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Most "normal" men UNDERSTAND their issues. They also understand (from personal experience) to NOT talk about it due to the inevitable weaponization of that information.
That's because most guys only use superficial criteria to pick their women and exclusively let certain organs do the selection - and that does not include the brain and the heart. So the outcome is hardly surprising.
We men are better off talking to a tree....Even when I'm pissed off and angry I get the "all about you" garbage--and I tell her to F off. I don't say S**t any more...but really, I never said much in the first p[lace.
7:53 - "not ghosting" Women literally ghost men ALL the time. When we do speak up we are being "needy" or "just want a mommy" I have tried all that in the past, didn't work. Now if a woman plays games or whatever I do just ghost them. It seems to work much better
There are broke dudes doing life in prison who have chicks writing them talking about how they'll wait for them forever. Of course, they're generally at least 6 feet tall and muscular.
@jimotto1134 Think they will self correct? Doubtful. I hear you on ignoring the moderns. Problem is simps are everywhere and they don't learn until they get burned. How can the simp problem be fixed?
She's talking about the healthy women out there. The 0.25%. So none of this will be even remotely helpful to any man dating women in 2024. 1) Understand your triggers. She says major props if you understand this. Unfortunately this will REPEL all women, LoL! 2) Know your body (clues to when you are triggered) 3) Understand the root cause of why you have your triggers 4) How have you healed from your trauma 5) Have they found a mentor? 6) Developing assertiveness and boundaries - create purposeful conflict - this is a major one for me. If you have boundaries as a single man and you enforce them you WILL be single, LoL. 7) Understanding where and why and where you go to for dopamine. "In to me to see" I say "Without vulnerability there can be no intimacy". 8) Having healthy outlets for self expression. Sarah likes travel. That is her self expression. What this tells me is that she has unresolved trauma. If you feel a sense of relief when you leave your house to travel that should tell you something. Like every other women, all they want is constant stimulation and lack of responsibility. It's called the "life of the mind". Everything I have ever found traveling was right there in my back yard the whole time.
Talking about your vulnerabilities to a woman is a _REALLY_ bad idea, they may praise you for telling them at the time but the reality is that consciously or subconsciously she sees it as a weakness in you that she will weaponise in a future argument. Only women are allowed to show their vulnerabilities in a relationship - it is what it is... Assertiveness *IS* important - women want men who are not needy & don't take any sh&t, she needs to know that you are willing to walk away.
Unless a woman is attracted to you, she will find your traits unattractive, no matter what they are. If she's attracted to you, she'll find virtue in your traits. If she can't find virtue, she'll make excuses for you. Be a Chad and you'll be fine.
In my 60s. I have an alcoholic bi/polar daughter who is basically homeless. In 4 different relationships, women pried the ugly details out, then blamed me for circumstances and the way I managed her. So I have set this as a hard boundary. I will only discuss this with people I really trust and have actually experienced dealing with these issues.
Here's my hard boundary for what it's worth, I do not trust women with that information, be they a friend, a consort, or a spouse. All of the aforementioned titles can suddenly, without much warning have the letters letters "ex" in front of them and your privacy is compromised. You will suddenly and painfully discover the trust and loyalty you bestowed will be given as much consideration as when they turn off a light switch.
@@JedEkert 100%, the point is that it is rare to find a woman that you can truly share difficult experiences with, i.e. be vulnerable and not ultimately be mistreated. Much of what Sara says is true, you should fix your sh*t and present a strong masculine version of yourself; however, be very wary of sharing, especially when they start interrogating you. In fact I would make this a red flag.
@@tomdebevoise I am in agreement with you, and also with this particular post of Sarah's with one addition: fix yourself FOR yourself, and not to benefit or attract a consort. I am also in my 60s and have yet to find a female that can be trusted with personal information and not eventually weaponizing that info against you.
@@JedEkert I agree, my work, especially in "don't let the old man in" is for me alone. While we are dumping, I wanted to mention that I have lost count of the number of times that women have told me that when they decided to end their marriage they did this by cheating on their husbands, and presumably in a manner their husbands would find out. I do have several women that I adore, who are great sources of joy.
At 59 and divorced for 6 years, I've done more for myself and my own happiness and wisdom. The best understanding for me is that I don't need a woman in my life to be really happy. My best connections right now with women are platonic, they all really look up to me, and I'm respected. Good enough. I live in the moment, I travel more than ever. I'd rather live my life socially for myself first, rather than feel like a victim because of the total lack of mutual desire. I won't go around begging for the desire of a woman. The type of woman I want is very rare. Romance is a bonus, not a benchmark of life. Romance may come, it may not, but romance is not my crutch or objective. Yes, I have to replace the need or desire for intimacy or touch with other productive thoughts and activities, but that just the reality of it, and I accept that.
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
Ok, now here is the real list: A man MUST have/do the following: 1. Six figure income, 2. Six-bedroom house, 3. Six car garage, 4. Six pack abs, 5. At least a 6-inch sausage, 6. Must be at least 6 feet tall, 7. MUST treat her like an absolute queen, and last but not least 8. MUST pay all of her bills.
Yes, and with that type of woman, she will expect to have side flings too. No one can satisfy a woman like that. Her wants are a bottomless pit. Run man run.
Sounds like psycho-babble-rap to me. I had great parents. It wasn't always rosy, but it was still great. I've never met a woman yet who REALLY wanted to listen to my feelings, my history or anything about me. All they really want to talk about is THEIR feelings, history, etc.
To teach is to learn. Don't argue with women. An exercise in futility and men are practical fixers. It's more productive to say nothing and watch their image fade in the rear view mirror.
@@williamtomkiel8215 absolutely. Failure is a good teacher if you listen. Personal growth isn't and cannot be dependant on a womans pov. Nothing she has to say will have her be accountable or responsible for her actions.
You are right, it is more productive to walk. But nowhere near as much fun then staying and beating this person and winning the argument with facts and then watching this person devolving into a crying hot mess acting like an infant.
They should do their best but we have a lot of COURT-ORDERED FATHERLESSNESS. Couple that with a spiteful ex who tries to alienate your children from you and JUDGES who rarely hold such women in contempt when they obstruct dad’s visitation, you have an uphill battle that many men don’t have the resources to fight.
I hear this all the time. I'm 72 and when asked, and being totally honest and say how old I am, the look I get is hilarious! The face becomes pale, the look of sheer disgust and the instant turning away! Because I don't look my age. Always have looked 10 or 15 years younger. I dont worry about it because I go by the old adage of " the older the violin, the sweeter the music". So, it's their lose, not mine.
regarding assertiveness and boundaries, the hardest part for me has been learning to be able to communicate my needs in a calm, detached manner. When dealing with uncomfortable subjects, the emotions always come in, and cause me to not be able to hold the calm space, and I end up losing my train of thought and get all scrambled up, which makes communication and keeping the conversation productive and moving forward more difficult.
I know, I clicked on it too. A waste of my energy I thought. But then I spent an hour replying and RAGGING on all the SIMPS listening to this crazy sexist female. It was fun.
I have always had very low self esteem. Its so hard for me to meet and approach women. I am a straight male and other men-co workers have mocked my looks over the years. Been bullied. My self esteem has been affected.
It is not childlike to walk away from a toxic situation, it's just common sense. I don't have time for petty arguments and wasting my energy on someone who has no interest in hearing my point of view.
News Flash! Not sure why most women do not acknowledge this. They say they want a man to share his feelings and vulnerabilities. They think that it would be good for the man to share and perhaps for the man who is with that rare woman it works out. I'm stressing Rare here, very Rare. For the rest of those women, if the man shares and she views what he says as a weakness, he becomes a lesser man in her eyes, even look down on him. If he shares his feelings or other vulnerabilities, even if they don't affect her at that moment, she will definitely weaponize them if the relationship starts to sour and you can be 100% sure she shares it all with her friends in the most negative light. If a man decides to open up by himself, that's his business. However encouraging a man to do so when he doesn't want to is a terrible disservice.
- Cook her diner , or even ask her to help - Make sure your place is clean and tidy - Bring the relationship along slowly - Never talk about your Ex's - Don't talk about yourself , ask her questions about her life and interests .
Your ease of expression and thorough understanding of yourself and others (especially us men) is remarkable. You will easily hit 1 million subscribers. Please don’t change who you are!
One of the best channels for the battleweary soul is *Caroline McCready* for guided meditation. A person doesn’t need anything else besides this. Any man who is still looking for a woman to fill a void will never fill it. Meditation is free.
I quietly keep it to myself and share only with a select FEW, who can receive and understand me. That's women and men. Those who have done the work are alone in their journey in a way that is hard to explain. You are a sweet woman!
I want to know where all these magical women are that don't think less of you for having emotions or continually tell you how those emotions are your fault for having done things wrong. It's no wonder we don't open up about things because we know what will come from it. Men are not as dumb as women think, we choose to not be open about things we know will be used abusively later. In today's dating world(mostly online to be fair) where the chads and gigachads receive 95% of the attention, you can't convince me that women want emotionally healthy, self-aware men. Maybe if they're a 6'3" CEO with a 6 pack, but the "normies" of the world don't even get a shot the vast majority of the time.
Hey coach. 48yr old here. Just wanted to drop you a line. I've recently found your channel and been binge-studying. Been out of the game for 15 years. Threw my hat back in the ring. Took your "5 questions to ask your lover" lesson to heart. I got pretty bad rejection on a dating site today. Told my roommate about it. Told her about your 5-questions lesson. Ended up lovingly talking her out of the bath....took her to the bedroom to dry her off....and got her all wet again. Cheers, Coach. Really. Thanks.
I've done numbers 1 to 4, No 5 don't have a mentor, No.6 still working on assertiveness, but after hearing your definition I'm probably doing okay, No. 7 never had enough experience with intimacy to do much on this, touch is wonderful though probably because I've lived without it for most on my life. No. 8 Yep I've got this covered, how do I have less hobbies? Haha
No. I can tell you from (quite recent) personal experience that ... not so much going to another man for help, but to really engage in the process of building meaningful and trusting relationships with other men will change _you._ It makes you less dependent, or _codependent,_ on the woman in your life, or the women you meet, and women sense that right away. And they approve, believe me.
Must be REALLY nice to have it ALL. How can you tempt men to DARE do what you have done? You have absolutely NO idea how bad the deck is stacked against us. But hey. Have a nice time enjoying YOUR life.
It's about feelings of trust and safety on her part that will allow her to see that you're emotions aren't a sign of weakness. So long as she also sees the mongrel inside you that she can trust will protect her.
Have seen men over 40s and many of them are unable to resolve their past mistakes when it comes to intimate relationships and the older they are the smaller chances there is that they will be resolve it. Often are just guys who are expecting that she will be able to live his flaws somehow.
Most men of that age, especially, when you add up all the pluses and minuses, don’t see the payoff to getting one of these modern women. So, I’d say there is very little motivation to take your advice for women they have no interest in.
Why do I still feel like a heel? I have had to travel this list a dozen times over the last 24 years. Each time I've had to figure it out all for myself. Thank you and yet I am still poor and I am still unable to take advantage of all your offering. Reagan stole my GI bill in 88. It's just gone downhill from there. Play come back and I come back and I come back. When will I stay whole and actualized.
@@jimotto1134 crazy women are the only ones left. All I have to do is not act crazier than them. If you hadn't noticed they're crazy is less than mine that helps me think less crazy or at least appear that way everybody says I overthink well I don't think people under think enough are you under thinking enough we've all become crazy because of the last 100 years of commercial television or did I study psychology and marketing in the same semester
Jim Otto 1245 I am the GI, at a party you move for the block. Under federal law I have the duty to retreat. Did wemen know that? Since I never stayed around are you roosters should be married by now 40 years later you're still whining about it. And I've been setting you up for 40 years so that you can catch something and you still haven't done it yet. How hard does she have to fall on your face before you can get some?
i found a real woman that loves me, ( very rare). I don't want to attract other women, they are not worth a second of my time. for the single men out there, good luck, and i hope it gets better.
Great advice Sarah. I love that intimacy is Into me I see you thing, priceless. I just turned 59 and I don't see any testosterone issues, if anything I'm getting too much. I've met hundreds of women in my lifetime, and maybe three were into this stuff. When ever I've brought any of these kind of subjects up, all it does is kill the positive vibe for her and make her lose interest in me. Very sad that so many women think they have it all together, and don't have any issues. Hey, I got a great idea. You're a singer, how about ending each video with a cover song like I do. That would be sweet. Thanks Sarah, enjoy the rest of you're evening (: .
Damn it Sarah. I learn something almost every time I'm watching your videos. I had no earthly idea. No. Inkling of an idea that men being emasculated and then women being objectified is very similar or the same thing for both parties. I had no idea now. I will tremendously think about this a lot more and I hope you take this comment that I'm about to give you as something that you like. But I love your channel. Very informative and women who are like you that are smart, intelligent, I find very attractive but I'm not trying to say that to objectify you please do take it as a comment. I only mean that in the most respective of ways excellent video
Hi Sarah! I luv ur emotional intelligence and I just learn that u play piano!! :) I wonder if that intelligence translate into ur music! Is there anyplace we can go to hear u play?? maybe sing too :D
Hmmm. So it seems that the experts say that the assumptions of the Polyvagal Theory are untenable and that the theory is not endorsed by current social neuroscience. Interesting.
Yeah, don't just do the same things all the time. My wife and I were just in London for a couple of weeks. We weren't touring, though we saw some of the sights. We were there for a purpose that both of us are invested in. This year it was loosely related to the non-profit she runs, but I have a stake in another way. We've been to places like Venezuela, Mexico, and Ecuador together for this. But she's been to Uganda, Kenya, Israel, and the UAE without me for similar reasons. I've been to India, Saudi Arabia, UAE, and Lebanon without her for similar reasons. You don't have to travel the world, but you need to be involved in something that means something. And don't do it just to get a girl to like you. Do it because it's healthy to your psychological, emotional, and physical well-being. If you do it just to get a girl to like you, she'll know and it won't work out. Just as an example of daily life, tomorrow over lunch, I'm moving a bus that's been converted to a mobile classroom to the county fair where she'll use it to work with kids who attend the fair as part of her non-profit. See, we're working together. I have the training and ability to drive the thing where it needs to go. She works her magic with the kids. (And we have two of our kids and one in-law who are on her staff. Life couldn't be better!)
Does not being able to listen to a woman blabber on about what she thinks she likes count as a turn on? I might be one of the few to make it to old age to make sure my woman is on because i understand the reality of the situation. I just have to make it to the end.
A great video. Not all points apply to everyone, but looking inwards with a critical, satirical look and coming out on the other side all the wiser makes you a better man, aka an attractive one. Any female taking advantage of perceived weakness in you? Run.
Now if I had a RUclips channel telling women what they should be doing I would get hate mail all day, why do women think they know how men feel it's ridiculous. The less we do the happier we are, stop trying to fix us.
I’m 54 years old. I’ve never been on A date in my life. When I approach women the first word out of her mouth is don’t talk to me, my boyfriend or I get A snotty look. Women only care about what you look like and how much money you have.
#1 - I’m 50 with a rotation of younger, incredibly fit & attractive women And if I were to say anything close to that word salad of BS that she started off with, I would have none
I like to attract younger women by taking out my false teeth to sip coffee with a pained expression on my face. Younger women also like it when I tell another old person that I'm hanging in there and then we both laugh extremely loud as though I told a very funny joke.
@@jimotto1134 it's NOT!!! What I'm saying is, I should have adopted these traits much earlier on! The reason I didn't? I was trying too hard to be a people pleaser. I recognise this in every single one of the traits that Sarah highlights, and if I'd adopted these traits earlier, chances are we wouldn't have got married at all, but even if we did, it would have worked out better, as she would have had more respect for me. I am NOT a simp!
I seriously would meet and fall in love with the Future Single American 12-year old Female Lego RUclipsr/Lego Contestant there in the US, I would wait for 3 years until she gets pregnant at the first time. 🙂 #"IWOULDWISHAGAINANDAGAINANDAGAINUNTILITHAPPENS"
I heard President Vladimir is willing to give 3 months visas to any Western that wants to escape this LGBTQ feminists Freemason illuminati Lucifer bullshit.
You do realize you are in the 99 percentile of not just intelligence but relationship science. Most of this stuff is lost on my dates, and bringing it up only makes one come off as a know-it-all. So the conversation never gets to a discussion of, say, the process of healing. Those who are healed never discuss the process unless it’s broached first. So the healed sit there and let their date talk ad nauseum about their kids or favorite tv shows and I am perceived as boring. Aside from the impracticability of these points, you have an interesting podcast.
Sorry Dude. When you talk like a Woman to a Woman, your value drops to SIMP status. Sounds like you're a victim of the Therapy God Cult. Not all therapists are bad, it's just that the good ones are extremely rare, and appears you haven't found a good one, yet. And quit listening to crazy like this posting, it only hurts you.
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For the love of everything Holy quit using the term "partner", sounds like you just created an LLC..use the term boyfriend...
Most "normal" men UNDERSTAND their issues. They also understand (from personal experience) to NOT talk about it due to the inevitable weaponization of that information.
a tree won't weaponize your feelings and use them against you. grizzle grizzle.
I understand that one 100%
That's because most guys only use superficial criteria to pick their women and exclusively let certain organs do the selection - and that does not include the brain and the heart. So the outcome is hardly surprising.
Women can't be entrusted with anything that could be perceived as a Man's vulnerability.
Yes. It’s a trap, talking about vulnerability to a woman you’re involved with.
I’ve had both good luck and bad luck with women of all ages. None of them are staying when you start yapping about your feelings.
True that! The only feelings women care about are their own.
@@rustyknott-W.D bingo
Because they don't give a shit. They only care what you can do for them.
We men are better off talking to a tree....Even when I'm pissed off and angry I get the "all about you" garbage--and I tell her to F off. I don't say S**t any more...but really, I never said much in the first p[lace.
7:53 - "not ghosting"
Women literally ghost men ALL the time. When we do speak up we are being "needy" or "just want a mommy"
I have tried all that in the past, didn't work. Now if a woman plays games or whatever I do just ghost them. It seems to work much better
1. Have money
2. Have money
3. Have money
4. Have money
5. Have money
6. Have money
7. Have money
8. Have money
I’m 0 for 8!
Don't forget having money always helps😂😂
There are broke dudes doing life in prison who have chicks writing them talking about how they'll wait for them forever. Of course, they're generally at least 6 feet tall and muscular.
And have more money.
and having all the time in the world now for them to get their attention fix from
Modern women have been stripped of traditional values through feminism.
How do you fix that?
Leave them alone and stop being a SIMP, for starters.
@jimotto1134 Think they will self correct?
Doubtful.
I hear you on ignoring the moderns.
Problem is simps are everywhere and they don't learn until they get burned.
How can the simp problem be fixed?
She's talking about the healthy women out there. The 0.25%. So none of this will be even remotely helpful to any man dating women in 2024.
1) Understand your triggers. She says major props if you understand this. Unfortunately this will REPEL all women, LoL!
2) Know your body (clues to when you are triggered)
3) Understand the root cause of why you have your triggers
4) How have you healed from your trauma
5) Have they found a mentor?
6) Developing assertiveness and boundaries - create purposeful conflict - this is a major one for me. If you have boundaries as a single man and you enforce them you WILL be single, LoL.
7) Understanding where and why and where you go to for dopamine. "In to me to see" I say "Without vulnerability there can be no intimacy".
8) Having healthy outlets for self expression.
Sarah likes travel. That is her self expression. What this tells me is that she has unresolved trauma. If you feel a sense of relief when you leave your house to travel that should tell you something.
Like every other women, all they want is constant stimulation and lack of responsibility. It's called the "life of the mind". Everything I have ever found traveling was right there in my back yard the whole time.
From the way my ex's or the few other women talk about other women including their friends, I'd say you are right about 0.25%
Talking about your vulnerabilities to a woman is a _REALLY_ bad idea, they may praise you for telling them at the time but the reality is that consciously or subconsciously she sees it as a weakness in you that she will weaponise in a future argument.
Only women are allowed to show their vulnerabilities in a relationship - it is what it is...
Assertiveness *IS* important - women want men who are not needy & don't take any sh&t, she needs to know that you are willing to walk away.
Unless a woman is attracted to you, she will find your traits unattractive, no matter what they are. If she's attracted to you, she'll find virtue in your traits. If she can't find virtue, she'll make excuses for you. Be a Chad and you'll be fine.
she'll find virtue until she finds someone better. loyalty is fleeting these days
In my 60s. I have an alcoholic bi/polar daughter who is basically homeless. In 4 different relationships, women pried the ugly details out, then blamed me for circumstances and the way I managed her. So I have set this as a hard boundary. I will only discuss this with people I really trust and have actually experienced dealing with these issues.
Here's my hard boundary for what it's worth, I do not trust women with that information, be they a friend, a consort, or a spouse. All of the aforementioned titles can suddenly, without much warning have the letters letters "ex" in front of them and your privacy is compromised. You will suddenly and painfully discover the trust and loyalty you bestowed will be given as much consideration as when they turn off a light switch.
@@JedEkert 100%, the point is that it is rare to find a woman that you can truly share difficult experiences with, i.e. be vulnerable and not ultimately be mistreated. Much of what Sara says is true, you should fix your sh*t and present a strong masculine version of yourself; however, be very wary of sharing, especially when they start interrogating you. In fact I would make this a red flag.
@@tomdebevoise I am in agreement with you, and also with this particular post of Sarah's with one addition: fix yourself FOR yourself, and not to benefit or attract a consort. I am also in my 60s and have yet to find a female that can be trusted with personal information and not eventually weaponizing that info against you.
@@JedEkert I learned that lesson the hard way.
@@JedEkert I agree, my work, especially in "don't let the old man in" is for me alone. While we are dumping, I wanted to mention that I have lost count of the number of times that women have told me that when they decided to end their marriage they did this by cheating on their husbands, and presumably in a manner their husbands would find out. I do have several women that I adore, who are great sources of joy.
At 59 and divorced for 6 years, I've done more for myself and my own happiness and wisdom. The best understanding for me is that I don't need a woman in my life to be really happy. My best connections right now with women are platonic, they all really look up to me, and I'm respected. Good enough. I live in the moment, I travel more than ever. I'd rather live my life socially for myself first, rather than feel like a victim because of the total lack of mutual desire. I won't go around begging for the desire of a woman. The type of woman I want is very rare. Romance is a bonus, not a benchmark of life. Romance may come, it may not, but romance is not my crutch or objective. Yes, I have to replace the need or desire for intimacy or touch with other productive thoughts and activities, but that just the reality of it, and I accept that.
You have low T. An that's it.
@@soichirohonda267Don't judge a man until you've walked a mile in his shoes. Karma is a bitch.
Great video! My five year relationship came to an end a month ago. The love of my life chose to leave, and I can't stop thinking about him; I love him so deeply. I've done everything I can to win him back, but nothing seems to work. I'm feeling frustrated and can't imagine my life with anyone else. Despite my efforts to move on, I just can't shake the thoughts of him. I don’t know why I’m sharing this, but I really miss him.
It's tough to let go of someone you care about. I can relate, my 12year relationship also ended, and I struggled to move on. I tried everything to get him back, even seeking help from a spiritual counselor who ultimately helped me reconnect with him.
That's incredible! How did you find a spiritual counselor, and how can I contact one?
His name is Owen Abiola, and he’s an amazing spiritual counselor who specializes in bringing back lost loves.
Owen Abiola has incredible powers, and he can assist you.
Thank you for sharing this valuable information! I just looked him up online, and I'm impressed.
Mine is Tattoos on women!!! I don't have any such things
Ok, now here is the real list: A man MUST have/do the following: 1. Six figure income, 2. Six-bedroom house, 3. Six car garage, 4. Six pack abs, 5. At least a 6-inch sausage, 6. Must be at least 6 feet tall, 7. MUST treat her like an absolute queen, and last but not least 8. MUST pay all of her bills.
Ain’t going to happen!!!!
Yes, and with that type of woman, she will expect to have side flings too. No one can satisfy a woman like that. Her wants are a bottomless pit. Run man run.
Sounds like psycho-babble-rap to me. I had great parents. It wasn't always rosy, but it was still great. I've never met a woman yet who REALLY wanted to listen to my feelings, my history or anything about me. All they really want to talk about is THEIR feelings, history, etc.
1. Money
2. Status
That's all folks.
1 trait that men over 40 find extremely attractive: the ability to get to the point.
💯!
yeah she hasn't figured that one out yet has she
@@sentineloffreedomforever1381 yeah she's not 40 yet
To teach is to learn.
Don't argue with women. An exercise in futility and men are practical fixers. It's more productive to say nothing and watch their image fade in the rear view mirror.
that equal opportunity to fail all by your own empowerment. or learn how to - be better
@@williamtomkiel8215 absolutely. Failure is a good teacher if you listen. Personal growth isn't and cannot be dependant on a womans pov. Nothing she has to say will have her be accountable or responsible for her actions.
Okay. When was the last time you had a discussion with a highly intelligent woman?
You're so right...NEVER argue with a woman; you WON'T win; and could lead TO violence...
You are right, it is more productive to walk. But nowhere near as much fun then staying and beating this person and winning the argument with facts and then watching this person devolving into a crying hot mess acting like an infant.
I have no need of this information.
I have been clean of women for 9 years.
America is running out of real men for a number of modern social reasons. Dads work hard to parent your sons so we can remain a strong nation.
They should do their best but we have a lot of COURT-ORDERED FATHERLESSNESS.
Couple that with a spiteful ex who tries to alienate your children from you and JUDGES who rarely hold such women in contempt when they obstruct dad’s visitation, you have an uphill battle that many men don’t have the resources to fight.
“I’ve done a lot of work on myself”. lol. That phrase is a red flag for either sex
Someone half my age came on to me a couple of weeks back.
"How old are you? Thirties, forties?" I told her the truth. It wasn't a deal-breaker.
Anything else after that?
@@DaRyteJuan He said that she came on to him and that his age wasn't a deal-breaker. I don't think he needs to spell it out, does he?
@@DaRyteJuan My first kiss in eight years.
We swapped numbers.
I hear this all the time. I'm 72 and when asked, and being totally honest and say how old I am, the look I get is hilarious! The face becomes pale, the look of sheer disgust and the instant turning away! Because I don't look my age. Always have looked 10 or 15 years younger. I dont worry about it because I go by the old adage of " the older the violin, the sweeter the music". So, it's their lose, not mine.
regarding assertiveness and boundaries, the hardest part for me has been learning to be able to communicate my needs in a calm, detached manner. When dealing with uncomfortable subjects, the emotions always come in, and cause me to not be able to hold the calm space, and I end up losing my train of thought and get all scrambled up, which makes communication and keeping the conversation productive and moving forward more difficult.
Congratulations, you're human.
Sorry Son, don't be a SIMP. Emotions are for Women not men. Stoicism is your goal and your fate. Unless you enjoy being the "emotional victim."
@@jimotto1134 thats enough redpill BS for today
@@bradleywesterford3587 AGREED.
As a happily married sixty-eight year old, I'm definitely interested in finding out how to keep my wife enticed...
Good points! I would score high on your scale......the thing is......I'm MGTOW because its too dangerous to date modern women of any age.
Men have to do EVERYTHING while women have to do nothing;m according to this women; can’t make this ish up 😂
nearly 4 minutes in and I'm done. can't believe I was duped into clicking this video
I know, I clicked on it too. A waste of my energy I thought. But then I spent an hour replying and RAGGING on all the SIMPS listening to this crazy sexist female. It was fun.
Wow funny how I just got back from a Healing Weekend in Colorado Springs; definitely examining past childhood trauma and allowing God to heal me!
Babyget to the point
@@christoph3187…the video is over 15 minutes long and there are 8 traits. That ain’t “less than 1 minute per trait.” LOL!
@@niaralosusa Sorry, you’re absolutely right, twisted it wrong way round 😂 but still, two minutes per point is still not drawn out IMO.
Anyone know how old this chic is? I noticed she doesn’t have a ring on.
i bet debt free Mike is 55
She's a right naughty one.
@@andywestrick7717 You’re saying she’s 55?
I’d say 44
Above 35 below 40
I have always had very low self esteem. Its so hard for me to meet and approach women. I am a straight male and other men-co workers have mocked my looks over the years. Been bullied. My self esteem has been affected.
It is not childlike to walk away from a toxic situation, it's just common sense. I don't have time for petty arguments and wasting my energy on someone who has no interest in hearing my point of view.
News Flash! Not sure why most women do not acknowledge this. They say they want a man to share his feelings and vulnerabilities. They think that it would be good for the man to share and perhaps for the man who is with that rare woman it works out. I'm stressing Rare here, very Rare.
For the rest of those women, if the man shares and she views what he says as a weakness, he becomes a lesser man in her eyes, even look down on him. If he shares his feelings or other vulnerabilities, even if they don't affect her at that moment, she will definitely weaponize them if the relationship starts to sour and you can be 100% sure she shares it all with her friends in the most negative light.
If a man decides to open up by himself, that's his business. However encouraging a man to do so when he doesn't want to is a terrible disservice.
There was no empathy when I'm out here lifting 100lb bags of plaster for a pool. In turn I have no empathy.
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I don’t want to be alone, but I’m confident that I will be.
- Cook her diner , or even ask her to help
- Make sure your place is clean and tidy
- Bring the relationship along slowly
- Never talk about your Ex's
- Don't talk about yourself , ask her questions about her life and interests
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I appreciate the intertwining education of the early traumas expressed in relationships.
Very rare this is acknowledged
Your ease of expression and thorough understanding of yourself and others (especially us men) is remarkable. You will easily hit 1 million subscribers. Please don’t change who you are!
One of the best channels for the battleweary soul is *Caroline McCready* for guided meditation. A person doesn’t need anything else besides this.
Any man who is still looking for a woman to fill a void will never fill it. Meditation is free.
Applicable to broke guys over 40?
If you don’t live on the street and have a job you’re not broke fam.
@@robertbarber1198 in the minds of many women, if you make less than 6 figures, you're broke
That's the problem with advice for guys over 40 - it assumes they're all well-off, high income, large bank balance, own their own house & car etc.
@@robertbarber1198 There are millions who are struggling financially among those who have a job & a house/flat.
@@RobertTaylor-gz2fu 100% my point
I quietly keep it to myself and share only with a select FEW, who can receive and understand me. That's women and men.
Those who have done the work are alone in their journey in a way that is hard to explain.
You are a sweet woman!
Im just waiting for my kids to go to college and graduate before I end it.
Thank you, this Cartmen triangle is great, as long as I keep South Park out of my mind :)
I want to know where all these magical women are that don't think less of you for having emotions or continually tell you how those emotions are your fault for having done things wrong. It's no wonder we don't open up about things because we know what will come from it. Men are not as dumb as women think, we choose to not be open about things we know will be used abusively later. In today's dating world(mostly online to be fair) where the chads and gigachads receive 95% of the attention, you can't convince me that women want emotionally healthy, self-aware men. Maybe if they're a 6'3" CEO with a 6 pack, but the "normies" of the world don't even get a shot the vast majority of the time.
Hey coach. 48yr old here. Just wanted to drop you a line. I've recently found your channel and been binge-studying. Been out of the game for 15 years. Threw my hat back in the ring. Took your "5 questions to ask your lover" lesson to heart. I got pretty bad rejection on a dating site today. Told my roommate about it. Told her about your 5-questions lesson. Ended up lovingly talking her out of the bath....took her to the bedroom to dry her off....and got her all wet again. Cheers, Coach. Really. Thanks.
The intimacy part, breathing together in silence and looking into each others eyes!
I've done numbers 1 to 4, No 5 don't have a mentor, No.6 still working on assertiveness, but after hearing your definition I'm probably doing okay, No. 7 never had enough experience with intimacy to do much on this, touch is wonderful though probably because I've lived without it for most on my life. No. 8 Yep I've got this covered, how do I have less hobbies? Haha
If you have to tiptoe around subjects with the woman, that’s not the right woman for you.
I'll tell you what a man finds attractive about a woman: when you ask, do you want to talk about feeeeelings? She laughs and says, no.
I'm not sure about the mentor thing. A woman likely wants someone mentoring others over a man who goes to another man for help.
No. I can tell you from (quite recent) personal experience that ... not so much going to another man for help, but to really engage in the process of building meaningful and trusting relationships with other men will change _you._ It makes you less dependent, or _codependent,_ on the woman in your life, or the women you meet, and women sense that right away. And they approve, believe me.
I know it makes you a better person, so having that is better than not having it. I’m just saying she would like a leader of men more than a follower.
Must be REALLY nice to have it ALL. How can you tempt men to DARE do what you have done?
You have absolutely NO idea how bad the deck is stacked against us. But hey. Have a nice time enjoying YOUR life.
It's about feelings of trust and safety on her part that will allow her to see that you're emotions aren't a sign of weakness. So long as she also sees the mongrel inside you that she can trust will protect her.
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Anyone knows how to do “non-physical touch”? Is it like the old tv show Touched By an Angel?
You were very authentic and involved while explaining the points in this video , Miss Moore. They're obviously close to your heart. Very pleasant.
Have seen men over 40s and many of them are unable to resolve their past mistakes when it comes to intimate relationships and the older they are the smaller chances there is that they will be resolve it. Often are just guys who are expecting that she will be able to live his flaws somehow.
Very good! However, frequent unnecessary traveling is one of my biggest turn-offs. And for many reasons.
Most men of that age, especially, when you add up all the pluses and minuses, don’t see the payoff to getting one of these modern women.
So, I’d say there is very little motivation to take your advice for women they have no interest in.
Why do I still feel like a heel? I have had to travel this list a dozen times over the last 24 years. Each time I've had to figure it out all for myself. Thank you and yet I am still poor and I am still unable to take advantage of all your offering. Reagan stole my GI bill in 88. It's just gone downhill from there. Play come back and I come back and I come back. When will I stay whole and actualized.
When you take responsibility for yourself and stop being a SIMP, that's how. Oh, and stop listening to Crazy women.
@@jimotto1134 who says I'm a simp
@@jimotto1134 crazy women are the only ones left. All I have to do is not act crazier than them. If you hadn't noticed they're crazy is less than mine that helps me think less crazy or at least appear that way everybody says I overthink well I don't think people under think enough are you under thinking enough we've all become crazy because of the last 100 years of commercial television or did I study psychology and marketing in the same semester
Jim Otto 1245 I am the GI, at a party you move for the block. Under federal law I have the duty to retreat. Did wemen know that? Since I never stayed around are you roosters should be married by now 40 years later you're still whining about it. And I've been setting you up for 40 years so that you can catch something and you still haven't done it yet. How hard does she have to fall on your face before you can get some?
like this short form lecture format Sarah. Very worthwhile
i found a real woman that loves me, ( very rare). I don't want to attract other women, they are not worth a second of my time.
for the single men out there, good luck, and i hope it gets better.
Great advice Sarah. I love that intimacy is Into me I see you thing, priceless. I just turned 59 and I don't see any testosterone issues, if anything I'm getting too much. I've met hundreds of women in my lifetime, and maybe three were into this stuff. When ever I've brought any of these kind of subjects up, all it does is kill the positive vibe for her and make her lose interest in me. Very sad that so many women think they have it all together, and don't have any issues. Hey, I got a great idea. You're a singer, how about ending each video with a cover song like I do. That would be sweet. Thanks Sarah, enjoy the rest of you're evening (: .
Damn it Sarah. I learn something almost every time I'm watching your videos. I had no earthly idea. No. Inkling of an idea that men being emasculated and then women being objectified is very similar or the same thing for both parties. I had no idea now. I will tremendously think about this a lot more and I hope you take this comment that I'm about to give you as something that you like. But I love your channel. Very informative and women who are like you that are smart, intelligent, I find very attractive but I'm not trying to say that to objectify you please do take it as a comment. I only mean that in the most respective of ways excellent video
Intimacy = illusions to please the woman
Outstanding work, as usual. Very helpful content. Once again, I learned a ton. Keep it up.
Hi Sarah! I luv ur emotional intelligence and I just learn that u play piano!! :) I wonder if that intelligence translate into ur music! Is there anyplace we can go to hear u play?? maybe sing too :D
Hmmm. So it seems that the experts say that the assumptions of the Polyvagal Theory are untenable and that the theory is not endorsed by current social neuroscience. Interesting.
Yeah, don't just do the same things all the time. My wife and I were just in London for a couple of weeks. We weren't touring, though we saw some of the sights. We were there for a purpose that both of us are invested in. This year it was loosely related to the non-profit she runs, but I have a stake in another way. We've been to places like Venezuela, Mexico, and Ecuador together for this. But she's been to Uganda, Kenya, Israel, and the UAE without me for similar reasons. I've been to India, Saudi Arabia, UAE, and Lebanon without her for similar reasons. You don't have to travel the world, but you need to be involved in something that means something.
And don't do it just to get a girl to like you. Do it because it's healthy to your psychological, emotional, and physical well-being. If you do it just to get a girl to like you, she'll know and it won't work out.
Just as an example of daily life, tomorrow over lunch, I'm moving a bus that's been converted to a mobile classroom to the county fair where she'll use it to work with kids who attend the fair as part of her non-profit. See, we're working together. I have the training and ability to drive the thing where it needs to go. She works her magic with the kids. (And we have two of our kids and one in-law who are on her staff. Life couldn't be better!)
Good for you. You found one of the very rare GOOD ones. Quit boasting ya bastard😅.
Whats with ALL the bots!?!?
What's with all the simps??
Very interesting 👌 👍 🤔 lo😢 and very informative 👌 👍 🤔
Does not being able to listen to a woman blabber on about what she thinks she likes count as a turn on? I might be one of the few to make it to old age to make sure my woman is on because i understand the reality of the situation. I just have to make it to the end.
A great video. Not all points apply to everyone, but looking inwards with a critical, satirical look and coming out on the other side all the wiser makes you a better man, aka an attractive one. Any female taking advantage of perceived weakness in you? Run.
can you say SIMP?
@@jimotto1134 4 letters, 1 vowel - I believe I can, yes. Your point being?
😂 Quoting The Love Guru”. Into me I see.
Now if I had a RUclips channel telling women what they should be doing I would get hate mail all day, why do women think they know how men feel it's ridiculous. The less we do the happier we are, stop trying to fix us.
Good advice . Balance is the key
I’m 54 years old. I’ve never been on A date in my life. When I approach women the first word out of her mouth is don’t talk to me, my boyfriend or I get A snotty look. Women only care about what you look like and how much money you have.
My ex girlfriend forbade me from saying the word No. I had to end her little bondage session promptly. She was the essence of the bossy girlfriend.
#1 - I’m 50 with a rotation of younger, incredibly fit & attractive women
And if I were to say anything close to that word salad of BS that she started off with, I would have none
I like to attract younger women by taking out my false teeth to sip coffee with a pained expression on my face. Younger women also like it when I tell another old person that I'm hanging in there and then we both laugh extremely loud as though I told a very funny joke.
Man and women's minds are different
Anyone got a list since the video isn't broken up so you can just look at pertinent information?
My fishing game would improve if only I could get the fish to give me advice.
This was ALL why my marriage failed!
you say that as if it were a bad thing. don't be a SIMP
@@jimotto1134 it's NOT!!! What I'm saying is, I should have adopted these traits much earlier on! The reason I didn't? I was trying too hard to be a people pleaser. I recognise this in every single one of the traits that Sarah highlights, and if I'd adopted these traits earlier, chances are we wouldn't have got married at all, but even if we did, it would have worked out better, as she would have had more respect for me. I am NOT a simp!
Right, but there has to,
be, must be more that i could do ...😂😁
👏... Good talk.
…. Traveling sounds like a distraction, that MAY offer some healing, but not a great healing tactic
This twaddle is not for me….get to the point
Seriously, I'm over this shit.
It's not helpful.
Danke!
I seriously would meet and fall in love with the Future Single American 12-year old Female Lego RUclipsr/Lego Contestant there in the US, I would wait for 3 years until she gets pregnant at the first time. 🙂
#"IWOULDWISHAGAINANDAGAINANDAGAINUNTILITHAPPENS"
Just a point...your back ground SET is SOooo COLD...looks like an office or government institution...CHANGE IMMEDIATELY...
Sorry couldn't care less.
Not one comment here agrees with her😅.
Well, this was a waste of time.
ive typed and deleted 50 times.
well, make up your Freaking mind then 😅
Nice
No Maam!
Whatever.
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Come to Russia, lads! I'm 45 and recently had a 21 year old all over me!
No one’s going to Russia. Ever. Unsubstantiated crimes slapped on any American is a hard no.
Where exactly? Moscow?
@@randomeyes close by, Dubna.
I heard President Vladimir is willing to give 3 months visas to any Western that wants to escape this LGBTQ feminists Freemason illuminati Lucifer bullshit.
Russian president said he will give a 3 month visa to escape this western feminists bullshit
You do realize you are in the 99 percentile of not just intelligence but relationship science. Most of this stuff is lost on my dates, and bringing it up only makes one come off as a know-it-all. So the conversation never gets to a discussion of, say, the process of healing. Those who are healed never discuss the process unless it’s broached first. So the healed sit there and let their date talk ad nauseum about their kids or favorite tv shows and I am perceived as boring.
Aside from the impracticability of these points, you have an interesting podcast.
Sorry Dude. When you talk like a Woman to a Woman, your value drops to SIMP status. Sounds like you're a victim of the Therapy God Cult. Not all therapists are bad, it's just that the good ones are extremely rare, and appears you haven't found a good one, yet. And quit listening to crazy like this posting, it only hurts you.