Calvin after my divorce with my American wife, I said I would never get married again. I was adamant about it. But when I met my current Filipino wife that all changed. 14 years later we are still married.
I was married to a African American, Brazilian and a Honduran. I have to say that the poorer the woman the more loving and caring. 2 divorces and then the Honduran was killed in a car accident. It is taking me a long time to get over her.
Brother Calvin: Thank you for sharing. I'm 57 and have been married to my Filipina for 17 years and I would never throw her back. There is just no comparison with American women. Filipinas have a strong familial connection of honor that you do not see here in America. If you treat her with love, compassion and dignity you receive ten-fold back. And, most importantly, they see you for your character; not your color.
Ladies and Gentleman don't bring them Filipina to the US to get Americanized and them thirsty American men and them Jealous American woman start hating
I just love the Filipino emphasis on family. The small things they pay attention to. The absolute appreciation they display for the smallest gifts. Some weird things (to Westerners) I had a hard time getting used to. After dinner at a restaurant, my wife would wipe down my hands after we finished. At the mall and for vehicles she wanted to open the doors. Also, she wants to be the one holding the umbrella when it's raining. That's hard for me because it goes against the gentleman ethos. Lastly, at the mall I purchased her some shoes. She was so happy but would not allow me to carry the bag??? Finally, I just relented as she would not give in. Lol
All that I can say is that you are a very blessed man to have her. I met and married an Asian women from Nepal already in America. She has changed so much that she is no different than the western women.here. Very disrespectful and listens to nothing that I ask her to do. I’m miserable. If the world ever goes back to normal I was planning to divorce and retire in the Philippines.
@@pappadappacarhauler757 that is the truth man do not know. When you take the rose out of the garden, it dies and becomes a weed. You should have stayed in the garden with her. The social framework in her home garden supports and enforces her thinking and behavior.
Your honesty and your cadidnence reminds me of Paul Harvey with the rest of the story, i like listening to your tone and voice and hope to meet up someday with my lady as we plan to do some traveling. My lady is from a small island off the western coastline of Samar up the straight from Tacloban.
Thank you for the therapeutic messages you deliver through your channels. A lot of your topics and discussions resonates with me. You add value to many lives with your pleasant delivery and your shared experiences. You are appreciated!
Thank you very much, my dear Calvin, for your fantastic "My FILIPINA Wife VS My AMERICAN Wife Money Love & Third Parties" video! Enjoyed listening and watching as always! Take care and best regards/Ned 🌹👏🌹
Pulling teeth with tweezers! Another term of genius Calvin. You have the words to say it. Access to the cookies at any time. Now for 6 years, no one has yelled at me. I know of what you speak. Well done.
Been with my American wife for 23 years. She is a gentle soul. I think there are good and shitty women no matter where you go. Most often you have to look in the mirror and fix yourself first before you can find what you need.
Well said. I love how mem compare us to foreign women. Most of the time they meet a women who needs them because they are poor. They marry you so you can take care of their entire family. When you are with your American wife you argue if she wants to loan money to a family member but you would sell your mother to give money to a foreign woman. Nothing against foreign women but American women are more likely to be raised as mother and breadwinners even in a marriage. Most foreign women especially in the Philippines women may have a small job but more often homemakers. When they come to America their views change.
@@dannychristopher1967 I disagree. I disagree coz my wife was born in Canada, a successful woman, speaks 4 languages not including her 3 native languages and she is still a Filipina by heart and actions. It is about culture and upbringing.
@@user-uu2sr9tp6l thank you for your comment. I'm Filipina, been here in US for 30 some yrs. It did not changed me. In fact I learned to step in the doors of opportunities available for the sake of my own family. My American husband worked hard. I worked to help him, but never failed on my wife responsibilities like cooking, cleaning take care of the children. He is still the man of the house, but I am not limited to put in my opinion. I also decided to go to school to get my MBA to be able to get a better job, to help both of us to care for our children. There is a saying you get what you seek. He is still the man of the house. That's how I was raised..
My Filipina wife always responds with the same answer whenever I ask her for input on making a decision together: “it’s up to you “. She rarely takes control and gives me complete authority.
I guess some men like that. I cant stand it when Im with a chick that cant think for herself. I beleive some men think when they start thinking for themselves then they realize whats going on.
@@JoeKyser It just means the issue is not that important to her, whatever the decision she doesn't care. But find something that she really cares about and she would fight for it.
@@rap3208 Understanding created by the intellect cannot be acquired by means of the occult, only by the aid of the zodiac, bringing forth that small flame by whose light part of the future may be discerned -Nostradamus⁶
The only thing is that a lot of these relationships appear to exist in a bubble, meaning that it's all good with the filipina as long as you move to the Philippines. I hear too many stories about men who find "love" in the Philippines, and after moving stateside, the fantasy falls apart. That should be the disclaimer...find love/intimacy in the Philippines, only in the Philippines. It just appears like that the majority of the time.
Very true. Believe it or not, all women are hypergamous, meaning they want a man that is at least at the same level in the social hierarchy as her. Believing otherwise is like saying that men don't like big boobs/ass and that hourglass figure. It's in our nature. A foreigner in the Philippines is a 10 and the Filipina he is dating could be a 6 at most but when you switch countries, that status also switches. Seen this many times and oh, I'm a Filipino.
My ex was so good & protective of me in the Phils, but in America, terrible. Realized that I was a hot commodity but here, she was. Keep young ones (18-28) in the Phils. When they're here in America & away from you spending time on a job or finding new friends, its over.
I know how you feel about your first wife. Was in the same position with my first wife, but she was a Japanese woman from japan. Being married now to my beautiful Mexican wife for 8 years and dated for 2 years. We've been thinking of retiring to Mexico, wish she would consider the Philippines since I'm half Filipino. But Mexico is close to her family and close to some of mine also.
Bitterness in a women is crazy, if she is angry with a man, watch out! I 've waked in your shoes, keep being honest and tell it like it is, blessings and prosperity Calvin!
Cool video Calvin, loved it. Looking forward to seeing there rebuild of homes in the mountains/ province. I'll continue to watch you vlogs and not skip adds. Cheers from down under Australia 🇦🇺
I totally agree with you Calvin, for the most part filipina women are independent. What made me respect my GF when I met her was her independence, she had worked 4yrs in Taiwan when we met in Korea and she worked there for 6 yrs before starting her own business when she returned home, built her parents a home and owned property in Manila and paid her own way through college, but what really sealed the deal she told me she wanted her own money and didn't want to have to depend on me. She was the only 1 out of the others I dated previously never said that. I dated 1 never even poured me a glass of water but always had her hand out and she worked. There is a night and day difference between the good and bad, just have to weed them out.
Shalom Brotha from Kansas City Missouri, you have a beautiful family. I'll be 61 And of this year 2022 and my children are young adults now. I want so much to spend what days I have left in happiness Most High willing. My children have brought me nothing but joy and happiness.
Calvin I agree with you 110 %...Its almost like you know my whole life. I was married to an american women 27 years...Now Ive been married for 11 years to a filipina . And it just gets better every day. The sweetest , loving , hardest working women I've ever met.I guess it wasnt just my wife in america..I guess its the culture that makes women in american so hard. God bless and take care.....one more thing...no one...not even my children got my side of the story.I wish them all the best.
I always thought that Filipino woman didn't like dark men .. I'm a dark man from Australia 👍 .. I like to find someone from the Philippines .. I have a infatuation for them .. .. I have many women white and black that wanna go with me .. but my heart is with a Filipino woman ..!
My Filipino fiance is amazing and the best thing that ever happened to me. We have a 14 year age gap which seems to be perfect for us. If you are in your 60's and are planning on being a 25 year old Filipino to America you are asking for trouble. Find a good Filipino women with a reasonable age gap and she will stay with you through thick and thin.
Damm OG, I just turned 50 and you described my 20 year marriage to the tee! We had a 10year gap I wanted to settle down she wanted to turn up! Everything you said I mean everything! Described my relationship! You definitely put things in perspective for me! Thank you brother! Hope to meet you when I visit the Philippines. ✊🏿
CALVIN ... YOU ARE ONE OF THE VERY BEST ... I WILL EVENTUALLY MEET YOU .. I HAVE BEEN IN AND OUT OF PINAS SINCE 1982 ... FIRST FILIPINA FIANCEE GOT TO HOT WHEN I BROUGHT HERE TO CALIFORNIA ... CAUGHT HER WITH 3 MEN WITHIN 1 YEAR ... BROUGHT HER SIBLINGS AS WELL AS PARENTS OVER ... WE HAD TO SEPARATE ...Just couldn't keep up with her ... The second one is the BEATH that I breathe every moment ... KEEP IT UP CALVIN ... You are doing a great job. God Bless ..CALIFORNIA BOY HERE
I really like this channel and your approach to things like this, I was very happily married 38+ yrs to a woman who was 14 yrs older than me,I lost her to Alzheimer's almost 2 yrs ago, I wish I could travel and meet a Filipina woman to share the rest of my life with, please keep up the good work !!
Calvin thank you so so much for them video. I’m 57 on my second marriage in American. After18 with her we are heading for divorce. I want to take my life to the Philippines and restart my life over with a Filipino woman. I want the simple less stressful life. It truly a rat race in America
My advice is don’t bring your Filipina to USA. This is the real story that heard in the pool of trolls. Most of my American friends told me the same story , Filipina always change when you bring her to USA. When you bring her to USA she always looks for opportunities to get a richer man , possibly a American sugar daddy plus a younger Filipina guy for sex and security. Once she found both she is out of your life with a big divorce settlement possibly half of your assets. My advice is don’t bring your Filipina to USA unless you’re willing to loose her with lots of pain and money. Most of the guys says I have been married for 10-20 years are written by scam artist, don’t fall for that traps.
Old, yes, she's a simple woman to you then, but the new age next generation of Filipino women, especially the ones in the city, are not as simple as you think. They're becoming like the women in West. They expect more and more and more. As the Philippines develop and become a second world country, things are changed in my friend. It was lucky for you because you came there 20 years ago. It's a different time now.
Sadly, they are being a bit delusional at this juncture, as the majority are quite average (like everywhere), expecting way above average income that a foreigner brings. Interestingly, foreigners will compete for their attention, and many set their standards far too low (IMV). Eventually, more foreigners will wake up and sound the clarion that it's best to steer clear of these ladies, who are really just looking for a meal ticket (the ones with a Westernized/entitled attitude), and do their version of 'pump and dump' (i.e., milk foreigner resources and dump) on unwary/desperate men. It's like pushing the envelope too far, which always tends to happen. Many of these vlogs (not Calvin's) are doing guys a disservice by painting these women as innocent little angels. They are nothing of the sort.
The culture and her family really impact how the Philippina treats her man IMHO. Thank you for sharing part of your story, and for always telling it like it is. Glad you are living your dream brotherman.
Calvin Thanks for sharing your perspective. I could hear and see the pain from you. We men love differently then women, it makes sense when you figure out women's nature. I was married for 28 years and pretty much lost everything. Had to fight for 50% custody of my kids. I've been in three relationships since. 2 of them very serious. Both of those women decided to move without much of an explanation. I'm 58 as well and not sure I even want to try with women anymore. Maybe a filipina in her mid forties would suit me better. Thanks for your story.
Was married when I was in the army, divorced and went to Philippines. Had a great girlfriend their from a great family then brought her to America and slowly saw her change to western values and then she left me after 3 years and ran off with another guy in a far away state. This time planning to stay in Philippines
This is the real story that heard in the pool of trolls. Most of my American friends told me the same story , Filipina always change when you bring her to USA. When you bring her to USA she always looks for opportunities to get a richer man , possibly a American sugar daddy plus a younger Filipina guy for sex and security. Once she found both she is out of your life with a big divorce settlement possibly half of your assets. My advice is don’t bring your Filipina to USA unless you’re willing to loose her with lots of pain and money. Most of the guys says I have been married for 10-20 years are written by scam artist, don’t fall for that traps.
Passport Bros are from all races & cultures. I am 61 and found a beautiful, widowed Filipina aged 53. Just one site has tens of thousands of Filipina women of all ages looking to marry a foreign man. Many have degrees and are well educated. My lady has 2 degrees & now lives with me in Australia. She has 2 adult children and weighs 59kg (130 pounds). We belong to a Filipina church in our local area. All the adult women are Filipina who are married to Australian men. All of the Australian men in the church are divorced from Australian women. All of these men have lost their wealth and their children through the family court system. These Filipina women have given these Australian men a second chance at life, and in some cases given these men children who are raised to respect their father. The contrast is unbelievable.
I really appreciate your willingness to be so honest and transparent ', you keep it real talk about things we all really wanna know... thanks again bro....
Calvin I admire how articulate you are - great command of the language and you rarely use common vernacular, I like that plus, you're also kinda cute 😅
Calvin, thank you for this discussion. You have a very good understanding of human nature. You also don't have a mean spirit. Relationships are difficult. I think there are a lot of factors that make it difficult to have a long term relationship in America but that's a whole different topic. I hope the third time is the charm for you.
That's why I want to find a partner in the Philippines 🇵🇭😌: Many women in South Africa 🇿🇦 have also become too Westernized; Independence, Self-Pride and Overlooking respect towards a man have all become common factors in relationships nowadays. A woman who disclose her relationship issues to the world lack respect for the relationship and she doesn't realize that tomorrow the world will use what it knows about her against her. My favourite music Star Ali-Ollie Woodson in his song 🎵 "Drama in the Bedroom" talks about the importance of keeping privacy in house;..."No one else has to know". Women have one common behavioral pattern 🙄; the Tendency to erase all the good that happened yesterday and replace it with all the bad that's happening today. I have heard all the good news about Filipina woman and I will really like to give it a try. Thank you for the beautiful vlog once again. Stay safe, stay strong and stay blessed 🙏.
What you said about remembering the good times is something I needed to hear myself. After 21 years, mostly good and the last few turning bad, I became bitter. Thanks man.
Alot of what you said sounds so familiar in my marriage to a filipina for 16 years. When they come to the U.S they are influenced by new friends here, the first 2 years of my marriage were like I was on my honeymoon, then it slowly fades away never to return sad to say.
"...she started throwing shit almost from the very beginning..." 🤣😂🤣 Dang Calvin! You crack me up. Im gonna have to go ahead and subscribe to your channel now. I am totally not intrested in the phillipeans or phillipinas. I dated one for two years and she was ALL about the money. I got into a car accident and rolled my truck...and i realized then that if I had hurt myself, she would have left me. That was the last woman I dated... and after her i sorta joined the MGTOW movement and have never beeen happier. I really enjoy listening to your stories. I find them hilarious (except the part of you loosing your house and court... that shit hurts and I feel for ya on that one) and a good reminder why I dont want anything to do with emmotional relationships anymore. Good friendships with good people is what Im about now. Peace bro! Im rooting for you and your family. I have ALOT of respect for family men but for me its sorta like a prison sentence...lol
Calvin, we can never control how people feel about us, especially women. For them it’s called “monkey branching”. Some women are always reaching for the next branch, hoping it will be better. And when they grab on to one branch they have to let go of the other. That’s also why they hate when the next branch isn’t as good. It makes them accountable for that decision, and can’t ever accept accountability for anything.
I felt this. Don't know if there a soul or whatever but that's what I'm going with, I felt this video in mah soul. Everyone always asks why I would go through the hassle for a girl across the world instead of finding someone here in Arizona or even the states somewhere, but they just don't understand that it's different with a Filipina.. They're not spoiled like us Americans. They stay traditional. Their feeling are genuine and they don't play any games with their men. My respect for you skyrocketed through this video. Ps- ayyyeee, Filipina will do anything in bed, outside, in a taxi, etc etc I can vouch for that! 😂 I can't wait to finally live together with my love.
I've been married a few times now, have been alone for periods but I like to be with one lady at a time and I don't like to jump around, so I'm getting married and hope it lasts, my last wife is from the Philippines and we have now been married for 4 years she is 25 years younger than me but she is highly educated from the university and she does not come from a poor family so I have never paid anything to her family over these years. We had a little baby girl during the pandemic, something I hadn't expected, but life is good, and we moved home to Norway and will now live here and watch our daughter grow up. So we'd rather come down to visit when we have holidays from now on.
I love the video Calvin, and I agree w/ you. Have you seen the movie A Fatherless America? If not, Google the guy that made the movie & you can see his other works. He talks about the same kind of stuff. He's the first "mens rights activist" I've ever heard of or watched.
Hafa Adai my friend from Guam, i kinda consider you a neighbor as i was born in Evansville, Indiana, we have that I-64 connection. I grew up and went to school in a river town in Illinois on the Wabash river near Princeton, Indiana
Appreciate you sharin with us Cavin. All of us who been married once before in the west been through similar situations. Thanks for the Nitty gritty. Keep it up!
My Wife ran down to the bank and emptied both accounts, took the credit cards and maxxed them out. We go to divorce court and I can't get my money back, but I dont have to pay her alimony as long as I pay off the credit card. So in a year, I lived like a pauper, but I paid it all off.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I don’t think I could have spoken about such personal memories without showing some emotions. It takes strength to do so. You’re stronger than I. Wishing you the best.
I have to agree it's better to keep the filipinas in the Philippines. I've seen it so many times where the men bring them out of their country and as soon as she becomes stable with a job and she meets other filipinas they change and it ends up with separation and divorce. Don't get me wrong some will stick with the man. But the majority of them especially if their in the mid thirties is likely to give you trouble.
Thanks for the advice Calvin,. Have just went through something similar. A no win situation and yes it hurts, but it was intended to cause me pain. Most American women get to the point that they Think that they wear the pants. God bless her.
Calvin.. thanks for sharing your life with us.... One thing that you said that I hope the guys pay close attention too.. And I never heard anyone else say... That is the age gap catch up with you...I hear guys in their 60's marry ladies in the Philippines in their early 20' s... Many of these men or smokers and drinkers and over weight... Brother...most people who are honest will know that this love affair will not end well... Young ladies who are in good health will have a fire inside of their bodies that will burn...sooner or later..no matter what country she comes from... Thanks you Calvin for telling the truth....
When I retire in four years, if I were to go to the Philippines and I met a girl and all that. I would absolutely spend 7 months in the Philippines and 5 months in America with her, we would go back and forth. I don't think I could just live in the Philippines forever because they just don't have some of the things and we have in America which I don't want to give up. Also I think it would be a great experience for her to visit America. Let's be honest, is it expensive in America? Yes but what you get for that expense is unmatched and there is no other country like America. So I would do the half and half thing. Modern convenances and medical care is unmatched here
What I have observed is for foreigners to be happy in the Philippines, they have to either adapt to the Philippine culture or determine how much of America they need to have in the Philippines. This means they will be spending more to have the same lifestyle as in America.
@@posdadtx I wrote this post awhile ago. I have researched and spoke to some expats and I have to say I feel I was maybe wrong in my statement. I was very materialistic and I think now the saying of you won't remember the things you didn't buy you remember the things you did and relationships you had. I hope to travel and stay in the Philippines for a few months. But I definitely feel I need to experience it first hand before commenting
thanks for doing this video. some very personal stuff there that is the core of the relationship. i have been to the Philippines in the '80's and a few of my mates married girls there. (Gary - New Zealander)
Sad that you are separated. I did not expect that. Most Filipino women sticks to one husband only even when the husband died. Hope you will be luckier next time
Calvin after my divorce with my American wife, I said I would never get married again. I was adamant about it. But when I met my current Filipino wife that all changed. 14 years later we are still married.
Preach!
EVERY STORY HAS TWO SIDES.
Calvin and Leonard. My brothers from other mothers!
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21 years happily married here.
I was married to a African American, Brazilian and a Honduran. I have to say that the poorer the woman the more loving and caring. 2 divorces and then the Honduran was killed in a car accident. It is taking me a long time to get over her.
My condolences on the loss of your wife. I can't imagine what that must be like ♥️🙏🏾
@@calroach1 what is the worst part is her family blames me. I was left with a 4yr old daughter that I raised myself
My condolences to you on the loss of your wife.
I'm sorry for your loss peace be upon you
My Condolences bro...Praying for your strength..
Brother Calvin: Thank you for sharing. I'm 57 and have been married to my Filipina for 17 years and I would never throw her back. There is just no comparison with American women. Filipinas have a strong familial connection of honor that you do not see here in America. If you treat her with love, compassion and dignity you receive ten-fold back. And, most importantly, they see you for your character; not your color.
Ladies and Gentleman don't bring them Filipina to the US to get Americanized and them thirsty American men and them Jealous American woman start hating
I'm sorry man. I wish you the best.
Word, brother, especially with a big age gap!
Filipinas carries the family flag. They’re supportive, resilient and proud to be a wife.
I just love the Filipino emphasis on family. The small things they pay attention to. The absolute appreciation they display for the smallest gifts. Some weird things (to Westerners) I had a hard time getting used to. After dinner at a restaurant, my wife would wipe down my hands after we finished. At the mall and for vehicles she wanted to open the doors. Also, she wants to be the one holding the umbrella when it's raining. That's hard for me because it goes against the gentleman ethos. Lastly, at the mall I purchased her some shoes. She was so happy but would not allow me to carry the bag??? Finally, I just relented as she would not give in. Lol
oh, you can tell that girl is so in love with you. Take care of her and appreciate her, she's treating you as her king
@@inusaranglaag230 oo. Yes, definitely! ❤️
All that I can say is that you are a very blessed man to have her. I met and married an Asian women from Nepal already in America. She has changed so much that she is no different than the western women.here. Very disrespectful and listens to nothing that I ask her to do. I’m miserable. If the world ever goes back to normal I was planning to divorce and retire in the Philippines.
@@pappadappacarhauler757 that is the truth man do not know. When you take the rose out of the garden, it dies and becomes a weed. You should have stayed in the garden with her. The social framework in her home garden supports and enforces her thinking and behavior.
Wow... Nice.
Your honesty and your cadidnence reminds me of Paul Harvey with the rest of the story, i like listening to your tone and voice and hope to meet up someday with my lady as we plan to do some traveling. My lady is from a small island off the western coastline of Samar up the straight from Tacloban.
my family originated from germany and now we're all filipinos and i'm proud of that! my wife is the best
Thank you for the therapeutic messages you deliver through your channels. A lot of your topics and discussions resonates with me. You add value to many lives with your pleasant delivery and your shared experiences. You are appreciated!
You are so welcome.
The old joke in the States "what's the one food that kills a women's sex drive?" Wedding cake.
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Lol.. funny..
I have been married to my Filipina for 21 years. In 21 years, she has never nagged me a single time, not once.
Sir, you gotta be the most interesting man on RUclips. Your stories and experiences are gems
Thank you very much, my dear Calvin, for your fantastic "My FILIPINA Wife VS My AMERICAN Wife Money Love & Third Parties" video! Enjoyed listening and watching as always! Take care and
best regards/Ned 🌹👏🌹
Pulling teeth with tweezers! Another term of genius Calvin. You have the words to say it. Access to the cookies at any time. Now for 6 years, no one has yelled at me. I know of what you speak. Well done.
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@@calroach1 Calvin became the Cookie Monster 😂 “Me, love cookies”
Been with my American wife for 23 years. She is a gentle soul. I think there are good and shitty women no matter where you go. Most often you have to look in the mirror and fix yourself first before you can find what you need.
I was looking for a smart comment like this. 👏🏽👏🏽.
Most men don’t step up to the plate but rather moan and groan all day long
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Well said. I love how mem compare us to foreign women. Most of the time they meet a women who needs them because they are poor. They marry you so you can take care of their entire family. When you are with your American wife you argue if she wants to loan money to a family member but you would sell your mother to give money to a foreign woman. Nothing against foreign women but American women are more likely to be raised as mother and breadwinners even in a marriage. Most foreign women especially in the Philippines women may have a small job but more often homemakers. When they come to America their views change.
@@dannychristopher1967 I disagree. I disagree coz my wife was born in Canada, a successful woman, speaks 4 languages not including her 3 native languages and she is still a Filipina by heart and actions. It is about culture and upbringing.
@@user-uu2sr9tp6l thank you for your comment. I'm Filipina, been here in US for 30 some yrs. It did not changed me. In fact I learned to step in the doors of opportunities available for the sake of my own family. My American husband worked hard. I worked to help him, but never failed on my wife responsibilities like cooking, cleaning take care of the children. He is still the man of the house, but I am not limited to put in my opinion. I also decided to go to school to get my MBA to be able to get a better job, to help both of us to care for our children. There is a saying you get what you seek. He is still the man of the house. That's how I was raised..
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"The Cookie Monster". . .I'm dead!!
Calvin, you gonna make me quit my job early and come over there!
My Filipina wife always responds with the same answer whenever I ask her for input on making a decision together: “it’s up to you “. She rarely takes control and gives me complete authority.
@John Grigg you’re describing my mother. 😂
Appreciate that bro, appreciate it
I guess some men like that. I cant stand it when Im with a chick that cant think for herself. I beleive some men think when they start thinking for themselves then they realize whats going on.
@@JoeKyser It just means the issue is not that important to her, whatever the decision she doesn't care. But find something that she really cares about and she would fight for it.
@@rap3208 Understanding created by the intellect cannot be acquired by means of the occult, only by the aid of the zodiac, bringing forth that small flame by whose light part of the future may be discerned
-Nostradamus⁶
The only thing is that a lot of these relationships appear to exist in a bubble, meaning that it's all good with the filipina as long as you move to the Philippines. I hear too many stories about men who find "love" in the Philippines, and after moving stateside, the fantasy falls apart. That should be the disclaimer...find love/intimacy in the Philippines, only in the Philippines. It just appears like that the majority of the time.
True. There way more risks if you bring the relationship to America.
Works for me 👍👌
Very true. Believe it or not, all women are hypergamous, meaning they want a man that is at least at the same level in the social hierarchy as her. Believing otherwise is like saying that men don't like big boobs/ass and that hourglass figure. It's in our nature. A foreigner in the Philippines is a 10 and the Filipina he is dating could be a 6 at most but when you switch countries, that status also switches. Seen this many times and oh, I'm a Filipino.
My ex was so good & protective of me in the Phils, but in America, terrible. Realized that I was a hot commodity but here, she was. Keep young ones (18-28) in the Phils. When they're here in America & away from you spending time on a job or finding new friends, its over.
Yeah the western culture changes them
This is a true confession ...I felt every word.
I know how you feel about your first wife. Was in the same position with my first wife, but she was a Japanese woman from japan. Being married now to my beautiful Mexican wife for 8 years and dated for 2 years. We've been thinking of retiring to Mexico, wish she would consider the Philippines since I'm half Filipino. But Mexico is close to her family and close to some of mine also.
dude,if you're half filipino the you should apply for dual citizenship ..... but you know do whatever makes you happy .......
Probably one of the most heart felt and real videos I've ever seen on the internet.
Bitterness in a women is crazy, if she is angry with a man, watch out! I 've waked in your shoes, keep being honest and tell it like it is, blessings and prosperity Calvin!
Cookie Monster!!! That's funny, Calvin. My Filipina makes me real glad that I'm a man. I feel you brother.
Cool video Calvin, loved it.
Looking forward to seeing there rebuild of homes in the mountains/ province.
I'll continue to watch you vlogs and not skip adds.
Cheers from down under Australia 🇦🇺
I totally agree with you Calvin, for the most part filipina women are independent. What made me respect my GF when I met her was her independence, she had worked 4yrs in Taiwan when we met in Korea and she worked there for 6 yrs before starting her own business when she returned home, built her parents a home and owned property in Manila and paid her own way through college, but what really sealed the deal she told me she wanted her own money and didn't want to have to depend on me. She was the only 1 out of the others I dated previously never said that. I dated 1 never even poured me a glass of water but always had her hand out and she worked. There is a night and day difference between the good and bad, just have to weed them out.
Wisdom from Calvin . Great story , a keeper , thanks . Great advice .
Wouldn't skip the ad for you and your beautiful family. Keep powering on Calvin. Watching from AB, Canada!
You are making me want to move to the Philippines 👍🏻
Welcome
your wife just open the door behind u and when she notice that u was doing a video,she closed it..your wife is beautiful sunshine
Wow! This is 1 of the most VALUABLE talks i have ever heard ! Thank you Calvin my man! 🤔
Shalom Brotha from Kansas City Missouri, you have a beautiful family. I'll be 61 And of this year 2022 and my children are young adults now. I want so much to spend what days I have left in happiness Most High willing. My children have brought me nothing but joy and happiness.
Calvin I agree with you 110 %...Its almost like you know my whole life. I was married to an american women 27 years...Now Ive been married for 11 years to a filipina . And it just gets better every day. The sweetest , loving , hardest working women I've ever met.I guess it wasnt just my wife in america..I guess its the culture that makes women in american so hard. God bless and take care.....one more thing...no one...not even my children got my side of the story.I wish them all the best.
I was with a Canadian woman for 7 years and she used to talk with other people about our personal business. That always really annoyed me.
Personal business should between two people an that should not be shared that’s why it’s called personal.I will get annoyed too.
Im one of the foreigners that didn't marry a very young pinay,, just 4 yr age gap. Best woman in my life 🇺🇲🇲🇽❤🇵🇭✌good channel
Calvin thanks for all your knowledge that u share . Blessings to u Bro!
Thanks Cal. Another great vlog. I appreciate you. Your points are well-taken..."Life is a school. Live and learn."
I always thought that Filipino woman didn't like dark men .. I'm a dark man from Australia 👍 .. I like to find someone from the Philippines .. I have a infatuation for them .. .. I have many women white and black that wanna go with me .. but my heart is with a Filipino woman ..!
The difference between my American girlfriend was that she checked on me once a day. My Filipina wife checks on my 24/7. Lol 😆 🤣
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Hahahaha getting them every 15 min calls and text messages a day lol yup!!
I'd rather have a wife who checks on me 24/7 than just like taken for granted.
My Filipino fiance is amazing and the best thing that ever happened to me. We have a 14 year age gap which seems to be perfect for us. If you are in your 60's and are planning on being a 25 year old Filipino to America you are asking for trouble. Find a good Filipino women with a reasonable age gap and she will stay with you through thick and thin.
A lot to unpack in this video. Excellent video bro. Real talk in this video.
Damm OG, I just turned 50 and you described my 20 year marriage to the tee! We had a 10year gap I wanted to settle down she wanted to turn up! Everything you said I mean everything! Described my relationship! You definitely put things in perspective for me! Thank you brother! Hope to meet you when I visit the Philippines. ✊🏿
CALVIN ... YOU ARE ONE OF THE VERY BEST ... I WILL EVENTUALLY MEET YOU .. I HAVE BEEN IN AND OUT OF PINAS SINCE 1982 ... FIRST FILIPINA FIANCEE GOT TO HOT WHEN I BROUGHT HERE TO CALIFORNIA ... CAUGHT HER WITH 3 MEN WITHIN 1 YEAR ... BROUGHT HER SIBLINGS AS WELL AS PARENTS OVER ... WE HAD TO SEPARATE ...Just couldn't keep up with her ... The second one is the BEATH that I breathe every moment ... KEEP IT UP CALVIN ... You are doing a great job. God Bless
..CALIFORNIA BOY HERE
Excellent Idea to go into the mountain to help with the rebuild. Beautiful. Blessings to them and you brother.
Thanks brother you're a blessing and hope 2022 is a great year for you and your wife!
I really like this channel and your approach to things like this, I was very happily married 38+ yrs to a woman who was 14 yrs older than me,I lost her to Alzheimer's almost 2 yrs ago, I wish I could travel and meet a Filipina woman to share the rest of my life with, please keep up the good work !!
My condolences Carl.
The "cookie monster." Had to laugh about that one. Appreciate your vids, man.
Calvin thank you so so much for them video. I’m 57 on my second marriage in American. After18 with her we are heading for divorce. I want to take my life to the Philippines and restart my life over with a Filipino woman. I want the simple less stressful life. It truly a rat race in America
My advice is don’t bring your Filipina to USA. This is the real story that heard in the pool of trolls. Most of my American friends told me the same story , Filipina always change when you bring her to USA. When you bring her to USA she always looks for opportunities to get a richer man , possibly a American sugar daddy plus a younger Filipina guy for sex and security. Once she found both she is out of your life with a big divorce settlement possibly half of your assets.
My advice is don’t bring your Filipina to USA unless you’re willing to loose her with lots of pain and money.
Most of the guys says I have been married for 10-20 years are written by scam artist, don’t fall for that traps.
Paul, find the right Pinay and you'll be a very happy man.
Old, yes, she's a simple woman to you then, but the new age next generation of Filipino women, especially the ones in the city, are not as simple as you think. They're becoming like the women in West. They expect more and more and more. As the Philippines develop and become a second world country, things are changed in my friend. It was lucky for you because you came there 20 years ago. It's a different time now.
Sadly, they are being a bit delusional at this juncture, as the majority are quite average (like everywhere), expecting way above average income that a foreigner brings. Interestingly, foreigners will compete for their attention, and many set their standards far too low (IMV). Eventually, more foreigners will wake up and sound the clarion that it's best to steer clear of these ladies, who are really just looking for a meal ticket (the ones with a Westernized/entitled attitude), and do their version of 'pump and dump' (i.e., milk foreigner resources and dump) on unwary/desperate men. It's like pushing the envelope too far, which always tends to happen. Many of these vlogs (not Calvin's) are doing guys a disservice by painting these women as innocent little angels. They are nothing of the sort.
The culture and her family really impact how the Philippina treats her man IMHO. Thank you for sharing part of your story, and for always telling it like it is. Glad you are living your dream brotherman.
Very very interesting video and explanation Calvin.
Bless you Brother...The ending was especially heartfelt.
Calvin Thanks for sharing your perspective. I could hear and see the pain from you. We men love differently then women, it makes sense when you figure out women's nature. I was married for 28 years and pretty much lost everything. Had to fight for 50% custody of my kids. I've been in three relationships since. 2 of them very serious. Both of those women decided to move without much of an explanation. I'm 58 as well and not sure I even want to try with women anymore. Maybe a filipina in her mid forties would suit me better. Thanks for your story.
Was married when I was in the army, divorced and went to Philippines. Had a great girlfriend their from a great family then brought her to America and slowly saw her change to western values and then she left me after 3 years and ran off with another guy in a far away state. This time planning to stay in Philippines
This is the real story that heard in the pool of trolls. Most of my American friends told me the same story , Filipina always change when you bring her to USA. When you bring her to USA she always looks for opportunities to get a richer man , possibly a American sugar daddy plus a younger Filipina guy for sex and security. Once she found both she is out of your life with a big divorce settlement possibly half of your assets.
My advice is don’t bring your Filipina to USA unless you’re willing to loose her with lots of pain and money.
Most of the guys says I have been married for 10-20 years are written by scam artist, don’t fall for that traps.
The same thing happened to me Bri.G
You want real genuine Pinay? Take one who does not insist going to the west.
My wife uses exactly the same words...lol
@@semi5alpha Wise words...
As a young men of 24.. thank you deeply for your life stoy man. i needed it.
Good info - and that’s my experience as well. Got some more direct questions for you when you have time. Thanks!
Passport Bros are from all races & cultures. I am 61 and found a beautiful, widowed Filipina aged 53. Just one site has tens of thousands of Filipina women of all ages looking to marry a foreign man. Many have degrees and are well educated. My lady has 2 degrees & now lives with me in Australia. She has 2 adult children and weighs 59kg (130 pounds). We belong to a Filipina church in our local area. All the adult women are Filipina who are married to Australian men. All of the Australian men in the church are divorced from Australian women. All of these men have lost their wealth and their children through the family court system. These Filipina women have given these Australian men a second chance at life, and in some cases given these men children who are raised to respect their father. The contrast is unbelievable.
I really appreciate your willingness to be so honest and transparent ', you keep it real talk about things we all really wanna know... thanks again bro....
You know, I stumbled on your channel and it hits hard the words you are speaking from the heart and from a place of truth. Thank you
Calvin I admire how articulate you are - great command of the language and you rarely use common vernacular, I like that plus, you're also kinda cute 😅
Calvin, thank you for this discussion. You have a very good understanding of human nature. You also don't have a mean spirit. Relationships are difficult. I think there are a lot of factors that make it difficult to have a long term relationship in America but that's a whole different topic. I hope the third time is the charm for you.
You're right Stan relationships are hard and no one tells us that when we are young, everything is a fairytale.
That's why I want to find a partner in the Philippines 🇵🇭😌: Many women in South Africa 🇿🇦 have also become too Westernized; Independence, Self-Pride and Overlooking respect towards a man have all become common factors in relationships nowadays. A woman who disclose her relationship issues to the world lack respect for the relationship and she doesn't realize that tomorrow the world will use what it knows about her against her. My favourite music Star Ali-Ollie Woodson in his song 🎵 "Drama in the Bedroom" talks about the importance of keeping privacy in house;..."No one else has to know". Women have one common behavioral pattern 🙄; the Tendency to erase all the good that happened yesterday and replace it with all the bad that's happening today. I have heard all the good news about Filipina woman and I will really like to give it a try. Thank you for the beautiful vlog once again. Stay safe, stay strong and stay blessed 🙏.
What you said about remembering the good times is something I needed to hear myself. After 21 years, mostly good and the last few turning bad, I became bitter. Thanks man.
What's up Shawn. Yeah they pretend the good times never happened. Happy New Year!
SS, you are a man of truth. Really appreciate you doing this one.
Wow, a truthful youtuber. Keep it up, I am a subscriber now.
Thanks and welcome to my channel
All American women need to watch this.
Love your candid up front videos. Great work! Keep them coming!!
Great talk....such insight that is so relatable for many of us. Keep'n it real.
Alot of what you said sounds so familiar in my marriage to a filipina for 16 years. When they come to the U.S they are influenced by new friends here, the first 2 years of my marriage were like I was on my honeymoon, then it slowly fades away never to return sad to say.
"...she started throwing shit almost from the very beginning..." 🤣😂🤣
Dang Calvin! You crack me up. Im gonna have to go ahead and subscribe to your channel now.
I am totally not intrested in the phillipeans or phillipinas. I dated one for two years and she was ALL about the money. I got into a car accident and rolled my truck...and i realized then that if I had hurt myself, she would have left me. That was the last woman I dated... and after her i sorta joined the MGTOW movement and have never beeen happier.
I really enjoy listening to your stories. I find them hilarious (except the part of you loosing your house and court... that shit hurts and I feel for ya on that one) and a good reminder why I dont want anything to do with emmotional relationships anymore. Good friendships with good people is what Im about now.
Peace bro! Im rooting for you and your family. I have ALOT of respect for family men but for me its sorta like a prison sentence...lol
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Oh man what a great channel. I like this guy, he’s keeping it real.
Calvin, we can never control how people feel about us, especially women. For them it’s called “monkey branching”. Some women are always reaching for the next branch, hoping it will be better. And when they grab on to one branch they have to let go of the other. That’s also why they hate when the next branch isn’t as good. It makes them accountable for that decision, and can’t ever accept accountability for anything.
From Australia, you're a good man Calvin and I value your advice Subscribed.
Thanks for your support and welcome to my channel.
Keep up the great work bro and try not to worry about the haters because there is always going to be haters but there's only 1 you...you do you 🙏🏽👍🏾👍🏾
I felt this. Don't know if there a soul or whatever but that's what I'm going with, I felt this video in mah soul. Everyone always asks why I would go through the hassle for a girl across the world instead of finding someone here in Arizona or even the states somewhere, but they just don't understand that it's different with a Filipina.. They're not spoiled like us Americans. They stay traditional. Their feeling are genuine and they don't play any games with their men. My respect for you skyrocketed through this video.
Ps- ayyyeee, Filipina will do anything in bed, outside, in a taxi, etc etc I can vouch for that! 😂 I can't wait to finally live together with my love.
Thank you very much for your sharing and true honesty.
Nick
I've been married a few times now, have been alone for periods but I like to be with one lady at a time and I don't like to jump around, so I'm getting married and hope it lasts, my last wife is from the Philippines and we have now been married for 4 years she is 25 years younger than me but she is highly educated from the university and she does not come from a poor family so I have never paid anything to her family over these years. We had a little baby girl during the pandemic, something I hadn't expected, but life is good, and we moved home to Norway and will now live here and watch our daughter grow up. So we'd rather come down to visit when we have holidays from now on.
I am glad you find your Happiness and Sunshine in the Filipino..
Sounds like my first marriage.
You are right on target.
I have these memories popping up as you speak.
If things ever get to the point where you find yourself begging, it's simply time to say ADIOS.
I love the video Calvin, and I agree w/ you. Have you seen the movie A Fatherless America? If not, Google the guy that made the movie & you can see his other works. He talks about the same kind of stuff. He's the first "mens rights activist" I've ever heard of or watched.
I'm m going to stay single been married before don't want the headache
Hafa Adai my friend from Guam, i kinda consider you a neighbor as i was born in Evansville, Indiana, we have that I-64 connection. I grew up and went to school in a river town in Illinois on the Wabash river near Princeton, Indiana
Appreciate you sharin with us Cavin. All of us who been married once before in the west been through similar situations. Thanks for the Nitty gritty. Keep it up!
Thanks Carl and happy New Year!
My Wife ran down to the bank and emptied both accounts, took the credit cards and maxxed them out.
We go to divorce court and I can't get my money back, but I dont have to pay her alimony as long as I pay off the credit card.
So in a year, I lived like a pauper, but I paid it all off.
Thank you for sharing your experience. I don’t think I could have spoken about such personal memories without showing some emotions. It takes strength to do so. You’re stronger than I. Wishing you the best.
Calvin, good that ur still positive about life. Tks for being so honest!
I have to agree it's better to keep the filipinas in the Philippines. I've seen it so many times where the men bring them out of their country and as soon as she becomes stable with a job and she meets other filipinas they change and it ends up with separation and divorce. Don't get me wrong some will stick with the man. But the majority of them especially if their in the mid thirties is likely to give you trouble.
The bigger problem is her friendship with other Filipinas that would negatively influence her. Especially if she's a much younger Filipina than you.
I agree 100%, my filippina wife is awesome, so different from an American women
That’s interesting. I can relate to a lot of what you are saying. I’m 58 too. Thanks for sharing your experiences.
Happy new year brother Calvin, wishing you and your family the very best for 2022
YOU LOOK GOOD FOR YOUR AGE CALVIN.... 👍 FIT.....CUT......REAL & WELL SPOKEN, I GUESS THE PHILLIPINES SAVED YOUR LIFE.....
MOGUL..... 👍
Thanks I quit drinking and smoking that helps.
YOU LOOK 45-50 👍
Thanks for the advice Calvin,. Have just went through something similar. A no win situation and yes it hurts, but it was intended to cause me pain. Most American women get to the point that they Think that they wear the pants. God bless her.
Calvin.. thanks for sharing your life with us.... One thing that you said that I hope the guys pay close attention too.. And I never heard anyone else say... That is the age gap catch up with you...I hear guys in their 60's marry ladies in the Philippines in their early 20' s... Many of these men or smokers and drinkers and over weight... Brother...most people who are honest will know that this love affair will not end well... Young ladies who are in good health will have a fire inside of their bodies that will burn...sooner or later..no matter what country she comes from... Thanks you Calvin for telling the truth....
Wow great video brother very sincere, thanks for sharing I think it will resonate with many men..
When I retire in four years, if I were to go to the Philippines and I met a girl and all that. I would absolutely spend 7 months in the Philippines and 5 months in America with her, we would go back and forth. I don't think I could just live in the Philippines forever because they just don't have some of the things and we have in America which I don't want to give up. Also I think it would be a great experience for her to visit America. Let's be honest, is it expensive in America? Yes but what you get for that expense is unmatched and there is no other country like America. So I would do the half and half thing. Modern convenances and medical care is unmatched here
What I have observed is for foreigners to be happy in the Philippines, they have to either adapt to the Philippine culture or determine how much of America they need to have in the Philippines. This means they will be spending more to have the same lifestyle as in America.
Can you explain the things in America you didn't want to give up plz
@@posdadtx I wrote this post awhile ago. I have researched and spoke to some expats and I have to say I feel I was maybe wrong in my statement. I was very materialistic and I think now the saying of you won't remember the things you didn't buy you remember the things you did and relationships you had. I hope to travel and stay in the Philippines for a few months. But I definitely feel I need to experience it first hand before commenting
Are u retire now😜
I will doing the same dual residency .
Ty for sharing OG
thanks for doing this video. some very personal stuff there that is the core of the relationship. i have been to the Philippines in the '80's and a few of my mates married girls there. (Gary - New Zealander)
Same story as mine man I can’t wait to meet a Filipino wife
that was very honest and personal - and valuable to me. thank you
Sad that you are separated. I did not expect that. Most Filipino women sticks to one husband only even when the husband died. Hope you will be luckier next time
I live in Hawaii and I just love the word Filipina❤️