Definitely the rumination for me. Trying to work out why he and the relationship are as they are. It doesn’t make sense but it helps to hear that these types of relationships don’t make sense because we aren’t wired the way they are. There is a picture of a normally developed brain compared to an underdeveloped brain through child abuse and it’s very sad and disturbing but showed me that no amount of love, care, understanding will ever improve a true narcissist’s personality. Thanks for the videos X
1. Self Blame (for what happened) 2. People Pleasing (proritizing the needs of others first) 3. Negative Self Talk (putting yourself down) 4. Isolating (protecting yourself) 5. Seeking external validation 6. Toxic positivity 7. Emotional reactivity 8. Perfectionism 9. Self Sabotage (doing things that are not good for you by knowing it) 10. Victim mentality __________________________________________ As a child of an overt Narcissistic mother I have been struggling with all of these habits more or less my whole life. But the Negative Self Talk and Self Blame are the worst because they seem to be the roots for my Self Sabotage and are like an automatism, so that I often feel stuck although I am working on self care in progress.
It’s nearly 2 years since he left and I’m also stuck 😔♥️ It’s difficult for us to understand the disgustingly vile being that has caused us so much pain. When I think of my ex not even caring about our children, my anger overwhelms me. These beings deserve a taste of their own poison, they need heartbreak to knock them down a peg or two. As you can tell…I’m bitter too 🤦🏻♀️
I've just been discarded again. The reason- he chose not to answer my calls for two evenings, yet when he decided to message and I didn't respond straight away, he didn't like that. He gave me the silent treatment and wouldn't answer my calls again. I've now been ghosted. Feel so stupid falling for the 'it'll be different this time'. He really was convincing and it did seem different but Leopard's don't change their spots! Always had this underlying feeling that this cycle would repeat itself, that there was this emptiness, like he was acting the part of a boyfriend but there was no depth. I've given him an ultimatum (which he will not appreciate) and this time I will be blocking numbers. It's the only way. Thanks for being there Christina
If you are feeling stuck after a relationship with a narcissist and need some extra support, check out month's group coaching session! 🎉 www.commonego.com/group-coaching This month, we're tackling the subconscious beliefs that keep you stuck... things like "I'm not good enough" or "I'm not worthy of real love." There IS a way out -- let's walk that path together!
This channel has been very practical and helpful for me. Thank you so much. 🙏💓 Takeaway pointers from this video: 1. It's not your fault 2. Prioritise your own emotional wellbeing 3. Balanced self talk and self affirmation 4. Go out and connect 5. Work on your emotional resilience and self validation 6. Work on your healing not avoiding it ("There's energy in avoidance" wow..) 7. Stop reacting emotionally 8. Self-care above the need to meet expectations of perfection 9. Ruminating is not processing 10. You're not a victim Number 2 is a big one for me..😅
my sick xboyfriend is going to be served a no contact order based on probable cause of reckless endangerment & assault.He was recently evicted and is sleeping on a guys porch.yeah not too smart to be making threats to harm others..The neighbors recorded him ..Yeah he will not be doing any of the hoover stuff with me anymore! bye bye bad boy!!
Just discovered 'covert narcissist' yesterday. Things are making sense and it hurts! We had a quick, love-bombing stage, like soul mirroring... when we met in person after about a month of text messaging. She discarded me in days. Then she had a boyfriend in weeks. How unprepared I was to cope with something like this... my brain was flooded with love chemicals... hers wasn't! I know, I did nothing wrong! I just wasn't a good source... we had a comeback, on/off for 2 years... until she discarded me violently a few months back. I believe she did because, I suggested that all the harmed people around her, wasn't normal, that I loved her and I wanted her to take a decision... she sent me packing, accusing me that 'I wanted to own her' and I betrayed her because I had sworn unconditional love... pfft...
At this point numerous narcs get together to isolate me, illegally watch me, and desperately wait for times to trigger me with noise. For example, after im done watching a video on youtube they slam car door, honk car alarm, stomp in their apartment etc. This goes on all day in the privacy of my apartment and when im out in public. Rather than this trauma bond they really would have no space in my mind, and this is why they desperately try to get my attention with repeated annoyance. This is called gangstalking. They're more worried about my failure than their own success. They want to slow me down to stay ahead of me. They want to bother me with covert harassment to keep my mental low like they are. In this ridiculous situation, my choice of Ignoring these overwhelming stalkers means just white knuckling my anger as they get more obnoxious because im ignoring their desperate need for reaction sigh* Finding videos such as yours help but in the immature state of narcissism they take me looking up videos as such as a reaction, and they get a kick out of it, until im watching too many videos like this then they start showing rage by making louder noise after each video I watch. Like now, as soon as they thought i was done typing they sent car to make noise. Pathetic. View my instagram @tsktskteaser
I'm seeing in my family, Father overt and covert narc, at same time. Eldest sister pointed it out to me. Now I see eldest sister is overt narc because my other sister pointed it out to me. Now that other sister I see is an overt narc. I guess they must recognize each other (?) (LOL). The good news is much of what has happened throughout my entire life is now crystal clear and I feel I know what to do and how to proceed. .
My difficulty is the trauma responses I have when I don't hear from someone in awhile or aren't getting reasonable responses to texts/calls with friends/family. I immediately think the narcissist has recruited them as a flying monkey. I know it is a trauma response to immediately feel that way, it makes me feel the narc still has such a hold on me.😢
I told too much about myself to them they did me dirty made into mental hospital and now need fight with their toughts evryday what to do to end this war ? I was stupid i tought i can be friends with them ..
I'm with a functional alcoholic who shows a lot of the 25 signs in one of your previous shorts. Is there any differences because of the alcoholism and how to react to the blame and belittling? Please respond if you can. I'm going out of my mind.
Definitely the rumination for me. Trying to work out why he and the relationship are as they are. It doesn’t make sense but it helps to hear that these types of relationships don’t make sense because we aren’t wired the way they are. There is a picture of a normally developed brain compared to an underdeveloped brain through child abuse and it’s very sad and disturbing but showed me that no amount of love, care, understanding will ever improve a true narcissist’s personality. Thanks for the videos
X
Hi Angie, how's your day going with you?
This is my favorite RUclips channel on narcissism. I watch your videos almost every day to help me stay sane and keep it together.
Me too. I got in deep with a real scary soul who threatened to ruin me every way possible. He’s immature and impossible
1. Self Blame (for what happened)
2. People Pleasing (proritizing the needs
of others first)
3. Negative Self Talk (putting yourself
down)
4. Isolating (protecting yourself)
5. Seeking external validation
6. Toxic positivity
7. Emotional reactivity
8. Perfectionism
9. Self Sabotage (doing things that are
not good for you by knowing it)
10. Victim mentality
__________________________________________
As a child of an overt Narcissistic mother I have been struggling with all of these habits more or less my whole life. But the Negative Self Talk and Self Blame are the worst because they seem to be the roots for my Self Sabotage and are like an automatism, so that I often feel stuck although I am working on self care in progress.
Thank you for the list, and sharing. This is for you 👍✌🍀🌼👌💜
@@karinbernhardt8747 You are most welcome & thank you for your gifts of sign language, Karin 🥰
I am stuck.
You and me both. I’m so confused about what happened in my relationship and I find it hard to understand my ex.
It’s nearly 2 years since he left and I’m also stuck 😔♥️
It’s difficult for us to understand the disgustingly vile being that has caused us so much pain.
When I think of my ex not even caring about our children, my anger overwhelms me.
These beings deserve a taste of their own poison, they need heartbreak to knock them down a peg or two.
As you can tell…I’m bitter too 🤦🏻♀️
how can one human being do this to another? i dont understand it, iim asked why did you put up with it so long? i hate that i feel shame still.
I've just been discarded again. The reason- he chose not to answer my calls for two evenings, yet when he decided to message and I didn't respond straight away, he didn't like that. He gave me the silent treatment and wouldn't answer my calls again. I've now been ghosted. Feel so stupid falling for the 'it'll be different this time'. He really was convincing and it did seem different but Leopard's don't change their spots! Always had this underlying feeling that this cycle would repeat itself, that there was this emptiness, like he was acting the part of a boyfriend but there was no depth. I've given him an ultimatum (which he will not appreciate) and this time I will be blocking numbers. It's the only way. Thanks for being there Christina
If you are feeling stuck after a relationship with a narcissist and need some extra support, check out month's group coaching session! 🎉 www.commonego.com/group-coaching
This month, we're tackling the subconscious beliefs that keep you stuck... things like "I'm not good enough" or "I'm not worthy of real love." There IS a way out -- let's walk that path together!
You're so in tune with your audience & what videos are needed at just the right time. Have a safe Independence Day (coming up!) 🇺🇸
Thanks, you too! 🙏❤️
@@CommonEgo
Can you cover a "vunerable narcissist," please?
getting unstuck just taking some time to process the emotions
Definately
Thank you for great advice. Your observations are Spot on!
Some good tips here Christina 🎉
thank you 🙏♥
Sitting back relaxing and accepting the uncomfortable❤Thank you
This channel has been very practical and helpful for me. Thank you so much. 🙏💓
Takeaway pointers from this video:
1. It's not your fault
2. Prioritise your own emotional wellbeing
3. Balanced self talk and self affirmation
4. Go out and connect
5. Work on your emotional resilience and self validation
6. Work on your healing not avoiding it ("There's energy in avoidance" wow..)
7. Stop reacting emotionally
8. Self-care above the need to meet expectations of perfection
9. Ruminating is not processing
10. You're not a victim
Number 2 is a big one for me..😅
I have watched several videos. Very helpful. Already I feel calmer and more sane. Thank you.
my sick xboyfriend is going to be served a no contact order based on probable cause of reckless endangerment & assault.He was recently evicted and is sleeping on a guys porch.yeah not too smart to be making threats to harm others..The neighbors recorded him ..Yeah he will not be doing any of the hoover stuff with me anymore! bye bye bad boy!!
Just discovered 'covert narcissist' yesterday. Things are making sense and it hurts! We had a quick, love-bombing stage, like soul mirroring... when we met in person after about a month of text messaging. She discarded me in days. Then she had a boyfriend in weeks. How unprepared I was to cope with something like this... my brain was flooded with love chemicals... hers wasn't! I know, I did nothing wrong! I just wasn't a good source... we had a comeback, on/off for 2 years... until she discarded me violently a few months back. I believe she did because, I suggested that all the harmed people around her, wasn't normal, that I loved her and I wanted her to take a decision... she sent me packing, accusing me that 'I wanted to own her' and I betrayed her because I had sworn unconditional love... pfft...
At this point numerous narcs get together to isolate me, illegally watch me, and desperately wait for times to trigger me with noise. For example, after im done watching a video on youtube they slam car door, honk car alarm, stomp in their apartment etc. This goes on all day in the privacy of my apartment and when im out in public. Rather than this trauma bond they really would have no space in my mind, and this is why they desperately try to get my attention with repeated annoyance. This is called gangstalking. They're more worried about my failure than their own success. They want to slow me down to stay ahead of me. They want to bother me with covert harassment to keep my mental low like they are. In this ridiculous situation, my choice of Ignoring these overwhelming stalkers means just white knuckling my anger as they get more obnoxious because im ignoring their desperate need for reaction sigh* Finding videos such as yours help but in the immature state of narcissism they take me looking up videos as such as a reaction, and they get a kick out of it, until im watching too many videos like this then they start showing rage by making louder noise after each video I watch. Like now, as soon as they thought i was done typing they sent car to make noise. Pathetic. View my instagram @tsktskteaser
I'm seeing in my family, Father overt and covert narc, at same time. Eldest sister pointed it out to me. Now I see eldest sister is overt narc because my other sister pointed it out to me. Now that other sister I see is an overt narc. I guess they must recognize each other (?) (LOL). The good news is much of what has happened throughout my entire life is now crystal clear and I feel I know what to do and how to proceed. .
and I'm not crazy or Hitler +_+
As a trucker, I'm forced to be self isolated. And I can tell it's having a negative effect. Any suggestions???
My difficulty is the trauma responses I have when I don't hear from someone in awhile or aren't getting reasonable responses to texts/calls with friends/family. I immediately think the narcissist has recruited them as a flying monkey. I know it is a trauma response to immediately feel that way, it makes me feel the narc still has such a hold on me.😢
I like your haircut.
Thank you 🙏❤️
I like your earrings too so cute ❤😊
Also isolate because very few people understand
No Le stuck !
I told too much about myself to them they did me dirty made into mental hospital and now need fight with their toughts evryday what to do to end this war ? I was stupid i tought i can be friends with them ..
I'm with a functional alcoholic who shows a lot of the 25 signs in one of your previous shorts. Is there any differences because of the alcoholism and how to react to the blame and belittling? Please respond if you can. I'm going out of my mind.
Ok not trying to creep you out or anything but I'm starting to fall in love with you
How can you heal when phsycologists are not helping so far
Drink Some Damn Water; mouth clicking
r slash hydro homies can cure your dehydration