang out with them and their wives) .....then you and I have absolutely nothing in common...
he started laughing so hard and we talked for some time, but he said that he has a lot of things I counted....
I felt great , because I said exactly what I do not want....
now I am in relationship with men who fits me perfectly....so, I am sure you will go diving with your dark and tall man with great voice who will love you endlessly....I believe in that because you are perfect dear Frederique !!!!!
love from Zagreb, Croatia
Ines
It's like talking to a mother (she has not this experience) or a good friend. Love this category/talk about youre experience! ❤❤❤
Thank you for your kind message xxx
You make this dangerous game of intrigue seem fun! I laughed so many times because you are right. I'm not on the market, but every woman imagines the scenes of late dating, knowing too well human nature and what we want at this stage of our live. Before all this, "puppy love" was enough. How naive!
When I was dating...always met them for a coffee date. Limited to an hour, we meet, I drive myself. If things are super, break the rule.
Be sure to approach a meeting as making a new FRIEND. Can’t go wrong that way. You may have many men friends, he doesn’t know. Also, when it time to go, I go to the restroom, because I don’t want him to follow me home.
lol, once I said I was going out for a cigarette and never come back lol!
@@ms.frederique love this!!
Excellent advice!
great advice.
Practical advice! 😊
we'd love some storytime video on top 10 funny dating !! xxx
I would definitely read your book about dating!!
hahaha thank you xxxx
Do you have a book?. What is the name o it?
You can't always tell a person's financial status by their car. My 14 year old car, just means that I only buy a car when my old one isn't worth repairing anymore. I've had experiences of flashy people; nice clothes and cars who were always overdrawn. Other than that I think your tips are spot on. Definitely walk away if it doesn't work for you, or if something about the person makes you uncomfortable.
listen to you gut! 100%
I like it how you enjoy the whole process of making this video and giggle remembering your dates. All valuable tips indeed!
Thank you! 😊
The only points I disagree with you are the following:
- no talking about politics: I believe everything in life is politics and they affect our ethics, our values and the way we view life. I prefer to know from the get go.
- not paying for the date half/half: I believe paying in half, gives some control to the woman and makes leaving the date (if it does not go well) easier.
I disagree with you so much. You sound like you’re pretty sure your date is going to go bad.😒 I will say that that if the guy is of a certain political affiliation here in the States, forget it we will never ever get along. What Frédérique is implying is to not to talk about politics on a first date. But I got to tell you I will already know which direction he is politically before I even meet him. So in other words, we would never meet in the first place if he is of a different political affiliation than me.
@@sogorgeous2257 I hear what you say about people showing their politics even before meeting. But I believe this is the case in the USA mainly. Here in Europe their politocs may not be visible from their social media or the communication via texts.
In the subject of paying, I am not saying that I expect the date to go bad but I see transportation to and from the place of the date and the way you split or you do not split the bill as a safety net with all the creeps out there.
@@anthia1156 Yeah, I know I’m a French citizen from France. You still sound very negative to me. My glass is always half full!🍷Pay for all your dates you want! I’d rather have the money to buy something nice for myself! Bonne journée!
Agree with you 🥰
I need this kind advices! Big thanks! ❤
Thank you so much lovely xxx take care
Thank you for all the amazing tips.
A good male friend of mine once told me that if he goes on a first date and the girl doesn’t even offer to pay 50/50 he was done. He is happily married now. But his perspective was that if we want to be treated as equals it begins on the first date.
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I have a nice job and don’t need a man to pay for my meal or drinks. However, I don’t see anything wrong with a man offering to pay. I think in some cultures men get offended when the female offers or insist on paying or splitting the bill.
I feel bad not paying when I know I will not be seeing this person again. I always offer to pay and I never go out without money so that’s never an issue for me.
Well that is how men manipulate women! Please don't fall for that. Women and men are very different creatures and never going to be the same. Men always going to be providers it makes them feel good (not insecure men of course...), women always are going to be nurturing and carrying, that's why they give a birth and not men. A man should always take care about woman, that she is safe and happy. Women who run after men the same way, are acting like moms, men don't need another mom-they already have one. Women who pursue men in any way are always left by men...
You are completely wrong darling ... Even if you are rich woman ... Men should always pay.... We are not room mates darling... Don't offer to pay never never never..... And if he ask you to pay 50/50 or next time.... Run...!!!!! He is not a gentleman... That's all...!!!!
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I agree. If I like him, I will let him pay but if I already know that it's a 'no,' then I prefer to pay for myself and have it be done. In my opinion, it is kinder to him and cleaner for me.
@@suzy1750 I agree with that completely. If it's a first date and you already feel that you don't want to see that person again-totally. In this case for a man it should be a clear sign that there will not be a second date.
excellent advice and fun to watch!
Glad it was helpful!
Oh je me suis bien amusé !! Merci pour la vidéo et oui tout à fait d'accord avec toi ! Merci bisous ♥️
Bisous Anne et et merci pour ton message xxxx
Such a nice video very pragmatic and also so special thank you
Thank you for sharing and liking xx
I adore this video, Frédérique! Agree with you completely!😀 Everything you mentioned, make sense. You make me laugh, just imagining some of the men you described. Bisous!
bisous Irina xx
Excellent video! I agree with everything that you mentioned!! Oh yes, on the first date, the man must definitely pay! I'm "old" fashioned. xoxox
Absolutely!!
I have always preferred to meet new people through work, or social clubs etc. This way one can get to know the other person before dating.
Great tips!!! Here's one I think is important. Don't think about "Does he like me?" Think about "Do I like him?" That takes away some of the nerves. Also, you are interviewing him for the job of being your man. Don't settle for a man that doesn't meet your needs and wants. You are worth so much more than that!
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It’s funny that you say “do’t talk about politics” and generally I would agree with you but this is exactly what my daughter did when she met a french guy in a bar in Sydney. They talked for hours and he was smitten. They married last year and are now living a great life in Paris. I think this was the exception rather than the rule.
I actually disagree with the advice to avoid controversial topics at the start. How does that make sense? The point of dating (I think) isn't just to get a second date but to find someone with whom you could possibly spend the rest of your life and that means being with someone who is comfortable with your values (and you with his.) You don't have to be obnoxious or 'in someone's face' when stating your opinions - there is a respectful way to do so - and a respectful way to disagree if it comes to it. If someone is going to be put off by your opinions/values, wouldn't you rather know from the beginning rather than find out a couple of months down the line when you may already have started to really like him? And I think that a good guy, if he is right for you, is going to find it a lot more interesting to learn about the genuine you, your true emotions and passions, rather than the careful, 'polite' version of you...
This is the video I didn’t even know I wanted! I love it. Thank you. A video on how to meet potential romantic partners in the future?
online dating? lol
I love your tips & the humor you infuse into your videos always makes me laugh. You never purport to be an expert, however, you give wonderful suggestions. Love your channel!
Thanks for the tips!
I’m lucky I’m not currently on the dating scene. A younger colleague of mine went on a date, and he showed up in sweatpants, and socks with slides. She said it was so horrible, and then she had to pay! She had a horrible time, and then the boy had the audacity to text her later and say what a good time he had. We had a good laugh together. I think the same as you, Frederique and I don’t know if it’s old fashioned but a man should pay on a first date! I told my friend to run, do not walk…run away
Wow, I really love your hoop earrings and your cigar cuff ring! Where did you get them, what brand are they? They look really good on you too! xoxox
Absolutely amazing. Video
I'm so happy you love it, feel free to share xx
You are absolutely right Frederique!
A French Twist sounds like a dance for the first date.
Aloha Frederique, you are so adorable and oh so French❣️ I lived in Bordeaux for 2 years and you rekindle many fond memories. I’ve made some silly mistakes when I was dating, and revealing too much about my past too soon is a big NO NO. I’ve learned that even after dating for awhile, I don’t need ,”True Confessions.” I’m older now and don’t know if I will ever choose to date again, but if I do, I will definitely leave the past where it belongs- BEHIND. Merci, sweet lady, I love your channel .
I could write a book, too, about dating over 50!!!! Too many women making big mistakes!!!
I totally agree with you, men should always pay. If they ask you at the end of the dinner "how do you want to handle this check?", clearly you should never see this cheap date again! Run away as fast as you can. I believe in traditional roles in dating, let the man be the man...
I agree with you 😁💜🌸 amazing video
💚💚love your highlights..
very flattering ❤
thank u x
Great Video! He should always pay for the first dates! Dating is like shopping for the perfect coat. You have to try on many before you find the right fit. I think looking for a great coat is easier! xo
Definitely!!
Love your videos and your personality! Love from Portugal ❤❤
love u back x
Like all your videos, Federique! :) and the way you present them. Regarding first date I would say I agree with you one thing: Don't over...dressed, play, react, talk..
Love your “girl talk”! First dates are nerve wrecking and I try to Skype or FaceTime if possible prior to meeting face to face! Saves a lot of time! I follow your tips - please keep your insights coming! Big hugs!
I'm so happy you love it, feel free to share xx
I agree with everything you said in this video. EVERYTHING!!!!