I’m a therapist and this is such a beautiful video. Self care isn’t just being gentle with ourselves. Self care is also pushing ourselves to do things that we know are good for us even when we don’t want to. Sometimes we have to show ourselves that we’re worth it even if we don’t believe it in the moment 💕
Yes!!! As a fellow therapist I’m so happy Lauren made this video ! Bringing more awareness to something I feel so strongly about (and that comes up a lot in sessions )
“Sometimes we have to show ourselves we’re worth it even if we don’t believe it in the moment.” - this really struck me. Thanks for sharing that with us in the comments!
The aversion to showering is a real struggle when you have a mental illness. It's so refreshing to hear someone else talk about it. I struggle every day. Xo
This makes me feel so much less ashamed...... After a lifetime of trauma, Showering is the first thing to go for me.... It's almost as if it makes me not attractive to men and I like that
Your honesty is so beautiful. I totally feel you about showering. When I’m in a depressive episode, my hygiene is one of the first elements to be limited. I love using a shower cap so I can get in the shower and focus on body care without washing my hair if I don’t have the energy. I can make it a few days without a hair wash but you’re so right, a daily rinse, some body oil, and a bit of lotion do wonders for me, and it isn’t as exhausting as I anticipate. Love to you, lovely!
I get that too. For me, with a muscle disease & arthritis, it's physically difficult and sometimes exhausting to shower; showering at night instead of in the morning has become a helpful strategy.
Your vulnerability in this video is inspiring. Personal hygiene is both important and SO HARD for the neurodiverse crowd. If you’ve never understood why some people don’t shower or hate showering… consider yourself BLESSED. Anything I can do to improve my shower experience helps. The smells and textures and the idea that I’m paying attention to my body, just for me. No one else.
Thank you so much for this video!!!!!! It’s really brave of you to be honest about these things on the internet! I am just climbing out of some of these places, the not showering often and all. I honestly started pretending like ridiculous scenarios, like I’m an ancient queen or goddess bathing and doing luxurious exotic treatments. Yes, it’s Neutrogena, but not in my fantasy 😂
This is what I have to do when I come out of an episode, your not alone in this. A phsyc nurse gave me the idea to try it as it helps other patients she worked with.
It’s been a bad week & I was planning on not showering tonight, until you got to that point & I realized exactly what I was doing. Now i’m getting ready to go shower. Thank you for calling me out without knowing you were calling me out.
Lauren, hearing you discuss this “at your age” (I know that sounds condescending but I’m honestly not being condescending) is amazing!! I’ll be 46 this year and I have grown children and grandchildren and I’ve only just figured these things out in the last few years. We learn so much as we age and for you to have figured this out so soon is amazing and leaves you open to learning more about how to be happily you!😘
Oh Gurl! When you know.., you know! Im choosing to vacuum and mop my floors, and cleaning my closet! Bc I’m putting off hopping in the shower right THIS moment! I hate having to think about drying my hair, and being all damp getting out of the shower! It totally feels like a HUGE chore!
Such a great video- I have suffered with chronic depression and anxiety as well as being a mental health therapist who is very good working with my clients but not taking my own advice. I don’t know what it is about taking showers, washing brushes and even putting on makeup when I am not working. All of these activities make me so happy once I start them but taking that first step seems so impossible sometimes. On the outside you can look fine and put together even when you are not showering every day and I don’t think a lot of people realize that. So it can be easy to hide that low lever of depression that people don’t see you struggling with. I hope this is understandable and helpful.
the shower thing is so real!!! i hate feeling wet (heh) and have always just not loved showering. but i realized showering more regularly has helped my body acne and kp TREMENDOUSLY. things i’ve found that help: finding shower products i love using and!!! super absorbent towels as well as using a hair dryer on my body. sounds weird but gets me feeling dry quickly so i can put my clothes on and feel comfy and clean ! seriously y’all. it’s so great to figure out what it is in particular that you hate about something and then finding sometimes unconventional solutions. similarly- i would let dishes pile up in my sink and then i realized i did it because i didn’t tlike touching the dirty dishes. solution? GLOVES! literally (like not even hyperbole) changed my life. good luck to anyone struggling and if anyone is reading this pls share any similar epiphanies y’all have had because maybe i will learn something helpful ❤❤❤❤❤
I struggle with BPD, PTSD, SAD- I am a disabled veteran of the USAF. I totally hear you & understand what you are saying. I have been a sub of yours for a few years. You are looking so good! You can see that you are feeling better & prioritizing YOU. I really look forward to you vids. They lift me up & want to put me first too. I use a walker & it is really hard- totally easy to feel bad on myself. I get what you are saying. Keep up all your growth! Its ok to have bad days- just make it a priority to love yourself!❤
I have a bunch of mental health issues and am also a disabled human. Using my walker has been freeing and I try to focus on that. Being a human is hard, but finding ways to take care of ourself shouldn't have to be 💕
I can struggle with the shower sometimes too when my anxiety is up. I found that if I shower with just a candle or small light on instead of having all of the bright/harsh lights it helps so much. Also, I NEED to know what eyeshadow you have on in this video. It's so pretty!!
As someone who is nd & struggles with bipolar, I completely relate to ALL of this 😅💜*also... As someone who used to only wear makeup as a creative outlet to take pics, YOU got me into actually wearing makeup daily! I fell in love with neutrals & sparkly one & done shades. It completely blew my mind ngl. That's all down to you 🫶
To expand on your last suggestion about your thoughts changing about your makeup, I definitely can relate to your point. I was getting lost during the surge of minimalist content and declutters. I was getting rid of stuff because I told myself I had too many duplicates or you don’t wear this enough or I only need so many. Although some cases it’s true, I also felt like I stripped too much where makeup wasn’t what it was for me. Now I feel true resurgence of why I love make up. For me, I love variety, textures, color, techniques, changing my look from day to day to fit my mood. I also like to be apart of the beauty community space here on RUclips a lot and like to buy certain influencers makeup releases to support and feel a part of something. To me make up is an art form. Sometimes I felt bad before spending like an 1.5-2hrs doing my makeup and hair to not really do much for the day. But for me, it’s a time of loving myself, self expression, and just having fun and to feel good. I’ll even wear a more done up look to the grocery store. Idc anymore. So while other people may think it’s crazy, for me it brings value. My mind set now is not “do I need this” but instead “does this add value to my life and is it worth investing in”. This has helped a lot and has allowed myself permission to explore and try something new. Since then I’ve finally gave myself sweep bangs again after a long time of debating, wearing brighter colors and patterns. It’s helped a lot and I feel the most like myself in awhile. It’s true mindset is everything in order to make changes. Thanks for sharing your struggles❤ Side note of the showering topic, I always play music while showering like Lofi music and I think that really changes the game. It puts you in zen mode
One of the most important things I learned (and honestly had to work hard to internalize) for my mental health is: "Anything worth doing is worth doing badly." I'll leave it here for anyone who might need to see it. 💚
i've seen that before too! for hygiene routines, i always think doing it half assed is better than not doing it at all. if i don't feel like a full shower, washing my hair or just doing a quick rinse is better than nothing. if i don't feel like doing my full oral hygiene routine, a quick brush of my teeth is better than nothing
Thank you so much for talking about this and posting it!!! It’s worth mentioning too that these things take time and it’s not like you tackled all 7 of these at once. You didn’t start them all on the same day. That can feel like such a hurdle. I too remind myself to start with one thing, take a step. And some days I can’t and that’s ok too. I appreciate your vulnerability and that you’ve not only taken time to reflect on these things for yourself but that you shared them with us. It’s encouraging! Way to go Lauren! You’re beautiful inside and out!!
You really are a beautiful soul! Not sure why my gut told me you need to get past this hurdles and just tackle them all! Like I said. A beautiful soul.
You know something - I REALLY needed this video. Everything you said is something I can really relate to. Thank you so much for saying all you’ve said - it has made a difference. At least I know it has for me & all the rest of us here who appreciate your genuine compassion. You’re a true blessing!
For some reason, I also can really struggle with getting into the shower. Something that's been really helping me is having a cup of coffee to enjoy before and in the shower. Idk what it is with the anticipation or just the build up to get in there but warm drinks and a podcast have been doing wonders for my pre-shower routine
I thought not showering every day was my dirty little secret 😊 I started working fully from home about 5 years ago and I stopped showering every day. When the pandemic hit it got worse since I’d go days at a time without leaving my apartment, especially in the winter. I would simply forget to shower sometimes or just keep putting it off until it got so late that I would decide to wait until the next morning. I know a big part of it is that I live alone and I don’t like silence, so I always have to have a show or podcast playing during all non-working, non-sleeping hours. Taking a shower is a long stretch of time where I can’t distract myself from the silence with any media, especially if it’s a long shower where I’m washing my hair or shaving. I keep Parks & Rec playing on my phone on the counter so I can at least hear it after I turn the water off, which comforts me. It’s strange how the loneliness that I sometimes feel plays into my reluctance to shower at times. But I do love being showered and feeling clean, even if I don’t love the process. I try to buy nice smelling body washes to make the experience more enjoyable. Right now I’m showering at least every 3rd day since that’s how often I wash my hair. And then the rest of the days it mostly depends on whether I went to the gym or not.
This is the realest video. I’ve never been a fan of showering, my skin literally burns afterwards but I’ve saved for a new bathroom and am now trying new products, same with brushing my teeth… peach toothpaste for the win!
LAUREN ❤️ I’m only on the second habit so far, but this is already so incredibly relatable. Thank you so much for this video! Sending you a virtual hug ❤️
Thank you for this. I am so glad you decided to post this video. You are creating such a beautiful space on your channel. A space of acceptance, understanding and empathy. You deserve all the love. 💚💚💚
For me this list is completely accurate with how I have been lately! The only struggle I don’t have is sun screen but you can replace that with washing the dishes or folding and putting away my clothes. Then I put off the dishes by saying- ooohhh can’t run appliances from noon- 8pm. Thanks so much for sharing such deeply personal issues with depression. ❤️❤️❤️
My other favorite beauty Yter is HLP and this year she has really come into herself and that has refined her channel in a way that always brings something to the table worth talking about / considering. Videos like this, Lauren, align so well with your passion and path. Keep going! (And no need to apologize☺️)
Really enjoyed this video coming at the perfect time. I’ve had lung disease my whole life, and worked as a nurse for 30 years in the Pediatric ICU. I was diagnosed 20 years ago with PTSD. Learning how to cope with self care is essential. We all have things we have to overcome, and I enjoyed hearing your thoughts. We don’t need to be ashamed about this. I am 65, and currently am having health issues, which is triggering my mental health. Makeup is great therapy, so is my work as an artist. I am active physically-just got my second black belt in Taekwondo. Just want to say how much I love your channel! And, as we age, showering is not recommended every day-itbstrips away all your skins protective barrier. I am trying to be better about body oils and creams. But I skip out on a shower about once a week unless I’ve been to TaeKwonDo-then it’s a necessity.
A lot of this resonated with me. I don’t have any particular issues but I’m a later bloomer who needed some maturity to get to know myself. 1. My skin feels too hot and dry without sunscreen so using it is a comfort thing for me. You may like it! 2. I live in an old house in the north so getting out of the shower is my issue. It’s cold when I get out in the winter and the A/C is freezing me in the summer so I hate to shower. I block the vent in the summer (I don’t know why it took me so many years to think of doing that) and I got a towel warmer and it’s a lot better now. You can get one shaped like a trash can with a lid and the towels are toasty. I had also been forcing myself to do the spa things, like scrubs, but I stopped. I really just want to get in and out quickly. I bought scrubbing mitts to get the job done quickly. I hate having to lotion up and I have dry skin so I’m experimenting with moisturizing mists or just skipping it sometimes. I lotion any part that’s visible when I get dressed. 4. I use a washcloth to clean my face. No drips and I hold the warm washcloth on my face for a minute and it melts the balm. I have some washcloths only for my face. I bought them in a dark color so makeup stains aren’t bothering me. 7. I don’t have a lot of makeup so I get fomo. I’ve tried to change my mindset about things. I now call my limited jewelry my signature look so people kind of expect to see me in it. I change it whenever. I call my clothes my uniform for the season. I wear a very small selection and I’ve actually had people say that it’s a good idea and freeing. I get a few things that really speak to me. I’m not really a minimalist though. I have no rules about quantity. I don’t get anything I’m not thrilled to own. This means I don’t ignore many items. Some of these changes took time and some clicked right away.
Kudos to you for taking your walks and wearing sunscreen! It's wonderful self-care to take time to enjoy moving your body and protecting your skin. You're worth the effort!
I'm so guilty of not using sunscreen consistently until recently. Love the one from Apostrophe. Then I love Sun Bum face mist for reapplying. Both work beautifully. I was diagnosed with ADHD about a yr ago. I get horrible anxiety where I just freeze... And doing the littlest things (like jumping in the shower) is debilitating. Been going through a rough depression lately... But I've been forcing myself to shower almost daily, and to do my makeup almost daily. It really does help. Love these vids ❤ Klarissa
This was a much needed video - I admit that I have a small hoarding issue with makeup - I have too much but I'm working on using it up and not buying as much. I have firced myself to date when I start using an eyeshadow palette and consistently using it for 3 months and then throwing it out. You touched on one issue that I feel is almost a generational thing - self care - showers (baths), skin lotion and all that stuff can be overwhelming because it takes time if you do it right and I was brought up in a house where taking self time was considered selfish if you were in the bathroom for more than 15 minutes so even though sometimes it feels exhausting - I have given myself permission to take time for myself and I always feel better afterwards.
With washing my face I absolutely hate water running down my wrists and arms. I bought a bunch of wrist sweat bands on amazon and it makes such a difference! I can tolerate it so much more now.
Putting a separate face wash in the shower really helps when trying to do skincare, and not washing your hair everytime you shower really cuts down on having to feel like every shower is a chore, depression sucks but hygiene is necessary to feel better about one’s self, much love hope you get your spark back❤
Also there’s glitter sunscreen to make it feel more fun and I highly recommend the olay Shea whipped body wash or the Olay with hyloronic acid body wash, both help w dry skin and not having to always feel like you need to use lotion, I say make everything feel more luxurious or fun and it helps the habits fall in place
Thank you for mentioning the shower part! Sometimes I feel alone in that. Having dry skin and eczema, I feel like it's a huge chore every time I shower. I have to use a rich prescription moisturizer all over my body within minutes of exiting or I'll dry up like a mummy. I also have a dry scalp and eczema there too, so it's dry like the Sahara desert (and itchy) after I've washed my hair. I envy people who can just take a quick shower, get out and get dressed with no hassle.
This was so helpful, I’m struggling with basics right now my mother just passed and I feel so out of my normal. Like I’m struggling to take care of myself. I have so many others to care for I just don’t have the energy for myself. The small things really help me push through. Washing my face even just having clean hair is so nice. Thanks for all you do ❤❤❤
I'm so sorry for the departure of your mother, may she rest in peace. Of course nothing feels normal; for most of us, our mothers are the first thing we ever knew or remembered, and we have never known life without their existence. I wish you peace in your adjustment to this part of life without her earthly presence. God bless you
This, all this. Everyday...ME! These are all challenges I face as well. Sunscreen every darn day has been so hard to learn, and the simple act of showering has taken so much energy. I've allowed myself to get into shower products that smell good and are great for my hair. It's made me more excited to take care of myself 😊
I'm a newer subscriber that has always appreciated your fun personality and sense of humor, but I have to commend you on your honesty and vulnerability in this video. I've dealt with these same feelings and I'm sure i will in the future. Pushing through, getting cute and having fun with my makeup always seems to help but its so hard to remember that when you're in the eye of the storm. Thanks so much for being brave and sharing with us. I'm an even bigger Lauren fan after this video! Sending lots of love ❤
Very rare to find someone speaking so honestly online these days, kudos to you. Hell even the shower thing is waaay more common than we think in this hygiene olympics society of ours. Btw you are absolutely stunning, geez.
I’m really slacking in the shower and sunscreen department. I have treatment resistant depression so that doesn’t help. Great great video Lauren!!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
You hit the nail on the head on many of these for me!! Thank u so much for using ur space to take time and be real with us. I truly appreciate it! Not many people are confident enough to speak on these topics.
Wow.... Absolutely shocked how similar we are, and I really didn't think that there were people out there like me because no one wants to talk about these serious issues but You having the courage to just open up and talk about this really helps me😊 I really appreciate you, your honesty, and your uplifting comments❤ They truly mean the world Stay beautiful girl You got this, I'll be here watching ❤️❤️
Due to my Fibromyalgia showering is not a daily thing sadly but when I do I have a brilliant bluetooth speaker on full and have a great sing song in there and love it. Also someone suggested once having rock salt and hold it over your head and let it wash over you and the negative ions make you feel so much better.
Gimme the eyeshadow. Gimme the hair. Gimme the skin. Sharing this means the world to someone who deals with intense mental illness. Thank you for the vulnerability.
👏❤ I also has a hard time getting into sunscreen! I have been trying the Unseen Screen and the First Aid Beauty one.. just seems so hard for me to layer it with my skin care and then my makeup routine. Slowly getting there. Love this honest open discussion. Mental health is such a hurdle and having content with some encouragement, it really is wonderful.
I hate washing my face for the same reason. I found these things on Temu that you put on your wrists when you wash your face, and they absorb the water. It actually really helps. The water doesn’t run down your arms, so it keeps a lot of water off the counter.
I appreciate you for saying a lot of this Lauren. I've been struggling the last few years with my mental health and showers are an issue. It's embarrassing! I'm not stinky either 😊 but it's just not something I can do everyday. I've also become mostly locked in my house. I wasn't able to phase out of the lockdown unfortunately. I had just gotten out of a traumatic experience when all of that began so it was oddly a relief to me to be shut away from the world. I am working on myself with my therapist, so hopefully I can get back to some "normalcy" soon. I still love doing my makeup and skincare, I'm just the only one that really sees it. I just wanted to thank you for making me feel a little less weird. ❤❤❤
Thank you for this video Lauren! And thank you both as a viewer and creator, for speaking on your mental health. Not only is it lovely to know I’m not alone but it makes space for others to feel less alone too and that is magical. ❤❤❤
It is great to see how in touch you are with your actions and habits and then identifying how they impact your feelings. I really relate to so much of what you observed in yourself. Thank you - very helpful and motivating!!
I was using makeup as my creative outlet during the times we all were supposed to stay home. I am gradually returning to my prepandemic makeup levels, which is just wearing it to perform, for special occasions, and to help me build characters. For a while I was trying to hang on to the makeup time even while I added back my older activities, but I started feeling resentful about forcing myself to do makeup every day, so now it is just for when I want to. I am performing today, and I am looking forward to taking an hour to build a dramatic look to help me get into my over the top character! But the rest of this week, I chose to do other things, like take my kids to a museum, go hiking, practice my music, and more, and I didn't put pressure on myself to wear makeup for any of those things. Even when I went to get a new ID photo for my work, I just put some tinted lip balm on. I still love makeup, and I still get those feelings swatching pretty things, I just don't feel like I NEED to do it or xyz will happen (I will waste my products because they will go bad, people will think I don't take care of myself, people will ask if I am sick, etc). I do love all the advice here about self care hygeine. Getting a shower cap was a game changer for me, that is for sure. I have a lot of fine, long hair, so I tend to need hydrating products to make a wash last rather than dry shampoo, and finding that out and realizing I could put my hair in a shower cap and not have to wash and dry it was super helpful. Now, if I don't have time to wash and dry my hair, I just put a tiny amount of dry shampoo at the roots, a little hair oil or leave in conditioner on the ends, and then twist it up into my shower cap, shower as normal, then brush out my hair when I am out of the shower. No more waiting around for my hair to dry, no more telling myself that there was no point in showering if I don't want to get my hair wet, and so I am more likely to actually treat my body as though it is worthy of care. One of the things I have been doing as well in the same vein of "my body is worthy of care..." is that I have been spending a little more on some products because it is worth that to not be frustrated. Example: I used to only buy the cheapest nail polish, spend a bunch of time painting my nails, then be frustrated when it woukd start chipping before the excess polish even wore off the skin around my nail beds. I started buying fewer colors but slightly more expensive polishes ($5-$10 instead of $1), and now I can make a manicure last a few days or even a week. Which is impressive, I am really tough on my hands. I was frustrated by the dollar store hair care products I was using, starting spending a little more on nice drugstore products instead. I don't need to use as much product when it just works, who knew? I am never going to be the person who goes for the most expensive option because I just don't think it is worth it, but my time and my care are worth using products that do what they are supposed to. I know I regularly need to hear this, and if it makes you feel uncomfortable to hear it, you probably do, too: you are worthy of care and love, just by virtue of existing and being you. No one is more worthy of your care and attention than you are. You have always deserved that love and care, and you always will.
Also, sometimes when I’m not feeling like doing something, I try to find a RUclips video related to it (cleaning, decluttering, shower routine). That tends to get me up to actually do the thing!
You’ve really helped me look at my makeup differently. Every time I start to feel like I need to declutter I make an effort to actually “play” with my makeup whether that’s using it, swatching, making a custom palette etc and the urge goes away ❤
Thank you for being so honest. It’s refreshing to see and hear vulnerability like this. I hope other creators can do their version of this. As for me, I’m neurodivergent, and those points you made are completely relatable to a lot of us… the textures, smells, temperature changes, and so on. ❤ Love from the spooky Pine Barrens in NJ
I hate washing my face at night in the sink. Water EVERYWHERE. I now try and time my daily showers to nighttime for ease of washing my face. I used to be so bad about sleeping in makeup up until around age 38. That feels embarrassing to admit, but it is what it is…
Thank you for your vulnerability in this video, it’s so refreshing to hear how you manage your anxiety with your beauty products and how things aren’t always sunshine and rainbows.
I always recommend that makeup wearers who have some harder nights/days to use milk cleansers with reusable cotton rounds (I like the garnier ones) instead of wipes if you need a low-effort-required/emergency beside the bed makeup removal with no rinse required. I've liked the lancome one (lait galatee comfort) but it is scented, and would mostly be suggesting you find one of these types of products that YOU love! It's a great bridge for those who sleep in makeup sometimes, love wipes and need to swap, and would prefer not to fully cleanse 💖💖💖
Lauren! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and found wisdom with us. You are so insightful and I commend you on the hard work you have done! I totally feel you with so many things, especially the face washing. One thing that's really helped me is washing my face by a method Salli Hughes writes in her book Pretty Honest-using a gel cleanser like Cerave or Cetaphil non-foaming and using on dry skin, then wiping off with a warm wet face cloth. It's less messy, good for days with less or no makeup (most days for me), and is also kind of exfoliating!
I suffer from depression, PTSD, and Bipolar Didorder. I struggle to get in the shower so I ususually shower every other day. I use a cleansing to take my makeup off because of water splashing. I hsve been having difficulty making a satisfying look. I have been working on more self care lately. Thank you for this video
I think you hit the core when you said: I love myself and I want to do that for myself. That's it, Lauren! Hold that thought, because that is so important! It's a great mindset.
The transparency and truths in this video are appreciated. For those of us like myself who deal with depression, I felt everyone of these and thanks for your bravery discussing it. Good luck on your continued journey and I am working on the same things as you are. Love and light
Oh girl, you're not alone in any of it. As for sunscreen, I grew up in the 70's and 80's and the only thing we put on our skin at the beach was baby oil. Fortunately I'm not a sun girl, so I'm mostly inside or in the shade. I've only had a few bad sunburns in my life but I know that's enough to get skin cancer. I'm in my 50's now and it is still a struggle to even think about sunscreen. I know I should wear it in the shade too but old habits die hard. I did buy one recently and am trying to push myself to use it. As for washing your face, you can buy hair scrunchies that are that washcloth material (I've seen them, so they're out there!) and put them just above your wrists and they will catch all the water. No more water dripping down your arms! It's a total game changer because I hated getting water everywhere too. If I can remember the name of the creator, there is someone on either Instagram or Etsy that sells skincare sleeves. But in a pinch, the scrunchies will work. 😊 Depression for me also means having to push myself just to shower. For whatever reason, self care just goes out the window. I've been struggling with depression all of my life and it has worsened in the last 10 years. Hygiene is the first to suffer. Everything is a struggle. So know you are not alone in any of it. And thank you for speaking on it - it lets me know I am not alone either. ❤
Unfortunately putting in some work towards our self care like showering, making better choices with food, moving our bodies , cleaning makeup brushes does actually help us feel better. I widened my window of capacity by focusing on my health
Lauren, thank you ❤ This video was exactly what I needed, you spoke about everything I am going through. The little things, like taking showers everyday, cleaning brushes, and really getting in touch with your passions, are helping the most. The changes are good as well, discovering something new you might like, changing the mindset. I had a really rough the last half a year, I’m slowly getting better but it’s good to know that someone actually understands. People in my personal life have been just brushing me off, they don’t care nor want to learn about depression and it’s really been hard, going through all of this on my own, so I’m going to internet to connect with people who actually care, know and understand, but you are just the first person to say out loud what it’s really like, I appreciate. So thank you once again for being true. Now you have a new subscriber ❤
Love this! Definitely would like to clean my brushes more. The cinema secrets does help me a lot to not mind as much because it’s so fast and works so good.
i’ve seen lots of your videos where you talk about how you realized you dont need to declutter all the time but rather use what you have and it only just dawned on me that i can use that same approach for clothes (which i have a lot of, way more than makeup). i often find myself feeling overwhelmed by my closet but this is giving me the inspiration to clean it up and try and wear what i have and things i may not always reach for. like you said, if it doesn’t work then i know it’s time for it to go. thank you lauren for your insight ❤
Yes 🙌 i think this is so relatable to so many people! I am just coming out of a lot of this as well. Its really so vital to your mental health to take the time to shower and get dressed in something that makes you feel great. I struggle with this on my days off where ill stay in my night clothes all day and feel like crap. Now im working on my sleep schedule and not staying in bed till i absolutely have to get out of bed. Its a struggle. But this to me is why youre the ONLY influncer i trust to reccomend products to me knowing theyre going to be worth the money spent.
Something I use that can be used for several of the things you mentioned is a counter app. I have an entry for showers, face treatments, eye masks, changing my bath towels, putting on makeup. Cleaning makeup brushes, wearing sunscreen, taking walks, etc could all fit very nicely into a counter app. It’s a super easy way to see if you did something relatively recently or maybe you’re a bit overdue for another entry.
Ciao Lauren, I feel the same as you feel about the shower thing. I bought wrist mini towel so I do not get water all over my arms when I double cleans my face at night. Thanks a lot for your videos. I enjoy them and your personality as well.
So happy you posted this. Mental health and the way it can affect daily tasks is not talked about enough especially in the beauty community. It can feel almost shameful. I totally agree with everything you said. You don't have to do it all. Embracing the small things you already enjoy and flipping perspective is the way to make sustainable change.
I always love how you do your makeup!!!😻 just something about the shimmer and the colours that you choose. I especially like how you do your eyeshadow and blush. But in this video the makeup+the hair+the hairband are just an incredible look, I just can't get over it💞
This was such a relatable video. I have also made my face washing and self care more of a priority and I completely hear you about working on having more capacity.
You are officially my best friend as of today. I've always adored you but we just had the best girl talk. Thanks for the pep talk and affirmations. Your contribution to the beauty community and just plain talk is so appreciated. Thank you! Much love💋💚
I struggle with depression and anxiety daily and i relate to these so much. Ive had to buy so many nice shower products like scrubs to entice a shower sometimes i just feel so drained so ill sit on the floor of the shower and just take my time washing myself. Sometimes my husband has to wash my hair for me when im super down. Youre not alone in the struggles 🥰
Such a relatable video, it's so refreshing to hear you talking about this stuff, when a lot of people on social media try to.portray a perfect lifestyle. This is so important to talk about, thank you. I personally have been kind of going through a phase of more minimalist makeup when I used to love complex and colorful looks, and also post partum so I'm home right now not using makeup a lot. I appreciated hearing you talk about your experience and that change is ok. I still love makeup, like you, but I am just in a different stage, and that's ok.
I am 37 and JUST started pushing through to make myself wear sunscreen. I can’t STAND lotions and sunscreens, but to avoid more damage, I’ve found that I really like the super goop every single face sunscreen, I almost don’t notice it at all once it’s on, worth the price for me!
Listennn, I live in Florida, and STILLLLL do not use sunscreen daily. I’m also a texture and smell sensory-issue person. You’re not alone!!! Thank you for your honesty. It’s refreshing
I really needed to see someone discussing all this. Sometimes i start to feel like im awful and the only one who has a problem doing these things even if i know tons of people have mental health problems. You are so brave for sharing your struggles! Thank you 😊 this really made my day.
Love the honesty and the last section about loving what you already have was especially spot on for me! I’m about to clean my brushes! 😂 Thank you for being such a genuine person!
Choose 3 simple things you must do everyday that can be done in 3 minutes. Make the bed, brush teeth, take meds. This was recommended to me by a psychologist. It helps maintain a routine during mental health episodes, which is really important for recovery.
I struggle with getting in the shower, because it’s too much change at one time : clothed then naked, dry then wet, … I don’t like being naked and sometimes feeling the drops of water is overwhelming. I don’t like wearing sunscreen, I HATE feeling something on my face. I found spf that are okay on the body and not horrible on the face. Powdering (just corn starch, I don’t own makeup) on top of it helps a lot, and I’m tempted to buy an actual makeup powder but I don’t know if it would do better in terms of feeling on the skin ? I don’t mind the starch being visible and it’s not that visible actually. I don’t really have access to not-supermarket-spfs, but even they have gone a very long way.
On Amazon i found a 6 pack of 6 inch long towel wristbands. Like for sports and sweating etc. But they are game changers for washing my face. I can't stand the mess (and honestly don't have the energy to deal with it, like i just wouldn't wash my face then) but these keep the water from running down my arms and all over the floor. Must haves. When I'm done I wring them out really well and hang them from a plastic clothespin type thing next to my sink to dry until next time. Wash after a few uses. The big thing is to take that first step towards doing something and the rest will have a chance at least to follow. If i can get the energy to put on those wristbands, then I'll tackle the next step, and see if there's energy for the next after that. But at least my face got washed! And i love skincare and how my face feels after, it's just that darn it, getting started can be overwhelming. ❤
When you said I haven't given myself the chance to love this stuff in a while... oooooh that hit me hard 🤯 I really appreciated this video and this concept and that line just really struck a chord for me, thank you for your insight and for sharing this with us! ❤❤❤
As always, you have spoken right to my heart; it is as if you are speaking directly to me. Mental health and self-care (which includes doing my makeup) are so inter-related. Thank you for sharing so honestly. You have helped me so much.
I feel you about all of this! Some days I get so busy with life and my kids that I don’t remember if I showered or not.. ugh. I also love cleaning my brushes now too and never did before. More mental health/self care videos please!
I don't think the internet will come for you regarding the use of sunscreen, but the sun sure as heck will! As someone who is in her sixties, I can't tell you how important it is to start as young as possible. And you're right, sunscreen has come a long, long way! And BTW, scrunchies on your wrists will help with the water running down your arms when you wash your face.
Thank you for sharing!!! My makeup routine is an escape, a time for me to relax and just enjoy myself and my "inner beauty" as well as feeling my best on the outside! As far as cleaning brushes, it's actually one of my "favorite" things to do, it's so satisfying for me! I know I'm weird
Wow this is such a refreshing & lovely video. Reminds me of Samantha March’s approach to things on here too. You both are such good examples. Ang N has been talking about her emotions & needing a break on YT & how people leave rough comments & how those affect her. I just want to say I appreciate the open honest discussions. We all need to be more accepting & empathetic towards each other. Sending grateful hugs.
Hi Lauren, I struggled with almost everything you mentioned. Turns out they were sensory issues stemming from ASD. not saying you need to look into it, but interesting to see how common these struggles are, and how we don’t normalize conversations around them unless we’re “mental health advocates”. Glad to know you’re having a better relationship w yourself ❤
I’m a therapist and this is such a beautiful video. Self care isn’t just being gentle with ourselves. Self care is also pushing ourselves to do things that we know are good for us even when we don’t want to. Sometimes we have to show ourselves that we’re worth it even if we don’t believe it in the moment 💕
Yes!!! As a fellow therapist I’m so happy Lauren made this video ! Bringing more awareness to something I feel so strongly about (and that comes up a lot in sessions )
“Sometimes we have to show ourselves we’re worth it even if we don’t believe it in the moment.” - this really struck me. Thanks for sharing that with us in the comments!
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@brookekivi this statement brought tears to my eyes.
The aversion to showering is a real struggle when you have a mental illness. It's so refreshing to hear someone else talk about it. I struggle every day. Xo
This makes me feel so much less ashamed...... After a lifetime of trauma, Showering is the first thing to go for me.... It's almost as if it makes me not attractive to men and I like that
Your honesty is so beautiful. I totally feel you about showering. When I’m in a depressive episode, my hygiene is one of the first elements to be limited. I love using a shower cap so I can get in the shower and focus on body care without washing my hair if I don’t have the energy. I can make it a few days without a hair wash but you’re so right, a daily rinse, some body oil, and a bit of lotion do wonders for me, and it isn’t as exhausting as I anticipate. Love to you, lovely!
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I get that too. For me, with a muscle disease & arthritis, it's physically difficult and sometimes exhausting to shower; showering at night instead of in the morning has become a helpful strategy.
Yes. This is me too. ❤❤❤
Realizing I didn’t have to wash my hair every time I shower was legit GAME CHANGING.
Agree that shower caps are game changers for those of us with hair.
Your vulnerability in this video is inspiring. Personal hygiene is both important and SO HARD for the neurodiverse crowd. If you’ve never understood why some people don’t shower or hate showering… consider yourself BLESSED. Anything I can do to improve my shower experience helps. The smells and textures and the idea that I’m paying attention to my body, just for me. No one else.
Thank you so much for this video!!!!!! It’s really brave of you to be honest about these things on the internet! I am just climbing out of some of these places, the not showering often and all. I honestly started pretending like ridiculous scenarios, like I’m an ancient queen or goddess bathing and doing luxurious exotic treatments. Yes, it’s Neutrogena, but not in my fantasy 😂
This is what I have to do when I come out of an episode, your not alone in this. A phsyc nurse gave me the idea to try it as it helps other patients she worked with.
Wow thank you both, i'll try this!
Thank you for sharing! I'll try to remember this for the next time my depression tries to get the better of me
Omg I do this too! My tree hut scrub becomes a ritual potion lol
It’s been a bad week & I was planning on not showering tonight, until you got to that point & I realized exactly what I was doing. Now i’m getting ready to go shower. Thank you for calling me out without knowing you were calling me out.
Lauren, hearing you discuss this “at your age” (I know that sounds condescending but I’m honestly not being condescending) is amazing!! I’ll be 46 this year and I have grown children and grandchildren and I’ve only just figured these things out in the last few years. We learn so much as we age and for you to have figured this out so soon is amazing and leaves you open to learning more about how to be happily you!😘
Oh Gurl! When you know.., you know! Im choosing to vacuum and mop my floors, and cleaning my closet! Bc I’m putting off hopping in the shower right THIS moment! I hate having to think about drying my hair, and being all damp getting out of the shower! It totally feels like a HUGE chore!
Such a great video- I have suffered with chronic depression and anxiety as well as being a mental health therapist who is very good working with my clients but not taking my own advice. I don’t know what it is about taking showers, washing brushes and even putting on makeup when I am not working. All of these activities make me so happy once I start them but taking that first step seems so impossible sometimes. On the outside you can look fine and put together even when you are not showering every day and I don’t think a lot of people realize that. So it can be easy to hide that low lever of depression that people don’t see you struggling with.
I hope this is understandable and helpful.
the shower thing is so real!!! i hate feeling wet (heh) and have always just not loved showering. but i realized showering more regularly has helped my body acne and kp TREMENDOUSLY. things i’ve found that help: finding shower products i love using and!!! super absorbent towels as well as using a hair dryer on my body. sounds weird but gets me feeling dry quickly so i can put my clothes on and feel comfy and clean ! seriously y’all. it’s so great to figure out what it is in particular that you hate about something and then finding sometimes unconventional solutions. similarly- i would let dishes pile up in my sink and then i realized i did it because i didn’t tlike touching the dirty dishes. solution? GLOVES! literally (like not even hyperbole) changed my life. good luck to anyone struggling and if anyone is reading this pls share any similar epiphanies y’all have had because maybe i will learn something helpful ❤❤❤❤❤
I struggle with BPD, PTSD, SAD- I am a disabled veteran of the USAF. I totally hear you & understand what you are saying.
I have been a sub of yours for a few years. You are looking so good! You can see that you are feeling better & prioritizing YOU.
I really look forward to you vids. They lift me up & want to put me first too.
I use a walker & it is really hard- totally easy to feel bad on myself. I get what you are saying.
Keep up all your growth! Its ok to have bad days- just make it a priority to love yourself!❤
Thank you for your service. I hope you find peace, comfort, and contentment.
I second what dizzieblonde had to say, 110%!
I have a bunch of mental health issues and am also a disabled human. Using my walker has been freeing and I try to focus on that. Being a human is hard, but finding ways to take care of ourself shouldn't have to be 💕
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I can struggle with the shower sometimes too when my anxiety is up. I found that if I shower with just a candle or small light on instead of having all of the bright/harsh lights it helps so much.
Also, I NEED to know what eyeshadow you have on in this video. It's so pretty!!
OMG YESSSS a candle and no lights ❤
Love your honesty. Also face wash wrist cuffs from Amazon are a game changer for splashing water everywhere and getting your arms and clothes wet.
I ordered face wash wrist cuffs yesterday and I can't wait to try them!
As someone who is nd & struggles with bipolar, I completely relate to ALL of this 😅💜*also... As someone who used to only wear makeup as a creative outlet to take pics, YOU got me into actually wearing makeup daily! I fell in love with neutrals & sparkly one & done shades. It completely blew my mind ngl. That's all down to you 🫶
To expand on your last suggestion about your thoughts changing about your makeup, I definitely can relate to your point. I was getting lost during the surge of minimalist content and declutters. I was getting rid of stuff because I told myself I had too many duplicates or you don’t wear this enough or I only need so many. Although some cases it’s true, I also felt like I stripped too much where makeup wasn’t what it was for me. Now I feel true resurgence of why I love make up. For me, I love variety, textures, color, techniques, changing my look from day to day to fit my mood. I also like to be apart of the beauty community space here on RUclips a lot and like to buy certain influencers makeup releases to support and feel a part of something. To me make up is an art form. Sometimes I felt bad before spending like an 1.5-2hrs doing my makeup and hair to not really do much for the day. But for me, it’s a time of loving myself, self expression, and just having fun and to feel good. I’ll even wear a more done up look to the grocery store. Idc anymore. So while other people may think it’s crazy, for me it brings value. My mind set now is not “do I need this” but instead “does this add value to my life and is it worth investing in”. This has helped a lot and has allowed myself permission to explore and try something new. Since then I’ve finally gave myself sweep bangs again after a long time of debating, wearing brighter colors and patterns. It’s helped a lot and I feel the most like myself in awhile. It’s true mindset is everything in order to make changes. Thanks for sharing your struggles❤
Side note of the showering topic, I always play music while showering like Lofi music and I think that really changes the game. It puts you in zen mode
One of the most important things I learned (and honestly had to work hard to internalize) for my mental health is:
"Anything worth doing is worth doing badly."
I'll leave it here for anyone who might need to see it. 💚
I've never seen that phrasing for that sentiment, but it's catchy. thanks for posting it.
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@@fourducksoriginal you're very welcome. One of the best memes that ever graced my Facebook haha
i've seen that before too! for hygiene routines, i always think doing it half assed is better than not doing it at all. if i don't feel like a full shower, washing my hair or just doing a quick rinse is better than nothing. if i don't feel like doing my full oral hygiene routine, a quick brush of my teeth is better than nothing
Thank you so much for talking about this and posting it!!! It’s worth mentioning too that these things take time and it’s not like you tackled all 7 of these at once. You didn’t start them all on the same day. That can feel like such a hurdle. I too remind myself to start with one thing, take a step. And some days I can’t and that’s ok too. I appreciate your vulnerability and that you’ve not only taken time to reflect on these things for yourself but that you shared them with us. It’s encouraging! Way to go Lauren! You’re beautiful inside and out!!
You really are a beautiful soul! Not sure why my gut told me you need to get past this hurdles and just tackle them all! Like I said. A beautiful soul.
You know something - I REALLY needed this video. Everything you said is something I can really relate to. Thank you so much for saying all you’ve said - it has made a difference. At least I know it has for me & all the rest of us here who appreciate your genuine compassion. You’re a true blessing!
For some reason, I also can really struggle with getting into the shower. Something that's been really helping me is having a cup of coffee to enjoy before and in the shower. Idk what it is with the anticipation or just the build up to get in there but warm drinks and a podcast have been doing wonders for my pre-shower routine
I thought not showering every day was my dirty little secret 😊 I started working fully from home about 5 years ago and I stopped showering every day. When the pandemic hit it got worse since I’d go days at a time without leaving my apartment, especially in the winter. I would simply forget to shower sometimes or just keep putting it off until it got so late that I would decide to wait until the next morning. I know a big part of it is that I live alone and I don’t like silence, so I always have to have a show or podcast playing during all non-working, non-sleeping hours. Taking a shower is a long stretch of time where I can’t distract myself from the silence with any media, especially if it’s a long shower where I’m washing my hair or shaving. I keep Parks & Rec playing on my phone on the counter so I can at least hear it after I turn the water off, which comforts me. It’s strange how the loneliness that I sometimes feel plays into my reluctance to shower at times. But I do love being showered and feeling clean, even if I don’t love the process. I try to buy nice smelling body washes to make the experience more enjoyable. Right now I’m showering at least every 3rd day since that’s how often I wash my hair. And then the rest of the days it mostly depends on whether I went to the gym or not.
I understand and relate so much. 🩷💘🩷
This is the realest video. I’ve never been a fan of showering, my skin literally burns afterwards but I’ve saved for a new bathroom and am now trying new products, same with brushing my teeth… peach toothpaste for the win!
LAUREN ❤️ I’m only on the second habit so far, but this is already so incredibly relatable. Thank you so much for this video! Sending you a virtual hug ❤️
Thank you for this. I am so glad you decided to post this video. You are creating such a beautiful space on your channel. A space of acceptance, understanding and empathy. You deserve all the love. 💚💚💚
For me this list is completely accurate with how I have been lately! The only struggle I don’t have is sun screen but you can replace that with washing the dishes or folding and putting away my clothes. Then I put off the dishes by saying- ooohhh can’t run appliances from noon- 8pm. Thanks so much for sharing such deeply personal issues with depression. ❤️❤️❤️
My other favorite beauty Yter is HLP and this year she has really come into herself and that has refined her channel in a way that always brings something to the table worth talking about / considering. Videos like this, Lauren, align so well with your passion and path. Keep going! (And no need to apologize☺️)
Really enjoyed this video coming at the perfect time. I’ve had lung disease my whole life, and worked as a nurse for 30 years in the Pediatric ICU. I was diagnosed 20 years ago with PTSD. Learning how to cope with self care is essential. We all have things we have to overcome, and I enjoyed hearing your thoughts. We don’t need to be ashamed about this. I am 65, and currently am having health issues, which is triggering my mental health. Makeup is great therapy, so is my work as an artist. I am active physically-just got my second black belt in Taekwondo. Just want to say how much I love your channel! And, as we age, showering is not recommended every day-itbstrips away all your skins protective barrier. I am trying to be better about body oils and creams. But I skip out on a shower about once a week unless I’ve been to TaeKwonDo-then it’s a necessity.
A lot of this resonated with me. I don’t have any particular issues but I’m a later bloomer who needed some maturity to get to know myself. 1. My skin feels too hot and dry without sunscreen so using it is a comfort thing for me. You may like it! 2. I live in an old house in the north so getting out of the shower is my issue. It’s cold when I get out in the winter and the A/C is freezing me in the summer so I hate to shower. I block the vent in the summer (I don’t know why it took me so many years to think of doing that) and I got a towel warmer and it’s a lot better now. You can get one shaped like a trash can with a lid and the towels are toasty. I had also been forcing myself to do the spa things, like scrubs, but I stopped. I really just want to get in and out quickly. I bought scrubbing mitts to get the job done quickly. I hate having to lotion up and I have dry skin so I’m experimenting with moisturizing mists or just skipping it sometimes. I lotion any part that’s visible when I get dressed. 4. I use a washcloth to clean my face. No drips and I hold the warm washcloth on my face for a minute and it melts the balm. I have some washcloths only for my face. I bought them in a dark color so makeup stains aren’t bothering me. 7. I don’t have a lot of makeup so I get fomo. I’ve tried to change my mindset about things. I now call my limited jewelry my signature look so people kind of expect to see me in it. I change it whenever. I call my clothes my uniform for the season. I wear a very small selection and I’ve actually had people say that it’s a good idea and freeing. I get a few things that really speak to me. I’m not really a minimalist though. I have no rules about quantity. I don’t get anything I’m not thrilled to own. This means I don’t ignore many items. Some of these changes took time and some clicked right away.
Kudos to you for taking your walks and wearing sunscreen! It's wonderful self-care to take time to enjoy moving your body and protecting your skin. You're worth the effort!
I'm so guilty of not using sunscreen consistently until recently. Love the one from Apostrophe. Then I love Sun Bum face mist for reapplying. Both work beautifully.
I was diagnosed with ADHD about a yr ago. I get horrible anxiety where I just freeze... And doing the littlest things (like jumping in the shower) is debilitating. Been going through a rough depression lately... But I've been forcing myself to shower almost daily, and to do my makeup almost daily. It really does help. Love these vids ❤
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I love Apostrophe’s sunscreen! I’m surprised I haven’t heard more people talking about how good it is 🤷🏻♀️
This was a much needed video - I admit that I have a small hoarding issue with makeup - I have too much but I'm working on using it up and not buying as much. I have firced myself to date when I start using an eyeshadow palette and consistently using it for 3 months and then throwing it out. You touched on one issue that I feel is almost a generational thing - self care - showers (baths), skin lotion and all that stuff can be overwhelming because it takes time if you do it right and I was brought up in a house where taking self time was considered selfish if you were in the bathroom for more than 15 minutes so even though sometimes it feels exhausting - I have given myself permission to take time for myself and I always feel better afterwards.
With washing my face I absolutely hate water running down my wrists and arms. I bought a bunch of wrist sweat bands on amazon and it makes such a difference! I can tolerate it so much more now.
Putting a separate face wash in the shower really helps when trying to do skincare, and not washing your hair everytime you shower really cuts down on having to feel like every shower is a chore, depression sucks but hygiene is necessary to feel better about one’s self, much love hope you get your spark back❤
Also there’s glitter sunscreen to make it feel more fun and I highly recommend the olay Shea whipped body wash or the Olay with hyloronic acid body wash, both help w dry skin and not having to always feel like you need to use lotion, I say make everything feel more luxurious or fun and it helps the habits fall in place
A luxe shower cap helps with that too. 😊
Thank you for mentioning the shower part! Sometimes I feel alone in that. Having dry skin and eczema, I feel like it's a huge chore every time I shower. I have to use a rich prescription moisturizer all over my body within minutes of exiting or I'll dry up like a mummy. I also have a dry scalp and eczema there too, so it's dry like the Sahara desert (and itchy) after I've washed my hair. I envy people who can just take a quick shower, get out and get dressed with no hassle.
This was so helpful, I’m struggling with basics right now my mother just passed and I feel so out of my normal. Like I’m struggling to take care of myself. I have so many others to care for I just don’t have the energy for myself. The small things really help me push through. Washing my face even just having clean hair is so nice. Thanks for all you do ❤❤❤
I'm so sorry for the departure of your mother, may she rest in peace. Of course nothing feels normal; for most of us, our mothers are the first thing we ever knew or remembered, and we have never known life without their existence. I wish you peace in your adjustment to this part of life without her earthly presence. God bless you
I’m sending you my love!! ❤️❤️❤️
@@LaurenMaeBeauty thank you
This, all this. Everyday...ME! These are all challenges I face as well. Sunscreen every darn day has been so hard to learn, and the simple act of showering has taken so much energy.
I've allowed myself to get into shower products that smell good and are great for my hair. It's made me more excited to take care of myself 😊
I'm a newer subscriber that has always appreciated your fun personality and sense of humor, but I have to commend you on your honesty and vulnerability in this video. I've dealt with these same feelings and I'm sure i will in the future. Pushing through, getting cute and having fun with my makeup always seems to help but its so hard to remember that when you're in the eye of the storm. Thanks so much for being brave and sharing with us. I'm an even bigger Lauren fan after this video! Sending lots of love ❤
Very rare to find someone speaking so honestly online these days, kudos to you. Hell even the shower thing is waaay more common than we think in this hygiene olympics society of ours.
Btw you are absolutely stunning, geez.
I’m really slacking in the shower and sunscreen department. I have treatment resistant depression so that doesn’t help. Great great video Lauren!!🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰
You hit the nail on the head on many of these for me!! Thank u so much for using ur space to take time and be real with us. I truly appreciate it! Not many people are confident enough to speak on these topics.
One harmful habit I've quit is using filters. This is the real me in my photos, imperfections and all ❤
Wow.... Absolutely shocked how similar we are, and I really didn't think that there were people out there like me because no one wants to talk about these serious issues but You having the courage to just open up and talk about this really helps me😊 I really appreciate you, your honesty, and your uplifting comments❤
They truly mean the world
Stay beautiful girl You got this, I'll be here watching ❤️❤️
The types of things you’re describing are so relatable, even if the specifics vary. Love this concept for a video, love your honesty 💖
Due to my Fibromyalgia showering is not a daily thing sadly but when I do I have a brilliant bluetooth speaker on full and have a great sing song in there and love it. Also someone suggested once having rock salt and hold it over your head and let it wash over you and the negative ions make you feel so much better.
Gimme the eyeshadow. Gimme the hair. Gimme the skin.
Sharing this means the world to someone who deals with intense mental illness. Thank you for the vulnerability.
Wow. The tone of this video was so perfect. No shame. Great tips for those of us that struggle ❤You are an inspiration!
Everyone in the beauty space needs to hear this. Awesome video! ❤❤
👏❤ I also has a hard time getting into sunscreen! I have been trying the Unseen Screen and the First Aid Beauty one.. just seems so hard for me to layer it with my skin care and then my makeup routine. Slowly getting there.
Love this honest open discussion. Mental health is such a hurdle and having content with some encouragement, it really is wonderful.
I hate washing my face for the same reason. I found these things on Temu that you put on your wrists when you wash your face, and they absorb the water. It actually really helps. The water doesn’t run down your arms, so it keeps a lot of water off the counter.
I appreciate you for saying a lot of this Lauren. I've been struggling the last few years with my mental health and showers are an issue. It's embarrassing! I'm not stinky either 😊 but it's just not something I can do everyday. I've also become mostly locked in my house. I wasn't able to phase out of the lockdown unfortunately. I had just gotten out of a traumatic experience when all of that began so it was oddly a relief to me to be shut away from the world. I am working on myself with my therapist, so hopefully I can get back to some "normalcy" soon. I still love doing my makeup and skincare, I'm just the only one that really sees it.
I just wanted to thank you for making me feel a little less weird. ❤❤❤
Thank you for this video Lauren! And thank you both as a viewer and creator, for speaking on your mental health. Not only is it lovely to know I’m not alone but it makes space for others to feel less alone too and that is magical. ❤❤❤
Literally every single point applies to me lately. Saving this video to reference over and over! Thank you!!
It is great to see how in touch you are with your actions and habits and then identifying how they impact your feelings. I really relate to so much of what you observed in yourself. Thank you - very helpful and motivating!!
I was using makeup as my creative outlet during the times we all were supposed to stay home. I am gradually returning to my prepandemic makeup levels, which is just wearing it to perform, for special occasions, and to help me build characters. For a while I was trying to hang on to the makeup time even while I added back my older activities, but I started feeling resentful about forcing myself to do makeup every day, so now it is just for when I want to. I am performing today, and I am looking forward to taking an hour to build a dramatic look to help me get into my over the top character! But the rest of this week, I chose to do other things, like take my kids to a museum, go hiking, practice my music, and more, and I didn't put pressure on myself to wear makeup for any of those things. Even when I went to get a new ID photo for my work, I just put some tinted lip balm on. I still love makeup, and I still get those feelings swatching pretty things, I just don't feel like I NEED to do it or xyz will happen (I will waste my products because they will go bad, people will think I don't take care of myself, people will ask if I am sick, etc).
I do love all the advice here about self care hygeine. Getting a shower cap was a game changer for me, that is for sure. I have a lot of fine, long hair, so I tend to need hydrating products to make a wash last rather than dry shampoo, and finding that out and realizing I could put my hair in a shower cap and not have to wash and dry it was super helpful. Now, if I don't have time to wash and dry my hair, I just put a tiny amount of dry shampoo at the roots, a little hair oil or leave in conditioner on the ends, and then twist it up into my shower cap, shower as normal, then brush out my hair when I am out of the shower. No more waiting around for my hair to dry, no more telling myself that there was no point in showering if I don't want to get my hair wet, and so I am more likely to actually treat my body as though it is worthy of care.
One of the things I have been doing as well in the same vein of "my body is worthy of care..." is that I have been spending a little more on some products because it is worth that to not be frustrated. Example: I used to only buy the cheapest nail polish, spend a bunch of time painting my nails, then be frustrated when it woukd start chipping before the excess polish even wore off the skin around my nail beds. I started buying fewer colors but slightly more expensive polishes ($5-$10 instead of $1), and now I can make a manicure last a few days or even a week. Which is impressive, I am really tough on my hands. I was frustrated by the dollar store hair care products I was using, starting spending a little more on nice drugstore products instead. I don't need to use as much product when it just works, who knew? I am never going to be the person who goes for the most expensive option because I just don't think it is worth it, but my time and my care are worth using products that do what they are supposed to.
I know I regularly need to hear this, and if it makes you feel uncomfortable to hear it, you probably do, too: you are worthy of care and love, just by virtue of existing and being you. No one is more worthy of your care and attention than you are. You have always deserved that love and care, and you always will.
Also, sometimes when I’m not feeling like doing something, I try to find a RUclips video related to it (cleaning, decluttering, shower routine). That tends to get me up to actually do the thing!
You’ve really helped me look at my makeup differently. Every time I start to feel like I need to declutter I make an effort to actually “play” with my makeup whether that’s using it, swatching, making a custom palette etc and the urge goes away ❤
Thank you for being so honest. It’s refreshing to see and hear vulnerability like this.
I hope other creators can do their version of this.
As for me, I’m neurodivergent, and those points you made are completely relatable to a lot of us… the textures, smells, temperature changes, and so on. ❤
Love from the spooky Pine Barrens in NJ
I hate washing my face at night in the sink. Water EVERYWHERE. I now try and time my daily showers to nighttime for ease of washing my face. I used to be so bad about sleeping in makeup up until around age 38. That feels embarrassing to admit, but it is what it is…
Thank you for your vulnerability in this video, it’s so refreshing to hear how you manage your anxiety with your beauty products and how things aren’t always sunshine and rainbows.
I always recommend that makeup wearers who have some harder nights/days to use milk cleansers with reusable cotton rounds (I like the garnier ones) instead of wipes if you need a low-effort-required/emergency beside the bed makeup removal with no rinse required. I've liked the lancome one (lait galatee comfort) but it is scented, and would mostly be suggesting you find one of these types of products that YOU love! It's a great bridge for those who sleep in makeup sometimes, love wipes and need to swap, and would prefer not to fully cleanse 💖💖💖
There are so many I wish I could express, but I don't want to get into the heaviness of it and cry even more... just THANK YOU!
Lauren! Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and found wisdom with us. You are so insightful and I commend you on the hard work you have done! I totally feel you with so many things, especially the face washing. One thing that's really helped me is washing my face by a method Salli Hughes writes in her book Pretty Honest-using a gel cleanser like Cerave or Cetaphil non-foaming and using on dry skin, then wiping off with a warm wet face cloth. It's less messy, good for days with less or no makeup (most days for me), and is also kind of exfoliating!
Omg thank u for sharing this lauren❤ most of us definitely r right there with u❤
I suffer from depression, PTSD, and Bipolar Didorder. I struggle to get in the shower so I ususually shower every other day. I use a cleansing to take my makeup off because of water splashing. I hsve been having difficulty making a satisfying look. I have been working on more self care lately. Thank you for this video
I think you hit the core when you said: I love myself and I want to do that for myself.
That's it, Lauren! Hold that thought, because that is so important! It's a great mindset.
The transparency and truths in this video are appreciated. For those of us like myself who deal with depression, I felt everyone of these and thanks for your bravery discussing it. Good luck on your continued journey and I am working on the same things as you are. Love and light
Oh girl, you're not alone in any of it. As for sunscreen, I grew up in the 70's and 80's and the only thing we put on our skin at the beach was baby oil. Fortunately I'm not a sun girl, so I'm mostly inside or in the shade. I've only had a few bad sunburns in my life but I know that's enough to get skin cancer. I'm in my 50's now and it is still a struggle to even think about sunscreen. I know I should wear it in the shade too but old habits die hard. I did buy one recently and am trying to push myself to use it. As for washing your face, you can buy hair scrunchies that are that washcloth material (I've seen them, so they're out there!) and put them just above your wrists and they will catch all the water. No more water dripping down your arms! It's a total game changer because I hated getting water everywhere too. If I can remember the name of the creator, there is someone on either Instagram or Etsy that sells skincare sleeves. But in a pinch, the scrunchies will work. 😊 Depression for me also means having to push myself just to shower. For whatever reason, self care just goes out the window. I've been struggling with depression all of my life and it has worsened in the last 10 years. Hygiene is the first to suffer. Everything is a struggle. So know you are not alone in any of it. And thank you for speaking on it - it lets me know I am not alone either. ❤
Unfortunately putting in some work towards our self care like showering, making better choices with food, moving our bodies , cleaning makeup brushes does actually help us feel better. I widened my window of capacity by focusing on my health
Lauren, thank you ❤ This video was exactly what I needed, you spoke about everything I am going through. The little things, like taking showers everyday, cleaning brushes, and really getting in touch with your passions, are helping the most. The changes are good as well, discovering something new you might like, changing the mindset. I had a really rough the last half a year, I’m slowly getting better but it’s good to know that someone actually understands. People in my personal life have been just brushing me off, they don’t care nor want to learn about depression and it’s really been hard, going through all of this on my own, so I’m going to internet to connect with people who actually care, know and understand, but you are just the first person to say out loud what it’s really like, I appreciate. So thank you once again for being true. Now you have a new subscriber ❤
Love this! Definitely would like to clean my brushes more. The cinema secrets does help me a lot to not mind as much because it’s so fast and works so good.
i’ve seen lots of your videos where you talk about how you realized you dont need to declutter all the time but rather use what you have and it only just dawned on me that i can use that same approach for clothes (which i have a lot of, way more than makeup). i often find myself feeling overwhelmed by my closet but this is giving me the inspiration to clean it up and try and wear what i have and things i may not always reach for. like you said, if it doesn’t work then i know it’s time for it to go. thank you lauren for your insight ❤
Yes 🙌 i think this is so relatable to so many people! I am just coming out of a lot of this as well. Its really so vital to your mental health to take the time to shower and get dressed in something that makes you feel great. I struggle with this on my days off where ill stay in my night clothes all day and feel like crap. Now im working on my sleep schedule and not staying in bed till i absolutely have to get out of bed. Its a struggle. But this to me is why youre the ONLY influncer i trust to reccomend products to me knowing theyre going to be worth the money spent.
Also, Dr. jart has amazing sunscreen that works so well under makeup, and their face washes have changed my life!
Something I use that can be used for several of the things you mentioned is a counter app. I have an entry for showers, face treatments, eye masks, changing my bath towels, putting on makeup. Cleaning makeup brushes, wearing sunscreen, taking walks, etc could all fit very nicely into a counter app. It’s a super easy way to see if you did something relatively recently or maybe you’re a bit overdue for another entry.
I love this idea! Is there any particular one you'd recommend?❤
Ciao Lauren, I feel the same as you feel about the shower thing. I bought wrist mini towel so I do not get water all over my arms when I double cleans my face at night. Thanks a lot for your videos. I enjoy them and your personality as well.
I was gonna suggest this! Exercise wrist bands work SO well to stop the water from getting all over your arms :)
@@TheMunchkinita2509 Yes it works well. It also remind me of the wrist towel used by the tennis players in the 70's 80's
So happy you posted this. Mental health and the way it can affect daily tasks is not talked about enough especially in the beauty community. It can feel almost shameful. I totally agree with everything you said. You don't have to do it all. Embracing the small things you already enjoy and flipping perspective is the way to make sustainable change.
I always love how you do your makeup!!!😻 just something about the shimmer and the colours that you choose. I especially like how you do your eyeshadow and blush. But in this video the makeup+the hair+the hairband are just an incredible look, I just can't get over it💞
This was such a relatable video. I have also made my face washing and self care more of a priority and I completely hear you about working on having more capacity.
Please never feel embarrassed because you have the power with your platform to make others feel like they aren't alone! 🤞
You are officially my best friend as of today. I've always adored you but we just had the best girl talk. Thanks for the pep talk and affirmations. Your contribution to the beauty community and just plain talk is so appreciated. Thank you! Much love💋💚
great video Lauren! Many of these topics resonated with me. I love seeing beauty related videos that aren't directly tied to products/reviews ❤
I struggle with depression and anxiety daily and i relate to these so much. Ive had to buy so many nice shower products like scrubs to entice a shower sometimes i just feel so drained so ill sit on the floor of the shower and just take my time washing myself. Sometimes my husband has to wash my hair for me when im super down. Youre not alone in the struggles 🥰
Such a relatable video, it's so refreshing to hear you talking about this stuff, when a lot of people on social media try to.portray a perfect lifestyle. This is so important to talk about, thank you. I personally have been kind of going through a phase of more minimalist makeup when I used to love complex and colorful looks, and also post partum so I'm home right now not using makeup a lot. I appreciated hearing you talk about your experience and that change is ok. I still love makeup, like you, but I am just in a different stage, and that's ok.
I am 37 and JUST started pushing through to make myself wear sunscreen. I can’t STAND lotions and sunscreens, but to avoid more damage, I’ve found that I really like the super goop every single face sunscreen, I almost don’t notice it at all once it’s on, worth the price for me!
Listennn, I live in Florida, and STILLLLL do not use sunscreen daily. I’m also a texture and smell sensory-issue person. You’re not alone!!! Thank you for your honesty. It’s refreshing
Girl, a clean foundation brush makes me feel good every time!
I really needed to see someone discussing all this. Sometimes i start to feel like im awful and the only one who has a problem doing these things even if i know tons of people have mental health problems. You are so brave for sharing your struggles! Thank you 😊 this really made my day.
Love the honesty and the last section about loving what you already have was especially spot on for me! I’m about to clean my brushes! 😂 Thank you for being such a genuine person!
Choose 3 simple things you must do everyday that can be done in 3 minutes. Make the bed, brush teeth, take meds. This was recommended to me by a psychologist. It helps maintain a routine during mental health episodes, which is really important for recovery.
I struggle with getting in the shower, because it’s too much change at one time : clothed then naked, dry then wet, … I don’t like being naked and sometimes feeling the drops of water is overwhelming. I don’t like wearing sunscreen, I HATE feeling something on my face. I found spf that are okay on the body and not horrible on the face. Powdering (just corn starch, I don’t own makeup) on top of it helps a lot, and I’m tempted to buy an actual makeup powder but I don’t know if it would do better in terms of feeling on the skin ? I don’t mind the starch being visible and it’s not that visible actually.
I don’t really have access to not-supermarket-spfs, but even they have gone a very long way.
On Amazon i found a 6 pack of 6 inch long towel wristbands. Like for sports and sweating etc. But they are game changers for washing my face. I can't stand the mess (and honestly don't have the energy to deal with it, like i just wouldn't wash my face then) but these keep the water from running down my arms and all over the floor. Must haves. When I'm done I wring them out really well and hang them from a plastic clothespin type thing next to my sink to dry until next time. Wash after a few uses. The big thing is to take that first step towards doing something and the rest will have a chance at least to follow. If i can get the energy to put on those wristbands, then I'll tackle the next step, and see if there's energy for the next after that. But at least my face got washed! And i love skincare and how my face feels after, it's just that darn it, getting started can be overwhelming. ❤
When you said I haven't given myself the chance to love this stuff in a while... oooooh that hit me hard 🤯 I really appreciated this video and this concept and that line just really struck a chord for me, thank you for your insight and for sharing this with us! ❤❤❤
As always, you have spoken right to my heart; it is as if you are speaking directly to me. Mental health and self-care (which includes doing my makeup) are so inter-related. Thank you for sharing so honestly. You have helped me so much.
Girl! Omg, I thought I was the only one who felt this way about showering!
This is relatable to my own life, I thank you for sharing and being vulnerable, you are truly a solid human being
I simply love watching all your videos. They are always so helpful and interesting. Just like listening to a friend.
Love from Quebec, Canada
I feel you about all of this! Some days I get so busy with life and my kids that I don’t remember if I showered or not.. ugh. I also love cleaning my brushes now too and never did before. More mental health/self care videos please!
I don't think the internet will come for you regarding the use of sunscreen, but the sun sure as heck will! As someone who is in her sixties, I can't tell you how important it is to start as young as possible. And you're right, sunscreen has come a long, long way! And BTW, scrunchies on your wrists will help with the water running down your arms when you wash your face.
Thank you for sharing!!! My makeup routine is an escape, a time for me to relax and just enjoy myself and my "inner beauty" as well as feeling my best on the outside! As far as cleaning brushes, it's actually one of my "favorite" things to do, it's so satisfying for me! I know I'm weird
Wow this is such a refreshing & lovely video. Reminds me of Samantha March’s approach to things on here too. You both are such good examples. Ang N has been talking about her emotions & needing a break on YT & how people leave rough comments & how those affect her. I just want to say I appreciate the open honest discussions. We all need to be more accepting & empathetic towards each other. Sending grateful hugs.
Thank you for your vulnerability here, I have never struggled with these or mental health, but I appreciate hearing the other side.
Hi Lauren, I struggled with almost everything you mentioned. Turns out they were sensory issues stemming from ASD. not saying you need to look into it, but interesting to see how common these struggles are, and how we don’t normalize conversations around them unless we’re “mental health advocates”. Glad to know you’re having a better relationship w yourself ❤