Episode 45- Owning a Borzoi - Different types of GRIEF

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  • Опубликовано: 28 янв 2025

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  • @JustAnoutherNerd
    @JustAnoutherNerd 12 дней назад +15

    Jacob you gave your dogs the best life that a dog - no, any living could get. Your noodle goats have brought so much joy to thoasands of people. Remeber they never truly leave you❤

  • @thespectre717
    @thespectre717 12 дней назад +31

    Jacob I had no idea Esper had passed that traumatically 😢that’s awful I am very sorry , I’m sure Esper, Vladimir & joy are very well missed xx much love to you, your family and of course the hose goats xx

  • @hufflewuffles
    @hufflewuffles 12 дней назад +19

    As a teen, I took our senior dog for a walk knowing she was walking slow and struggling a bit, thinking it would lift her spirits. I should’ve realized it was troubling her. Our walk spiraled her pain and made it worse. Literally the day after she couldn’t get up. Her back legs stopped working. I’ve never told anyone until now. I blame myself- it’s factually my fault. I was young and uneducated about this stuff. She was our miracle baby, survived parvo as a puppy! I miss her so much.

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  12 дней назад +9

      I’m sure you never meant to do anything wrong, sounds like an amazing pup

  • @jigwignibs
    @jigwignibs 12 дней назад +6

    I just lost my soul dog Tank on Monday. He contracted pneumonia and he could no longer fight. I hope i did the best for him... Grief sucks. Thank you for this episode. It put my mind at a bit more ease with my decision.
    Miss you Tank, my jiggly man

  • @jamesstewart556
    @jamesstewart556 12 дней назад +14

    Thank you for sharing. I know that this will help others who are going through similar circumstances. it's okay to feel grief, it's okay to take time afterwards for yourself, and it's okay that no one else will really understand the loss. When you can finally talk about it without breaking down, then it's possible you can get to a point where you also will remember the good memories.

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  12 дней назад +3

      ♥️♥️♥️♥️

    • @lisaalexander6777
      @lisaalexander6777 12 дней назад +2

      The hardest part of having a dog…They don’t live long enough. Allowing your heart to be open to other dogs helps. But I still wish I could I could still pet my greyhounds that I have lost over the last twenty years.
      And I do recall seeing “the look” when a dog is ready to go. And I have seen the last hurrah a few days before saying goodbye.
      The old personalized collars are really hard to look at after they are gone.

  • @seanjamestwofirstnames2149
    @seanjamestwofirstnames2149 12 дней назад +12

    Thank you for the real talk JC. It was truly helpful to hear your perspectives on guilt and not being too hard on oneself. Cheers Man

  • @davidballantyne4492
    @davidballantyne4492 12 дней назад +6

    I lost my dog over 5 years ago, and it still hurts so much. So I know the feeling. Wishing you all the best.

  • @charmionwaller5449
    @charmionwaller5449 12 дней назад +4

    Thanks for the honest, heart-to-heart, and heartfelt talk. I know many of us feel we are good friends with you, because you have shared so many of your painful moments. These lovely creatures that we love and adore make us a very close and kindhearted society. Love to you and your family

  • @dan44zzt231
    @dan44zzt231 12 дней назад +14

    We've been through the Vlad style passing with our Greyhound. He was 14 so we knew it was coming but he was doing great, then went downhill so quickly over a couple of days and second day he couldn't walk anymore unassisted and we knew it was time. It's been a few months now but I'm still not there yet.

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  12 дней назад +3

      It’s so difficult, sending you ♥️

    • @dan44zzt231
      @dan44zzt231 12 дней назад

      @esperborzoi much love to the Mantis Manor 🤍🤎🖤

  • @fitaurean9491
    @fitaurean9491 10 дней назад +1

    Thankyou so much for sharing this with us. It is so hard to lose a loved member of the family. Thankyou for talking about the grieving process. It is amazing and sometimes hard finding the beautiful photos and recalling memories of them - so lucky to have them in our lives.

  • @RuthLoewen-j9q
    @RuthLoewen-j9q 12 дней назад +3

    Your noodles of the past fulfilled a big purpose in life that a lot of people never achieve. They brought laughter, happiness and joy to people all over the world via Mantis Manor. Days when I was down and out and silently quitting at work, hating my job, I would hear it … ding! A video of your noodles doing completely bizarre and absolutely hilarious clips to restore perspective that not all is lost in this world. Thank you for NOT taking away your channel after Espers passing. You and your wonderful manor bring goodness into the world. Thank you for opening up and continuing fighting the fight at the Manor. ❤

  • @ainhoarnedo
    @ainhoarnedo 12 дней назад +3

    You gave your dogs a life full of love and fun and appreciation; the best life they could've had ❤

  • @SnackPackSilkens
    @SnackPackSilkens 12 дней назад +3

    This is one of your most important and honest videos, thank you for sharing.
    I haven't experienced this yet with any of my dogs but I know the day will come. Just the other day Hawk went to the vet and they wanted to take his senior blood panel. It was a weird feeling that's been hard to pin down.
    I think it's one of the main reasons why I make my dog videos, they are an archive of the time I am lucky to be able to spend with them.

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  12 дней назад +2

      The archive was why we started in the first place, and I don’t regret any second of it

  • @BielatheDog
    @BielatheDog 9 дней назад +1

    My previous dog , she passed away in December 2021...I cried for days,and in the effort to console me my husband convinced me to go out to lunch; when I came home and and opened the door and my dog was not there to greet me... the tears came down and I had a heart attack. Missing a dog that cross the rainbow bridge is like forget how to breath. The truth is we never overcome the loss, but with time the love of the dogs in our lives makes easier to cope with the loss. Hugs from Nebraska from Biela and I!

  • @robthaham3408
    @robthaham3408 12 дней назад +4

    Thank you, Jacob and family.
    Grief is a process that never ends. Its a coffee table with sharp corners waiting to catch you in the shins. Years of love wear at the corners and smooth their sharpness into bittersweet memories.

  • @The_Kiosk
    @The_Kiosk 12 дней назад +3

    This is really excellent. Pets live shorter lives most of the time. The steps of the grieving process are important. I've learned to let them happen.

  • @jimmarotta5596
    @jimmarotta5596 12 дней назад +5

    They will always be with you no matter what you do. There will always be a tuft of fur or a toenail found in the corner of a room years later. No matter how spotless your home may be, they will leave things behind for you to find. Fur embedded into clothing or sheets; you'll be reminded of them constantly. We're on Borzoi numbers 4 & 5 and are still finding remnants every now and then. Do not stay long without getting more.

  • @PthaloBlueGreen16
    @PthaloBlueGreen16 12 дней назад +3

    Thank you for making this video. Even though animals are an important part of so many of our lives it still feels like there's not enough open discussion about how profound and multi-layered grief can be when we lose a pet.
    My heart goes out to you hearing about how you lost Esper, my final moment with one of my pets was very similar, it's a really haunting and difficult memory to have...
    On a hopefully lighter note, as I was driving yesterday I randomly thought about the first hoark video of Vlad you posted and how many times I watched it and how I laughed every time. Thank you for sharing him and the rest of the goats with us, they bring joy to so many of us (even if we will never have the privilege of skritching their snoots in person). 🐾❤🐐

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  12 дней назад +1

      Thank you!!!! So glad you love the hoarks, haha.

  • @ginacirelli1581
    @ginacirelli1581 12 дней назад +3

    My goodness, I am so sorry for your losses. I've always loved Borzoi and Salukis but couldn't deal with that much dog. I've had three pairs of Italian Greyhounds since the 1990's and I'm thankful they live so long. I now have #5 and #6, 6 and 4 years old respectively. I often think about the first ones and I do think that we'll all be together again someday.

  • @NoahSCFN
    @NoahSCFN 12 дней назад +1

    This is a great video Jacob! I have experienced the loss of 3 dogs over the years and I cannot get over them. They are thought about almost daily.

  • @maggiedhue9349
    @maggiedhue9349 12 дней назад +1

    Thank you for talking so frankly about your dogs. I agree that it's a hard thing to go through. Over the years i held my dogs when they had their final injection; my promise that they would go with love and comfort. Felt one dog's heart slow and stop in my hand as i held her. My heart hurt so much, but i did the best for her. To help her out of her pain.
    I went to a grief counseling session (recently lost my parents within a year and a half) and the three types of grief are what you expressed.
    Sending you thoughts of comfort and reflection.

  • @ChelGriffith
    @ChelGriffith 12 дней назад +3

    Each borzoi I’ve ever lost is still so fresh in my mind and heart. The only way I’ve been able to cope with that is to take some comfort in the fact that each individual borzoi is, in a sense, ALL borzoi. And vice versa. When you lose one, they go back to the universe… maybe you’d say “The Great Snoot.” In the future, you’ll see shades of them again in - in every other borzoi you see, in the jingle of the collar that you think you hear in the quiet moments, that surprises you long after they’ve passed, in that silent weight and warmth against your body when you’re only half-awake in the middle of the night- yet no dog is there. Finally, you’ll see it in the eyes of your next borzoi, and you take them home.

  • @Kristian-sd7up
    @Kristian-sd7up 12 дней назад +4

    I understand what you're going thru..and Im really sorry you have to go thru it too.

  • @JeffEllisWorldwide
    @JeffEllisWorldwide 12 дней назад +4

    Charlie had his last great days when you and tina boo came to visit us. he had the best last hurrah

  • @Kristian-sd7up
    @Kristian-sd7up 12 дней назад +2

    You have an excellent way of explaining...

  • @pogostix6097
    @pogostix6097 12 дней назад +2

    I'm so sorry for your losses. I've lost two dogs of my own and... deciding when to let them go, what day to make that call to the vet, it's the hardest thing I've ever done. The first one was sudden, with a very aggressive cancer. The second one was longer, she was 17, and after a very bad seizure she let us know it was time. And yes, losing a beloved pet can absolutely hurt just as much as, if not more than, losing a human family member. I should know.
    Right now I'm going through a really weird spot with grief. My stepdad took his own life on January 31st. But... he was controlling, abusive, distant; he cheated on my mom, wasted all the money, and left all of us with a huge mess to sort through... and the heart-wrenching, awful, painful sadness I felt when my dogs passed? It's not there. Shock, yes. Anger, absolutely. Sorrow, for my mother, for his friends. But not sadness. I don't miss him. And then I wonder if I'm a bad person, for not feeling more upset about his passing. For mourning my dogs more than him. I dunno. It's confusing. And I'm getting through it and I'm here for my mother. But it's confusing.

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  11 дней назад

      Thank you so much for sharing this, the feeling upset for not feeling enough is so real

  • @alexiscreatingthings
    @alexiscreatingthings 12 дней назад +2

    Gorgeous video, thank you Jacob!

  • @JeffEllisWorldwide
    @JeffEllisWorldwide 12 дней назад +3

    great video we need more long format jake content. thank you for being a good friend when i lost charlie

  • @kellieheald
    @kellieheald 12 дней назад +1

    Lovely video Jacob, thank you🙏

  • @tanjamorris5647
    @tanjamorris5647 12 дней назад +2

    Thank you so much for this.

  • @johnmalone8896
    @johnmalone8896 12 дней назад +1

    Hey Jacob, long time viewer first time poster. Sitting here in OH before work watching this and grieving along with you. Your videos have brought me much joy in my past hungover Sunday mornings! Lol. Wishing you and yours the best for this new year. ❤

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  11 дней назад

      Honored to have you you here, we are all in this together ♥️

  • @TheBlindRaven
    @TheBlindRaven 12 дней назад +1

    😭😭😭 This breaks my heart. I am so sorry. I had no idea about any of that. Since you are sharing this. When we lost Indiana he screamed too. I dont think anyone else heard it. Still hear it which hurts. Sending love your way. 💜💜💜

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  12 дней назад +1

      Haunts my soul

    • @TheBlindRaven
      @TheBlindRaven 12 дней назад

      @esperborzoi truly horrible. Please take care

  • @professorhunter84
    @professorhunter84 12 дней назад +2

    great video

  • @RandomAnimeFighter
    @RandomAnimeFighter 12 дней назад +2

    I appreciated this video

  • @jvj48
    @jvj48 12 дней назад +3

    I'm sorry, I know your pain, I'm with you my friend💙🙏

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  12 дней назад +1

      Thank you, that means a lot

  • @KGSpradleyAuthor
    @KGSpradleyAuthor 12 дней назад +1

    It’s terrible. One of the worst days of my life. It’s unusual but I guess they make such an impact in our life.

  • @StaceyMuoio
    @StaceyMuoio 12 дней назад +2

    Thank you for this episode… I lost my beloved Border Collie in 2021 and her brother a year later…. I am still heartbroken 😞

  • @1MinuteFlipDoc
    @1MinuteFlipDoc 12 дней назад +1

    Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened.

  • @storytime6263
    @storytime6263 12 дней назад +4

    I'm so sorry dude, just think though she died in the arms of the person who loved her most.

    • @ChelGriffith
      @ChelGriffith 12 дней назад +1

      This.
      My Phantom (also a borzoi) went the same way, in the middle of the night, but it was a yelp, not a scream. My elderly borzoi, Rhett, came to get me to tell me something was wrong. It was 5 in the morning. I tried CPR, but couldn’t save him.
      I wish I’d been there to hold him sooner.

  • @EnchantedSmellyWolf
    @EnchantedSmellyWolf 7 дней назад +1

    That's how my old dog died back in summer 2018 in late June. He barked at me and then died from a heart attack. Gritting his teeth in pain before death. Hospitals were too far to reach. If only I had taken him when he had his first but survived, but I was too stupid to take any actions only because I don't drive, and not many would escort me to a vet. I still miss my dog Lobo, but he is now in my room in a urn and a few parches of fur and claws and memento.

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  7 дней назад +1

      Sending you our ♥️♥️♥️

    • @EnchantedSmellyWolf
      @EnchantedSmellyWolf 7 дней назад

      @@esperborzoi Thank you very much. Also, patches of fur. I'm not sure why google thought that was a good idea to correct.

  • @borntobebroken
    @borntobebroken 7 дней назад +1

    you're great!

  • @LyndsayW1194
    @LyndsayW1194 12 дней назад +3

    Over last year as you posted shorts about vlad being old and the experience of having senior dogs, it was so very relatable to my pack of aging yappers. Its so hard to say goodbye to them, and there will always be doubts and questions about if you did the right thing and if they were happy. I know your dogs were happy when they were alive, and i know you did right by them. You can see their joy in every video you post of them.
    On a less sad note, is sabin too big to share the couch with now?

    • @esperborzoi
      @esperborzoi  12 дней назад +1

      @@LyndsayW1194 Sabin is a mammoth- He shares though, but moose galoot was too shy with her bone to join us lol

    • @LyndsayW1194
      @LyndsayW1194 12 дней назад

      @esperborzoi It was funny you chose floor instead of couch with him. I fear in the near future he will be too big to share the couch with

  • @michaelallain7706
    @michaelallain7706 12 дней назад +1

    I am sorry.