I wish I could show this to my father. He's making all of these mistakes with my mother. This video is a blueprint of their troubled relationship. As always, you nailed this info... Thanks!
im starting to realization im a fucking catch. she's the one thats told me that over the years. always worried about all the girls that show me attention some have been aggressive in front of her. she knows where im at im not dating and i won't be. she will be the one losing. sure i really want her but i cant force her
it is amazing how the patterns repeat themselves in all women. It is almost like a cookie recipe. We broke up and she is saying exactly the same things "I'm confused, not sure we should be doing this, i need more time to thing about"....exact words my ex said. I made all the mistakes you have mention. Love you brother
Dang... I blew my chances the first week by doing exactly what you said what not to do... Back to square one and better myself. Thanks for this invaluable content.
Your technique turned my relationship around in 1 day. Unfortunately the next day I went back to my old ways and blew the progress that I made. And she thought maybe I wasn't sincere about the positive effects.
Dan you are the man. The only relationship coach a man should listen to. All the other 'experts' on RUclips take a passive approach with the no contact bs and a 'love me as I am' approach. You are teaching men that they need to man up, grow some balls and take matters into their own hands. In essence you are teaching us to grow emotionally and embrace our inner masculine nature. Our inherent nature to provide, protect and embrace; all in a loving but confident manner. You are teaching men to stop looking at all the petty problems and to be more rounded, grounded and forward thinking. I have an enormous respect for your work and that calm independent confidence you talk about oozes through the way you present yourself. In my situation, the breakup was a mutual desision initiated by me. You don't mention this kind of circumstance in your videos, Neither do you mention a situation where the man broke up with his partner and wants to get back. Nonetheless, I believe that, how, the break up took place is not important. The important thing is understanding why it happened and how to quickly take action to resolve past issues and create the future desired. I'd like to know if you agree.
Wow, Dan, your tips are great, I can't believe this, why have I found your videos only now? They're pure gold! They have just opened my eyes in such a clear (and yet painful) way... I've noticed I've made sooo many of those mistakes. And worse: she once even mentioned one of them explicitly and I simply dismissed it as an exaggeration! We haven't officially broken up, but there's only a very thin string sticking us together and I'm so afraid it might burst anytime now... She said she doesn't me love as much as she used to, and that she's even feeling in love with a guy who she liked 11 years ago back when she was starting college (and mind you, that guy is gay, he doesn't want anything with her...), but that she was willing to give me a second chance. And yet I made all the same mistakes I was doing previously, how can I be so dumb? Now I know I have to work up on my confidence and stop being that cringey over-jealous guy I had been being, always asking for reassurance... but I don't know how to start in more concrete way... she's currently visiting her family in another country, she's supposed to come back in two weeks, but I'm starting to fear she'll just say "sorry, not going back anymore"... I hope she will and then I have to act in a whole different way. Thank you for your tips!
great advice unfortunately I started researching after I made all the mistakes possible during and after the breakup just the first 5 minutes would have saved me, cheers mate
My situation is extremely different, my girlfriend broke up w me because she said she just wanted to be alone, out of nowhere it seems but stuff like that doesn’t happen over night, she doesn’t love me anymore, she also blocked my number and social media, it was my fault because I panicked and blew up her phone, I need help getting her back, it seems impossible rn, I would appreciate the help Dan, I love this girl so much and I want her back so bad.
Thanks Dan. Jeez mate you speak so much truth. My woman broke up with me about 5 months ago because I was emotionally absent. I spent the first month begging and pleading and promising change but got nowhere. Now I've discovered your videos and have left her alone, created space and am not making any contact. Meanwhile, I am working hard on making myself a better man in every way, physically, mentally and emotionally. Given time, I hope to get her back. But I'm going to be smart about it and move slowly and carefully and confidently. Thank you!
My temptation was to write down how I feel for her - but now I'm going to take it slow by actions rather than words. I hope your advice is right as I'm pinning the rest of my life on it!
I’m so confident to do all this and I really want to I’ve watched all your ex videos and I just want her back but I gotta give her at least a week of space because I was being needy
Emotional Openness, Emotional Maturity. Dont be desperate. Create Romantic Love Feelings. Be aware of her turn offs, through words, behaviours and actions that stem from the inside
I think the problem for me (and many men) is that women are so different in how they are turned on and how they fall in love and we tend to naturally think that what we would want is what they would too. A friend of mine who is still beautiful in her 50's gets asked out regularly and receives proposals of marriage at least once or twice a year, but I don't know a single good looking man who is told they are good looking/beautiful by women or receives marriage proposals or told by a woman that she is wealthy and she will look after him and he need never work again. Seems a bit unfair, don't you think?
Damn that last part killed me listening to how not to answer if you still love her. I literally got asked that a month ago and went with the emotional answer because it sucked having it burried in me and things were starting to get better but now I feel like I really messed up seeing this video. Hopefully it’s not too late after that
I understand now...hearing you say that sappy stuff sounded terrible!! Haha....im so glad i ran into ur videos...i almost lost her..no i have a chance to be someone she hasnt seen yet!! Gracias...
In short, what I get is that any guy who even remotely tries to place himself in a woman's mind by assuming all that she wants is 100% niceguy stuff, and the guy then acts this out all the time, you get no respect. No respect is the worst outcome.
Yes, because by doing that, a guy is putting her in the position of power and hoping to be selected and approved of by her. Women don't want that. A woman wants a man who makes her feel the kind of respect and attraction that causes her to want to impress him and be nice to him. If a guy does that and is also a good guy, women love him.
Hello Dan, I've just stumbled upon your video's and I really like the information i'm getting from them. Currently my wife has filed for divorce, we've been together for almost 11 years (5 married). Have 3 beautiful kids, (3.6 yo Son and 1.8 yo twin daughters). Will watch all your video's and hopefully will be able to win her back. Thanks for doing this!
Hi Dan, my ex told me that she doesn’t love me anymore and she says she is happier now without me... What can i do?? I am really desperate and i really love her
My fiancee and I already broke up once, and got back together. This time she broke up with me, and I was doing everything wrong to get her back... I don't know if this is going to work, but I will make a shot.. hopefully, get it right.
Hi Dan, she broke up with me a week ago after 2 years, saying she loves me as a person but she's not feeling the same anymore. And ironicly she's been crying for 3 days?....I said take your time and don't worry after some minutes of arguing and being emotional. What should I do now...I'm confused?
hey maan.....r u serious..u speaking everything what happened in my relationship break up..she was never ready to tell me what's wrong with me . but she told she is not getting what she intent 😑😑 . uff everything u telling is the reason she gone away😍 thank you. iam gonna try her back.
For whatever shit she gives you that could offend you, add 'I feel like' and 'right now' to her words in your mind. This is key to understanding a woman. Her feelings are like a lense through which she sees her reality. Without proper emotion regulation, emotions can fuse with the sense of self. Don't take it personal or too seriously, it often isn't. You can have control over that outcome. You got this.
She was unsure if I'm the guy she wants to have in her future and said that she doesn't have feelings for me anymore. I did some stuff for her an she did to, to me. A lot has happened but I did became clingy, extremely jealous, overthinking and became insecure. This is not just the reason why she broke up with me, there's a lot of reasons why but this is *definitely* one of them. It's all clear to me. My mistakes and everything that I should and shouldn't have done. All of it is clear to me now and I regret everything. *IF* by any random chance you're reading this Love, I'm sorry for everything. I really am. And I'll try to change actually I am trying for a few weeks now. I *REALLY* love you and I hope we get back together. 😊
Dan, my ex and I broke up a few months ago and I'm not over it yet. We were dating for 5 months and she decided to dump me out of nowhere because we became distant and didn't talk as much as we did. After the break up we didn't talk at all for the first 2 months, but then I convince her to hang out and she accepts. After that she would text me every few days to hang out late at night. We even made out one of those nights. She then told me she's been talking to someone else, she is now dating this guy. She claimed that she thought we were just friends. We haven't really talked as much ever since she started dating this guy. I still have strong feelings for her and I'm wondering what steps I need to take to get her back. Thanks! Btw ur videos are amazing I feel like ur advice is the most accurate on the web!
Hey Dan, I have a situation. I've been flowing the advice on your RUclips videos for a few weeks now, and I have had fantastic results, up until this week. 02/09/2018 our house burned down. We lost everything. Luckily we all are alive. But everything I was doing came unraveled and I fell back into my old habits. Tonight we got into a fight about our past. She says she's done. She doesn't want me to leave because she doesn't want to break up the family. She says she still loves me but love alone isn't enough. I agree that our relationship failed, and that I really messed it up. Things were just starting to get back to a good note. How do i get back on track? Or is it too late now?
literally what you say happened to me I was overly attentive and I think he lost respect for me I will literally make my life and if I come back with it or not I will be more in my life
It feels like you are directly talking to me. My girlfriend broke up with me after 2 years relationship because I was too insecure and think that every guy she talk to flirt with her. I become to controlling and even had a fight where I snatch her mobile from her. I fucked up big times and I like most guys tried to talk to her and get her back and she blocked me from everywhere. We are in same university and same class. Yesterday when she came I was looking at her all the time and even stood outside canteen when she was with her new male friend. I tried to talk to her later and this made things worst. I just can't understand how to get over this insecurities that I have. And who I start talking to her when she doesn't want to talk to me. I've analysis and know what pushed her away and I'm changing things in myself but how I try to communicate with her when she is with her new friend? Help. Advice.
She blocked me and found someone but tells me shes not happy idk what to do i. This situation i try to ask her back but then i hear shes is getting a divorce it just hurts in ways i just cant control anymore
Hi so ive been with this girl for about a year buy only been serious and in love with each for about 6 months as took it slow in beginning. About 2 weeks ago she started having doubts after returning from holiday together. She feels conflicted and going backwards with her anxiety as is worried when i start to overthink or go quiet and is walking on eggshells that whatever says is taken wrong way as ive always been a bit of a worrier. After being away from each other for a week she contacted to meet and talk and seemed like we were back to normal as she said she loved me and doesnt think she could ever let me go as im the only guy shes been with where can be herself and im really great. A week later she ended it as never got over how she felt with being conflicted. Shes says she is frustrated as she knows she wants me and to be with me but after asking her she doesnt know that she loves me as is quite stressed out and depresses with work college etc. After another week i rang her to see if we could meet to talk this weekend and try work it out and get to the root of whats causing everything. I really love her and know we are compatible and deep down she feels the same but is just confused and really want her back. What do I do or say or act when meet at weekend to make her want to feel that she loves me and be with me for long haul. Thanks
She was conflicted because you weren't giving her the kind of attraction experience she really wanted (e.g. you may have been too nice, but she wants a guy who is a bit more ballsy). These two videos will help you: ruclips.net/video/MMIY68d_KCM/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/GRJaUX2PRz4/видео.html
thanks for that if that is the case am bit unsure to rekindle that attraction if her love has fade due to me not giving type of attraction she wanted. It seems her mind is made up and nothing o say or do can change that regardless of stay confident and emotionally strong when meet her to talk things out and hopefully get back together as she says she misses me and km all she can think about. The first video is more to do when in a relationship but she has already broken up with me so i dont see how that helps in this, only when in a relationship.
Yeah, I did everything wrong and lost a gorgeous 10. Now I see how I was being to needy and thought that that would be romantic to her. I screwed up the best thing I ever had.
This is a master's guide here. Knowing what a woman responds to IS the answer. The NC coaches are peddling false hope....even if they use terms like Alpha...pfft, please.
All the stuff you say in the video is nice and all, but how do we show her? How do I get her to talk to me when 1 of every 2 things she says is "don't text me please". In order to do all these, I need to be able to communicate with her but she just keeps pushing me away. We had multiple breakups and I am aware that the attraction is gone at the moment. But instead of crying and begging her to come back like I did the times before this, I just to be able to sit down and have a positive and calm conversation. I know that if we somehow get to that point, where we don't talk about the relationship for a while, and we are able to just sit down and have a coffee without talking about all the stuff that happened, then I will be able to create that attraction again. But she just keeps pushing me away, even though she still has all her communication ways open for me and she even still has a picture of us on her instagram. I just don't understand and don't know what to do, because seeing tgat picture still being there gives me hope. But then again, this is not our first break up, and she just keeps saying this was the last time. So, I dont know, what do I do.
I eish o saw yhis earlier. I did almost all of these wrong plus i pressure and pleaded plus i kicked her out during relationship plus i spoke to her brother and her about my suicidal thoughts. Its too late. She doesnt wanna see me and blocked me everywhere. She is hsving fun now. With or without other guys. I am also gonna give her some valentine gifts ehile ee broke up 2 months ago.
Oke so my girl dumped me about a month ago now, I'm slowly trying to show her I've changed (before I was a bit emotionally dependant on her, because I was going through some stuff) but when is the right time to meet up again and how can i ensure she won't feel like I'm depending on her a lot? Greetings from the Netherlands
Another fact, before she broke up she didn't really know what she felt anymore, she was deciding if she should break up, she was crying a lot here. We stayed together. One month later she still broke up and gave me a last kiss. Hope that you can help me
Why do we make all the wrong moves first, and then learn how to do it right?! Dan really seems to have it all figured out. I’m pretty sure that that blockbuster movie starring Mel Gibson where he could hear what women think was based on Dan Bacon’s life! 😂
Dan, my ex and I have many mutual friends. We don't hate each other, rather she told me she "can't help but feel annoyed with me." It's just her emotions. Whatever I do or say, she'll feel that way. She made it clear that she won't invite me to events she plans with our friends (she's the planner in our circle of friends). It hurts, but in the meantime I'm using this time to focus on myself, improving my self esteem and confidence, and learn to take initiative to plan events. How long should I keep giving her space before I try to reconcile things? Should I not talk to her and only to our mutual friends in a conversation, or just simply say hi with a positive attitude when we meet each other at a friend's gathering? Thank you!
Hi Dan, I have reconnected with my ex but I am in the friendzone. She lives 4 hours away by plane from me. Can you please make a video about long distance breakup?
When should someone give up? We’ve been doing great but now we’ve leveled off. No movement forwards or backwards which makes me think that she’s not willing to move forward from here. Is she testing me?
Hey I need your help. I asked our my crush and she said yes and she seemed very happy that I asked her out. However, for some reason she told me that she didn't wanna go out with me or start anything. I am not sure what happened and I am very confused. She also told me that she liked me since the day we first met. What should I do next? I would appreciate it very very much if you help me out here. Please! ☹
dan.... how to not be look desperate while approaching my ex...how to not be like that...i hope you can do a video about that...i guess that topic help me to get a connection again to her...she cut off contact on me and she block me on social media....i dont know...whay should i do??...
Hey Dan my ex and I broke a month ago. After a 3week NC period I texted her couple of times during Christmas holidays and gone really well. Before breaking up we used to sit next to me on the bus when we were going to school and she did it again this week but every day she comes and sits next to me she is always in a bad mood and seems sad and when I ask her how was your day she says that's it's pretty bad.i really don't know what to do should I pursue her plz tell me
Currently struggling with mine right now. She's thinking about leaving. We've been together 3 years in 2 days. I love her so much and want her so bad.. any help like this really helping
She said doesn't love me anymore but wants to keep living together. She even offered to move to a smaller space toegther as our current ladnlord wants to terminate the lease earlier to sell the house. Since the break she wants to spend time with me, seems more happy, joking etc. I don't if I should apply the no contact rules, find a new place for me or keep everything casual and still live with her?
we are getting along better than we have in years. She still wont commit to being in a romantic relationship again. Since I have changed so much, I feel I have pregressed to the point of just saying fuck it. how long would you wait for her to change her mind? simple question Dan, do I give up on her or stick it out? Can't live together like this forever. what would you do mate?
This will help you: ruclips.net/video/t48pGR7fO7A/видео.html If you need more help, watch this: www.themodernman.com/blog/get-your-ex-back-super-system-download-watch-online.html Jim - you've made a lot of progress with my free videos. My actual program is 20x more powerful.
Dan, I hooked up with my ex a week ago after a phone call. since then we have been texting regularly, but she doesn't want to have phone calls and she doesn't want to meet up. She is also nervous about talking to me about things on her mind. She told me that she is worried it can make things complicated. what should I do if she doesn't want to meet up or have a phone call. Texting isn't going to get me anywhere i don't think...
In that case, you need to use other techniques to make her feel like she is losing you. Watch this for more info: www.themodernman.com/blog/get-your-ex-back-super-system-download-watch-online.html
Dan we never officially were in a relationship, but we were seeing and sleeping together for 5 months. An argument occurred because other people were getting involved and it resulted in her blocking me on everything. Its been a week of no contact but yesterday she decided to unblock me on Instagram but i'm still blocked on Facebook etc.. what could this mean? should i wait for her too reach out? No idea what to do !
She's checking up on you. She wants to see if you're moving on without her. If you feel ready to contact her and re-attract her on a call, then go for it. If you need help to get ready to re-attract her, watch this: www.themodernman.com/blog/get-your-ex-back-super-system-download-watch-online.html
Thanks for the reply Dan, only problem is Instagram is my only platform to communicate as i'm blocked on other sources! Also she was a really shy girl when i met her so a call, even if i could, probably wouldn't have worked.
Wish i had seen this yesterday. Sent her a message this morning that i was done cause she didnt give me any clearness and then she said lets just be friends. Eventho im sure she was into me. Should have waited with saying it untill she actually admitted to it.
Can this advice be used for a lesbian couple, Dan? How do you re-attract someone if the communication is minimal and extremely emotional. So how do you get to the point of attraction without being too pushy?
Hi everyone. My wife became scared of me because of my anger episodes every two months. I never directed the anger at my wife and it wasn't her that caused the anger but I was just venting my frustrations over certain events. But it scared my wife. She says she doesn't feel the same about me anymore and we are currently living apart. I am getting my behaviour professionally addressed. What approach should I take with my wife because I love her and want to spend my life with her. Many thanks, Tom
Feeling down I came across your video. Your video has been very informative and opened up my eyes. One of the key subjects you touched up on is having the lack of confidence. I truly believe building on strengthening your confidence will help with the jealousy, controlling, emotional sensitivity and neediness which I have experienced. I am off to building my confidence and hoping for a positive outcome. Thank you..... :o)
Hey Dan, it's nice to know that an expert like you make videos for us to understand this ex back things. I want to ask a question. My girl dumped me since she had to move to work on a different city & I'm too much a jealous man that she know it's not gonna work when she meet a bunch of new friends in that city. Yes i used to be so jealous, but i can fix it slowly i just need the chance. But she just decided & blocked me everywhere and telling me to move on. Whatever media i tried to contact her ended up blocked & didnt get any response. I've been giving her space for like a week, and i'm confused how to contact her without getting ignored & blocked again. And im afraid for taking time to long will make her moved on. Help me Dan.
Dan, something I've noticed about my ex is that whenever we talk about how our lives are going she's not afraid to tell me how stressed out she is and that she basically sits at home and does nothing and has not put any effort into "moving on" even though she's the one who broke up with me. What could this mean? Cheers!
shes having a hard time moving on how hard is that to figure out.. its good for you.. just keep doing what your doing but be cautious and dont bring up any old problems or she will come to the conclusion and say oh wait thats why i broke up with you.
listen Dan i need your help , i became to emotionaly sensitive and insecure with my ex and we were arguing a lot and she give me more than one chance to get things better but back then i didnt see your video. Now its been a couple day we talk and the way we stop this was cold. Now she seems to hate me and wants nothing to do about me. Is it to late to get her back ?? or i still have chance
Dan i seen my ex after 3 months acter badly ruining our relationship by exposing her to her family after her dumping me. She ignored me when she seen me but as she walked up the stairs i said “oi u didnt even say hi to me” and laughed as i walked down. What do i do now and what is she thinkin
I just HATE that I found your videos AFTER I did all the shit that I shouldn’t have done lmaoooo now I’m trying to climb an even steeper cliff lol
I wish I could show this to my father. He's making all of these mistakes with my mother. This video is a blueprint of their troubled relationship. As always, you nailed this info... Thanks!
this guy is the best dating/relationship advisor out there.
The 8 subtle turn off points really wakes me up Dan!
This guy is break-up restoration guru. His perspective is totally different from other coaches. Very clever.
I wish I had watched you six months ago. It might have saved my 18 year marriage. I've been focussing on all the wrong things in life
im starting to realization im a fucking catch. she's the one thats told me that over the years. always worried about all the girls that show me attention some have been aggressive in front of her. she knows where im at im not dating and i won't be. she will be the one losing. sure i really want her but i cant force her
it is amazing how the patterns repeat themselves in all women. It is almost like a cookie recipe. We broke up and she is saying exactly the same things "I'm confused, not sure we should be doing this, i need more time to thing about"....exact words my ex said. I made all the mistakes you have mention. Love you brother
I have been approaching this all wrong according to you. This may be the best advice I’ve ever come across.
Dang... I blew my chances the first week by doing exactly what you said what not to do... Back to square one and better myself. Thanks for this invaluable content.
I am going through a divorce right now. I wish I had seen this video last week.
Bro whenever im depressed i watch your videos and man do they work so well!!
Your so right bro. I wrote a long epistle about how much u mean to me and so and so. Just to have it rubbed in my face.
Your technique turned my relationship around in 1 day. Unfortunately the next day I went back to my old ways and blew the progress that I made. And she thought maybe I wasn't sincere about the positive effects.
Dan you are the man. The only relationship coach a man should listen to.
All the other 'experts' on RUclips take a passive approach with the no contact bs and a 'love me as I am' approach.
You are teaching men that they need to man up, grow some balls and take matters into their own hands.
In essence you are teaching us to grow emotionally and embrace our inner masculine nature. Our inherent nature to provide, protect and embrace; all in a loving but confident manner.
You are teaching men to stop looking at all the petty problems and to be more rounded, grounded and forward thinking.
I have an enormous respect for your work and that calm independent confidence you talk about oozes through the way you present yourself.
In my situation, the breakup was a mutual desision initiated by me. You don't mention this kind of circumstance in your videos, Neither do you mention a situation where the man broke up with his partner and wants to get back.
Nonetheless, I believe that, how, the break up took place is not important. The important thing is understanding why it happened and how to quickly take action to resolve past issues and create the future desired. I'd like to know if you agree.
Now I’m wondering if it’s too late for me after pouring my heart out to her 3 days ago.. all I can do is try these tips now, thanks Dan!
Wow, Dan, your tips are great, I can't believe this, why have I found your videos only now? They're pure gold! They have just opened my eyes in such a clear (and yet painful) way... I've noticed I've made sooo many of those mistakes. And worse: she once even mentioned one of them explicitly and I simply dismissed it as an exaggeration!
We haven't officially broken up, but there's only a very thin string sticking us together and I'm so afraid it might burst anytime now...
She said she doesn't me love as much as she used to, and that she's even feeling in love with a guy who she liked 11 years ago back when she was starting college (and mind you, that guy is gay, he doesn't want anything with her...), but that she was willing to give me a second chance. And yet I made all the same mistakes I was doing previously, how can I be so dumb?
Now I know I have to work up on my confidence and stop being that cringey over-jealous guy I had been being, always asking for reassurance... but I don't know how to start in more concrete way... she's currently visiting her family in another country, she's supposed to come back in two weeks, but I'm starting to fear she'll just say "sorry, not going back anymore"... I hope she will and then I have to act in a whole different way.
Thank you for your tips!
This video is a frickin goldmine! Thanks Dan!
great advice unfortunately I started researching after I made all the mistakes possible during and after the breakup just the first 5 minutes would have saved me, cheers mate
Thanks for this lovely video... It saved my relationship... Thanks
My situation is extremely different, my girlfriend broke up w me because she said she just wanted to be alone, out of nowhere it seems but stuff like that doesn’t happen over night, she doesn’t love me anymore, she also blocked my number and social media, it was my fault because I panicked and blew up her phone, I need help getting her back, it seems impossible rn, I would appreciate the help Dan, I love this girl so much and I want her back so bad.
Thanks Dan. Jeez mate you speak so much truth. My woman broke up with me about 5 months ago because I was emotionally absent. I spent the first month begging and pleading and promising change but got nowhere. Now I've discovered your videos and have left her alone, created space and am not making any contact. Meanwhile, I am working hard on making myself a better man in every way, physically, mentally and emotionally. Given time, I hope to get her back. But I'm going to be smart about it and move slowly and carefully and confidently. Thank you!
I needed to watch this video yesterday mate. I barely touched the Bad side but i dont know how to Bring it back
My temptation was to write down how I feel for her - but now I'm going to take it slow by actions rather than words. I hope your advice is right as I'm pinning the rest of my life on it!
Damn I really wish I had watched this a week ago
I’m so confident to do all this and I really want to I’ve watched all your ex videos and I just want her back but I gotta give her at least a week of space because I was being needy
Emotional Openness, Emotional Maturity. Dont be desperate. Create Romantic Love Feelings. Be aware of her turn offs, through words, behaviours and actions that stem from the inside
I think the problem for me (and many men) is that women are so different in how they are turned on and how they fall in love and we tend to naturally think that what we would want is what they would too. A friend of mine who is still beautiful in her 50's gets asked out regularly and receives proposals of marriage at least once or twice a year, but I don't know a single good looking man who is told they are good looking/beautiful by women or receives marriage proposals or told by a woman that she is wealthy and she will look after him and he need never work again. Seems a bit unfair, don't you think?
Damn that last part killed me listening to how not to answer if you still love her. I literally got asked that a month ago and went with the emotional answer because it sucked having it burried in me and things were starting to get better but now I feel like I really messed up seeing this video. Hopefully it’s not too late after that
This IS GOLD! Thanks man!
I understand now...hearing you say that sappy stuff sounded terrible!! Haha....im so glad i ran into ur videos...i almost lost her..no i have a chance to be someone she hasnt seen yet!! Gracias...
In short, what I get is that any guy who even remotely tries to place himself in a woman's mind by assuming all that she wants is 100% niceguy stuff, and the guy then acts this out all the time, you get no respect. No respect is the worst outcome.
Yes, because by doing that, a guy is putting her in the position of power and hoping to be selected and approved of by her. Women don't want that. A woman wants a man who makes her feel the kind of respect and attraction that causes her to want to impress him and be nice to him. If a guy does that and is also a good guy, women love him.
I have done all the wrong things. I hope i can still pull it out of the bag .
Hello Dan, I've just stumbled upon your video's and I really like the information i'm getting from them. Currently my wife has filed for divorce, we've been together for almost 11 years (5 married). Have 3 beautiful kids, (3.6 yo Son and 1.8 yo twin daughters). Will watch all your video's and hopefully will be able to win her back. Thanks for doing this!
i m glad i found you on time before its all over now lets see what happens applying all of this knowledge
Hi Dan, my ex told me that she doesn’t love me anymore and she says she is happier now without me... What can i do?? I am really desperate and i really love her
My fiancee and I already broke up once, and got back together. This time she broke up with me, and I was doing everything wrong to get her back... I don't know if this is going to work, but I will make a shot.. hopefully, get it right.
How to get back a girl that says she loves me, but isn't in love with me?
You are a really good wit you knowledge man is work so great thanks
Thanks!
Question: If you were not committed enough to your Ex, what way would you suggest to "level up"?
I swear this guy is a Godsend. Thank you soooo much
Hi Dan, she broke up with me a week ago after 2 years, saying she loves me as a person but she's not feeling the same anymore. And ironicly she's been crying for 3 days?....I said take your time and don't worry after some minutes of arguing and being emotional. What should I do now...I'm confused?
hey maan.....r u serious..u speaking everything what happened in my relationship break up..she was never ready to tell me what's wrong with me . but she told she is not getting what she intent 😑😑 . uff everything u telling is the reason she gone away😍 thank you. iam gonna try her back.
Wish me luck y’all about to start a difficult battle
For whatever shit she gives you that could offend you, add 'I feel like' and 'right now' to her words in your mind. This is key to understanding a woman. Her feelings are like a lense through which she sees her reality. Without proper emotion regulation, emotions can fuse with the sense of self. Don't take it personal or too seriously, it often isn't.
You can have control over that outcome. You got this.
She was unsure if I'm the guy she wants to have in her future and said that she doesn't have feelings for me anymore. I did some stuff for her an she did to, to me. A lot has happened but I did became clingy, extremely jealous, overthinking and became insecure. This is not just the reason why she broke up with me, there's a lot of reasons why but this is *definitely* one of them.
It's all clear to me. My mistakes and everything that I should and shouldn't have done. All of it is clear to me now and I regret everything.
*IF* by any random chance you're reading this Love, I'm sorry for everything. I really am. And I'll try to change actually I am trying for a few weeks now. I *REALLY* love you and I hope we get back together. 😊
Dan, my ex and I broke up a few months ago and I'm not over it yet. We were dating for 5 months and she decided to dump me out of nowhere because we became distant and didn't talk as much as we did. After the break up we didn't talk at all for the first 2 months, but then I convince her to hang out and she accepts. After that she would text me every few days to hang out late at night. We even made out one of those nights. She then told me she's been talking to someone else, she is now dating this guy. She claimed that she thought we were just friends. We haven't really talked as much ever since she started dating this guy. I still have strong feelings for her and I'm wondering what steps I need to take to get her back. Thanks!
Btw ur videos are amazing I feel like ur advice is the most accurate on the web!
Just released this video, which will really help you: ruclips.net/video/t48pGR7fO7A/видео.html
Dan Bacon I've watched the video about the friendzone but the main thing is that she has a boyfriend, do I have still have a shot?
Hey Dan, I have a situation. I've been flowing the advice on your RUclips videos for a few weeks now, and I have had fantastic results, up until this week. 02/09/2018 our house burned down. We lost everything. Luckily we all are alive. But everything I was doing came unraveled and I fell back into my old habits. Tonight we got into a fight about our past. She says she's done. She doesn't want me to leave because she doesn't want to break up the family. She says she still loves me but love alone isn't enough. I agree that our relationship failed, and that I really messed it up. Things were just starting to get back to a good note. How do i get back on track? Or is it too late now?
Now I know what mistakes I did in the pass
literally what you say happened to me
I was overly attentive and I think he lost respect for me
I will literally make my life and if I come back with it or not I will be more in my life
Man it seems like you read me like a book! 🤦♂️ I can't thank you enough!
Dude ... wish I knew all this 25years ago
Great video, Dan I'm going to start applying the principles on this video.
It feels like you are directly talking to me. My girlfriend broke up with me after 2 years relationship because I was too insecure and think that every guy she talk to flirt with her. I become to controlling and even had a fight where I snatch her mobile from her. I fucked up big times and I like most guys tried to talk to her and get her back and she blocked me from everywhere. We are in same university and same class. Yesterday when she came I was looking at her all the time and even stood outside canteen when she was with her new male friend. I tried to talk to her later and this made things worst. I just can't understand how to get over this insecurities that I have. And who I start talking to her when she doesn't want to talk to me. I've analysis and know what pushed her away and I'm changing things in myself but how I try to communicate with her when she is with her new friend? Help. Advice.
She blocked me and found someone but tells me shes not happy idk what to do i. This situation i try to ask her back but then i hear shes is getting a divorce it just hurts in ways i just cant control anymore
Hi so ive been with this girl for about a year buy only been serious and in love with each for about 6 months as took it slow in beginning. About 2 weeks ago she started having doubts after returning from holiday together. She feels conflicted and going backwards with her anxiety as is worried when i start to overthink or go quiet and is walking on eggshells that whatever says is taken wrong way as ive always been a bit of a worrier. After being away from each other for a week she contacted to meet and talk and seemed like we were back to normal as she said she loved me and doesnt think she could ever let me go as im the only guy shes been with where can be herself and im really great. A week later she ended it as never got over how she felt with being conflicted. Shes says she is frustrated as she knows she wants me and to be with me but after asking her she doesnt know that she loves me as is quite stressed out and depresses with work college etc. After another week i rang her to see if we could meet to talk this weekend and try work it out and get to the root of whats causing everything. I really love her and know we are compatible and deep down she feels the same but is just confused and really want her back. What do I do or say or act when meet at weekend to make her want to feel that she loves me and be with me for long haul. Thanks
She was conflicted because you weren't giving her the kind of attraction experience she really wanted (e.g. you may have been too nice, but she wants a guy who is a bit more ballsy). These two videos will help you: ruclips.net/video/MMIY68d_KCM/видео.html and ruclips.net/video/GRJaUX2PRz4/видео.html
thanks for that if that is the case am bit unsure to rekindle that attraction if her love has fade due to me not giving type of attraction she wanted. It seems her mind is made up and nothing o say or do can change that regardless of stay confident and emotionally strong when meet her to talk things out and hopefully get back together as she says she misses me and km all she can think about. The first video is more to do when in a relationship but she has already broken up with me so i dont see how that helps in this, only when in a relationship.
If she starts unliking all of instagram phptos and unfollows you does that mean that there is no chance of ever getting her back
Great video. I love your view on things. I feel more confident watching your videos
Can telling a girl she is a b**** worth breaking up . even is he was drunk?
Yeah, I did everything wrong and lost a gorgeous 10. Now I see how I was being to needy and thought that that would be romantic to her. I screwed up the best thing I ever had.
This is a master's guide here. Knowing what a woman responds to IS the answer.
The NC coaches are peddling false hope....even if they use terms like Alpha...pfft, please.
All the stuff you say in the video is nice and all, but how do we show her? How do I get her to talk to me when 1 of every 2 things she says is "don't text me please". In order to do all these, I need to be able to communicate with her but she just keeps pushing me away. We had multiple breakups and I am aware that the attraction is gone at the moment. But instead of crying and begging her to come back like I did the times before this, I just to be able to sit down and have a positive and calm conversation. I know that if we somehow get to that point, where we don't talk about the relationship for a while, and we are able to just sit down and have a coffee without talking about all the stuff that happened, then I will be able to create that attraction again. But she just keeps pushing me away, even though she still has all her communication ways open for me and she even still has a picture of us on her instagram.
I just don't understand and don't know what to do, because seeing tgat picture still being there gives me hope. But then again, this is not our first break up, and she just keeps saying this was the last time. So, I dont know, what do I do.
Hi, can you please tell me what it means when she say , you have my heart?
I eish o saw yhis earlier. I did almost all of these wrong plus i pressure and pleaded plus i kicked her out during relationship plus i spoke to her brother and her about my suicidal thoughts. Its too late. She doesnt wanna see me and blocked me everywhere. She is hsving fun now. With or without other guys. I am also gonna give her some valentine gifts ehile ee broke up 2 months ago.
Oke so my girl dumped me about a month ago now, I'm slowly trying to show her I've changed (before I was a bit emotionally dependant on her, because I was going through some stuff) but when is the right time to meet up again and how can i ensure she won't feel like I'm depending on her a lot?
Greetings from the Netherlands
Another fact, before she broke up she didn't really know what she felt anymore, she was deciding if she should break up, she was crying a lot here. We stayed together. One month later she still broke up and gave me a last kiss. Hope that you can help me
I need your help. How do I contact you?
Why do we make all the wrong moves first, and then learn how to do it right?! Dan really seems to have it all figured out. I’m pretty sure that that blockbuster movie starring Mel Gibson where he could hear what women think was based on Dan Bacon’s life! 😂
Hey Dan Bacon...I think all this method just work out...thank you so much for teaching me little bit in life 💯 YOURE THE BEST
#Magic
You're welcome. Thank you!
Will be trying this, ill update next week.
Dan, my ex and I have many mutual friends. We don't hate each other, rather she told me she "can't help but feel annoyed with me." It's just her emotions. Whatever I do or say, she'll feel that way. She made it clear that she won't invite me to events she plans with our friends (she's the planner in our circle of friends). It hurts, but in the meantime I'm using this time to focus on myself, improving my self esteem and confidence, and learn to take initiative to plan events. How long should I keep giving her space before I try to reconcile things? Should I not talk to her and only to our mutual friends in a conversation, or just simply say hi with a positive attitude when we meet each other at a friend's gathering? Thank you!
Sounds like you're in the friend zone with her. Watch this: ruclips.net/video/t48pGR7fO7A/видео.html
Dan Bacon thank you Dan! I'll watch the video and apply tips from the your friend one video.
Hi Dan, I have reconnected with my ex but I am in the friendzone. She lives 4 hours away by plane from me. Can you please make a video about long distance breakup?
I've just released this video, which will help you: ruclips.net/video/t48pGR7fO7A/видео.html
When should someone give up? We’ve been doing great but now we’ve leveled off. No movement forwards or backwards which makes me think that she’s not willing to move forward from here. Is she testing me?
Great advice. Just in time.
Hey I need your help. I asked our my crush and she said yes and she seemed very happy that I asked her out. However, for some reason she told me that she didn't wanna go out with me or start anything. I am not sure what happened and I am very confused. She also told me that she liked me since the day we first met. What should I do next? I would appreciate it very very much if you help me out here. Please! ☹
dan.... how to not be look desperate while approaching my ex...how to not be like that...i hope you can do a video about that...i guess that topic help me to get a connection again to her...she cut off contact on me and she block me on social media....i dont know...whay should i do??...
I've done everything wrong up to this point. I can't believe I fucked up so royally
What if we already break up cause of many times of my mistake how to regain her trust ? help
Hey Dan my ex and I broke a month ago. After a 3week NC period I texted her couple of times during Christmas holidays and gone really well. Before breaking up we used to sit next to me on the bus when we were going to school and she did it again this week but every day she comes and sits next to me she is always in a bad mood and seems sad and when I ask her how was your day she says that's it's pretty bad.i really don't know what to do should I pursue her plz tell me
Currently struggling with mine right now. She's thinking about leaving. We've been together 3 years in 2 days. I love her so much and want her so bad.. any help like this really helping
She said doesn't love me anymore but wants to keep living together. She even offered to move to a smaller space toegther as our current ladnlord wants to terminate the lease earlier to sell the house. Since the break she wants to spend time with me, seems more happy, joking etc. I don't if I should apply the no contact rules, find a new place for me or keep everything casual and still live with her?
we are getting along better than we have in years. She still wont commit to being in a romantic relationship again. Since I have changed so much, I feel I have pregressed to the point of just saying fuck it. how long would you wait for her to change her mind? simple question Dan, do I give up on her or stick it out? Can't live together like this forever. what would you do mate?
This will help you: ruclips.net/video/t48pGR7fO7A/видео.html If you need more help, watch this: www.themodernman.com/blog/get-your-ex-back-super-system-download-watch-online.html Jim - you've made a lot of progress with my free videos. My actual program is 20x more powerful.
Dan, I hooked up with my ex a week ago after a phone call. since then we have been texting regularly, but she doesn't want to have phone calls and she doesn't want to meet up. She is also nervous about talking to me about things on her mind. She told me that she is worried it can make things complicated. what should I do if she doesn't want to meet up or have a phone call. Texting isn't going to get me anywhere i don't think...
In that case, you need to use other techniques to make her feel like she is losing you. Watch this for more info: www.themodernman.com/blog/get-your-ex-back-super-system-download-watch-online.html
Dan we never officially were in a relationship, but we were seeing and sleeping together for 5 months. An argument occurred because other people were getting involved and it resulted in her blocking me on everything. Its been a week of no contact but yesterday she decided to unblock me on Instagram but i'm still blocked on Facebook etc.. what could this mean? should i wait for her too reach out? No idea what to do !
She's checking up on you. She wants to see if you're moving on without her. If you feel ready to contact her and re-attract her on a call, then go for it. If you need help to get ready to re-attract her, watch this: www.themodernman.com/blog/get-your-ex-back-super-system-download-watch-online.html
Thanks for the reply Dan, only problem is Instagram is my only platform to communicate as i'm blocked on other sources! Also she was a really shy girl when i met her so a call, even if i could, probably wouldn't have worked.
Is the program worth a buy?
Wish i had seen this yesterday. Sent her a message this morning that i was done cause she didnt give me any clearness and then she said lets just be friends. Eventho im sure she was into me. Should have waited with saying it untill she actually admitted to it.
Dan. Do you make consultancy? My case is nearly impossible.
Can this advice be used for a lesbian couple, Dan? How do you re-attract someone if the communication is minimal and extremely emotional. So how do you get to the point of attraction without being too pushy?
Great tips, thanks man
Goin to apply this on my ex. Will let you know what yields
is there any particular waiting period before I reach out to her again?
Hi everyone. My wife became scared of me because of my anger episodes every two months. I never directed the anger at my wife and it wasn't her that caused the anger but I was just venting my frustrations over certain events. But it scared my wife. She says she doesn't feel the same about me anymore and we are currently living apart. I am getting my behaviour professionally addressed. What approach should I take with my wife because I love her and want to spend my life with her. Many thanks, Tom
Feeling down I came across your video. Your video has been very informative and opened up my eyes. One of the key subjects you touched up on is having the lack of confidence. I truly believe building on strengthening your confidence will help with the jealousy, controlling, emotional sensitivity and neediness which I have experienced. I am off to building my confidence and hoping for a positive outcome. Thank you..... :o)
Hey Dan, it's nice to know that an expert like you make videos for us to understand this ex back things.
I want to ask a question. My girl dumped me since she had to move to work on a different city & I'm too much a jealous man that she know it's not gonna work when she meet a bunch of new friends in that city.
Yes i used to be so jealous, but i can fix it slowly i just need the chance.
But she just decided & blocked me everywhere and telling me to move on.
Whatever media i tried to contact her ended up blocked & didnt get any response.
I've been giving her space for like a week, and i'm confused how to contact her without getting ignored & blocked again.
And im afraid for taking time to long will make her moved on.
Help me Dan.
I needed this video like 10 days ago 😪
Made mistakes, was needy, she lost respect and attraction. I still have a child with her tho. Any advice?
Dan man I dunno what to do no more please please help me
how do i get your book?
Thank you!
Dan, something I've noticed about my ex is that whenever we talk about how our lives are going she's not afraid to tell me how stressed out she is and that she basically sits at home and does nothing and has not put any effort into "moving on" even though she's the one who broke up with me. What could this mean? Cheers!
shes having a hard time moving on how hard is that to figure out.. its good for you.. just keep doing what your doing but be cautious and dont bring up any old problems or she will come to the conclusion and say oh wait thats why i broke up with you.
listen Dan i need your help , i became to emotionaly sensitive and insecure with my ex and we were arguing a lot and she give me more than one chance to get things better but back then i didnt see your video. Now its been a couple day we talk and the way we stop this was cold. Now she seems to hate me and wants nothing to do about me. Is it to late to get her back ?? or i still have chance
I wish I’d have known this before…
Dan i seen my ex after 3 months acter badly ruining our relationship by exposing her to her family after her dumping me. She ignored me when she seen me but as she walked up the stairs i said “oi u didnt even say hi to me” and laughed as i walked down. What do i do now and what is she thinkin