From my most scared part, I really want to thank you! The point you made about not taking it too literal was comforting enough so that I could feel curious enough to give my parts a chance to really be and feel.
I watched Richard Schwartz give a demonstration... And as I have been over 40years on the path of self discovery ... I tried a session by myself today and I reconnected with my child in a deeper way... Thank you and to Richard Schwartz for his demonstrations
I'm listening to you and I suddenly start to cry when you talked about being kicked out of the tribe. I had a traumatic event happen to me which kicked me out of the tribe; my family and what they deemed worthy. I felt from that point on, when I was moving in my life's purpose, that I would be annihilated. I always jump to the worse case scenario, as tho it were true. But you just put it together for me by talking about the fear of death. Thank you so much. (I am enjoying your evolution here on RUclips. You are a gem.)
I like this exercise, and the idea of letting a scared part fully tell the story of its fear isn't something I've seen in other IFS material. It actually reminds me of CBT Worry Exposure exercises for generalized anxiety, though the thought of leaning into the scary story via parts work seems more engaging to me.
You are so right. We need to treat our parts conceptually and not as concrete entities. This also makes it easier to introduce this approach to integrating fear.
I wouldn't be differentating? in "parts that have fear and parts that are scared", but later on, the work you described is great. I found trauma related IFS is the solution to my anxiety problems lately.
Thank you for this. I fear losing control while driving so I don’t anymore. I suffer with cPTSD and chronic Lyme disease. My life is very restricted because of this. I love ifs unfortunately my therapist just left me hanging after her office didn’t take my insurance anymore. I really appreciate the free content. I’m so tired of fear running my life.
I like this. Sometimes I do IFS in the more standard protocol and sometimes I just stay present for a part/s or the whole system, just noticing them in the body and holding them. Both are good
That’s very interesting. The end of your video sounds like a puzzle piece I felt was missing for a while. It sounds like the process is more about acceptance-going to the place that the part fears most and then letting go and knowing you’ll be ok even if that thing happens. Is that on target with what you’re conveying? Awesome video.
Thank you .. very well presented... Fear of rejection has been my companion all my life... It disrupted life.. I wrote a book on fear 17 years ago .. but it is stubbornly there... Accepting fear with no resistance works but often resistance springs up and that is where ifs helps because it addresses the traumatized child within to feel safer and accepting through the ifs model of meeting the child making peace with it in and in my case embrace it... However this is a process that needs reinforcing by repetition... This where I seem to fail because I get distracted from revisiting the inner child and connect to it again.... Ifs is something I came across recently... Thank you
Your clarity and insight into IFS is amazing and incredibly helpful, Conor. I’m just beginning my self therapy journey with IFS and your videos started popping up (because of viewing other IFS videos) and discovering your approach is a total godsend! I’m so grateful for all that you’re sharing on your RUclips channel and for how truly gifted you are as a communicator and caring IFS expert. I have no doubt you are making a difference for so many people, myself included. Thank you!
This was incredibly helpful! Thank you! Plus I liked your philosophy & approach to IFS. I’ve subscribed to your channel & look forward to learning more from you.
Wow! Thank you. Much appreciated. I'm learning how to metabolize pain and following fear is important. I have been practicing worst-case my whole life. It's valuable.
wow, i just came upon your video. I feel an excitement about feeling empowered in my own integration journey! Thank you for this share. :) When c0vid happened my pelvis went into lockdown which made and continues to make walking very challenging. I have explored body work and looked at what is trapped in this part of my body. Asking myself how i can feel more empowered in my body. i am still curious as i continue to navigate the pain i feel in my pelvis. This pain is affecting me moving forward with ease. The pain affecting the choices i am making in relationship to the work i desire to do.
You are awsome buddy. Your knowledge and especially PRACTICAL knowledge on IFS is fantastic ! Please carry on your service to the world... btw do you do therapy online ? Many thanks.
Hello! Last night I did this exercise for the first time and I spent almost an hour. I let myself be carried away by fear and ended up accepting it. Everything was going well but when I opened my eyes, I had a panic attack. It was terrifying. I don't know what could have happened and I don't know how I could try it again in a safer way so that I don't have this feeling or if I shouldn't try it again because it is too much for me at the moment. Thank you in advance!
I get IFS, and I can resonate somewhat with the concept. However, I am missing something in trying to apply it. I'm not sure what it is, but I fo feel uncomfortable asking myself questions in my head as if I am talking to a different person. Ok, I feel silly. Maybe that's it, or I'm not smart enough to understand this modality.😊
Thank you this was very helpful! Do you know how to heal shame or attachment issues or being rejected over and over and how not to turn to ash because of it
there is a large part of myself that won’t let me process my own fear, pain, hurt. it’s like a wall that I learned from my father. as a result, also can’t let in love or feel freely. can I use this method to find a way to eventually dissolve the wall?
From my most scared part, I really want to thank you! The point you made about not taking it too literal was comforting enough so that I could feel curious enough to give my parts a chance to really be and feel.
I watched Richard Schwartz give a demonstration... And as I have been over 40years on the path of self discovery ... I tried a session by myself today and I reconnected with my child in a deeper way... Thank you and to Richard Schwartz for his demonstrations
I'm listening to you and I suddenly start to cry when you talked about being kicked out of the tribe. I had a traumatic event happen to me which kicked me out of the tribe; my family and what they deemed worthy. I felt from that point on, when I was moving in my life's purpose, that I would be annihilated. I always jump to the worse case scenario, as tho it were true. But you just put it together for me by talking about the fear of death. Thank you so much. (I am enjoying your evolution here on RUclips. You are a gem.)
I like this exercise, and the idea of letting a scared part fully tell the story of its fear isn't something I've seen in other IFS material.
It actually reminds me of CBT Worry Exposure exercises for generalized anxiety, though the thought of leaning into the scary story via parts work seems more engaging to me.
You are so right. We need to treat our parts conceptually and not as concrete entities. This also makes it easier to introduce this approach to integrating fear.
Omgoodness! The culmination of all my studies!🎉
I wouldn't be differentating? in "parts that have fear and parts that are scared", but later on, the work you described is great. I found trauma related IFS is the solution to my anxiety problems lately.
Thank you for this. I fear losing control while driving so I don’t anymore. I suffer with cPTSD and chronic Lyme disease. My life is very restricted because of this. I love ifs unfortunately my therapist just left me hanging after her office didn’t take my insurance anymore. I really appreciate the free content. I’m so tired of fear running my life.
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I like this. Sometimes I do IFS in the more standard protocol and sometimes I just stay present for a part/s or the whole system, just noticing them in the body and holding them. Both are good
That’s very interesting. The end of your video sounds like a puzzle piece I felt was missing for a while. It sounds like the process is more about acceptance-going to the place that the part fears most and then letting go and knowing you’ll be ok even if that thing happens.
Is that on target with what you’re conveying?
Awesome video.
I am surprised no comments while fear plagues everyone... Thank you again
Thank you .. very well presented... Fear of rejection has been my companion all my life... It disrupted life.. I wrote a book on fear 17 years ago .. but it is stubbornly there... Accepting fear with no resistance works but often resistance springs up and that is where ifs helps because it addresses the traumatized child within to feel safer and accepting through the ifs model of meeting the child making peace with it in and in my case embrace it... However this is a process that needs reinforcing by repetition... This where I seem to fail because I get distracted from revisiting the inner child and connect to it again.... Ifs is something I came across recently... Thank you
Any comments as to where I am going wrong???thank you
Your clarity and insight into IFS is amazing and incredibly helpful, Conor. I’m just beginning my self therapy journey with IFS and your videos started popping up (because of viewing other IFS videos) and discovering your approach is a total godsend! I’m so grateful for all that you’re sharing on your RUclips channel and for how truly gifted you are as a communicator and caring IFS expert. I have no doubt you are making a difference for so many people, myself included. Thank you!
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This was incredibly helpful! Thank you! Plus I liked your philosophy & approach to IFS. I’ve subscribed to your channel & look forward to learning more from you.
Thank you, Conor. This was spot on great! So valuable I can't put into words!
This was a fantastic video on understanding how to put IFS model into practice. Thank you!!!
Wow! Thank you. Much appreciated. I'm learning how to metabolize pain and following fear is important. I have been practicing worst-case my whole life. It's valuable.
I’m going to invite my fearful part out for a video right after this video, and actually go for a walk!!
Thank you! Will be using your videos as take-home tasks/tools to help my clients :)
Thank you so much … a very clear explanation .
Thank you Connor, you're videos are always very insightful.
Ty very useful 🙏
Absolutely AMAZING way of explaining this. Will use these ideas with clients thank you!!
Appreciate this channel 🙏
Thank You!🌺
wow, i just came upon your video. I feel an excitement about feeling empowered in my own integration journey! Thank you for this share. :) When c0vid happened my pelvis went into lockdown which made and continues to make walking very challenging. I have explored body work and looked at what is trapped in this part of my body. Asking myself how i can feel more empowered in my body. i am still curious as i continue to navigate the pain i feel in my pelvis. This pain is affecting me moving forward with ease. The pain affecting the choices i am making in relationship to the work i desire to do.
thank you for putting this up
amazing explanation , thanks for this video
Very good
Thanks man this was great!
Thank you!!! This si so helpful
You are awsome buddy. Your knowledge and especially PRACTICAL knowledge on IFS is fantastic ! Please carry on your service to the world... btw do you do therapy online ? Many thanks.
thank you so much
Thank you❤
Thanks for this
thank you
Hello!
Last night I did this exercise for the first time and I spent almost an hour. I let myself be carried away by fear and ended up accepting it. Everything was going well but when I opened my eyes, I had a panic attack. It was terrifying. I don't know what could have happened and I don't know how I could try it again in a safer way so that I don't have this feeling or if I shouldn't try it again because it is too much for me at the moment. Thank you in advance!
I get IFS, and I can resonate somewhat with the concept. However, I am missing something in trying to apply it. I'm not sure what it is, but I fo feel uncomfortable asking myself questions in my head as if I am talking to a different person. Ok, I feel silly. Maybe that's it, or I'm not smart enough to understand this modality.😊
Thank you this was very helpful! Do you know how to heal shame or attachment issues or being rejected over and over and how not to turn to ash because of it
Can this process also help someone who has ptsd from going through a real-life worst case scenario? Thanks 🙏
I have many timelines / narratives connected to different parts in me, quite messy and stressful
What about deeply irrational fears like fear of the dark?
there is a large part of myself that won’t let me process my own fear, pain, hurt. it’s like a wall that I learned from my father. as a result, also can’t let in love or feel freely. can I use this method to find a way to eventually dissolve the wall?
I have a part that fears hes already dead. That is intense
Do you do IFS therapy if someone doesn’t want to start off on their own?
what if your fear is health related so the end result could be literal death or worst case scenario is a death?????
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Do you mean to tell me that you are not related to Oscar Isaac? 😳
pointless comment but you look like Poe Damerin from Star Wars lol
thank you ❤