ADHD and Pregnancy with Dusty Chipura - Pre-Trimester (preconception)
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Welcome to the first episode of our six-part series on ADHD and Pregnancy, where I sit down with Master-certified ADHD coach and pregnancy expert, Dusty Chipura! In this episode, we talk about the importance of preconception planning for individuals with ADHD who are considering having kids now... or in the future! Dusty and I both share our personal experiences and cover topics one should consider when you know you want kids! And some of the struggles that happen along the way...
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Med student here (with ADHD): if you are over the age of 35 and haven’t gotten pregnant within 6 MONTHS of trying (vs 1 year if under 35) with normal periods, then that’s when you should be seeing a specialist and/or getting extra testing to see if there is an underlying cause. And if you aren’t having normal, regular periods or the other party has something that would cause issues with fertility, then you should go ahead and talk to your doctor about that so you can try to fix any issues before you waste your time and emotions!
thank you for adding this!!
❤yes! Thank you for writing this here. I wish more people spoke about these issues openly and that we got more education about our reproductive systems earlier in life. 42 yo, mom of 2.5 yo IVF baby, and currently undergoing fertility treatment again to see IF we can have a second child
wait...
you are 40?!!
You look like you are 28-32!
Damn Woman!
You aged like a fine wine!
Jess puts the "babe" in 'baby care" 🤣
I thought she was 25!
Me too! I've been watching her channel forever and I can't believe I didn't know this 🤯
Right??!! She is so freaking pretty! I can only hope to look like her at 40
I thought so too.😅
This girl can literally read minds. My husband and I are trying to conceive and I’ve had a lot of concerns about how to best deal with my ADHD should we get lucky. Thanks for this!!!
Definitely hope the series can help!
crossing my fingers for you!
Same! I hope your TTC journey goes well 😊
Im 25 and not ready yet, always figured you just go off birth control and do the thing. This is eye opening.
I mean, sometimes you do. But... its just important to think about what the implications might be if fertility is complicated!
Oh absolutly, i always had a feeling fertility was not going to easy for me (don’t know how, BUT i did) i turned out to have endometriosis. I did not realize that me periode were bad compared to “normal”, as i have always struggled with figuring how much is too much.
Even if you are not planing to have children at this point in your life, getting a check up, just to find out where you are fertility wise. Then you have an idea of what time frame is realistic for you.
My teenager's mother was 45 when she decided to conceive and while I miss her terribly, I'm so thankful that we had this child, even with the AuDHD issues that we have had to confront.
🧡🧡🧡🧡 thats so beautiful! and wow, amazing to hear she was able to concieve at 45, fertility is so incredible!
I was nervous to watch this while pregnant with #2 because I didn’t want to hear about stuff I failed at for preconception. Lol I should have known that your content will feel supportive and empowering for ADHDer.
You two even touched on that feeling of not wanting to fail 😂 You know us too well
yay! that's awesome that it was helpful and supportive!!!
I had three miscarriages. The last one was my son's twin, which I found out about the day he was born.
The thing that helped my emotional pain was knowing my babies are waiting for me in Heaven with my dad and grandparents.
And your baby is waiting for you with your mom and dad. Hope they don't spoil him or her before you get there! 😅❤
That's so sweet and comforting
losing a pregnancy is always hard! We don't talk enough about miscarriages.
@@dustytheadhdcoach8319 , I found closure when I named my babies. RIP, Morgan, Toby and Paul. ☺️
The lack of discourse around how common miscarriages are is seriously insane. That's not something that people should have to finally learn only when they are trying to get pregnant.
right?!
In didn't get my ADHD diagnosis until the kids were small. It makes me sad to hear about people asking for support while pregnant. We didn't have family nearby and I muscled through on my own, partner worked late or was out of town. Now years later, realizing the support I needed that I didn't have. Grieving now, forgiving myself for not managing pregnancy and motherhood like I dreamed I would. I did the best I could.
I'm so happy society has changed in a way that normalizes these conversations.
Hey, I totally feel this grief around things in the past and noticing how we missed out or didn't get to experience something the way it would have been good for us. Giving myself the space to feel this while also acknowledging that I did the best I could is so important.
Thank you for sharing!
@@Nino-xp5df awh, thank you. I guess you could say some of the story has a happy ending. I was able to volunteer in the kids' classrooms when they were small. It reignited my passion for teaching. Now I'm working in special education and finishing college to get my teaching credential. I connect with the underdogs and what was my weakness is now my super power.
The marriage is on the rocks, but I'm regularly going to therapy and feeling better than ever. No matter how that part of the story ends, I'm in a good place.
YESSS we need to normalize these conversations even more. I'm so sorry you had to go through that alone!
My kids are 11 and 14, so I don't really know why I'm watching this, but - I just love this conversation! I think I'm actually checking in with my past self about how we did, sort of. 😀Thanks, Jessica and Dusty!
Also, I noticed that you both casually said "pregnant person" or "partner who has the sperm" a couple of times. As a nb person with kids, I very much appreciate this. Thank you for using inclusive language around the topic of pregnancy!
you are so welcome it's very important!!!
Giving birth is like having ADHD, because you have to clear your whole schedule to focus on just one thing.
Fooooor reeeeeeeal.
true that!
You talking about the meeting with your partner hit me sooo hard. My sister has autism and it sounds like something she would come up with to have a meeting that she can plan for before hand. I just wanted to say that I love how you chose to accommodate those around you as well as yourself.
Just wanted to say thank you for the effort y'all put into using neutral language about bodies and gender. I was able to watch this video with very limited dysphoria, which was so nice on its own, and that y'all were both consistently making the effort is so affirming. It goes a long way to making me feel welcome on the channel.
Yes! I felt the same. Inclusive language around pregnancy is rare.
thank you so much for this feedback! Using gender neutral language is VERY important to me!
I’m in facebook group for baby care and pregnancy that strives to be very inclusive and gender affirming (they also try to ensure that people of color feel supported and safe in our community). Mods use terms like chest feeding and pregnant person. In some cases they will limit who can respond to questions so posters aren’t overwhelmed or bad actors can’t slip in (there is over 100k people in the group). We have trans members who have had babies and are very supported and they are quick to delete comments and jettison people who are bigoted. It’s also evidence based so no woo woo that can harm caregivers and babies! Safe Sleep and Baby Care - Evidence Based Support is the name if anyone is interested. It is honestly one of my favorite corners of the internet!
thank you so so much for this series. i had pregnancy loss when i was 21, and i too realized my partner was not someone I felt safe with and had to start over and heal twice before meeting my current partner. i always wanted to be a younger mom but , time flies!
i can totally relate with having the talk so early in the relationship. my partner and i had actually met when i turned 29. then the pandemic happened. and then i had an ectopic pregnancy right when i turned 30 and i lost a tube. it was def an eye opener on fertility for us.
Time sure runs fast doesn't it? I hope this series can help... and know that you aren't alone
I feel you! I also had an ectopic pregnancy and lost a tube. It's good to be able to communicate about these things!
ahhhh! i’m so scared of what happens when i can’t take my meds (bc of safety), i’m disregulated in my body, in my routines, in my own identity, etc. i feel like there aren’t enough resources for people who want kids and have executive dysfunctions. i’m so excited for this series!
I have been skipping your episodes about pregnancy because they are triggering for me. I'm child free by circumstances, so this subject is hard. But in the next few months, we may start trying and I decided to try and listen to this episode because it may have good info I need.
it sucks when we don't get to make the choice ourselves. I wish you all the best in your journey
I completely understand and went through the same thing myself - I struggled with fertility for 5 years and had 3 pregnancy losses. Good for you for having boundaries around this kind of stuff, and if/when you are ready, we are here for you
I am planning to start trying to conceive in the next few months and the big thing I’ve done ADHD wise is go to my primary doctor to talk about changing my meds with pregnancy in mind. I went a little over a month ago and they gave me kudos for coming and asking BEFORE I was pregnant so that we had a little time to play with lowering my dose and see what will still work for me before we throw pregnancy hormones and worrying about baby into the mix.
wow I love that your doctor was willing and able to work with you on this! Good luck!
Right on time. My husband and I are doing IVF & we’re both adhd folks. It’s challenging and hilarious at times. So many details and meds and things to follow up on.
Ohhhh! Hope it goes well for you!!
congrats and good luck!!
Good luck!
This is good, not only for those who might be getting pregnant, but for the rest of us to think about how we can better support pregnant people around us.
I had little to no support while pregnant and going it alone was so hard. People in my life had lots of unasked for advice. But little actual support. We can do better.
I didn't realize how common fertility issues/ miscarriages were before being a mom and talking to other women. Many women our ages and younger are struggling with infertility when they are trying to get pregnant.
yes we need to normalize talking about this!
We spend so much time learning how to not-get-pregnant, that we have somehow forgotten the knowlegde about how dificult it can be to get pregnant and the teaching about how fertility actually works and how Long time it Can take to get there.
Vitamin D can often be low too.
Vitamin C with Iron helps absorption.
I was off of birth control for many years before I started trying to conceive. I tracked my cycle carefully and I also couldn’t get pregnant that easily. It is quite uncommon to have a successful pregnancy on the first try. I know a couple ladies that got really lucky in their late 30s with one and done babies. I had 2 kids in my early to mid 30s. I did do the GAPS diet for 6 months when I was 31. I initially did it to help my skin and stress level, but I later found out it was good for so many other things, including for pregnancy preparation. in my 40s, I take birth control to manage cysts and perimenopausal symptoms (and how they affect ADHD).
im so glad you were able to eventually get there!
Fellow IVF mumma with ADHD here. I had lost an ovary and was diagnosed with severe endometriosis at 30, met my now husband a week later and it took us 2 years to get pregnant via IVF with our first. I think my biggest struggle was I wanted to get pregnant NOW. I wasn’t the most patient (unsurprisingly) and I lost hope at times. I’m now pregnant with my second IVF baby at 37.
I found out quickly after my daughter was born. My in-laws were worthless, my ex-husband was worthless and my parents were six hours away. Neighbor’s never reciprocated when I would watch their children
I personally found it really helpful to start a gummy prenatal vitamin before I even started trying to get pregnant. Starting the prenatal early helped me form the habit to take it every day. The gummy vitamin I picked was tasty so taking it was also a built in reward which made it easier to form the habit.
yessss what a great strategy!!
Same as a couple of the other commenters here, my husband and I are trying to conceive and I'm an ADHDer. Haven't watched the episode yet, but I know I'm going to be devouring this series as it's posted! Thank you so much for everything you do to help us [and our loved ones] understand us better!
You're welcome! Definitely hope you find these videos insightful and helpful 😊
yay so glad this is timely for you!
You talk a lot about conceiving taking a while and that is a super common experience but I also wanted to mention the potential for it to happen right off the bat. I got pregnant wayyyy faster than I thought I would (first month of trying 😬) and I didn't have the same kind of "build up" time I thought I would. As you mentioned, I ended up having to make a lot of changes all at once and really quickly which was a big struggle. So while it might take a while, just know that any month could be the month it works so don't be afraid to start all these things well before you actively are trying. With ADHD some of those changes took a while to happen and I wish I'd given myself more of an "on ramp" than I did.
yes thank you for saying this! So true!!
It was the same with me! I was thinking we have more time for preparations
17:21 very important to note that losing too much weight/having not enough fat can cause fertility problems!
Yup!!
thank you for mentioning this!
You're 41!!! You give me hope. I'm 36 with no children.
Wow so excited about the new series! I’m in my second trimester, overwhelmed since I went off of my meds and nervous about what’s to come. I have been looking for advice about adhd and parenting but could not find much. So this series is sooo appreciated. Thanks Jessica!
wow congrats on your pregnancy! If you need any additional pregnancy support please visit my website! Stoked for you!!
Thank you so much from the bottom of my heart, your videos have lead to me discovering I had ADHD and attempting to get Treatment and now I'm Diagnosed with ADHD and I'm on a Medication that works for me
I’m 20, so this topic is just starting to be a thing for me. I really really really appreciate this conversation, I had no idea about so many things you spoke about here ❤
THANK YOU for this!!!!! A manager of both ADHD and IVF clubs here.
I didn't know i had ADHD with my first child, going through IVF. But now, trying for the second one, so many failed cycles.... And got my adhd diagnosis 3 months ago.
Man, this is too much!
So many IVF meds, going through adhd medication trials, and trying to go off of my antidepressant/antianxiety meds to be able to start something more helpful while being cautious of my high risks of preeclampsia....
Just managing all of that feels like a full time job right now!
wow that is so much!!! I wish you so much luck!
I am torn between wanting kids or not, mostly because I'm so worried about passing on my ADHD(and other stuff like asthma) to my future kid/s and scared of the overwhelming responsibility of having to raise one or more children. This video is such a reminder about my age (I'm in my early 30s) and how I have very limited time to decide. I've always put off the moment of making that decision, but I think I will really have to think about it more now. Thank you for the wake up call and the good points on what I have to think about to finally get into a decision.
it might be good to speak to other parents with ADHD (and who have kids with ADHD!) to get a sense of what that might be like!
Very important topic, as an almost 39yo ADHDer this was very useful and eye opening.
This is such an important series and landing at such a great time. Thank you for sharing this with the community. ❤
You're so welcome!
I had two girls spontaneously and with no real issues around thirty. A few years after nr. 2 I had uterine issues and was suggested to have a hysterectomy. The ride from there was difficult. I had made a choice that I wanted a third, but my fertility was compromised. Multiple miscarriages and more or less giving up brought me to an unexpected pregnancy at 40. It was much more clinical than the first two. I’m not entirely sure if I have adhd or not, but have suspected so.
This is so helpful! Excited to watch the other videos
Unfortunately, I didn't know I had ADHD during my pregnancy. I wonder what difference that might have made. But the mention of gestational diabetes reminded me, since I had it in both pregnancies (and now, thanks to genetics, have type 2 diabetes) that ADHD plus diabetes is a combination made in hell. There were times when I went to the grocery store and realized that the only things I could eat there were in the produce and meat sections and that 90% of the store was so restricted as to make it essentially forbidden. And I would literally want to cry. I feel that, as a late diagnosed ADHD adult, I have developed a relationship between dopamine and food and having to restrict all the happiest foods is literally depressing. And then we run into other issues, like time blindness and trying to keep track of blood sugars, all the steps involved in testing*, forgetting to eat and then needing to eat quickly and most of those options tend towards the carb heavy... We hates it, we do. (Gollum voice.)
* I have tried the arm monitors, but they are $160 a month. I need to remember to look into my insurance and see if they will cover it. Thank you, ADHD, lol.
Love you guys!!! 😃⭐️♥️🌈🧜🏼♀️🦦!!! Thank you so much for this content. The timing couldn’t be more perfect!!!
Thank you so much for this!! My partner and I are family planning and I literally just got diagnosed with ADHD two hours ago!
Oh wow what timing!!! Definitely hope the series helps 😊
welcome to the club!!! We got you!
@@HowtoADHD So excited for the rest of the series! My partner is currently waiting for his ASD eval appt, so I also love when your partner is in vids as my partner does have similar experiences ❤️
@@dustytheadhdcoach8319 thank you!!
THANK YOU SO MUCH! My husband and I are just thinking about potentially trying soon, so I am so thankful for this!
its always good to give it some thought! Everyone's fertility is different and hopefully you'll have no trouble but it's good to just plan for "anything less than best case scenario"!
Loved this! You covered so much stuff I've never heard discussed before! And Dusty comes across so non-judgemental. Thanks for the vid!
OH GOSH! Thank you
Thank you for mentioning the iron fish!
I really hope all is going well with your baby, Jess!
Thanks so much for this content. As an adhd -er I put off parenthood because I thought I'd figure out my own stuff first. Lol.
you're welcome! Hope this has been helpful!
I am so happy for this video. I'm recently divorced, 38, in a brand new relationship where both I and my new boyfriend DO want more kids (we're both single parents, so at least we know we both have been fertile in the past.) He wants another baby by 40 which fits great for me. We're not quite ready to try, I'd prefer we marry or at least be engaged first, but we're both saying we both want this-- so basically I'm in "okay, so how should I prepare so when we do try, I'm ready" mindset. And then I spot this video and click so fast!
Edit to add I have ADHD. I was not diagnosed when I had my existent kids (I was 28 and 31 when they were born.)
what perfect timing!
Took three years of trying for my first. Second one it happened right away. My mom's kids were all spaced out about 4 years.
fertility is so funny that way!
So appreciate this series!! Only recently discovered I have ADHD and am also going through IVF. Thank you for sharing your story too!!
wow best of luck to you!! yay!
I don't want kids, but I love the fact you guys are talking about this
aw thanks!
Im dropping by here just to say your book is very freakishly amazing at making sure my brain likes it. I tend to jump from 1 book to another but your book is sooo readable to my brain, i feel like im being massaged at every chapter. Im not yet even talking about the content. The structure, how things are written, the side notes, etc. This book is amazing. I can see my self reading your book to calm myself, and i dont like reading, i usually like listening. Your books makes me want to read it.
i concur!
Thank you ❤
Hi jessica congratulations on baby girl!! Would love to see pics of her❤❤
You are amazing
I’m planning on having kids but am really anxious that I will be taken off my meds. I got fired like 5 times before I was diagnosed with ADHD and with the help of medication and by learning about ADHD, I’ve finally been able to remain in a job for almost 4 years and even get promoted. And it’s not just that but before my medication, I would frequently not pay attention when driving, and drive into things on a few occasions, not to mention I often struggled to even feed myself! I’m extremely worried my life would completely come apart. I hate how much of a reliance I have on medication but I haven’t been offered any alternative support. 🤷♀️
Ooo can we have a postpartum series…6 months post partum and having a hard time
That'll be part of this series too :)
Yeah, as an (almost) new nurse, this is a useful video to ask questions to your doctor. Your specific history is important.
yes!!
I finally became a regular flosser when pregnant. My baby is almost a year old and I'm still flossing 6-7 times a week!
Yaaay Dusty! 🎉💖
YASSSSSSS!
I have no idea if I want kids. I’m 21, but I didn’t realize all this went into pregnancy. I didn’t know pregnancy was so complicated. I will definitely take this into account.
sometimes it is, sometimes it isnt. For some it's very easy, but ADHD will likely make the experience of being pregnant and the postpartum period a bit trickier than it might be for a neurotypical person. We don't talk enough about the fact that fertility isnt always simple. While you might be in the group of people for whom it just happens, it's important to know that fertility issues and miscarriage are acutally SUPER NORMAL!!!!! for a lot of people!
When will more of these videos be coming! So helpful!
Very soon! 😀
I have pretty much given up on ever being pregnant because I cannot even fathom going off my meds for a minimum of probably 18 months during conception and pregnancy and actually functioning in society and holding a job. I was really hoping that was going to be touched on here, and how you managed adhd without meds for so long (especially with how bad I hear “pregnancy brain” is!)
Jessica did a Q&A regarding being pregnant and having ADHD - including her experience regarding it and medication here :) : ruclips.net/video/Ui25XXv7QSA/видео.html
My husband and I both have ADHD and we just decided it’s better now then never turning 29 and he’s turning 30 so we definitely felt now it’s better than waiting especially if we want another one we will have 1-5 years to make that choice without pressure to do it back to back.
congrats on the decision!!! We wish you all the luck!
Thank you for such an informative video! Jessica, it sounds as if you may want to have another child. I've had more than one friend go through IVF, give birth, think they can't get pregnant naturally, and then get pregnant on their own right away. You are at your most fertile soon after giving birth. You never know! ♥️ Keep up the good work!
I love that they're both sitting like total ADHDers. That's exactly how I sit haha. Us ADHDers can't sit normally in a chair
Just wanted to say how much comfort this discussion brought me! Thank you for making it so queer-affirming :))))
Now I understand, why being pregnant in a foreign country, which language I didn't know at all, no friends around, my partner worked long hours, made me depressed. On top of that money was short, my partner didn't provide any support other than small amount of money, I got depressed and my child is autistic on top of that.
I got pregnant on the first try, which was surprising, we expected to try at least for a year, I was 31 at that time.
I felt like a failure in many things and my ex partner still sees me as that, although I'm raising our child alone, no help from family, friends didn't show up after my kid was very difficult.
I'm slowly getting up on my feet after 8 years of hell, including plandemic. I wish I knew all of that, but I would probably never get pregnant with that knowledge. Being a good parent is such a hard job, especially for someone neurodivergent.
your ex partner can take a hike, and you can tell him I said so LOL!
Thanks
You're welcome! Thank you so much for the support!
I got married late. We tried for a while then bought a house. Christened 😊the house I was towards the end of my period. I got pregnant. When you’re older your cycle becomes shorter.
Yay!! Another GIRL named DUSTY!!!
DYSPHORIC MILK EJECTION REFLEX is linked to low dopamine. There's nowhere near enough research about it, let alone linking it to ADHD, but it happened to me and wanted to flag it in case it happens to you. Loadsa love Mama xx
YESSSS I always tell people about it, though its very rare!
Hello there!
Hi!!
Hi, do you have any tips or past videos on how to help teach young children with ADHD? Is there any way to try and get them to calm down and focus through the boring activities?
That's a great question! Some of our videos may help with the general concept but not specific to learning. I'll add it to our list of potential topics to cover in the future!
there's a series I love through Kelty Mental Health called Rolling With ADHD that might have good tips for this! It's like a video workshop series for parents of kids with ADHD!
Thanks Dusty!!!
Damn Jessica, from Monk cast to influential ADHD source 😊
Yep dollar store tests definitely work 😂 but maybe confirm with a pricier one if it is positive.
generally we don't see false positives so even a dollar store brand should be OK!
I have to laugh about the symptom of “fatigue”. I slept my first trimester like I was an Olympic champion or as if it was my job 😂. I reverted to being a cat and sleeping like 14hrs a day😴.
omg I slept on the floor of my warehouse on my breaks when I was managing a liquor store during pregnancy 😆 just me... sleeping on my coat... in the warehouse.. on the hard floor. I was TANKED!
I appreciate the video as someone trying to conceive. I’m just curious: where does Dusty’s experience come from with pregnancies? I see that she’s an ADHD coach, but does she have any medical training or background?
Dang I didn't realize you were 41!your skin is amazing dude wow, you look 30
I don’t have adhd i don't think and don't ever want children , butbi whatched this lol my mum read Paddington in latin i think and nwrnia while in hospital with us
lol well thank you for watching!
I recently found out I have adhd. And my friends are starting to plan for pregnancy, or freezing eggs before it’s too late, me here thinking we are still kids.
I would like to also hear about the decision to have kids. So far, I can’t imagine myself having any but I am scared because I can’t trust myself and would regret it later. Like.. what was the thought process like
its such a personal decision for sure! I think if you'd like to keep the option open its important to understand how fertility works, when it starts to decline, what the implications are and the options (ie, egg freezing), and have your AMH levels checked if you're the ovulating partner.
I found out with all my pregnancies as a Nerodivergent I had" pregnancy brain" meaning my brain was in a fog and the fact that they took me off my medication didn't help either. If I had of known all this I would have thought more about having a third child, it wasn't just not having the medicine that scared me. Being off my meds put a major stressor on me, that alone made me panic about my infant I'm carrying. The doctors that take you off of all your medications without tapering is very dangerous for the baby and me. I also have a seizure disorder so taking me off those meds put me in the hospital a couple of times. If I had of known all this would happen ( and the fact that it was toxic person and environment) I probably would have been not done it, mainly because the positions my ex partner put us in was dangerous on me and my child.
oh my GOSH I am so sorry to hear all of this and please know it doesnt always have to be this way. Some doctors are very comfortable keeping pregnant people on meds and it should be a decision you and your doctor make based on your functioning and well-being. I am so sorry you had that experience and please know... its OK to change care providers if you feel unsupported by yours!
Sources? I'd love to see that support study!
on which part?
@@dustytheadhdcoach8319 you talked about a study about what a pregnant person needs for support, mental and practical support etc. I'd love to check it out for myself, do you have a link or something?
Any advice for convincing my husband who has ADHD that we don’t have forever to decide if we want another kid? We are both 32. Our son is going to be six in October… My husband just got diagnosed with ADHD earlier this year. He has a lot of mental health struggles, he says our son was so much work. He also has ADHD… And my husband says he doesn’t know if his mental health is ever going to be good enough to have another kid. Having another is really important to me and I feel like I’m running out of time I don’t know what to do.
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Can I ask if you are still taking ADHD medication while pregnant?
Hi
Hello!
question... okay... Just a question that came to mind, that might be applicable. ADHD drugs during pregnancy... which ones are safe during pregnancy and breastfeeding? I'm a husband with ADHD, two kids, and a currently pregnant wife with OCD (hey, sometimes opposites do attract)... so she doesn't have ADHD so the question isn't technically applicable to us... but... when she wasn't pregnant, I sometimes let her pop a pill of mine (I know, I shouldn't really be doing that... but happy wife...), but that made me think of this question that I don't think was covered in this video. Is it covered in another video?
Don’t give anything to your wife without talking to an appropriate doctor first… :T if you’re having doubts and asking questions on youtube comments, that’s probably a hint you shouldn’t be doing it.
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The background music-anyone else distracted by it? It’s at a volume where I can barely hear it , like it could be playing in another room of my house. I had to pause a few times to see if it was this video or not. I could barely concentrate on the video content, sorry.
Seated heats 😁
Hmm, any idea why captions are unavailable?
Captions are something we're still trying to figure out. Until then if youtube can auto-caption, there are those but that's... obviously going to come with errors.
@@HowtoADHDHuh weird, they were initially unavailable, but I refreshed the video and now I'm able to use them. Thanks!
My mom got pregnant with me at 38. She doesn’t have ADHD. But, she had me when she was still 38, (two months away from being 39)
she sounds pretty cool!
No offense intended, but this is really encouraging me to discuss more with my doc about the possibilities of a vasectomy. Children are some of the most terrifying things in my mind.
Somewhat off topic -- does the simple blood test (AMH levels) help determine where someone is in the perimenopause/menopause timeline? I really hate the, "when you don't have 12 cycles in a row, you're done" thing. Especially when I have PCOS, high levels of stress, etc
don't quote me on this but I believe so, because it gives you a snapshot of your general "egg count" which will have implications for perimenopause and menopause!
@@dustytheadhdcoach8319 thanks a bunch! I'm sending a note to my Dr!
What happened to her hair??
Dusty's rockin' that cool undercut!!
lol do you like it?
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I know right? It looks great on he! ❤️🔥
@@dustytheadhdcoach8319 I've never seen an orange that well done. it's intense!
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That's exactly why I don't have kids with my husband, I don't want my potential kids to put up with his attitude.
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And btw.. you are 40 ???? What the.. tell us all your secret!! Just how do you look so amazing? I thought you were 28-30