SaturnDan As someone with experience, it’s always better to get your feelings out instead of keeping it in. It’s that build up of shame and anger and sadness that allows us to feed into negative feelings. That allows us to contemplate hurting ourselves and suicide. In the end, it allows them to win and for us to always lose. So, to get it out there is most definitely worth it.
@@fromthearth laine If you are really in a situation like this you really need to tell someone about it and get help as soon as possible. please you need to get it out of you.. how old are you anyway? Well I am in no place or state to be compared to you.. but I know that secrets and buried emotions gets heavy overtime. It can affect your behavior development if you're young and ultimately your life. Opening up about it helps... Also the older you get the more you'd be able to face your problems. I hope you are okay now? Please don't be afraid.. Please be strong.
Because it's done by somebody you trust, it hurts much more, and when it's done on a persistent basis (like by a family member) it makes the process of recovering from it that much more difficult. Note how Charlie is also defending her - something which is very typical of abuse victims since they can't bring themselves to admit that somebody who is meant to love and care for them would so completely betray them.
@@hyethga So true. The abuser has power over the victim when the victim defends their abuser. One because the victim blames themselves and the other is that if the victim stops defending the abuser then they end up admitting the events were real and it was abuse.
@@lostpdreams He was about to attempt suicide and since he was overwhelmed with the repressed memories coming to the surface of him being sexually abused, he looked to the only answer to his panic attack which was slitting his arms. (like him seeing the scars on his aunt's hands in one of his memories)
When I realised what had happened to him I started to crack and when he was ordering himself to stop crying I felt shattered. I think anyone who has ever had an anxiety attack and ordered yourself to stop because you know you’re on the brink can relate to that scene.
This movie is the reason why I was able to deal with the fact that my cousin molested me when I was younger. No one know how much it destroys relationships and your brain. How it makes you react to things that no one else would react to. How it feels like everything is going wrong and you’re a burden.
you deserve all the happiness in the world. i’m sorry because i don’t know the details, i just hope things will get better for you and wish you all the best.
When I was fourteen I was touched by a heroine addict my mom allowed to be a roommate of ours. It was my first sexual experience and I didn't really know how to say no to the advances. Later in college the first girl I ever shared sex with I ended having a convulsing panic attack on top of her while we were making out and she understood immediately understood me and opened up about how hearing someone's heartbeat gives her anxiety because her dad died in front of her from a heart attack when she was 8. It's strange but I think that was the only time in recent memory where I really connected to another person. Since then I don't think I've ever really connected completely because that pain makes sense to me and I don't know how to be on the same wave length as healthy people. I feel the same way you do about the movie. I hope everything works out for people like us.
I wasn't really actually sexually assaulted but at my last job, they had cameras but one of the owners sons I guess watched the cameras to watch my co-workers and I work basically. He was watching us for his own pleasure pretty much, watching a bunch of young girls trying to do there jobs. It's not my only experience with creepy stuff like that but I was fully clothed and yet I felt violated. It's not the only thing that happened that involved I guess abuse and stuff. I just recalled this a couple days ago. Trying to just move on or something. I'm so sorry you were sexually assaulted.
This scene right here encompasses everything there is about being an altruistic empath with a history of trauma and emotional/mental/physical abuse. I just laughed the first time I saw this out of pure bewilderment, I was blown away that someone, anyone was able to put into words what I could never articulate myself. My heart goes out to you all struggling with suicidal ideation, carrying everyone's pain around like stones, your hearts deserve so much love and peace. Find that reason to keep going, no matter how small.
I’ve read and watched this story more times than I would like to admit, but it has the power to heal me, at least a bit, every single time. I had the same feeling you described. Just: “Sweet Jesus, someone can vomit everything going on in my head like a threaded mess, perfectly”. I’ll be massively grateful to Stephen Chbosky until I die.
I am crying right now while I'm typing this but I no longer feel alone with feeling as I do. I constantly see pain all around me and am desperate to help everyone but at the same time, it's causing me so much pain within myself, that I struggle with anxiety and depression and need the help, somehow, myself. The pain in the world is so suffocating and I just want it to stop but I know full well it never will and that saddens me tbh.
altruistic empath.....the word....the being....the feeling....to want to help...to want to....godd....this is so peacefully painful...i...i....am not good at english, but i guess i am not alone anymore....thankyou....
“There is so much pain... and I ugh... I don’t know how to not notice it. No it’s not me.... it’s everyone, it never stops” this is an underrated comment for me. It all trickles down and throughout everyone person you know including urself. Being abused, molested, lied to, and neglected. Some people really do see more in detail and it can take a certain toll on them. I wish everyone I loved and even to those I don’t know never have to feel pain ever again
I hope all of you going through this (or anything similar to it) find peace. I really do. It breaks my heart. No one deserves to go through life like this.
@@majestic_fleur2899 She's going through highschool too (which is usually one of the most difficult times of your life) and is in a dead-end, abusive relationship. In the beginning you just think she's a bad person, but you learn that she's just fighting her own battle. At the end, you can tell that she cares very deeply for Charlie.
@@t.n.h.ptheneohumanpatterna8334 given how the aunt specifically said, "Don't wake your sister." Gives me the impression she tried to be as quiet as possible when she was around, and would do it when she was fast asleep so she wouldn't be able to see it
I see myself in this scene. I see the battle going on and it hurts. Charlie is fortunate enough to have family that love and support him. My heart thinks to those who don’t.
The vast majority, my family for example mine which is Jehovah Witnesses and don’t know the damage they have put me through always blaming me for everything
@@foxcharin It’s alright but it really fucked me in so many ways like for example they didn’t allowed us to have non Jehova Witnesses friends which is BS now I’m retarded socially
This twist was everything to me. I felt so attached to her aunt that when it was revealed. I couldn't stop crying that I had to watch the last part again.
When I saw this movie for the first time (I only watched it once), I was so confused watching the flashbacks. This scene though... You know that feeling when you're so upset that you could throw up? That's what I felt watching this scene. People like Charlie's aunt disgust me, no one, let alone a *child* should experience this! What is wrong with people?!
this part is all too real. trying my best every day to recover from my childhood and I have this movie to thank in part. nothing’s completely hopeless.
@@OsoApple idk i don't know you but stay strong my friend! Sometimes time is the best antidepressant u got, i hope you'll be even better day by day, take care!
this was one of the best representations of a suicidal breakdown I've ever seen. but then, the illusion was totally ruined by the fact charlie was alone in the hospital room with flowers AND two lamps. way too dangerous. the only lights in most psych ward rooms are leds in walls. and flowers? not unless you're a low-risk longterm patient. and it was so realistic until then too! argh idk why im so pissed over these tiny details.
@@diilnuv7052 the can be poisonous. not lethally but someone who's a suicide risk still wouldn't be allowed them in case they ate them. they're sometimes also not allowed things like soap because they are mildly poisonous.
I related to this scene so much. I was sexually abused by my aunt and I thought it was normal until I was 16. I was ashamed to admit what she did to me. I was embarrassed to admit a woman abused me, especially since I’m male. It was even worse when my family (my mom’s side, my dad believed me) said I was lying and an attention seeker.
I've got news for you, dude. You are not an attention seeker. You're human, you just experienced a horrific moment in your life. Being abused by anyone in any way, even if it's by a woman. It's disgusting and I'm sorry that you went through that. We all go through a lot of things in life, including the pain, agony and suffering that you experienced and also the depression. I just hope that one day you'll find some happiness in your life. I'm telling you, any female would be lucky and happy to have you in their life. That lucky lady would also be happy to spend the rest of her life with you, bro. Do not doubt yourself.
As a female.. I am so sorry brothers. Really sorry. No one should experience this and... the worst part is when no one believes you. I am so sorry. You deserve so much better.
Logan Lerman is a gift. How he acted in this made many people in my family have a “ah fuck” moment if you will and say I remind them of Charlie and how Charlie reminded them of me. Thank you Charlie for all the help when I want to break. Sincerely, A friend
I remember how he wrapped his arms around me to tell me it would all be okay, and that the pain will go away soon. But it never did. Ever since that day that he first did it, it feels like my insides are bleeding. I feel dirty no matter how many times i scrub at my skin in the shower. I can always feel his breathe against my right ear, I can’t bear to look at myself in the mirror anymore without seeing some vulnerable boy that could’ve stopped it. Everyone tells me that it wasn’t my fault but I sure don’t believe that. I feel broken, forever broken. I can’t even handle people embracing me anymore. So what’s the point in living in this reality where he gets to live life to his fullest when I’m stuck here forever feeling like the little kid i once was, i remember telling my friend about what happened to me and all he did was laugh and say that you would never do that to me. You didn’t seem like the type of person to do those things, but you did. Nowadays I still flinch and despise taking pictures because of what you’ve done to me. Each time the camera would flicker you’d strip more of my innocence away, and no matter how many times you apologize I won’t forget those 4 years that you ruined me. To my Older Cousin
Hey Finney ...I recently stumbled upon your comment..and it brought tears to my eyes...I'm very sorry about what you had to go through...I know I don't know who you are but I pray and hope that you are doing well I hope that you are happy in your life...may God always protect you! May you be loved by many people P.s im sorry for sending this reply so late...again I hope that you are doing great!
My mom tried to kill herself in front of me 3 yrs ago and I still see it every now and then. I have really bad trauma because of it. Sometimes I feel as though it was my fault but I know there were some things I couldn’t fix if I tried
Hey I know that this might not help but know that it’s not your fault and neither your moms. It was because of depression and I know that doesn’t help that much but it wasn’t your fault. Your were 3 years old. I really don’t know what to say but I hope all the good luck to you.
@@jesusa_ikher me too. I had to stop my mom from doing it and Im still recovering from the shit that it's caused me. You're not alone my friend. I'm very happy to know yourse still here and alive and it makes me feel a lot of comfort that I'm not the only one who's went through that. I love you man.
I related so much to this scene when I saw this the first time, I bawled my eyes out when he tries to stop it from happening, saying "don't cry, stop crying." Not to mention, "I don't know how to not notice it" and "it never stops."
"Dear Friend" So, back when I was in college in the 90s, my college girlfriend told me that the main character of this book kept reminding her of me. I was a little curious, but couldn't do much about it because I struggled with reading comprehension. However, since then, I have seen the movie and I am in the process of getting the book to read now that my reading comprehension has improved. I know that it's been awhile since I have been in high school, but I'm anxious to find a "relatable character". I am writing this specifically to try to reach someof the other Charlies out there, if you have healed from whatever happened, how did you do it ? Were you ever able to genuinely trust and be able to give and receive love? Thanks for your time. Love always, John
Hey Jon, I know it's hard but I need to believe that you, me and all the others already have the capacity to love and give and trust as you so beautifully put it, within ourselves. The most valuable thing you can give to anyone is honesty, your time and attention, and that includes toward yourself. And when you are kind, truly kind to others you are also being kind to yourself. Ask for what you need from the people who love you, spend time outside and follow your intuition, that's my advice to myself so maybe it'll help you too. Love always
Dear John, I can't really write anything in a collected sort of way, but yeah, I have gone through some tough times. I'm actually going through something even now. But what I've learnt from my life that you'll always have the chance to be better, to get better. You'd be able to be happy. And everything that happens to you doesn't happen for a reason, but you can turn it into something that is your story. I don't know if you're religious or not, but I am, so a lot of my thoughts and hopes are about God and spirituality. Even if you are not religious, you can always believe that we're something more than we look or feel like- it's an amazing thing. So to everyone who's reading this, to everyone who's struggling, love yourself, love your people out there, take care of each other. Listen and learn. Hope and pray. Promise it'll all make sense again. Promise. Love always, Someone Just Like You.
Dear John I am similar to Charlie, except Charlie's story is more heartbreaking compared to mine, friend, these past years have been tough, I'm actually 1yrs old, I don't remember a lot of things, everything's a big blur, ever since I've regained my senses, things are starting to be okay, I can feel now, I can have emotions, and that's everything, I tried coffee this year in 2020, my heart rate didn't spike, it's the little things that keep me going, I tell myself I'm not just a sad story, I'm better now, I have people who love me, but they don't like me, I'm moving to the usa next year, a new start, I hope I can have a new beginning, I can also dream now, I dream of becoming a writer, I dream of having a friend like Charlie, genuine and kind, I'm moving forward and I hope you do too. I hope you attain happiness, love always - Atlas 17
@@alicechase9290 Hey Alex I am writing this letter to tell you that I am suffering the same as you. It feels like hell. I cannot cry cause I got people near me, my mom and family. I want to follow my dream as a singer in USA. I don't if I'll be able to go to the USA but I just hope that I will get my destiny. I will definitely pray that your dreams get fulfilled and you get better people in the USA who don't hurt you. And about me I am definitely fighting, I swear I will never suicide. Although it is becoming a little bit tough these days cause my exams are going on so I gotta concentrate on them but it is tough to concentrate cause there is always that feeling of sadness that can't be cured. I swear this is the worst feeling. But meeting all you people in the comment section makes me feel so good. I wish I could meet people like y'all in real life. I hope I could talk more with you guys. But that's ok I'll surely find☺ Love always Sarabjeet
Dear whomever you are, I kind of am like the guy in this movie. I wasn't really abused by ant adult in my family unless you count emotional abuse and neglect as that. I was sort of I guess in a way abused by a few of the adults at my elementary school. Mostly, my mom and I would tell them more then once that the other kids were picking on me and stuff and the teachers wouldn't do anything. Sometimes it got physical too and even sort of sexual abuse too or sexual harassment. That was from preschool to the 12th grade. I watched this movie during my first mental breakdown.
this scene triggered me so badly, i'd just been discharged from partial hospitalization and watched this in summer school... I sat in the parking lot after trying not to cry
I thought about this scene when I was admitted to the hospital for mental health reasons. The anxiety was debilitating, the panic attacks were getting worse and nearing double digits daily. I got help, I was able to start healing. Therapy, Medication and time. If you're struggling, please advocate for yourself. There ARE people who care and want you to get better, as hard as it can be to accept that when youre going through you have to hold out for that hope
Im gonna vent because I have nobody to talk to about it and this movie reached to me. I was 9 and my dad's cousin at first he seemed like such a cool dude such a caring loving and sweet guy but when he started to visit my family more often, he started to be way too affectionate and touchy, he showed affection the same way as my dad but it always felt wrong it didnt feel like your typical family member that loves their niece, it felt sexual but at the time I didn't realize how wrong it was. The one thing that did confirm to me how he had officially molested not just me but now my sisters to was 4 years lated when he reached my dad again and decided to visit and bring his parents too. As soon as he entered through that door I felt that same uncomfortable vibe he'd always bring when he'd hug me. I didn't want to admit it i didn't want to think about it. That guy without shame locked himself and my sister in the bathroom and did whatever molestors do to my little sister. I remember how lifeless her eyes looked, how she seemed so confused and uncomfortable coming out with that man. I asked her what he did to her and it was just unexplicable the stuff she was telling me that moment. The rest of the day I tried so hard for that man to stay away from her and locked ourselves for hours till he left, I didn't care if my parents scolded me for being disrespectful to the guests. I gained the courage to tell my mom that same day and im so so glad she believed me. That day felt like a horrible nightmare, I remember every single piece of that day, how scared I was, how much I was shaking knowing that I was right all the time and that I failed to protect my sister from him but it was far too late to have done anything by that point. I pray everyday that that man suffers for what he did to my sister and if not I will find a way to make him sorry for it. This movie has reasonated with me like no other movie has ever and I truly hope my sister can heal from that trauma and that her brain buries that memory as far far down as possible.
This hit me hard when I watched this scene..I never had a breakdown but I also lived through a similar event. It's weird and I don't know how I deal with it but I sometimes do realize certain things I do happen at unconscious level...like.. my aversion to priests and lack of trust issues with strangers to a weird level or things that arise with any shred of intimacy. I realized something the other day. I feel like I'm being used. I feel like I'm just a body and I feel like anyone that tries to get close to me in any intimate/romantic sense has wants something from me. Deep down I know there are issues but I guess I grew comfortable with shoving it deep in my subconscious where I can't actually see anymore. I guess this scene helped me realize something that has always been there. It's ok to not be ok.
I can totally understand where and why charlie feels what he feels because I have be in that place before myself some days I find myself back in that place
the scene with him crying is so sad, I basically did the same thing and would always find ways to try to make myself stop crying because I would get bullied for crying or shamed for it
The acting, cinematography, editing, and directing in this scene is unbelievable. Seriously, if anyone writes this movie off as another YA trendy film, they need to watch this scene and rethink that ideology.
It only helps that the writer of the book also wrote the screenplay, and stuck to his guns to also be the director when the movie went into production.
„Just tell me how to stop it [...] Seeing it. All their life’s, all the time - just, how, how do you stop seeing it? [...] There is soo much pain and I, I, I don’t know how to not notice it. [...] No, not me, it’s them, it’s everyone. It never stops, do you understand?“
This entire scene really resonates with me on a very deep level. The summer of last year was pretty shit. Honestly every time was really shit, but that summer had some definite highlights. I thankfully never suffered sexual abuse, but I have my fair share of emotional and familial trauma, as well as a slew of other problems that fucked with me for years. That shit just gets to you and overtakes your whole life. When Charlie was alone at home, walking through the house frantically, holding back his tears, and then finally looked at the knife, it’s exactly what it was like for me when I was close to harming myself with my own kitchen knife. I was just so stuck in my head for so long, and at that point I was overwhelmed with the cluster fuck of regrets, traumas, self hating, and my whole life just playing out with me wishing things were different. When you’re in that place it just seems like nothing ever went right, and that everything is your fault, and that everyone and everything would be better off without you. But in reality you’re probably just using that as an excuse to justify the selfish want of wanting to kill yourself because u hate everything about you. You do it for you. I ended up being sent to the ER after having admitted to how I constantly told myself to just kill myself already and the number of times I came close to acting upon it. The doctor that came into the room had such a similar voice to the one in this clip, and it was a very weird feeling having my dad find out about everything. I’m doing my damn best rn to be in a better place, but goddamn it’s hard.
I hate that the number one comment on this is that we're broken. We're not broken. People did horrible stuff to us and we may have broken but we were kids and we didn't have much else we could do. We get better. We get older and stronger and we work on ourselves and we rebuild. WE'RE SO FUCKING AMAZING AND ABLE TO GROW AND CHANGE AND ONE DAY WE SEE IT ISN'T OUR FAULT AND IT NEVER WAS AND WE GET TO BE WELL. You can be well. You can wake up almost every day happy and proud of who you are. On the days you aren't you can be there for yourself and not punish yourself. It'll take work but it's there. Its as real as anything else in this fucked up world. DON'T LET PEOPLE WHO DON'T KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TELL YOU YOU CAN'T REBUILD YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU CAN. People like feeling like they're smart and know all the answers and "Oh look at those poor kids with their broke psyches" FUCK THAT!
I was surprised to find someone who came to the same conclusion as me. I don’t know what is it, but therapists always found a way to make me feel like crap. They give you this look that your fucking crazy, no sympathy at all. I hate them so much.
The scene when Charlie calls his sister. At first, she appears annoyed but wants to be supportive of him. It suddenly turns serious when Charlie questions if he killed his aunt....leading his sister to panic and realize the seriousness of the moment and that her brother Charlie is about to harm himself. To hear her voice crack as she screams his name is highly emotional and well acted.
The line he said about how to stop it..... I've not had the trauma or anything he went through, but that part, about all the pain, feeling everything, seeing everything and it's not yours...... That I felt. That I felt very deeply and I know that this is a movie and all, but I know that doctor didn't actually understand. You can know, you can hear, you can learn, but unless you live it, you can't truly understand what living like that is like.
I kind of feel a similar way to how he feels. I just remembered a lot of repressed memories that I have from school and my last job. I wasn't actually sexually assaulted but I remember certain things like at my last job, the owners oldest son (older then my coworkers and I) basically spying and watching us on the cameras. It wasn't just to make sure that we were doing our jobs though. There were other things too like abuse in general. I've had people threaten to kill me/beat me up, I've been beat up before, people act creepy in certain ways towards me, etc. My family was more abusive in other ways like emotionally and verbally abusive. Watching this movie kind of helps me to deal with it all. Edit: My mom has hit me before too. I was actually physically assaulted both at school and at work mostly though.
I was also sexually abused. They punched in the crotch area and then tried to check if I was really a boy or girl because I said ow and groaned and my bosses son used to watch my coworkers and I on the cameras at my last job. I always felt afraid of him.
I feel ya 😔. I am actually dealing what charlie's dealing with since high school 'til now. Its kinda really hard for me because no one knows what i really feel. I never open up myself to anyone. I overthink all the things of what will happen if i tell them. Thats why now i still dont know what really is the answer to what i feel. I did not consult anyone even an expert about this coz i really have a hard time talking to someone. Most(or few) of us, deals with this kind of feelings, are not participating because we are not a good speaker nor having confidence to stand facing other people. Sorry if i dont elaborate very much coz its hard for me till now.
Even when I had a bad week and my cat put down in front of me, I went straight to watching this and stuff from 13 reasons why. I think I’m a masochist or something.
VADER 99 It’s more like a purging crying is very cathartic and it takes you off of your own problems and out of the disassociation is sometimes good sometimes you just need to feel bad but it’s easier when you feel bad about fictional characters so you can relate to rather than your own life and it sort of cathartic and away the story becomes almost like a surrogate
Believe me, I could imagine his pain. I also went through it, thank GOD My Best Friend and my Dad had saved my life 4 years ago, although I still have my scarred left wrist. But, I don’t seek vengeance, Just forgiveness from Jesus and to get better and blessings for the person who hurt me😢. Believe me, I’m more better than before and it made me STRONGER! Thank GOD!😊🙏🏻
The best thing about being broken is that it is so easy to put things back together. All you need is time and the right set of tools. Don’t give up on yourself.
I feel so dumb I didn't get this right away and didn't understood why he was blaming himself for her death. I really thought he looked up to his aunt and only got the hint when he was writing those letters. I'm so naive.
I think his sister did witness it is just she was little as well so she didn't understand and as they got older and she thought about it more she did start to understand.
Ok, hear me out, I have a reason of depression, I don’t want to sound bad or anything, but I feel like I’ve lost and been through more than most can handle, at just the age of 8 months I was malnourished and neglected, at the age of 2-13 I was abused physically, mentally, and sexually (only once though) by both parents and their friends, at the age of 4 I was beat to the verge of breaking down totally, at the age of 6 I was raped, at 7 I lost my father to suicide one day after my birthday, when I was 8 my mother was addicted to drugs, at that point on I was abused and neglected, malnourished, starved, and was also abused by her girlfriend, I am quite unintelligent, this sounds stupid but also very unlucky and Unattractive, I was broken and still suffer from trauma to this day, I… don’t think I long for this world, or contribute much, I will always be alone, I don’t understand why this happened, but there is nothing I can do about it
@ChronorisI think she was abused as a child, and had a similar depressive disorder to Charlie (he said before, that him and his aunt were similar people) Is there ever a good reason, though?
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I read all the comments but I’m still having a little bit of trouble understanding this movie I saw it the first time and I still didn’t quite understand could somebody please explain it. Did his aunt do something to him
@Chronoris its hard to understand, he always felt bad because her life wasnt good, and also he was so young so it may took long for him to realise that it wasnt correct, that it really wasnt normal what she was doing. and sexual abuse victims feel guilty for what they suffer.
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This scene make me sob. Admitting that someone abused you is humiliating and stomach churning and hard, but after it gets out there it's so worth it.
TheBriBoat you really think so?
SaturnDan Ik im not the original poster but from personal experience i would say TheBriBoat.
SaturnDan As someone with experience, it’s always better to get your feelings out instead of keeping it in.
It’s that build up of shame and anger and sadness that allows us to feed into negative feelings. That allows us to contemplate hurting ourselves and suicide.
In the end, it allows them to win and for us to always lose.
So, to get it out there is most definitely worth it.
I am dealing with the same but I just can not say it
@@fromthearth laine If you are really in a situation like this you really need to tell someone about it and get help as soon as possible. please you need to get it out of you.. how old are you anyway?
Well I am in no place or state to be compared to you.. but I know that secrets and buried emotions gets heavy overtime. It can affect your behavior development if you're young and ultimately your life. Opening up about it helps... Also the older you get the more you'd be able to face your problems. I hope you are okay now? Please don't be afraid.. Please be strong.
It’s terrible when children are molested, doesn’t matter if it was a stranger, a friend or a family member. It’s a crime and they must be stopped.
@@sophiamundy2220 he was molested by his aunt
Because it's done by somebody you trust, it hurts much more, and when it's done on a persistent basis (like by a family member) it makes the process of recovering from it that much more difficult. Note how Charlie is also defending her - something which is very typical of abuse victims since they can't bring themselves to admit that somebody who is meant to love and care for them would so completely betray them.
it's terrible when anyone is molested
@@hyethga
So true. The abuser has power over the victim when the victim defends their abuser. One because the victim blames themselves and the other is that if the victim stops defending the abuser then they end up admitting the events were real and it was abuse.
They are both bad for sure, but I thin when its someone you love and trusts, its just a different kind of bad.
When he looked at the knife, my whole body clenched up in fear.
Queen Nala when I first saw it I thought he was gonna commit suicide.
I never understood why he looked at the knife. Did he hurt himself or did he just look at it
I burst out into tears. I couldn't stop crying. I could feel his pain.
I got excited. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
@@lostpdreams He was about to attempt suicide and since he was overwhelmed with the repressed memories coming to the surface of him being sexually abused, he looked to the only answer to his panic attack which was slitting his arms. (like him seeing the scars on his aunt's hands in one of his memories)
Nothing will ever choke me up like this scene did the first time I saw it
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@@traelonin AHSHAHHSHSHSHS
When I realised what had happened to him I started to crack and when he was ordering himself to stop crying I felt shattered. I think anyone who has ever had an anxiety attack and ordered yourself to stop because you know you’re on the brink can relate to that scene.
This movie is the reason why I was able to deal with the fact that my cousin molested me when I was younger. No one know how much it destroys relationships and your brain. How it makes you react to things that no one else would react to. How it feels like everything is going wrong and you’re a burden.
you deserve all the happiness in the world. i’m sorry because i don’t know the details, i just hope things will get better for you and wish you all the best.
Waffleita I'm so sorry to hear that :( I really hope you're well and better
When I was fourteen I was touched by a heroine addict my mom allowed to be a roommate of ours. It was my first sexual experience and I didn't really know how to say no to the advances. Later in college the first girl I ever shared sex with I ended having a convulsing panic attack on top of her while we were making out and she understood immediately understood me and opened up about how hearing someone's heartbeat gives her anxiety because her dad died in front of her from a heart attack when she was 8. It's strange but I think that was the only time in recent memory where I really connected to another person. Since then I don't think I've ever really connected completely because that pain makes sense to me and I don't know how to be on the same wave length as healthy people.
I feel the same way you do about the movie. I hope everything works out for people like us.
I wasn't really actually sexually assaulted but at my last job, they had cameras but one of the owners sons I guess watched the cameras to watch my co-workers and I work basically. He was watching us for his own pleasure pretty much, watching a bunch of young girls trying to do there jobs. It's not my only experience with creepy stuff like that but I was fully clothed and yet I felt violated. It's not the only thing that happened that involved I guess abuse and stuff. I just recalled this a couple days ago. Trying to just move on or something. I'm so sorry you were sexually assaulted.
You think because they are not adults that its safe.. it just destroys you
''There is so mu..ch p..pain and I dont know how to stop it''.
This scene right here encompasses everything there is about being an altruistic empath with a history of trauma and emotional/mental/physical abuse. I just laughed the first time I saw this out of pure bewilderment, I was blown away that someone, anyone was able to put into words what I could never articulate myself. My heart goes out to you all struggling with suicidal ideation, carrying everyone's pain around like stones, your hearts deserve so much love and peace. Find that reason to keep going, no matter how small.
❤️❤️💔💔
I’ve read and watched this story more times than I would like to admit, but it has the power to heal me, at least a bit, every single time. I had the same feeling you described. Just: “Sweet Jesus, someone can vomit everything going on in my head like a threaded mess, perfectly”. I’ll be massively grateful to Stephen Chbosky until I die.
I am crying right now while I'm typing this but I no longer feel alone with feeling as I do. I constantly see pain all around me and am desperate to help everyone but at the same time, it's causing me so much pain within myself, that I struggle with anxiety and depression and need the help, somehow, myself. The pain in the world is so suffocating and I just want it to stop but I know full well it never will and that saddens me tbh.
altruistic empath.....the word....the being....the feeling....to want to help...to want to....godd....this is so peacefully painful...i...i....am not good at english, but i guess i am not alone anymore....thankyou....
✊🏽😔
“There is so much pain... and I ugh... I don’t know how to not notice it. No it’s not me.... it’s everyone, it never stops” this is an underrated comment for me. It all trickles down and throughout everyone person you know including urself. Being abused, molested, lied to, and neglected. Some people really do see more in detail and it can take a certain toll on them. I wish everyone I loved and even to those I don’t know never have to feel pain ever again
I hope all of you going through this (or anything similar to it) find peace. I really do. It breaks my heart. No one deserves to go through life like this.
Yes.
His sister is fantastic!
true, though at first I didn't like her
@@majestic_fleur2899 She's going through highschool too (which is usually one of the most difficult times of your life) and is in a dead-end, abusive relationship. In the beginning you just think she's a bad person, but you learn that she's just fighting her own battle. At the end, you can tell that she cares very deeply for Charlie.
Logan lerman is amazing and talented actor.
Is anyone creeped out by the idea that Charlie's molestation might have happened right in front of his sister? And she never even knew about it?
Its usually how it happens
@@chelronin7843 Sadly yes.
@@chelronin7843 yeah😕
Ain’t no way she isn’t no tho how she isn’t hear that
@@t.n.h.ptheneohumanpatterna8334 given how the aunt specifically said, "Don't wake your sister." Gives me the impression she tried to be as quiet as possible when she was around, and would do it when she was fast asleep so she wouldn't be able to see it
My eyes watered up the second his sister could sense the fear for her brother on the phone. I love this movie.
He is an amazing actor and this is a truly stunning performance and great representation. -an actual teen with PTSD
As a older man this movie helped me open up to those I love, about my past . ....it was the beginning of my healing.
Nobody asked g
Love you man. You aint alone
@@JoePuig You seem to be projecting. Want to talk about it?
Me trying not to cry while watching this scene challenge
I see myself in this scene. I see the battle going on and it hurts. Charlie is fortunate enough to have family that love and support him.
My heart thinks to those who don’t.
Lil
The vast majority, my family for example mine which is Jehovah Witnesses and don’t know the damage they have put me through always blaming me for everything
@@lucysyd2159 I’m sorry you’ve had to experience this. All the love and support to you.
@@lucysyd2159 My grandfather always told me that Jehovah's Witnesses is a very bad community.
@@foxcharin
It’s alright but it really fucked me in so many ways like for example they didn’t allowed us to have non Jehova Witnesses friends which is BS now I’m retarded socially
This twist was everything to me. I felt so attached to her aunt that when it was revealed. I couldn't stop crying that I had to watch the last part again.
When I saw this movie for the first time (I only watched it once), I was so confused watching the flashbacks. This scene though... You know that feeling when you're so upset that you could throw up? That's what I felt watching this scene. People like Charlie's aunt disgust me, no one, let alone a *child* should experience this! What is wrong with people?!
This scene captures so much of my life.
i feel like that is why i love this movie so much. it makes me feel that i’m not alone.
this part is all too real. trying my best every day to recover from my childhood and I have this movie to thank in part. nothing’s completely hopeless.
U okay now??
@@imeasymoneysniper I’ll be alright yo. taking this one day at a time!!
@@OsoApple idk i don't know you but stay strong my friend! Sometimes time is the best antidepressant u got, i hope you'll be even better day by day, take care!
this was one of the best representations of a suicidal breakdown I've ever seen. but then, the illusion was totally ruined by the fact charlie was alone in the hospital room with flowers AND two lamps. way too dangerous. the only lights in most psych ward rooms are leds in walls. and flowers? not unless you're a low-risk longterm patient. and it was so realistic until then too! argh idk why im so pissed over these tiny details.
sorry but how are flowers dangerous?
@@diilnuv7052 the can be poisonous. not lethally but someone who's a suicide risk still wouldn't be allowed them in case they ate them. they're sometimes also not allowed things like soap because they are mildly poisonous.
unbeliebubble if they were to break the vace-glass or any sharp object, that they could harm themselves with
So true. I wish they had done the hospital more realistically by actually having someone who works in MH consult/ assist with script supervision.
I related to this scene so much. I was sexually abused by my aunt and I thought it was normal until I was 16. I was ashamed to admit what she did to me. I was embarrassed to admit a woman abused me, especially since I’m male. It was even worse when my family (my mom’s side, my dad believed me) said I was lying and an attention seeker.
I've got news for you, dude. You are not an attention seeker. You're human, you just experienced a horrific moment in your life. Being abused by anyone in any way, even if it's by a woman. It's disgusting and I'm sorry that you went through that. We all go through a lot of things in life, including the pain, agony and suffering that you experienced and also the depression. I just hope that one day you'll find some happiness in your life. I'm telling you, any female would be lucky and happy to have you in their life. That lucky lady would also be happy to spend the rest of her life with you, bro. Do not doubt yourself.
Love you bro. It happened to me too. By a female teacher in kindergarten during nap time
As a female.. I am so sorry brothers. Really sorry. No one should experience this and... the worst part is when no one believes you. I am so sorry. You deserve so much better.
Im so sorry for your experience. Please be strong.. have hope in life.. @@dallasterhune1043
Logan Lerman is a gift. How he acted in this made many people in my family have a “ah fuck” moment if you will and say I remind them of Charlie and how Charlie reminded them of me. Thank you Charlie for all the help when I want to break.
Sincerely,
A friend
I hope You're doing well
I remember how he wrapped his arms around me to tell me it would all be okay, and that the pain will go away soon. But it never did. Ever since that day that he first did it, it feels like my insides are bleeding. I feel dirty no matter how many times i scrub at my skin in the shower. I can always feel his breathe against my right ear, I can’t bear to look at myself in the mirror anymore without seeing some vulnerable boy that could’ve stopped it. Everyone tells me that it wasn’t my fault but I sure don’t believe that. I feel broken, forever broken. I can’t even handle people embracing me anymore. So what’s the point in living in this reality where he gets to live life to his fullest when I’m stuck here forever feeling like the little kid i once was, i remember telling my friend about what happened to me and all he did was laugh and say that you would never do that to me. You didn’t seem like the type of person to do those things, but you did. Nowadays I still flinch and despise taking pictures because of what you’ve done to me. Each time the camera would flicker you’d strip more of my innocence away, and no matter how many times you apologize I won’t forget those 4 years that you ruined me.
To my Older Cousin
Hey Finney ...I recently stumbled upon your comment..and it brought tears to my eyes...I'm very sorry about what you had to go through...I know I don't know who you are but I pray and hope that you are doing well I hope that you are happy in your life...may God always protect you! May you be loved by many people
P.s im sorry for sending this reply so late...again I hope that you are doing great!
Nobody asked n nobody reading all dat lmao
I'm so sorry that happened to you.
My mom tried to kill herself in front of me 3 yrs ago and I still see it every now and then. I have really bad trauma because of it. Sometimes I feel as though it was my fault but I know there were some things I couldn’t fix if I tried
Hey I know that this might not help but know that it’s not your fault and neither your moms. It was because of depression and I know that doesn’t help that much but it wasn’t your fault. Your were 3 years old.
I really don’t know what to say but I hope all the good luck to you.
Yesui Ikhertsetseg thanks
Sierra Cordero I’m really sorry you experienced that it’s understandable that you blamed yourself but I hope you can heal God bless
@@jesusa_ikher me too. I had to stop my mom from doing it and Im still recovering from the shit that it's caused me. You're not alone my friend. I'm very happy to know yourse still here and alive and it makes me feel a lot of comfort that I'm not the only one who's went through that. I love you man.
Happened about 3 years ago too. Reach out to me and I'll do the same if you ever want.
I related so much to this scene when I saw this the first time, I bawled my eyes out when he tries to stop it from happening, saying "don't cry, stop crying." Not to mention, "I don't know how to not notice it" and "it never stops."
"Dear Friend"
So, back when I was in college in the 90s, my college girlfriend told me that the main character of this book kept reminding her of me. I was a little curious, but couldn't do much about it because I struggled with reading comprehension. However, since then, I have seen the movie and I am in the process of getting the book to read now that my reading comprehension has improved. I know that it's been awhile since I have been in high school, but I'm anxious to find a "relatable character". I am writing this specifically to try to reach someof the other Charlies out there, if you have healed from whatever happened, how did you do it ? Were you ever able to genuinely trust and be able to give and receive love? Thanks for your time.
Love always,
John
Hey Jon,
I know it's hard but I need to believe that you, me and all the others already have the capacity to love and give and trust as you so beautifully put it, within ourselves. The most valuable thing you can give to anyone is honesty, your time and attention, and that includes toward yourself. And when you are kind, truly kind to others you are also being kind to yourself. Ask for what you need from the people who love you, spend time outside and follow your intuition, that's my advice to myself so maybe it'll help you too.
Love always
Dear John,
I can't really write anything in a collected sort of way, but yeah, I have gone through some tough times. I'm actually going through something even now. But what I've learnt from my life that you'll always have the chance to be better, to get better. You'd be able to be happy. And everything that happens to you doesn't happen for a reason, but you can turn it into something that is your story. I don't know if you're religious or not, but I am, so a lot of my thoughts and hopes are about God and spirituality. Even if you are not religious, you can always believe that we're something more than we look or feel like- it's an amazing thing.
So to everyone who's reading this, to everyone who's struggling, love yourself, love your people out there, take care of each other. Listen and learn. Hope and pray. Promise it'll all make sense again. Promise.
Love always,
Someone Just Like You.
Dear John
I am similar to Charlie, except Charlie's story is more heartbreaking compared to mine, friend, these past years have been tough, I'm actually 1yrs old, I don't remember a lot of things, everything's a big blur, ever since I've regained my senses, things are starting to be okay, I can feel now, I can have emotions, and that's everything, I tried coffee this year in 2020, my heart rate didn't spike, it's the little things that keep me going, I tell myself I'm not just a sad story, I'm better now, I have people who love me, but they don't like me, I'm moving to the usa next year, a new start, I hope I can have a new beginning, I can also dream now, I dream of becoming a writer, I dream of having a friend like Charlie, genuine and kind, I'm moving forward and I hope you do too.
I hope you attain happiness,
love always -
Atlas 17
@@alicechase9290 Hey Alex
I am writing this letter to tell you that I am suffering the same as you. It feels like hell. I cannot cry cause I got people near me, my mom and family. I want to follow my dream as a singer in USA. I don't if I'll be able to go to the USA but I just hope that I will get my destiny. I will definitely pray that your dreams get fulfilled and you get better people in the USA who don't hurt you. And about me I am definitely fighting, I swear I will never suicide. Although it is becoming a little bit tough these days cause my exams are going on so I gotta concentrate on them but it is tough to concentrate cause there is always that feeling of sadness that can't be cured. I swear this is the worst feeling. But meeting all you people in the comment section makes me feel so good. I wish I could meet people like y'all in real life. I hope I could talk more with you guys. But that's ok I'll surely find☺
Love always
Sarabjeet
Dear whomever you are,
I kind of am like the guy in this movie. I wasn't really abused by ant adult in my family unless you count emotional abuse and neglect as that. I was sort of I guess in a way abused by a few of the adults at my elementary school. Mostly, my mom and I would tell them more then once that the other kids were picking on me and stuff and the teachers wouldn't do anything. Sometimes it got physical too and even sort of sexual abuse too or sexual harassment. That was from preschool to the 12th grade. I watched this movie during my first mental breakdown.
this scene triggered me so badly, i'd just been discharged from partial hospitalization and watched this in summer school... I sat in the parking lot after trying not to cry
Most relatable film I have ever seen. In my life.
Really hard to watch but also incredibly well done. So perfectly executed and emotional but so disturbing.
I thought about this scene when I was admitted to the hospital for mental health reasons. The anxiety was debilitating, the panic attacks were getting worse and nearing double digits daily. I got help, I was able to start healing. Therapy, Medication and time. If you're struggling, please advocate for yourself. There ARE people who care and want you to get better, as hard as it can be to accept that when youre going through you have to hold out for that hope
Im gonna vent because I have nobody to talk to about it and this movie reached to me. I was 9 and my dad's cousin at first he seemed like such a cool dude such a caring loving and sweet guy but when he started to visit my family more often, he started to be way too affectionate and touchy, he showed affection the same way as my dad but it always felt wrong it didnt feel like your typical family member that loves their niece, it felt sexual but at the time I didn't realize how wrong it was. The one thing that did confirm to me how he had officially molested not just me but now my sisters to was 4 years lated when he reached my dad again and decided to visit and bring his parents too. As soon as he entered through that door I felt that same uncomfortable vibe he'd always bring when he'd hug me. I didn't want to admit it i didn't want to think about it. That guy without shame locked himself and my sister in the bathroom and did whatever molestors do to my little sister. I remember how lifeless her eyes looked, how she seemed so confused and uncomfortable coming out with that man. I asked her what he did to her and it was just unexplicable the stuff she was telling me that moment. The rest of the day I tried so hard for that man to stay away from her and locked ourselves for hours till he left, I didn't care if my parents scolded me for being disrespectful to the guests. I gained the courage to tell my mom that same day and im so so glad she believed me. That day felt like a horrible nightmare, I remember every single piece of that day, how scared I was, how much I was shaking knowing that I was right all the time and that I failed to protect my sister from him but it was far too late to have done anything by that point. I pray everyday that that man suffers for what he did to my sister and if not I will find a way to make him sorry for it. This movie has reasonated with me like no other movie has ever and I truly hope my sister can heal from that trauma and that her brain buries that memory as far far down as possible.
I’m so sorry this happened to you and your sister.
Joan Cusack is a SEVERELY UNDERRATED unsung hero of an actress.
4:36, He's in pain! For pity's sake, give him a damn moment to compose himself.
I know right.
This hit me hard when I watched this scene..I never had a breakdown but I also lived through a similar event.
It's weird and I don't know how I deal with it but I sometimes do realize certain things I do happen at unconscious level...like.. my aversion to priests and lack of trust issues with strangers to a weird level or things that arise with any shred of intimacy.
I realized something the other day.
I feel like I'm being used. I feel like I'm just a body and I feel like anyone that tries to get close to me in any intimate/romantic sense has wants something from me. Deep down I know there are issues but I guess I grew comfortable with shoving it deep in my subconscious where I can't actually see anymore. I guess this scene helped me realize something that has always been there.
It's ok to not be ok.
I can totally understand where and why charlie feels what he feels because I have be in that place before myself some days I find myself back in that place
the scene with him crying is so sad, I basically did the same thing and would always find ways to try to make myself stop crying because I would get bullied for crying or shamed for it
The acting, cinematography, editing, and directing in this scene is unbelievable. Seriously, if anyone writes this movie off as another YA trendy film, they need to watch this scene and rethink that ideology.
It only helps that the writer of the book also wrote the screenplay, and stuck to his guns to also be the director when the movie went into production.
this is the part where i mildly shouted WHAT THE FUCK AUNT HELEN at the movie theater
Hardest part is learning that the people whom you thought will understand, never really understood a thing
„Just tell me how to stop it [...] Seeing it. All their life’s, all the time - just, how, how do you stop seeing it? [...] There is soo much pain and I, I, I don’t know how to not notice it. [...] No, not me, it’s them, it’s everyone. It never stops, do you understand?“
Till this day this scene breaks me they did so good Nina voice omg
This entire scene really resonates with me on a very deep level. The summer of last year was pretty shit. Honestly every time was really shit, but that summer had some definite highlights. I thankfully never suffered sexual abuse, but I have my fair share of emotional and familial trauma, as well as a slew of other problems that fucked with me for years. That shit just gets to you and overtakes your whole life. When Charlie was alone at home, walking through the house frantically, holding back his tears, and then finally looked at the knife, it’s exactly what it was like for me when I was close to harming myself with my own kitchen knife. I was just so stuck in my head for so long, and at that point I was overwhelmed with the cluster fuck of regrets, traumas, self hating, and my whole life just playing out with me wishing things were different. When you’re in that place it just seems like nothing ever went right, and that everything is your fault, and that everyone and everything would be better off without you. But in reality you’re probably just using that as an excuse to justify the selfish want of wanting to kill yourself because u hate everything about you. You do it for you. I ended up being sent to the ER after having admitted to how I constantly told myself to just kill myself already and the number of times I came close to acting upon it. The doctor that came into the room had such a similar voice to the one in this clip, and it was a very weird feeling having my dad find out about everything. I’m doing my damn best rn to be in a better place, but goddamn it’s hard.
My biggest flex is that I didn't cry when I saw this
I hate that the number one comment on this is that we're broken. We're not broken. People did horrible stuff to us and we may have broken but we were kids and we didn't have much else we could do. We get better. We get older and stronger and we work on ourselves and we rebuild. WE'RE SO FUCKING AMAZING AND ABLE TO GROW AND CHANGE AND ONE DAY WE SEE IT ISN'T OUR FAULT AND IT NEVER WAS AND WE GET TO BE WELL. You can be well. You can wake up almost every day happy and proud of who you are. On the days you aren't you can be there for yourself and not punish yourself. It'll take work but it's there. Its as real as anything else in this fucked up world. DON'T LET PEOPLE WHO DON'T KNOW WHAT IT'S LIKE TELL YOU YOU CAN'T REBUILD YOURSELF BECAUSE YOU CAN. People like feeling like they're smart and know all the answers and "Oh look at those poor kids with their broke psyches" FUCK THAT!
Thank you.
This scene always makes me sad and I break down...
This scene scares me sometimes , it reminds me of bad times . But then I remind myself Charlie was better in the end of the movie I will be too!
Same here, reminds me of myself.
This movie is my favourite because as someone who’s dealt with this kinda stuff I can relate
10/10 would watch again
Ah man that therapist reminds me of all the others. Just a heartless piece of crap that puts a fake smile on to pity you only for their paycheck.
I was surprised to find someone who came to the same conclusion as me. I don’t know what is it, but therapists always found a way to make me feel like crap. They give you this look that your fucking crazy, no sympathy at all. I hate them so much.
Solum ΦωΦ Couldn’t agree more.
Really? I felt like she was doing a good job, to me she just felt like how a psychologist is supposed to be. What is your ideal psychologist?
@@williamjakobsen9822 One that doesn’t smile every second. Especially when you’re sharing negative things.
@@Quinn8529 I like the way you express yourself......
Without this great music, this scene wouldn't be half as emotional. The music adds so much.
The scene when Charlie calls his sister. At first, she appears annoyed but wants to be supportive of him. It suddenly turns serious when Charlie questions if he killed his aunt....leading his sister to panic and realize the seriousness of the moment and that her brother Charlie is about to harm himself. To hear her voice crack as she screams his name is highly emotional and well acted.
The accuracy
The line he said about how to stop it..... I've not had the trauma or anything he went through, but that part, about all the pain, feeling everything, seeing everything and it's not yours...... That I felt. That I felt very deeply and I know that this is a movie and all, but I know that doctor didn't actually understand. You can know, you can hear, you can learn, but unless you live it, you can't truly understand what living like that is like.
This movie got to me on a personal level.
Incredible actor
Amazing acting from Logan 💙
I go through depression as well
Vince I feel you, and I really hope you’ll get better.
Can’t relate
You want a cookie?!
@@traelonin lucky
I can feel myself becoming crazy. It’s like I went the bad route and am in the opposite direction of infinite
Been there ........ so many times. Dont know what to do anymore ...
this shall pass too. Nothing is permanent. It'll be alright.
Jo Franco you'll be okay. I promise
Philip Harris you don’t even know Jo. You just wish that life wasn’t so unbelievably shitty. You wish with all your heart.
Yeah. Me too. I don't know. Help!!!
How about look for professional help?
3:25 I relate to this so hard
I kind of feel a similar way to how he feels. I just remembered a lot of repressed memories that I have from school and my last job. I wasn't actually sexually assaulted but I remember certain things like at my last job, the owners oldest son (older then my coworkers and I) basically spying and watching us on the cameras. It wasn't just to make sure that we were doing our jobs though. There were other things too like abuse in general. I've had people threaten to kill me/beat me up, I've been beat up before, people act creepy in certain ways towards me, etc. My family was more abusive in other ways like emotionally and verbally abusive. Watching this movie kind of helps me to deal with it all.
Edit: My mom has hit me before too. I was actually physically assaulted both at school and at work mostly though.
I was also sexually abused. They punched in the crotch area and then tried to check if I was really a boy or girl because I said ow and groaned and my bosses son used to watch my coworkers and I on the cameras at my last job. I always felt afraid of him.
I feel ya 😔. I am actually dealing what charlie's dealing with since high school 'til now. Its kinda really hard for me because no one knows what i really feel. I never open up myself to anyone. I overthink all the things of what will happen if i tell them. Thats why now i still dont know what really is the answer to what i feel. I did not consult anyone even an expert about this coz i really have a hard time talking to someone. Most(or few) of us, deals with this kind of feelings, are not participating because we are not a good speaker nor having confidence to stand facing other people. Sorry if i dont elaborate very much coz its hard for me till now.
Random Uploads honestly can relate
I relate to this so much.
Even when I had a bad week and my cat put down in front of me, I went straight to watching this and stuff from 13 reasons why. I think I’m a masochist or something.
VADER 99 It’s more like a purging crying is very cathartic and it takes you off of your own problems and out of the disassociation is sometimes good sometimes you just need to feel bad but it’s easier when you feel bad about fictional characters so you can relate to rather than your own life and it sort of cathartic and away the story becomes almost like a surrogate
David H, either way, it did help take my mind off everything. It just takes time.......And music, if you’re into that.
HelpfulVader99 i do the same
I keep coming back to this, ig it’s Bc I have my own abuser.. sexual abuser , this just makes me feel like I’m not alone
Believe me, I could imagine his pain.
I also went through it, thank GOD My Best Friend and my Dad had saved my life 4 years ago, although I still have my scarred left wrist. But, I don’t seek vengeance, Just forgiveness from Jesus and to get better and blessings for the person who hurt me😢.
Believe me, I’m more better than before and it made me STRONGER!
Thank GOD!😊🙏🏻
I guess I'll always be broken
SaturnDan same here
The best thing about being broken is that it is so easy to put things back together. All you need is time and the right set of tools.
Don’t give up on yourself.
Healing is real. I'm doing it as well, I already did quite a lot
They're such great actors
Sheila from Shameless is doctor here??
it's joan cusack, she's been in a lot of stuff
I didn’t even notice
Seems like she moved away changed her name took care of her phobia and she is a new person
Charlie showed what panic attack looks like before he ended up in a hospital
I feel so dumb I didn't get this right away and didn't understood why he was blaming himself for her death. I really thought he looked up to his aunt and only got the hint when he was writing those letters. I'm so naive.
3:23 me explaining my 13th reason why
I think his sister did witness it is just she was little as well so she didn't understand and as they got older and she thought about it more she did start to understand.
my comfort film
It must have been triggering for him being with an adult woman after all that flash back
So deep😢😢. Yet so sad.
I love nina dobrev she is always playing a nice person and I here she is nice irl
I heard she's s crap person😅
That hospital room is not safe for a suicidal person
3:31
Ok, hear me out, I have a reason of depression, I don’t want to sound bad or anything, but I feel like I’ve lost and been through more than most can handle, at just the age of 8 months I was malnourished and neglected, at the age of 2-13 I was abused physically, mentally, and sexually (only once though) by both parents and their friends, at the age of 4 I was beat to the verge of breaking down totally, at the age of 6 I was raped, at 7 I lost my father to suicide one day after my birthday, when I was 8 my mother was addicted to drugs, at that point on I was abused and neglected, malnourished, starved, and was also abused by her girlfriend, I am quite unintelligent, this sounds stupid but also very unlucky and Unattractive, I was broken and still suffer from trauma to this day, I… don’t think I long for this world, or contribute much, I will always be alone, I don’t understand why this happened, but there is nothing I can do about it
Did he actually cut himself or did they get there before he had the chance?
pigeon of the universe I‘m not sure either, they talked about him blacking out I believe
In the book, he was found sitting naked in front of the television, which is what he did as a child when his aunt abused him
@ChronorisI think she was abused as a child, and had a similar depressive disorder to Charlie (he said before, that him and his aunt were similar people)
Is there ever a good reason, though?
@Chronoris ohh igy aha
Can anyone please tell me the movie names, please
Is that Jessie from Toy Story??
"my dad can't afford that"
"Don't worry about that."
What?
Can someone recommend me a movie or a book similar to this?
Me, Earl and the dying girl, remember me, the art of getting by, it's kind of a funny story, dead poets society, Boy A. other ones you might like are Keith and A walk to remember
The acting's great but the editing sells it just as much
2:34 FBI OPEN UP
I read all the comments but I’m still having a little bit of trouble understanding this movie I saw it the first time and I still didn’t quite understand could somebody please explain it. Did his aunt do something to him
Read the book, it explains it better.
@Chronoris he blamed himself for his aunts death
His aunt molested him and abused him sexually
@Chronoris its hard to understand, he always felt bad because her life wasnt good, and also he was so young so it may took long for him to realise that it wasnt correct, that it really wasnt normal what she was doing. and sexual abuse victims feel guilty for what they suffer.
I’m 3 years late but i’ll put it bluntly, his aunt molested him
They honestly wouldn't allow the lamp or the flowers to be in his room. It's dangerous. Also, I in a way am just like him.
Love this movie of mental heath and begin diffrent is a good thing and begin true and best of our yourself❤
First time watching this I almost cried cause I thought he was gonna kill himself
What was the little secret? Why did he keep thinking back to his aunt?
That she sexualy abused him but he still loved her.
His aunt molested him. :'(
If you don’t get it, you’re probably not old enough to be watching this.
Chronoris what?
this scence breaks me
charlie became a famous author and changed his name to Sydney Hall
Aunt helen got abused too and cut herself... Generatuonal trauma sucks
Does he kind of remind any of you of Donnie Darko in this movie!?
She was kinda harsh, wasn't she? She basically said "Charlie, my way or the highway"
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I didn't get it can yall say does anyone know about it other than Charlie himself????
Omg she from shameless🤦🏾♀️