You Don't Have Low Confidence. You Have Low Value | DMP Ep. 10
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0:00 - 0:40 Intro
0:40 - 3:18 BiOptimizers Ad
3:18 - 4:01 Self plugs
4:01 - 8:01 Confidence through Cold Approaches
8:01 - 12:28 Does Low Value lead to Low Confidence?
12:28 - 17:56 Confidence comes from perceived effort
17:56 - 25:43 Our Low Confidence in the past
25:43 - 29:55 Nikhil at Acting Workshop in Mumbai
29:55 - 37:12 Getting Confidence from metrics versus efforts
37:12 - 42:50 Facing new challenges to build confidence
42:50 - 47:18 Pick one performance based goal, that's it.
47:18 - 56:13 Goal setting
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I'm sorry, I spent all my money on Super Male Vitality
Sunday routine: make my protein oats, sit down at the desk, and watch two damaged men cry.
also, are those earrings i see???
Hahaha thank you for putting us in your routine. Yessir, wanted to try them out
@@CaptainSinbad I noticed them, too, but I'm unamused. 😒 Sorry!
legit bro ahahah, missed it yesterday for the first time but it was a great listen today after the wage cage
Where are the new episodes?
Dang, Thomas saying he wishes he had been rejected instead of not asking out his prom date hit hard. Having the rejection is worth so much more than just having the fear.
Danm. I wish I asked girls out in highschool.
Bruh where's this week's ep
“Every action you take is a vote for the type of person you wish to become. No single instance will transform your beliefs, but as the votes build up, so does the evidence of your new identity.”
― James Clear, Atomic Habits
“You do not rise to the level of your goals. You fall to the level of your systems.”
― James Clear, Atomic Habits
Confidence is a by-product of knowledge, experience and of course achievements its not something you can build by itself.
I can't count how many times friend argue with me over this. You can't be confident just because you want to. Values bread confidence.
Where is the podcast Sinbad? Two weeks now.
I would say this : confidence stems from value. Value stems from competence. Competence stems from experience
Don't need competence and experience to assign value to yourself.
Assign whatever the fuck you want.
You are a sum total of your beliefs.
Believe, and so it shall be
Competence does not come with experience, it comes with skill my man. Some people have so much experience but still did not build the skill.
@@TheAlchemist1089 agreed to an extent but you shouldn't be afraid or unmotivated to work to become more valuable . At the end of the day it will only be beneficial
It’s been three weeks, captain and only god knows how much I loved waking up every Sunday morning to your podcasts with the mammoth. I hope you do come back to dropping these gems
This podcast has became my sunday ritual while eating my dinner as its evening in India,its pumping me up to walk into the week.
Same !
Same here
It's the same concept as "you attract what you are not what you want." If you want an true genuine attraction from a beautiful girl with ethics/values you have to be a match, and do the work. You have to be the part, meaning have a good physique, look good and have your life in order. Put in the work and be what you want to attract.
But women dont have to put any work to accomplish anything
True . Fast way is, if you're a single western man, date or marry non western women. Problem solved lol
@@rubioalvin All women are the same
Where new podcasts? These podcasts have been the best podcasts I have listened to! I hope everythings ok.
As someone who’s been cold approaching solidly for several years, it has had an equal impact on my sense of self as strength training. I wouldn’t even say that I’m confident: I know I am competent. Approaching women resets me into a more present state and is fun like nothing else. It’s a mini-adventure that might yield a great adventure, with relatively no downside.
Aim to become competent, not confident. As I often say, confidence isn’t really something you gain. It’s just the resultant state of having less fear within. You dissolve fear of something by doing it repeatedly and realising it’s not as bad as you thought it was. Are you afraid of brushing your teeth? Exactly.
Got ghosted by a girl yesterday because I couldn’t work up the courage to just ask her out while the convo was still going well. Woke up HUNGRY and VENGEFUL today, I needed this, thank you kings
dude think for yourself, if she don't put the effort not even to reply you imagine to hangout with you, is not because you didn't ask her out if she was interested she would not ghost you and you even suggest to do something together
Been There
It sucks
But You got this king 💪
@@patrick5315 For the most part you’re right, but this is mostly a case of me being a pussy. She literally opened our interaction by suggesting we hang out, and I kinda extended the conversation instead of taking her up on it and making plans then and there. So 50/50 imo, but I can only blame myself. It feels good to do so though, feels powerful to take full responsibility for the outcome.
Ghosted mean you won't get closure. If that's the case you could still be thinking about it years later. Better to stay busy and focus on something else.
I don't think that's the "because". She would have asked you out if she was interested
Doing cold approach literally changed my life. Sure, a lot of the approaches didn't go anywhere, but it's not about that. It's about transcending the bullshit limitations you've placed on yourself, reconnecting with your primal masculinity, and realizing how powerful you really are. The sex was a bonus ;)
It’s very interesting when you mentioned ‘1st man’ and ‘Hamza’ it goes to show that all the self improvement channels watch each other and are aware of each other, and take in each other’s perspectives and views 👍
Been relapsing 2x for the last two weekends. Not gonna happen this week. Let’s keep moving forward my boys 💪💪💪💪💪
I highly encourage cold approaches. It allows our evolutionary biology to factor in without the screens. Be free from expectation in the outcome and derive confidence from going through with the action of the cold approach. Ladies, if a gentleman cold approaches you and you are not interested for whatever reason (taken, no attraction, etc.), be graceful w your feminine energy and respond politely. Thank you, I’m flattered, I cant. Have a nice day 🥰. The exchange of masculine and feminine energies is part of the human experience.
You can't just say _Thank you, I’m flattered, I cant. Have a nice day_ to an incel. You are putting your life on the line
@@nostro1940 💀💀💀
Do hard things and your value will rise, which in turns increase your confidence.
That is true for some people, perhaps many people. However, due to misunderstood or unacknowledged things that happened in the past, especially with caretakers, some people still feel worthless when they have achieved amazing things.
@@proudatheist2042 yeah I agree. That's a whole different matter and that can be solved only by journaling and intense therapy.
I’m 19, a freshman in college and I do do cold approach from time to time. The main benefit of cold approach is that if you get used to that level of risk taking, that high; it numbs you to things like dating apps which are extremely safe in comparison. I’m literally never nervous meeting a girl off of tinder or that I’ve been DMing on Instagram anymore simply because of the comparison of risk. This also applies to places where I know we’d have common interests such as a class or the gym. I think it’s worth it to go through a brief cold approach phase for this benefit alone, as you will stay cool and collected in less riskier situations. That being said I’m young and don’t know much abt the world, but this is just something I’ve personally noticed
I agree with that concept. It bleeds into the rest of your life as well.
yup, the point here is to get desensitized to that uncomfortable feeling, that you're "encroaching into someone's space"
Once you're brain realises nobody cares, you get more confident
Took that title directly from 1stman's channel
The amount of insight you have given me is immense Captain! You are fulfilling something greater than yourself. Your effort, your pains, goals, make me wanna go achieve everything. Don’t doubt the effort you have put in. You are moving the world, you have fulfilled a lot, wether you like it or not.
This is low key becoming my favourite podcast. Love seeing the transformation of both of you guys on this channel - great things are coming for both of you!
Greatness is coming. Thank you for the timestamp edit upgrade Captain!
Competence is confidence is a saying I love.
The more things you know you are competent in (whether its just the efforts or the results) the more confident you will feel about yourself in both those aspects and in general.
This podcast is amazing!! I haven’t been at the fullest of confidence for a while now, at least not yet. Thanks for this! One of the way to build your value/ your confidence to help others truthfully and helpfully!!
Man these weekly episodes have been relevant to my life atm.
These guys keep delivering heat week in and week out, amazing podcast
I did cold approach in college an it was mainly practicing your social skills with anyone around you. An then moving small chit chat into a possible chance of romance. You’d be surprised how big the world is when you just talk to people around you
Best episode yet. A solid core message that anyone can strive for. Time to go to the gym.
I'm touched by the way you talk about your father, Nikhil. Sounds like he is a great man who had a significant influence on you. I'm sure that translates to at least some of the reasons why you grind so hard and influence us all who watch you. I hope I can have a similar influence on my son and daughter. Much love ❤️
i love this podcast every monday afternoon after university , love you guys
one of the most valuable episodes of DMP out there.
One of my favorite concepts by 1st man, and I’ve watched a lot of his videos. Stoked to see you guys talk about it! Church is in session boys 🙌🏻
Literally just commended that remember Kris making a video about this. Always had the same idea in my head and wondered if others relate. These videos and podcats are a gold mine to likeminded heads joining forces .
Please continue the podcast :)
Alright boys, I woke up a few weeks ago coughing and spitting up blood because I was sick. Got some on the walls and window of my apartment, didn't realize until the day after because I was so wrecked. Got a root canal a couple of days later, turned in all my assignments that same day without extensions because I gave it all I had. Wrecking this PhD, totally right about growing confidence by refusing to give it less than all you have
Edit: I went to the doctor and was fine, just sneezing so hard and chomping down on my tooth made me spew blood lol
Cold Approach really helped me develop my propensity for risk taking.
In a way its very low hanging fruit from a fear perspective. Massive fear than can be can tackled almost anywhere and in an instant (if youre willing to make a goof of urself at first).
Did CA on and off during 2017-2019 was an incredible time. The stories are really what makes it worthwhile. There's an element of spontaneity lost in purely online dating (even though it is superior if youre a high value lad) CA really helped me grow socially!
Great pod btw
14:14 True unshakable confidence comes from within, nothing external will give you true unshakable confidence, you have to look in the mirror and feel good about who you are
Been loving these podcasts guys!
You’re providing a service, thank you 😊
I've been watching your channel since 2018 and I can honestly say your confidence has truly increased over these past few years. Keep up the good work Nikhil 👏 also this episode was great. Doing new things has truly increased my confidence as well over the past few years, so i can relate so much to that. Looking forward to the next episode
Shoutout Fargo ND. Where greatness is born.
I had the most confidence during my college years. I had this strange epitome. Confidence has to feel natural. I feel like the word Confidence is like some kind of magic emotions stat that you gain out of no where. Confidence is like creativity. I notice once you start the snow ball rolling. Everything will come in like a snowball rolling down a hill. When you talk to people consistently and create consistently it accumulates and it becomes a natural form of neurons in your brain. It becomes ingrained in your brain. Things you want, have to become a habit. It all has to become a routine in your daily life in order for it to become natural.
But if you stop. It will stop too.
Great podcast guys.
i cant enjoy a week without listening to the KILLER theme start up again. thank you for the podcast
Thank you for adding chapters 💯
For the most part I lack confidence and poo poo on my self most days. Listening to these podcasts every Monday really helps me reset and reflect back on the progress I've made over the past couple years. I am in such a better place now, I just need the reminder to look. Thanks.
doing the shit that scares me feels like a level up, afterall fear is the mindkiller, it indeed is the little death that brings obliteration, conquering that fear and the constant action day after day gives me that little life, the confidence and the trust in myself to go bigger, harder and smarter.
Cold approach is life changing sinbad. Cold approach every day for a week and make a video on it and you’ll learn more than you would in 3 weeks
I recently discovered your channel. Great content! Intelligent conversation with a little humor thrown in. I'm binge listening to your content now. 😊
Best new podcast out there, greatness isn't only coming, it's here.
💯
This is awesome.. keep doing these, I'm coming for more
With the weeks craziness i forgot how much i love this podcast … and then on sunday that notifaction reminds me … Thanks Guys … you guys podcast is helping me through a tough emotional time … for that thanks … Keep Killing it 🔥
Listen to your podcast regularly! Nice!
Quiet Pride - Defined: By letting your actions be your loudest voice, deafening to distraction and needless of praise or publicity, you exemplify "Quiet Pride". Competence and capability are demonstrated with never a need to posture, boast, or pronounce your greatness. Through actions alone, they already know.
"ACTIONS - the rest is just noise."
Hell yes. Utmost respect for yourselves kings
here we goooo Kinggg
This guy finally uploads when i am awake
“None of my self worth is tied to how this goes” - Thomas spitting truth bombs
Shoutout to BiOptimizers for sticking with the legends
I have been reading "Iron John" and it's been helping put this show in context. I think my negative reaction to this show was partly motivated by my fear of masculine challenge, I am currently the naive man who is trying to cultivate a sense of brutality (a reasoned brutality which is aimed at one's own weakness) and I think this podcast is slowly helping me get there.
Love you guys!
I'm excited to watch this. Very.
This one got me back into the swing of things.
Keep doing what you do man your content deserves better
Bhai ek Indian hu but i am proud at the things you've doing you've inspired my entire friend circle to do better and you are making a better name of Indians out there thanks man
Time for my Sunday morning ritual. Let's get it boys
Sadly in India nowadays you're only valued if you're parents/grandparents are big ass landlords.
And people have now become so egoistic after the jump in real estate prices here. God they seem so fake with that new found money.
US is better in terms of respecting individuals for their efforts, and not their inherited properties or wealth.
Loved it 🙌
Amazing Podcast! ✌
Confidence is a function of the of challenge in front of you and the level of skill you possess to tackle it.
Earning Good money, and developing master skills in what you do definitely boost confidence
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Captain SinJacked coming soon.
I think we always know there is hope that is why we go for more confidence.
It is called ‘Low Self-Esteem’!
At some point, self-worth and confidence have to become independent from external factors and even internal perceived effort. Otherwise, we only believe that we are worthy and deserving of the things we need and want because we have to continuously prove ourselves, which is exhausting and enslaving.
Also, great point about treating yourself with respect and dignity no matter your chapter in life as well as placing greater importance on alignment with your actual values.
Totally agree.
"I didn't do anything to deserve this, I'm just like the son of a king" bro I've felt that exact same way sometimes growing up. Glad someone else felt that strange guilt too
Such a great episode,
When I was watching your regular videos regulary last 1-2 years I always considered You as ideal of positive change and also these motivation videos were always down to earth compared to some different coaches - wolrd known. So I imagened you must have so well orginased mental health, you must feel very good most of the time. And this podcasts however I find them very interesting and great, they made me realised how much problems you guys still have. And there I am 26, feeling very behind In live, living up to be succesfull in things I love doing like you and I don't really have most of problems you guys talk about so it was kinda sad thought that went through my mind that I will be always struggling and I will be always not contend with my life. I don't know but I made some much improvement because of you, but also I too feel that I was the most confident around 19-20 year old and six years from there I can't be on that level no matter how I try.
I started viewing cold approach on people like looking for treasure. Like yes you can waste your time finding common ground in someone, but once you dig youll be surprised on what you’ll find in people that you have in common
Finally timestamps! Thank you
Lovely. We're all back up watching the new brewing podcast that hits home to everyone.
Also. Kris @1stman approves of the title.
I swear he had the exact same video title a couple months back and it hit home to a concept most don't understand I always felt like I did.
Keep up the great work boys. Damaged men united lmao.
Edit: Ah, you literally mention the concept came from Kris. Well then. All makes sense.
For the Transmuted app I would suggest putting a daily schedule creator kind of like what's in Sunsama, where you can organize, and time block our day. I know it's a tall order, but I think that would immensely help the app become greater. Also thanks for putting in the general section in the journaling portion of the app. Thank you and I can't wait to see this app become greater.
Thanks for time skip option. 🙏
Bro, I think this it man. Making commercial and stuff for big brands. You got the skills, just doesn't to be a popular thing on youtube. But you can do it.
Glad I found this....
Proud to say I am from Fargo, ND.
Hi Captain! I'm here
Ya'll should think about adding "Damaged Men Podcast" in the title or description.
It's in the thumbnail but not anywhere else.
I had trouble searching it and just had to go to your channel.
I do think cold approach can be a good experience if nothing else... I did it in the past and I learned a lot on how to approach and women in general. I wouldn't do cold approaching again (unless specific circumstances where the girl is clearly interested), but I'm really glad I did it in the past!
It feels like I personally requested the topic for this episode
More advice bro. Need this kind of stuff...
You guys should checkout Julien on the having doing being paaradigm of confidence.
What you talked about is the doing but ideally being is the stage you want to reach for perfect confidence when mastered
now I like this podcast a bit more than at the beginning
working out while hearing this.
The reason to start with fitness is that the outcome is 100% under your control, Unlike career and relationship goals you do not depend on anyone, if you put in the effort you WILL see results and once you see them you feel so much more in control of your life and that seeps into other aspects of your life.
The Damaged Man Talkshow
So you can call it Dmt 😉
On the topic of videographers charging high prices, I’m a wedding photographer & filmmaker and for the longest time I only charged around $3k and was fine but I decided I wanted to try raising so I raised to $6k-$12k and I literally immediately booked a $10k package for the exact same thing I was offering before. Confidence is a cheat code.
As a nomad, Cold Approaching is the only reliable way to meet people consitently. I don't quite understand Why Thomas thinks that it will be harder to filter people in those situations. In social circles/dating apps, it is much harder to get an idea of someone. With cold approach it doesn't take very long to figure out if someone is worth continuing conversations with.
This!
love the ear peircing