@@Julie28Davis she said they always forget her birthday every year and it’s not about the actual day it’s the fact that her friends don’t care enough to make her feel loved or appreciated. That’s the point of birthdays.
@@Julie28Davis It is and should be a big deal. It is the one day of the year you should be able to celebrate yourself without judgement or shame, with the ability to be happy. I’ve had shit birthdays since I was 12 and am now 20, yet I’m not a hater for them. Be kind.
Literally and it’s hilarious they started off the episode talking about lyla doing exactly that…as if tana doesn’t cut Brooke off to tell a story we all have heard her tell before
i feel so bad for brooke this episode, it feels like everyone is just brushing her over when she was talking about the photos of herself as a child no one really commented and changed the subject, i want to hug her so bad :( you can tell it hurt when tana said she has to spend a lot of money for her birthday because she can’t go, brooke clearly just wants people to be there for her, yes it’s a family holiday a few days before or after but she plans around everyone that shouldn’t be a problem
Especially when tana made the baby photo conversation about herself immediately after Brooke finished her sentence… she didn’t even ask about the photos
Sometimes i feel like brooke that one friend who drops everything for the people she cares about but they can't do the same for her. Everyone deserves to feel special for one day
Am I the only one whose heart broke for Brooke , yes holidays are tough but it’s heartbreaking having your friends decide last minute not to attend ur birthday and celebrate with you
Nope it broke my heart too! Her face at the end when Tana said “i will pick a day just to celebrate you” was like *why the hell do you think you get to decide when we celebrate MY birthday?*
Omg yes! You can see all over her face the deep pain she feels cuz she always gets ditched for her birthday 😢 I can just tell she feels like she’s an outsider with that friend group, people with borderline personality disorder already feel like no one really loves them/they’re not worthy of love so I can’t even imagine how awful that feels every year for her cuz in her mind it’s just confirmation of what her brain tells her that no one truly cares about her. Obviously we all know they all love Brooke but I really hope they all get together one year n like take her away to somewhere awesome for like a week or celebrating her birthday 🥰
It's baffling to me how much they are minimizing it. She's talked about it on the podcast and probably in person, I assume, how important it is for people to show up for her. Just because it doesn't matter to you, doesn't mean it's okay to assume it doesn't matter to another person, or disregard it. I would understand if she asked, and they all said maybe, and then it didn't turn out. But, to say yes, HER plan around THEM, and then they still not show up. You are deciding to let your friend down. Every time. it's let her down to the point that she's no longer even attempting to invite her best and good friends because of how little they care about her feelings.
The ending of the episode def left a bad taste in my mouth:( brookie deserves to be celebrated and not feel like it’s a chore for her friends to show up for her. She literally told us all on the last pod how important birthdays are to her :/ boo to the excuses
right, they really should prioritize her even if they have family stuff going on. it’s not impossible they just think it’s not a big deal even though it IS!!! like showing up for your friends on their birthdays is the most bare minimum thing. (no hate to anyone in the podcast i genuinely enjoy watching this ,but it’s hard watching someone treat their friend poorly in this regard. i’ve had so many people in my life walk out on me during important life events because they didn’t care about me as much as they did themselves. it hit home )
I can’t find the comment but they said, “a small peek behind the curtain” left them disgusted. Honestly, same. I love the crew but this left me feeling sour.
cause let it had been anybody else's birthday they would've been in a villa in tulum. brooke deserves everything and more i wish i had a friend like her
and Tana saying that every year she spends so much money on her and she's never happy I'M SORRY WHAT??!!!! i don't want your money! i want to spend my birthday with the people that i love and have them show up for me!!!! that's priceless!
Tana saying “act the way she acts” was the most disrespectful, mean girl thing to say to a friend then throwing the money comment at her bruh I truly hope she gave Brooke an apology
Honestly eye opening, how they even leave that in? Like I’m glad we got to see it don’t get me wrong but the fact that they think it’s okay to belittle something like that and that no one would bat an eye and she’s supposed to just accept that from her FRIENDS?I really hope they apologize to her or at least recognize how that was a little fucked up to all downplay the way SHE feels about her own birthday
for real!! Honestly I'm thinking of my friend group and if they did this to me I would literally cut off them off because that speaks volumes about how much they respect and value me, which I know is extreme considering they're probably good friends to her in other ways we can't see/gets to do a lot of fun stuff being a part of that group @@notmuch___
Idk cuz it is super close to the holidays and brooke has admitted to cussing people out because of frustration so i get why they wouldnt want to be straight up right away. Canceling to stay with family around holidays makes sense to me. She could try throwing her party before thanksgiving.
Also hate to say it might be on me for holding a grudge buttt she wants her friends to have loyalty but mindied tana lolol then was overly mad when ashly did the same? Like bffr
I see why Brooke be beefing sometimes because i would be too 😂 i HATE when people cancel on something that is SO important to me ESPECIALLY if i’ve given notice and it’s been pre-planned. AND I HAVE A PSYCHO FAMILY. i’ve just gotten to the point where i don’t let THEIR psychotic episodes fuck with me and my life. having a birthday close to the holidays def sucks 🥹
right, also because they're psycho wouldn't that be MORE of a reason to prioritize a close friend's brithday for a SINGLE DAY, and not make excuses for their behavior (also guessing their psychotic behavior has probably caused enough trauma for you growing up, why still continue to make excuses/appease them)
@@MSkp4wo it’s taken me a long time to get to the point where i don’t let their shit rule my life. but if i can get there by 24, the rest of them can too. they just need to work on their shit. it’s incredibly rude and a poor excuse.
I would be pissed if I were Brooke and everyone made excuses for why they couldn’t make it to my birthday instead of just admitting that it’s shitty no one can come :/ like it sucks when you always show up for others but they don’t show that it’s important to show up for you
exactly, brooke is always there for everyone else but they kinda leave her behind and justify it with excuses. like, you really cant take one day out of the entire thanksgiving week to stop by and see her? on her birthday??? that makes me so sad
She even said/insinuated she would plan it for a day that’s different if it worked for others, but everyone agrees to it with no problems then comes up with something last minute 🥲 anyone who’s ever had no one show up to a birthday party knows how badly that hurts, even to someone without BPD, that would be hurtful
Especially since it seems like all they do is party, you’d think they’d want to just throw a party for their friend and cancelled co host like they did tana going to GREECE
Agreed! We love you Brooke! sending you all the love and hoping you receive all the love and appreciation you deserve on your birthday (and every day of the year) we are rooting for you!!!!!!!
The way she ended the podcast and got up and left quickly off the couch spoke volumes… I hope someone made sure she was okay afterwards cause that whole last section of the podcast was beyond shitty :(
Yeah I will admit, as much as I used to find Ari a bit annoying (mostly just that he seems unaware of his privilege tbh, I'm probably just envious of people with money tho) but he is REALLY good at podcasting with them
@@vans3163it’s so good to acknowledge things like that about why we as humans can feel bitter towards others for things they can’t help like where they’re born, what they were born into, how they were raised, what their ethnicity is, their appearance/looks, etc. That’s growth imo
@@kelligirl1210For me it wasn't even about being bitter but how he was portrayed on the podcast as being an entitled brat. Like Tana had a whole story about how he was crying for hours and begging his parents for a Porsche 😅 That put a bad taste in my mouth
@@tessaelto1472didn’t he get the wrong type of porsche and that was the problem? like he wanted a /specific/ porsche? very out of touch but he’s gotten funnier for sure lol
Ok y’all need to throw Brooke a birthday party. Everyone deserves to feel special on their birthday. It’s a hard time for a lot of people. I know it’s around a holiday but you can make it work. Bffr
She disinvited y’all to protect her own mental headspace. She had to protect herself from her own friends...genuine madness, and the antithesis of a friend. To answer the unspoken question, *no* real friend does this. Holidays are enjoyed around the world, between celebrities and normies alike. Within our adult brain is also a fully matured prefrontal cortex, which gives us the capacity for advanced cognitive function and TIME MANAGEMENT. For the Tana and Brooke friends reading the comment section, read it without the smirk and texting your same friends like “this comment section villanizing us omggeee lol well oops oh well.” No. You’re not as cute as you think. Promise. I enjoy Brooke like I enjoy the rest of the gang, but I’m bent out of shape over this because y’all speak SO highly of your friendships and how valuable they are. This convo was a 2min section of the video, but unraveled a lot for me. A glance behind the stupid curtain, and the reality doesn’t fit what I had in my head at all. More than I wanted to learn.
Honestly, if her birthday isnt held the DAY of thanksgiving, her friends can drive 40mins to attend and then go back to their families for the rest of the weekend or break time. I feel bad for Brooke ://
They probably do over an hour just to attend a meeting or event on a regular weekday like why not for your best friend who planned her birthday around you!!
Brookes face is literally perfect and I have no idea what people are talking about. It’s always smooth. She talks about how she wears too much makeup but it always looks smooth and flawless. Her blue eyes and dark hair make her look ethereal but still real. It really upsets me when she says people comment on her looks and that it gets to her.
Ik like?? First off I don’t think Brooke cares how much money is spent just show up for her and second I mean u spend money on all your other friends birthdays sooo what’s the difference?
I ended up unliking the episode just because of the ending like oof oof oof. They don’t understand how unsafe they’re gonna make her feel around them at all. I know they’re still growing and LA really taints you on perspective but come on guys
i'm glad others noticed that, too. if the audience knows enough about brooke's upbringing to know that was a horrendously shitty thing to say, ari definitely did. i've yet to see something with ari in where i've gotten a good impression of them tbh.
omg no way, i can’t believe every time Brooke gave a valid reason why they could make her birthday they had an excuse.. horrible friends. it sucks when people show up for everyone else but when it comes to you it’s excuses excuses THEN say i’m just “going to spend a lot of money” knowing brooke doesn’t care about that type of stuff. terrible
I wonder why is happens to her specifically. Like what makes someone the person people decide to all collectively do that too. I feel like it’s always the most genuine/considerate one out of the bunch too
God I almost cried for Brooke at the end there, and I’d be at the edge of tears if I WAS Brooke there. Kudos for her taking it there tho, Tana at least comes off caring more for business than she does her circle, which isn’t healthy; Tana you deserve breaks to enjoy being a human and not a brand. A few episodes ago you implied something like you’d miss Brooke’s wedding for a mental crisis(sleeping), and Brooke wasn’t having that for good reason. Reassess your priorities if you’d burn yourself out for stupid men, and unnecessary work, to the point where not being at your best friends wedding is a real possibility that you’ll state it now like it’s not incredibly depressing TO YOUR BEST FRIEND. Get your pity in a different way, not at your friends expense.
While watching this I just finished crying about how my family didn’t celebrate my 21st birthday with me like they should have. I feel her frustration sending her lots of love
Ugh I felt the heartbreak from Brooke about her birthday 😔 my heart is literally aching rn. From one bpd girly to another, my birthday is always around Easter, and I've gone through that same shit my whole life. Birthdays are always a let down, and no one understands. 🥺💜 It's hard watching friends get celebrated and showered with love and effort for their birthdays, but get shrugged off because your birthday is around a holiday or something of that sort. It's so lonely. The group should definitely change up their plan this year, and celebrate Thanksgiving with the family on a different day, and throw a surprise party for Brooke on her birthday. It would mean more than you could ever know. 💜
Brooke's idea for a documentary about the psychology of a troll actually sounds really interesting. I'd watch the hell out of that, i've always wondered what goes on in people's heads to make them comment those things.
It's not a documentary, but the channel "Psychology in Seattle" often covers this issue! I'm pretty sure he has an episode about online trolling. He's got a PhD and is a professor and therapist.
That “acts the way she acts” comment at the end is so crazy , literally blaming her making her seem crazy when anyone would be upset if all of their best friends constantly miss their birthday…
@@jadechaya9025yeah, and i get they want a vacation too, but doing this kind of thing and just podcasting all day so you can still put content out is sooo appreciated.
I feel sad for Brooke. I used to have friends that made excuses why they couldn't do anything for my birthday around Christmas. I just accepted that for years until I met new friends after college. My new and best friends have made sure I've had a party or dinner every single year since. I'm no longer friends with anyone from the old group. The whole "if he wanted to, he would" also applies to friendships "if they wanted to, they would".
it definitely makes sense to be upset by all your friends cancelling last minute when you’ve spent so much time and money on your own party and having to scrap everything and plan it on a day your FRIENDS all want to… the point of a birthday is that everyone comes together to celebrate you and even if that happens to be close to thanksgiving it’s still not on thanksgiving so there should be no real reason if you truly want to show someone they’re important to you and that you love them you would be able to miss a day of whatever extra thanksgiving plans your family has that they do the exact same way every year..
I can’t stand people dismissing real feelings and this group does that way too much for me to ever understand. Sometimes I feel ike the friendships are “for the plot” 😢
Yup & now she bought Brooke a car? After this podcast, if I was Brooke, I wouldn’t accept the car. Let’s see how long it takes for Tana to throw the car back in Brooke’s face
Awe Brooke saying everyone cancels on her every year for her birthday broke my heart. My bdays 23rd of December and I end up disappointed and crying every year. So annoying when everyone else around you is able to have there day the way they want but you have to prepare urself for disappointment because no one can make an effort for u😭we love you Brooke!
I absolutely love seeing Tana’s authentic journey with sobriety as someone who is considering it as well. A lot of people choose to keep it private until they are fully sober, or at the very least hide their relapses. I completely respect that and everyone has a right to their privacy, but as a viewer it’s honestly nice seeing Tana have a real journey with sobriety. She is not perfect, and she goes back and forth when it comes to drinking, but I truly do think she is on the right path and this is all a normal part of the journey.
I want a Brooke special podcast. I’ve been a tana fan long enough, I know SOME of her life story. But Damn, Brooke’s story is very elusive and I’m way too intrigued. I want to know every fucking detail of this woman’s life. Please please
we love you Brooke ): honestly the ending was so sad. everyone constantly cut brooke but especially tana i feel like she can’t just wait patiently for brooke to just finish what she’s saying and just talks right over her and then they just change subjects. the sad excuses from not just one but multiple ppl makes my heart ache. i don’t know how no one in the room didn’t catch how upsetting that was ); we want to hear all your stories brooke !!!
But if it was Tanas birthday 3 days or shit even a day after thanksgiving… you know they would all be there which makes the principle of the situation even worse
brookie we loved your just trish episode!!! it was cool to hear more about bpd from a personal perspective bc really is stigmatized, thanks for being so open ❤
@@RedneckJessi haha I mean..is anybody that listens to cancelled 100% mentally stable? lol cuz in be sincerely surprised. We all have our shit, isn’t that why we are here? For a laugh, an escape from reality, and I think most importantly relatability and understanding of the crazy shit life throws at us. 😂
Brooke, I'm sorry that your friends haven't prioritized your birthday in the past and couldn't take accountability for the hurt that has caused you. I hope you have the best day ever and spoil yourself because you deserve it. Tana, I had a hard time watching you in this episode. I started watching Cancelled when you were on the sober train so it was really jarring to see you get progressively intoxicated throughout this episode. I'm 2.5 years sober and up until recently, it was really cool watching you navigate life as a (California) sober influencer. It was difficult to watch you talking over Brooke, dismissing her concerns, and interjecting your own childhood trauma when questions were specifically directed at her.
the end made me so sad. brooke always is making time for people, and no one can make time for her. literally last episode she talked about how sad she gets when people, especially her friends miss important events to her.
BROOKE!! Trish would LIVE/LOVE to celebrate your birthday with you I bet (: she adores you so so much! you guys could do a special birthday mukbang video if you wanted to also have it be content and if not then I don’t see why you girlies can’t still do that :)
Everyone was being very dismissive of Brooke at the end. How sad that she knows everyone will cancel on her and they’re supposed to be her best friends
The whole Brooke birthday situation. :( Brooke if you’re reading this I’m so glad you’re doing something for yourself. I hope you have the best day ever ❤❤
I actually think this was my favorite podcast you guys put out. It was actually amazing, you guys talked about some serious stuff while also putting in hilarious content. This podcast was just so good, love you guys:)
I genuinely cannot imagine telling my best friend “no but I can’t be there is my point” about her birthdayyyy!! This episode made me so upset for Brooke
I’m just saying if Tana had her bday the same day Brooke does, she would make sure EVERYONE was there and she’d be PISSED if people didn’t show up for her.
It’s so upsetting seeing how dismissive they were when Brooke was talking about her birthday 🥺 good friends would make time and effort for their friends special occasions no matter the holiday. #justiceforbrookesbday
Tana throw brooke a surprise party rn!! And buy her everything she wants. She is always the reliable friend and would show up for everyone that was on this podcast. Love you brooke.
This was such a wholesome podcast until the end it really makes it seem like none of them actually gaf about Brooke or her bday they were laughing in her face about it lol
this is lowkey why I only like it when Tana and Brooke are on the episode ngl - like this was a deeper episode especially towards middle to end and Brooke and Tana talking A LOT about there childhood trauma and it genuinely felt like they were being made fun of - Tana saying "I can name every addressed Ive moved to" then all you hear is "like name them all" 55:25 Brooke talking about how her mom has random pictures of her bellybutton but not of her as a baby and all you hear is "so your mom wasn't as bad as you think she was" 52:30 At least Tana was even saying when Brooke kept getting interrupted "Ill talk about that later let her go" 50:00 And I know you guys are all great friends and all one big group who probably always constantly do this to each other but just as a viewer it honestly didn't sit well and made me feel worst from what was already a deep conversation
I totally get Brooke's birthday struggles because mine is on New Year's Day, so I ALWAYS have the same problem every year. It always feels like my friends have bigger priorities/don't care, but usually, I try to split their time or find a balance. Every year it is really stressful and heartbreaking though, so kudos to Brooke, and happy early birthday.
i feel bad for her :/ they weren’t really suggesting ways to make it work either they just kinda laughed at her like it’s not a celebration of her literal life. find a day that works rats!!
I feel Brooke so hard with the birthdays! My birthday is usually either the week before or the same week as thanksgiving & everyone is always cancelling on me last minute :) (and we all live in the same state ~20-40mins as our families)
Brooke deserves to be celebrated and not given excuses/ have her feelings invalidated. I understand it’s a tough time with the holidays but coming together for a breakfast/brunch or dinner honestly isn’t that tough… That’s coming from someone who celebrates with 3 different families during the holidays
@@Konnordawg 1000% I’ve literally seen every episode and this does happen just look up girl gets gap widened antm I don’t remember which cycle it was but I can try to find it
Favorite episode until the end, I understand how hard it can be to leave family but canceling last minute on someone’s birthday plans every year would be so frustrating. I’m so sorry Brooke!
Uhm Ari and Ty are DREAM podcast guests . Ty seems like such a sincere friend, he genuinely listens to every person. Ari is so smart and articulate. I love how when 1 of you is speaking everyone else on the couch hang on their every word. I loved the energy and respect in this episode and think this really shows such a healthy friend dynamic ❤️
As someone with the same birthday as Brooke, I 100% totally feel where she's coming from. I've had so many birthdays ruined cause of it falling super close to Thanksgiving, sometimes even on the actual holiday. It just sucks when you go all out for others birthdays and would never miss an event, but when it's your turn no one is present.
as someone who doesn’t have a lot of friends, ur 20s can be a really lonely place and the podcast really makes me feel like I’m a part of something and I just love you guys so much and you get me through like every week🤍
Every anecdote I hear about Lila just makes me dislike her more. Imagine dealing with a "friend" like that irl. I don't know how they put up with her😅. There's a being funny and a bit ditzy, and then there's being downright rude and unhygienic (I remember in one ep Tana said Lilah told her at some airport that she hadn't washed her hands in 3 days. I mean whut 🤢)
My mothers death anniversary is approaching. 2 years without her. It is so rough, and I always always use this podcast as an escape. Every time I sit down to listen to it I can laugh and forget- but today I couldn’t… and then Ari shared his story. And all of you shared stories of signs you see… and I fucking appreciate you so much. I thank you guys. You are so *chefs kiss*
Them dismissing Brooke for her birthday absolutely crushed me. I want to give her a hug 😭
same that would break my heart
for real! sending Brooke so much love praying she gets the recognition and love she deserves!
Seriously???? It's a birthday, you have one every year for the rest of your life. It's not a big deal.
@@Julie28Davis she said they always forget her birthday every year and it’s not about the actual day it’s the fact that her friends don’t care enough to make her feel loved or appreciated. That’s the point of birthdays.
@@Julie28Davis It is and should be a big deal. It is the one day of the year you should be able to celebrate yourself without judgement or shame, with the ability to be happy. I’ve had shit birthdays since I was 12 and am now 20, yet I’m not a hater for them. Be kind.
Y’all cut off Brooke too damn much 😭 I love hearing her talk about anything, especially her childhood. We wanna hear you girl!!
Frrr and they had nothing else to add
They all cut eachother off constantly. Watch it again lol
Literally and it’s hilarious they started off the episode talking about lyla doing exactly that…as if tana doesn’t cut Brooke off to tell a story we all have heard her tell before
Amen I was hoping someone commented this cuz I second that!
Brooke is a literal angel for putting up w Tanas stupid ass for this long.
honestly sooooo weird and gross how dismissive they were about brooke's bithday good for her for uninviting them
Yes!!!! I’m like disgusted at how they think this is acceptable
So weird they do that
Disgusting..... not real friends at all
Tana is so fucked up towards the end she’s talking so slow
F*ck them for that fr, we love Brooke over here!!!
i feel so bad for brooke this episode, it feels like everyone is just brushing her over when she was talking about the photos of herself as a child no one really commented and changed the subject, i want to hug her so bad :( you can tell it hurt when tana said she has to spend a lot of money for her birthday because she can’t go, brooke clearly just wants people to be there for her, yes it’s a family holiday a few days before or after but she plans around everyone that shouldn’t be a problem
:( fr she seemed sad
wanted to know so badly what she was going to tell!
Especially when tana made the baby photo conversation about herself immediately after Brooke finished her sentence… she didn’t even ask about the photos
Sometimes i feel like brooke that one friend who drops everything for the people she cares about but they can't do the same for her. Everyone deserves to feel special for one day
And those friends will always get tired one day when they realize their worth and how much those “friends” don’t deserve her
Me.
Am I the only one whose heart broke for Brooke , yes holidays are tough but it’s heartbreaking having your friends decide last minute not to attend ur birthday and celebrate with you
Nope it broke my heart too! Her face at the end when Tana said “i will pick a day just to celebrate you” was like *why the hell do you think you get to decide when we celebrate MY birthday?*
Omg yes! You can see all over her face the deep pain she feels cuz she always gets ditched for her birthday 😢 I can just tell she feels like she’s an outsider with that friend group, people with borderline personality disorder already feel like no one really loves them/they’re not worthy of love so I can’t even imagine how awful that feels every year for her cuz in her mind it’s just confirmation of what her brain tells her that no one truly cares about her. Obviously we all know they all love Brooke but I really hope they all get together one year n like take her away to somewhere awesome for like a week or celebrating her birthday 🥰
Especially after last week when she even said how important it is for her friends to show up for her. 😢
Especially since she said last episode that she hates when people miss special occasions like that☹️
It's baffling to me how much they are minimizing it. She's talked about it on the podcast and probably in person, I assume, how important it is for people to show up for her. Just because it doesn't matter to you, doesn't mean it's okay to assume it doesn't matter to another person, or disregard it.
I would understand if she asked, and they all said maybe, and then it didn't turn out. But, to say yes, HER plan around THEM, and then they still not show up. You are deciding to let your friend down. Every time.
it's let her down to the point that she's no longer even attempting to invite her best and good friends because of how little they care about her feelings.
If y’all don’t throw Brooke a surprise party 😭
JUST ONCE!!
She would cry and like be so eternally grateful omg
seriously. i feel so hard for her wtf what are they doing
this
honestly
The ending of the episode def left a bad taste in my mouth:( brookie deserves to be celebrated and not feel like it’s a chore for her friends to show up for her. She literally told us all on the last pod how important birthdays are to her :/ boo to the excuses
right, they really should prioritize her even if they have family stuff going on. it’s not impossible they just think it’s not a big deal even though it IS!!! like showing up for your friends on their birthdays is the most bare minimum thing.
(no hate to anyone in the podcast i genuinely enjoy watching this ,but it’s hard watching someone treat their friend poorly in this regard. i’ve had so many people in my life walk out on me during important life events because they didn’t care about me as much as they did themselves. it hit home )
I haven’t watched yet and I’m already pissed. Brooke needs to be protected at all cost❤
I can’t find the comment but they said, “a small peek behind the curtain” left them disgusted.
Honestly, same.
I love the crew but this left me feeling sour.
cause let it had been anybody else's birthday they would've been in a villa in tulum. brooke deserves everything and more i wish i had a friend like her
and Tana saying that every year she spends so much money on her and she's never happy I'M SORRY WHAT??!!!! i don't want your money! i want to spend my birthday with the people that i love and have them show up for me!!!! that's priceless!
Who needs enemies when you have friends like Brooke has
For real
Right.
This
Tana saying “act the way she acts” was the most disrespectful, mean girl thing to say to a friend then throwing the money comment at her bruh I truly hope she gave Brooke an apology
Time stamp?
that was NASTY.
Yeah that made my heart hurt… 😕
Wtf does that even mean? What was she insinuating?
@@ashleysteventon458:45
Honestly I get brookes frustration about her bday, it’s kinda fucked up how dismissive everyone was being lol
Honestly eye opening, how they even leave that in? Like I’m glad we got to see it don’t get me wrong but the fact that they think it’s okay to belittle something like that and that no one would bat an eye and she’s supposed to just accept that from her FRIENDS?I really hope they apologize to her or at least recognize how that was a little fucked up to all downplay the way SHE feels about her own birthday
SO DISMISSIVE AND GANGED UP ON!
for real!! Honestly I'm thinking of my friend group and if they did this to me I would literally cut off them off because that speaks volumes about how much they respect and value me, which I know is extreme considering they're probably good friends to her in other ways we can't see/gets to do a lot of fun stuff being a part of that group @@notmuch___
Idk cuz it is super close to the holidays and brooke has admitted to cussing people out because of frustration so i get why they wouldnt want to be straight up right away. Canceling to stay with family around holidays makes sense to me. She could try throwing her party before thanksgiving.
Also hate to say it might be on me for holding a grudge buttt she wants her friends to have loyalty but mindied tana lolol then was overly mad when ashly did the same? Like bffr
I see why Brooke be beefing sometimes because i would be too 😂
i HATE when people cancel on something that is SO important to me ESPECIALLY if i’ve given notice and it’s been pre-planned.
AND I HAVE A PSYCHO FAMILY. i’ve just gotten to the point where i don’t let THEIR psychotic episodes fuck with me and my life. having a birthday close to the holidays def sucks 🥹
right, also because they're psycho wouldn't that be MORE of a reason to prioritize a close friend's brithday for a SINGLE DAY, and not make excuses for their behavior (also guessing their psychotic behavior has probably caused enough trauma for you growing up, why still continue to make excuses/appease them)
@@MSkp4wo it’s taken me a long time to get to the point where i don’t let their shit rule my life. but if i can get there by 24, the rest of them can too. they just need to work on their shit. it’s incredibly rude and a poor excuse.
I would be pissed if I were Brooke and everyone made excuses for why they couldn’t make it to my birthday instead of just admitting that it’s shitty no one can come :/ like it sucks when you always show up for others but they don’t show that it’s important to show up for you
exactly, brooke is always there for everyone else but they kinda leave her behind and justify it with excuses. like, you really cant take one day out of the entire thanksgiving week to stop by and see her? on her birthday??? that makes me so sad
She even said/insinuated she would plan it for a day that’s different if it worked for others, but everyone agrees to it with no problems then comes up with something last minute 🥲 anyone who’s ever had no one show up to a birthday party knows how badly that hurts, even to someone without BPD, that would be hurtful
We have the same pic
I am praying they are planning a surprise for her cause that’s mad fucked up lol
Especially since it seems like all they do is party, you’d think they’d want to just throw a party for their friend and cancelled co host like they did tana going to GREECE
I hope they’re planning a crazy surprise party for Brooke because this made me cry :(
Tana you don’t get to choose when to celebrate someone’s else’s birthday be so forreal and show brooke how much you appreciate her she’s a gem
tana is so self absorbed it’s actually insane, i dont know how anyone is friends w her. “i’ll pick another day” what the fuck???
Meanwhile she was buying her a car
when tana said she has to spend so much of her money to make brooke happy. no ma'am. unacceptable
The end of this made me so sad. How does Brooke show up for everyone else and no one can do one day for her? Love you, Brooke.
Agreed! We love you Brooke! sending you all the love and hoping you receive all the love and appreciation you deserve on your birthday (and every day of the year) we are rooting for you!!!!!!!
The way she ended the podcast and got up and left quickly off the couch spoke volumes… I hope someone made sure she was okay afterwards cause that whole last section of the podcast was beyond shitty :(
1. Brooke is stunning
2. Ari’s podcast etiquette is great lol
perioddd everyone got to talk & finish their stories, this ep was perfect
Yeah I will admit, as much as I used to find Ari a bit annoying (mostly just that he seems unaware of his privilege tbh, I'm probably just envious of people with money tho) but he is REALLY good at podcasting with them
@@vans3163it’s so good to acknowledge things like that about why we as humans can feel bitter towards others for things they can’t help like where they’re born, what they were born into, how they were raised, what their ethnicity is, their appearance/looks, etc. That’s growth imo
@@kelligirl1210For me it wasn't even about being bitter but how he was portrayed on the podcast as being an entitled brat. Like Tana had a whole story about how he was crying for hours and begging his parents for a Porsche 😅 That put a bad taste in my mouth
@@tessaelto1472didn’t he get the wrong type of porsche and that was the problem? like he wanted a /specific/ porsche? very out of touch but he’s gotten funnier for sure lol
Ok y’all need to throw Brooke a birthday party. Everyone deserves to feel special on their birthday. It’s a hard time for a lot of people. I know it’s around a holiday but you can make it work. Bffr
Brooke got a brand new car relax
She disinvited y’all to protect her own mental headspace. She had to protect herself from her own friends...genuine madness, and the antithesis of a friend. To answer the unspoken question, *no* real friend does this. Holidays are enjoyed around the world, between celebrities and normies alike. Within our adult brain is also a fully matured prefrontal cortex, which gives us the capacity for advanced cognitive function and TIME MANAGEMENT. For the Tana and Brooke friends reading the comment section, read it without the smirk and texting your same friends like “this comment section villanizing us omggeee lol well oops oh well.” No. You’re not as cute as you think. Promise.
I enjoy Brooke like I enjoy the rest of the gang, but I’m bent out of shape over this because y’all speak SO highly of your friendships and how valuable they are. This convo was a 2min section of the video, but unraveled a lot for me. A glance behind the stupid curtain, and the reality doesn’t fit what I had in my head at all. More than I wanted to learn.
perfectly said
so real
yup this about summarized it. so sad for brooke. ):
This is so well put. Couldn’t agree more ❤
no bc you’re so right that comment ateeee
Honestly, if her birthday isnt held the DAY of thanksgiving, her friends can drive 40mins to attend and then go back to their families for the rest of the weekend or break time. I feel bad for Brooke ://
right 40 minutes is nothing
Exactly! They have all the resources in the world figure it out
They probably do over an hour just to attend a meeting or event on a regular weekday like why not for your best friend who planned her birthday around you!!
Brookes face is literally perfect and I have no idea what people are talking about. It’s always smooth. She talks about how she wears too much makeup but it always looks smooth and flawless. Her blue eyes and dark hair make her look ethereal but still real. It really upsets me when she says people comment on her looks and that it gets to her.
brooke really gets no love it’s so sad. "i’m just gonna spend so much of my money to make you happy" like what???
Ik like?? First off I don’t think Brooke cares how much money is spent just show up for her and second I mean u spend money on all your other friends birthdays sooo what’s the difference?
That irked me so bad! Shoving her money in her face is so degrading, as if that makes up for her being inconsiderate
It was like the definition of gaslighting her and tryna make her feel crazy for feeling sad
That was a WILD thing for Tana to say. Like what in the actual entire fuck. They don’t act like they like her.
You can’t buy love. It’s so sad
Felt so bad for Brooke when Ari said “your mom wasn’t that bad girl” u could see her eyes like 🥺 all of them are so dismissive of her, so sad.
What’s the time stamp
52:35
I ended up unliking the episode just because of the ending like oof oof oof. They don’t understand how unsafe they’re gonna make her feel around them at all. I know they’re still growing and LA really taints you on perspective but come on guys
i'm glad others noticed that, too. if the audience knows enough about brooke's upbringing to know that was a horrendously shitty thing to say, ari definitely did. i've yet to see something with ari in where i've gotten a good impression of them tbh.
This comment section passed the vibe check, we should throw a bday party for Brooke 😂
She’s the most normal not LA one in the group. She seems like the best coworker you could have
Omg 😂😂 This is a fabbbb ideaaaa! Haha love it. We love you Brooke!!
This video made me so deeply sad for Brooke… i saw a different side of Tana at the end and hated it
she really is the worst especially when she drinks
i feel brooke on being the friend that nobody shows up for
omg no way, i can’t believe every time Brooke gave a valid reason why they could make her birthday they had an excuse.. horrible friends. it sucks when people show up for everyone else but when it comes to you it’s excuses excuses THEN say i’m just “going to spend a lot of money” knowing brooke doesn’t care about that type of stuff. terrible
I wonder why is happens to her specifically. Like what makes someone the person people decide to all collectively do that too. I feel like it’s always the most genuine/considerate one out of the bunch too
Ya’ll sincerely owe Brooke an apology, it’s important too her, you make time for the things that are important.
i feel so bad for brooke because you can tell she is sad about the fact that they do not prioritize her birthday
God I almost cried for Brooke at the end there, and I’d be at the edge of tears if I WAS Brooke there. Kudos for her taking it there tho, Tana at least comes off caring more for business than she does her circle, which isn’t healthy; Tana you deserve breaks to enjoy being a human and not a brand. A few episodes ago you implied something like you’d miss Brooke’s wedding for a mental crisis(sleeping), and Brooke wasn’t having that for good reason. Reassess your priorities if you’d burn yourself out for stupid men, and unnecessary work, to the point where not being at your best friends wedding is a real possibility that you’ll state it now like it’s not incredibly depressing TO YOUR BEST FRIEND. Get your pity in a different way, not at your friends expense.
While watching this I just finished crying about how my family didn’t celebrate my 21st birthday with me like they should have. I feel her frustration sending her lots of love
Ugh I felt the heartbreak from Brooke about her birthday 😔 my heart is literally aching rn. From one bpd girly to another, my birthday is always around Easter, and I've gone through that same shit my whole life. Birthdays are always a let down, and no one understands. 🥺💜
It's hard watching friends get celebrated and showered with love and effort for their birthdays, but get shrugged off because your birthday is around a holiday or something of that sort. It's so lonely.
The group should definitely change up their plan this year, and celebrate Thanksgiving with the family on a different day, and throw a surprise party for Brooke on her birthday. It would mean more than you could ever know. 💜
Brooke's idea for a documentary about the psychology of a troll actually sounds really interesting. I'd watch the hell out of that, i've always wondered what goes on in people's heads to make them comment those things.
Honestly, Shane Dawson tried to do this with the "Meeting My Hater" series with Bobby and look how that guy turned out 😅
It's not a documentary, but the channel "Psychology in Seattle" often covers this issue! I'm pretty sure he has an episode about online trolling. He's got a PhD and is a professor and therapist.
@@nullusernamexi love dr. kirk!! he is so mellow & informative. and he covers fun things like love is blind 😂❤
@@abbyz13 yes exactly 😂❤️ happy to see another fan!
Brooke is y’all’s family please take care of her
That “acts the way she acts” comment at the end is so crazy , literally blaming her making her seem crazy when anyone would be upset if all of their best friends constantly miss their birthday…
Tana was 100% right. They carved a gap in a contestants teeth on ANTM
They made her gap LARGER bc Tyra loved it so much idk 😂
And Brooke literally gaslighted her
And told another black contestant she wouldnt be a model with a gap in a different season
yes!! i remember the episode
Where is she now I HAVE TO KNOW
being guaranteed cancelled over the holidays is HEALING my broken family life ty babes
No literally I don’t have any family to share thanksgiving or Christmas with I’m so sad about it.
I wish more creators understood this! Just bank episodes ahead of time. Most of my comfort podcasts take a week off when I need it most
@@yvngjointget some good food & spend the night doing things you enjoy! solidarity dude, we’ll get through this stupid season lol.
@@jadechaya9025yeah, and i get they want a vacation too, but doing this kind of thing and just podcasting all day so you can still put content out is sooo appreciated.
Brooke is the sunshine of this podcast i appreciate her personality so muchhh ILY BROOKE
i hope y'all know brooke would make the time and do it for you ❤
I feel sad for Brooke. I used to have friends that made excuses why they couldn't do anything for my birthday around Christmas. I just accepted that for years until I met new friends after college. My new and best friends have made sure I've had a party or dinner every single year since. I'm no longer friends with anyone from the old group. The whole "if he wanted to, he would" also applies to friendships "if they wanted to, they would".
i think that phrase applies to most relationships.
THIS!!! I feel like it’s so overlooked in friendships but the “if they wanted to, they would” rings 100% true.
Timing couldn’t be more perfect. I love how authentic these always are
They are such a vibe
If they’re not planning a surprise party for her before the holidays I’ll actually be pissed!!! That’s so messed up! 😣😓
it definitely makes sense to be upset by all your friends cancelling last minute when you’ve spent so much time and money on your own party and having to scrap everything and plan it on a day your FRIENDS all want to… the point of a birthday is that everyone comes together to celebrate you and even if that happens to be close to thanksgiving it’s still not on thanksgiving so there should be no real reason if you truly want to show someone they’re important to you and that you love them you would be able to miss a day of whatever extra thanksgiving plans your family has that they do the exact same way every year..
I can’t stand people dismissing real feelings and this group does that way too much for me to ever understand. Sometimes I feel ike the friendships are “for the plot” 😢
Tana saying that she has to spend so much of her money to make her happy was sooo fucked up
If she doesn’t fucking publicly apologize holy shit ….. at her big ass age.
right like that hurt
And then now she's bought Brooke a car?!
I need a friend like that I'd get mad every year
Yup & now she bought Brooke a car? After this podcast, if I was Brooke, I wouldn’t accept the car. Let’s see how long it takes for Tana to throw the car back in Brooke’s face
Awe Brooke saying everyone cancels on her every year for her birthday broke my heart. My bdays 23rd of December and I end up disappointed and crying every year. So annoying when everyone else around you is able to have there day the way they want but you have to prepare urself for disappointment because no one can make an effort for u😭we love you Brooke!
my birthday is december 22 and i also cry every year :(
Dude the way they’re not even pretending to care about Brooke’s feelings … imagine how you’d feel if everyone bailed on you every single year
I absolutely love seeing Tana’s authentic journey with sobriety as someone who is considering it as well. A lot of people choose to keep it private until they are fully sober, or at the very least hide their relapses. I completely respect that and everyone has a right to their privacy, but as a viewer it’s honestly nice seeing Tana have a real journey with sobriety. She is not perfect, and she goes back and forth when it comes to drinking, but I truly do think she is on the right path and this is all a normal part of the journey.
Dang, I was really loving sober Tana podcasts. I understand Brooke's inner conflict right now. :(
I want a Brooke special podcast. I’ve been a tana fan long enough, I know SOME of her life story. But Damn, Brooke’s story is very elusive and I’m way too intrigued. I want to know every fucking detail of this woman’s life. Please please
the thing about Brookes birthday, like actually the excuses are sad and imagine being her like id be annoyed too wtf
i was brought to tears hearing about Brooke and Ari’s stories about signs from their loved ones 🥺🤍
fr same this ep was so cool 🦋🍀
looking at brooke the whole time broke my heart… is she ok? 🥹
we love you Brooke ): honestly the ending was so sad. everyone constantly cut brooke but especially tana i feel like she can’t just wait patiently for brooke to just finish what she’s saying and just talks right over her and then they just change subjects. the sad excuses from not just one but multiple ppl makes my heart ache. i don’t know how no one in the room didn’t catch how upsetting that was ); we want to hear all your stories brooke !!!
But if it was Tanas birthday 3 days or shit even a day after thanksgiving… you know they would all be there which makes the principle of the situation even worse
brookie we loved your just trish episode!!! it was cool to hear more about bpd from a personal perspective bc really is stigmatized, thanks for being so open ❤
literally keeping me sane
Things must be a bit crazy for you if this group is keeping you sane. 😂
Literally same
@@RedneckJessi haha I mean..is anybody that listens to cancelled 100% mentally stable? lol cuz in be sincerely surprised. We all have our shit, isn’t that why we are here? For a laugh, an escape from reality, and I think most importantly relatability and understanding of the crazy shit life throws at us. 😂
@@RedneckJessihave you been on earth for more than 5 seconds? it’s crazy here
Brooke, I'm sorry that your friends haven't prioritized your birthday in the past and couldn't take accountability for the hurt that has caused you. I hope you have the best day ever and spoil yourself because you deserve it.
Tana, I had a hard time watching you in this episode. I started watching Cancelled when you were on the sober train so it was really jarring to see you get progressively intoxicated throughout this episode. I'm 2.5 years sober and up until recently, it was really cool watching you navigate life as a (California) sober influencer. It was difficult to watch you talking over Brooke, dismissing her concerns, and interjecting your own childhood trauma when questions were specifically directed at her.
Brooke is family too. Don’t forget that. I value my friendship like they are my own family.
the end made me so sad. brooke always is making time for people, and no one can make time for her. literally last episode she talked about how sad she gets when people, especially her friends miss important events to her.
BROOKE!! Trish would LIVE/LOVE to celebrate your birthday with you I bet (: she adores you so so much! you guys could do a special birthday mukbang video if you wanted to also have it be content and if not then I don’t see why you girlies can’t still do that :)
Everyone was being very dismissive of Brooke at the end. How sad that she knows everyone will cancel on her and they’re supposed to be her best friends
It because there was surprise gift in the works relax
i usually dont like guests, but i loved ty and ari on this week.
I think it’s different when they’re all already friends
yall calling her BIRTHDAY an inconvenience is crazy
The whole Brooke birthday situation. :( Brooke if you’re reading this I’m so glad you’re doing something for yourself. I hope you have the best day ever ❤❤
I actually think this was my favorite podcast you guys put out. It was actually amazing, you guys talked about some serious stuff while also putting in hilarious content. This podcast was just so good, love you guys:)
I love the deeper conversations. I love to hear y’all’s perspectives on deeper things…. LOVED ARI &TY’S GUEST APPEARANCE
Brooke literally left everyone SPEACHLESS! So insane.....
I genuinely cannot imagine telling my best friend “no but I can’t be there is my point” about her birthdayyyy!! This episode made me so upset for Brooke
I’m just saying if Tana had her bday the same day Brooke does, she would make sure EVERYONE was there and she’d be PISSED if people didn’t show up for her.
this
So real
It’s so upsetting seeing how dismissive they were when Brooke was talking about her birthday 🥺 good friends would make time and effort for their friends special occasions no matter the holiday. #justiceforbrookesbday
Tana throw brooke a surprise party rn!! And buy her everything she wants. She is always the reliable friend and would show up for everyone that was on this podcast. Love you brooke.
This was such a wholesome podcast until the end it really makes it seem like none of them actually gaf about Brooke or her bday they were laughing in her face about it lol
this is lowkey why I only like it when Tana and Brooke are on the episode ngl - like this was a deeper episode especially towards middle to end and Brooke and Tana talking A LOT about there childhood trauma and it genuinely felt like they were being made fun of -
Tana saying "I can name every addressed Ive moved to" then all you hear is "like name them all" 55:25
Brooke talking about how her mom has random pictures of her bellybutton but not of her as a baby and all you hear is "so your mom wasn't as bad as you think she was" 52:30
At least Tana was even saying when Brooke kept getting interrupted "Ill talk about that later let her go" 50:00
And I know you guys are all great friends and all one big group who probably always constantly do this to each other but just as a viewer it honestly didn't sit well and made me feel worst from what was already a deep conversation
Why am I crying over Brookes birthday?? We love you Brookie baby😩😩
I totally get Brooke's birthday struggles because mine is on New Year's Day, so I ALWAYS have the same problem every year. It always feels like my friends have bigger priorities/don't care, but usually, I try to split their time or find a balance. Every year it is really stressful and heartbreaking though, so kudos to Brooke, and happy early birthday.
Ty's last minute "I have so much more to say" was hilarious.
omg i feel brooke on having a birthday fall on/around thanksgiving it’s sucks
i feel bad for her :/ they weren’t really suggesting ways to make it work either they just kinda laughed at her like it’s not a celebration of her literal life. find a day that works rats!!
her birthday is literally 3 days after thanksgiving this year there is absolutely no reason to miss it??
Last episode Brooke said how important plans were to her... give her the same love language effort 🗣️
Love you Brooke. We all wish we could spend ur bday with you ❤️❤️❤️
I feel so sad for Brooke. She is supposed to be family too so pulling the “it’s hard to get away from family” is a little much
And funny cause why do they suddenly care rn but live their lives and dont care when its not the holidays
@@Subllama the holiday excuse is just that. An EXCUSE. We make time for our loved once ESPECIALLY WHEN THEY ARE LESS THAN AN HOUR AWAY
I feel Brooke so hard with the birthdays! My birthday is usually either the week before or the same week as thanksgiving & everyone is always cancelling on me last minute :) (and we all live in the same state ~20-40mins as our families)
i hope tana goes sober again
Right 365 hard!
Please god. It’s not cute any more.
Brooke deserves to be celebrated and not given excuses/ have her feelings invalidated. I understand it’s a tough time with the holidays but coming together for a breakfast/brunch or dinner honestly isn’t that tough… That’s coming from someone who celebrates with 3 different families during the holidays
Brooke, don't put pressure on yourself to be married by 30. It'll happen at the right time!
and women can have babies until at least 40, you may need IVF but it can be done ❤ never write off your future before it happens!!
TANA - 1000% right about the gap!!! There was a girl with a teeny gap and she made it London laaaarge!
AND THERE WAS A girl with a gap she made put it together!!
Yes!!! Tana was right
Yes I remembered it too
Are ya’ll just being girls’ girls or is this true? 😅😩
@@Konnordawg 1000% I’ve literally seen every episode and this does happen just look up girl gets gap widened antm I don’t remember which cycle it was but I can try to find it
Brooke talking about her birthday made me so sad :(
come on brook deserves a special birthday celebration like everyone else gets, she literally has said how birthdays are important to her 😭
Favorite episode until the end, I understand how hard it can be to leave family but canceling last minute on someone’s birthday plans every year would be so frustrating. I’m so sorry Brooke!
Tana dropping this episode at 2am is exactly what I needed 😮💨
there actually was a girl that had a gap tooth and Bankshad them make her gap BIGGER and then they kicked her off the show that same episode 💀
I came looking for this comment because I vividly remember that scene
Uhm Ari and Ty are DREAM podcast guests . Ty seems like such a sincere friend, he genuinely listens to every person. Ari is so smart and articulate. I love how when 1 of you is speaking everyone else on the couch hang on their every word. I loved the energy and respect in this episode and think this really shows such a healthy friend dynamic ❤️
As someone with the same birthday as Brooke, I 100% totally feel where she's coming from. I've had so many birthdays ruined cause of it falling super close to Thanksgiving, sometimes even on the actual holiday. It just sucks when you go all out for others birthdays and would never miss an event, but when it's your turn no one is present.
as someone who doesn’t have a lot of friends, ur 20s can be a really lonely place and the podcast really makes me feel like I’m a part of something and I just love you guys so much and you get me through like every week🤍
honestly same
tbh i loved when they talked about death and the occult it felt so intimate and healing
y’all’s timing of dropping an episode when i need it the most is INSANE. love u both very muchhh 🖤
Every anecdote I hear about Lila just makes me dislike her more. Imagine dealing with a "friend" like that irl. I don't know how they put up with her😅. There's a being funny and a bit ditzy, and then there's being downright rude and unhygienic (I remember in one ep Tana said Lilah told her at some airport that she hadn't washed her hands in 3 days. I mean whut 🤢)
sammeeeee lila seems like a horrible friend based on the stuff said about her
She’s something…
@@LL-iu3bi Brooke and Tana have both been friends with Lila for years so if she is such a horrible friend then why would they stay friends with her?
@@ccgrey8731because they make excuses for shitty behavior in themselves and friends. Respectfully 🥸
@@ccgrey8731bc they choose to put up with her bs because shes funny
I feel bad for Brooke I love her I understand her frustration ❤
My mothers death anniversary is approaching. 2 years without her. It is so rough, and I always always use this podcast as an escape. Every time I sit down to listen to it I can laugh and forget- but today I couldn’t… and then Ari shared his story. And all of you shared stories of signs you see… and I fucking appreciate you so much. I thank you guys. You are so *chefs kiss*