the truth about cheating on your partner.

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  • Опубликовано: 12 янв 2025

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  • @pretender1456
    @pretender1456 Месяц назад +982

    The message Im getting from this video:
    You can and have the liberty to cheat, but there are consequences to those actions.

    • @nikoyaps
      @nikoyaps  Месяц назад +150

      Say it louder for those in the back

    • @Crabtrademark
      @Crabtrademark Месяц назад +11

      mother look I am 2nd on this pinned comments haha😢😢😢😢😢

    • @Pgia55
      @Pgia55 Месяц назад +11

      @@Crabtrademark im gay

    • @Arthur-ns1gu
      @Arthur-ns1gu Месяц назад +1

      No…😂

    • @404PipesNotFound
      @404PipesNotFound Месяц назад

      @@Arthur-ns1guYes...ding dong

  • @Raphito
    @Raphito Месяц назад +3370

    am I stupid for thinking this guy was gonna tell us it's okay to make yourself respawn when you die in hardcore

    • @KS_edits
      @KS_edits Месяц назад +77

      i thought the same thing 0_0

    • @underseer
      @underseer Месяц назад +25

      Not at all, you're just too young.

    • @David-ty6my
      @David-ty6my Месяц назад +10

      You just new here

    • @BringbackoldYoutube-1
      @BringbackoldYoutube-1 Месяц назад +7

      I thought that too

    • @ThatMathEnjoyer
      @ThatMathEnjoyer Месяц назад +10

      thought so too for a sec then I remembered it is Niko

  • @just_pietrosmusi9497
    @just_pietrosmusi9497 Месяц назад +1924

    i thought it was about how cheating in minecraft makes you stop enjoying the game

  • @ysgramornorris2452
    @ysgramornorris2452 Месяц назад +1177

    As a human, I have an uncomplicated relationship with cheating. You cheat, I'm out.

    • @ALUMINOS
      @ALUMINOS Месяц назад +30

      FAX

    • @dburnd
      @dburnd Месяц назад +75

      Cheating is straight up wrong and shows you have no honor, which is the same way I see having a body count too high.

    • @t0xicpops236
      @t0xicpops236 Месяц назад +3

      word lol

    • @Kaebren
      @Kaebren Месяц назад +1

      ​@@dburndyeah the cheating part makes sense but the body count part is obviously something you need to work on cause why do you care how many people someone has had sex with before you? and how do you even define what "too much" is

    • @WorldKeepsSpinnin
      @WorldKeepsSpinnin 28 дней назад

      @@dburnd Its alot of things, they got no morals, cant be trusted, will leak information, willing to put you in danger in multiple ways (confronting the man, std's, depending on the area setting you up to get robbed), Cant control their own lust or impulses which is horrible in general. And most of all, no loyalty will leave at a drop of a hat in any situation. And thats not even all of it. This is what cheating is. People like to make it seem lighter then what it really is.

  • @janehellsing
    @janehellsing Месяц назад +1913

    Being in a healthy relationship is much better than racking up mediocre bodies.

    • @stale.baguette
      @stale.baguette Месяц назад +97

      facts everyones way too okay sleeping around these days

    • @joylechanceux4805
      @joylechanceux4805 Месяц назад

      Yes exactly
      You aren’t building anything meaningful by fucking someone once every 2 days
      You can have a high body count but you will still die alone and unfulfilled

    • @felixonline1825
      @felixonline1825 Месяц назад +71

      Definitely, and racking bodies will damage your ability to stick to 1 partner over time. Its like a habit thats very difficult to break

    • @Corvolet5
      @Corvolet5 Месяц назад +24

      Say it louder for the women in the back 🗣🔊

    • @stale.baguette
      @stale.baguette Месяц назад +57

      @@Corvolet5 men too

  • @Snippyyy
    @Snippyyy Месяц назад +586

    issue is that 90% of the time the people willing to cheat are emotionally mature enough to care about how it effects the other person, anyone willing to cheat is willing to lie to you as well, it comes as a full package

    • @Flowz_Sm
      @Flowz_Sm Месяц назад +34

      Exactly, I, not to long ago was cheated on, I also got suspicious and found the boy and i asked her about it and she quote on quote said “I swear on my life im not dating him we were best friends since we were 5” i am very mad still

    • @FeatherP
      @FeatherP Месяц назад

      and 87% of statistics are made up on the spot.

    • @Dracose
      @Dracose Месяц назад +3

      Its not about being willing to cheat but willing to tell the truth. Its all u gotta do, dont fuckin lie😂

    • @Snippyyy
      @Snippyyy Месяц назад +8

      @@Dracose yeah lol... but if they are willing to cheat, then they are willing to lie as well, their morals arent going to stop at lying

    • @DerpidyDerp
      @DerpidyDerp Месяц назад +6

      @@Flowz_Sm She hath swore with her life; she shall pay with it.

  • @mr.suitsland6594
    @mr.suitsland6594 Месяц назад +89

    First two dudes are absolute chads for going out of their way to tell you

  • @christaltaylor473
    @christaltaylor473 Месяц назад +470

    "quit your job" "don't go to college" "don't get a girlfriend" "don't grow up" "tech will fail you" "start over" "go ahead cheat" DAWG

    • @nikoyaps
      @nikoyaps  Месяц назад +78

      Indeed

    • @LandenDenham
      @LandenDenham Месяц назад +132

      Yeah he lost the plot with this video, I had to stop watching halfway through when he started talking about how it is okay to sleep around because it's within our "primal desires" which is literally just lust. Typically Niko videos resonate with me to some extent but this video is just a bad take

    • @Evren_
      @Evren_ Месяц назад +14

      @LandenDenham i definitely think its a bad take, but also would recommend watching the full video

    • @LandenDenham
      @LandenDenham Месяц назад

      @Evren_ I did

    • @forever_alone_1019
      @forever_alone_1019 Месяц назад +3

      @LandenDenham yes finish the video so you can finish your opinion see how you feel after it’s over

  • @tomahawktwizzlergaming
    @tomahawktwizzlergaming Месяц назад +84

    I despise cheaters. I recently got cheated on by a girl I cared about more than anyone Ive ever dated, but this video is been in my fyp 3 times now so here I am.

  • @LavaCreeperPeople
    @LavaCreeperPeople Месяц назад +741

    Cheating is pure evil act at worst, and selfish and unforgivable at best. No one deserves to get cheated on unless youre an abuser or consistently did somethung to deserve it. Never take back cheaters and make sure to inform their parents/friends as well so they can be held accountable for their harmful betrayal if it happens to you. Then afterwards, heal and moved on, because you didnt lose something, the cheater lost you.
    At least, in my opinion, lol

    • @Penguiene
      @Penguiene Месяц назад +16

      I love you

    • @saitamacraft5322
      @saitamacraft5322 Месяц назад +38

      I agree with everything but the pure evil part. Idk for me there are other things that could be put in that category instead of cheating. And by no means am i defending cheating at all. Its incredibly dishonest and wrong at that, but i feel if the cheater does it once and learns from it and understands what they did was wrong i can't necessarily call them pure evil

    • @_micrax68_10
      @_micrax68_10 Месяц назад +27

      I don't think cheating is necessarily evil, I think it's rather irresponsible. People have urges, some people learn how to control them, some others don't and i'm not justifying it, It's just something that could happen to anyone really, to cheat or to get cheated on. Humans make mistakes, we have to take responsability for them, but I don't think we should be sentenced as a bad person for the rest of our lives just for that mistake.
      Live, learn, accept the consequences of your actions and get better to not fall for the same mistake again. And don't punish yourself for your whole life for your mistakes.

    • @RadiumTheFemboy
      @RadiumTheFemboy Месяц назад +3

      spoken like a lion

    • @Penguiene
      @Penguiene Месяц назад +1

      @@LavaCreeperPeople i love you

  • @yvrxk
    @yvrxk Месяц назад +439

    I think cheating is fine if it makes the game more enjoyable for me. Sometimes I am just a couple of items short so I quickly snatch a couple from creative mode to save some time here and there.

    • @FlushDesert22
      @FlushDesert22 Месяц назад +12

      That's not what the video is about.

    • @maddy1776
      @maddy1776 Месяц назад +102

      @@FlushDesert22r/woooosh

    • @FlushDesert22
      @FlushDesert22 Месяц назад +10

      @@maddy1776 Yeah because that comment _definitely_ looks like a joke.

    • @SmokeyMarshmallows
      @SmokeyMarshmallows Месяц назад +16

      ​@@FlushDesert22I mean I thought it was but I can understand how some people might not see it as one

    • @markowirya2405
      @markowirya2405 Месяц назад +23

      @@FlushDesert22it’s obviously a joke if the video has clearly nothing to do with what he’s saying 😂

  • @Evoleo
    @Evoleo Месяц назад +70

    Am I the only one who knew exactly what kind of cheating this video was about the moment I saw and the channel name and the thumbnail?

    • @nikoyaps
      @nikoyaps  Месяц назад +6

      Looks like it lmao

  • @HelamanGile
    @HelamanGile Месяц назад +58

    If you cheat on me just leave or tell me I am not interested in continuing that kind of relationship

  • @critikal0032
    @critikal0032 Месяц назад +66

    my older cousin constantly slept around, no relationships, only hookups. Her excuse? Because she's pretty. One day she had a breakdown and was ugly crying to our grandma saying how lonely she is, that she always has someone to sleep with but no one to love. My grandma told her that "with every man you slept with, you damaged your spirit. Sex is for love, not for lust." so even sleeping around and hooking up is no good. Sleeping around while in a relationship, you cheat on your spouse. Sleeping around while not in a relationship, you're cheating on yourself. I fucking hate hookup culture, that's why more people cheat now. I'm blessed, knowing my first, is my last.

    • @MationsDam
      @MationsDam 10 дней назад +3

      @@critikal0032 this world has made it too comfortable bruh. Cheating is up there with the worst things you can do to someone.

    • @zeussoulhd2169
      @zeussoulhd2169 7 дней назад +2

      Don't take my word for it, but I heard somewhere that chemically the bodies are affected by that too. When having sex with someone, the bodies of both individuals produce some kind of chemical that makes them connected emotionally to the partner and the more sex you have with different people, the less that chemical is gonna get produced for you, making it harder to connect with someone on a deeper level.

    • @mcrain1283
      @mcrain1283 7 дней назад +1

      gooning doesn't count as cheating on myself right

    • @Candy-zr3te
      @Candy-zr3te 4 дня назад

      I just want to point out, cheating isn't new or worse nowadays. It's always been a prevalent issue, and will continue to be one. It's just easier to spread that sort of information now because of communication via the internet, so we naturally hear about it more often.
      I do agree that hookup culture probably could lead to more cheating, but I dont agree hookup culture is necessarily a bad thing in general (I don't personally participate though, so I have no personal experience. However, I have known some people who do). I just think hookup culture is for verryyy specific people, who dont want close romantic relationships. Those who do, can't find connections in that sort of environment easily, and shouldn't be surprised if they don't.
      And people who are into hookup culture? Don't get with people who are actually seeking a deep relationship, especially if you're just going to cheat or leave. Save everyone the time and just don't.

  • @nightgazerz
    @nightgazerz Месяц назад +272

    I just don’t understand cheating. It’s disgusting and if you do it just know you’re literal trash. Also i don’t really understand open relationships cuz it’s kinda like “well you’re not enough for me so I’ll get my needs met somewhere else.” Ik everyone is different but at the end of the day as long as both people are okay with it is okay but personally i could never. Even js imagining my bf cheating on me makes me feel shitty lol.

    • @joshyazg2120
      @joshyazg2120 Месяц назад +10

      hybrid theory pfp 🗣💯💯

    • @TheImbeseal
      @TheImbeseal Месяц назад +5

      I don't know if I can ever trust someone fully again so I think maby an open rellationship is the only option for me

    • @drago_6812
      @drago_6812 Месяц назад +14

      @@TheImbeseal it would make it worse, best i can say is be celibate until you are 100% sure you want to stay with the person for life

    • @1nconceivably
      @1nconceivably Месяц назад +6

      @@drago_6812 how do you know what's best for other people? respectfully

    • @drago_6812
      @drago_6812 Месяц назад +5

      @@1nconceivably by looking up statistics on relationships and it affects people, the goverment and many science groups collect such data

  • @alexanderwong675
    @alexanderwong675 Месяц назад +30

    I dated her for a year and a half, but I caught her cheating with someone and even found out from her friends that she had been seeing both of us starting at the same time.
    I wouldn't wish that feeling of sorrow even on my worst enemy.

  • @sortileges5474
    @sortileges5474 Месяц назад +50

    Hey that's how my first relationship went! The girl I was "dating" broke up with me because she was accusing me of cheating on her, except, the girl she said I was cheating on her with, was my 60 year old professor! So we broke up and a week later, she was already with another guy. A guy that was pursuing her for years! It fucked me up emotionally!

  • @ef5supercell
    @ef5supercell Месяц назад +122

    i cheated when i was 16 and it's still my biggest regret even after 6 years. No amount of sorry can undo it, you just have to live with knowing you ruined someone's trust, I still talk to my ex who I cheated on, we're good friends and she forgave me, but the trust she had for people isn't back yet and TBH i don't know if it will be for awhile. I think some people will forever be remorseless, but as you said at ~ 12:40, cheat and see what happens, the regret is your punishment along with losing someone that was faithful to you, no amount of temporary dopamine will be worth that, ever. I think people can change, but as with human nature, most of us are careless about what we do until it bites us in the butt lol

    • @lamouro
      @lamouro Месяц назад +24

      I did the same man. It’s my biggest regret to this day, and no amount of time can make it go away. I didn’t sleep with someone else or anything that extreme, but it’s still the same. I still feel horrible about everything, and I know that, “Yeah, I did the bad thing; now deal with it,” but it genuinely fucked myslef up even now. I still can’t believe I did that to someone I love.

    • @captainblackbeard7520
      @captainblackbeard7520 Месяц назад +12

      @@lamouro Took the words out of my mouth. I did it a few years back in my early twenties and even though we’ve been split apart for a while now, i still majorly regret doing it. Still so disappointed in myself for hurting someone like that. It definitely messed me up.

    • @Andromeda0004
      @Andromeda0004 Месяц назад +8

      I cheated on the sweetest, best girl I had met and will ever meet, it's been 5 years since this happened and even though we used to be friends after that and I apologized more than a hundred times, the guilt has only been getting bigger with every year, what I did to that girl will haunt me for all if not most of my life no amount of apologizing will ever make up for what I did to her, I can only wish her the best after that and i'm still so incredibly sorry for what I did.

    • @vnkmy
      @vnkmy Месяц назад +2

      you’re definitely not alone, it’s the worst that I’ve ever done, regretted it immediately and it took me months to be clear either myself. My ex and I are still very good friends, she also forgave me and luckily she didn’t blame herself nor took it into the next relationship. I did whatever I could to make it up to her, an endless Endeavour, honestly.

    • @michaellin4553
      @michaellin4553 Месяц назад +11

      I get that this is a circlejerk of regret, but none of you deserve forgiveness. No amount of self-reflection will redeem that. It's not the end of the world, it just means none of you deserve a meaningful romantic relationship for the rest of your lives, but that doesn't define the whole. You can make the world a better place in a different way, as long as you never get involved in romance again.

  • @ImbreadS2
    @ImbreadS2 Месяц назад +160

    damn... i thought that would be a video talking about youtubers using creative mode... i was not expecting this slap on my face

  • @LyricMammal
    @LyricMammal 29 дней назад +7

    As a victim to cheating, I support your message. Thank you for making this video!

  • @internetuser8355
    @internetuser8355 Месяц назад +19

    i just found out my girlfriend was cheating today. i dont understand why people put so much time and effort into making you believe they love you.

    • @FromStreetstotheStadium
      @FromStreetstotheStadium 10 дней назад +5

      Demons brother, demons of pure evil in people

    • @friesguy2403
      @friesguy2403 5 дней назад +2

      Take your time to heal, there’s no rush. Everyone deserves respect and not this.. So please remember that there's a whole community on your side

    • @steaveiam5
      @steaveiam5 5 дней назад

      ​@friesguy2403 fr, we're here brother

  • @JosephC-ds5ej
    @JosephC-ds5ej Месяц назад +72

    I think a big reason that people don’t break up with the person and cheat on them instead is because they want to go explore and do other things but they want to have that relationship as a back up in case things go wrong.

    • @HamyunShin
      @HamyunShin Месяц назад +24

      That's probably the scummiest thing about it too. They don't stick with you because they love you, they stick with you because you're their fallback, their safety net.

    • @ldovs
      @ldovs 25 дней назад +4

      I know someone exactly like this, she only seeks attention from dudes and makes sure they stick around in case her current relationship fails, in which if it doess she'll either go back to an ex or said guy friend. she also utilizes guiltripping ALOT, and recently basically tried cheating on her bf with one of my friends, by cuddling in his bed with him.

  • @IndexPlushKV31
    @IndexPlushKV31 Месяц назад +18

    Instructions unclear, I cheated in Minecraft creative mode and now I got hacked

  • @SlinkyGaming
    @SlinkyGaming Месяц назад +46

    I was cheated on a few years ago, and that crap messed me up, and I eventually developed trust issues due to it, and I've had to re learn how trust people.

    • @dellpeckle6799
      @dellpeckle6799 Месяц назад +4

      How is it after years becuase I was cheated on a couple months ago by a girl I dated for 2 years and we thought we were going to get married. I’m in college and go to different schools but do you eventually forget about it because to this day I still think of everything

    • @9dash
      @9dash Месяц назад

      same. shit was absolutely the most painful thing ive experienced in my entire life. i feel for ya.

    • @Xeprux
      @Xeprux 5 дней назад

      ​@@dellpeckle6799 I don't know if you will be reading this comment because I am a month late. But a way to forget about the girl you once felt was gonna be your last is to distract yourself with your desires. For example, find an outdoor activity that can assist you with your skill and make you feel better about yourself. Or attempt in something new with no skills to really focus on getting better at an activity that your new too. This could be drawing (drawing classes), MMA or just physical fight trainning, and to be honest, maybe even traveling around a bit. The main goal is to really unlink yourself to what destroys you by attempting to focus on new things that will do nothing but make you feel better about learning more and being better at that skillset. Just think about it as a dodged bullet at the end of it all, lets be glad you found out she was cheating and you didn't fall into a commitment with her. Thoughts are temporary, some go faster than others. But those that don't go fast can be pushed to go fast. Print this out on a piece of paper and hang it up somewhere in your dorm room or apartment or house where ever you are if you have too. Your mind is stronger than you think. Be better and think about yourself, not what could have been and most likely was meant not to be. It's her loss, make that known.

  • @Snarledtomato
    @Snarledtomato Месяц назад +204

    i study personally

    • @Penguiene
      @Penguiene Месяц назад +7

      I love you

    • @RoadToAesthetics
      @RoadToAesthetics Месяц назад +12

      took me a few seconds to get this one lmao

    • @David-ty6my
      @David-ty6my Месяц назад

      I dont get it😢​@@RoadToAesthetics

    • @RoadToAesthetics
      @RoadToAesthetics Месяц назад +15

      @@David-ty6my cuz the title said "the truth about cheating" so he said "i study personally basically implying the title was on about a school test or whatever

    • @Limnoula
      @Limnoula Месяц назад +1

      ​@@RoadToAestheticsthat's why i clicked and listened for 2 minutes

  • @Thunder24tbp
    @Thunder24tbp Месяц назад +115

    was I dumb for thinking that he was going talking about cheating in school like tests or homework?

    • @Mboy556
      @Mboy556 Месяц назад +1

      you should find easier way, cuz it's weird policy

  • @Absalonic
    @Absalonic Месяц назад +10

    This guy is the definition of a chill guy, what a master in talking and making you feel good

  • @BurgerManTTV
    @BurgerManTTV Месяц назад +9

    My brother was married for two years, and they had a house together. We used to visit them often. One time, while he was visiting us in the Bahamas (where we lived at the time), we were setting up VR when he checked his laptop and saw messages from his wife inviting another man over to their house. He went outside with my parents, crying and visibly depressed. I was young and had never been in a relationship, so I didn’t know how to comfort him, it hurt so much to see him like that, especially since it was my first time seeing him in a while, and I had been excited to play games with him.
    That same night, he flew back with my sister, who kept him grounded and made sure he didn’t lash out. My sister recorded the confrontation with his wife. She was in revealing clothing, and there was a man at their house. Seeing my brother, who is normally so mellow, furious like that was shocking.
    (Ive hated cheating now even in fictional stories, Or anything like it. )
    Ever since, I’ve thought a lot about relationships (though I’ve never been in one). Putting all your trust in someone, especially getting married, feels so risky to me now. Marriage and having kids as a man seem like a way to ruin your life. With how laws are set up, it’s scary how easy it could be for someone to fake bruises or make false accusations if you don’t have proof of what’s happening in your life. Sorry for the long text
    (I still dont know if i want a relationship, As lonely as i am, The risks feel sky high. What if im married to someone for 10 years and one day they cheat on me, That would hurt so much and it would be the end of a long marriage, especially with kids)

    • @jazzylev
      @jazzylev Месяц назад +3

      i feel you with not being sure you want marriage because you’re not sure you can trust, and honestly i think that’s a good mindset to have. it means you’re focusing more on yourself and won’t try to force something to work (which is mostly when the cheating happens, when both ppl are just there out of desperation or boredom). if/when the right person comes along you’ll know you can trust them and you won’t have any doubts. i feel that way about my current partner, i’ve never been more sure of someone and i trust them with everything i have. but i didn’t try to force it to happen, we met and fell in love through a bunch of happy accidents. i wish you all the best.

  • @jaeybxrd
    @jaeybxrd 15 дней назад +4

    Simple solution
    Dating: you locked that person in for a reason, treat them with the same level of respect you would want
    Not dating: have fun by all means, you're free to do as you please.
    It all has to do with social awareness and maturity, if you don't feel like you're ready to be in a steady relationship at that moment then don't hurt someone else and waste their time 🤦🏾‍♂️.

  • @kurasshuinugami
    @kurasshuinugami 9 дней назад +3

    My last ex cheated on me with a minor, I'm still recovering from that bullshit

  • @SuperBlueGamer9000
    @SuperBlueGamer9000 Месяц назад +8

    My girlfriend started an OF behind my back and it tore me appart

  • @CounterStrik614
    @CounterStrik614 Месяц назад +215

    a break in relationships is another form of cheating. change my mind.

    • @RoadToAesthetics
      @RoadToAesthetics Месяц назад +3

      how come?

    • @ThatOneTechno
      @ThatOneTechno Месяц назад +71

      I think I get what you mean, personally, I think that "breaks" are kinda just ending a relationship indirectly. The need to take a step back already shows that you're not really interested anymore and for me, kinda just means: its over. I get the cheating aspect, but only if you provide no or a false reasoning for a break

    • @RoadToAesthetics
      @RoadToAesthetics Месяц назад +8

      @@ThatOneTechno that highly depends on the context, recent events in life and how the relationship has been going

    • @felixonline1825
      @felixonline1825 Месяц назад +11

      If its "break up then get back together 1 month later then do it again" Im inclined to agree tho its a bit more of a grey area then just cheating.
      To me, if it went to the point of a "break" I would just considering over

    • @seth3491
      @seth3491 Месяц назад +8

      When she or he says "We need a break" what they're actually trying to say is "it ended between us a long time ago, I'm giving you false hope to let you down easy"

  • @brokenlimit6870
    @brokenlimit6870 Месяц назад +14

    You can do whatever you want in life as long as you aren't hurting anyone or yourself. thats a important yet basic thing I believe everyone should follow

    • @Luke_FM
      @Luke_FM Месяц назад

      TL;DR: No TLDR, please read this, you might find it useful or interesting.
      That’s how rules and laws were put in place. However, not everyone follows the law or any rules. There will always be people trying to resist or people who don’t believe in what your rules or opinions might enforce. Sometimes you have to hurt yourself or others, I’m not saying it’s good but sometimes people do it for the people they love. We can’t expect everyone to follow suit and be nice and civil people. In the end, there’s no rules to life, no nothing. Actions may or may not have consequences, depending on what you do, everything changes and dies eventually. I believe that the only thing that really matters is making the most of your life, no matter how you choose to do it. If you haven’t made every year of your life count, you haven’t lived. It’s important to make the most of what little time we have here, as it could be gone in the blink of an eye. Not only that, but even with theories and religion and more, we can still never be totally sure what comes next after we’re gone. So if there’s nothing else, wouldn’t you want to make the most of this short time you have? I hope this helps anyone who reads it, and I hope that you can be happy making the most of things like I do.

  • @XDX13
    @XDX13 Месяц назад +7

    The only thing I’ve cheated on is a math test.

  • @elecro-bolt1721
    @elecro-bolt1721 Месяц назад +6

    Cheating is disgusting n if u do it your value is automatically low, any sane person in a healthy relationship must NOT cheat

  • @Oam0rim
    @Oam0rim Месяц назад +7

    Hey man, greetings from Brazil. This video actually came in the PERFECT timing for me as I'm currently in a big "situation" with the "cheating subject". Thanks for the cool videos and advices.

  • @FirstRealities
    @FirstRealities 12 дней назад +3

    Lemme simplify this for y’all. Don’t cheat. Just end things before you move on or work things out with your partner

  • @zb.1029
    @zb.1029 Месяц назад +15

    I agree with your message in this video 100%. I just got out of a weird situationship where she was talking about a future with me. Having kids, getting married, etc. I was totally on board, she seemed like a great fit for me and I was really into her. The past week or two I've been picking up on signs that we're setting off alarms in my head, telling me to back off. I fought them and fought them until I decided to end things with her. I won't go into detail about it but there were a lot of red flags in a short amount of time. After ending things I took a look at her tiktok and ended up finding out that she had a whole ass girlfriend (and now that im out of the picture shes posting videos with her). I knew she was bi but DAMN I was not expecting that.
    I'm saying this because I completely agree with your message that people don't HAVE to be in a monogamous relationship if they don't want to. Transparency and honesty are huge. I don't think I'll be able to trust someone like I did with her for a while and I can only imagine what the girlfriend would feel if she found out. It would've been completely different had she not lied about wanting a future with me. If she told me she was just looking for a fling I would've cut her off a long time ago. People just need to be honest about their intentions because being unclear can lead to a lot of baggage for others. My trust issues are going to be much worse going forward because of this experience.

  • @ShxstaCola
    @ShxstaCola Месяц назад +4

    i've been single for the last two years in fear of being cheated on again. finally been seeing a new girl for a good 4 months now and things have gotten very serious between us. i pray to god that i don't get done dirty again. i love this woman ❤️

  • @LolLol-nq4hg
    @LolLol-nq4hg Месяц назад +11

    Wanna hear a CRAZY story from my school?
    Let's say there is a very rich man who is 40 years old from Croatia. He is married and has 1 or 2 kids, also he in that moment was with his wife and kids together living at coast in their house next to a sea. Once my female friend who is from Serbia meet him at the party I think or whatever else, and since he is rich she tried to make him fell in love with her. He liked her and decided to marry her, as well as he broke up with his ex-wife and left his 2 kids. Now my female (SHE IS 19 BTW) friend and that guy live tigether. This makes me question reality so much that I can't even understand why and how. I am surprised and shocked, because this is very sick. . .

    • @Symud
      @Symud Месяц назад

      you know whats ALSO crazy?

    • @flaawed_human
      @flaawed_human Месяц назад +3

      Eww

    • @derekrequiem4359
      @derekrequiem4359 Месяц назад +2

      Big age gap relationships are much more likely to fail compared to similar age gaps.
      And if they do somehow manage to stay together, then when the wife is at retirement age she's gonna be fighting with health insurance companies and trying to find a hospice for her geriatric husband. 💀Meanwhile, same age couples are gonna be enjoying retirement and traveling the world together. 😎
      Oh and also his kids are gonna figure out what their dad did, if they haven't already. I can't imagine his kids wanting to sustain their relationship with a man like that.

  • @ultraegogogeta1631
    @ultraegogogeta1631 Месяц назад +5

    I thoroughly believe cheating is an immoral action, and hold resentment for all cheaters

  • @spidermanlift4527
    @spidermanlift4527 Месяц назад +4

    I have only been in one relationship, but I never had the thought or desire to cheat. To my knowledge I didn't get cheated on, but it is something I fear in the future.

  • @cazpira
    @cazpira Месяц назад +55

    cheaing is bad

  • @Shinekko
    @Shinekko Месяц назад +33

    I tought this was a self-improvement video on cheating to achieve things in life
    My mind went 💀 when he started talking about relationships

    • @BLET_55artem55
      @BLET_55artem55 Месяц назад

      Exactly, he really dropped everything with this one

    • @ysgramornorris2452
      @ysgramornorris2452 Месяц назад +1

      Did he change the title since? Because it's "The truth about cheating _on your partner"_

    • @BLET_55artem55
      @BLET_55artem55 Месяц назад

      @ysgramornorris2452 yes, he did

  • @bunnepawz
    @bunnepawz 10 дней назад +3

    I cheated on someone and I regret it so much. Never put someone through that pain.

    • @yuuliy0
      @yuuliy0 10 дней назад

      And live with the shock. Once a cheater, always a cheater is usually what happens. As much as you'd be feeling bad about what you did, you should never try to find someone again unless you develop self control and basic human decency. Please, do yourself a favor and prove the saying wrong. Change doesn't happen overnight or even in a few weeks. It's hard for anyone to root for a cheater to do better, but use said pain you caused to learn and know what you can do better next time. Telling your next partner you've cheated before WILL give them trust issues no matter what, even with blunt honesty on your part... so you likely shouldn't even bother with it. When people cheat and don't ever change, they won't find real love from another man or woman for the rest of their sad and miserable lives. I am now begrudgingly rooting for you, even if I don't know you. I've been cheated on twice by the same fake broad three times when I was younger, not realizing the blatantly obvious red flags right in front of me. She cheated on me with my best friend as he didn't even realize we were still dating, his idiocy also still giving in to that manipulative little shit. Don't be like them. I have post traumatic stress disorder from it on top of my really bad bipolar disorder, making things even worse for me. It destroyed me internally in almost every mental way possible. I have a lover now who is trustworthy, but I carefully picked because I knew I would break if I was ever cheated on again. Be smart, use your intuition, and please don't give in to old habits... especially never one like that ever again. As aggressive as this wall of text was, please know I mean well and hope you do better... like everyone should. Thank you for reading.

  • @warriorrockgaming9917
    @warriorrockgaming9917 Месяц назад +16

    5:42 Niko what the hell was that

    • @Garretthegr8
      @Garretthegr8 22 дня назад

      @@warriorrockgaming9917 for real 😂

  • @FilipMakaroni_xD
    @FilipMakaroni_xD 25 дней назад +2

    My man is a master baiter... he alternates between "cheat" and "don't cheat" on every 30 seconds

  • @Corvolet5
    @Corvolet5 Месяц назад +6

    I used cheats in Minecraft back in 2014. Never going back to that time.

  • @Risenheart
    @Risenheart Месяц назад +1

    You just earned yourself a subscriber. Just a functional, intelligent conversation about a topic that more people really need to consider and learn. It's true, especially with how the younger generations address relationships. We are greatly defined by how we are raised and the societal norms that are expected of us. To a point where the concept of marriage is yielding more failure than success. People need to explore, come to understand themselves and really develop, before they can expect to commit themselves to another, or even multiple people. Coming from a married woman in a poly relationship, I can speak from experience. Relationships are difficult and that does not change by just adding more people. It becomes a nightmare of processing and working through difficult emotions, rules, what's fair and fulfilling for all involved and so much more. Some people can pull it off swimmingly. Most of the time though, polyamorous relationships fail, with everyone involved hurt. My advice, coming from one who married young and found greater love later in life, do not rush. You have time to grow, try, fail and learn what you like. Once you have done that, you'll find a partner(s) who will appreciate and love you for you and you'll be able to do the same in return. That sort of bond is what truly makes life worth living.

  • @ImJCyo
    @ImJCyo 12 дней назад +4

    TLDW: Cheating is bad, mmkay?
    Most people know that. The people who do cheat usually have something else going on. Maybe you didn't do enough. Maybe you weren't exciting enough. Etc etc. Whatever it might be, as the person who got cheated on, you should know that *its not your fault they made a choice.* And thats the other thing. It's a choice, not a "mistake." You don't fall in someone else's bed for six months. You don't fall over on the bus and end up inside of someone. There are no accidents in cheating. The whole "it just happened" is a deflection from the cheater being a shitty person. Just means they weren't for you, and hopefully you realize it before they can ruin your life.

  • @aSilvergold
    @aSilvergold День назад

    "if your thinking abut cheating or being very close to it, Why not break up with them?" That has been my question at the beginning of time

  • @dlbattle100
    @dlbattle100 14 дней назад +1

    Open relationship here. I prefer it to monogamy, but it still has it's issues. It's not only your wife that can get jealous, your other partners can too. However that's not always a bad thing, feeling jealous can make people realize just how much they value you.

  • @W.A._Godzilla
    @W.A._Godzilla Месяц назад +2

    I saw the thumbnail without reading the title, and I thought it would be a Minecraft video about cheating in the game

  • @quentin.pedersen
    @quentin.pedersen Месяц назад +2

    You’re one of the rare few people on RUclips I actually like listening to. Your stories and way of talking are amazing

  • @Mizuraka4437
    @Mizuraka4437 Месяц назад +2

    Dude I'm 15 and this actually resonated a bit. I got cheated on a few months ago and it still bites me in the ass....solely due to my issues with hating my exes. Anyways- Highly therapeutic, thank you Niko.

  • @Tagers
    @Tagers 25 дней назад +1

    It's sad that we live in a society where it's toxic to question the suspicious actions your partner is committing.

  • @tonezlegit-dn6kw
    @tonezlegit-dn6kw Месяц назад +30

    Two guys followed the bro code and tried to warn a fellow bro and you didn't even thank them? Shame on you Niko

    • @nikoyaps
      @nikoyaps  Месяц назад +13

      Wasn’t two guys, it was some guy and a girl. And they didn’t really have proof of what they were talking about. So as a naive 16 year old i let it be lmao

  • @Evwer
    @Evwer Месяц назад +23

    Gonna be real, I've never been in a relationship. I've seen my cousins be in relationship and it takes up ALL of their time. I can barely manage my time or let alone myself. I don't think I'll ever have a relationship to be honest.

    • @holypython4418
      @holypython4418 Месяц назад +3

      Don't close yourself to it but also you're not forced to do anything, if it's supposed to happen it's gonna happen, if not it's not

    • @Luke_FM
      @Luke_FM Месяц назад +4

      As someone who is in a relationship and still in school, it really doesn’t take up all your time. I talk to my girlfriend almost every night because I like it. It doesn’t take much time, just effort and love. But sometimes you gotta put in the time and effort for the people you love. Anyways, you may not understand this until you find someone you love. In the meantime, just take your time and do what you want. Have a good day, don’t worry too much.

  • @COKTilYouDrop
    @COKTilYouDrop Месяц назад +6

    12:24 bro forgot psychopaths exist

  • @1kohz
    @1kohz Месяц назад +2

    I thought this video would have a different moral of "just do it who cares" but I'm very happy to see that's not the case.

  • @king_gamer_comedy7800
    @king_gamer_comedy7800 Месяц назад +4

    Check yourself before you wreck yourself is an awesome quote

  • @hvnani
    @hvnani 23 дня назад +2

    saying we’re not meant to be monogamous is a bit far fetched to me… love and jealousy have evolved over millions and millions of years (for the benefits of having a singular partner you mentioned earlier) so much so that even if the we get rid of the cavemen like threats of all of it, we still have possessiveness and jealousy over those that we love and care about. i think it’s what keeps people together. i also think that it severely affects the way your children grow up. countless studies show the differences between children raised in different households and it is overwhelmingly favorable to have both parents in the house. even if it is a societal thing, i think it is a GOOD societal thing, just as many societal things we do to care about other people’s feelings. also, if ure willing to lie and betray someone u supposedly love, who’s to say you won’t be that shady with others?

  • @n4umm
    @n4umm 27 дней назад +2

    Honestly, I don't know how people can cheat, I would never cheat on my girlfriend. Never.

  • @galacticalliance4801
    @galacticalliance4801 8 дней назад +1

    this video hits pretty close to home, tried to have a relationship with a girl I really liked, she kept telling me she wanted to go slow and she wasn't ready for anything serious at the moment. I got suspicious and I started asking her if she was seeing somebody else, and to just be honest if she was, she kept telling me "don't overthink". well as it turns out she was seeing another dude whom she was way closer to than me, a guy she would tell me is "just her brother, just a family member" turns out that wasn't the case and I was right the whole time. Glad I found out before I invested too much money or time into the "relationship", and like you said she was free to do that to me, but now she's gonna face the consequences for it ill make sure of that.

  • @gamingturt
    @gamingturt Месяц назад +6

    guys, just because a guy with a nice mic and gameplay says something to you, it doesn't mean what they are saying is true or know what they are saying.

    • @CXLVII
      @CXLVII Месяц назад +1

      What's wrong woth his advice?

    • @gamingturt
      @gamingturt Месяц назад +3

      @@CXLVII "humans are not meant to be monogamous"

    • @CXLVII
      @CXLVII Месяц назад +2

      @@gamingturt I mean humans aren't really "meant" to do anything, so I guess I agree with you, but probably not for the reason you have.

    • @gamingturt
      @gamingturt Месяц назад

      @@CXLVII ok lil bro, move on

    • @nikoyaps
      @nikoyaps  Месяц назад +8

      This is a very true, definitely do more research than a guy with a mic, or in this case me lol

  • @markobarocsi6301
    @markobarocsi6301 10 дней назад +1

    Why RUclips recommended this to me? Who gonna I cheat on? The voices? 😭🙏

  • @TheColombianSpartan
    @TheColombianSpartan Месяц назад +3

    i'm gonna be real with you chief, if you cheat on your partner i'll have lost all respect for you. Why not just leave if you feel the need to cheat? Its just such a shitty thing to do

  • @kqdenxoxo
    @kqdenxoxo 12 дней назад

    man i remember watching your older videos where you barely had any subs. keep up the great work dude youre videos are genuinely so helpful no wonder you get so many views. love your content, youre hella real. take care of yourself!!

  • @Boon_LightBurn
    @Boon_LightBurn Месяц назад +4

    i thought this was gonna be "we shouldnt criticize people for cheating in minecraft if it makes them happy" but nah

  • @sebhhh
    @sebhhh Месяц назад +4

    I got cheated on by the girl I loved with all my heart and I imagined we will grow old together but I'm glad I managed to forgive and let her go

  • @steepercreve
    @steepercreve Месяц назад +4

    i dont think ANYONE who went to my highschool school has ever had a post 2 month run

  • @darklord8793
    @darklord8793 12 дней назад +2

    Monogamy is not natural? My jelaousy disagrees.

  • @Gigaveld
    @Gigaveld Месяц назад +1

    good video, not enough people like know what to do really in these scenarios and its messed me up a bit over the years but im glad to hear someone talk about it in a good meaningful and concise way

  • @DarkAngelIX
    @DarkAngelIX Месяц назад +4

    I must get rid of my hacks...

  • @RainStreet28
    @RainStreet28 Месяц назад +5

    My dumbass 13 self didn't know anything about dating and some girl wanted to date me? First date sucks fr 💀

  • @blazingblueinferno4673
    @blazingblueinferno4673 Месяц назад +1

    bro, the amount of times your dog gets hurts and whimperers

    • @nikoyaps
      @nikoyaps  Месяц назад

      Not my fault these mfs like to swim in lava lmaok

  • @tommonpavou3721
    @tommonpavou3721 Месяц назад +1

    This is the next level of philosophy. Love to hear you yap 🔥

  • @fogblades6811
    @fogblades6811 6 дней назад

    There are some points that I understand where you come from in a vacuum. Where some of those fall flat are stuff like "...Now we got contraceptives..." But people seem to either forget they exist or just straight-up think it's somehow beneath them. It sucks all things considered because I'd rather a world where that is pushed more than what we have now.

  • @JJami3.
    @JJami3. Месяц назад

    I feel like alot of people aged 16-20 need to hear this, bro is inspirationally phenomenal.

  • @dv_bassi
    @dv_bassi Месяц назад +2

    I know it's only partially related but: Recently my gf broke up with me. Not the end of the world, however I realized after 6 months that she wasn't the person I thought she was: it's not like she hid anything, it was more like I decided not to see some stuff I personally didn't like. What I learned: be yourself, be transparent, be kind and love somewhat objectively.
    Why I brought it up: this summer I had the chance to cheat on her, however I did not. Recently we started drifting apart, and I started getting to know other girls that found more aligned to my lifestyle. I wanted to talk about it with her, but I believe the same happened to her and she was just "quicker" to break up.

  • @betabishop3144
    @betabishop3144 Месяц назад

    I'm so cooked bro, I clicked here thinking it was gonna be about using cheats against your homie in Minecraft

  • @dudeman8997
    @dudeman8997 Месяц назад

    wow u finally made it big guy i remembered watching u when u was 5k subs
    u was like my therapist back then. came back and now u succesful asf keep it up big manz

  • @Mornincoffeeee
    @Mornincoffeeee Месяц назад +1

    I thought this video was going to be about cheating in video games because of the Minecraft thumbnail.

  • @kmooregaming
    @kmooregaming Месяц назад +1

    I think what people who subscribe to the idea of sex being a purely physical activity forget that we as humans also evolved with more complex brains. Me personally I could not imagine having empty sex with just anyone because it’s such an intimate experience. If your having sex just for physical pleasure your doing it wrong😭

  • @mcr985ful
    @mcr985ful 29 дней назад +4

    If you cheat on your partner, you're the biggest scumbag and you're one of the reasons so many people have trust issues.

    • @thethe5355
      @thethe5355 26 дней назад

      I cheat on my partner because I have trust issues

    • @FromStreetstotheStadium
      @FromStreetstotheStadium 10 дней назад

      @@thethe5355 turn to God

    • @yuuliy0
      @yuuliy0 10 дней назад +1

      @@thethe5355 and you will only create more for others. Grow up.

    • @thethe5355
      @thethe5355 10 дней назад

      @yuuliy0 No shit?

  • @happy_kermit.bleach3509
    @happy_kermit.bleach3509 Месяц назад

    One of the few vids I didn’t skip a second, for the most part fully focused unless something irl came up

  • @santosss_22
    @santosss_22 Месяц назад +2

    Believe me, it's not worth it. It wasn't worth it for me, it feels really bad and it makes other people feel really bad. Generally, if you feel like something's wrong and maybe insecure about your realtionship, just talk to your partner about it and decide what to do after that. Break up before you do something stupid like I did. Please don't judge, I already had enough of that from others and mostly from myself. Hope this helps.

  • @ChimpRanGutan7368
    @ChimpRanGutan7368 Месяц назад +2

    At 2:39 you can just hold left click and drag the item around to evenly distribute every block on the crafting table

  • @marktolosa4694
    @marktolosa4694 Месяц назад

    Been a proud supporter of this guy since hes had below 10k subscribers. It feels so accomplishing to see you at 150k now :)

  • @foxperson3847
    @foxperson3847 Месяц назад +2

    If you are dumb enough to cheat and betray someone like that, just break up with whoever you are with you clearly aren’t ready for a relationship it’s not that hard to have self control in that regard, it’s just piss poor behavior. Or be in an open relationship if you can’t handle monogamy at least it would be agreed on ahead of time

  • @sablekyo
    @sablekyo 13 дней назад +2

    You had me in the first half until you said we weren’t monogamous creatures, I disagree.

  • @radosawmirek2017
    @radosawmirek2017 Месяц назад +3

    Even if we have primal thoughts, it doesn't mean we have to listen to these thoughts. We are people, we are above animals. We have sth that other species on this planet don't have: a soul and a choice.....

    • @nikoyaps
      @nikoyaps  Месяц назад

      While this is somewhat true, we are still very subject to these ways and sometimes people need some guidance on how to manage them properly

  • @calamitycubed
    @calamitycubed Месяц назад +1

    9:49 had me stressin for your dog bruh

  • @bertinernie31
    @bertinernie31 Месяц назад +1

    Cheated on and cheated with without knowing. My mind is still scrambled at best

  • @ddsdxca
    @ddsdxca Месяц назад +6

    2:16 did i hear that correctly?

    • @vinz4015
      @vinz4015 Месяц назад

      i am laughing tears, but i do hate you for bringing that up

    • @littlelucas553
      @littlelucas553 Месяц назад

      Hear what?…

  • @adanua
    @adanua Месяц назад +1

    I’M FIVE DAYS LATE TO A NIKO POST WHAT

  • @StepaTalis
    @StepaTalis Месяц назад +3

    Hey Niko, im a 17 years old guy from Czechia, quite short, about 5'8'' or 5'7''. Even though im kinda introverted, I have like 3 very good friends, all from my high school and a few more acquaintances. I have a best friend, so good actually, that i think that if one of us was a girl, we would be dating (hyperboly, but we are simply very close). My family life isnt exactly ideal, as im the only man in the household for like 9 years, but nothing i could complain either. The issue is, that i feel kinda empty. When im doing something, i dont usually know who am i doing it for, and that hurts me for some reason. I was on a few dates with 2 different girls, but i somehow messed both possible-relationships up during first 2 dates. Now there is another girl in my school I quite like, just based on the looks - we have never spoken to each other - and i know she likes me too in some extent, because every time we see each other in the hallway, we smile at each other, but i never gathered the courage to ask her out. Maybe im just not confident enough anymore, to just go up to her friend group and be like: "Hey, mind if i borrow you from your friends for a second?"
    Anyway, is there anything you would suggest in this regard? Should i just wait, till she is alone? A see her alone often enough - most of the mornings - but i fell it would be kinda weird, if i just came up to her before the clases... What should i do?
    thanks

  • @cathypoo17
    @cathypoo17 Месяц назад +1

    Even with cheaters, people still stay. Humans are stubborn, it's unfortunate. We always hear stories of parents who stay together for the kid, and even when we're young we're naive and dumb. Some people raised in specific types of households think that's what love is, some just desire attention and "love". And I'm saying this all as someone who's been in that situation, and I know what I should do but I can't. A lot of people can feel that way too, if this was a friend telling me exactly what I've gone through I'd think they're insane for staying. And then I'd remember, that's me as well.

  • @Uwywuye
    @Uwywuye Месяц назад +1

    I didn't read the title and was waiting for him to talk about minecraft lol

  • @Cinlow
    @Cinlow Месяц назад +1

    I have two stories.
    1. I was in a poly relationship with two other guys for a year. It started with me and one guy but he wanted to date this other guy as well. At the time, i thought the guy was cute and stuff so i said "sure." The relationship ultimately ended with both of them cheating with different girls for awhile. I was pretty sad as we saw each other frequently and we all collectively put trust into this poly relationship. It sucked because I didnt even know.
    2. There was this one guy i dated who was really awesome and cute. It wasnt even 2 weeks before i found out she was "hanging out" with another dude. She broke up with me after i found out.
    Moral of the story: Dont cheat. It sucks for the other end and its better if you just break up with them in a setting that is comfortable for you both.