strap in this one's a yapfest also here's the article i reference: mentalhellth.xyz/p/there-is-n... i remembered the title wrong but u get it patreon: / samsen instagram: / noahsamsen
Omg 🥺 this is actually very helpful, thank you 🙏🏼 I'm really trying to work on my negative self talk. When you grow up with abusive parents their voices stick in your head long after you've gone no contact. Appreciate this tip 🥹
I really struggle with this. When it comes to pets, I'm great at cleaning and giving them a nice, cozy place, but when it comes to myself, I struggle to value myself enough for this to work. The only reason I started making my bed every morning is because my dog likes to lay on the bed when it's made. I've got a lot of internal work to do, but I'm glad I can care about my pets while working on caring for myself.
First?…….along the lines of “laziness isn’t real” I’ve also heard the sentiment that “mess is neutral.” Even though I don’t like messes in my home, sometimes it’s good to remember that when there inevitably is a mess, it isn’t a reflection of my moral character. It’s just a mess that needs cleaning.
Fun fact: dish soap is actually a pretty great, inexpensive cleaner for showers, since it cuts through one of the major sources of dirt/grime (skin oil). Nothin' wrong with cleaning a shower with that and a little disinfectant.
Dish soap is such a great cleaner. Ever since getting a CPAP madhine (they told me to clean it with dish soap), I use it on all sorts of things. I hadn't thought of it prior.
I can't stand it because you have to rinse it forever. I use method all purpose for regular stuff and stronger cleaners for thick build up like soap scum/hard water
@@no_peace I put dish soap and white vinegar in one of those scrub brushes and and scrub the shower walls while I'm taking a shower when I don't feel like doing a deep clean of the shower and tub. Because I'm in the shower, the suds come right off and it doesn't get super slippery
i clean houses for a living and I primarily use dish soap (Dawn) for most things! Usually, I use a mix of other chemicals and dish soap, but, unless you need to disinfect something, you can really get away with using dish soap alone. (I do in my own home lol) You can use dish soap on most surfaces, like counter tops, as well!
I thought I was a genius when I cleaned my tub with magic eraser and it worked great.. sadly it ate away at the protective layer that stopped grime from sticking to the shower and now I have to constantly clean it. Don’t use magic eraser on your tub. Maybe I’ll give dish soap a try
never thought i'd hear somebody say "that mould is so juicy. i should be wearing a mask but i need to be close to it and taste it on my lips"... but here we are
Societal structures = learn to not give a f*ck - seriously learn to let it all go. It helps me. Help = help. It is all about where you put your attention. Walking does not work for everyone.
@@lilycollegemythbusters5532 it’s possible they meant societal structures like not having control over your work hours etc… I know shit like that is what causes my burn out. Not giving a fuck about it tends to lead to not being employed.
What even is the world besides just a bunch of us. Improving yourself is improving the world. You are a part of the world and an important part of it. Never feel like self improvement is useless because it doesn’t fix everything at once. You are still important, everyone is important. Everybody together is everything
working on gentleness with myself this year (healing my inner child who was not always shown gentleness etc etc) and this idea helps so much. I'm very gentle with others and the world sometimes to a point of being problematic, but when I think of myself as part of the world it helps so much
Another good book is "How to Keep House While you're Drowning"! A bit shorter than "Laziness doesn't Exist" lol. Its a really nice self help book that gives some great actually useful tips to get your living space how you need it, and gives permission to not be perfect
As a mom of one bio baby who went to a mom of five with my bonus babies, that book changed my life! There's more than one neurodivergent mind in this home and it's been helpful to all of us.
I was raised in a conservative, religious household so cleanliness and purity were constant themes. Also, looking ‘put together’ was very important. My mom wore a full face of makeup during chemo if that helps paint a picture. There were probably a lot of anxiety disorders, such as OCD and GAD, undiagnosed in my family tree. I’ve had to work from the opposite direction: learning to let go and have a little mess here and there. I know it’s lame, but I often tell myself, ‘everything in moderation’ and ‘nothing is perfect’ to keep me from spiraling. I also have to stay away from a lot of social media content. I know on an intellectual level it’s all staged and filtered, but the irrational part of my mind freaks out when it sees those insane fridge restocking videos. They do not calm me, lol.
That’s not lame, it’s hard to remember those truths when you’ve been raised to believe the opposite. Sounds like you’re doing a good job with yourself!
Oh dear, that's exactly part of my family. Thankfully we now get our diagnoses and meds. My perfectionism was AWFUL, so I have had the same process of letting go.
Definitely not lame. I can see how that level of keeping up appearances can be exhausting, even traumatizing. I used to spend hours and hours cleaning the inside of my car. Then one day I realized, I don't want to spend half my weekend on this. Why am I doing this? Is it even worth it? The answer was no, it was not worth it. I realized that day that sometimes "good enough" IS good enough, and that's okay.
My family is similar but it's more due to my mother's values of hardwork and general perfectionism. She wasn't perfect, and her frustration caused me a lot of pain growing up. I'm trying to work through this myself so I don't do the same to my husband and future kids now that I'm married. God bless you. We can get through anything together. You're not alone.
My husband got me an attachment for my drill that’s a big scrub brush and it makes cleaning the bathtub soooo easy. It used to take me an hour or more and hurt my joints to get the shower and tub spotless, now it takes about 10 minutes. Would recommend it to anyone who doesn’t want sore elbows, and people who don’t have the energy or capability to spend that long cleaning.
@@generatoralignmentdevalue I have severe arthritis and I bought a pink drill on Amazon and the 30 piece scrubber set. You can always start with the 5 piece bathroom scrubbers. I used ZEP bath cleaner and Soft Scrub. My bath is sparkling !✨️ 🎉
@@memegazer you might be getting Peterson confused with people who meme him online, in his tracts about WW2 and leaders like Hitler and Stalin he tends to focus on how their personal hangups caused mass human suffering.
@@xXx_Regulus_xXxI’m not confusing Peterson with anyone. Peterson doesn’t need to be Stalin, all on his own he: 1. Violates HIPAA 2. Calls homosexuality an illness 3. Calls for women to ‘go back’ (somehow) to tradwifery 4. Also mentions the good old days included these women and ALSO brown men, ‘knew their place in society’ I don’t have a good garbage bag size for a 6 foot white man like Peterson so he goes unbagged into the dumpster and I pay a hazardous waste fine. 😂
as a person w physical disabilities and mental disabilities, a lot of the time i’m stuck in bed in tons of pain punishing myself for being “lazy” as if i made the choice to be in pain and not able to be in bed. the act of laziness, for me, feels like a choice, rather than a lack of accommodation, which is not true
im a physically disabled person too and like to remind my friends that doing nothing aka resting isnt doing "nothing," its resting. its taking care of yourself.
us people with physical/mental disabilities (mine being multiple sclerosis and bpd) need to prioritize & cherish rest time with no judgment. while at the same time taking care of our space & ourselves. it can be so hard to balance and to not feel guilty for laying in bed some days!
Your body is already working way harder than most just to keep you going. You’re not lazy, no one would choose what you’re going through if they had a better option
@@EmL-kg5gnyes exactly I think able-bodied people forget that our bodies work harder to move, so it takes longer to get things done. We also need breaks which can make getting things done take longer. Nothings wrong with that, it's just different.
what works for me is having one Big goal every week, like doing the laundry/folding clothes. It's more realistic for me to set a goal every week instead of every day.
dont stop doing these videos please they help me so much because they are not focused on hustle i feel like you are telling me come on buddy you can do this so thank you very much
I know I sound like a broken record - but I'm 40 and just in December I got diagnosed with ADHD. I had lived up until now with the impression that I wasn't focused, I was just lazy. Working as a pharmacy, it's sorta valid - medications are over prescribed and abused. So I removed so many distractions and obstacles that prevented me from getting stuff done. I removed everything I possibly could. But I didn't go to therapy. Started last year and in October I started depression meds then in December did the three hour evaluation for ADHD. Started adderall XR in January and it was a night and day different. My kitchen is constantly clean, my room is kept clean.I wake up at 7, take the dog out for a walk, empty the dishwasher while my water is heating up. Make my coffee and just chill until 830 watching youtube while drinking it. The stuff that was a challenge now feels effortless. I spent a weekend and learned Tableau for work so I could advance my career. I kind of wish I did this sooner, but all those skills that I spent 40 years honing are now infinitely more valuable because of the medication. Like I've been wearing body weights this whole time and I finally took them off. Do I struggle? Yes. But I have the resolve to better myself even further.
That's really inspiring to hear. I'm 30 and only got diagnosed and medicated in the past year, and only started going to therapy two weeks ago. I mourned the person that I "could have" been, but now I'm shifting to being hopeful about who I can be, now and in the future.
Adhd isnt real. The “medication” is just meth lite. Everyone feels better on it until they dont. You build up a tolerance to it just like any drugs and then the side effects get worse and worse.
This is very inspiring to me too, I am getting diagnosed for ADHD atm and I really hope to get the help I need so I can get rid of my heavy weights too. God bless you all in your journey to improvement ❤
First of all, the comment section is top notch. This video is soothing and left my brain lightly massaged instead of the wrung out/tired feeling I get after some videos. Anyway, I live with a disabled person who has chronic pain and my spouse who is a workaholic and deeply internalizes productivity = self-worth. I have tendencies to judge myself based on how much I got done in a day but recognize rest is a part of survival. On a peripheral note Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey is dope. She is largely communicating to POC, but I think everybody can benefit from it. Side note, I too wanted to start a cleaning channel. I have worked as a house keeper and professional organizer on and off for the last couple of years and my jobs have been deeply therapeutic for me. Meditative, physical, clearing.
The tension is probably because if you’re disabled these things are often out of your control or painful and the only response ever, even medically, is always the dismissive stuff. “Ignore your pain and get the task done!” Even when that makes you pass out for 12 hours after and you have to take a break every 5 minutes so you have enough energy to be able to function enough to eat. That perspective was made to be intentionally right coded by the right to say that every disabled person is responsible and therefore blamed for their inability which kinda ruins a lot and means these talking points tend to open up wounds that require medical intervention but cannot get it. I personally only watch self help to try and work around my disability exclusively, which isn’t what I’m supposed to do but it helps. With women/afab people especially, there are so many catch up diagnoses because “thats a boys disease” and they don’t realize the have a clinical disability, they just assume they’re lazy, this was me for 20 years. That almost killed me multiple times (im bad at trying tho💀) Just a thought.
Fellow disabled person here. Love and spoons to you, friend. ❤️❤️❤️🥄🥄🥄 If you're interest in low-fuss methods I use when I can: I have two Clorox wands: one for tub and one for toilet - or, after I'm done washing my face, I put shampoo on my wash cloth to wipe down the shower. I keep dish soap in a pump by every sink, so I can wipe down counters, spills, or eyeglasses without pulling out a cleaning bucket. I use whatever is within reach, such as a dirty towel, wash rag, clean handkerchief, paper towels, or baby wipes. If I don't have the energy, it's okay. My sister and I hire a cleaning lady once or twice a year, when it feels like the bathrooms need more of a scrub than we can manage.
I'm in the middle of getting either a fibro or eds diagnosis, and its really hard to keep in mind that its just Going to be more difficult than me. Being harder on myself is only going to stress me out and makes things harder, but its hard to break old patterns
I feel you. I'm currently at the diagnostic stage where they think it's not MS but I have enough symptoms that I'll be getting a yearly brain MRI with and without contrast. I'm nearing 35 and have had these symptoms to some degree for at least a decade Late diagnosed ADHD at 32 too and I'm sure I'm also autistic but trying to get that looked into with my current neurology situation sounds like a lot of stress so 🤷🏻♀️ My symptoms wax and wane so I try to get stuff done on the lower-intensity symptom days but it's so easy to overdo it and I often end up worse off after; then can't even be proud of myself. It's like I have a terrible, chronic case of 'let me just finish this up'-itis because there's always so much to do. This is all doubly bad when my depression is also getting to me. And this is with access to healthcare - I'm lucky in that regard, but it's still like trying to run a marathon on a broken hamster wheel.
@@quinnfarris i've thought i've had h-EDS for years now and i'm still in the process of being diagnosed, a couple of years ago a rhumetologist diagnosed me with fibromyalgia but refused to consider EDS at all even though i fit the diagnostic criteria, so i'm still in the process of finding another doctor who will actually consider diagnosing me with it / testing me for it, and i can't help but feel like if i just pushed more for him to test me for it i could've had an EDS diagnosis already or something. the point of this comment was that i wanted to say to make sure you advocate for yourself and what you suspect and try make sure they actually rule out EDS and don't just go straight to fibromyalgia like this rhumetologist did, but i don't really know how exactly you'd go about that so this isn't really great advice cause im sure you're probably already planning on doing that in some way or another
To all of you here, as someone who was diagnosed with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis at age 11, Fibromyalgia in my 20s, Neuropathy in my 30s, and now in my 40s Trigeminal Neuralgia and I'm scheduled for a Nerve Conduction Study, EMG and spinal tap all this month as my neurologist believes I may have MS (my grandmother had it, plus the amount of autoimmune and inflammatory conditions, and severe vitamin D deficiency puts me high risk and I'm falling constantly, I so understand it all. I've lived almost an entire life with physical disabilities and mental illness because they all go hand in hand. My depression was so bad in 2021 until recently (like this past month), and I just didn't care. I lost a plant collection of 250+, literally just watched them die day by die. Then last year I lost my exhusband who was also my best friend to a heart attack at 42, and I lost my beloved pupper Lola at the age of 10 and I really didn't think I would find my way out of the hole I was in. I felt so broken. I worked in mental health for 18 yrs doing group therapy, so I'm very educated in what I was dealing with, and know the things you're supposed to do, but I couldn't. I finally got a better healthcare plan (I'm on Medicare, it's crap) and my copays dropped from $45 to $15 and I've been able to afford regular psychiatric appts and weekly therapy. And the meds have really finally started to make a noticeable difference and I can't remember the last time I had this much energy, and self motivation. It's going to take me probably a month to get my house back in order, there are places that haven't been dusted, areas under furniture that haven't been swept or mopped, and piles of laundry I've never put away for 3 yrs now, but I finally want to get it done. I still can only do so much in a day because my feet and back just hurt so much and so quickly, but the determination is there. I even went to the gym this week, the first time since before 2020. It's hard, damn is it so hard living with any chronic illness whether it's physical or mental, and usually they go together, but you eventually find your own rhythm. You learn to work smarter, and you learn what to prioritize and what to let go. I highly recommend all of you in this thread to Google the spoon theory, it really helped me to understand my limitations, and helped me to explain my life to friends and family, because they don't get what we go through, and they won't ever fully get it, unless they get it, meaning being diagnosed themselves. Prioritize yourself always, otherwise our health falls apart. ❤
I use a mix of vinegar and dish soap to clean my tub. Equal parts of each in the microwave for 2-3 minutes, then mixed - not before. Pour it around your bathroom and scrub it in gently, then walk away for 30 minutes. Once you come back, scrub it again then spray away with cold water and it will be clean as fuck. No real elbow grease required. edit: misspelled vinegar.
I've heard people say vinegar is good for cleaning but doesn't it smell really strong? I'm sensitive to smells so I feel like if I tried it and it made my bathroom smell it would be really difficult for me.
@@jaymercer4692 my last roommate used to do straight vinegar in the kitchen every 2 days and I couldn't handle the smell so I started buying cleaners that were all "natural" etc with nice scents and she let me use that instead lol. But it sounds good for deep cleaning a bathroom once every couple weeks.
I really love the stream of thought conversation and quick fire jokes. I’m going to try cleaning along next time but I guarantee it’ll take me 5 times as long. So it’s just a starting point.
I like seeing Noah do chores. Sometimes chores can feel therapeutic but sometimes it can just be so difficult to keep on top of it. I have no idea why these chill videos are so calming to me but they help me de-stress.
get a little dehumidifier for the space! it's been a lifesaver for my bathroom :) they work better when it's hot and humid but it still gets some juice out of the air in cooler/slightly drier spaces :) also I love your yapping, it's like hanging with my adhd friends haha
Going just off that line in the thumbnail, yeah its not. I used to be so miserable when I was younger (I still dabble in it from time to time) and along with that came the complete lack of self-confidence, the self-deprecating jokes, the I’m-toughing-it-out attitude. Felt like the only appropriate approach to existing in THIS world, as if I was more virtuous for it than someone seemingly unaware of how bad things are. Fuck that shit though. All being miserable does is make you small, powerless, and unpleasant. I didn’t learn it on my own though, I have Animal Collective’s music and wellbutrin to thank for that. Even so, now that I’m on the other side more often than not I can see that it’s simply undeniable that misery is an illness that you must always be treating. Your value to yourself, your community, and collective society as a whole is only diminished when you’re miserable.
I have fibromyalgia and cfs so cleaning things is really difficult for me (specifically finishing the chore, my body gives out long before my brain is finished with the task) and it’s very frustrating and I’m often ashamed and annoyed at how easily I become tired out. But this made me feel less ashamed of it and I cleaned along with this video and I cleaned my toilet, my shower seat and my bathroom sink and wiped the countertop! A small change but it all feels much better!
Love watching other people in their 20s struggle to figure out if theyre cleaning correctly ❤ This is a very validating channel, just make sure you keep it how you like it. Cleaning and talking is exhausting.
I think you're getting the job done just fine with that dish soap (and I bet it smells amazing)- but I also have a moldy bathroom like your sister(no fan+humidish climate) and my way of dealing with cleaning the shower (well the bathroom as a whole) is clean all the bathroom surfaces first (including scrubbing the walls and ceiling- my bathroom is teeny and has a low ceiling), then the toilet, the floor (Swiffer), THEN- clean the shower while I'm in it, getting clean myself (since I'm probably grungy after cleaning the rest of the bathroom). I turn on the spray so the hot water gets some steam going to loosen up anything, then I scrub down the shower while I condition my hair. I used to clean my shower with clothes on and it was a pain in the ass for me- trying to rinse different parts while not getting sprayed myself. This has worked much better, hope this helps someone who also hates doing their shower.
I also hate doing my shower and getting sprayed - my solution is every weekend I wear my oldest clothes that I don't care about and clean my house top to bottom then have a bath at the end of it. Sometimes I'll hoover through on one day and do the polishing/scrubbing on the next day if I need to do a deeper clean. Ngl though sometimes I skip a week and then all hell breaks loose 😬
Devon Price wrote Laziness Does Not Exist. His second book, Unmasking Autism, was my favorite non-fiction read of 2023, and I'm looking fotward to the book he's writing about shame.
I listened to Laziness Does Not Exist recently and it's good, but I'm a sicko who never gets tired of hearing "capitalism bad" from slightly different angles
Well I mean it is so all-encompassing and influential at the deepest level of society that ignoring it is ignoring reality. Capitalism colours the words we use in our day-to-day interactions, it changes our perception of time, relationships, people, and goals. To pretend it isn't a factor in just about every issue in the world is honestly just false.
@@Cobalt985I dunno, critiques of capitalism as being the only framework that causes hardship or require industriousness seem myopic. people have been toiling since long before money or even barter were an idea in someone's head. work or starve is the natural order for all life, and while your boss wouldn't invent a concept like limiting work to 40 hours per week if it didn't already exist, I don't think people framing the problem this way have the solution.
@@xXx_Regulus_xXxfor me I get frustrated with the conclusion of these statements. Okay, let’s accept the premise that capitalism is to blame for all of modern woes, what next? It isn’t simply enough to state a problem because that doesn’t lead to change. This thinking creates a sense of lack of autonomy that makes it difficult for people to enable themselves to make decisions. Even if the autonomy is constrained, we need to feel some sense of ownership over ourselves and communities (in terms of who we are and what we contribute), otherwise the descent into nihilism is far too easy. I simply have no time for the shorthand ‘capitalism causes all problems’ without exploring what that means to the person saying it. I find so many arguments to be differences in people stating what the world is vs. what the world should be and making no distinction between the two.
I love your videos! They actually motivate me to do boring tasks, and I agree with the laziness take. Now everything has to be done fast and you have to constantly be working on the next thing, and as a creative I find it exhausting and I think it's actually ruining creative spaces. I wish the world was a little more "lazy".
noah, thank you for these. I started watching these videos while I was still living with my boyfriend and it was helping me get better. He took all his things out of the apartment while I was at work, I came home to a half empty, messy, broken home. He was there and told me it was over. we talked and talked and cried and cried. I'm trying to get better and have been waiting for the next video, this hits close. Thank you for this self help content, everything feels hard but I'm sure I can get better and stop being so miserable without him. lots of love
i deal with bipolar disorder and adhd and i genuinely needed this cleaning vlog rn thank you so much im serious, getting up and cleaning with you was incredible
Honestly this is so wholesome that you are helping your sister clean. Its so true, having a full time job makes keeping up detailed level cleaning really hard. You are a blessing to help her when she needs it.
As someone who’s been disabled for the better (worse) part of 6 years now, most people aren’t lazy, but they’re overworked physically and mentally and need a break. I haven’t “worked” a job. That was fine for a year or so after having gone gas pedal down non-stop from 15-20 (and really go-go from 6-20) to get into a good university and then graduate from said university. I needed the break. I didn’t want to do anything. That is absolutely seen as lazy. But after some time, I wanted to work, to produce for humanity, to “be useful.” Humans aren’t meant to produce like this. Endlessly growing production that’s often not tangible and far off. We’re supposed to produce with our hands, god dammit. “It feels good to make things” - some league character’s quote 100%, but I don’t remember who.
Not sure if anyone has mentioned, but what you're doing is great for ADHD people. It's helpful to watch someone doing something because it helps us mimic or "moral support."
Thank you for these, it’s like a reminder to do something productive for 15 minutes with someone. Honestly would love a podcast, your voice is very soothing.
Hey I clicked because of the title, but when i got the invitation to maybe also clean my bathroom, i did and it was very nice. Just a comment of appreciation 😊
Your sister probably comes home and is like "Where is my Bathroom chair? How am I suppose to have my shower conversations without my bathroom chair!?!"
im struggling dawg. my adhd is something fierce. Sometimes i feel like i will truly *never* be able to live life like a "normal" person, with a 9-5 job etc etc. and it makes me feel terrible. its relaxing to see you clean this bathroom (and inspiring) and hear you talk about this so normally and casually. I also cried shortly before opening this video! i feel seen by Noah Time who said he also cried not long before hitting record. being miserable is not a virtue, and also, i appreciate that yours isnt stuffed away. i dunno. im typing over you talking now, i just feel connected to another human right now as ive been struggling to recently. thank you dude
It’s been a rough couple of years (gosh, probably more than a couple). I live in a fascist dictatorship and feel lonely and miserable every day. People in my family love the war, my friends left the country, I can’t seem to find happiness anywhere and I cry every day. I’m glad RUclips suggested your video, it made me feel not so insignificant. I had a beer and a sandwich after a tiresome day at work, watched you cleaning this bathroom and telling us your silly (and not so silly) thoughts. It felt good. Thank you
Great, comforting chat, Noah. Thanks. 🥰 It's extra special because you were helping your sister at the same time. Thank you to her for sharing her space with us. 💖
I really appreciate these videos A TON! even if it's just a person talking to a camera while doing tasks it's helped me a lot with my lack of motivation and I hope to see more soon!!
I think, in the days we live in, taking the time to improve yourself indirectly makes the world a better place. I'm taking a long weekend becuase i felt exhausted all the time, and i almost feel guilty that im doing what i need to to take care of myself.
Thank you for helping me change over the laundry and vacuum. I’ve been in a house cleaning slump lately because working full time and being a parent is fucking hard. ❤ you.
I swear my algorithm is working overtime for the way it recommended this video to me literally the moment that I needed it. The way that you explain things is genuinely so enlightening as well as comforting. I hope you have an amazing day!
I just cleaned my kitchen for the first time in a while while watching this, I’m taking a little break right now but it’s almost done so thanks for being vulnerable I really needed that
I have two Clorox toilet wands with single-use, pre-soaped heads: one for the tub and shower, one for the toilet. Now I actually sometimes clean them, no fussy prep or clean up for my chronically ill, disabled, and AuDHD self. Please be kind to each other about resource use: Reduce, re-use, recycle when we can, but it's megacorps like Nestle that waste, pollute, and exploit us into our current environment. A healthy, comfortable, and loving living space is more important than whether you can afford a dishwasher. Love, luck, and spoons (energy) to y'all. 💜🍀🥄
I meant to say use a dishwasher or wash by hand, as affordability is only one factor. The main point is that it's a dehumanizing distraction to argue over, or focus on, who is the best at min-maxing carbon footprint behaviors, when healing and global change can only happen with cooperation and solidarity. 💜🍀🥄
I finally got around to cleaning my bathrooms and the kitchen is next. This talk really made me feel less awful about not having the energy to clean lately. Thank you!
I really appreciate you talking about laziness. I think a lot of what you talked about it is stuff I had heard before and parically internalized, but my mom has been I guess poking fun at my "laziness"? And it's been hard for me to vocalize why I have a problem with her calling me lazy even in a light hearted way
I was never taught how to properly clean my bathroom so I always feel like I'm doing it wrong when I attempt it. I learned a lot watching you and it's made the whole thing feel a lot less intimidating, so thank you ^-^.
Never seen your videos before, got recommended this, very glad I clicked. You’re super funny but also very articulate, without being pretentious. Subbed
No but can I say how much I appreciate these videos? I’ve had depression for the majority of my life, doing better now. But, my bathroom has literally been on the avoidance list for months. Only recently have I been tackling it, and idk it just feels nice to know I’m not the only one who is trying to navigate these things. :’)
tip from a hotel housekeeper: dish soap is great for glass showers but with titling or vinyl like this, it's better to use a bleach-based cleaner. When I'm at home and cleaning, i use an all purpose spray on nearly everything and then go in with diluted bleach as-needed. (vinegar also works but i prefer bleach) I also would have used a janitorial rag (or an old washcloth) on all that detailing. You can take your index finger and trace all those corners, something a sponge can't really do. I also just soak my shower curtain in the tub (i'd use a storage container if i had a shower like this) with hot water and bleach, then re hang it to let it air dry. They repel water so taking them out of a washer usually makes a huge mess even after a spin dry.
House cleaner here. I love this video. I too find cleaning therapeutic. I often talk to myself and work through lifes' problems as i go, fully realizing that everyone i work for has cameras everywhere in their house. Hopefully they enjoy my therapy sessions as much as i do.
Hey bro! I quit league threw out my pc 7 days ago! Your channel popped up 2 days into my journey. I just want to say your videos are so relatable and inspire to push out of my comfort zone. Getting help with mental health and trying for the first time in my life to beat my low self esteem! Keep making more videos you the goat!
Love the title. Just got broken up with about 3 weeks ago and I’ve been miserable since, but worse than that I’ve been wallowing in that misery. Pitying myself in a way that keeps me miserable. Feeling lightly virtuous of that misery in some weird way. Being sad for being sad. I think I’m done with that. Anyways thanks man. Loved the video, loved the vibes, love the content, and the yapping.
I really appreciate this video and how it's inspiring me to clean up the bathroom. Whenever someone irl teaches me to clean or I watch classic How To videos it leaves me feeling pressured instead of internally motivated. This video shows me how to do it, but you don't care one way or another if I end up using these lessons in my own life. You're just talking about your own stuff, and I know it would make you happy that others are cleaning w your help, but you don't Expect it of anyone. More of a pleasant surprise type reaction. That's so nice 🎉😊 It makes me feel calm enough to actually learn and even if I don't get any cleaning today, I won't hate myself for it. In part, because I know you genuinely will not get mad or feel insulted. It's a real "take what you need from this" situation which is what helps me best. Thank you ❤
I didn't know your channel but right now I'm dealing with a huge mess in my house. It's been maybe four days of trying to get things together and clean and make things work. It's not going great, but it's going. I find really funny and convenient I have found your channel in this particular moment of physical (and emotional) chaos that i am trying to overcome. Thanks buddy
“i dunno if dish soap is the right thing to use for a shower but fuck itttt” helped my anxiety w/ cleaning products. i see all these cleaning tiktoks and they have a million products and brushes and sponges and sometimes i feel like cleaning just isn’t worth the investment. good to know i can clean whatever w/ whatever as long as it at least somewhat works and isn’t outright dangerous :0
Damn, i needed to watch this, im always working so i sometimes let my place get out of hand but seeing my place not clean does bother me. Thank you for this video man for some reason it was kinda therapeutic
FINALLY SOME GOOD FKIN VIDEOS ON THE INTERWEBS! love whatever genre this is. ppl talking at length about various topics while doing a task in a game or real life - just excellent
Never seen one of your videos but even just reading through the comments has really helped. I’m sick right now and been struggling for like 4 years to do anything with my life. I’m supposed to graduate this year but I can’t now, and I have no idea how I’m gonna support myself and move out.
I am very drawn to narratives about how I can “improve myself”, and it’s been to my detriment. Much of my motivation comes from the anxiety around not reaching a certain state of improvement, and I am constantly thinking about the future of myself and the world, I’m never in the present. I definitely think each of us has a lot of good we can be doing for ourselves and others. I just want to point out that the concept of improvement is so loaded now that it can trap people. Perhaps we can find better language around doing good, over time.
this is amazing thank you for the cleaning monologue video. also i wanted to share!! the whole perspective about how cleaning or zoning out on games can be meditative is true but its called "transcendental meditation" if you want to dive into that rabbit hole. Im sorry for whatever is occurring in your life that is hurting your heart and i hope you are able to find solace through and after. im glad that cleaning the bathroom helped you process those events. keep being you!
My favorite way of framing it has always been, "you should clean up, because you're worth the effort and deserve to live in a clean space."
Great saying! We are all deserving.
"How can I be kind to my future (and current) self?" ❤️👍
My mom would tell me this when I lived at home and I’d have a depression joke of a room. Love that woman
Omg 🥺 this is actually very helpful, thank you 🙏🏼 I'm really trying to work on my negative self talk. When you grow up with abusive parents their voices stick in your head long after you've gone no contact. Appreciate this tip 🥹
I really struggle with this. When it comes to pets, I'm great at cleaning and giving them a nice, cozy place, but when it comes to myself, I struggle to value myself enough for this to work. The only reason I started making my bed every morning is because my dog likes to lay on the bed when it's made.
I've got a lot of internal work to do, but I'm glad I can care about my pets while working on caring for myself.
First?…….along the lines of “laziness isn’t real” I’ve also heard the sentiment that “mess is neutral.” Even though I don’t like messes in my home, sometimes it’s good to remember that when there inevitably is a mess, it isn’t a reflection of my moral character. It’s just a mess that needs cleaning.
Omg I had no idea how badly I needed to hear that ty
Yeh! The book "how to keep house while you're drowning" talks about that alot! It's a great book for people having issues keeping their space usable
Missed half the video cause you reminded me that I have been ignoring the mold in my own bathroom ^^
well said, mess is inevitable in life, in many ways ❤
@@andersonneil2293 I was gonna recommend this lol. Great book.
"Rust is just metal having anxiety" is an all timer quote
Followed closely by "get on that damn Xanax brother"
Fun fact: dish soap is actually a pretty great, inexpensive cleaner for showers, since it cuts through one of the major sources of dirt/grime (skin oil). Nothin' wrong with cleaning a shower with that and a little disinfectant.
Dish soap is such a great cleaner. Ever since getting a CPAP madhine (they told me to clean it with dish soap), I use it on all sorts of things. I hadn't thought of it prior.
I can't stand it because you have to rinse it forever. I use method all purpose for regular stuff and stronger cleaners for thick build up like soap scum/hard water
@@no_peace I put dish soap and white vinegar in one of those scrub brushes and and scrub the shower walls while I'm taking a shower when I don't feel like doing a deep clean of the shower and tub. Because I'm in the shower, the suds come right off and it doesn't get super slippery
i clean houses for a living and I primarily use dish soap (Dawn) for most things! Usually, I use a mix of other chemicals and dish soap, but, unless you need to disinfect something, you can really get away with using dish soap alone. (I do in my own home lol)
You can use dish soap on most surfaces, like counter tops, as well!
I thought I was a genius when I cleaned my tub with magic eraser and it worked great.. sadly it ate away at the protective layer that stopped grime from sticking to the shower and now I have to constantly clean it. Don’t use magic eraser on your tub. Maybe I’ll give dish soap a try
And I wish my brother did this when he stated at my house instead of drinking all the milk and stealing all my change
💀💀💀🤣🤣🤣
Hey hey....mine took $800 AND got malware put onto my desktop looking at pr⁰n while I was in Mexico.
"Fuckin' Gandalf-ass TikTok light."
I laughed at that too
“Like in among us, I have a task rn.” 😂😂 imma start using that while I’m cleaning.
never thought i'd hear somebody say "that mould is so juicy. i should be wearing a mask but i need to be close to it and taste it on my lips"... but here we are
oh! this is a nice highlight as i start the video lmao
I wish taking a mental health walk fixed the societal structures that feed into my chronic burnout that the walk is supposed be alleviating.
You’re so real for that comment
Like fr
Fax… but until then I’ll take my daily walks to maintain sanity lol
bless, thought i was the only one feeling this
Societal structures = learn to not give a f*ck - seriously learn to let it all go. It helps me. Help = help. It is all about where you put your attention. Walking does not work for everyone.
@@lilycollegemythbusters5532 it’s possible they meant societal structures like not having control over your work hours etc… I know shit like that is what causes my burn out. Not giving a fuck about it tends to lead to not being employed.
What even is the world besides just a bunch of us. Improving yourself is improving the world. You are a part of the world and an important part of it. Never feel like self improvement is useless because it doesn’t fix everything at once. You are still important, everyone is important. Everybody together is everything
Love this!
I am you & you are me & he is me & we are all together ❤
i almost cried. thank you
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working on gentleness with myself this year (healing my inner child who was not always shown gentleness etc etc) and this idea helps so much. I'm very gentle with others and the world sometimes to a point of being problematic, but when I think of myself as part of the world it helps so much
"ignoring your teammates pings is just like BetterHelp if you think about it" LMFAOOOO your brain is on another level ily
Another good book is "How to Keep House While you're Drowning"! A bit shorter than "Laziness doesn't Exist" lol. Its a really nice self help book that gives some great actually useful tips to get your living space how you need it, and gives permission to not be perfect
i agree with that book recommendation, and the author's tiktok if that form of content appeals!
Thanks for the recommendation! I just went and bought it.
this book was the first time i read something self-help-y that actually helped me🥹
As a mom of one bio baby who went to a mom of five with my bonus babies, that book changed my life! There's more than one neurodivergent mind in this home and it's been helpful to all of us.
I was raised in a conservative, religious household so cleanliness and purity were constant themes. Also, looking ‘put together’ was very important. My mom wore a full face of makeup during chemo if that helps paint a picture. There were probably a lot of anxiety disorders, such as OCD and GAD, undiagnosed in my family tree.
I’ve had to work from the opposite direction: learning to let go and have a little mess here and there. I know it’s lame, but I often tell myself, ‘everything in moderation’ and ‘nothing is perfect’ to keep me from spiraling. I also have to stay away from a lot of social media content. I know on an intellectual level it’s all staged and filtered, but the irrational part of my mind freaks out when it sees those insane fridge restocking videos. They do not calm me, lol.
That’s not lame, it’s hard to remember those truths when you’ve been raised to believe the opposite. Sounds like you’re doing a good job with yourself!
Oh dear, that's exactly part of my family. Thankfully we now get our diagnoses and meds. My perfectionism was AWFUL, so I have had the same process of letting go.
Definitely not lame. I can see how that level of keeping up appearances can be exhausting, even traumatizing.
I used to spend hours and hours cleaning the inside of my car. Then one day I realized, I don't want to spend half my weekend on this. Why am I doing this? Is it even worth it? The answer was no, it was not worth it. I realized that day that sometimes "good enough" IS good enough, and that's okay.
My family is similar but it's more due to my mother's values of hardwork and general perfectionism. She wasn't perfect, and her frustration caused me a lot of pain growing up. I'm trying to work through this myself so I don't do the same to my husband and future kids now that I'm married. God bless you. We can get through anything together. You're not alone.
My husband got me an attachment for my drill that’s a big scrub brush and it makes cleaning the bathtub soooo easy. It used to take me an hour or more and hurt my joints to get the shower and tub spotless, now it takes about 10 minutes. Would recommend it to anyone who doesn’t want sore elbows, and people who don’t have the energy or capability to spend that long cleaning.
I have a crappy back and lawdy these attachments help SO MUCH it mega lessens my avoidance with cleaning the shower
I’ve seen them, 😊they look so fun I can’t wait to get one
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omg thank you!
@@generatoralignmentdevalue I have severe arthritis and I bought a pink drill on Amazon and the 30 piece scrubber set. You can always start with the 5 piece bathroom scrubbers. I used ZEP bath cleaner and Soft Scrub. My bath is sparkling !✨️ 🎉
Jordan Petersen?
Not in my house.
Thich Nhat Hahn said something to that effect: when we work towards healing, the world heals as well.
Thich Nhat Hanh is so real
@@memegazer you might be getting Peterson confused with people who meme him online, in his tracts about WW2 and leaders like Hitler and Stalin he tends to focus on how their personal hangups caused mass human suffering.
Check out Rupert Spira too. He totally articulates things for me in a clear manner.
@@memegazer periodddd
@@xXx_Regulus_xXxI’m not confusing Peterson with anyone. Peterson doesn’t need to be Stalin, all on his own he:
1. Violates HIPAA
2. Calls homosexuality an illness
3. Calls for women to ‘go back’ (somehow) to tradwifery
4. Also mentions the good old days included these women and ALSO brown men, ‘knew their place in society’
I don’t have a good garbage bag size for a 6 foot white man like Peterson so he goes unbagged into the dumpster and I pay a hazardous waste fine.
😂
as a person w physical disabilities and mental disabilities, a lot of the time i’m stuck in bed in tons of pain punishing myself for being “lazy” as if i made the choice to be in pain and not able to be in bed. the act of laziness, for me, feels like a choice, rather than a lack of accommodation, which is not true
im a physically disabled person too and like to remind my friends that doing nothing aka resting isnt doing "nothing," its resting. its taking care of yourself.
us people with physical/mental disabilities (mine being multiple sclerosis and bpd) need to prioritize & cherish rest time with no judgment. while at the same time taking care of our space & ourselves. it can be so hard to balance and to not feel guilty for laying in bed some days!
Your body is already working way harder than most just to keep you going. You’re not lazy, no one would choose what you’re going through if they had a better option
@@EmL-kg5gnyes exactly I think able-bodied people forget that our bodies work harder to move, so it takes longer to get things done. We also need breaks which can make getting things done take longer. Nothings wrong with that, it's just different.
what works for me is having one Big goal every week, like doing the laundry/folding clothes. It's more realistic for me to set a goal every week instead of every day.
dont stop doing these videos please they help me so much because they are not focused on hustle i feel like you are telling me come on buddy you can do this so thank you very much
YESSS💯💯💯
I feel you! Sometimes a little push is the only thing I need.
when the cleaning is done and he doesnt know anything anymore i felt that
I know I sound like a broken record - but I'm 40 and just in December I got diagnosed with ADHD. I had lived up until now with the impression that I wasn't focused, I was just lazy. Working as a pharmacy, it's sorta valid - medications are over prescribed and abused. So I removed so many distractions and obstacles that prevented me from getting stuff done. I removed everything I possibly could. But I didn't go to therapy. Started last year and in October I started depression meds then in December did the three hour evaluation for ADHD. Started adderall XR in January and it was a night and day different. My kitchen is constantly clean, my room is kept clean.I wake up at 7, take the dog out for a walk, empty the dishwasher while my water is heating up. Make my coffee and just chill until 830 watching youtube while drinking it. The stuff that was a challenge now feels effortless. I spent a weekend and learned Tableau for work so I could advance my career. I kind of wish I did this sooner, but all those skills that I spent 40 years honing are now infinitely more valuable because of the medication. Like I've been wearing body weights this whole time and I finally took them off. Do I struggle? Yes. But I have the resolve to better myself even further.
That's really inspiring to hear. I'm 30 and only got diagnosed and medicated in the past year, and only started going to therapy two weeks ago. I mourned the person that I "could have" been, but now I'm shifting to being hopeful about who I can be, now and in the future.
Adhd isnt real. The “medication” is just meth lite. Everyone feels better on it until they dont. You build up a tolerance to it just like any drugs and then the side effects get worse and worse.
This is very inspiring to me too, I am getting diagnosed for ADHD atm and I really hope to get the help I need so I can get rid of my heavy weights too. God bless you all in your journey to improvement ❤
dude thank you so much for including the cleaning supplies of the day. i get completely stuck cleaning bc i simply was never taught how to
First of all, the comment section is top notch. This video is soothing and left my brain lightly massaged instead of the wrung out/tired feeling I get after some videos.
Anyway, I live with a disabled person who has chronic pain and my spouse who is a workaholic and deeply internalizes productivity = self-worth. I have tendencies to judge myself based on how much I got done in a day but recognize rest is a part of survival. On a peripheral note Rest is Resistance by Tricia Hersey is dope. She is largely communicating to POC, but I think everybody can benefit from it.
Side note, I too wanted to start a cleaning channel. I have worked as a house keeper and professional organizer on and off for the last couple of years and my jobs have been deeply therapeutic for me. Meditative, physical, clearing.
The tension is probably because if you’re disabled these things are often out of your control or painful and the only response ever, even medically, is always the dismissive stuff. “Ignore your pain and get the task done!” Even when that makes you pass out for 12 hours after and you have to take a break every 5 minutes so you have enough energy to be able to function enough to eat. That perspective was made to be intentionally right coded by the right to say that every disabled person is responsible and therefore blamed for their inability which kinda ruins a lot and means these talking points tend to open up wounds that require medical intervention but cannot get it. I personally only watch self help to try and work around my disability exclusively, which isn’t what I’m supposed to do but it helps. With women/afab people especially, there are so many catch up diagnoses because “thats a boys disease” and they don’t realize the have a clinical disability, they just assume they’re lazy, this was me for 20 years. That almost killed me multiple times (im bad at trying tho💀)
Just a thought.
Fellow disabled person here. Love and spoons to you, friend. ❤️❤️❤️🥄🥄🥄 If you're interest in low-fuss methods I use when I can:
I have two Clorox wands: one for tub and one for toilet - or, after I'm done washing my face, I put shampoo on my wash cloth to wipe down the shower. I keep dish soap in a pump by every sink, so I can wipe down counters, spills, or eyeglasses without pulling out a cleaning bucket. I use whatever is within reach, such as a dirty towel, wash rag, clean handkerchief, paper towels, or baby wipes. If I don't have the energy, it's okay. My sister and I hire a cleaning lady once or twice a year, when it feels like the bathrooms need more of a scrub than we can manage.
I'm in the middle of getting either a fibro or eds diagnosis, and its really hard to keep in mind that its just Going to be more difficult than me. Being harder on myself is only going to stress me out and makes things harder, but its hard to break old patterns
I feel you. I'm currently at the diagnostic stage where they think it's not MS but I have enough symptoms that I'll be getting a yearly brain MRI with and without contrast.
I'm nearing 35 and have had these symptoms to some degree for at least a decade Late diagnosed ADHD at 32 too and I'm sure I'm also autistic but trying to get that looked into with my current neurology situation sounds like a lot of stress so 🤷🏻♀️
My symptoms wax and wane so I try to get stuff done on the lower-intensity symptom days but it's so easy to overdo it and I often end up worse off after; then can't even be proud of myself. It's like I have a terrible, chronic case of 'let me just finish this up'-itis because there's always so much to do. This is all doubly bad when my depression is also getting to me.
And this is with access to healthcare - I'm lucky in that regard, but it's still like trying to run a marathon on a broken hamster wheel.
@@quinnfarris i've thought i've had h-EDS for years now and i'm still in the process of being diagnosed, a couple of years ago a rhumetologist diagnosed me with fibromyalgia but refused to consider EDS at all even though i fit the diagnostic criteria, so i'm still in the process of finding another doctor who will actually consider diagnosing me with it / testing me for it, and i can't help but feel like if i just pushed more for him to test me for it i could've had an EDS diagnosis already or something. the point of this comment was that i wanted to say to make sure you advocate for yourself and what you suspect and try make sure they actually rule out EDS and don't just go straight to fibromyalgia like this rhumetologist did, but i don't really know how exactly you'd go about that so this isn't really great advice cause im sure you're probably already planning on doing that in some way or another
To all of you here, as someone who was diagnosed with Juvenile Rheumatoid Arthritis at age 11, Fibromyalgia in my 20s, Neuropathy in my 30s, and now in my 40s Trigeminal Neuralgia and I'm scheduled for a Nerve Conduction Study, EMG and spinal tap all this month as my neurologist believes I may have MS (my grandmother had it, plus the amount of autoimmune and inflammatory conditions, and severe vitamin D deficiency puts me high risk and I'm falling constantly, I so understand it all. I've lived almost an entire life with physical disabilities and mental illness because they all go hand in hand. My depression was so bad in 2021 until recently (like this past month), and I just didn't care. I lost a plant collection of 250+, literally just watched them die day by die. Then last year I lost my exhusband who was also my best friend to a heart attack at 42, and I lost my beloved pupper Lola at the age of 10 and I really didn't think I would find my way out of the hole I was in. I felt so broken. I worked in mental health for 18 yrs doing group therapy, so I'm very educated in what I was dealing with, and know the things you're supposed to do, but I couldn't. I finally got a better healthcare plan (I'm on Medicare, it's crap) and my copays dropped from $45 to $15 and I've been able to afford regular psychiatric appts and weekly therapy. And the meds have really finally started to make a noticeable difference and I can't remember the last time I had this much energy, and self motivation. It's going to take me probably a month to get my house back in order, there are places that haven't been dusted, areas under furniture that haven't been swept or mopped, and piles of laundry I've never put away for 3 yrs now, but I finally want to get it done. I still can only do so much in a day because my feet and back just hurt so much and so quickly, but the determination is there. I even went to the gym this week, the first time since before 2020.
It's hard, damn is it so hard living with any chronic illness whether it's physical or mental, and usually they go together, but you eventually find your own rhythm. You learn to work smarter, and you learn what to prioritize and what to let go. I highly recommend all of you in this thread to Google the spoon theory, it really helped me to understand my limitations, and helped me to explain my life to friends and family, because they don't get what we go through, and they won't ever fully get it, unless they get it, meaning being diagnosed themselves. Prioritize yourself always, otherwise our health falls apart. ❤
I call it "The hardship olympics" waaay too many people desperate to prove they are superior via having it worse than others
I use a mix of vinegar and dish soap to clean my tub. Equal parts of each in the microwave for 2-3 minutes, then mixed - not before. Pour it around your bathroom and scrub it in gently, then walk away for 30 minutes. Once you come back, scrub it again then spray away with cold water and it will be clean as fuck. No real elbow grease required.
edit: misspelled vinegar.
I definitely just screenshotted your comment so I can try this later. Thank youuuu
quick question cause I wanna try this myself: when you put it in the microwave, what heat level? like lower, higher?
I've heard people say vinegar is good for cleaning but doesn't it smell really strong?
I'm sensitive to smells so I feel like if I tried it and it made my bathroom smell it would be really difficult for me.
@@jaymercer4692 my last roommate used to do straight vinegar in the kitchen every 2 days and I couldn't handle the smell so I started buying cleaners that were all "natural" etc with nice scents and she let me use that instead lol. But it sounds good for deep cleaning a bathroom once every couple weeks.
I just use bathroom spray and let it sit for 30 seconds
I really love the stream of thought conversation and quick fire jokes. I’m going to try cleaning along next time but I guarantee it’ll take me 5 times as long. So it’s just a starting point.
My plan is to throw these into a playlist to clean along to
@@iamuhura me too
It’s not a race. Even if you take 5x as long or only do 1/5th as much you still did something and you should be proud of that:)
I like seeing Noah do chores. Sometimes chores can feel therapeutic but sometimes it can just be so difficult to keep on top of it. I have no idea why these chill videos are so calming to me but they help me de-stress.
get a little dehumidifier for the space! it's been a lifesaver for my bathroom :) they work better when it's hot and humid but it still gets some juice out of the air in cooler/slightly drier spaces :) also I love your yapping, it's like hanging with my adhd friends haha
Going just off that line in the thumbnail, yeah its not.
I used to be so miserable when I was younger (I still dabble in it from time to time) and along with that came the complete lack of self-confidence, the self-deprecating jokes, the I’m-toughing-it-out attitude.
Felt like the only appropriate approach to existing in THIS world, as if I was more virtuous for it than someone seemingly unaware of how bad things are.
Fuck that shit though. All being miserable does is make you small, powerless, and unpleasant. I didn’t learn it on my own though, I have Animal Collective’s music and wellbutrin to thank for that.
Even so, now that I’m on the other side more often than not I can see that it’s simply undeniable that misery is an illness that you must always be treating. Your value to yourself, your community, and collective society as a whole is only diminished when you’re miserable.
I have fibromyalgia and cfs so cleaning things is really difficult for me (specifically finishing the chore, my body gives out long before my brain is finished with the task) and it’s very frustrating and I’m often ashamed and annoyed at how easily I become tired out. But this made me feel less ashamed of it and I cleaned along with this video and I cleaned my toilet, my shower seat and my bathroom sink and wiped the countertop! A small change but it all feels much better!
Love watching other people in their 20s struggle to figure out if theyre cleaning correctly ❤
This is a very validating channel, just make sure you keep it how you like it. Cleaning and talking is exhausting.
I think you're getting the job done just fine with that dish soap (and I bet it smells amazing)- but I also have a moldy bathroom like your sister(no fan+humidish climate) and my way of dealing with cleaning the shower (well the bathroom as a whole) is clean all the bathroom surfaces first (including scrubbing the walls and ceiling- my bathroom is teeny and has a low ceiling), then the toilet, the floor (Swiffer), THEN- clean the shower while I'm in it, getting clean myself (since I'm probably grungy after cleaning the rest of the bathroom). I turn on the spray so the hot water gets some steam going to loosen up anything, then I scrub down the shower while I condition my hair. I used to clean my shower with clothes on and it was a pain in the ass for me- trying to rinse different parts while not getting sprayed myself. This has worked much better, hope this helps someone who also hates doing their shower.
I also hate doing my shower and getting sprayed - my solution is every weekend I wear my oldest clothes that I don't care about and clean my house top to bottom then have a bath at the end of it. Sometimes I'll hoover through on one day and do the polishing/scrubbing on the next day if I need to do a deeper clean. Ngl though sometimes I skip a week and then all hell breaks loose 😬
im a very introverted adhd person who likes listening to yapping that doesn't need 100% focus...this video is so chefs kiss for my brain
I would benefit immensely from having someone chatter at me like this continuously all day every day
@@10whatsmyname01 right??? i so agree
i appreciate the lack capitalisation. and its always nice to hear someone who thinks the same shit as me.
also fuck the algorithm has me by the balls
Devon Price wrote Laziness Does Not Exist. His second book, Unmasking Autism, was my favorite non-fiction read of 2023, and I'm looking fotward to the book he's writing about shame.
I listened to Laziness Does Not Exist recently and it's good, but I'm a sicko who never gets tired of hearing "capitalism bad" from slightly different angles
Read that book - enjoyed it quite a bit. The authors other work is a little...questionable but this was some good work.
Well I mean it is so all-encompassing and influential at the deepest level of society that ignoring it is ignoring reality. Capitalism colours the words we use in our day-to-day interactions, it changes our perception of time, relationships, people, and goals. To pretend it isn't a factor in just about every issue in the world is honestly just false.
@@Cobalt985I dunno, critiques of capitalism as being the only framework that causes hardship or require industriousness seem myopic. people have been toiling since long before money or even barter were an idea in someone's head. work or starve is the natural order for all life, and while your boss wouldn't invent a concept like limiting work to 40 hours per week if it didn't already exist, I don't think people framing the problem this way have the solution.
@@xXx_Regulus_xXxfor me I get frustrated with the conclusion of these statements. Okay, let’s accept the premise that capitalism is to blame for all of modern woes, what next? It isn’t simply enough to state a problem because that doesn’t lead to change. This thinking creates a sense of lack of autonomy that makes it difficult for people to enable themselves to make decisions. Even if the autonomy is constrained, we need to feel some sense of ownership over ourselves and communities (in terms of who we are and what we contribute), otherwise the descent into nihilism is far too easy.
I simply have no time for the shorthand ‘capitalism causes all problems’ without exploring what that means to the person saying it. I find so many arguments to be differences in people stating what the world is vs. what the world should be and making no distinction between the two.
at least you can admit you have a strong bias and your judgement is clouded because of it.
I love your videos! They actually motivate me to do boring tasks, and I agree with the laziness take. Now everything has to be done fast and you have to constantly be working on the next thing, and as a creative I find it exhausting and I think it's actually ruining creative spaces. I wish the world was a little more "lazy".
cleaning a bathroom is an act of love. bless you and your working sister and the pets.
I was having a shit day after work and this motivated me to clean my bathroom and now I will take a bath after dinner, thank you for this content 🙏
noah, thank you for these. I started watching these videos while I was still living with my boyfriend and it was helping me get better. He took all his things out of the apartment while I was at work, I came home to a half empty, messy, broken home. He was there and told me it was over. we talked and talked and cried and cried. I'm trying to get better and have been waiting for the next video, this hits close. Thank you for this self help content, everything feels hard but I'm sure I can get better and stop being so miserable without him. lots of love
i deal with bipolar disorder and adhd and i genuinely needed this cleaning vlog rn thank you so much im serious, getting up and cleaning with you was incredible
Honestly this is so wholesome that you are helping your sister clean. Its so true, having a full time job makes keeping up detailed level cleaning really hard. You are a blessing to help her when she needs it.
As someone who’s been disabled for the better (worse) part of 6 years now, most people aren’t lazy, but they’re overworked physically and mentally and need a break. I haven’t “worked” a job. That was fine for a year or so after having gone gas pedal down non-stop from 15-20 (and really go-go from 6-20) to get into a good university and then graduate from said university. I needed the break. I didn’t want to do anything. That is absolutely seen as lazy. But after some time, I wanted to work, to produce for humanity, to “be useful.”
Humans aren’t meant to produce like this. Endlessly growing production that’s often not tangible and far off. We’re supposed to produce with our hands, god dammit. “It feels good to make things” - some league character’s quote 100%, but I don’t remember who.
Not sure if anyone has mentioned, but what you're doing is great for ADHD people. It's helpful to watch someone doing something because it helps us mimic or "moral support."
Laziness is on purpose. But wanting to do things but can't, is not laziness at all.
Thank you for these, it’s like a reminder to do something productive for 15 minutes with someone. Honestly would love a podcast, your voice is very soothing.
Hey I clicked because of the title, but when i got the invitation to maybe also clean my bathroom, i did and it was very nice. Just a comment of appreciation 😊
Laziness doesn't exist but half-assery does.
Your sister probably comes home and is like "Where is my Bathroom chair? How am I suppose to have my shower conversations without my bathroom chair!?!"
i occasionally just wiped some of the crud off my screen and pretended you were cleaning my monitor so thank you noah its so clear now
im struggling dawg. my adhd is something fierce. Sometimes i feel like i will truly *never* be able to live life like a "normal" person, with a 9-5 job etc etc. and it makes me feel terrible. its relaxing to see you clean this bathroom (and inspiring) and hear you talk about this so normally and casually. I also cried shortly before opening this video! i feel seen by Noah Time who said he also cried not long before hitting record. being miserable is not a virtue, and also, i appreciate that yours isnt stuffed away. i dunno. im typing over you talking now, i just feel connected to another human right now as ive been struggling to recently. thank you dude
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It’s been a rough couple of years (gosh, probably more than a couple). I live in a fascist dictatorship and feel lonely and miserable every day. People in my family love the war, my friends left the country, I can’t seem to find happiness anywhere and I cry every day. I’m glad RUclips suggested your video, it made me feel not so insignificant. I had a beer and a sandwich after a tiresome day at work, watched you cleaning this bathroom and telling us your silly (and not so silly) thoughts. It felt good. Thank you
You dont live in a fascist dictatorship. Cringe
thank you for making this, it’s so odd that your videos came up on my explore page today because i really needed it today
love how real these videos are, and how legitimately helpful they are for those w mental struggles
you were so real for saying ignoring your jungler's pings is therapeutic
Great, comforting chat, Noah. Thanks. 🥰 It's extra special because you were helping your sister at the same time. Thank you to her for sharing her space with us. 💖
I really appreciate these videos A TON! even if it's just a person talking to a camera while doing tasks it's helped me a lot with my lack of motivation and I hope to see more soon!!
I didn't realize how awesomely simple this kind of content is.
Beautifully articulated and vibe of a video
Love you man, thank you
Hey man, loved this chill talk while cleaning. It’s super motivating and hilarious. Appreciate you making this content.
Listening to this while doing chores, the vibes are immaculate
I think, in the days we live in, taking the time to improve yourself indirectly makes the world a better place. I'm taking a long weekend becuase i felt exhausted all the time, and i almost feel guilty that im doing what i need to to take care of myself.
Thank you for helping me change over the laundry and vacuum. I’ve been in a house cleaning slump lately because working full time and being a parent is fucking hard. ❤ you.
I swear my algorithm is working overtime for the way it recommended this video to me literally the moment that I needed it. The way that you explain things is genuinely so enlightening as well as comforting. I hope you have an amazing day!
I just cleaned my kitchen for the first time in a while while watching this, I’m taking a little break right now but it’s almost done so thanks for being vulnerable I really needed that
This video filled my cup as if I was spending time with a thoughtful friend. Thanks man.
I love these videos! watching you clean and talk about whatever is so calming :)
This is the first video on this channel that I watched while actually also doing household chores, and goddamn it really adds to it ^^
This has been really healing actually.😅 I truly love your content thank you
*“take care of the world…what is this? f**king thanos?”* took me out hahaha thank you Noah you are a cool human being
I have two Clorox toilet wands with single-use, pre-soaped heads: one for the tub and shower, one for the toilet. Now I actually sometimes clean them, no fussy prep or clean up for my chronically ill, disabled, and AuDHD self. Please be kind to each other about resource use: Reduce, re-use, recycle when we can, but it's megacorps like Nestle that waste, pollute, and exploit us into our current environment. A healthy, comfortable, and loving living space is more important than whether you can afford a dishwasher. Love, luck, and spoons (energy) to y'all. 💜🍀🥄
I meant to say use a dishwasher or wash by hand, as affordability is only one factor. The main point is that it's a dehumanizing distraction to argue over, or focus on, who is the best at min-maxing carbon footprint behaviors, when healing and global change can only happen with cooperation and solidarity. 💜🍀🥄
I finally got around to cleaning my bathrooms and the kitchen is next. This talk really made me feel less awful about not having the energy to clean lately. Thank you!
I have to clean my bathroom today, this is perfect
I really appreciate you talking about laziness. I think a lot of what you talked about it is stuff I had heard before and parically internalized, but my mom has been I guess poking fun at my "laziness"? And it's been hard for me to vocalize why I have a problem with her calling me lazy even in a light hearted way
random but when i saw your name i immediately thought about how it’s literally สามเสน in Thai and then i saw your tattoo, cool
I was never taught how to properly clean my bathroom so I always feel like I'm doing it wrong when I attempt it. I learned a lot watching you and it's made the whole thing feel a lot less intimidating, so thank you ^-^.
I was cleaning the bathroom and looking for a vid and this literally popped up tysm 😂💖
Never seen your videos before, got recommended this, very glad I clicked. You’re super funny but also very articulate, without being pretentious. Subbed
No but can I say how much I appreciate these videos? I’ve had depression for the majority of my life, doing better now. But, my bathroom has literally been on the avoidance list for months. Only recently have I been tackling it, and idk it just feels nice to know I’m not the only one who is trying to navigate these things. :’)
Also, this channel feels like things are write in my journal or convos I have w my bffs🖤🖤🖤
tip from a hotel housekeeper: dish soap is great for glass showers but with titling or vinyl like this, it's better to use a bleach-based cleaner. When I'm at home and cleaning, i use an all purpose spray on nearly everything and then go in with diluted bleach as-needed. (vinegar also works but i prefer bleach) I also would have used a janitorial rag (or an old washcloth) on all that detailing. You can take your index finger and trace all those corners, something a sponge can't really do. I also just soak my shower curtain in the tub (i'd use a storage container if i had a shower like this) with hot water and bleach, then re hang it to let it air dry. They repel water so taking them out of a washer usually makes a huge mess even after a spin dry.
Something about this video made me feel really safe. Thanks Noah! You are also a great brother 🥺
I love these kinds of videos. They're great to listen to while doing some of my own cleaning. Thank you Noah 💜
This is so comforting
Bro, keep up the content. Hearing you chat with the audience and be chill and so accepting is good for my soul 💛
House cleaner here. I love this video. I too find cleaning therapeutic. I often talk to myself and work through lifes' problems as i go, fully realizing that everyone i work for has cameras everywhere in their house. Hopefully they enjoy my therapy sessions as much as i do.
Laziness is a difficult concept. Its fine to do as little as you want.. until that inaction makes your life or the lives of thoae around you worse
Hey bro! I quit league threw out my pc 7 days ago! Your channel popped up 2 days into my journey. I just want to say your videos are so relatable and inspire to push out of my comfort zone. Getting help with mental health and trying for the first time in my life to beat my low self esteem! Keep making more videos you the goat!
This was such a specific video that RUclips recommended to me, but gotta say they nailed it. Subscribed!
Love the title. Just got broken up with about 3 weeks ago and I’ve been miserable since, but worse than that I’ve been wallowing in that misery. Pitying myself in a way that keeps me miserable. Feeling lightly virtuous of that misery in some weird way. Being sad for being sad. I think I’m done with that.
Anyways thanks man. Loved the video, loved the vibes, love the content, and the yapping.
I really appreciate this video and how it's inspiring me to clean up the bathroom. Whenever someone irl teaches me to clean or I watch classic How To videos it leaves me feeling pressured instead of internally motivated. This video shows me how to do it, but you don't care one way or another if I end up using these lessons in my own life. You're just talking about your own stuff, and I know it would make you happy that others are cleaning w your help, but you don't Expect it of anyone. More of a pleasant surprise type reaction. That's so nice 🎉😊 It makes me feel calm enough to actually learn and even if I don't get any cleaning today, I won't hate myself for it. In part, because I know you genuinely will not get mad or feel insulted. It's a real "take what you need from this" situation which is what helps me best. Thank you ❤
I didn't know your channel but right now I'm dealing with a huge mess in my house. It's been maybe four days of trying to get things together and clean and make things work. It's not going great, but it's going.
I find really funny and convenient I have found your channel in this particular moment of physical (and emotional) chaos that i am trying to overcome.
Thanks buddy
“i dunno if dish soap is the right thing to use for a shower but fuck itttt” helped my anxiety w/ cleaning products. i see all these cleaning tiktoks and they have a million products and brushes and sponges and sometimes i feel like cleaning just isn’t worth the investment. good to know i can clean whatever w/ whatever as long as it at least somewhat works and isn’t outright dangerous :0
Damn, i needed to watch this, im always working so i sometimes let my place get out of hand but seeing my place not clean does bother me. Thank you for this video man for some reason it was kinda therapeutic
Such good vibes. It felt like another bro chatting with me, but about the serious mental health topics, not just empty small talk.
FINALLY SOME GOOD FKIN VIDEOS ON THE INTERWEBS! love whatever genre this is. ppl talking at length about various topics while doing a task in a game or real life - just excellent
Never seen one of your videos but even just reading through the comments has really helped. I’m sick right now and been struggling for like 4 years to do anything with my life. I’m supposed to graduate this year but I can’t now, and I have no idea how I’m gonna support myself and move out.
That bit about league actually really surpriesed me, I didnt expect such a cool looking and down to earth person to play that game
I am very drawn to narratives about how I can “improve myself”, and it’s been to my detriment. Much of my motivation comes from the anxiety around not reaching a certain state of improvement, and I am constantly thinking about the future of myself and the world, I’m never in the present. I definitely think each of us has a lot of good we can be doing for ourselves and others. I just want to point out that the concept of improvement is so loaded now that it can trap people. Perhaps we can find better language around doing good, over time.
I love your humor. It’s very comforting.
I was super stressed about all I had to do today. I don’t know why but watching you clean helped me.
this is amazing thank you for the cleaning monologue video. also i wanted to share!! the whole perspective about how cleaning or zoning out on games can be meditative is true but its called "transcendental meditation" if you want to dive into that rabbit hole. Im sorry for whatever is occurring in your life that is hurting your heart and i hope you are able to find solace through and after. im glad that cleaning the bathroom helped you process those events. keep being you!