I got shocked when I re-watched a TV show that I loved as a child because the girl that I thought were absolutely gorgeous now just seems sooo normal to me. Then I realized we've been kinda brain washed with the edited appearance of people these days.
Maybe your tastes just changed. Like how when you watch series you know from younger years, with the mains being teens, you may notice their parents more now xD I also would like to know the name of the show please
I've noticed this effect is very strong with K-pop. My friends who are into K-pop stars downplay their own attractiveness to an obscene degree. It's quite sad actually
Kpop is made for rotting your brain and making the general public obsessed with unreal looking people who don't know they exist. No net positive music or effect has ever come out of that pedophilic industry ever. Sadly people are so consumed with the Korean and Asian wave these days.
@@bethany3242yeppp and the stylists know so many makeup tricks that help to make the girls more beautiful (than they already were, ofc) for the CAMERA. lots of tricks that we, regular people, wouldn’t be able to do on a daily basis to look perfect. we look human, kpop idols look like goddesses, because they are practically DESIGNED to do so. their companies do everything to make them look like perfect goddesses in a different realm. personally i love sewing kpop idols’ instagrams where they post everyday photos without makeup and in their comfortable outfits and stuff. it’s good to look human and it’s good to be able to be human
Never found k pop stars attractive. They look so artificial and too skinny. They get way too much work done on their face and the women have the body of a 12 year old boy. Nothing more attractive then a natural beauty with a strong healthy body
Also seeing an attractive person irl definitely has a stronger reaction, so if you're losing that sense of beauty around you, you are not even truly benefitting because undoubtedly seeing a photo of a beautiful person is not NEARLY as exciting for the brain. I think that this is a total negative for the general population.
can confirm this as a male with fairly exotic looking face, blue eyes that are bit upward turn, dark hair, very prominent cheekbones, strong jawline etc. dating apps not that much luck really. IRL the reactions are quite fun sometimes, and people definitely look in a way. also now that im actually in very very good shape, it probably adds to that phenomen. i remember people looking me and my ex girlfriend quite a lot in the past. she had also very prominent cheekbones and strong facial features, quite tall for a woman and she had and still probaly has nice body :D. I didnt back then lol.
Margot Robbie is the best example of being called 'mid' by some internet men because they see too many photoshopped women online. Edit. Oh wow. So much replies and likes I cannot keep up😆. I still believe Margot is very beautiful though but after reading some replies, I understand why some find her mid. But here's my take, Margot has these physical traits: Tall, slim, great figure, button nose, beautiful eyes, nice eyebrows, nice jawline, good cheekbones, symmetrical face, nice teeth and smile. Which a lot of people do not have. So for me she is still above the rest.
Tbh, I think you’re correct but a lot of it has to do with preference. I have no sort of attraction to Margot Robbie, but I do know that she is attractive. (If that makes sense)
its more of a retaliation tactic in protest over her movie (barbie). These men were offended by the movie commentary, so they resorted to attacking her appearance. oh and that one viral podcast clip probably played a big part too. One guy in it said that he went to Russia or Ukraine (i dont remember) and that women over there on average are way more attractive than in the US, so he made the comment that even someone like Margot Robbie will be considered mid or 4/10 when compared to those women.
When I first saw her I was stunned by her beauty. Strangely the more I look at her the more "mid" she is, maybe my face pool is richer nowadays so that I appreciate attractive people who are not blonde and blue-eyed.
When I look all the retouched model pictures online it starts to feel normal to look THAT way and when I look at myself in the mirror something feels wrong about my appearance. But the more I am just out with regular people the more I feel good about the way I look. Also I noticed no one else seems to be holding me to the standard that I was for myself when being over exposed to these images.
The more I look in the mirror the more I feel okay about my looks. Not looking in the mirror and seeing all the manipulated bodies and then quickly looking at mine will make me feel not human and my brain registers different slopes and skeletal landmarks. Like what they call violin hips and hip dips. I have to take time to wiggle around and see that they have just made poses erasing those landmarks. Bending forward erases hip dips and gives the uninterrupted curves. Standing straight they are noticeable and standing tensing your legs make them very pronounced. It is all tricks.
Any physical attraction goes out the window when they possess any form of toxic, ignorant or vapid personality/behaviors. Average looking people also become more attractive when they possess certain favorable personalities/behaviors.
Yes, like there was a girl in my class that when I thought that she would be insufferable I thought she was just an average girl who had a boring face, but when I started to talk with her and found out that she actually had a really good heart, was a smart and mature girl I started to find her really pretty. Personality counts more than people actually think about atracction.
I used to think this was pure feel good b.s back in the day. But over time, I have to say that you're right. Someone on the cusp of average cute suddenly becomes attractive to me once they factor in values, vibe, personality and combinations of such.
@@Laura-jx7ilno, noone actually no. Haha you seem a bit toxic and man hating Haha omg never seen that hehe anyways all of them are toxic females and man hating feminists that want to pull her down so that they can feel better about there below avrage looks
@@lukebruce5234 I don't think it's envy. If Margot wasn't overexposed she wouldn't get those comments. People get sick of celebrities when they become overexposed especially when they appeal to younger girls. They start to call them mid or overrated.
also just personal preference. i personally don't find many actresses or celebrities really that pretty and see people on the street daily that i think are more attractive.
Here is a summary of the key points from the video in bullet points: - Exposure to highly attractive celebrities and media images can influence and inflate our perceptions of attractiveness. This makes average people seem less attractive. - Research shows we judge potential partners less attractively if recently exposed to attractive images, due to a "contrast effect". - Frequent exposure to attractive celebrities can lead to unrealistic beauty standards and dissatisfaction with real potential partners. - However, media images may be discounted if seen as unrealistic or unattainable celebrities. Their attractiveness won't influence judgments of real people. - More attractive faces are actually harder to distinguish and less memorable because they share similar features that make them attractive. - Upward social comparisons to attractive images can also motivate self-improvement in other areas like decision making or performance. - Does this help summarize the main ideas discussed in the video?
Ironically, models who are paid to be at peak attractiveness, are some of the most insecure people one can encounter. It’s because of this very thing. I used to model a bit when I was younger and it definitely messed with my mental health. My friends who were the most successful in their careers were no better off mentally. Now I don’t gaf about fashion or whatever. I dress for myself. My confidence must be attractive cuz even though I’m practically middle aged now, I get more attention than ever. Confidence is key and also staying away from social media as much as u can. Meet people irl, get some sun, have real conversations face to face, touch grass and we’ll all be ok.
Thanks for the insight I actually been addicted to FB which I deleted a while ago I'm 20 yo so it's really hard to not remove my phone of my hand when it's full😩
@@DemonicVirus Ofc u think u know everything and speak for everyone. I’m not gonna sit here and tell u about urself and all the ways u r wrong. I don’t care to convince u cuz that’s silly and a waste of my precious time since I’m so old. Haha! Ignorance is bliss as they say so keep being ignorant. You do u boo.
@@DemonicVirusYou're somehow right , but confidence is the key cause it tells people how they should treat you , imagine a 3/10 person who lack of confidence, always treating herself bad , talk negative about herself . And in the other sides a 3/10 girl who is really confident , radiate that self-love energy , doesn't bother what people say, say what she wanna say . Who will get better social treatment ? , People will respect you , you will meet more people . If your confident in the right way , not like I don't care what I look like , I'm perfect as I am . It's absolutely not good . But if you love yourself you will naturally want to be Better , and will become more attractive , you will do things to level up . I had a girl in my school who wasn't really attractive but succeed to get people following her or boys attention. People found her pretty because she act as it , and later she had a big glow up ( makeup and outfits ) . For me confidence and attractiveness are in a cicle Attractiveness - compliment -confidence . ( sorry for the long writing)
@@DemonicVirus Ok so you both have valid points. But Mr Virus you say romantic confidence is based on looks. It's not. There are many beautiful women with no romantic confidence. Men want them for one thing and that is all. And there are average to ugly women who men are always falling in love with. Social confidence is to be positively regarded by strangers. What Paule seems to call "confidence" is actually self-esteem and inner strength. If you can be a 3 in looks but judge yourself not as the world judges you, based on one thing, but as a whole person with various positive traits and abilities other then appearance. In that case you will not internalize the negative perception of those who do not know you well enough to judge you in your entirety.. Maturity tends to increase this kind of "confidence" because you know who you are and have developed knowledge about yourself. Also Mr Virus I guess you might be aware that society beating you down for being ugly the way you describe happens most in middle school. If you get out of middle school without this happening to you then you will always be more confident in others.
There's this model I follow on Instagram, I used to think she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. I was awe struck! As a young woman it was a first for ne to be that struck by another woman's beauty. Fast forward years later, with more influencers and models on Instagram now, I found myself less struck by her beauty now. She's still the same, she's barely aged and is now in her late 20's but somehow my reaction to her face changed. I wondered why since she's still the same as she was when I first saw. Watching this video explains alot.
This reminds of my 16 year old self who was in awe for ulzzang pictures, now if you look them up you immediately recognize that they are totally photoshopped. 😅😂 And I didn't even notice. That was 16 years ago.
I totally get what you mean. I saw Hugh Jackman in public once and I couldn't stop staring at how good looking he is lol I bet if you saw her in person you'd get the same feeling. There's beautiful people everywhere online but it's so disappointing when you see them in person in public and they look nothing like their photos.
Could you say there is a generational gap in attractiveness perceptions as well? Just a personal anecdotes me and some friends noticed between gen z and millennials. Where the former has higher, almost unrealistic standards.
qoves scientifically described the phenomenon of an "ohio 10 but a LA 6." following that: would love to see a breakdown of the viral trend "LA vs NY vs Miami 10"
I don't think Miami women are that beautiful granted I'm a straight female but from what I've seen it's a short curvy woman with a bbl eg would be like a Kim Kardashian or a Kylie Jenner that's a Miami 10 LA 10 I don't really know but I know in NYC it's a OG Victoria Secret Model eg Tyra Banks Taylor Hill Adriana Lima or Doutzen Kroes that's a 10 over there on the East coast it's full of old money so they prefer old beauty standards
I would consider NY 10 to be modelesque skinny high cheekbones high fashion old money kind of look. Clean, minimal beauty look, if you get work done it’s “natural looking” almost as if she’s born with it vibe. Think quiet, sleek, understated luxury Think Bella Hadid types. MIA 10 is like Latina beauty standards. So tan curvaceous, BBL. Loud fashion. Colorful and more ethnic influence (not in a negative way!) lashes nails DONE. Think Kim Khardashian or Kylie Jenner body types, Sofia Vergara style and also body tbh etc LA 10 is a combo of the two above. Beach babe body, curvy but not overly curvy. Blonde hair (dyed if not natural), high key brands, you want to flex your everything car house bag etc. but I wouldn’t say it’s as loud and flashy as MIA is. Plastic surgery can look obvious or semi obvious but it isn’t going to be as subdued as NY. I would say the whole IG baddie look originated from here. Depending where you go it can be a Gigi Hadid, Kate Upton type, like sports illustrated model or VS model type. Or khardashian ig baddie types. I would say MIA and LA is similar and distinct in direct comparison to NY 10.
@@sofiapineapple when they are pretty they are way prettier than northern people, but the average for me, personal opinion, it’s bad, I don’t like to count exceptions.
I think whats even rarer and stops people in their tracks is yes, beauty in real life, but unique beauty. Its clear to see that people are chasing a similar 'look' these days with regard to makeup style, small nose, almond eyes but strong cheekbones. The more people aim to look alike to fit a certain standard, the more unique and less 'boring' others look. It may sound a dream to have others stutter or stop in their tracks at your beauty, but thats only if you're confident and like a bit of attention. Im a very shy person and it honestly is distressing to have 15 people stare at me as I walk down a street. This is an aspect to beauty that I dont think anyone talks about.
@@flowerpower7065 Agreed! I have them too and it gives off Disney princess vibes. Rather than try to make them look smaller I make them look as huge as possible with makeup for a 'doll' type look. Doe eyes have higher visual weight which is much more striking and readable from a distance compared to almond eyes.
I remember watching a movie when I was a kid and thinking a peasant woman looked angelic, and when I watched it again as an adult, the woman looked completely unremarkable, even "ugly". Because I could remember what I thought of her as a child, it really pointed out to me how society has brainwashed my perception of beauty. There have also been times that I felt pretty... up until I went to the mall and saw all of the advertising with specific features, which I do not have, being held up as the standard of beauty. Then I just felt bad about myself. And even though I know people use filters and edit photos, or get plastic surgery, I still find myself falling into the trap of comparing myself to them or feeling like I'm supposed to achieve what is really an unrealistic or unattainable standard of beauty. So I've been working to be more conscious of these things and realize that I sometimes have a skewed perception of my own appearance. Also, being healthy is way more important than being attractive, and focusing on living a life of purpose and doing things I enjoy helps me to get out of this mentality. Plus, all of the people I love don't look like movie stars, so why should I measure my own lovability by my appearance?
I couldn’t have said it better. I don’t remember the last time I felt good about my looks, so a different kind of approach - where we focus on accepting and loving ourselves for who we truly are - this approach is needed. I find your example from that movie really shocking, do you know what movie that is?
In my entire life, I’ve only come across ONE man IRL that was so insanely attractive that I forgot how to speak. ONE. I live in a big city too. Think about how many sparingly beautiful people you’ve met IRL, and that will give you the answer you’re looking for. The internet and online personas are all fiction. Besides RUclips, I got off SM completely. Put down your phone, and just enjoy life!
@@dijoxx I should clarify that I’m referring to a unique or otherworldly beauty, and not just an attractive person. I’ve been attracted to average people. Mainly referring to social media creating a false beauty narrative because people can easily edit their photos and only share flattering photos. Also, a lot of people get plastic surgery today. I don’t really mind as long as people are honest about it. I self admittedly used to edit my photos when I was a teen until I realized it actually made me look weird as hell.
This doesn't just apply to the internet, but to real life as well. If you join a college coed athletic club and spend time around attractive and fit people of the opposite sex, you start to judge nonathletes as substandard. I can't get over how many overweight people there are in the world outside of the athletic sphere.
I was thinking something similar happens when you're educated in a high class surrounding because beauty is also, in a way, a type of currency, and many rich people tend to be more attractive (especially if this has been going on for multiple generations) because rich men seek attractive women as a status symbol, and attractive women are oftentimes put in privileged positions because of their beauty where they end up meeting these men. Their children end up being pretty, and when this happens for a while, you have upper classes that have "hoarded beauty". If you grow up around these people it doesn't seem as exceptional to you anymore. It's really interesting to be in that situation when you're not part of it because when you go back in the real world, you're aware that your perception was completely skewed.
@@Tzinacacihuatl I would say it's less of a status symbol and more of a biological response. It is a status symbol only in the fact that attractive women are generally desirable and sought for, so there's a lot of competition, and being rich gives you an advantage. Being rich, or at least, not being to poor allows you to do things things necessary to stay attractive, like work out, maintain a healthy weight, do yoga, participate in sports and recreation, wear makeup, nice clothes, etc. People who are poor are stuck in their jobs not being able to do those things. Landlords ask for proof of income or assets in order to allow tenants to rent. On the other hand, there are wealthy people that squander their opportunity and live lazily. I wouldn't say one situation is the real world and the other is not. They're both real, but experienced by different people. It just so happens that there are a lot more people who aren't rich compared to the amount of people who are. You may experience different situations depending on where you are in the world and in life. Some people spend their lives at sea and that is their normal. Other spend their lives hiking and camping. Some people live in suburbs, others in metropolitan areas, and yet others in rural farmlands.
Omg I constantly stay around really good artists and I always feel my own pieces suck in comparison. Probably they are just average paintings, not the dead bottom as I perceive them...
@@TzinacacihuatlTrue, I study in a place with a lot of attractive people from the upper class and the way I perceive beauty has changed a lot because of it. Even instagram people rarely impress me now. It’s kinda wild.
I watched terminator a while ago and realized that while Arnold would've been pretty crazy looking at the time, he actually looks like a bunch of my friends 😭
Realistic filters made this issue worse because when people saw textured skin on photos and videos, they were shocked. If you told them that those attractive people on social media have filters, they would think you're jealous, even if it's common and obvious.
This completely makes sense. So many times i've heard someone very average or under the average say beautiful people "all look boring and the same" basically calling them average but really I think it just shows how much that (below)average person stares or seeks out beautiful people in their day to day life. Its really a bit silly.
HA, I swear I see this so much, especially if it's someone that's done something that isn't deemed morally correct. The first thing they attack is their looks.
A lot of beautiful people do look similar. That's why we're more drawn to striking features as per the video such as Miranda Kerr (her nose), Robert Pattinson (eyes and jaw) and Taylor Hill (jaw). My favorite model personally is Hannah Kleit. I think she has very striking eyes and a unique mouth shape that draws my attention in a way that other models don't. Someone like Adriana Lima is extremely beautiful, but her features aren't very interesting. Nothing really stands out as unique. I prefer Taylor Hill over her because Taylor has a very unique, masculine jaw that is very captivating. As humans we seek novelty for pleasure and because we see so many beautiful people on a daily basis we get bored of conventional beauty. It's not because conventional beauty is boring, it's because the excitement has worn off. We've all stared at thousands of conventionally beautiful people so the dopamine signaling isn't as strong as it once was. It's the same reason why fashion changes every year. The clothes people used to enjoy and pay hundreds of dollars for now seem boring and unoriginal. We simply grow accustomed to certain trends over time. In the 90s "Heroin Chic" was the name of the game and now in the 2020s it's "SlimThick". Eventually skinny will come back into fashion once the culture becomes bored of voluptuous bodies. Superhero movies are starting to die out now because people have become bored of watching so many superhero movies and tv shows. Zombie movies used to be extremely popular too and then they died out because we had been inundated with too many. The market became oversaturated. This is just how trends are, we crave novelty. It's why men will cheat on gorgeous women with women who are less attractive. It's new and it's different, therefore it's exciting
@@jeremyayala2947happened to me lol, I argue that aging is less beautiful than staying young. They said women of all ages are beautiful and I am a creep pedophile for thinking like that. Because they said kids are also aging so which means I'm into kids. Then I said kids are growing up not aging, aging is when the body starts deteriorating after reaching their prime. I'm not even referring to a certain person as being old or ugly, just stating general knowledge. Then they said growing old with someone you loved is beautiful and I only see beauty on the face value. So I said the beautiful part of that is the situation, not the looks of the person who is getting old. Then they said "your hair looks awful btw" lol from people that insist to view that all women are beautiful.
@calfagra don't bother with braindead people. Of course the most beautiful time for living beings are their youth. Imo, around 20-30 for women and 25-35 for men. But of course the rate of deterioration is different for different people depending on their genes and maintenance. If we look at Hollywood celebrities our perception that beauty stay unchanging is of course skewed. But that require constant effort and plenty of wealth.
Same is true for sugar and salt content in food, the modern sedentary lifestyle, etc etc. We arent built to be overloaded with this stuff, it is affecting our mental health, physical health and values
@@CRM-114 Many experts would beg to differ, especially if you eat a low carb whole food diet. Obviously if you eat processed food you don't need it as there's lots of added salt. Salt is needed though bro, that's just a fact.
@@CRM-114 Where's the salt in beef or pork or chicken? Stop talking nonsense. There's no salt in whole foods, it all needs to be added. We NEED salt to survive bruh 😂 Please do some reading up on the topic
Even just two hundred years ago, the average human being, would see one exceptionally beautiful woman or man in their lifetime. Let alone a perfectly groomed, rich and famous beauty. It explains why artists had muses, why people lost themselves to a single man or woman. Because they were not constantly confronted by a sea of bigger, better, more colourful eye-candies.
This explains why I don't find anyone really attractive (in real life). People who are probably attractive I just perceive as plain. It's as if nothing can 'trigger' my brains anymore.
I've kind of always been like that. People that draw human figure usually naturaly have the " qooves filter" to see flaws in faces and bodies that most people don't.
@@stefanisilva2493that makes sense, i grew up as an artist and drew humans for many years and i think like that too. i kind of like people who look unique or strange, i’ve noticed. because there is something different and something that sticks with me. not plain.
I often wondered why I didn't get _it_ when other people would be gushing about celebrities or attractive people on Instagram. When you talked about that kind of beautiful people simply being seen as unattainable, it made a lot of sense. I end up always being attracted to individuals being perceived as either average or ugly, and I guess it's because I was bombarded by all these images of gorgeous people that seem like their own category.
Me neither. I mean I see those all people as the-same-looking before watching this video. I like the uniqueness and no make up can be much more attractive because it makes the face more natural and unique.
EXACTLY. I love uniquely average people with hidden beauty. For example, david Bowie or Hange Zoe (my pfp). People who are too perfectly beautiful seem alienating and unreachable, they seem like statues, not real people. People with quirks are my favorite kinda people ❤ (not trying to bash beautiful people😭😭 ofc I think they’re pretty!! However, for me, their beauty ≠ my attraction )
yeah , this is one of the main reasons men/women in L.A. (where I live) don't want to settle down or lock in with a wonderful person b/c the underlying thought is there's something even better out there (since they've/we've seen such an overwhelming number of attractive and successful people in some of these affluent spaces)
I'm borned and raised in L.A. your definitely correct. There so many pretty people that they become average in L.A. When I moved to Houston and it's werid would complement my skin and ask me to be their trainer. Cuz L.A. lifestyle is always be attractive
@@infj1601Men actually have lower standards than women for considering someone of the opposite sex physically attractive. Partly this may be a biological thing, but it could also be related to the fact that women spend more time on social media apps like Instagram, tiktok, Facebook etc, than men, generally.
I've noticed you often use pictures of attractive people when speaking about average looking people (not in the averageness sense, but in the 5 out of 10 sense). I find this confusing and I think the audience would benefit if you also showcase what is average looking (again in the 5 out of 10 sense), what is lower, what is higher but not a 10 etc.
@@TheMasterfulcreator ahhh this makes sense. I agree with you. Visuals vs audio are not matching as if they were created on different days? Like visuals were laid out first in the editor then a voiceover was placed with them based on nothing but their usual editing style/template. It’s creating such a juxtaposition that i’m having a hard time attributing the audio to anything but what my brain comes up with on its own because the audio contradicts the visuals so 🤦🏽♀️
yeahh the visuals when it comes to average people never match up to what he’s saying. I get he might be doing it out of respect but also who cares? just show it so it’s not confusing
I know when I see a truly attractive person when I feel (slight) fear. I’m not accustomed to seeing people with such symmetrical features that it triggers that part of my brain the same way as pictures of faces in the uncanny valley. Either that or I’m just scared of other people.
I totally concur with the point about perceiving idealized faces as belonging to another realm. I think some of us have become so exhausted by the appearance obsession of the modern world that we've given up on trying to achieve perfection or expecting it from others. Some people who feel they're lacking in appearance do develop other aspects of themselves, which works in their favor. Oftentimes the quirks or imperfections of someone's appearance will begin to look beautiful if that person has a certain magnetism to their personality.
Also beauty naturally fades with age bit by bit even if the person ages really well. So developing those extra skillsets or leaning into their own strengths may be really beneficial for people in the long run
Yes, like dark circles on an averaged face makes them stand out more and look more pretty, probably that and the fact they might have nice hair and skin… maybe pulls them to an 8/10 and makes their face striking compared to others Especially if said person has an “edgy” or “thoughtful” personality/vibe about them
People on TV and on social media look way different in real life. We all forget about professional makeup, special effects, camera angles, lighting, etc.
This is a very important video. This needs more coverage because when an individual is exposed to a large number of attractive individuals it skews ones perception of attractiveness causing an inflation
The montage is clearly a cut above what you've done so far. Thus far all your video have had a very neat editing, but this one is magnificent, it is much more dynamic and attracts the eyes, it can also serves as a proof that not only attractive persons pull our attention but pleasant aesthetics too. Love your videos, as always keep up the great work.
And this is why people are frustrated with online dating in a nutshell 😂 you always see comments (especially from men) who say they don't get any matches so when they do, they "settle" for "below average" people. Then you see pictures of the "below average" people they're talking about and they are actually above average looking. They are just comparing those real pictures to the AI bot models or scammer profiles they are scrolling through simultaneously.
I think men get the short end of the stick with online dating. Back in the day if you were a good man who worked hard you were basically guaranteed to find a decent girl to fall in love with. Now you have the girls who are 4-5’s swiping PAST the men who are 4-5’s and swiping for the men who are 10’s. And because the women have more options and so much of online dating is hook up based so a 10 who’s desperate will hook up with a 5, these people believe that the 10’s are in their level because they matched! 😂 🤦🏻♀️
It's so depressing the way so many people operate. You can be the most wonderful partner, even beautiful, but if you don't touch online/virtual "relative standards" of exceptional beauty, it's not enough. THAT'S what matters to so many people: the compared value of their partner in the eyes of society, not to themselves or each other as a couple. There is a marvelous thing that tends to happen as you grow older as a human: You don't feel as needy for a romantic partner, as so much of it rests upon sexual attraction. Life is so beautiful by itself that you don't necessarily need someone to enjoy it with you. That dependency begins to erode and the appreciation for a partner that loves you despite your aging state, grows, and those who can't do that, well that's not our problem anymore. Thank goodness there are so many work options today.
I don't think that it is much of a problem. Although this might affect how people view you at first glance and negatively affect your chances of hitting on a person, people's faces tend to look more attractive the more you look at them and the more you spend time with them. So personally this shouldn't worry people too much.
Somehow my brain knew it before me. When I was 17(2016) I deleted all social media except YT. I knew I don’t find any girl if I am looking for a 10/10 only because I see them all the time on Instagram. I haven’t regretted my decision since then.
I always saw a lot of beautiful people when I lived in Europe. When I moved to America things change. My 'perception of 'physical beauty' has lessened. What seems to you as too many beautiful people for our brains is actually mine - finally enough beautiful people for my brain. It varies by location definitely.
@@sarah37452I’ve been to every country in the world except 4. The ugliest people I’ve seen are in the US , Bolivia , France, England and some parts of China and Mexico. The most beautiful were in Germany, Ethiopia, Somalia, all the Scandinavian countries, Brazil , Argentina, certain parts of Mexico and Spain, South Korea. The strangest mix of amazing beauty and shocking ugly were former USSR eastern block countries.
@Aaron-kj8dv Interesting you brought that up. There's an app or website (I forgot exactly what) that only people who are deemed attractive can use, and once they get access, they get free stuff. When they looked at a percentage of people who were allowed from each country (allowed only if attractive), Norway and Sweden were on the top of the list. Seems like they do have more hot people.
since ive started watching qoves i focus so much on the imperfections of people, but particularly attractive people. not sure how I feel about this lol
The not remembering attractive faces as well thing makes sense. When I've met someone who has stopped me in their tracks with their attractiveness, I struggle more to retain an image in my head of how they look, without photographic reference.
I've noticed it too that the more I spent my time outdoors I don't find anyone super attractive but I do know that that's how most people look : average. Even I am super average and I always think guys will not find me attractive because they are so used to seeing beautiful women.😂😂
I think the most attractive thing is your smile, charm and character . Don't worry. Looks are not everything. I met my husband while I was not dressed up at all and was not wearing makeup. He was drawn to me as a person. Now we are happily married for 14 years.
Yeah, they won't find you attractive. Guys unfortunately only want above average women. You know how I know that? I'm average and I never got approached by guys, nor catcalled. I'm ignored by men.
@@sarah37452 Then you're likely not 'average' because men have no standards at all and try to chat up virtually anyone. You could also be way to aloof and scornful towards potential suitors. Likely both.
@lukebruce5234 I'm not ugly. Lol. I actually considered myself cute since I have a baby face, but since I don't have pretty privilege, I suspect I'm considered average instead. Also, I don't frown in public, so that's not the issue. The issue is that men now are too picky and only aim for above average women.
@@sarah37452 *The issue is that men now are too picky and only aim for above average women.* That is clearly not true lol. Men are less picky than ever. Never in the entire human history men were less picky. Maybe you're just autistic, can't read social cues and don't go outside. Or maybe you're just trolling or gaslighting.
on the last part, when does "desire to be better at something" overpower envy/"desire to pull others down" when it comes to subjects overexposed to beautiful people?
I'm a woman whose always considered myself a 5 or a 6.5 on my best of days. Always thought that i have "cute" (ie youthful or babyface) features but not "beautiful". Is it a coincidence that all of the men that have ever told me im "beautiful" (complete strangers mind you) have been 40+? For reference im currently 30 so not particularly young. Is my "beauty" generational? lol i've always been curious about that, somewhat bothered by it as well and ultimately curious.
Could be generational in that I as a 27 year old guy would never tell a woman I wasn't on extremely good terms with they're beautiful out of fear of being considered creepy. I've always felt like a woman wouldn't respect it either, like you'd be drawing attention to the surface level, playing into the idea that you're prioritising their exterior over their interior, and then there's the fact that you inherit your face, it's not earned. Even when women put on makeup it feels like treading on eggshells complimenting them, because they could feel like they need it in order to receive compliments, which feeds into bad self esteem.
@@LuckeGabrielI think the best compliments are either about personality “hey you’re really funny” or maybe based on what someone looks like in what they are wearing “hey you look great in that color!” Instead of saying you’re beautiful, your basically telling them they are shining extra bright in what they have on, or have some sort of vibe you like.
not to mention the rise fo plastic surgery is " raising the bar". combined with individuals already being attractive, gorgeous women can become an almost alien like impossible beauty if they have enough money.
If they got rid of Facetune, filters and simple photoshop apps, you'd all see SOME realistic-looking standards of gorgeous people. I'm NOT referring to people who've had facial cosmetic surgery though. I feel like that's "cheating."
@@Aaron-kj8dv Well, everyone knows they all use Facetune and/or photoshop apps. But according to researcher/psychologist Renee Engelin, PhD, in her book "Beauty Sick," this knowledge DOESN'T make women feel more complacent or stop the body image comparisons! In fact, it might make SOME feel MORE competitive in their quest to "achieve" the perfect body. I agree with YOU, though! I think all those shopped AND filtered pics - whether it's on IG, FB, reddit, etc. - SHOULD have that notification stamped in the corner of their pics... in CAPITAL LETTERS. It's just fair to let people know those images have been airbrushed and/or shopped in some way!
Realistic filters made this issue worse because when people saw textured skin on photos and videos, they were shocked. If you told them that those attractive people on social media have filters, they would think you're jealous, even if it's common and obvious.
i feel like anyone claiming only “xyz” (ex: those looksmaxxers who think anyone who isn’t a stock photo of eastern european women is “mid”) is attractive don’t go outside enough. when you’re constantly out in the world, you encounter beautiful people every now and then who are naturally that way despite no fancy cameras, editing, and makeup. timeless beauty (flawed and not erased by instagram) is no longer valued by people who allegedly claim traditional values. timeless beauty is no longer the supermodel standard.
for me when it comes to personal attraction if i think someone is too perfect or beautiful i won’t be as attracted than if someone looks relatable to my looks. i feel like i see so many pretty people irl and i’m always the one to compliment when in a group and i’m just over here confused why others aren’t saying the same 😂 ik beauty is in the eye of the beholder but ig people view a lot of people as mid and average because of the media
Kinda reminds when i was new to kpop and i am at awe with every idol's looks but now i just doesn't get that feeling it seems like everyone is good looking but at the same time they dont look very unique .
As a black person media's most 'attractive people' aren't actual that good looking, they are average but youthful, superficially healthy looking ie not obviously deformed/sick and white or with white facial features under different skin tones. Youthful, healthy looking, clean, euro-centric facial features, playful or confident in designer clothes flattering angles and lighting.
I think this one of the issues with dating apps. Everyone sees so many attractive people that theoretically you could date so everyone more average just seems unappealing.
I was waiting for men's photos too and how it impacts women and their perception of what a handsome man is today. And how men that look like models affect most of the "regular" men population and their own self-confidence.
I feel sad for men of today. So many men used to be able to have a good job and find a nice girl to start a family with that was their “looks match”. Now with online dating these men get overlooked while women who are 2-5’s are flooded with matches which makes them overlook the men who are also 2-5’s! SMH 🤦🏻♀️ 😂
My features are unusual on the beauty spectrum and people tend to look at me with curiosity when I am out in public. I don't wear makeup and dress without showing much, so it's not my clothes. Many have called me pretty and beautiful and it's fun to have them try to guess my ethnic heritage. They usually get it partially correct but can never guess the rest. Men often show interest and it's not because I am behaving in or dressing in an attention drawing way. I am not model material by usual standards, I am not even slim. Maybe its the confidence in the way I dress my body and my attitude. Maybe it's my face. Maybe its the whole package. Can't know for sure!
I am attractive but I also have anxiety and I’ve noticed that most of the time I get hit on is when I have my sunglasses on! I think it’s because I feel more comfortable and walk in a more confident manner! Instead of looking nervously around left to right. So you could be getting attention because of your vibe or overall spirit as well. Confidence is key. I once made out with a 4 because he was sexy as hell confidence wise!? 😂 🤷♀️
not to mention the majority of straight men's preferences in women are borderline pedophilic and they subconsciously view women as ticking time bombs, resenting the majority of women over the age of 25 unless they manage to look younger than they are.
I don't think it's attractive faces we are too used to seeing, I think it's make-up, filters and plastic surgery we are too used to seeing, and there's nothing wrong with any of that, I just think it's worth knowing so that people don't compare themselves to others
make up in real face to face with the person won't change the face much and it visible that they wear makeup .it makeup plus editing /filters .you see the skin texture ect when you are Infront of the other person...
True. I studied at a campus in a very affluent area for many years and the people who lived around there were very attractive, and very tall (regularly 6'0 and above men), like, Beverly Hills, kind of affair. It's actually intimidating, and you realize how important it is to maintain social harmony, rather than extreme segregation.
Everyone should date just for looks for a while. That will teach you. You will learn to tune into inner beauty quickly. Unless of course all the beautiful people you date turn out to be beautiful on the inside too. Then congrats you won the lottery.
I am SO AWARE of the attractiveness bias that I developed a sort of opposite version of it. I find common, everyday-looking, not-quite-perfect women much more attractive than supermodels or famous acctresses considered astonishingly beautiful. In fact, I remember in my youth having HUGE crushes on actresses which are cast as "homely" characters, such as Renee Zellwegger and others I can not remember clearly now.
I agree with finding everyday-people that are healthy, attractive… but I think that’s also maybe because we won’t see actress level beauty or supermodel beauty on the streets… if we do, it’s not like on TV or internet because they likely won’t be decked out in makeup and extravagant clothing…
am I the only one that shuts down and gets depressed if someone is better . Seeing someone more attractive wont make me strive to be better, ill just feel like giving up, but on the other hand if Im better than some/most in something than it more likey for me to stive to be the best in that.
I do that as well, but I think that we allow other people affect us too much. If we truly worked on ourselves, and believe that we did our best, how everyone else looks will naturally become more inconsequential. I believe the actual question here is, did we make the best of ourselves and our lives? If yes, then there's nothing to feel depressed about. If no, then take steps to identify what it is about yourself or your life that you find lacking, and then find solutions to improve upon them. Also, it is natural for us to feel good when we are doing better than some people as most of us are ego driven. But you have to remember there will always be someone who is better than you, and this applies to everyone. Self-reflection is important, and attention and external validation will not last forever. In the end, it is better to look for inner peace and fulfillment.
As I've grown older and have been exposed to more and more people, I find that I see human bodies and faces as less unique in general. When I was younger growing up in a small town, each person seemed to have more unique character based on their appearance. Now it often seems I am seeing the same body template with only subtle variations between each person. I guess as one's perspective expands the differences between things shrinks.
I remember thinking I was actually pretty cute when I was in my early to mid teenage years. I was not much on social media back then. I never thought of myself as outstandingly beautiful, but I was very much okay with the way I looked. I am 21 now and I no longer think I'm pretty at all, despite my facial features not having changed much at all. There is not really anything I could name about my looks that I like. I find myself average to slightly unattractive and I think it is due to social media and comparing myself to these edited photos all the time.
I am not on social media a ton and if I am its engaging with people I actually know irl. Its so sad to me to see the shift from social media going from social and community based to now mostly entertainment. I dont think the entertainment is wrong I just think most people dont see it as entertainment they see it as real life and that is whats sad. I am ugly af online and on dating apps but I have no problem dating and being approached irl
when i was young i saw so many beautiful things i was struck , and then those things actually became less beautiful over time they aged with me , now im old i see beauty again without the fear of being found out beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Lmaoooo calling yourself ugly mofo and joking makes you slightly attractive. I think charisma and personality is super important too. Let's open a club for the ugly mofo goblins with a sense of humour
@janesvirtualworld6275 I uploaded my pic to Dezgo and gave it instructions to make me good looking without changing my features. I'll forward your compliment to the AI 😁
This happened to me but in the opposite, I always thought that most people online that others called pretty were "ugly" because I was so used to my own pretty face which I like better. I had to teach myself what conventional attractiveness was.
I watched this because the thumbnail caught my attention. Both women looked very similar to me. The biggest differences were the 2023 woman appeared to have more makeup on and the 1970s woman wore the clothes and hair styles of the time. The physical differences were subtle to me, to the point that they looked related like a mother and daughter pictured at the same age. I didn’t see a dramatic difference in attractiveness when the fluff is removed
Simple. Just find someone that doesn't have unrealistic beauty standards and after that you won't be bothered by who's beautiful and who's not. It's really so trivial in the grand scheme of things.
hmmm in a way this could be positive if being exposed to so many beautiful faces ended up reducing the halo effect when meeting a beautiful person in real life
I have seen many bodybuilders and models images in the movies but when I saw the bodybuilder in front they look more huge even if they are average in terms of size. Also the photos or images of attractive people are taken from 100mm to 300mm cameras, but our eyes have very low focal length so when we see attractive people in real life they look different
Frankly, the vast majority of truly beautiful people that I’ve encountered were some of the worst conversations and interactions I’ve had. There are outliers but generally I feel like they are less interested in forming a genuine connection and often lack depth to their character. It could be that they subconsciously believe that they are superior. I’ve actually found this to be more true with men (I’m a straight man), but could just be coincidence or my own bias.
It's definitely true about men. I frequently go to night spots and etc where you'll find a lot of men like this, and 8 times out of 10 they have the same contrived, vanilla personality. They aren't interesting whatsoever.
I highly believe social scientists, or psych, psy would have covered this as the basis of one of their thousands of scientific studies if there was enough interest in such a phenom. AGAIN, attractiveness and intellectual or emotional “substance” impacting the presence of the other, within an individual, in any statistically significant genetic condition manner way? I’m my opinion, people modify their behavior more quickly now and are continually scanning others’ faces for feedback. Seems a bit of an f-Ed up superiority thing, put in the least amount of work, feign boredom,
I feel like we see more striking people rather than beautiful people. People purposely manipulate their features even if it’s just contour so that we’re drawn to them. It’s rare to find someone plain who you look at after a while and then come to the realisation you like the way their face is. Sure they’ll always be those people that immediately catch our attention but even they have lost that period where their beauty simmers down and becomes ordinary only for them to smile and snare you again.
I was at a small town parade a few years ago and noticed this--that everyone looked so normal and I realized, oh, this is not television. This is real people.
I see it online but I’ve notice that in real life I nearly never see the average beautiful persons I see on TikTok in seconds outside. I see people who are ofc beautiful but not THE WAY I SEE IT ONLINE.
i think bc in the past people's natural beauty was seen whereas today people have tons of plastic surgery, exaggerated heavy makeup, gigantor lashes (ew), hair extensions (length + volume), exaggerated body proportions due to working out obsessively, plus digital filters. i think all of this actually makes people look down right ugly! natural is better!
I like the heroin chic look of the early 90s everyone was thin because they were eating pretty healthy (some were being unhealthy to be thin ofc) but it was a very rock and roll “I just rolled out of bed” effortless vibe that I wish would come back!
Extreme physical beauty needs excess fueling to sustain it's longevity in a modern world where standards have gone off the roof through competitive vogue .
i don’t think it’s that we’ve been subjected to more attractive people per se, although partly true. Social media apps such as tik tok and previously instagram yes has let us have access to very attractive faces but also allows for average individuals to put on a load of makeup, adjust angles and lighting and sometimes edit their pics to appear as more attractive, yet when you see them in person/with less makeup they aren’t all that. Also, the ‘attractive’ people on tik tok more often than not are average looking people that just have dishonest comments telling them and everyone who sees it that they look better than they do, thus influencing others judgements. So yes, we’ve been subjected to more ‘attractive’ people but not entirely truly. In person it’s still kinda rare to see someone genuinely breathtaking.
You are dead on. The same person in different angles/lighting/makeup can look like entirely different levels of attractiveness, which usually doesn’t reflect their actual in person appearance
you are so correct. i’ve noticed in so many cases that someone who’s sooo unbelievably “attractive” on social media relies on filters, makeup, and angles, and in reality they are average or below average. i used to think these other girls were so beautiful and i couldn’t compare, but then when i looked deeper and saw them in different angles or in person, i even realized that i am much more beautiful than a LOT of them. there are not that many people who look like perfect goddesses. most of these social media people are not.
I know a good example of this. A girl I used to go to school was pretty average looking (pretty, but she had acne and thin lips. Basically an average pretty, like Taylor Swift). Now she’s some kind of IG model I think and she has the eyelash extensions and the lip fillers. So now she’s kind of the typical IG model beauty, even though I think she looked better before all that crap. I know I’m sounding like a hater, but I am tired of women feeling like they have to overcompensate by putting on tons of shit on their face. I think that’s why I’ve started appreciating what I have. I know I’m pretty ugly/borderline average, but I dress up and take care of my skin. Even if you’re not naturally pretty, you can do the basics to feel good about yourself and up your attractiveness level a bit.
Who blames the pretty people? The video is saying that the more contact average people have, more they change the ideias of beauty and this obvs includes their own beauty
Thats why i like to go outside. I try to see the beauty in people and i can. Since i am less femimin looking, i admire the more feminin looking women around me. With men its worse. Most dont look as good, but also not too bad. And no i am not gay. I still love men alot😂 i still ptefer someone more on my level then a model next to me since i am just avarage myself
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I got shocked when I re-watched a TV show that I loved as a child because the girl that I thought were absolutely gorgeous now just seems sooo normal to me. Then I realized we've been kinda brain washed with the edited appearance of people these days.
who was the actress?
Literally same here
You can't just say that and not mention the show
Maybe your tastes just changed. Like how when you watch series you know from younger years, with the mains being teens, you may notice their parents more now xD
I also would like to know the name of the show please
You talking about ugly Betty?
Qoves - You are over stimulated
Also Qoves - Shows us an 8 min slideshow of world's most attractive people
Everyone plays the algorithm game to win. It is just how it is
Bro you are handsome too gto
ngl the girl at 8 seconds kinda looks similar ish to one of the girls at my gym.
@@_linlin_ Cry noob no namer!
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I've noticed this effect is very strong with K-pop. My friends who are into K-pop stars downplay their own attractiveness to an obscene degree. It's quite sad actually
I agree and honestly it’s kinda scary because those idols are on STRICT STRICT and unhealthy diets. And so much time put into styling and such
Kpop is made for rotting your brain and making the general public obsessed with unreal looking people who don't know they exist. No net positive music or effect has ever come out of that pedophilic industry ever. Sadly people are so consumed with the Korean and Asian wave these days.
@@bethany3242yeppp and the stylists know so many makeup tricks that help to make the girls more beautiful (than they already were, ofc) for the CAMERA. lots of tricks that we, regular people, wouldn’t be able to do on a daily basis to look perfect. we look human, kpop idols look like goddesses, because they are practically DESIGNED to do so. their companies do everything to make them look like perfect goddesses in a different realm.
personally i love sewing kpop idols’ instagrams where they post everyday photos without makeup and in their comfortable outfits and stuff. it’s good to look human and it’s good to be able to be human
Never found k pop stars attractive. They look so artificial and too skinny. They get way too much work done on their face and the women have the body of a 12 year old boy. Nothing more attractive then a natural beauty with a strong healthy body
@@bethany3242and lot of plastic surgery
Also seeing an attractive person irl definitely has a stronger reaction, so if you're losing that sense of beauty around you, you are not even truly benefitting because undoubtedly seeing a photo of a beautiful person is not NEARLY as exciting for the brain. I think that this is a total negative for the general population.
can confirm this as a male with fairly exotic looking face, blue eyes that are bit upward turn, dark hair, very prominent cheekbones, strong jawline etc. dating apps not that much luck really. IRL the reactions are quite fun sometimes, and people definitely look in a way. also now that im actually in very very good shape, it probably adds to that phenomen. i remember people looking me and my ex girlfriend quite a lot in the past. she had also very prominent cheekbones and strong facial features, quite tall for a woman and she had and still probaly has nice body :D. I didnt back then lol.
Well said!
You can blame the left for this
That’s a good thing, people shouldn’t have certain benefits because of how they look.
@@Gigi-rl2hland yet they do and always will
Margot Robbie is the best example of being called 'mid' by some internet men because they see too many photoshopped women online.
Edit. Oh wow. So much replies and likes I cannot keep up😆.
I still believe Margot is very beautiful though but after reading some replies, I understand why some find her mid.
But here's my take, Margot has these physical traits:
Tall, slim, great figure, button nose, beautiful eyes, nice eyebrows, nice jawline, good cheekbones, symmetrical face, nice teeth and smile. Which a lot of people do not have. So for me she is still above the rest.
Those men are -5/10 if they're calling her mid.
Tbh, I think you’re correct but a lot of it has to do with preference. I have no sort of attraction to Margot Robbie, but I do know that she is attractive. (If that makes sense)
@@thesurant7271 So she is not mid, she is not your type.
its more of a retaliation tactic in protest over her movie (barbie). These men were offended by the movie commentary, so they resorted to attacking her appearance.
oh and that one viral podcast clip probably played a big part too. One guy in it said that he went to Russia or Ukraine (i dont remember) and that women over there on average are way more attractive than in the US, so he made the comment that even someone like Margot Robbie will be considered mid or 4/10 when compared to those women.
When I first saw her I was stunned by her beauty. Strangely the more I look at her the more "mid" she is, maybe my face pool is richer nowadays so that I appreciate attractive people who are not blonde and blue-eyed.
When I look all the retouched model pictures online it starts to feel normal to look THAT way and when I look at myself in the mirror something feels wrong about my appearance. But the more I am just out with regular people the more I feel good about the way I look. Also I noticed no one else seems to be holding me to the standard that I was for myself when being over exposed to these images.
Same here. I'm a normal pretty girl, but I often feel like I'm ugly when I look into the mirrors 😢
Yeah I think this impacts OURSELVES much more than our dating partners, especially women who are constantly picked over for their appearances.
literally, i feel like no one cares about looks as much as i do
The more I look in the mirror the more I feel okay about my looks. Not looking in the mirror and seeing all the manipulated bodies and then quickly looking at mine will make me feel not human and my brain registers different slopes and skeletal landmarks. Like what they call violin hips and hip dips. I have to take time to wiggle around and see that they have just made poses erasing those landmarks. Bending forward erases hip dips and gives the uninterrupted curves. Standing straight they are noticeable and standing tensing your legs make them very pronounced. It is all tricks.
I swear I went through the same thing as you, it's just that sometimes I feel like I'm not good enough or there's something wrong with my face
Any physical attraction goes out the window when they possess any form of toxic, ignorant or vapid personality/behaviors. Average looking people also become more attractive when they possess certain favorable personalities/behaviors.
Bingo 🎉
Yes, like there was a girl in my class that when I thought that she would be insufferable I thought she was just an average girl who had a boring face, but when I started to talk with her and found out that she actually had a really good heart, was a smart and mature girl I started to find her really pretty. Personality counts more than people actually think about atracction.
Totally agree
True
I used to think this was pure feel good b.s back in the day. But over time, I have to say that you're right. Someone on the cusp of average cute suddenly becomes attractive to me once they factor in values, vibe, personality and combinations of such.
People calling Margot Robbie "mid" tells how skewed our view of what the average person looks like is
they are envious
Uh, no one actually believes that. Thats either mysogynistic and jealous men
@@Laura-jx7ilno, noone actually no. Haha you seem a bit toxic and man hating Haha omg never seen that hehe anyways all of them are toxic females and man hating feminists that want to pull her down so that they can feel better about there below avrage looks
@@lukebruce5234 I don't think it's envy. If Margot wasn't overexposed she wouldn't get those comments. People get sick of celebrities when they become overexposed especially when they appeal to younger girls. They start to call them mid or overrated.
also just personal preference. i personally don't find many actresses or celebrities really that pretty and see people on the street daily that i think are more attractive.
This is exactly what I was thinking of when I saw men claiming Margot Robbie is "mid"...
They live in delulu land.
OMG 😂. That guy got respectfully gathered by the Twitter trolls
@@traveltoks6578 It was on Facebook and RUclips. I don't have Twitter, so I would not know.
They are just envious knowing she and every other woman of similar looks would never give them the time of a day.
@@traveltoks6578 I think the guy was the troll, not the ones who responded to him.
Well, she is mid.
And ryan gosling is also mid.
Here is a summary of the key points from the video in bullet points:
- Exposure to highly attractive celebrities and media images can influence and inflate our perceptions of attractiveness. This makes average people seem less attractive.
- Research shows we judge potential partners less attractively if recently exposed to attractive images, due to a "contrast effect".
- Frequent exposure to attractive celebrities can lead to unrealistic beauty standards and dissatisfaction with real potential partners.
- However, media images may be discounted if seen as unrealistic or unattainable celebrities. Their attractiveness won't influence judgments of real people.
- More attractive faces are actually harder to distinguish and less memorable because they share similar features that make them attractive.
- Upward social comparisons to attractive images can also motivate self-improvement in other areas like decision making or performance.
- Does this help summarize the main ideas discussed in the video?
Ironically, models who are paid to be at peak attractiveness, are some of the most insecure people one can encounter. It’s because of this very thing. I used to model a bit when I was younger and it definitely messed with my mental health. My friends who were the most successful in their careers were no better off mentally. Now I don’t gaf about fashion or whatever. I dress for myself. My confidence must be attractive cuz even though I’m practically middle aged now, I get more attention than ever. Confidence is key and also staying away from social media as much as u can. Meet people irl, get some sun, have real conversations face to face, touch grass and we’ll all be ok.
Thanks for the insight I actually been addicted to FB which I deleted a while ago I'm 20 yo so it's really hard to not remove my phone of my hand when it's full😩
@@DemonicVirus Ofc u think u know everything and speak for everyone. I’m not gonna sit here and tell u about urself and all the ways u r wrong. I don’t care to convince u cuz that’s silly and a waste of my precious time since I’m so old. Haha! Ignorance is bliss as they say so keep being ignorant. You do u boo.
@@DemonicVirusYou're somehow right , but confidence is the key cause it tells people how they should treat you , imagine a 3/10 person who lack of confidence, always treating herself bad , talk negative about herself . And in the other sides a 3/10 girl who is really confident , radiate that self-love energy , doesn't bother what people say, say what she wanna say . Who will get better social treatment ? , People will respect you , you will meet more people . If your confident in the right way , not like I don't care what I look like , I'm perfect as I am . It's absolutely not good . But if you love yourself you will naturally want to be Better , and will become more attractive , you will do things to level up . I had a girl in my school who wasn't really attractive but succeed to get people following her or boys attention. People found her pretty because she act as it , and later she had a big glow up ( makeup and outfits ) . For me confidence and attractiveness are in a cicle
Attractiveness - compliment -confidence . ( sorry for the long writing)
@@DemonicVirus Ok so you both have valid points. But Mr Virus you say romantic confidence is based on looks. It's not. There are many beautiful women with no romantic confidence. Men want them for one thing and that is all. And there are average to ugly women who men are always falling in love with. Social confidence is to be positively regarded by strangers. What Paule seems to call "confidence" is actually self-esteem and inner strength. If you can be a 3 in looks but judge yourself not as the world judges you, based on one thing, but as a whole person with various positive traits and abilities other then appearance. In that case you will not internalize the negative perception of those who do not know you well enough to judge you in your entirety.. Maturity tends to increase this kind of "confidence" because you know who you are and have developed knowledge about yourself. Also Mr Virus I guess you might be aware that society beating you down for being ugly the way you describe happens most in middle school. If you get out of middle school without this happening to you then you will always be more confident in others.
I agree. When I modeled, I was SUPER insecure.
Glad that life is behind me.😅
There's this model I follow on Instagram, I used to think she was the most beautiful woman I had ever seen. I was awe struck! As a young woman it was a first for ne to be that struck by another woman's beauty. Fast forward years later, with more influencers and models on Instagram now, I found myself less struck by her beauty now. She's still the same, she's barely aged and is now in her late 20's but somehow my reaction to her face changed. I wondered why since she's still the same as she was when I first saw. Watching this video explains alot.
This reminds of my 16 year old self who was in awe for ulzzang pictures, now if you look them up you immediately recognize that they are totally photoshopped. 😅😂
And I didn't even notice. That was 16 years ago.
I totally get what you mean. I saw Hugh Jackman in public once and I couldn't stop staring at how good looking he is lol
I bet if you saw her in person you'd get the same feeling. There's beautiful people everywhere online but it's so disappointing when you see them in person in public and they look nothing like their photos.
Cindy Kimberly?
If you look at any individual too long, you just get used to them, I don’t think this necessarily is about seeing other beautiful people.
Happened to me as well, but not when I see Monica bellucci
Could you say there is a generational gap in attractiveness perceptions as well? Just a personal anecdotes me and some friends noticed between gen z and millennials. Where the former has higher, almost unrealistic standards.
They mostly know about women from porn and social media, not the real world. So they have those standards.
@@foljs5858 How do you know he was talking about guys? It seems to me that modern females are much more demanding than guys.
Yes definitely.
This is why average looking people had à small chance before...whereas now,they are invisible (as a below average one, I can say this confidently)
Gen Z women have unrealistic standards for looks in men, like women wont even look at guys below 9/10 in looks
qoves scientifically described the phenomenon of an "ohio 10 but a LA 6."
following that: would love to see a breakdown of the viral trend "LA vs NY vs Miami 10"
I don't think Miami women are that beautiful granted I'm a straight female but from what I've seen it's a short curvy woman with a bbl eg would be like a Kim Kardashian or a Kylie Jenner that's a Miami 10 LA 10 I don't really know but I know in NYC it's a OG Victoria Secret Model eg Tyra Banks Taylor Hill Adriana Lima or Doutzen Kroes that's a 10 over there on the East coast it's full of old money so they prefer old beauty standards
I would consider NY 10 to be modelesque skinny high cheekbones high fashion old money kind of look. Clean, minimal beauty look, if you get work done it’s “natural looking” almost as if she’s born with it vibe. Think quiet, sleek, understated luxury Think Bella Hadid types.
MIA 10 is like Latina beauty standards. So tan curvaceous, BBL. Loud fashion. Colorful and more ethnic influence (not in a negative way!) lashes nails DONE. Think Kim Khardashian or Kylie Jenner body types, Sofia Vergara style and also body tbh etc
LA 10 is a combo of the two above. Beach babe body, curvy but not overly curvy. Blonde hair (dyed if not natural), high key brands, you want to flex your everything car house bag etc. but I wouldn’t say it’s as loud and flashy as MIA is. Plastic surgery can look obvious or semi obvious but it isn’t going to be as subdued as NY. I would say the whole IG baddie look originated from here. Depending where you go it can be a Gigi Hadid, Kate Upton type, like sports illustrated model or VS model type. Or khardashian ig baddie types. I would say MIA and LA is similar and distinct in direct comparison to NY 10.
In Europe we say, In Scandinavia/East Europe a 6, in Southern/Central Europe a 10
@@TotalSwitchRUclipsin my opinion i view southern europeans as more attractive then scandinavians but whatever floats ur boat ig
@@sofiapineapple when they are pretty they are way prettier than northern people, but the average for me, personal opinion, it’s bad, I don’t like to count exceptions.
I think whats even rarer and stops people in their tracks is yes, beauty in real life, but unique beauty. Its clear to see that people are chasing a similar 'look' these days with regard to makeup style, small nose, almond eyes but strong cheekbones. The more people aim to look alike to fit a certain standard, the more unique and less 'boring' others look. It may sound a dream to have others stutter or stop in their tracks at your beauty, but thats only if you're confident and like a bit of attention. Im a very shy person and it honestly is distressing to have 15 people stare at me as I walk down a street. This is an aspect to beauty that I dont think anyone talks about.
Wear modest clothes
Well-said
Rather that than feel ignored by everyone even your close ones. We all want what we cant have.
@@Mostlikelee Very true, people are very interesting in that regard. Always a 'grass is greener on the other side' mentality.
@@flowerpower7065 Agreed! I have them too and it gives off Disney princess vibes. Rather than try to make them look smaller I make them look as huge as possible with makeup for a 'doll' type look. Doe eyes have higher visual weight which is much more striking and readable from a distance compared to almond eyes.
I remember watching a movie when I was a kid and thinking a peasant woman looked angelic, and when I watched it again as an adult, the woman looked completely unremarkable, even "ugly". Because I could remember what I thought of her as a child, it really pointed out to me how society has brainwashed my perception of beauty. There have also been times that I felt pretty... up until I went to the mall and saw all of the advertising with specific features, which I do not have, being held up as the standard of beauty. Then I just felt bad about myself. And even though I know people use filters and edit photos, or get plastic surgery, I still find myself falling into the trap of comparing myself to them or feeling like I'm supposed to achieve what is really an unrealistic or unattainable standard of beauty. So I've been working to be more conscious of these things and realize that I sometimes have a skewed perception of my own appearance. Also, being healthy is way more important than being attractive, and focusing on living a life of purpose and doing things I enjoy helps me to get out of this mentality. Plus, all of the people I love don't look like movie stars, so why should I measure my own lovability by my appearance?
I couldn’t have said it better. I don’t remember the last time I felt good about my looks, so a different kind of approach - where we focus on accepting and loving ourselves for who we truly are - this approach is needed.
I find your example from that movie really shocking, do you know what movie that is?
What movie was it
In my entire life, I’ve only come across ONE man IRL that was so insanely attractive that I forgot how to speak. ONE. I live in a big city too. Think about how many sparingly beautiful people you’ve met IRL, and that will give you the answer you’re looking for. The internet and online personas are all fiction. Besides RUclips, I got off SM completely. Put down your phone, and just enjoy life!
That's the ticket. It's all BS.
Women rate men much lower than men rate women.
@@dijoxx I should clarify that I’m referring to a unique or otherworldly beauty, and not just an attractive person. I’ve been attracted to average people. Mainly referring to social media creating a false beauty narrative because people can easily edit their photos and only share flattering photos. Also, a lot of people get plastic surgery today. I don’t really mind as long as people are honest about it. I self admittedly used to edit my photos when I was a teen until I realized it actually made me look weird as hell.
Curious what did he look like? Is there a celebrity you can compare him to?
@@dijoxxbecause women are less thirsty after men and not nearly as visual.
As a pretty guy you'll attract more gay dudes than women
This doesn't just apply to the internet, but to real life as well. If you join a college coed athletic club and spend time around attractive and fit people of the opposite sex, you start to judge nonathletes as substandard. I can't get over how many overweight people there are in the world outside of the athletic sphere.
I was thinking something similar happens when you're educated in a high class surrounding because beauty is also, in a way, a type of currency, and many rich people tend to be more attractive (especially if this has been going on for multiple generations) because rich men seek attractive women as a status symbol, and attractive women are oftentimes put in privileged positions because of their beauty where they end up meeting these men. Their children end up being pretty, and when this happens for a while, you have upper classes that have "hoarded beauty". If you grow up around these people it doesn't seem as exceptional to you anymore. It's really interesting to be in that situation when you're not part of it because when you go back in the real world, you're aware that your perception was completely skewed.
@@Tzinacacihuatl I would say it's less of a status symbol and more of a biological response. It is a status symbol only in the fact that attractive women are generally desirable and sought for, so there's a lot of competition, and being rich gives you an advantage. Being rich, or at least, not being to poor allows you to do things things necessary to stay attractive, like work out, maintain a healthy weight, do yoga, participate in sports and recreation, wear makeup, nice clothes, etc. People who are poor are stuck in their jobs not being able to do those things. Landlords ask for proof of income or assets in order to allow tenants to rent. On the other hand, there are wealthy people that squander their opportunity and live lazily.
I wouldn't say one situation is the real world and the other is not. They're both real, but experienced by different people. It just so happens that there are a lot more people who aren't rich compared to the amount of people who are. You may experience different situations depending on where you are in the world and in life. Some people spend their lives at sea and that is their normal. Other spend their lives hiking and camping. Some people live in suburbs, others in metropolitan areas, and yet others in rural farmlands.
Omg I constantly stay around really good artists and I always feel my own pieces suck in comparison. Probably they are just average paintings, not the dead bottom as I perceive them...
@@TzinacacihuatlTrue, I study in a place with a lot of attractive people from the upper class and the way I perceive beauty has changed a lot because of it. Even instagram people rarely impress me now. It’s kinda wild.
I watched terminator a while ago and realized that while Arnold would've been pretty crazy looking at the time, he actually looks like a bunch of my friends 😭
Realistic filters made this issue worse because when people saw textured skin on photos and videos, they were shocked. If you told them that those attractive people on social media have filters, they would think you're jealous, even if it's common and obvious.
This completely makes sense. So many times i've heard someone very average or under the average say beautiful people "all look boring and the same" basically calling them average but really I think it just shows how much that (below)average person stares or seeks out beautiful people in their day to day life. Its really a bit silly.
HA, I swear I see this so much, especially if it's someone that's done something that isn't deemed morally correct. The first thing they attack is their looks.
A lot of beautiful people do look similar. That's why we're more drawn to striking features as per the video such as Miranda Kerr (her nose), Robert Pattinson (eyes and jaw) and Taylor Hill (jaw). My favorite model personally is Hannah Kleit. I think she has very striking eyes and a unique mouth shape that draws my attention in a way that other models don't. Someone like Adriana Lima is extremely beautiful, but her features aren't very interesting. Nothing really stands out as unique. I prefer Taylor Hill over her because Taylor has a very unique, masculine jaw that is very captivating. As humans we seek novelty for pleasure and because we see so many beautiful people on a daily basis we get bored of conventional beauty. It's not because conventional beauty is boring, it's because the excitement has worn off. We've all stared at thousands of conventionally beautiful people so the dopamine signaling isn't as strong as it once was. It's the same reason why fashion changes every year. The clothes people used to enjoy and pay hundreds of dollars for now seem boring and unoriginal. We simply grow accustomed to certain trends over time. In the 90s "Heroin Chic" was the name of the game and now in the 2020s it's "SlimThick". Eventually skinny will come back into fashion once the culture becomes bored of voluptuous bodies. Superhero movies are starting to die out now because people have become bored of watching so many superhero movies and tv shows. Zombie movies used to be extremely popular too and then they died out because we had been inundated with too many. The market became oversaturated. This is just how trends are, we crave novelty. It's why men will cheat on gorgeous women with women who are less attractive. It's new and it's different, therefore it's exciting
maybe the way to fix society is to start an ugly fetish contest lol
@@jeremyayala2947happened to me lol, I argue that aging is less beautiful than staying young. They said women of all ages are beautiful and I am a creep pedophile for thinking like that. Because they said kids are also aging so which means I'm into kids. Then I said kids are growing up not aging, aging is when the body starts deteriorating after reaching their prime. I'm not even referring to a certain person as being old or ugly, just stating general knowledge. Then they said growing old with someone you loved is beautiful and I only see beauty on the face value. So I said the beautiful part of that is the situation, not the looks of the person who is getting old. Then they said "your hair looks awful btw" lol from people that insist to view that all women are beautiful.
@calfagra don't bother with braindead people. Of course the most beautiful time for living beings are their youth. Imo, around 20-30 for women and 25-35 for men. But of course the rate of deterioration is different for different people depending on their genes and maintenance. If we look at Hollywood celebrities our perception that beauty stay unchanging is of course skewed. But that require constant effort and plenty of wealth.
Same is true for sugar and salt content in food, the modern sedentary lifestyle, etc etc. We arent built to be overloaded with this stuff, it is affecting our mental health, physical health and values
You need salt to live, we don't need a model or a celebrity to live.
exactly
@@CRM-114You definitely need salt bro. Ever heard of dehydration and electrolytes 😂
@@CRM-114 Many experts would beg to differ, especially if you eat a low carb whole food diet.
Obviously if you eat processed food you don't need it as there's lots of added salt.
Salt is needed though bro, that's just a fact.
@@CRM-114 Where's the salt in beef or pork or chicken? Stop talking nonsense. There's no salt in whole foods, it all needs to be added.
We NEED salt to survive bruh 😂
Please do some reading up on the topic
Even just two hundred years ago, the average human being, would see one exceptionally beautiful woman or man in their lifetime. Let alone a perfectly groomed, rich and famous beauty.
It explains why artists had muses, why people lost themselves to a single man or woman. Because they were not constantly confronted by a sea of bigger, better, more colourful eye-candies.
Only seeing one beautiful person in your entire life... seems tragic almost haha
This explains why I don't find anyone really attractive (in real life). People who are probably attractive I just perceive as plain. It's as if nothing can 'trigger' my brains anymore.
Same
I've kind of always been like that. People that draw human figure usually naturaly have the " qooves filter" to see flaws in faces and bodies that most people don't.
@@stefanisilva2493that makes sense, i grew up as an artist and drew humans for many years and i think like that too. i kind of like people who look unique or strange, i’ve noticed. because there is something different and something that sticks with me. not plain.
It must suck for you to look in the mirror then huh?
You need to find the beauty in simplicity. Think of cute instead of stunning. Even “cute” animals look a bit odd when you look closely.
The only person who'll say you're beautiful is-
1. Your Mother
2. Barber after a haircut
My barber never said that 💀
@@trideset3975Fire that dude 😂
Lmaooooooo
You forgot the 3rd one, grandma
If your mom is asian, she'll never say it. *insert lifelong low self esteem*
I often wondered why I didn't get _it_ when other people would be gushing about celebrities or attractive people on Instagram. When you talked about that kind of beautiful people simply being seen as unattainable, it made a lot of sense.
I end up always being attracted to individuals being perceived as either average or ugly, and I guess it's because I was bombarded by all these images of gorgeous people that seem like their own category.
Me neither. I mean I see those all people as the-same-looking before watching this video. I like the uniqueness and no make up can be much more attractive because it makes the face more natural and unique.
EXACTLY. I love uniquely average people with hidden beauty. For example, david Bowie or Hange Zoe (my pfp). People who are too perfectly beautiful seem alienating and unreachable, they seem like statues, not real people. People with quirks are my favorite kinda people ❤ (not trying to bash beautiful people😭😭 ofc I think they’re pretty!! However, for me, their beauty ≠ my attraction )
yeah , this is one of the main reasons men/women in L.A. (where I live) don't want to settle down or lock in with a wonderful person b/c the underlying thought is there's something even better out there (since they've/we've seen such an overwhelming number of attractive and successful people in some of these affluent spaces)
I'm borned and raised in L.A. your definitely correct. There so many pretty people that they become average in L.A. When I moved to Houston and it's werid would complement my skin and ask me to be their trainer. Cuz L.A. lifestyle is always be attractive
I’m a victim to this most people definitely are average in real life it’s very rare to see attractive people the way you see them online
Because they are rare. At least the high attractive ones.
weird, i see them all the time. especially women
@@infj1601Men actually have lower standards than women for considering someone of the opposite sex physically attractive.
Partly this may be a biological thing, but it could also be related to the fact that women spend more time on social media apps like Instagram, tiktok, Facebook etc, than men, generally.
That's because online is fake af
It depends, go to north europe and you will see beautiful people everywhere.
I've noticed you often use pictures of attractive people when speaking about average looking people (not in the averageness sense, but in the 5 out of 10 sense). I find this confusing and I think the audience would benefit if you also showcase what is average looking (again in the 5 out of 10 sense), what is lower, what is higher but not a 10 etc.
I agree. It confuses me when he says average but puts a model up. Please just show a real average person
I agree. It's like the editing is done at a different time without knowledge of what's going to be said in the video at that time stamp.
@@TheMasterfulcreator ahhh this makes sense. I agree with you. Visuals vs audio are not matching as if they were created on different days? Like visuals were laid out first in the editor then a voiceover was placed with them based on nothing but their usual editing style/template. It’s creating such a juxtaposition that i’m having a hard time attributing the audio to anything but what my brain comes up with on its own because the audio contradicts the visuals so 🤦🏽♀️
yep haha@@strawbanna4eva123
yeahh the visuals when it comes to average people never match up to what he’s saying. I get he might be doing it out of respect but also who cares? just show it so it’s not confusing
"you've seen too many attractive people and it's unhealthy for your brain"
Qoves: "proceeds to show supermodels for 8minute straight"
I know when I see a truly attractive person when I feel (slight) fear. I’m not accustomed to seeing people with such symmetrical features that it triggers that part of my brain the same way as pictures of faces in the uncanny valley. Either that or I’m just scared of other people.
I totally concur with the point about perceiving idealized faces as belonging to another realm. I think some of us have become so exhausted by the appearance obsession of the modern world that we've given up on trying to achieve perfection or expecting it from others. Some people who feel they're lacking in appearance do develop other aspects of themselves, which works in their favor. Oftentimes the quirks or imperfections of someone's appearance will begin to look beautiful if that person has a certain magnetism to their personality.
Also beauty naturally fades with age bit by bit even if the person ages really well. So developing those extra skillsets or leaning into their own strengths may be really beneficial for people in the long run
Yes, like dark circles on an averaged face makes them stand out more and look more pretty, probably that and the fact they might have nice hair and skin… maybe pulls them to an 8/10 and makes their face striking compared to others
Especially if said person has an “edgy” or “thoughtful” personality/vibe about them
People on TV and on social media look way different in real life. We all forget about professional makeup, special effects, camera angles, lighting, etc.
This is a very important video. This needs more coverage because when an individual is exposed to a large number of attractive individuals it skews ones perception of attractiveness causing an inflation
The montage is clearly a cut above what you've done so far. Thus far all your video have had a very neat editing, but this one is magnificent, it is much more dynamic and attracts the eyes, it can also serves as a proof that not only attractive persons pull our attention but pleasant aesthetics too. Love your videos, as always keep up the great work.
This whole video is calling us delulu, love that, we needed it.
And this is why people are frustrated with online dating in a nutshell 😂 you always see comments (especially from men) who say they don't get any matches so when they do, they "settle" for "below average" people. Then you see pictures of the "below average" people they're talking about and they are actually above average looking. They are just comparing those real pictures to the AI bot models or scammer profiles they are scrolling through simultaneously.
I think men get the short end of the stick with online dating. Back in the day if you were a good man who worked hard you were basically guaranteed to find a decent girl to fall in love with. Now you have the girls who are 4-5’s swiping PAST the men who are 4-5’s and swiping for the men who are 10’s. And because the women have more options and so much of online dating is hook up based so a 10 who’s desperate will hook up with a 5, these people believe that the 10’s are in their level because they matched! 😂 🤦🏻♀️
@@tula1433Everyrhing you said described women too wtf. You think 4-5 men are going to 4-5 women? Hell no they go for 10s
@@silverplim EXactly…they may sleep with a 4/5 but they really want to date seriously and spoil 10s.
so why is a guy who is 10 desperate and swiping on 5s? Like, who are the 6-10 females swiping on? Doesn't make sense.
It's so depressing the way so many people operate. You can be the most wonderful partner, even beautiful, but if you don't touch online/virtual "relative standards" of exceptional beauty, it's not enough. THAT'S what matters to so many people: the compared value of their partner in the eyes of society, not to themselves or each other as a couple. There is a marvelous thing that tends to happen as you grow older as a human: You don't feel as needy for a romantic partner, as so much of it rests upon sexual attraction. Life is so beautiful by itself that you don't necessarily need someone to enjoy it with you. That dependency begins to erode and the appreciation for a partner that loves you despite your aging state, grows, and those who can't do that, well that's not our problem anymore. Thank goodness there are so many work options today.
I don't think that it is much of a problem. Although this might affect how people view you at first glance and negatively affect your chances of hitting on a person, people's faces tend to look more attractive the more you look at them and the more you spend time with them. So personally this shouldn't worry people too much.
Somehow my brain knew it before me. When I was 17(2016) I deleted all social media except YT.
I knew I don’t find any girl if I am looking for a 10/10 only because I see them all the time on Instagram. I haven’t regretted my decision since then.
I always saw a lot of beautiful people when I lived in Europe. When I moved to America things change. My 'perception of 'physical beauty' has lessened. What seems to you as too many beautiful people for our brains is actually mine - finally enough beautiful people for my brain. It varies by location definitely.
What was the place you visited that had the least amount of pretty people in your point of view?
@@sarah37452I’ve been to every country in the world except 4. The ugliest people I’ve seen are in the US , Bolivia , France, England and some parts of China and Mexico.
The most beautiful were in Germany, Ethiopia, Somalia, all the Scandinavian countries, Brazil , Argentina, certain parts of Mexico and Spain, South Korea.
The strangest mix of amazing beauty and shocking ugly were former USSR eastern block countries.
You saw more beautiful people in America then Europe? Are you sure about that?
I was on a plane in Norway and I was like wtf how is everyone so hot?
@Aaron-kj8dv Interesting you brought that up. There's an app or website (I forgot exactly what) that only people who are deemed attractive can use, and once they get access, they get free stuff.
When they looked at a percentage of people who were allowed from each country (allowed only if attractive), Norway and Sweden were on the top of the list. Seems like they do have more hot people.
since ive started watching qoves i focus so much on the imperfections of people, but particularly attractive people. not sure how I feel about this lol
yeahh that’s not healthy
The not remembering attractive faces as well thing makes sense. When I've met someone who has stopped me in their tracks with their attractiveness, I struggle more to retain an image in my head of how they look, without photographic reference.
That makes no sense
Frr and that's why I glance at them more times
Thank you! I left a comment somewhere on this topic and even called it “beauty inflation”, so glad someone is talking about this!
This is what everyone is talking about when saying that a LA 7 is a real world 10.
What's an LA 10 then
Damn, QOVES really stepped up the production value on this video. Well done!
I've noticed it too that the more I spent my time outdoors I don't find anyone super attractive but I do know that that's how most people look : average. Even I am super average and I always think guys will not find me attractive because they are so used to seeing beautiful women.😂😂
I think the most attractive thing is your smile, charm and character . Don't worry. Looks are not everything. I met my husband while I was not dressed up at all and was not wearing makeup. He was drawn to me as a person. Now we are happily married for 14 years.
Yeah, they won't find you attractive. Guys unfortunately only want above average women. You know how I know that? I'm average and I never got approached by guys, nor catcalled. I'm ignored by men.
@@sarah37452 Then you're likely not 'average' because men have no standards at all and try to chat up virtually anyone. You could also be way to aloof and scornful towards potential suitors. Likely both.
@lukebruce5234 I'm not ugly. Lol. I actually considered myself cute since I have a baby face, but since I don't have pretty privilege, I suspect I'm considered average instead.
Also, I don't frown in public, so that's not the issue. The issue is that men now are too picky and only aim for above average women.
@@sarah37452
*The issue is that men now are too picky and only aim for above average women.*
That is clearly not true lol. Men are less picky than ever. Never in the entire human history men were less picky. Maybe you're just autistic, can't read social cues and don't go outside. Or maybe you're just trolling or gaslighting.
on the last part, when does "desire to be better at something" overpower envy/"desire to pull others down"
when it comes to subjects overexposed to beautiful people?
I'm a woman whose always considered myself a 5 or a 6.5 on my best of days. Always thought that i have "cute" (ie youthful or babyface) features but not "beautiful". Is it a coincidence that all of the men that have ever told me im "beautiful" (complete strangers mind you) have been 40+? For reference im currently 30 so not particularly young. Is my "beauty" generational? lol i've always been curious about that, somewhat bothered by it as well and ultimately curious.
Could be generational in that I as a 27 year old guy would never tell a woman I wasn't on extremely good terms with they're beautiful out of fear of being considered creepy. I've always felt like a woman wouldn't respect it either, like you'd be drawing attention to the surface level, playing into the idea that you're prioritising their exterior over their interior, and then there's the fact that you inherit your face, it's not earned. Even when women put on makeup it feels like treading on eggshells complimenting them, because they could feel like they need it in order to receive compliments, which feeds into bad self esteem.
@@LuckeGabrielI think the best compliments are either about personality “hey you’re really funny” or maybe based on what someone looks like in what they are wearing “hey you look great in that color!” Instead of saying you’re beautiful, your basically telling them they are shining extra bright in what they have on, or have some sort of vibe you like.
Same, I also have very roundish babyface but not the sharp features that are the beauty stantard (high cheekbones and sharp jawline)
not to mention the rise fo plastic surgery is " raising the bar". combined with individuals already being attractive, gorgeous women can become an almost alien like impossible beauty if they have enough money.
This! Sometimes when I see girls out there irl, I feel like I'm almost a diffent species than them. Compared to them I feel like a goblin :(
@@Nina-hf1nhwe’re goblinmoding 😂🤷♀️
I always felt really good after watching an episode of curb your enthusiasm
😂
so the internet has contributed to further alination from reality to the point where it's perception is more real than reality itself, got it!
I went to San Diego and everyone there looked like instagram models, the guys and the girls. Someone like francisco lachowski would blend right in
Note to self: Stay away from San Diego.....
San Diego is near LA and a lot of Models and actors live there trying to capitalise on their looks similar with New York so that doesn't surprise me
If they got rid of Facetune, filters and simple photoshop apps, you'd all see SOME realistic-looking standards of gorgeous people. I'm NOT referring to people who've had facial cosmetic surgery though. I feel like that's "cheating."
I feel like Instagram should have warning labels like cigarettes "warning, this photo has been photoshopped/uses 1+ filters"
@@Aaron-kj8dv Well, everyone knows they all use Facetune and/or photoshop apps. But according to researcher/psychologist Renee Engelin, PhD, in her book "Beauty Sick," this knowledge DOESN'T make women feel more complacent or stop the body image comparisons! In fact, it might make SOME feel MORE competitive in their quest to "achieve" the perfect body.
I agree with YOU, though! I think all those shopped AND filtered pics - whether it's on IG, FB, reddit, etc. - SHOULD have that notification stamped in the corner of their pics... in CAPITAL LETTERS. It's just fair to let people know those images have been airbrushed and/or shopped in some way!
it is
@@Aaron-kj8dvyeah!
Realistic filters made this issue worse because when people saw textured skin on photos and videos, they were shocked. If you told them that those attractive people on social media have filters, they would think you're jealous, even if it's common and obvious.
There’s an Am I Ugly Reddit that’s been blowing up. Safe to say all this celebretarianism is destroying our perceptions of what beauty is.
i feel like anyone claiming only “xyz” (ex: those looksmaxxers who think anyone who isn’t a stock photo of eastern european women is “mid”) is attractive don’t go outside enough. when you’re constantly out in the world, you encounter beautiful people every now and then who are naturally that way despite no fancy cameras, editing, and makeup. timeless beauty (flawed and not erased by instagram) is no longer valued by people who allegedly claim traditional values. timeless beauty is no longer the supermodel standard.
That’s why when I go out I don’t go on internet or social media I just enjoying seeing new average and real faces
for me when it comes to personal attraction if i think someone is too perfect or beautiful i won’t be as attracted than if someone looks relatable to my looks. i feel like i see so many pretty people irl and i’m always the one to compliment when in a group and i’m just over here confused why others aren’t saying the same 😂 ik beauty is in the eye of the beholder but ig people view a lot of people as mid and average because of the media
more likely is that you don't come across that many beautiful people in your daily life, hence why you attribute that you'd feel less attracted.
Kinda reminds when i was new to kpop and i am at awe with every idol's looks but now i just doesn't get that feeling it seems like everyone is good looking but at the same time they dont look very unique .
As a black person media's most 'attractive people' aren't actual that good looking, they are average but youthful, superficially healthy looking ie not obviously deformed/sick and white or with white facial features under different skin tones. Youthful, healthy looking, clean, euro-centric facial features, playful or confident in designer clothes flattering angles and lighting.
Medias most attractive people aren't that good looking?? Way better looking than black people I tell you that.
Allah over the west but muslims and blacks on every cover we are superior we won the race war against the white minority hahahah Allah is big!
what does that have to do with you being black?
@@nemoahmed1443 to Show that we are supirior
@@nemoahmed1443thats clearly his perception as a black person
I think this one of the issues with dating apps. Everyone sees so many attractive people that theoretically you could date so everyone more average just seems unappealing.
I was waiting for men's photos too and how it impacts women and their perception of what a handsome man is today. And how men that look like models affect most of the "regular" men population and their own self-confidence.
I feel sad for men of today. So many men used to be able to have a good job and find a nice girl to start a family with that was their “looks match”. Now with online dating these men get overlooked while women who are 2-5’s are flooded with matches which makes them overlook the men who are also 2-5’s! SMH 🤦🏻♀️ 😂
My features are unusual on the beauty spectrum and people tend to look at me with curiosity when I am out in public. I don't wear makeup and dress without showing much, so it's not my clothes. Many have called me pretty and beautiful and it's fun to have them try to guess my ethnic heritage. They usually get it partially correct but can never guess the rest. Men often show interest and it's not because I am behaving in or dressing in an attention drawing way. I am not model material by usual standards, I am not even slim. Maybe its the confidence in the way I dress my body and my attitude. Maybe it's my face. Maybe its the whole package. Can't know for sure!
I am attractive but I also have anxiety and I’ve noticed that most of the time I get hit on is when I have my sunglasses on! I think it’s because I feel more comfortable and walk in a more confident manner! Instead of looking nervously around left to right. So you could be getting attention because of your vibe or overall spirit as well. Confidence is key. I once made out with a 4 because he was sexy as hell confidence wise!? 😂 🤷♀️
The French call it je ne sais quoi. Or she has that "I don't know what"
not to mention the majority of straight men's preferences in women are borderline pedophilic and they subconsciously view women as ticking time bombs, resenting the majority of women over the age of 25 unless they manage to look younger than they are.
I don't think it's attractive faces we are too used to seeing, I think it's make-up, filters and plastic surgery we are too used to seeing, and there's nothing wrong with any of that, I just think it's worth knowing so that people don't compare themselves to others
make up in real face to face with the person won't change the face much and it visible that they wear makeup .it makeup plus editing /filters .you see the skin texture ect when you are Infront of the other person...
I’m going to keep lifting, fasting, dieting, reading, and resting in order for facial aesthetics. Never give up!
True. I studied at a campus in a very affluent area for many years and the people who lived around there were very attractive, and very tall (regularly 6'0 and above men), like, Beverly Hills, kind of affair. It's actually intimidating, and you realize how important it is to maintain social harmony, rather than extreme segregation.
Everyone should date just for looks for a while. That will teach you. You will learn to tune into inner beauty quickly. Unless of course all the beautiful people you date turn out to be beautiful on the inside too. Then congrats you won the lottery.
This stuff is so fascinating
I am SO AWARE of the attractiveness bias that I developed a sort of opposite version of it.
I find common, everyday-looking, not-quite-perfect women much more attractive than supermodels or famous acctresses considered astonishingly beautiful.
In fact, I remember in my youth having HUGE crushes on actresses which are cast as "homely" characters, such as Renee Zellwegger and others I can not remember clearly now.
I agree with finding everyday-people that are healthy, attractive… but I think that’s also maybe because we won’t see actress level beauty or supermodel beauty on the streets… if we do, it’s not like on TV or internet because they likely won’t be decked out in makeup and extravagant clothing…
This channel itself is pushing the same problem lol of being hyperfixated on looks.
You should do a video about the truerateme subreddit if you haven't already, it's a great exemple of this phenomenon
am I the only one that shuts down and gets depressed if someone is better . Seeing someone more attractive wont make me strive to be better, ill just feel like giving up, but on the other hand if Im better than some/most in something than it more likey for me to stive to be the best in that.
I do that as well, but I think that we allow other people affect us too much. If we truly worked on ourselves, and believe that we did our best, how everyone else looks will naturally become more inconsequential. I believe the actual question here is, did we make the best of ourselves and our lives? If yes, then there's nothing to feel depressed about. If no, then take steps to identify what it is about yourself or your life that you find lacking, and then find solutions to improve upon them.
Also, it is natural for us to feel good when we are doing better than some people as most of us are ego driven. But you have to remember there will always be someone who is better than you, and this applies to everyone. Self-reflection is important, and attention and external validation will not last forever. In the end, it is better to look for inner peace and fulfillment.
Of course attractiveness can change when people speak and start to animate themselves. Also, humor is breakthrough-beauty that anyone can attain.
i also noticed when i’m browsing random instagram reels, they mostly show videos of good looking people lol
As I've grown older and have been exposed to more and more people, I find that I see human bodies and faces as less unique in general. When I was younger growing up in a small town, each person seemed to have more unique character based on their appearance. Now it often seems I am seeing the same body template with only subtle variations between each person. I guess as one's perspective expands the differences between things shrinks.
I remember thinking I was actually pretty cute when I was in my early to mid teenage years. I was not much on social media back then. I never thought of myself as outstandingly beautiful, but I was very much okay with the way I looked.
I am 21 now and I no longer think I'm pretty at all, despite my facial features not having changed much at all. There is not really anything I could name about my looks that I like. I find myself average to slightly unattractive and I think it is due to social media and comparing myself to these edited photos all the time.
I am not on social media a ton and if I am its engaging with people I actually know irl. Its so sad to me to see the shift from social media going from social and community based to now mostly entertainment. I dont think the entertainment is wrong I just think most people dont see it as entertainment they see it as real life and that is whats sad.
I am ugly af online and on dating apps but I have no problem dating and being approached irl
when i was young i saw so many beautiful things i was struck , and then those things actually became less beautiful over time they aged with me , now im old i see beauty again without the fear of being found out beauty is in the eye of the beholder
This reminds me of the dude(he's like 2 objevtively) who called Margot Robbie a mid on Twitter
As an ugly mofo, I'm going to start suing over discrimination whenever I get turned down.
You are not ugly.
@@EchelonPandora The AI isn't, lol.
Lmaoooo calling yourself ugly mofo and joking makes you slightly attractive. I think charisma and personality is super important too. Let's open a club for the ugly mofo goblins with a sense of humour
@@dwdwoneThat’s one handsome Ai photo
@janesvirtualworld6275 I uploaded my pic to Dezgo and gave it instructions to make me good looking without changing my features. I'll forward your compliment to the AI 😁
This happened to me but in the opposite, I always thought that most people online that others called pretty were "ugly" because I was so used to my own pretty face which I like better. I had to teach myself what conventional attractiveness was.
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P.s. Narrators voice is pure bliss 😩 s tier
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I watched this because the thumbnail caught my attention. Both women looked very similar to me. The biggest differences were the 2023 woman appeared to have more makeup on and the 1970s woman wore the clothes and hair styles of the time. The physical differences were subtle to me, to the point that they looked related like a mother and daughter pictured at the same age. I didn’t see a dramatic difference in attractiveness when the fluff is removed
Inspired to become better at something = extreme anxiety, depression, low self esteem, dysmorphia, cosmetic surgery.
whenever I see beautiful ppl I wanna cry because I know I won’t ever be there level of pretty
Simple. Just find someone that doesn't have unrealistic beauty standards and after that you won't be bothered by who's beautiful and who's not. It's really so trivial in the grand scheme of things.
hmmm in a way this could be positive if being exposed to so many beautiful faces ended up reducing the halo effect when meeting a beautiful person in real life
I had an old boyfriend who asked me....do you have tattoos? I don't but the question was odd. He said well I am picky. I dumped him.....
I have seen many bodybuilders and models images in the movies but when I saw the bodybuilder in front they look more huge even if they are average in terms of size. Also the photos or images of attractive people are taken from 100mm to 300mm cameras, but our eyes have very low focal length so when we see attractive people in real life they look different
Does anyone start to feel sick by looking at too many faces? Just me? I just felt overwhelmed throughout this whole video aside from the Avatar pic 😂
Frankly, the vast majority of truly beautiful people that I’ve encountered were some of the worst conversations and interactions I’ve had. There are outliers but generally I feel like they are less interested in forming a genuine connection and often lack depth to their character. It could be that they subconsciously believe that they are superior. I’ve actually found this to be more true with men (I’m a straight man), but could just be coincidence or my own bias.
It's definitely true about men. I frequently go to night spots and etc where you'll find a lot of men like this, and 8 times out of 10 they have the same contrived, vanilla personality. They aren't interesting whatsoever.
@@nichobeeyes omg , such men turn me off entirely 😢
I highly believe social scientists, or psych, psy would have covered this as the basis of one of their thousands of scientific studies if there was enough interest in such a phenom.
AGAIN, attractiveness and intellectual or emotional “substance” impacting the presence of the other, within an individual, in any statistically significant genetic condition manner way?
I’m my opinion, people modify their behavior more quickly now and are continually scanning others’ faces for feedback. Seems a bit of an f-Ed up superiority thing, put in the least amount of work, feign boredom,
I feel like we see more striking people rather than beautiful people. People purposely manipulate their features even if it’s just contour so that we’re drawn to them. It’s rare to find someone plain who you look at after a while and then come to the realisation you like the way their face is. Sure they’ll always be those people that immediately catch our attention but even they have lost that period where their beauty simmers down and becomes ordinary only for them to smile and snare you again.
To be honest I actually like the face on the 1970s girl in the thumbnail more than the other one. Just seems cuter and more approachable.
I was at a small town parade a few years ago and noticed this--that everyone looked so normal and I realized, oh, this is not television. This is real people.
I live how they’re showing us a bunch of attractive people while saying that it’s bad for us 💀
I see it online but I’ve notice that in real life I nearly never see the average beautiful persons I see on TikTok in seconds outside. I see people who are ofc beautiful but not THE WAY I SEE IT ONLINE.
i think bc in the past people's natural beauty was seen whereas today people have tons of plastic surgery, exaggerated heavy makeup, gigantor lashes (ew), hair extensions (length + volume), exaggerated body proportions due to working out obsessively, plus digital filters. i think all of this actually makes people look down right ugly! natural is better!
I like the heroin chic look of the early 90s everyone was thin because they were eating pretty healthy (some were being unhealthy to be thin ofc) but it was a very rock and roll “I just rolled out of bed” effortless vibe that I wish would come back!
I love seeing so many beautiful people, i am glad for their existence 😂
Extreme physical beauty needs excess fueling to sustain it's longevity in a modern world where standards have gone off the roof through competitive vogue .
i don’t think it’s that we’ve been subjected to more attractive people per se, although partly true.
Social media apps such as tik tok and previously instagram yes has let us have access to very attractive faces but also allows for average individuals to put on a load of makeup, adjust angles and lighting and sometimes edit their pics to appear as more attractive, yet when you see them in person/with less makeup they aren’t all that.
Also, the ‘attractive’ people on tik tok more often than not are average looking people that just have dishonest comments telling them and everyone who sees it that they look better than they do, thus influencing others judgements.
So yes, we’ve been subjected to more ‘attractive’ people but not entirely truly. In person it’s still kinda rare to see someone genuinely breathtaking.
You are dead on. The same person in different angles/lighting/makeup can look like entirely different levels of attractiveness, which usually doesn’t reflect their actual in person appearance
I was just thinking about this today. Spot on
you are so correct. i’ve noticed in so many cases that someone who’s sooo unbelievably “attractive” on social media relies on filters, makeup, and angles, and in reality they are average or below average. i used to think these other girls were so beautiful and i couldn’t compare, but then when i looked deeper and saw them in different angles or in person, i even realized that i am much more beautiful than a LOT of them. there are not that many people who look like perfect goddesses. most of these social media people are not.
I know a good example of this. A girl I used to go to school was pretty average looking (pretty, but she had acne and thin lips. Basically an average pretty, like Taylor Swift). Now she’s some kind of IG model I think and she has the eyelash extensions and the lip fillers. So now she’s kind of the typical IG model beauty, even though I think she looked better before all that crap. I know I’m sounding like a hater, but I am tired of women feeling like they have to overcompensate by putting on tons of shit on their face. I think that’s why I’ve started appreciating what I have. I know I’m pretty ugly/borderline average, but I dress up and take care of my skin. Even if you’re not naturally pretty, you can do the basics to feel good about yourself and up your attractiveness level a bit.
@@LLCoolJ_25 i mean, im not a taylor swift fan by any means but she's above average objectively.
If youre insecure almost anything will trigger u, ppl just need to grow a backbone, its not pretty peoples fault
Good messege,but thats not the point of the video
True
@@garfieldsneighbor6771 how?
@@garfieldsneighbor6771 So youre agree that it is not the point of the video right?
Who blames the pretty people? The video is saying that the more contact average people have, more they change the ideias of beauty and this obvs includes their own beauty
Thats why i like to go outside. I try to see the beauty in people and i can. Since i am less femimin looking, i admire the more feminin looking women around me. With men its worse. Most dont look as good, but also not too bad. And no i am not gay. I still love men alot😂 i still ptefer someone more on my level then a model next to me since i am just avarage myself
Weird ,men are soooo much more attractive to me ,like naturally stunning,I love masculinity,I love men so much