Respect, you got to earn it. Not saying you should disrespect some stranger you know nothing about but if you are known by the person and they still don't respect you just leave and find someone that will and be respectful.
Remember: if you like someone you talk to them. If you don’t like someone, you don’t spend time around them. People who go out of their way to bother you, they are jealous of who you are.
People discussed this in feminism meetings. They were called feminazis and lesbians. None of this is new. It’s just that straight women have finally realized their life is worth more than 🍆 🤷🏾♀️
Future self decision: not having children with the wrong man because everybody does it. It's tough and you may never have them, but define "family" and "nest" for you.
That’s a tough one I think the same as you and is heartbreaking at the same time, but I respect my unreal children enough to give him/her loving parents.
The woman in the middle is brainwashed and has clearly never suffered abuse. Abuse victims are not “allowing” their situation and rolling around in the mud with an abuser. Leaving is extremely complicated and victims need support. Not more disrespect.
Well, I can speak from experience, you most definitely do allow people do disrespect you especially in subtle ways that go unnoticed. You are right, abuse victims need support, and nobody deserves to be disrespected. However, it is up to the abused themselves to recognize their worth, leave the situation or to set boundaries. The whole world can tell someone to leave a toxic relationship, or other circumstances, but the victim has to take it upon themselves to do that and understand that they deserve better. As abuse victims, we do not deserve disrespect, but a lot of us tend to tolerate it, or better yet, we don't even realize it's happening in the moment. It's pretty shocking to realize the fact that a lot of people will disrespect you if you allow it, that's why at times you have to hold yourself accountable for letting things slide or not realizing them in the first place, then take it as a lesson and incorporate those lessons in your next relationships. Nobody can make you recognize your worth more than you can!
@@fallynshaye This is definitely true, but there are extenuating circumstances, the most obvious of which is being a child. Another is trafficking victims. It is, overall, a really insensitive thing to say, even if it is true for some.
I don’t need to please someone just because they’re giving me resources, that aid is coming from god. I am not misusing the aid. I would pay back each penny one day. I don’t need to abandon myself, or seek their love or stop being authentic, stop wearing my favorite clothes, stop eating what I like. Or stop sharing my opinions. Just so I can make space in their heart. That’s what I tell myself while I am temporarily living under the roof provided by my brother, who constantly judges me for everything; my simple clothes, how I eat food, what food I take from their pantry, my opinions (while me being a complete sober simple person in every possible way) my feelings. I feel so suffocated with him, but I have a few months before I leave this place. But I realized I can’t stop being my authentic self just to maintain peace and keep them keep liking me, i feel so lonely among all these people,, my hyper sensitive self can’t deal with all the coldness. I also blame it on my projection; i keep asking myself if these people came to my house, I’d be so warm and welcoming, I’d let them be. And I’d given them everything to feel at home. But then I realize they’re not me, I am not them. I can’t be a cold hearted person to my own family.
I am sorry, I understand you. I once had to live for a month to someone. Grateful for making a place for me and feeding me, but couldn't wait to get out for all the reasons you described. I felt so free when I left.
Self respect is worth that solitude. You may find yourself down to a couple of true blue friends, but those are the ones you want in your space. It took me a long while to figure all of that out. Self care is important and self respect and confidence is very healthy. The real ones in your life will get that and respect it
I’m happy I saw this video, but I’m kind of sad because it’s making me realize there is really nobody in my life that respects me and I mean that in the smallest way possible, for example ignoring my text messages when I have extreme anxiety that hurts to know, but at least I’m starting the year off right getting this information like she said you have to respect yourself first so translation to me that means keep your promises to yourself. If you say you’re gonna do something promise yourself you’re gonna do it treat yourself like your own best friend and you won’t need anybody else’s loyalty because you will have loyalty within yourself 😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤❤
I went through this for years . Just stop. Don’t message anyone except mom, dad and gma . You’ll see that they were never thinking about you fr . Give that to yourself
@@francesjeanlouis9285using "🤡" doesn't make their statement less relevant, and you are not proving your point by just quoting someone else. In conclusion you have no point.
13:00 I learned that forgiveness is important. Forgiveness does not mean to stay with a toxic partner and allow them to disrespect you over and over again. It means that you forgive what a person did to you so you can move on with your life and don’t think about the bad things too much.
Started keto again 9 days ago. Making little self cate decisions every day. After 5 days my persistent Achilles heel pain stopped. Feel better. Self worth has been my jam for a couple of years now and so so much has changed for the better. Little momentary steps become huge changes, even when you hit walls coz you can chill, learn and pivot in a hot minute. This is after 40 years of loathing. If I cam do, so can you xx
Father God I know you will make a way for us all. As a single mother I feel so alone. Lord I know my faith will get me through my hardships I’ve been facing with my sons as a single mother. Both of are special needs and require much from me. Lord I’m trusting your plan so as I struggle financially to provide for my children give me strength and you grace.💕
If you’re an overthinker/catastrophizer/perfectionist, I sometimes say “that’s a problem for future Rose to figure out lol” and it doesn’t come to fruition so that’s fun.
I prefer they should hate me than to be something am not to get "liked " it sucks to be them because am confident and mentally strong and they're not. Kiss yourself 😊. Respect isn't given its earned. I choose my peace as a single mom with 2 kids and my son has SCD they're my priority more than any man or relationship. My last relationship was my last hope and didn't work out so I choose my peace
I’m happy I saw this video, but I’m kind of sad because it’s making me realize there is really nobody in my life that respects me and I mean that in the smallest way possible, for example ignoring my text messages when I have extreme anxiety that hurts to know, but at least I’m starting the year off right getting this information like she said you have to respect yourself first so translation to me that means keep your promises to yourself. If you say you’re gonna do something promise yourself you’re gonna do it treat yourself like your own best friend and you won’t need anybody else’s loyalty because you will have loyalty within yourself another way I think will show people how to respect to is getting in shape now I’m a little thick as well right but I noticed in toxic relationships. You kind of see the couples are not physically in shape shape. They’re not healthy so imagine you’re not being healthy to yourself so how can you be around people who are healthy for you if that makes sense 😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤❤
I don’t have friends , I’ve heard that I have nipple rings by men bc I refuse to sleep with other men ( I don’t but thanks for for the idea). And hmm I like being alone . I love it , nobody tells me what or who I am
@@Chommikenya The first part of the caption is the focus of the entire video. There's no discussion as to "why people hate self-respect". The reason can be implied (people hate what they cannot control). But, the topic as to why people hate self-respect wasn't actually touched on in the video. Great video, otherwise. New sub.
Some people aren't talking to you because they owe you an apology
Yes!
Yep!
Oh yes! Shame will do that.
I used to think it’s because they’re better than me
@abigaillopez1410 girl me too. I was such an idiot
Having self respect and NOT settling. Not settling in friendship, work pay and romance.
"Respect is NOT 'earned', it's demanded by your own example"
- Me 😊
Happy New Year everyone!! 🎉🥂
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Respect, you got to earn it. Not saying you should disrespect some stranger you know nothing about but if you are known by the person and they still don't respect you just leave and find someone that will and be respectful.
Yes at 33 I'm learning having self respect means not tolerating disrespect from others. So it's definitely gotten real quiet around here.
Yes very peaceful 😌
so cool I'm 15 trying to improve on myself hehe
@ouswah.143 16 here,still feel like i lived here for a long time wanting better things for myself
Had a traumatic upbringing im working on this.
Remember: if you like someone you talk to them. If you don’t like someone, you don’t spend time around them. People who go out of their way to bother you, they are jealous of who you are.
I am 37.
Where was this video 25+ years ago?
We needed this.
This!!!
Same. This is the water my younger self needed to hydrate with.
People discussed this in feminism meetings. They were called feminazis and lesbians. None of this is new. It’s just that straight women have finally realized their life is worth more than 🍆 🤷🏾♀️
Same ❤ I just want to grow and learn now so I can teach the next generation young women ❤
Same here luv, I’ll be 37 in August and I damn sure could’ve used this video in my teens 😢
Future self decision: not having children with the wrong man because everybody does it. It's tough and you may never have them, but define "family" and "nest" for you.
That’s a tough one I think the same as you and is heartbreaking at the same time, but I respect my unreal children enough to give him/her loving parents.
The woman in the middle is brainwashed and has clearly never suffered abuse. Abuse victims are not “allowing” their situation and rolling around in the mud with an abuser. Leaving is extremely complicated and victims need support. Not more disrespect.
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Well, I can speak from experience, you most definitely do allow people do disrespect you especially in subtle ways that go unnoticed. You are right, abuse victims need support, and nobody deserves to be disrespected. However, it is up to the abused themselves to recognize their worth, leave the situation or to set boundaries. The whole world can tell someone to leave a toxic relationship, or other circumstances, but the victim has to take it upon themselves to do that and understand that they deserve better. As abuse victims, we do not deserve disrespect, but a lot of us tend to tolerate it, or better yet, we don't even realize it's happening in the moment. It's pretty shocking to realize the fact that a lot of people will disrespect you if you allow it, that's why at times you have to hold yourself accountable for letting things slide or not realizing them in the first place, then take it as a lesson and incorporate those lessons in your next relationships. Nobody can make you recognize your worth more than you can!
“it’s pretty shocking to realize the fact that a lot of people will disrespect you if you allow it” ^^^ yes !
@@fallynshaye This is definitely true, but there are extenuating circumstances, the most obvious of which is being a child. Another is trafficking victims. It is, overall, a really insensitive thing to say, even if it is true for some.
Leaving is complicated and they do need support AND they allow it. All are true.
You deserve to be with people who appreciate and value you. Letting go is a way of honoring your own worth. ❤
I don’t need to please someone just because they’re giving me resources, that aid is coming from god. I am not misusing the aid. I would pay back each penny one day. I don’t need to abandon myself, or seek their love or stop being authentic, stop wearing my favorite clothes, stop eating what I like. Or stop sharing my opinions. Just so I can make space in their heart. That’s what I tell myself while I am temporarily living under the roof provided by my brother, who constantly judges me for everything; my simple clothes, how I eat food, what food I take from their pantry, my opinions (while me being a complete sober simple person in every possible way) my feelings. I feel so suffocated with him, but I have a few months before I leave this place. But I realized I can’t stop being my authentic self just to maintain peace and keep them keep liking me, i feel so lonely among all these people,, my hyper sensitive self can’t deal with all the coldness. I also blame it on my projection; i keep asking myself if these people came to my house, I’d be so warm and welcoming, I’d let them be. And I’d given them everything to feel at home. But then I realize they’re not me, I am not them. I can’t be a cold hearted person to my own family.
I am sorry, I understand you. I once had to live for a month to someone. Grateful for making a place for me and feeding me, but couldn't wait to get out for all the reasons you described. I felt so free when I left.
Self respect is worth that solitude. You may find yourself down to a couple of true blue friends, but those are the ones you want in your space. It took me a long while to figure all of that out. Self care is important and self respect and confidence is very healthy. The real ones in your life will get that and respect it
I’m happy I saw this video, but I’m kind of sad because it’s making me realize there is really nobody in my life that respects me and I mean that in the smallest way possible, for example ignoring my text messages when I have extreme anxiety that hurts to know, but at least I’m starting the year off right getting this information like she said you have to respect yourself first so translation to me that means keep your promises to yourself. If you say you’re gonna do something promise yourself you’re gonna do it treat yourself like your own best friend and you won’t need anybody else’s loyalty because you will have loyalty within yourself 😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤❤
And that's when they'll respect you ❤
I went through this for years . Just stop. Don’t message anyone except mom, dad and gma . You’ll see that they were never thinking about you fr . Give that to yourself
self-awareness truly is lonely, that’s the way i feel it at least. but i believe it’s getting better later on, when you find your people!
I love your comment. You've got this Sweetheart ❤🎉
Respect is solely how you conduct yourself, mannerisms count!
Mannerisms really has nothing to do with respect u just have to check ppl at the door right away
@TwoPrettyRedDimes "Put the crack pipe down before hitting the send button!"🤡
@@francesjeanlouis9285using "🤡" doesn't make their statement less relevant, and you are not proving your point by just quoting someone else. In conclusion you have no point.
@kiko_tango7203 And my response to you is 🤡🤡🤡🤡🤡!
Yes, your mannerisms are a big part of it. I rarely need to "check" anyone because the way I carry myself immediately garners respect.
EXAAAAAACTLYYYYYY! Valuing myself is lonely! BUT SELF-RESPECT IS TOTALLY WORTH IT!!!!
If you're going to make a list and ditch anyone who screws up, prepare to be alone. There are no perfect people.
All these ladies are absolutely divine,
Wow! The self love exercise is so powerful. Started to tear up just watching ❤ 17:40
The girl in yellow spoke volumes ✨
13:00 I learned that forgiveness is important. Forgiveness does not mean to stay with a toxic partner and allow them to disrespect you over and over again. It means that you forgive what a person did to you so you can move on with your life and don’t think about the bad things too much.
0:22 this video changed my mindset so fast
This is the most wonderful compilation!❤
Thank you for watching! ❤️
Started keto again 9 days ago. Making little self cate decisions every day. After 5 days my persistent Achilles heel pain stopped. Feel better. Self worth has been my jam for a couple of years now and so so much has changed for the better. Little momentary steps become huge changes, even when you hit walls coz you can chill, learn and pivot in a hot minute. This is after 40 years of loathing. If I cam do, so can you xx
"I was created by god and god does not make rubbish" ❤❤
Что по поводу моего бывшего??😂😂
This is a really good compilation!
Glad you loved it 💝
Thank you for watching ❤️
That first one tho. 😂 fr fr fr
Right!!🤣
20:35 I love this lady too 🙏 you can tell she’s speaking from experience
Wowwww one of the best videos I’ve ever watched 😍💕💕💕
Father God I know you will make a way for us all. As a single mother I feel so alone. Lord I know my faith will get me through my hardships I’ve been facing with my sons as a single mother. Both of are special needs and require much from me. Lord I’m trusting your plan so as I struggle financially to provide for my children give me strength and you grace.💕
Amen ❤
If you’re an overthinker/catastrophizer/perfectionist, I sometimes say “that’s a problem for future Rose to figure out lol” and it doesn’t come to fruition so that’s fun.
I often emotionally abuse myself. I can't stop saying negative things about myself.
I LOVED the last Women, omg I wish I can meet her, she has a queen presence.
I prefer they should hate me than to be something am not to get "liked " it sucks to be them because am confident and mentally strong and they're not. Kiss yourself 😊. Respect isn't given its earned. I choose my peace as a single mom with 2 kids and my son has SCD they're my priority more than any man or relationship. My last relationship was my last hope and didn't work out so I choose my peace
The peace was really your best and last resort.
Love this, thank you for compiling and sharing
I’m happy I saw this video, but I’m kind of sad because it’s making me realize there is really nobody in my life that respects me and I mean that in the smallest way possible, for example ignoring my text messages when I have extreme anxiety that hurts to know, but at least I’m starting the year off right getting this information like she said you have to respect yourself first so translation to me that means keep your promises to yourself. If you say you’re gonna do something promise yourself you’re gonna do it treat yourself like your own best friend and you won’t need anybody else’s loyalty because you will have loyalty within yourself another way I think will show people how to respect to is getting in shape now I’m a little thick as well right but I noticed in toxic relationships. You kind of see the couples are not physically in shape shape. They’re not healthy so imagine you’re not being healthy to yourself so how can you be around people who are healthy for you if that makes sense 😢😢😢❤❤❤❤❤❤
Love it all and especially the last lady.
17:39 this lady rly resonates with me 💯
Love it!!!!!!!!❤❤❤❤❤ Great points.
I'm incompatible with a whole lot of people 😂😂😂 and you know what I am very content with myself so byyyyye you can miss me with the bullshit !!!
People stay away from people like you cause they know you know who you are and what you’re about. Don’t ever change! ❤
@@yourmum202-p1u it took me a while to get it and I'm so grateful I did, it's really peaceful here ❤😘
SAME!!! And if they hate me for no reason i make sure i give them a reason!
Truer words haven’t been spoken
Second girl nailed it!
I don’t have friends , I’ve heard that I have nipple rings by men bc I refuse to sleep with other men ( I don’t but thanks for for the idea). And hmm I like being alone . I love it , nobody tells me what or who I am
Can we talk about how mean people are to us pretty girls ):
17:40 personal bookmark
thank you ❤
The caption on the thumbnail is correct?
Yes why?
@@Chommikenya The first part of the caption is the focus of the entire video. There's no discussion as to "why people hate self-respect". The reason can be implied (people hate what they cannot control). But, the topic as to why people hate self-respect wasn't actually touched on in the video. Great video, otherwise. New sub.
Girl this whole video is for the baby mamas. No one else, lets be real.
Wtf 😂😂😂
I have no kids though, so it’s good for us girls who have shitty friends or family even though we are the ones without kids lol
So many gems!💎💎💎whew!🥵
Nice points
this is a mix of new age stuff
Gotta make sure your not creating Monstra when your are done being Sue. #thesubstance
06:52 yesss I will be doing
7:19 💯
Amen 🎉
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Yeah don’t stare into the mirror for five 5 mins 😂
I feel like 1 min is enough.
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