I love that you chose your child over "finishing" the video! To me all imperfections in life are perfect 🤗 You do a wonderful job and you always continue to give myself and others hope!
You are such a beautiful soul! Thank you for sharing this very realistic view into momhood and the balancing act we play. Enjoyed your video, it put a smile on my face, now to go clean up those crumbs:)
Oh my gosh, you are such an encouragement! My kids are much older now (4 kids, 18-12), but I still found your clean up so satisfying, especially the toys! Ahhhhh. 😁 And where were you 12, 13 years ago when mine were tiny like that?? Lol. I have recently found Flylady again, after trying her out years ago and it not working out. Lots more success this time around!
We went on vacation to Germany and our hotel had two duvets. We slept the best we ever have in 10 years of marriage. When we returned from vacation we set out to make our bed “like our Germany bed”. A trip to IKEA, my blanket thicket/warmer than his. We have been sleeping like that for 3 years and love it! I didn’t know it had a name, the two blanket method.
I love that you’re protecting your kids and prioritizing them over RUclips or “better content”! Definitely just got a new subscriber for your realism and love for your kiddos. I’ve had my eyes opened recently to the dangers of children on RUclips (dad challenge podcast) and I love your decision! Great video!
Your little ones are top priority. Please don't worry about getting everything perfect. I love seeing people who I can relate to. Life happens. Messes happen. No worries at all. 😊 I loved seeing your little boy helping you put the silverware away when you were unloading the dishwasher. He was just throwing the silverware in the drawer with no organization but he was learning and I could tell he was so happy to be helping mama. You're doing great and I love watching your videos no matter if it's perfect or not. You've got a sweet soul and it comes through every video. Blessings to you and your family!!
Relax. You're doing well. You're doing a RUclips gig and being conscious of the effect on your family, conscious of ensuring your viewers don't have unrealistic expectations and conscious of the fact you have a dedicated audience. Just as you are, interruptions and imperfections, is perfect. x
Agree. Real life is so much more encouraging then unrealistically put together. (Plus the people who post on a schedule... I can't keep them straight anyway :))
Love this, done is better than perfect, and I try to keep telling myself this. You have motivated me to do my mirror/vanity/floor 10 minute bathroom mini clean. I love that cleaning can be a little rough some days and just 'done' is often good enough.
I love your videos..I thought the 2 blanket method was genius and I told my husband about it and he laughed and said “so the wife get’s 2 blankets, instead of one!” Hahahaha
Your “This is so hard” at the end is 100% relatable. I feel I say or think that 100x a day. I have small kids too and it’s hard to do so much. But you’re doing it and I really loved this video! Thank you for making it. I love how you show real life and it’s all manageable. Thank you!
We have 4 hundred year old toilets in our home and I was dreading doing the swish and swipe everyday, UNTIL someone suggested when you need to “go” use a different bathroom and then do swish and swipe. The crazy thing is I am still doing all 4 toilets but it doesn’t feel so dreadful, it’s pairing an activity at it’s pest😉
When I first read this, I thought your toilets were 400 years old!! 😂😂😂 Later in the paragraph I got that you have 4 toilets & they are all 100 years old. Made me chuckle. 😂😂😂
I wish I had your channel & RUclips when my kids were young!! I would get so down on myself if my house didn't look neat and tidy and it really is impossible when you have four kids you are raising and running them around. Your family is the most important and you do your best with the house and staying organized!!
Great video! Can’t believe how much your baby has grown! Love the birds! My sink window looks directly into the neighbor’s bedroom window. Our houses are like less than 2 feet away. Yea. Really. You won’t believe what I’ve seen!! 🤪🤣Would much prefer birds!!! Hugs! Em 🌼🌸🌼🌸🌼🌸
Thank you for sharing your day Steph! It is always helpful! I think the biggest takeaway I always get from your videos is just to do some stuff. Do some stuff, stop overthinking, it will make a difference, you can get more done than you think in a few minutes, and things will be better.
I think the best thing is that you always have a positive attitude no matter what! Attitude is so important! You really do know how to put things into perspective and I admire that you include your kids in cooking so that they will learn how to do this when they have grown up even if it does cause a bigger mess... It is worth it because they are learning in the process. I think with the other things such as the toys that you are having to pick up though, if you just reduce the inventory and kept far less toys, you would have such an easier time tidying. I saw another friend whose children each had a b i n of their own things and there was a specific place for that b i n to slide into. I wish I'd known about that when our kids were little. Back then, I kept so many things and it was overwhelming to them and so much of it was rarely played with. They seemed to always choose the same items anyway. Less really is more and it makes your life so much easier! But truly I would say, keep staying true to yourself and never lose your positive attitude! These are great qualities and remember to keep listening to your intuition as far as your Channel. If God is asking you to step back and take a breather, It's all good and you're doing awesome!!!
Well done! Your littlest one emptying the dishwasher was the cutesr. I was amazed at the process skills: 1.) Flatware into drawer, 2.) Get up on stool, 3.) Sort flatware into sections. That is TMHOROUGHLY AMAZING for that age. You have a natural problem solutions engineer living amongst you. Wow, wow, wow!!!!! Sending vour family virtual hugs and actual well wishes. ❤❤❤❤ ☺ ❤❤❤❤👍
For my girls’ drawers, I do the Kon Mari folding method. Works great and they can see everything without destroying the drawer. If they mess up the drawers, MOM gets to pick their outfit for the day and they do not like that so they keep them tidy.
Love the Fly Lady System. I use it too but with my own twist. It has to work for everyones life and schedules so it's good to see how others use it. Thanks for sharing!
Oh, that view in your kitchen! So happy to see that you have a bird feeder to enjoy too! Also, I LOVE that a) you put your kids first and b) that you involve them in the kitchen work; it builds confidence and independence. I sure hope you're able to carve out some time to put your feet up at the end of the day (and cf course, we're all wondering what that 'guilty pleasure' Netflix show is now 🤔😊.
Hey you gave it a try. I always like Diane’s short pep talks and how she respects her family’s privacy. I gravitate towards the shorter, here’s what to do videos anyway.
I like how your toddler helps with the silverware (even though it doesn't end up exactly where it should) and he sits on the counter while you put on your makeup. You're a great mom : )
After watching this video I am compelled to tell you that you are doing a fabulous job! Even amongst stress and trying moments you can still smile. You are doing wondrous things for your children and family as a whole...you are so far ahead of the game, girl! Take it from a mom who has 3 grown and flown children...your dedication and care will bear wondrous fruit in your children...they will remember how loved and secure they felt! Now, go sit down and have a nice, long cup of tea! Your important things ARE being done!
It's so helpful just for me to even see others houses. Like ok, yes, we live here. Good enough can be good enough. Thank you! Totally can understand not wanting your kids to be in videos and that making it difficult. They're first priority! Good job mama!
It will help you if each bedroom has a basket for dirty clothes inside the closet door. This way, no dirty clothes go on the floor ever. It will also help to have five to six hooks on the closet door to hold pajamas and bathrobes, or outfits that are not dirty enough yet to go in the laundry basket. Each person takes their full basket to the laundry when its their day to do their laundry. If and when they are old enough to carry the basket! Also a rule: nothing ever goes on the floor! It disrespectful to mommy and daddy's hard-earned money. "A place for everything and everything in its place." Your kids will bless you when they are grown up.
Steph, I have been following you for a while now. I love to see how you have progressed. Your checklist system was what helped me. Thanks for being authentic. I need that.
On the two blankets, if you ever visit Germany, it’s normal here two have two blankets. No one can hog a blanket, and everyone can choose the right „warmth“ for themselves.
That is the main thing that has helped me with the FlyLady cleaning routine, the message that its okay to not be perfect. Before I would feel defeated if I didn't have enough time to perfectly clean, but giving myself permission to just do 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there, makes my house visibly cleaner, and its not perfect, and that is okay! Perfection isn't tied to our moral ability. We shouldn't strive for perfection, just to do the best we can do. Even if you cant do it perfectly, its still worth doing.
Sometimes I’m so sad that I didn’t have children, but then i see the mess and I know God knew that I couldn’t handle it. I would get way too stressed out and would have to follow behind my kids cleaning up after them. That’s just how I am. My oldest sister is so calm and goes with the flow and is like Steph, good enough is good enough. However, sometimes unfortunately for me, it has too be perfect at all times and it can be SO exhausting!! I love being an Aunt though!!
It was neat to see what you got done in a day and honestly it looks a lot like ours. Batching tasks is something I like to do as well. Don’t feel some kind of pressure or obligation to make DITL videos. I can only imagine the camera maneuvering and conversations required to get the content that you did. I think it’s commendable that you are protecting your kiddos’ and your husband’s privacy. My husband would be the same way. 💚
Wow!! Thank you for sharing. I applaud you for being a mom first especially with your littles. I like the fact that you are real with us. Whatever kinds of videos you can share is great.
You have been such an inspiration to me, thank you! My house is already so much cleaner because of you 😃 I have watched several of your videos recently, and I wonder, how come you (or the flylady system) change zones every week? I am just trying to make sense of not finishing a zone in the time I assign to zone cleaning because I tend to only want to move on to the next zone when all the boxes have been checked in one zone. Also, how do people clean that don't use this system? 😂 it's a genuine question to everyone, because I have never really known how to clean and lists with check boxes seem very reasonable to me now 😅🤣 Greetings from Germany 🤗🌻
Ah! An honest representation of life with a young family! I much more prefer the videos that realistically portray such. And I so loved how you take time for yourself to enjoy your day aside from a mile-long checklist.
I love that you are always so real and relatable. You actually looked like you just woke up (beautiful but sleepy) I think you doing a great job at limiting how much of the kids are in the videos. I hope you are loving your new house.
Hey, I usually do not comment, but I really want to let you know how helpful this video is for me. Seeing that your house ain't perfect for (let's say) Instagram, but good enough/perfect for you and your family took so much pressure of my shoulders. And you being brave for us showing your mess, so we feel less alone with our messes. Thank you so much, love Maike.
Dear Steph, I truly hope you are doing fine and enjoy the time with your kids. I just wanted to let you know that being selfish I miss your videos. Do you plan to come back? My best wishes and thanks for all the motivation you gave for free. 😘 Babette from Germany
I'd love to see projects in your new house, or an update. I love seeing your kids. I guess I understand why you prefer not to show them, but they're so sweet.
You have no idea how encouraging it is to a house that doesnt make me feel like my house isn't clean enough because everything not picture perfect looking. Like I love the minimal mom and clutterbug but their houses look like out of a magizine. So I get discouraged bc it never seems to be good enough to me.
Thank you from Durban South Africa. Your videos have helped me so much. A lot of the daily habits from the 21 days have stuck and I've started doing your massive decluttering challenge from two years ago. It is so very motivating. Love seeing the snatches of your lovely helpers and amazed you still play sports in all that cold 🤗❤
Thank you for sharing honestly & authentically. It is so refreshing!! And it gives me permission to be just as perfectly imperfect as well. And I love a nice cup of tea also!! ☺️
I love this video!!! And never feel pressure to make them! A glimpse or hearing you explain your day, is MORE than good enough!!! Even if you take 5 minutes of another type of video. Maybe, as we all create our own “life”, you can create a hybrid type of video. Just don’t stress! Enjoy your life! That’s what makes you awesome!!!! See you soon!!! ❤️🙏🏻 (I totally “big sistered” you there, sorry … I just wanted to encourage!!! ❤️)
Tonight I was reminded of one of the reasons why appreciate your channel. I love your raw and realness and your heart towards your family and home. Thank you! P.S. I have been on the hunt for a pair of jeans & shoes like you were wearing in the video. Do you mind sharing links or info on those? Much love from South Georgia, USA
I appreciate that your kids come first before the cleaning. You are so gracious with them and their messes and I love seeing how you "mom". Thanks for sharing this peek into your life.
Thank you for the laundry reminder!!! 🤣 I LOVE that your house is normal. The polished instagram/Pinterest perfection houses are so deceptive. No one lives in a model home, it is such a lie to those who don’t live in a beautiful space. Thank you for your transparency.
You are such a welcome relief to watch!! Thank you for all you do to promote family life first! I think we are all aware of your priorities and respect you for having them!!
I like this video! I find your videos very motivating and relatable and i appreciate you sharing.. definitely appreciate you doing it in a way that honors your feelings and your family's feelings... don't worry about it. If the talking is shorter or whatever it doesn't take away from the effort.. not at all. It's clear to see you are a great mom and friend and wife etc and you definitely have good things to share.
Thank you sooo much for keeping it real. It is hard. We do our best every day and that’s all we can do. Some days you can show up at my house and it looks great. Other days it’s a total disaster and that’s okay. (It’s currently a disaster 🤷♀️). It’ll get cleaned up soon. I also do an afternoon tidy. It makes the evening less stressful for us.
I would live to see this routine for a real-life of a “9 to 5” working in office mom. It’s different if you’re at home during the day, because you can “steal” 5 minutes here, 5 minutes there… but if you have to be in the office the whole day… it’s different 🤷♀️
Just found your channel! So happy I did! We don't fold our laundry either lol it was a pointless fight! Im a homeschool mom of 5 soon yo be 6 and I'm definitely going to look into Fly Lady. The kitchen is my biggest struggle, we spend so much time in it and it's not very big!
Embrace imperfection. Thank you Steph, I think you're delivering the kind of message all women need to hear. FlyLady was a gift from heaven when I found it, and its key concept of 'good enough'. I was totally blocked by the idea of having to clean things perfectly, which never seemed to happen for me. Once you embrace the concept of 'good enough', everything just seems easier. If it is clean enough, then it's clean. Even the most perfectly clean room starts to get dirty as soon as your cleaning is done, so... Thank you for being so candid and honest with your audience, this is why we love you. And I totally understand that you want to protect your children from social media exposure. Fewer videos is fine by me, if it's the only way for you to manage and protect your family. Take care!
Question: why don’t you tuck your top sheet in at the bottom? I love how real your videos are! Helps realize that I’m not hopeless. I can tidy up just like Steph.
Thank you for letting us into your home. It's liberating to see real life going on, and very helpful to be shown how it actually looks doing the routines and the system.
I've gotta say, I have 4 under 4 and all I'm doing is running around cleaning up after them. I feel like I might just have to do what you do. And pick up once or twice haha. I feel like I'm just always cleaning! And I need to relax and just enjoy this time with them.
CURLING!! I always thought that looked like so much fun! You are quite the athlete, I remember in one of your previous videos you were cleaning out an area with all of your sports equipment and I thought wow she does a lot! Love to see the progress in your house..from your last home I know you’ve got a good eye for that stuff, I hope you will share some of the makeovers 🙂
I totally understand you not wanting to put your kids in your video. I don’t know about your other viewers but I wouldn’t mind at all if you put a blur or even a black square over your kids if they are in the frame. Another RUclipsr I watch adds Sesame Street characters over her loved ones faces so they remain anonymous. Just one idea but I’m sure whatever you decide will work. Thanks for the video. I did actually pause it when you said to. Not to do laundry but I did spend a few minutes washing dishes then came back to enjoy the rest of the video.
Hello from Texas. I think showing real life is the point. And I admire you for choosing your son over YT. They grow up in the blink of an eye, these moments are so precious. I find your video motivating because you keep things real and your house doesn't have to be perfect. Thank you for sharing.
You are absolutely amazing and I’m so thankful for your videos because I use to get so overwhelmed! Now I just keep trying and finally I feel like the habits are beginning to “stick” Your printable have Helped me a TON!! Thank you! 💗. God bless you and your family!
Brilliant video Steph. I like that you have a relaxed attitude and know you will get normally get the important things done by the end of the day. Everyone needs a break from routine from time to time. I hoped you had a great time curling. You just jumped back in where you are the next day and it all turns out great because you have a plan. Xxxxxxx Margaret in Cyprus
I admire you wanting to not show your kids. Your routines are realistic and easy to follow. I like that you don’t push perfection. You are doing fine Steph. You go girl!
I think you’re amazing and very inspirational! I completely understand not wanting your kids in your videos. Personally, I like how you show us what you can then talk us through the rest that you don’t necessarily show. Thanks for being you!
Thank you! I used this video to inspire me to get off the couch and go empty/refill the dishwasher! It's not perfect, but it is better! And having your video playing in the background was just what I needed!
I love that you’re finding balance! I make videos and keep my kids and husband out of it too. It’s a bit of a challenge when they’re usually so involved! Keep it up! I love how natural you made your video!
I love how honest and relatable you are. I understand not wanting your children on your videos because of privacy. But it was really nice to see each of them helping in their ways. This is what real life is like, and how they learn from you. My kids are teens now but seeing your son help you reminded me of my daughter when she was the same age and how she would help me around the house. Good memories. Love you keeping it real. Helps others who watch your videos for support to not beat them selves up.
I personally like seeing your real day! It helps me realize that I’m doing fine if it’s not “perfect.” I actually started to 21 days to a clean home that you came up with. Then the whole family got sick and I totally abandoned it. But I’m feeling like I can try again!😄
Yes!!! Everyone needs the two blankets method! We each have a twin xl sheet and comforter and it is amazing! I can make my cocoon and his tossing and turning doesn't wake me up!
Thank you for bringing us along for your DITL! And thank you for confirming that good enough is good enough! You're so positive and encouraging - I love that. =) I understand you not wanting to have your kids in your videos. Check out Jar of Fireflies - Chana has three kids and she homeschools so her days are all about her kids, but you don't see their faces. I'm not sure how difficult it is for her to film in this way, but she makes it look easy. lol
It was helpful, and I do love these videos. You're right it's okay not to be perfect, but the same goes for your videos too! If you need to cut off filming to accommodate your kids - then that's what has to happen. I bet you can find other ways to film around that. E.g. Film as much as you can and then do a couple before and after shots of the task and explain what you did. 🤷♀️ or move the camera so that it's only the back of their heads in the shot (tho easier said than done with little ones 🤪)
Hi Steph, I love your videos. I was totally slob wife/mum even worse than you (believe or not!) until I found your RUclips. I have a question. What do you do when you are sick for more than a couple of days almost all the time in bed. I’ve had really bad migraine for few days and it’s long weekend (and isolating a week additional) here in Australia. My husband and kids are home, I’m in bed, my house is upside down. I need help!!!!! Thanks Mari
Oh man, sick weeks are the worst. I try my best to keep up with dishes and laundry and let the rest fall apart. Call in backup if you need it, or slowly work on it once your energy is back up!
I love watching your videos. Your kids are absolutely your priority and it makes perfect sense to keep them private (for the most part.) We’ll all still keep watching whatever style of videos you prefer to do in this phase of your life. I’m so glad to see about the two blankets. My husband and I have strongly been considering switching. We have cats (our kids are in colleges) who like to sleep with us and the single blanket has been a struggle with the cats. Do you have two twins size or two full? Also, do you still share a top sheet?
I love that you chose your child over "finishing" the video! To me all imperfections in life are perfect 🤗 You do a wonderful job and you always continue to give myself and others hope!
For sure- choose your kids, especially when they wanna help💕
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You are such a beautiful soul! Thank you for sharing this very realistic view into momhood and the balancing act we play. Enjoyed your video, it put a smile on my face, now to go clean up those crumbs:)
100% perfect letting your littles be part of all of your day. You are so right to keep them the priority over the rest of the world. Good mom! ❤️
*I appreciate that this is realistic and not perfect. Thank you.
You are doing an amazing job! We all realize real life happens every day. Thanks for sharing!
Oh my gosh, you are such an encouragement! My kids are much older now (4 kids, 18-12), but I still found your clean up so satisfying, especially the toys! Ahhhhh. 😁 And where were you 12, 13 years ago when mine were tiny like that?? Lol. I have recently found Flylady again, after trying her out years ago and it not working out. Lots more success this time around!
We went on vacation to Germany and our hotel had two duvets. We slept the best we ever have in 10 years of marriage. When we returned from vacation we set out to make our bed “like our Germany bed”. A trip to IKEA, my blanket thicket/warmer than his. We have been sleeping like that for 3 years and love it! I didn’t know it had a name, the two blanket method.
I LOVE your videos. Kids too ❤
Just love your videos so much! Most relatable mom on RUclips 🙌🏼 so happy to collab with you. Dream come true 😂🤩
I love that you’re protecting your kids and prioritizing them over RUclips or “better content”! Definitely just got a new subscriber for your realism and love for your kiddos. I’ve had my eyes opened recently to the dangers of children on RUclips (dad challenge podcast) and I love your decision! Great video!
I love how honest you are and how positive you are, even when you’re sharing about tidying and cleaning, which not many people find those tasks “fun”
Your little ones are top priority. Please don't worry about getting everything perfect. I love seeing people who I can relate to. Life happens. Messes happen. No worries at all. 😊 I loved seeing your little boy helping you put the silverware away when you were unloading the dishwasher. He was just throwing the silverware in the drawer with no organization but he was learning and I could tell he was so happy to be helping mama. You're doing great and I love watching your videos no matter if it's perfect or not. You've got a sweet soul and it comes through every video. Blessings to you and your family!!
Relax. You're doing well. You're doing a RUclips gig and being conscious of the effect on your family, conscious of ensuring your viewers don't have unrealistic expectations and conscious of the fact you have a dedicated audience. Just as you are, interruptions and imperfections, is perfect. x
Agree. Real life is so much more encouraging then unrealistically put together. (Plus the people who post on a schedule... I can't keep them straight anyway :))
Love this, done is better than perfect, and I try to keep telling myself this. You have motivated me to do my mirror/vanity/floor 10 minute bathroom mini clean. I love that cleaning can be a little rough some days and just 'done' is often good enough.
Thank you for inspiring us once again! We appreciate your effort to make this video, even though it wasn’t easy for you. ❤️
I love your videos..I thought the 2 blanket method was genius and I told my husband about it and he laughed and said “so the wife get’s 2 blankets, instead of one!” Hahahaha
They were duvets, not blankets
Your “This is so hard” at the end is 100% relatable. I feel I say or think that 100x a day. I have small kids too and it’s hard to do so much. But you’re doing it and I really loved this video! Thank you for making it. I love how you show real life and it’s all manageable. Thank you!
Its o refeeshing to see real life messy kitchen online vs the always perfectly cleanrd version.another great video Steph
We have 4 hundred year old toilets in our home and I was dreading doing the swish and swipe everyday, UNTIL someone suggested when you need to “go” use a different bathroom and then do swish and swipe. The crazy thing is I am still doing all 4 toilets but it doesn’t feel so dreadful, it’s pairing an activity at it’s pest😉
When I first read this, I thought your toilets were 400 years old!! 😂😂😂
Later in the paragraph I got that you have 4 toilets & they are all 100 years old.
Made me chuckle. 😂😂😂
I wish I had your channel & RUclips when my kids were young!! I would get so down on myself if my house didn't look neat and tidy and it really is impossible when you have four kids you are raising and running them around. Your family is the most important and you do your best with the house and staying organized!!
Great video! Can’t believe how much your baby has grown! Love the birds! My sink window looks directly into the neighbor’s bedroom window. Our houses are like less than 2 feet away. Yea. Really. You won’t believe what I’ve seen!! 🤪🤣Would much prefer birds!!! Hugs! Em 🌼🌸🌼🌸🌼🌸
Thank you for sharing your day Steph! It is always helpful! I think the biggest takeaway I always get from your videos is just to do some stuff. Do some stuff, stop overthinking, it will make a difference, you can get more done than you think in a few minutes, and things will be better.
I think the best thing is that you always have a positive attitude no matter what! Attitude is so important! You really do know how to put things into perspective and I admire that you include your kids in cooking so that they will learn how to do this when they have grown up even if it does cause a bigger mess... It is worth it because they are learning in the process. I think with the other things such as the toys that you are having to pick up though, if you just reduce the inventory and kept far less toys, you would have such an easier time tidying. I saw another friend whose children each had a b i n of their own things and there was a specific place for that b i n to slide into. I wish I'd known about that when our kids were little. Back then, I kept so many things and it was overwhelming to them and so much of it was rarely played with. They seemed to always choose the same items anyway. Less really is more and it makes your life so much easier!
But truly I would say, keep staying true to yourself and never lose your positive attitude! These are great qualities and remember to keep listening to your intuition as far as your Channel. If God is asking you to step back and take a breather, It's all good and you're doing awesome!!!
Well done! Your littlest one emptying the dishwasher was the cutesr. I was amazed at the process skills: 1.) Flatware into drawer, 2.) Get up on stool, 3.) Sort flatware into sections. That is TMHOROUGHLY AMAZING for that age. You have a natural problem solutions engineer living amongst you. Wow, wow, wow!!!!!
Sending vour family virtual hugs and actual well wishes. ❤❤❤❤ ☺ ❤❤❤❤👍
For my girls’ drawers, I do the Kon Mari folding method. Works great and they can see everything without destroying the drawer. If they mess up the drawers, MOM gets to pick their outfit for the day and they do not like that so they keep them tidy.
Love the Fly Lady System. I use it too but with my own twist. It has to work for everyones life and schedules so it's good to see how others use it. Thanks for sharing!
Oh, that view in your kitchen! So happy to see that you have a bird feeder to enjoy too! Also, I LOVE that a) you put your kids first and b) that you involve them in the kitchen work; it builds confidence and independence. I sure hope you're able to carve out some time to put your feet up at the end of the day (and cf course, we're all wondering what that 'guilty pleasure' Netflix show is now 🤔😊.
Hey you gave it a try. I always like Diane’s short pep talks and how she respects her family’s privacy. I gravitate towards the shorter, here’s what to do videos anyway.
I like how your toddler helps with the silverware (even though it doesn't end up exactly where it should) and he sits on the counter while you put on your makeup. You're a great mom : )
After watching this video I am compelled to tell you that you are doing a fabulous job! Even amongst stress and trying moments you can still smile. You are doing wondrous things for your children and family as a whole...you are so far ahead of the game, girl! Take it from a mom who has 3 grown and flown children...your dedication and care will bear wondrous fruit in your children...they will remember how loved and secure they felt! Now, go sit down and have a nice, long cup of tea! Your important things ARE being done!
I totally hit pause and went to take care of the laundry that was waiting on me! 😜 Thanks Steph
Me, too! That was perfect, because I had completely forgotten about it
Me too. Mine was stacking all the dishes and prepping supper.
It's so helpful just for me to even see others houses. Like ok, yes, we live here. Good enough can be good enough. Thank you! Totally can understand not wanting your kids to be in videos and that making it difficult. They're first priority! Good job mama!
It will help you if each bedroom has a basket for dirty clothes inside the closet door. This way, no dirty clothes go on the floor ever. It will also help to have five to six hooks on the closet door to hold pajamas and bathrobes, or outfits that are not dirty enough yet to go in the laundry basket. Each person takes their full basket to the laundry when its their day to do their laundry. If and when they are old enough to carry the basket! Also a rule: nothing ever goes on the floor! It disrespectful to mommy and daddy's hard-earned money. "A place for everything and everything in its place." Your kids will bless you when they are grown up.
Steph, I have been following you for a while now. I love to see how you have progressed. Your checklist system was what helped me. Thanks for being authentic. I need that.
On the two blankets, if you ever visit Germany, it’s normal here two have two blankets. No one can hog a blanket, and everyone can choose the right „warmth“ for themselves.
That is the main thing that has helped me with the FlyLady cleaning routine, the message that its okay to not be perfect. Before I would feel defeated if I didn't have enough time to perfectly clean, but giving myself permission to just do 5 minutes here, 10 minutes there, makes my house visibly cleaner, and its not perfect, and that is okay! Perfection isn't tied to our moral ability. We shouldn't strive for perfection, just to do the best we can do. Even if you cant do it perfectly, its still worth doing.
Sometimes I’m so sad that I didn’t have children, but then i see the mess and I know God knew that I couldn’t handle it. I would get way too stressed out and would have to follow behind my kids cleaning up after them. That’s just how I am. My oldest sister is so calm and goes with the flow and is like Steph, good enough is good enough. However, sometimes unfortunately for me, it has too be perfect at all times and it can be SO exhausting!! I love being an Aunt though!!
It was neat to see what you got done in a day and honestly it looks a lot like ours. Batching tasks is something I like to do as well. Don’t feel some kind of pressure or obligation to make DITL videos. I can only imagine the camera maneuvering and conversations required to get the content that you did. I think it’s commendable that you are protecting your kiddos’ and your husband’s privacy. My husband would be the same way. 💚
Your channel has gone to the top of my list recently, as I love the way you are encouraging us to celebrate progress over perfection.
Wow!! Thank you for sharing. I applaud you for being a mom first especially with your littles.
I like the fact that you are real with us. Whatever kinds of videos you can share is great.
You have been such an inspiration to me, thank you! My house is already so much cleaner because of you 😃
I have watched several of your videos recently, and I wonder, how come you (or the flylady system) change zones every week? I am just trying to make sense of not finishing a zone in the time I assign to zone cleaning because I tend to only want to move on to the next zone when all the boxes have been checked in one zone.
Also, how do people clean that don't use this system? 😂 it's a genuine question to everyone, because I have never really known how to clean and lists with check boxes seem very reasonable to me now 😅🤣
Greetings from Germany 🤗🌻
Ah! An honest representation of life with a young family! I much more prefer the videos that realistically portray such. And I so loved how you take time for yourself to enjoy your day aside from a mile-long checklist.
I love that you are always so real and relatable. You actually looked like you just woke up (beautiful but sleepy) I think you doing a great job at limiting how much of the kids are in the videos.
I hope you are loving your new house.
Hey, I usually do not comment, but I really want to let you know how helpful this video is for me. Seeing that your house ain't perfect for (let's say) Instagram, but good enough/perfect for you and your family took so much pressure of my shoulders. And you being brave for us showing your mess, so we feel less alone with our messes. Thank you so much, love Maike.
Dear Steph,
I truly hope you are doing fine and enjoy the time with your kids. I just wanted to let you know that being selfish I miss your videos. Do you plan to come back?
My best wishes and thanks for all the motivation you gave for free.
😘 Babette from Germany
Gee, Steph!!!
Love your channel,girl
Hope You upload more vids
Regards from México
I'd love to see projects in your new house, or an update.
I love seeing your kids. I guess I understand why you prefer not to show them, but they're so sweet.
You have no idea how encouraging it is to a house that doesnt make me feel like my house isn't clean enough because everything not picture perfect looking. Like I love the minimal mom and clutterbug but their houses look like out of a magizine. So I get discouraged bc it never seems to be good enough to me.
Thank you from Durban South Africa. Your videos have helped me so much. A lot of the daily habits from the 21 days have stuck and I've started doing your massive decluttering challenge from two years ago. It is so very motivating. Love seeing the snatches of your lovely helpers and amazed you still play sports in all that cold 🤗❤
Thank you for sharing honestly & authentically. It is so refreshing!! And it gives me permission to be just as perfectly imperfect as well.
And I love a nice cup of tea also!! ☺️
I love this video!!! And never feel pressure to make them! A glimpse or hearing you explain your day, is MORE than good enough!!! Even if you take 5 minutes of another type of video. Maybe, as we all create our own “life”, you can create a hybrid type of video. Just don’t stress! Enjoy your life! That’s what makes you awesome!!!! See you soon!!! ❤️🙏🏻 (I totally “big sistered” you there, sorry … I just wanted to encourage!!! ❤️)
Tonight I was reminded of one of the reasons why appreciate your channel. I love your raw and realness and your heart towards your family and home. Thank you! P.S. I have been on the hunt for a pair of jeans & shoes like you were wearing in the video. Do you mind sharing links or info on those? Much love from South Georgia, USA
I love the time stamps! Whenever I watch this type of video I’m always wondering ‘how long did this take her?’ Thank you for sharing your routine.
I appreciate that your kids come first before the cleaning. You are so gracious with them and their messes and I love seeing how you "mom". Thanks for sharing this peek into your life.
Thank you for the laundry reminder!!! 🤣 I LOVE that your house is normal. The polished instagram/Pinterest perfection houses are so deceptive. No one lives in a model home, it is such a lie to those who don’t live in a beautiful space. Thank you for your transparency.
Can the kids pick up their toys? Just feel bad you’re running around so much.
You are such a welcome relief to watch!! Thank you for all you do to promote family life first! I think we are all aware of your priorities and respect you for having them!!
Your little silverware helper made me smile. I do remember those days💕
He is a great helper :)
Why in the world aren’t your children putting away their toys. They certainly are old enough to do it. Teach them fly lady
I like this video! I find your videos very motivating and relatable and i appreciate you sharing.. definitely appreciate you doing it in a way that honors your feelings and your family's feelings... don't worry about it. If the talking is shorter or whatever it doesn't take away from the effort.. not at all. It's clear to see you are a great mom and friend and wife etc and you definitely have good things to share.
I remember how gorgeous your last house was...can't wait to see what you do with this one.
Thank you sooo much for keeping it real. It is hard. We do our best every day and that’s all we can do. Some days you can show up at my house and it looks great. Other days it’s a total disaster and that’s okay. (It’s currently a disaster 🤷♀️). It’ll get cleaned up soon.
I also do an afternoon tidy. It makes the evening less stressful for us.
Your amazing :) you make it so realistic Thankyou for giving me some tips x
My birdfeeders outside my kitchen window are also one of my very favorite things. Yesterday I had five cardinals at the same time!
I would live to see this routine for a real-life of a “9 to 5” working in office mom. It’s different if you’re at home during the day, because you can “steal” 5 minutes here, 5 minutes there… but if you have to be in the office the whole day… it’s different 🤷♀️
Just found your channel! So happy I did! We don't fold our laundry either lol it was a pointless fight! Im a homeschool mom of 5 soon yo be 6 and I'm definitely going to look into Fly Lady. The kitchen is my biggest struggle, we spend so much time in it and it's not very big!
Embrace imperfection. Thank you Steph, I think you're delivering the kind of message all women need to hear. FlyLady was a gift from heaven when I found it, and its key concept of 'good enough'. I was totally blocked by the idea of having to clean things perfectly, which never seemed to happen for me. Once you embrace the concept of 'good enough', everything just seems easier. If it is clean enough, then it's clean. Even the most perfectly clean room starts to get dirty as soon as your cleaning is done, so... Thank you for being so candid and honest with your audience, this is why we love you. And I totally understand that you want to protect your children from social media exposure. Fewer videos is fine by me, if it's the only way for you to manage and protect your family. Take care!
You are a wonderful mother! (And person!). Xx
Hi mama! Im new here! Just subscribed! 🤗♥️
Question: why don’t you tuck your top sheet in at the bottom?
I love how real your videos are! Helps realize that I’m not hopeless. I can tidy up just like Steph.
Omg it’s so beautiful out your kitchen window! I’ve been wanting to try the Fly lady method. Do you recommend the app?
Hey Lindsey! 💕The app is really helpful to get started and figure it out
Thank you for letting us into your home. It's liberating to see real life going on, and very helpful to be shown how it actually looks doing the routines and the system.
Loved the video. Loved your story about your little laundry helper in a birthday suite. 😆 thanks for the encouraging video
I've gotta say, I have 4 under 4 and all I'm doing is running around cleaning up after them. I feel like I might just have to do what you do. And pick up once or twice haha. I feel like I'm just always cleaning! And I need to relax and just enjoy this time with them.
I loved this real life video cause often I feel like everything always needs to be perfect. It's nice to see real humans "living"!
Great job! How you can do all that in the morning on an empty stomach amazes me. I would faint if I don't have breakfast first thing in the morning!
Ikr?
CURLING!! I always thought that looked like so much fun! You are quite the athlete, I remember in one of your previous videos you were cleaning out an area with all of your sports equipment and I thought wow she does a lot! Love to see the progress in your house..from your last home I know you’ve got a good eye for that stuff, I hope you will share some of the makeovers 🙂
Oh yes, I love my sports! I am making a video of the girls room makeover, I cant wait to share it, it looks so good so far!
I totally understand you not wanting to put your kids in your video. I don’t know about your other viewers but I wouldn’t mind at all if you put a blur or even a black square over your kids if they are in the frame. Another RUclipsr I watch adds Sesame Street characters over her loved ones faces so they remain anonymous. Just one idea but I’m sure whatever you decide will work. Thanks for the video. I did actually pause it when you said to. Not to do laundry but I did spend a few minutes washing dishes then came back to enjoy the rest of the video.
So important to give tasks to kids …great for their self-esteem.
I literally stopped the video to go switch my laundry! 😂😂 Thanks 🙏🏻
Hello from Texas. I think showing real life is the point. And I admire you for choosing your son over YT. They grow up in the blink of an eye, these moments are so precious. I find your video motivating because you keep things real and your house doesn't have to be perfect. Thank you for sharing.
To watch you say you are not striving for perfection is…perfect ❤️
Love the view from your kitchen. Your new house is very cozy and rustic.
You are absolutely amazing and I’m so thankful for your videos because I use to get so overwhelmed! Now I just keep trying and finally I feel like the habits are beginning to “stick” Your printable have
Helped me a TON!! Thank you! 💗. God bless you and your family!
I'm so glad! Thank you Bonnie!
Brilliant video Steph. I like that you have a relaxed attitude and know you will get normally get the important things done by the end of the day. Everyone needs a break from routine from time to time. I hoped you had a great time curling. You just jumped back in where you are the next day and it all turns out great because you have a plan. Xxxxxxx Margaret in Cyprus
I admire you wanting to not show your kids. Your routines are realistic and easy to follow. I like that you don’t push perfection. You are doing fine Steph. You go girl!
I think you’re amazing and very inspirational! I completely understand not wanting your kids in your videos. Personally, I like how you show us what you can then talk us through the rest that you don’t necessarily show. Thanks for being you!
Thank you! I used this video to inspire me to get off the couch and go empty/refill the dishwasher! It's not perfect, but it is better! And having your video playing in the background was just what I needed!
Your “helpers” are adorable. Enjoy them and remember to block out some time to smother them with 😘
Your so real & we love this! Makes u all the more inspiring. Love that you choose your son over the video!
I love that you’re finding balance! I make videos and keep my kids and husband out of it too. It’s a bit of a challenge when they’re usually so involved! Keep it up! I love how natural you made your video!
Thank you so much for everything you do already and for being imperfect and realistic :)
I love how honest and relatable you are. I understand not wanting your children on your videos because of privacy. But it was really nice to see each of them helping in their ways. This is what real life is like, and how they learn from you. My kids are teens now but seeing your son help you reminded me of my daughter when she was the same age and how she would help me around the house. Good memories. Love you keeping it real. Helps others who watch your videos for support to not beat them selves up.
I personally like seeing your real day! It helps me realize that I’m doing fine if it’s not “perfect.”
I actually started to 21 days to a clean home that you came up with. Then the whole family got sick and I totally abandoned it. But I’m feeling like I can try again!😄
Needed to see this! It was great to hear because I’m certainly not perfect right now!!
Yes!!! Everyone needs the two blankets method! We each have a twin xl sheet and comforter and it is amazing! I can make my cocoon and his tossing and turning doesn't wake me up!
Thank you for bringing us along for your DITL! And thank you for confirming that good enough is good enough! You're so positive and encouraging - I love that. =)
I understand you not wanting to have your kids in your videos. Check out Jar of Fireflies - Chana has three kids and she homeschools so her days are all about her kids, but you don't see their faces. I'm not sure how difficult it is for her to film in this way, but she makes it look easy. lol
It was helpful, and I do love these videos. You're right it's okay not to be perfect, but the same goes for your videos too! If you need to cut off filming to accommodate your kids - then that's what has to happen. I bet you can find other ways to film around that. E.g. Film as much as you can and then do a couple before and after shots of the task and explain what you did. 🤷♀️ or move the camera so that it's only the back of their heads in the shot (tho easier said than done with little ones 🤪)
Hi Steph, I love your videos. I was totally slob wife/mum even worse than you (believe or not!) until I found your RUclips.
I have a question. What do you do when you are sick for more than a couple of days almost all the time in bed. I’ve had really bad migraine for few days and it’s long weekend (and isolating a week additional) here in Australia. My husband and kids are home, I’m in bed, my house is upside down.
I need help!!!!!
Thanks
Mari
Oh man, sick weeks are the worst. I try my best to keep up with dishes and laundry and let the rest fall apart. Call in backup if you need it, or slowly work on it once your energy is back up!
I love watching your videos. Your kids are absolutely your priority and it makes perfect sense to keep them private (for the most part.) We’ll all still keep watching whatever style of videos you prefer to do in this phase of your life.
I’m so glad to see about the two blankets. My husband and I have strongly been considering switching. We have cats (our kids are in colleges) who like to sleep with us and the single blanket has been a struggle with the cats. Do you have two twins size or two full? Also, do you still share a top sheet?
Always find your videos honest and helpful! 💗 Thank you for making Flylady routines seem manageable.