BABY REINDEER Netflix Review & Ending Explained
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- I review, breakdown and explain Baby Reindeer. I discuss the Netflix TV series which is based on the true story of Richard Gadd's encounter with a stalker. I react to the disturbing scene in episode 4, the emotional speech in episode 6 and also the haunting meaning of the ending. I compare the show to the real story and it's similarities and differences.
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I was so surprised with this show! It was so emotional, powerful and haunting to watch. What did you think of it? Let me know your thoughts in the comments below!
Same, was just browsing netflix last night and found this aeries by chance. Started watching with no expectations and it was just so good I couldn't stop watching. It's so raw and all the characters are so rounded up, real. There were a few instances where I'd think (as it happens when watching a movie) - why didn't you explain more to the police, if you were dating a therapist why didn't she think to send you to see a specialist etc.. it was cool that the narrator addressed a part of those questions - why he did not do the most obviously rational thing.
I also sort of ended up feeling a tad bit sorry for Martha, but then she'd get irrationally mad. Put on the subtitles to read her emails easier. Really cracked up at those really mad email that would be signed off with "from iphone"/ "ihphone"
Yeah it's a hidden gem for sure. I totally get what you mean. I saw an interview with Richard Gadd and he said how it was created to not go all in one one side and push certain viewpoints or agendas. So I suppose they wanted us to see her as a human as well who had her own issues that she had to deal with and impacted her life in a certain way
I dunno. It had sooooo many plotholes and stuff that didn't make sense. The idea was okay but the writing needs alot of work.
great, just finished it
One of those shows that I don't hesitate for one second to start watching!
"would you see me as less of a man.... i grew up in the catholic church" had me SOBBING
That part got me too...
can you please explain more here? Thank you
@@lovecrycrystal Unfortunately the Catholic church has a long history of abusing children. Especially boys at church, Sunday school, many orphanages were run by the Catholic church.
yeah please explain what it means
@@havoc____ His dad went through the same thing his son gone through
i think that the meaning of the end is that donny realizes that he did nothing wrong ; he was just being nice like the bartender at the end, just what nice, normal people do. i think he's realizing that at the end, the whole stalking situation is not his fault. he was just being nice.
No. I think at the end he realizes he himself is as pitiful a sight as Martha was when he first saw her.
Or maybe both
I also think both - but i would like to believe in the first comment@@SR.2945
Or he might possible start behaving like Martha..
I think it's something different. At the end he finds himself exactly like Martha when he first met her : crying and the bartender offers him to pay. He then suddenly understand, now that he knows more about Martha's own trauma HOW his kindness touched her so much, how she might have developed this obsession. He saw himself in her shoes.
It's like *anyone* in a difficult time would be delighted to be offered a drink at a bar, and remember that person for some time, but imagine what it could turn into for a really traumatized, trouble, lonely, fragile and unstable individual ?
Martha was probably never shown healthy love or love at all so she thought his gesture was what love was about!
Edit : she is also obviously struggling with erotomania, look into it it's a paranoid delusional disorder.
Just finished the show. Thought it was fantastic. I’m not sure that it really has a message or a moral. It was really about the psychological effects of abuse. There were several moments where I questioned Donny’s decision making but after the flashback episode it began to make more sense why he would act the way he would. At first it seemed like he just had a total lack of assertiveness and wanted to avoid confrontation with Martha due to sympathy. It got to the point where his agreeableness was frustrating. but by the end it was clear that there was more to it. Donny got something out of Martha’s admiration for him and the root cause was the abuse he suffered. Learning at the end that Martha was abused as a child and that she kept a reindeer toy for comfort made me see the story in a completely different way. Yes, she was a stalker but she was abused herself. She got comfort from Donny and the root cause of her obsession with him was ultimately her abuse. As I said I don’t think there is an intended moral. Donny wasn’t a flawless protagonist and Martha wasn’t a comic book villain. No other show which I have seen has shown the complexities involved with sexual abuse, grooming and stalking in such a unapologetic and often disturbing way. The performances were great too. Anyways I don’t think I’ve ever written such a long comment so I’ll shut up now
Your thoughts were in a nutshell ❤
Of course you would find all this sick crap fascinating
Wait, I didn't catch that Martha had been a victim herself. When does it appear?
@@Jane_Doe_8909 it was in the last episode when she was taking in the voicemail about how she was neglected as a child but kept a stuffed baby reindeer for comfort.
Well written comment
There is a lot of truth in having such low self-esteem that you let the wrong people in your life. You are attracted to the flattering you receive, even a tiny bit but abuse you 99% of the time. You hold on to the 1% as that means the world to you. It is terrifyingly raw and real acting. The human mental health is real.
Really reminds me of a story I heard of a father asking a convict for advice about how to raise his daughter. "Tell her you love her, because if you don't, someone else will, and she'll believe the lie."
😢
He hated himself more than he could love Terri.... that’s literally the most relatable thing and sums up me and why I can’t keep a relationship or friendship because everything that goes alone with me hating myself takes priority like sorry I’m busy in a shame/depression spiral I can’t come to the phone right now.
I know. That scene hit me like a brick. Hating myself is ruining every aspect of my life. To the point where I can barely keep friends, family, partners or even a steady job 😢
Exercise helped immensely with this. I dunno why, but going outside for half hour walks just affects your moods dramatically. Hating yourself shouldn't be your normal, no matter how terrifying the idea of breaking the habit may be. I have faith that both of you can overcome this, however slowly, just as I am.
I honestly never cried harder than when he said "I loved hating myself more than I loved her. And I love her so f*cking much"
Brought some deep memories back and made me confront shit myself and if thatbwas the aim of the show then congrats!
Imagine acting out the sexual abuse you personally experienced. Wow I cant imagine reliving your own horrible trauma even if its pretend. I know he did this as a one man show at the fringe and then in london but here it muust have been much more difficult. He did a great job with this tv show.
I have such a hard time imagining what in the world that stage show was like…
@@Neddoest I think it was a one man show and he actually played some of the real voicemails.
“Some people run away by packing their bags and leaving and others by staying in the same place” this show made me reflect on my own life and traumas and it made me realize that everyone has once had/or have a Martha in their life whether it be a person or thing or job sometimes we pursue something all while knowing of the destruction it’s capable of. This made me feel and remember that pain demands to be felt or else you’ll always end up in situations like these whether it be literal or not 😊
not everyone have a martha in their life. in fact most people are responsible for creating people like Martha, then gaslight and place all the blame on people like her
This guy deserves a BAFTA, A Golden Globe and an Oscar for his amazing acting!! Just perfect And Jessica reminded me of Kathy Bates in Misery LMFAO
Yeah it was an incredible show! So well written and so delicately performed
Yess!!
Omg I couldn’t put my finger on it that’s exactly it lol
Oscar is for films
No clue how the creator had the strength to go through this again by taking on the main role. But I appreciate seeing this story and him sharing everything.
IMO it wouldn’t hit home as hard, if it weren’t “acted” out by him.
I don't think he could have even allowed it. The story is so personal. He's lived and relived, told and retold it so many times. It would feel wrong to have someone else act it out and perhaps miss the nuance, the raw, direct experience of it. I would have wanted to act it myself if it had happened to me.
I just binge watched Baby Reindeer and the series is going to help me process my personal traumas better. I can feel it. I have never felt so understood or been able to make this much sense of myself by watching something. And knowing that there are so many people that will gain as much as I did, and feel like they can relate like I can, makes me feel less alone. I am very grateful.
Stop it. I'm sorry you had personal trauma but finding refuge in this shit of a show is very crazy. If you find Hollywood therapeutic in any way, you need to be worried about your mental health.
@@buttnugget6236 Aren't you a smart one!?😂 What part of this being a true story evaded you?🤔 Hollywood tends not to be based on fact, much less despict the lived experience of the lead! The dunce hat for this comment section goes to you!😁😂🎉
@@buttnugget6236No, you need to stop. Quit being rude and maybe learn some manners. Being anonymous on the internet does not excuse every unfriendly comment.
I'm as glad the show made you feel understood as I'm sorry you find it relatable. I hope you are okay now.
You look like Martha.
Just finished it. It does leave you to draw many of your own conclusions.... As I watched him being bruised and battered by Martha I kept wondering why he didn't quit his job and get away from her. As I was thinking about that, I realized that I have a similarly abusive person in my life whom I don't cut off.... Because I see she's not okay. Ultimately this movie shows how complicated we all are, how many secrets we live with, how many effed up people we encounter along the way (and sometimes cling on to).. And generally just how we're all survivors of some sort. His story is one of 6 billion! Each one different, each one hard.
They do address the fact that He doesn't want to have to quit or change his number "because that would mean that Martha wins".
Very well said
Terrific acting. This movie was indeed haunting but you can't stop watching.
Yeah it had me hooked!
Limited tv series.
@@Noa...... Indeed. My mistake calling it a movie.
The craziest part of this show is that Donny is the real person this happened to. I saw an interview where he said Martha sent 41K emails, over 600 voicemails, hundreds of FB messages. This was such a unique story, both entertaining and tragic. I think it also touches on taboo topics for men and the helplessness men face when dealing with police. Also, beautiful Nava Mau as leading lady! Great movie!
For me the most heartbreaking scene was, when he went back to his abuser after such a long time and he fell into his old pattern again. I kind of understand why people often go back to their abusers, but I also wonder why. Can someone explain the psychology behind that?
This confused me too. I thought he was going there to face his abuser and tell him how he messed him up and possibly report the rape but when he agreed to work with him I was confused. Does he crave compliments and attention in any form or does he crave the fame to hide his insecurities like he mentioned during his breakdown on stage?
@@ED80s I think it’s attention and the positive reinforcement his abuser gave him. I think that’s why he agreed to it. It can be really hard to adjust to a life with little to no positive reinforcement (verbally), hence his low points. In a way, at the end, I was just too shocked at it all. My personal happy ending for Donny is that he never goes back to his abuser after agreeing and he goes to therapy, slowly getting more gigs. Not famous per se, but some notoriety. Id like to think he’d learn his patterns and get back together with Keely or Teri.
It disturbed me…. I think he wanted to face his abuser, and I wanted him to confront him…when he didn’t and went along with his complete dismissal, and then agreed to work with him again, I got very sad for him
@@filmbuff-dh9kb same, I was so angry and in shock and sad but I understood why.
Because even though the situation is abusive, it brings comfort and familiarity, its the same when people cant leave their abusive partners, because its familiar, and when something is familiar to us is brings us comfort, even when we know its not good for us, some people can realise that right away, while others are so afraid of change and "having to start it all over" that its just easier to return to that familiar situation
i dont have words to describe how fucking good this show was , the lead actors role especially and to find out that it was based on his real experiences , it took me on a journey through my own traumas and how confusing it all can be , cried so much through it but its hauntingly real and one of if not the best show ive ever watched
Same
Richard Gadd should be nominated and perhaps win in BAFTA , SAG, , Golden Globes and Emmy…. Even Jessica can win too.
I cried a lot. Episode 4 was haunting. Episode 6 was just heart wrenching. Richard Gunn indeed gave one of the best performances in a tv series and superb writing too.
Netflix delivers with this one
Yeah they were both great! I hope they do!
Oh definitely i can see both of them winning emmy and bafta for limited series. Their acting was fenonmeal
This show was super confronting yet validating. As a man that faced a stalking scenario with my ex who was using blackmail to keep me in her life and to force me sexually I felt like I was just “letting it happen”. Donny’s reactions and traumas really mirrored my own. It’s rare to come by a piece of media that centres around a male victim, let alone takes it seriously enough, so this really helped me understand my own feelings and confusions + why I had them in the first place. Major respect to Richard for getting this out there.
Brooo 🥲 I feel you man except the ‘Martha’ in my life is a co-worker …
I agree with every word. As a horror fan, I was certain this would be a True Crime-y depiction of a stalking. I certainly did not expect it to be such a deep dive into the psychological ordeal that the narrator went through. When he clicked the button to accept Martha's friend request, I was almost screaming at the TV. But he explained it all so clearly and so painfully. This show is a masterpiece.
this show was amazing i hope richard finds peace the fact he went through this and to also act it like wow
Waittt, the story is based on the lead actors life???
That gives so much more depth to it omg
@@amandaclbn8324 yess the actor "richard gadd" has been vocal about how it was about his twenties it makes the show more chilling
@Darkskinfairy I knew it was based on a true story, just didn’t know it was the life of the lead actor
How weird is it that most of the videos on this movie always wants to focus on 'Martha' or who she is in real life but not his rapist the writer/producer????
Something I loved was that the show explored how nothing is quite black and white, and nothing exists in a vacuum.
Donny's inability to stop encouraging Martha didn't come from nothing, Martha's clinginess didn't come from nothing, Terri's inacceptance of Donny's sexual underperformance didn't come from nothing, Keeley's animosity didn't come from nothing...
Obviously, that doesn't justify some of their behaviours (especially Martha's), but it's more than "protagonist good, antagonist bad".
This is very clever. I felt what you described but you put it together really well. We want to think that life is this binary, yes/no, right/left world but as you said nothing exists in a vaccuum.
I feel sorry for Donny. He isn't strong enough. He went to the abuser's home over and over again , took dangerous drugs and let the rapist do whaever he wanted time after time. He should have been to psychotherapy so he would have dealt better with Martha. I would like to know how his "life" went on. Great acting. Sad story considering it is based on true events.
the guy wrote this movie and acted in it so i am hoping this is a sort of therapy for him and hopefully martha
@@jacobfranks4091 Thank you for your answer. I do hope they're much better now. This movie ripped my soul .
With his abuser, it started out as fanboying, then became a need. He needed his would be abuser's backing to thrive in the industry. Even when he realized his abuser was taking more and more liberties, he thought it would be all worth it in the end. Until the assault got to be too much. I was angry when he said he stayed and even fed his cat, but his abuser was his idol, peer, and only friend. Just like how Martha was the only person who made him feel good about himself. He hates the people he's dependent on. I thought things would get better after the scene with his parents and I was horrified when he went back to his abuser. But it shows just how forgone he was
It's basically Harvey Weinstein commentary. All those actresses kept going back to him because they desired fame, awards and success.
Anyone else felt sad and sorry for Martha? When the voicemail was played explaining why she called him baby reindeer? I’m not a crier but I could have easily shed a tear at that moment.
Yeah started crying too at that very point. I felt for her, the actress did an amazing job showing both sides of her, the dangerous crazy one and the unwanted unloved wounded girl u feel sorry for.
The ending scene was amazing, Martha become humanized and just like Donny is now in the position of Martha in the beginning of the series. A broken lost person that has been so much shown an act of kindness. What will Donny do next?
No, she's pathetic. Enormously, big time, hugely, crazy.
Of course, she certainly had problems.
@@icomeinpeace3756 ...stalking his bartender! season 2 ;-) BABY RACCOON lol!
the way this show made me cry is unreal. It's so haunting but so real in so many ways, it's become one of my favorite shows now
I was absolutely blown away by the entire show from beginning to end. I will say, the last message we hear from Martha where she shares the reindeer story, absolutely devastated me. Just a stunningly beautiful show.
I had NOOOOO idea it was based on HIS real life ! Damnnn 😮
Mad isn't it!
Rlly gud show.
Sent from iPhone
chill Martha
Pretty sure it said “iphoen”
Lol good one
This series has blown me away
It was so surprising wasn't it!
Surprisingly awful.
@@buttnugget6236your names buttnugget mate pipe down
I can't help wondering whether Gadd's abuser will ever face the consequences of his actions. I guess Gadd will not report those crimes to the police, but would others in the industry remember who he was? His girlfriend Keeley at the time knew whose home he was visiting, for example. I'm also unclear on which aspects of the show were fictionalized.
*Did Donny really have sex with Martha, or was that just one of his masturbation fantasies?
*Did he really return to the abuser's home, and really agree to work with him again?
*No, he didn't. The scene cuts to him having sex with Teri while fantasizing about Martha.
*He was about to confront him but couldn't. He initially agreed to work with him but then had a panic attack and left.
Flabbergasted and amazed by this gem! I didnt know this was like fleabag a one man show at fringe festival. THIS WAS TRULY AN EXPERIENCE TO WATCH- BEST IN YEARS!
Yeah it took me by surprise as well! Such a good show
While I agree that Martha’s presence by itself is menacing, I would say that this show is full of violence. The scenes with Darrien are incredibly violent, as are the scenes showing Donny during nameless hookups. Martha’s smashing of a glass into Donny’s head isn’t the only time she attacks someone severely enough to draw blood. It is 1000000 percent worth watching but be prepared for extreme violence in many forms.
Yeah considering only the brute force that draws blood as violence is not doing justice how deeply it is rooted in this show. It's the threat of Martha's inescapable presence and her actual threats, it's her grabbing his crotch, it's Darrien making Donny entirely dependent on him and r*p*ng him multiple times, it's Donny's self-torture in all its forms including him figuring out his trauma through sex and his obsession with Martha, and I'm probably still forgetting some things.
Amazing show which after it ending made me reflect on my past. Had something similar but no where near as dark and depraved as this show. I was 19 and in a rut. Lived in a small village where I couldn't get a job because I had no experience and most of all no girlfriend and constant pressure from family about why I'm not with anyone when I really badly wanted to be but I'm just so socially awkward it made it tough. My self esteem was so low because I felt my life going nowhere, I cut myself, luckily not deep enough to scar but honestly not sure why I did that to myself but I did. Then all of a sudden she showed up into my life from a party and I fell head over heels for her because no one had shown me such affection. I lost my virginity to her and loved her very much. However my family and friends didn't like her. I just ignored them. But in time she turned out to be a nasty piece of work. She started degrading me in all aspects. Started being horrible about my family, called me ugly and weak all the time. But I stayed because I so desperately didn't want to be alone. I thought it was normal because she told me it was normal. She started stealing money out of my wallet and said when we move in together that my bank card will be in her purse and she will control all the bills and money because I'm too stupid too. Even though she was in debt and I had nearly enough savings for a deposit on a mortgage but she said that was a waste of money and we should just rent. She just wanted to gamble my savings away. But after so long I couldn't take the horrible comments anymore and broke up with her. That's when she became really nasty, but I just blocked her. One of the most uplifting feelings ever.... Sorry for the novel and if you made it this far thanks for reading.
I read it all and I went through something similar. I'm still in debt but there was never any cruelty from the other side just more of using me because I let them.
@@sophiek8019 that's the problem with low self esteem, you let others walk all over you because you don't want to be alone. Luckily she never got to my bank account. She would constantly demand money and get angry when I refused. Because I worked hard and saved up to have the mortgage I have today. She got fired from a shop because she was stealing scratch cards and using the winnings to buy more scratch cards until there was nothing left.
I'm so sorry for you. Glad you could make it out of that situation ❤
@@Chiara_Elena thank you, in a much better place. Unfortunately takes bad relationships to recognise a good one.
@@sophiek8019 thank you, low self esteem is the worst. You just let people walk all over you. I hope you're in a better place
I was completely amazed by this. In addition to how wonderful it was... I work with mentally challenged people and this depiction was so right on. You can enjoy them... like them, even be captivated by them... doesn't change their mental illness.
As someone who works with serious mental health cases, his depiction of his mental struggle is insanely accruate and relatable. You can't fake understanding like this, he really went and goes through this.
Abused people go back over and over again trying to repeat the memory "but this time it'll be different, it'll be different because I'll be the one in control," but they never are. It's a hole that gets digged deeper, a wound that you put fingers in. So few understand this and blame the victims for their borderline obsession, only those who've been through it will understand.
The reason I work in mental health is because I was violently abused by my mother growing up. And of course, like buzzards to a corpse I've also attracted scary men in my life.
Watching this broke me for a moment, I shattered and cried for an hour feeling so relieved to hear someone talk about abuse accurately for once. I felt so seen.
I didn't go through anything near this severe but there was an adult in my childhood who was just creepy with me, repeatedly, for several years. I think about him all the time and question what were his intentions? Why did I "fawn" and look for his approval? 40 years have passed and I don't remember a lot but some moments are burned into my brain and I want to confront him but will likely never see him again. Maybe that's for the best.
This show left me deeply disturbed. He started off as a victim, ended up as a victim, and returned to the victimizer.
I took the ending with the Barman as Donny feeling what Martha felt when he gave her a free drink, and him realising what a huge impact such a kind gesture can have to somebody who is is at an all time low, or lonely or whatever. Almost helping him to understand why Martha attached herself to him the way that she did after he showed her such kindness that day.
I was glued to the screen from start to finish. It was brilliant & very moving.
this was a gut-wrenching watch. I couldn't help but think of P Diddy during the Darrian scenes.
Great summary. I’ve never seen anything like this show. I thought the first episode was very strong. I didn’t realize we were in for the darkness ahead. It was truly touching and unexpected - showing the humanity in all of the characters despite some of their despicable behavior.
Yeah neither have I. It was so dark, felt so real and had such a sinister ending.
I hated that he wasn’t able to get Terri back
Me to, but i kinda didnt like her at the end mainly because even though terri wanted to understand martha. She shoildve been taking the tine to understand donny, she was therapist so it minda didnt make sense to me
Just finished watching this, WOW! I didn't expect that rollercoaster. I don't know how I feel about it all and it will stay on my mind for a long time. Brilliant acting by Richard Gadd.
Yeah he delivered in every aspect of this show!
It's really sad wen donny's father divulged dat he grew up in a catholic church!
Yeah that was a powerful moment in the show for sure. The hug that he received too!
I was crying when Donny was talking on the edge of my seat hoping his didn’t have a shit reaction then his dad just released an absolute waterfall in me
Such a powerful scene
Who uses 'dat' and "divulged"
In the same thought? 😝 passing on your input.
Yep, it's known throughout the world. They call it 'historic child sexual abuse', That's the good old Catholic Church for you, and I can say wholeheartedly it's still going on and still being hidden as their wealth and political connections....they could do anything and not being held culpable.
That was all he had to say to communicate his ordeal
This won best acting, best picture vbest cinematography, best director bar none. Whoever did the casting did the best job. This piece of brilliance deserves every accolade. Well done Mr Gaad and everyone involved.
I've been eagerly anticipating your review, and as expected, it was brilliant as always. "Baby Reindeer" was truly amazing, and I enjoyed it immensely. In fact, I'm so enthralled by it that I plan to rewatch it just to ensure I didn't miss any subtle nuances.
Glad you enjoyed the video! I was debating whether to give this show a go and I'm so glad I did! It's just pure quality!
thank you for this, truly. i thought i knew what i was getting into watching baby reindeer, but i had no idea just how healing and validating it would actually be. watching richard gadd recount the making of the series and saying that he hopes people who have been in similar situations feel less ashamed and more understood watching, i am so so thankful i can call myself one of those people. i don't know id I've ever seen such a brilliant portrayal of ptsd especially specifically revolving around sexual violence, but i really have never felt more seen and comforted. ive had the conversation with my mom about what happened to me after my father passed, but this genuinely made me feel so much better about not being able to have that conversation with him. i think the show gave me everything i really needed and wanted, which i had no idea it would.
I just finished it. I know I have a different story, but the scene after martha hit him to before he went on stage, really showed how he felt inside at that moment, and it was electrocuted me. WOW!! I have had that feeling once. It was like half your body from waist down was inside a big snake mouth, and you're fighting for your life to escape, but it didnt work. If anything, after fighting for years, you're just getting sucked into the snake bit by bit. The pain keep getting worse everyday, you're alive, but no escape. To the point that you're still trying to escape, tirely scrapping the dirt to hold on, with your mind is already set that it is over. Except it wont over, unless you're dead. Only I was too scared and have no strength left to end my life. So the snake wont let go, and I keep zombily scrapping for decades. I think that's the real definition of burried alive and wont dead. That feeling, really destroy you whole, unless..
And the song is just perfect!
You're breathing, but not alive coz it's only pain after pain. But you think you're alive. So the joke really was on me.
I am exhaly happy with that specific scene. It takes me to many shivering flashbacks, which are so precious to me. Thank you! ❤️
Web. Donny said “I’m sorry” to Darien - that resonated hard.
This was an insane story ...
I hate how Donny did not fight the rapist when seeing him again and he just happily accepted his opportunity but I like how it ended with him in thought and almost shocked when the barman said the drink is on him .....
I took it as a way to show how he ended up understanding Martha because like her he is now the hopeless loner in the bar and the barman is showing sympathy for him just like he did with Martha ........
I think the ending just goes on to show the real extent of the damage caused by the abuse..its nice to think that one singular moment of self honesty at his own show turned his life around when it actually didn't. He was back to this destructive patterns, with Martha out of the way he went back to his abuser to get the attention he craved
I think the ending is him realizing what he was looking for because he kept on going back to figure it out, and in that moment, he felt what she felt and understood.
It's incredibly admirable how Richard Gadd bravely shared his personal experiences, even those that might make him vulnerable to prejudice. His courage in opening up not only helps him in his healing journey but also extends a supportive hand to others who may be going through similar struggles.
sooo good and had a similar effect to Michaela coel's I may destroy you. so raw and relatable in all its heaviness.
This is one of the best things i’ve ever watched.. but so disturbing and my heart breaks for Richard Gadd.. how he went through all this but still got on stage to follow his dream.. ep4 was so hard to watch but when he’s on the stage in ep6 that broke me 😭 and then the voicemail at the very end 😭😭 i wanted to give him the biggest hug, and also hug martha in that moment too. the world really can break you. Richard Gadd you are an amazing human for starring in your own story. there are just no awards big enough 👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
This show was brilliant at portraying the complexities. So many movies, books, and shows usually portray a very black and white scenario. Where the victim keeps someone at arms length right from the start and does everything "right" and is still a victim. But the thing is, victims, although innocent and not at fault of the harm done to them, they're flawed human beings. That's what makes it so hard for victims to heal and move on, because they did this or that and keep thinking "if only I hadn't xyz." But survivors out there, it doesn't matter if you were a jerk one time, or a little rude one time, or even cruel, it doesn't give anyone the right or justification to ab*se you, harass you, etc etc.
i hope this show finds audience and become huge like beef last year. fantastic all around.
Brilliant show... Scary and amusing at the same time.. Deeply psychological..I finished it in one sitting ❤
Amusing?
It’s an eye opening example of trauma bonding. Simply that. And how it’s so difficult to eliminate the addiction of the emotional attention. He even fell for the career offer his abuser offered again. He broke down because he knew he was trapped in the trauma bond and how toxic it was
This was absolutely brilliant to watch !
Yeah it was amazing!
So much hurt and pain in his eyes. The last two episodes of Baby Reindeer broke me. I cried. And when I thought it was done, there’d be a single random tear running. ❤️🩹 So much respect and love for this man. ❤️
I think that at the ending he kind of understud why she started stalking him like he felt that kindness at rock bottom maybe what Martha felt (idk tho)
Was not expecting this level of intensity. Thought it was a comedy. Then it got intense. Then it got more intense. Then complicated if it wasn’t already. Great show.
It’s an incredible, complex and moving show. I watched it twice straight through. It spoke to me as a victim of abuse. It made me cry but not really in a bad way, but I really felt what Donny was going through. Richard Gadd is a brave and brilliant man.
This show broke me in every possible way. It is beyond brilliant. It’s depictions of how as humans, what we will endure to have our basic inner needs met. To feel worthy, purposeful, attractive, to have someone truly see us for who we are without judgment. Donnie endured so much trauma because he was so desperate to be seen.
Ugh just utterly shattering to watch but so genius at the same time. I’ve never watched something so riveting.
This show was phenomenal, really great and i recommend it, very emotional so be prepared !
The scene that shocked me the most would be Danny going back to Darrien's and him saying he was proud of his viral video and Danny saying thankyou....even after all this trauma and all this damage he still seeks the praises of his abuser, now with Martha in police custody and out the picture his only resort is his abuser...
Just hit home how complicated things like abuse and trauma are, the issues can't be solved with one singular moment of honesty that Danny showed in his video, his issues to wayyy deeper than that
You understand it. Thank you
I also thought it was strange that he went back to the guy that took advantaged of him and raped him. But forgot to realize that he hasn't recovered from his trauma. He also has these self-destructive, irrational tendencies so him going to the other abuser seemed like his way of coping. Ironically he was obsessed with martha the way he used her complementary voicemail to cheer him up. It really shows when the wrong people come into your life when you are low because they can take advantage of you - kind of like stockholm syndrome.
Powerfull stuff. Not for everyone.
100% in Rotten Tomatoes says otherwise
@@beccf.s.8012 Victims of rape may say otherwise la.
@@auldscouse I’m sure most of the male victims feel seen and as the topic is finally opened for real discussion. There are so many men suffering in silence. Also so many male victims of s.a. from members of catholic churchs when they were young still need to have the encouragement to come out and speak their truth. This is a discussion that still important and needs forum and visibility. For someone who wants to be perceived as empathetic you didn’t even care to disguise the word and trigger victims at all. You seem to only want to complain.
@@beccf.s.8012 I think you are projecting your own issues on to others, to make youself feel empowered. Deal with your own problems and let everybody else get on their own lives. It's not all about you.
@@auldscouse Nothing I said it’s about me. I am being empathetic to the victims you mentioned. You just want to argue. I just added that the numbers said otherwise. You spoke for the victims and I responded. Be well….
Binged this in one afternoon. Really enjoyed this. Even though it was very hard to watch in some episodes. I found myself being uncomfortable and irritated with Martha's behavior yet also being sympathetic and frustrated with some of Donny's actions with her. This show was amazing. I could not stop watching. Lastly I wish I could get my hands around that groomers neck. However it really saddened me how he returned to the groomer at the end.
I just started watching it this morning I'm already almost done 😂 its good and scary this was also a very good video good explaining the details
It's such a creepy show isn't it! Mad to think that this happened as well. Thanks, glad you enjoyed the video!
@@BrainPilot thanks subbed as well I like watching these videos you should also expand your videos a little longer if you can but it's was still good video very entertaining
This needs to be nationally and internationally recognised......though i imagine some may baulk at the subject matter.
The acting.... memorable
Yeah they were all so good!
So disturbing but I could not look away or stop. I also did not know the actor himself had gone through this until the last or so episode….I cant imagine going through all that he went through.
Only complain I have- if you can call it that- is: it annoyed me that the ending included him going to the guy's apartment, casually chatting and catching up then saying he'll accept a job from him, then leaving. It's like, have you learned nothing???
Loved cried and binged on this, amazing!
Yeah it was an amazing series wasn't it!
It's brilliant...sad but brilliant!!
Just finished it today and I’m at loss of words. I was sucked in and binged the show in one sitting. I empathized with the main hero as soon as he met Martha, this feeling of pity you have for some people that makes you ignore your own boundaries because you’re just afraid to hurt them. How easy it is to surrender yourself. I didn’t go through sexual abuse the way he did, but I have my own fair share of trauma and this show was so unapologetically raw and real.
One thing I wish I would’ve seen was a reason for Martha being this obsessive. Donny’s lack of self esteem lead to the abuse happening, but what created Martha’s, what kind of horrible childhood did she have that she became this ghost of a person? To lose yourself so terribly, I can’t imagine what she’s been through. This was a beautiful series!
Once Martha explained the comfort of the Baby Reindeer at the end and how if followed her wherever she went, I feel he realized her stalking was intentional to turn him into her baby reindeer, which succeeded when he realized how he consumed her recordings which brought him comfort. Although others focus on the abuse of the two characters I feel Martha’s plot succeeded. He realized in that moment he was captured and put into bondage. The nice gesture of the drink helped him to realize being so sympathetic to others can be a good and bad thing. I think we all can take bits and pieces from this moment
This was an amazing, heart breaking watch. The last episode made me cry.
I loved this show so much and great review
Bingewatched this on Netflix last night. So good. So many shows fail to keep me interested, but this one smashed it through the park!
Yeah this one was so gripping!
Great review. This was a very compelling series. You mentioned the red color scheme, but I also noticed what seemed to be intentional pops of yellow - his shirt in the flashback scene, the jacket he doesn't feel deserving to accept, and parts of his stand-up outfit. Do you think there's any meaning to that? I thought maybe yellow represented happiness that he couldn’t allow himself to let back into his life. Curious if anyone else had thoughts.
Okay so I checked google- The psychology of the color yellow tells us that the color has traditionally been a symbol of joyfulness, happiness, and energy and is associated with summer months. While on the other hand, it also symbolized caution and cowardice. I agree with you about your statement about the jacket, it felt like a moment of the mom trying to spread her joy (in her moment of grief) to him but he refused to. Then he kept it. The color of yellow meaning - These are kinda his traits that he’s exhibited throughout the show, I feel like it really set the tone.
I keep having to switch it off every time I try to watch it.
It's just too hard to get through, not because it's bad but it's just difficult to get through for me.
Is anyone else having this?
This is me on literally the first episode.
It was a hard show to watch because of the realness and levels of darkness it went to!
@@BrainPilot I finished it.
Whilst I enjoyed some of it, the show as a whole was utterly frustrating for me.
Things like her being a first class honours law graduate but somehow has worse spelling and grammar than a primary school child.
How she ended up getting his and his parents phone numbers with no scene showing how she went about acquiring these.
We are just to assume she was able to get there somehow, and easily at that.
How he at the end just goes back to the male abuser to repeat the cycle again - eurgh, utterly frustrating.
This show really surprised and impressed me. I’d also like to know what stand up comedians think about the comedy aspect of the show.
This is the best thing I have seen in many years.
Yeah it just felt so real!
Fantastic, still on my mind the nextday whar a classic
Yeah it was incredible!
I started to watch it and after the second series I gave up. I didn’t know it was based on a true story, also I heard on the morning show in Australia that it gets better, so I started to watch it from the beginning. I’m so glad I watched all of it, it’s so raw and compelling. Kudos to the two protagonist, they brought out so much intensity in this series. Brilliant movie incredible acting. I will watch it again.
amazing show....loved it!
Deserves all the awards it's gonna get !
I see people through this lense everyday. When people act a certain way I deeply sympathize and think of a horrid past they may or may not have because that is my story
I loved this show! Great acting & thought provoking. Agree with your thoughts and comments completely.
Glad you agree! It was so emotional wasn't it!
The thing about reliving the trauma through sexual desire hit like a truck. I only realized as of last month the depths of the pain I was feeling around it when I broke down shaking and hyperventilating in front of my gf telling her (had my first psychiatric evaluation and was made to bring up some specifics of it) so seeing all these really helped with the level of shame and disgust I have/had for myself as a man
Brilliant Show. I have dealt with a stalker. Not to the level he has. However, I have been an abusive relationship. Suffered trauma and damn near lost my life to my ex. There really needs to be more shows that cover men who go through stalking, and abusive behavior. We do, it goes unreported TOO often.
I watched the first episode and carried on watching, fantastic. Makes it worth paying for Netflix. Less murder documentaries more of this.
After the gruelling episodes of what he went through and he had to tell his mother and father what happened all he receieved was love and support from them. The scene at the train station where his father just kept waving at him when he was on the train in a dean pan manner, really got me laughing, the embarassment of your parents on the platform saying goodbye.
Less murder, more gay s8x, stalking, damaged people....BEST SHOW EVER
@@buttnugget6236 I guess you are more of a murder documentary person, may I suggest you watch the Jeffrey Dharmer series.
What I found irritating is that Martha was described by Donny to be so much older than him, like more his mom's age. While I found they looked totally the same age. Now I looked it up, the actress is even 4 years younger than the actor...🙄😁
¡Hola¡ Alguien podria explicrame el final con claridad por favor. Realmente estoy confundida, Martha fue abusada en su infancia ?
It is not clear but she clearly had a difficult childhood and he feels sorry for her.
Si
Yo no escuché ese dato pero,si sus padres nunca dejaban de pelear y ella solo sentía el amor en el pequeño reno.
I think he would become a stalker too (not in real like) but is what I understood when the bartender showed him kindness
I’m still thinking about how he shows up at the guy’s house at the end, the abuser. Do they start working together? Did I miss something?
I found it difficult to enjoy at first...too real the fat lady loves the skinny man. But I realized what a monumental journey this would have been for anyone to endure. Then I found out it was based on real life with Richard gadd's life. BRILLLLLIANT beyond words, bud. Congrats on your success. $$$$
I loved this series. So brilliantly done.
Yeah it was awesome!
I would like more people to know about this series, it is wonderful.
I thought it was haunting and gut wrenching until i got to the last two episodes and was just annoyed. He goes back to his abuser, but not to get his honor back, release his anger, or even confront that piece of ish. He agrees to work with him? All the while listening to his stalker who abused him and tried to ruin his life? I bet he went to see her in jail. I bet he wrote to her as well. This dude had loving and accepting parents, an ex girlfriend that literally still gaf about his well being and looked out for him. And these were his choices after everything? He's a massochist.
I stopped 2 episodes before the end out of sheer frustration too. Also, the actress who played Martha was SO convincing that I just couldn't stomach her anymore!
I felt that when there is only one reason I can think he went back to Darrien: To confront him and tell him he will or will not press charges. Darrien sensed that so he tried to offer a bribe of working with him to get Donny to shut up. Donny said yes but not with any joy or enthusiasm. So when agreed to work for Darrien it proved to Donny that he had won over Darrien. Donny now had a bit of power back. He probably didn't have the courage to report him. Not a massochist. Rape victims feel conflicted and guilty (as Donny discusses). Donny had "more self-hatred than love to offer Terri"--people who don't love themselves have trouble loving others.
I think that scene with going back to his rapist was realistic. A lot of victims go back. Also the way the actor is played so calmly and matter of fact, shows how grooming works. He tricks you into believing nothing is really happening. After every sexual encounter he would do something completely banal like make a cup of tea. Even the way he greets him and congratulates him on his success is disassociated. Hiw can he be a rapist when he's being so pleasant.