Meditation and Running has Changed My Life
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- Опубликовано: 5 фев 2025
- I've made a lot of big changes this year, and in the process, I also lost 20 pounds. I'm going to talk about the new habits I've made, where I was then and where I am now, and how each step helped me get closer to a sense of wellness. Links to the resources below:
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Simon. I adore you. As a man. As a husband. As a carer. As an all round awesome dude. You and Martina are just adorable. You both fill me with hope and warm fuzzies. Love your honesty and realistic healthy outlook on life. Much love 💕
So true!
Shaved head, meditation, orange clothing. We are witnessing Simon’s transformation into a monk.
Leanimal thought those was going to end with the avatar but yea, that works too
monks are not married, drink alcohol, or engage in his behavior
Lil G Funk that sounded oddly judgmental.
@@Leanimal sometimes facts are also judgments
@@lilgfunk5934 It's a joke. Nobody's implying that he is qualified to become a monk.
when he started talking about his failures I legit started crying
I'm sorry :/
same
@@eatyourkimchi Don't be sorry Simon, you've been working so hard and we can all really tell. most of us follow you both because we love you two. It's heartbreaking hearing someone we really care about, have such dark thoughts about himself. I'm proud of you, just make sure you're in-taking enough calories that you're not starving yourself and you should be fine man. I'm so happy you're looking out for yourself and this was a touching video about how you're feeling and I appreciate you opening up to us.
I cried too, but it was cathartic to cry for someone else for a change.
Because Simon and Martina bare their souls with us, so generously, it allows me to cry with and for friends without prying. Thanks for that.
Same
When you have big breakthroughs in mental health and become more balanced internally and express that outwardly it can seem different and down to the people around us because we aren't frantically faking happiness anymore. That contrast can be alarming to the ones who love us that we haven't wanted to worry with how unhealthy we were mentally/emotionally before. The past 2 years have been quite an adjustment in my life as I've been on a similar path as I recovered from a concussion and liver injury received in a car accident. My family is alternately amazed and concerned about the changes I continue to experience on my quest to be the best person I can possibly be.
brooklynne01 wow I absolutely love this explanation because it’s so perfect. I’ve come out recently and been honest about my depression and started taking meds just because it was getting to a place that was unmanageable. I personally have a pretty dark sense of humor sometimes bordering inappropriate 😅. So on good days and even bad days I would kind of share memes relating to mental health and what I was going through. Let me just say my friends and family have been appalled. They’re really concerned that I am in a really dark place (which isn’t a bad thing please do check on your loved ones with depression) when in reality I just know I have depression and I’m dealing with it, but I’m just being open with it. I like to make light of the matter to keep my spirits up. I always ask for help when I need it and I always have support when I need it, but I think the honesty I’m putting out shocks them because before they didn’t know anything was wrong.
I like how this video doesn't just imply that there is a single cure all. It's really a holistic look at life and improvement, everything is connected.
simon, i feel the need to tell you that
as someone who started subscribing to your channel since 2012
you are amazing
some youtubers seem like amazing people but always feels a little bit off
like they have a persona online
you are not that
you are genuine
i can feel your kindness through the screen
i can feel your love through the screen
i dont really know know you but that's what i believe
and that's why i love seeing you guys so much
and i'm so glad that you feel much better after renewing your routine
Cana Lo He is! I was one of the lucky ones to meet them. Though Simon looks shy Martina looks in pain but they still try to want to genuine ly know you when you meet them. I can assure they r the same off and online.. only much taller 😂
I definitely agree with you 💕 my favorite people on RUclips because you can feel the sincerity from them
I’m gonna say what everyone else has said by now: Simon, you are a gem of a man. Martina is a beautiful soul and you both are obviously a great team.
I’ve learned so much about love from your relationship. The biggest take away is that love is reciprocal, tough, and a worthy battle.
As an old school nasty, this video gives me so many feels! Can’t wait to see what’s ahead 💜💙💚🧡💙
Also an old school nasty: I concur. Anytime people mention RUclips couples I always mention Simon and Martina. Their whole story is so beautiful. I feel so connected with them. I'm a better wife because of them. It's been really difficult with my husband's depression.
Same and 100% agree, I am recently disabled myself, and Martina's ladder method has changed my life as well.
Appreciate you two so much, and i'm so sorry for Martina's loss, know that's a platitude but genuinely sad cause i can picture her teary eyes =(
I hope the grief process isn't too rough, my thoughts are with you two.
their love is literally the old school way.. that love that now days I don't know if still exists.
@@camilamunoz1997 apparently it really doesn’t exist 😬
This comment didn’t age well
I lost 20 pounds in 2 months. Is that a bad thing? I don't know. Weight loss wasn't the plan. But the changes that led to that loss are changes I'm happy about. Let me know what you think.
Guys can lose weight really quickly compared to gals, but also its not like you were starving yourself. Long as it's done healthy it's a-ok👌
I lost 10 pounds in a month the last time I was dieting. I think that’s fairly normal for a male. And all I did was count calories and by no means did I starve myself.
losing weight ain't bad at all if you are eating healthy and exercising as well.
Simon and Martina I’ve lost 50 in 4, I have a lot to lose but as long as it’s comfortable and sustainable I don’t think it’s a bad thing
Emotion = Energy in motion
He is a great storyteller, keeps you interested.
Simon you just made me cry AF. I love you and Martina so much. I remember being in middle school and watching y'all roast kpop music videos. Life has changed so much. I'm lost and fighting myself everyday. I should be in a very stable and happy place but I've never felt so miserable and confused and hella lonely. I miss being confident and not giving two thoughts about my future.
Anyway this video helped SOOOOO much. I felt you were speaking to my soul. I miss reading too. Novels always made me happy in middle and high school. I hate running with a passion lol, but I know my physical and mental health go hand in hand here. Thank you for this
sending you love 💛
I wish you to find your path,here take some hugs 🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
How are you now
Oh Simon. Hurts my heart everytime you talk about how much you feel like a failure. Crying through runs is actually common. I am so happy that you have had such a wonderful transformation in 2019!
Ha! Not in my neighbourhood it isn't. At least, none of the people I've seen running by my had any audible sobbing going on :D
@@eatyourkimchi physical activity is great at showing you your weaknesses and also a great emotional release. Let's do our best, tears and all.
The runners in your neighbourhood are Japanese people who've had a lifetime of bottling everything up - they're in a league of their own!
Also, I hope you know that you are wonderful and good and not a failure and you work on feeling that too. You deserve it! Listen to Karamo! :)
I’m trying to give up alcohol. It’s day 3 and I can tell a difference in my sleep. Wish me luck
Good luck, stay strong!
Absolutely wishing you well. You are worth taking care of!
You can do it !
Keep going Holly. I bet it’s not easy and won’t be, but the decision to be healthier physically and mentally is worth it!! Sending love your way, take care!
You can do it! We‘re rooting for you mate!
I took a course at university on meditation. We focused on thanking our bodies and thanking for every good thing that has ever happened to us. I noticed my health improved. Kind of like my body was responding to my thoughts for it. I felt happy. very happy. I eventually want to add in yoga at the same time because that is meditation for the body. I would say your right where you should be. Maybe hook Martina onto meditating too. She almost already does this when she works on building her ladder. I've seen it said many times, mind over matter. You are making great progress. I don't know if you're depressed. You don't seem to be. I have clinical depression of the "don't wanna do anything" variety. Your strides in personal growth seem to fly in the face of that. Maybe you are just mellowing out as you mature. When my dad was sick with cancer, I decided to walk every day. It was the only thing I felt I could control at the time. I felt better for it. maybe this is what your feeling, the need for some kind of control. If you can keep yourself in a positive place. It will bring Martina up with you. it's like they say on the plain, "put your oxygen mask on first, then help". love you both sooooo much. Thank you for being human.
Carmendee Dragons Thanks for your comment.
"sorry if you were ex[pecting a tear jerker" mean while i burst into tears when he started talking about how much he wanted to take care of martina
Dear Simon - I really appreciate how vulnerable you were in this video. You spoke so honestly and earnestly, and not once did you apologise for being 'too open' or anything of that sort, which I tend to see often in other videos where someone is expressing something heartfelt. You didn't detract from what you were saying by apologising or making jokes about it, you didn't shy away from your feelings, and I genuinely feel very touched that you were able to be so honest with your audience. I teared up towards the end of the video as you were discussing your fears about the possible 'dark side' of these changes, and I just wanted to send you a big hug. It seems like you're doing perfectly alright to me, but maintaining self-awareness and evaluating your situation is always important too.
You and Martina have both inspired me many times over, but this video went one step further and I am somehow deeply touched by all that you've said. Thank you for having the courage, the openness, the honesty, and the vulnerability to make this video. My day and even my life are better for having watched it. Keep up the good work, and please know that we are all cheering you on!
Mindfulness has really changed my life, and changed me. Sometimes when you become more present and authentic, it can be shocking to those around you. I was always a people-pleaser in the past, and when I started changing some family members said I wasn’t thinking about them enough. They were just used to me obsessing about their needs. Similarly, it’s easy to ignore anxiety by pretending to be upbeat and positive all the time. People seeing you change might think that you’ve become more sad, more serious. But as you are more true to yourself and see your thoughts and feelings for what they are, you will be better able to help and connect with them on the future. God bless!! I love you guys!
"Not thinking about them enough". Well if you weren't being a jerk and self centered/greedy but rather considering the impact of things on you or people other than that person, I'd say they have the real problems.
Mindfulness in a society where everybody is staring into their phones even mid-conversation makes you stand out. Really, it wasn't that long ago that having a constant need to be distracted/entertained was seen as childish and having attention deficit issues.
I was about to say the same. This is exactly what happens.
Well said!
recoil53 Learning to maintain boundaries is also an important factor in this. People sometimes are uncomfortable with the change but in the long run it’s better for everyone.
As someone who feels like they hold their partner back, I can say that Martina will probably feel this way no matter how you improve or don't improve yourself. It's just something we have to deal with in our own issues and insecurities, which really sucks because people like us will probably always feel like they're being left behind a little - even if you sit on the couch with us all day. I think what you're doing is incredibly healthy for you, both physically and mentally. Not many people get to have a chance to start fresh, and it seems like it's obviously working. Just let any concerned friends and family know that you're changing your lifestyle which means multiple changes, not just one or two - and that it makes you feel so much happier and healthier. I'm sure that once they know you haven't gone "crazy vegan", they'll be more supportive than worried lol.
Congratulations on the success, it's amazing, it's inspiring and you deserve all of it :)
I love this comment so much.
Yes exactly this. Simon don’t feel bad for finding some tools and practices that make you a better person. If you are concerned you are going too far have a heart to heart to the one that matters most in your life, Martina. 😊❤️
Totally love that you found a way to love running. I will highly consider that awful activity once more as soon as it warms up. 😅
What’s a “crazy vegan”?
@@NanoNekoGirl it says it in the word. Crazy. Vegan.
chocchip187 what? I don’t get it, sorry.
wow... it's so crazy that you guys uploaded this today. today is the first day that i'm recommitting to my health journey again after a long and sucky stump. i plan to start intermittent fasting, go to the gym regularly again, meditate again and see a therapist for my anxiety/depression. thank you for this video, simon :) it's truly an encouragement and a good sign
Good luck sebby. That sounds like a good path to take :D
@@eatyourkimchi omg ahhhh thank you for replying T__T i legit teared up... because this video really spoke to me. meditation (in my case, i call it quiet time or devotions) really helped me A LOT and i find myself spiralling when i miss a day or a few days. so you're not crazy for believing in meditation! it really works!
my family also got worried when i exercised regularly in the past. it was a healthy amount, 3-4 times a week, but my mum was like "stop gymming so often" and "do you need to gym so much?". it didn't make any sense to me at all and was quite frustrating/discouraging because exercise is LITERALLY healthy!! and was paramount to my social, physical and mental wellbeing so i couldn't understand where my family was coming from 🤷♀️i wish someone would explain what they're thinking to me too...
The very best to you on your journey. We all need a TLC.
You can do it!
I started clapping when you said "I started to do this for myself!".
Watching this after Simon's newest video, it hits differently
Yes
Totally different...
I was just thinking that... like a foreshadowing of the beginning of the end
Now look at the newest one.
@@Liza-cf8gf I just did. I'll watch the old stuff and some of martinas new stuff(she hasn't changed) but the old Simon is gone. this new Simon sounds like a therapist. a hollow husk that I don't enjoy watching at all. he has zero personality 😔
I’ve cried while running too it really helps with your emotions and inner thoughts. It’s helped my anxiety a boat load I never thought I’d be a runner but now I run 3 times a week for 5k
Fuck yeah! Good on you, Sarah!
I was 16 when I started watching you and Martina, and I instantly thought "that's what I want to be like" because of your beautiful energy. It's still true.
You two go through such hard things, and it's admirable how you deal with it.
Chin up, you're doing great.
Sending you love.
Hearing Simon talk about his worries and failures really broke my heart. But I'm glad that he's doing a lot better and that his changes in his day to day life has made him more motivated and happy. All of us nasties are so proud of you Simon. Keep up the great work
when you said failure as a husband, It broke my heart you are an amazing husband!
Oof
Your guys' love is the stuff found in books and films.
Honestly I love your food videos, but videos like this where you guys sit down and discuss matters in your lives that are important to you are my favorite. Ive learned so much and I’m inspired to better my own life. But Simon I don’t think you are spending too much time on exercising or meditating, as long as you can look back and confidently say that it was time well spent I think it’s ok. But Martina not being able to exercise with you is tough. Maybe she can meditate with you as she has trouble exercising her body, she can exercise her mind instead. (I hope that came off right) Anyways I love you guys and your channel is amazing!!!
On the other side of the world...
How I Gained 15kgs and Changed My Pants
Me, literally. I put on almost 10-15 kgs in 2019. I wanna die. 😭
Sometimes you’ve got to change your pants. People appreciate it!!!
aphaits HAHAHA
Oh my... i can relate.. and this made me LOL ... hahahahah!
@@MsLilpj i have also put on wieght in 2019 and i think the best advice i have heard is to treat your self as a great friend would they wouldn't put you down in a really mean way, so you shouldnt do that. We all deserve kindness especially from ourselves as we can be our own worst critics
Sleep is sooo important. When I recognise that my phone is a hindrance to my sleep and remove it, there is a huuuuge difference in my sleeping pattern. I wake up early without needing an alarm and I feel so refreshed. Would really recommend reducing/ removing technology from your life at night.
That's a change I've been doing a lot as well. No screens an hour before bedtime. Start turning off lights all around the house as soon as possible.
@@eatyourkimchi Holy crap I've been peeling and cutting goddamn Brussels sprouts for the past hour and went upstairs to go on my phone for a break and saw this notification and it was so unexpected! I respect you both a lot man, thank you for all the good you do. Have a great rest of the week ☉☺
Hey just wanna say I am so thankful to you guys. Back when you guys were “eat your kimchi”, your videos brought me so much joy and motivated me to move to korea for a year. That year was the best year of my life. Im so sorry that toxic kpop fans sullied your experience in korea. It makes me so sad. Anyways just wanted to send you guys some good vibes.
Simon is scared that he’ll be a burden to Martina if he isn’t as strong as he wants to be. But in some videos, it shows Martina feeling bad/thinking that she is a burden to Simon while he encourages her and tells her that she’s never a burden. I feel the same way with my boyfriend I’ve been with for almost five years. I feel like a burden due to my (sometimes) negative personality and struggles with self-hate. As an old school nasty, I don’t know exactly what I took from you guys in loving your partner, but what I did learn was that I just need to love and love genuinely because sometimes, that’s all you need 💕
On American Thanksgiving
Everyone: TIME TO GET FAT
Simon: How I Lost 20lb
As much as I love your tl;dr videos and fapfaps, Yourself improvement videos give me so much comfort, from both you and Martina. It kind of gives me hope that I can get better, and every step counts.
I hope you guys are able to always find the good in every bad day you manage to get, and allow your emotions to just pass by without damaging your psyche.
Stay Nasty
Simon don't let anyone tell you that the changes youre making are "too much." You are bettering yourself intentionally and when someone does that...it makes the world and people around you so much brighter. You ARE doing the right thing. I attempt to do the same thing for myself every day as well. When I skip out on bettering myself, I skip out on making my world better. Much Love, my friend
Despite the terrible things Martina has been going through, she is still a very lucky girl ❤️
When you talk about going “overboard” with exercise, I think it’s only a problem if you find yourself restricting the rest of your life to accommodate these changes. Like, if you went out running during the typhoon bc you just can’t miss a day or something. But doing it bc it makes you feel better... you’re not going too far :)
Get you a partner who loves you as much as Simon does with Martina and vice versa :')
I hope that would start with being someone who loves as hard as Simon or Martina; seems that, in a relationship like theirs, reciprocity is key.
Honestly, I admire their love so much
Lots of people have one. I’ve been married to mine for 11 years now 💜
Seriously we all need someone like him! 💖
Both of their parents did a stand-up job raising two people like them
I'm glad Simon is making a video talking just by himself like that
Also, NOTIFICATION SQUAD! What are you having for dinner? I'm just about to make some stir fried rice and beans :D
a fajita bowl!! exciting
No idea! Probably cereal lol
I'm having fried rice too :))
It's only 10am here, I just had breakfast 😊
Creamy vegetable pie!
We all change as we grow up, we grow out as well. Welcome to the world of embracing change. Simon, you are doing great! Taking care of your self is a practice. Remember, place your mask on before your child's, cause if you pass out, who is going to help them. Great job!
I do taekwondo and we have classes where we do “forms meditation” where we just go through our forms over and over while our master directs us to keep our minds on the movement ect. And we end it by traditional meditation of siting and focusing on the feel of our heart and breath. I carry this into my daily life now and I feel like it’s changed me drastically as a person. I had dealt with the loss of a loved one and took it hard. I was just filled with anger 24/7 and wasn’t in a good space but meditation and exercise helped me get through become better.
Would love to re-watch this video but with Martina's commentary. I'd like to know about her view on things.
Thanks for sharing!
His the one who filed divorced apparently
It sounds like 2019 forced you into growth and personal improvement, that is the silver lining. You are doing great. Thanks for sharing.
Congratulations! You’ve taken steps that most of us make excuses to not do or that are afraid to do! Thank you for not only sharing the positive things that are happening, but also the struggles that you go through. Your vulnerability and your honesty are part of why I watch your channel. Thank you
Simon, you’re video hits so many of the right points. My wife turned me on to your channel - mainly because of the connection you and Martina so clearly have and how you make such witty fun from everyday experiences. So many of our days are brightened by your videos.
Your personal story of change resonates with us. We have applied some of the same changes and feel you are on the right path.
And, for my part, I believe you have to stay strong yourself to be strong for Martina. An inspiration for me, for sure, to keep applying new habits and techniques to my personal wellbeing to help in my journey with my wife.
We both admire how you and Martina are there for each other. Thank you for sharing!
Simon you are such a beautiful human. It is shocking for me the amazing strength you show when you talk so openly about your inner life, and the conscious effort you put into being the best version of yourself as a human, as a man and as a husband. I admire you so much and wish you and your loved ones much happiness
Running is a beautiful thing, it greatly helped me in times of deep depression, it gets you out of the house and your mind off your thoughts, a healthier body and better neurochemical balance. The "runners high" is very much a thing as well, but it can take some weeks of work to get there, but it's worth it. Happy for you!
I'm not sure if I ever felt the high while running, like I imagine what other people feel? Or maybe the runner's high is a peace of mind? I thought it was supposed to be more like being high.
Running is a simple way to feel great!!! 👍
@@eatyourkimchi Hah it might be a little troublesome if it really was like being actually high... might start "literally" chasing the dragon :P
I interpret it as that state of heightened mood and feeling of wellness that comes after a good run.
I’ve had a runner’s high! You just feel really good about life, and your body feels strong like you could keep running forever if you had the time for it
Simon talking about focus was very ASMR for a second. Such a good voice!
You're killing it. I'm sure not only Martina is proud but all us NASTIES are too!
Yeah I think Simon has a very calming and nice voice.
He dropped into podcast-voice for a second there, thought I was listening to a Tokyo Tales episode.
"It doesn't really show"
Um excuse me, Mr Ripped, it certainly DOES show, even just in this past year! 💪💪💪
Yeah and Simon's a big fella - when he gains a lot of muscle mass it won't be as obvious because he's tall, but you can ABSOLUTELY see the difference
Exactly, he be looking like a solid unit now, and I hope he feels more confident with this. For Martina and him.
He's made a huge difference since I've started watching them. I remember simon from the early days in Korea, he was tiny compared to now.
Its amazing.
DOTHRAKI MAN! 😁
Since January I’ve lost 51lbs. I’m even at the gym right now. Congrats!
Your not going overboard. It's your life ,if you feel better about your life. Then good job. Keep going... I can't relate to your situation with Martina but if your willing to change for her and yourself, then you have your setting point. I hope Martina is able to overcome her illness. Someone so sweet should never be given something so hurtful. Maybe if you get her to meditate with you then that could help. I read somewhere that mental stability can help heal pyshical. Maybe it could help her? (I'm not an expert.) My best wishes to both of you.❤
Running has gotten me through tough times. Not everyone feels this, but my mind clears when I run. It is the most effective way to snap out of bad feelings. I've been running for almost 4 years now. The first year I ran a 10k and a year in I ran my first half marathon, at the end of the second year I ran my first marathon, the third year I ran a faster marathon, and this year I ran my first ultramarathon! And yay for wearing neon yellow - visibility is important!
That feeling of success Simon talks about with running is similar to why I love roller derby. As with many women I'm sure, I've spent a good part of my life hating my body for what it was not, but in roller derby, for 2-4 hours a week I get to feel slightly graceful, and celebrate my body for what it CAN do. 😊
Simon! Knowing yourself is hard and is hard work. Seems like you are taking the right steps. You are doing a good job and keep your chin up. I'm proud of you.
I'm also in my journey of making myself better and I myself have lost almost 25 pounds since earlier this year after being hospitalized for almost 2 week because of multitude of illnesses. You're just doing great Simon. I hope you and Martina continue to live happily and healthily, sincerely from the bottom of my heart. 🙂
As someone who's dealing with EDS+ a lot of mental issues, it moved me so much that you wanted to better yourself so you could help Martina. And the fact that it lead you on a path towards personal happiness and fulfilment is just magical.
Hey Simon I hope you read this because I might be able to answer your question
You say you do all of these things daily, which is great because you really seem to be happy with it!
BUT what happens if you don't? like let's say you skip an entire day of this routine of yours. Do you then feel guilty or like you failed? Do you get upset with yourself and mentally beat yourself up for not fulfilling this routine of yours?
Because if you say yes to that, then yes, then it might be unhealthy and you are trying to control what can be controlled when you might be feeling like other things are out of your control if that makes sense.
So just make sure that you're routine doesn't become a ritual.
Hope this can help as a perspective
I am still waiting your how's it to be tall in Japan video Simon
IT SUCKS. I HIT MY HEAD EVERYDAY
Simon wear a helmet
Simon is taller than 1.9m so I guessing he's hitting more of his face then head, hard hat might not work lol
@@Acanzorbilmez1 what about a motorcycle helmet? Would make him look mysterious as well.
@@fluorescentghost hahaha I imagine him it would be so cute and I can already see Martinas face looking at him hahahaha
I also started a mindfulness journey this year!
I found that really doing your research and being aware of what's going on mentally is a huge part in having a healthy mentality. I've struggled with my adhd for years and only this year did I really start researching it and meditation as well.
Meditation has been a huge help for me and guided meditations I find are genuinely the most helpful since if I try to meditate on my own I end up stuck in my own head.
And I always love when you guys post these kinds of videos bc it always spurs me back on my physical and mental health journey. You and Martina are such big personal Inspirations for me.
Proud of you -
Inspired by you -
This is your journey
And Martina has hers ... you can’t walk her path but you can walk beside her ... the stronger, calmer and wiser man than before.
Wow, Simon, you've really cheered me! I'm 63 and since I had an injury 18 months ago, have been less than mindful and active. I'm gonna get back on that path. You are an inspiration. Love to you and Martina.
Simon, do you have goodreads? I’d love to see your book lists.
Yes!!!
Bro, I feel this. I can't say my wife's condition is near Martina but it makes her less able to do physical work so I've been trying to improve for her sake. Thank you for the talk.
Good Morning Simon,
Saying that I know exactly how you feel seems a bit patronizing. Because everyone has their own approach and way of dealing with this kind of thing. My husband has multiple osteochondroma and has had 15 surgeries so far and 16 is probably going to be happening next year some time. I also have a 6 year old that also has it and last month was her first surgery. And for the last 7-8 years I have put everyone else first doing whatever I could to make his day easier and give my daughter a full day every day. The last three years though I found out that I had to do things for me as well. Not only was it becoming necessary for my health but we often forget that we also need to make ourselves a priority. I go to the gym but I get the most out of yoga and meditation. It's been a way to let the stress and pressure fall away. When I meditate I don't think about what I have to do that day. I let my worry and paranoia fall away and I just listen to my breathing and listen to my body. I know that sounds weird. But you need to find peace. And that helps you think more clearly too. I am in no way the best at yoga because I am still a delightfully pudgy person. I have on going thyroid issues so I'm never going to be a size 2. But after keeping that routine I feel better after. My leg and back are less sore during the day because of it as well. It was a dramatic shift when I started turning it around and doing it for myself and not just everyone else. I felt more accomplished and less panicked.
I have had family worry about me too. And I know it's because I take on so much and sometimes I do get overwhelmed. On camera I can't see that anything that you're doing is bad Simon. It's how you've processed and dealt with this. It is a difficult and multi leveled situation. And it's hard to talk about without a spouse feeling guilty about it. My husband always sees what I do is something I do because of him. He doesn't understand that it's for him because I love him. And I know had this been reversed and I had his disease that he would do the same for me. I know that doesn't make it easier for him, I wish he didn't have that guilt. I am a fixer, and when I can't fix something I get really frustrated. He's getting older, more is hurting and the more I am realizing what his every day is going to continue to be like. I've decided to go back to school for massage therapy. It's only a year long program so it's not too excessive. But I will be able to alleviate some of his pain and I feel that's worth it.
Sorry that this is so long. Just wanted to say that I do know what you are going through and it's not easy and it's ever changing. And it's often hard to talk about because you don't want you're spouse to feel guilty. It's just how you love someone. You love the entire person.
Love you both. And I hope 2020 is a better year!
I think you're a very kind, compassionate, thoughtful soul, and I'm glad that you're finding so many things that comfort and help you. I wish you happiness and prosperity in your present and your future. "The roots of the tree that grew in wind are strong."
I started off skeptical, too! Meditation and yoga have changed my life. I found out I have PTSD, and around the same time I found Yoga with Adriene here on RUclips. I hadn't slept for about a week, and I used one of her yoga for sleep videos. That was my first experience with yoga and now it's been 3 years. It's an amazing thing to experience, especially if you started where I did. Thank you Simon 🙏 it's so nice to be able to feel connected to someone in a similar situation.
Hey there Simon, I went through a similar experience with exercising this year. Things were falling out of control in my life and I desperately needed an outlet, something that I knew I could work hard at and get then get results. I started running at a capacity I never had before and did my first 10k, then 15k, then a half marathon within just 2 weeks. A week later I did another half marathon over 400m elevation, on mountain terrain. People around me were fairly similar to this comment section- wow that’s amazing, go you etc.
I didn’t stop, I didn’t see the need to, I felt amazing. Cue another week and I was going on a routine run and I felt a pain in my knee but didn’t stop because ‘it would break my stamina’. When I got home I had to lean on the kitchen bench because I could now no longer walk. Long story short, I’d sprained a tendon, and ended up having to limp for several months (painful).
It was my fault for not looking after my body and going overboard. You definitely seem aware of that danger, thankfully. But when I look at the REASONS I went overboard, well.
Rather than running being the outlet for my anxieties, it actually fed them, I was craving control and now I could have it. I wasn’t making peace with my situation, I was literally running away from it. Miss a couple runs and I would feel guilty, yuck, and more anxious. I had become dependent on running for feeling good about myself, and my ability to manage my life. I realised spraining my tendon was maybe the wake up call I needed.
It’s interesting you brought up meditation, which I think is essential. When life gets tough, you may need an outlet, but you also need to process. The two things are pretty key to each other. I think 10mins is not enough. I tend to pray quite a bit, which I guess is kind of like a guided meditation, hahaha. Nowadays I usually pray for as long as I exercise, it tends to turn out that way. Balance.
You’re onto something Simon, you’ve had an extremely hard year and I can only wish you the very best :)
I have read “Why We Sleep” and it changed my life!!!! 🙌🏻
I've struggled with generalized anxiety and panic disorder for most of my life. People can often dismiss things like exercise and meditation when they are suggested because it comes across as so trivial, like the person suggesting it has no idea what mental illness is actually like. Of course it's true that neither of those things can just cure mental illness. But what I found is for me they improve my baseline. Caring for myself through diet, exercise, and meditation has a huge impact on how frequently and severely I get triggered and spiral down into anxiety, and how well I recover. Alternatively it's like my immune system is compromised, I become more susceptible. Even outside of anxiety, meditation and practicing mindfulness has helped me in so many ways. I'm so happy that you have found things that are helping you, and I hope you continue to do what feels good. Sending you and Martina lots of love.
Up until now I related to Martina more, but let me tell you:
Simon, you're not alone, I have made the same discoveries! Meditation and healthy choices give you this extra room between them anxious thoughts and your reaction to them.
I am a lazy person a lot of the time and forget quickly, how beneficial the self-care kit is. Thank you for the reminder and for being such an inspiring, relatable human being.
Simon, remember this: To Love is to be Loved and you are That.
Thank you for making this video! I’ve been going through a lot of anxiety lately and hearing about what you have done to overcome your anxiety is truly inspiring.I really NEED this and here you are! Thank you for being such an inspiration as always. ❤️
We’re actually quite similar: I’m 35, i stopped drinking, got a PT to train, started meditation and HATE running so everything you talked about is really resonating with me. My personal challenge this year was to hike Mt Olympus. It was brutal, painful and i wanted to cry at every step. But I did it and I really didn’t think I could. I can always remind myself: I did that so whatever comes my way now, it’s going to be okay ☺️ Thank you for sharing your journey with us 🙏
I just started exercising four months ago. I’m not really healthy and suffer from anxiety and I convinced myself that I wouldn’t be able to change. I couldn’t even really run a minute and now I can run five minutes straight and do that for a couple of intervals. It’s not a lot but every improvement makes me happier. Listening to you and Martina has really helped me make changes to improve my situation.
Youre insane Simon! How dare you make me cry this much! It is the same path I had with my relationship and perception about running and meditating. I am now able to control and let go my physical and mental health way better than before. I will continously root for your self love, self care and overall health Simon!
Simon you are without doubt a 100% true gentleman , even when fighting your own struggles you still have martina in mind. Every young male should watch this video and take on these life lessons. Bravo to you sir
I love this, I am so glad you posted this. hug to you both. and I'm proud of you both. keep it going.
when you started talking about the reason why you started weightlifting I just lost it!! 😭😭 that is sooooooooooo sweet and selfless of you to do that for Martina ☹️🥺💜💜💜
6:03...... fell in love with Simon..... also burst into tears! You’re an awesome, wonderful and inspiring couple!! Massive loves!
Yessss meditation is such an unexpected gift. I was super skeptical too, but it makes a huge difference in all avenues of my life. Keep on tuning in to yourself!!!
I feel like you being able to find happiness outside Martina must be a huge relief to her. I have a wonderful, doting husband, but his mood is SO tied to how I feel and since I deal with depression and sickness it makes me feel like I am almost contagious. I'm used to being depressed, I cope, but seeing it rub off on him sucks, if he was happy despite it all it would lift my spirits a little. I'm going to recommend the running app to him, thanks:)
I had anxiety too. Meditation has helped me greatly and I have definitely changed as a person. I get the most out of meditation when I meditate for over an hour. Everything becomes clear and I allow myself to feel all the anxious thoughts I have during my meditation. So when I'm being a normal person during the day my negative thoughts don't get to me as much. Try meditating for longer it really helps :)
Oh! And I HIGHLY recommend the channel Hasfit for Martina. They have tons of exercises that can burn a couple hundred calories while seated. There are exercises for those with limited movement or for pregnant people (I know she aint preggers), both which can be modified to suit however shes feeling
The only time that I felt some depression vibes in this was when you said that you were feeling like a failure, at that point of the video I really wanted to ask if you were okay. After hearing how you feel now that you’re doing everything else, I feel that these changes are good for you, but I do think it’s important that you monitor it, because sometimes we use healthful practices in a maladaptive way and cause more harm than good.
Both of you seem to really stress about the pressure (for lack of a better word) that you might be putting on the other. I love the mutual love and care that you both express, but I hope that you can both see the other person’s heart and feel more settled together. You two together work as a team, remember that will be times where one will do more than the other and vice versa. You don’t need to count these moves when you are both doing as much as can for each other, live in the moment and enjoy those moments of love in action.
i went on my first Nike run right after you mentioned the app. i am now back, and watching the rest of your video hehe
love y’all’s content, you two are wonderful people ❤️
I commend you sir! I know the struggle all too well! I lost 140 lbs in one year. I shared my story and hopefully like you i can motivate others to change their lives too! I feel so much better and have tried my best to maintain it! All the best
Simon if it feels right for you, then it is right for you.
Meditation was something I always thought was BS until my therapist challenged me to meditate everyday to help treat my severe depression and anxiety. I never thought it would help but it really does.
😭 when you finish the video from start to finish and just have so many feels . Not a tear jerker my A$$ 🙏💞 FIGHTING SIMON AND MARTINA YOU DO YOU! SIMON YOU ARE NOT ALONE !! Can relate this incredibly okay in this circumstance almost a coping mechanism and a healthy one at that 💪🥂💙💙💙 sending energy and love from nastys down under 🇦🇺🇦🇺
I love how I get on RUclips not really knowing what I want to watch and how I end up stuck on your page watching as much as I can before the time runs out. I get stuck 1. Because you 2 are so inspirational 2. I care to see how you guys are doing mentally/physically,. 3. I learn to love myself because of your amazing words. And lastly I truly enjoy just seeing your guys beautiful life, with the ups and downs, you show us to persevere. Thank you guys for always being here sharing you wonderful journey.
Hey Simon,
As someone who has watched you guys since you first started making videos and watching you both grow, it’s really easing to hear you talk about this from your perspective and to just open up about things. I was very active my entire life, I loved pushing myself even through heavily struggling with a mental illness and going through ECT. Three years ago when I was 19 I suddenly got an autoimmune disorder and now most days I can’t even walk or move without pain. The change has been incredibly sad for me and I spent a long time even questioning whether or not anyone would love me anymore when I had so much trouble just doing the things I love. Watching your video and hearing about Martina made me feel so much less alone in my struggle, and listening to you re enforces that I want to become stronger for myself and change things while I can.
Thank you Simon
I'm really happy for you, Simon! It's great that you're figuring all this out.
I appreciate your comment. Not a health care professional of any kind myself, but I know that many of us forget that support can actually be that... support. I look at Simon and Martina and am so blown away by how wonderful they are, I forget that they do have a lot on their plates. And a good mirror... for instance it's hard for me to believe that Simon could accomplish so much in his life and yet think of himself as any kind of failure... can make a big difference. And while we're here, may I wish you the very best. I'm in the US and this is Thanksgiving for us. Wherever you are, whatever you're doing, I wish you well.
I may be late to the party, but I wanted just to chip in with my point of view.
Simon, regarding excessiveness you are worried about, it does not seem that at all. The “problem” is you stepped up in your gears with multiple tings to improve yourself, so it may seem to people around you as a coping mechanism to your insecurities (you yourself mentioned). Keep doing what you think and see it helps you. After all, we who watch you so many years see the evolution you had. If it doesn’t suit your needs any more, change again!
To you it may seem slow. But as a person with same “inner self problems” it always seems slow to us. Because you are judging yourself 24/7. Other people see you in increments so any change is shown easily. Also, the isolating bubble you are as foreigners (different thinking, looking) in another country, it does not help. I am not saying you should change this, it just adds up to all your worries and makes them seem bigger. It happens to me when I work as an expat for some months away from anybody. So that’s why I say I get it. :)
Okay, I rambled on too much. But I hope you got my point. You do you, it seems to be good (at least from our perspective).
P.S. - thank you for showing me I am not the only one thinking of oneself like that :)
I like the "Thanks to the Members of this Channel" over on the top right, pretty cool :)
Thank you Simon I really needed this.
I actually used to go running/ work out every singel day, but I let it slide the
past few months. This gave me the motivation to not only pick it back up but also
to reevaluate my own headspace.
You're doing great. I wish you two all the best!
I haven’t commented on your video’s for a while but I felt the need to today. I’ve started meditating in the Spring this year and it’s been so SO helpful for me that I hated to hear that you feel like the left out weirdo in your family/friend group. Just like you said in the video meditation never “cured” anxiety for me but it has given me the tools to notice when my mental health declines and to help with it. I’m proud that I’ve taken the step to learn how to take care of myself when life gets a little harder than usual and I think you should be too!! It’s been proven in so many ways how meditation can be beneficial for your mental health. One concept I’ve learned recently is that through meditation you learn how to accept your emotions as a part of you but not as something that you engulfs or drowns you. When I depression or anxiety washes over me now, I take the time to meditate to acknowledge whatever I’m feeling at the moment but also remind myself that my sadness isn’t what I am made of. I think the progress you’ve made so far is amazing! I’m so glad you have put in so much effort to better yourself everyday and hope you never stop doing that :)) I am so proud of you!!
When I meditate I'm a more calmer. It helps you to look at everything in a more positive and clearer way
If no one else has said this: I’m proud of you Simon!
And honestly I needed to hear this all- we are in different shoes but I feel some of those hard feels too- ❤️
The Power of Now is the bible that really helped me when i was so sick of the endless thoughts in my head
Meditation does get our busy soul to find our true inner self. It gives so much calmness and clarity to our busy daily life. My husband has thyroid problems and his emotional swing has been greatly helped and improved by meditating. Some people don’t believe and think it’s crap but try it, just few minutes a day, it won’t hurt and slowly you will see the benefits of it. Thanks, Simon for bringing up this topic. And glad that you guys are onto this spiritual path.
Oh my gosh !!! I'm literally crying right now and I'm sorry it's not about your story this time but I just found your channel again it's magical because of everything I've been through this year I thought you guys weren't actually real (long "I'm crazy " story) it just brings me back so many memories of when I felt normal and was happy. THANK YOU. You don't know it but its a feeling I have missed for so long to just instantly have because you guys are still here