Thank you so much for this video. I am an INTJ female and now i understand why i would never stroke someones back and say 'there there', i just cant do it. For a long time i was afraid that ment i didn't show others how much I cared about them. And as a woman not being able to comfort people emotionally people just assume you don't care. But thanks to your video i know it is true, i do show people i care about them a lot by searching for hours on the internet for the best conditioner for my moms hairtype because hers was empty and she mentioned she didn't like her conditioner. Or spending hours finding a natural cure for a family members health condition because she didn't want traditional medicine. Or ordering a perfume from other countrys because a friend couldn't find it in our country anymore. I always want to fix the problems of people because for me stroking someones back and saying how sorry you are for them is not going to change anything about the situation at all. If someone has pain I look for a solution immediately. Now I start to understand myself better. A big thank you for this, realising this is a big relieve. Sorry for my English mistakes, I am Dutch.
Your English is perfect INTJ Queen! I'm glad that this video helped you understand yourself more because I felt the same way prior to learning about cognitive functions or Love Languages. Keep doing you, people might not show appreciation when you're doing it but they'll notice it when you stop ✊
Great job explaining all that. I've never understood why Fe's response of comforting a distressed person is so glorified. Any comfort received will just be negated by the next interaction with the cause. If Te fixes the cause of the distress, then the distress will not happen again, and everyone can return to the contented baseline.
ESFP Because a calm person will fix their own problems, and a panicked person can't listen to advice. Fixing the problem for them makes it so they need you again next time, helping them get to a place to do it themselves, means they can do it again in the future themselves. Just like you don't help a kid with math homework by solving them for them.
@@blacklightredlight2945 it sounds like you have that backwards. Te doesn't do the work for them since that would be handicapping their potential. Te teaches the skills to do it themselves. Fe tells them it's hard and scary and that it's ok to be lost and confused, even though those feelings make it more difficult to perform. It doesn't teach them how to solve it. It teaches them to be ok with not being able to solve it. Lets compare it to parachuting. Te teaches them how and when to pull the release cord, the emergency cord, things to avoid, what to expect, how to land. Fe says "pull this cord and go! You can do this, believe in yourself!"
@PaleGhost69 Te and Fe have problem solving approach, just they solve different problems. Fe works with intricacies of emotional regulations and social interactions. The thing Te usets often overlook that emotional sphere being at minimum half of human's existence thus can absolutely be a source of problems and stumbling rocks (for a better understanding we can use an example that people won't go into the flame willingly. But when there's their child in there, their emotions change their priorities drastically) So, sometimes removing problems on emotional level solves the current problem and all that might be related to it automatically.
I always love it when you talk about Mama Te, and I love it when "Mama Te is at home". The synergy between Ni and Te when they're at their best and the feeling of accomplishment it produces are beyond words. I live for those moments 😄
Many speculate that he could be INFP too. I personally don't like his analysis about seduction or war. Laws of power was his best one. Even there he only managed to put together past well established wisdom from China and Italy.
I got to cry of this video 😭 Jon this a long story but it's really interesting; Since I knew mbti, for many years, I couldn't understand what is "Te", and I hated so so much that it's all about "Efficiency" Title, Status ecc. And i got to know my best friend whom he's Intj, we was discussing, and he told me, I understand ur point but there's a "Facts", u've to settle down with them, then I told him there's no actual truth, everyone sees the world from his perspective, he told "yes, but the world has his system".... In that time, I wasn't convinced, and I had a "opened writing argument" hw, i decided to talk about the "absolute truth", and while I'm scratching to make my points clear, I reached the meaning of the "Te" finally, while we all see that for ex. This tree rather is blue, green or yellow, but the existence of the tree is a "fact", and her true colour is also a "fact" and so on the list goes on, it was very insightful and mind blowing when I finally reached to this point.
Absolutely love the break down and could not agree more. I absolutely credit mama-Te for helping me to seem normal in my worst of times, because she won't let me be completely unproductive. If there is a list of minimal tasks you can still complete, even in my worst loops, like a strict but fair parent she'll be that driving force to say, "Complete X,Y, and Z. Then you can take all the time you want to focus on you." True to what you mentioned in the video, I remember as a younger INTJ, I was always confused when people would have an unintended emotional reaction to an action I took to address an issue, because from that Te standpoint I was literally like, "I fixed your problem, I did it efficiently, and I also put safety controls in place to help prevent it from catching you off guard again... why are you upset?" But once, like you mentioned, I started understanding that emotions are sometimes more of the focus around an issue than the actual issue itself, it's like it took my Te into Super Saiyan levels of being able to show I care for the people I care about. As usual, I have a gaming example which is fairly recent, but I'll start off with an IRL one first cause it was the moment I really learned to harness the power of Te appropriately. I remember my girlfriend was upset about an issue she was having and this was already after a rough patch we were going through so I was already on "egg shell" mode. I can't remember how it donned on me, but as she was talking through the issue and got to a stopping point for a response, it just suddenly came to me to ask her straight up, "Do you want help finding a solution, or do you just want to vent a bit? Because I'm here for you either way, I just want to make sure I provide you with what you feel you need." And as if all the tension of the past few days had disappeared, she just said, "Honestly, I'm not sure right now, but I think I just need to have someone listen." After letting her vent for awhile, being an ENTJ, she came around to saying, "So I have a couple of ideas how I want to handle this, and I would like your input on what the best path is." And because I had taken the proper time to listen, I was able to give her a solid list of pros and cons for both options, some she hadn't considered yet and we both left that conversation feeling closer instead of frustrated. As for the gaming example, I noticed one of my raid mates having trouble deciphering their responsibility for a mechanic because it can change based on how it winds up. After they'd been struggling for a couple nights and I even noticed they were going back into the fight on their own to practice more, the next night we all got together, Te kicked in and I just "naturally" started making an extra call out specifically for them so they wouldn't get lost. Admittedly there was a part of me that was worried they might have felt I was calling them out, but sure enough, as the night went on they started recognizing their queues on their own and I started pulling back on the extra call out. At the end of the night they even said, "That extra call out really helped. I think if we do that another night or so, I should have it down." And it just served to really highlight what you mentioned in the video. When you're part of the "clan" mama-Te will recognize that and she won't let a clan mate just struggle in silence if she sees them putting in effort, and she definitely won't let an INTJ just sit on the sideline watching if they have the ability to lighten that load.
I love that people are starting to use the term "Mama te" 😅. Those are great examples of really harnessing the power of Te. I especially like what you wrote, that Te won't let a person struggle in silence because that's just unacceptable if you're part of my Fi. Mama really is a loving function.
The rest of the story is way more amazing; When I was discussing with my intj friend, I would just say somethings of mine, of my insecurities, and I just thought he would listen for me as everyone and it ends like, and actually when someone listens me it's enough for me... But, I found that he was really really caring, he opened wide the discussion, and got to ask me more and more "why, how" and his questions was really so deep and brilliant, and he nodded that I've to answer with either "yes" or "no" without any other word, so it would be clear for him, u know this neutral answers 😅I was answering... And I just felt him analysing, and he would disappear for hours maybe days, analysing my problem, so he read all the chat again and again... Then he came to me after all this processing with "Te" He conclude with his powerful "Ni" to connect all these, and then he told me U R 1, 2, 3 Bec. U say this, and do that.... 😭😭 He was so right in every word... And when discuss and he asks me a question and I can't answer, he is so smart and patient to divide the question to more smaller question so I know my answer 😭😭😭😭 And this is how the "Te" way of love which for me is more more precious than Fe That I don't like it and don't go along with it, Bec. I myself a Fe user so it's extremely not useful... I just discovered that I need a "Te" person in my life after so long.... Another thing, that I saw how my friend is so productive and successful, which inspired me soooooo much, everyday I look at him and dream to be like him... His working make him strong, make him confident, make him fear nothing as he works all the time for being prepared He's a genius 😭😭😭😭 I love how u r guys💕 By the way I'm "Infj"
What you wrote is exactly how most people react once they realize how Te users show that we care. Te will do everything to make your life as easygoing as possible and we appreciate Fe users making sure we don't ignore our emotions. I hope your relationship with the INTJ continues to flourish because it sounds like the INTJ is making you a more whole person as well ✊
13:33 yes! I told my INTJ " Im going to have to keep chasing you around everywhere arent I? 😭 " and he said "yep" He just doesn't sit still hes always tinkering with something. Honestly its admirable. Us INFPs struggle with Te so its quite the contrast
The Te of you INTJs really does act in a similar way to the Fe of us INFJs. I love how you guys give us INFJs your Te advice and I know it is to help us become aware of some stuff, then we could give you our Fe advice in the same manner. We both also love giving our help to others, but allot of times, it is not returned, but in the case of our 2 types, we will always help each other out, even if not always immediately afterward.
I appreciate INFJs because you guys give us the space we need to grow. There's only so much Fe we can take at a time and you guys give just the right amount of dosage ✊
@@justcallmejon22 Yeah, we can tell once we have psychoanylized you guys and felt you out with our Fe how much you need and when to not bother till later and let you process it. It is same for us with Te, too much of it and we might stop listening till we process what we already have. However, you guys also give us the right amount as well. To help each other become aware of certain things, we help out each other by covering each other's blind spots.
You have the most understandable explanations of the cognitive functions and how they work together. 👍 Yea I think I do sometimes get why people want hugs and pats on the back may be somewhat helpful but honestly I prefer finding solutions to problems. My issue is finding solutions to all problems gets exhausting at times and I've learned over the years to pick my battles.
Excellent content as I've become accustomed to seeing from your channel! So much of the content resonates with me. I have created/improved/replaced systems during my career, climbed company ladders very quickly and yet my patience, especially for people who are putting forth effort and energy, has increased. Pro tip for INTJ's (this is going to be a "captain obvious moment")....I will give credit to "Ellie" who gave me this feedback...Bob, you never smile. why don't you smile? We have a RBF, resting bitch face, and I'm so task oriented and this was early in my career as a production supervisor. I was intent and focused on getting the shift and crew started and my early routine involved visiting every person on shift and ensuring they had the information and resources needed for the day. No smiles during that task...that is until Ellie gave me the feedback. So I learned to say "hello, and how are you". Strange as that may seem, it made a difference for me.
13:33 you're right I like my INTJ because hes good at stabilizing my feelings I would say. This is so eye opening. Also even though im an INFP I feel like Im still Fe for some reason. I enjoy validating peoples feelings So i need to clearly explain things to INTJs. Thats helpful to know.I didnt know that was necessary It must be frustrating having to constantly explain intjs have feelings like everyone else I really enjoyed this episode
So Jon, I have watched several of your videos now and I appreciate each one. You really know your stuff and your passion is obvious, qualities which I sincerely enjoy. I would like to offer a bit of advice or constructive criticism if I may, and please don't take it as judgement in any way but rather as an observation or level of experience that I feel I may have come to understand as a "golden oldie" over 50. 🙂 As an INTJ I fully realize how fast our minds typically work and it often shows in how fast we talk when expressing our thoughts and ideas. Lord knows that is how I was in my younger years when talking about things I was passionate about. But I came to realize over time that many, if not most people had some difficulty keeping up with my pace and would tend to lose interest by not quite being able to keep up with what I was expressing. I have learned the art and benefits of the dramatic pause and occasional repeat for emphasis which seem to help others to remain better engaged in our conversations. Don't get me wrong dear Jon, I think you are absolutely amazing! I truly enjoy your presentations and am learning from your insights. I quite simply just found myself needing to replay several sections however to better absorb some of the concepts I was less familiar with. So I just thought I would offer a bit of advice for you to consider to maybe take a breath now and then my dear passionate friend. Keep up the great work!
Very valid critism! I started slowing down my speech after this video because I noticed how insanely fast I talk sometimes. I really do appreciate the feedback 🙏
I have a friend that I am quite sure is an ENTJ. This person doesn't know as much about mbti and cognitive functions, and taking the letters on their face, she felt that she should be an ENFJ because she loves the people in her life and has feelings for them and is a caretaker. I didn't want to overly-explain why I thought she was actually an ENTJ; some people are not as into mbti and I don't feel a need to be corrective. ENTJs are among the most caring types I have in my life. Thank you for talking about how Te can be very caring. It's true.
I mistake healthy ENTJs for Fe doms all the time so it's not surprising for me to hear that they mistake themselves as well. I agree, it doesn't matter to be right or correct sometimes, as long as they are still good and kind people. Congrats on finding your own ENTJ, I would go crazy with mine 🙂
Can't describe how helpful this video is and I am glad you have made it. So well said and put all together. Oh, your words did a major role in helping me to understand me. I am less dumb (a bit only), thank you!
Perfectly summed up, as always ! I love this function. You right : Unstoppable ! Always pleasing and satisfying to see ourselves in others. No matter what I do, for me it's never enough, never perfect (Ni), I want to do more, accomplish more, want to do so much things. (I have more than 130 video scripts started about MBTI on my computer) 🤣😢 We need both Fe and Te (we need all functions in the world). When something happens to someone (S), he need to express how he feel, to be understood, validated and reassured, that it's normal to feel like this (Fe). We need to put on the outside the feelings we have inside to healing. And we also need the problem (N) to be solved (Te) at the root, in order to not cause pain later. What is fun, I am INTJ, and I think the world lack of communication, compassion, emotions, empathy, listening. It breaks my heart when I see an INTJ trying to socialize or express his feelings, and the other person doesn't answer, or is not receptive, doesn't listen or doesn't care, reject him.
130 is a lot! I completely agree that Fe & Te are both needed depending on the situation and that no one function is superior to another. INTJs being misunderstood is sadly the story of our lives 🙃
Dude, I love your videos. You nail things so spot on in ways I have yet to hear another INTJ youtuber nail. I'm commenting right now however, because I have to send you INTJ love for having Robert Greene's Laws of Power in the background. And Batman.
Unique and practical tips thanks. Especially mama Te achieving and showing caring action yet dismissive of emotional connection. Breaking the NiFi anxiety loop of excuses for inaction and indecision suffers similarly I feel as does Fe social connection. Externalising Te and Se initiatives to contain Ni productively away from indulging fear, self sabotage and self criticism is key I find.
good video as always! its crazy how being 1 out of 16 personalities can narrow me down so much that u can have this whole video perfectly describe me without knowing me.
Thanks to your video, I finally understand what Te is and how it works. As an INFJ I've curious about the functions I'm not good at and wish to improve them, yet many videos just couldn't explain it specific enough and in depth. Great appreciation to your work! And I have to say you have an INTJ speed in speaking lol
I’ve felt this thinking with my INTJ friend, but you made it into more easily understood words. The way I thought of it was this. My INTJ friend had emotions but those emotions are thinking emotions. My emotions are just that, emotions emotions. But hers, thinking emotions. It’s like my emotions are a roaring river but her thinking emotions are like a pressure washer, water under pressure which can cut. I don’t feel like I’ve explained it well enough, ah well, you did it best ☺️ Thank you for these videos! I am having a blast learning more about INTJs!! Tactical emotional thinking. It’s so cool 😊 You deserve much more subscribers!!
Trust me when I say that sometimes we really do wish we were more like you guys and have more 'emotion emotions' than 'thinking emotions'. Take care of your INTJ for me 🙏
I know where the pencil is, too. The 3rd stack of papers and books from the left on the coffee table. Approximately 5 centimetres deep under the Pride and Prejudice book. Sincerely an ENFP 😂
9:38 Well, totally relatable again! 10:36; the realisation it’s Te all along. 11:36 this is mind blowing. I am so glad I found your channel, Jon. Always providing great insights.
This video made me want to get things done haha! I think them having Te tool means that people might not always appreciate their help in a Te way, people might want emotional comfort instead so there’s where Fe polr comes in and can lead to relationship problems.
@@justcallmejon22 Unrelated but do you like the new billie eillish songs? You said that you listen to billie songs in one of your older videos. I think billie songs are nice!
I find it strange how Te is seen as robotic, when Ti is the one where there is a one way to go, in that specific order and with these specific toolsets. Te is flexible, but high Te users are so accustomed to switching from this to that, that it may look like auto pilot? Great video as always! I am curious if you have a plan to talk about demon Si. Enough INTJ videos about Te, Ni, blind spot Fe, but strangely barren on something that can kill our being.
The reason why Te looks robotic to people is because of perspective. I agree that it's not robotic if you look at it from an internal/personal lens because it's easy to pivot. What people externally see is that Te is working non-stop (like a robot) and continuously producing results. I don't have plans to talk about demon functions but who knows, that plan might change one day 🙃
@@justcallmejon22we’re loving your content nonetheless and we can always go back sections, if we need it! Please don’t let this impact your content production in any way, you’re doing an amazing job and are even more inspiring for talking openly about your nervousness yet sharing your thoughts with us regardless 🙏
Now I see why my husband and others say to me 'not just the pretty face'. Sometimes I find that line a bit patronising. Makes me feel uncomfortable. I never knew how to react when people say that to me, I just ignore them and continue the thing I was doing or saying (or suggesting)
As an INTJ female my mom always tells me I'll never keep a man because I'm too straight forward and say what needs to be said.. I tell her that's okay because I won't keep quite all my life in order to keep one by my side. Yes, I do understand there are times to be silent and times to speak up, but people take great offense when a woman (especially young) holds a man accountable or calls him out on his bs and double standards. I've got myself in so much trouble because I couldn't keep my mouth shut 😅
@@justcallmejon22 we INTJ will never fit in, as women we don’t fit in any stereotype or expectation towards women. I often do ‘the not proper’ things or do things with ‘the not proper’ way, which upsets many people. Personally I don’t talk about the plans I have in my head or discuss about it, I just do things. And I don’t negotiate once I have decided to do something unless there is something unprecedented happened which I might have to divert it. People seem to find that intimidating and upsetting. INTJ men or women, we have the same type of brain 🤷🏻♀️
Going to watch it now. I work in commercial real estate but when the spreadsheets get too big - I get headache and lose it from the ENTJ. That's my real life example of INTJ Te limitations. :X
Te's underrated, as an Enfp it can literally be the force helping me to perk back up again when i'm in the jiving sad music mood i can put on a spotify song and imagine shit before no longer than a second after the scheduled time for that head space i'm back towards using the function unhealthily watching all my youtube notifications to feel like i'm accomplishing something ✨it can also be the force that makes me feel weird toward rewatching movies and stuff because i feel like it's a waste of time, because like with the music thing i can just feel like it's done and over with and there's no point in feeling that way anymore
I understand how you feel ENFP. It's so difficult to just sit down and watch a movie because we know the time can be spent improving something. I've seen ENFPs do a lot of amazing work once ya'll get a firm grasp on Te. It's always a sight to behold ✊
@@justcallmejon22combine that with my ocd and i can spend an hour straight just spamming discord channels with art ifound from fandoms i like, and as a dva main i approve of the cover
Te is why I couldn't go to bed ubtil I finished all the tasks and chores I set up to do depsite being sleep deprived sleeping like 3-5 hours a day for a few months trying to fulfill the responsibilities of several positions due to short staffed problem and Covid.😅😅
@9:20 For the longest time I mistook mama Te caring nature for Fe which causing me confusion. But I am very sure that when I do these things I always have reason why I do it not just because I feel like doing it. Also because I'm not comfortable showing emotions to other people. So the best way to show I care is through actions. For me it's less sentimental than expressng it verbally or giving someone hug.
Your orange lighting with black tshirt looks fab, because of that, your video is looking super cool🤩🤩🤩 Well you didnt mention that Te also helps you to understand people's thinking and thought processes instantaneously Like i have generally seen my INTJ and ISTJ friends just understand what I am saying and they just very well understand the thought processes, other types also understand the thought process but specially INTJ and ISTJ understand the thought process very naturally and smoothly I dont know if it is common with other ISTJs or not but my ISTJ friend many a times just makes me stop talking then he just tell what I was going to say, like many a times he understand the whole paragraph which i was going to say just by hearing the first one line of it 😧😧 Both of your personalities are amazing INTJs and ISTJs 🤩🤩🤩 You guys are gems, specially you INTJs are like Severus Snape of harry potter, you guys will literally make your loved ones the goal of your life, you people can die for your loved ones Usually other types ignore you and misunderstand you as bad and uncaring, but when other types realise that you INTJs are very caring just the way of your caring is different, then other types respect you like hell🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾 Well not all types and people can understand your care because of your low-Fe but dont worry, only some people can identify real gems and only some people can understand and value real gems like you guys ✌️✌️
Me, glaring at my inferior function after watching this video:- Grow up and don't behave like a baby! My Te:- 🥱 saying something? Ok so I watched this one twice to get the grasp of the mature version of Te (your advice plus i think i see its need too)- I mean I know Te won't manifest in me like it does in INTJs but it's combination with Ne will make my Ne dreams come true, beside many other things.... 4:07 this sentence truly would have gone over my head... my Ne "wants" to accomplish task, but never "needs" to- i think it must be similar to how my Fi "needs" to pacify conflicts- it does not "want" to empathize.. it needs to "empathize".. 6:06 First, it did sound harsh.... but then i imagined how an irresponsible adult might be like and then- ok fair enough... 6:51 .... it ...will indeed be comforting... 9:45 No wonder that caring side of high Te users is so adorable 10:50 tbh unless the person is being a d*** i don't think too much emotion overflow is required- to a Fi dom (i think) being there for them is enough you don't have to pat our back and say "there there".. i think borrowing your shoulder and ear is enough... At last yes... your advice will help other intjs very well- keep coming with such good content!! It was nice to hear ya (like always) !!!
I know it’s a big favor, you don’t have to do it if you don’t want to. But can you give a shout out to my friend Bailey? She’s an INTJ. I’m an INFP, I recently introduced her to your videos and she really appreciates them. Anyway , it would mean the world to me and I think it would make her happy to see how hard I’m trying for our friendship ☺️
Hi Bailey! I heard you're a fellow INTJ Queen 👑. Your buddy Darren's been watching a few of my videos to better understand you. If you didn't already know, INFPs are notorious for not being action-focused so him taking the time to learn about you shows that he truly does value you in his life. Please take care of each other because the INTJ/INFP friendship is one of the most fulfilling partnership out there and I'm saying this from decades of experience from all the nights where my INFP friends and family members were there for me without hesitation carrying me on their backs while I was down. Double down on your strength INTJ and I hope you accomplish all the goals that you set your mind to. You got this ✊ -Jon
As an INFP, Te is not natural to me. But when it does comes out, I both enjoy it an hate it. Firstly, it's very difficult to show care for others through Fi, I know what I fell, but how do I express it it's a problem. So after offering emotional support like any feeler would, my Te starts to act and it's wonderful. But not everyone is ready for Te, which is a shame. Like, guys, I'm not trying to be bossy, inconsiderate, or saying that I know better than you, I just want to help, which is taking a lot of energy and effort since it's not something I do intuitively! I come across as arrogant, and later I get into a beautiful Fi-Si crisis, being angry at myself for making others upset.
I learned after years of dealing with my INFP sister that INFPs only show Te when ya'll care. As an adult, it's so cute to see you guys use Te and it makes me proud when you guys are able to use it when necessary 🙂
This may explain why i need to get something done very day.. but isnt that some sort of general human need? And one more thing: do you think that cognitive function are the most efficient ways of explaining human thinking and behavior? After four years I still kinda can't wrap my head around it. There has got to be something more straight forward. Anyways, I'll look into your Lovestory video now xD
Staying alive is a human need but the level of tasks or the rate of which they are accomplished is dependant on individuals. That's why procastination isn't really a thing for Te dom/aux users. Yes we do procastinate but it's usually only when we're tired or during the times we are mostly inhealthy. In regards to cognitive functions, I'm not sure if there's a better way to explain human psychology but I enjoy cognitive functions because it's well explained and it's explained in a way that's easy to comprehrend as a normal joe like myself who doesn't have a psychology degree. I hope you enjoyed the video 😀
@@justcallmejon22 yes I liked it, and your cognitive functions love story video really helped me to improve my understanding of cognitive functions. It's not as complicated as i thought. Like functions reflect innate human drives right?
but also makes you depressed when your body is holding you back from archiving what you wanted. and yeah, I have done to much for people. Can make you depressed too if they aren´t nice to you.
So what happens when you have no Te? 😂 my husband is an ISTP And the difference between him and me is abysmal. He will do things when he feels like it.. or if they are absolutely crippling his life. 😅
I think that the stereotypes of Te being cold and ruthless and Fe being fake both come from an unhealthy societal structure, where most of our interactions are with people we don't really know and have shallow relationships with. Te users, not having Fi valuation of these people (not to their fault, they just don't know them or have a meaningful connection with them), naturally tend to treat them as utilities and means to the Te users own ends (although not necessarily in ways that are harmful to these utilities). Likewise, the Fe user is constantly facing the overwhelming demand of disconnection between its user and the people they're surrounded with. The Fe user is naturally trying to bridge these gaps in ways that come off as shallow and fake, because they're constantly interacting in shallow relationships. In another world, our ancestors were all hunter gatherers living in tribes of 100-200 people that had life-longish relationships with each other. Te was naturally understood to be used on behalf of everyone as an act of love, and Fe was able to act with more sustainable depth in the context of these relationships.
Ni-Te is productive? Then, why do I not feel productive? Clarification, I guess I am, but I also think the type of productive activities that matter to most people don't matter as much to me.
@@justcallmejon22 yes5x4 good to know to. The Enneagram instincts though: SP Emphasis on personal needs and interests. SX Empasisis on intimate or one to one relationships SO Empasis on group or community. You list them in order and the 3rd one is your repressed. Anyway you can read all over on internet if interested. I ask because INTJs tend to shade their defintions of what an INTJ is by what their instinct is. Its a subtle thing. I am guessing you might be a SX instinct because of you dating alot where as me as SP INTJ I date barely ever.
Jon, this is not about the video. I wasn't sure where else to post it. Please tell me if INTJs show their emotions in writing? We both know you have emotions, just don't show them. I get that. I have been reading poetry of an INTJ and it is so profound and emotional and beautiful and sad. It's not what I expected from an INTJ. I don't mean it's bad at all. I am left with ....
Art is important because it's an outlet for emotions. Not all INTJs write their emotions. Some draw, some sing, etc. Just because we're INTJ doesn't mean we don't have feeling so yes, it's normal for an INTJ to write poetry with such intense emotional passion.
I believe you confuse Libertarians with Anarchists. From my understanding, libertarians want enough structure for peace and true freedom but not so much that it has rules that only apply for some of the population. I think careful libertarianism is actually somewhat appealing as an INTJ 3:46
I don't even know what comforting people emotionally means, usually when they start to vent with me (and they do quite often) I listen carefully, I asses the situation and I come up with an cation plan. One day a friend of mine told me, I don't need to be told what to do, I just need to speak about it...fab I just wasted a lot of cognitive labour and time for nothing. Yes we do care, but I can't dwell on endless emotional swings on end, we need to come up with a solution or at least acknowledging the root cause of the so.called issue. Plus do not make me started with group projects...it's painful when you have already mapped out an entire strategy and the rest can't even get started, wasting time on trivial things, not getting the point across, leading to falling behind schedule and POSSIBLY ending up with a crappy output. I'm on an entire PG course based 100% on group projects, people can't stand me..which is painful after a while because I'm there to learn, improve my skills and within the groups I like planning, getting things laid out and optimise the pace in a systematic way ...whereas they hxxt me ... imagine how stressed I am with all those groups, adults who wanted be treated like children, reading through the blurred lines of human emotions, so forth and so on. Needless to say I would have done a better job by taking self-paced, 100% online courses...never anymore.
'adults who wanted to be treated like children', trust me when I say I felt that on my side of the screen. I would recommend taking a few courses in person because work will always have some component of teamwork so it's best to learn how to navigate bad behavior early on as to not stunt your growth. I have been glanced over for promotion mulitple times because I wasn't seen as a team player, be better than me ✊
I always tell people if you want to know if an INTJ likes you (romantically or in general) you'll know they do if they've ever gone out of their way to help you with a problem (no matter how large or small). If the answer is no, they'd have better luck playing the lottery.
I'm currently going through another pang of depression while recovering from sickness. I have been waiting for Mama Te to come back and help me get up on my feet again, at least to help recalibrate my emotions through practical measures, and then back to forward momentum when I ultimately feel better again 🥲
I hope things get better for you soon brotha! A cheat that I use whenever I'm in my loop is to force myself to be around my Te friends. It's like jumpstarting a car but only when you figured out a few things yourself first. You got this INTJ ✊
“I’d rather buy you a new house than to deal with you emotionally” 😂😂😂😂😂 omg so true!!
Thank you so much for this video. I am an INTJ female and now i understand why i would never stroke someones back and say 'there there', i just cant do it. For a long time i was afraid that ment i didn't show others how much I cared about them. And as a woman not being able to comfort people emotionally people just assume you don't care. But thanks to your video i know it is true, i do show people i care about them a lot by searching for hours on the internet for the best conditioner for my moms hairtype because hers was empty and she mentioned she didn't like her conditioner. Or spending hours finding a natural cure for a family members health condition because she didn't want traditional medicine. Or ordering a perfume from other countrys because a friend couldn't find it in our country anymore. I always want to fix the problems of people because for me stroking someones back and saying how sorry you are for them is not going to change anything about the situation at all. If someone has pain I look for a solution immediately. Now I start to understand myself better. A big thank you for this, realising this is a big relieve. Sorry for my English mistakes, I am Dutch.
Your English is perfect INTJ Queen! I'm glad that this video helped you understand yourself more because I felt the same way prior to learning about cognitive functions or Love Languages. Keep doing you, people might not show appreciation when you're doing it but they'll notice it when you stop ✊
Women aren't good nurtures. Back in the day they just weren't part of the hunting party. Any complaints?
Great job explaining all that. I've never understood why Fe's response of comforting a distressed person is so glorified. Any comfort received will just be negated by the next interaction with the cause. If Te fixes the cause of the distress, then the distress will not happen again, and everyone can return to the contented baseline.
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Because a calm person will fix their own problems, and a panicked person can't listen to advice. Fixing the problem for them makes it so they need you again next time, helping them get to a place to do it themselves, means they can do it again in the future themselves.
Just like you don't help a kid with math homework by solving them for them.
@@blacklightredlight2945 it sounds like you have that backwards. Te doesn't do the work for them since that would be handicapping their potential. Te teaches the skills to do it themselves. Fe tells them it's hard and scary and that it's ok to be lost and confused, even though those feelings make it more difficult to perform. It doesn't teach them how to solve it. It teaches them to be ok with not being able to solve it.
Lets compare it to parachuting. Te teaches them how and when to pull the release cord, the emergency cord, things to avoid, what to expect, how to land. Fe says "pull this cord and go! You can do this, believe in yourself!"
@PaleGhost69 Te and Fe have problem solving approach, just they solve different problems. Fe works with intricacies of emotional regulations and social interactions.
The thing Te usets often overlook that emotional sphere being at minimum half of human's existence thus can absolutely be a source of problems and stumbling rocks (for a better understanding we can use an example that people won't go into the flame willingly. But when there's their child in there, their emotions change their priorities drastically) So, sometimes removing problems on emotional level solves the current problem and all that might be related to it automatically.
I always love it when you talk about Mama Te, and I love it when "Mama Te is at home". The synergy between Ni and Te when they're at their best and the feeling of accomplishment it produces are beyond words. I live for those moments 😄
I feel the same. There's a natural high when we're in that mode 😁
it's just a cute way of looking at the functions too, imagining a sitcom with them
@@justcallmejon22 I think that's the state of "flow". Ni+Te cognitive synchronicity.
I definitely see how INTJ's love & care & show up for their people & I'm here for it. ❤
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Omggggg The 48 Laws of Power is A MUST for every INTJ! I've got almost all of Robert Greene books (huge fan girl here) 😬
It's a great book! Very Te heavy but still great nonetheless.
Robert Greens also INTJ
Very interesting that his opinions and earlier life very similar to mine.
Many speculate that he could be INFP too. I personally don't like his analysis about seduction or war.
Laws of power was his best one. Even there he only managed to put together past well established wisdom from China and Italy.
If my wife watches this, it just might save my marriage.Excellent understanding and presentation.
Thanks! Tell your wife I said hi 😅
I got to cry of this video 😭
Jon this a long story but it's really interesting;
Since I knew mbti, for many years, I couldn't understand what is "Te", and I hated so so much that it's all about "Efficiency" Title, Status ecc.
And i got to know my best friend whom he's Intj, we was discussing, and he told me, I understand ur point but there's a "Facts", u've to settle down with them, then I told him there's no actual truth, everyone sees the world from his perspective, he told "yes, but the world has his system"....
In that time, I wasn't convinced, and I had a "opened writing argument" hw, i decided to talk about the "absolute truth", and while I'm scratching to make my points clear, I reached the meaning of the "Te" finally, while we all see that for ex. This tree rather is blue, green or yellow, but the existence of the tree is a "fact", and her true colour is also a "fact" and so on the list goes on, it was very insightful and mind blowing when I finally reached to this point.
Absolutely love the break down and could not agree more. I absolutely credit mama-Te for helping me to seem normal in my worst of times, because she won't let me be completely unproductive. If there is a list of minimal tasks you can still complete, even in my worst loops, like a strict but fair parent she'll be that driving force to say, "Complete X,Y, and Z. Then you can take all the time you want to focus on you." True to what you mentioned in the video, I remember as a younger INTJ, I was always confused when people would have an unintended emotional reaction to an action I took to address an issue, because from that Te standpoint I was literally like, "I fixed your problem, I did it efficiently, and I also put safety controls in place to help prevent it from catching you off guard again... why are you upset?" But once, like you mentioned, I started understanding that emotions are sometimes more of the focus around an issue than the actual issue itself, it's like it took my Te into Super Saiyan levels of being able to show I care for the people I care about.
As usual, I have a gaming example which is fairly recent, but I'll start off with an IRL one first cause it was the moment I really learned to harness the power of Te appropriately. I remember my girlfriend was upset about an issue she was having and this was already after a rough patch we were going through so I was already on "egg shell" mode. I can't remember how it donned on me, but as she was talking through the issue and got to a stopping point for a response, it just suddenly came to me to ask her straight up, "Do you want help finding a solution, or do you just want to vent a bit? Because I'm here for you either way, I just want to make sure I provide you with what you feel you need." And as if all the tension of the past few days had disappeared, she just said, "Honestly, I'm not sure right now, but I think I just need to have someone listen." After letting her vent for awhile, being an ENTJ, she came around to saying, "So I have a couple of ideas how I want to handle this, and I would like your input on what the best path is." And because I had taken the proper time to listen, I was able to give her a solid list of pros and cons for both options, some she hadn't considered yet and we both left that conversation feeling closer instead of frustrated.
As for the gaming example, I noticed one of my raid mates having trouble deciphering their responsibility for a mechanic because it can change based on how it winds up. After they'd been struggling for a couple nights and I even noticed they were going back into the fight on their own to practice more, the next night we all got together, Te kicked in and I just "naturally" started making an extra call out specifically for them so they wouldn't get lost. Admittedly there was a part of me that was worried they might have felt I was calling them out, but sure enough, as the night went on they started recognizing their queues on their own and I started pulling back on the extra call out. At the end of the night they even said, "That extra call out really helped. I think if we do that another night or so, I should have it down." And it just served to really highlight what you mentioned in the video. When you're part of the "clan" mama-Te will recognize that and she won't let a clan mate just struggle in silence if she sees them putting in effort, and she definitely won't let an INTJ just sit on the sideline watching if they have the ability to lighten that load.
I love that people are starting to use the term "Mama te" 😅. Those are great examples of really harnessing the power of Te. I especially like what you wrote, that Te won't let a person struggle in silence because that's just unacceptable if you're part of my Fi. Mama really is a loving function.
The rest of the story is way more amazing;
When I was discussing with my intj friend, I would just say somethings of mine, of my insecurities, and I just thought he would listen for me as everyone and it ends like, and actually when someone listens me it's enough for me...
But, I found that he was really really caring, he opened wide the discussion, and got to ask me more and more "why, how" and his questions was really so deep and brilliant, and he nodded that I've to answer with either "yes" or "no" without any other word, so it would be clear for him, u know this neutral answers 😅I was answering...
And I just felt him analysing, and he would disappear for hours maybe days, analysing my problem, so he read all the chat again and again...
Then he came to me after all this processing with "Te"
He conclude with his powerful "Ni" to connect all these, and then he told me
U R 1, 2, 3 Bec. U say this, and do that.... 😭😭
He was so right in every word...
And when discuss and he asks me a question and I can't answer, he is so smart and patient to divide the question to more smaller question so I know my answer 😭😭😭😭
And this is how the "Te" way of love which for me is more more precious than Fe
That I don't like it and don't go along with it, Bec. I myself a Fe user so it's extremely not useful...
I just discovered that I need a "Te" person in my life after so long....
Another thing, that I saw how my friend is so productive and successful, which inspired me soooooo much, everyday I look at him and dream to be like him... His working make him strong, make him confident, make him fear nothing as he works all the time for being prepared
He's a genius 😭😭😭😭
I love how u r guys💕
By the way I'm "Infj"
What you wrote is exactly how most people react once they realize how Te users show that we care. Te will do everything to make your life as easygoing as possible and we appreciate Fe users making sure we don't ignore our emotions. I hope your relationship with the INTJ continues to flourish because it sounds like the INTJ is making you a more whole person as well ✊
@@justcallmejon22 I hope too🥺💕
13:33 yes! I told my INTJ " Im going to have to keep chasing you around everywhere arent I? 😭 " and he said "yep"
He just doesn't sit still hes always tinkering with something. Honestly its admirable. Us INFPs struggle with Te so its quite the contrast
The Te of you INTJs really does act in a similar way to the Fe of us INFJs. I love how you guys give us INFJs your Te advice and I know it is to help us become aware of some stuff, then we could give you our Fe advice in the same manner. We both also love giving our help to others, but allot of times, it is not returned, but in the case of our 2 types, we will always help each other out, even if not always immediately afterward.
I appreciate INFJs because you guys give us the space we need to grow. There's only so much Fe we can take at a time and you guys give just the right amount of dosage ✊
@@justcallmejon22 Yeah, we can tell once we have psychoanylized you guys and felt you out with our Fe how much you need and when to not bother till later and let you process it. It is same for us with Te, too much of it and we might stop listening till we process what we already have. However, you guys also give us the right amount as well. To help each other become aware of certain things, we help out each other by covering each other's blind spots.
So this is why I send person-specific memes to people.
Memes are awesome 😂
You have the most understandable explanations of the cognitive functions and how they work together. 👍 Yea I think I do sometimes get why people want hugs and pats on the back may be somewhat helpful but honestly I prefer finding solutions to problems. My issue is finding solutions to all problems gets exhausting at times and I've learned over the years to pick my battles.
Learning to pick your battles is a sign of maturity for any high Te user 😁
Excellent content as I've become accustomed to seeing from your channel! So much of the content resonates with me. I have created/improved/replaced systems during my career, climbed company ladders very quickly and yet my patience, especially for people who are putting forth effort and energy, has increased.
Pro tip for INTJ's (this is going to be a "captain obvious moment")....I will give credit to "Ellie" who gave me this feedback...Bob, you never smile. why don't you smile? We have a RBF, resting bitch face, and I'm so task oriented and this was early in my career as a production supervisor. I was intent and focused on getting the shift and crew started and my early routine involved visiting every person on shift and ensuring they had the information and resources needed for the day. No smiles during that task...that is until Ellie gave me the feedback. So I learned to say "hello, and how are you". Strange as that may seem, it made a difference for me.
I love that feedback! I'm making a video on small talk soon and Ellie's advice aligns with one of my key topics 😁
Yea I have to remind myself to compliment people instead of just focusing on completing the task but only if they're not praise junkies.
13:33 you're right I like my INTJ because hes good at stabilizing my feelings I would say.
This is so eye opening.
Also even though im an INFP I feel like Im still Fe for some reason. I enjoy validating peoples feelings
So i need to clearly explain things to INTJs. Thats helpful to know.I didnt know that was necessary
It must be frustrating having to constantly explain intjs have feelings like everyone else
I really enjoyed this episode
So Jon, I have watched several of your videos now and I appreciate each one. You really know your stuff and your passion is obvious, qualities which I sincerely enjoy. I would like to offer a bit of advice or constructive criticism if I may, and please don't take it as judgement in any way but rather as an observation or level of experience that I feel I may have come to understand as a "golden oldie" over 50. 🙂 As an INTJ I fully realize how fast our minds typically work and it often shows in how fast we talk when expressing our thoughts and ideas. Lord knows that is how I was in my younger years when talking about things I was passionate about. But I came to realize over time that many, if not most people had some difficulty keeping up with my pace and would tend to lose interest by not quite being able to keep up with what I was expressing. I have learned the art and benefits of the dramatic pause and occasional repeat for emphasis which seem to help others to remain better engaged in our conversations. Don't get me wrong dear Jon, I think you are absolutely amazing! I truly enjoy your presentations and am learning from your insights. I quite simply just found myself needing to replay several sections however to better absorb some of the concepts I was less familiar with. So I just thought I would offer a bit of advice for you to consider to maybe take a breath now and then my dear passionate friend. Keep up the great work!
Very valid critism! I started slowing down my speech after this video because I noticed how insanely fast I talk sometimes. I really do appreciate the feedback 🙏
Thank you for your great work on spreading information - Fellow Intj
I got you ✊
I have a friend that I am quite sure is an ENTJ. This person doesn't know as much about mbti and cognitive functions, and taking the letters on their face, she felt that she should be an ENFJ because she loves the people in her life and has feelings for them and is a caretaker. I didn't want to overly-explain why I thought she was actually an ENTJ; some people are not as into mbti and I don't feel a need to be corrective. ENTJs are among the most caring types I have in my life. Thank you for talking about how Te can be very caring. It's true.
I mistake healthy ENTJs for Fe doms all the time so it's not surprising for me to hear that they mistake themselves as well. I agree, it doesn't matter to be right or correct sometimes, as long as they are still good and kind people. Congrats on finding your own ENTJ, I would go crazy with mine 🙂
Extroverted thinking needs to accomplish a task.this is absolutely true.
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Can't describe how helpful this video is and I am glad you have made it. So well said and put all together. Oh, your words did a major role in helping me to understand me. I am less dumb (a bit only), thank you!
I'm glad to hear it helped! If it makes you feel any better, I feel dumb all the time 😁
ISTP's have Need for Speed. We have Need for Achieve.
Insightful information on this INTJ type with Te! I encountered your channel through the RUclips algorithm by chance. Thanks for sharing! 🔥🔥🔥
The algorithm doing its magic 😂
Perfectly summed up, as always ! I love this function. You right : Unstoppable ! Always pleasing and satisfying to see ourselves in others.
No matter what I do, for me it's never enough, never perfect (Ni), I want to do more, accomplish more, want to do so much things.
(I have more than 130 video scripts started about MBTI on my computer) 🤣😢
We need both Fe and Te (we need all functions in the world). When something happens to someone (S), he need to express how he feel, to be understood, validated and reassured, that it's normal to feel like this (Fe). We need to put on the outside the feelings we have inside to healing. And we also need the problem (N) to be solved (Te) at the root, in order to not cause pain later.
What is fun, I am INTJ, and I think the world lack of communication, compassion, emotions, empathy, listening.
It breaks my heart when I see an INTJ trying to socialize or express his feelings, and the other person doesn't answer, or is not receptive, doesn't listen or doesn't care, reject him.
130 is a lot! I completely agree that Fe & Te are both needed depending on the situation and that no one function is superior to another. INTJs being misunderstood is sadly the story of our lives 🙃
I like how accurate the few pictures in this video explain what you try to communicate
Glad it makes sense 😂
Dude, I love your videos. You nail things so spot on in ways I have yet to hear another INTJ youtuber nail.
I'm commenting right now however, because I have to send you INTJ love for having Robert Greene's Laws of Power in the background. And Batman.
That book is pure Te. I get exhausted reading it but my ENTJ friend finished it in a week 😂
Unique and practical tips thanks. Especially mama Te achieving and showing caring action yet dismissive of emotional connection. Breaking the NiFi anxiety loop of excuses for inaction and indecision suffers similarly I feel as does Fe social connection. Externalising Te and Se initiatives to contain Ni productively away from indulging fear, self sabotage and self criticism is key I find.
Wise words! I agree that Te & Se helps prevent us from self sabotage 😅
good video as always! its crazy how being 1 out of 16 personalities can narrow me down so much that u can have this whole video perfectly describe me without knowing me.
It really is wild isn't it 😅
Thanks to your video, I finally understand what Te is and how it works. As an INFJ I've curious about the functions I'm not good at and wish to improve them, yet many videos just couldn't explain it specific enough and in depth. Great appreciation to your work!
And I have to say you have an INTJ speed in speaking lol
I get so nervous on camera! I'm just glad the video quality isn't high enough for you guys to see me sweating 🙃
It's ok, you speak very clearly! You just remind me of my husband's speaking lol
I’ve felt this thinking with my INTJ friend, but you made it into more easily understood words. The way I thought of it was this. My INTJ friend had emotions but those emotions are thinking emotions. My emotions are just that, emotions emotions. But hers, thinking emotions. It’s like my emotions are a roaring river but her thinking emotions are like a pressure washer, water under pressure which can cut. I don’t feel like I’ve explained it well enough, ah well, you did it best ☺️
Thank you for these videos! I am having a blast learning more about INTJs!! Tactical emotional thinking. It’s so cool 😊 You deserve much more subscribers!!
Trust me when I say that sometimes we really do wish we were more like you guys and have more 'emotion emotions' than 'thinking emotions'. Take care of your INTJ for me 🙏
I am so happy right now! The word ‘emotions’ is stacked 5 times in my comment!!😆😆
I know where the pencil is, too. The 3rd stack of papers and books from the left on the coffee table. Approximately 5 centimetres deep under the Pride and Prejudice book. Sincerely an ENFP 😂
Your Te at work! Funny story, an ENFP is the person who introduced me to Pride and Prejudice 🙂
@@justcallmejon22 My favourite book of all times! 😍🥰 The paragon love story! I wonder if most INTJs like it, too, or if they find it cringey.
@@tanjakragelund3380love it too! One of the first classical romances that I could actually relate to / understand
9:38 Well, totally relatable again! 10:36; the realisation it’s Te all along. 11:36 this is mind blowing.
I am so glad I found your channel, Jon. Always providing great insights.
I got you ✊
This video made me want to get things done haha!
I think them having Te tool means that people might not always appreciate their help in a Te way, people might want emotional comfort instead so there’s where Fe polr comes in and can lead to relationship problems.
It leads to a lot of relationship problems. I'm learned to fear my Te after dating a few INFPs because of all the misunderstandings that it leads to 😭
@@justcallmejon22 Unrelated but do you like the new billie eillish songs? You said that you listen to billie songs in one of your older videos. I think billie songs are nice!
I find it strange how Te is seen as robotic, when Ti is the one where there is a one way to go, in that specific order and with these specific toolsets. Te is flexible, but high Te users are so accustomed to switching from this to that, that it may look like auto pilot?
Great video as always! I am curious if you have a plan to talk about demon Si. Enough INTJ videos about Te, Ni, blind spot Fe, but strangely barren on something that can kill our being.
The reason why Te looks robotic to people is because of perspective. I agree that it's not robotic if you look at it from an internal/personal lens because it's easy to pivot. What people externally see is that Te is working non-stop (like a robot) and continuously producing results. I don't have plans to talk about demon functions but who knows, that plan might change one day 🙃
10:00 Slow down, Satan. I was with you until that moment lol
I get so nervous 🙃
@@justcallmejon22we’re loving your content nonetheless and we can always go back sections, if we need it! Please don’t let this impact your content production in any way, you’re doing an amazing job and are even more inspiring for talking openly about your nervousness yet sharing your thoughts with us regardless 🙏
Now I see why my husband and others say to me 'not just the pretty face'. Sometimes I find that line a bit patronising. Makes me feel uncomfortable. I never knew how to react when people say that to me, I just ignore them and continue the thing I was doing or saying (or suggesting)
As an INTJ female my mom always tells me I'll never keep a man because I'm too straight forward and say what needs to be said.. I tell her that's okay because I won't keep quite all my life in order to keep one by my side.
Yes, I do understand there are times to be silent and times to speak up, but people take great offense when a woman (especially young) holds a man accountable or calls him out on his bs and double standards.
I've got myself in so much trouble because I couldn't keep my mouth shut 😅
I've noticed how different INTJ women experience life compared to the guys and I give you ladies so much prop for persevering ✊
@@justcallmejon22 we INTJ will never fit in, as women we don’t fit in any stereotype or expectation towards women. I often do ‘the not proper’ things or do things with ‘the not proper’ way, which upsets many people. Personally I don’t talk about the plans I have in my head or discuss about it, I just do things. And I don’t negotiate once I have decided to do something unless there is something unprecedented happened which I might have to divert it. People seem to find that intimidating and upsetting. INTJ men or women, we have the same type of brain 🤷🏻♀️
Going to watch it now. I work in commercial real estate but when the spreadsheets get too big - I get headache and lose it from the ENTJ. That's my real life example of INTJ Te limitations. :X
It's impossible to out Te a Te-Dom. I tried so many times and failed 🙃
Te's underrated, as an Enfp it can literally be the force helping me to perk back up again when i'm in the jiving sad music mood i can put on a spotify song and imagine shit before no longer than a second after the scheduled time for that head space i'm back towards using the function unhealthily watching all my youtube notifications to feel like i'm accomplishing something ✨it can also be the force that makes me feel weird toward rewatching movies and stuff because i feel like it's a waste of time, because like with the music thing i can just feel like it's done and over with and there's no point in feeling that way anymore
I understand how you feel ENFP. It's so difficult to just sit down and watch a movie because we know the time can be spent improving something. I've seen ENFPs do a lot of amazing work once ya'll get a firm grasp on Te. It's always a sight to behold ✊
@@justcallmejon22combine that with my ocd and i can spend an hour straight just spamming discord channels with art ifound from fandoms i like, and as a dva main i approve of the cover
Wow, as a non Te user, I feel like I’m missing out 😭🤣
Anyone who openingly wants Te sounds a bit sadistic to me 😂 (JK!)
@@justcallmejon22 😂 why is Te so savage
Te is why I couldn't go to bed ubtil I finished all the tasks and chores I set up to do depsite being sleep deprived sleeping like 3-5 hours a day for a few months trying to fulfill the responsibilities of several positions due to short staffed problem and Covid.😅😅
@9:20 For the longest time I mistook mama Te caring nature for Fe which causing me confusion. But I am very sure that when I do these things I always have reason why I do it not just because I feel like doing it. Also because I'm not comfortable showing emotions to other people. So the best way to show I care is through actions. For me it's less sentimental than expressng it verbally or giving someone hug.
I understand because I once mistaken Te for Fe as well ✊
Your orange lighting with black tshirt looks fab, because of that, your video is looking super cool🤩🤩🤩
Well you didnt mention that Te also helps you to understand people's thinking and thought processes instantaneously
Like i have generally seen my INTJ and ISTJ friends just understand what I am saying and they just very well understand the thought processes, other types also understand the thought process but specially INTJ and ISTJ understand the thought process very naturally and smoothly
I dont know if it is common with other ISTJs or not but my ISTJ friend many a times just makes me stop talking then he just tell what I was going to say, like many a times he understand the whole paragraph which i was going to say just by hearing the first one line of it 😧😧
Both of your personalities are amazing INTJs and ISTJs 🤩🤩🤩
You guys are gems, specially you INTJs are like Severus Snape of harry potter, you guys will literally make your loved ones the goal of your life, you people can die for your loved ones
Usually other types ignore you and misunderstand you as bad and uncaring, but when other types realise that you INTJs are very caring just the way of your caring is different, then other types respect you like hell🤞🏾🤞🏾🤞🏾
Well not all types and people can understand your care because of your low-Fe but dont worry, only some people can identify real gems and only some people can understand and value real gems like you guys ✌️✌️
Thank you for the kinds words towards ISTJs & INTJs. We really do try pretty hard to take care of our loved ones 😁
Me, glaring at my inferior function after watching this video:- Grow up and don't behave like a baby!
My Te:- 🥱 saying something?
Ok so I watched this one twice to get the grasp of the mature version of Te (your advice plus i think i see its need too)- I mean I know Te won't manifest in me like it does in INTJs but it's combination with Ne will make my Ne dreams come true, beside many other things....
4:07 this sentence truly would have gone over my head... my Ne "wants" to accomplish task, but never "needs" to- i think it must be similar to how my Fi "needs" to pacify conflicts- it does not "want" to empathize.. it needs to "empathize"..
6:06 First, it did sound harsh.... but then i imagined how an irresponsible adult might be like and then- ok fair enough...
6:51 .... it ...will indeed be comforting...
9:45 No wonder that caring side of high Te users is so adorable
10:50 tbh unless the person is being a d*** i don't think too much emotion overflow is required- to a Fi dom (i think) being there for them is enough you don't have to pat our back and say "there there".. i think borrowing your shoulder and ear is enough...
At last yes... your advice will help other intjs very well- keep coming with such good content!! It was nice to hear ya (like always) !!!
Glad it was somewhat useful for you 😅
@@justcallmejon22 if I use it that is 🥲
@@justcallmejon22 yup.. now I know what's in the package- " How " and efficiency are the only questions now....
I know it’s a big favor, you don’t have to do it if you don’t want to. But can you give a shout out to my friend Bailey? She’s an INTJ. I’m an INFP, I recently introduced her to your videos and she really appreciates them.
Anyway , it would mean the world to me and I think it would make her happy to see how hard I’m trying for our friendship ☺️
Hi Bailey!
I heard you're a fellow INTJ Queen 👑. Your buddy Darren's been watching a few of my videos to better understand you. If you didn't already know, INFPs are notorious for not being action-focused so him taking the time to learn about you shows that he truly does value you in his life. Please take care of each other because the INTJ/INFP friendship is one of the most fulfilling partnership out there and I'm saying this from decades of experience from all the nights where my INFP friends and family members were there for me without hesitation carrying me on their backs while I was down. Double down on your strength INTJ and I hope you accomplish all the goals that you set your mind to. You got this ✊
-Jon
@@justcallmejon22 thank you!!! 😭😭
This is some of the most wholesome thing I ever read on RUclips! You guys rock!
I am going past my bedtime for this video it better be worth it. (This comment sounds so toxic)
Hope it was worth it 😂
As an INFP, Te is not natural to me. But when it does comes out, I both enjoy it an hate it. Firstly, it's very difficult to show care for others through Fi, I know what I fell, but how do I express it it's a problem. So after offering emotional support like any feeler would, my Te starts to act and it's wonderful. But not everyone is ready for Te, which is a shame. Like, guys, I'm not trying to be bossy, inconsiderate, or saying that I know better than you, I just want to help, which is taking a lot of energy and effort since it's not something I do intuitively! I come across as arrogant, and later I get into a beautiful Fi-Si crisis, being angry at myself for making others upset.
I learned after years of dealing with my INFP sister that INFPs only show Te when ya'll care. As an adult, it's so cute to see you guys use Te and it makes me proud when you guys are able to use it when necessary 🙂
This may explain why i need to get something done very day.. but isnt that some sort of general human need? And one more thing: do you think that cognitive function are the most efficient ways of explaining human thinking and behavior? After four years I still kinda can't wrap my head around it. There has got to be something more straight forward. Anyways, I'll look into your Lovestory video now xD
Staying alive is a human need but the level of tasks or the rate of which they are accomplished is dependant on individuals. That's why procastination isn't really a thing for Te dom/aux users. Yes we do procastinate but it's usually only when we're tired or during the times we are mostly inhealthy. In regards to cognitive functions, I'm not sure if there's a better way to explain human psychology but I enjoy cognitive functions because it's well explained and it's explained in a way that's easy to comprehrend as a normal joe like myself who doesn't have a psychology degree. I hope you enjoyed the video 😀
@@justcallmejon22 yes I liked it, and your cognitive functions love story video really helped me to improve my understanding of cognitive functions. It's not as complicated as i thought. Like functions reflect innate human drives right?
Pretty good
Thank you 🙏
So accurate 😆
Thank you 🙏
If Te is your mama parent what gender do you like for your Critical Parent Ti?
I never actually put much thought into Ti. If Fi is auntie to me then I guess Ti would be uncle?! 😂
but also makes you depressed when your body is holding you back from archiving what you wanted. and yeah, I have done to much for people. Can make you depressed too if they aren´t nice to you.
Life gets easier once you recognize how people show they care ✊
@@justcallmejon22 yeah I know nice people too.
Great Vid as always 🎉
Thank you 🙏
So what happens when you have no Te? 😂 my husband is an ISTP And the difference between him and me is abysmal. He will do things when he feels like it.. or if they are absolutely crippling his life. 😅
I really don't understand how anything gets done with Ti users 😂
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I think that the stereotypes of Te being cold and ruthless and Fe being fake both come from an unhealthy societal structure, where most of our interactions are with people we don't really know and have shallow relationships with. Te users, not having Fi valuation of these people (not to their fault, they just don't know them or have a meaningful connection with them), naturally tend to treat them as utilities and means to the Te users own ends (although not necessarily in ways that are harmful to these utilities). Likewise, the Fe user is constantly facing the overwhelming demand of disconnection between its user and the people they're surrounded with. The Fe user is naturally trying to bridge these gaps in ways that come off as shallow and fake, because they're constantly interacting in shallow relationships. In another world, our ancestors were all hunter gatherers living in tribes of 100-200 people that had life-longish relationships with each other. Te was naturally understood to be used on behalf of everyone as an act of love, and Fe was able to act with more sustainable depth in the context of these relationships.
Ni-Te is productive? Then, why do I not feel productive? Clarification, I guess I am, but I also think the type of productive activities that matter to most people don't matter as much to me.
Sounds like Mama's out! You'll get productive when she returns 😁
@@justcallmejon22 She's been out for years then.
🎵Blame it on my ADD 🎵
@@Deathly_Visage adhd?
what is your Enneagram instinct Jon? SP SX or SO?
I'm not sure what 'instinct' is but I'm a 5w4. I'm not sure if that means anything 😂
@@justcallmejon22 yes5x4 good to know to. The Enneagram instincts though:
SP Emphasis on personal needs and interests.
SX Empasisis on intimate or one to one relationships
SO Empasis on group or community. You list them in order and the 3rd one is your repressed. Anyway you can read all over on internet if interested. I ask because INTJs tend to shade their defintions of what an INTJ is by what their instinct is. Its a subtle thing. I am guessing you might be a SX instinct because of you dating alot where as me as SP INTJ I date barely ever.
Just imagine the life of an INTJ who has ADHD
Don't need to imagine that 😁
Finished the book?
48 Laws of Power? I'm taking my time, it's very Te heavy so it's a bit overwhelming at times 😂
Jon, this is not about the video. I wasn't sure where else to post it. Please tell me if INTJs show their emotions in writing? We both know you have emotions, just don't show them. I get that. I have been reading poetry of an INTJ and it is so profound and emotional and beautiful and sad. It's not what I expected from an INTJ. I don't mean it's bad at all. I am left with ....
Art is important because it's an outlet for emotions. Not all INTJs write their emotions. Some draw, some sing, etc. Just because we're INTJ doesn't mean we don't have feeling so yes, it's normal for an INTJ to write poetry with such intense emotional passion.
@@justcallmejon22 Thank you honey!
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I believe you confuse Libertarians with Anarchists. From my understanding, libertarians want enough structure for peace and true freedom but not so much that it has rules that only apply for some of the population. I think careful libertarianism is actually somewhat appealing as an INTJ 3:46
You're probably right 😅
I don't even know what comforting people emotionally means, usually when they start to vent with me (and they do quite often) I listen carefully, I asses the situation and I come up with an cation plan. One day a friend of mine told me, I don't need to be told what to do, I just need to speak about it...fab I just wasted a lot of cognitive labour and time for nothing.
Yes we do care, but I can't dwell on endless emotional swings on end, we need to come up with a solution or at least acknowledging the root cause of the so.called issue.
Plus do not make me started with group projects...it's painful when you have already mapped out an entire strategy and the rest can't even get started, wasting time on trivial things, not getting the point across, leading to falling behind schedule and POSSIBLY ending up with a crappy output. I'm on an entire PG course based 100% on group projects, people can't stand me..which is painful after a while because I'm there to learn, improve my skills and within the groups I like planning, getting things laid out and optimise the pace in a systematic way ...whereas they hxxt me ...
imagine how stressed I am with all those groups, adults who wanted be treated like children, reading through the blurred lines of human emotions, so forth and so on. Needless to say I would have done a better job by taking self-paced, 100% online courses...never anymore.
'adults who wanted to be treated like children', trust me when I say I felt that on my side of the screen. I would recommend taking a few courses in person because work will always have some component of teamwork so it's best to learn how to navigate bad behavior early on as to not stunt your growth. I have been glanced over for promotion mulitple times because I wasn't seen as a team player, be better than me ✊
I always tell people if you want to know if an INTJ likes you (romantically or in general) you'll know they do if they've ever gone out of their way to help you with a problem (no matter how large or small). If the answer is no, they'd have better luck playing the lottery.
If the INTJ doesn't care about you (put on my meme voice), "Aint nobody got time for that" 😁
@@justcallmejon22 exactly lol.
I was in a funk all day ...your video was so uplifting ❤❤thank you Jon!! #Te
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I'm currently going through another pang of depression while recovering from sickness. I have been waiting for Mama Te to come back and help me get up on my feet again, at least to help recalibrate my emotions through practical measures, and then back to forward momentum when I ultimately feel better again 🥲
I hope things get better for you soon brotha! A cheat that I use whenever I'm in my loop is to force myself to be around my Te friends. It's like jumpstarting a car but only when you figured out a few things yourself first. You got this INTJ ✊