My mother’s pretty privilege is the reason why I was able to have access to education, beauty, social status, and connections to higher power like law wise.
As a Mom of littles please dont stop putting yourself first. I got to be over 200lbs in my marriage because I was eating what he was eating and lost all discipline. I used to be a size 7 and 140lbs before I met my husband and had children. I workout now as soon as they get dropped off at school or even in the evenings. I'm a savage with it, I'll pretend I'm just going to the bathroom and I will sneak in a 30min aerobic workout in my bedroom or bathroom. As a Mom you have to get it where you can. I've lost over 20lbs now but still a long way to go.
My mother was jealous of me - always blocking my blessings and doing anything to stop me from living my life and being free - her biggest trigger was me dressing up and doing my makeup, she would always try to start fights with me before I left the house, it was so draining to be around and then when people were around she’d try to show me off like “look at my daughters hair! Look her nails are real” then be jealous at the time same it’s so stressful
I can so relate to this. My mother loved to brag on me but at the same time would sabotage opportunities for me. And I’m talking Hollywood level opportunities. I’ll never forgive that
I wish @ExoticalsUnited would do a video on Tina Turner and her mum....I think they looked similar so it might not have been beauty wars but Tina was often mentally abused by her mum - nothing worse than having a parent lower your self esteem daily even when you are famous. Her mum never saw the privilege of being a mum to Tina Turner = I guess she wished she had the boldness and talent of her daughter Tina....we don't talk enough about the stress of being talented + attractive! These validation vampires will trash their own families....
Love this topic!! My mom has is the most beautiful woman Ive ever seen. I look nothing like her but Im attractive in my own way and my mom leaned into that. I grew in to my looks and style and now I have a gorgeous daughter!! I can pass down style tips and beautiful tips Ive learned form my mother. We all look very different, very different skin, hair, height and body but all similar in our feminine privilege ( and pretty privilege). Beautiful radiants from with in and is brightened by the love we receive. Love each and stay beautiful. God bless 🙏🏽
I had to start having this conversation with my daughter last year when she was in 4th grade. I am biracial, black and My daughter is also half black and half white because her father is black and white. So we have the exact same hair texture and she is more fair than I am and that causes her a lot of problems, especially with the brown skin and dark skin girls at school. I feel grateful to be able to teach her about why she's treated a certain way. I think it is important because it is easy to internalize it and think that it is you or your personality that people don't like when it's really they are jealous of your looks. I always try to make sure she loves herself.
My mother fed me processed foods while eating salads and cut my hair coconut bowl short because she couldn’t be bothered with brushing my long hair. So since “my 4th grade self didn’t want to do the hair brushing myself” she took the easy road and made me ugly. I instantly got bullied viciously in 5th grade. I still haven’t forgiven her for this type of neglect. She always kept herself pretty but was too lazy to work against a child’s pushback to eat vegetables and have their hair brushed daily. We have a good relationship now but I’m still resentful.
“we have a good relationship now but im still resentful” i relate to this so much.. makes me feel like a terrible daughter sometimes. i hope you’re healing well even if it’s slowly. 🤍
I wasn’t raised by my mother but my grandmother. She taught me the importance of feminine privilege and also she would tell me things of how people would pay for my hair, Skintone, and facial features (curly hair, bronze skin, full lips). I think this is considered teaching pretty privilege. 😭as she allowed me to see my “strengths” ??!?
@@xluvkay yes, same! The women in my family also emphasized how hygiene was a fun part of the beauty process (like the yummy smelling body sprays and deodorants, etc)
@ YASSS I LOVE THIS 🥹❤️my grandma is UABW and she never had inferior complex she loved all shades and was able to see the beauty in everyone!!! That definitely trickled down onto me and I’m so grateful for that.
My mom was and is truly feminine and pretty. She always dressed us pretty, and hair was always done. Bonnets were restricted outside the house. Anything that looked bad was out. We ALWAYS had to wear dresses. We even learned to play the piano. My Grandma couldn't stand my mom and her daughters. Don't get me wrong, grandma was so pretty, but she was so fixated on seeing my mom fail.. I used to beat myself up, trying to find out why. When I became an adult, I got my answers. It's all about pretty privilege. What didn't kill us made, my sisters and I stronger. That's totally one of the reasons how we're now able to navigate the world a bit better.
Omg this subject is one of the reasons I feel a genuine closeness to you. No one can relate to my lived experiences like the things you speak about. Can you expand on exotical mother's and unambiguous daughters relationships. ♥️
Yes. It's sad that society is this way and I don't like to admit it. But I used my pretty privilege to benefit my son a lot. I used my 'charm' with his school principal, his teachers, doctors, neighbors, the church. But I had to do what I had to do as a single mum. I'm glad he benefited and that his childhood quality of life was enhanced in little ways here and there. He's older now and has grown into a delightful young man.
My mother was a bombshell when she was young. My parents always tell the story of how they met - he walked into a hardware store where she was working and saw her and was too scared to talk to her but thought she was so beautiful he kept coming to the store like everyday for six months. Eventually the owner was like "When are you going to give Mr. ____ some play?". She was oblivious because so many guys liked her and the owner was like "come on no one needs that many wrenches!" 😅 After like a year he worked up the nerve to ask her on a date and the rest is history. 😂
The Kardashian’s children are literally all mixed and look mixed/biracial. It doesn’t have anything to do with strictly skin color. They will have their own benefits in society still.
Literally was telling my adopted mom this…my mom was beautiful and was chased I’m sure she wouldve been better to equip me fr the world bc the way I was attacked was wild and I never assumed people were jealous of me or hated me I assumed I was always the problem.
My mother’s mother (my grandmother) was a victim of being pretty privileged but in an oppressive environment in her marital home where she was punished for her beauty and social power instead. As a result not only does my mother encourage me to be beautiful (I looks alot like my grandma) , but she’s also put me on game about how most of the people around us,as beautiful women, aren’t gonna be our well-wishers. I do feel like I’m in a fortunate environment social-climbing wise. My father is also very supportive of my social climbing because he works in a position where he regularly meets top dog men and he sees their world and their lives regularly, and wants me to live that type of life too.
I really love having been raised by a mother that is experienced with pretty privilege. My mother is a DSBW but she is one that provides a safe space for me to share all of my experiences I’ve had with her demographic lol. She knows I’m not lying or exaggerating and understands what I’m talking about. She never invalidates my experiences by saying I “just think I’m all that” or “no one is jealous/worried about LS women”. Because being as though she has experienced the downside of pretty privilege also and she isn’t a hater, she would never shut down my experience. Love her.
Girl yes! My mom has is a dark skin black woman and she has pretty privilege and thin privilege (she’s 5’0 and 100 pounds ). I came out looking like my mixed dad but she never invalidated my experiences because she went though the same shit with her privileges.
I love how you’re putting more Indian women in your videos. Thank you!!! Because I am of that phenotype where I am Indian but people tell me I looked mixed all the time.
My mom and auntie are some of the most fashionable people I know. They were trendsetters in the 80s and 90s and they had so many stories of scornful women trying to infiltrate them financially, spiritually, and physically. My mom swears they started the trend of dipping braids, wearing weaves and extensions, beaded hairs, etc in Miami back in the day. Even today my mom had so many fresh and fun ideas for her looks. I'm even trying to find a magazine they were featured in in the 80s (I took to reddit but we can't seem to dig it up) I really admire them for that because a lot of the standards they've put in place I've took and ran with and made even better. Shout out to lineages who prioritize pretty privilege!!!
The women on my mom’s side are DSBW who are pretty and thin privileged . Then my dad’s side is pretty privileged curvy Mixed/ creole women . I came out looking like my dad’s mixed heritage but it was nice to have a UAB mom who understood pretty privilege and wasn’t intimidated by colorism 😊 (I know a lot of UAB women jealous of their exotical daughters). She never once invalidated my experiences because she experienced a lot of BS too in the workplace/school for being pretty . My mom was actually the first person to warn me that some kids might be jealous of how I look .
My mom taught me that in order for your perfume to last all day you have to spray it in the base of your hair in the back of your neck. It’d be smelling good for days ❤
I was definitely on the end of my mom not knowing how to teach me to dress due to different body types. She did other things for me. I was a debutante, but she did not know how to do much else. I did have to learn a lot on my own. Luckily I learned some skills from RUclips and listening to my doctor's advice to pass on to my own daughters. I also think some women don't know to pass on these skills not understanding a lot of stuff has to be explicitly taught and explained.
My mom’s (we’re Mexican but very pale so, colorism in the Mexican community applies) pretty privilege got us a lot of opportunities, meals paid for free, or other free stuff, works for herself and makes really good tips and loyal clients. I’ve heard “Wow your mom is so pretty-you look nothing like her!” Or something around those lines growing up more times than I can count. Only in the more recent years that I lost weight and started dressing better/doing my make up are people telling me I look more like her. Double edged sword ig
This was a uniquely insightful look into the more intrinsic and heritable aspects of beauty; namely the celebration and perpetuation of beauty standards! Good one😊
This video made me realize that I was all of this with my younger sisters and niece, even my friends. I was raised by a jealous femcel, though, so it took me ages to even realize that I had pretty privilege all along!
I learned pretty privilege in the white community tbh. No black woman back in the day wanted to teach me, but white and Hispanic women and girls taught me along with reading Seventeen magazine articles on hygiene.
@@ExoticalsUnited right. I even subscribed to their magazine even in my 30s even their website. Now with Pinterest and RUclips and the glo up era in 2014 my whole routine changed
My mother is a smoke show 🔥😌 always turn heads and get stares 😏 I always say It’s a real flex to have a beautiful mother 💖 I come from a long line of beautiful Creole women 💖
I totally agree!. My late mother was drop dead gorgeous, slim,petite (5ft 4) knew what to wear to assentuate her features wether that be makeup/clothes etc etc and took good care of her VERY long hair(waist length). She turned heads when out with my little brother. Men fancied her, other women envied her!😂. She had us very young(19 & 20) and never looked busted!. I saw what my mother did and copied/ put my own spin on what works for me. I also look very similar to her so I could replicate some of the styles. I'm taller than she was (5ft 8) my brother(6ft 3)we got our hieght from our dad's(6ft 6) side. Pretty women should be careful procreating with ugly men. Those traits may just show up in our offspring!.🎤😏
my daughters dad is definitely not as conventionally attractive as I am, but my gorgeous genes win every time. She’s the perfect mix of us both. The features she got from me makes people stop & gush at how pretty we both are all the time 😊 id argue that some men that aren’t as attractive as we are make the best dads because they aren’t in competition with us. They just want to make money, be a dad, and give us a soft life because we’re the apple of their eye 🤭
as a creole girl with a creole mom who denefits from pretty privilege a lot, i definitely agree with what you said about people’s perception of us. many lightskinned creole women were brought up being really privileged, which is why people stereotype us as being stuck up or “bougie”. when i was in elementary school i remember her telling me that some girls would be jealous of me and to only be friends with other pretty girls lol
Awesome topic! My mother & sisters are mls women that has many privileges when it comes to beauty and intelligence. Though my mother had many privileges growing up in her late teens early twenties; she also went through a lot as well. I think her paranoia over beauty and the power it brings has been effecting me since I was younger. She never let me wear my hair down & dressed me in over sized clothing unless occasions. I never doubted her judgement though… thanks for the video EU! 🙌🏾✨
I've never seen this topic being covered before. This video made me realize and reflect on just how blessed I am to have had both of my grandmothers, my mom, my aunts and cousins who were pretty privileged. They freely shared valuable information with me ever since childhood. Now, I'm paying it forward with my younger sisters, nieces, and younger cousins.
My mother and I look nothing alike complexion wise. That didn’t stop her. I learned to take care of my skin, my hair, my nails, my face, my clothes, my spirit, and my home. Even my aunties (her sisters of various rainbow brown) taught me their beauty secrets cuz each was a little different in their own way. I’m still receiving the benefits of that today and I’ve adjusted my care accordingly. These are such important lessons. ❤
Greetings ladies! I just found this channel a few days ago and have been binging ever since. This space is so beautiful and positive 💜. I’m a bit ignorant to some of the acronyms; but learning as I go. My dad is mixed raced race black and mom is fully black; I identify as black.
All of the women in my family have pretty and feminine privilege. All drop dead gorgeous. I'm so blessed.. even though we're all different shades of brown we've been blessed with youthful skin and good features. They're might be a little bit of jealousy between us but nothing serious. Becuz were all beautiful everytime we date someone new we end up having to keep our men away from each other because most men will openly make it clear how beautiful all the women in the family are 😅
Im Venezuelan and my mom has always been extra critical and Harsh about beauty for example if i didn't wear my earrings or hair a certain way wich always made me feel like i was ugly or not enough but as i grew up i realized that not everyone is blessed with beauty but u can definitly increase beauty by eating healthy, taking supplements and style+ jewelry (earrings) helps alot its ok to not be perfect sometimes beauty is like art it doesn't have to be the same as everyone elses this is why i cant stand the copy paste latina trend
Yeah, when I’m out with my mom, the hate is REAL! We both get done wrong by White women (not all) and UABW. I met a pretty privilege girl and we clicked immediately being free and lighthearted with each other. I haven’t seen her interact with the 2 UABW but one runs from me when she sees me and the other one is new and as soon as I walked up, she ignored me when she was suppose to service me at the gym. She immediately saw me and cut her eyes. They’re both nicer to my mom because she’s not in our age group but sometimes they can’t handle both of us coming. My mom gets done by her own fam too. Having a beautiful heart means nothing.
Yes!!! I remember being taught to go biannually to get fitted for new bras, going to the makeup counter to be color matched, my mom’s annual holiday trip to Estée Lauder for her perfume, how she always dressed elegantly for her lean, sharp body type and encouraged me to dress for my more flamboyant gamine body type. All the gardening she did so we ate fresh vegetables regularly and daily walks after dinner, working out at home. She did not know some perspective on pretty privilege from an AA view because she was white, so she would get me Ebony or Essence magazines and take me to the AA hair salon and beauty stores. Thanks mom! I miss you! Please keep talking about this topic! Would love detailed categories like perfume, makeup, etc. re PP in families.
This video is so good. I always loved the way my aunty and grandma look. We do not look like each other, nor do they look alike. And I did not notice my mom's beauty fully until 2014 or 2015. My mom is a cutie and a beauty. And aging gracefully.
I didn’t realise I was in these exact terms but in recent years when I realised I need to use what I have whilst I have it, I appreciated all the more these lessons they have passed on 💖
@@TheExoticBrownSkin idk if her daughter is envious of her(hopefully not), but people on the media is claiming that Bernice is competing with her daughter, but I personally don’t think that’s always the case.
Hi Exotical United. Please make a video of how bw are reacting to cooking with Kya. 😂 Bw are the most male-centered women, chile, and they get no advantages out of these relationships.
Really good topic, not seen anyone else cover it. Makes me realize how wonderful it’s been having a daughter to share beauty and hair knowledge and experiences with. I definitely have imparted that investing in this area for both of us is valuable. She’s my biggest fan and vice versa!
22mins and EU just gave me a flashback.....I was the girl warning others about tight braids + how hair dye and relaxer shouldnt be done in the same month.....I was giving hair tips yet not even a teenager = Damn I was a real hair nerd! I will say growing up with lots of women who are cooli + hair privilege due to professionals in my family was tough as we all had bad moments in a salon, so we ended up learning to do it ourselves - 1 of my aunts did fashion week hair styling before I was born... However my own family did put pressure on me to look good especially how I styled my hair - nobody with long hair was allowed to cut it short + I could not leave my home if my hair was messy so sometimes I was late for school 😂 I appreciate it now as some kids have dreadloc-braids + hair is super tangled and dry so they are often bullied more - I used to resent how everyone wanted me to look neat + perfect while the other girls looked like they just got of bed without combing it + sometimes it had fluff in the hair too...
This is very true I've experienced my mother having jealously towards me for having more privilege than she had growing up. She would call me her barbie doll because I was petite and she loved to keep me in dresses. A good example of pretty privilege mother would be Whitney Houston and Bobby Christiana. May they R.I.H. Whitney was beautiful and so was Christina but im sure she didnt recieve the same admiration he mother had ❦
My mother was absolutly beautiful younger but as she make some hard and sometimes bad choice, she has always feel like she could have another life, if only she didn't have us. And she absolutly resent us (especially her girls) for that. Actually, I definitly don't have beauty privilege and I have always feel like she was doing nothing to make me more beautiful, fashionable ect actually it was the opposite she resent me for .... my youth. Always wanted to make me less and underlying how ugly I was, always critized me ect. However, I saw what beauty privilege offered her : How men were willing to offer thing (sometimes even with her 5 children)
I learned about basic fem routines from my family but that's it. As for more feminine routines, I had the privilege of attending an all girls school in which they taught us more about fem hygiene, and we exchanged tips at times. Last but not least, I learned a lot from content creators and beauty influencers online.
It’s hilarious, whenever I show a light skinned woman on a thumbnail people get mad . But if it’s a pretty dark skinned woman no one gets mad 💀 UABW are still watching and following our space .
my dad’s side is pretty privileged (they chose terrible men), but on my mom’s side the didn’t have it and were jealous of me. as a little girl they acted funny about me playing with makeup, doing nails, and wearing shorts or lipstick and calling me grown. like why are you sxualizing a kid because you’re jealous ?
RUclips is unsubscribing people I noticed that too. They also paid me a day late so I’m assuming there’s some sort of glitch? Hopefully it goes back up
My mom always told me people would be jealous and it was actually white women. My daddy is multi racial and I look like him alot. I attracted a lot of white boys and the white girls didn't like that. There was a white girl that said, "But you're black." (I thought we were friends) when I was sharing one of the boys that liked me and he was white. There were some black girls that would always say I was lighter and that's why but yea that's an experience I had.😊
EU, other examples are Iman and her eldest daughter Zukeka and Christie Brinkley and her eldest daughter Alexa. These were the saddest and triumphant. They overcame and now have better relationships.
Yes Alexa looks like her dad and her younger siblings looks like their mother christie. I hate that Alexa had plastic surgery to look beautiful when she was pretty the way she was.
I wasn’t raised by my mother, my dad’s mother and sisters raised me and they were colorist and featurisms. My sister is darker yet she didn’t get the same smoke as I did from my grandmother and aunts.
Sometimes I just look at pretty women and I already feel better. Being around beautiful women is healing in itself.
OMG, yesss!!! I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels that way ✨✨✨✨
My mother’s pretty privilege is the reason why I was able to have access to education, beauty, social status, and connections to higher power like law wise.
@@bougiepeaches5497 aw that’s amazing !
As a Mom of littles please dont stop putting yourself first. I got to be over 200lbs in my marriage because I was eating what he was eating and lost all discipline. I used to be a size 7 and 140lbs before I met my husband and had children. I workout now as soon as they get dropped off at school or even in the evenings. I'm a savage with it, I'll pretend I'm just going to the bathroom and I will sneak in a 30min aerobic workout in my bedroom or bathroom. As a Mom you have to get it where you can. I've lost over 20lbs now but still a long way to go.
My mother was jealous of me - always blocking my blessings and doing anything to stop me from living my life and being free - her biggest trigger was me dressing up and doing my makeup, she would always try to start fights with me before I left the house, it was so draining to be around and then when people were around she’d try to show me off like “look at my daughters hair! Look her nails are real” then be jealous at the time same it’s so stressful
i know what you mean
Same here
I can so relate to this. My mother loved to brag on me but at the same time would sabotage opportunities for me. And I’m talking Hollywood level opportunities. I’ll never forgive that
I wish @ExoticalsUnited would do a video on Tina Turner and her mum....I think they looked similar so it might not have been beauty wars but Tina was often mentally abused by her mum - nothing worse than having a parent lower your self esteem daily even when you are famous.
Her mum never saw the privilege of being a mum to Tina Turner = I guess she wished she had the boldness and talent of her daughter Tina....we don't talk enough about the stress of being talented + attractive!
These validation vampires will trash their own families....
This
Love this topic!! My mom has is the most beautiful woman Ive ever seen. I look nothing like her but Im attractive in my own way and my mom leaned into that. I grew in to my looks and style and now I have a gorgeous daughter!! I can pass down style tips and beautiful tips Ive learned form my mother.
We all look very different, very different skin, hair, height and body but all similar in our feminine privilege ( and pretty privilege).
Beautiful radiants from with in and is brightened by the love we receive. Love each and stay beautiful. God bless 🙏🏽
I'm so glad you were able to pass down what you learned from your mom!
I had to start having this conversation with my daughter last year when she was in 4th grade. I am biracial, black and My daughter is also half black and half white because her father is black and white. So we have the exact same hair texture and she is more fair than I am and that causes her a lot of problems, especially with the brown skin and dark skin girls at school. I feel grateful to be able to teach her about why she's treated a certain way. I think it is important because it is easy to internalize it and think that it is you or your personality that people don't like when it's really they are jealous of your looks. I always try to make sure she loves herself.
I love hearing about generational beauty!
My mother fed me processed foods while eating salads and cut my hair coconut bowl short because she couldn’t be bothered with brushing my long hair. So since “my 4th grade self didn’t want to do the hair brushing myself” she took the easy road and made me ugly. I instantly got bullied viciously in 5th grade. I still haven’t forgiven her for this type of neglect. She always kept herself pretty but was too lazy to work against a child’s pushback to eat vegetables and have their hair brushed daily. We have a good relationship now but I’m still resentful.
“we have a good relationship now but im still resentful” i relate to this so much.. makes me feel like a terrible daughter sometimes. i hope you’re healing well even if it’s slowly. 🤍
I wasn’t raised by my mother but my grandmother. She taught me the importance of feminine privilege and also she would tell me things of how people would pay for my hair, Skintone, and facial features (curly hair, bronze skin, full lips). I think this is considered teaching pretty privilege. 😭as she allowed me to see my “strengths” ??!?
@@xluvkay yes, same! The women in my family also emphasized how hygiene was a fun part of the beauty process (like the yummy smelling body sprays and deodorants, etc)
@ YASSS I LOVE THIS 🥹❤️my grandma is UABW and she never had inferior complex she loved all shades and was able to see the beauty in everyone!!! That definitely trickled down onto me and I’m so grateful for that.
My mom was and is truly feminine and pretty. She always dressed us pretty, and hair was always done. Bonnets were restricted outside the house. Anything that looked bad was out. We ALWAYS had to wear dresses. We even learned to play the piano. My Grandma couldn't stand my mom and her daughters. Don't get me wrong, grandma was so pretty, but she was so fixated on seeing my mom fail.. I used to beat myself up, trying to find out why. When I became an adult, I got my answers. It's all about pretty privilege. What didn't kill us made, my sisters and I stronger. That's totally one of the reasons how we're now able to navigate the world a bit better.
Omg this subject is one of the reasons I feel a genuine closeness to you. No one can relate to my lived experiences like the things you speak about. Can you expand on exotical mother's and unambiguous daughters relationships. ♥️
Yes. It's sad that society is this way and I don't like to admit it. But I used my pretty privilege to benefit my son a lot. I used my 'charm' with his school principal, his teachers, doctors, neighbors, the church. But I had to do what I had to do as a single mum. I'm glad he benefited and that his childhood quality of life was enhanced in little ways here and there. He's older now and has grown into a delightful young man.
Aw that’s amazing
My mother was a bombshell when she was young. My parents always tell the story of how they met - he walked into a hardware store where she was working and saw her and was too scared to talk to her but thought she was so beautiful he kept coming to the store like everyday for six months. Eventually the owner was like "When are you going to give Mr. ____ some play?". She was oblivious because so many guys liked her and the owner was like "come on no one needs that many wrenches!" 😅 After like a year he worked up the nerve to ask her on a date and the rest is history. 😂
The Kardashians (black looking) daughters will face this.🤔
Racial identity issues are hard burden to carry. I wish them the best.
The Kardashian’s children are literally all mixed and look mixed/biracial. It doesn’t have anything to do with strictly skin color. They will have their own benefits in society still.
Literally was telling my adopted mom this…my mom was beautiful and was chased I’m sure she wouldve been better to equip me fr the world bc the way I was attacked was wild and I never assumed people were jealous of me or hated me I assumed I was always the problem.
My mother’s mother (my grandmother) was a victim of being pretty privileged but in an oppressive environment in her marital home where she was punished for her beauty and social power instead. As a result not only does my mother encourage me to be beautiful (I looks alot like my grandma) , but she’s also put me on game about how most of the people around us,as beautiful women, aren’t gonna be our well-wishers. I do feel like I’m in a fortunate environment social-climbing wise. My father is also very supportive of my social climbing because he works in a position where he regularly meets top dog men and he sees their world and their lives regularly, and wants me to live that type of life too.
I really love having been raised by a mother that is experienced with pretty privilege. My mother is a DSBW but she is one that provides a safe space for me to share all of my experiences I’ve had with her demographic lol. She knows I’m not lying or exaggerating and understands what I’m talking about. She never invalidates my experiences by saying I “just think I’m all that” or “no one is jealous/worried about LS women”. Because being as though she has experienced the downside of pretty privilege also and she isn’t a hater, she would never shut down my experience. Love her.
Girl yes! My mom has is a dark skin black woman and she has pretty privilege and thin privilege (she’s 5’0 and 100 pounds ). I came out looking like my mixed dad but she never invalidated my experiences because she went though the same shit with her privileges.
I love how you’re putting more Indian women in your videos. Thank you!!! Because I am of that phenotype where I am Indian but people tell me I looked mixed all the time.
Yes! I’m trying to make sure to use multicultural images especially because a lot of the women here are mixed with people of those cultures ! 😍
Omg I'm mixed but I get told I look Indian ❤
@@SoothingNatureClips me too, especially when i wear a nose ring
My mom and auntie are some of the most fashionable people I know. They were trendsetters in the 80s and 90s and they had so many stories of scornful women trying to infiltrate them financially, spiritually, and physically. My mom swears they started the trend of dipping braids, wearing weaves and extensions, beaded hairs, etc in Miami back in the day.
Even today my mom had so many fresh and fun ideas for her looks. I'm even trying to find a magazine they were featured in in the 80s (I took to reddit but we can't seem to dig it up)
I really admire them for that because a lot of the standards they've put in place I've took and ran with and made even better.
Shout out to lineages who prioritize pretty privilege!!!
The women on my mom’s side are DSBW who are pretty and thin privileged . Then my dad’s side is pretty privileged curvy Mixed/ creole women . I came out looking like my dad’s mixed heritage but it was nice to have a UAB mom who understood pretty privilege and wasn’t intimidated by colorism 😊 (I know a lot of UAB women jealous of their exotical daughters). She never once invalidated my experiences because she experienced a lot of BS too in the workplace/school for being pretty . My mom was actually the first person to warn me that some kids might be jealous of how I look .
Nice
Bet you're beautiful but that's just sad that they would get jealous because of that. The blacker the berry the sweeter the juice.
Love that you are using so many Somali women in traditional clothing in your photos ❤😍
Yes this is a multicultural safe space so I’m trying to include eve try culture in my images to remind you guys of your family members ! 😍
Enjoying your work and this space you’ve created. 💕
I appreciate that! 💕
My mom taught me that in order for your perfume to last all day you have to spray it in the base of your hair in the back of your neck. It’d be smelling good for days ❤
I was definitely on the end of my mom not knowing how to teach me to dress due to different body types. She did other things for me. I was a debutante, but she did not know how to do much else. I did have to learn a lot on my own. Luckily I learned some skills from RUclips and listening to my doctor's advice to pass on to my own daughters. I also think some women don't know to pass on these skills not understanding a lot of stuff has to be explicitly taught and explained.
Yes, maybe I should do an episode about the wound of having a bad communicator as your mother
Can you please do a video about the importance of developing healthy emotional regulation skills? 😊
@@Ohsnapitzann yes
My mom’s (we’re Mexican but very pale so, colorism in the Mexican community applies) pretty privilege got us a lot of opportunities, meals paid for free, or other free stuff, works for herself and makes really good tips and loyal clients. I’ve heard “Wow your mom is so pretty-you look nothing like her!” Or something around those lines growing up more times than I can count. Only in the more recent years that I lost weight and started dressing better/doing my make up are people telling me I look more like her. Double edged sword ig
Raised by a femcel mom I didn’t really have effective beauty routines until after college when I got my first job and credit card.
same
This was a uniquely insightful look into the more intrinsic and heritable aspects of beauty; namely the celebration and perpetuation of beauty standards! Good one😊
I was the opposite , I got belted and scolded for being pretty . I remember n to getting invites to weddings birthdays and said I think I am beautiful
This video made me realize that I was all of this with my younger sisters and niece, even my friends. I was raised by a jealous femcel, though, so it took me ages to even realize that I had pretty privilege all along!
same. my dad’s side is pretty. i actually do look like them but darker
I learned pretty privilege in the white community tbh. No black woman back in the day wanted to teach me, but white and Hispanic women and girls taught me along with reading Seventeen magazine articles on hygiene.
Omg I remember seventeen magazine !
@@ExoticalsUnited right. I even subscribed to their magazine even in my 30s even their website. Now with Pinterest and RUclips and the glo up era in 2014 my whole routine changed
My mother is a smoke show 🔥😌 always turn heads and get stares 😏 I always say It’s a real flex to have a beautiful mother 💖 I come from a long line of beautiful Creole women 💖
Beige don’t age! 😝 Creole women age soooo beautifully
I totally agree!. My late mother was drop dead gorgeous, slim,petite (5ft 4) knew what to wear to assentuate her features wether that be makeup/clothes etc etc and took good care of her VERY long hair(waist length). She turned heads when out with my little brother. Men fancied her, other women envied her!😂.
She had us very young(19 & 20) and never looked busted!.
I saw what my mother did and copied/ put my own spin on what works for me. I also look very similar to her so I could replicate some of the styles.
I'm taller than she was (5ft 8) my brother(6ft 3)we got our hieght from our dad's(6ft 6) side.
Pretty women should be careful procreating with ugly men. Those traits may just show up in our offspring!.🎤😏
my daughters dad is definitely not as conventionally attractive as I am, but my gorgeous genes win every time. She’s the perfect mix of us both. The features she got from me makes people stop & gush at how pretty we both are all the time 😊 id argue that some men that aren’t as attractive as we are make the best dads because they aren’t in competition with us. They just want to make money, be a dad, and give us a soft life because we’re the apple of their eye 🤭
My feminine privilege is being skinny. I love it. My pretty privilege is I look younger than 47yrs old.
I wish my mom was taking care of herself. I had to teach myself all of that. I love her though but it was hard
as a creole girl with a creole mom who denefits from pretty privilege a lot, i definitely agree with what you said about people’s perception of us. many lightskinned creole women were brought up being really privileged, which is why people stereotype us as being stuck up or “bougie”. when i was in elementary school i remember her telling me that some girls would be jealous of me and to only be friends with other pretty girls lol
It’s so fun growing up with a pretty privilege mom and grandma and being able to play in everything they had.
Awesome topic! My mother & sisters are mls women that has many privileges when it comes to beauty and intelligence. Though my mother had many privileges growing up in her late teens early twenties; she also went through a lot as well. I think her paranoia over beauty and the power it brings has been effecting me since I was younger. She never let me wear my hair down & dressed me in over sized clothing unless occasions. I never doubted her judgement though… thanks for the video EU! 🙌🏾✨
I've never seen this topic being covered before. This video made me realize and reflect on just how blessed I am to have had both of my grandmothers, my mom, my aunts and cousins who were pretty privileged. They freely shared valuable information with me ever since childhood. Now, I'm paying it forward with my younger sisters, nieces, and younger cousins.
Yes. A lot of women don’t realize it’s a privilege to come from generations of pretty privileged women who give you beauty tips
You were so blessed to have such an amazing mother. She did a great job.❤️ Honestly, I wish my mother was like this.
My mother and I look nothing alike complexion wise. That didn’t stop her. I learned to take care of my skin, my hair, my nails, my face, my clothes, my spirit, and my home. Even my aunties (her sisters of various rainbow brown) taught me their beauty secrets cuz each was a little different in their own way.
I’m still receiving the benefits of that today and I’ve adjusted my care accordingly. These are such important lessons. ❤
Definitely! I see a lot of daughters that are not trauma bonded
with their mothers.
Greetings ladies! I just found this channel a few days ago and have been binging ever since. This space is so beautiful and positive 💜. I’m a bit ignorant to some of the acronyms; but learning as I go.
My dad is mixed raced race black and mom is fully black; I identify as black.
All of the women in my family have pretty and feminine privilege. All drop dead gorgeous. I'm so blessed.. even though we're all different shades of brown we've been blessed with youthful skin and good features. They're might be a little bit of jealousy between us but nothing serious. Becuz were all beautiful everytime we date someone new we end up having to keep our men away from each other because most men will openly make it clear how beautiful all the women in the family are 😅
Im Venezuelan and my mom has always been extra critical and Harsh about beauty for example if i didn't wear my earrings or hair a certain way wich always made me feel like i was ugly or not enough but as i grew up i realized that not everyone is blessed with beauty but u can definitly increase beauty by eating healthy, taking supplements and style+ jewelry (earrings) helps alot its ok to not be perfect sometimes beauty is like art it doesn't have to be the same as everyone elses this is why i cant stand the copy paste latina trend
Excellent topic! 💃🏻 Thank you Exoticals United!
Thanks for watching ! Let me know what you wanna see next
Yeah, when I’m out with my mom, the hate is REAL! We both get done wrong by White women (not all) and UABW. I met a pretty privilege girl and we clicked immediately being free and lighthearted with each other. I haven’t seen her interact with the 2 UABW but one runs from me when she sees me and the other one is new and as soon as I walked up, she ignored me when she was suppose to service me at the gym. She immediately saw me and cut her eyes. They’re both nicer to my mom because she’s not in our age group but sometimes they can’t handle both of us coming. My mom gets done by her own fam too. Having a beautiful heart means nothing.
Yes!!! I remember being taught to go biannually to get fitted for new bras, going to the makeup counter to be color matched, my mom’s annual holiday trip to Estée Lauder for her perfume, how she always dressed elegantly for her lean, sharp body type and encouraged me to dress for my more flamboyant gamine body type. All the gardening she did so we ate fresh vegetables regularly and daily walks after dinner, working out at home. She did not know some perspective on pretty privilege from an AA view because she was white, so she would get me Ebony or Essence magazines and take me to the AA hair salon and beauty stores. Thanks mom! I miss you!
Please keep talking about this topic! Would love detailed categories like perfume, makeup, etc. re PP in families.
This video is so good. I always loved the way my aunty and grandma look. We do not look like each other, nor do they look alike. And I did not notice my mom's beauty fully until 2014 or 2015. My mom is a cutie and a beauty. And aging gracefully.
It’s always nice to look back and see how pretty and lovely your mom really is ❤️
I didn’t realise I was in these exact terms but in recent years when I realised I need to use what I have whilst I have it, I appreciated all the more these lessons they have passed on 💖
Look at Bernice Burgos for example. Every time her daughter dates someone, they would try to hit on her mother.
Yesssss
@@TheExoticBrownSkin idk if her daughter is envious of her(hopefully not), but people on the media is claiming that Bernice is competing with her daughter, but I personally don’t think that’s always the case.
Hi Exotical United.
Please make a video of how bw are reacting to cooking with Kya. 😂
Bw are the most male-centered women, chile, and they get no advantages out of these relationships.
No talent bw angry at a pretty bw that can cook. I just wish she would leave the twerking out of it
Really good topic, not seen anyone else cover it. Makes me realize how wonderful it’s been having a daughter to share beauty and hair knowledge and experiences with. I definitely have imparted that investing in this area for both of us is valuable. She’s my biggest fan and vice versa!
When I think about a pretty privileged mother and daughter is Alejandra Jackson and Genevieve Jackson
22mins and EU just gave me a flashback.....I was the girl warning others about tight braids + how hair dye and relaxer shouldnt be done in the same month.....I was giving hair tips yet not even a teenager = Damn I was a real hair nerd!
I will say growing up with lots of women who are cooli + hair privilege due to professionals in my family was tough as we all had bad moments in a salon, so we ended up learning to do it ourselves - 1 of my aunts did fashion week hair styling before I was born...
However my own family did put pressure on me to look good especially how I styled my hair - nobody with long hair was allowed to cut it short + I could not leave my home if my hair was messy so sometimes I was late for school 😂 I appreciate it now as some kids have dreadloc-braids + hair is super tangled and dry so they are often bullied more - I used to resent how everyone wanted me to look neat + perfect while the other girls looked like they just got of bed without combing it + sometimes it had fluff in the hair too...
This is very true I've experienced my mother having jealously towards me for having more privilege than she had growing up. She would call me her barbie doll because I was petite and she loved to keep me in dresses. A good example of pretty privilege mother would be Whitney Houston and Bobby Christiana. May they R.I.H. Whitney was beautiful and so was Christina but im sure she didnt recieve the same admiration he mother had ❦
My mother was absolutly beautiful younger but as she make some hard and sometimes bad choice, she has always feel like she could have another life, if only she didn't have us. And she absolutly resent us (especially her girls) for that.
Actually, I definitly don't have beauty privilege and I have always feel like she was doing nothing to make me more beautiful, fashionable ect actually it was the opposite she resent me for .... my youth. Always wanted to make me less and underlying how ugly I was, always critized me ect. However, I saw what beauty privilege offered her : How men were willing to offer thing (sometimes even with her 5 children)
This is completely off topic but I think a great topic would be uabw obsession with ice spice weight loss 👀👀
I learned about basic fem routines from my family but that's it.
As for more feminine routines, I had the privilege of attending an all girls school in which they taught us more about fem hygiene, and we exchanged tips at times.
Last but not least, I learned a lot from content creators and beauty influencers online.
Only experience this under sweet aunties and relatives😢😢 its better with them than my mother
My mothers side of the family🥰
Such a pretty thumbnail
It’s hilarious, whenever I show a light skinned woman on a thumbnail people get mad . But if it’s a pretty dark skinned woman no one gets mad 💀 UABW are still watching and following our space .
@@ExoticalsUnited😂😂 Oh bother. Why am I not surprised?? Let the pretty people in the thumbnails pretty in peace, lol.
I'm so early! First
The girl in the thumbnail reminds me of myself 🥰
You’re pretty ! 🤩
@@ExoticalsUnitedaww thank you EU 🥹💕
Omg I raised my sisters that way!
I have a Middle Eastern background and I was blessed with doe eyes and thick eyebrows. I do have 4type hair.
my dad’s side is pretty privileged (they chose terrible men), but on my mom’s side the didn’t have it and were jealous of me. as a little girl they acted funny about me playing with makeup, doing nails, and wearing shorts or lipstick and calling me grown. like why are you sxualizing a kid because you’re jealous ?
Am I tweaking or did this channel have 30k+ a few days ago? How did the count go down?
RUclips is unsubscribing people I noticed that too. They also paid me a day late so I’m assuming there’s some sort of glitch? Hopefully it goes back up
Who's the girl in the thumbnail?
A random girl from Pinterest
My mom always told me people would be jealous and it was actually white women. My daddy is multi racial and I look like him alot. I attracted a lot of white boys and the white girls didn't like that. There was a white girl that said, "But you're black." (I thought we were friends) when I was sharing one of the boys that liked me and he was white. There were some black girls that would always say I was lighter and that's why but yea that's an experience I had.😊
EU, other examples are Iman and her eldest daughter Zukeka and Christie Brinkley and her eldest daughter Alexa. These were the saddest and triumphant. They overcame and now have better relationships.
Yes Alexa looks like her dad and her younger siblings looks like their mother christie. I hate that Alexa had plastic surgery to look beautiful when she was pretty the way she was.
@angieang26 The surgery was due to "mommy issues" and a near suicide attempt.
1:10 There are daughters who are jealous of their mothers.
I wasn’t raised by my mother, my dad’s mother and sisters raised me and they were colorist and featurisms. My sister is darker yet she didn’t get the same smoke as I did from my grandmother and aunts.
💕❤💕❤💕❤💕❤
Yes daughters can be jealous
LOVE the images in this video!