Ladies if you have morals and values never ever become friends with these types of women. I had a friend like this. She was messing with a married man, got pregnant by him and tried to destroy his marriage. When she realized he wasn’t leaving his wife for her, she tried to destroy the man’s wife who didn’t even know her. That’s how vindictive a lot of these side chicks are. They will destroy the woman he values (supposedly). I didn’t know she was that type until she started bragging about the situation and how she jumped and beat up the wife. She totally ambushed the lady. I got rid of her as my friend immediately. Women like that will sleep with your man too. You’re not exempt just because y’all friends. If she’ll do it to a woman she doesn’t know she will definitely do it to you. Be mindful on who’s in your circle. Be very careful
@@Confessions089I don't deal or associate with other men that cheats on thier woman. If you cheat on someone who you promised God devotion to, how can I expect you to honor any business dealings we may
There's a reason she's so embolden. I've seen this happen to so many women I know. The sidechick DOES benefit alot. As wrong and vile as it is, this kind of men are very patient and loving towards the sidechick, giving them expensive gifts. One told his wife he doesn't do Valentine's just for her to find out he got his two mistresses flowers, and one got a designer bag costing over $500 and the other expensive jewelry meanwhile his pregnant wife worked a full time security job and paid more than half the bills. I don't even wanna get into my own marriage and how many car payments, rent , trips etc were paid for. Fighting with the wife over everything while the sidechick gets the "nice guy", talking about their wives like a desperate stupid dog. The sidechick has no requirement for faithfulness(at the beginning) meanwhile the wife is home killing herself trying to make it work.I could NEVER cause another woman so much pain . But I know why she's so bold
That’s the crazy part. The woman who is sacrificing her youth, her years to be with you, work, take care of the house etc should be the one that is getting spoiled. Craziness. If the sidekick saw his true side she would run away from him too.
That’s the crazy part. The woman who is sacrificing her youth, her years to be with you, work, take care of the house etc should be the one that is getting spoiled. Craziness. If the sidekick saw his true side she would run away from him too.
Screw all mistresses. My father ruined his marriage and my mother suffers from Stage 4 cancer after being his slave for over thirty years. But he s ungrateful and gives expensive gifts to his side chicks and their kids anyway. F mistresses and the dads who play with em.
I jumped in the comments to say it, but you beat me to it. I know too many women who regret wasting their best years like this. They have nothing to show for it when they need it most.
ANY woman who knows she's a side chick...the first and ONLY thing you gonna think when he's NOT WITH YOU is..."I wonder if he has another side chick?" So, don't try to seem like you have this high confidence cus you don't . Any relationship built on a shaky ground will crumble and she thinks about this insecurity EVERY TIME he's not in her presence.
“For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil. But in the end she is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. For she cares nothing about the path to life. She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it. So now, my sons, listen to me. Never stray from what I am about to say: Stay away from her! Don’t go near the door of her house! If you do, you will lose your honor and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved. Strangers will consume your wealth, and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor. In the end you will groan in anguish when disease consumes your body. You will say, “How I hated discipline! If only I had not ignored all the warnings!” Proverbs 5:3-12 NLT
Don’t believe the hype!! As soon as them cameras are turned off, she crying because she’s lonely. If she wasn’t bothered, she wouldn’t be making all these videos 💯💯
I think a lot of people always say oh this person is probably miserable off camera. But did you know there are people that are so evil that even off camera they couldn't care less about who they hurt as long as they are benefiting from a certain situation. Just sayin.
Married women are not crying about cheating husband's. Generally married women have other things to think about. For example, security, kids, and assets. It's the other ladies on here whinning about they cannot get married on every other video or its poo in the dating pool. Married women are laughing all the way to the bank trust me. She is securing her future her present feelings are small in comparison.
I left my ex husband as soon as I found out about him and his coworker… 5 years later they’re still together. He called me last month telling me, he regrets everything and he wished he would have stayed faithful to have me back in his life… I told him “although it feels nice to hear him say that, it’s all too late. I’ve moved on. I’m happily married again and have a new baby in our blended family”. I advised my ex husband to just marry his gf /side.. so he can bring honor back to his name. My kids came back last week telling me the news their dad is finally engaged 😅 it’s like he doesn’t have his own life in order and needs someone else to help him delegate his life. Good riddance , I’m happy for him and the female who stepped in our marriage. But sometimes the new women is right.. they didn’t break anything that was already cracked . But she was definitely the straw that broke the camel’s back.
My uncle did that to my aunt. A woman with money wanted him. She chased him for years. My aunt found out they had been secretly seeing each other. She divorced him immediately. My uncle married the other woman. He had the nerve to tell my aunt he made a mistake. The woman is "cold, not feminine, strange." My aunt told him he chose her so stay with her😂.
We need more old-school men like this gentleman here! SIR, your wife and family are blessed! Keep up the great work! Your Christian values and morals are much-needed! Don’t sugarcoat the truth. Keep it coming!
The old school men are not that different. Most old school men have a whole family on the next block. It’s the men who make the decision to stay faithful no matter what.
Homewreckers are some straight trash and cheating husbands are some straight-up dumpster divers. True story: this one sidechick had finally met and dated a single man whom she married within a year and divorced within 7 months of marriage because she found out her husband had a sidechick the whole time.🤣🤣🤣🤣 Can we say KARMA!
@@VixxKong2their BOTH to blame!! She js aware he is married and has a family and sees no issue with the trifling husband cheating , so YES she is also a home wrecker. It takes 2 to tango! ❤
@@VixxKong2I sooo concur. Men are never referred to as the true home wreckers they are. Full well aware they are married when they approach any woman who’s not their wife.
No disrespect to anyone, but everyone knows in the BC most of these so-called married men are always in multiple relationships with men and women sometimes all at the same time. Without the wife knowing which I find hard to believe. But it is what it is. I'll be the first to say it if no one else will. It's time for blk folks to stop this relationship stuff and get into therapy. Because most are to messed up in the head to be getting involved in these so-called relationships with other people. Hurting people hurt other people.
I understand that morals aren’t important to everyone but how do people just throw their bodies around without fear of catching everything under the sun? 🤔
Also, considering today's society (ever since the 1990s), STDs are even MORE rampant than ever. About 1 out of every 7 Americans has HIV. Just think about that. Also, 1 out of every 2 Americans will get an STD. What's worse, ladies, is that we are even more likely to get STDs than the men if we sleep around. Biology is unfair to the female, after all. That's why women need to be as restrictive and discerning as possible. Though, guys are not far behind either, so gentlemen, please don't get into that Jezebel spirit either. The risks are not worth the temporary reward.
I would never want to be a side chick to any man because I wouldn't ever want to cause another woman that level of pain plus I know I was raised better that than. That being said, i can see why being on the side is more appealing to some women who still want affection but don't want to deal with the constant stress main chick's face.
@@cela9852 I'm speaking on the ones who do it to spite women. Ie I'll take your man. Some pretty women have been shunned, bullied and mistreated by other sistaa growing up. She has a chip on shoulder and her sole mission is to enjoy another woman man. Because women have never been kind to her
@@genovasquez8361 oh yeah I have definitely met a few of those before but not many. I work in hospitality so seeing side chick's is very common for me. Just sad ladies overall because carrying that much spite sounds so exhausting.
They be the main ones single never married over 40. Karma don't play. They enjoy playing these roles in their 20s and 30s. Then 40s hit. Too old to be a side chicks or mistress now they are miserably desperate for love. They be the ones single never married for life.
The Bible says older women should teach the younger women.. but the amount of men who feel compelled to teach women how to conduct themselves vs pouring this same energy into teaching young men has been insane. Somethings not right because these young men are walking around here beating their chest requiring “Submission!” and “ A proverbs 31 woman!” And most can’t even tame their wandering eye. 🤷🏼♀️
If you don't want a relationship full-time, why not just date a man who does not want a serious relationship as well? 🤷🏾♀️ No matter how ya'll try to justify this behavior, side-chick energy is rooted in low self-esteem, trauma, competing with and not respecting women, and most importantly, not loving and respecting one's self. You are also ignorant of the spiritual debt of dating a married man. Ya'll think all these single mothers who raised the men that ya'll are complaining about were all conceived in a loving, committed relationship? Many of these men and some of you are the product of affairs, and you don't even know it. Please learn to love yourself enough to not sow or continue this generational curse in your family.
Because it's not the woman's problem whether or not he's in a relationship. He's the one that should be worried about that, he's the one that shouldn't be dating her! Make make sense! Duh
@@IndependentPrettyGirlisyall annoy me with this lame excuse. what about basic human respect for others? All parties are to blame the Husband and the side chick.
This is a learned behavior/evil spirit.. my older cousin thought this same exact way. She was the side piece to the president of the company she worked for. Not only was this man married but his wife was sick with cancer. Even at the young age i was then i knew it was wrong. She wanted so much of herself to rub off on me to the point she wanted me to date his son... Before i even knew about generational curses i told her hes probably like his dad so its a no for me.. a happy women would never allow herself to be second to another womans man nor find comfort in someone already taken..ive learned that In the absence of integrity you will find great debauchery
This woman doesn't want the karma that came with her participation in destroying families. That woman is afraid bc she knows that her loan is due and it has a 700% apr.
@@kaoshi_kutiemen taking accountability is not about being broken. Personal accountability looks better and changed behavior. Stop blaming the other person. The men need to be held accountable. When married men Stop stepping out of their commitment, there would be no side pieces.
Being a mistress is a job. Married men took care of mistresses financially because they want them to themselves. This is not new, this is as old as old as the concubine.
A lot of side chicks have a warped way of thinking. I knew a woman in her 50s who literally said “Oh I mess with married men because they got something to lose. If you not married I don’t want you.” Smh. I got away from her with the quickness.
Despite the fact that I hate side chicks, she makes a few points. Side chicks are winning these days. Men are paying ALL the bills of these women. Wives are looking stupid while hanging out with their husbands and friend groups because everyone has met the side chic but the wife. The husband has incorporated the side chic into his everyday life because he doesn't respect his wife. If the wife finds out and stays, it makes no difference. The husband will simply do a better job of hiding the side chic or pick up a new one. These side chics aren't going anywhere. And these men feel no guilt or regret about their actions.
I doubt he is paying all her bills. Most men don't make enough to fully support 2 houses. She is just capping. You can look at her and tell she is not wearing lux etc. These chick's not winning but they want wives to think they are. If they were winning they would keep it a secret for fear It could stop.
I agree most men dont make enough to fully support 2 households. But I know of several husbands who began supporting the side and making excuses of why bills in the main were slipping. Wives steps up and help support financially; sides dont. Anf though this lady may appear unhinged, it does not change the reality that many sides are living a very comfortable life. Speaking about it publicly doesnt guarantee it is untrue. It simply means these women are unashamed.
Wait until she's 40 and over. She'll be too old to be any men's side chick or mistress, then she's gonna be single, never married, and desperate for marriage.
I was 16 and in love with this guy in my neighborhood but he had a gf! He never knew I liked him...because never would I want to be with someone who was in a relationship....I respected his relationship...and I was only 16! Then ...I see this! SMH
Just bc you’re a side chick doesn’t mean the wife isn’t doing her job correctly. There are many women who satisfy their men very well but still decide to cheat. If you were doing your job “right” they why can you find your own man and keep him?
This "keep a man" logic is inherently flawed. Men aren't pets. Some men don't have a moral compass and are unrepentant whores. I've never heard anyone suggest that it's okay for women to cheat when any of their needs are not met.
This is so weird. I don’t want a husband, nor do I want anyone else's husband. There are plenty of men who are not married who would be fine having a casual relationship with you. Tf would you want to lay up with someone's integrity-lacking, commitment breaking, lying ass, respect-lacking husband ? Why ? She clearly needs to heal. Women who respect themselves and have healthy self-esteem don't play around with men who aren't theirs.
It's hard for me to believe that she is okay living her life like this! Sometimes, the talking a lot is a way for some people to actually believe the lies they're telling themself😯
@@Lb-jm6wiThere's plenty of happy marriages out there. The ones that aren't happy is usually due to selfishness.....the same selfishness that plagues husbands who cheat and the women willing to cheat with them. I'd honestly prefer to be a wife to a faithful man than women random guys cum dumpster just because he's gonna "pay bills."... can't get any lower than that! 🤷♀️
Girlllll ur spot on!! My crazy ex goes on ranbling about me everyday to our kids while he has a whole new woman and whole baby together. Someone said he’s still grieving me and the constant talking about me is to believe his own lies and keep up that ego defense.
@@VixxKong2whose husband you sleeping with?? You are too invested in this comment section. We know you’re hurting girl. God will one day send you your own man.
@@tommyt264thank you tommy!! It’s like women are desperate willing to settle for a piece of meat that the man is giving you and every other women a piece of🤦🏾♀️
True, alot of people can be bought and there are untold number of side chicks. It takes a really strong man to be with one woman these days. It is just too dangerous these days to deal with a cheating husband. This is why I stayed alone after my divorce. Jesus takes care of me better than any man could.
@@Confessions089she was the one being loud about adultery and fornication like it was cute. She deserves whatever comes. She should have kept it to herself.
You one of those Desperate women that Always blame the women.you on every comment blaming her alone,but Not this married men. No Strangers (women or men cause this men Not only cheating with women)have to be loyal to you.its your Husband that should be loyal to you.blame your Husband for Not wanting to leave single women alone
She looks crazy and she is an unhappy woman. Deep down inside she wants a husband, but just don't want to admit it (because it is easier to be a side chick than it is to do the right thing). Every woman wants to be number one in her man's life. Being a side chick will eventually come back to bite you in the butt. Only a woman in pain would get on social media and be proud of being a side chick. This is so sad and I hope one day she will start to truly love herself and wait for her own husband to come along.❤👍
I think a lot of people always say oh this person is probably miserable off camera. But did you know there are people that are so evil that even off camera they couldn't care less about who they hurt as long as they are benefiting from a certain situation. Just sayin.
I'm not saying that most women want to be side chicks, but I do think that most women would rather be the side chick than the wife who is being cheated on. Either way, you're not number one. Cheating is so common that there seems to be more people who cheat than the ones that don't
No every woman does not want to be Number One in a man's life. Though most people do want companionship, there are actually small subset of men and women who do prefer to be single and it is best for them. However, clearly this is not the situation. She enjoys sex and male companionship so she does want to be Number 1. But her ego and acceptance of the New Age Romantic Era causes her to pretend that she doesn't.
It's just trashy behavior all around. No matter how you look at it, it's bad Karma...she may never get cheated on but she may very well be cursed for her actions in other ways....things have a weird way of playing out in situations like these.
Every woman that chooses to be a side chick is not hurt or bitter, but they certainly do not care about his family; maybe some do, but most don't. My husband is very faithful, but I will not stand in his way if he ever feels the need to do something like this. I have zero problems throwing it ALL away and exiting left. She is young. Youth has a way of making you think you know more than you actually do. All I can say to her is what my Granny use to say to me "Keep living!"
I got to the 19:42 mark where the woman commented she'd rather be a side, no cooking, laundry, etc and Shumake, you said wow, so you don't want to be the "chosen" one, you don't want to be "special". What is special about being chosen to bear children, cook, and clean for a man? Sounds like a house slave to me, thus hearing a wife say I'd rather be the one that doesn't cook for you, doesn't clean after you, doesn't bear your children and take care of them, primarily or mostly solo, I'd rather be the side that you take out to eat, buy things for, take on vacations, shop for, she's saying the side gets the better treatment, point blank period. So make this make sense. The math isn't mathing, what is a wife really? If the original meaning of the word HUSBAND is Master of the House, then that means the wife is the slave. Honestly, I think women are realizing that its not worth it and it isn't the honorable thing we've been convinced to believe that it is. Somebody's lying. And yes that lady in the clips is disturbed. lol But if a woman is expected to bring half to the table and be the primary care giver, house keeper, and cook, then she can do bad all by herself, it just isnt' worth it anymore in these modern times. What is a woman getting out of this?
Honor, respect, an undefiled bed, half of everything if there's a divorce and all of it if he dies.😊 Protection, provision, and stability for the children and a companion when you get old and wrinkled and no one's checking for you because even the old one's are chasing women younger than you ever will be again. Shoot, he may even give you a kidney if you needed one, but we are talking about good husbands not the Tyler Perry movie variety
@@rubytaylor2633 oh ok so only 10% of the population should marry? Last time I checked most people are paycheck to paycheck. What provision? Half of what? Debt! lol absolutely not!
@@Hathor17 well to each their own. It's not for everyone and it seems like it might not be right for you, children either. It requires the kind of heart willing to sacrifice and serve without selfish ambition. God bless you to find whatever it is you're looking for🙏🏾 let His will for you be done in your life.😊
These men need to learn self control or don’t get into relationships or marriages. We keep blaming the side chick but the guy is the one who stood before God & made the commitment. HE needs healing as well!
I was saying that to myself yesterday. A lot of people (men and women) don't like their spouses. They tolerate them a s a business partner/ the best appliance installed in their home (according to Judge Lyn Toler). Yet, the romance, excitement, joy, pleasure and happiness that they're supposed to be getting from their spouse I'd rejected and desperately searched for outside. They have great disdain and disgust for theor spouse because that person reminds them of struggle, boredom, routine, responsibility, familiarity. They don't make their heart race anymore or provide conquest. They're monotonous and burdensome.
The sad thing about it, is in this day and age women are proud of being a sidechick as long as they are getting what they call " the bag". Sad to say but alot of these dudes be taking better care of the sidechick. I don't condone this behavior however, this is the sad reality we are living in, shame doesn't exist anymore.
@@Peaceoverhere I've seen this before. The wife talks to the sidechick and says "Keep him, then." And the sidechick laughs in her face. She was like "Tf I look like? You think I'd take care of a man, cookiand doing his laundry. Nah, I entertain him for a few hours every week and then I send him back to you. You should be thanking ME for sending him back home in a good mood."
She’s going to come across the right wife who doesn’t play about her man/family and will hurt her/delete her ass over their family… y’all continue playing with y’all lives if y’all want to breaking up folks marriages and families
You sound mentally disturbed. so why is she deleting the woman instead of the man? just a question. she deleted you in prison and he remarry another woman Y'all off and desperate.
@@Wenterprise-z6zthat’s just what some ppl are capable of doing. And that’s just situations ppl put themselves in by taking the risk of conniving with a cheater. It’s not right but that’s how it is
I don’t have any desire to get married but I also have no desire to destroy other people’s relationships either. It’s not just respecting the other but it’s also about respecting yourself too.
Amen this is absolutely the truth. Any woman who will willing sleep with someone else husband should absolutely be rebuked. This type of behavior is not okay. And men who engage in this behavior needs to be rebuked as well.
The level of pain some women are ready to inflict another woman over resources is truly mind-boggling. Especially when nowadays women can make their own money the way they want to.
This isn't new. Side chicks been saying this. There just wasn't any internet for them to broadcast. Deep down they don't feel they deserve better. The other woman is never the only other woman. The scripture you read on Proverb 5 is applicable to Ide Udoka, TJ Holmes, Mel Tucker and many othets. They are losing everything and falling by the wayside because of lack of self discipline.
@jeytv6728 ...just like she said 'undisciplined' and 'low self-worth'. If somebody is willing to desecrate their body for a "bag" is a fool and a lowlife 💯
😂😂😂 I know a few side chicks and trust me. They cry cry cry. They become obsessed with the wife and making sure the wife know about them. They are miserable. And then when they are in company they speak like this woman. It really amazes me.
She makes points that no one wants to be honest about. These cheating married men treat their side pieces better than they cheat they Wife JayZ spoke on in a n 03 Bonnie & Clyde.(prolly from experience)
Excellent video. There’s no way she’s happy with her life overall. There’s no way I can say what’s wrong with her, but the video you mentioned where she was crying explained it all. Many people in this age run to social media to vent instead of doing the actual work of bettering themselves, facing their demons and getting professional help. I hope she gets the help she really needs and stop using men and “getting bills paid” as an escape mechanism.
If she was truly unbothered, she wouldn’t be making videos to prove her worth. Most side chicks I have known could get their own man, but they wanted that specific man that was already married or in a committed relationship. Then the side chick goes on a campaign to prove she’s the better woman.
This is very common with women who have been thru trauma. Dissociation. They associate love with pain. They choose what side they will play and it starts very young. Their hearts have harden. It takes a person humbling themselves to a higher power and doing the work to heal the trauma. Only then will they know who they are. Even just regular people have to find themselves and dig deep to understand why they believe what they believe. Wives don’t have to be scared of the prostitutes they obvious trying to eat but the ones that are slick and in their hearts truly don’t care to break things up. They hide their wickedness. Usually at the work place. There are ranks to these women. Best believe.
This is exactly why Hell grows wider Every. Single. Day. People dying and ending up there at the drop of a hat .... every single day. I've never seen society as wicked as it is now, it's truly evil these days.
@@roshellegouldbourne787 Because it's biblically written that way. Apart from that, it's not hard to see. What sort of question is this??? The world is completely different from just 10 years ago 🤷♀️
Sir she is not the fool the husband is. You have no idea how many men are out here that have a completely different mindset and heart than you do. Kudos to you for being and doing better. “This new age is different.”
If a woman is in a marriage where she feels unloved, overworked, overwhelmed, and well-being, she may feel like she wants to be the side chick more than being a wife. She will feel more wanted. Is this every married woman's reality? NO, but many feel that there hubby don't even appreciate them or see them as a partner.
Crazyyyy that “Our Daily Bread” was in Proverbs 4. And so I’ve been studying proverbs. Then I take a break and come to RUclips, and YOU BROUGHT UP THE NEXT CHAPTER !! The way God be speaking !!
Then don't be a wife, be a sidechick like her and get your bills covered by someone else's husband. Meanwhile the same husband probably goes 50/50 with his wife
@@VixxKong2 True. By going 50/50, the wife is taking a major financial burden off the husband, he spends those savings on the side piece. That's why so many RUclipsrs are telling women that 50/50 is a scam. ❤
What's sad is if you're a side chick, you can become a queen. Look at Prince Charles and his current wife. She was his side chick during his entire marriage to Princess Diana. I feel that has emboldened side chicks. We live in strange times.
Mmmmmm that particular case was a arranged marriage. Princess Di was a chess move for Charles. I don't believe they really loved each other. It was a matter of him producing heirs, and he did. Princess Di carried a lot of turmoil because she was young and being used. That's why you can't marry for convenience and comeuppance. So some marriages are a act of convenience. Once the man gets in it of course he uses her body and offspring come forth. However deep down that wife knows whether or not that man is there for easy access or true unconditional love. So that's what has to be determined. Some people just didn't marry for right reasons in the first place.
Remember he was 32 and she was 19 and it is documented that it was essentially arranged. Prince Charles was essentially forced into the marriage due royal bloods choice of suitable candidacy for their lineage to have certain qualities.
Infact Charles true love had always been with Camilla. Camila was initially a ex gf of his. So see that is why you can't just go to saying a woman took a man. He has to make the choice and although those choices can be errored. He has to realize that on his own. Unfortunately with the whirlpool of emotions. That's often skewed for long periods of time. As you see how long and after how many children he had before ultimately ending their union. He had fulfilled his part of that marriage with the heirs born. However in other matters some of these marriages have just ran their courses
You can see the obvious pain and trauma she’s holding inside. That’s why she’s putting up a false guard and hurting other people. This woman has been hurt, and, she’s been hurt really bad. She’s obviously miserable and putting up a facade. A doggone shame. 🥺
With cheating, there are no rules. No one "wins." Do not presume that the husband automatically prefers his wife. A friend of mine was the WIFE and he had his first child with the side chick, made his WIFE accept and practically adopt the child, and then divorced her anyway. You don't know what's going on out here Shumake. Don't presume. All parties need to know their worth.
@19:34 @Shumake but here’s the thing, why is it that men make things a better deal for the side chick? The wife is giving up more to get less in material things than the side chick, and the world should not be like that. This is what makes wives bitter. I personally have dealt with a man who tried to use me as a come up but paid for everything for his side chick and then she tried to get him to leave me, and it was very embittering to realize I was giving much more to him, cooking and cleaning and helping financially while getting much less from him than the bird brained chick that wouldn’t leave him alone. We need more men telling other men to stop enabling side chicks like this because it makes good women turn bitter when they feel like hoes are winning.
This woman does not want to get a committment, because she feels that will protect her heart and thinking she will not be dissapointed or hurt. She is not protecting herself. She is bothered and that is why she made this long rant. The men that cheat with her are such dogs and do not respect their wives.
I used to hate side chicks. Couldn’t understand them. But I started looking at the whole situation from a different perspective. God uses these whores as tools to separate you from trash that was never meant for you. And he puts the trash together so they can drive off into the sunset and make one another miserable. Real men who are content and faithful would never lol. The men that like this kinda stuff would. Pay attention to your man and see what he would rather do and act accordingly. Don’t get mad and act crazy, just leave. Took me along time to understand this concept. But God is good 😊.
There's more to marriage than a man's name and his commitment. Let's be honest husbands give the best of themselves to their side chicks. We got to stop blaming the women, especially when the bible doesn’t blame women. It warns men to avoid the nature of women who have lost faith ans men are not listening because 1. they don't know the word 2. they think they know women better than women know themselves. STOP making excuses and being sympatheic for men who consciously put themselves in these situations. CALL THEM OUT!
I'm even inclined to say, it's not a side chick , but their next woman or choice. I mean the "side chick" was invented by angry wives. So let's just call them that mans next woman or choice. I mean clearly he likes the woman. With all this energy we putting into knowing the men or husbands doing it. It's clear this is his next choice. Cause it's us giving them way too much focus and energy for me. Just look it that way. That's why it isn't that next woman fault. She didn't choose herself,HE DID!
@BM-tx2ph That's incorrect. No women will be punished according to Hosea 4:14: "I will not punish your daughters when they play the whore, nor your brides when they commit adultery; for the men themselves go aside with prostitutes and they sacrifice with cult prostitutes, and people without understanding shall come to ruin." Even by man's book, it's 100% on the man.
Her coping skills are amazing 😂😂😂 Girl i dont pay any bills either, but i get called wife. As soon as wifey finds out about her, she gets cut off. Why does she think this is stability 😂😂
Seeing several of her video clips, I think she is just making inflammatory videos for views and ratings. Every other month she has a video with a wild topic like the one about women should buy guys sneakers and take them out on dates but now you want to be the side chick? She’s just throwing out anything to see what sticks for views.
Does she have a job. If I had gotten on social media talking crazy like this, my last boss would have dismissed me for breaking the morals clause of my employment agreement.
Why is she saying that like she's so sure he doesn't have another side chick that she doesn't know about that he's cheating not only on his wife, but on her too.
What is sad is...these women are laying up with all these different men and cant list ONE of them as an emergency contact...Imagine giving yourself to different men for 30+ years and not one of them has cared enough to marry you. It is all fun and games when you are young and "attractive" but when you are old and alone (parents have died and siblings/friends are busy with their own lives)..who will be there for you? Because these married men will be growing old with their wives.
That's a lie. Married women die faster because they are married. Men don't take care of their sick wives, they leave them. Men die alone. Women ALWAYS have family, friends and church for support. Stop living in lala freakin land.
Most husbands DON'T CARE about their wives... They adore their side chicks considering them too good for domestic servitude whereas the wife, in their eyes, is the PERFECT slave... It's nothing but a SHAME...🤮🤮😡😡
@@rebekkagasmi9451 EXACTLY. heathen married women don't have a leg to stand on. Their gig is up. They know and we all know that their live in room mate aka my huuuuusband place them as number 2 and 3. They will never be number 1 when you dealing with black men. Stop the 🧢
What irks my nerves is that you really think Women like her care about any of that? The sidechick has Family members they can list as emergency contact Ma'am. If she's getting all of the goodies for thirty years why would she trade that in for ten years being cheated on?
This woman is under demonic possession, we can all look at her and see the stress and anguish to know that she is not okay. It’s perverse, the devil tells you wrong is right and she is clearly tormented enough to try to spread these things online. God bless. “Do not be deceived, bad company corrupts good morals”.
SIDE CHICK RHETORIC: 2:30 "Girl! I'm helping you!" As said to the wife.... Comedian Monique thought that same way. Thought that an open marriage and side chicks were okay for some time. By the time she did her interview on Club ShayShay, she retracted her statement and had long before proceeded to follow the two being devoted and committed to each other. Closed it right on up. And updated her statement to say that didn't work. At all.
If you get elders to really sit down and get real with you, they normally say these things went on before too. The pride people have in their immorality is what changed.
She's right. In this day & age women are expected to work, do the housework, cook, clean, bear children and take care of a man & his needs. As a side chick, the main woman can do all this for him and the side chick can just enjoy being a woman. I will NEVER marry again!!!
Most people who deal with EMOTIONAL UNavailable people are emotionally unavailable themselves. This young lady is Broken and I pray she gets the healing that she desrves.
These side chicks are cool with it until she catches feelings, or he doesn't want to sleep with her anymore! Then it's not cool anymore & she wants to break his family apart! It doesn't feel good being disposable lol but hey they put themselves in this position so they reap what they sow 💁🏻♀️
Tbh based off from other people’s experiences & seen with my own eyes, it really don’t matter if you’re the main or side cause they’ll still get cheated on . I have seen side chicks get treated better without really wanting the man either smh it depends on circumstances. I just probably wouldn’t want this life for myself . Karma don’t play
This is a sad generation of "girl women" and "boy men." Nine times out of ten they aren't the only side chick! These "boy men" got MANY side chick's that get fake apologies who let them do whatever they want to do. I bet if she find out about another side chick she'll be mad...smh. Just sad!!!
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Ladies if you have morals and values never ever become friends with these types of women. I had a friend like this. She was messing with a married man, got pregnant by him and tried to destroy his marriage. When she realized he wasn’t leaving his wife for her, she tried to destroy the man’s wife who didn’t even know her. That’s how vindictive a lot of these side chicks are. They will destroy the woman he values (supposedly). I didn’t know she was that type until she started bragging about the situation and how she jumped and beat up the wife. She totally ambushed the lady. I got rid of her as my friend immediately. Women like that will sleep with your man too. You’re not exempt just because y’all friends. If she’ll do it to a woman she doesn’t know she will definitely do it to you. Be mindful on who’s in your circle. Be very careful
I see a lot of those women get unalived too. They're playing a dangerous game!
@@nycsweetnessniijiamarukhan7918 yes absolutely 💯
What about the cheating husband's? They don't lose friendships and or relationships.
@@Confessions089 they do lose relationships as well. In fact they lose a whole lot more than that.
@@Confessions089I don't deal or associate with other men that cheats on thier woman. If you cheat on someone who you promised God devotion to, how can I expect you to honor any business dealings we may
There's a reason she's so embolden. I've seen this happen to so many women I know. The sidechick DOES benefit alot. As wrong and vile as it is, this kind of men are very patient and loving towards the sidechick, giving them expensive gifts. One told his wife he doesn't do Valentine's just for her to find out he got his two mistresses flowers, and one got a designer bag costing over $500 and the other expensive jewelry meanwhile his pregnant wife worked a full time security job and paid more than half the bills. I don't even wanna get into my own marriage and how many car payments, rent , trips etc were paid for. Fighting with the wife over everything while the sidechick gets the "nice guy", talking about their wives like a desperate stupid dog. The sidechick has no requirement for faithfulness(at the beginning) meanwhile the wife is home killing herself trying to make it work.I could NEVER cause another woman so much pain .
But I know why she's so bold
That’s the crazy part. The woman who is sacrificing her youth, her years to be with you, work, take care of the house etc should be the one that is getting spoiled. Craziness. If the sidekick saw his true side she would run away from him too.
That’s the crazy part. The woman who is sacrificing her youth, her years to be with you, work, take care of the house etc should be the one that is getting spoiled. Craziness. If the sidekick saw his true side she would run away from him too.
@@yumiko0017 you're 100% right
Come on now!!! You better tell it.
@@yumiko0017don’t do that in the first place. If a relationship/man is requiring all that get out of it.
Screw all mistresses. My father ruined his marriage and my mother suffers from Stage 4 cancer after being his slave for over thirty years. But he s ungrateful and gives expensive gifts to his side chicks and their kids anyway. F mistresses and the dads who play with em.
Amen but at least they are smart of the world
This woman will reap what she has sown. Only a matter of time.
Exactly. My ex-mother-in-law had that same mindset. Today she’s alone and bitter.
@@nikkiReal111my current mother in law must be your ex mother in law 😂😅
I jumped in the comments to say it, but you beat me to it.
I know too many women who regret wasting their best years like this. They have nothing to show for it when they need it most.
@@FriedaTheFowl Perhaps😂 I hope not for your sake🙏🏾
@@nikkiReal111 prob not but yes 🤣🤣
ANY woman who knows she's a side chick...the first and ONLY thing you gonna think when he's NOT WITH YOU is..."I wonder if he has another side chick?" So, don't try to seem like you have this high confidence cus you don't . Any relationship built on a shaky ground will crumble and she thinks about this insecurity EVERY TIME he's not in her presence.
“For the lips of an immoral woman are as sweet as honey, and her mouth is smoother than oil. But in the end she is as bitter as poison, as dangerous as a double-edged sword. Her feet go down to death; her steps lead straight to the grave. For she cares nothing about the path to life. She staggers down a crooked trail and doesn’t realize it. So now, my sons, listen to me. Never stray from what I am about to say: Stay away from her! Don’t go near the door of her house! If you do, you will lose your honor and will lose to merciless people all you have achieved. Strangers will consume your wealth, and someone else will enjoy the fruit of your labor. In the end you will groan in anguish when disease consumes your body. You will say, “How I hated discipline! If only I had not ignored all the warnings!”
Proverbs 5:3-12 NLT
Amen!
There it is!
Amen and Amen!
10000%
Amen
Don’t believe the hype!! As soon as them cameras are turned off, she crying because she’s lonely. If she wasn’t bothered, she wouldn’t be making all these videos 💯💯
👏🏽💯
Married women are crying too cuz their husbands are cheating on them.
I think a lot of people always say oh this person is probably miserable off camera. But did you know there are people that are so evil that even off camera they couldn't care less about who they hurt as long as they are benefiting from a certain situation. Just sayin.
Married women are not crying about cheating husband's. Generally married women have other things to think about. For example, security, kids, and assets. It's the other ladies on here whinning about they cannot get married on every other video or its poo in the dating pool. Married women are laughing all the way to the bank trust me. She is securing her future her present feelings are small in comparison.
No. That’s what men tell themselves.. Yall know these women don’t care. 😂
I like how you hold both men and women accountable 👏
Agreed!
@@feleciawade7491 Right!
Exactly!! Especially considering the man is cheating....😂
So do I. He has done that from the first video I saw from him.
Yes, it's about time. You rarely see it.
I left my ex husband as soon as I found out about him and his coworker… 5 years later they’re still together. He called me last month telling me, he regrets everything and he wished he would have stayed faithful to have me back in his life… I told him “although it feels nice to hear him say that, it’s all too late. I’ve moved on. I’m happily married again and have a new baby in our blended family”. I advised my ex husband to just marry his gf /side.. so he can bring honor back to his name. My kids came back last week telling me the news their dad is finally engaged 😅 it’s like he doesn’t have his own life in order and needs someone else to help him delegate his life. Good riddance , I’m happy for him and the female who stepped in our marriage. But sometimes the new women is right.. they didn’t break anything that was already cracked . But she was definitely the straw that broke the camel’s back.
so now y'all both committing ADULTERY.
The Bible says he'll fire is your portion.
Can't remarry while the other spouse is still living.
My uncle did that to my aunt. A woman with money wanted him. She chased him for years. My aunt found out they had been secretly seeing each other. She divorced him immediately. My uncle married the other woman. He had the nerve to tell my aunt he made a mistake. The woman is "cold, not feminine, strange." My aunt told him he chose her so stay with her😂.
Congratulations to you, your family and new baby. ☺️
Amen!
@@Wenterprise-z6zyou’re a grown adult living out of a fantasy.🙄🙄
We need more old-school men like this gentleman here! SIR, your wife and family are blessed! Keep up the great work! Your Christian values and morals are much-needed! Don’t sugarcoat the truth. Keep it coming!
Amen 🙏🏾!!!
AMEN❤
Unlike that phony azzz Derrick Jackson!
The old school men are not that different. Most old school men have a whole family on the next block. It’s the men who make the decision to stay faithful no matter what.
If you don’t want a relationship or marriage, Just. Stay. Single.
Why try to break up families? 🤦🏾♀️
She is single.
You can't break something that's already broken.
Men do better!
@@Wenterprise-z6z Exactly!
@@Wenterprise-z6z you can participate both parties are fucked up individuals
She can't get her own man cause then there would have to be some accountability.
@@junettercrockett6573And she knows there would be a sidechick to do the same thing she's doing now.
Homewreckers are some straight trash and cheating husbands are some straight-up dumpster divers. True story: this one sidechick had finally met and dated a single man whom she married within a year and divorced within 7 months of marriage because she found out her husband had a sidechick the whole time.🤣🤣🤣🤣 Can we say KARMA!
The homewrecker is the person who's breaking their vows
@@VixxKong2their BOTH to blame!! She js aware he is married and has a family and sees no issue with the trifling husband cheating , so YES she is also a home wrecker. It takes 2 to tango! ❤
@@VixxKong2I sooo concur. Men are never referred to as the true home wreckers they are. Full well aware they are married when they approach any woman who’s not their wife.
No disrespect to anyone, but everyone knows in the BC most of these so-called married men are always in multiple relationships with men and women sometimes all at the same time. Without the wife knowing which I find hard to believe. But it is what it is. I'll be the first to say it if no one else will. It's time for blk folks to stop this relationship stuff and get into therapy. Because most are to messed up in the head to be getting involved in these so-called relationships with other people. Hurting people hurt other people.
@@kaoshi_kutiethe one who made the commitment is to blame and nobody else. Personal accountability looks better, ijs.
These men are allowing this. There would be not side chicks if men did not engage in this behavior.
The sky is blue, also
I understand that morals aren’t important to everyone but how do people just throw their bodies around without fear of catching everything under the sun? 🤔
💯
@@Lb-jm6wi Some may encourage that behavior but I wouldn’t recommend it. Our bodies are precious….women and men alike.
She did say that she only dealt with one trashcan at a time.
Whewwwwwwww. This.
Also, considering today's society (ever since the 1990s), STDs are even MORE rampant than ever. About 1 out of every 7 Americans has HIV. Just think about that. Also, 1 out of every 2 Americans will get an STD. What's worse, ladies, is that we are even more likely to get STDs than the men if we sleep around. Biology is unfair to the female, after all. That's why women need to be as restrictive and discerning as possible.
Though, guys are not far behind either, so gentlemen, please don't get into that Jezebel spirit either. The risks are not worth the temporary reward.
Why is she yelling at us???
🟢She just met the head woman and had more to say.
Lmfaooo😂
Right 😂she is mad with the rest of us
Because she's big mad!😅
Lmao!😂
Meanwhile her soul and spirit is in distress. Lord help us 🙏🏽
I would never want to be a side chick to any man because I wouldn't ever want to cause another woman that level of pain plus I know I was raised better that than. That being said, i can see why being on the side is more appealing to some women who still want affection but don't want to deal with the constant stress main chick's face.
Some women have been harmed, hurt and disrespected by other women all her life she no longer cares
@@genovasquez8361 yeah that is true for some but in my opinion most side chick's have more daddy/men issues than they do mother/women issues.
@@cela9852 I'm speaking on the ones who do it to spite women.
Ie I'll take your man.
Some pretty women have been shunned, bullied and mistreated by other sistaa growing up.
She has a chip on shoulder and her sole mission is to enjoy another woman man.
Because women have never been kind to her
@@genovasquez8361 oh yeah I have definitely met a few of those before but not many. I work in hospitality so seeing side chick's is very common for me. Just sad ladies overall because carrying that much spite sounds so exhausting.
They be the main ones single never married over 40. Karma don't play. They enjoy playing these roles in their 20s and 30s. Then 40s hit. Too old to be a side chicks or mistress now they are miserably desperate for love. They be the ones single never married for life.
Mama looks EXACTLY like what she’s been through.
This
Period. Raggedy.
True she looks worn out, distressed, tired, and sad. Just look at her eyes.
She’s pretty. Why does women always have to go in on other women’s looks?
@@thisblackgirloverhere9013 she’s actually not yall call anyone pretty and most folks average looks which is okay
The Bible says older women should teach the younger women.. but the amount of men who feel compelled to teach women how to conduct themselves vs pouring this same energy into teaching young men has been insane.
Somethings not right because these young men are walking around here beating their chest requiring “Submission!” and “ A proverbs 31 woman!” And most can’t even tame their wandering eye. 🤷🏼♀️
A comment doesn't get any better from this. Thank you and Amen
They say all this & still try to come to the wife as a woman & get mad when she doesn’t divorce him or he doesn’t leave his family. Smh.
If you don't want a relationship full-time, why not just date a man who does not want a serious relationship as well? 🤷🏾♀️ No matter how ya'll try to justify this behavior, side-chick energy is rooted in low self-esteem, trauma, competing with and not respecting women, and most importantly, not loving and respecting one's self. You are also ignorant of the spiritual debt of dating a married man. Ya'll think all these single mothers who raised the men that ya'll are complaining about were all conceived in a loving, committed relationship? Many of these men and some of you are the product of affairs, and you don't even know it. Please learn to love yourself enough to not sow or continue this generational curse in your family.
THIS!! 🎯 🎯🎯
Thank you!
All of this
Because it's not the woman's problem whether or not he's in a relationship. He's the one that should be worried about that, he's the one that shouldn't be dating her! Make make sense! Duh
@@IndependentPrettyGirlisyall annoy me with this lame excuse. what about basic human respect for others? All parties are to blame the Husband and the side chick.
If she does wver get married she will be paranoid, b/c of what she has done to other women. You reap what you sow
Yep
This one right here.
“God don't bless mess” Well put!
This is a learned behavior/evil spirit.. my older cousin thought this same exact way. She was the side piece to the president of the company she worked for. Not only was this man married but his wife was sick with cancer. Even at the young age i was then i knew it was wrong. She wanted so much of herself to rub off on me to the point she wanted me to date his son... Before i even knew about generational curses i told her hes probably like his dad so its a no for me.. a happy women would never allow herself to be second to another womans man nor find comfort in someone already taken..ive learned that In the absence of integrity you will find great debauchery
This woman doesn't want the karma that came with her participation in destroying families. That woman is afraid bc she knows that her loan is due and it has a 700% apr.
The mistresses and prostitutes don't destroy families. Cheating spouses destroy families
@@VixxKong2please STOP with your broken logic . You sounds like you are either a side chick or have been cheated on .
@@kaoshi_kutiemen taking accountability is not about being broken. Personal accountability looks better and changed behavior. Stop blaming the other person. The men need to be held accountable. When married men Stop stepping out of their commitment, there would be no side pieces.
@@kaoshi_kutie
Neither lol. I don't deal with men
@@VixxKong2Do you deal with women, because if you do, makes sense why your logic is corrupt.
Being a mistress is a job. Married men took care of mistresses financially because they want them to themselves. This is not new, this is as old as old as the concubine.
A lot of side chicks have a warped way of thinking. I knew a woman in her 50s who literally said “Oh I mess with married men because they got something to lose. If you not married I don’t want you.” Smh. I got away from her with the quickness.
Despite the fact that I hate side chicks, she makes a few points. Side chicks are winning these days. Men are paying ALL the bills of these women. Wives are looking stupid while hanging out with their husbands and friend groups because everyone has met the side chic but the wife. The husband has incorporated the side chic into his everyday life because he doesn't respect his wife. If the wife finds out and stays, it makes no difference. The husband will simply do a better job of hiding the side chic or pick up a new one. These side chics aren't going anywhere. And these men feel no guilt or regret about their actions.
I doubt he is paying all her bills. Most men don't make enough to fully support 2 houses. She is just capping. You can look at her and tell she is not wearing lux etc. These chick's not winning but they want wives to think they are. If they were winning they would keep it a secret for fear It could stop.
I agree most men dont make enough to fully support 2 households. But I know of several husbands who began supporting the side and making excuses of why bills in the main were slipping. Wives steps up and help support financially; sides dont. Anf though this lady may appear unhinged, it does not change the reality that many sides are living a very comfortable life. Speaking about it publicly doesnt guarantee it is untrue. It simply means these women are unashamed.
Yeah fr. They think they can shame this or that side chick for "ruining a family" as if the husband wasn't simply going to pick another woman anyways.
@@shenquejames7598I agree, she's probably doing other things or other men to get more money.
@@shenquejames7598 you never know
If she was a truly happy side chick (and there are some), she wouldn’t the out here hollering on the internet. She’d be quietly enjoying life.
At the end of the day she’s knows what she’s doing is wrong and says all that to cope
Wait until she's 40 and over. She'll be too old to be any men's side chick or mistress, then she's gonna be single, never married, and desperate for marriage.
@@Bohemiangoddess222 literally she's just trying to justify this choice 😂
I was 16 and in love with this guy in my neighborhood but he had a gf! He never knew I liked him...because never would I want to be with someone who was in a relationship....I respected his relationship...and I was only 16! Then ...I see this! SMH
Just bc you’re a side chick doesn’t mean the wife isn’t doing her job correctly. There are many women who satisfy their men very well but still decide to cheat. If you were doing your job “right” they why can you find your own man and keep him?
Nobody has a man but the Saints of GOD.
The rest of y'all just playing house and slave and spreading extremely nasty and dangerous diseases.
❤ boom, there it is!
This "keep a man" logic is inherently flawed. Men aren't pets. Some men don't have a moral compass and are unrepentant whores. I've never heard anyone suggest that it's okay for women to cheat when any of their needs are not met.
This is so weird. I don’t want a husband, nor do I want anyone else's husband. There are plenty of men who are not married who would be fine having a casual relationship with you. Tf would you want to lay up with someone's integrity-lacking, commitment breaking, lying ass, respect-lacking husband ? Why ? She clearly needs to heal. Women who respect themselves and have healthy self-esteem don't play around with men who aren't theirs.
It's hard for me to believe that she is okay living her life like this! Sometimes, the talking a lot is a way for some people to actually believe the lies they're telling themself😯
And other times they are actually ok with their lives
As side piece all you do is get spoilt, nice dinners and not having to help a gown man.
@@Lb-jm6wiThere's plenty of happy marriages out there. The ones that aren't happy is usually due to selfishness.....the same selfishness that plagues husbands who cheat and the women willing to cheat with them. I'd honestly prefer to be a wife to a faithful man than women random guys cum dumpster just because he's gonna "pay bills."... can't get any lower than that! 🤷♀️
Girlllll ur spot on!! My crazy ex goes on ranbling about me everyday to our kids while he has a whole new woman and whole baby together. Someone said he’s still grieving me and the constant talking about me is to believe his own lies and keep up that ego defense.
@@VixxKong2whose husband you sleeping with?? You are too invested in this comment section. We know you’re hurting girl. God will one day send you your own man.
It’s because men now a days are not offering much. It’s hard work being married and women are finding out they getting the short end of the stick
Ok so why not just stay single? Why not just date guys who are single? Why be a side chick period if men aren't offering much?
@@tommyt264thank you tommy!! It’s like women are desperate willing to settle for a piece of meat that the man is giving you and every other women a piece of🤦🏾♀️
True, alot of people can be bought and there are untold number of side chicks. It takes a really strong man to be with one woman these days. It is just too dangerous these days to deal with a cheating husband. This is why I stayed alone after my divorce. Jesus takes care of me better than any man could.
This is embarrassing 😳 she actually showed her face.
Do you shame the husband's like this? If not please sssshhh, keep quiet. We're not here for double standards. 😊
@@Confessions089are the husbands on Tik Tok exposing themselves? Girl sit down
@@Confessions089she was the one being loud about adultery and fornication like it was cute. She deserves whatever comes. She should have kept it to herself.
You one of those Desperate women that Always blame the women.you on every comment blaming her alone,but Not this married men.
No Strangers (women or men cause this men Not only cheating with women)have to be loyal to you.its your Husband that should be loyal to you.blame your Husband for Not wanting to leave single women alone
@@Confessions089 yes
She looks crazy and she is an unhappy woman. Deep down inside she wants a husband, but just don't want to admit it (because it is easier to be a side chick than it is to do the right thing). Every woman wants to be number one in her man's life. Being a side chick will eventually come back to bite you in the butt. Only a woman in pain would get on social media and be proud of being a side chick. This is so sad and I hope one day she will start to truly love herself and wait for her own husband to come along.❤👍
She also has to be happy with herself if she does or doesn't find a husband .
I think a lot of people always say oh this person is probably miserable off camera. But did you know there are people that are so evil that even off camera they couldn't care less about who they hurt as long as they are benefiting from a certain situation. Just sayin.
I'm not saying that most women want to be side chicks, but I do think that most women would rather be the side chick than the wife who is being cheated on. Either way, you're not number one. Cheating is so common that there seems to be more people who cheat than the ones that don't
Y'all wish. Keep repeating that sh!t just to cope
No every woman does not want to be Number One in a man's life. Though most people do want companionship, there are actually small subset of men and women who do prefer to be single and it is best for them. However, clearly this is not the situation. She enjoys sex and male companionship so she does want to be Number 1. But her ego and acceptance of the New Age Romantic Era causes her to pretend that she doesn't.
It's just trashy behavior all around. No matter how you look at it, it's bad Karma...she may never get cheated on but she may very well be cursed for her actions in other ways....things have a weird way of playing out in situations like these.
Every woman that chooses to be a side chick is not hurt or bitter, but they certainly do not care about his family; maybe some do, but most don't. My husband is very faithful, but I will not stand in his way if he ever feels the need to do something like this. I have zero problems throwing it ALL away and exiting left.
She is young. Youth has a way of making you think you know more than you actually do. All I can say to her is what my Granny use to say to me "Keep living!"
Lol keep living! (Aka you’ll learn)
❤
I got to the 19:42 mark where the woman commented she'd rather be a side, no cooking, laundry, etc and Shumake, you said wow, so you don't want to be the "chosen" one, you don't want to be "special". What is special about being chosen to bear children, cook, and clean for a man? Sounds like a house slave to me, thus hearing a wife say I'd rather be the one that doesn't cook for you, doesn't clean after you, doesn't bear your children and take care of them, primarily or mostly solo, I'd rather be the side that you take out to eat, buy things for, take on vacations, shop for, she's saying the side gets the better treatment, point blank period. So make this make sense. The math isn't mathing, what is a wife really? If the original meaning of the word HUSBAND is Master of the House, then that means the wife is the slave. Honestly, I think women are realizing that its not worth it and it isn't the honorable thing we've been convinced to believe that it is. Somebody's lying. And yes that lady in the clips is disturbed. lol But if a woman is expected to bring half to the table and be the primary care giver, house keeper, and cook, then she can do bad all by herself, it just isnt' worth it anymore in these modern times. What is a woman getting out of this?
Honor, respect, an undefiled bed, half of everything if there's a divorce and all of it if he dies.😊 Protection, provision, and stability for the children and a companion when you get old and wrinkled and no one's checking for you because even the old one's are chasing women younger than you ever will be again. Shoot, he may even give you a kidney if you needed one, but we are talking about good husbands not the Tyler Perry movie variety
@@rubytaylor2633 oh ok so only 10% of the population should marry? Last time I checked most people are paycheck to paycheck. What provision? Half of what? Debt! lol absolutely not!
@@rubytaylor2633I was with you until undefiled bed.
@@Hathor17 well to each their own. It's not for everyone and it seems like it might not be right for you, children either. It requires the kind of heart willing to sacrifice and serve without selfish ambition. God bless you to find whatever it is you're looking for🙏🏾 let His will for you be done in your life.😊
@@rubytaylor2633 I’m married with 3 kids lol. Speaking from Experience but thank you for your kind words.
These men need to learn self control or don’t get into relationships or marriages. We keep blaming the side chick but the guy is the one who stood before God & made the commitment. HE needs healing as well!
They don't like their wives. That's why they be pillow talking.
Explains why women file for divorce more. Instead of filing, they go see if the grass is greener first.❤
They don't like themselves either.
I was saying that to myself yesterday. A lot of people (men and women) don't like their spouses. They tolerate them a s a business partner/ the best appliance installed in their home (according to Judge Lyn Toler). Yet, the romance, excitement, joy, pleasure and happiness that they're supposed to be getting from their spouse I'd rejected and desperately searched for outside.
They have great disdain and disgust for theor spouse because that person reminds them of struggle, boredom, routine, responsibility, familiarity. They don't make their heart race anymore or provide conquest. They're monotonous and burdensome.
The sad thing about it, is in this day and age women are proud of being a sidechick as long as they are getting what they call " the bag". Sad to say but alot of these dudes be taking better care of the sidechick. I don't condone this behavior however, this is the sad reality we are living in, shame doesn't exist anymore.
Should they be proud being the wife that gets cheated on?
@@VixxKong2should the wife be ashamed for being a victim of betrayal? 🤨
@VixxKong2 There is a thing called divorce. I'd let her keep him. Stop thinking all wives put up with cheating men.
@@ravenrebel3183
She should be ashamed if she knows she's being played and keeps the man
@@Peaceoverhere
I've seen this before. The wife talks to the sidechick and says "Keep him, then." And the sidechick laughs in her face.
She was like "Tf I look like? You think I'd take care of a man, cookiand doing his laundry. Nah, I entertain him for a few hours every week and then I send him back to you. You should be thanking ME for sending him back home in a good mood."
She’s going to come across the right wife who doesn’t play about her man/family and will hurt her/delete her ass over their family… y’all continue playing with y’all lives if y’all want to breaking up folks marriages and families
You sound mentally disturbed.
so why is she deleting the woman instead of the man?
just a question.
she deleted
you in prison
and he remarry another woman
Y'all off and desperate.
@@Wenterprise-z6zthat’s just what some ppl are capable of doing. And that’s just situations ppl put themselves in by taking the risk of conniving with a cheater.
It’s not right but that’s how it is
@@Wenterprise-z6zfr the man wins at the end. Again 😂
@@Wenterprise-z6z you just better be a doctor to attempt to diagnose me… I said what the fuck I said! Move along
Doesn't always have to be the wife,sometimes a husband would delete his mistress.
I don’t have any desire to get married but I also have no desire to destroy other people’s relationships either. It’s not just respecting the other but it’s also about respecting yourself too.
There is an unmarried man out there who will do all of what this married man is doing .
oh hush. married women so delusional. This been going on for centuries.
Amen this is absolutely the truth. Any woman who will willing sleep with someone else husband should absolutely be rebuked. This type of behavior is not okay. And men who engage in this behavior needs to be rebuked as well.
She really looks all the way wild and she don't even know it. 🤣 😂😂😂😂😂
The level of pain some women are ready to inflict another woman over resources is truly mind-boggling. Especially when nowadays women can make their own money the way they want to.
Well technically she IS making money the way she wants to.
Meh. Women are willing to inflict pain on one another for much less than resources. That’s just the truth.
She's too loud to be the main woman, aint nobody worried about that lady.😂
This isn't new. Side chicks been saying this. There just wasn't any internet for them to broadcast. Deep down they don't feel they deserve better. The other woman is never the only other woman.
The scripture you read on Proverb 5 is applicable to Ide Udoka, TJ Holmes, Mel Tucker and many othets. They are losing everything and falling by the wayside because of lack of self discipline.
Nawl they want the bag everybody don’t want to cook clean and change diapers 🤷🏽♀️ it ain’t about love it’s about the bag
@jeytv6728 ...just like she said 'undisciplined' and 'low self-worth'. If somebody is willing to desecrate their body for a "bag" is a fool and a lowlife 💯
Men and women need to hold themselves accountable… infidelity, destroys the marriage, and destroys person that you intentionally hurt …
They love calling a woman with standards bitter 😂
😂😂😂 I know a few side chicks and trust me. They cry cry cry. They become obsessed with the wife and making sure the wife know about them. They are miserable. And then when they are in company they speak like this woman. It really amazes me.
She makes points that no one wants to be honest about.
These cheating married men treat their side pieces better than they cheat they Wife JayZ spoke on in a n 03 Bonnie & Clyde.(prolly from experience)
Yep
Excellent video. There’s no way she’s happy with her life overall. There’s no way I can say what’s wrong with her, but the video you mentioned where she was crying explained it all. Many people in this age run to social media to vent instead of doing the actual work of bettering themselves, facing their demons and getting professional help. I hope she gets the help she really needs and stop using men and “getting bills paid” as an escape mechanism.
This
Facts!
He doesn't care about his wife either if he has a sidechick
If she was truly unbothered, she wouldn’t be making videos to prove her worth. Most side chicks I have known could get their own man, but they wanted that specific man that was already married or in a committed relationship. Then the side chick goes on a campaign to prove she’s the better woman.
This is very common with women who have been thru trauma. Dissociation. They associate love with pain. They choose what side they will play and it starts very young. Their hearts have harden. It takes a person humbling themselves to a higher power and doing the work to heal the trauma. Only then will they know who they are. Even just regular people have to find themselves and dig deep to understand why they believe what they believe. Wives don’t have to be scared of the prostitutes they obvious trying to eat but the ones that are slick and in their hearts truly don’t care to break things up. They hide their wickedness. Usually at the work place. There are ranks to these women. Best believe.
This is exactly why Hell grows wider Every. Single. Day. People dying and ending up there at the drop of a hat .... every single day. I've never seen society as wicked as it is now, it's truly evil these days.
Yes he’ll is full! Their worm will never die, they burn just for temporary broken empty fleeting pleasure!
You are only living in this age, how can you possibly know how wicked Earth has ever been?
@@roshellegouldbourne787 Because it's biblically written that way. Apart from that, it's not hard to see. What sort of question is this??? The world is completely different from just 10 years ago 🤷♀️
@@KayciazWorld I misunderstood your comment. My apologies.
Sir she is not the fool the husband is. You have no idea how many men are out here that have a completely different mindset and heart than you do. Kudos to you for being and doing better. “This new age is different.”
...they are both fools 💯
If a woman is in a marriage where she feels unloved, overworked, overwhelmed, and well-being, she may feel like she wants to be the side chick more than being a wife. She will feel more wanted. Is this every married woman's reality? NO, but many feel that there hubby don't even appreciate them or see them as a partner.
Being a wife and mother SUCKS... 🤮🤮🤮🤮
Crazyyyy that “Our Daily Bread” was in Proverbs 4. And so I’ve been studying proverbs. Then I take a break and come to RUclips, and YOU BROUGHT UP THE NEXT CHAPTER !! The way God be speaking !!
I'm 23 and I think I'll stick to being single and childless + a full-time nerdy plant mom on the side with an array of sexy time toys 😅 whew.
What’s it called when you give it up for free? At least a prostitute gets paid.😂😂😂
Then don't be a wife, be a sidechick like her and get your bills covered by someone else's husband.
Meanwhile the same husband probably goes 50/50 with his wife
That side chick IS a prostitute, just with a longer lease 🤣
It's called community services, when you give it up for free and don't get paid for it.
@@VixxKong2 True. By going 50/50, the wife is taking a major financial burden off the husband, he spends those savings on the side piece. That's why so many RUclipsrs are telling women that 50/50 is a scam. ❤
a free h&e!!!
What's sad is if you're a side chick, you can become a queen. Look at Prince Charles and his current wife. She was his side chick during his entire marriage to Princess Diana. I feel that has emboldened side chicks. We live in strange times.
Oh really😮
Mmmmmm that particular case was a arranged marriage. Princess Di was a chess move for Charles. I don't believe they really loved each other. It was a matter of him producing heirs, and he did. Princess Di carried a lot of turmoil because she was young and being used. That's why you can't marry for convenience and comeuppance. So some marriages are a act of convenience. Once the man gets in it of course he uses her body and offspring come forth. However deep down that wife knows whether or not that man is there for easy access or true unconditional love. So that's what has to be determined. Some people just didn't marry for right reasons in the first place.
Remember he was 32 and she was 19 and it is documented that it was essentially arranged. Prince Charles was essentially forced into the marriage due royal bloods choice of suitable candidacy for their lineage to have certain qualities.
Infact Charles true love had always been with Camilla. Camila was initially a ex gf of his. So see that is why you can't just go to saying a woman took a man. He has to make the choice and although those choices can be errored. He has to realize that on his own. Unfortunately with the whirlpool of emotions. That's often skewed for long periods of time. As you see how long and after how many children he had before ultimately ending their union. He had fulfilled his part of that marriage with the heirs born. However in other matters some of these marriages have just ran their courses
Nope, she's never been a side girl. It was Diana who was the replacement. If the coward got any courage, he'd be with Camilla about 40 years ago.
You can see the obvious pain and trauma she’s holding inside. That’s why she’s putting up a false guard and hurting other people. This woman has been hurt, and, she’s been hurt really bad. She’s obviously miserable and putting up a facade. A doggone shame. 🥺
I see that in her too
Definitely!
I'm not going to lie, the way these guys are built now....🤷🏽♀️ Would you want to be the main chick?!?
Exactly!
Ok! 😂
She contradicting herself. We need to bring back shame
With cheating, there are no rules. No one "wins." Do not presume that the husband automatically prefers his wife. A friend of mine was the WIFE and he had his first child with the side chick, made his WIFE accept and practically adopt the child, and then divorced her anyway. You don't know what's going on out here Shumake. Don't presume. All parties need to know their worth.
@19:34 @Shumake but here’s the thing, why is it that men make things a better deal for the side chick? The wife is giving up more to get less in material things than the side chick, and the world should not be like that. This is what makes wives bitter. I personally have dealt with a man who tried to use me as a come up but paid for everything for his side chick and then she tried to get him to leave me, and it was very embittering to realize I was giving much more to him, cooking and cleaning and helping financially while getting much less from him than the bird brained chick that wouldn’t leave him alone. We need more men telling other men to stop enabling side chicks like this because it makes good women turn bitter when they feel like hoes are winning.
As the product of an affair, think about what you'd put the kids through. It's not worth it.
He’s a sleezeball but you let him in your body. What’s that say about you?!? 😂
This woman does not want to get a committment, because she feels that will protect her heart and thinking she will not be dissapointed or hurt. She is not protecting herself. She is bothered and that is why she made this long rant. The men that cheat with her are such dogs and do not respect their wives.
I used to hate side chicks. Couldn’t understand them. But I started looking at the whole situation from a different perspective. God uses these whores as tools to separate you from trash that was never meant for you. And he puts the trash together so they can drive off into the sunset and make one another miserable. Real men who are content and faithful would never lol. The men that like this kinda stuff would. Pay attention to your man and see what he would rather do and act accordingly. Don’t get mad and act crazy, just leave. Took me along time to understand this concept. But God is good 😊.
Love when you break down the scripture! I knew that was the one you would read. If more ppl read their Bible, they would move different.
She’s trying so hard to justify her stupid decisions and lack of boundaries. Ok Miss Side Chick.
There's more to marriage than a man's name and his commitment. Let's be honest husbands give the best of themselves to their side chicks. We got to stop blaming the women, especially when the bible doesn’t blame women. It warns men to avoid the nature of women who have lost faith ans men are not listening because 1. they don't know the word 2. they think they know women better than women know themselves. STOP making excuses and being sympatheic for men who consciously put themselves in these situations. CALL THEM OUT!
Truth. The romance goes to the side chick, the drudgery to the wife. Side chicks get the better deal.
I'm even inclined to say, it's not a side chick , but their next woman or choice. I mean the "side chick" was invented by angry wives. So let's just call them that mans next woman or choice. I mean clearly he likes the woman. With all this energy we putting into knowing the men or husbands doing it. It's clear this is his next choice. Cause it's us giving them way too much focus and energy for me. Just look it that way. That's why it isn't that next woman fault. She didn't choose herself,HE DID!
Leviticus 20:10 speaks on it as well as all the many scripture’s about the sexually immoral. God will judge all and he despise all sin
Yes the Bible does also blame the woman. Get real. If you can't comprehend whose right or wrong than you don't need to be speaking
@BM-tx2ph That's incorrect. No women will be punished according to Hosea 4:14: "I will not punish your daughters when they play the whore, nor your brides when they commit adultery; for the men themselves go aside with prostitutes and they sacrifice with cult prostitutes, and people without understanding shall come to ruin."
Even by man's book, it's 100% on the man.
Her coping skills are amazing 😂😂😂
Girl i dont pay any bills either, but i get called wife. As soon as wifey finds out about her, she gets cut off. Why does she think this is stability 😂😂
Right lol 😂 I noticed people aren’t mentioning the wives that don’t pay bills and aren’t going 50 50.
@@sj-9212cuz those wives are few and far between
Seeing several of her video clips, I think she is just making inflammatory videos for views and ratings. Every other month she has a video with a wild topic like the one about women should buy guys sneakers and take them out on dates but now you want to be the side chick? She’s just throwing out anything to see what sticks for views.
Does she have a job. If I had gotten on social media talking crazy like this, my last boss would have dismissed me for breaking the morals clause of my employment agreement.
She must have low self esteem. I need to know her back story, her history. This just does not make sense
Why is she saying that like she's so sure he doesn't have another side chick that she doesn't know about that he's cheating not only on his wife, but on her too.
The woman is proud because the HUSBAND is proud.
She is definitely tried of being in the shadows/hidden 💅🏽. Looks like she wants her own man instead of sharing; projecting at best 🤦🏽♀️.
Hey Brother, keep on bringing peace, balance and accountability with your channel . Big shoutout to you
What is sad is...these women are laying up with all these different men and cant list ONE of them as an emergency contact...Imagine giving yourself to different men for 30+ years and not one of them has cared enough to marry you. It is all fun and games when you are young and "attractive" but when you are old and alone (parents have died and siblings/friends are busy with their own lives)..who will be there for you? Because these married men will be growing old with their wives.
That's a lie.
Married women die faster because they are married.
Men don't take care of their sick wives, they leave them.
Men die alone.
Women ALWAYS have family, friends and church for support.
Stop living in lala freakin land.
Typically, men die before women, so even the wives are going to be alone at the end.
Most husbands DON'T CARE about their wives... They adore their side chicks considering them too good for domestic servitude whereas the wife, in their eyes, is the PERFECT slave... It's nothing but a SHAME...🤮🤮😡😡
@@rebekkagasmi9451 EXACTLY.
heathen married women don't have a leg to stand on.
Their gig is up.
They know and we all know that their live in room mate aka my huuuuusband place them as number 2 and 3. They will never be number 1 when you dealing with black men.
Stop the 🧢
What irks my nerves is that you really think Women like her care about any of that? The sidechick has Family members they can list as emergency contact Ma'am. If she's getting all of the goodies for thirty years why would she trade that in for ten years being cheated on?
“Men naturally take care of their woman financially, but expecting for your man to take care of you financially is prostitution” 😂 a mess
This woman is under demonic possession, we can all look at her and see the stress and anguish to know that she is not okay. It’s perverse, the devil tells you wrong is right and she is clearly tormented enough to try to spread these things online. God bless.
“Do not be deceived, bad company corrupts good morals”.
Yes and black men are corrupt, so stop hanging around them. Look how they got y'all acting.
SIDE CHICK RHETORIC: 2:30 "Girl! I'm helping you!" As said to the wife....
Comedian Monique thought that same way. Thought that an open marriage and side chicks were okay for some time. By the time she did her interview on Club ShayShay, she retracted her statement and had long before proceeded to follow the two being devoted and committed to each other. Closed it right on up. And updated her statement to say that didn't work. At all.
If you get elders to really sit down and get real with you, they normally say these things went on before too. The pride people have in their immorality is what changed.
The sad part is she really believes this!! Men never have one side chick. And it’s very sad that the wife will more than likely end up with an STD.
She's right. In this day & age women are expected to work, do the housework, cook, clean, bear children and take care of a man & his needs. As a side chick, the main woman can do all this for him and the side chick can just enjoy being a woman. I will NEVER marry again!!!
Perfectly put... 🙏👍🍀🍀
True but it’s not consistent she’ll spend lonely nights
@@Bohemiangoddess222 You must be very young. Married women know what its like sleeping next to a man. You wont get a good nights sleep.
@@patty-pat-pat you still won’t know when he coming or going
I dont condone it..but im not going to act like i don't understand exactly where she is coming from.
Exactly i wont judge
@pynklady11 🟢we all judge.
Most people who deal with EMOTIONAL UNavailable people are emotionally unavailable themselves. This young lady is Broken and I pray she gets the healing that she desrves.
I would like to think all men dont cheat but i have yet to see it
Almost EVERY man cheats ...
These side chicks are cool with it until she catches feelings, or he doesn't want to sleep with her anymore! Then it's not cool anymore & she wants to break his family apart! It doesn't feel good being disposable lol but hey they put themselves in this position so they reap what they sow 💁🏻♀️
Tbh based off from other people’s experiences & seen with my own eyes, it really don’t matter if you’re the main or side cause they’ll still get cheated on . I have seen side chicks get treated better without really wanting the man either smh it depends on circumstances. I just probably wouldn’t want this life for myself . Karma don’t play
Thanks for addressing this. SMH the mentality of people is disgusting.
This is a sad generation of "girl women" and "boy men." Nine times out of ten they aren't the only side chick! These "boy men" got MANY side chick's that get fake apologies who let them do whatever they want to do. I bet if she find out about another side chick she'll be mad...smh. Just sad!!!