True! Like... I prefer an arranaged marriage. It saves time and drama. I must add that I live in a free feminist country and this is not gonna happen. So... Yes, dating scene it is
@@tralaritralarajiju2652 lmao I tell my parents a lot of times to simply arrange a marriage for me because I hate spending so much time and energy on meaningless dramas. It's more a joke to them than it is to me at this point hahahaha
As an INTJ, this video is something you want your crush to see and at the same time you don't want them to see. It's like you leaked the cheat codes to our "feelings", whatever those are...
@@justcallmejon22 Yeah, guess the world does need to know but letting them have that much information means I need more safeguards especially as a woman. LOL.
@@XueHuaPiaoPiao69 Reassuring? Sorry, I don't think so because although it may be a sign, it's ALSO a sign they don't like you! How is 1 to differentiated between that? You could be thinking they like you for months yet they might not even like you and you wouldn't even know and WASTE time! Not good! They need to give a healthier sign instead to say yes
I am INTJ, my husband is INFP, we knew each other from work, from time to time he would come to my work place but it took us a year to speak to each other properly, and that, thanks to a friend who got us talking. Turn out both of us were observing each other (for a year) but none of us would approach each other to start conversation properly. Lol
I had the same thing happen with me and my INFP friend in school. A new student had started in her class and she introduced us and now we are all the bestest of friends!
Going through the same thing but the ice hasn't broken yet, I just wanted to connect and be friends with the only INFJ in my environment where most SP&SJ keep misunderstanding me
In my teens & 20's I was told I ask too many serious questions. In my 30's I was called a "good detective". In my 40's I found out I'm just a normal INTJ.😊
I’m an INTJ who is interested in an INTJ and we have had conversations about our pasts but because we’re both INTJS, neither of us are going to say our feelings despite it being obvious we like each other. It’s weird but awesome.
Congrats on romancing another INTJ! I make it a priority to insert Fi into the conversation because relationships are built on feelings and not logic. It's always weird but one of the 'Four Agreements' is 'Be impeccable with your words' and I feel like I'm not honoring that if I don't tell the other person how I feel. I always want to gag when I talk about my emotions but it's usually worth it in the end. Goodluck with the relationship INTJ and let me know if it gets anywhere because I'm sure the entire INTJ community are rooting for the two of you 😁
Same situation. We are on the talking stage & we are planning to go out on December. I'm quite nervous about things as I had feelings for him from a long time.
When I’m interested in someone I panic. Emotions can be overwhelming and confusing, and I also worry “oh no! They/the public will know *I like something*!” I think I overcompensate by acting aloof 😂.
I literally just stopped shopping at a store because I didn't know if I liked the guy who worked there or not and didn't wanna have to deal with it lol 😆
I would watch my future husband walk from his dorm to the classroom building. He was easy to find because he has a distinctive walk. Eventually I started being at the light waiting for him. "Oh, hi. Going to class? Me, too." Been married almost 45 years now. He's an INTJ, too. Thank God.
I'll make it simple: ...IF I'm talking to you, you're past the first hurdle... ...IF I'm watching you, that's a huge hint... ...IF I'm asking you questions, you've gained some interest... ***Very Tenuous Intersection*** ...what they do from this pivot point determines anything else...🖤
The way I think of when we INTJs reciprocate flirting is a feeling of “when you know, you know” and it requires the right person. Flirting with the wrong person is very awkward, but the right person is the most natural feeling ever. Unfortunately the latter is incredibly rare for the reasoning that there will be more people we don’t get along with than get along, let alone romantic
Then this is just the question of whether the INTJ is _interesed_ in you or not. Another question remains which is, does the INTJ want to engage in a relationship? INTJs can _like_ someone with no intention of getting into a romantic relationship with that person. I think "liking someone" is another different topic from "I want them to be my partner". Maybe that's why INTJs are almost always single. Emotion is not enough to push them to actually get into it. I've liked a few people in my entire life, acted the same as mentioned here, but ended up asking myself if committing with them would be good. And as Jon said, I gag at the thought of it. 😂 (Well, for the most parts.)
On our second meetup, my now INTJ spouse told me that she sees me as a potential partner and proceed with a series of questions which I would liken to a job interview. At that time we were just friends lol
One of my favorite characteristic of yours, (and something we have in common), is the ability to take every complex and abstract concept, and turn it into a metaphor. But not just a metaphor, a carefully crafted metaphor that we know the person will connect with. -fellow intj (:
Ahaha. As an ENFP, or maybe it’s just me, I feel so freaked out and I feel panicky to come up with a good comeback because INTJ’s humor is so cunning and humorous. I feel so much anxiety to make a comeback lol, it makes me wonder if the INTJ will be disappointed and not be that interested in me because I don’t make many witty comebacks. 😗🙃
It is shocking how disturbingly accurate every aspect mentioned in this video is :D Especially the fact that we frequently ignore the person we are interested in purely for the purpose of not disclosing this fact. Great video! I recently started studying all sort of INTJs information after I found out I was one. It's so reassuring to find out how you function and that other people can relate.
Welcome to the community! We ran out of cookies and milk but stay as long as you want! I agree that it's a reassuring feeling to know that we're not the only ones that think and act a certain way. I hope you know that you're not alone and that you'll find a bunch of like-minded people here ✊
"90% of the time, we're just gonna ignore you" haha, truth! even after all the work of getting ready (including that shower) and actually going. 😅 I'm just gonna play it cool and do my own thing. I'll talk to everyone else and hope that person either comes to me and sparks a convo, or a game/activity gets us chatting. also, if a game does happen, we will magically get paired up with you or be on the same team. but it's not a random chance and it was not luck. we did it. we made it happen. and like magic, not gonna share how we pull off that trick either. 😉
I guess. Then you have to consider how big the MBTI community is, take out a portion of that to who actually cares about how to romance an INTJs, and then arrive to a small segment of people who will retain this information. INTJs or knowledge of INTJs will never become common.
ENFP here! I’ve been married to an INTJ for 12 years now, and it’s been amazing! The way we met and began dating is hysterical in itself and super cute. 🥰 Although I have to say that my husband isn’t at all shy! He’s just picky as to who he decides to engage with. lol
I am guilty of ignoring my crushes also. It is not just me being INTJ and shy, but social anxiety there as well for me. So for me I probably wouldn't even talk to my crush. It was hard enough for me to show up to a party in the first place with my social anxiety, but at least I knew I could see my crush there.
Child Fi comes into play heavily is these contexts. I prefer to do nothing and say less because "nothing is never nothing when it's something with you"
@@justcallmejon22 Good question. I shall ponder a while. I know the pep talk I keep giving myself is to keep on keeping on. And to know that if I settle for something that doesn't fulfill me, I become a wrathful dragon and it's a bloody mess for all involved. This may not be the case for everyone, but I can assure you it is the one for me. So I just stay out of the Arena a lot. Because the stakes are so high! The last few years I have been verbalizing to people, " Since I pay the emotional cost for choices made for me, I like being the one making the choices." I've also been warning people with, "I may be easily hurt, but I'm hard to kill."
@@justcallmejon22 We always had amazing banter and chemistry as friends, and it helped that we were always physically attracted to each other 😉. My husband also says that he fell in love with how bold and passionate I am about helping others. We definitely had many bumps as we were getting to know each other, but we always made a commitment to understand each other rather than fighting against each other. As an ENFJ, I deeply trust and respect his ability to be real with me in any situation. I trust that he can see situations with the clearest lenses (not muddled with emotions), despite who is at fault. Just like you stated about INTJs, he is always learning, growing, and bettering himself, and he calls me to that standard. He’s unoffendable. If he’s at fault, he wants to know and grow from it. It’s the hottest thing! I feel like our strengths cover each other’s weaknesses so well… and now we have a small daughter who has the best of both our personalities! She’s bold, passionate (often willing to help strangers and say hi to them on the street), reasonable, and strategic. I also see his drive for excellence in her - she always wants to better herself and has the grit to not quit. Our marriage and daughter have been the greatest gifts 🥹. Thanks for letting me share. And sorry if it was such a long answer (I know INTJs love direct, concise answers 😂).
Didn't know it works that way, but that's exactly the order of things that happened for me. I was unaware that I had feelings for someone, but suddenly going out was not a problem. I was looking for things that this person likes or dislikes, probing mutual friends for more info etc. I was encouraged to do so because I saw signs that this other person might like me too. I've asked creepy questions to that poor man to be more than sure that I can go all in and confess :x but it was worth it. So fellow INTJs, map the ground and be bold :)
@@justcallmejon22 Now I have a cute INFP boyfriend since October :) Romance is still mysterious to me, even tho I'm a female (INTJ). Too lazy and/or honest to pretend someone I'm not and it mostly scares/turns away people. So glad I've found a soul who likes me for who I am ❤️
@@Braenn666 My husband is INFP. He finds me funny and loves my weirdness. He said before we were going out, he knew that I am different from most people. Apparently INFPs like authenticity. He could pick up all those little emotions stirring inside me while i struggle to express them or don't even know where to start to talk about them.
@@sminleong Thank you for your comment. I'm still baffled that my bf somehow knows what's stirring inside me emotionally, but now I see it's apparently INFPs superpower :) I'd love to keep this guy around me for longer and I hope I'll manage to do that. Glad to "see" same pairing, as INTJ female and INFP male is quite unique one.
ahhh the whole Fi thing is so true. rather than embarrassed, i'm more irritated by it and unfortunately when I was young, I would just ask the person out without any planning. i learned very quickly that my expectations in what a relationship should be, and others' expectations are so different. Now I'm 28, and I've only had almost-relationships, I let people know how I am and what I am like from the get-go, and a lot of people get really anxious from that. I don't blame anyone, I have a lot of friends who have been hurt by avoidant partners, and I did lean towards that when I was fresh out of my breakups, but I also know it's ridiculous to expect my partner to be okay with me just enjoying my time alone and possibly getting irritated if we meet more than twice a month, not replying to texts some days just because i feel so overwhelmed....this video does explain why i enjoy courting so much more than the relationships, for a while i felt a bit weird because a lot of intjs seem to hate the idea of playing around, but idk i always thought tht if i found my person in my 16-20s, i don't need to have any last minute changes to my future. now i just enjoy everything i can so i will be more willing to change my future plans should i ever meet someone who can actually tolerate how alone i like to be TT O TT
Omg I've had entire relationships and friendships and they have no clue that I like certain music. It has never once come up because I didn't want it to. It's funny you mentioned music because that... That's my best kept secret. I can count on one hand how many people I've shared that part of me with and I'm 37! Lol 😂 And I'm a metalhead and music is huuuge for me. But I refuse to share that part of me unless I truly know they're worthy. And I don't think I've met him yet.
@@justcallmejon22 Oh YES! I've lost patience 😫😭😣 I'm EXHAUSTED! Moving onto ESTJ or ENFJ who provide the EMOTIONAL SECURITY/STABILITY required for ENFP
@@ttgsct Thanks for sharing your thoughts because it's VITAL for us to know this info! It's when these things aren't shared that we feel ignored and that's THEE worst for ENFP
@@FPT84 My Ex and a very good friend of mine are ENFP and I feel the most myself with them. Don't worry if the person is not interested. Tons of intj will fall for you. ENFP has relaxing/positive/goofy vibe that's always attract intj. Also, a mature intj who cares about you will never let you feel ignored or left out. They will educate themselves how to make you happy, and make your happiness top priority on their list...literally (I did wrote tasks in my planner for that). p.s. if you feel hurt by their actions or inaction, please tell them. Most of the time they are clueless. But once they know, they will not make the same mistake.
Oh my god the proximity section is so bonkers on point. Well, the whole video is, but I'm dying (in a good way). Dragging yourself to a party and then ignoring the person you went there to see. I love it. I didn't see a part about hiding your phone so he/she doesn't notice that his/her 15 year old defunct MySpace page is on your Safari tabs. "Oh, you use to be blonde? Really? Nice." *INTJ Death Stare hiding the fact that you knew this three days before she even knew you existed*.
Very relatable video. How we flirt is showing off how much we know haha. "Did you know......?" Type of questions. If flirting with Ne doms or aux, we also engage them in the Ne state because we want to speak their language and Ne goofing off is easy for us.
Could you maybe share what Ne is (for an INTJ), or what the difference is with Ni? I'm still trying hard to master the cognitive functions and a more personal perspective might help :) Btw I'm an INFJ (Ni ftw lol)
I just came across your video now and it confirmed my suspicions that my INTJ friend was interested in me years ago. I always just left it at suspicion because I didn't want to look stupid assuming anything. I never told him directly that I liked him (for example: "we don't see each other often, but I think I will miss you"), but I would've if he ever asked. I was scared I'd overwhelm him which I think I still did haha. INFP here :')
Assuming you're correct that he liked you, and assuming he's still single, I can tell you how the conversation will go. You: I just watched a video on INTJ flirting and it got me thinking... did you like me a few years back? Him: Yes You: Do you still like me? Him: Yes You: Do you want to meet up somewhere and talk? Him: Yes
I'm not so sure every INTJ would be shy. They like to laser focus on a certain problem or goal and find out the most efficient way to achieve it or solve it. Wouldn't relationships be the same way? INTJ's might not like to make a scene but will do so if they think it's neccessary, and don't give a rat's behind if people are around at that time. Would they make the first move? yeah probably not, but if push comes to shove, they will probably engage just as hard as they would do with their goals.
Agreed and that's one of the key takeaways from the first section. We're taking initiative to make things happen but we make it seem like coincidence because we're not sure how we feel yet. Then when we get to section 3, then it's game on.
I'll be honest as an Enfp I can see someone I just met and already randomly think: "What if we had a wedding though?", even get a weird crush on a bully before so if I had things my way I would just outright say 'I love you' early on but there's all these darn social rules saying you have to know them longer to say that kind of stuff (to be fair I can lose and gain interest in things and people though)
I know this might not make sense, but as an INTJ who perused someone I like I was both bold and shy at the same time. I made everything feel like a coincidence. But sometimes I would be direct and come up to that person to start small talk then direct it to deeper conversation. Usually I'm shy at the begining but slowly become more confident as the conversation goes on. I can even be very bold and at the end with sarcasm and animated gestures. However I go back to that shy state the next day and the cycle repeats itself until I get to know that person very well and can be comfortable around them.
As an ENTP, this sounds hella attractive?! I don't know much about introverts, so it's interesting to hear your viewpoint. Now that I think about it, I have a really good INTJ friend who does a lot of subtle favors. How nice.
I'm definitely an INTJ, but I'm never shy. I don't have any problems with talking with people, I just choose to not to talk with them considering it as a waste of time. But if I like someone I'm very bold.
Introversion, in the Meyers Briggs sense, isn't about being "shy". It's about preferring alone time to process all the sensory information we receive from the world in an attempt to see patterns and understand them. ☺️ We're quite chatty around people who stimulate our minds.
@@celestialgardens4380 Yeah I definitely concur. I'm from Poland (there are quite amount of INTJs in PL) and what I actually saw and experienced so many times, is that other people described us as "shy". But usually we are not as talkative as other personality types. And my enneagram is 8v9, so personally I'm nowhere near "shy" I guess.
I tell them flat out...I like you. No BS. Takes some time but I prefer to be direct and to the point after knowing everything I want to know haha. Sometimes that's my INTJ downfall...haha
I agree that the best approach is direct. The issue is usually that we're unsure whether we like someone. Once we decide it's what we want to do, then it's game on!
If someone flirts with me, itll go over my head because im not paying attention or im not caring enough to pay attention. But really its because i dont have enough people skills to realize when someone likes me enough to flirt.
@@justcallmejon22 haha, i took a couple different tests to see which one i was back when i didnt know anything so the test can be accurate and not cheated on. I got INTJ on both. Im still learning on what INTJ is and why i should or shouldn't base my life on it as if its some kind of horoscope. Id rather not be like other people. I chose not to be like all others when i was 8 years old when my eyes were opened to the truth and how i can manipulate my own subconscious just by willing it. Not sure if that whole thing sounds like an INTJ or not.
INTJ will go through all three, freak out (maybe not sure how they feel), blackout of the relationship on there own accord (while wanting to leave it open to try again in the future and stay friends, yet be immovable on their decision you need to be apart to heal the issues). They will tell you they don't have feeling for you anymore as they continue to freak out as you pursue them until they crap out and you find yourselves no longer on speaking terms. Then years later you run into them and they go back to square one... proximity. They try to come off funny, cool, and put together while darting their eyes in your direction. At this point you'll ask yourself "was he always this arrogant and why is he looking at me like that when he tried so hard push me away," and you'll run away. By this point who the heck knows what's going on or what's going to happen? You can't tell if he likes you for sure or can tell you still have feelings under all the hurt and confusion since he is an INTJ and that means some unknown degree of obliviousness. Basically your need to work through hard issues as a team will conflict with with what they need or how they see things but you will have no idea exactly how because they probably don't even know.
INTJs are never constant so it makes sense that we may try a bit harder the next time when we feel that we're ready. I don't think it's a matter of not knowing but more along the lines of not being ready initially.
@@justcallmejon22 That could be the case and would make sense. I've seen him from a distance a couple times too. Once he just seems distracted from what he was doing and kept having to peel his eyes away. The next time was in the security line for an event. He was like 60 feet away but he was like a statue completely turned around and staring my direction. I pretty sure his friend had to nudge him to move forward. 😂 Since the first time he was interested in me he has always stared. It probally likely the things he said trying to discredit the relationship where a a combination between coping with the brakeup and the initial immaturity of not being ready. The contradictions have left me confused for so long that I'm probably overthinking the "obvious". Y'all INTJ's are a pice of work. I know us INFJ's are too. It's miraculous the two types ever get together. 😆 I don’t even know what one would say or do in this situation to get a relationship back on track...
AHHHHHH! I feel SO blessed😭😭😭🫨🫨🫨🫨😭😭😭 The INTJ person I love said that he loves me too. AH! AHHHH!! AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! I feel so blessed😭😭😭😭😭 He shows me so much of himself. I should never take him for granted. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
Hi Jon can you do a video about INTJ's death stare and smile altogether is a psychopath's face. I think it will be funny to make relatable things regarding INTJ's common stereotype, the death stare especially when thinking or we're in our own head and smiling because we are actually soft and we know how to smile but it always ends up looking vicious. 🤣🤣
My newly found INTJ says he has a tingly feeling when I send him voice clips. He listens over and over. So sweet n warm then tells me we won't play chess naked, consistently. 😦
Thank you! I hope you're doing well, as well. I think the last thing I remember you finding yourself an INTJ the last time you commented. Hope that's going well 😄
Thx , for making videos like that it's really easy to misunderstand you guys just like istjs , they love you then they ignore you,in the same time they shame from doing romantic things but want to do it. i was getting sad easily when they ignore me and being suddenly more lovely and funny and extroverts with all people instead of me 😅 that hurts, what i was appreciate about you guys is your authenticity, i felt like i am nothing to you guys. Thanks again make more videos like that 🌿
I can't tell you how to feel but your comment has Fi all over the place. INTJs and ISTJs will become more bubbly with people we like and don't see much when we're around them but we won't treat them any different from other people (unless it's someone that we're dating). Ask us how we feel and we'll let you know, it's somehow as simple as that ✊
I lost touch with my INTJ.. Seeing this video now, I understand so much more. As an ENFJ I began to.feel so lonely with their emotional expression but watching this, I realize they let me know so much, INTJ pace & walls are just very different from ENFJ. I hope fate allows us to reconnect. EK🩷🩵
1:16 that reassures me because i had the nagging feeling that my bf is mistaken on me and that he was blinded by infatuation but if his interests is based on his analysis of me he won't be disappointed when we meet
Im an intj being in a entp partnership , our partnership started with him explaining me his future and that he sees me in it , it was so throughout that i said , i will see if what i think and feel is something i want eventually we started it slow and i ended up liking his action reaction lifestyle he says something he does and it comes true , what i liked was the intelligence of that person. We have been 1 year in a partnership , he anoys me but i can really put my hands on the table and say i trust this person with my life cause he is a real person and bad at lying 😊 its a charm and a chance for me as an Intj , he is also goal achiever and does the talking.. ill do the behind scenes
@@justcallmejon22 thank you and yes thanks to my calculations of the future he is the first I see him going on for a long time with , Wich is nice 👍 thank you also for this video because it gave me also great insight about myself 😁
I am an ENFP I once confess to an INTJ but I told him there was no need to worry about rejecting me since I think he doesn't have feeling for me. But yeah then after I confess do you know what he tells me?? Don't worry mate I like you too...!!! That's what he said!!! It gives me butterfly in my stomach for a few seconds but I knew I shouldn't jump to conclusions so I ask if it's as friends?? He said that's accurate. Are you bring serious!!??? 🙂 I feel like stabbing him...
@@justcallmejon22 yeah I literally confess my feeling. But I guess he just see me as a friend, but that's alright i don't regret confessing. I think we are now more close than before, just yesterday, we talked for three whole hours without realizing it (´-﹏-`；)
@@carmenm8521 lol he confessed last month but my feeling are almost dead but I told him to wait until my next bday in April. If he can, we can give it a try. I guess I was more of a heartbreaker than I initially thought(・∀・)
Do INTJ Initiate the first conversation? I met this guy thru online, I don't know if he likes me, he only talked to me if I talked to him... He's inconsistent. But, if i message him, he response.
The party thing is very accurate. And also if someone else is talking to our crush, ESPECIALLY if they’re an E-type, we’d keep away. There’s nothing less appealing to INTJ than having to compete for someone’s affection, even more so if we have to play at the extroverted game against extroverts. Absolutely horrid. So we’d stay clear until they all lose interest. And if they’re successful at getting our crush, might as well admit defeat as they’re showing they prefer E types which is what I can’t offer. So in that case, probably better that way since it wouldn’t have worked anyway.
I want so hard to disagree with this comment but I relate to it almost completely. If my crush likes someone who I preceive to be a different person than who I am, then it probably makes sense that we're not together 😅
Your videos are amazing and I really like your vibes! I've watched like 8 of your vids tonight including others (hyperfocus haha it's 5 am now). I am an INFJ but I can't say for certain what the guy I'm interested in is, but I was thinking INTJ for a while and after tonight I'm like 99% sure xD I see so much of the traits and behaviors in him and had a few good a-ha moments as well. I have a bit of trauma brain and am a sensitive soul, but these vids have already given me a better understanding of him and may also help me not feel (as) offended/insecure/hurt by certain things he says or does (likely with the best intentions, he's a very warm and kind person). Overall he and I are in a rather peculiar situation, especially being the types that we are, that apparently I feel like sharing haha. We have been fwb's for like 6 years and I've known him for 8, though for the bigger part of those 6 years I only saw him once every half a year or so. Yes in some ways we clash and we certainy disagree on stuff regularly, but most of the time we're a very chill combo I think, and strangely I feel like we're still growing closer every time we hang out. There are many more parts to the story haha but I guess my point is... I feel like both of us are still not sure how exactly we're feeling or how (much) we want each other in our lives, although I myself think I'm getting a bit closer and I've been contemplating what a relationship with him would look like and also how he would envision that. If I look at my story with him I sometimes feel like "duhh if he didn't genuinly like you you wouldn't have gotten this far girl" but I still have many doubts too (Ni at work maybe? I'm still learning to master the cognitive functions lol). I do actually plan on gently (but clearly, if I have the guts) bringing up some of this stuff next time we meet, since we recently opened up about some things from the past. If in his rare sentimental moments he tells me things like how my hugs make everything okay again or joking how he wants me to only dream of him... there must be something to it, right? To be continued, lol
I'm happy to hear that you're enjoying my videos and I appreciate the support! I'm hoping for the best after your conversation with you with your INTJ. The only thing that I suggest is that you are completely clear about your expectation of him and what you want out of the relationship. It might sound counterintuitive but if the talk focuses on what you want, you will hear what he wants as a result. Good luck INFJ Queen 👑
"Maybe a wild INTJ will explain it to you" is what you quote. As an INTJ, no, we will not. There's no point in explaining why we feel the need to assess and evaluate. Just know we do it all the time. Even when attempting to befriend anothet, we will assess.
@@justcallmejon22 LOL, I had meant it as a joke. Typically, with my friends, I don't explain why I'm friends with them, but it's like, "I stalked you because I was too awkward to say Hi, and I wanted to make sure you were worth my time." It's meant endearingly, but whenever voiced, sounds really awkward. Side note: I love your videos. It's nice having another person who can explain the logic and creativity that most INTJ's are thinking. I hope you're doing well personally and that all your fantastical ideas can be voiced.
I think the most INTJ thing you could do is watch this video and analyze yourself checking to see if you do any of these things
INTJ going to INTJ 😅
HAHAHA me.
Or just do the MBTI test & see for yourself …
@@ai_prayer6436 you are clearly not an INTJ lol
That’s me lol
"Can we just be in a relationship already" is so relatable lol.
😂😂
True!
Like... I prefer an arranaged marriage. It saves time and drama.
I must add that I live in a free feminist country and this is not gonna happen. So... Yes, dating scene it is
@@tralaritralarajiju2652 lmao I tell my parents a lot of times to simply arrange a marriage for me because I hate spending so much time and energy on meaningless dramas. It's more a joke to them than it is to me at this point hahahaha
There's a difference between being shy
and "not wanting to engage in pointless discourse".
most people make relationships of things we deem as pointless discourse lol trust me i hate small talk
"Just go to the party. One day she might be your wife and you won't have to do this again...." I've had those moments too often
You're not alone my brother, I still have them all the time 😅
Hhahahaha this is hilarious😂
As an INTJ, this video is something you want your crush to see and at the same time you don't want them to see. It's like you leaked the cheat codes to our "feelings", whatever those are...
The world needs to know!! 😂
@@justcallmejon22 Yeah, guess the world does need to know but letting them have that much information means I need more safeguards especially as a woman. LOL.
MYSTERY MAN/Woodman...REVEAL YOURSELF!
agreed lmao
So true!
One more sign:
1. We will IGNORE you more than we ignore others.
This is so true it hurts
...and at the same time we "coincidentally" stand right next to you the whole time (in a groupsetting).
What the heck for?!? It frigging hurts being IGNORED! Fix up AND quickly please. Thanx! We want to get on worh OUR lives TOGETHEEEEEER FOREVVVVEEEER!
Damn this is so sad but reassuring lol?
@@XueHuaPiaoPiao69 Reassuring? Sorry, I don't think so because although it may be a sign, it's ALSO a sign they don't like you! How is 1 to differentiated between that? You could be thinking they like you for months yet they might not even like you and you wouldn't even know and WASTE time! Not good! They need to give a healthier sign instead to say yes
I am INTJ, my husband is INFP, we knew each other from work, from time to time he would come to my work place but it took us a year to speak to each other properly, and that, thanks to a friend who got us talking. Turn out both of us were observing each other (for a year) but none of us would approach each other to start conversation properly. Lol
So glad you two had someone help break the ice 😆. INFPs are amazing so you're a lucky lady.
I had the same thing happen with me and my INFP friend in school. A new student had started in her class and she introduced us and now we are all the bestest of friends!
Going through the same thing but the ice hasn't broken yet, I just wanted to connect and be friends with the only INFJ in my environment where most SP&SJ keep misunderstanding me
This is so accurate I’m uncomfortable.
-An INTJ
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In my teens & 20's I was told I ask too many serious questions. In my 30's I was called a "good detective". In my 40's I found out I'm just a normal INTJ.😊
Still doesn't mean you're not special 😁
I’m an INTJ who is interested in an INTJ and we have had conversations about our pasts but because we’re both INTJS, neither of us are going to say our feelings despite it being obvious we like each other. It’s weird but awesome.
Congrats on romancing another INTJ! I make it a priority to insert Fi into the conversation because relationships are built on feelings and not logic. It's always weird but one of the 'Four Agreements' is 'Be impeccable with your words' and I feel like I'm not honoring that if I don't tell the other person how I feel. I always want to gag when I talk about my emotions but it's usually worth it in the end. Goodluck with the relationship INTJ and let me know if it gets anywhere because I'm sure the entire INTJ community are rooting for the two of you 😁
Same situation.
We are on the talking stage & we are planning to go out on December.
I'm quite nervous about things as I had feelings for him from a long time.
4:43 - "Can we just be in a relationship already" - as an ENFP - this is also very relatable
When I’m interested in someone I panic. Emotions can be overwhelming and confusing, and I also worry “oh no! They/the public will know *I like something*!” I think I overcompensate by acting aloof 😂.
"act" aloof or just being your natural self 😂
I literally just stopped shopping at a store because I didn't know if I liked the guy who worked there or not and didn't wanna have to deal with it lol 😆
Bruh. The planning of meetings is too accurate. I literally timed my leave from school down to a minute in order for her to walk with me
I feel it 😂
I would watch my future husband walk from his dorm to the classroom building. He was easy to find because he has a distinctive walk. Eventually I started being at the light waiting for him. "Oh, hi. Going to class? Me, too."
Been married almost 45 years now. He's an INTJ, too. Thank God.
I'll make it simple:
...IF I'm talking to you, you're past the first hurdle...
...IF I'm watching you, that's a huge hint...
...IF I'm asking you questions, you've gained some interest...
***Very Tenuous Intersection***
...what they do from this pivot point determines anything else...🖤
We really do sound like the main character in the Netflix show You 😂
The way I think of when we INTJs reciprocate flirting is a feeling of “when you know, you know” and it requires the right person. Flirting with the wrong person is very awkward, but the right person is the most natural feeling ever. Unfortunately the latter is incredibly rare for the reasoning that there will be more people we don’t get along with than get along, let alone romantic
Agreed. The INTJ BS detector works too well when it comes to people.
hahaha facts lol
Then this is just the question of whether the INTJ is _interesed_ in you or not. Another question remains which is, does the INTJ want to engage in a relationship? INTJs can _like_ someone with no intention of getting into a romantic relationship with that person. I think "liking someone" is another different topic from "I want them to be my partner". Maybe that's why INTJs are almost always single. Emotion is not enough to push them to actually get into it.
I've liked a few people in my entire life, acted the same as mentioned here, but ended up asking myself if committing with them would be good. And as Jon said, I gag at the thought of it. 😂 (Well, for the most parts.)
well... for me there is this difference: liking someone vs. liking someone + beeing attrakted. when the se-toddler comes in to play, you know...😉
Yes very mucch like the idea of relationships but never felt motivated to start one or was confused how to do it
I watch this because I am trying to figure out if I like someone.
Did you figure it out?
@JustcallmeJon To an extent, I have. Thank you for making this video. Definitely helpful.
Awwwww😍😂, the shyness and deliberately ignoring us, avoiding eye contact while kind of being loud, is so hilariously cute. ❤ Can anyone resist that?
Makes me want to gag knowing that I can feel that way about someone to do that 🙃
@@justcallmejon22 Nah, it is SO endearing 🤣🤣 (frantically looking for the emoji with deer eyes/ eyes of Dreamworks' Puss in Boots.
On our second meetup, my now INTJ spouse told me that she sees me as a potential partner and proceed with a series of questions which I would liken to a job interview. At that time we were just friends lol
You passed the interview! 🙌
Great story 😎
One of my favorite characteristic of yours, (and something we have in common), is the ability to take every complex and abstract concept, and turn it into a metaphor. But not just a metaphor, a carefully crafted metaphor that we know the person will connect with.
-fellow intj (:
Thank you 🙂
Ahaha. As an ENFP, or maybe it’s just me, I feel so freaked out and I feel panicky to come up with a good comeback because INTJ’s humor is so cunning and humorous. I feel so much anxiety to make a comeback lol, it makes me wonder if the INTJ will be disappointed and not be that interested in me because I don’t make many witty comebacks. 😗🙃
Literally just texted my intj crush that I like him and ghe vibe we share. He immediatly responded that he liked me too snd wrote THANKS at the end😂😂😂
The 'thanks' is the best part of the story 😂
@@justcallmejon22 i sense that he needs a few days now to process what he just did / confessed 😂😬
It is shocking how disturbingly accurate every aspect mentioned in this video is :D Especially the fact that we frequently ignore the person we are interested in purely for the purpose of not disclosing this fact. Great video! I recently started studying all sort of INTJs information after I found out I was one. It's so reassuring to find out how you function and that other people can relate.
Welcome to the community! We ran out of cookies and milk but stay as long as you want! I agree that it's a reassuring feeling to know that we're not the only ones that think and act a certain way. I hope you know that you're not alone and that you'll find a bunch of like-minded people here ✊
"90% of the time, we're just gonna ignore you"
haha, truth! even after all the work of getting ready (including that shower) and actually going. 😅 I'm just gonna play it cool and do my own thing. I'll talk to everyone else and hope that person either comes to me and sparks a convo, or a game/activity gets us chatting.
also, if a game does happen, we will magically get paired up with you or be on the same team. but it's not a random chance and it was not luck. we did it. we made it happen. and like magic, not gonna share how we pull off that trick either. 😉
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Law of attraction business!
Knowing that more people now understands the traits of an INTJ provides temptation to defer from conformity
I guess. Then you have to consider how big the MBTI community is, take out a portion of that to who actually cares about how to romance an INTJs, and then arrive to a small segment of people who will retain this information. INTJs or knowledge of INTJs will never become common.
ENFP here!
I’ve been married to an INTJ for 12 years now, and it’s been amazing! The way we met and began dating is hysterical in itself and super cute. 🥰
Although I have to say that my husband isn’t at all shy! He’s just picky as to who he decides to engage with. lol
Come on now, don't keep us in suspense! How did you two meet? 😁
I am guilty of ignoring my crushes also. It is not just me being INTJ and shy, but social anxiety there as well for me. So for me I probably wouldn't even talk to my crush. It was hard enough for me to show up to a party in the first place with my social anxiety, but at least I knew I could see my crush there.
Child Fi comes into play heavily is these contexts. I prefer to do nothing and say less because "nothing is never nothing when it's something with you"
Wise words to live by ✊
Yes to Dating Series!
It's the big thing that trips us up.
Any aspect of it in particular that you'd like a video about?
@@justcallmejon22
Good question.
I shall ponder a while.
I know the pep talk I keep giving myself is to keep on keeping on. And to know that if I settle for something that doesn't fulfill me, I become a wrathful dragon and it's a bloody mess for all involved. This may not be the case for everyone, but I can assure you it is the one for me. So I just stay out of the Arena a lot. Because the stakes are so high! The last few years I have been verbalizing to people, " Since I pay the emotional cost for choices made for me, I like being the one making the choices."
I've also been warning people with, "I may be easily hurt, but I'm hard to kill."
Do you have a video of INTJ/INTJ crush/ relationship?@@justcallmejon22
I love how it took me 14 years to be at the vulnerable part with someone lmao, these videos are just so funny and relatable to watch thank you
I got you fam 😆
A momment of silence for all the INTJ's who have been called out right now:
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As an INTP female i relate to a lot of this!
Interesting username and profile picture there female INTP. The classic case of misdirection 😂
@@justcallmejon22 😂
Love your content! It’s so fun! Been with my INTJ husband for 16 years and this video reminded me of the beginning of our relationship!
Thank you! How did you crack his exterior wall and eventually making him your loverboy?! 😁
@@justcallmejon22 We always had amazing banter and chemistry as friends, and it helped that we were always physically attracted to each other 😉. My husband also says that he fell in love with how bold and passionate I am about helping others. We definitely had many bumps as we were getting to know each other, but we always made a commitment to understand each other rather than fighting against each other. As an ENFJ, I deeply trust and respect his ability to be real with me in any situation. I trust that he can see situations with the clearest lenses (not muddled with emotions), despite who is at fault. Just like you stated about INTJs, he is always learning, growing, and bettering himself, and he calls me to that standard. He’s unoffendable. If he’s at fault, he wants to know and grow from it. It’s the hottest thing! I feel like our strengths cover each other’s weaknesses so well… and now we have a small daughter who has the best of both our personalities! She’s bold, passionate (often willing to help strangers and say hi to them on the street), reasonable, and strategic. I also see his drive for excellence in her - she always wants to better herself and has the grit to not quit. Our marriage and daughter have been the greatest gifts 🥹. Thanks for letting me share. And sorry if it was such a long answer (I know INTJs love direct, concise answers 😂).
Didn't know it works that way, but that's exactly the order of things that happened for me. I was unaware that I had feelings for someone, but suddenly going out was not a problem. I was looking for things that this person likes or dislikes, probing mutual friends for more info etc. I was encouraged to do so because I saw signs that this other person might like me too. I've asked creepy questions to that poor man to be more than sure that I can go all in and confess :x but it was worth it.
So fellow INTJs, map the ground and be bold :)
How'd it turn out?
@@justcallmejon22 Now I have a cute INFP boyfriend since October :)
Romance is still mysterious to me, even tho I'm a female (INTJ). Too lazy and/or honest to pretend someone I'm not and it mostly scares/turns away people. So glad I've found a soul who likes me for who I am ❤️
@@Braenn666 My husband is INFP. He finds me funny and loves my weirdness. He said before we were going out, he knew that I am different from most people. Apparently INFPs like authenticity. He could pick up all those little emotions stirring inside me while i struggle to express them or don't even know where to start to talk about them.
@@sminleong Thank you for your comment. I'm still baffled that my bf somehow knows what's stirring inside me emotionally, but now I see it's apparently INFPs superpower :)
I'd love to keep this guy around me for longer and I hope I'll manage to do that. Glad to "see" same pairing, as INTJ female and INFP male is quite unique one.
@@Braenn666 I hope @justcallmejon2022 will do a video about INFP and INTJ
Thanks for the continuation of this series. Your third script turned out very nicely. Much love from one INTJ to another
Thanks! I geeked out on my first script where I ran out of memory space on my laptop editing 😂
The pause to have a thought about now having to buy tickets cracks me up lol accurate
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ahhh the whole Fi thing is so true. rather than embarrassed, i'm more irritated by it and unfortunately when I was young, I would just ask the person out without any planning. i learned very quickly that my expectations in what a relationship should be, and others' expectations are so different. Now I'm 28, and I've only had almost-relationships, I let people know how I am and what I am like from the get-go, and a lot of people get really anxious from that. I don't blame anyone, I have a lot of friends who have been hurt by avoidant partners, and I did lean towards that when I was fresh out of my breakups, but I also know it's ridiculous to expect my partner to be okay with me just enjoying my time alone and possibly getting irritated if we meet more than twice a month, not replying to texts some days just because i feel so overwhelmed....this video does explain why i enjoy courting so much more than the relationships, for a while i felt a bit weird because a lot of intjs seem to hate the idea of playing around, but idk i always thought tht if i found my person in my 16-20s, i don't need to have any last minute changes to my future. now i just enjoy everything i can so i will be more willing to change my future plans should i ever meet someone who can actually tolerate how alone i like to be TT O TT
If you haven't yet, I hope you find someone. It sounds like you've done enough introspection that you'll be a great INTJ partner 😁
Thank you for helping me understand the person I love better.
-INFP
Take care of your person for us ❤️
Omg these things are dead on! I've done these things forever & had no idea it was an INTJ thing. So happy there are others like me!
Omg I've had entire relationships and friendships and they have no clue that I like certain music. It has never once come up because I didn't want it to.
It's funny you mentioned music because that... That's my best kept secret. I can count on one hand how many people I've shared that part of me with and I'm 37! Lol 😂
And I'm a metalhead and music is huuuge for me.
But I refuse to share that part of me unless I truly know they're worthy. And I don't think I've met him yet.
I'm sure you'll meet that person one day 😊
You’re awesome !
I love this channel, I’m an ENFP who likes an INTJ and your videos provide so much insight! 😅
Good luck with the INTJ ✊
@@justcallmejon22 Oh YES! I've lost patience 😫😭😣 I'm EXHAUSTED! Moving onto ESTJ or ENFJ who provide the EMOTIONAL SECURITY/STABILITY required for ENFP
im intj and enfp are the best. so comfortable to be around
@@ttgsct Thanks for sharing your thoughts because it's VITAL for us to know this info! It's when these things aren't shared that we feel ignored and that's THEE worst for ENFP
@@FPT84 My Ex and a very good friend of mine are ENFP and I feel the most myself with them.
Don't worry if the person is not interested. Tons of intj will fall for you. ENFP has relaxing/positive/goofy vibe that's always attract intj.
Also, a mature intj who cares about you will never let you feel ignored or left out. They will educate themselves how to make you happy, and make your happiness top priority on their list...literally (I did wrote tasks in my planner for that).
p.s. if you feel hurt by their actions or inaction, please tell them. Most of the time they are clueless. But once they know, they will not make the same mistake.
“Oh yeah, do you really think you can make me do that?” This, totally 😂
Te loves the challenge 😉
Me laughing out loud from the start and immediately understanding what the 3 sections will entail … and continuing to do so throughout the video 😅
I swear, us INTJs are so basic 😂
INFP-T here. I love your videos so much!!!!!
Thank you INFP ❤
So glad I found your channel. Your insight is spot on and delivery is hilarious.
Welcome to the channel! I really appreciate the support 🙏
Oh my god the proximity section is so bonkers on point. Well, the whole video is, but I'm dying (in a good way).
Dragging yourself to a party and then ignoring the person you went there to see. I love it.
I didn't see a part about hiding your phone so he/she doesn't notice that his/her 15 year old defunct MySpace page is on your Safari tabs.
"Oh, you use to be blonde? Really? Nice." *INTJ Death Stare hiding the fact that you knew this three days before she even knew you existed*.
Dude..I'm trying to hide the stalker part of being an INTJ from the public 😂😂
@@justcallmejon22 Bahahahaah I couldn't help myself.
@@justcallmejon22 💀
Very relatable video.
How we flirt is showing off how much we know haha. "Did you know......?" Type of questions. If flirting with Ne doms or aux, we also engage them in the Ne state because we want to speak their language and Ne goofing off is easy for us.
I knew there were a few things I forgot in this video 😅
Could you maybe share what Ne is (for an INTJ), or what the difference is with Ni?
I'm still trying hard to master the cognitive functions and a more personal perspective might help :)
Btw I'm an INFJ (Ni ftw lol)
I just came across your video now and it confirmed my suspicions that my INTJ friend was interested in me years ago. I always just left it at suspicion because I didn't want to look stupid assuming anything. I never told him directly that I liked him (for example: "we don't see each other often, but I think I will miss you"), but I would've if he ever asked. I was scared I'd overwhelm him which I think I still did haha. INFP here :')
You should tell him now 😀
@@justcallmejon22 please it's been years, Jon 😭
Assuming you're correct that he liked you, and assuming he's still single, I can tell you how the conversation will go.
You: I just watched a video on INTJ flirting and it got me thinking... did you like me a few years back?
Him: Yes
You: Do you still like me?
Him: Yes
You: Do you want to meet up somewhere and talk?
Him: Yes
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I'm not so sure every INTJ would be shy. They like to laser focus on a certain problem or goal and find out the most efficient way to achieve it or solve it. Wouldn't relationships be the same way? INTJ's might not like to make a scene but will do so if they think it's neccessary, and don't give a rat's behind if people are around at that time.
Would they make the first move? yeah probably not, but if push comes to shove, they will probably engage just as hard as they would do with their goals.
Agreed and that's one of the key takeaways from the first section. We're taking initiative to make things happen but we make it seem like coincidence because we're not sure how we feel yet. Then when we get to section 3, then it's game on.
I'll be honest as an Enfp I can see someone I just met and already randomly think: "What if we had a wedding though?", even get a weird crush on a bully before so if I had things my way I would just outright say 'I love you' early on but there's all these darn social rules saying you have to know them longer to say that kind of stuff (to be fair I can lose and gain interest in things and people though)
I know this might not make sense, but as an INTJ who perused someone I like I was both bold and shy at the same time. I made everything feel like a coincidence. But sometimes I would be direct and come up to that person to start small talk then direct it to deeper conversation. Usually I'm shy at the begining but slowly become more confident as the conversation goes on. I can even be very bold and at the end with sarcasm and animated gestures.
However I go back to that shy state the next day and the cycle repeats itself until I get to know that person very well and can be comfortable around them.
As an ENTP, this sounds hella attractive?! I don't know much about introverts, so it's interesting to hear your viewpoint.
Now that I think about it, I have a really good INTJ friend who does a lot of subtle favors. How nice.
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As an INTJ, this info is 100% valid.
Awww, this makes me (ESTJ) appreciate my INTJ husband so much. 😍
ESTJ & INTJ relationship! Sounds like a power couple to me 😁
Creepingly accurate
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I'm definitely an INTJ, but I'm never shy. I don't have any problems with talking with people, I just choose to not to talk with them considering it as a waste of time. But if I like someone I'm very bold.
The hard part for an INTJ is realizing that we like someone. The moment we realize it, then yeah, it's go time 😁
@@justcallmejon22 hahahhaha why is this so me? 😂
Introversion, in the Meyers Briggs sense, isn't about being "shy". It's about preferring alone time to process all the sensory information we receive from the world in an attempt to see patterns and understand them. ☺️
We're quite chatty around people who stimulate our minds.
@@celestialgardens4380 Yeah I definitely concur. I'm from Poland (there are quite amount of INTJs in PL) and what I actually saw and experienced so many times, is that other people described us as "shy". But usually we are not as talkative as other personality types.
And my enneagram is 8v9, so personally I'm nowhere near "shy" I guess.
😂，Jon you are so accurate. Yeah, I click into this video to figure out whether or not I have a crush on someone.
Well...do you?
As an INTJ, I can totally relate to this video. Good work ❤
Thank you, my INTJ sibling 🙂
As an INTJ myself this helped me a lot to encounter any possible relationship in advance
I tell them flat out...I like you. No BS. Takes some time but I prefer to be direct and to the point after knowing everything I want to know haha. Sometimes that's my INTJ downfall...haha
I agree that the best approach is direct. The issue is usually that we're unsure whether we like someone. Once we decide it's what we want to do, then it's game on!
I think I just got my sign to go talk to a certain intj
- some enfp
Go get your prey ENFP ✊
update: it worked
As an intj this make a ton of sense to my life and why I do this stuff. Thanks a ton!🤣
I got you ✊
It is like you are reading our minds 😅
4:24 ISFPs also apply to this. We like someone, we try to act cool and don't want to talk cuz we're also shy.
I think it's an Introvert thing. We really need to learn how to speak up sometimes 😂
@@justcallmejon22 *sigh* agreed -_-
If someone flirts with me, itll go over my head because im not paying attention or im not caring enough to pay attention. But really its because i dont have enough people skills to realize when someone likes me enough to flirt.
Don't worry, I have people skills and it still goes over my head when I'm not paying attention 😅
@@justcallmejon22 haha, i took a couple different tests to see which one i was back when i didnt know anything so the test can be accurate and not cheated on. I got INTJ on both. Im still learning on what INTJ is and why i should or shouldn't base my life on it as if its some kind of horoscope. Id rather not be like other people. I chose not to be like all others when i was 8 years old when my eyes were opened to the truth and how i can manipulate my own subconscious just by willing it. Not sure if that whole thing sounds like an INTJ or not.
This explain a lot esp in social gathering 😂
It ain't easy being greasy 😅
i honestly find INTJs so cute, i hope i can date one someday (I'm an INFP if you're curious)
prepping myself in advance
Good luck on your search ✊!
INTJ will go through all three, freak out (maybe not sure how they feel), blackout of the relationship on there own accord (while wanting to leave it open to try again in the future and stay friends, yet be immovable on their decision you need to be apart to heal the issues). They will tell you they don't have feeling for you anymore as they continue to freak out as you pursue them until they crap out and you find yourselves no longer on speaking terms. Then years later you run into them and they go back to square one... proximity. They try to come off funny, cool, and put together while darting their eyes in your direction. At this point you'll ask yourself "was he always this arrogant and why is he looking at me like that when he tried so hard push me away," and you'll run away.
By this point who the heck knows what's going on or what's going to happen? You can't tell if he likes you for sure or can tell you still have feelings under all the hurt and confusion since he is an INTJ and that means some unknown degree of obliviousness.
Basically your need to work through hard issues as a team will conflict with with what they need or how they see things but you will have no idea exactly how because they probably don't even know.
INTJs are never constant so it makes sense that we may try a bit harder the next time when we feel that we're ready. I don't think it's a matter of not knowing but more along the lines of not being ready initially.
@@justcallmejon22 That could be the case and would make sense. I've seen him from a distance a couple times too. Once he just seems distracted from what he was doing and kept having to peel his eyes away. The next time was in the security line for an event. He was like 60 feet away but he was like a statue completely turned around and staring my direction. I pretty sure his friend had to nudge him to move forward. 😂 Since the first time he was interested in me he has always stared.
It probally likely the things he said trying to discredit the relationship where a a combination between coping with the brakeup and the initial immaturity of not being ready. The contradictions have left me confused for so long that I'm probably overthinking the "obvious".
Y'all INTJ's are a pice of work. I know us INFJ's are too. It's miraculous the two types ever get together. 😆
I don’t even know what one would say or do in this situation to get a relationship back on track...
We think about romance but it maked us wanna gag too. XD why is this so true
AHHHHHH! I feel SO blessed😭😭😭🫨🫨🫨🫨😭😭😭 The INTJ person I love said that he loves me too. AH! AHHHH!! AHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!!! I feel so blessed😭😭😭😭😭 He shows me so much of himself. I should never take him for granted. AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH.
Great Video, G. it's crazy how accurate you are all the time.
That's the same way I felt when I started getting into typology 🙃
Hi Jon can you do a video about INTJ's death stare and smile altogether is a psychopath's face. I think it will be funny to
make relatable things regarding INTJ's common stereotype, the death stare especially when thinking or we're in our own head and smiling because we are actually soft and we know how to smile but it always ends up looking vicious. 🤣🤣
I thought about it before but I'm not sure how I can dedicate any entire video on it 😅
My newly found INTJ says he has a tingly feeling when I send him voice clips. He listens over and over. So sweet n warm then tells me we won't play chess naked, consistently. 😦
Ya'll will play chess that way, it'll happen 😉
If I like someone I'll let them know,no hard to get drama. I think all intj's if not most will agree:)
Agreed to be drama free. The Kardashians do enough of that for all INTJs 😅
I do this, too.😂
Love the amount of effort you put in, 3 rewrites is insane
I would've gone crazy if I had one of the other scripts live 😅
matchmaking auntie saw your beautiful beard and was inspired
I’m INTJ-T, partner is INFP. Big surprise
One of the best pairing ✊
❤ Thanks for your videos Jon, I hope things are going well for you! (From a random stranger on the internet... 😅)
Thank you! I hope you're doing well, as well. I think the last thing I remember you finding yourself an INTJ the last time you commented. Hope that's going well 😄
Thanks for the new video Jon. Keep the good content going. Best of luck.💪
You've exposed me big time 🤣🤣🤣
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As an INTJ, a guy I liked once said "huh, you ask a lot of questions don't you..." yes, yes I do
Can't help it can you 😉
you're describing an intelligent introvert person
This video is about INTJs so you're absolutely correct 😅
as an intj, good to know i have been expressing stuff right
I don't even know what 'right' means anymore in relationships 😅
Why is this so accurate. I feel exposed
(Chants) One of us! One of us!
Great video as always, very complete ! Everything correspond to me.
Thx , for making videos like that it's really easy to misunderstand you guys just like istjs , they love you then they ignore you,in the same time they shame from doing romantic things but want to do it. i was getting sad easily when they ignore me and being suddenly more lovely and funny and extroverts with all people instead of me 😅 that hurts, what i was appreciate about you guys is your authenticity, i felt like i am nothing to you guys.
Thanks again make more videos like that 🌿
I can't tell you how to feel but your comment has Fi all over the place. INTJs and ISTJs will become more bubbly with people we like and don't see much when we're around them but we won't treat them any different from other people (unless it's someone that we're dating). Ask us how we feel and we'll let you know, it's somehow as simple as that ✊
I lost touch with my INTJ.. Seeing this video now, I understand so much more. As an ENFJ I began to.feel so lonely with their emotional expression but watching this, I realize they let me know so much, INTJ pace & walls are just very different from ENFJ. I hope fate allows us to reconnect. EK🩷🩵
I hope you're doing well ❤
Honest and interesting > fake and attractive
This sounds like my ENFP knight in shining armor 🙄😍😊
As an intj... This is so, so true 😅
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Thanks for the cheat code. mwahahahaha. (INFP)
Still won't be an easy task my INFP sista 😅
Neither am I. Have you met an INFP? mwahahaha
1:16 that reassures me because i had the nagging feeling that my bf is mistaken on me and that he was blinded by infatuation but if his interests is based on his analysis of me he won't be disappointed when we meet
If the INTJ is spending time with you, he probably already accepted your flaws 😊
right off the bat "INTJs are gonna analyze you like a hawk" 🤣
I guess that's why when they catch me staring they give me the eye BWAHAHAHA
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Im an intj being in a entp partnership , our partnership started with him explaining me his future and that he sees me in it , it was so throughout that i said , i will see if what i think and feel is something i want eventually we started it slow and i ended up liking his action reaction lifestyle he says something he does and it comes true , what i liked was the intelligence of that person. We have been 1 year in a partnership , he anoys me but i can really put my hands on the table and say i trust this person with my life cause he is a real person and bad at lying 😊 its a charm and a chance for me as an Intj , he is also goal achiever and does the talking.. ill do the behind scenes
I'm happy to hear that you found someone you trust! I'm rooting for the two of you and hope that you two continue to grow together 😀
@@justcallmejon22 thank you and yes thanks to my calculations of the future he is the first I see him going on for a long time with , Wich is nice 👍 thank you also for this video because it gave me also great insight about myself 😁
I am an ENFP I once confess to an INTJ but I told him there was no need to worry about rejecting me since I think he doesn't have feeling for me. But yeah then after I confess do you know what he tells me?? Don't worry mate I like you too...!!! That's what he said!!! It gives me butterfly in my stomach for a few seconds but I knew I shouldn't jump to conclusions so I ask if it's as friends?? He said that's accurate. Are you bring serious!!??? 🙂 I feel like stabbing him...
Did you clarify that you meant more than just a friend? The answer might be yes as well!
@@justcallmejon22 yeah I literally confess my feeling. But I guess he just see me as a friend, but that's alright i don't regret confessing. I think we are now more close than before, just yesterday, we talked for three whole hours without realizing it (´-﹏-`；)
@@nyeinkhatthadarwai2357 any updates? 😅
ENFP fellow here 😊
@@carmenm8521 lol he confessed last month but my feeling are almost dead but I told him to wait until my next bday in April. If he can, we can give it a try. I guess I was more of a heartbreaker than I initially thought(・∀・)
@@nyeinkhatthadarwai2357 well... :sob: I hope the final outcome makes bout of you happy
Thank you for not sharing our investigation secrets.
I gotchu ✊
Do INTJ Initiate the first conversation? I met this guy thru online, I don't know if he likes me, he only talked to me if I talked to him... He's inconsistent. But, if i message him, he response.
INTJs have no issue ignoring people so taking him responding as a good thing. Good luck ✊
The party thing is very accurate. And also if someone else is talking to our crush, ESPECIALLY if they’re an E-type, we’d keep away. There’s nothing less appealing to INTJ than having to compete for someone’s affection, even more so if we have to play at the extroverted game against extroverts. Absolutely horrid.
So we’d stay clear until they all lose interest. And if they’re successful at getting our crush, might as well admit defeat as they’re showing they prefer E types which is what I can’t offer. So in that case, probably better that way since it wouldn’t have worked anyway.
I want so hard to disagree with this comment but I relate to it almost completely. If my crush likes someone who I preceive to be a different person than who I am, then it probably makes sense that we're not together 😅
The windshield wiper thing 💀💀💀💀💀
Your videos are amazing and I really like your vibes! I've watched like 8 of your vids tonight including others (hyperfocus haha it's 5 am now).
I am an INFJ but I can't say for certain what the guy I'm interested in is, but I was thinking INTJ for a while and after tonight I'm like 99% sure xD
I see so much of the traits and behaviors in him and had a few good a-ha moments as well.
I have a bit of trauma brain and am a sensitive soul, but these vids have already given me a better understanding of him and may also help me not feel (as) offended/insecure/hurt by certain things he says or does (likely with the best intentions, he's a very warm and kind person).
Overall he and I are in a rather peculiar situation, especially being the types that we are, that apparently I feel like sharing haha.
We have been fwb's for like 6 years and I've known him for 8, though for the bigger part of those 6 years I only saw him once every half a year or so.
Yes in some ways we clash and we certainy disagree on stuff regularly, but most of the time we're a very chill combo I think, and strangely I feel like we're still growing closer every time we hang out.
There are many more parts to the story haha but I guess my point is... I feel like both of us are still not sure how exactly we're feeling or how (much) we want each other in our lives, although I myself think I'm getting a bit closer and I've been contemplating what a relationship with him would look like and also how he would envision that.
If I look at my story with him I sometimes feel like "duhh if he didn't genuinly like you you wouldn't have gotten this far girl" but I still have many doubts too (Ni at work maybe? I'm still learning to master the cognitive functions lol).
I do actually plan on gently (but clearly, if I have the guts) bringing up some of this stuff next time we meet, since we recently opened up about some things from the past.
If in his rare sentimental moments he tells me things like how my hugs make everything okay again or joking how he wants me to only dream of him... there must be something to it, right?
To be continued, lol
I'm happy to hear that you're enjoying my videos and I appreciate the support! I'm hoping for the best after your conversation with you with your INTJ. The only thing that I suggest is that you are completely clear about your expectation of him and what you want out of the relationship. It might sound counterintuitive but if the talk focuses on what you want, you will hear what he wants as a result. Good luck INFJ Queen 👑
That first bit at 1:30... I was like omg no!!! NOO.... And then it was just total relief!!! 😅
I explained it once to a friend....never again after the face they made as a response 😂
Im just here to analyse how i talk when im with people i like. Its mostly true.
What do you think after watching the video?
"Maybe a wild INTJ will explain it to you" is what you quote.
As an INTJ, no, we will not. There's no point in explaining why we feel the need to assess and evaluate. Just know we do it all the time. Even when attempting to befriend anothet, we will assess.
I wouldn't say that all INTJs are against explaining it if the other person shows genuine interest 🙂
@@justcallmejon22 LOL, I had meant it as a joke. Typically, with my friends, I don't explain why I'm friends with them, but it's like, "I stalked you because I was too awkward to say Hi, and I wanted to make sure you were worth my time." It's meant endearingly, but whenever voiced, sounds really awkward.
Side note: I love your videos. It's nice having another person who can explain the logic and creativity that most INTJ's are thinking. I hope you're doing well personally and that all your fantastical ideas can be voiced.