I asked CHAT GTP if was appropriate for a husband to say those words to his wife, here is the response it gave me: No, this statement does not sound appropriate. While the husband may have intended to express his love for his wife, the way he phrased it is insulting and could be hurtful to his wife. It is important to be mindful of how our words may be perceived by others, and to express love and appreciation in a kind and respectful manner. A more appropriate way to express the sentiment could be, "I love you for who you are, and all the unique qualities that make you special to me." 😂😂😂
Of course saying someone is the most beautiful woman we’ve seen doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the most beautiful woman. So why do you have to say she’s not necessarily the most beautiful
Even if I'm still teen 18, i feel this post is reality, it just summarized everything about being real with love. I'm still learning from both of you, you guys are amazing I must say. Being deceived by the word "you are the most beautiful girl I've ever seen " is heartbreaking. It's just flattering and unrealistic like you said. It's obvious most people fall for it. My dad talked to me about it. Guess what he said? He said, they'll come around you with teasing words, praising you so you could fall into their traps. "Omo mi" I know you're beautiful, every other comments from different people shouldn't be part of you. Just don't pay attention to the flatterings and enticements. I'm soo glad I got to get in touch with couples like you, Mr and Mrs Buchi. You made me remember things I was once told by my parents. God bless you plentiful. Wish you the best of life.
Sis, there’s also another man that will come to you with ‘negging’ and he also you should not believe. The man that will remind of everything you’re not perpetually to bring down your self-esteem and self confidence is also not a man of valor and substance 🙏🏾
@@niolab7 they've come already. I'm not that easy to be deceived and convinced. I was enlightened about all this before they came. My parents are heroes 🤗
wow yes this was so refreshing to watch. I am not going to lie when I first read the post I was quite shocked. It seemed very uncomfortable. But I never thought you were a narcissist. Now that my fiancée and I are getting married in a couple weeks and I am thinking about what it means to choose someone everyday, I can appreciate this video better. When my fiancée first told me that Im not the most beautiful or the most smartest but he's choosing me for me. I got it. I got it because there is always this insecurity about "all the other beautiful women?". But the reality is if he wanted all those other women he would've been with them.Again It's uncomfortable at first because we've subconsciously fed into the narrative of beauty politics and what you have to look like to "keep a man" or be desireable. But when you've found the man for you, you realize that all of that doesn't matter and you hope that he also understands that you're more than just what you look like. And the act of choosing someone every day is more then just being able to look at a pretty face.
I know I'm not the "most beautiful" - and I don't need someone to lie to me, to tell me that I am. BUT if my man can't say "You are the most beautiful woman TO ME" then it's over. There are men more handsome (physically) than my partner. But his ways, caring for me, gentleness, service to me, PLUS his good looks make him the most handsome man TO ME. My personal standard is that is what I want, and what I have in my person. Others may not want this and that's ok for them. It just sounds insulting to me, especially to put out publicly.
I mean , who is even the most beautiful in the whole world? No one ever, so to your man you should be the most beautiful...beauty isn't just about physical looks , surprisingly..he's still justifying it Whatever rocks their boat 🚢 tho, can never be me 😂, can't marry someone who thinks I'm not the most beautiful, go marry the one you think is the most beautiful
A man should never tell his woman she is not the most beatiful woman. To your man you should always be the most beautiful woman. Beauty is not just about physicals looks.
And you'll know that she's been in denial because you're her friend or she doesn't conform to your world view of love? We need to understand that love isn't blind. God doesn't love us because we deserve it because we're perfect. He loves us because He chose to DESPITE OUR FLAWS and that is exactly what Solomon and his wife are saying. To be realistic, you are not the most beautiful woman in the world and neither am I so why would I want my man lying to me about it when I know the truth? Love isn't about compliments And if it was the wife who posted that about her husband it would be a different story. Women always want to be pampered and made to feel special. Just because you don't agree with them does not mean they are wrong or in denial, they are speaking the truth and you can keep running from it but you know it's true .
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are no objective yardsticks for measuring beauty. If you say that your wife is not the most beautiful, you invariably agree that she is not the most beautiful TO YOU. That alone is hurtful - this is because beauty can be a combination of many factors, both internal and external to the person.
I remembered reading that post and just Awwwww 😂😂😂😂. When I saw how people misconstrued it and spread it. It was quite sad, we are sometimes so used to waiting for validation that even if it's not true we are satisfied. It's a sad mindset. I love you guys ❤❤❤❤
Okayyyy..... makes more sense now. I was among the people that was really uncomfortable with that post, but now, I see the light in what you wrote. God bless and keep your home.
I do think that there are better ways to express your feelings towards a person than to state the obvious especially when its not a necessary truth that must be told. It's like telling someone you don't have the best fashion sense in the world but I love you... or telling someone that has K-legs "you don't have the straightest legs in the world" but I love you. That person knows that, so affirm the person in a way that isn't calling attention to "what they are not" or their "deficiencies " cause psychologically that is what it would do to that person whether they admit it or not. I also understand that you guys may be used to a certain type of conversation that might be deemed appropriate, but not everyone is like that and so that is why when you brought the letter to social media people gave their takes. I personally would not love that aspect of the letter if it was given to me. I think the crux of the matter wasnt really people doubting your intention(some did though) but making sure that in a relationship we communicate in ways that will never be construed. I'm thinking you did that with your wife. But trust me.. it's gonna be misconstrued with many other women and not lesser women mind you. It's just human nature
I would say this man isn't emotionally intelligent with his speech. I've seen better emotionally intelligent five year olds. Even my mom at age 56, my dad still complimented her so much so that it wows us his adult children 😊 😢. There's a different genre of maturity in marriage, this "maturity" doesn't see imperfection.
Downloaded your videos because of this video. The wisdom n truth is beautiful to see
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"Love can't exist without the acceptance of truth". This is the issue with most people, as hurtful as the truth is if, you love someone, you should see part your hurt of the truth about you.
I do agree on the point of commitment - a true test of commitment is in the face of distractions/temptations. Thanks for putting this together Solomon and Àríké 👍
If my man tells me I'm the most beautiful woman he has ever met(because that includes my personality, perception, the way I carry myself and my looks), he is not lying to me. It is not flattery either.
I understand your explanations and it’s beautiful that you both understand each other, you guys’ love is inspiring, but honestly it did sound somewhat like an insult as well. Personally, I was taken aback when I first read the post/love letter. Like your partner is supposed to be the most beautiful/handsome person to you. Imperfections, flaws and all, can make the person more beautiful to you. I understand that the point you're making is that even if other people are “attractive”, I will not be attracted to them because I CHOOSE you. To present the opposing view/perspective: imagine telling your child, “you're not the smartest child or most beautiful child, but your mama loves you”...? Doesn't it sound bizarre? So, I don't condone the outrage that happened but I can understand why people were triggered. Anyway, it's really refreshing how secure you guys are in yourselves and in each other. That you are on the same wavelength and are honest and content, is very very admirable. ❤❤❤
Like he could have said she's not the most whatever but she is the most to him. He said what he said and people reacted to it. Whatever rocks their boat though.
We all know we are not the most beautiful persons in the world, but to the one we love and that loves us we are the most beautiful in the world. It wasn't necessary to post it but anyways it's your world
Like....I was also so confused and surprised as to how people reacted to the post ....I was reading the tweet and doing awwnn sweet😍 and then people go,. thscsjevgandbsjwn,. bruhv Keep being you SB and I love the way arike talks🤗
Guys just to let you know that you breaking the Internet was how I got to know you both. So it gave ppl like us to the opportunity to know about this lovely couple.😂
What you guys are saying is 100% correct and true. I think people came after you for that post because it was a few weeks or days after your engagement, they where expecting it to end with... you are the most beautiful and intelligent woman to me.
Exactly…you. We are not the same. Solomon knows his wife better and he knew she would receive it as he intended. There’s no “one size fits all” for how love is expressed. Give people the freedom to express they’re love for one another as they see fit.
I love this so much! So realistic and beautiful to see. Adeola is so smart and I love listening to her speak. Love is truthful so we should always tell our partners the truth but not in a way that hurts them or ruins their self-esteem and that's exactly what Solomon did. Give room for over-the-top compliments too, but let there be a balance. Thank you Solomon and Adeola❤️
When I was with my ex at that time, I tell him all the time, I can't be the most beautiful and I'm not the most successful and there's a lot of probability that you will meet with better people than I am cos I've met with better than you are but the thing is the commitment and determination to keep being with each other but he has an issue with comprehension. It's just being realistic, it's high time we had to start accepting that.
I think people are still missing the point, that's why we are still perpetuating this "girls love lies" statement. Nobody is saying that a guy should tell his woman that she is the most beautiful only don't tell her that she is NOT the most beautiful, hopefully that makes sense. Why not affirm what she is and what you love about her. Skip the "you are the most beautiful and not beautiful conversation. It is just unnecessary. But here is another thing, I honestly don't believe his wife was offended by the statement its we that the letter was publicly announced to that find it distasteful. The thing is they have been together for probably a while and when you're in an intimate relationship with a person and constantly share conversations you start to see things their way. Especially when the person with a more dominant personality is able to explain their logic in a way that is undeniably rational (been there). It's also the reason why two people can make a video together where one casually dismisses a whole gender and the wife will sit there agreeable without so much as a rebuttal. Love it😂😂. It's giving internalized misogyny. A real life example of pick-me-ism😢. I don waka abeg🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
This thing is simple, the people who attacked that post don't understand English language 😀. "Lack of comprehension" like beautiful Arike put it😀 Kai God 😀 illiteracy is bad oh. And thanks for taking your time to explain it...I hope we and "they" will understand after watching this👍🏽
Seriously if we hold tightly to the notion that we are the most beautiful person there is or our partner is, seeing another person that is obviously better, will make our feelings waver because in our mind there shouldn't be any other that should be more fair, and in fact meeting someone that is; shakes our belief. But accepting that in all the imperfections, this person is my perfect, helps strengthen our conviction on who we have chosen. And it simply means that this has gone beyond "butterflies in the belly" and has settled to love based on decision. And I think that's good for any relationship. Thank you for this insight, stings and locs🥰
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This is beautiful! 🎉🎉 Those who had an issue really misunderstood the letter and are not realistic.
Telling your woman that she's not the most beautiful yet you choose her is simply letting her know that you choose her because of who she is- her unique personality. That bold statement alone should keep any normal woman fully SECURE, regardless of who comes around her husband(whether Kim K or Cardi B).
The truth is that we want our partner to see us as the most beautiful or the most smart person in the world. We all want our partner to put us on pedestal. Let’s be honest some of partners aren’t that attractive at least to other other than you. The post to me was just pure raw uncut truth which I personally will think many people aren’t ready to accept in their relationships. If we really want honesty from our partners things like this should not stir up anger. Yes I know some people still want “beautiful lies” sounds good to me too lol but I don’t mind the pure truth that’s coming from a place of love, true love.
When I read the letter, I was all awwn awwwn and all smiling.. not until I started seeing people’s hate comments. I feel like all of those comments came in as a result of their hate towards you. Oh well, I used to be one of your biggest antagonists not until the day you wrote Arike that beautiful letter 😍 Arike isn’t the most beautiful woman on earth but you still chose her and that’s the most beautiful thing literally.
I really love you both and I am by no means one of those people who frowned at that post or attacked you. I also totally appreciate honesty in relationships but I strongly disagree with the statement: ‘Men lie because women love deceit’ No sound thinking human should be made to do wrong because someone compels it. There is no basis for lies, really. That men lie a lot only goes to show who they really are not who women are. That women love deceit should be another story entirely detached from the story that men lie a lot. P.S: I admire you both and Adeola is really beautiful
8:35 yes people like me saw where he was coming from but I didn’t want to accept it because it sounded weird to me, I’m so used to being told beautiful lies.
The comment on Love based on truth, reminded me of JESUS’ love for us. There’s a popular statement that goes ‘ GOD doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called’. It’s how JESUS chooses us. That’s why salvation isn’t based off works!! Other wise the most ‘morally upright’ should have been our examples in the scripture. Yet Abraham was a liar, Noah was a drunk,, David😱😱 and so on. Yet GOD in His wisdom chose them and use them for our examples.
What are your ‘expert’ opinions based on? What fuels your chain of thought? What life experiences have you gone through to have so much to say about theses Issues? Your opinions sound so absolute thus the questions.
I asked CHAT GTP if was appropriate for a husband to say those words to his wife, here is the response it gave me: No, this statement does not sound appropriate. While the husband may have intended to express his love for his wife, the way he phrased it is insulting and could be hurtful to his wife. It is important to be mindful of how our words may be perceived by others, and to express love and appreciation in a kind and respectful manner. A more appropriate way to express the sentiment could be, "I love you for who you are, and all the unique qualities that make you special to me." 😂😂😂
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Of course saying someone is the most beautiful woman we’ve seen doesn’t necessarily mean they’re the most beautiful woman. So why do you have to say she’s not necessarily the most beautiful
Absolutely, it sounds a little narcissistic, even though he was coming from a place of good.
Not chat GPT chile LMAOOO
My husband is still going to tell me I'm the most beautiful woman in the whole world biko. I don't care how you choose to interprete it ooh
Same here
And that's on period
Now you're the narcissist here...
Thank you!!
Even if I'm still teen 18, i feel this post is reality, it just summarized everything about being real with love. I'm still learning from both of you, you guys are amazing I must say.
Being deceived by the word "you are the most beautiful girl I've ever seen " is heartbreaking. It's just flattering and unrealistic like you said. It's obvious most people fall for it. My dad talked to me about it. Guess what he said? He said, they'll come around you with teasing words, praising you so you could fall into their traps. "Omo mi" I know you're beautiful, every other comments from different people shouldn't be part of you. Just don't pay attention to the flatterings and enticements.
I'm soo glad I got to get in touch with couples like you, Mr and Mrs Buchi. You made me remember things I was once told by my parents.
God bless you plentiful.
Wish you the best of life.
Sis, there’s also another man that will come to you with ‘negging’ and he also you should not believe. The man that will remind of everything you’re not perpetually to bring down your self-esteem and self confidence is also not a man of valor and substance 🙏🏾
@@niolab7 they've come already. I'm not that easy to be deceived and convinced. I was enlightened about all this before they came. My parents are heroes 🤗
wow yes this was so refreshing to watch. I am not going to lie when I first read the post I was quite shocked. It seemed very uncomfortable. But I never thought you were a narcissist. Now that my fiancée and I are getting married in a couple weeks and I am thinking about what it means to choose someone everyday, I can appreciate this video better. When my fiancée first told me that Im not the most beautiful or the most smartest but he's choosing me for me. I got it. I got it because there is always this insecurity about "all the other beautiful women?". But the reality is if he wanted all those other women he would've been with them.Again It's uncomfortable at first because we've subconsciously fed into the narrative of beauty politics and what you have to look like to "keep a man" or be desireable. But when you've found the man for you, you realize that all of that doesn't matter and you hope that he also understands that you're more than just what you look like. And the act of choosing someone every day is more then just being able to look at a pretty face.
This was so beautiful to read, and your acceptance of the reality is beautiful. We wish you and your partner a lifetime of bliss.
I know I'm not the "most beautiful" - and I don't need someone to lie to me, to tell me that I am. BUT if my man can't say "You are the most beautiful woman TO ME" then it's over. There are men more handsome (physically) than my partner. But his ways, caring for me, gentleness, service to me, PLUS his good looks make him the most handsome man TO ME. My personal standard is that is what I want, and what I have in my person. Others may not want this and that's ok for them. It just sounds insulting to me, especially to put out publicly.
I mean , who is even the most beautiful in the whole world? No one ever, so to your man you should be the most beautiful...beauty isn't just about physical looks , surprisingly..he's still justifying it
Whatever rocks their boat 🚢 tho, can never be me 😂, can't marry someone who thinks I'm not the most beautiful, go marry the one you think is the most beautiful
A man should never tell his woman she is not the most beatiful woman. To your man you should always be the most beautiful woman. Beauty is not just about physicals looks.
Exactly my thoughts too. The lady is just being in denial of the truth and agreeing to her husband.
I was weak while listening, I couldn't believe what I was hearing.
@@OmaGladys9 I figured that out too
And you'll know that she's been in denial because you're her friend or she doesn't conform to your world view of love?
We need to understand that love isn't blind. God doesn't love us because we deserve it because we're perfect. He loves us because He chose to DESPITE OUR FLAWS and that is exactly what Solomon and his wife are saying.
To be realistic, you are not the most beautiful woman in the world and neither am I so why would I want my man lying to me about it when I know the truth? Love isn't about compliments
And if it was the wife who posted that about her husband it would be a different story. Women always want to be pampered and made to feel special. Just because you don't agree with them does not mean they are wrong or in denial, they are speaking the truth and you can keep running from it but you know it's true .
Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. There are no objective yardsticks for measuring beauty. If you say that your wife is not the most beautiful, you invariably agree that she is not the most beautiful TO YOU. That alone is hurtful - this is because beauty can be a combination of many factors, both internal and external to the person.
I remembered reading that post and just Awwwww 😂😂😂😂. When I saw how people misconstrued it and spread it. It was quite sad, we are sometimes so used to waiting for validation that even if it's not true we are satisfied. It's a sad mindset. I love you guys ❤❤❤❤
I had the very same reaction, I was like such a beautiful write-up until it blew up 😂
Okayyyy..... makes more sense now. I was among the people that was really uncomfortable with that post, but now, I see the light in what you wrote. God bless and keep your home.
Amen my brother and my sister in Christ. Everything you said are true and biblically factual.
I do think that there are better ways to express your feelings towards a person than to state the obvious especially when its not a necessary truth that must be told. It's like telling someone you don't have the best fashion sense in the world but I love you... or telling someone that has K-legs "you don't have the straightest legs in the world" but I love you. That person knows that, so affirm the person in a way that isn't calling attention to "what they are not" or their "deficiencies " cause psychologically that is what it would do to that person whether they admit it or not. I also understand that you guys may be used to a certain type of conversation that might be deemed appropriate, but not everyone is like that and so that is why when you brought the letter to social media people gave their takes. I personally would not love that aspect of the letter if it was given to me. I think the crux of the matter wasnt really people doubting your intention(some did though) but making sure that in a relationship we communicate in ways that will never be construed. I'm thinking you did that with your wife. But trust me.. it's gonna be misconstrued with many other women and not lesser women mind you. It's just human nature
I would say this man isn't emotionally intelligent with his speech. I've seen better emotionally intelligent five year olds.
Even my mom at age 56, my dad still complimented her so much so that it wows us his adult children 😊 😢.
There's a different genre of maturity in marriage, this "maturity" doesn't see imperfection.
When God tells me how much He loves me, He doesn't equate it with anyone else... Truth should be liberating not spiteful nor hurtful
Downloaded your videos because of this video. The wisdom n truth is beautiful to see
"Love can't exist without the acceptance of truth". This is the issue with most people, as hurtful as the truth is if, you love someone, you should see part your hurt of the truth about you.
I read that post and loved it 😍 but reading comments and watching it in news I was confused 😕
@@CuteVina467 They just missed it or they themselves just needed something to talk about.🤷♂️🤷♂️
I do agree on the point of commitment - a true test of commitment is in the face of distractions/temptations. Thanks for putting this together Solomon and Àríké 👍
I’m learning,I’m not even done watching,Thank you guys❤
If my man tells me I'm the most beautiful woman he has ever met(because that includes my personality, perception, the way I carry myself and my looks), he is not lying to me. It is not flattery either.
This is the peak of all honesty, I serious conversation many shy from and ruins relationships literally or in hindsight. I love this.
The love the sentiment of this video. A foundation of honestly it’s the birth place of a good marriage. Love what you are sharing here!
This is beautiful.. I wish u both a very long and happy marriage 🙌🏽🥰…
I understand your explanations and it’s beautiful that you both understand each other, you guys’ love is inspiring, but honestly it did sound somewhat like an insult as well. Personally, I was taken aback when I first read the post/love letter.
Like your partner is supposed to be the most beautiful/handsome person to you. Imperfections, flaws and all, can make the person more beautiful to you. I understand that the point you're making is that even if other people are “attractive”, I will not be attracted to them because I CHOOSE you.
To present the opposing view/perspective: imagine telling your child, “you're not the smartest child or most beautiful child, but your mama loves you”...? Doesn't it sound bizarre?
So, I don't condone the outrage that happened but I can understand why people were triggered.
Anyway, it's really refreshing how secure you guys are in yourselves and in each other. That you are on the same wavelength and are honest and content, is very very admirable. ❤❤❤
Like he could have said she's not the most whatever but she is the most to him. He said what he said and people reacted to it. Whatever rocks their boat though.
Point well made , that post looked very insulting .. they’re now rephrasing it
But it’s their choice
Children are not adults. They lack ability to get nuance. ❤️
As expected from Solomon, always trying to show wisdom.
We all know we are not the most beautiful persons in the world, but to the one we love and that loves us we are the most beautiful in the world. It wasn't necessary to post it but anyways it's your world
It’s not even necessary to tell your partner they’re not the most beautiful, there should be no comparisons whatsoever
Thanks for this wonderful insights Guys. More Love
Like....I was also so confused and surprised as to how people reacted to the post ....I was reading the tweet and doing awwnn sweet😍 and then people go,. thscsjevgandbsjwn,. bruhv
Keep being you SB and I love the way arike talks🤗
Guys just to let you know that you breaking the Internet was how I got to know you both. So it gave ppl like us to the opportunity to know about this lovely couple.😂
Amazing episode 👏
Thank you for this unpopular truth.
This episode makes so much sense. Thank you both for sharing. ❤
I read that post and all I said was Solomon genuinely loves Ariké and it is really loud and beautiful. 😊😊
So soothing ❤❤❤❤
What you guys are saying is 100% correct and true.
I think people came after you for that post because it was a few weeks or days after your engagement, they where expecting it to end with... you are the most beautiful and intelligent woman to me.
Great video! I love hearing the both of you speak.❤❤
I can see great wisdom in this conversation. I have learned alot from it. Thanks for sharing.
It's very funny how the next video was one talking about the same thing with your pictures on it 😂
This is Beautiful to watch honesty ❤ not pretend for clout which in the end will cause more pain and harm.
No one ever is the most beautiful or most intelligent, but I wouldn't want my partner pinpointing that to me
Thank you
Exactly…you. We are not the same. Solomon knows his wife better and he knew she would receive it as he intended. There’s no “one size fits all” for how love is expressed. Give people the freedom to express they’re love for one another as they see fit.
@@bernice7608 are they married?
Yes they're married, didn't you read the title?
I love this
Sentimental compliment is okay, but reality must be more appreciated📍
I love this so much! So realistic and beautiful to see. Adeola is so smart and I love listening to her speak. Love is truthful so we should always tell our partners the truth but not in a way that hurts them or ruins their self-esteem and that's exactly what Solomon did.
Give room for over-the-top compliments too, but let there be a balance.
Thank you Solomon and Adeola❤️
Thanks. Indeed, sincerity, transparency, vulnerability and contentment are necessary. Adeola please share your beauty routine. Your face glowing
When I read that letter i was filled. It was a Very beautiful letter ❤ I don’t know how people twisted it and started putting thoughts in ones head.
This is so enlightening 👏
I am glad , listening to this. I think it's high time we be ourselves in relationships. Expecting so much from a human like you is so unrealistic.
This is beautiful.
I truly wish for you guys to grow constantly in Wisdom and love…Amen.
Marriage is a matter of contentment💯❤️📍So true
IT WAS REALLY ABOUT COMPREHENSION. ALL SOLOMON WAS SAYING WAS I CHOOSE YOU! ITS YOU I CHOOSE NO MATTER WHAT OR WHO!
Amazing perspective, I would have loved to hear Ariyike speak more :)
Commitment is not commitment if there’s nothing to challenge it. word!!!!
My perspective. Very wholesome. Thanks for bringing it to light. I love you both.
It was gbam for me then; a correctional message for our time. Thanks for this exposition. God bless you both...
Yeah totallly on the perspective of understanding
It was as tho some people just didn't want to understand😄😄
Marry an intelligent woman
E get why ! 🥰🥰
Love this ❤❤❤
When I was with my ex at that time, I tell him all the time, I can't be the most beautiful and I'm not the most successful and there's a lot of probability that you will meet with better people than I am cos I've met with better than you are but the thing is the commitment and determination to keep being with each other but he has an issue with comprehension. It's just being realistic, it's high time we had to start accepting that.
I think people are still missing the point, that's why we are still perpetuating this "girls love lies" statement. Nobody is saying that a guy should tell his woman that she is the most beautiful only don't tell her that she is NOT the most beautiful, hopefully that makes sense. Why not affirm what she is and what you love about her. Skip the "you are the most beautiful and not beautiful conversation. It is just unnecessary. But here is another thing, I honestly don't believe his wife was offended by the statement its we that the letter was publicly announced to that find it distasteful. The thing is they have been together for probably a while and when you're in an intimate relationship with a person and constantly share conversations you start to see things their way. Especially when the person with a more dominant personality is able to explain their logic in a way that is undeniably rational (been there). It's also the reason why two people can make a video together where one casually dismisses a whole gender and the wife will sit there agreeable without so much as a rebuttal. Love it😂😂. It's giving internalized misogyny. A real life example of pick-me-ism😢. I don waka abeg🚶♀️🚶♀️🚶♀️
the way you explained this to the end is hilarious. I thought you were in support tillI got to the end
I love this,just perfect 💯
I see so much wisdom on this.
Thank you so much for the impact beautiful couples.
"Lack of comprehension and unwillingness to comprehend...."
That's one of the major problems of people. Interesting episode
I'm definitely subscribing. love this!!
Marriage is a Matter of Contentment! Contentment is Beautiful 😍
Very beautiful ✨✨
Thank you for this, love you both 🥰
Such a blessing!!
This thing is simple, the people who attacked that post don't understand English language 😀. "Lack of comprehension" like beautiful Arike put it😀 Kai God 😀 illiteracy is bad oh. And thanks for taking your time to explain it...I hope we and "they" will understand after watching this👍🏽
Thanks for sharing this truths guys!! 💯
I sincerely love you guys
Thank you for putting this out here
Seriously if we hold tightly to the notion that we are the most beautiful person there is or our partner is, seeing another person that is obviously better, will make our feelings waver because in our mind there shouldn't be any other that should be more fair, and in fact meeting someone that is; shakes our belief. But accepting that in all the imperfections, this person is my perfect, helps strengthen our conviction on who we have chosen. And it simply means that this has gone beyond "butterflies in the belly" and has settled to love based on decision. And I think that's good for any relationship. Thank you for this insight, stings and locs🥰
This is beautiful! 🎉🎉 Those who had an issue really misunderstood the letter and are not realistic.
I have been waiting for thisss😢😢
Bravo!!!! I just love you guys!!! 🥺🥺❤️
the back and forth in the intro😂😂😂😂
love y'all🥰🥰🥰
A VERY MATURE and INTELLIGENT COUPLE MERDE🙌🏾😌
Absolutely Beautiful! ❤
Intelligence and sound self-esteem at its peak👌
This is absolutely beautiful
Telling your woman that she's not the most beautiful yet you choose her is simply letting her know that you choose her because of who she is- her unique personality. That bold statement alone should keep any normal woman fully SECURE, regardless of who comes around her husband(whether Kim K or Cardi B).
The truth is that we want our partner to see us as the most beautiful or the most smart person in the world. We all want our partner to put us on pedestal. Let’s be honest some of partners aren’t that attractive at least to other other than you. The post to me was just pure raw uncut truth which I personally will think many people aren’t ready to accept in their relationships. If we really want honesty from our partners things like this should not stir up anger. Yes I know some people still want “beautiful lies” sounds good to me too lol but I don’t mind the pure truth that’s coming from a place of love, true love.
Please guys let's appreciate the people that misunderstood you guys because they gave people like me opportunity to know lovely couple like you.
A win is a win 🤣
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I lovvvvve❤❤❤❤this, it's beautiful and the sincerity 🤗🤗🤗🤗
When I read the letter, I was all awwn awwwn and all smiling.. not until I started seeing people’s hate comments. I feel like all of those comments came in as a result of their hate towards you. Oh well, I used to be one of your biggest antagonists not until the day you wrote Arike that beautiful letter 😍 Arike isn’t the most beautiful woman on earth but you still chose her and that’s the most beautiful thing literally.
Beautiful conversation ❤
I really love you both and I am by no means one of those people who frowned at that post or attacked you. I also totally appreciate honesty in relationships but I strongly disagree with the statement: ‘Men lie because women love deceit’ No sound thinking human should be made to do wrong because someone compels it. There is no basis for lies, really. That men lie a lot only goes to show who they really are not who women are. That women love deceit should be another story entirely detached from the story that men lie a lot.
P.S: I admire you both and Adeola is really beautiful
Me I don’t have anything to say o….Wishing them all the best
I love you guys, continue inspiring us ❤
I love this Duo❤
8:35 yes people like me saw where he was coming from but I didn’t want to accept it because it sounded weird to me, I’m so used to being told beautiful lies.
Woah, I've learnt a lot ❤️
Your partner should be the most beautiful/handsome person in your eyes
The comment on Love based on truth, reminded me of JESUS’ love for us. There’s a popular statement that goes ‘ GOD doesn’t call the qualified, He qualifies the called’. It’s how JESUS chooses us. That’s why salvation isn’t based off works!! Other wise the most ‘morally upright’ should have been our examples in the scripture. Yet Abraham was a liar, Noah was a drunk,, David😱😱 and so on. Yet GOD in His wisdom chose them and use them for our examples.
I Love You Guys ❤️❤️❤️🥰
You guys should please speak on how casual marriage courses are in Nigeria
I love you guys ❤️🇿🇲
I love you guys ❤❤
What are your ‘expert’ opinions based on? What fuels your chain of thought? What life experiences have you gone through to have so much to say about theses Issues? Your opinions sound so absolute thus the questions.
"You have a big nose, but I love the big nose" 😂😂😂
I love this, it rids insecurity just knowing that your partner chose you as you are.
You are wise, I wish your lives were private. Marriage is difficult especially if it's watched by people and they always have opinions about it.
I love Arlke😊❤
Love cannot exist if it is not based on truth💯
Thank you for this episode🍸❤
“Your gender actually has issues” 😅 he sure has a lot to say about our gender 😂. Enjoyed the podcast tho 👍🏾
My gender have issues sha 😂😂😂
Words words 😘😘😘
10:22 oh yes we do love the lies lol it’s crazy how fairytale wishy washy love story has become the only standard for relationships. Sad.
This husband isn't emotionally intelligent in his speech. Dear husbands, be mindful on how you string your words.
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