I've had 3 babies unmedicated. The best advice i can give is don't fight the contractions just relax and welcome them! Good luck! You've got this! Baby will be here before you know it ❤
I haven't had any babies my self yet (hopefully in the next few years though), and I have heard and read that if you except and allow your body to just do it's think and try not to fight them if makes labor so much better. But hearing that it's true it turns out some much better than what people who did the opposite of such during labor. Thank you so much!
I’ve had one unmedicated, two medicated (necessarily so). And I can’t agree more❤ relax, trust your body, and movement is your best friend! Welcome every wave and just breathe and make noises or whatever you have to do to make it through that wave ❤
Yeah, so true. I've had three unmedicated births and this is just so true. Don't fight it, relax, don't tense up and see the contractions as something positive that helps the baby out. And trust your body. Fingers crossed! It is a beautiful experience. :)
I haven’t watched you and your sister in years. I think it was my granddaughter that used to watch you. She just started her first year of college. I can’t believe you’re married and having a baby!!!! CONGRATULATIONS to you both.
My husband caught all three of our babies!! He tells everyone it was so cool and I honestly loved it and felt like we did it together. Would highly recommend!!
This comment section is so surprisingly positive! Brooklyn, I'm so excited for you, you seem knowledgeable, but also graceful when talking about a very sensitive topic. I just gave birth unmedicated in a birth center 3 months ago and had such a positive experience!! When writing my birth plan, I wrote down a plan for if I went to the hospital, and if I needed a c-section, and that helped me feel like I had some control, even if my birth went south. Good luck you guys!! And yes, SLEEP hahah
I had my three year-old and five month old unmedicated at a birth center. Birth centers are absolutely amazing!! The perfect in between. You will do great🤍
Just be open to changes in your plan. Labor and delivery can go in soooooo many different directions. I hope it all goes well and you have a beautiful and safe delivery!! Such an exciting time! ❤
This! So many women are left disappointed -or downright depressed- bc their birth plan didn’t go the way they wanted it to. Have a plan, but be open-minded. At the end of the day, a healthy baby is the top priority!
This! I was not able to do skin to skin when my daughter was born because she was not breathing and they had to take her away from me for a while. No one would tell me if she was okay. Thankfully she ended up being completely fine! Plans definitely change
They literally said in this video this is just the ideal plan they are aware anything can change and theyre prepared for that. No need to rain on their parade just because you're incapable of paying attention yet still felt a need to comment...
My unmedicated birth ended up in an emergency C-section with no spinal block (due to the fact it was emergency) PLEASE if anything starts to go wrong towards the end don’t fight it thinking you can do it naturally. I was so stubborn for my natural birth and couldn’t regret it more! Just sharing the other end of the spectrum of what could happen ❤
@@agustinaflores2512 Hey, thanks for asking. They gave me an IV, and strapped me down on the table. They then put numbing gel on my skin so I wouldn’t feel the cut, but they had to get the baby out and cut the umbilical cord before knocking me out because that medication is dangerous for baby. I felt it all and was screaming until they cut the cord, then the medication that put me under worked almost instantly!
@ oh man, am sorry that happened. I had a scheduled c-section because I had breeches twins or more like transverse, but if I could have I would have liked to have them naturally. When I meets moms of twins that had them naturally I do feel like I missed out on some bonding time. I didn’t get to bond until I was moved to the recovery room. :(
I had an unmedicated hospital birth 6 months ago and it was great! Having a birth playlist was key for me. When I hit transition I was blasting birth affirmations and was able to stay in a calm mental state. You really have to surrender to the contractions - they’re a wave. They come in, crash, but they do go back out 🙌🏼
You’re a rockstar! I really admire mommas like you and Brooklyn and any other woman who does or tries for a natural birth. I totally see and understand the appeal, but I don’t think my anxiety would let me do it outside of a hospital, haha! I’d imagine a big part of deciding how you’d like to give birth is knowing yourself!
2 unmedicated births following a hospital birth and my only regret is not trying for unmedicated sooner! You are going to ROCK IT!! So freaking cool to see you talk about this on your platform too 🥹 You’re doing such a great job explaining everything!
But when you are having your first baby….you have no idea what to expect and I think we all get scared because it’s unknown. I think you probably appreciate the unmedicated birth more because you know what medicated is like too. You have something to compare it to. I was petrified but ended up doing unmedicated and realised it wasn’t as scary as I thought
Hi! Student Midwife here. I wanted to say that it’s so refreshing to see influencers online being informed about birth and how to support the body’s ability to birth. You guys did such s good job researching and figuring out what is best for your family. Well done! You’ll do amazing!
My husband caught our last baby, and it was so cool. He talks about it all the time and says it was the coolest experience to catch him and lay him on my chest! Highly recommend! Gives him a way to be more involved.
My birth was EXACTLY how I planned it! I went unmedicated and it was the greatest decision I ever made, I felt EVERYTHING. Labor started at 11:40pm, I labored at home until 5am, got to the hospital at 5cm. Once admitted my body knew it was time to progress more and my water broke at 9am, 47 minutes later my son was born! Birth is such a beautiful and powerful event, my biggest piece of advice is to lean on Dakota and listen to your body! You got this mama ❤
I love the idea of just you and Dakota in the birth room. I feel like this is such a beautiful, bonding moment for both of you and the baby. It’s a moment that’s soley yours ❤ super excited for the family after too ofc! Such a big support
Listened for Bridget Teylor’s birth affirmations during labor and I was so calm throughout labor and was mentally and physically able to go unmedicated twice so far!
As someone who delivered at a birth center attached to a hospital and then had a home birth the difference is night and day! Laboring in the comfort of your own home and then recovering in your own bed makes a world of difference. Every contraction and wave brings you closer to meeting your baby. You can do hard things and it will be SO worth it. I also fully agree with keeping it to just your birth team for the labor, delivery and golden hours. Let your family come visit when you get back home. Soak in those precious moments as you become your own family ❤️
I planned on an unmedicated birth at a birth center, and I ended up having a precipitous labor and had the baby at home unassisted. Still got to go to the center after for care for myself and the baby and it was lovely! Seriously have never felt so strong and capable as when giving birth unmedicated!
i would honestly love an unassisted birth. I can't wait to give birth again. I loved my unmediated birth; the only thing that messed it up was being in a hospital. definitely staying home for all future babies
I love this! Birth has become so medicalised within the last 20 years, it is so refreshing to see women educating themselves on their options. I’m a student midwife, and a saying we have been taught is intervention requires more intervention.
This sounds so similar to how hospital births are here in Ireland! midwife almost always delivers the baby and medication is entirely optional and very much promoted as so,as well as the fact that many women don’t even stay a night in hospital and go home the same day with their baby, so excited and so lovely to hear you talk about your birth plan and such a positive and encouraging light ❤
As a doula, this is such a beautiful plan. And your mindset about it is great. Recognizing that sometimes this do have to change but that knowing what you would prefer and having a plan helps you prepare whether things change or not.
I studied fetal outcomes in school when faced with stress, parental involvement, etc., and Dakota’s involvement is extraordinarily important, even when your baby isn’t born yet! You guys are doing amazing!
Also, when I went into labor I didn’t tell any of my family. I labored at home for a few hours. My husband and I drove to the birthing center, I pushed for twenty minutes and baby was born. There wasn’t any time to tell anyone but it was so special to not tell anyone as well. My first baby, everyone knew and was so invasive. So I’m so glad we waited until a few hours after birth to tell anyone
Its great that you have a plan. I had a plan, but at 32 weeks I started experiencing intense itching and was diagnosed at 34 with choleostasis. My son was delivered via c section at exactly 36 weeks due to preventing stress, and with choleostasis, he was safer on the outside than on the inside. I'm 23 weeks with a baby girl and have a 95% chance of developing choleostasis again, but I'm really hoping I'm in the 5%.
My boyfriends cousin had it but didn't get it again so good luck! I've heard quote a few stories like this! Michael Phelps wife had it. Glad baby came safely
I also found out I had this at 37wks 5days and was induced that night as the 38 week mark makes risks associated with it sky rocket. Had no clue I had it until that day. Had my gallbladder removed several months later and now can’t get it again moving forward. 🙌🏽 I had another a few years later and had a smooth pregnancy.
I had a plan.. and once i was in labor for 40 hrs my plan was out the window.. my first was stuck bc his head was too big for my pelvic.. and in the end they had to use a suction to pull him out! And my second she came tooo fast.. barely made it to the hospital! Make sure you record everything!! Or have a photographer in the room! I promise you.. you wont regret it! Its not for us to see.. but for you to look back! That YOU did that! Congrats! Praying for a smooth delivery and healthy baby!
I had an unmedicated birth in a birth center and it was absolutely the best decision we could’ve made! I’m so thankful for our midwife and birthing team because I had a 48 hour labor and he was stuck on my cervix. Which would have ended up in a c section at a hospital. But my midwife knew exactly what to do!
Thanks for sharing about this. It's not something I hear a lot of influencers choosing but I'm excited for you and hope it's a smooth and safe birth for you and baby!
I had two unmedicated births. One at home and the other at a birthing center. Both good but also very different experiences. I don’t regret for one second doing it unmedicated. Best experience ever letting your body do what it was made to do, and having your baby naturally!
I noticed that many major hospitals are making birthing centers attached to them now, which is awesome. I love the idea of a birthing center but personally would want the things a hospital can provide, so it's nice there are so many options out there so every person can choose! Touring and research are definitely important, I'm glad you found what you desired. My mom had a midwife at the hospital with me (her third baby) and said it was the best experience. She wishes she had one with my sisters. And that was 25 years ago, so it's awesome she got that even then (and in a relatively small town at best lol).
Love this!! I just gave birth unmedicated in October with a doula and midwife at a birth center (open to a water birth, but didn't end up doing that in the moment) and had the same mindset as you, and I loved my choice! I was open to interventions if medically necessary but preferred unmedicated if possible. You are doing amazing Mama!! ❤
Nothing about having a baby goes to plan. Try to be open to change. So many are angry after when they have a plan that didn’t happen. Don’t build it up in your mind, live it as it comes. A healthy momma and baby is best regardless of how it unfolds.
Good advice. My birth went completely different than I imagined but I know that I tried everything I could to have the birth I wanted, I am just so thankful for a healthy baby in the end!
I appreciate that you reiterate the importance of doing your research and making informed decisions around birth. Thank you for modeling healthy decision making and advocating for yourself! It is amazing to see young women and families make the best choices for themselves. Obviously things vary A LOT State to State, but it is so important to do research and make informed decisions! You can find so many statistics on interventions and hospitals online to help make the best choice for you. Again, thanks for modeling healthy decision making and showing young families that they have power during birth! I had an unmedicated birth with a doula and amazing midwives in September. The best piece of advice I got from my doula was to ignore labor as long as possible. Try and rest, try and sleep and stay home! I didn’t end up going to the hospital until my water broke and baby arrived about 4 hours later. Sleeping through early labor was the greatest blessing!
So exciting! I had my daughter in 2022 in an unmedicated water birth with my doula and it was AMAZING 😍 best experience I absolutely loved my labour and it was only 4hrs. My doula was the best thing ever so I’m so happy you’ve got one too :) It was also my first and only baby and I went into labour naturally at 38 weeks 😍
100% recommend Dakota catching baby boy. I have a 5 week old at the moment and my husband caught him and passed him up to me to put on my chest. No one else held baby for the first hour of his life but my husband and I. It made it all so special. All the best in your labour and delivery. How ever it works out in the end will leave you feeling empowered 🧡 Xx
I'd love to see a video discussing the cost of having the baby at a birth center, a midwife, etc. I've never heard of a birth center and I love its concept and comfortability. Congrats!
Yall got this!! As someone who started show signs of pre-eclampsia, I didn't have much of a choice but I don't regret my choice of Obgyn since I chose her at a Women's only center/hospital, so I felt safe and comfortable giving birth there. You'll love that golden hour. That was our favorite! And we didn't decide on a name until our daughter came🥰. Yall will be Rockstars!
L&D RN here, I love that you’re open to keeping an open mind. My question is, what are the plans if you’re GBS+? Most of the time antibiotics are given during labor to prevent baby from getting this specific bacteria and becoming infected. I support unmedicated deliveries, and doulas, just praying all goes well. Rest as much as possible before pushing. You’ll need that energy so that you minimize the amount of time pushing. As for baby, please make sure he’s latching great and call your doula to come help you before 48hours. It’s very easy for a failure to thrive if you wait for baby to wake up and tell you he’s hungry.
I'm currently in my OBGYN rotation and I have witnessed deliveries at both the hospital and a birthing center. The birthing center was such a beautiful experience!! I'm wishing you the best ❤
congratulations!!!! so many conflicting and overwhelming voices in the birth space, it’s wonderful to see you finding options, a team, and a philosophy that you’re resonating with BEFORE your birth! I especially love your naming plan ❤️ To anyone learning about birth or just scrolling the comments, please beware of both the “hardcore natural or nothing” AND the “plan for birth to be a dangerous scary excruciating nightmare ordeal, getting out with a healthy mama healthy baby is all that matters, having other goals is selfish and unrealistic” crowds. Birth can be a shame-y, paternalistic space especially online, so it’s wonderful to see people who are so well-informed going in.
As a doula I am so happy you guys are trying for a natural birth center birth!! 💗 Birth is such a sacred and magical experience. Laboring in the water helped me soo much and squeezing combs as acupressure helped distract me during contractions. My husband was my rock and i just know Dakota will be the same for you. You got this Brooklyn!!
You two are so cute. I love to see how much you guys have grown together and how you're making all these plans for your baby. Best wishes and congratulations 💙💙
I’m soo glad you are going this route and are talking about it!! I did a home birth with a midwife and it was an amazing experience. I was afraid of the hospital because of all the birth horror stories I heard.. Was prepared to go in case, but so thankful I didn’t have to. I want more women to know how trusting your body is empowering and peaceful in ways. Prayers for you and baby and keep sharing!!! 🫶
Omg y’all’s birth plan makes me so happy!! Just being as natural as possible, but also flexible. And the focus on the 3 of you for the first couple hours!! And Dakota being so involved!
My first baby I had at a birth center unmediated. It was the most magical time ever!! I labored at home for 4 hours got to the birth center and had my little guy in my arms within an hour and a half! I’m so excited for you!
Loved my birth center and had such a great experience. I would highly recommend for anyone wanting to do an unmedicated birth. Unfortunately, my son just didnt want to come out. We were 10 days past my due date and I feel like I was more ready for my son to arrive than he was to leave my belly. I ended up having a c-section cause he was just comfy in there after 36 hours of labor and 10+ hours fully dialated with no progress. My midwife even rode in the ambulance with me to the hospital to turn over with their team. She was the best and so happy that she was with me since the beginning. My birth was still positive and wonderful experience. Hopefully, your birth is less eventful and everything you hope for ❤ You can do this!
So excited for you guys !! My baby is 2 months today and I am already reminiscing about those first couple of days ❤️ it's so special just the 3 of you!
I think you will be really happy with your birth center choice! I had my first at home and although it was soo challenging I can’t imagine being anywhere else! It was amazing. You got this!
So excited for you guys! I have always known if I had babies that it would need to be closely monitored in a hospital and my birthing plan was pretty much made for me, but that's what was the most safe for me and my babies. I'm wishing you a great experience that brings baby into this world safely and of course keeps mama safe as well! I pray that it all goes according to your plan! 😊
I just had my first baby at home unmedicated and it was an amazing experience! I used the “Freya” app made by the positive birthing company and it was amazing, counted me through my contractions and gave positive affirmations. My favourite affirmation is “I can do anything for 60 seconds” which is the usual length of a surge. I kept repeating it in my head throughout and using my hypnobirthing breathing and it was honestly incredible!! You have got this, enjoy it & you’ll be cuddling your little one in no time xx
Having just my husband and I at the births of our babies was the best decision ever - it’s such a special time that should be between just mom and dad!
I had my baby by water birth at home 4 months ago. It really wasn't that bad! I'm really excited for you guys! 😄 Dakota should catch the baby! He won't regret it, it's so sweet and natural 😊
I just had my 3rd homebirth with a midwife (unmedicated for all 3) and it was amazing! Your body knows what it’s doing and how to birth a baby! Prayers for you guys!!
I'm glad you're sharing this information for many viewers who may have never heard of birthing centers, doulas, or what unmedicated birth entails. I knew next to nothing about midwives when I had my first, only to befriend many new moms who went the midwife route and I had my 2nd and 3rd with a midwife. Only one was unmedicated because I was induced at 42 weeks with 1st and 2nd, but fortunately my midwife has hospital privileges so I was able to have her for #2's induction. It's worth noting that a lot of birth centers are very close to hospitals for easy transfer in case anything goes wrong.
Love that you are making informed, educated decisions, being so involved in your birthing experience 💗💗💗💗 listen to your gut! Your body and your baby know exactly what to do- you were created for this!!
Girl you can do this and whatever happens just know it's safe and fine. I had a birth plan with my first qnd none of it ended up happening. My contractions were worse than I thought and I had to get an epidural but everyone is different. You've got this. My point in saying this is be open to change because it never goes as planned when having a baby.
You got this Brooklyn! Breathe baby down and do everything to try and relax and don’t tense up the muscles! And just remember that sometimes the plan doesn’t always go as planned and don’t be afraid to make game time decisions❤️
Good for you guys!!! Don't let people scare you that do not have adequate information on out of hospital birth!!! Midwives are AMAZING and have had soooo much training and can recognize problems really early on. I had an unmedicated home birth in 2023 and am planning another one in April for baby #2!! You can totally do this!!
I don't think people want to scare her out of it. Some people have had experiences (or know someone who has), that sheds light on out-of-hospital births that turned into emergencies that required hospital intervention. People (myself included), just want her to be safe for both her & baby boy...& learning about other people's experiences can be very informative.
Cheering you on! Birth is hard work, but so rewarding (hello, baby!!). Our Doula helped a ton with our first, but we didn't hire one for our second since we felt like we didn't need it. I did both unmedicated with the willingness to change plans if needed!
Thank you for sharing this. I know everyone has their opinions in motherhood. 🙄 It's so inspiring and empowering for women to know that this is an option!! I'm soooo proud of you! And btw, Brooklyn, you might feel in the moment that you want to catch him! 🥹
I'm not going to birth any children but I love hearing vorh of you discussing your plan ! Glad to hear you know eveything could change but youve surrounded yourself with good people.
I’m so shocked bc I’ve been watch you since cute girl hairstyles and watch you and Bayley since!! I’m so grateful you guys continued to make RUclips 🥰🥰😭😭 so happy for you guys!!!
I asked for a mirror so I could see the birth of my babies! I didn’t want to miss out & it was the most beautiful thing! It also helped me see how much I needed to push! 1 NICU baby, & 1 healthy baby later & I absolutely love giving birth!
I delivered my first baby at 36 weeks my water broke at home. I had my bags packed at 32 weeks I was scared id go early so I probably jinxed myself . you got this Brooklyn and Dakota !!!! Prayers for a healthy rest of pregnancy, birth and postpartum
I went unmedicated with my first and had a great experience! It actually wasn’t the plan but I labored so fast there wasn’t enough time to medicate by the time I asked lol. But now that I’m due with my second I’m planning on doing another unmedicated birth now that I’ve lived all the benefits of it. You got this!
Be mentally ready for everything. You have never given birth so you don't know how you will handle it and what you will need. I had my baby two months ago and the plan went out the window and ended in a emergency c section. In my situation my body would not dialate enough and it ended been a blessing because when they did the c section they realized how my baby was never gonna come out. He was in place but tilted and cord around his neck. Please make sure they have a monitor on you to track how baby is handling labor. Be safe and wish you guys the best. Remember the goal is a healthy baby and mama , it doesn't matter how the baby gets to your loving arms.
So excited for you!!!❤❤❤❤ I pray that everything goes as planned and that baby and momma stay healthy ❤️❤️ I can’t wait to see your birth vlog❤❤ I am so happy for you that y’all decided to go unmedicated❤❤ y’all are making awesome decisions as parents ❤❤ y’all are going to be a wonderful Mom and Dad to this baby❤❤❤❤ Congratulations 🎉🎉🎊🎊
I just want to put out there because I don’t see it, you can have an unmedicated birth at a hospital. I did with my first and plan on doing it again this time around. You can also choose your position if you advocate for yourself. Not everyone has access to birthing centers so I just want to let those mommas that don’t know that. Good luck! You got this!
I’m so happy for the people who are able to give birth naturally and have a good experience! Unfortunately not everyone was “made” to give birth. In fact many women throughout history have died giving birth. There are many problems we face that NEED medical intervention. I went through a 100% natural birth and had complications that have completely changed my mind on how I want to have future births! Give me all the interventions! Sometimes you just have to go through the first one to really find your preferences. I wish I could give birth scott free like most of you! But everyone’s different and it’s okay to accept that.
Please let Dakota be super aware of what you want. He will probably need to advocate for you and the baby. My husband needed to advocate for my babies, and knowing what I wanted helped a lot with my two births.
Why did he have to advocate for the baby? The health care professionals always want to do what’s best for the baby. I wonder what makes people think they know better than someone who studied this for years and has usually been doing it for even longer.
My two sons were born 10 weeks early, and he needed to be with them and advocate for them. My husband also advocated that i was in labour even though initial tests said i wasn't@andreaa1659
Absolutely go for it! I was exactly the same with my second pregnancy and I think manifesting and planning an unmedicated birth was a huge part of it happening the way it did. I didn’t even realize I was nearly fully dilated (in pain, but thought it was going to get much worse) until they checked my cervix at the hospital. The hardest part is when you’re a 10 and by then it’s almost over. Hoping all goes well!
I just gave birth to my first in July at home and unmedicated. It was the most amazing experience ever! My best advice is to trust your body and to read the book Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth. You’ve got this!!!
Everything you presented here shocked me! You really did your research it sounds like, and you are making some really good decisions 💕 Dakota seems completely on board and included too, which is so important. God bless you both.
That is the greatest decision to do is not have anyone else besides you two and medical professionals in the delivery room. My husband and I made that choice and I couldn’t have been happier because it made our experience to be entering parenthood. I’m going to do that for our second as well.
Do it girl! Labor is a mind game if you can relax through the contractions and keep yourself from panicking you’ll do awesome. Take advantage of breaks between contractions.
I've had 3 babies unmedicated. The best advice i can give is don't fight the contractions just relax and welcome them! Good luck! You've got this! Baby will be here before you know it ❤
Same-3 unmediated and the recovery is so much better and easier than what some of my friends experienced. 100% agree with your advice.
Agree! Unmedicated with all three of mine, 8-10lb babies 😅
I haven't had any babies my self yet (hopefully in the next few years though), and I have heard and read that if you except and allow your body to just do it's think and try not to fight them if makes labor so much better. But hearing that it's true it turns out some much better than what people who did the opposite of such during labor. Thank you so much!
I’ve had one unmedicated, two medicated (necessarily so). And I can’t agree more❤ relax, trust your body, and movement is your best friend! Welcome every wave and just breathe and make noises or whatever you have to do to make it through that wave ❤
Yeah, so true. I've had three unmedicated births and this is just so true. Don't fight it, relax, don't tense up and see the contractions as something positive that helps the baby out. And trust your body. Fingers crossed! It is a beautiful experience. :)
I haven’t watched you and your sister in years. I think it was my granddaughter that used to watch you. She just started her first year of college. I can’t believe you’re married and having a baby!!!! CONGRATULATIONS to you both.
My husband caught all three of our babies!! He tells everyone it was so cool and I honestly loved it and felt like we did it together. Would highly recommend!!
My brother helped deliver his daughter. He thought it was the coolest thing and is trying to convince my husband to do the same.
@ he should! I love that the first person to ever hold my babies outside my belly is my husband! It’s such a special experience ❤️
is this possible to have happen at a regular hospital??
@@themadausfamily yes, as long as you don't have any complications
This comment section is so surprisingly positive! Brooklyn, I'm so excited for you, you seem knowledgeable, but also graceful when talking about a very sensitive topic. I just gave birth unmedicated in a birth center 3 months ago and had such a positive experience!! When writing my birth plan, I wrote down a plan for if I went to the hospital, and if I needed a c-section, and that helped me feel like I had some control, even if my birth went south. Good luck you guys!! And yes, SLEEP hahah
I had my three year-old and five month old unmedicated at a birth center. Birth centers are absolutely amazing!! The perfect in between. You will do great🤍
This reassures me so much thank you!💓
I love the look of birthing centres. If they were available 30 years ago….I’d choose one. I think the ambience is amazing.
Just be open to changes in your plan. Labor and delivery can go in soooooo many different directions. I hope it all goes well and you have a beautiful and safe delivery!! Such an exciting time! ❤
This! So many women are left disappointed -or downright depressed- bc their birth plan didn’t go the way they wanted it to. Have a plan, but be open-minded. At the end of the day, a healthy baby is the top priority!
They said literally so many times that they’re open minded and flexible. Please hush
This! I was not able to do skin to skin when my daughter was born because she was not breathing and they had to take her away from me for a while. No one would tell me if she was okay. Thankfully she ended up being completely fine! Plans definitely change
They literally said in this video this is just the ideal plan they are aware anything can change and theyre prepared for that. No need to rain on their parade just because you're incapable of paying attention yet still felt a need to comment...
My unmedicated birth ended up in an emergency C-section with no spinal block (due to the fact it was emergency) PLEASE if anything starts to go wrong towards the end don’t fight it thinking you can do it naturally. I was so stubborn for my natural birth and couldn’t regret it more! Just sharing the other end of the spectrum of what could happen ❤
I had the same experience. You can prep as much as you want and sometime God has other plans
Same here I labored for a total of 40 hours (32 at home) and ended up needing a C-section.
So were you put to sleep. Like knocked out? Or you felt the C-section happening?
@@agustinaflores2512 Hey, thanks for asking. They gave me an IV, and strapped me down on the table. They then put numbing gel on my skin so I wouldn’t feel the cut, but they had to get the baby out and cut the umbilical cord before knocking me out because that medication is dangerous for baby. I felt it all and was screaming until they cut the cord, then the medication that put me under worked almost instantly!
@ oh man, am sorry that happened. I had a scheduled c-section because I had breeches twins or more like transverse, but if I could have I would have liked to have them naturally. When I meets moms of twins that had them naturally I do feel like I missed out on some bonding time. I didn’t get to bond until I was moved to the recovery room. :(
I had an unmedicated hospital birth 6 months ago and it was great! Having a birth playlist was key for me. When I hit transition I was blasting birth affirmations and was able to stay in a calm mental state. You really have to surrender to the contractions - they’re a wave. They come in, crash, but they do go back out 🙌🏼
You’re a rockstar! I really admire mommas like you and Brooklyn and any other woman who does or tries for a natural birth. I totally see and understand the appeal, but I don’t think my anxiety would let me do it outside of a hospital, haha! I’d imagine a big part of deciding how you’d like to give birth is knowing yourself!
2 unmedicated births following a hospital birth and my only regret is not trying for unmedicated sooner! You are going to ROCK IT!! So freaking cool to see you talk about this on your platform too 🥹 You’re doing such a great job explaining everything!
But when you are having your first baby….you have no idea what to expect and I think we all get scared because it’s unknown. I think you probably appreciate the unmedicated birth more because you know what medicated is like too. You have something to compare it to. I was petrified but ended up doing unmedicated and realised it wasn’t as scary as I thought
Hi! Student Midwife here. I wanted to say that it’s so refreshing to see influencers online being informed about birth and how to support the body’s ability to birth. You guys did such s good job researching and figuring out what is best for your family. Well done! You’ll do amazing!
My husband caught our last baby, and it was so cool. He talks about it all the time and says it was the coolest experience to catch him and lay him on my chest! Highly recommend! Gives him a way to be more involved.
My birth was EXACTLY how I planned it! I went unmedicated and it was the greatest decision I ever made, I felt EVERYTHING. Labor started at 11:40pm, I labored at home until 5am, got to the hospital at 5cm. Once admitted my body knew it was time to progress more and my water broke at 9am, 47 minutes later my son was born! Birth is such a beautiful and powerful event, my biggest piece of advice is to lean on Dakota and listen to your body! You got this mama ❤
I love the idea of just you and Dakota in the birth room. I feel like this is such a beautiful, bonding moment for both of you and the baby. It’s a moment that’s soley yours ❤ super excited for the family after too ofc! Such a big support
Listened for Bridget Teylor’s birth affirmations during labor and I was so calm throughout labor and was mentally and physically able to go unmedicated twice so far!
Yes!! This is what got me through my unmedicated birth calmly !
As someone who delivered at a birth center attached to a hospital and then had a home birth the difference is night and day! Laboring in the comfort of your own home and then recovering in your own bed makes a world of difference. Every contraction and wave brings you closer to meeting your baby. You can do hard things and it will be SO worth it. I also fully agree with keeping it to just your birth team for the labor, delivery and golden hours. Let your family come visit when you get back home. Soak in those precious moments as you become your own family ❤️
I planned on an unmedicated birth at a birth center, and I ended up having a precipitous labor and had the baby at home unassisted. Still got to go to the center after for care for myself and the baby and it was lovely! Seriously have never felt so strong and capable as when giving birth unmedicated!
i would honestly love an unassisted birth. I can't wait to give birth again. I loved my unmediated birth; the only thing that messed it up was being in a hospital. definitely staying home for all future babies
Gah that's wild! 😂
I love this! Birth has become so medicalised within the last 20 years, it is so refreshing to see women educating themselves on their options. I’m a student midwife, and a saying we have been taught is intervention requires more intervention.
This sounds so similar to how hospital births are here in Ireland! midwife almost always delivers the baby and medication is entirely optional and very much promoted as so,as well as the fact that many women don’t even stay a night in hospital and go home the same day with their baby, so excited and so lovely to hear you talk about your birth plan and such a positive and encouraging light ❤
As a doula, this is such a beautiful plan. And your mindset about it is great. Recognizing that sometimes this do have to change but that knowing what you would prefer and having a plan helps you prepare whether things change or not.
I studied fetal outcomes in school when faced with stress, parental involvement, etc., and Dakota’s involvement is extraordinarily important, even when your baby isn’t born yet! You guys are doing amazing!
We are all so honored to have grown with your family. God bless this cute future baby and we love u so much!
I never knew that at the birthing center the father could catch the baby! That sounds so cool and precious for Dakota if he does choose to 🙂💙
Some hospitals allow it too
@latenightbreakdowns2107yup. My husband pulled out son into this world 😂
I’ve done it all. Emergency c section, natural birth & a medicated one. You got this girl 💖 just breathe thru the contractions
Also, when I went into labor I didn’t tell any of my family. I labored at home for a few hours. My husband and I drove to the birthing center, I pushed for twenty minutes and baby was born. There wasn’t any time to tell anyone but it was so special to not tell anyone as well. My first baby, everyone knew and was so invasive. So I’m so glad we waited until a few hours after birth to tell anyone
Its great that you have a plan. I had a plan, but at 32 weeks I started experiencing intense itching and was diagnosed at 34 with choleostasis. My son was delivered via c section at exactly 36 weeks due to preventing stress, and with choleostasis, he was safer on the outside than on the inside. I'm 23 weeks with a baby girl and have a 95% chance of developing choleostasis again, but I'm really hoping I'm in the 5%.
Best wishes ❤
My boyfriends cousin had it but didn't get it again so good luck! I've heard quote a few stories like this! Michael Phelps wife had it. Glad baby came safely
I also found out I had this at 37wks 5days and was induced that night as the 38 week mark makes risks associated with it sky rocket. Had no clue I had it until that day. Had my gallbladder removed several months later and now can’t get it again moving forward. 🙌🏽 I had another a few years later and had a smooth pregnancy.
You got this. 👏 I delivered naturally in a hospital just fine. The tub helped a lot! He's almost here. 💙💙
I had a plan.. and once i was in labor for 40 hrs my plan was out the window.. my first was stuck bc his head was too big for my pelvic.. and in the end they had to use a suction to pull him out! And my second she came tooo fast.. barely made it to the hospital!
Make sure you record everything!! Or have a photographer in the room! I promise you.. you wont regret it! Its not for us to see.. but for you to look back! That YOU did that!
Congrats! Praying for a smooth delivery and healthy baby!
I had an unmedicated birth in a birth center and it was absolutely the best decision we could’ve made! I’m so thankful for our midwife and birthing team because I had a 48 hour labor and he was stuck on my cervix. Which would have ended up in a c section at a hospital. But my midwife knew exactly what to do!
Well done 🎉❤ to stick through 48 h
Thanks for sharing about this. It's not something I hear a lot of influencers choosing but I'm excited for you and hope it's a smooth and safe birth for you and baby!
I had two unmedicated births. One at home and the other at a birthing center. Both good but also very different experiences. I don’t regret for one second doing it unmedicated. Best experience ever letting your body do what it was made to do, and having your baby naturally!
I noticed that many major hospitals are making birthing centers attached to them now, which is awesome. I love the idea of a birthing center but personally would want the things a hospital can provide, so it's nice there are so many options out there so every person can choose! Touring and research are definitely important, I'm glad you found what you desired. My mom had a midwife at the hospital with me (her third baby) and said it was the best experience. She wishes she had one with my sisters. And that was 25 years ago, so it's awesome she got that even then (and in a relatively small town at best lol).
Love this!! I just gave birth unmedicated in October with a doula and midwife at a birth center (open to a water birth, but didn't end up doing that in the moment) and had the same mindset as you, and I loved my choice! I was open to interventions if medically necessary but preferred unmedicated if possible. You are doing amazing Mama!! ❤
Nothing about having a baby goes to plan. Try to be open to change. So many are angry after when they have a plan that didn’t happen. Don’t build it up in your mind, live it as it comes. A healthy momma and baby is best regardless of how it unfolds.
Good advice. My birth went completely different than I imagined but I know that I tried everything I could to have the birth I wanted, I am just so thankful for a healthy baby in the end!
Yes!!
Amen!!!! Well written!!!!!!
So true !
This is why I called mine "Birth Preferences"
I appreciate that you reiterate the importance of doing your research and making informed decisions around birth. Thank you for modeling healthy decision making and advocating for yourself! It is amazing to see young women and families make the best choices for themselves.
Obviously things vary A LOT State to State, but it is so important to do research and make informed decisions! You can find so many statistics on interventions and hospitals online to help make the best choice for you. Again, thanks for modeling healthy decision making and showing young families that they have power during birth!
I had an unmedicated birth with a doula and amazing midwives in September. The best piece of advice I got from my doula was to ignore labor as long as possible. Try and rest, try and sleep and stay home! I didn’t end up going to the hospital until my water broke and baby arrived about 4 hours later. Sleeping through early labor was the greatest blessing!
So exciting! I had my daughter in 2022 in an unmedicated water birth with my doula and it was AMAZING 😍 best experience I absolutely loved my labour and it was only 4hrs. My doula was the best thing ever so I’m so happy you’ve got one too :)
It was also my first and only baby and I went into labour naturally at 38 weeks 😍
100% recommend Dakota catching baby boy. I have a 5 week old at the moment and my husband caught him and passed him up to me to put on my chest. No one else held baby for the first hour of his life but my husband and I. It made it all so special. All the best in your labour and delivery. How ever it works out in the end will leave you feeling empowered 🧡 Xx
I'd love to see a video discussing the cost of having the baby at a birth center, a midwife, etc. I've never heard of a birth center and I love its concept and comfortability. Congrats!
my mom is a birth doula! I love that you've thought this all through so carefully. Y'all are going to be such great parents!❤
Yall got this!! As someone who started show signs of pre-eclampsia, I didn't have much of a choice but I don't regret my choice of Obgyn since I chose her at a Women's only center/hospital, so I felt safe and comfortable giving birth there. You'll love that golden hour. That was our favorite! And we didn't decide on a name until our daughter came🥰. Yall will be Rockstars!
L&D RN here, I love that you’re open to keeping an open mind. My question is, what are the plans if you’re GBS+? Most of the time antibiotics are given during labor to prevent baby from getting this specific bacteria and becoming infected. I support unmedicated deliveries, and doulas, just praying all goes well. Rest as much as possible before pushing. You’ll need that energy so that you minimize the amount of time pushing.
As for baby, please make sure he’s latching great and call your doula to come help you before 48hours. It’s very easy for a failure to thrive if you wait for baby to wake up and tell you he’s hungry.
I'm currently in my OBGYN rotation and I have witnessed deliveries at both the hospital and a birthing center. The birthing center was such a beautiful experience!! I'm wishing you the best ❤
congratulations!!!! so many conflicting and overwhelming voices in the birth space, it’s wonderful to see you finding options, a team, and a philosophy that you’re resonating with BEFORE your birth! I especially love your naming plan ❤️
To anyone learning about birth or just scrolling the comments, please beware of both the “hardcore natural or nothing” AND the “plan for birth to be a dangerous scary excruciating nightmare ordeal, getting out with a healthy mama healthy baby is all that matters, having other goals is selfish and unrealistic” crowds. Birth can be a shame-y, paternalistic space especially online, so it’s wonderful to see people who are so well-informed going in.
As a doula I am so happy you guys are trying for a natural birth center birth!! 💗 Birth is such a sacred and magical experience. Laboring in the water helped me soo much and squeezing combs as acupressure helped distract me during contractions. My husband was my rock and i just know Dakota will be the same for you. You got this Brooklyn!!
You two are so cute. I love to see how much you guys have grown together and how you're making all these plans for your baby. Best wishes and congratulations 💙💙
I’m soo glad you are going this route and are talking about it!! I did a home birth with a midwife and it was an amazing experience. I was afraid of the hospital because of all the birth horror stories I heard.. Was prepared to go in case, but so thankful I didn’t have to. I want more women to know how trusting your body is empowering and peaceful in ways. Prayers for you and baby and keep sharing!!! 🫶
Omg y’all’s birth plan makes me so happy!! Just being as natural as possible, but also flexible. And the focus on the 3 of you for the first couple hours!! And Dakota being so involved!
My first baby I had at a birth center unmediated. It was the most magical time ever!! I labored at home for 4 hours got to the birth center and had my little guy in my arms within an hour and a half! I’m so excited for you!
I had my baby in a hospital, but they highly encouraged skin to skin contact immediately after giving birth and it really was a magical moment.
Loved my birth center and had such a great experience. I would highly recommend for anyone wanting to do an unmedicated birth. Unfortunately, my son just didnt want to come out. We were 10 days past my due date and I feel like I was more ready for my son to arrive than he was to leave my belly. I ended up having a c-section cause he was just comfy in there after 36 hours of labor and 10+ hours fully dialated with no progress. My midwife even rode in the ambulance with me to the hospital to turn over with their team. She was the best and so happy that she was with me since the beginning. My birth was still positive and wonderful experience. Hopefully, your birth is less eventful and everything you hope for ❤ You can do this!
I have been watching you and your sister for so long! I would love to see a video about how you are preparing for birth!!
I cannot believe your becoming a mom I’ve been watching you and your sisters videos since I was little
Never been this early! Can't wait to watch! Love you guys xx
So excited for you guys !! My baby is 2 months today and I am already reminiscing about those first couple of days ❤️ it's so special just the 3 of you!
I think you will be really happy with your birth center choice! I had my first at home and although it was soo challenging I can’t imagine being anywhere else! It was amazing. You got this!
So excited for you guys!
I have always known if I had babies that it would need to be closely monitored in a hospital and my birthing plan was pretty much made for me, but that's what was the most safe for me and my babies.
I'm wishing you a great experience that brings baby into this world safely and of course keeps mama safe as well! I pray that it all goes according to your plan! 😊
I just had my first baby at home unmedicated and it was an amazing experience! I used the “Freya” app made by the positive birthing company and it was amazing, counted me through my contractions and gave positive affirmations. My favourite affirmation is “I can do anything for 60 seconds” which is the usual length of a surge. I kept repeating it in my head throughout and using my hypnobirthing breathing and it was honestly incredible!! You have got this, enjoy it & you’ll be cuddling your little one in no time xx
Having just my husband and I at the births of our babies was the best decision ever - it’s such a special time that should be between just mom and dad!
My hospital automatically gives a golden hour to parents after birth with skin to skin, absolutely loved it! So happy for you both!
I had my baby by water birth at home 4 months ago. It really wasn't that bad! I'm really excited for you guys! 😄 Dakota should catch the baby! He won't regret it, it's so sweet and natural 😊
Very supportive of this route ❤ sounds like you're both happy with the plan and excited for what's to come. Beautiful ❤ congrats!
I just had my 3rd homebirth with a midwife (unmedicated for all 3) and it was amazing! Your body knows what it’s doing and how to birth a baby! Prayers for you guys!!
I'm glad you're sharing this information for many viewers who may have never heard of birthing centers, doulas, or what unmedicated birth entails. I knew next to nothing about midwives when I had my first, only to befriend many new moms who went the midwife route and I had my 2nd and 3rd with a midwife. Only one was unmedicated because I was induced at 42 weeks with 1st and 2nd, but fortunately my midwife has hospital privileges so I was able to have her for #2's induction. It's worth noting that a lot of birth centers are very close to hospitals for easy transfer in case anything goes wrong.
Love that you are making informed, educated decisions, being so involved in your birthing experience 💗💗💗💗 listen to your gut! Your body and your baby know exactly what to do- you were created for this!!
Girl you can do this and whatever happens just know it's safe and fine. I had a birth plan with my first qnd none of it ended up happening. My contractions were worse than I thought and I had to get an epidural but everyone is different. You've got this. My point in saying this is be open to change because it never goes as planned when having a baby.
Sooo crazy that baby boy is almost here!!! So excited for your family, wishing you a safe delivery and quick recovery!!!🥰
All three of my labors, the 'pushing' part only lasted 5 minutes. Good luck, lots of love and positivity your way 🙏🫶
Nice! I pushed for 3 hours and ended in an emergency c section. 0/10 do not recommended.
I can tell the baby is going to love his parents 😊
I hope your plan doesn’t fail!! 💗💗
You got this Brooklyn! Breathe baby down and do everything to try and relax and don’t tense up the muscles! And just remember that sometimes the plan doesn’t always go as planned and don’t be afraid to make game time decisions❤️
Good for you guys!!! Don't let people scare you that do not have adequate information on out of hospital birth!!! Midwives are AMAZING and have had soooo much training and can recognize problems really early on. I had an unmedicated home birth in 2023 and am planning another one in April for baby #2!! You can totally do this!!
I don't think people want to scare her out of it. Some people have had experiences (or know someone who has), that sheds light on out-of-hospital births that turned into emergencies that required hospital intervention. People (myself included), just want her to be safe for both her & baby boy...& learning about other people's experiences can be very informative.
As a mom of three, my top tips for going unmediated is:
Keep breathing
Keep moving
Let gravity help you
You are stronger than you know! You got this!
Thank you!!!
Cheering you on! Birth is hard work, but so rewarding (hello, baby!!). Our Doula helped a ton with our first, but we didn't hire one for our second since we felt like we didn't need it. I did both unmedicated with the willingness to change plans if needed!
Thank you for sharing this. I know everyone has their opinions in motherhood. 🙄 It's so inspiring and empowering for women to know that this is an option!! I'm soooo proud of you! And btw, Brooklyn, you might feel in the moment that you want to catch him! 🥹
You are glowing right now!!! I had my son unmedicated and it was totally fine❤️ you’ve got it
Love that you want to try do things naturally! We had an unmedicated homebirth for our first baby, it was so hard, but so worth it!
I'm not going to birth any children but I love hearing vorh of you discussing your plan ! Glad to hear you know eveything could change but youve surrounded yourself with good people.
So happy for y’all!! Please don’t show your baby online, you and your family know the danger. I pray you have such a great labor❤
I’m so shocked bc I’ve been watch you since cute girl hairstyles and watch you and Bayley since!! I’m so grateful you guys continued to make RUclips 🥰🥰😭😭 so happy for you guys!!!
I asked for a mirror so I could see the birth of my babies! I didn’t want to miss out & it was the most beautiful thing! It also helped me see how much I needed to push! 1 NICU baby, & 1 healthy baby later & I absolutely love giving birth!
I can't wait to see the sister's labour process! I am guaranteeing to watch it when it happens!
I delivered my first baby at 36 weeks my water broke at home. I had my bags packed at 32 weeks I was scared id go early so I probably jinxed myself . you got this Brooklyn and Dakota !!!! Prayers for a healthy rest of pregnancy, birth and postpartum
I went unmedicated with my first and had a great experience! It actually wasn’t the plan but I labored so fast there wasn’t enough time to medicate by the time I asked lol. But now that I’m due with my second I’m planning on doing another unmedicated birth now that I’ve lived all the benefits of it. You got this!
Be mentally ready for everything. You have never given birth so you don't know how you will handle it and what you will need. I had my baby two months ago and the plan went out the window and ended in a emergency c section. In my situation my body would not dialate enough and it ended been a blessing because when they did the c section they realized how my baby was never gonna come out. He was in place but tilted and cord around his neck. Please make sure they have a monitor on you to track how baby is handling labor. Be safe and wish you guys the best. Remember the goal is a healthy baby and mama , it doesn't matter how the baby gets to your loving arms.
So excited for you!!!❤❤❤❤ I pray that everything goes as planned and that baby and momma stay healthy ❤️❤️ I can’t wait to see your birth vlog❤❤ I am so happy for you that y’all decided to go unmedicated❤❤ y’all are making awesome decisions as parents ❤❤ y’all are going to be a wonderful Mom and Dad to this baby❤❤❤❤ Congratulations 🎉🎉🎊🎊
I’m LIVING for your baby content🥹 so excited to see mama Brooklyn and dada Dakota with a little one soon!!
I just want to put out there because I don’t see it, you can have an unmedicated birth at a hospital. I did with my first and plan on doing it again this time around. You can also choose your position if you advocate for yourself. Not everyone has access to birthing centers so I just want to let those mommas that don’t know that. Good luck! You got this!
I’m so happy for the people who are able to give birth naturally and have a good experience! Unfortunately not everyone was “made” to give birth. In fact many women throughout history have died giving birth. There are many problems we face that NEED medical intervention. I went through a 100% natural birth and had complications that have completely changed my mind on how I want to have future births! Give me all the interventions! Sometimes you just have to go through the first one to really find your preferences. I wish I could give birth scott free like most of you! But everyone’s different and it’s okay to accept that.
I'm on my journey to become a midwife. So glad to here you went this route. ❤
This is my dream birth plan! I pray everything goes smoothly for yall💙
Please let Dakota be super aware of what you want. He will probably need to advocate for you and the baby. My husband needed to advocate for my babies, and knowing what I wanted helped a lot with my two births.
Why did he have to advocate for the baby? The health care professionals always want to do what’s best for the baby. I wonder what makes people think they know better than someone who studied this for years and has usually been doing it for even longer.
My two sons were born 10 weeks early, and he needed to be with them and advocate for them. My husband also advocated that i was in labour even though initial tests said i wasn't@andreaa1659
My mom has had 4 children and we were all home birth children with a midwife. Such a good choice praying for an amazing delivery for you!
Absolutely go for it! I was exactly the same with my second pregnancy and I think manifesting and planning an unmedicated birth was a huge part of it happening the way it did. I didn’t even realize I was nearly fully dilated (in pain, but thought it was going to get much worse) until they checked my cervix at the hospital. The hardest part is when you’re a 10 and by then it’s almost over. Hoping all goes well!
dakota is gonna be the best dad!!! so sweet and making sure his focus is on you and your baby
I just gave birth to my first in July at home and unmedicated. It was the most amazing experience ever! My best advice is to trust your body and to read the book Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth. You’ve got this!!!
Everything you presented here shocked me! You really did your research it sounds like, and you are making some really good decisions 💕 Dakota seems completely on board and included too, which is so important. God bless you both.
That is the greatest decision to do is not have anyone else besides you two and medical professionals in the delivery room. My husband and I made that choice and I couldn’t have been happier because it made our experience to be entering parenthood. I’m going to do that for our second as well.
Do it girl! Labor is a mind game if you can relax through the contractions and keep yourself from panicking you’ll do awesome. Take advantage of breaks between contractions.
Do you plan on filming a labor and delivery vlog before your baby is born? You all are going to be amazing parents! 💚💚
You're gonna have the baby super soon!! Congrats again
This is so cool and empowering! Praying your you and your baby to have a safe and healthy delivery!