Missionary Dating: Should Christians Date Non-Believers to Help Save Them?
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- Опубликовано: 7 фев 2018
- Should Christians date unbelievers? After all, if you are a Christian, can’t you seek to bring someone to Jesus through dating? God has used “missionary dating” for some, so why not for you?
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I married a man who I was unequally yoked.with He came into the Church and was baptized, we got married shortly after, and he left the faith within a matter of a year. He was only a church goer. I do not believe his heart was ever turned from his wicked ways. I was very young and naive, he was an older man. He ended up committing adultery not even two years into the marriage...NOT a good idea to date a non-believer. He should have a strong faith in God prior to the union. A man with a solid faith in God will do the will of God.
You have my condolences.
Kiano Uy Thank you for your concern for me; however, it has been many...many years, and I am well over him! I took the lesson, today, I am better for it!
Amen!
Thank you all three of my non believer boyfriend wanted to fornicate and cheated
@@amimms5153Praise the Lord !! God bless you sister
My thoughts on Missionary dating. It's a trap.
Believers end up compromising their beliefs by engaging in things we ought not to, weirdly trying to bring them closer to God, and end up becoming disobedient children. Then we have to repent and ask for forgiveness. But after repentance we must turn from sin right? But if we're still in that relationship how can we turn? There is a struggle with keeping your commitment to God to be Holy as He is Holy and trying to hold down this relationship.
From the beginning we can't get into a relationship thinking we can change anyone. Take them as they are or don't take them at all.
God knew cause He said, "Don't be unequally yoked with unbelievers." He's so smart!😁
Beautifully put. I needed to read this given my current situation.
Praise the Lord !! The Holy spirit definitely worked through you on this comment
Before last year, I was single for 7 years. Two weeks before I got with my current girlfriend, I prayed to God asking him to find me a good girlfriend. Two weeks later, my current girlfriend and I start dating. We adore each other deeply and I am absolutely crazy about her... our personalities are so finely matched that I can’t help but think that we were made for each other. I spend all day and all night with her 4-5 days a week (I stay with her during the week and we work together) and it’s a wonderful thing. The hurtful part is that I love the Lord and she doesn’t know what to believe because she associates Christianity with her dad who did a poor job raising them and always forced Christianity on her while treating her and her siblings poorly. I care about her way too much to just dump her for not being on the same spiritual level as me and it the whole thing just eats me up.
I feel you man. It’s 4 years later, so where are you both?
@@shuatock8216 Well, she came around! We watch church online every week (still trying to find a church that has service more forgiving of our work schedule) and pray almost every night together. Everything worked out wonderfully and we are still very happy! Thanks for asking.
Very common sense and Biblical ,God is bigger then us for sure !! Thank you
Amen, we can trust him and do it his way :)
I'm a new believer and I've dived headfirst and am soaking as much of God's word into me as I can. This makes me feel very scared I will fail tho and I don't want to. Please pray for me and strength.
Just prayed for you Dustin Lindsay. And here is a blog series I did that you may enjoy applygodsword.com/christianity-101-part-1/
Welcome to the family! I prayed for you brother. God bless you and guide you in your walk.
In Gods eyes failing is apart of getting to victory just keep your faith no matter what you will be texted by God but it’s just a text of faith so remember and in the name of our lord and savior Jesus Christ may God our Father of Heaven and Earth Bless you with the Holy Spirit of the Holy Ghost Amen!!!🙏🏽❤️👏🏽
Excellent video mark really answers a lot of questions for me ! Awesome to see this was 3 years ago and your channel has really grown thanks and praise Jesus 🙏
Loved this vid sir... Its settled so much in my spirit.. So glad I stumbled across your channel. Subscribed no doubt!! God bless you with more wisdom.
A very nice informative video. You mostly covered up everything. This will really help me to strengthen my biblical dating view as earlier i was okay with the thoughts of missionary dating. Thanks for sharing. Keep up the good work. God bless.
Thanks for the video Mark. I learnt quite a bit. This is going to be hard breaking up with her. But it's for the best.
My father and I greatly enjoyed your video!! Amen and amen!! 😄🙏🙌
Awesome :)
Try to get to know this person first and tell them about God and if they become a true follower of Christ then its ok to date this person. You will know a true Christian by the attributes of God by seeing them demonstrate the fruit of the spirit.
Definitely no. I made that mistake. Dated a Wiccan when I was 15. Bipolar, pain, misery,...but she converted! We were happy for three years. Then she left and became an atheist. Relationship died two months after that. Still grieving...
...don't be a fool like I was. Missionary dating is a terrible idea.
Divinity Of Blackness But thank god you didn't end up marrying that person! break up and turn arounds Might be disappointing at first but it saved you from a lifetime misery.
To everything you said...Amen!
Rose Morales thx!
I enjoyed this video!
Thank you for this, this helps me.
God bless you too!
Excellent video
Will Njoh MANDENGUE thx!
Also I'd like to mention, all the Christian guys I've met never asked me out. Only unbelievers have asked me out
Interestingly enough, while I am a Christian (Protestant), my fiancé is an inactive LDS Mormon and he has said that he's more than willing to convert to Christianity.
That being said, neither my man (nor I) are the type to force our religion on the other. We both came together as a couple almost 5 months ago (in August 2018) after being Facebook friends for almost 5 years (we make 5 years as Facebook friends in January 2019).
That being said, we also both feel that we were brought together (even first as friends) by fate.
My fiancé is one of only 2 people in my life (outside of my immediate family) that understands me on a deeper level, also because we have some of the same medical conditions, and he and I both understand each other's OTHER disabilities and limitations.
I was born with Hydrocephalus & Epilepsy, and eventually developed Scoliosis, and also have moderate depression, and now Fibromyalgia.
My fiancé was also born with Hydrocephalus, he was diagnosed with Epilepsy at age 3, and also suffers from Cerebral Palsy (diagnosed shortly after birth due to a stroke that he had shortly after birth, & when it happens that early it's classified as CP) and because of said stroke he also has little to no feeling/use of his left arm. He also has limited vision (& is considered legally blind) & has some balance issues.
Despite all of that though, he & I both look past each other's disabilities & limitations and love each other regardless of it all.
We are looking at a Saturday, August 7, 2021 wedding, as that will be our 3 year anniversary.
I've tried dating other guys (most were fellow Christians) & it didn't work.
While I'm also not a HUGE believer (when it comes to Astrology), I will say that I believe my fiancé & I match perfectly.
While I didn't meet my fiancé (on Facebook) until late 2014 (& we became friends in January 2015), I told my fiancé that after I spotted a pic that he posted on his Facebook profile, that I had had a dream (about my future wedding) a few years prior (around 2010) and I could've sworn it was him that was waiting for me at the altar.
He proceeded to tell me that the picture I was referring to was taken at one of his older sister's weddings in 2011. I found it especially surprising because I didn't actually know of him (at all) when I had the dream in 2010, yet I dreamed about him, it was interesting to say the least.
It is for that fact that we believe that we were brought together by fate. 😁
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Yes bro,... you got all points right,.... but I'll try to endure this for a few months before letting her go..... I'll do my best to love her but if still not working out, I'm ready to let her go. Thank you bro. God bless.
God bless you too brother! Keep seeking Christ in everything and he will lead you
What happened?
Update?
Before Christ I thought God put a spiritual man with me because he prayed every day. Now that I am so in love with God I’ve realized he isn’t in to God as I thought. He doesn’t read his bible. And tempts me into being impure. He tells me he respects my wishes of no sex before marriage and wants to be closer to God but his spiritual walk is very slow. I almost feel like I am dragging him along in my faith. He listens when I talk to him about God and when i try to share how great God is. He has an amazing testimony! I sometimes tell myself “God was patient with me so I need to be patient with him.” What do you think?
I'm my opinion he's going to slow your walk with God down, and he's not honest and open about his relationship with God. It's better to leave him.
I really like someone and want to turn our friendship into something more, but she isn't that 'religious' so to speak in a christian sense. Should I abandon this opportunity or should I pray for her for God to work in her heart? I'm very unsure what to do at the moment, because I really I'm attracted to her, but she really isn't that christian. Should I keep praying for her on her behalf? She knows I'm a christian so could that spark something? Whatever happens, I will trust God and know that he knows what best for me.Her and I share common interests and I enjoy talking to her, so who knows? But please, give me some advice, please!
I’m working thru a situation where I’ve come to believe in salvation by faith/grace though my girlfriend believes in faith plus baptism for salvation.
What do you say to people who use Hosea and God instructing to marry a prostitute/unbeliever as grounds for it being acceptable?
Explaining it as a metaphor isn’t enough, because they say God instructed it.
What about dating lukewarm Christians. Is that being unequally yoked too ?
Not if you're lukewarm yourself
If your on fire for God, the holy spirit will t speak and guide you about a lukewarm person. If you see their fruits you will not have the same desire for them if you are on fire for God and serving him with all your heart. Your heart and mind would desire the same fire you have. If your lukewarm dating a lukewarm you are easily accessible for the enemy to bring temptations between you both especially if you spiritually haven't prayed about the person before pursing them. The relationship has already started on a shaky foundation.
If you are lukewarm I would say no, it's okay. However, you don't want to be lukewarm so I would focus on that if you are before dating anyone. If you are not lukewarm I would certainly avoid someone who is because it will be a conflict.
I agree with you.
What about helping someone become a Christian before starting to date?
I'd like to know that aswell..
I feel like they need to find god for the purpose of god and not for the purpose of a relationship with you. It may not be appropriate for you to help them in that aspect because they may be doing it for you, to get you. But, giving them other resources and friends to help them grow is also a great option. Thats my pov. :)
i met a guy and he s Catholic.. im christian. he said he will seek God when the times comes but he s not doing it now ...so and s hard because we like each other. but i know God says do not be joined with no christians..
im praying God can give me the strenght to say no even s hard now.
i need help.
Eliana Herrera all you have to do is to ask God the strength and courage to say no him. Because you know the Catholic people serving Marie they not true Christians according to the word of God! 2scnd they don't get baptize in water (and spirit) . Hope you understand what I'm saying
+PraisingGod Allmylife i understand and im gonna cut off all contact with this person. thank you for your advice.. amen to that. bless u.
I've dated a Catholic and it felt like we were unequally yoked. He was very strong about his religion and wasn't opened to Christianity after having the opportunity visiting. I prayed and tried so hard but it just didn't work! He didn't have anything against me serving God but he didn't have a passion for Christ the way I did. It just saves wasting time if you don't see him having an open heart the way you do. Do you have the same goals in ministry, passion for Christ? These are things I wish I thought about before I went too far in it. I was on fire and excited about ministry and outreach and he didn't have much of an interest. Keep praying for the person but I would truly pray to God and make sure you get a confirmation from God that this person is suppose to be your future spouse.
+Mita Love thanks for your words ..blessu.
Definitely pray like you said, but also share these feelings with a good friend or pastor. You need support in your life from other people too. God works through his people too.
True
"3 Neither shalt thou make marriages with them; thy daughter thou shalt not give unto his son, nor his daughter shalt thou take unto thy son.
4 For they will turn away thy son from following me, that they may serve other gods: so will the anger of the LORD be kindled against you, and destroy thee suddenly."- Deuteronomy 7:3-4
I think that if you’re trying to convert us - you’re going to have a bad day . We are already not compatible .
Can't God lead someone to another in order to witness Christ?
This same question is coming into my mind .
How would one know when that is what God is doing with someone vs. when God isn’t doing that with that person?
I’m still trying to understand this whole thing
How about an on fire believer coupled with a baby believer or lukewarm beliver ?
I used to missionary date.
How about a christian and a catholic ?
This article may help applygodsword.com/theological-differences-in-marriage-dating-and-how-to-handle-both/
Sacraments are from Bible, we don't deny anything Jesus said.
Catholics are Christians.