MOVING TO UGANDA Q&A | Adoption? Education? Marriage? Vegan? Pets? 🇺🇬
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- Опубликовано: 6 сен 2024
- Last week we told you all that Adam and Emilie will be moving BACK to Uganda! You had so many questions - what will Emilie do for work? Where will we live? How long for? Will we get married whilst we are out there? We tried to answer as many as possible in this Q&A!
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We are Emilie and Josh - Mum and Dad to our four beautiful kiddos through adoption and fostering: Adam, George, Tallie and James. Together, we are: The Larters. We are one family split across two countries - the UK and Uganda. We share raw, real content of our everyday lives alongside our experiences of being a cross-cultural family, going through the international adoption process, surviving a long distance relationship and our charity work. We believe that love makes a family 🤎
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What day will you be moving to Uganda
@@nadineclarke9423 We’ll be going in a couple of weeks time ☺️
@@TheLarters whoooooooo yhhhhhh exciting
@TheLarters and another question is how did Adams school react when u told them Adam will be moving to ugands
@@nadineclarke9423 They were incredibly understanding and really supportive - they are going to provide work for us to take with us ☺️
Life provides education just as well as school. Adam is getting an education through life, that will serve him well in his future. An international traveler at an early age!
Thank you!
Little tallie z finally going to enjoy her mother's love in full❤
Regarding Adam’s eduction he has a life time to learn. And you can’t keep going like you are. You’re doing what’s best for your family. Xx
You’re doing a wonderful job. Don’t stress please. Especially over education. All of the children have plenty of time to become academically educated. Age and maturity will only help those things fall into place later. Building and keeping a bond with his family and traveling will be so beneficial! He will learn many things while you’re there!!!
Thank you for your lovely words ☺️
I just saw your "lying interview"yesterday when it popped, OMG you got yourself a junior John Boyega mom, your son is handsome and I've spent all day trying to catch up 😞. Im from Swaziland and currently living in the UK and raising my British born son so i know how hard it is to be apart from loved one's .
This being my first comment i have so much to ask or say... but i won't lol as im sure ill find rhe answers in the videos. You are such a strong mommy and truly are an inspiration. Just wanted to say hello to you all.
I can't wait for you guys to be reunited and be a big family again.❤
Thank you!
Emily, I can not begin to tell you how impressed I am with you. There's a saying that says anything that's worth fighting for is worth having. So go on and fight for your family, they're worth it. I don't have money to contribute because I am unemployed but I am going to pray for your financial breakthrough as you go.
Your support here is so appreciated 🥰
Hi Emily. I've been watching your content since you were in Uganda. This mission you are on is so commendable, however, I think it's so much more than you and Josh can bear. I think I read in a comment where you said you were not a religious person. Correct me if I'm wrong. I think you need to seek a higher power. This situation needs God's intervention. Nothing beats prayer and fasting. Wishing you all the best this Christmas and throughout your journey to bringing your blended family together.
Wishing you and yours a very happy Christmas ☺️
you can see the love you have for dan, and how upset it makes you. and the fact that you said if you won the lottery then you’d be adopting him too, breaks my heart. it’s sad that money can get in the way of things. sending you guys so much love and support in this move💙
We truly do love him a lot! 🥹
Hey Emilie, I wanted to send you some encouragement to help mitigate your fears - and some of your viewers' fears - on Adam's potential 'educational gap'.
I'm in the UK and we have home educated our kids since they were born (along with the support and involvement of a very thriving home ed community, and countless home ed social and teaching groups). Our decision was based on a huge amount of research into home education, the home ed community here in the UK (it's vibrant!), options and outcomes. Neither of our children has ever been to school.
Much of this time we followed a path known as 'unschooling' or 'whole life learning', which would confuse and frighten many parents from the school world! But here's the thing: if children are surrounded by loving parents and/or family members, have access to books, computers and plenty of everyday 'tools' and resources; if they get to live out-and-about in the 'real world' and community and can enjoy playful friendships with a wide age range of other children/teens; if they can exercise and enjoy a range of sports, they learn. In fact, they get a very effective education.
(Children even learn to read and gain real-life mathematical skills etc without school, which most people find very difficult to believe. In fact, most children learn to read and calculate spontaneously, when they're developmentally ready and motivated to do so, if they have never been to school. There is volumes of research into home education and whole-life-learning, and plenty of research papers, books, websites and videos are available online.)
One of mine has chosen to sit GCSEs at our local home ed study centre, and is getting top grades (GCSEs are not compulsory, which many don't realise!), and the other is successfully at college now. I don't say this to boast, because top grades don't make a perfect or happy life, by any stretch. But I do mention this because the whole 'gap in their education' narrative is one that has mainly been sown by governmental educational departments, and some schools. If it was true, I wouldn't have witnessed hundreds of home ed children, who we've known - many of whom didn't start school-type studies until age 11 and even older, and who have never set foot in a school - go on to succeed brilliantly at their GCSEs, A-Levels or equivalent, and also their degrees (for those who choose that route). Including my own children.
Sure, 'educational gaps' (or sometimes more accurately, 'schooling gaps') are sadly real for children from disadvantaged backgrounds, all around the world. And I think what you've done with your Uganda charity work, re education and schooling, is just fantastic - and clearly necessary. But for those who have the love that Adam and your other three children get, it's not a thing - on the basis there's also plenty of chat, engagement and access to community, friends and the wider world, out the home. Having watched your videos, your children have stimulation and love in spades: they will be absolutely fine, and receive a far wider education than many do. (Adam probably holds the trump card right now, with his experience of having lived in two vastly different countries: that alone is far more of an education and privilege than many adults even get, of course. And that's far superior to what school in the UK can offer!)
Most of us went to school and many of us luckily benefitted from university too, and we've inadvertently absorbed the lesson, from the schooling system, that school = education. And, sure, school can be one 'slice of education' on offer - though it does penalise many boys, unfortunately, especially kinesthetic-learning boys - but school, tests and exams are not real-world 'education', even though we use the terms 'school' and 'education' as if they're one-and-the-same. Education comes from a full life, with plenty of stimulation, encouragement and input. I'd like to put to any of your viewers who're telling you that you're doing the wrong thing for Adam: if school was the be-all and end-all, how would any of us cope when we move beyond our school-based education? And how would any toddler learn how to talk, walk and many other skills, before they've ever set foot in a school? Humans are wired to learn and absorb, all of the time.
Travelling especially provides young people with a rich education, and Adam has clearly benefitted from that, and from all his loving family members in the UK and in Uganda.
I cannot emphasise enough that I'm certain you're, 'doing the right thing' and that I hope you can tune-out all the worry-warts who think that a few months or so in Uganda will cost Adam his education. That's just not going to happen. It's not.
What is likely to happen is that Adam will osmotically learn all kinds of other things, benefit from being around his siblings and Josh too, and that by the time you come back to the UK, I have a sneaking suspicion that you'll find he accelerates faster in school, after a few weeks reintegration. (We have witnessed countless children and teens, in the home ed world, accelerate with more formal studies between the ages of 13 - 16. School can be crucifying for some children when academic pressure is high so early on - it can be just too much sitting-down, book work, and coercion.
You've got this! I'm so happy you're doing the right thing, and that it will shift energies for all of you, and move your lives forwards. Family first.💜
Oh, and by the way, if you prefer to read something that will put your mind completely at rest about Adam having to take time away, you might like Peter Gray's book: Free to Learn: Why Unleashing the Instinct to Play Will Make Our Children Happier, More Self-Reliant, and Better Students for Life. (Sorry this is such a long comment - I don't think I've ever posted such a novel!)
Oh wow, thank you - this was really comforting to read!
Home schooling was actually always something I've been interested in - although I'm a teacher, having Adam has made me see that the British education really isn't a matter of one size fits all. These days, I see it's flaws more than ever. It makes me so sad that the British curriculum and schooling system doesn't really champion his strengths (his kindness, his athletic ability) and instead I worry he loses confidence knowing he's behind a lot of his peers. This current school has helped in that there are a lot of children working at very different abilities too - but it's still far from perfect. He's learning at his own pace - and I know he'll get there. I'm actually at the moment very opposed to sending him to secondary school!
The two reasons I have not pursued a home school route are 1- I'm worried I already feel so snowed under, that I will not be able to educate him in a way he deserves. I love the idea of unschooling but I feel it would still require a huge amount of planning? And 2 - he just doesn't really respond that well to me. I keep hoping maybe in the future this will change - because the ability to home school and perhaps live a life split between UK and Uganda would honestly be ideal for our family.
Thanks again for taking the time to write this - it's very informative and really given me a lot to think about ❤
I've only just seen your reply here, Emilie - sorry!
Completely understand everything you're saying.
All valid points!
About unschooling: planning is involved to a degree, certainly regarding outings, experiences, socialising and play-dates. It's definitely not the lazy option, though it can be relaxing and it's certainly fun! (Of course it's exhausting at times too...)
I would say that unless you have the local-ish support of either others home educating (or unschooling) in your area, or plenty of hands-on support from family members or Josh, this will be a tricky route to take.
Having four children, as you do, would make unschooling easier in some ways - if they're all getting on well and sometimes entertaining themselves - and way harder in others...like when they're not getting on well, or you're just feeling that four children is feeling like a lot! 😉
Anyway, it's not for everyone, but there are some huge benefits, educational benefits, and lifestyle advantages.
One channel that's worth a watch here is the Living Joyfully channel, by Pam Laricchia. Also, Peter Gray's (Freedom to Learn) videos are awesome.
Feel free to message me at any point, in future years, if you would like any questions answered, or to be put in touch with UK groups (I have no idea about the situation in Uganda; home education is still illegal in many countries!) 💜
Oh, and also, Logan LaPlante's first TEDx video, called, "Hackschooling Makes Me Happy" is a brilliant watch!
I agree with what you are doing, your family being together is also so important. The longer it takes to get you all together the farther behind all the other kids will be in their education as well. Hopefully, all will go quickly and you can all be there as soon as possible. 💕
I hope this helps thing move faster for you. I know you are worried about education but being with your siblings and both parents is so much more important. I wish you all the best❤
Thank you for your support! ❤️
Diverse culture and schooling will auger well for Adam's growth and development. Wishing the family all that is good. May the universe respond to your wishes. Blessings always.
I pray that all goes well with the adoption and that it goes quickly so your family can move back to UK soon.
education is important, but it doesn’t all come from school. some things are a lot more valuable
If the child can read, write, spell and add up. They can read instructions and information.
Most of uk education is never used in adult life? If they taught us tax, pensions, how to buy property, how to grow your own food and cook real cheap nutritious meals, that’s and education!
@@arnicepernice8656 I wish I learned about taxes & how to buy property in school 😔
@@ListedInTheSouth 😍
@@arnicepernice8656I also said that to my teacher: I'll never need that nonsense again in my life. And I was right. I didn't learn what I needed at school, as you already wrote.
@@arnicepernice8656100% agree. the uk school system has so many problems, i learned so much more after i left
I'm so happy for you The Larters
May each and everything go well
My prayer is that you're reunited soon
Thank you! 🥰
In Uganda just a few months are not enough to solve problems. Good luck Emily, your situation and Josh is a little complicated. I once tried to work on something there and wasn’t successful due short time I had …….9 months. Come tomorrow is all got and it turned into tomorrow and tomorrow. I couldn’t extend my stay and unfortunately thereafter I got a family member sick & I suspended the project
Emilly be strong God is with you
Oh Emily,you are welcome to Uganda. I wish you the best of luck with your family. You are such an incredible person.
Try not to worry too much about Adams education, from my own experience of moving schools and countries when I was younger it definitely makes you more resilient, independent and gives you more life experience. You are doing a wonderful job and you deserve to be happy too. Looking forward to the videos of you all reuniting ❤
My dear sister EMILY, you are such a strong woman, this maybe a tough decision but it is a worthy one,we are always happy to have u here in Uganda
We are looking forward to being back ☺️
Please don't worry too much about Adam's school. It is a big concern but he can hopefully catch up when you get back
Ohh Emily you're doing your best Adam will adjust and Adam can always catch up and with a mummy like you he definitely will. I wish there was a way for me to help x
😢 I'm crying for you. I'm so pleased you are going back to Uganda. I'd be like you wish I could adopt everyone and bring them all here. I'm sure everything will work out in the end. If I won the lottery I'd give you a million in a heartbeat . Thanks for answering all our questions x😊
Emilie I think you are doing the best for your family, Adam will learn so much from other skills living in Uganda, I wish you josh and the children nothing but the best, and hope very soon you are all settled in the uk x
Thank you ❤️
Hi Emily. You have such a big big heart. You are so beautiful inside out. I support all your decisions. I pray that all your plans will work out well. Your children are so blessed. I love Adam and l know taking Adam with you is best for him. He loves his mum soo much. You love him too. It will be too hard for you to separate for a few months or so. A heart like yours is rare to find. All the best. ❤😘 Give my love to Adam ❤
Thank you so much!
I hope everything goes as planned just put God first and He will do the rest😢🎉❤
IMO, give yourself a timeline - at most one year. At the end of the day you have to be prepared for the worst. Raising one child is quite challenging in itself. And I think for you and Adam UK would be the best. Right now all of you are sort dangling in the wind. Solidify your lives in the UK and they can solidify their lives in Uganda.
The views are back ! Awesome and so happy for you ! Many times I don’t have the time to go through an entire vlog till the end but I would always click just to Like and share--silly ? Maybe. But I am so invested !
So happy to see so many views and wish you all the best on this new Chapter of y’all lives 🤎
Best of luck to you. It’s a heartbreaking situation, but you are doing what’s right for your family.
All will be well emily..trust in God ..may God's blessings be upon y'all as you walk into his will 🙏🙏
omg love the subtitles thank you so much!
My dear I am praying for you and your family God loves you and your family and he his going to work it out for you nothing good comes easy but with God all things are possible ❤
I just pray that everything works for you
May all things work out for you and your family.
Thank you!
I am so excited for yall! I know God will provide for you and your family 🙏🏻
Thank you so much!!
@@TheLartersif Josh Adopts do you have to do same?
I know this is really hard Emilie but you are doing well so far.
Be blessed, and God speed with everything
So looking forward to seeing your family together again.
You’re a great mom doing whatever you could for your family’s
I, for one, am so HAPPY for you all!!!!!! Love and prayers from Canada!
Emilie you are such a thoughtful and dedicated person it is evident in all areas of your life. Take one day at a time and keep faith alive. The Almighty God loves and cares for us all.
Hi Emilie thanks for this informative video. You've clearly answered our questions and concerns. May God be with you and fulfil your heart's desires❤❤❤
Thank you! ☺️
Love what you are doing dear❤
My prayer for you is for the family to come together and may all your dreams and decisions you have all decided come true😘
We will be praying for you all ❤
Thank you!
I’m a simple woman: I get a notification, I click straight away 😅
We appreciate it! ❤️
All the best in Uganda. Well done momma❤🎉
The right road is not always the easiest❤ You are doing an amazing job with handling all of this 😊
you do what you feel is right
I know this is unsolicited but because you are not living together, it could be very difficult for you to obtain a partner visa (especially as you are unmarried). I’ve had some experience with this, so please consult with a UK lawyer before you move back to make sure you are meeting all the requirements. Best of luck to you and your family.
You are such an amazing woman, may God bless you❤
Good Luck guys! Do whats right for your family ❤ xx
Thank you!!
@TheLarters Listen to your heart. 3 years of separation is unbearable for all of you. I keep my fingers crossed that luck is on your side. 🙏🏼🤞🤞🤞🤗❤❤❤❤❤❤
having just come to the end of an 18 month adoption journey, my heart goes out to you and your family. it’s so hard when progress comes to a halt and you need to do something drastic to kickstart things again. wishing all of you all the best and can’t wait for you to share the reuniting of your family. after you have all come back together and had some real quality time as a family ❤
i always click so fast!❤
Same
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It's me again here are some online teaching jobs you can do from Uganda
1. itutor group
2. Magic ears
3. Quids
4. Skooli
5. Say ABC
6. Hawo
7. Boxfish
8. Cambly
9.gogokid
10. Dada
11. italki
12. Classtalk
13. Whales English
Qkids
Cheering for you!
Thank you for sharing. I look forward to all your coming adventures. GOD Bless, safe journey. I know the decision was not easy, but I believe it will work out for the best for your family. Wishing you and Adam a blessed journey and for you and Josh a speedy turn out for all the tasks at hand.
Thank you, we look forward to sharing them all ☺️
Wishing you all the happiness in the world 🙏🏾
Thank you!
Thank you for the update and l wish you all the luck in the world and lots of happiness and joy and love and blessings and prayers 😊
Thank you so much!
Family first 😊 wishing you all the best Emily
Thank you!!
I can't wait to see you again with your family in Uganda
This woman is so good ❤
It is the best thing for the family. The education will come.
Take one day at a time. One Godly thing to do is to get married first and live a Godly life for Jesus and God will lead you every step of the way. Family is important. I will be praying for you and your family.
I think it’s going to be very hard for Adam to settling in Uganda life education system and life again but he have no choice.
Emily understand you deserve happiness to be with your partner .
If I was you I would have to concentrate on getting Joshua visa first to Uk and both work And create the home for your family then bring the rest of the children . I wish you the best you are great mother to Adam God bless you all
I wanted to let you know that you can teach English online to Chinese students in China while you are in Uganda. Google the different companies that do that. You may need a tesol or tfl certificate but you can get that in weeks....
I did look into this, but was finding the ones that were recommended and seemed to pay well (VIPkids) you had to be eligible to work in the US! I will keep searching though!
Wishing you a safe trip to Uganda!
❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ whishing you all the best!!!
What an amazing person you are❤ i pray everything works out ❤❤
Thank you so much!
This Q&A edition got me dropping tears. Love and hugs ❤
Love you guys.
All will work out successfully.
Fingers crossed!!
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Love to The Larters
PS If a financial wealthy person is looking at these video's....please, please, consider to help this family!!
If i had all the money i would happily help this wonderful family❤❤❤❤❤
Can't wait to see you reunited again
Emilie, all the best with all the planning and the move to Uganda. ❤❤❤❤❤
Yes blessing's to you emily & Adam .Good luck on returning to the rest of your family.praying for favour and that'sGod would be working wounder's just keep trusting in God and he would work it our. stay strong.keep the fairh❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ have a safe ✈️ flight
Thank you ❤️
Wow a Ugandan school. That will be interesting...
Wishing you all the best!
Thanks Emily for taking the time to answer all of our questions. Especially the really difficult ones. Your transparency is really admirable.
Do you sometimes feel like if it wasn’t for all the time and energy you invested in you and your family that maybe you would’ve ended things sooner. I remember you mentioned you wanted to end things before. But do you feel like it’s a case of sunk costs and now just being in too deep and the difficulty and challenge is almost like the glue that keeps you together.
No - I think the love we share for one another is what keeps us together 🥰 Yes it is hard, there have been days where you question everything, but at the end of the day we are doing this out of love for each other 🥰
All the best my darlings. You're so brave Emily and through that you will conquer and succeed. Education may differ in Africa but it will do Adam a lot of great as he learns to adopt to new environments, skills we need as we grow. You got this
I am taking it that he'll certainly be learning something - even if it's not academically the stuff he needs to be learning for UK. But I will do my best to top it up ☺️
Aww poor Emelie..its a hard decision and something has to give. Its not going to be ideal in every aspect. Wishing you all the best.❤❤
You are the most sweetest beautiful lady I have ever seen on RUclips. Wish someday I will meet you in real life. Your man is the luckiest to have you. You are a treasure 😍😘😘
I hope everything goes well and all your plans and dreams come true.
Aaawww bless you. I hope it goes well ❤
I can't imagine granddad's life without Adam,and amber will miss him too
You’re doing great Emily keep it up
Thank you!
U are doing what best for ur family God have everything in his hand❤
You're a sweetheart ❤
We waited 8 months for a decision on my husband's settlement visa once he was here.
You are all an amazing family ❤
I wish y’all the best of luck on this journey. I adore your family. I pray everything goes smoothly and as planed. You have a heart of gold. 🫶🏽
Thank you 🥰
You are such a cute family ❤
Such a stressful decision for you! Good luck out there and enjoy yourself x
Beautiful family you have❤❤❤🎉🎉🎉
Good job. Well done!
💙🩵oooh dear Emily! God bless you, you just have a golden heart 💜 wish you guys well on this hard decision. It’s well, you’ll all be fine in Jesus name 💜♥️❤️💙🩵💝🥰
Thank you!
Thank you Emily
Good luck!