How NOT to set the table when dining at a Castle.
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- Опубликовано: 25 авг 2021
- Well, I tried! Setting the Dining Table in a formal way can be tricky - at least for me! My English husband usually does it tbh and I just follow along. But this time I tried it on my own.... oh dear! So I think I'll go back to casually setting the table - one plate, one glass, one fork, one knife and maybe a spoon!
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Dear Julie, We really enjoy your videos! I can see why Luke's ancestor invented the "sandwich" meal! No need to set a lot of silverware for a sandwich. He was a man way head of his time! :)
Coming from a nation (Sweden) which lives for a good fish course, I love those crescent shaped plates and use mine quite often. Not only for the bones but also for the skins of trout or other cold water fish that get stiff when prepared. Really, you wouldn’t want to dodge a pile of bones or skin on your dinner plate so setting the crescent plates is very routine. The younger ones use them for their breads, their cheeses or even to hold that special spoonful of lingonberries which we set out with almost every meal because lingonberries will go with everything !
Omg, this reminds me of when I took "etiquette lessons" as a teenager. In one we had to have a formal dinner with all the silverware. They brought little butterballs made with butter paddles, that evidently were put in the freezer to keep their shape. Well, unbeknownst to me they were not removed the freezerer soon enough. When I used my butter knife to try to slice a sliver of the butterball off, the whole (still frozen) butterball became a projectile and shot down the table and down the silk blouse of the matronly (very large-breasted) woman who was "evaluating" us.
Everyone saw it. No one wanted to say anything - and was trying to keep their composure. Being teenagers it took everything in me/us not to burst out laughing. (We were all kicking each other under the table.) The women tried to pretend nothing happened and maintain her manners, so continued eating and chatting with us girls. We all tried to carry on as the butterball warmed and melted onto her blouse...and the oil stain on her blouse grew - and grew, making her look like a nursing mother.
Manners can be hard! 🤣
That story made my day!
@@jeannastephen283 Lol, thanks. As I said, the second it happened I wanted to burst out laughing, for about 3 seconds - but then, I saw my life flash before my eyes and spent the rest of the dinner quietly panicking to myself, wondering what tragedy would become of my life after the dinner - and when Mrs. Adair saw her blouse. (Everything is so extreme for most teens, lol.) At that time, I really thought my Father would be ashamed and my Mother would disown me if I "failed" my etiquette training - and it would be the end of the world....but here I am.
I'm laughing out loud now! That would be a great scene in a sitcom.
@@suzannes5888 Well, you definitely made me burst out laughing, and then I kept on laughing as you described how things devolved from there, LOL! It reminded me of the scene in Pretty Woman where Julia Robert's character eats (I think it was snails?) for the first time in a fancy restaurant and the it goes flying, and was caught by the waiter very calmly without him batting an eye.
Hilarious!!!! I don’t know how you didn’t laugh out loud!!!!
I would have loved to have heard Luke say, "I love that you tried this by yourself - great job!" and then help with the proper set up that his family is familiar with. Congratulate the wins and encourage future wins. ♥
I’d love some Etiquette with The Viscount” videos!! Luke is an amazing fountain of knowledge!
He is lovely to listen to.
Bless her heart, us Americans haven’t been taught all of these things. My momma used to set her table on Sundays with our fine china and forks and spoons. My dad and brother would just use one knife or fork and lick the rest just to aggravate her. She tried so hard. I, too, love a great decorated set table but I had all boys and no one was interested so I gave up. We have lost a great tradition even if it is one day a week. The USA has gotten lazy, in my opinion. Good Tidings, Julie. Thank you, Luke, for teaching her these new things.
Absolutely fabulous watching you two together, I couldn't stop laughing, especially when you told Luke 'he wasn't invited' at the end, that really was funny! All that hard work Julie to be told 'It didn't really matter' how you set the table, what a classic funny sketch this was to watch :0) lol. I would have bought a takeaway too! ha ha ha
😊 thank you
Luke is a typical man , they love to point out what your doing wrong but then they proceed to make you feel slow.
@@AmericanViscountess i just discovered your channel, along with your work with the Smithsonian, which is lovely. Have you seen the English Heritage videos with Mrs. Crocombe doing examples of cooking in the Victorian manor house for the Lord and Lady? Except we never get to meet the Lord and Lady! Maybe you could team up to do a series with English Heritage with some scenes of you and others in the Victorian or Edwardian past? A fun trip through history?!
I LOVE your videos, your down to Earth, fun attitude and you and Luke's playfulness together! Thank you for showing us the different sides of the Aristocracy, the need to cherish and protect the buildings, the heritage as well as looking at the future. ❤❤
@@susiehall3529 I think he’s just sharing his knowledge of how things were done and sometimes still are and making us have a laugh. I think it’s wrong to label him as some kind of bad guy for that especially if you’re not from England as the sense of humors and comments that are considered humorous especially when delivered with a much dryer delivery, or just different from place to place.
I thought it was quite funny and I find the two of them endearing together! For what it’s worth.
Julie, when you placed that square napkin on the top of the bowl, I had a laugh. Never, ever seen that in my long life. Then your husband lamenting your choice of a “bad knife” and cafe glassware. Who knew setting the table could be funny?
Lovely fun post. We need more light-heartedness in these times.
This was a chuckle. It’s one of those things if you grew up with the custom, you don’t think about it much, it’s just what you know, but if it’s not your culture I guess it’s confusing.
But as I see it it’s ergonomical and practical.
Napkin rings can be a nice and simple way of getting around the napkin presentation.
Everyone has their favorites and mine is linnen table cloths *always* with a good quality felt liner underneath which makes all the difference as it eliminates the ”clink” especially at a table seated for many.
I also prefer big nakins like was common at the turn of the kast century and before, not the small modern ones you often see these days that don’t cover much of your lap. Don’t like tables with flowers that obstruct a proper view of those across from you, keep them short or put them on a sideboard or mantlepiece.
I always put dessert spoons at center top of the place, handle to the right.
I’m not fussy at all.
More problematic than all this is is when I see Americans who don’t know how to use silverware eat in public or socially in Europe. That always makes me feel a bit bad for them.
Even seen women sit down and eat with their gloves on which is just… idk the words really 😂🤦🏻♀️. Table manners are important for social mobility/flexibility.
All the eating at counters on high stools won’t do your children any favors in life.
But good food (and wine) is more important than most of this. And having a relaxed and social meal together! ❤️🙏
Totally agree with your entire comment. Knowing the framework can prevent blunders and make for more relaxed dining.
Please buy her an older manners book by Amy Vanderbelt. It has pictures of all the proper table settings in it (different ones for breakfast, luncheons, dinners, etc.). My dear Mom had one and made all of my sisters (5 of us) read it. She then gave us one when we got married! Some think it is "old fashioned" but manners never go out of style and even though this was 50 years ago I thank my departed Mom.
Julie
How delightful.
For 20 years I worked in NYC
Setting up weddings a historical landmark building.
Marble hallways,staircase,
20 feet ceilings.
Absolute blessed
Dream job.
Saw your grounds tour slanted towards weddings.
May you be blessed with success.
It is heartwarming to begin married life in a supportive environment.
You are a treasure.
It is a privilege to be part of giving someone a perfect memory.
I would love to sit at a table with all the right plates, dishes, bowls and cutlery, it would be so elegant. I think Julie did a really nice job, she should feel proud with what she did!
The moment the crescent-shaped plates appeared I thought immediately of my grandmother as those were her bone plates! They were used to place spent bones, very often fish bones. Of course she would also have set the table with a fish fork and possibly a fish knife as well! LOL. I now have all of her china but don't think I have ever used her bone plates. I will have to start using them for salad. That makes a lot of sense to me!
Bone plates are the same shape but more narrow
Barbara, I had the exact same idea! Fish-bone plates! I still have some I got from my mother… that was interesting.
I thought the crescent plates were bone plates too. But they are wider.
Yes, I was trying to remember what they were. Bone plates, of course. They would be handy for other bones such as chicken wing bones. Salad plates are smaller in diameter than the dinner plate and placed on top of the dinner plate as it is served first.
More etiquette and beautiful tables please! Learning how to set a beautiful table is something good for everyone to know and hopefully enjoy. Whether it is set 100% in the “proper” English or American or other culture’s specifics, having a strong basic knowledge allows you to create all sorts of beautiful table settings and tablescapes! I believe creating a beautiful environment for a glorious meal or a modest Sandwich (see what I did there?😉😆😉) makes everything taste better.
They say you eat with your eyes first, so I would love to see various table settings with any and all of your different china patterns and specialty pieces, for various occasions and number of courses! You can learn and teach us too! Personally, I would like to know more about all the specialty pieces and what they are used for... e.g. the larger crescent dish as a salad plate but if it were smaller it would be used as a bone plate... or all the different soup bowls and the appropriate soups for each, etc. It could be an entire series starting with the most basic and add on as you go! The possibilities are endless even beyond the place settings... from specialty serving pieces, napkin folds, centerpieces, to chair decor!
Knowledge is power and having proper dining etiquette knowledge in your arsenal will have you prepared for any social or business dining situation! 🥰😍🥰
I worked at an Officer’s Club in Germany when I was a teenager and we set each place setting the proper way including napkin folding, silver polishing…I learned so much from that job on etiquette. It’s served me well through the years lol!
This was so very interesting, more videos like this would be wonderful. Perhaps you could also talk us through the family porcelain/ silver at some point in time, or at least go into more detail about some of the wonderful antiques around the house.
My Girlfriend Ethelwynn taught me a proper table setting . As well as table etiquette. I believe manners can open many doors . Bon appétit.
Bone appetite is correct. I believe those crescent shaped plates were used to hold discarded bones.
Maybe I'm wrong. We will see. Julie is so pretty in that dress.
Lol it's Bon Appetit.....I know I work for them
@@melvinclingerman2364 That must be a fantastic job! They both seem to have great sense of humor and they are very positive .
Bone Appetite?! 😂
@@marybazargani6929 yes, those crescent plates are for bones.
The dress is pretty- but requires a slip (2:50) or a Lady Di moment of legs highlighted by sun…. But Julie has great legs.
This is a hoot to watch.
I was taught to set a table like her husband 🤷🏼♀️
This was awesome. Loved your dress! Really appreciated your husband’s comment about setting the table with a mixture of “correct” and your own family’s traditions.
Thanks so much! 😊
Oh for the days of having servants on staff. :). I so love how you two challenge each other to rise to your better selves. All in fun. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you so much!
I love that he is "correcting" her with a combination of fond exasperation as well as a bit of embarrassment that he knows this stuff.
I became obsessed with Amy Vanderbilt's book of Etiquette when I was 17! Setting the table properly is so important. I'm sure it's a different set up across the pond.
Yeah, everything is different here- from house to house 😂let alone a whole country.
While we’re definitely not all rude and brash, (nor some of the many other stereotypes) in America, I think we tend to be on the more casual end of the spectrum for the most part sadly.
You should have said, "for my husband and me." I loved this episode and look forward to more videos from you!
Yes. Doesn’t she lose credibility when she speaks incorrect English?
I cannot stoop laughing. It took me close to 50 years to have my husband remember the order fork, knife, spoon (alphabetical order, 4 letter utensil l-e-f--t of plate, 5 letter utensils r-i-g-h-t of plate).
My husband had problems remembering where the fork went and where the spoon went. He knew where to place the knife so I reminded him of the nursery rhyme where the ‘dish ran away with the spoon’ and told him you place the knife between the dish and the spoon so they can take off together. He has remembered ever since
Also, if your dessert spoon and fork are placed above the plate, you separate the plate and spoon using the fork. To get the direction correct, just pretend you are sliding the spoon up from the side of the plate which makes the spoon bowl face left. Do the same with the fork with the tines facing right
How to cheer up a Monday! I love this. Funny. Sweet. Unpretentious. However you table arrangement went hope you had a lovely dinner. xxxx
Hi Julie, I think the place-mat is called a 'Charger Plate' :) Thank you for fun content:)
It is a charger if it is actually a plate, larger in diameter than the dinner plate.
That was hilarious! Your facial expressions were priceless Julie.
Thank you for a good laugh 😂
❤ 🤣 When you get it right Luke should get you some pretty new plate trivets for the table. Much Love to you both!
I liked the interaction between the two of you! Can't wait for more videos like this!
More to come!
I think sorry Im not trying to be rude,but by this time of your life,you should know how to lay a table,I know how to do it,havent you seen in so many years,anice table setting
Lol! Thank you for moving the napkin! Enjoyed watching you both! What fun!
I laughed out loud multiple times during this video, you’re always so entertaining. Thanks for all the effort you put into filming your videos.
Love, love, love this Lady! I so appreciate her efforts with everything she does. She is absolutely brilliant!
OMG Julie!!! This was great. Really you need a butler stick for your measurements. I believe the soup bowls are cream soup bowls and thus you would need a cream soup spoon with a rounded as opposed to and elongated/bullion spoon….It would seem that Luke has had this done for him from his childhood on….so he knows what it should look like but I did not find his comments helpful. You did very well. Honestly I would love for you to invite in a butler hopefully a royal butler to give us the skinny on how it should all be done. What a hoot…..Google my arse.
I'm loving this! The banter is hilarious 😂
I loved when she said, "Forget it, I'm getting takeaway!" Lol. 😂😀🍽🍴🥄🍷
That was HILARIOUS! Thank you for sharing, and for clearing up a few things. I was brought up (also in the mid-West - St. Louis) -and my parents were antique dealers(!) with the understanding that the crescent shaped dish was a "bone plate" for fish and chicken remains. Hahahahaha. Guess I was surrounded by the Beverly Hillbillies? Since moving to New York some 40 years ago, I "learned me" a few things about entertaining and table settings and now consider myself the "king" of the table setting. I entertain frequently and pride myself on all the small details I create in my tablescapes. Wish I could attach some photos here to show you but it doesn't seem as though you can? Maybe you and Luke can run a contest (Free tour and overnight at Mapperton as the prize?) for your viewers who submit table setting photos? Luke could critique them and you can pick the winner based on who measures up to his lofty standards. :)
To funny! When I was growing up my mother taped a copy of a table setting inside the dining room hutch so when we set table for holidays we could refer to that. Of course, it was just basic settings it as elaborate as what you are setting. Enjoy your videos. 🙃
OMG Julie, your delivery and styling is brilliant! Can’t wait to see the full episode.
Thank you so much!
Y’all are so adorable!! Great couple!! Please keep your videos coming. Hugs from Lousiana
Julie you're such a nice person! Great personallity. I've learned at home how to set up a table as your husband does!
Priceless! Your husband is an awesome person. You are such a lucky lady to have met this wonderful human. Love it. ❤❤
I really enjoyed this! You two are so cute together and, Julie, at least you tried! I thought you did a good job. And I love your vintage dress! Thank you! 🌸🌸
Once again, your dress is everything.
Can’t wait to watch the rest of this! Your videos are always so interesting 🌸😊
Thank you so much!
Love the dress - beautiful, but watch the sunlight through the skirt and don't make the Princess Diana mistake and forget to wear a slip (or is it petticoat in England?)
Charming husband, such a sense of humor ! ☺️🤗
You two were so much FUN!!
Thank you for sharing your lives with us!!
Love from Texas.
Julie, at least you tried!!!! 👏🏻👍🏻👌🏼😘
So many rules, so many different dishes-or was exhausting just watching you try to sort it all out! And the table setting is just one aspect of your new (er) life!
It’s easy, Julie, just make sure you have the cutlery, china and glassware for each course, and work your way in from the outside. I do like to follow these basics, because that’s what most people know, but if they don’t, they will follow your lead, as the hostess. I like to write the list of courses on my kitchen whiteboard, it helps keep track while cooking, too - did I put the bread into warm, etc.? Also, the butter knife is the short, dull-bladed one, it goes on the individual bread plate, then a common butter serving knife on the butter dish. So, each person takes some butter with the butter serving knife, puts it on their bread plate, then only uses their own butter knife to butter their bread, not the common serving one. I think it’s easier to clear and crumb the table before the dessert/pudding, just leave dessert wine, if any, and water glasses and napkins (on laps), then bring in the cutlery, etc. for that course, which includes coffee service, too.
That was the cutest and most entertaining show in your collection of videos I’ve seen. I loved it! 😆🤩
Give me a bowl and a spoon and this 'Merican will shovel it in!!🤣🤣 I loved when your Husband showed up and changed the entire dynamics, but that's what husbands are for 😁, having been one for 45 years!
I’m absolutely besotted with this channel! Thank you for sharing.
They are such a lovely couple. This is really a fun and informative video. Thanks Julie!
Oh my goodness! This was the cutest video, Julie! And I adore that painting to your left- the nautical one above where the napkins should have been.
Brilliantly funny !! Thanks Julie and Luke.
I would love to see and learn good old British etiquette, including laying of a table properly. It is good to learn.
Interpreting Luke's comments as a combination of British culture and British humor. How are things going with the place in Italy? Cheers!
Julie, I so enjoy your videos. You have a lovely disposition and sense of humour, and energy; and it is enjoyable. I so admire you adapting to England and so well. Love your dress. Love all of your videos.
This episode was so funny! Thoroughly enjoyed it. Hugs to you both 💛💛
You are so charming and he IS so kind. LOL!! No matter what, the setting looks beautiful.
I adore the interaction between you and Luke. So adorable! It's like me and my partner!! Love it
Yay! Thank you!
Haven’t they been married for quite awhile? She’s just now trying to learn how to set the table? But it was definitely funny and entertaining! ❤️
thats what I was thinking
Men mostly set the table in Europe. That’s why.
It is not working for me in the "funny" and "entertaining" department. Different tastes.
I had the same thoughts-
Probably have had butlers and maids to do the work in the past. Wealthy old school family!
Julie, so grand. I so enjoyed this video, actually I enjoy all your video's but I actually laughed with this one. Your table setting was perfect for America. But even I would do something with the napkin, if I was setting a fancy dinner setting. Your family is a joy thank you for sharing with us.
I love the banter between you and your husband!
You and your husband are really cute together. Both of you are obviously kind and considerate people. Why I decided to subscribe.
Just love watching your you tube videos. They make me smile. Smiles and chuckles from New England.
Your humble honesty is so refreshing and brave. I love your videos. They are always so true in there depiction of what an American in Britain would be like.
Thank you so much!
I loved this thank you, so much fun. Today was filled with sadness and you brought laughter for the evening. Thank you
Looks beautiful,when the food is served all attention goes to the food and hopefully great conversation and wine!Good job Cheers from Connecticut USA stay safe
You are such a wonderful person Julie ! You make my day with your beautiful writing and humor my dear ! Keep up and GOOD SHOW YOUNG WOMAN !
Thank you so much!
Quite funny… love it🌺
I love all your videos. You are more royal than other royals. Your husband hit the jackpot when he found you. What a gorgeous couple you make.
Thank you so much!
The Dining Room is so beautiful. I like Julie's table setting.Even with the transgressions.The food would still taste wonderful! Love from Vermont
This is wonderful Julie. A fine table is such a compliment and lovely token to your guests.
Karen here. So so funny listening and watching Julie.
This was great! You took me back in time to my 9th grade Home Economics class (1978). This was a hard lesson for me to understand the "extra" place settings for glasses, coffee cups, saucers, not only soup but dessert ware as well!
I give you an A ++++++++++++. And yes, it isn't "take away"; it's "to go". 😜😁😂😎 from central Alabama USA.
I love these videos Julie. Thank you and please keep posting.
Thank you! Will do!
I love her many American faux pax 😂 she’s so funny and natural!
🤣 it's a minute in and I'm dying. I ❤️ this!
One year later, and I'm rewatching 😂! There are a few channels I rely on for an occasional pick me up and the American Viscountess is one of them.
That room is lovely.. thankyou for sharing the table setting fun.
Thanks for watching!
Laying the table and proper table etiquette has always been a subject of interest to me
I just love all of it.i certainly do appreciate your interest and eagerness to keep with tradition and learning to lay a gorgeous table but, alas, you two were too much fun a d I was quickly reminded of just how critical this skill is to get right for those discerning eyes, and yes do take out after all that. Lol. Your husband was sweet about it
You'll get it right and then someone can perform that task for you and then you can do a walk about and see that all is as it should be. How perfectly fun!.Loving you two and Mapperton.❤
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Sooo Goood !!!! You are the best. Quite right, families do things differently but some things are what they are. One thing I like is to have the pudding spoon etc all facing the same way .... Great show ....
Julie you are so much fun to watch. Great to hear your table setting strategy 👍 outloud.
For me total confusion. We'll done. Hugs from BC Canada 🇨🇦💗
Oh thank you!
How funny you two are!! "I'll get a takeaway" was a good idea, cuts out all the phaff!! ;) Thanks xxx
Oh. My. Gosh. Luv this video. You both are a hoot. Yes, to more of these. I’m obsessed (that sounds so bad!) with your videos and life in England. Thank you for sharing. XO
Y'all are so cute with the banter!
Julie, I just LOVE your dress!!!! You did an amazing job setting the table! Beautiful! I use to work in Banquets years ago and I never got place settings right, either! I'd always ask the supervisor to set one place setting for a visual! 😆. Too many items to remember!!!!! Don't be too hard on yourself!!!! Luke, you're too critical! She tried her best!!!! That's what counts!
You two are so cute together! Love watching you both.
Thanks Julie; interesting video. I have always felt intimidated setting a proper table.🌞
OMG you did a perfect table Julie. You two are so cute together❣️🥰
You know what I love about you Julie, your aristocracy and you're not a stuffy person. You're funny bright witty and a lovely person. I love videos like this can't wait for the next video much love from Oklahoma USA Jackie 🇺🇸💖
Oh thank you!
Hello from Ontario Canada!! Love your channel! I have never seen the crescent shape dish before. Very cool. Oh bye the way we hug in Canada! Ha!!💝
Well done Julie!!!!
Such a lovely couple! ❤️
This was hilarious, of course you have staff that does that for you. So entertaining
Love it! So refreshing to watch your video’s. Thank you
You are so welcome!
Hello Julie,
I like your explanation regarding how to set table for dinner.
Love watching you two .
When it's all set and done. Take a breath. Namaste. Nice Vlog!
Absolutely love to watch and follow
Love your vlogs Julie ❤️
This is the first video of yours I have watched. You are both utterly charming! And, I would just like to say that, he had me confused about the whole layout too, so you're not alone in that!