"They threatened to cut us out of their lives." How are they going to do that, they dont have anything for their selves. Also that would just ultimatley give OP what he wanted they would need to get jobs.
Exactly…..”Mom,…Dad…. If you don’t let us freeload off of you we’ll stop freeloading off of you and never freeload off of you again!!!!” Don’t threaten me with a good time.
The beginning is how generational wealth gets squandered in three generations. First generation builds the wealth, the second coasts off of it, and the third has no idea how to maintain it.
Valid point. Financial knowledge is something someone simply doesn't learn on their own unless they're taught. My father is a person, who would spoil if ever possible, while mother lived paycheck to paycheck and valued the worth of money more. Attempted to save money where possible, and finding past times and a job that could help balance inflow and outflow of money.
I feel that, as someone who grew up with parents that had generational money and I will gain heavily from trust funds. I now work 40 hours a week as a financial advisor who worked my way up from the bottom. (Until I am 35, I don't gain from my trust fund.) I was raised spoiled and started as spoiled when I was younger. Life sucks, but not feeling like you worked for what you have is 10000 times worse IMO.
Yeah, that’s the classic story of wealth getting squandered over generations. The first builds, the second coasts, and the third has no idea how to keep it going.
I grew up in a family run upper middle class resort and saw so much of this. The grandparents built a whole empire of rentals in a HCOL area and had a villa. Their kids didn't ever work and had golddigger husbands and wives and the children (whom I played with) were raised on "beauty is more important than education". Said kids are my age now and live an average lifestyle. Their parents had to sell the villa because they could no longer afford the upkeep, and sold all the rentals to afford their lifestyle. Nothing left to inherit. Seeing such stories really worried my parents. So they decided us kids would be required to work part time jobs during college. And they would completely stop to financial support afterwards. Which turned us into really sensible people. The bad side: People who google my family know they have money, and I get a lot of questions why I have such a "cheap" lifestyle. I kind of grow tired of explaining that my parents money is not my money and even if they decide to donate 100% it would be fine with me. This is such a weird concept to most people.
@@awwlaylayou are 100% correct. In my case, I was a straight A+ student all my school years, always helped with the house chores and never ever disrespected my parents. What did my parents do as a prize for my efforts? Absolutely nothing, not a single compliment. I endured beatings from one of my older brothers while the other never protected me. I was forced to keep an eye on my beating brother because he is epileptic so I couldn't simply walk away from him. The other brother constantly complained and berated my parents, and he called it "standing his ground" while in reality he just p*ssed them off more and then my parents pressured me to "not turn like my brothers". I endured too much sh*t of everyone yet they never gave some kind of retribution. Not a single compliment or sign of recognition. I used to be such an innocent, loving kid. Now, I just see a broken man in the mirror. I just stopped feeling human.
@@deadlishaoranI’m sorry your parents and brothers treated you this way. I hope that things are/will get better for you. As a mother, myself, I want to, in some small way, let you know that I hear/read/ and “see” you and your struggles and pain. I wish your parents said out loud the things that kids (you needed then/now)- that you’re loved, appreciated, and sorry. Truly, I believe you’re a good man and hope you can pick up the pieces. 🧩
Eh everyone screws up for the most part at some point raising their kids. Some say and do the wrong things that change how a kid interacts with others into adulthood(like telling your kid you don’t care about their opinion in a heated moment only the parent recognizes or not allowing your kids to hang out with people because you have to drop them off. Other it’s more easily identifiable like the spoiled rich kids, or a kid who is more verbally jarring to most because they grew up with parents arguing and saying hurtful things to each other. maybe that kid turns out far too nice to everyone no matter what or they….or maybe the kid ends up a reclusive adult afraid of connections out of fear they will have the same relationship they saw as a youth. Some of those mentioned are far harder to reconcile and fix than a spoiled kid who doesn’t understand the value of hard working for something. But yea the OP did fantastic fixing his kids outlook on life in general
Until i and my sister where educated,earned a job and financially independent we were never given information of how much assests our parents holded.we were grown under impression that we lived paycheck to paycheck. One day it seemed we were making almost enough financially,next day parents retired,with a lot of funds and all of a sudden we collectively have a house under each person's name in our family. Its important to teach value of hard earned money,that too when one makes it by themselves it is felt valuable else its just miney everywhere without a value
I grew up paycheck to paycheck with bill collectors phoning or visiting. My babysitting pay went to buy groceries or we 5 siblings would be hungry. Even after I was married I got calls from the parents to help out financially. I swore i would never treat my children like I was treated.
My parents did something similar. We did live paycheck to paycheck once, when I was very young. Struggled to have food to eat, lived in a village with my grandma, Etc. However, when I was six, my mom made my dad go back to school for an MBA and he got an amazing job. However, besides suddenly being able to eat three meals a day and moving into my other grandmas house nearer to the city, nothing changed for me. I thought we barely had enough to survive. My parents didn't even pay for my school PTM fees (thank god for free education). Even at 22, when my dad lost his job, I didn't know we had money. I returned home (ran away three years before) to help support them. Only when I was 27 and bought my own house did they finally sit me down and tell me that I did not need to give so much allowance to them, I could funnel more to my house loans. THEY HAD MONEY THE WHOLE TIME. Now they're planning overseas holidays every other month (without me). Theyre also showing off to their friends that I'm able to pay for my own wedding... Though it'd honestly be nice if they chipped in a bit.
fr I wasn't expecting just 2 years, he could have set a money goal instead and have them work towards that. They should be happy that it's just 2 years of work and are still being supported with necessities.
Also, when he said "real job" he specified that they couldn't get the job through nepotism nor be hired by a family member, that they had to get their paychecks by a third party. Yes, finding a job is difficult right now, but one can still fin something in retail, coffee shops, and smaller places, yeah, the pay is not great, but they could fulfill the requirement to get their inheritance with that, right?
I love how they talk about how this generation has it very complicated, yes we do, but not them, they have it very easy, they are part of the minority that has it easy. 90% of the people in the world would love to have the opportunities that they have had and HAVE.
@@zark170196 But at the same time, even if they are in that minority, does that not have its own challenges? People thinking they apply to mock the company, for example. Or maybe they might not have as much as other candidates in the experience and volunteering side. Think about how much we need now to get into a job.
@@Vivilovesbunnys124That’s the thing, I have allowances and still study hard every day to become a doctor. I don’t take their money for granted. His kids are major assholes? Yes. OP is dumb for raising his kids without financial advise? Absolutely. It’s like those rich parents who are so careless about their children that they spoil them while growing up so they won’t throw a fit and then cut them off to their own demise in adulthood. Like, what did you honestly expect?
I'd rather them not fail and ruin everything I've built up though. If they had just let live with no jobs and the parents eventually die‚ they would have spent the money very quickly and maybe even make themselves homeless. Some mistakes are to be avoided. Figuring things out was forcing them to get a job tbh.
"They didn't know how to survive without their parent support" is exactly why they need to work hard. What happened when mum and dad gone? And I really don't understand why some outside people, even immediate family, really love to chime in and give their (often baseless) opinions.
I remember some rich dude saying that he kept his financial info private even from his family because he didn't want his kids to become "waiters" when asked what do you mean "waiters" he said, I don't want them to do nothing for a career and just wait around until I die to inherite my money. OPs heart was always in the right place but instead of giving his kids a good life, he went over board and spoiled them rotten. Hopefully they truly learned to value what they will inherite and not just go back to living with their hands out for daddy's money.
Ways to know that Telltales posted a fake story: 1). Too much information (especially at beginning). 2). Weird time jumps that usually has a big one at end. 3). The "commenters" aren't mentioned by name. 4). Seems like a Lifetime drama/Soap opera. 5). Usually has a 1 vs the world theme / Do it for dan theme. 6). OP and characters usually goes against normal human nature example: OP gets assaulted in their home and doesn't call cops. Example 2: Person/people OP has problems with "Barge into" their home and again doesn't call police. 7). OP always has to ask reddit AITAH even though asking that question goes against Human nature of the OP being severely wronged. 8). Weird Updates that aren't needed. 9). OP reiterates things multiple times in a single "post". 10). Stating their feelings/how they feel "in the moment". 11). IRL laws do not apply. (Battery, theft, harassment, etc.) 12). Takes most of the video to even get to the title point. 13). When it comes to wills/inheritance, it usually is in the amount to live comfortably if smart or a huge outrageous amount that it doesn't make sense. 14). Has a "family business" that is "really successful". 15). Has abusive parents who do horrible things that are not acceptable or petty (such as abuse, unreasonable rules, favoritism or neglect) But the OP doesn't ask help from family members/cps while being able to do so. -@FinnishM3mes 16). Has crazy In-law that shows up with "legal documents" that supposedly is from a Lawyer over things that only a court can decide. 17). "So I'm obviously in the right but some random character(s) who's relatively unimportant to the story says I'm not so AITA?"-@conormac6293 18). Story is a movie script/OP and crew act like detectives. 19). Has an OP "rethinking" his choices because of irrelevant characters in the story. -@FinnishM3mes 20). Has unrealistic ‘bullies’ and the ‘villain’ in each story ALWAYS gets disowned or removed from the parents will by the end of each tale. -@SarahLovesBoobahandErEr 21). Has the AI Bingo! "Whirlwind of emotions" "rollercoaster of emotions" "Well, you see" "[person] apologized profusely" "Surrounded by love and affection". @fl-ri 22). Has a "dream world" or "Alternate universe" motif to it. 23). Has the "EDIT: Holy crap/OMG this blew up over night/in a few hours". 24). Actions of characters in story doesn't match human behavior. Like approaching someone after they get a restraining order against them right after the hearing to instate that order and make threats in front of attorneys. 25). ( should've been first but w.e.) When you reverse search the story, you can never find it as a whole. You usually find bits and pieces taken from multiple stories across the web not just reddit. 26). Legal documents somehow (mysteriously) gets drafted in a characters name without their knowledge or signature. 27). Legal actions don't work for OP but work for everyone else. 28). Disregarding certain culture norms like not owning technology. 29). The OP stays with/around a known violent person and then is "shocked" at how violent that person can be. 30). People who have problem OP or vice versa are up into themselves with their "social standing" like their royalty or something. 31). OP never records (we all have cell phones) the problem people admitting what they did wrong. 32). When the OP actually gets a restraining order, they fail to enforce it. ALL Protection/restraining orders state you may not use ANY 3rd party including other family members to violate the order. The 3rd parties do get used and OP never enforces the order. 33). Has the "Rules for thee, Not for me" motif. 34). Has a motif that paints OP as a saint. 35). OP says "“hey Reddit, I’m back” or just over mention of Reddit" -@madi554 36). Reuse of names from other stories posted. -@justroonhere 37). Usually a "Rich people problems" story.
OP has no right to complain about how his kids are "entitled, lazy, and bullies" and that they have "no ambition", as if he wasn't involved in their upbringing at all. Good on you for wanting to give your kids the life you never had, but they're in their 20's now and you only just realised that their behaviour is a problem and you need to start parenting them? Better later than never I guess but come on, they didn't just wake up that day and start acting entitled.
They did the right thing with tough love but they shouldn’t have let their kids get this spoiled in the first place. At least it seems to be moving in the right direction.
The way Caleb and Maya are supporting each other now, and the deeper conversations they had are positive changes. OP's efforts to steer Caleb and Maya toward a more independent and self-reliant path is rlly awesome
Wow, cutting off their monthly allowance and credit cards must have been a huge wake-up call! It’s intense but definitely needed to push them to be more independent.
Minute 4: Yes, op and his wife, both failed as parents. He neglected his kids by spoiling them and not providing any morals in life and the value of hard work. They took everything for granted because that was what he taught them. Also, no wonder why they are non functional adults, the babies kept receiving monthly allowance.
@@Owl_bee Maybe try to provide any argument that contradicts what I've said about a father that kept giving them monthly allowance to baby jobless adults that said stuff like getting a job is setting them to fail and ruining their lives when he set the rules for the inheritance. And if you can't... Just STFU.
The Daughter admitting that they don't know how to live without her parents support is kind of the point that the OP is trying to make. After the parents are gone, they wont be able to support themselves.
The job market is definitely skewed in today's age, but good on OP for course correcting his kids. It's amusing how the things the son, and daughter were interested in originally for how they seemingly spent their funds translated over into the types of jobs they got. The son was interested in new tech, and the daughter wanted to be a social media influencer. The son ended up with a manufacturing job where he's making stuff, and is arguably going to have side projects where he creates new stuff, and the daughter is quite literally working as a creative designer for the job she got. Both of which run parallel to their original interests. Whether those two will realize that or not though remains to be seen. But it's still neat to note.
On one hand. I can see where OP is coming from. However, what the kids said about the job market is true. It is incredibly hard to get a job now unless you have connections
It's nice to see how OP wife stood by him. Most moms cave in to keep their children happy.. If OP lost all his money. What would his children had done?. You have to teach children the value of hard work.
I think he should've said they wouldn't get anything instead of making them work two years. It sounds like they did improve, but two years of work isn't long enough.
She followed OP's advice and gave the manager a firm handshake. For real though, it's pretty funny to me how the daughter seemed to get a much better job specifically because of her 'waste of time' social media presence (which led her to a friend that put a good word in for her to get her a job), while the son who took his dad's advice wound up doing backbreaker work in a warehouse.
We now have a couple of generations that have absolutely no idea how to adult. Spoling is not a good thing. Would you eat spoiled meat or drink spoiled milk? A spoiled human is just as bad. Children need discipline as much as love. Giving your kids everything will not help them in life.
I’ve already disinherited my kids, now I’m rethinking the Trust I’ve created for my Grandkids, by the time the Trust crystallises, their parents will be retiring, I’m fearful all I’ve done is create a two-tiered Retirement Fund for generational sloth. I’m tending to “re-creating” the Trust into a truly charitable trust for Environmental objects and Disadvantaged kids.
@anthonyburke5656 Who's says it's based on money? I'm sure if you're grandma or grandpa decided to instead of giving you a trust fund they were going to give it away. I'm sure you would 100% totally OK with that, and have zero hostility toward your grandparents
ESH. While I agree with the OP finally standing up, he created these monsters. You can't raise lions in a zoo into their adulthood and then throw them on the plains of Africa thinking they are going to survive. Now this isn't quite as bad but the analogy still applies.
Op: “you kids need to figure out how to make it on your own” Op's cousin: “shut up, you're wrong! You should let them figure out how to make it on their own!" 😮💨
Generational wealth never survives unless you instill values to your successors, or place provisions Like -Educational Requirement (Bachelor) -career path (4 years in industry) -Volunteer work (work for any NGO to open their eyes and humble them)
I feel bad for OP. When you grow up struggling you want to make sure your children don’t know the same hardships you do, but at the same time when you shield them from the world you stifle them robbing their opportunities for growth. Glad he caught his mistake and managed to do some damage control.
I'm in the same boat. Even though OP definitely went a little too far with spoiling his kids but that fact that he knew and understood that he did mess up. This would have been much worse if he did nothing and blamed the way they act on something else.
at the end of the day is their fault just because your rich doesn't mean you should spoil your kids it turns them into people that think they can have everything you need to teach them just because we have a lot of money doesn't mean we can get everything
I remember seeing this movie where a rich dad convinced his spoiled adult kids that they lost all their wealth and property, forcing them to live like in extreme poverty, also forcing them to grow up. Maybe OP should do this tactic? I know it’s a movie, but it’s better than forcing them to only do work for two years, it won’t teach them anything and will only make them resent Op more.
who gets a job in marketing without an education in marketing and a "small" project lead at that within the first year? and Caleb 'just got a job at the factory'... Honestly this feels like a text version of a boomer 'when I as young we just got a job and worked hard' mantra, applied as a story format. I wonder, if asked how Caleb got his job if OP would say something like, "well he just went in there and asked if there was an opening" or "He just called up the manager" or "He just handed out CVs". I wonder what they were supposed to build for themselves within 2 years of work anyway. Whatever maybe I'm wrong and it just reads like "the good old times" and Maya did actually get hooked up with a job at a marketing firm though a cocktail party and maybe Caleb's friends got him employed, I dunno it just reads funny, gl to both of them.
Holy shit dude all of that, and you were still giving your adult children a monthly allowance. No wonder your kids were lazy. The next update will be that we gave them their inheritance, and now they're back to being lazy with no jobs
Any time when there is a possibility of inheritance, always tell your kids there will not be an inheritance and never bring it up again. Once you’ve seen their hard work, then consider any sort of inheritance.
I figured Maya would do better in marketing, like I got what she was trying to do and luckily her networking came in handy. Being an influencer isn't bad, but a very volatile job w/the every changing trends and mores of now. It's more practical to at least work in something like marketing and I'm glad it's worked out for her. I hope Caleb finally gets to where he wants to be, I felt like he was also more of a business type of guy. So I'm happy for him too and wish their family all the best. If this is a legit reddit story I'd like to see if OP answered any questions about their education. I would've thought they went to college and got a degree or something.
I want to ask what did you expect??? You spoil your kids, that’s fine! But no summer jobs? No responsibilities?? That’s a recipe for disaster!! My dad was of the same mindset as OP. He grew up poor and didn’t want me or my brother to know poverty…….but he taught us how to earn money, how to work hard and be proud of that work! Yes he treated us, he spoiled us at times. And now, we treat him and our mom as best we can even as me and my brother are still in our 20’s, make our own way in the world!
“You don’t know how hard this generation have it” and those two kids have absolutely no idea what the modern job market either cos they have never had to! Entitled brats.
@@imechko_familia What's a small promotion, I'm not from the US so maybe it's have different meaning so it is a sort off a simple change of poste or ...?
@@sorban5352 I'm not from USA either, but yeah, I was thinking title change and little pay raise and mostly same work. Like, going from trainee to employee is kinda a promotion, too? (I haven't finished the video, so I don't know what OP meant by two promotions)
Both the kids and OP are terrible here. While the kids are spoiled, his “real jobs” work ethic isn’t helping them either. He should have never given them the trust funds until after college/getting a stable career
We always told our kids that the world, and we, didn't owe them a living and no matter how hard they think life is as teenagers and young adults, it's actually harder when you are out there on your own. On the other hand, our eldest's bff was coddled. All the kids were coddled. I love the whole family but I can't go over there. It's too stressful. The kids still live at home in their 30s. They don't have full time jobs. They say it's too tiring. It's exhausting just listening to them. My daughter said last year that she thanked us for giving us tough love as she couldn't be like her friend.
Idk if I won the mega millions tomorrow I wouldn't work. I would do things I enjoy. As long as the kids are financially aware and responsible I don't really see what the issue is with not working.
yeah probably me too... but his kids didn't have any sense of financial resposiblity because they hadn't been thought that and after their parents death they would probably spiral into poverty / shady things, because of their codependance
@@agus_mimi so I agree with this sentiment but I am not sure if forcing kids to work is the right way to go about teaching it. I feel like there are way more effective ways to teach these lessons. To me it really sounds like the dad was upset no one wanted to take over his business.
@@mouchy123 yeah, i felt like he have done them kinda dirty... because he spoiled them well into adulthood and then wanted to drastically cut them off--
He didn’t teach his children the value of a dollar, how to fend for themselves, and the importance of hard work and he’s mad that at 21+ year olds don’t understand the concept of responsibility. He did set them up to fail. He waited until they were adults to change/correct poor parenting. Not sure how he is expecting children he gave no skills to get a job. The issue wasn’t the trust fund or the allowance. Plenty of wealthy kids have a proper concept of money, responsibility, and hard work. The problem is he gave his kids no foundation and got mad when they didn’t magically “get it” before it was too late.
I do think they were a bit harsh on the conditions of not being allowed to go into work for family or family friends. They probably should have instead taken the care to make sure the kids were actually doing the work if they ended up finding their way through that kind of connection. As spoiled as it was sounding coming from them, the kids were 100% correct that the job market is absolutely fucked compared to where OP and their peers were starting from.
the lawyer's comments about "letting them figure it out, even if it means they fail" -- isn't that exactly what OP is doing? I can't figure out whether that comment was supportive of his actions or condemning it
They came from money. The guy had a significant inheritance for most people and thos is how he built his business, in his own words. He came from money. As for Maya and the "influencer" lifestyle and building a brand she did have a point but was she building it? The old man doesn't get that social media can be used for marketing or advertising. Also, this is a nice story but it isn't real. People work for money, not to "be useful for society" or "contribute to society". That's the experience the son would have at the very least. If he worked at a factory for 40 h/week or more he wouldn't have time or energy for anything else. You won't get promoted 2 times that easily. There would be no projects if his own and he wouldn't develop too many skills. Whoever wrote this never worked a day in their lives or has seen the inside of a factory. If the son suffers an accident or develops back pain or back problems and can not work anymore, that will be on the parents. Also, with that kind of issues, good luck finding a date. His son will end up relying on the family fortune to get dates. The woman he will end up with will not be someone they like.
Caleb asked OP if he is trying to bankrupt him, but yet wanted to go no contact. 🤣🤣🤣 What a f-ing dumas. Yeah, try and go no contact with your "ATM" and see how long that lasts.
OP really messed up in the early years trying to make memories instead of instilling values into their lives. These kids think that without their parents they’d be homeless and broke, and if that’s the actual case then they failed in a way as parents.
The kids want to cut you out of their lives? Sure! Let them! They won't be getting shit then. Such a dumbass threat. Also. Dad really messed up when they were young.
1. Influencer is a real job nowadays, but if you don't earn money after a few years, it's a hobby, not a job. 2. The job market nowadays is really good for people with even moderate talent and work ethics. The housing market is what's fucked up. 3. Giving adult children an allowance high enough to pay rent and party all day is insane. Major mistake.
The idiocy of giving your grown kids enough allowance so they can fully live of that without doing fk all. It’s insane. This is how you spoil your kids rotten. You help them with bills when they are in dire straits but otherwise you let them struggle and figure it out from the start. My parents made sure that my education was paid for, but that was it. I wanted to move out? Fine, take care of every type of bill. This way I learned what to do and what not to do. When I’d seriously screwed up everything my parents where there to help me not fall into a pit of financial problems. But they made me pay it back in small installments, when I finally got my life back on track and got rid of most of my problems but still had quite a substantial sum of money I had to pay back to my parents they told me the debt was forgiven as I had struggled for 1,5 years to get myself out of the financial hole I had dug myself into. Guess what I learned the value of money. Now I am 31 with a paid off house, 2 businesses and investments.
I do wonder if Maya is actually doing fine. Could see dad being older and not understand influencing. He should've asked for her follower count lol. But yeah, those kids spoiledddd
If I had a trust fund and it was enough where I didn't have to work, I wouldn't go to school or get a job either, and never plan on having kids, so I wouldn't care that I wasnt getting an inheritance. It's not like I'll have anyone to leave my money to when I die anyways, and I don't care about "contributing to society".
You should have given the trust funds when they finished a degree or trade certification and 2-3 years of real work experience. You really messed up by giving them that kind of money so early.
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I liked this one! No cheating, no bashing of one gender, happy ending!
Right? It was a breath of fresh air on this channel.
I loved that too! Sometimes a happy ending with no drama is all we need.
You might like the movie "The Ultimate Gift"
Totally agree! It's refreshing to see a happy ending without all the usual drama and finger-pointing.
"They threatened to cut us out of their lives."
How are they going to do that, they dont have anything for their selves. Also that would just ultimatley give OP what he wanted they would need to get jobs.
Right? Threatening that wouldn’t get them far anyway. OP might just end up better off.
I thought the same 😂😂😂😂
Exactly…..”Mom,…Dad…. If you don’t let us freeload off of you we’ll stop freeloading off of you and never freeload off of you again!!!!” Don’t threaten me with a good time.
The beginning is how generational wealth gets squandered in three generations. First generation builds the wealth, the second coasts off of it, and the third has no idea how to maintain it.
Valid point. Financial knowledge is something someone simply doesn't learn on their own unless they're taught. My father is a person, who would spoil if ever possible, while mother lived paycheck to paycheck and valued the worth of money more. Attempted to save money where possible, and finding past times and a job that could help balance inflow and outflow of money.
I feel that, as someone who grew up with parents that had generational money and I will gain heavily from trust funds. I now work 40 hours a week as a financial advisor who worked my way up from the bottom. (Until I am 35, I don't gain from my trust fund.) I was raised spoiled and started as spoiled when I was younger. Life sucks, but not feeling like you worked for what you have is 10000 times worse IMO.
@@shinybuneary5373 It also gave me guilt over surviving partially with parent's support, when it should be me working to support myself.
Yeah, that’s the classic story of wealth getting squandered over generations. The first builds, the second coasts, and the third has no idea how to keep it going.
I grew up in a family run upper middle class resort and saw so much of this. The grandparents built a whole empire of rentals in a HCOL area and had a villa. Their kids didn't ever work and had golddigger husbands and wives and the children (whom I played with) were raised on "beauty is more important than education". Said kids are my age now and live an average lifestyle. Their parents had to sell the villa because they could no longer afford the upkeep, and sold all the rentals to afford their lifestyle. Nothing left to inherit.
Seeing such stories really worried my parents. So they decided us kids would be required to work part time jobs during college. And they would completely stop to financial support afterwards. Which turned us into really sensible people.
The bad side: People who google my family know they have money, and I get a lot of questions why I have such a "cheap" lifestyle. I kind of grow tired of explaining that my parents money is not my money and even if they decide to donate 100% it would be fine with me. This is such a weird concept to most people.
this is why you never should spoil your kids when their younger then turn into people like this
There’s a difference between raising them and spoiling them when deserved and when spoiling them for no absolutely necessary reason
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@@awwlaylayou are 100% correct.
In my case, I was a straight A+ student all my school years, always helped with the house chores and never ever disrespected my parents.
What did my parents do as a prize for my efforts? Absolutely nothing, not a single compliment.
I endured beatings from one of my older brothers while the other never protected me. I was forced to keep an eye on my beating brother because he is epileptic so I couldn't simply walk away from him.
The other brother constantly complained and berated my parents, and he called it "standing his ground" while in reality he just p*ssed them off more and then my parents pressured me to "not turn like my brothers".
I endured too much sh*t of everyone yet they never gave some kind of retribution. Not a single compliment or sign of recognition.
I used to be such an innocent, loving kid. Now, I just see a broken man in the mirror.
I just stopped feeling human.
My mom said one time if you spoil/dont raise your kids, you'll end up raising your grandkids.
@@deadlishaoranI’m sorry your parents and brothers treated you this way.
I hope that things are/will get better for you.
As a mother, myself, I want to, in some small way, let you know that I hear/read/ and “see” you and your struggles and pain.
I wish your parents said out loud the things that kids (you needed then/now)- that you’re loved, appreciated, and sorry.
Truly, I believe you’re a good man and hope you can pick up the pieces. 🧩
OP really screwed up raising his kids. Glad he was able to fix his mistakes.
Yeah, they had a monthly allowance, basically a wage because they exist... thats what created this mess
at least he didn't screw up that badly, they shaped up - if he really messed up they'd be beyond help
Eh everyone screws up for the most part at some point raising their kids. Some say and do the wrong things that change how a kid interacts with others into adulthood(like telling your kid you don’t care about their opinion in a heated moment only the parent recognizes or not allowing your kids to hang out with people because you have to drop them off. Other it’s more easily identifiable like the spoiled rich kids, or a kid who is more verbally jarring to most because they grew up with parents arguing and saying hurtful things to each other. maybe that kid turns out far too nice to everyone no matter what or they….or maybe the kid ends up a reclusive adult afraid of connections out of fear they will have the same relationship they saw as a youth. Some of those mentioned are far harder to reconcile and fix than a spoiled kid who doesn’t understand the value of hard working for something. But yea the OP did fantastic fixing his kids outlook on life in general
yea like your parents were fucking perfect.
😂 Did they? It's fiction.
Until i and my sister where educated,earned a job and financially independent we were never given information of how much assests our parents holded.we were grown under impression that we lived paycheck to paycheck. One day it seemed we were making almost enough financially,next day parents retired,with a lot of funds and all of a sudden we collectively have a house under each person's name in our family. Its important to teach value of hard earned money,that too when one makes it by themselves it is felt valuable else its just miney everywhere without a value
that was his first mistake. they got too comfortable.
I grew up paycheck to paycheck with bill collectors phoning or visiting.
My babysitting pay went to buy groceries or we 5 siblings would be hungry.
Even after I was married I got calls from the parents to help out financially.
I swore i would never treat my children like I was treated.
Please go back to English class
My parents did something similar. We did live paycheck to paycheck once, when I was very young. Struggled to have food to eat, lived in a village with my grandma, Etc. However, when I was six, my mom made my dad go back to school for an MBA and he got an amazing job. However, besides suddenly being able to eat three meals a day and moving into my other grandmas house nearer to the city, nothing changed for me. I thought we barely had enough to survive. My parents didn't even pay for my school PTM fees (thank god for free education). Even at 22, when my dad lost his job, I didn't know we had money. I returned home (ran away three years before) to help support them. Only when I was 27 and bought my own house did they finally sit me down and tell me that I did not need to give so much allowance to them, I could funnel more to my house loans. THEY HAD MONEY THE WHOLE TIME. Now they're planning overseas holidays every other month (without me). Theyre also showing off to their friends that I'm able to pay for my own wedding... Though it'd honestly be nice if they chipped in a bit.
2 years is nothing, if they can't even do that, they can't do anything.
I was thinking the same thing, 2 years isn't alot of time.
fr I wasn't expecting just 2 years, he could have set a money goal instead and have them work towards that. They should be happy that it's just 2 years of work and are still being supported with necessities.
Also, when he said "real job" he specified that they couldn't get the job through nepotism nor be hired by a family member, that they had to get their paychecks by a third party.
Yes, finding a job is difficult right now, but one can still fin something in retail, coffee shops, and smaller places, yeah, the pay is not great, but they could fulfill the requirement to get their inheritance with that, right?
I love how they talk about how this generation has it very complicated, yes we do, but not them, they have it very easy, they are part of the minority that has it easy. 90% of the people in the world would love to have the opportunities that they have had and HAVE.
@@zark170196 But at the same time, even if they are in that minority, does that not have its own challenges? People thinking they apply to mock the company, for example. Or maybe they might not have as much as other candidates in the experience and volunteering side. Think about how much we need now to get into a job.
These kids needed this wake-up call, they would've destroyed everything their parents worked hard for.
And the fact they had allowances 💀💀
@@Vivilovesbunnys124That’s the thing, I have allowances and still study hard every day to become a doctor. I don’t take their money for granted. His kids are major assholes? Yes. OP is dumb for raising his kids without financial advise? Absolutely. It’s like those rich parents who are so careless about their children that they spoil them while growing up so they won’t throw a fit and then cut them off to their own demise in adulthood. Like, what did you honestly expect?
Work 2 years to get life changing money?
That's a great deal
Especially National Guard or Coast Guard, if the military is not a viable option.
🤨 "youre ruining our relationship over money..." Coming from the person begging for money. That sounds a bit heavy handed
Ok that lawer cousin saying "let them figure it out on their own even if they fail" is a very good advice. Failure teaches us what not to do.
I'd rather them not fail and ruin everything I've built up though. If they had just let live with no jobs and the parents eventually die‚ they would have spent the money very quickly and maybe even make themselves homeless. Some mistakes are to be avoided. Figuring things out was forcing them to get a job tbh.
Sometimes tough love is necessary, even birds have to sometimes push chicks out of the nest to teach them to fly on their own.
"They didn't know how to survive without their parent support" is exactly why they need to work hard.
What happened when mum and dad gone? And I really don't understand why some outside people, even immediate family, really love to chime in and give their (often baseless) opinions.
I remember some rich dude saying that he kept his financial info private even from his family because he didn't want his kids to become "waiters" when asked what do you mean "waiters" he said, I don't want them to do nothing for a career and just wait around until I die to inherite my money. OPs heart was always in the right place but instead of giving his kids a good life, he went over board and spoiled them rotten. Hopefully they truly learned to value what they will inherite and not just go back to living with their hands out for daddy's money.
Ways to know that Telltales posted a fake story:
1). Too much information (especially at beginning).
2). Weird time jumps that usually has a big one at end.
3). The "commenters" aren't mentioned by name.
4). Seems like a Lifetime drama/Soap opera.
5). Usually has a 1 vs the world theme / Do it for dan theme.
6). OP and characters usually goes against normal human nature example: OP gets assaulted in their home and doesn't call cops. Example 2: Person/people OP has problems with "Barge into" their home and again doesn't call police.
7). OP always has to ask reddit AITAH even though asking that question goes against Human nature of the OP being severely wronged.
8). Weird Updates that aren't needed.
9). OP reiterates things multiple times in a single "post".
10). Stating their feelings/how they feel "in the moment".
11). IRL laws do not apply. (Battery, theft, harassment, etc.)
12). Takes most of the video to even get to the title point.
13). When it comes to wills/inheritance, it usually is in the amount to live comfortably if smart or a huge outrageous amount that it doesn't make sense.
14). Has a "family business" that is "really successful".
15). Has abusive parents who do horrible things that are not acceptable or petty (such as abuse, unreasonable rules, favoritism or neglect) But the OP doesn't ask help from family members/cps while being able to do so. -@FinnishM3mes
16). Has crazy In-law that shows up with "legal documents" that supposedly is from a Lawyer over things that only a court can decide.
17). "So I'm obviously in the right but some random character(s) who's relatively unimportant to the story says I'm not so AITA?"-@conormac6293
18). Story is a movie script/OP and crew act like detectives.
19). Has an OP "rethinking" his choices because of irrelevant characters in the story. -@FinnishM3mes
20). Has unrealistic ‘bullies’ and the ‘villain’ in each story ALWAYS gets disowned or removed from the parents will by the end of each tale. -@SarahLovesBoobahandErEr
21). Has the AI Bingo! "Whirlwind of emotions" "rollercoaster of emotions" "Well, you see" "[person] apologized profusely" "Surrounded by love and affection". @fl-ri
22). Has a "dream world" or "Alternate universe" motif to it.
23). Has the "EDIT: Holy crap/OMG this blew up over night/in a few hours".
24). Actions of characters in story doesn't match human behavior. Like approaching someone after they get a restraining order against them right after the hearing to instate that order and make threats in front of attorneys.
25). ( should've been first but w.e.) When you reverse search the story, you can never find it as a whole. You usually find bits and pieces taken from multiple stories across the web not just reddit.
26). Legal documents somehow (mysteriously) gets drafted in a characters name without their knowledge or signature.
27). Legal actions don't work for OP but work for everyone else.
28). Disregarding certain culture norms like not owning technology.
29). The OP stays with/around a known violent person and then is "shocked" at how violent that person can be.
30). People who have problem OP or vice versa are up into themselves with their "social standing" like their royalty or something.
31). OP never records (we all have cell phones) the problem people admitting what they did wrong.
32). When the OP actually gets a restraining order, they fail to enforce it. ALL Protection/restraining orders state you may not use ANY 3rd party including other family members to violate the order. The 3rd parties do get used and OP never enforces the order.
33). Has the "Rules for thee, Not for me" motif.
34). Has a motif that paints OP as a saint.
35). OP says "“hey Reddit, I’m back” or just over mention of Reddit" -@madi554
36). Reuse of names from other stories posted. -@justroonhere
37). Usually a "Rich people problems" story.
You forgot to add these 2:
1: "I never thought I'd be right this, but WXYZ....."
And
2: "I don't know what the future holds...."
This is the "throw them in the water and they will learn to swim" parenting technique but the kids had swimming lessons 💀
this is a real problem when you give your kids everything you didn't have and not the lessons they need to learn.
OP you spoiled them so you are at some fault. And Im saying this as though love and not hate to you
Spoil your kids, raise your grandkids
Raise your kids, spoil your grandkids
"We wanted to teach our kids the value of hard work"
*Spoils them rotten*
OP has no right to complain about how his kids are "entitled, lazy, and bullies" and that they have "no ambition", as if he wasn't involved in their upbringing at all.
Good on you for wanting to give your kids the life you never had, but they're in their 20's now and you only just realised that their behaviour is a problem and you need to start parenting them? Better later than never I guess but come on, they didn't just wake up that day and start acting entitled.
The parents don't understand the job market? Neither do they, because they haven't tried to work at all
For someone who knew the value of hard work, Op really messed up his kids perception of it.
I find it funny that they threatened to go no contact but called the op heartless when he lowered their allowance lol
Dad instilled the entitlement when they were growing up. Can't really blame the kids if that is the way things always were.
They did the right thing with tough love but they shouldn’t have let their kids get this spoiled in the first place. At least it seems to be moving in the right direction.
Halfway through when they drop the whole "we're gonna cut back on their monthly allowances" BRUH. THATS LIKE STEP ONE OF CORRECTING SPOILT ADULTS OML
The way Caleb and Maya are supporting each other now, and the deeper conversations they had are positive changes. OP's efforts to steer Caleb and Maya toward a more independent and self-reliant path is rlly awesome
That ultimatum came waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaay too late. Such things need to be used during their formative years as teenagers.
I’m glad Caleb and Maya are in the process of turning around, not to mention getting a dose of the real world.
"It's not about controlling my kids lives, it's about making them live how I want them to"
Me, a production worker and have been for over a decade: "ohh no! No production!!!" 😂😂😂
He's the AH because he spoiled them. He didn't even have them volunteer while they were growing up.
Wow, cutting off their monthly allowance and credit cards must have been a huge wake-up call! It’s intense but definitely needed to push them to be more independent.
I think the happiest person throughout those two years was OPs’ accountant 😂
Minute 4: Yes, op and his wife, both failed as parents.
He neglected his kids by spoiling them and not providing any morals in life and the value of hard work. They took everything for granted because that was what he taught them.
Also, no wonder why they are non functional adults, the babies kept receiving monthly allowance.
Yeah it sounds like OP is out of touch himself.
Maybe you should listen to more than four minutes before passing judgement.
@@Owl_bee he's right though
@@Owl_bee Maybe try to provide any argument that contradicts what I've said about a father that kept giving them monthly allowance to baby jobless adults that said stuff like getting a job is setting them to fail and ruining their lives when he set the rules for the inheritance. And if you can't... Just STFU.
@@Owl_beeMaybe you should listen carefully. Even op stated that he had spoiled them.
Guarantee, within 6 months of getting that money, their new found work ethic will dwindle and they will be right back to where they started from
The Daughter admitting that they don't know how to live without her parents support is kind of the point that the OP is trying to make. After the parents are gone, they wont be able to support themselves.
The job market is definitely skewed in today's age, but good on OP for course correcting his kids.
It's amusing how the things the son, and daughter were interested in originally for how they seemingly spent their funds translated over into the types of jobs they got. The son was interested in new tech, and the daughter wanted to be a social media influencer. The son ended up with a manufacturing job where he's making stuff, and is arguably going to have side projects where he creates new stuff, and the daughter is quite literally working as a creative designer for the job she got. Both of which run parallel to their original interests.
Whether those two will realize that or not though remains to be seen. But it's still neat to note.
On one hand. I can see where OP is coming from. However, what the kids said about the job market is true. It is incredibly hard to get a job now unless you have connections
Setting up to fail? The road to success is filled with failures
All of these stories sound like made for TV Disney stories.
It's nice to see how OP wife stood by him. Most moms cave in to keep their children happy.. If OP lost all his money. What would his children had done?. You have to teach children the value of hard work.
Get a substantial inheritance from parents....we believe in hard work and didn't come from money. Riiiight
I think he should've said they wouldn't get anything instead of making them work two years. It sounds like they did improve, but two years of work isn't long enough.
The daughter got an entry level job without having 10 years experience and a masters degree in this job market? That sounds sus.
She followed OP's advice and gave the manager a firm handshake.
For real though, it's pretty funny to me how the daughter seemed to get a much better job specifically because of her 'waste of time' social media presence (which led her to a friend that put a good word in for her to get her a job), while the son who took his dad's advice wound up doing backbreaker work in a warehouse.
We now have a couple of generations that have absolutely no idea how to adult. Spoling is not a good thing. Would you eat spoiled meat or drink spoiled milk? A spoiled human is just as bad. Children need discipline as much as love. Giving your kids everything will not help them in life.
I’ve already disinherited my kids, now I’m rethinking the Trust I’ve created for my Grandkids, by the time the Trust crystallises, their parents will be retiring, I’m fearful all I’ve done is create a two-tiered Retirement Fund for generational sloth. I’m tending to “re-creating” the Trust into a truly charitable trust for Environmental objects and Disadvantaged kids.
And if you do that you'll wonder why your grandkids cut you off and never speak to you again
@@davidfink821 Hello David fink, why would I care? If the relationship is built on my money, what is its value?
@anthonyburke5656 Who's says it's based on money? I'm sure if you're grandma or grandpa decided to instead of giving you a trust fund they were going to give it away. I'm sure you would 100% totally OK with that, and have zero hostility toward your grandparents
You are good parents! Those children are blessed to have you ❤
"we'll cut you out of our lives if you don't give us money!"
cutting off your parents ALSO means cutting off the money
To some of us, it's worth it
Love that the son was going to cut them off.... Like how, they pay for everything 😂
"We didn't come from money," yet what his parents left was 'life changing'.
How do you "not come from money" to later inherit a "life changing amount" of money from your parents?
Tbf, for a lot of people something like 50k would be life changing money, but its still not enough to make you rich
ESH. While I agree with the OP finally standing up, he created these monsters. You can't raise lions in a zoo into their adulthood and then throw them on the plains of Africa thinking they are going to survive. Now this isn't quite as bad but the analogy still applies.
Agreed!
"we didn't come from wealth"
apart from that generational inheritance obviously
11:31 : THEY WERE STILL GETTING ALLOWANCES!??
Fr
OP gets inheritance and then plays high and mighty
Op: “you kids need to figure out how to make it on your own”
Op's cousin: “shut up, you're wrong! You should let them figure out how to make it on their own!"
😮💨
Generational wealth never survives unless you instill values to your successors,
or place provisions
Like
-Educational Requirement (Bachelor)
-career path (4 years in industry)
-Volunteer work (work for any NGO to open their eyes and humble them)
What a wonderful story and such a happy ending.
I feel bad for OP. When you grow up struggling you want to make sure your children don’t know the same hardships you do, but at the same time when you shield them from the world you stifle them robbing their opportunities for growth.
Glad he caught his mistake and managed to do some damage control.
I'm in the same boat. Even though OP definitely went a little too far with spoiling his kids but that fact that he knew and understood that he did mess up. This would have been much worse if he did nothing and blamed the way they act on something else.
at the end of the day is their fault just because your rich doesn't mean you should spoil your kids it turns them into people that think they can have everything you need to teach them just because we have a lot of money doesn't mean we can get everything
I remember seeing this movie where a rich dad convinced his spoiled adult kids that they lost all their wealth and property, forcing them to live like in extreme poverty, also forcing them to grow up. Maybe OP should do this tactic? I know it’s a movie, but it’s better than forcing them to only do work for two years, it won’t teach them anything and will only make them resent Op more.
Which is it, your parents were well off or not? You used their inheritance to better your business or you did it on your own to prove you could? 🤔
I wanna teach my kids the value of hard work - so I’ll set up massive trust-funda for them.
That’ll learn them…
Lol
This is why when I have children I’ll try and teach them about hard work.
who gets a job in marketing without an education in marketing and a "small" project lead at that within the first year? and Caleb 'just got a job at the factory'... Honestly this feels like a text version of a boomer 'when I as young we just got a job and worked hard' mantra, applied as a story format. I wonder, if asked how Caleb got his job if OP would say something like, "well he just went in there and asked if there was an opening" or "He just called up the manager" or "He just handed out CVs". I wonder what they were supposed to build for themselves within 2 years of work anyway.
Whatever maybe I'm wrong and it just reads like "the good old times" and Maya did actually get hooked up with a job at a marketing firm though a cocktail party and maybe Caleb's friends got him employed, I dunno it just reads funny, gl to both of them.
Great parenting! Good job EVERYONE! If this is true it's honestly great! Warms my heart! 😅
Holy shit dude all of that, and you were still giving your adult children a monthly allowance. No wonder your kids were lazy. The next update will be that we gave them their inheritance, and now they're back to being lazy with no jobs
what the effie trinket did I just hear.
Any time when there is a possibility of inheritance, always tell your kids there will not be an inheritance and never bring it up again.
Once you’ve seen their hard work, then consider any sort of inheritance.
How did Daughter get the Markering job with no experience at all seem suspicious
I figured Maya would do better in marketing, like I got what she was trying to do and luckily her networking came in handy. Being an influencer isn't bad, but a very volatile job w/the every changing trends and mores of now. It's more practical to at least work in something like marketing and I'm glad it's worked out for her. I hope Caleb finally gets to where he wants to be, I felt like he was also more of a business type of guy. So I'm happy for him too and wish their family all the best. If this is a legit reddit story I'd like to see if OP answered any questions about their education. I would've thought they went to college and got a degree or something.
I want to ask what did you expect???
You spoil your kids, that’s fine! But no summer jobs? No responsibilities?? That’s a recipe for disaster!!
My dad was of the same mindset as OP. He grew up poor and didn’t want me or my brother to know poverty…….but he taught us how to earn money, how to work hard and be proud of that work!
Yes he treated us, he spoiled us at times.
And now, we treat him and our mom as best we can even as me and my brother are still in our 20’s, make our own way in the world!
“You don’t know how hard this generation have it” and those two kids have absolutely no idea what the modern job market either cos they have never had to! Entitled brats.
They get promoted twice in only two years with zero experience!? Is that possible?
Well if it's small promotion I don't see why not
@@imechko_familia What's a small promotion, I'm not from the US so maybe it's have different meaning so it is a sort off a simple change of poste or ...?
@@sorban5352 I'm not from USA either, but yeah, I was thinking title change and little pay raise and mostly same work. Like, going from trainee to employee is kinda a promotion, too?
(I haven't finished the video, so I don't know what OP meant by two promotions)
@@sorban5352it’s definitely possible if you work super hard
Both the kids and OP are terrible here. While the kids are spoiled, his “real jobs” work ethic isn’t helping them either. He should have never given them the trust funds until after college/getting a stable career
Threatening the people who take away everything is never a good idea
We always told our kids that the world, and we, didn't owe them a living and no matter how hard they think life is as teenagers and young adults, it's actually harder when you are out there on your own. On the other hand, our eldest's bff was coddled. All the kids were coddled. I love the whole family but I can't go over there. It's too stressful. The kids still live at home in their 30s. They don't have full time jobs. They say it's too tiring. It's exhausting just listening to them. My daughter said last year that she thanked us for giving us tough love as she couldn't be like her friend.
Idk if I won the mega millions tomorrow I wouldn't work. I would do things I enjoy. As long as the kids are financially aware and responsible I don't really see what the issue is with not working.
I hope you never have kids then
Literally never having any life skills is a bad thing you get the people who are entitles Karen types
yeah probably me too... but his kids didn't have any sense of financial resposiblity because they hadn't been thought that and after their parents death they would probably spiral into poverty / shady things, because of their codependance
@@agus_mimi so I agree with this sentiment but I am not sure if forcing kids to work is the right way to go about teaching it. I feel like there are way more effective ways to teach these lessons.
To me it really sounds like the dad was upset no one wanted to take over his business.
@@mouchy123 yeah, i felt like he have done them kinda dirty... because he spoiled them well into adulthood and then wanted to drastically cut them off--
He didn’t teach his children the value of a dollar, how to fend for themselves, and the importance of hard work and he’s mad that at 21+ year olds don’t understand the concept of responsibility. He did set them up to fail. He waited until they were adults to change/correct poor parenting. Not sure how he is expecting children he gave no skills to get a job. The issue wasn’t the trust fund or the allowance. Plenty of wealthy kids have a proper concept of money, responsibility, and hard work. The problem is he gave his kids no foundation and got mad when they didn’t magically “get it” before it was too late.
I do think they were a bit harsh on the conditions of not being allowed to go into work for family or family friends. They probably should have instead taken the care to make sure the kids were actually doing the work if they ended up finding their way through that kind of connection.
As spoiled as it was sounding coming from them, the kids were 100% correct that the job market is absolutely fucked compared to where OP and their peers were starting from.
the lawyer's comments about "letting them figure it out, even if it means they fail" -- isn't that exactly what OP is doing? I can't figure out whether that comment was supportive of his actions or condemning it
Must be nice to have inheritance
Tell me about it. All I’d inherit would be family curses.
They came from money. The guy had a significant inheritance for most people and thos is how he built his business, in his own words. He came from money.
As for Maya and the "influencer" lifestyle and building a brand she did have a point but was she building it? The old man doesn't get that social media can be used for marketing or advertising.
Also, this is a nice story but it isn't real. People work for money, not to "be useful for society" or "contribute to society". That's the experience the son would have at the very least. If he worked at a factory for 40 h/week or more he wouldn't have time or energy for anything else. You won't get promoted 2 times that easily. There would be no projects if his own and he wouldn't develop too many skills. Whoever wrote this never worked a day in their lives or has seen the inside of a factory. If the son suffers an accident or develops back pain or back problems and can not work anymore, that will be on the parents. Also, with that kind of issues, good luck finding a date. His son will end up relying on the family fortune to get dates. The woman he will end up with will not be someone they like.
We need more stories like these
Caleb asked OP if he is trying to bankrupt him, but yet wanted to go no contact. 🤣🤣🤣 What a f-ing dumas. Yeah, try and go no contact with your "ATM" and see how long that lasts.
OP really messed up in the early years trying to make memories instead of instilling values into their lives. These kids think that without their parents they’d be homeless and broke, and if that’s the actual case then they failed in a way as parents.
Finally something that doesn’t have to do with cheating!
The kids want to cut you out of their lives? Sure! Let them! They won't be getting shit then. Such a dumbass threat. Also. Dad really messed up when they were young.
1. Influencer is a real job nowadays, but if you don't earn money after a few years, it's a hobby, not a job.
2. The job market nowadays is really good for people with even moderate talent and work ethics. The housing market is what's fucked up.
3. Giving adult children an allowance high enough to pay rent and party all day is insane. Major mistake.
The idiocy of giving your grown kids enough allowance so they can fully live of that without doing fk all. It’s insane. This is how you spoil your kids rotten. You help them with bills when they are in dire straits but otherwise you let them struggle and figure it out from the start.
My parents made sure that my education was paid for, but that was it. I wanted to move out? Fine, take care of every type of bill. This way I learned what to do and what not to do. When I’d seriously screwed up everything my parents where there to help me not fall into a pit of financial problems. But they made me pay it back in small installments, when I finally got my life back on track and got rid of most of my problems but still had quite a substantial sum of money I had to pay back to my parents they told me the debt was forgiven as I had struggled for 1,5 years to get myself out of the financial hole I had dug myself into.
Guess what I learned the value of money. Now I am 31 with a paid off house, 2 businesses and investments.
The real money is the friends we made along the way.
tell the lawyer to go love himself
I do wonder if Maya is actually doing fine. Could see dad being older and not understand influencing. He should've asked for her follower count lol. But yeah, those kids spoiledddd
If I had a trust fund and it was enough where I didn't have to work, I wouldn't go to school or get a job either, and never plan on having kids, so I wouldn't care that I wasnt getting an inheritance. It's not like I'll have anyone to leave my money to when I die anyways, and I don't care about "contributing to society".
You should have given the trust funds when they finished a degree or trade certification and 2-3 years of real work experience. You really messed up by giving them that kind of money so early.
story 1: op's biggest mistake is having these kids....
No it’s teaching them this. wtf is wrong with you insinuating he shouldn’t ah e had them
Idk if this is real or fake. Who would object to TWO YEARS of work for an inheritance where you don’t have to work?
the issue is the OP shoulda never spoiled their kids like this in the first place.