Men, your never going to get it right with women. They live by emotions, feelings, and hormones. What makes them happy and what they want will change daily if not hourly. You will end up being miserable playing the relationship game. Be 100% responsible for your own happiness. Find peace and happiness within yourself.
And “your” probably never going to impress a woman with your slovenly use of language. If there’s one thing women love, it’s someone’s who’s good with his tongue. 😜
Every time I think I might start cattin again, I just listen to one of her videos and get reminded of the emotional exhaustion I'm in for and I quickly change my mind.
I have found after one woman for 30 years and another woman for 12 years that all they want is money and they called security but all they want is money. Stop making good money they will bail.
2 weeks before we were married, we were homeless living in my car for 2 months. She never complained, just made the best of the situation we found ourselves in.
Didn't care for the caricature of guys with lower emotional intelligence, TBH. It felt condescending, just like your video from a while back on blue collar guys. Is the problem that our interests are boring? Or is the problem that we often can't put our "why" into words? If a guy's childhood memories are full of unpleasant experiences that he doesn't really want to talk about, is he cooked? Lots of guys are scared to open up about that stuff because we're worried women will lose attraction or worse, weaponize it down the road, a problem I know you're well aware of. And one of the big reasons alexithymia is so much more prevalent in men than in women is because we were oftentimes punished for showing our emotions as boys, often by parents or peers. I hear jokes like, "analyzing the Fibonacci code of the table we're sitting on" and it feels disrespectful. It feels like you're implying that being analytical thinkers makes us essentially incapable of emotional intimacy, instead of it being a skills gap-which you did touch on. Like you said, there's nothing wrong with being analytical thinkers. But I feel like the implication is that in order to be considered a good partner we must be perfectly in tune with our emotions. And lots of us have a _very_ long way to go to get to that point, and we feel undeserving of love because of it.
No. They don't want the men who 'can put their why into words.' They want the masculine guy and they try to change him and then get upset that they got the masculine guy. The articulate guys are invisible and once they become articulate in sharing their feelings, they're no longer attractive. If you share feelings with a woman it can only be the approved feelings. Yes, she's analyzing analytical guys without seeing the irony of her own hypocrisy and projection as an out of touch analyzer herself. Classic lack of self-awareness.
Men’s please invest in yourself, brokerage account, 401k, savings, insurance, long term care and HSA, annuities that when you retire you don’t need to worry about anything that’s my best advice.
1. Not being rich. 2. Not driving an exotic car. 3. Not being a professional athlete. 4. Not being a bad boy. 5. You get the picture. 6. If she wasn’t already attracted to you because you’re a Chad, nothing you do is going to change that.
I remember losing out to pro athletes at least twice back when I lived in DFW. I was a working stiff and when they see Dallas Cowboys in the clubs or in the bars etc it's over. Also Texas Rangers. If there are rich bastards around or these athletes the women just flock to them.
@@tuesdayswithed Most women are so disloyal that even if they were with a 6'2" millionaire, they'd easily drop him if they thought they had a chance with a 6'4" billionaire.
@@karthy257 Serial killers are WAY HOT if they are tall and good looking. Women LOVE those guys. Ted Bundy, the dude with the Tattoo's on his fact that just recently was convicted...women are there trying to get him out LOL Nothing new there. You can literally be a serial deleter of women...and women will FIND THAT ATTRACTIVE.
Sarah, on points number one and number two, we men have a name for them. It’s called normal. What a woman calls. Emotionally unavailable is normal for a man. Emotional availability is always used against us by women. And when a woman is soft, feminine, sweet and cooperative, we become very present.
@@JedEkert OK, professor. Listen, if you're going to look down on her material, don't watch her channel, OK? I don't know about you, but some of us want to learn about a woman's perspective. Sheeeees 😒
@@nocturnaljoe9543 You're not wrong. Women really can't see that they treat good looking men differently than how they treat the other 99.999999% It's a feature of femininity. Women who are a 1-10 on the objective attractiveness scale ALL thing they deserve a 9 or a 10 in a man (8 is no longer good enough). When women say "Where are all the good men?" what they leave out it "who I am attracted to.". this is a sliding scale based upon her own (massively warped) assessment of her attractiveness. Hypergamy is a bitch.
I asked her about her thoughts on autistic men, and I'm an AuDHD myself. I think women expect men to not have issues with autism and ADHD, but women can have these problems without consequence (I say that last word keeping in mind that it's not the autistic's or ADHD'ers fault). Also, it's not as simple as "Hey! Just date another autistic!" because we're often MORE incompatible with other autistics (because it's such a diverse spectrum!) than we are with neurotypicals.
My son is going to school for engineering. However he has a girlfriend from high school still. Im glad for him as I have been alone since his mother left me and I wouldn't want that for any man. Unfortunately I been burned so many times I dont trust anyone anymore especially women. I honestly don't know if it can be fixed. 🙏
Nearly all of these traits mentioned are inherent to or describe a level 1 autistic man, a man with a highly noticeable disability- like a stutter, or both. No amount of self-reflection or work on self-image/ self acceptance of can change unalterable facts about being disabled or exhibiting characteristics of being level 1 autistic. Appreciate the honesty. It explains 3 failed marriages and why I'm feared, despised, and often hated.
@AlanA-xp5qk I really hope SDM is paying attention to these comments, because there are a lot of diagnosed and undiagnosed men watching her channel and thinking they're the problem
The grass always seems greener elsewhere. When you don’t tend your own garden.. SOW, the seeds of mutual support, WATER, nurture trust and communication in fortifying your relationship. PRUNE, away indifference, criticism and isolation. HARVEST, unity, companionship and collaboration, with compassion and understanding in healing together..
That is a problem men. We need to come together and stop giving to women who are lacking in substance. I would rather be with a loving and nurturing 5 than with a 8+ that is always combative and entitled.
Number 3 and 4 is a fine line, how do I not be smothering (3) while being consistent (4) If I reach out too often I'm "too needy" but if I don't reach out enough I'm "inconsistent" I don't really want to go mgtow yet but I'm also not going to be walking on eggshells either. I fully understand why men do go mgtow now. Sometimes I can't blame them
Revision: #1- Under 6'2, #2- No sixpack, #3- Imperfect jawline, #4- imperfect hair, #5- non-millionaire, #6- Formal training or just possessing a very good lie/bullshit detector, #7- Rich but smart enough to have trusts and other strategies in place to prevent the steal, #8- Being nice- there's a reason for the saying about finishing last. Oh snap! Where have all the good guys gone?
@BloodyHeck well fact is... soon as I tell folk I'm disabled n broke they all disappear... I don't even have any friends cuz they all quit when I couldn't do things I use to... so tired of folk think I don't know what I am talking about when it's happening to me... I just want one friend... can't even find one of those
You’re throwing us pearls here Sarah Dawn!! “Women are people too”. Such good basic simple advice for for basic simple men! 😅 How did you get such wisdom and understanding?!
We finally hear from a man who is not telling her how terrible all women are I admit that after a whole lifetime I still don't understand women , but if she tells us it's not always all the woman's fault, then we need to listen
Being an Engineer, it's very difficult when you talk to someone and they literally don't know anything about how even basic things work and you need to stop, yet I would be expected to hear about all the gossip about where some obsure person went or about some celebrity. Of course when someone comes to me and says I need to do more "work" and that zero women need to work on the fact that emotional decision making is creating outcomes that can cause more hardship or drama. Your stereotype is really bad, honestly the only one doing analysis about how many thrusts is the fictional charachter Sheldon from the big bang theory. I'm personally very affectionate when I am intimate with someone. The thing I could tell women is, all your stuff at home will be fixed, you won't be poor, your kids will be successful and disciplined and you will actually be able to retire if you are with someone who is even a halfway decent engineer and you don't fight him about everything. Taking a little extra time to "learn" something instead of dismissing everything and chalking it all up to emotions. Otherwise, you know actually try to talk to us instead of hints and games. My BS meter is tuned in.
One question I have for both men and women is what is your foundation? What is the foundation of your being and what is the foundation of your relationship? If it's just simply being compatible with a good personality and having an income then it's going to fail.
"Engineers" men would do great with like-minded INTJ women. On the flip side, men with emotional intelligence such as INFJs need to adapt to these womens' very special style of communication. Speaking from experience.
First of all I just want to say I just started watching your channel and I'm completely hooked. I've been watching them non-stop every freaking video. I am late to the game with Mr. Nice Guy. I mean I knew I had something wrong in that sense and I had started noticing a anxious attachment. What I had never experienced in a relationship was number one from this list which was disassociation my girl that recently broke my heart had a very severe avoidant attachment. I have a severely anxious attachment and after intimacy in the bedroom she would go to the bathroom and be in there for sometimes half an hour to an hour and I thought what is going on? And she told me that she would dissociate and she didn't know why. She just said she would just forget to come out and just be gone and I never had that in a relationship before. It was very strange, but it's nice to hear the explanation for it and to get a little bit of a understanding from this video. So thank you so much! Sarah. I wish you were taking clients. I really need help with this anxious attachment stuff. I got into recovery 3 years ago and I purposely stayed out of relationships because I would always rush into a relationship and I would relapse. So I didn't stayed by myself. Worked on myself and thought I was ready after 3 years to get into a relationship. As soon as I started dating this girl it all came right back as if I did zero work and it just goes to show how tenacious and pernicious these heuristics that we lay down in our brains in childhood. I had a very domineering mother and I have let her down over the years with my addiction. I had a lot of promise as young man and I destroyed my life and I know that I'm a big disappointment so I know that is fueling in a huge way. This anxious attachment because before the addiction my mother was always so proud of me and always told me that I was the son that she always wanted etc. The disappointment was more crushing than the actual addiction I think and to hear you say some of these things is gives me the reassurance that I I was on the right track with that insight. I just don't know what to do about it. Thanks again
High-reactivity depends entirely on the situation and the context. Men should not be overly aggressive but there's a cutoff point where are not going to take any shit that hit's a certain threshold of personal violation. A man's willingness, right, and ability to defend himself is extremely important. Much more important than dating.
Glad you're making this content, Sarah. There's a lot of PEOPLE (men and women both) who need to hear and understand what secure attachment is, and how out of balance the things they think are normal & okay actually are.
Man, it must be tough being a woman and requiring so much from a man. I hear this stuff and realize how lucky i am to simply need a woman who is very good looking, kind, intelligent, self sufficient, fairly emotionally regulated, who has a decent amount of common values and interests to make me happy. Regarding your second point, i know from personal conversations that you couldn't care less about sports. But to a big sports fan (or Star Wars fan, or Suoerhero movie fan, etc, etc), sports can be a very emotional and deep topic as far as how good you felt when your favorite team won a title, for example. So i think you have to luck out and share fandoms of which you are both passionate about......things that others might be bored in hearing. I had a brief, but committed relationship 5 years ago, and part of what made our first interaction and eventual first date so much fun was hearing how passionate she was about her favorite teams. When things ended 3 months later (largely due to her avoidant attachment style), i told people, "If she cared about spending quality time with me half as much as she cared about watching Ohio State football games, things might have worked out, lol."
Talking about good things in my past can be almost impossible. I have a very limited memory system. My good memories are either not filed or need major proding to find the few that were filed. Unpleasant memories tend to stick better. Most plain/knowledge memories either pop up when needed or just wisper some hints around the perverbial corner to maybe help in a situation.
SARAH , HAVE YOU HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO LISTEN TO YOURSELF AND YOUR ADVICE, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT MEN GIVE A DAMN WHAT YOU THINK, OR HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ANYTHING ANYMORE, YOU ARE THE DIRECT RESULT OF MEN WALKING AWAY , CHOOSING TO GO THEIR OWN WAY , FINDING , FREEDOM, PEACE, HAPPINESS, AND SERENITY , HELL I FEEL LIKE THANKING YOU FOR A NEW FOUND LIFE JOURNEY EXPERIENCE .
A lot of them up to the "fixing/rescuing" step - can be attributed to either sex. Add in the dopamine / smart phone addiction which leads to dissociation, lack of depth and inconsistency - it's like it is some sort of self fulfilling cycle pf behavior regardless of who does it.
Love bombing is a trait of a broken man or woman. There's nothing wrong with saying how great you think she is and when the feelings are mutual she will do the same. That's not love bombing it's just a good relationship. If a woman doesn't like you how you are then she's not worth your time! Have a job, have emotions, be respectful, and the rest should just flow. It's not that hard to make an emotionally available woman happy. The problem is when she's not doing her part in the relationship but expects you to be her everything.
I really don't understand what you said about love bombing. Do you think guys don't know you're human? Why on Earth would the fact that you are human enter our minds when thinking about you? Everyone is human. This makes me think women really have no idea the depths of a man's emotions. All men are not the same, and the fact of the matter is, the overwhelming majority of men than women interact with are on one side of a spectrum of men, and they rarely ever come across the other kinds of men. Probably because they are much rarer and harder to find than ever in this toxic dating environment we live in.
Honestly great advice for just being a better man and human. But do these things for yourself and your own sanity. From experience, you will be a better friend, a better co worker and have a better life. But don't get upset if you still end up alone. There is no guarantee of mutual love for even the best men. Your own standards will be higher now because you are better and know what qualities a better woman should have. Be grateful for your own achievements and the accolades from others. A person without romance has just as much right from God to be happy as one who does.
Yet if a man shows emotion he is looked at as weak. Most women loose interest. You should always be mysterious and intelligent. Have intellectual conversations but keep your personal self out of the conversation. The more they learn about u the more the mystery is diluted and the more they lose interest
I think most men at this point have learned you never share anything about emotions with a woman. She will always use it against you to harm you..... Always
@@davehuntley3511 No size of a man’s pipe definitely matters to most women. There’s this new trendy narrative that size does not matter but it definitely does. A woman will always pick the guy with 8 inches over 6 inches anyday
Words. Yet actions are different than these “words” 3 things: Women want: 1) different men For 2) different things At 3) different times I’ve yet to see one man Fulfill all of these things Therefore lies the problem….
Well, I can honestly say i've got 3 out of the 8. Granted, one of them is not to earn affection but to provide an outlet for my OCD. I fix things. I like to fix things. I need to stop trying to fix people. When things are not working what I would consider "properly", it drives me crazy. I'm nearly purely analytical to the point i've almost been called a psychopath by 2 psycho-analysts. I feel emotions, so I can't be a psychopath but logical brain can kick my emotional brains ass 99 out of 100 times. It has to be a very very strong emotional event for me to lead with emotion. I know what the trauma was that caused it, but don't know how to move past that trauma.
I was watching your videos a while back , when you were telling men " you are valuable, you deserve to be loved and respected" I heard and respected your advice, but the comment section quickly turned into a woman bashing forum. I where you responded saying it was not all one sided , but men did not want to hear that it was somewhat their own fault I left your community for a while and recently returned, to find that your direction seems to have changed to saying that men have to adjust their thinking , that the perfect partner is there , but we need to change how we look for them . This is what we need . There are many forums for bashing women / or men . We just need advice on how to repair ourselves
Question Sara….i can’t help but think that some of these behaviors are built in and part of the courting process true or false? The second part is are you suggesting that we should stop or resist ancient male/female behaviors? Has psychology changed or evolved with modern thought and dismisses these same behaviors as old fashioned and more about the evolution of the times?
Good points here, Sarah. The only one I can see me doing is the first one And perhaps just making a connection with her.... when their is a lady that shows interest in me....
All this is fine but it has it limits. I have beaucoup dollars, drive a Maserati, own companies, etc. After a while I'm like an old sock to the wife. Do these things for yourself, guys. The women should compliment your lives. That's all. At any rate, these are good traits to have in relation to any association you have with another person - not just women.
Sarah you do realise when we analysing fibonachi sequence of the table we ARE relaxing. Like I just love the dopamine rush from solving the puzzle and I am not only one. From intimacy perspective I think we have edge from rest of population as we are not afraid to learn new techniques do our research and aplply new information to experiments. btw not engeneer but i can do genetical engeneering.
Ive had pain issues and the dr will not help so i have to miss work alot which puts hardship on us, i said i was going to hit the streets and find some fentynol for pain, she said she would leave me if i did. Been married 10 years. 😐
@8:00 I don't know whether we're just supposed to act under the caveat of no one's healthy here or what, but in real life no female is going to give you a second glance unless you're doing a bunch of shit for her (as evidenced by ALL of us doing our own things and not bowing down to them being single)
Then you weren't paying attention to what she said. A mature woman that's in a healthy place mentally and emotionally doesn't need all of that flashy stuff. It's about spending time with you and having a good time. That's all.
@@kylewilliams9907 mature mentally healthy women? Sure there are, I'm one of them, but if that's your outlook I can tell you now, it wasn't money or looks that chased women away, it was your personality.
If you're looking for a community of like minded men who are working on themselves and their ability to create depth in their connection check it out! I'd love to see you there! sarahdawnmoore.com/menmatter
Do you have any advice for autistic or AuDHD guys ("on the spectrum")? I ask because things like eye-contact, wandering attention and emotional availability are things we struggle with during our lifetime.
Yeah, my buddy's alright. I know now for a fact I didn't think they were right. But they are now a bass. Does it know when you throw it a frog? The bass is looking at the frog and the frog looks big enough juicy enough, so it bites it. And it gets caught and goes. Uh, oh I got caught. Now figure that phrase out
I have at least 2 or 3 red flags from these 'undateable men' videos, but women keep knocking on the door......I need to study these a bit harder to see if I can develop a few more.......
The last 30 year's of feminism has left me with shit. I'm getting my shit together, really what I wanted was someone that could display emotions, real emotions like when you lose your mom or dad, or a loved one. They just can't empathize with what men go through to become successful because most of them fuq their way to the top.
Being disengaged when with women. In public the best course. In bed not an option. Smothering. Not my fetish but have had women to whom it was. The knight. If the armor is dented and rusty,just dissolve a redpill in a few ounces of water. This may need to be repeated till the symptoms dissappear. Engineers. Balance is necessary to many projects. With shibari, knots and tensions must be symmetrical. The restrained partner is more comfortable in suspension when weight distribution is considered.
Sarah, I'm not sure why (maybe it's the room you're in?) but there's an echo on this video. It sounds like you're in a large empty hall. Not quite sure how you'd resolve that issue. (It might be because you're right next to that concrete wall?) Otherwise, great content as always.
You need to clarify more of that number one thing you were talking about. I listen to it three times and I still don't understand what you're trying to convey.
Yeah, I want after this woman. And I spilled my guts to her and I really love her. And I really think about her 24/7 I cry about her. I feel bad. I feel good. I feel excited. I feel all the things I want to feel and then all of a sudden, all the other girls I've been talking to her coming out of the one would work. One asked me to marry her and I said I can I love another but I didn't crash her down and slammer to the ground and burn. I was nice and sweet about it. And I let her and said no, you'll find Somebody. That's younger. You'll find Somebody that love you. As much as you know, I love this other person so. Everybody just everything is just turned fricking Medieval. God himself could write a playbook for how women are supposed to be in? Men are supposed to be and nice. People in this world would still screw it up. Cause they're stupid
Are you stating these are the reasons why I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 22 and why for the past 40 years I have been continually rejected, ghosted, stoodup, flaked out on by women. I gave up this clown show 15 years ago.
Women's standards in the past few decades have risen beyond what is statistically reasonable; 80-90 % of them are looking for 10-20% of the men. Many eventually have to "settle" for who they can attract for a long term relationship but they are not happy with what is in their minds is second or third choice to want they really wanted/expected.
Clearly you make a good living from pointing out mens failures and that's good, because we are learning. However you would go broke doing the same for women. I call this The Princess complex. It time women stop expecting the world to dance to tune of their "feelings". Nobody owes anyone a magic carpet ride through life. There are as many women out there who exhibit all of these character flaws. Feeling unsafe and being in an unsafe situation are two different things!
So what if a man thinks she's found a soulmate? And everything that he's taught himself about being a man. And all the above and he spells his guts out tour. Then is he wrong? And he knows in his heart of hearts that he really does love this woman and maybe she doesn't. You're only allowed to see probably. Twice in your life you're so mean. Or person, that will be that good for your mental mindset. And can bring all the emotions with that other person. And you're just saying to throw that away. Because some people would just think that was crazy. A person can't love somebody or it's a fantasy. Why? Who came up with that idea? Why can't 2 people if one loves that person that much? Why can't that be enough for both of them? And then the other one could either say yes or no or follow suit. I mean, isn't that wood? Human beings are supposed to be are supposed to do. Are you supposed to go out for 5 years with somebody? And then find out they're s***** anyway. And yeah, you wasted 4 years and 5 years. And now you're 70 or 80. How's your going through life looking for that person? I think makes more sense to me. Spill your guts, let everything out of the bag. And let that person look at it, feel it. Respond to it or not because everybody in this world. I don't care who they are. I've been down this road plenty of times with women. And they say they wanna get emotionally attached to somebody. And they wanna have this and that, and then when you do. They're out the door and down the river with the next boy. See, I see it a different way. You tell a woman you love her. You're crazy about her. You know, you're so mean you know. And you just feel that in your heart. Or hard to cry going to sleep at night. You feel all this stuff, empathy? And all this is rushing in at 1 time. And you don't act on that in your life. Then you're stupid. You know, God only puts out there so much that he can do. And then you gotta do the rest. And he's gonna look your dead knee eye when you die and said well, I put it right there for you. I told you she was yours. And you didn't act on it, you're stupid. Insurance, I rather act on it and lose. And be heartbroken about it when I die and I go there and say, well you know I tried I did everything I, could I let her know? I did this. I did that. I all I could and she wasn't having it. Well then, when she comes there she can he can talk to her and then look at her and go. What are you stupid? You're not gonna get the brass ring. Or the gold ring or the silver ring unless you reach out and grab it. How about this? When you get in the relationship, write out boundaries and don't do a lot of them because people won't do it but right out about 5 of them and then have them write emotional sexual urges and things that they like. I wanna see one female, fill that paper out not yet. Hasn't happened, I never will because man have to have a Swamy hat on and in a f****** crystal ball. To figure out what the hell they want. Been there, done all that.
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Men, your never going to get it right with women. They live by emotions, feelings, and hormones. What makes them happy and what they want will change daily if not hourly. You will end up being miserable playing the relationship game. Be 100% responsible for your own happiness. Find peace and happiness within yourself.
And “your” probably never going to impress a woman with your slovenly use of language. If there’s one thing women love, it’s someone’s who’s good with his tongue. 😜
Every time I think I might start cattin again, I just listen to one of her videos and get reminded of the emotional exhaustion I'm in for and I quickly change my mind.
I have found after one woman for 30 years and another woman for 12 years that all they want is money and they called security but all they want is money. Stop making good money they will bail.
I agree with you. Been there myself.
Definitely
Or choose a good woman that isn't a gold digger. They are out there.
Most ugly dudes are ugly...i.e., invisible. Have average income or less, a little awkward and you're done.
2 weeks before we were married, we were homeless living in my car for 2 months.
She never complained, just made the best of the situation we found ourselves in.
If you have to work to make her like you WALK AWAY!!
I am so glad I grew out of caring what women think. Life is so much better when I get to focus my happiness.
Didn't care for the caricature of guys with lower emotional intelligence, TBH. It felt condescending, just like your video from a while back on blue collar guys. Is the problem that our interests are boring? Or is the problem that we often can't put our "why" into words? If a guy's childhood memories are full of unpleasant experiences that he doesn't really want to talk about, is he cooked? Lots of guys are scared to open up about that stuff because we're worried women will lose attraction or worse, weaponize it down the road, a problem I know you're well aware of. And one of the big reasons alexithymia is so much more prevalent in men than in women is because we were oftentimes punished for showing our emotions as boys, often by parents or peers.
I hear jokes like, "analyzing the Fibonacci code of the table we're sitting on" and it feels disrespectful. It feels like you're implying that being analytical thinkers makes us essentially incapable of emotional intimacy, instead of it being a skills gap-which you did touch on. Like you said, there's nothing wrong with being analytical thinkers. But I feel like the implication is that in order to be considered a good partner we must be perfectly in tune with our emotions. And lots of us have a _very_ long way to go to get to that point, and we feel undeserving of love because of it.
No. They don't want the men who 'can put their why into words.' They want the masculine guy and they try to change him and then get upset that they got the masculine guy. The articulate guys are invisible and once they become articulate in sharing their feelings, they're no longer attractive. If you share feelings with a woman it can only be the approved feelings. Yes, she's analyzing analytical guys without seeing the irony of her own hypocrisy and projection as an out of touch analyzer herself. Classic lack of self-awareness.
Men’s please invest in yourself, brokerage account, 401k, savings, insurance, long term care and HSA, annuities that when you retire you don’t need to worry about anything that’s my best advice.
1. Not being rich.
2. Not driving an exotic car.
3. Not being a professional athlete.
4. Not being a bad boy.
5. You get the picture.
6. If she wasn’t already attracted to you because you’re a Chad, nothing you do is going to change that.
Facts
Not a celebrity, too.
I remember losing out to pro athletes at least twice back when I lived in DFW. I was a working stiff and when they see Dallas Cowboys in the clubs or in the bars etc it's over. Also
Texas Rangers. If there are rich bastards around or these athletes the women just flock to them.
100%
@@tuesdayswithed Most women are so disloyal that even if they were with a 6'2" millionaire, they'd easily drop him if they thought they had a chance with a 6'4" billionaire.
We went from 'Boring & Unattractive' to 'Ugly & Unsafe' pretty damn quick, lol.
Next we are a serial killer 😂🤣😅😆
@karthy257 unfortunately, that seems to be the case. Media loves to play up the 0.001% as almost the norm.
I'll.stick with going my own way. I'm not into beer, sports, or jock stuff. I'm into motorcycles and traveling. Probably a red flag as well..
@@jimfischione2743 Listen pal, if you don't have anything good to say, then just don't watch her channel, OK? Sheeees 0_0
@@karthy257 Serial killers are WAY HOT if they are tall and good looking. Women LOVE those guys. Ted Bundy, the dude with the Tattoo's on his fact that just recently was convicted...women are there trying to get him out LOL Nothing new there. You can literally be a serial deleter of women...and women will FIND THAT ATTRACTIVE.
Advice from Ice-T '91,
"Don't put P@$$Y on a pedestal!
Rise to a higher level together"
Sarah, on points number one and number two, we men have a name for them. It’s called normal. What a woman calls. Emotionally unavailable is normal for a man. Emotional availability is always used against us by women. And when a woman is soft, feminine, sweet and cooperative, we become very present.
That's a good point.
I hope Miss SDM is taking in your precise and accurate points.
@@JedEkert ^^ this
@@JedEkert OK, professor. Listen, if you're going to look down on her material, don't watch her channel, OK? I don't know about you, but some of us want to learn about a woman's perspective. Sheeeees 😒
@olanderdecastro52 Dude, I think you have no understanding whatsoever of what SDM is trying to say. I am sad for you. 😒
Quick note: It's dissociation, not disassociation.
1) dissociation
2) lack of emotional depth
3) smothering
4) inconsistency
5) rescuing
6) addictions or dopamine dependency (lack of self control)
7) lack of emotional intelligence
8) high reactivity
Quick note: It's
1) lack of attractiveness.
That's it.
Number 4 gets me. Women like receiving consistency (sometimes) but rarely ever give consistency. I don't know why this is
@@nocturnaljoe9543 You're not wrong. Women really can't see that they treat good looking men differently than how they treat the other 99.999999% It's a feature of femininity.
Women who are a 1-10 on the objective attractiveness scale ALL thing they deserve a 9 or a 10 in a man (8 is no longer good enough). When women say "Where are all the good men?" what they leave out it "who I am attracted to.". this is a sliding scale based upon her own (massively warped) assessment of her attractiveness. Hypergamy is a bitch.
@@derwoodhamburger Yeah, you do. She said it. Women are emotional creatures. Women are all in until they aren't.
Thank you sir, you just saved my time.
As a man with ADHD, this video makes me feel undatable.
I asked her about her thoughts on autistic men, and I'm an AuDHD myself. I think women expect men to not have issues with autism and ADHD, but women can have these problems without consequence (I say that last word keeping in mind that it's not the autistic's or ADHD'ers fault). Also, it's not as simple as "Hey! Just date another autistic!" because we're often MORE incompatible with other autistics (because it's such a diverse spectrum!) than we are with neurotypicals.
Im at a point... however how you are. It's never good, never enough. Dont run after trouble.
My son is going to school for engineering. However he has a girlfriend from high school still. Im glad for him as I have been alone since his mother left me and I wouldn't want that for any man. Unfortunately I been burned so many times I dont trust anyone anymore especially women. I honestly don't know if it can be fixed. 🙏
I can totally relate to your last sentence. I'm no longer trying to attract anyone, but live my best life with things that I want to do.
Just don't be ugly, and don't be unattractive, easy!
Makes me a born loser
@@jjohnson3469 Have you tried combing your hair?
@@calvinfatman7918 once but it didnt take
Nearly all of these traits mentioned are inherent to or describe a level 1 autistic man, a man with a highly noticeable disability- like a stutter, or both. No amount of self-reflection or work on self-image/ self acceptance of can change unalterable facts about being disabled or exhibiting characteristics of being level 1 autistic. Appreciate the honesty. It explains 3 failed marriages and why I'm feared, despised, and often hated.
@AlanA-xp5qk I really hope SDM is paying attention to these comments, because there are a lot of diagnosed and undiagnosed men watching her channel and thinking they're the problem
The grass always seems greener elsewhere. When you don’t tend your own garden..
SOW, the seeds of mutual support, WATER, nurture trust and communication in fortifying your relationship. PRUNE, away indifference, criticism and isolation. HARVEST, unity, companionship and collaboration, with compassion and understanding in healing together..
A woman can have the looks, personality etc. of Aileen Wuornos & still get as much action as she chooses, whenever she chooses.
Charlize Theron was absolutely scary playing that character in "Monster" (2003).
@@azmike3572 Indeed.
A woman can have the looks,personality and talent of Dilrabi dilmurat and have 56m fans and 2bn views.
@@azmike3572 That portrays Wuornos as nowhere near as bad as she actually was.
That is a problem men. We need to come together and stop giving to women who are lacking in substance. I would rather be with a loving and nurturing 5 than with a 8+ that is always combative and entitled.
Number 3 and 4 is a fine line, how do I not be smothering (3) while being consistent (4)
If I reach out too often I'm "too needy" but if I don't reach out enough I'm "inconsistent"
I don't really want to go mgtow yet but I'm also not going to be walking on eggshells either.
I fully understand why men do go mgtow now. Sometimes I can't blame them
never ask a fish how to catch fish.
Revision: #1- Under 6'2, #2- No sixpack, #3- Imperfect jawline, #4- imperfect hair, #5- non-millionaire, #6- Formal training or just possessing a very good lie/bullshit detector, #7- Rich but smart enough to have trusts and other strategies in place to prevent the steal, #8- Being nice- there's a reason for the saying about finishing last. Oh snap! Where have all the good guys gone?
No money and im disabled... that seems to make me unattractive to everyone
Not necessarily. I’d probably hang out with you but I’m sure that’s not the kind of company you had in mind.
@BloodyHeck well fact is... soon as I tell folk I'm disabled n broke they all disappear... I don't even have any friends cuz they all quit when I couldn't do things I use to... so tired of folk think I don't know what I am talking about when it's happening to me... I just want one friend... can't even find one of those
This is actually pretty common with disabled. The best bet I'm told is to try and find others disabled to connect with. Not always easy to do.
@@vapeking466 yep... yet there are those who still don't believe me when I say it
@@bradpatton6855 Whatever your disability is I'm sure we could find something to do. Board games?
You’re throwing us pearls here Sarah Dawn!!
“Women are people too”. Such good basic simple advice for for basic simple men! 😅
How did you get such wisdom and understanding?!
We finally hear from a man who is not telling her how terrible all women are
I admit that after a whole lifetime I still don't understand women , but if she tells us it's not always all the woman's fault, then we need to listen
what are 8 things that make women ugly and unattractive, Sarah?
this was a good one Sarah ! packed with insites and "short form". thank you !
Being an Engineer, it's very difficult when you talk to someone and they literally don't know anything about how even basic things work and you need to stop, yet I would be expected to hear about all the gossip about where some obsure person went or about some celebrity. Of course when someone comes to me and says I need to do more "work" and that zero women need to work on the fact that emotional decision making is creating outcomes that can cause more hardship or drama.
Your stereotype is really bad, honestly the only one doing analysis about how many thrusts is the fictional charachter Sheldon from the big bang theory. I'm personally very affectionate when I am intimate with someone.
The thing I could tell women is, all your stuff at home will be fixed, you won't be poor, your kids will be successful and disciplined and you will actually be able to retire if you are with someone who is even a halfway decent engineer and you don't fight him about everything. Taking a little extra time to "learn" something instead of dismissing everything and chalking it all up to emotions.
Otherwise, you know actually try to talk to us instead of hints and games. My BS meter is tuned in.
One question I have for both men and women is what is your foundation? What is the foundation of your being and what is the foundation of your relationship? If it's just simply being compatible with a good personality and having an income then it's going to fail.
"Engineers" men would do great with like-minded INTJ women. On the flip side, men with emotional intelligence such as INFJs need to adapt to these womens' very special style of communication. Speaking from experience.
ENTJ Engineer here dating and INTJ woman. She's pretty drab/boring and I get frustrated always being in the drivers seat.
First of all I just want to say I just started watching your channel and I'm completely hooked. I've been watching them non-stop every freaking video. I am late to the game with Mr. Nice Guy. I mean I knew I had something wrong in that sense and I had started noticing a anxious attachment. What I had never experienced in a relationship was number one from this list which was disassociation my girl that recently broke my heart had a very severe avoidant attachment. I have a severely anxious attachment and after intimacy in the bedroom she would go to the bathroom and be in there for sometimes half an hour to an hour and I thought what is going on? And she told me that she would dissociate and she didn't know why. She just said she would just forget to come out and just be gone and I never had that in a relationship before. It was very strange, but it's nice to hear the explanation for it and to get a little bit of a understanding from this video. So thank you so much! Sarah. I wish you were taking clients. I really need help with this anxious attachment stuff. I got into recovery 3 years ago and I purposely stayed out of relationships because I would always rush into a relationship and I would relapse. So I didn't stayed by myself. Worked on myself and thought I was ready after 3 years to get into a relationship. As soon as I started dating this girl it all came right back as if I did zero work and it just goes to show how tenacious and pernicious these heuristics that we lay down in our brains in childhood. I had a very domineering mother and I have let her down over the years with my addiction. I had a lot of promise as young man and I destroyed my life and I know that I'm a big disappointment so I know that is fueling in a huge way. This anxious attachment because before the addiction my mother was always so proud of me and always told me that I was the son that she always wanted etc. The disappointment was more crushing than the actual addiction I think and to hear you say some of these things is gives me the reassurance that I I was on the right track with that insight. I just don't know what to do about it. Thanks again
High-reactivity depends entirely on the situation and the context. Men should not be overly aggressive but there's a cutoff point where are not going to take any shit that hit's a certain threshold of personal violation. A man's willingness, right, and ability to defend himself is extremely important. Much more important than dating.
Glad you're making this content, Sarah. There's a lot of PEOPLE (men and women both) who need to hear and understand what secure attachment is, and how out of balance the things they think are normal & okay actually are.
Interesting talking points, I am not even dating, but married for over 45 years to my first and only. Lots of value to what you are saying.
Man, it must be tough being a woman and requiring so much from a man. I hear this stuff and realize how lucky i am to simply need a woman who is very good looking, kind, intelligent, self sufficient, fairly emotionally regulated, who has a decent amount of common values and interests to make me happy. Regarding your second point, i know from personal conversations that you couldn't care less about sports. But to a big sports
fan (or Star Wars fan, or Suoerhero movie fan, etc, etc), sports can be a very emotional and deep topic as far as how good you felt when your favorite team won a title, for example. So i think you have to luck out and share fandoms of which you are both passionate about......things that others might be bored in hearing. I had a brief, but committed relationship 5 years ago, and part of what made our first interaction and eventual first date so much fun was hearing how passionate she was about her favorite teams. When things ended 3 months later (largely due to her avoidant attachment style), i told people, "If she cared about spending quality time with me half as much as she cared about watching Ohio State football games, things might have worked out, lol."
Avoidants would be good at this since they constantly analyze and assess the person. But don't comprehend the emotional connection/ needs.
well, she did warn us that she was going to turn on good guys in order to sell in channel in a world where good men are unwelcome
Even good women make relationships hard....
As a Mormon in Utah, I avoid telling women that I am looking to add an 7th wife to my present collection.
It's not only engineers who act in ways that make you feel unsafe . Hopefully, they are not all like that !
THANK YOU Sara Dawn!!
Being a peaceful man is boring to drama queens, they need arguments, fights, and attention to feel loved. Sometimes, so do dogs.
Talking about good things in my past can be almost impossible. I have a very limited memory system. My good memories are either not filed or need major proding to find the few that were filed. Unpleasant memories tend to stick better. Most plain/knowledge memories either pop up when needed or just wisper some hints around the perverbial corner to maybe help in a situation.
SARAH , HAVE YOU HAD THE OPPORTUNITY TO LISTEN TO YOURSELF AND YOUR ADVICE, WHAT MAKES YOU THINK THAT MEN GIVE A DAMN WHAT YOU THINK, OR HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT ANYTHING ANYMORE, YOU ARE THE DIRECT RESULT OF MEN WALKING AWAY , CHOOSING TO GO THEIR OWN WAY , FINDING , FREEDOM, PEACE, HAPPINESS, AND SERENITY , HELL I FEEL LIKE THANKING YOU FOR A NEW FOUND LIFE JOURNEY EXPERIENCE .
A lot of them up to the "fixing/rescuing" step - can be attributed to either sex. Add in the dopamine / smart phone addiction which leads to dissociation, lack of depth and inconsistency - it's like it is some sort of self fulfilling cycle pf behavior regardless of who does it.
Love bombing is a trait of a broken man or woman. There's nothing wrong with saying how great you think she is and when the feelings are mutual she will do the same. That's not love bombing it's just a good relationship.
If a woman doesn't like you how you are then she's not worth your time! Have a job, have emotions, be respectful, and the rest should just flow. It's not that hard to make an emotionally available woman happy. The problem is when she's not doing her part in the relationship but expects you to be her everything.
Relationships that don't feel right is because people settle.
Never settle for less than your soulmate.
There is no such thing as a soulmate. It’s only betas that say stupid shit like that.
What happens if the intimacy has been killed because they killed it by not being trustworthy.
The funny thing is that some of what she mentions is precisely what male influences such as Casey Zander says one SHOULD do as a man to attract women.
I really don't understand what you said about love bombing. Do you think guys don't know you're human? Why on Earth would the fact that you are human enter our minds when thinking about you? Everyone is human. This makes me think women really have no idea the depths of a man's emotions. All men are not the same, and the fact of the matter is, the overwhelming majority of men than women interact with are on one side of a spectrum of men, and they rarely ever come across the other kinds of men. Probably because they are much rarer and harder to find than ever in this toxic dating environment we live in.
Honestly great advice for just being a better man and human. But do these things for yourself and your own sanity. From experience, you will be a better friend, a better co worker and have a better life. But don't get upset if you still end up alone. There is no guarantee of mutual love for even the best men. Your own standards will be higher now because you are better and know what qualities a better woman should have. Be grateful for your own achievements and the accolades from others. A person without romance has just as much right from God to be happy as one who does.
"Analyzing the Fibonacci code of the table"
Lmao
Yet if a man shows emotion he is looked at as weak. Most women loose interest. You should always be mysterious and intelligent. Have intellectual conversations but keep your personal self out of the conversation. The more they learn about u the more the mystery is diluted and the more they lose interest
Just because you're analyzing your surroundings doesn't mean you're hard to get along with. Again this is all common sense.
I think most men at this point have learned you never share anything about emotions with a woman. She will always use it against you to harm you..... Always
Well my dig bick and fat wallet usually keeps em happy
Doesn't have to be that big either 😂
@@davehuntley3511 no,but the wallet has to be fatter to compensate😄
@@davehuntley3511 No size of a man’s pipe definitely matters to most women. There’s this new trendy narrative that size does not matter but it definitely does. A woman will always pick the guy with 8 inches over 6 inches anyday
But for how long?
@@expressoevangelism80 untill they are not happy anymore
Any woman who rips off a man jail.
Thank you!!
You’re wonderfully insightful.
Words.
Yet actions are different than these “words”
3 things:
Women want:
1) different men
For
2) different things
At
3) different times
I’ve yet to see one man
Fulfill all of these things
Therefore lies the problem….
Well, I can honestly say i've got 3 out of the 8. Granted, one of them is not to earn affection but to provide an outlet for my OCD. I fix things. I like to fix things. I need to stop trying to fix people. When things are not working what I would consider "properly", it drives me crazy. I'm nearly purely analytical to the point i've almost been called a psychopath by 2 psycho-analysts. I feel emotions, so I can't be a psychopath but logical brain can kick my emotional brains ass 99 out of 100 times. It has to be a very very strong emotional event for me to lead with emotion. I know what the trauma was that caused it, but don't know how to move past that trauma.
You need a REAL counselor, (therapist), to help you move past a trauma. You should look in your area for health services.
Bill Gates, Albert Einstein, Warren Buffett, Giacomo Leopardi in today's world would all be single 😂😂
I was watching your videos a while back , when you were telling men " you are valuable, you deserve to be loved and respected"
I heard and respected your advice, but the comment section quickly turned into a woman bashing forum.
I where you responded saying it was not all one sided , but men did not want to hear that it was somewhat their own fault
I left your community for a while and recently returned, to find that your direction seems to have changed to saying that men have to adjust their thinking , that the perfect partner is there , but we need to change how we look for them .
This is what we need .
There are many forums for bashing women / or men . We just need advice on how to repair ourselves
Question Sara….i can’t help but think that some of these behaviors are built in and part of the courting process true or false? The second part is are you suggesting that we should stop or resist ancient male/female behaviors? Has psychology changed or evolved with modern thought and dismisses these same behaviors as old fashioned and more about the evolution of the times?
When you are Messing with women but dont have any game , you are unarmed and they will kick your ass. GET SOME GAME
or bypass everything if you're tall and / or earn well over 200k.
Many exceptions made for that or the woman is financially dependent.
Narrator: don’t put the 1 percent rich man on a pedestal as we don’t need to put you women on a pedestal
Can only be... What u are... When you are😊... Keep growing 👍
Good points here, Sarah. The only one I can see me doing is the first one
And perhaps just making a connection with her.... when their is a lady that shows interest in me....
I ain't changing for no woman!
All this is fine but it has it limits. I have beaucoup dollars, drive a Maserati, own companies, etc. After a while I'm like an old sock to the wife. Do these things for yourself, guys. The women should compliment your lives. That's all. At any rate, these are good traits to have in relation to any association you have with another person - not just women.
Sarah you do realise when we analysing fibonachi sequence of the table we ARE relaxing. Like I just love the dopamine rush from solving the puzzle and I am not only one. From intimacy perspective I think we have edge from rest of population as we are not afraid to learn new techniques do our research and aplply new information to experiments. btw not engeneer but i can do genetical engeneering.
Ive had pain issues and the dr will not help so i have to miss work alot which puts hardship on us, i said i was going to hit the streets and find some fentynol for pain, she said she would leave me if i did. Been married 10 years. 😐
@8:00 I don't know whether we're just supposed to act under the caveat of no one's healthy here or what, but in real life no female is going to give you a second glance unless you're doing a bunch of shit for her (as evidenced by ALL of us doing our own things and not bowing down to them being single)
Then you weren't paying attention to what she said. A mature woman that's in a healthy place mentally and emotionally doesn't need all of that flashy stuff. It's about spending time with you and having a good time. That's all.
@@khentimentu1 point being, there are none of those
@@kylewilliams9907 mature mentally healthy women? Sure there are, I'm one of them, but if that's your outlook I can tell you now, it wasn't money or looks that chased women away, it was your personality.
Does all this apply even if you're only looking for casual?
Dawn, engineers aren't that bad....
perhaps the geeky ones are, but I don't see them landing a fox between the sheets :)
Looking great 🥰
If you're looking for a community of like minded men who are working on themselves and their ability to create depth in their connection check it out! I'd love to see you there! sarahdawnmoore.com/menmatter
We aren’t ….
We are done with western women … like you .
Sarah, most of these guys just don't get that part. I am sad for them. 😒
@@panchopistola8298 What an intelligent statement. Sheeees 😒
@@Antares007 She isn’t gonna sleep with you bro …
@@Antares007 And “ sheees “ is ? 🤣
8 things I always need to do
Do you have any advice for autistic or AuDHD guys ("on the spectrum")? I ask because things like eye-contact, wandering attention and emotional availability are things we struggle with during our lifetime.
This oh so much
Here we go women talk about emotional stuff, we are supposed to understand womenese😂men are getting a headache thinking about it😂
Yeah, my buddy's alright. I know now for a fact I didn't think they were right. But they are now a bass. Does it know when you throw it a frog? The bass is looking at the frog and the frog looks big enough juicy enough, so it bites it. And it gets caught and goes. Uh, oh I got caught. Now figure that phrase out
I have at least 2 or 3 red flags from these 'undateable men' videos, but women keep knocking on the door......I need to study these a bit harder to see if I can develop a few more.......
The last 30 year's of feminism has left me with shit. I'm getting my shit together, really what I wanted was someone that could display emotions, real emotions like when you lose your mom or dad, or a loved one. They just can't empathize with what men go through to become successful because most of them fuq their way to the top.
Being disengaged when with women. In public the best course. In bed not an option. Smothering. Not my fetish but have had women to whom it was. The knight. If the armor is dented and rusty,just dissolve a redpill in a few ounces of water. This may need to be repeated till the symptoms dissappear. Engineers. Balance is necessary to many projects. With shibari, knots and tensions must be symmetrical. The restrained partner is more comfortable in suspension when weight distribution is considered.
I was getting worried about you Sarah!
Sarah, I'm not sure why (maybe it's the room you're in?) but there's an echo on this video. It sounds like you're in a large empty hall. Not quite sure how you'd resolve that issue. (It might be because you're right next to that concrete wall?) Otherwise, great content as always.
Women don’t fart, they poot. Theirs is a distinct difference. 😄😄😄😄😆😆😆😆😆🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
One of them would be YOU.
I read through comments 3 minutes in and realized the futility of longing forca genuine connection with women. Stopped watching at 4 minutes.
Thanks for video.
You need to clarify more of that number one thing you were talking about. I listen to it three times and I still don't understand what you're trying to convey.
Yeah, I want after this woman. And I spilled my guts to her and I really love her. And I really think about her 24/7 I cry about her. I feel bad. I feel good. I feel excited. I feel all the things I want to feel and then all of a sudden, all the other girls I've been talking to her coming out of the one would work. One asked me to marry her and I said I can I love another but I didn't crash her down and slammer to the ground and burn. I was nice and sweet about it. And I let her and said no, you'll find Somebody. That's younger. You'll find Somebody that love you. As much as you know, I love this other person so. Everybody just everything is just turned fricking Medieval. God himself could write a playbook for how women are supposed to be in? Men are supposed to be and nice. People in this world would still screw it up. Cause they're stupid
To the surprise of absolutely nobody, incels flooded the comments
No lie, I needed to hear some of this! Thank you so much !
Are you stating these are the reasons why I haven't had a girlfriend since I was 22 and why for the past 40 years I have been continually rejected, ghosted, stoodup, flaked out on by women. I gave up this clown show 15 years ago.
Women's standards in the past few decades have risen beyond what is statistically reasonable; 80-90 % of them are looking for 10-20% of the men. Many eventually have to "settle" for who they can attract for a long term relationship but they are not happy with what is in their minds is second or third choice to want they really wanted/expected.
Oh boy another expert. You can be an expert after one or two drinks
" Burning sensation..." go see the doctor..
Clearly you make a good living from pointing out mens failures and that's good, because we are learning. However you would go broke doing the same for women. I call this The Princess complex. It time women stop expecting the world to dance to tune of their "feelings". Nobody owes anyone a magic carpet ride through life. There are as many women out there who exhibit all of these character flaws. Feeling unsafe and being in an unsafe situation are two different things!
So what if a man thinks she's found a soulmate? And everything that he's taught himself about being a man. And all the above and he spells his guts out tour.
Then is he wrong? And he knows in his heart of hearts that he really does love this woman and maybe she doesn't. You're only allowed to see probably. Twice in your life you're so mean. Or person, that will be that good for your mental mindset. And can bring all the emotions with that other person. And you're just saying to throw that away.
Because some people would just think that was crazy. A person can't love somebody or it's a fantasy. Why? Who came up with that idea? Why can't 2 people if one loves that person that much? Why can't that be enough for both of them? And then the other one could either say yes or no or follow suit. I mean, isn't that wood? Human beings are supposed to be are supposed to do. Are you supposed to go out for 5 years with somebody? And then find out they're s***** anyway. And yeah, you wasted 4 years and 5 years. And now you're 70 or 80. How's your going through life looking for that person? I think makes more sense to me. Spill your guts, let everything out of the bag. And let that person look at it, feel it. Respond to it or not because everybody in this world. I don't care who they are. I've been down this road plenty of times with women. And they say they wanna get emotionally attached to somebody. And they wanna have this and that, and then when you do. They're out the door and down the river with the next boy. See, I see it a different way. You tell a woman you love her. You're crazy about her. You know, you're so mean you know. And you just feel that in your heart. Or hard to cry going to sleep at night. You feel all this stuff, empathy? And all this is rushing in at 1 time. And you don't act on that in your life. Then you're stupid. You know, God only puts out there so much that he can do. And then you gotta do the rest.
And he's gonna look your dead knee eye when you die and said well, I put it right there for you. I told you she was yours. And you didn't act on it, you're stupid.
Insurance, I rather act on it and lose. And be heartbroken about it when I die and I go there and say, well you know I tried I did everything I, could I let her know? I did this. I did that. I all I could and she wasn't having it. Well then, when she comes there she can he can talk to her and then look at her and go. What are you stupid? You're not gonna get the brass ring. Or the gold ring or the silver ring unless you reach out and grab it. How about this? When you get in the relationship, write out boundaries and don't do a lot of them because people won't do it but right out about 5 of them and then have them write emotional sexual urges and things that they like. I wanna see one female, fill that paper out not yet. Hasn't happened, I never will because man have to have a Swamy hat on and in a f****** crystal ball. To figure out what the hell they want. Been there, done all that.
I certainly hope she is telling the exact opposite to the women so that it's not all put on men
whatups sarah what going on.