I am dying. Half of me is dying. I haven't seen, heard, contacted my daughters for over 1 year. Last contacts each of them had they called the police because I was on their property (our home before the divorce). But before they do it they ask my ex-wife (their mom) should I mom? should I? I have been trying to keep moving forward. saving money to move out of tiny apartment. I got a cat. I still don't know how to save them with the cops being used as a threat all the time. But I am focusing on not falling apart so I can take care of myself and them when the day comes.
Thank you for this! I love how you guys are genuinely helping those in despair. I have come across this video as I'm trying to find solutions and guidance for my situation. I have been separated from my daughter and son for 4 years which is also when the alienation started. Yesterday was a devastating mark on my calendar as for the first time my children expressed that they did not want to see me. I know their dad is gaslighting them, he had many years to work their minds. It hurts to watch my relationship with them fall apart right before my eyes and not being able to stop this. I have focused on healing myself because the last few years have been pretty traumatic but yet I'm Indirectly also feeling the abuse of my ex through my children. It has been emotionally and financially exhausting. I'm not giving up but rather count my blessings. Hope is a wonderful thing 🌺
Just wanted to say that you are doing very important work. As a person who is going through this right now, I can tell you that it's comforting to know that there is help and strategies out there to assist you in coping and navigating these difficulties. However, I am of the opinion that all of this can be solved with some significant change to the way that legal systems handle these kinds of situations. The system needs to do a better job of holding parents who engage in this kind of behavior responsible. I'm not sure of how it works in the US but in Canada, there is no form of accountability in any way when someone does something like this. They can keep the kids away from you and nothing happens. They can disparage you online and nothing happens. They can bring false reports against you and again, nothing happens. They just tell you to essentially kiss and make up and it's this type of not holding people to account that allows people to continue their behavior. Meanwhile they say that they have "the best interests of the child" in mind and fund these things through state funded legal representation, government subsidies and grants for children (who more often than not, end up with mom after a split) and support payors paying out of their gross income. It's incomprehensible. So on and on the system goes with more parents being separated from their children.
This so helpful. I have been struggling with how to communicate with my children. I send handwritten notes to them. That’s the only means I can communicate with them. I don’t even know if they read the notes as they don’t respond. It’s been 3 years. I feel like everything I write is offensive to them. My son even says don’t say or don’t write “I love you”. My daughter literally doesn’t respond. I’m so grieved, but I cannot give up.
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I am dying. Half of me is dying. I haven't seen, heard, contacted my daughters for over 1 year. Last contacts each of them had they called the police because I was on their property (our home before the divorce). But before they do it they ask my ex-wife (their mom) should I mom? should I? I have been trying to keep moving forward. saving money to move out of tiny apartment. I got a cat. I still don't know how to save them with the cops being used as a threat all the time. But I am focusing on not falling apart so I can take care of myself and them when the day comes.
Thank you for this! I love how you guys are genuinely helping those in despair. I have come across this video as I'm trying to find solutions and guidance for my situation. I have been separated from my daughter and son for 4 years which is also when the alienation started. Yesterday was a devastating mark on my calendar as for the first time my children expressed that they did not want to see me. I know their dad is gaslighting them, he had many years to work their minds. It hurts to watch my relationship with them fall apart right before my eyes and not being able to stop this. I have focused on healing myself because the last few years have been pretty traumatic but yet I'm Indirectly also feeling the abuse of my ex through my children. It has been emotionally and financially exhausting. I'm not giving up but rather count my blessings. Hope is a wonderful thing 🌺
Just wanted to say that you are doing very important work. As a person who is going through this right now, I can tell you that it's comforting to know that there is help and strategies out there to assist you in coping and navigating these difficulties. However, I am of the opinion that all of this can be solved with some significant change to the way that legal systems handle these kinds of situations. The system needs to do a better job of holding parents who engage in this kind of behavior responsible. I'm not sure of how it works in the US but in Canada, there is no form of accountability in any way when someone does something like this. They can keep the kids away from you and nothing happens. They can disparage you online and nothing happens. They can bring false reports against you and again, nothing happens. They just tell you to essentially kiss and make up and it's this type of not holding people to account that allows people to continue their behavior. Meanwhile they say that they have "the best interests of the child" in mind and fund these things through state funded legal representation, government subsidies and grants for children (who more often than not, end up with mom after a split) and support payors paying out of their gross income. It's incomprehensible. So on and on the system goes with more parents being separated from their children.
This so helpful. I have been struggling with how to communicate with my children. I send handwritten notes to them. That’s the only means I can communicate with them. I don’t even know if they read the notes as they don’t respond. It’s been 3 years. I feel like everything I write is offensive to them. My son even says don’t say or don’t write “I love you”. My daughter literally doesn’t respond. I’m so grieved, but I cannot give up.
Great video something alienated parents can control. It's a huge battle though!
Thank you. Really helpful. The dear children need us to be grown up and coping.
What an AMAZINGLY refreshing podcast! Thank you
Have needed a miracle for over 5 years.
Thank you for this perspective! 💛
Love you guys! Really want to re-up with Ryan!!!
thank you for this
This really is so helpful. Thank you.
Wow, thank you.
Yes,thank you !
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