Girl, Stop “Love-Dumping” & Break These Nice Girl Habits! (Set THIS Boundary) | Couples Therapist

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  • Опубликовано: 10 фев 2025

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  • @LisaBilyeu
    @LisaBilyeu  6 дней назад +4

    Thank you to today’s sponsors - Paleovalley: Try 30 beef sticks for $36 at impacttheory.co/PaleovalleyITFeb

  • @kristenraszeja663
    @kristenraszeja663 5 дней назад +52

    Learning every day and I am more mad at my last relationship that I can’t believe I allowed what I allowed. Being young in relationships it’s a learning curve but at 40 I should have really known better. Forgiving myself

    • @magortukamara1837
      @magortukamara1837 5 дней назад +10

      ❤please don't be hard on yourself. It's never too late to make a uturn. We live and learn sometimes the hardest way or good. Stay blessed 🙏

    • @liabooker9480
      @liabooker9480 4 дня назад +1

      Girl I feel this and often say the same but I.thank GOD for getting me out of that relationship and healing me! 🙏🏽

    • @kTorres007
      @kTorres007 4 дня назад +2

      Ditto ladies.. finally walking on the other side of it.

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  3 дня назад +5

      You do the best you can with what you have and know. The more we learn the better we can do. No matter how old, don’t beat yourself up! Now you DO know better and that’s something no one can ever take away from you! Plus if you think about it, most of us women now live well into our 80’s. So really you learnt it in less then half your life! That’s amazing coz now you can spend the other half having learnt the lesson! ❤️😊

    • @kristenraszeja663
      @kristenraszeja663 3 дня назад

      @ thank you 🙏

  • @ingridwrites
    @ingridwrites 5 дней назад +42

    "Anything that is not done from an authentic place, has a time limit" wow !! 4:38

    • @CeCe-fh2ix
      @CeCe-fh2ix 3 дня назад +1

      Yes thanks for the time spot. Excellent

    • @shespeakz9377
      @shespeakz9377 3 дня назад +1

      Powerful

    • @sofiaarevalotoledo9147
      @sofiaarevalotoledo9147 День назад +1

      👏👏 I had to go back to listen to this again- gosh!! Seriously so true

    • @ingridwrites
      @ingridwrites День назад

      @sofiaarevalotoledo9147 yes 🙌🤗

  • @_serreina
    @_serreina 5 дней назад +23

    I’ve been watching Women of Impact for years and I just love you, Lisa! Always a fantastic host bringing out the absolute best in people. ⭐️

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  4 дня назад +1

      Ahhhh thanks so much my homie! I’m super excited for this year coz I have some more super fun stuff coming up! Also please please let me know if there’s ever a guest you want me to bring on or themes you want me to touch on!

  • @nakiaj
    @nakiaj 4 дня назад +4

    Guilty of love dumping and it’s so exhausting and often with no benefit to the “dumper”. Great convo and much needed.

  • @RobinBird-n2g
    @RobinBird-n2g 2 дня назад +12

    Please consider interviewing a "Hagued Mother." There is an international treaty that prevents survivors of domestic violence from returning to their home country if they experienced domestic violence while abroad.

    • @yoporelmundo
      @yoporelmundo 2 дня назад +5

      @robinbird this is a hot mess and we must shine light on this issue affecting mothers, how we are being systematically abused and targeted.

    • @amandagreen4302
      @amandagreen4302 2 дня назад +5

      There are so many of us protective mothers who are prevented from returning home and trapped by abusers, post domestic violence cases, because of the The Hague convention
      And those who flee for safety are sometimes criminally punished

    • @RobinBird-n2g
      @RobinBird-n2g День назад +4

      Search: The Impossible Escape: The Story of Narkis Golan, The Hague Convention; and the ongoing battle to protect her young son Bradley

    • @sarayoung1354
      @sarayoung1354 День назад +3

      It is astonishing that there isn't more public awareness about the Hague, which so often results in abused women and children rendered hostages of their abuser in a foreign country, or even more horrifically separates vulnerable children from their primary caretaker, their mother, placing them in the care of their abuser. The Hague criminalizes fleeing from domestic violence 🤯 How does this tool of state sponsored domestic violence still exist in 2025?

    • @RobinBird-n2g
      @RobinBird-n2g День назад +4

      Search Let Nataly Anderson’s Children Come Home

  • @AoibheannDoyle-SoulTherapist
    @AoibheannDoyle-SoulTherapist 3 дня назад +2

    This Woman is absolutely beautiful, wise, soulful, brilliant!! Thank you 🙏

  • @pola2216
    @pola2216 2 дня назад +2

    Lisa is just as phenomenal as the guests she selects. I am sincerely impressed by the quality of this podcast, the meaning, information, and intention behind it ❤

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  День назад

      Wow thanks so much my homie! I definitely put my entire energy and focus into these interviews and providing value for all women, so you have no idea how much this means to me!

  • @racheldueck8100
    @racheldueck8100 5 дней назад +11

    This video came into my feed at the perfect time. I recently made a hard choice in a POTENTIAL romantic relationship for my own peace, I was being used and drew a hard line. Now, I just need to wait and see the consequences.

  • @Kimlisa077
    @Kimlisa077 4 дня назад +46

    Great video❤️💫Success depends on the amount of hard work and risk you take. Regardless of so many financial challenges, I thank God for a life transforming occurrence after past struggles.

    • @thichhoangvan8198
      @thichhoangvan8198 4 дня назад +4

      Wow Congratulations on your financial success! What's your story?how do you make such??

    • @Kimlisa077
      @Kimlisa077 4 дня назад +1

      Elizabeth Ann Hanson I really appreciate her efforts and transparency.

    • @Kimlisa077
      @Kimlisa077 4 дня назад

      God has used her to save so many families financially. I remember when I met her at the bank, she was indeed a good woman.

    • @Kimlisa077
      @Kimlisa077 4 дня назад

      Giving her my initial savings of $43,000 to invest in a brokerage account was a turning point in my life. It's been an incredibly rewarding experience and the best decision I ever made!

    • @phannguyen7978
      @phannguyen7978 4 дня назад

      when someone is straightforward and good at what she does best. People will always speak for them.

  • @juliak9089
    @juliak9089 День назад +2

    I absolutely loved your conversation ! Thank you very much,Lisa ❤ Greetings from Russia ❤

  • @absta100
    @absta100 День назад +1

    Awesome conversation thanks Lisa 👏🏽 never shrink yourself ladies for anyone, go shine ❤

  • @sofiaarevalotoledo9147
    @sofiaarevalotoledo9147 День назад

    The timing of this episode or me is wonderful- literally planets aligning!! I needed this so much- thank you Lisa!
    Also Joe is a total keeper for cheering you on at the moment, support for you and secure in himself !!

  • @ffurtado2760
    @ffurtado2760 4 дня назад +5

    46! Wow she looks amazing!

  • @celinecattiaux2868
    @celinecattiaux2868 5 дней назад +8

    A pleasure to listen to you from France, improving my American English and my behavior too 😊

  • @lucheezlina5186
    @lucheezlina5186 4 дня назад +2

    "Feeling lonely is a real thing and two is always better than one. It's understandable when you badly want to be in a relationship, just make sure it's from an authentic place"
    Loving this conversation. So much depth and insight.

  • @a.j4379
    @a.j4379 5 дней назад +5

    Fantastic episode, thanks Lisa!

  • @lucheezlina5186
    @lucheezlina5186 4 дня назад +4

    "Love dumping in relationships is when you end up shrinking yourself just to maintain peace or your partner's affection, minimizing your own needs, dreams, or even your personality"
    Phew! This finally has a name.

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  4 дня назад +3

      Right?? I couldn’t believe it took this long to come up with a term but when I heard it, I was like damn yes that’s what we do!!!

  • @TruthandJustice-hz9nv
    @TruthandJustice-hz9nv 2 дня назад +1

    This was absolutely pure gold, Thank you so much for this Lisa and Rhea, Rhea Thank you for Sharing your story, I've learned a lot from this, Thank you, I'm very grateful for Lisa and women of impact, Peace, love and respect to you both and all, All glory smiles to the most high :-) Smile four miles :-)

  • @shespeakz9377
    @shespeakz9377 3 дня назад +1

    This was really insightful

  • @MelBervaldi-ug9in
    @MelBervaldi-ug9in 5 дней назад +3

    Lisa ❤ your smile is medicine ❤ never stop smiling beautiful sister ❤

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  4 дня назад

      Thanks my homie! You toooooo!!!! 😊

  • @galejordan4570
    @galejordan4570 3 дня назад

    Rhea is a gorgeous black woman, 46 going on 26.......I will be 48 this month and am making sure I take care of myself, exercise, vitamins, meditation, peace...... been married, divorced, other relationships almost married again, dodged that bullet......now just taking things easy....... not rushing into anything, listening to all the good stuff, not the toxic crap that's out there and combining it all with my core values...but still keeping an open mind

  • @almacarreno7694
    @almacarreno7694 4 дня назад +2

    It is hard accept the truth. This was different. I loved it.

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  3 дня назад

      Oh wow! Do you mind if I ask what you felt it was about this interview that felt different? It’s super important to me that we have an open dialogue and I listen to what you guys need so I can make sure I bring on people that serve you and what you need in life! So any more feedback you’re willing to give here would be so appreciated! 🙌

  • @ladychiffa4400
    @ladychiffa4400 4 дня назад +5

    Sending good vibes to those men who listen to a woman diminishing herself and say: "No, you deserve better, come on, go, be yourself, get the success you deserve!"

  • @1111spiritualone
    @1111spiritualone 5 дней назад +3

    I agree, partners need to be in alignment. People around me stay in relationships or marriages because they don’t think they can do better or for material things.
    You have to choose better by doing the shadow work. People rather do what’s comfortable because it’s harder to be alone and shake societies pressure
    My ex is a narcissist and definitely love dumping. I’m glad to know none of there relationships will last because it’s not authentic

  • @ffurtado2760
    @ffurtado2760 5 дней назад +5

    Lisa is so cute! I love her perkiness

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  3 дня назад

      Haha thanks my homie! I’ve really just been letting my flag fly lol and being totally myself. Quirks and all 😉❤️

  • @mb-sk4tq
    @mb-sk4tq 5 дней назад +1

    I loved the conversation, ladies. Thank you, Lisa!

  • @slchaney13
    @slchaney13 5 дней назад +2

    What a great conversation. Thank you, Lisa!

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  4 дня назад

      Thanks so much! Let me know what other content and topics you are needing!!

  • @zamajobezanothando5162
    @zamajobezanothando5162 5 дней назад +7

    I love and approve myself😊

  • @lesliemccauley2003
    @lesliemccauley2003 5 дней назад +8

    Eat, pray, Love 😘. Scrambled eggs

  • @katsybo
    @katsybo 5 дней назад +1

    Thanks Lisa🥰🥰🥰I really needed this one. I have ping-ponged between wrong choices.

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  3 дня назад +1

      I gotchou my homie! Thanks for being here and let me know what else you are needing and I will then think of what guests I can bring on to help!

  • @daniebeth
    @daniebeth 3 дня назад +1

    Lisa I love the darker hair!

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  3 дня назад +4

      Oh thanks so much! My hair was falling out and it was really tough 😢So I decided to take action and put my health first, so I took out my extensions and have been taking supplements and nurturing it and given it time to just rest. Thanks so much for the message, it’s made my day 🥰

    • @daniebeth
      @daniebeth 3 дня назад

      @LisaBilyeu girl I’ve been there before ! What’s your go to hair supplement ? I’ve been through so many over the years, and thanks for the reply! ♥️

  • @AoibheannDoyle-SoulTherapist
    @AoibheannDoyle-SoulTherapist 3 дня назад

    Brilliant discussion here ladies 🙌

  • @rebeccajones8628
    @rebeccajones8628 4 дня назад +1

    Lisa I liked that you stood your ground when pressured by your family. The speaker point I liked was put on your mask first if you wish to help others.

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  3 дня назад

      Thanks my homie! It’s not easy but in doing this show and having learnt from so many of my guests, I feel I am now equipped to handle those difficult situations. Appreciate you!

  • @happylady2679
    @happylady2679 2 дня назад

    Awwww I love Tom and Lisa 🥰

  • @annengei2814
    @annengei2814 5 дней назад +1

    Loving what am learning❤❤❤❤❤❤

  • @jonathanbarone4708
    @jonathanbarone4708 4 дня назад +1

    Thanks very good conversation lovely her

  • @Thatsgoodcooking
    @Thatsgoodcooking 5 дней назад +2

    I love this

  • @melissabutton8868
    @melissabutton8868 22 часа назад

    We stick with someone because we got pregnant 😔 Then we "hope" he will change bc there are children now involved and he tells others that he is a good dad but when he comes home he turns into a horrible person.

  • @bamarealist
    @bamarealist 4 дня назад +2

    Watching this beautiful, young lady, and hearing her wonderful words of wisdom, I’m about to hit the gym right now!🏃🏾‍♀️😄✨

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  4 дня назад +2

      Let’s gooooooo homie!! 💪

    • @bamarealist
      @bamarealist 4 дня назад

      @ Yesss😁💛🏋🏾‍♀️

  • @yolandacupido1815
    @yolandacupido1815 5 дней назад +2

    Wow I loved this,it taught me so much ❤

  • @barbaralandsaw7949
    @barbaralandsaw7949 5 дней назад

    This!

  • @jesuisvanessawilkerson7011
    @jesuisvanessawilkerson7011 5 дней назад +1

    Does she have a youtube channel?

  • @jonathanbarone4708
    @jonathanbarone4708 4 дня назад +1

  • @vixeliaOG
    @vixeliaOG 4 дня назад

    I hope Evy is safe from the trump dictatorship. Thought about her a lot this week. We're scared

  • @cathyh1680
    @cathyh1680 4 дня назад

    Women try to make themsekves feel better and avoid the shame of chosing to stay with a cheater so they deny the truth of the horror, pain and hurt of their partner being sexual or emotionally involved with another woman by teying to convince anyone who will listen that they are ok with the cheating and betrayal it was only the deception they are upset about to avoid the humiliation and devastation of him screwing other women. They are kidding themselves. And therapists buy right into it.

    • @thomas_daughter
      @thomas_daughter 4 дня назад +1

      I left after he cheated and sometimes I wonder- Did I do it because it was a boundary for me Or did I do it to show outsiders I don't let any one play me?. Even my ex told me that he thinks I overreacted and we should reconcile. I won't but then again going back to- maybe being more concerned with outsiders opinion.

    • @cathyh1680
      @cathyh1680 4 дня назад +1

      @thomas_daughter To me, staying with a cheater is dropping your self-respect, and I don't believe that there is any way around that. I would never drop my self-respect to stay with a cheater. It sounds to me that had a lot to do with your decision. out of self-respect and to not damage your self-concept. Yes, staying with someone who cheated means that your reputation as a self-respecting woman is gone. This is one of the ways a cheater makes you look like a fool, which they never care or even think about. Going back to a cheater after leaving? I don't know but there is at least a conception that he was made to pay a price, hopefully a big one wallowing in despair of suffering the consequences, reeling in the shock of being dumped with only himself to blame. People picture the cheating spouse who was left pleading with the cheated on spouse to come back, so I don't think it's the same as staying but that is just an opinion. But still, any woman I know who took a cheater back always got cheated on again. Maybe there are exceptions but if he says you over-reacted I think he is minimizing it and not taking full accountability for the full gravity of what he did and how profound the effect is.

    • @thomas_daughter
      @thomas_daughter 4 дня назад

      @@cathyh1680 now that you mentioned it, I realised it true with both my colleagues and family members. When their spouses cheated and they stayed, the cheating just continued.

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  3 дня назад

      I think it’s so complex that as humans we naturally respond to things in a way that will protect us. So maybe there is some truth to this, maybe there isn’t, either way I give utter grace to any women who is having to go through it, no matter how jar decision they finally make.

    • @LisaBilyeu
      @LisaBilyeu  3 дня назад

      Maybe they kinda one of the same! You set the boundary so that no matter WHO knows, you are the type of person to see a boundary through because it’s what YOU need. So yes I think you may have done it for alllll of the above! For him. For your family. And the best thing is…. You did it for YOURSELF! And telling yourself that your worth keeping a promise to yourself is the BEST self worth and love I could ever think of!

  • @kimjaniga7517
    @kimjaniga7517 День назад

    This guest is too vague about her advice.

  • @healingypsy
    @healingypsy День назад

    Dr Ramani and Greene

  • @Mymindset-shift
    @Mymindset-shift 3 дня назад

    ruclips.net/video/XYD1Jp_7CVY/видео.htmlsi=tNSNksX6BBbfG92E